Podcast appearances and mentions of crystal raypole

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3201: Crystal Raypole's Healthline article on "5 Toothbrushing FAQs" delves into the essentials of optimal oral hygiene, emphasizing the importance of correct brushing techniques and the right tools for maintaining dental health. Discover key insights on brushing duration, techniques, and the debate between manual and electric toothbrushes to enhance your daily dental care routine. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.healthline.com/health/how-long-should-you-brush-your-teeth-2 Quotes to ponder: "Brushing your teeth regularly is a key way to improve oral health." "Current recommendations from the American Dental Association (ADA) encourage brushing for two minutes, twice per day." "If the bristles are flattened, you're probably brushing too hard." Episode references: American Dental Association: https://www.ada.org/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3201: Crystal Raypole's Healthline article on "5 Toothbrushing FAQs" delves into the essentials of optimal oral hygiene, emphasizing the importance of correct brushing techniques and the right tools for maintaining dental health. Discover key insights on brushing duration, techniques, and the debate between manual and electric toothbrushes to enhance your daily dental care routine. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.healthline.com/health/how-long-should-you-brush-your-teeth-2 Quotes to ponder: "Brushing your teeth regularly is a key way to improve oral health." "Current recommendations from the American Dental Association (ADA) encourage brushing for two minutes, twice per day." "If the bristles are flattened, you're probably brushing too hard." Episode references: American Dental Association: https://www.ada.org/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3201: Crystal Raypole's Healthline article on "5 Toothbrushing FAQs" delves into the essentials of optimal oral hygiene, emphasizing the importance of correct brushing techniques and the right tools for maintaining dental health. Discover key insights on brushing duration, techniques, and the debate between manual and electric toothbrushes to enhance your daily dental care routine. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.healthline.com/health/how-long-should-you-brush-your-teeth-2 Quotes to ponder: "Brushing your teeth regularly is a key way to improve oral health." "Current recommendations from the American Dental Association (ADA) encourage brushing for two minutes, twice per day." "If the bristles are flattened, you're probably brushing too hard." Episode references: American Dental Association: https://www.ada.org/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode defines this syndrome and how to handle someone with it. Info retrieved from www.healthline.com from Crystal Raypole. Recorded and edited @mzoundz. Intro and outro from @fiverr. The show can be found on ig, pinterest, fb, and clubhouse @dreaspointofview. You can also find the show on X and Spill @dreapoint. Please leave a review, buy some merch or sign up for my newsletter @dreaspointofview. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/dreaspointofview/message

What does it mean that we can or should self-identify? What role does seeking your self have in finding yourself? Borrowing from Crystal Raypole and her article in Healthline (Article is here) Bob helps us think through the issue and calls us to consider what God made us to be.The historical marker includes nuclear power, Joseph Smith and the first women-only magazine.  You will be surprised at the year of its founding. Support the showThanks for listening. Please share the pod with your mates, and feel free to comment right here! Write to Bob on his email -- bobmendo@AOL.comLink to https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100078996765315 on Facebook. Bobs Your Uncle features the opinions of Bob Mendelsohn and any of his guests.To financially support the podcast, go to the Patreon site and choose Gold, Silver or Bronze levels. Thanks for that! https://www.patreon.com/BobsYourUncle To read Bob's 1999 autobiography, click this link https://bit.ly/StoryBob To see photos of any of Bob's guests, they are all on an album on his Flickr site click here: https://www.flickr.com/photos/bobmendo/albums/72177720296857670

Tony talks more about anxiety, uncertainty, and the brain's adorable desire to make sense of things that often don't make sense. He reads a haiku and a poem from the women's private Facebook group, and then he references “Narcissistic Victim Syndrome” from the article “12 Signs You've Experienced Narcissistic Abuse (Plus How to Get Help) by Crystal Raypole https://www.healthline.com/health/narcissistic-victim-syndrome#freezing Find all the latest links to podcasts, courses, Tony's newsletter, and more at https://linktr.ee/virtualcouch And follow Tony on the Virtual Couch YouTube channel for a sneak preview of his upcoming podcast "Murder on the Couch," where True Crime meets therapy, co-hosted with his daughter Sydney. You can watch a pre-release clip here https://youtu.be/-RkRq8SrQy0 Subscribe to Tony's latest podcast, "Waking Up to Narcissism Q&A - Premium Podcast," on the Apple Podcast App. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/waking-up-to-narcissism-q-a/id1667287384 Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts. Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

Content provided by: https://healthline.com “What Really Happens During an Out of Body Experience” by Crystal Raypole article read by my youngest daughter Eveline Mariana

Traumatic events can have lasting affects. Join Montez Dove and Cedricia Thomas as they share some of the mental aftermath of trauma. In this episode, Montez and Cedricia discuss: What it means to be triggered, Trigger Warnings, How to recognize triggers, Traumatic events that cause triggers, Negative and positive triggers, and How to manage triggers.Reference: What It Really Means to Be Triggered - Medically Reviewed by Timothy J. Legg, PhD, PsyD, by Crystal Raypole on April 25, 2019 - HealthlineJoin Through the Fire Podcast on Facebook @throughthefirepodcasts and Instagram @throughthefirepodcastFor more on Cedricia Thomas, follow her on Instagram and Facebook @cedriciathomasFor more on Montez Dove, follow her on Instagram @thepoeticinsp and Facebook @MontezDove or visit thepoeticinspirations.com

Episode Description:Somatic Practices for Healing Trauma Part I: Practices You Can Do on Your Own is Part I of a two-part series on somatic therapies for healing trauma. Somatic therapy is based on more recent research and generally more effective than talk therapy for healing trauma. It's basically another name for body work (AKA Somatic Experiencing®), or connecting with the body's sensations and resources to heal trauma stuck in the body so it can release through your neural network. This two-part series covers practices you can do on your own or with a professional. Part I discusses how somatic therapy works, explains five somatic practices you can do to heal trauma, and includes resources that can help you dig further into these practices. Part II will cover practices you can do with a professional.Breakdown of Episode3:18 Introduction to the Series, Episode, and Topic6:55 What Is Somatic Therapy?12:14 How Can It Help Me Heal Trauma and Why Is It Effective?18:08 Can I Do Somatic Practices on My Own?21:53 Intro to Five Somatic Practices23:29 Body Sensation Awareness Through Body Scan30:41 Grounding and Centering41:29 Resourcing and Visualization45:58 Self-Regulation54:29 Titration and PendulationBulleted List of Resources4 Somatic Therapy Exercises for Healing Trauma in Psych Central by Susan Aybar discusses what somatic therapy is, whether you should do it on your own, and four somatic practices you can use to heal trauma. 10 Somatic Interventions Explained in Integrative Psychotherapy by Esther Goldstein describes ten somatic interventions in detail that you can use to help you heal trauma. How Somatic Experiencing Can Help You Process Trauma in Healthline by Crystal Raypole explains how somatic therapy can help you heal trauma and physical symptoms of trauma, as well as what some important somatic practices are you can do.Somatic Experiencing Therapy: Ten Exercises and Examples by Daniela Rimerez-Duran PhD in Positive Psychology goes the most in depth of all the articles here, and it includes a more detailed breakdown of Somatic Experiencing® practices, focusing especially on Peter Levine's work. It links to a lot of good videos, books, and tools. Podcast Website, subscribe to podcast, email list. https://christianemotionalrecovery.comFree visual ACORN resource healing difficult emotions and subscribe for updates https://christianemotionalrecovery.com/Subscribe to YouTube channel for exclusive videos and free meditations https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4a5jGXZ0-qzPINAspnLwPwTo join free Facebook community  https://www.facebook.com/groups/christianemotionalrecoverySubscribe to Instagram for weekly encouragement: https://www.instagram.com/christianemotionalrecovery/ Like Facebook Page for free weekly encouragement: https://www.facebook.com/stopstrivingandstartthriving  

Content provided by: https://goodtherapy.org “your fortune, their envy: dealing with a jealous friend” by Crystal Raypole • https://thehappinesscoach.com “How to deal with jealous people: complete guide” DDOD by Oxford Languages

SHOW NOTES: On this show…we're cleaning out the mind-brain and evaluating whether to keep, pitch, or donate our ideas. Years and years of accumulation can generate an overabundance of thoughts that may or may not serve you any longer. It may be time to clear a path and take a deeper look at what you're holding on to. Some of this clutter was embedded into the far-reaching corners of your mind and others were imprinted through shared experiences as you were developing. Some ideas helped you build barricades when you needed extra protection and some ideas just no longer fit, you've outgrown them. You could box, rebox, and stack all your thoughts into the corners running out of room for something new OR you could make a date, pull out the bins, and get to sorting. Keep, pitch, or donate. I'm not a clutter bug or overly sentimental about stuff. Sure, when the kids were little I kept more, finding another drawer or filing cabinet for school projects and handmade cards. I mean who can throw out a picture of your child's handprint made into a turkey? Not to mention the funny questionnaire about how old they think you are or how much they think you weigh woven into a heartfelt Mother's day card.  But when it comes to general stuff, I'm more for donating than storing away for a rainy day. It could be my generation because my Mom feels a massive responsibility to inherited furniture, china, and knick-knacks. At one point we had 5 different patterns in the attic because each child looked at me like I'd lost my mind when I told them I was saving Great Grandmother China for their first place. My oldest said, “Don't bother, I'm buying paper and plastic so I never have to wash a dish”.  But ideas, now those are a little harder to pitch. Some are rooted rather deep and whether they're true or not, they've lived in your reality for as long as you can remember. You might need those, someone might need those. Some just crept in over time. Ideas you created when you didn't have the full story, half of an experience, or a sliver of truth. These too became you're reality and right or wrong, you protect them fiercely.  But just like that, we have a breakthrough, a bit of growth. We start evolving and learning and what once fit, now doesn't. Someone else could benefit from this growth. Maybe it could help someone over or through a bad patch of their journey. You release old ideas and pass on the learning to help someone else. You've made room for more.  Hey, that was a fun and freeing feeling, I want some more of that. You fling the doors wide open as you are pulling out ideas, thoughts, and memories and sorting through good, bad, stay, or go! Crystal Raypole helps us organize our thoughts with 8 Ways to Give Your Mind a Deep Cleaning found at healthline.com Emma Dibdin shares 9 Ways to Cope With Intrusive Thoughts - Becoming aware of your thought patterns is the first step toward breaking the cycle. Found at psychcentral.com Over at the University of St Augustine for Health Sciences, I found, How to Retrain Your Brain for Success and Positivity.    CHALLENGE: give your mind a good spring cleaning. Evaluate ideas, old thought patterns, and limited thinking to see what you value to keep, what you're ready to release, and what you can pass on to someone in need. Free your mind to invite in new and inspiring ideas. I Know YOU Can Do It!

In this episode I talk about why pleasure is good for you, going into detail about hormones and the effects on the body. Plus some simple ways to cheat the system.Bibliography: https://theconversation.com/what-is-hedonism-and-how-does-it-affect-your-health-78040https://neurosciencenews.com/pleasure-brain-8909/https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2020/07/200727114739.htmhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/longing-nostalgia/201903/too-much-pleasure-not-enough-happinesshttps://www.healthline.com/health/affects-of-joy#3.-Your-autonomic-nervous-systemhttp://www.psychedinsanfrancisco.com/the-importance-of-pleasure/ https://www.mdlinx.com/physiciansense/what-do-sex-chocolate-and-exercise-have-in-common-research-explains/https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/15834840/ [Oxytocin, a mediator of anti-stress, well-being, social interaction, growth and healing] by Kerstin Uvnas-Moberg 1, Maria Petersson article found at the NIH National Library of Medicinehttps://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3183515/The orgasmic history of oxytocin: Love, lust, and labor Navneet Magon and Sanjay Kalrahttps://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-increase-oxytocin 12 Ways to Boost Oxytocin by Crystal Raypole as found on Healthline.com https://www.everydayhealth.com/oxytocin/guide/ What Is Oxytocin? By Lindsey Konkel on EverydayHealth.com https://toneandsculpt.app/blogs/eat/food-to-improve-your-love-hormoneFood to increase oxytocin: how to boost oxytocin level by Nicole Ramirez on ToneSculpt.com https://www.everydayhealth.com/sexual-health-pictures/orgasms-for-a-better-life-the-surprising-benefits-of-sexual-pleasure.aspx Orgasms for a Better Life: The Surprising Benefits of Sexual Pleasure at Everyday Health https://www.healthline.com/health/dopamine-effects#definition How Does Dopamine Affect the Body? Crystal Raypole at Everyday Healthhttps://atlasbiomed.com/blog/whats-going-on-with-hormones-and-neurotransmitters-during-sex/ What’s Going On With Hormones And Neurotransmitters During Sex Michelle Clarke https://www.henryford.com/blog/2021/05/how-to-boost-feel-good-hormones-naturally How To Boost Feel-Good Hormones Naturally On the Henry Ford Health Center pagehttps://www.sclhealth.org/blog/2019/06/the-real-health-benefits-of-smiling-and-laughing/The Health Benefits of Smiling on the SCL health page https://badgirlsbible.com/why-does-sex-feel-so-good Why Does Sex Feel Good? Bad Girls Bible Bloghttps://www.maxim.com/maxim-man/why-sex-feels-good-2016-11 Science Has Finally Discovered Exactly Why Sex Feels So Good ZEYNEP YENISEYhttps://www.refinery29.com/en-us/why-does-sex-feel-good-sexual-pleasure Why Does Sex Feel So Good, Anyway? KASANDRA BRABAW https://teachmeanatomy.info/pelvis/other/pudendal-nerve/ The Pudendal Nerve from Teach Me Anatomy

This week, The Girls are discussing microaggressions in the workplace. They break down the Healthline article written by Crystal Raypole. The article discusses three types of microaggressions: microassaults, microinsults, and microvinalidations.The Girls also discuss times when they have experienced microaggressions from their peers and family members outside of the workplace, not always based on race or gender.  Tell us what you think and rate the podcast. Be sure to follow on IG: @girlyouaintcrazy FB: Girl You Ain't Crazy The PodcastEmail: girlyouaintcrazy@gmail.com  if you want us to discuss a certain topic, or if you would like for us to run an ad on the podcast. 

in the first episode of season 02, Nicole, Carly and Jazzlyn discuss Imposter Phenomenon, how it can manifest in daily living, and ways to overcome it.Rate, subscribe, follow the podcast on instagram @thesourandsaltyProduced + edited by Nicole Zollner @nicolezllnrOriginal music by Steve Vásquez Alcaraz @acarelesscalmhydrojug affiliate linkpoly&bark affiliate link + listen to the episode for the code“Stop Telling Women They Have Imposter Syndrome” by Ruchika Tulshyan and Jodi-Ann Burey“Feel like a fraud?” By Kirsten Weir“The Imposter Phenomenon in High Achieving Women: Dynamics and Therapeutic Intervention” by Pauline Rose Clance and Suzanne Imes“Why is there a higher rate of impostor syndrome among BIPOC?”"Imposter Syndrome: The Truth About Feeling Like a Fake" by Katherine M. Caflisch"You're Not a Fraud. Here's How to Recognize and Overcome Imposter Syndrome" by Crystal Raypole and medically reviewed by Vara Saripalli, PSY.D"Dunning-Krueger Effect" by Dictionary.com"End Imposter Syndrome in Your Workplace" by Ruchika Tulshyan and Jodi-Ann Burey

Content provided by: https://healthline.com articles “It's s tempting to mask your emotions, but it won't t do you (or anyone else any favors)” by Crystal Raypole and “6 Tips for Building Trust in Yourself” by Erica Cirino and DDoD Oxford Languages --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Crystal Raypole with Healthline answers 5 FAQs about brushing teeth Episode 1525: 5 Toothbrushing Frequently Asked Questions by Crystal Raypole with Healthline on Having Good Oral Health How you feel affects every precious day of your life. Healthline understands that, which is why they're committed to being your most trusted ally in your pursuit of health and well-being. You can depend on Healthline to provide expert content along with genuine caring--both of which will support, guide, and inspire you toward the best possible health outcomes for you and your family. The original post is located here: https://www.healthline.com/health/how-long-should-you-brush-your-teeth-2 Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com  Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalHealthDailyDietNutritionFitness Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Crystal Raypole with Healthline answers 5 FAQs about brushing teeth Episode 1525: 5 Toothbrushing Frequently Asked Questions by Crystal Raypole with Healthline on Having Good Oral Health How you feel affects every precious day of your life. Healthline understands that, which is why they're committed to being your most trusted ally in your pursuit of health and well-being. You can depend on Healthline to provide expert content along with genuine caring--both of which will support, guide, and inspire you toward the best possible health outcomes for you and your family. The original post is located here: https://www.healthline.com/health/how-long-should-you-brush-your-teeth-2 Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com  Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalHealthDailyDietNutritionFitness Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Content provided by: https://joanncohen.com articles “Warning signs your dating a Gold digger” and “How to deal with emotionally unavailable men” by Joann Cohen and https://healthline.com article “What it really means to be emotionally unavailable“ by Crystal Raypole and Dictionary Definition of the Day https://merriam-webster.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Empaths feel all the feels, and they feel them more and feel them harder than other people. This episode is a part 3 in my 3-part series on being an empath, and how that plays a role when it comes to how we operate, how we move through heartbreak, and how we approach our dating lives. In part 1 I explored what it meant to be an empath. You can find that episode here: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2021/8/9/part-one-empath-life-in-romantic-relationships. And in part 2, I talked about ways you can approach and move through heartbreak as an empath. You can find part 2 here: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2021/8/16/part-two-empath-life-during-heartbreakOne of the great things about being an empath is that we get to experience really high highs in our lives, including when we date! And because of this, it can lead to us not setting and holding boundaries, and even diving in too soon with people we don't really know that well. As I said in episode 2, I'm not telling you to not be an empath, I want to help you manage those feelings and not act from them. So in this episode, let's look at what it's like to be an empath in your dating life and ways to call in your Mr. or Ms. Right.Topics In This Episode10 things you can do to navigate your dating life and looking for love as an empath. A bonus in your dating life as an empath The overwhelm of dating and intimacy for empathsSlowing down and taking your time is key Location is key! Finding and planning dates where you can be comfortableSigns they are reciprocating the care and time you give them Advocating for yourself when you find yourself over-giving The right person for you will honor your boundaries and will see spending time with you as a privilege ResourcesEpisode, My Heartbreak StoryArticle, 15 Signs You Might Be an Empath, by Crystal Raypole: https://www.healthline.com/health/what-is-an-empathIf this sounds like you, and you want to take your healing to the next level, I invite you to join Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It's a one year program that includes three calls a week. Plus, you have access to over 60 videos of how to achieve the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back, falling in love with yourself on a deep level that you never would have if you hadn't gone through this heartache, and you will find someone better. To learn more and apply, go to https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/. Or email: hello@clairetheheartbreakcoach.com to set up a 30 minute consultation so we can talk about exactly how the program works and how it will work for you. PLEASE NOTE: Claire refers to her exes and the listener's ex as a “he,” based on her own personal experience as a heterosexual female, but this work can be applied to ANYONE going through heartbreak. ALL genders and sexual orientations are encouraged to listen and apply Claire's tools into their own lives! Editing and show notes by Roth Media

SHOW NOTES: On this show...we are getting out of our own way, changing our narrative, and going from self-sabotage and criticism to self-love. Isn't it time we end the war with ourselves? We can adopt all the media mantras; find gratitude, choose kindness, live, laugh, love...all the while, twisted in a love-hate relationship with ourselves. What do others see when they look at you? What do they mention when describing you or giving you a compliment? Is that even what you're struggling with? My guess is no. We secretly despise things about ourselves that no one even gives a second glance or thought about. This creates self-doubt which interrupts our daily climb providing detour after detour. STOP….ok you're at a stop sign and have the option of going left or right. What blinker do you have on? Remember, the stop sign, the option of left or right? Let me help you out. Turn left promises hairpin curves, unexpected stops, steep inclines, followed by a rush of excitement as you make your hands-free descent (wait that might be a roller-coaster but you get the visual)...this is your journey to self-discovery. Each milestone offers rest and a scenic overlook onto freedom. Freedom from what you've been putting in front of your true potential.  Now, if you chose to go right you have a little more control because the path is familiar, straight away followed by a loop to repeat it over and over. Full of the potholes, and road-closed signs you've created along the way. You can pick up your speed here because you can predict when you will brake, skid, or run off the road. Predictable but far from safe.  So what's it going to be? Is it time in your life to start doing things differently? What productive and positive thing has self-loathing and doubt ever produced in your life? Then why on earth do you protect it so fiercely? Jo Barrington gives us a window into your CRITICAL INNER VOICE on Self-Loathing in an article she wrote for psychalive.com  Exerts from the content: Self-loathing is that underlying feeling that we are just not good: not good enough, not good at this, not good at that, not good at – or for –much of anything.  The proper viewpoint toward yourself should be one of friendship.  Think about yourself and treat yourself as you would a close friend; respectfully and with affection.  Becoming aware that a division exists within us allows for a more rational, reasonable assessment of events in our daily lives. Once we have identified this process as being different from honest self-reflection, we are then able to think more objectively about ourselves and the various situations we encounter. Could it be as easy as changing our narrative? Sounds easy enough but the problem is so much of what we see is deeply rooted and continues to bubble up subconsciously. However, you can put yourself back at the crossroad but take control STOP. No longer am I going to listen to that broken record. Instead, I'm turning left and will begin to untangle the web of lies I tell myself by pushing back and challenging those beliefs. I do have a purpose, I am beautiful, I deserve good things in my life.  Rory MacKay explains more about this in his article: Is It Time to Change Your Story? Found at unbrokenself.com Exerts from the content: Our stories determine our entire experience of reality. They shape our personality, thoughts, feelings, behavior, and worldview. Make no mistake, the story you tell yourself about yourself is what will ultimately make or break you. So, is it a positive or a negative story? If we view ourselves as helpless and downtrodden and at the mercy of an unjust and cruel world, we're defeated from the very start. We'll feel powerless and lost.  I would like to remember the specific day where I realized that enough was enough and I needed to find a new way. The day I learned I didn't have all the answers yet but that there was so much more to learn. I keep racking my brain but I'm not sure it boils down to one major life event.  Someday, somehow, I realized, there is more to learn and much to love. I just had to get out of my own way! Crystal Raypole opens our eyes about  How Self-Sabotage Holds You Back in her article for healthline.com Exerts from the content: “How does this keep happening to me?” You can sabotage yourself in a number of ways. Some are obvious, but others are a bit harder to recognize. Blaming others when things go wrong Choosing to walk away when things don't go smoothly Procrastination Dating people who aren't right for you Trouble stating your needs Fear of Failure Need for control   KEY HIGHLIGHTS  No matter what circumstances you find yourself in, a nasty point of view toward yourself is never warranted.  You are powerful in your own right, free to choose any point of view or course of action available to you. Challenging the tendency toward self-loathing is one of the most valuable uses of our time and energy.  No longer am I going to listen to that broken record. Instead, I'm turning left and will begin to untangle the web of lies I tell myself but pushing back and challenging those beliefs. Whatever your life has been, and whatever role you've inadvertently cast yourself, it's essential to recognize that you are the King or Queen of your own story. It's time to recognize that and see yourself as the hero that you are. There's nothing wrong with moving on from situations that don't meet your needs.  When you give up before you've put in much effort, you may not learn how to make different choices in the future. Wanting to avoid failure can lead you to avoid trying. If you don't try, you can't fail, right?  Practicing mindfulness, or nonjudgmental awareness of your thoughts and behaviors in the present moment can also help.   CHALLENGE: Recognize the crossroad and come to a complete stop. Before you choose your direction make a commitment to let go of past behaviors and be willing to embrace a new perspective. Challenge the negative narrative with “not today” - today I'm turning left and continuing my journey to self-discovery.    I Know YOU Can Do It!

Empaths feel all the feels, and they feel them more and feel them harder than other people. This episode is a part 2 in my mini-series on being an empath, and how that plays a role when it comes to how we operate, how we move through heartbreak, and how we approach our dating lives. In part 1 I explored what it meant to be an empath. You can find that episode here: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2021/8/9/part-one-empath-life-in-romantic-relationshipsNow that we have a better understanding of what it means to be an empath, I want to stress that I'm not going to tell you how to not be an empath. Instead, let's take a look at how you can take this level of understanding about yourself and your needs, and use it to navigate through a broken heart. I share some examples from my own dating life of being heartbroken, what it was like for me, and my 8 tips of how to move through your feelings and heal your heart.Topics In This EpisodeBeing an empath is not a problemWhy we attract broken people What makes being an empath harder when it comes to being heartbrokenComing up with excuses for holding on to the pain 8 things you can do as an empath to navigate your heartbreakAdvocating for yourself with respect to what you need in your heartbreak Creating a pattern of over-giving ResourcesEpisode, When You're On The Precipice Of True Love: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2021/7/19/when-youre-on-the-precipice-of-true-loveArticle, 15 Signs You Might Be an Empath, by Crystal Raypole: https://www.healthline.com/health/what-is-an-empathIf this sounds like you, and you want to take your healing to the next level, I invite you to join Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It's a one year program that includes three calls a week. Plus, you have access to over 60 videos of how to achieve the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back, falling in love with yourself on a deep level that you never would have if you hadn't gone through this heartache, and you will find someone better. To learn more and apply, go to https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/. Or email: hello@clairetheheartbreakcoach.com to set up a 30 minute consultation so we can talk about exactly how the program works and how it will work for you.PLEASE NOTE: Claire refers to her exes and the listener's ex as a “he,” based on her own personal experience as a heterosexual female, but this work can be applied to ANYONE going through heartbreak. ALL genders and sexual orientations are encouraged to listen and apply Claire's tools into their own lives!Editing and show notes by Roth Media

SHOW NOTES: On this show...we are getting honest with ourselves, opening the other eye, and asking a tough question; are we flexible, agreeable, or bending to please? You might identify with being easy-going or having a go-with-the-flow attitude. Never causing any waves and always blending in. Sounds nice and very agreeable but what if you are flexing and bending your belief systems, stepping out of your comfort zone, and compromising your values to please someone else? We all want to fit in and be accepted to some degree. Sometimes that degree is off the charts as we lose our identity in the endless pursuit for validation. How can we have it all; fit in and self-assert? It's not as delicate of a balance as you might think. It starts with removing fear. When you operate from a place of how others MIGHT judge and criticize you, you lose your authenticity. What makes you, YOU. Let's find that person and see what they have to say. I always thought I was easy-going. Able to just relax and go with the flow. Matt cleared that up for me by reminding me of my lists, and schedules, and a need for “a plan”. Ok ok - he's right. Maybe the word I was searching for was flexible or agreeable. I like people to be comfortable. I want to say YES more than I say no. I just want to make everyone happy…...oops, yep I just crossed the line. I am a people pleaser. I never really identified with that term or the fact that it may not be a good thing. Who wouldn't want to please people? What's the alternative, make people mad? I definitely shy away from confrontation and I feel a little anxiety if anyone is in an uncomfortable spot. This might seem super emphatic but I have learned over the years that balance in everything, is everything. Even in our emotions.  Dr. Margie Warrell gives us a little more clarity in her article for forbes.com; Are You Too Agreeable? 7 Strategies To Push Back Without Coming Off Pushy   Distinguish position from person   Offer a solution   Back up your position   State the business case   Inquire before advocating   Yes and…   Concede defeat graciously We all have ideas and things that are important to us. This is what shapes who we are. When we clone ourselves, taking on the likes and actions of others as a way to “fit in” we lose our unique identity. I can speak from a place of experience. I have been guilty of this more than once. It wasn't a conscious effort. True people-pleasing or codependency is a deeply rooted, compulsive behavior. In the early stages of self-discovery, you may have zero ideas of what you're doing you just know it isn't working. You feel miserable, misunderstood, and never good enough. Trying to be someone you're not is exhausting.  But what if you let your guard down and just did you? Easier said than done and if you've spent the better part of your life being what you felt others wanted you to be, you may not even know who you are! Doesn't finding you and releasing your thoughts and opinions without fear, seem like a worthwhile leg of your journey? Crystal Raypole shows us How to Stop People-Pleasing (and Still Be Nice) in an article she wrote for healthline.com Recognizing the signs Still not sure if you're a people pleaser or just extremely kind to others? Here's a look at some telltale signs of people-pleasing. You have a low opinion of yourself You need others to like you It's hard for you to say “no” You apologize or accept fault when you aren't to blame You're quick to agree, even when you don't really agree You struggle with authenticity You're a giver - do you give with a goal of being liked? You don't have any free time Arguments and conflict upset you If you identify with this behavior it's a good thing to uncover no matter what your age and stage in life. You can live free by recognizing the characteristics, getting honest with yourself, and being willing to overcome the fear.  Remember when I said “deeply rooted compulsive behavior” - it's still there for me. Just under the surface and if I fall into former behaviors, it rears its head and I can be spinning out of control with this need to control and fix.  I love coaching on codependency because it helps me to hear it over and over and it wasn't until I got free that I became fully aware of how this behavior altered my perception and controlled my life.  I'm honest with Matt and he understands that it does come from an honest place of love, however misguided. He gently reminds me when I'm starting to spin. I can't tell you what that means to me. Not throwing it up in my face, criticizing me, or making me feel like I'm crazy. He patiently reminds me that “I don't need to worry about that”. Just that easy. It's the wake-up call I need to get back in my hula-hoop. Thank you Kate B for that wonderful visual which helps me understand boundaries and what I'm responsible for and what I'm not. What if you could channel all your energy into finding yourself, activating your power, and elevating your voice?  Beth Gray helps us with Finding your voice: loving your authentic life in an article she wrote for Inner Life Coaching There is an extraordinary power that is held in YOU being You. When I suggest you need help finding your voice, I am not referring to a writer or a speaker. Instead, I want you to find the power of the small, still voice – somewhere deep inside – that dares to stand up for you. Finding your voice is discovering the You that has investigated, for yourself: What you really think What you truly desire Key Highlights When you operate from a place of how others MIGHT judge and criticize you, you lose your authenticity.  Speaking up to express an opinion that isn't held by the majority takes courage It's important to distinguish the opinion that you are pushing back against from the person who holds it. When we clone ourselves, taking on the likes and actions of others as a way to “fit in” we lose our unique identity. Doesn't finding you and releasing your thoughts and opinions without fear, seem like a worthwhile leg of your journey? The urge to please others can be damaging to ourselves and, potentially, to our relationships when we allow other people's wants to have more importance than our own needs Next time, challenge yourself to wait until someone explicitly asks for help. You can live free by recognizing the characteristics, getting honest with yourself, and being willing to overcome the fear.  Recovery might require a new set of standards and values by which to lead your life!  There is an extraordinary power that is held in YOU being You.    CHALLENGE: take the time to uncover the authentic you; your opinions, your passion, and your voice! Being open to a new perspective is being flexible, going along with it just to be liked, is being too agreeable. Find a balance that puts your thoughts and feelings first.    I Know YOU Can Do It!

I have shared on this podcast before that I am a number six on the enneagram, I have an anxious attachment style, and I'm an Aquarius. I believe that it is important to understand who we are, some of the labels that apply to us, so that we can then understand how it impacts our dating lives, and our entire lives! That is why I've created this mini-series about what it's like to be an empath and look at how it shaped our heartbreak, and what it means about how we show up in our dating and love lives. In this episode, let's explore what it means to be an empath and the 15 signs you may be one.This is the exact type of thing I help my clients understand about themselves in my group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It's a one year program that includes three calls a week. Plus, you have access to over 60 videos of how to achieve the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back, falling in love with yourself on a deep level that you never would have if you hadn't gone through this heartache, and you will find someone better. To learn more and apply, go to https://course.clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/Topics In This EpisodeWhy dating can be terrifying for an empathMy patterns in dating as a result of being an empathPainting green over red flagsAddiction to our dramas and victim stories What keeps empaths stuck in their heartbreakBeing an empath is both a blessing and a curse The 15 signs you might be an empathResourcesArticle, What Is An Empath and How Do You Know You Are One, by Leah Campbell: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-an-empath-and-how-do-you-know-if-you-are-one-5119883Episode, Heartbreak and the Enneagram With Liz Elkins Newcomer: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/9/2/heartbreak-and-the-enneagram-with-liz-elkins-newcomeArticle, 15 Signs You Might Be an Empath, by Crystal Raypole: https://www.healthline.com/health/what-is-an-empathThe Urban and the Mystic: https://theurbanandthemystic.com/Episode, Are My Feelings Valid Or Am I Being Dramatic? https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2021/7/26/are-my-feelings-valid-or-am-i-being-dramatic PLEASE NOTE: Claire refers to her exes and the listener's ex as a “he,” based on her own personal experience as a heterosexual female, but this work can be applied to ANYONE going through heartbreak. ALL genders and sexual orientations are encouraged to listen and apply Claire's tools into their own lives! Editing and show notes by Roth Media

Without healthy emotional control in our lives we won't accomplish everything else we want to do. On today’s podcast we’re going to be talking about emotional control as a critical factor for our agility. 4 areas where emotional control or the lack there of can positively or negatively impact things Decision making Relationship success Day to day interactions Self care - physical and mental health Cole, Michel, Teti, Emotional Regulation is “the ability to respond to the ongoing demands of experience with the range of emotions in a manner that is socially tolerable and sufficiently flexible to permit spontaneous reactions as well as the ability to delay spontaneous reactions as needed” (Cole, P. M., Michel, M. K., & Teti, L. O. (1994). The development of emotion regulation and dysregulation: A clinical perspective.) Crystal Raypole lays out a variety of ways to achieve that healthy emotional balance. We won’t talk about all of them today, but I’ll put the link to the article in our show notes. https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-control-your-emotions Learn to identify what emotions you are experiencing. Learn to regulate not repress Know when to express yourself and with whom Give yourself space as needed If you or someone you know is struggling with emotions or general mental health please reach out to someone. Your personal well-being is far more important than anything else. While we're not trained to provide that support, we would be very happy to connect with the right person if you want. Sincerely, Moriah and Aaron