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Dating? Getting back in the dating scene? Does it scare you these days? All this talk--and experience--of breadcrumb dating, ghosting, insecurity, toxicity, safety in relationships? My guest, Tracy Crossley, specializes in helping you to be aware of unhealthy dating patterns and how to change them. Breadcrumb dating needs to be recognized immediately and shut down. Learn today to save yourself unnecessary pain while dating. Tracy Crossley cautions, "Sex is not emotional intimacy." Sometimes, you can hope that it is--or, at least, is the beginning of emotional intimacy. It's not! Often, the earlier you have sex in a relationship the more likely it is that you will experience breadcrumb dating. Save yourself that pain!If you've ever been in a toxic relationship, you are likely to be afraid of dating these days.Who can I trust? Can I trust myself to choose a healthy relationship?Breadcrumb dating is what you likely fear the most because it will mimic the emotional abuse you have already experienced. Do you know what "breadcrumb dating" actually is? An experience you don't want! Today we talk about recognizing these patterns and possibilities just in case you run into them. So then you can run away!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What is "breadcrumb dating?"What does breadcrumb dating have to do with attachment styles?Hear Tracy Crossley's storyHow breadcrumb dating triggers fear of abandonmentWhy sex is not emotional intimacyHow you can stop doing things that make you feel badLearning to be honest and vulnerable without punishing yourselfWhat is an "insecure attachment" and how does it look in relationship? GUEST: Tracy CrossleyTracy is a Behavioral Relationship Expert and Podcast Host who works with individuals to help transform their dating habits by breaking unhealthy cycles of dating. With a background in psychology, an innate emotional intuition, and drawing from her own personal experience, Tracy helps her clients break the patterns that keep them trapped in the repetition of unhealthy singlehood and relationships.Learn more at TracyCrossley.comFind on FacebookEnjoy on YouTube Follow on TwitterListen to PodcastWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER! I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again. Learn more: TransformingRelationship.comListen to my podcastsLike my Facebook pageFollow me on Twitter: Stay in touch on LinkedIn: Find my inspiring graphics on Instagram:So much on my Pinterest boards Subscribe to my YouTube Channel: ForRelationshipHelp -------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------#breadcrumbdating #ghosting #tracycrossley #toxicdating #recognizingatoxicperson #datingonline #toxicity#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

#Hijackals manipulate. Therefore, Hijackals lie. Whether that #Hijackal is narcissistic, borderline, or anti-social, it doesn't matter. They will lie. Hijackals--those relentlessly difficult, toxic people--want the outcomes they want. Therefore, they deceive you. Deceiving you means causing you to believe something that is not true usually to gain some personal advantage. Typical of Hijackals, right? They must win. Therefore, you must lose. To them, anything that helps them win is fair game. I know you want to believe the lies. The Hijackal is often telling you what you want to hear with little intention of giving you what you want to receive. They know the edges, and often overstep them. Don't be in denial. A narcissist does NOT have your best interests at heart. NO! Hijackals have their best interests at heart. They even put their own interests over what's best for their children. Nasty! So, it's time to step up and stop accepting the lies! No, don't tell them they are wrong. Don't tell them they are lying. You already know that just causes more fury. Recognize the ways you have let them lie to you and why. (I'll help with that, so listen.) Understand why #Hijackals lie. Face the truth. See it as it is.Examine your options.Take action. In a few weeks, I'll be doing another episode on ways to confront the lying and NOT blow things up. Subscribe and stay tuned. best regards,RhobertaWant to talk with me? One-hour introductory session is only $97.-------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What deception really isUsual reasons for not confronting the lies narcissists tellWhat stops you from stepping up to the truthWhy #Hijackals® lieWhy you let themBig four steps to stop the lies Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp#beingliedto #knowImbeingliedto #narcissistslie #howtostopthelying #Iknowheslying #iknowsheslying #confrontinglies #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Do you think that there is a connection between what goes on in your emotional life and what goes on in your body?You betcha! Today's episode starts with me giving you some insights into the hows, whys, and benefits of creating uninterrupted time in your life frequently. Do you do that? Most people don't, so take this in. It can make a HUGE difference in your feeling of well-being!When you have difficulties--especially chronic stress and anxiety--from being raised by, living with, or leaving toxic people, #Hijackals, you are likely to have health issues. When you're young, you may not notice the cumulative effects so much. You may be unhappy, irritable, or feeling defeated, but your body is more resilient...for awhile.As you stay in these toxic relationships, or at least, don't fully realize the toll these relationships have on you, you may well begin to experience small breakdowns in your body. You lose energy, feel fatigued, and don't bounce back as you used to. That's the beginning of more difficulties to come...if you stay.Often, when you go to the doctor and describe this general malaise, the doctor will tell you that it's all in your head. In a way, that's true because you are experiencing emotional issues from destructive relationships. But, you're not crazy, or mentally unstable.It's true, though, that when these conditions persist, you feel like you're living in a fog, surrounded by pain, unable and unwilling to participate.fully in life. Sound familiar? Time to change your mind, and today's episode of Emotional Savvy will definitely help.Today's we'll explore the connections between emotional well-being and physical well-being, between the damaging effects of unhealthy relationships and the potential for autoimmune conditions.DISCLAIMER: Neither my guest, Sharon Sayler, nor I are medical doctors. We are talking about other people's research and our own anecdotal experiences with clients, listeners, and friends.GUEST: Sharon Sayler, Producer and Host of The Autoimmune Hour on Life Interrupted and creator of UnderstandingAutoimmune.com Sharon Sayler is an international bestselling author and speaker known as the difficult people whisperer, and is listed on GlobalGurus.org as one of the top 20 worldwide for body language.She also happens to be the host of the #1 show on OMTimes Radio, The Autoimmune Hour, where she offers hope and help for those with autoimmune conditions. Her own experience dealing with a rare medical condition propelled her to create The AutoImmune Hour to support others to become informed, courageous, and powerful self-advocates as they turn life's traumas into transformations regardless of their diagnoses.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: What is the connect between intention and physical healthHow to think about what you think about that might need changingSharon's experience with her own medical journeyCompliance vs non-compliance as patientsThe power of the mind and the decision to put yourself firstTaking powerful steps to improve autoimmune conditionsCONNECT WITH SHARON SAYLERWebsite: UnderstandingAutoimmune.comTwitter: @SharonSaylerFacebook: Facebook.com/SharonSayler LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/SharonSaylerInstagram: Instagram.com/SharonSaylerCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?You can. CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy #autoimmunedisease #SharonSayler #understandingautoimmune See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Do you think that there is a connection between what goes on in your emotional life and what goes on in your body?You betcha! Today's episode starts with me giving you some insights into the hows, whys, and benefits of creating uninterrupted time in your life frequently. Do you do that? Most people don't, so take this in. It can make a HUGE difference in your feeling of well-being!When you have difficulties--especially chronic stress and anxiety--from being raised by, living with, or leaving toxic people, #Hijackals, you are likely to have health issues. When you're young, you may not notice the cumulative effects so much. You may be unhappy, irritable, or feeling defeated, but your body is more resilient...for awhile.As you stay in these toxic relationships, or at least, don't fully realize the toll these relationships have on you, you may well begin to experience small breakdowns in your body. You lose energy, feel fatigued, and don't bounce back as you used to. That's the beginning of more difficulties to come...if you stay.Often, when you go to the doctor and describe this general malaise, the doctor will tell you that it's all in your head. In a way, that's true because you are experiencing emotional issues from destructive relationships. But, you're not crazy, or mentally unstable.It's true, though, that when these conditions persist, you feel like you're living in a fog, surrounded by pain, unable and unwilling to participate.fully in life. Sound familiar? Time to change your mind, and today's episode of Emotional Savvy will definitely help.Today's we'll explore the connections between emotional well-being and physical well-being, between the damaging effects of unhealthy relationships and the potential for autoimmune conditions.DISCLAIMER: Neither my guest, Sharon Sayler, nor I are medical doctors. We are talking about other people's research and our own anecdotal experiences with clients, listeners, and friends.GUEST: Sharon Sayler, Producer and Host of The Autoimmune Hour on Life Interrupted and creator of UnderstandingAutoimmune.com Sharon Sayler is an international bestselling author and speaker known as the difficult people whisperer, and is listed on GlobalGurus.org as one of the top 20 worldwide for body language.She also happens to be the host of the #1 show on OMTimes Radio, The Autoimmune Hour, where she offers hope and help for those with autoimmune conditions. Her own experience dealing with a rare medical condition propelled her to create The AutoImmune Hour to support others to become informed, courageous, and powerful self-advocates as they turn life's traumas into transformations regardless of their diagnoses.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: What is the connect between intention and physical healthHow to think about what you think about that might need changingSharon's experience with her own medical journeyCompliance vs non-compliance as patientsThe power of the mind and the decision to put yourself firstTaking powerful steps to improve autoimmune conditionsCONNECT WITH SHARON SAYLERWebsite: UnderstandingAutoimmune.comTwitter: @SharonSaylerFacebook: Facebook.com/SharonSayler LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/SharonSaylerInstagram: Instagram.com/SharonSaylerCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?You can. CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy #autoimmunedisease #SharonSayler #understandingautoimmune See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Have you heard the term, coercive control? You may not have as it's just slowly coming to awareness. And, it is SO important that it does! Coercive control is life-sucking! That's why I've chosen to give you an understanding of the many aspects of coercive control in today's episode. Evan Stark, PhD, coined the term"coercive control" and he defines it this way,"...an ongoing pattern of domination by which male abusive partners primarily interweave repeated physical and sexual violence with intimidation, sexual degradation, isolation, and control."Does any of that sound like something that has happened to you? He writes about men because he says that coercive control is a 'gendered' issue, He writes about this in his paper, Re-Presenting Battered Women: Coercive Control and the Defense of Liberty.He says,"The primary outcome of coercive control is a condition of entrapment that can be hostage-like in the harms it inflicts on dignity, liberty, autonomy, and personhood as well as to physical and psychological integrity."Does this sound familiar in any way to you? Have you felt degraded, diminished, discounted, and devalued by a toxic partner, one of those folks I call #Hijackals®?Listen in, and subscribe.--------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What is coercive control?Why it is a 'gendered' issue?Why law enforcement as too often failed to look at the repeating patterns of non-physical abuse.How intimidation fits into coercive abuse.Why you need to really understand how destructive this and how it breaks you down over timeWhy documenting the things that are said, done, and left undone in the relationship is SO importantYou'll find that in many other episodes of this podcast, and on my YouTube channel, too.Enjoy my other podcast, Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, here, or wherever you like to find your podcasts.Listen to today's episode, and, if by chance, you're still wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, grab myFREE EBOOK, How to Spot a Hijackal® at Hijackals.com . You need to know what's up now, so you don't make mistakes that will hurt you. Grab it!If you need help with any part of the journey with--and from--a #Hijackal, I'm here for you. Let's talk soon. I make it easy and accessible for you to have your first one-hour session with me for only $97.Make positive changes NOW.Big hugs,RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorTransformingRelationship.com or ForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT & GROWTH GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly "Ask Me Anything" calls, sometimes twoat least monthly insightful videos and access to the libraryYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month! This offer is going away soon, and the prices will double. Join now!OptimizeCircles.comCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpYou can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#coercivecontrol #narcissisticabuse #toxicnarcissist #leavinganarcissist #hijackals #saveyoursanity #Hijackals #verbalabuse #passive-aggressive #toxicpeople #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #sociopath #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #toxicpeople See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

So often, clients and members ask me if the relentless difficult, toxic people in their lives are that way on purpose.Followed closely by the question: does s/he want to hurt me?Have you wondered if your mean, blaming partner wants to hurt you?Did you have a #Hijackal parent who told you you were unwanted, or never good enough?Are you in a toxic relationship now?#Hijackals are made, not born. A baby may start life with some leanings, but it's the people in their lives and in the world around them as they gron that influence and teach them how to survive. If you have a #Hijackal parent, you will have had lessons in being unsafe, dismissed, invalidated, and at fault. That's what Hijackal parents do.#Narcissists get offended easily, don't they? #Narcissists are hypersensitive to disrespect, disloyalty, or anyone they think is trying to take something from them. Because they really have no interest in your needs, wants, feelings, or thoughts, they are also not concerned about you. They only care about themselves.Similarly, narcissistic people don't care much about their children's feelings or needs. They care that they APPEAR to be good parents to the community, but they often do little to BE good parents to their children. I know. It's hard to believe that, but it's too often the truth. Hijackals are only interested in the children reflecting well on them, not on providing stability, love, direction, and care to them.So, do they intentionally hurt you? Do they do nasty things on purpose? Listen in, and recognize these truths.--------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What happened in early life to create narcissistic tendenciesAre #Hijackals self-aware?Why toxic people are actually insecureHealthier ways to manage toxic relationshipsKeeping yourself safe ...and your childrenMaking sound decisions about relationshipYou'll find that in many other episodes of this podcast, and on my YouTube channel, too.Enjoy my other podcast, Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, here, or wherever you like to find your podcasts.Listen to today's episode, and, if by chance, you're still wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, grab myFREE EBOOK, How to Spot a Hijackal® at Hijackals.com . You need to know what's up now, so you don't make mistakes that will hurt you. Grab it!If you need help with any part of the journey with--and from--a #Hijackal, I'm here for you. Let's talk soon. I make it easy and accessible for you to have your first one-hour session with me for only $97.Make positive changes NOW.Big hugs,RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorTransformingRelationship.com or ForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT & GROWTH GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly "Ask Me Anything" calls, sometimes twoat least monthly insightful videos and access to the libraryYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month! This offer is going away soon, and the prices will double. Join now!OptimizeCircles.comCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpYou can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#intentionallyhurt #narcissisticabuse #toxicnarcissist #leavinganarcissist #hijackals #changeanarcissist #changeasociopath #saveyoursanity #Hijackals #verbalabuse #passive-aggressive #toxicpeople #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #sociopath #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #toxicpeople See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Is positive self-talk always positive? is it effective? Does positive self-talk have any downsides? Can it always work? Important questions, and today's guest, Dr. Marcia Reynolds, has given this a tremendous amount of thought and consideration. Such valuable work! Dr. Reynolds says, "Rationalizing and defending your behavior keeps you nestled in a safe and suffocating world. Mustering the courage to say, "Yes!" in the face of fear is a great gift to give yourself." (from her book, OutSmart Your Brain: How to Manage Your Mind When Emotions Take the Wheel. In today's episode, we talk about conversations with yourself and with others that demonstrate respect, and positive intentions. Why is that so important? Find out. Listen in. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What it means to "outsmart your brain"What is "The Discomfort Zone"?Why we often prefer a safe, suffocating worldWhen and why positive self-talk is ineffectiveThree ways to mentally prepare for a difficult conversationWhat's Dr. Reynolds' AID model and how to use it >>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________GUEST: DR. MARCIA REYNOLDS Dr. Marcia Reynolds, Master Certified Coach, is fascinated by the brain, especially what triggers feelings of connection, commitment, and possibility. She draws on her research as she helps people make their difficult conversations become a difference-making experience. She has provided executive coaching, leadership and personal development training programs, and keynote speaking in 41 countries. This highly sought-after behavioral scientist is happily obsessed with uncovering the latest discoveries in neuro/behavioral research and putting them into practical applications. With a doctoral degree in Psychology, and two master’s degrees in Adult Learning and Communications, Marcia’s expertise ranges from holding powerful conversations to activating the emotions of passion and courage at work and at home. Dr. Reynolds is the Training Director for the Healthcare Coaching Institute at Virginia Tech. She was the 5th global president of the International Coach Federation. She is also faculty for the International Coach Academy in Russia and Create China Coaching in China. She is recognized by the Global Gurus as the #3 coach in the world. Interviews and excerpts from Marcia’s books -- Outsmart Your Brain: How to Manage Your Mind When Emotions Take the Wheel; The Discomfort Zone: How Leaders Turn Difficult Conversations into Breakthrough; and Wander Woman: How High-Achieving Women Find Contentment and Direction have appeared in many places including Psychology Today, Fast Company, Forbes.com, The Globe and Mail, and The Wall Street Journal. When you face difficult conversations, Dr. Reynolds can help you flip defensiveness, create rapport, and connect in more meaningful ways. When she has the opportunity to be home, Marcia can often be found hiking the beautiful mountains in Arizona. You can learn more about Dr. Reynolds on her website, www.outsmartyourbrain.comFREE GIFT FROM DR. MARCIA REYNOLDS :ebook: From the Pits to the Peak: A new look at making life changes GET IT HERE.CONTACT INFO FOR DR. MARCIA REYNOLDSWebsite: OutsmartYourBrain.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: @MarciaReynoldsFacebook: @OutsmartYourBrainInstagram: Twitter: @BMarciaReynoldsYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/MarciaReynoldsCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #outsmartyourbrain #drmarciareynolds #positiveselftalk #difficultconversations #preparefordifficultconversation #covisioning See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Is positive self-talk always positive? is it effective? Does positive self-talk have any downsides? Can it always work? Important questions, and today's guest, Dr. Marcia Reynolds, has given this a tremendous amount of thought and consideration. Such valuable work! Dr. Reynolds says, "Rationalizing and defending your behavior keeps you nestled in a safe and suffocating world. Mustering the courage to say, "Yes!" in the face of fear is a great gift to give yourself." (from her book, OutSmart Your Brain: How to Manage Your Mind When Emotions Take the Wheel. In today's episode, we talk about conversations with yourself and with others that demonstrate respect, and positive intentions. Why is that so important? Find out. Listen in. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What it means to "outsmart your brain"What is "The Discomfort Zone"?Why we often prefer a safe, suffocating worldWhen and why positive self-talk is ineffectiveThree ways to mentally prepare for a difficult conversationWhat's Dr. Reynolds' AID model and how to use it >>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships. All safely off social media, too!___________________________________GUEST: DR. MARCIA REYNOLDS Dr. Marcia Reynolds, Master Certified Coach, is fascinated by the brain, especially what triggers feelings of connection, commitment, and possibility. She draws on her research as she helps people make their difficult conversations become a difference-making experience. She has provided executive coaching, leadership and personal development training programs, and keynote speaking in 41 countries. This highly sought-after behavioral scientist is happily obsessed with uncovering the latest discoveries in neuro/behavioral research and putting them into practical applications. With a doctoral degree in Psychology, and two master’s degrees in Adult Learning and Communications, Marcia’s expertise ranges from holding powerful conversations to activating the emotions of passion and courage at work and at home. Dr. Reynolds is the Training Director for the Healthcare Coaching Institute at Virginia Tech. She was the 5th global president of the International Coach Federation. She is also faculty for the International Coach Academy in Russia and Create China Coaching in China. She is recognized by the Global Gurus as the #3 coach in the world. Interviews and excerpts from Marcia’s books -- Outsmart Your Brain: How to Manage Your Mind When Emotions Take the Wheel; The Discomfort Zone: How Leaders Turn Difficult Conversations into Breakthrough; and Wander Woman: How High-Achieving Women Find Contentment and Direction have appeared in many places including Psychology Today, Fast Company, Forbes.com, The Globe and Mail, and The Wall Street Journal. When you face difficult conversations, Dr. Reynolds can help you flip defensiveness, create rapport, and connect in more meaningful ways. When she has the opportunity to be home, Marcia can often be found hiking the beautiful mountains in Arizona. You can learn more about Dr. Reynolds on her website, www.outsmartyourbrain.comFREE GIFT FROM DR. MARCIA REYNOLDS :ebook: From the Pits to the Peak: A new look at making life changes GET IT HERE.CONTACT INFO FOR DR. MARCIA REYNOLDSWebsite: OutsmartYourBrain.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: @MarciaReynoldsFacebook: @OutsmartYourBrainInstagram: Twitter: @BMarciaReynoldsYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/MarciaReynoldsCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #toxicrelationships#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #outsmartyourbrain #drmarciareynolds #positiveselftalk #difficultconversations #preparefordifficultconversation #covisioning See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Parents who were emotionally available, perceptive, and responsive to you, to your needs and mental states, are a great gift! They tend to provide you with attachment that is secure. This is an excellent foundation for a healthy emotional life. Parents who were emotionally unavailable, or inconsistently available, perceptive or response to your needs, and tended to intrude their own states of mind onto you as a tiny child, could create what is called a "resistant, ambivalent, or anxious attachment" to others. This is an excellent breeding ground for an unhealthy emotional life. And, in particular, sets the stage for personality distortions in later life.So, that person whom you met when they were an adult--a partner, ex, parent, co-worker--was already pre-disposed to their outwardly self-important, prone to pomposity, self-adoration, and annoyingly entitled behaviors long before you can along.You can't change them.They don't want to change. They see no need to change.Got it?Good!Let yourself off the hook.------------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What attachment theory isHow attachment theory helps explain the basic nature of people in relationshipsSecure attachment is healthyAvoidant attachment is dismissiveAnxious,attachment, ambivalent attachment is preoccupiedDisorganized attachment is unresolvedWhy a Hijackal's behavior is not your faultWhy you cannot change a #HijackalYou'll find that in many other episodes of this podcast, and on my YouTube channel, too.Enjoy my other podcast, Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, here, or wherever you like to find your podcasts.Listen to today's episode, and, if by chance, you're still wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, grab myFREE EBOOK, How to Spot a Hijackal® at Hijackals.com . You need to know what's up now, so you don't make mistakes that will hurt you. Grab it!If you need help with any part of the journey with--and from--a #Hijackal, I'm here for you. Let's talk soon. I make it easy and accessible for you to have your first one-hour session with me for only $97.Make positive changes NOW.Big hugs,RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorTransformingRelationship.com or ForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT & GROWTH GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly "Ask Me Anything" calls, sometimes twoat least monthly insightful videos and access to the libraryYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month! This offer is going away soon, and the prices will double. Join now!OptimizeCircles.comCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpYou can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#attachment #attachmenttheory #changeanarcissist #changeasociopath #saveyoursanity #Hijackals #verbalabuse #passive-aggressive #toxicpeople #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #toxicpeople See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Do you have a feeling that what's going on in your relationship is less than honest, and yet, you feel strangely like you're not doing enough?You may well be with a covert narcissist!Even for me, working with couples all over the world, it takes longer to identify covert narcissism in a person, and in a relationship, than with other demonstrations of narcissism.Why? Because it is sneaky, under-handed, passive, and plays on your heart strings more than overt or malignant narcissism. It takes longer to be sure that's what's playing out. And, when I'm working with a couple, I want to be sure...and, so do you, I know.Covert narcissists play the victim, misunderstood and under-valued in their own minds. It's all a manipulation, but that's what they want to believe. They feel as entitled as overt narcissists, but, they don't express it in the same ways.Are you with someone who is always the victim?Does s/he tell you that they never are valued, or seen for who they really are?Does that person try to keep you feeling sorry for them?Do you feel like you are the caretaker of their self-esteem and self-confidence?These can be very clear signs of covert narcissism, especially when they are all present. Of course, there are many more signs, and I've put as many in today's episode as I could in the time available. You'll be able to get a good sense if you're with a covert narcissist....finally. And, it will be a big relief, I'm guessing!Listen in, and see if what's keeping you feeling like you're supposed to be the cheerleader for a permanent underdog is really covert narcissism.--------------------------------------------------------------------I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com Only $5 for the first month at any level.----------------------------------------------------------------------HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What covert narcissists doHow covert narcissism is easy to missWhy covert narcissism is hard to identifyHow covert narcissism shows up in your daily relationshipWhy covert narcissists make you second-guess yourself and err on the side of empathyWhy covert narcissists are particularly crazy-making, yet make you stay longerYou'll find that in many other episodes of this podcast, and on my YouTube channel, too.Enjoy my other podcast, Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, here, or wherever you like to find your podcasts.Listen to today's episode, and, if by chance, you're still wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, grab myFREE EBOOK, How to Spot a Hijackal® at Hijackals.com . You need to know what's up now, so you don't make mistakes that will hurt you. Grab it!If you need help with any part of the journey with--and from--a #Hijackal, I'm here for you. Let's talk soon. I make it easy and accessible for you to have your first one-hour session with me for only $97.Make positive changes NOW.Big hugs,RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorTransformingRelationship.com or ForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT & GROWTH GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly "Ask Me Anything" calls, sometimes twoat least monthly insightful videos and access to the libraryYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month! This offer is going away soon, and the prices will double. Join now!OptimizeCircles.comCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpYou can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#covertnarcissists #sneakynarcissism #Hijackals #verbalabuse #passive-aggressive #toxicpeople #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorders #MHNRNetwork #recognizenarcissism #seeingthecycles #emotionalabuse See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Dating? Is it a joy, a pleasure, a pain, or a concern? Sometimes, it's each of those, right? And, sometimes, it's just downright scary! If you've had past relationship with toxic people, or toxic relationships in your family, friends, or at work, you'll find this episode valuable. We also talk about the issues that come up when dating after divorce, AND, the ever popular subject of online dating. My guest today, Laura Richer says, "I focus on dating and romantic relationships and it is my belief that difficult relationships and people are optional. When we continually attract difficult situations to us, we must first start with doing our own inner work and see what we can do to shift this experience. I help clients cultivate self-love and self-respect so that they can attract joyous and fulfilling relationships into their lives, not difficult people and situations."HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What "authentic connection" isHow to know when you've made oneHow your self-worth affects your dating effectivenessHow you can stop attracting undesirable peopleWhy focusing on the potential of a relationship is dangerous >>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you. Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships!GUEST: LAURA RICHER Laura Richer is a certified Hypnotherapist, Life Coach, and Reiki practitioner, and the owner of Richer Healing Hypnosis, Rieki, and Life Coaching in Seattle, Washington. She is a graduate of Western Washington University. Laura is currently completing her Master's Degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling at Antioch University. Her Hypnotherapy and Coaching practice over the last eight plus years has specialized in supporting clients in building confidence and self-worth so that they can attract the relationship they truly desire. FREE GIFT FROM L:AURA RICHER : Not at this time.CONTACT INFO FOR LAURA RICHER: Website: DRicherLove.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/laura-richer-93419658Facebook: Facebook.com/CoachLauraRicherInstagram: @richer_loveTwitter: YouTube: CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos, or attend my webinars. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each moth.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#midlifedating #afraidtoloveagain #trustingagain #midliferelationshipissues #drmargaretrutherford#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #personalwholeness#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Dating? Is it a joy, a pleasure, a pain, or a concern? Sometimes, it's each of those, right? And, sometimes, it's just downright scary! If you've had past relationship with toxic people, or toxic relationships in your family, friends, or at work, you'll find this episode valuable. We also talk about the issues that come up when dating after divorce, AND, the ever popular subject of online dating. My guest today, Laura Richer says, "I focus on dating and romantic relationships and it is my belief that difficult relationships and people are optional. When we continually attract difficult situations to us, we must first start with doing our own inner work and see what we can do to shift this experience. I help clients cultivate self-love and self-respect so that they can attract joyous and fulfilling relationships into their lives, not difficult people and situations."HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What "authentic connection" isHow to know when you've made oneHow your self-worth affects your dating effectivenessHow you can stop attracting undesirable peopleWhy focusing on the potential of a relationship is dangerous >>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you. Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships!GUEST: LAURA RICHER Laura Richer is a certified Hypnotherapist, Life Coach, and Reiki practitioner, and the owner of Richer Healing Hypnosis, Rieki, and Life Coaching in Seattle, Washington. She is a graduate of Western Washington University. Laura is currently completing her Master's Degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling at Antioch University. Her Hypnotherapy and Coaching practice over the last eight plus years has specialized in supporting clients in building confidence and self-worth so that they can attract the relationship they truly desire. FREE GIFT FROM L:AURA RICHER : Not at this time.CONTACT INFO FOR LAURA RICHER: Website: DRicherLove.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/laura-richer-93419658Facebook: Facebook.com/CoachLauraRicherInstagram: @richer_loveTwitter: YouTube: CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos, or attend my webinars. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each moth.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#midlifedating #afraidtoloveagain #trustingagain #midliferelationshipissues #drmargaretrutherford#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #personalwholeness#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Are you a little shy about dating, or moving into a new relationship after a divorce? What if you've been married once or twice? Do you have confidence to date again? Do you have confidence in choosing a new partner after divorce? OK! Yes, there are a few fear-inspiring issues about dating again after a divorce, right? Can I trust a new person?Can I trust myself?Will you see red flags?When am I ready for emotional intimacy? When do I consider moving to the bedroom and sexual intimacy?What do I need to talk about to help a new partner understand me?When do I talk about my past relationships? Oh, yes! A few things to consider, for sure. That's why this fabulous conversation with Dr. Margaret Rutherford is so valuable--and practical--for you to listen to right now...and to share with your friends who are thinking about dating again. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What you need to discuss with a new partnerWhen is the right time to talk about your past relationshipsHow to approach dating again, especially after a difficult, toxic relationshipAging is real. How to talk about all that.What about boundaries?How do you solve problems in a new relationship >>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you. Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships!GUEST: DR. MARGARET RUTHERFORDDr. Margaret Rutherford, a clinical psychologist, has practiced for twenty-six years in Fayetteville, Arkansas., Her work can be found at DrMargaretRutherford.com, where she blogs weekly, as well as HuffPost, Psych Central, The Mighty, the Gottman Blog and others. She hosts a weekly podcast, SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Her new book, Perfectly Hidden Depression, will be published by New Harbinger in 2019.Dr. Margaret as she's known to her followers decided to extend the walls of her practice almost 7 years ago and now blogs and podcasts about her ideas on depression, perfectionism and its antidote -- vulnerability. Her podcast has earned more than half a million downloads as people are tuning in to learn more about therapy and what makes real change happen.FREE GIFT FROM DR. RUTHERFORD: Not at this time.CONTACT INFO FOR DR. MARGARET RUTHERFORD Website: DrMargaretRutherford.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: Facebook: Facebook.com/DrMargaretRutherfordInstagram: DrMargaretRutherfordTwitter: YouTube: CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos, or attend my webinars. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each moth.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#midlifedating #afraidtoloveagain #trustingagain #midliferelationshipissues #drmargaretrutherford #relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #personalwholeness#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Are you a little shy about dating, or moving into a new relationship after a divorce? What if you've been married once or twice? Do you have confidence to date again? Do you have confidence in choosing a new partner after divorce? OK! Yes, there are a few fear-inspiring issues about dating again after a divorce, right? Can I trust a new person?Can I trust myself?Will you see red flags?When am I ready for emotional intimacy? When do I consider moving to the bedroom and sexual intimacy?What do I need to talk about to help a new partner understand me?When do I talk about my past relationships? Oh, yes! A few things to consider, for sure. That's why this fabulous conversation with Dr. Margaret Rutherford is so valuable--and practical--for you to listen to right now...and to share with your friends who are thinking about dating again. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What you need to discuss with a new partnerWhen is the right time to talk about your past relationshipsHow to approach dating again, especially after a difficult, toxic relationshipAging is real. How to talk about all that.What about boundaries?How do you solve problems in a new relationship >>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you. Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships!GUEST: DR. MARGARET RUTHERFORDDr. Margaret Rutherford, a clinical psychologist, has practiced for twenty-six years in Fayetteville, Arkansas., Her work can be found at DrMargaretRutherford.com, where she blogs weekly, as well as HuffPost, Psych Central, The Mighty, the Gottman Blog and others. She hosts a weekly podcast, SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Her new book, Perfectly Hidden Depression, will be published by New Harbinger in 2019.Dr. Margaret as she's known to her followers decided to extend the walls of her practice almost 7 years ago and now blogs and podcasts about her ideas on depression, perfectionism and its antidote -- vulnerability. Her podcast has earned more than half a million downloads as people are tuning in to learn more about therapy and what makes real change happen.FREE GIFT FROM DR. RUTHERFORD: Not at this time.CONTACT INFO FOR DR. MARGARET RUTHERFORD Website: DrMargaretRutherford.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: Facebook: Facebook.com/DrMargaretRutherfordInstagram: DrMargaretRutherfordTwitter: YouTube: CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos, or attend my webinars. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each moth.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#midlifedating #afraidtoloveagain #trustingagain #midliferelationshipissues #drmargaretrutherford #relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #personalwholeness#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Self-confidence! Sounds good, doesn't it? You want to have, express, and experience it, and that's not always easy after a #Hijackal has trampled it. You can become self-confident, and today's episode will give you great steps! How are you doing with your self-confidence? Has someone bashed it? Are you ready to improve your self-confidence and step out with more conscious self-love? Great. You'll love this episode!Once you're on a downward path with your self-confidence, the world seems to conspire to keep you there. You even find ways to put yourself down and keep yourself down, especially if you've been with a #Hijackal of any stripe. That Hijackal could have been your parent, sibling, or partner. Time to stop letting that person have any say in how you live your life, and especially no further say in what you are capable of doing.----------------------------------------------------------------------If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships. Join my Optimize Circles now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. ForRelationshipHelp.com/Circles----------------------------------------------------------------------Constantly being told you are worthless, or thoughtless, or even much less, wears away self-esteem, and with it goes your self-confidence. If you're wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, grab my free ebook, How to Spot a Hijackal® at Hijackals.com . You need to know what's up. Hijackals have to believe they are always right, and the smartest person in ever room, at all time. So, they give you false messages about yourself. Time to examine those and stop believing them.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What a Hijackal parent told you about who you are is likely nowhere near the truthListening to the opinions of others erodes your self-confidenceNo need to let people discourage you from trying new thingsHow to turn off the old voices that tell you you can't do thingsGreat quotation from e.e.cummings : Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit. YAY! Step up today and don't let anyone put you down ever again. OK?If you need help with this, I'm here for you. Let's talk soon. Want my help? I make it easy and accessible for you to have your first one-hour session with me for only $97.Make positive changes NOW.Big hugs,RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT & GROWTH GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly "Ask Me Anything" calls, sometimes twoat least monthly insightful webinars and access to the webinar libraryYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month! This offer is going away soon, and the prices will double. Join now!ForRelationshipHelp.com/CirclesCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorYou can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#Hijackals #passive-aggressivepeople #passive-aggressivebehavior #toxicpeople #verbalabuse #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorders #MHNRNetwork #beassertive #self-confidence #improvemyself-confidence See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Any chance you have "stuff?" Or, whatever you prefer to call it! Maybe, you've had it for awhile, and you're attached to it.Maybe, you are always saying you're going to deal with it.Maybe, you just inherited it from parents who have passed.Maybe, it's a HUGE energy leak, and every time you think about it, you want to run away!Maybe, today is the day it will all make sense how to go about deciding what stays and what goes, what you keep and what you release.>>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page!

Any chance you have "stuff?" Or, whatever you prefer to call it! Maybe, you've had it for awhile, and you're attached to it.Maybe, you are always saying you're going to deal with it.Maybe, you just inherited it from parents who have passed.Maybe, it's a HUGE energy leak, and every time you think about it, you want to run away!Maybe, today is the day it will all make sense how to go about deciding what stays and what goes, what you keep and what you release.>>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page!

Wow! Seventy three episodes and I'm finally talking about what Emotional Savvy means.You know that "to be savvy" means that you know what's up and what's going on. You're awake, aware, and alert. You're "with it!"Great! You may have the practical knowledge, but it's not much use if it's not applied. Relationships require emotional savvy. Otherwise, you don't make good judgments. You don't see what's really going on, and maybe prefer denial. Not much emotional savvy there, right?Emotional savvy covers all areas that impact our emotional lives: mental, intellectual, spiritual, financial, health, well-being, relationships--everything that impacts making our way in the world. So, some good things to think about in the first segment, for sure!GUEST: Kerri Hummingbird, SoulGuideKerri Hummingbird has served as a social activist, leader, and philanthropist for over three decades. She is the founder of the Skills Not Pills Movement, and Host of the Soul Nectar show. Ms. Hummingbird inspires people to lead their lives wide awake, with an authenticity, passion, and purpose that positively impacts others.She catalyzes mind-shifts that transform life challenges into gifts of wisdom with her Reinvent Yourself programs for individual and group mentoring. She is the author of the award-winning best-selling book, Awaken to Me: One Woman's Journey to Self Love."She says, "Your life is for YOU. Live it how you CHOOSE. It's your secret conversation with the DIVINE."You'll get a new perspective from Kerry, for sure. Lovely conversation. Inspiring and motivating.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What it means to Kerry Hummingbird to be "wide awake" in the shamanic waysHow to shift life's challenges into gifts of wisdom that serve you wellWhat the impact of the message "If I leave, I'll be bad" is, and how to change itHow to reduce your fear so you can see relationships more clearlyWhy it's important to get into the flow of life energetically, how fear gets in the way, and how to reduce fearKerri's gift to you: Ebook, :Reinvent Yourself: Indulge Your Deepest Desires By Becoming Who You Are Starving To Be" GET IT HERE.CONNECT WITH KERRI HUMMINGBIRD:Website: KerriHummingbird.comTwitter: @KerriHummingbirdFacebook: Facebook.com/Kerri.Hummingbird.Author.Speaker.SoulGuideLinkedIn: LinkedIn.comInstagram: KerriHummingbirdCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #KerriHummingbird #healingenergy #self-love#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Wow! Seventy three episodes and I'm finally talking about what Emotional Savvy means.You know that "to be savvy" means that you know what's up and what's going on. You're awake, aware, and alert. You're "with it!"Great! You may have the practical knowledge, but it's not much use if it's not applied. Relationships require emotional savvy. Otherwise, you don't make good judgments. You don't see what's really going on, and maybe prefer denial. Not much emotional savvy there, right?Emotional savvy covers all areas that impact our emotional lives: mental, intellectual, spiritual, financial, health, well-being, relationships--everything that impacts making our way in the world. So, some good things to think about in the first segment, for sure!GUEST: Kerri Hummingbird, SoulGuideKerri Hummingbird has served as a social activist, leader, and philanthropist for over three decades. She is the founder of the Skills Not Pills Movement, and Host of the Soul Nectar show. Ms. Hummingbird inspires people to lead their lives wide awake, with an authenticity, passion, and purpose that positively impacts others.She catalyzes mind-shifts that transform life challenges into gifts of wisdom with her Reinvent Yourself programs for individual and group mentoring. She is the author of the award-winning best-selling book, Awaken to Me: One Woman's Journey to Self Love."She says, "Your life is for YOU. Live it how you CHOOSE. It's your secret conversation with the DIVINE."You'll get a new perspective from Kerry, for sure. Lovely conversation. Inspiring and motivating.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What it means to Kerry Hummingbird to be "wide awake" in the shamanic waysHow to shift life's challenges into gifts of wisdom that serve you wellWhat the impact of the message "If I leave, I'll be bad" is, and how to change itHow to reduce your fear so you can see relationships more clearlyWhy it's important to get into the flow of life energetically, how fear gets in the way, and how to reduce fearKerri's gift to you: Ebook, :Reinvent Yourself: Indulge Your Deepest Desires By Becoming Who You Are Starving To Be" GET IT HERE.CONNECT WITH KERRI HUMMINGBIRD:Website: KerriHummingbird.comTwitter: @KerriHummingbirdFacebook: Facebook.com/Kerri.Hummingbird.Author.Speaker.SoulGuideLinkedIn: LinkedIn.comInstagram: KerriHummingbirdCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #KerriHummingbird #healingenergy #self-love#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

DIVORCE! Many people fear that process. Others welcome it. Where are you on this spectrum? Is there really a right to divorce? Is there a wrong way to divorce?What makes the difference?WHO makes the difference?My guest, Jennifer Hurvitz, is the best selling author of the novella, One Happy Divorce, and winner of the Best Television Episode Screenplay Aware at the Atlanta Comedy Film Festival for her TV pilot based off her blog, The Truth Hurvitz.Jennifer's readers describe her as "raw and in-your-face" and they're right!(P.S. Jennifer agreed to keep the "raw" down for our interview today. Thanks, Jennifer! )But, no, Jennifer didn't stop at her highly successful book. She's popped out a new one just in time for Valentine's Day. It's called Woulda. Coulda. Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married! Now, isn't that ironic! See, that's why you'll want to listen to this episode!Jennifer says that "Just like being happily married takes work, so does being happily divorced. If you put your egos aside, and your kids first...it is not impossible." Big thoughts to wrestle with...and, it's a fun interview!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What is the wrong way to divorce...or is there one?Getting on with the divorce once you've decided there will be oneWhat to consider in the "shall I go or shall I stay" debateHow to be respectful in the divorce processTips for putting your kids first ...and keeping it that wayWhat if your partner is not an emotional grown-upCONNECT WITH JENNIFER HURVITZ:Website: JenniferHurvitz.comTwitter: @TheTruthHurvitzFacebook: Facebook.com/JenniferHurvitzBizLinkedIn: LinkedIn.comInstagram: Instagram.com/JenniferHurvitzBizCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#divorce #doingdivorceright #JenniferHurvitz #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

DIVORCE! Many people fear that process. Others welcome it. Where are you on this spectrum? Is there really a right to divorce? Is there a wrong way to divorce?What makes the difference?WHO makes the difference?My guest, Jennifer Hurvitz, is the best selling author of the novella, One Happy Divorce, and winner of the Best Television Episode Screenplay Aware at the Atlanta Comedy Film Festival for her TV pilot based off her blog, The Truth Hurvitz.Jennifer's readers describe her as "raw and in-your-face" and they're right!(P.S. Jennifer agreed to keep the "raw" down for our interview today. Thanks, Jennifer! )But, no, Jennifer didn't stop at her highly successful book. She's popped out a new one just in time for Valentine's Day. It's called Woulda. Coulda. Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married! Now, isn't that ironic! See, that's why you'll want to listen to this episode!Jennifer says that "Just like being happily married takes work, so does being happily divorced. If you put your egos aside, and your kids first...it is not impossible." Big thoughts to wrestle with...and, it's a fun interview!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What is the wrong way to divorce...or is there one?Getting on with the divorce once you've decided there will be oneWhat to consider in the "shall I go or shall I stay" debateHow to be respectful in the divorce processTips for putting your kids first ...and keeping it that wayWhat if your partner is not an emotional grown-upCONNECT WITH JENNIFER HURVITZ:Website: JenniferHurvitz.comTwitter: @TheTruthHurvitzFacebook: Facebook.com/JenniferHurvitzBizLinkedIn: LinkedIn.comInstagram: Instagram.com/JenniferHurvitzBizCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#divorce #doingdivorceright #JenniferHurvitz #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Wow! It's 2019. Happy New Year! Did you make New Year's Resolutions?Are any the same as last year?Oops! Why is that? Why do we make resolutions and let them drop?Or, say we want something to happen in our lives, and do little to get it?Or, say we believe something, and not demonstrate it by living it?Today's show is about actually taking the steps necessary to live the life you most want. Yes, really!Whether you call them goals, intentions, desires, or purposes doesn't really matter. What does matter is that you have thought them through, know they're for you, and take steps to actually bring them into your life. And, sometimes, we do...and, sometimes, we don't.Why? Is there a better way to achieve your goals? Can you have a the life you envision? YES!Today, I'm giving some insights into how to achieve what you want in your life, relationships, health, family, and career.TODAY'S GUEST: ASHLEY LOGSDON, Podcast host of MamaSaysNamaste.com and amazing creator of the life she wants with her familyAshley helps families move from chaos and reaction mode to living a life of intention and not waiting for "one day" to truly thrive. Through her podcast, blogging, coaching and personality "snapshots," she provides tools and action steps to aid families in creating a life they love to come home to.With her husband and podcast co-host, three unschooling daughters and a dog, Ashley is RVing the United States full-time. They focus on authenticity, awareness, and embracing love in the present moment.Ashely says, "Pay attention to who you are, and learn what your strengths are and what triggers negative reactions. Then look beyond to your family. The more we recognize how we tick, the more grace we have for others. And, ultimately, we find that the uniqueness in each of us strengthens all of us." You'll want to hear this! Ashley has a very CHOSEN LIFESTYLE, and it may inspire you to embrace your vision for your life, too. It sure made me think!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What it takes to decide to live your life according to your values, no matter what other people think.What might be stopping you for stepping into your life, living the goals and intentions you desire.How you can create a sanctuary in your own home.What you can do to not get trapped in toxicity, in your home, your relationships, and your life.Inspiration to live the life you envision, even though it may seem difficult, or even impossible, right this minuteFREE GIFTS FROM ASHLEY LOGSDON:Two free printables to post as reminders for keeping the "Namaste" mindset, along with some guidelines for creating your life based on your family vision, as Ashley's family has: DOWNLOAD THEM HERE. CONNECT WITH ASHLEY LOGSDONWebsite: MamaSaysNamaste.comTwitter: @NamasteMamaRoseFacebook: Facebook.com/MamaSaysNamasteLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/AshleyLogsdon Instagram: CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerWANT ANSWERS TO YOUR QUESTIONS, MORE SUPPORT, AND A COMMUNITY TO BE A PART OF? JOIN MY "OPTIMIZE CIRCLES" HERE. P.S. You can join for the cost of a latte for a whole month. Who wouldn't want that? And, safely off Facebook, too. You can. CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #achievegoals #familymission See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Wow! It's 2019. Happy New Year! Did you make New Year's Resolutions?Are any the same as last year?Oops! Why is that? Why do we make resolutions and let them drop?Or, say we want something to happen in our lives, and do little to get it?Or, say we believe something, and not demonstrate it by living it?Today's show is about actually taking the steps necessary to live the life you most want. Yes, really!Whether you call them goals, intentions, desires, or purposes doesn't really matter. What does matter is that you have thought them through, know they're for you, and take steps to actually bring them into your life. And, sometimes, we do...and, sometimes, we don't.Why? Is there a better way to achieve your goals? Can you have a the life you envision? YES!Today, I'm giving some insights into how to achieve what you want in your life, relationships, health, family, and career.TODAY'S GUEST: ASHLEY LOGSDON, Podcast host of MamaSaysNamaste.com and amazing creator of the life she wants with her familyAshley helps families move from chaos and reaction mode to living a life of intention and not waiting for "one day" to truly thrive. Through her podcast, blogging, coaching and personality "snapshots," she provides tools and action steps to aid families in creating a life they love to come home to.With her husband and podcast co-host, three unschooling daughters and a dog, Ashley is RVing the United States full-time. They focus on authenticity, awareness, and embracing love in the present moment.Ashely says, "Pay attention to who you are, and learn what your strengths are and what triggers negative reactions. Then look beyond to your family. The more we recognize how we tick, the more grace we have for others. And, ultimately, we find that the uniqueness in each of us strengthens all of us." You'll want to hear this! Ashley has a very CHOSEN LIFESTYLE, and it may inspire you to embrace your vision for your life, too. It sure made me think!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What it takes to decide to live your life according to your values, no matter what other people think.What might be stopping you for stepping into your life, living the goals and intentions you desire.How you can create a sanctuary in your own home.What you can do to not get trapped in toxicity, in your home, your relationships, and your life.Inspiration to live the life you envision, even though it may seem difficult, or even impossible, right this minuteFREE GIFTS FROM ASHLEY LOGSDON:Two free printables to post as reminders for keeping the "Namaste" mindset, along with some guidelines for creating your life based on your family vision, as Ashley's family has: DOWNLOAD THEM HERE. CONNECT WITH ASHLEY LOGSDONWebsite: MamaSaysNamaste.comTwitter: @NamasteMamaRoseFacebook: Facebook.com/MamaSaysNamasteLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/AshleyLogsdon Instagram: CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerWANT ANSWERS TO YOUR QUESTIONS, MORE SUPPORT, AND A COMMUNITY TO BE A PART OF? JOIN MY "OPTIMIZE CIRCLES" HERE. P.S. You can join for the cost of a latte for a whole month. Who wouldn't want that? And, safely off Facebook, too. You can. CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #achievegoals #familymission See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In today's episode, I'm talking about what it takes to get past the fear of intimacy that a past relationship has taught you. It happens so often, doesn't it?You fall in love, and really trust someone. You are tell them your secrets, and share your vulnerabilities. You so want to have that one person you can share life with, warts and all. You want to believe you are safe.Sometimes, you are safe, and it all works beautifully. It deepens, grows, and enriches over your time together.Then, there are the times where you share deeply, and the other person uses what you said, turns your fears into weapons, and beats you with them in future arguments. Does that sound at all familiar?You can recover from this nonsense, pain, and trepidation. Really! You can. I'll give you some hints, and so will today's guest.GUEST: ALLANA PRATT, Intimacy Expert Wow! So delighted to have Allana on Emotional Savvy! She's a delightful spirit and a lovely friend, as well as a colleague helping folks to grow past the pain.Allana Pratt is an Intimacy Expert--on all levels. She inspires open-hearted, unapologetic living, and does it, as she says, "with delicious sass!" Her inspiring vulnerability and courage has landed her a featured weekly column on the GoodMenProject.com , featured as an Icon of Influence, and as guest expert on CBS, TLC, FOX, Forbes, People Magazine, and Huffington Post.Were you wondering why to listen? After reading that, any questions...lol?Allana is a cum laude graduate of Columbia University, and the author of four books. She hosts the empowering podcast, Intimate Conversations, with guests like Grammy-award winning Alanis Morissette. Allana is a certified coach, and was invited to work with Leeza Gibbons during Dancing with the Stars. With over 3.7 million viewers on YouTube, Allana is the go-to authority when struggling to trust again after a harsh breakup so followers can create hot, healthy, thriving intimate relationships.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What happened to Allana at 16 years old that changed everythingHow to move towards vulnerable, honest, transparent relationshipsWhy Allana knows the Universe caresHow to live an unapologetic life after being with a #HijackalWhy moving past the bad stuff is a choice and how you can make itWhat can be learned from a nasty divorce, and difficult custody battleLearning to trust yourself after divorceEmpowering yourself to live fully CONNECT WITH ALLANA PRATTWebsite: AllanaPratt.comTwitter: @AllanaPrattFacebook: Facebook.com/CoachAllanaPrattLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/AllanaPrattInstagram: Instagram.com/AllanaPrattCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?You can. CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE! If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy #fearofintimacy #AllanaPratt #intimacyexpert #intimaterelationships See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In today's episode, I'm talking about what it takes to get past the fear of intimacy that a past relationship has taught you. It happens so often, doesn't it?You fall in love, and really trust someone. You are tell them your secrets, and share your vulnerabilities. You so want to have that one person you can share life with, warts and all. You want to believe you are safe.Sometimes, you are safe, and it all works beautifully. It deepens, grows, and enriches over your time together.Then, there are the times where you share deeply, and the other person uses what you said, turns your fears into weapons, and beats you with them in future arguments. Does that sound at all familiar?You can recover from this nonsense, pain, and trepidation. Really! You can. I'll give you some hints, and so will today's guest.GUEST: ALLANA PRATT, Intimacy Expert Wow! So delighted to have Allana on Emotional Savvy! She's a delightful spirit and a lovely friend, as well as a colleague helping folks to grow past the pain.Allana Pratt is an Intimacy Expert--on all levels. She inspires open-hearted, unapologetic living, and does it, as she says, "with delicious sass!" Her inspiring vulnerability and courage has landed her a featured weekly column on the GoodMenProject.com , featured as an Icon of Influence, and as guest expert on CBS, TLC, FOX, Forbes, People Magazine, and Huffington Post.Were you wondering why to listen? After reading that, any questions...lol?Allana is a cum laude graduate of Columbia University, and the author of four books. She hosts the empowering podcast, Intimate Conversations, with guests like Grammy-award winning Alanis Morissette. Allana is a certified coach, and was invited to work with Leeza Gibbons during Dancing with the Stars. With over 3.7 million viewers on YouTube, Allana is the go-to authority when struggling to trust again after a harsh breakup so followers can create hot, healthy, thriving intimate relationships.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What happened to Allana at 16 years old that changed everythingHow to move towards vulnerable, honest, transparent relationshipsWhy Allana knows the Universe caresHow to live an unapologetic life after being with a #HijackalWhy moving past the bad stuff is a choice and how you can make itWhat can be learned from a nasty divorce, and difficult custody battleLearning to trust yourself after divorceEmpowering yourself to live fully CONNECT WITH ALLANA PRATTWebsite: AllanaPratt.comTwitter: @AllanaPrattFacebook: Facebook.com/CoachAllanaPrattLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/AllanaPrattInstagram: Instagram.com/AllanaPrattCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?You can. CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE! If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy #fearofintimacy #AllanaPratt #intimacyexpert #intimaterelationships See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In today's episode, I'm talking about what you really need to have if you want a great relationship. If you have the ingredients, you can put them into the relationship. If you're missing them within yourself, and you go looking for them in another, you won't be able to have the relationship you know you want. You've heard me say many times that you cannot give a gift you do not have. That applies to relationships, too. What you put into it is so important.How have your past relationships taken a toll on your current one? I give an example of a couple I worked with and how this was the biggest issue between them. Yay! We resolved it. You'll want to hear this, and understand more fully what might be going on in your relationship.Blame? No, that doesn't work. You know that. You don't like to be blamed, so that means you don't blame others, right? Oops! Learn more about this, too, in today's episode.(If you enjoy this topic, please go to my show page on Facebook and let me know, or leave feedback or ask questions about any topic I've covered there. I'll see it, and respond. I promise. Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpShow )GUEST: SCOTT SCHILLING, The Significance Expert and Co-Founder of YouPlus1 Scott Schilling has achieved the pinnacle of success within the speaking, training and business coaching industries having achieved the top platforms worldwide sharing the stage with likes of General Colin Powell, Suze Orman and many more. He has personally closed millions of dollars in business, while helping clients grow their businesses closing hundreds of millions. He has helped countless numbers of people find success within their businesses, and passions. Scott’s reach spans the globe and his time is sought after by people all around the world. Scott reminds us that,"Legacy is not what you have accumulated throughout your life to leave behind once you pass...it should be what you are known for as you live!"Today, I'm engaging Scott in a conversation about trust. Scott says,"Relationships take time, energy, and investment. In order to truly create a prosperous relationship, others must know, like and trust you. Because we live in an immediate gratification society, many people are not willing to put in the time, energy or investment to earn others trust. Trust is hard to earn and easily lost...but it is imperative that others trust you to have a true relationship." This is a very in-depth conversation. Get yourself a cup of something warm, and settle in for a deep listen! HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What can you do when trust is brokenNew thoughts on why trust is so critical to relationshipsWhat congruence has to do with rebuilding relationshipsHow feedback can be used to improve relationshipsGetting clear within yourself to have the relationship you wantWhat Scott Schilling learned from Talking with Giants and what you can, too.CONNECT WITH SCOTT SCHILLING Website: ScottSchilling.comTwitter: https://twitter.com/ScottSchilling8Facebook: Facebook.com/ScottSchilling8LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/ScottSchilling8Instagram: https://instagram.com/ScottSchilling8CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS? You can. CLICK HERE If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy #healingtrauma #buildingtrust #ScottSchilling See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In today's episode, I'm talking about what you really need to have if you want a great relationship. If you have the ingredients, you can put them into the relationship. If you're missing them within yourself, and you go looking for them in another, you won't be able to have the relationship you know you want. You've heard me say many times that you cannot give a gift you do not have. That applies to relationships, too. What you put into it is so important.How have your past relationships taken a toll on your current one? I give an example of a couple I worked with and how this was the biggest issue between them. Yay! We resolved it. You'll want to hear this, and understand more fully what might be going on in your relationship.Blame? No, that doesn't work. You know that. You don't like to be blamed, so that means you don't blame others, right? Oops! Learn more about this, too, in today's episode.(If you enjoy this topic, please go to my show page on Facebook and let me know, or leave feedback or ask questions about any topic I've covered there. I'll see it, and respond. I promise. Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpShow )GUEST: SCOTT SCHILLING, The Significance Expert and Co-Founder of YouPlus1 Scott Schilling has achieved the pinnacle of success within the speaking, training and business coaching industries having achieved the top platforms worldwide sharing the stage with likes of General Colin Powell, Suze Orman and many more. He has personally closed millions of dollars in business, while helping clients grow their businesses closing hundreds of millions. He has helped countless numbers of people find success within their businesses, and passions. Scott’s reach spans the globe and his time is sought after by people all around the world. Scott reminds us that,"Legacy is not what you have accumulated throughout your life to leave behind once you pass...it should be what you are known for as you live!"Today, I'm engaging Scott in a conversation about trust. Scott says,"Relationships take time, energy, and investment. In order to truly create a prosperous relationship, others must know, like and trust you. Because we live in an immediate gratification society, many people are not willing to put in the time, energy or investment to earn others trust. Trust is hard to earn and easily lost...but it is imperative that others trust you to have a true relationship." This is a very in-depth conversation. Get yourself a cup of something warm, and settle in for a deep listen! HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What can you do when trust is brokenNew thoughts on why trust is so critical to relationshipsWhat congruence has to do with rebuilding relationshipsHow feedback can be used to improve relationshipsGetting clear within yourself to have the relationship you wantWhat Scott Schilling learned from Talking with Giants and what you can, too.CONNECT WITH SCOTT SCHILLING Website: ScottSchilling.comTwitter: https://twitter.com/ScottSchilling8Facebook: Facebook.com/ScottSchilling8LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/ScottSchilling8Instagram: https://instagram.com/ScottSchilling8CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS? You can. CLICK HERE If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #emotionalintimacy #healingtrauma #buildingtrust #ScottSchilling See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In today's episode, I talk about steps you can take to manage the pain of trauma or loss. You've experienced these things, no matter when in your life they occurred. Until you work them through, they will interfere with your health and the health of your current relationships, as well as with your perspective on life.You don't want to be carrying past issues into current relationships. That's often a primary cause of marriages not working: partners bring the pains of previous relationships, and are on guard for them showing up in the new relationship. That's not helpful to getting the love, respect, trust, and support you want in life!Consider these steps I outline in today's episode to find emotional freedom to engage in the present. It will help you heal.(If you enjoy this topic, please go to my show page on Facebook and let me know, or leave feedback or ask questions about any topic I've covered there. I'll see it, and respond. I promise. Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpShow )GUEST: Dr. Sherry Cormier, Psychologist and Professor Emerita at West Virginia University, author of Author of Sweet Sorrow: Finding Enduring Wholeness After Loss and Grief Dr. Sherry Cormier is a licensed psychologist and Professor Emerita in the Department of Counseling, Rehabilitation Counseling, and Counseling Psychology at West Virginia University. She was in private practice in adult psychotherapy in Morgantown, WV, and was a former faculty member at the University of Tennessee. She is a certified bereavement trauma specialist, the author of two textbooks, and lives now in a Chesapeake Bay community where she engages in public speaking, training, and consulting.Wow! Dr. Sherry brings a great deal of experience and expertise to today's conversation!Clearly, what's trauma to one person can be trivial to another. That's what makes it difficult. Each person has a different home life growing up, different experiences, and different nervous systems, too. That's why communication in primary relationships is SO important: you need to understand where each other is coming from--and WANT to understand!Dr. Sherry Cormier wrote this:"1. There is a continuum of grief and loss elicits many emotions. At the more severe end, loss can be traumatic and can become complicated grief and require professional treatment.2. Loss is a universal human experience; our reactions to it vary greatly and depend upon what and whom we lost. If we lost someone precious to us, as I did, we learn that death is a transition not a disappearance.3. To heal from traumatic loss, we have to re establish attachment bonds and make connections with a tribe or social network that can provide support and comfort."When you experience trauma, grief, or loss, you need to be able to gauge what's going on within you or the other person. That happens by reflecting on what you know about them, who you know them to be, and your willingness to communicate with them.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What to do when you "can't get it out of your head" or "cannot believe it is gone"Know how to gauge if your grieving process is healthyHow to know if you need professional helpWhat the difference is between secure attachment and insecure attachment and why it mattersThe components of resilienceHow to recognize and overcome the isolation of griefCONNECT WITH DR. SHERRY CORMIERWebsite: SherryCormierAuthor.comTwitter: Facebook: Facebook.com/sherry.cormier.9LinkedIn:Instagram: Instagram.com/Cormier1749CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsNEW! FINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.Patreon.com/RhobertaShalerIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #leadership #Hijackals #overcominggrief #bereavement #narcissisticabuse #healingtrauma See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In today's episode, I talk about steps you can take to manage the pain of trauma or loss. You've experienced these things, no matter when in your life they occurred. Until you work them through, they will interfere with your health and the health of your current relationships, as well as with your perspective on life.You don't want to be carrying past issues into current relationships. That's often a primary cause of marriages not working: partners bring the pains of previous relationships, and are on guard for them showing up in the new relationship. That's not helpful to getting the love, respect, trust, and support you want in life!Consider these steps I outline in today's episode to find emotional freedom to engage in the present. It will help you heal.(If you enjoy this topic, please go to my show page on Facebook and let me know, or leave feedback or ask questions about any topic I've covered there. I'll see it, and respond. I promise. Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpShow )GUEST: Dr. Sherry Cormier, Psychologist and Professor Emerita at West Virginia University, author of Author of Sweet Sorrow: Finding Enduring Wholeness After Loss and Grief Dr. Sherry Cormier is a licensed psychologist and Professor Emerita in the Department of Counseling, Rehabilitation Counseling, and Counseling Psychology at West Virginia University. She was in private practice in adult psychotherapy in Morgantown, WV, and was a former faculty member at the University of Tennessee. She is a certified bereavement trauma specialist, the author of two textbooks, and lives now in a Chesapeake Bay community where she engages in public speaking, training, and consulting.Wow! Dr. Sherry brings a great deal of experience and expertise to today's conversation!Clearly, what's trauma to one person can be trivial to another. That's what makes it difficult. Each person has a different home life growing up, different experiences, and different nervous systems, too. That's why communication in primary relationships is SO important: you need to understand where each other is coming from--and WANT to understand!Dr. Sherry Cormier wrote this:"1. There is a continuum of grief and loss elicits many emotions. At the more severe end, loss can be traumatic and can become complicated grief and require professional treatment.2. Loss is a universal human experience; our reactions to it vary greatly and depend upon what and whom we lost. If we lost someone precious to us, as I did, we learn that death is a transition not a disappearance.3. To heal from traumatic loss, we have to re establish attachment bonds and make connections with a tribe or social network that can provide support and comfort."When you experience trauma, grief, or loss, you need to be able to gauge what's going on within you or the other person. That happens by reflecting on what you know about them, who you know them to be, and your willingness to communicate with them.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What to do when you "can't get it out of your head" or "cannot believe it is gone"Know how to gauge if your grieving process is healthyHow to know if you need professional helpWhat the difference is between secure attachment and insecure attachment and why it mattersThe components of resilienceHow to recognize and overcome the isolation of griefCONNECT WITH DR. SHERRY CORMIERWebsite: SherryCormierAuthor.comTwitter: Facebook: Facebook.com/sherry.cormier.9LinkedIn:Instagram: Instagram.com/Cormier1749CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsNEW! FINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.Patreon.com/RhobertaShalerIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #leadership #Hijackals #overcominggrief #bereavement #narcissisticabuse #healingtrauma See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In today's episode, DR. RHOBERTA SHALER asks: "Are you spiritually-minded?" Being spiritually-minded is not simply having an interest in spiritual things. It's much more than that.Are you basing your thinking on the spiritual principles you hold dear? That's the real question.What about the mind? Your mind? Can you point to it? Can it be surgically isolated? Even though you cannot indicate its physical whereabouts, you do understand that you have a mind, or, more precisely, that you use one. It's more than your brain, isn't it?Your mind is creative. When I wrote my book, What You Pay Attention to Expands, I was writing about the very things I'm introducing into the conversation today on Emotional Savvy. It's impossible to have a "mind by-pass" so it's important to think about how you're using your mind every day.In today's episode, as something completely new, I talk about the difference between the objective, conscious mind, and the subjective, sub-conscious mind. An introduction.If you enjoy this topic, please go to my show page on Facebook and let me know, or leave feedback or ask questions about any topic I've covered there. I'll see it, and respond. I promise. Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpShowGUEST: Terry Wildemann, of IntuitiveLeadership.com Terry Wildemann is a high performance coach, helping socially conscious small business owners and leaders to accelerate their businesses with intuition, speed, and ease. She's know for the speed with which she helps her clients achieve results, and the ease with which they do it. No more burning out, she says. No more spinning your wheels. No more wondering how to grow your business quickly.So, what's this talk of intuition, angels, and other spiritual ideas? Terry uses all these in the effective work she does with clients. As you listen, you'll clearly see how she integrates and intertwines these ideas with high-level business and interpersonal practices to create success.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What's the difference between intuition and guidance?Why is intuition important in business?Does everyone have it?What stops people from using intuition?What is the relevance of intuition to leadership?How does that apply in your own life?TERRY WILDEMANN'S FREE GIFT FOR YOU: Use this technique to shift into your heart and get grounded in the moment. Gift is available in both English and Spanish QuickShiftZone.comCONNECT WITH TERRY WILDEMANNWebsite: IntuitiveLeadership.comTwitter: @TerryWildemannFacebook: Facebook.com/TerryWildemannLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/TerryWildemannCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsNEW! FINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.Patreon.com/RhobertaShalerIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #leadership #Hijackals #listeningtoyourintuition #angels #intuitiveleadership See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In today's episode, DR. RHOBERTA SHALER asks: "Are you spiritually-minded?" Being spiritually-minded is not simply having an interest in spiritual things. It's much more than that.Are you basing your thinking on the spiritual principles you hold dear? That's the real question.What about the mind? Your mind? Can you point to it? Can it be surgically isolated? Even though you cannot indicate its physical whereabouts, you do understand that you have a mind, or, more precisely, that you use one. It's more than your brain, isn't it?Your mind is creative. When I wrote my book, What You Pay Attention to Expands, I was writing about the very things I'm introducing into the conversation today on Emotional Savvy. It's impossible to have a "mind by-pass" so it's important to think about how you're using your mind every day.In today's episode, as something completely new, I talk about the difference between the objective, conscious mind, and the subjective, sub-conscious mind. An introduction.If you enjoy this topic, please go to my show page on Facebook and let me know, or leave feedback or ask questions about any topic I've covered there. I'll see it, and respond. I promise. Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpShowGUEST: Terry Wildemann, of IntuitiveLeadership.com Terry Wildemann is a high performance coach, helping socially conscious small business owners and leaders to accelerate their businesses with intuition, speed, and ease. She's know for the speed with which she helps her clients achieve results, and the ease with which they do it. No more burning out, she says. No more spinning your wheels. No more wondering how to grow your business quickly.So, what's this talk of intuition, angels, and other spiritual ideas? Terry uses all these in the effective work she does with clients. As you listen, you'll clearly see how she integrates and intertwines these ideas with high-level business and interpersonal practices to create success.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What's the difference between intuition and guidance?Why is intuition important in business?Does everyone have it?What stops people from using intuition?What is the relevance of intuition to leadership?How does that apply in your own life?TERRY WILDEMANN'S FREE GIFT FOR YOU: Use this technique to shift into your heart and get grounded in the moment. Gift is available in both English and Spanish QuickShiftZone.comCONNECT WITH TERRY WILDEMANNWebsite: IntuitiveLeadership.comTwitter: @TerryWildemannFacebook: Facebook.com/TerryWildemannLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/TerryWildemannCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsNEW! FINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.Patreon.com/RhobertaShalerIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #leadership #Hijackals #listeningtoyourintuition #angels #intuitiveleadership See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In today's episode, DR. RHOBERTA SHALER talks about 'Clearing Your Head When Chronic Stress and Anxiety Have Clouded Your Thinking.'Much research has been done that shows the effects of chronic stress coupled with chronic anxiety. When you're in a troubling or toxic relationship, you have that combination of stress and anxiety. It has been shown to lead to chronic illness, and seems very likely to produce inflammation and autoimmune issues, particularly. Of course, each body is different, and each will react differently as well.Your brain changes with chronic stress and anxiety. Your hippocampus in your brain shrinks, causing fuzzy thinking and reduced ability to remember things well. Your amygdala enlarges and you become more prone to fear-based anxiety. The amygdala triggers the sympathetic nervous system, and your body goes on the alert. Living like that--hyper-vigilant--is very hard on the body. Today, Dr. Shaler talks about what goes on in your brain when you're living with the chronic stress and anxiety of toxic people. YOU NEED TO KNOW THIS!GUEST: Dr. Ganz Ferrance, Expert on Stress Management in Relationships Dr. Ganz Ferrance is a speaker, author, and registered psychologist from Edmonton, Alberta. For more than twenty-five years, Dr. Ganz has been helping individuals, couples, families, and corporations reduce their stress, improve their relationships, and enjoy more success.Today, Dr. Shaler taps his thinking to focus on overcoming chronic stress...and all that it takes to do it!So many times, particularly when you're with a Hijackal®, you will try to keep yourself safe by trying to appease him or her. That won't work, and you'll understand why when you listen to this episode.Dr. Ganz has been on Emotional Savvy before, and he brought great insights and wisdom. Be sure to listen to the other episodes with him.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What "sneaky stress" is and how it affects youHow you fool yourself into thinking that you have no stressThe sad effects of a toxic relationship on your bodyWhere to find your hidden stressorsHow, as Dr. Ganz says, "stress affects your state"This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy to help you understand why it is essential to your health to get away from the troublesome combination of chronic stress AND chronic anxiety.The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!CONNECT WITH DR. GANZWebsite: DrGanz.comTwitter: @DrGanzFerranceFacebook: Facebook.com/GanzFerranceCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #mindbodyconnection #chronicstress #effectsofchronicstress #GanzFerrance See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In today's episode, DR. RHOBERTA SHALER talks about 'Clearing Your Head When Chronic Stress and Anxiety Have Clouded Your Thinking.'Much research has been done that shows the effects of chronic stress coupled with chronic anxiety. When you're in a troubling or toxic relationship, you have that combination of stress and anxiety. It has been shown to lead to chronic illness, and seems very likely to produce inflammation and autoimmune issues, particularly. Of course, each body is different, and each will react differently as well.Your brain changes with chronic stress and anxiety. Your hippocampus in your brain shrinks, causing fuzzy thinking and reduced ability to remember things well. Your amygdala enlarges and you become more prone to fear-based anxiety. The amygdala triggers the sympathetic nervous system, and your body goes on the alert. Living like that--hyper-vigilant--is very hard on the body. Today, Dr. Shaler talks about what goes on in your brain when you're living with the chronic stress and anxiety of toxic people. YOU NEED TO KNOW THIS!GUEST: Dr. Ganz Ferrance, Expert on Stress Management in Relationships Dr. Ganz Ferrance is a speaker, author, and registered psychologist from Edmonton, Alberta. For more than twenty-five years, Dr. Ganz has been helping individuals, couples, families, and corporations reduce their stress, improve their relationships, and enjoy more success.Today, Dr. Shaler taps his thinking to focus on overcoming chronic stress...and all that it takes to do it!So many times, particularly when you're with a Hijackal®, you will try to keep yourself safe by trying to appease him or her. That won't work, and you'll understand why when you listen to this episode.Dr. Ganz has been on Emotional Savvy before, and he brought great insights and wisdom. Be sure to listen to the other episodes with him.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What "sneaky stress" is and how it affects youHow you fool yourself into thinking that you have no stressThe sad effects of a toxic relationship on your bodyWhere to find your hidden stressorsHow, as Dr. Ganz says, "stress affects your state"This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy to help you understand why it is essential to your health to get away from the troublesome combination of chronic stress AND chronic anxiety.The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!CONNECT WITH DR. GANZWebsite: DrGanz.comTwitter: @DrGanzFerranceFacebook: Facebook.com/GanzFerranceCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #mindbodyconnection #chronicstress #effectsofchronicstress #GanzFerrance See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorLove, Dump, Or, ...? What About Radical Acceptance? GUEST: Andrea Miller, CEO of YourTango.com, author of Radical Acceptance DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How Do You Create and Experience Acceptance in Your LIfe?You want to be seen, heard, known, acknowledged, appreciated, and accepted in life. By your parents. By your partner. By others in your world. Not everyone is willing or capable of doing that. I've written about this more in my book, Kaizen for Couples.Where does that acceptance that you long for come from? In today's episode, I'm talking about finding acceptance for yourself, within. That's where it starts as a adult. Hopefully, you received it as a child, but many people simply didn't. Your brain was somewhat undeveloped, and you took in ideas about yourself and your worth from people who could not see you, in all your beauty. Maybe, they had problems of their own.Now is the time to become your own best friend, and I give you insights into how to become accepting of yourself so that you feel secure and feel confident within yourself every day. It begins with acceptance.When you begin to experience it from within, you'll be surprised how things can change in your world. Listen to these vital ideas. Yes, vital! They keep you feeling alive!GUEST: GUEST: Andrea Miller, CEO of YourTango.com, author of Radical Acceptance Andrea Miller is the founder and CEO of YourTango.com, the leading digital publisher dedicated to love, relationships, and self-empowerment. Andrea recently made her debut as an author with her first book, Radical Acceptance: The Secret to Happy, Lasting Love, published by Simon and Schuster. Quite an accomplishment for a first time author!"You can't cherry pick the qualities you like or love in someone," she says, "It's the whole package. You have to make peace with those challenging qualities and attempt to extend empathy and compassion to them, or get out. You cannot be in a healthy relationship where you are constantly trying to change someone."Of course, I asked Andrea if she was suggesting you can just decide to love someone unconditionally, no matter how badly they behave. There are folks who actually believe that, you know. You'll want to hear her answer!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What should you do if you are in a toxic relationship and feel you are to blame?How do you know when to terminate a relationship?How do you know when you love enough about a person to accept what you don't love?What can I do about toxic people at work? (Remember, Andrea runs a large enterprise, and she knows!)I'm told about unconditional love, and now I'm confused. How do I get clear?How does Radical Acceptance help someone in a difficult, toxic relationship?This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on creating enriching, healthy, empowering relationships.Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show: A new voice, A new vision. Enjoy!CONNECT WITH ANDREA MILLER:Website: RadicalAcceptance.loveTwitter: @YourTangoLinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/Andrea-Miller-94238Facebook: Facebook.com/YourTangoCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #radicalacceptance See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorLove, Dump, Or, ...? What About Radical Acceptance? GUEST: Andrea Miller, CEO of YourTango.com, author of Radical Acceptance DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How Do You Create and Experience Acceptance in Your LIfe?You want to be seen, heard, known, acknowledged, appreciated, and accepted in life. By your parents. By your partner. By others in your world. Not everyone is willing or capable of doing that. I've written about this more in my book, Kaizen for Couples.Where does that acceptance that you long for come from? In today's episode, I'm talking about finding acceptance for yourself, within. That's where it starts as a adult. Hopefully, you received it as a child, but many people simply didn't. Your brain was somewhat undeveloped, and you took in ideas about yourself and your worth from people who could not see you, in all your beauty. Maybe, they had problems of their own.Now is the time to become your own best friend, and I give you insights into how to become accepting of yourself so that you feel secure and feel confident within yourself every day. It begins with acceptance.When you begin to experience it from within, you'll be surprised how things can change in your world. Listen to these vital ideas. Yes, vital! They keep you feeling alive!GUEST: GUEST: Andrea Miller, CEO of YourTango.com, author of Radical Acceptance Andrea Miller is the founder and CEO of YourTango.com, the leading digital publisher dedicated to love, relationships, and self-empowerment. Andrea recently made her debut as an author with her first book, Radical Acceptance: The Secret to Happy, Lasting Love, published by Simon and Schuster. Quite an accomplishment for a first time author!"You can't cherry pick the qualities you like or love in someone," she says, "It's the whole package. You have to make peace with those challenging qualities and attempt to extend empathy and compassion to them, or get out. You cannot be in a healthy relationship where you are constantly trying to change someone."Of course, I asked Andrea if she was suggesting you can just decide to love someone unconditionally, no matter how badly they behave. There are folks who actually believe that, you know. You'll want to hear her answer!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What should you do if you are in a toxic relationship and feel you are to blame?How do you know when to terminate a relationship?How do you know when you love enough about a person to accept what you don't love?What can I do about toxic people at work? (Remember, Andrea runs a large enterprise, and she knows!)I'm told about unconditional love, and now I'm confused. How do I get clear?How does Radical Acceptance help someone in a difficult, toxic relationship?This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on creating enriching, healthy, empowering relationships.Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show: A new voice, A new vision. Enjoy!CONNECT WITH ANDREA MILLER:Website: RadicalAcceptance.loveTwitter: @YourTangoLinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/Andrea-Miller-94238Facebook: Facebook.com/YourTangoCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #radicalacceptance See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorIntimacy, Pleasure, and How to Get More of Both GUEST: Rabbi Manis Friedman, author of The Joy of Intimacy, and Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore?DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Creating and Enriching Emotional Intimacy with your Partner"The deepest principle of human nature is the craving to be appreciated." ~ William James Emotional intimacy allows you to feel appreciated--and known, seen, heard, accepted, and acknowledged, too. When that is not present in a relationship, you don't feel fully connected and secure. There is insufficient emotional intimacy.The first--and most important--step towards creating emotional intimacy is to know yourself well. That means spending time with yourself and digging deep."As long as we are looking outside ourselves for intimacy, we will never have it and we will never be able to share it. In order to be intimate with another person, we have to know who we are, what we feel, what we think, what our values are, what is important to us, and what we want. If we do not know these things about ourselves, we can never share them with another person." ~ Ann Wilson ShaefIn today's episode, Dr. Shaler offers insights into creating emotional intimacy, and how to make it safe to be emotionally intimate.GUEST: Rabbi Manis Friedman, author of The Joy of Intimacy, and Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore? Rabbi Friedman is a world-renouwned author, counselor, teacher, and speaker, well-known for his provocative and incisive wit and wisdom. His international speaking tour, seminars, and retreats take him around the world. He has been featured in many publications, such as The New York Times, Rolling Stone, and Publishers Weekly.Rabbi Friedman is the author of the new book, The Joy of Intimacy: A Soulful Guide to Love, Sexuality, and Marriage. He has been counseling and teaching about relationships and marriage to audiences around the world for more than forty years, and he is here for you today.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: What is intimacy and how is it developed?How can it be enriched?If you're in a troubled relationship, how do you know to leave?What about unconditional love?What about the idea that love is a decision?How can you get more pleasure in your relationship?This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on intimacy. The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!HIS FREE GIFT: Rabbi Friedman's ebook: Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore? - GET IT HERE.CONNECT WITH RABBI MANIS FRIEDMANWebsite: TheJoyOfIntimacy.comTwitter: @ManisFriedmanLinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/Manis-FriedmanFacebook: Facebook.com/ManisFriedmanCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorIntimacy, Pleasure, and How to Get More of Both GUEST: Rabbi Manis Friedman, author of The Joy of Intimacy, and Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore?DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Creating and Enriching Emotional Intimacy with your Partner"The deepest principle of human nature is the craving to be appreciated." ~ William James Emotional intimacy allows you to feel appreciated--and known, seen, heard, accepted, and acknowledged, too. When that is not present in a relationship, you don't feel fully connected and secure. There is insufficient emotional intimacy.The first--and most important--step towards creating emotional intimacy is to know yourself well. That means spending time with yourself and digging deep."As long as we are looking outside ourselves for intimacy, we will never have it and we will never be able to share it. In order to be intimate with another person, we have to know who we are, what we feel, what we think, what our values are, what is important to us, and what we want. If we do not know these things about ourselves, we can never share them with another person." ~ Ann Wilson ShaefIn today's episode, Dr. Shaler offers insights into creating emotional intimacy, and how to make it safe to be emotionally intimate.GUEST: Rabbi Manis Friedman, author of The Joy of Intimacy, and Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore? Rabbi Friedman is a world-renouwned author, counselor, teacher, and speaker, well-known for his provocative and incisive wit and wisdom. His international speaking tour, seminars, and retreats take him around the world. He has been featured in many publications, such as The New York Times, Rolling Stone, and Publishers Weekly.Rabbi Friedman is the author of the new book, The Joy of Intimacy: A Soulful Guide to Love, Sexuality, and Marriage. He has been counseling and teaching about relationships and marriage to audiences around the world for more than forty years, and he is here for you today.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: What is intimacy and how is it developed?How can it be enriched?If you're in a troubled relationship, how do you know to leave?What about unconditional love?What about the idea that love is a decision?How can you get more pleasure in your relationship?This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on intimacy. The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!HIS FREE GIFT: Rabbi Friedman's ebook: Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore? - GET IT HERE.CONNECT WITH RABBI MANIS FRIEDMANWebsite: TheJoyOfIntimacy.comTwitter: @ManisFriedmanLinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/Manis-FriedmanFacebook: Facebook.com/ManisFriedmanCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.