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Episode Highlight: On this episode of the Embracing "Only" podcast, we are featuring one of the most impactful moments from episode 65 with guest Lisa Hurley. If you are struggling with boundaries at work, this is an episode you won't want to miss.  Lisa is an entrepreneur, writer, podcaster, and Anthem Award-winning activist. Her work centers Black women and encompasses self-care, community care, joy, and rest. She is the founder and CEO of The Great Exhale, a soft virtual space where Black women can relax, heal, and thrive.This episode is just a short snippet that highlights the best and most powerful learning moment from a past episode. You can listen to the full episode (filled with more wisdom) here: Episode 65: Leveraging Your Uniqueness For Success.Key Discussion Points:00:55 Advocating for Yourself in Corporate:  Surviving and navigating the corporate world can be incredibly taxing. You have to put yourself before the company you work at and advocate for yourself.02:34 The Illusion of Corporate Necessity:  Corporations will take care of themselves. You are not essential to their success.08:03 The Work Family Myth:  Your team at work is not your family. You can care about individuals as people, but this does not mean that your company is your family.09:52 Taking Control of Your Life:  You are in charge of your own life. Everything starts and ends with you.In Summary: Lisa Hurley emphasizes the importance of self-advocacy and taking control of our lives in corporate spaces. She urges us to recognize our personal value and set boundaries to avoid burnout and lead a fulfilling professional life.Resources from this episode:Follow Lisa on LinkedIn or visit her website. Space to Exhale: A Handbook for Curating a Soft, Centered, Serene Life by Lisa HurleyIf you happen to be a woman of color and you are looking for a community of like minded women, join Olivia here: https://www.mysistersshoulders.com/ Ready to make a change?→ If you are struggling to navigate your corporate career but are ambitious and have goals you want to accomplish quickly, Olivia is the coach for you. She can help you reach your goals. Reach out to her on LinkedIn or visit oliviacream.com.→ If you are ready to leave corporate or you want to start a profitable side brilliance but you're unsure of the next steps, Archita can guide you through a successful transition to entrepreneurship. Reach out to her on LinkedIn or visit architafritz.com.Connect with your hosts:Follow Archita on Linkedin or check out her website.Follow Olivia on Linkedin or check out her website.Follow Embracing Only on Linkedin, Instagram, and Facebook, or check out the website._________Produced by Ideablossoms

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In this episode of Breakaway Wealth, host Jim Oliver engages in a thoughtful conversation with guest Rick Yvanovich, who is a master-qualified business coach, author and financial expert. Together, they dig into ideas around finding your direction and making conscious choices, which isn't always easy in this noisy world.  Tune in to hear how they break it down!      3 Key Takeaways: Become the Architect of Your Life: You are your brand, and every decision that you make crafts your unique story. Start making choices that construct the life you want to build.  Get a Map: If you are here, and you want to get there. Are you willing to do what it takes to get there or are you waiting for someone else to get you there?  Find Clarity in the Chaos: A lot is happening in the world. It's easy to get lost in confusion and chaos, even feel stuck. Find a coach that can help you clear the clutter and chart your course.  Tune in to this episode of Breakaway Wealth to gain practical insights from Rick Yvanovich. You'll benefit from his careful wisdom and unique way of understanding the world. Question: What small, positive change or discipline can you commit to today that, if consistently practiced over time, could lead to significant improvement in your life or work?

Although this is the 130th episode of World Awakenings, and we have spoken to many guests who have had incredible metaphysical & spiritual experiences, today's guest is our very first one who is going to go in depth about his astounding N.D.E. or Near-Death Experience! Bill Letson is our guest, and after a 35-year career as a California firefighter & forester, he retired. However, before his retirement, he underwent a profound Near-Death Experience where he separated from his physical body, travelled through a star filled realm and interacted with some very strange ‘other worldly' beings before returning to his body here on earth, and back to daily life. Bill's incredible description of his out-of-body experience will absolutely blow your mind!Here is the link for you to click to download your free copy of Karl Gruber's eBook, "The 3 Pillars: A Simple 3 Step Process to Manifest Positive & Permanent Change in Your Life"You can contact Bill Letson at bletson56@gmail.comThis show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5790095/advertisement

This week on Highly Recommended  I'm sharing one of my favorite sources for writing prompts, Dr. John Spencer's video writing prompts channel. Personally, I love his short, impactful videos for educators as well as for students. I like how they get to the point in three or four minutes, and how they incorporate sketchnotes - one of my favorite things - to help us as viewers to visualize the most important ideas John shares. The video prompts are organized into four categories, making it super easy to find the kind of writing you want your students to do. You can choose from creative thinking prompts, story prompts, persuasive prompts, and informational text prompts.  To give you an idea of what's there, here are a few example titles: “You are a Real-Estate Agent for Magical Homes”  “Should Schools Ban Junk Food” “What are 5 Things you Want your Teacher to Know” “Create a Map of Your Life” You could easily make these prompts into a regular class activity this month or build them into one of your writing units. I also think any one of them could become the basis of a much larger project than a quick write. Go Further:  Explore alllll the Episodes of The Spark Creativity Teacher Podcast. Join our community, Creative High School English, on Facebook. Come hang out on Instagram.  Enjoying the podcast? Please consider sharing it with a friend, snagging a screenshot to share on the ‘gram, or tapping those ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ to help others discover the show. Thank you!  

Are you committed to being the main character in your own life? In this episode, Amanda explores the concept of "main character energy" and how making decisions from a place of inner wisdom and strength can empower you to create an authentic life full of boldness and beauty. By sharing her own stories and encouraging listeners to take risks that stretch their comfort zones, this conversation speaks to the power of embracing opportunities that can be scary but ultimately lead to great anecdotes and personal growth. Join us as we explore how the main character's energy can empower you to create a life where you are the hero of your own story! [00:01 - 07:20] Opening Segment • How to live under the philosophy of main character energy • Imagining yourself in a theater as the star of your movie • Amanda shares an example of not living in main character energy • Wanting to be the center of attention but not knowing how to hold that energy [07:21 - 14:38] From Housewife Energy to Main Character Energy • How Amanda realized she was relying on outside validation for worth • Working to cultivate a better version of yourself • How you can change your energy from housewife to main character • Create a bold and beautiful life that you can look back on with pride [14:39 - 21:44] Experience a Miracle in Your Life • You do not have to live out an ancient story that you have been repeating • You can shift your perception in an instant • True bravery and spontaneity are not found in a bottle • Amanda's decisions that helped her shift her perspective [21:45 - 34:59] Closing Segment • Choosing your adventure • Be committed to being the main character of your life Key Quotes: "We all have these places where we stay stuck, but you can shift that in an instant." - Amanda Kuda "When you get to the bottom of the page to make those choices, I want you to start choosing your own adventure." - Amanda Kuda Learn more by connecting with Amanda through Instagram or visit AmandaKuda.com  It's time to unbottle your potential. Apply to work with Amanda. If you liked the show, please LEAVE A 5-STAR REVIEW, like, and subscribe through your favorite streaming platform!

Episode #228 // Since the Covid pandemic, resilience has captured a much greater share of our collective consciousness. And, as tends to happen, the world now seems to be flooded with “resilience experts”, who profess to be able to teach us how to handle the most difficult situations effortlessly. I'm not an expert in resilience per se, but through my own journey I can confidently say that I've become an incredibly resilient person. Maybe it just comes with a little age and maturity—but very little fazes me. Over the course of my corporate career, I became very comfortable handling all sorts of crises, while operating at the highest levels. And, if you were to ask the people who worked closely with me over the years, I'm sure they'd tell you that I'm extremely calm under pressure.So, in this world of trite and pedestrian advice on how to become more resilient, I was happy to find a beacon of hope. Steve Magness released a book just a few months ago called “Do Hard Things: Why We Get Resilience Wrong and the Surprising Science of Real Toughness”.In this episode, I look at a few of the principles Magness outlines in the book which, in my opinion, beautifully describe the relationship between the choices we make and our level of resilience. I also examine the link between routine and resilience, and I give you my top four hacks for learning how to do hard things. Source Material: Greg McKeown PodcastThe Genius of RoutineSteve Magness BookDo Hard Things: Why We Get Resilience Wrong and the Surprising Science of Real ToughnessMark Manson BlogThe Most Important Question of Your Life————————You can connect with me at:Website: https://www.yourceomentor.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourceomentorInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourceomentorLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/yourceomentorYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@YourCEOMentor————————Our mission here at Your CEO Mentor is to improve the quality of leaders, globally. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Daniel Mangena is an International Speaker, Best-Selling Author, Broadcaster and Coach. He is best known for his highly successful Micro2Millions program, being the author of Stepping Beyond Intention and his Do it With Dan and Beyond Success podcasts.    Let's dive in to hear Dan talk about how to achieve an abundant lifestyle.    Announcement: Download Our Sample Deal and Join Our Mailing List   [00:01 – 03:00] Opening Segment  Dan talks about his background. He talks about abundance. [03:00 – 14:56] An Abundant Lifestyle Dan explains why he thinks we can achieve an abundant lifestyle. He talks about why there is always a way if you want something to happen. What Dan does and how he helps people. How we can realize the power we have over our futures.  The reasons we run from responsibility. The importance of having a great team with complementary skills. [14:56 – 27:59] Flow Funnel Dan talks about the Money DNA platform. He explains what he means by “Flow Funnel”. Making changes and getting the results. The importance of being clear on your goals.   [27:59 – 32:17] Round of Insights Apparent Failure: Losing millions of dollars for the second time at the age of 23.    Digital Resource: Dex   Most Recommended Book: Relating Revolution     #1 Insight for Getting More Abundance in Your Life: You are not getting something you have to hunt for, you are reconnecting with something that's waiting for you.   Best Place to Grab a Bite in Cabo: La Lupita   Contact Dan: To learn more, you can go to Dan's website.   Tweetable Quotes: “This thing we call “abundance” is not something we've to hustle for. It is not something we've to strive for. It's a naturally occurring thing.” - Daniel Mangena “So we have our role to play but our ability to actually execute that role efficiently becomes greatly diminished when we approach it from a place of scarcity.” - Daniel Mangena   Thank you for joining us for another great episode! If you're enjoying the show, please LEAVE A RATING OR REVIEW,  and be sure to hit that subscribe button so you do not miss an episode.

How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Your Life"You can be a good person with a kind heart and still say no to people (Tracy A. Malone)." This episode will remind us how to set healthy boundaries with others in order to avoid feelings of resentment, disappointment, and anger when being pushed to our limits. PRODUCER & HOST ANNE MCDANIELS LINKS:Facebook: Anne McDanielsFacebook: Anne McDaniels ActressInstagram: @annemcdanielsactressInstagram: @annemcdanielsTwitter : @annemcdanielsIMDB : Anne McDanielsClubhouse: @annemcdanielsTikTok: Anne McDanielsClubhouse: @annemcdanielsMusic Credit: ""Light" - JoeninpcGamer ; Royalty Free MusicPhoto Credit: Styrmir.euSources: PsychCentral; Iyanla VanZandt; Lisa Nichols; Chalene Johnson; Anchor Therapy; PsychCentral; Healthline; The Blissful Mind; YouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Now more than ever RESPECT is needed in our lives. Master Amanda speaks about how martial arts training can be a valuable tool in helping children and adults learn how to respect each other. Master Amanda Olson is: A Master Martial Artist and Instructor of Taekwondo and Tai Chi. She teaches at her local Academy and Virtually online. An Author of 2 Books – “Create a Happy and Harmonious Home” and “Parenting Survival Guide” You can find her books on Amazon by following this link. A Public Speaker – Topics include Building Confident Children at Home Helping Teens with Stress Bringing Harmony to Your Home Taking Control of Your Life You can find her on: YouTube – Master Mom and Olson's Martial Arts WJHL TV – Daytime Tri-Cities Super Talk 92.9 Radio Show Facebook Amanda Olson Olson's Martial Arts Master Amanda's Virtual Tai Chi Websites Olsonsma.com Askmastermom.com Write to her at – Olson's Martial Arts Academy, INC 113 Cherry St. #10 Johnson City, TN 37604 Email Her: amanda@askmastermom.com

It can be very frustrating when you child freezes up, won't join the group or hides behind your leg when you are trying to introduce them to someone new. Fight the frustration and take a breath. Be patient and help your child slowly gain the confidence they need by being supportive. Getting upset with them will not help them feel more comfortable and may embarrass them even further making participation even less likely. If it embarrasses you, simply say to the other people involved. "This is something we are working on, thank you for your patience." This will help you feel better as well as let your child know you are there to help them. The other adults will understand. This is something EVERY parent has been through. You are not the only one and with patience and time, you can help your child overcome. When you have time alone with your child, let them know that being afraid to participate or to say hello to someone is not a behavior you want them to get used too. Help make an action plan for the next time so they can be prepared and know exactly how they are to act and the steps, even the words, they are are to do and say. 90% of the time it is the fear of the unknown. Help them to know better what to expect and how to handle themselves when things happen that they don't expect. If your child, on the other hand, knows no stranger and is the first to volunteer for everything, help them learn how to spot someone who may be having a hard time joining in and teach them to be a friend. Teach them how to go up to that person and introduce themselves. Teach them not to just include others but to look for those who NEED including. Their confidence is their super power and they should use it to make someone's day brighter. Master Mom - Amanda Olson Master Amanda Olson is: • A Master Martial Artist and Instructor of Taekwondo and Tai Chi. o She teaches at her local Academy and Virtually online. • An Author of 2 Books – “Create a Happy and Harmonious Home” and “Parenting Survival Guide” o You can find her books on Amazon by following this link. • A Public Speaker – Topics include o Building Confident Children at Home o Helping Teens with Stress o Bringing Harmony to Your Home o Taking Control of Your Life • You can find her on: o YouTube – Master Mom and Olson's Martial Arts o WJHL TV – Daytime Tri-Cities o Super Talk 92.9 Radio Show o Facebook  Amanda Olson  Olson's Martial Arts  Master Amanda's Virtual Tai Chi o Websites  Olsonsma.com  Askmastermom.com o Write to her at – Olson's Martial Arts Academy, INC • 113 Cherry St. #10 Johnson City, TN 37604 o Email Her: amanda@askmastermom.com

We cover a lot of ground (he he) in this episode all about java! I've been around the block a few times when it comes to coffee. You'll hear all about the good, the bad, and the unfortunate!      LET’S TALK THE WALK! Wellness While Walking Facebook page Wellness While Walking on Instagram Wellness While Walking on Twitter Wellness While Walking website for show notes and other information wellnesswhilewalking@gmail.com     RESOURCES AND SOURCES (some links may be affiliate links) Coffee Advertising - General Foods International Coffees and Sanka Not the Exact International Coffees Commercial I Spoke of, But Similar A Print Ad From My Time Working on The Brand The Joe Montana Commercial for Sanka Joe Montana Sanka Print Ad Spaghetti and a Peanut Butter Sandwich (see Ep. 38!) Reddit: Stonerfood Radio Challenge: Eat Spaghetti With Peanut Butter Sandwich - 5 Minutes of Your Life You'll Never Get Back           Neither I nor most of my podcast guests are doctors or healthcare professionals of any kind, and nothing on this podcast or associated content should be considered medical advice. The information provided by Wellness While Walking Podcast and associated material, by Whole Life Workshop and by Bermuda Road Wellness LLC is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or treatment, and before undertaking a new health care regimen, including walking.           Thanks for listening to Wellness While Walking, a walking podcast!

PODCAST PERKS: CLICK HERE for your FREE downloadable resource! or visit www.subscribepage.com/PodcastPerks18 EPISODE 18: Improve Your Relationship with the Most Important Person in Your Life: YOU!  No, I don't mean in a selfish and narcissistic way.  But your relationship with yourself overflows and affects the people you love most.  So, just like putting your oxygen mask on first in an airplane emergency, we're going to work on one simple step today to improve your relationship with YOU.    About The Simple Steps to Thrive™ Podcast: Each episode, you'll get practical and easy to implement Simple Steps to Thrive™. You'll also have access to a free PODCAST PERKS resource with every episode. Download it and apply the Simple Step from this episode directly into your own life.  And once you're subscribed to my VIP Podcast Perks email list, I'll send the perk directly to your inbox every week. Easy-peasy. Are you ready to take your life back? Are you ready to overcome? Let's get started. One simple step at a time. NEW episodes on Fridays!

In this episode of Mindset-Monday you will hear an interview that I did with a woman who epitomizes what it means to have a positive and abundant mindset. Listen to how she sets goals for herself and how others can do the same.  Also, pay close attention to the way we can get others to buy into our goals as well, and why that is so important. Finally, listen for the MAJOR health scare that threatened her life, her mindset through it all, and how it affects her every day. She has an online course coming out called Goalhackers where she will be teaching Entrepreneurs and those looking to become Entrepreneurs ---60 Days to Transform Your Business and Your Life You can learn more by signing up for her email list at jeannetteryals.com.

Why not make 2019 the Best Year of Your Life? You can, and the Bible gives us the path to have that kind of year. Join us as Pastor Ray begins a new series that shares 4 key principles for experiencing the best year of your life.

Why not make 2019 the Best Year of Your Life? You can, and the Bible gives us the path to have that kind of year. Join us as Pastor Ray begins a new series that shares 4 key principles for experiencing the best year of your life.

Why not make 2019 the Best Year of Your Life? You can, and the Bible gives us the path to have that kind of year. Join us as Pastor Ray begins a new series that shares 4 key principles for experiencing the best year of your life.

Why not make 2019 the Best Year of Your Life? You can, and the Bible gives us the path to have that kind of year. Join us as Pastor Ray begins a new series that shares 4 key principles for experiencing the best year of your life.

Episode 45: In this episode, Jennifer teaches you how to Find Peace and God in a Season of Struggle. The four main points we cover include: God is the Author of Your Life You can Respond or React, but Not Both Don’t Try to Figure It All Out Have a Support System Membership Reference: https://www.blossomingmommyandbaby.com/blossoming-membership/ Website: www.blossomtobefit.com Contact: admin@blossomtobefit.com Find us on social media: @blossomtobefit

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorLove, Dump, Or, ...? What About Radical Acceptance? GUEST: Andrea Miller, CEO of YourTango.com, author of Radical Acceptance DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How Do You Create and Experience Acceptance in Your LIfe?You want to be seen, heard, known, acknowledged, appreciated, and accepted in life. By your parents. By your partner. By others in your world. Not everyone is willing or capable of doing that. I've written about this more in my book, Kaizen for Couples.Where does that acceptance that you long for come from? In today's episode, I'm talking about finding acceptance for yourself, within. That's where it starts as a adult. Hopefully, you received it as a child, but many people simply didn't. Your brain was somewhat undeveloped, and you took in ideas about yourself and your worth from people who could not see you, in all your beauty. Maybe, they had problems of their own.Now is the time to become your own best friend, and I give you insights into how to become accepting of yourself so that you feel secure and feel confident within yourself every day. It begins with acceptance.When you begin to experience it from within, you'll be surprised how things can change in your world. Listen to these vital ideas. Yes, vital! They keep you feeling alive!GUEST: GUEST: Andrea Miller, CEO of YourTango.com, author of Radical Acceptance Andrea Miller is the founder and CEO of YourTango.com, the leading digital publisher dedicated to love, relationships, and self-empowerment. Andrea recently made her debut as an author with her first book, Radical Acceptance: The Secret to Happy, Lasting Love, published by Simon and Schuster. Quite an accomplishment for a first time author!"You can't cherry pick the qualities you like or love in someone," she says, "It's the whole package. You have to make peace with those challenging qualities and attempt to extend empathy and compassion to them, or get out. You cannot be in a healthy relationship where you are constantly trying to change someone."Of course, I asked Andrea if she was suggesting you can just decide to love someone unconditionally, no matter how badly they behave. There are folks who actually believe that, you know. You'll want to hear her answer!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What should you do if you are in a toxic relationship and feel you are to blame?How do you know when to terminate a relationship?How do you know when you love enough about a person to accept what you don't love?What can I do about toxic people at work? (Remember, Andrea runs a large enterprise, and she knows!)I'm told about unconditional love, and now I'm confused. How do I get clear?How does Radical Acceptance help someone in a difficult, toxic relationship?This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on creating enriching, healthy, empowering relationships.Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show: A new voice, A new vision. Enjoy!CONNECT WITH ANDREA MILLER:Website: RadicalAcceptance.loveTwitter: @YourTangoLinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/Andrea-Miller-94238Facebook: Facebook.com/YourTangoCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #radicalacceptance See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Showwith Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help DoctorLove, Dump, Or, ...? What About Radical Acceptance? GUEST: Andrea Miller, CEO of YourTango.com, author of Radical Acceptance DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How Do You Create and Experience Acceptance in Your LIfe?You want to be seen, heard, known, acknowledged, appreciated, and accepted in life. By your parents. By your partner. By others in your world. Not everyone is willing or capable of doing that. I've written about this more in my book, Kaizen for Couples.Where does that acceptance that you long for come from? In today's episode, I'm talking about finding acceptance for yourself, within. That's where it starts as a adult. Hopefully, you received it as a child, but many people simply didn't. Your brain was somewhat undeveloped, and you took in ideas about yourself and your worth from people who could not see you, in all your beauty. Maybe, they had problems of their own.Now is the time to become your own best friend, and I give you insights into how to become accepting of yourself so that you feel secure and feel confident within yourself every day. It begins with acceptance.When you begin to experience it from within, you'll be surprised how things can change in your world. Listen to these vital ideas. Yes, vital! They keep you feeling alive!GUEST: GUEST: Andrea Miller, CEO of YourTango.com, author of Radical Acceptance Andrea Miller is the founder and CEO of YourTango.com, the leading digital publisher dedicated to love, relationships, and self-empowerment. Andrea recently made her debut as an author with her first book, Radical Acceptance: The Secret to Happy, Lasting Love, published by Simon and Schuster. Quite an accomplishment for a first time author!"You can't cherry pick the qualities you like or love in someone," she says, "It's the whole package. You have to make peace with those challenging qualities and attempt to extend empathy and compassion to them, or get out. You cannot be in a healthy relationship where you are constantly trying to change someone."Of course, I asked Andrea if she was suggesting you can just decide to love someone unconditionally, no matter how badly they behave. There are folks who actually believe that, you know. You'll want to hear her answer!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:What should you do if you are in a toxic relationship and feel you are to blame?How do you know when to terminate a relationship?How do you know when you love enough about a person to accept what you don't love?What can I do about toxic people at work? (Remember, Andrea runs a large enterprise, and she knows!)I'm told about unconditional love, and now I'm confused. How do I get clear?How does Radical Acceptance help someone in a difficult, toxic relationship?This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on creating enriching, healthy, empowering relationships.Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show: A new voice, A new vision. Enjoy!CONNECT WITH ANDREA MILLER:Website: RadicalAcceptance.loveTwitter: @YourTangoLinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/Andrea-Miller-94238Facebook: Facebook.com/YourTangoCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: ForRelationshipHelp.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerFree Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsIf you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #radicalacceptance See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

“I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.”― Thomas A. Edison Hello Friends! And welcome to Episode 14 of Dear World, Love Delilah, the quotable podcast meant to motivate, inspire and empower! In this episode Darcee Lee shares a letter from a listener who originally wrote in to the blog that led to this podcast, “Dear Delilah X0”. She talks a little about love, addiction, and the strength it takes to heal. Want to get your hands on the FREE E-Guide I created to help you get closer to feeling the way you WANT to feel with 5 Small Ways to Make Big, Beautiful Changes in Your Life? You can get that here! Annnnnnd, I will also send you another freebie in a few days- it is a perfect compliment to the guide that I know you will love! For more on and from Darcee Lee visit her at darceelee.com or shoot her an email at hello@darceelee.com to let her know what you want to talk about, hear about, or read about! She’d also love if you just wanted to say hello! Seriously, she would LOVE to hear from you AND would love to write back :) You can also find her on Instagram and facebook AND if you really want to hang out, see what she is doing, or catch her live, check out her public group where all the cool (in that nerdy-quirky-awesome-cool kind of way) and/or her private online Book Club for ladies only :) One more thing: if you loved this episode or think that it can help someone you love to live a happier, healthier, more fulfilled life, we hope that you will leave a review on iTunes so that we can continue to offer the best we have to as many people who need it. Your support means the world to us, and you can help us meet more of the world

Dear World, Love Delilah Ep. 13- Love. Relapse. Restore: One listeners journey from heartbreak to healing.   “Don’t cry because it’s gone. Smile because it happened.” - Dr. Suess. And a little shout out to the blog that led to the podcast! Hello Friends! And welcome to Episode 13 of Dear World, Love Delilah, the quotable podcast meant to motivate, inspire and empower!   In this episode Darcee Lee shares a letter from a listener who originally wrote in to the blog that led to this podcast, “Dear Delilah X0”. She talks a little about love, addiction, and the strength it takes to heal.   Want to get your hands on the FREE E-Guide I created to help you get closer to feeling the way you WANT to feel with 5 Small Ways to Make Big, Beautiful Changes in Your Life? You can get that here!  Annnnnnd, I will also send you another freebie in a few days- it is a perfect compliment to the guide that I know you will love!   For more on and from Darcee Lee visit her at darceelee.com or shoot her an email at hello@darceelee.com to let her know what you want to talk about, hear about, or read about! She’d also love if you just wanted to say hello! Seriously, she would LOVE to hear from you AND would love to write back :)   You can also find her on Instagram and facebook AND if you really want to hang out, see what she is doing, or catch her live, check out her public group where all the cool (in that nerdy-quirky-awesome-cool kind of way)  and/or her private online Book Club for ladies only :)   One more thing: if you loved this episode or think that it can help someone you love to live a happier, healthier, more fulfilled life, we hope that you will leave a review on iTunes so that we can continue to offer the best we have to as many people who need it. Your support means the world to us, and you can help us meet more of the world

Dear World, Love Delilah Ep. 12- More. Different. Better. You are already everything you want to be.   “You are already everything you want to be.” A melding of the usual Monday broadcast and the Thursday Teatime Mini- more about that in the episode :) Hello Friends! And welcome to Episode 12 of Dear World, Love Delilah, the quotable podcast meant to motivate, inspire and empower!   In this episode Darcee Lee talks a little bit about the ways in which all that we wish we were, we may already be.   Want to get your hands on the FREE E-Guide I created to help you get closer to feeling the way you WANT to feel with 5 Small Ways to Make Big, Beautiful Changes in Your Life? You can get that here!  Annnnnnd, I will also send you another freebie in a few days- it is a perfect compliment to the guide that I know you will love!   For more on and from Darcee Lee visit her at darceelee.com or shoot her an email at hello@darceelee.com to let her know what you want to talk about, hear about, or read about! She’d also love if you just wanted to say hello! Seriously, she would LOVE to hear from you AND would love to write back :)   You can also find her on Instagram and facebook AND if you really want to hang out, see what she is doing, or catch her live, check out her public group where all the cool (in that nerdy-quirky-awesome-cool kind of way)  and/or her private online Book Club for ladies only :)   One more thing: if you loved this episode or think that it can help someone you love to live a happier, healthier, more fulfilled life, we hope that you will leave a review on iTunes so that we can continue to offer the best we have to as many people who need it. Your support means the world to us, and you can help us meet more of the world

Dear World, Love Delilah Ep. 11- Dark. Light. Love.   “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”  -Martin Luther King Jr. Hello Friends! And welcome to Episode 11 of Dear World, Love Delilah, the quotable podcast meant to motivate, inspire and empower!   In this episode Darcee Lee talks a little bit about our tendency to try to criticize and shame ourselves into positive change when only love will take us there.   For all of the awesome info, inspiration, resources and links mentioned in this week’s episode, you can go here :)   Want to get your hands on the FREE E-Guide I created to help you get closer to feeling the way you WANT to feel with 5 Small Ways to Make Big, Beautiful Changes in Your Life? You can get that here!  Annnnnnd, I will also send you another freebie in a few days- it is a perfect compliment to the guide that I know you will love!   For more on and from Darcee Lee visit her at darceelee.com or shoot her an email at hello@darceelee.com to let her know what you want to talk about, hear about, or read about! She’d also love if you just wanted to say hello! Seriously, she would LOVE to hear from you AND would love to write back :)   You can also find her on Instagram and facebook AND if you really want to hang out, see what she is doing, or catch her live, check out her public group where all the cool (in that nerdy-quirky-awesome-cool kind of way)  and/or her private online Book Club for ladies only :)   One more thing: if you loved this episode or think that it can help someone you love to live a happier, healthier, more fulfilled life, we hope that you will leave a review on iTunes so that we can continue to offer the best we have to as many people who need it. Your support means the world to us, and you can help us meet more of the world

Hello World!   Welcome to Ep. 9 1/2 of Dear World, Love Delilah, coming to you in the form of Thursday’s Tea Time Mini: A bite sized piece of inspiration when a few minutes is all you have!   Today’s Yogi Tea time quote: The creation of a thousand forests is in one acorn.   Want to get your hands on the FREE E-Guide I created to help you get closer to feeling the way you WANT to feel with 5 Small Ways to Make Big, Beautiful Changes in Your Life? You can get that here!  Annnnnnd, I will also send you another freebie in a few days- it is a perfect compliment to the guide that I know you will love!   For more on and from Darcee Lee visit her at darceelee.com or shoot her an email at hello@darceelee.com to let her know what you want to talk about, hear about, or read about!   You can also find her on Instagram and facebook AND if you really want to hang out, see what she is doing, or catch her live, check out her public group where all the cool (in that nerdy-quirky-awesome-cool kind of way)  and/or her private online Book Club for ladies only :)   One more thing: if you loved this episode or think that it can help someone you love to live a happier, healthier, more fulfilled life, we hope that you will leave a review on iTunes so that we can continue to offer the best we have to as many people who need it. Your support means the world to us, and you can help us meet more of the world

Dear World, Love Delilah Ep. 9- Dream. Pray. Work.   “Pray as though everything depended on God. Work as though everything depended on you.”   Hello Friends! And welcome to Episode 9 of Dear World, Love Delilah, the quotable podcast meant to motivate, inspire and empower!   In this episode Darcee Lee talks a little bit about gratitude as prayer, and the way in which it opens us up to the everyday miracles.   For all of the awesome info, inspiration, resources and links mentioned in this week’s episode, you can go here :)   Want to get your hands on the FREE E-Guide I created to help you get closer to feeling the way you WANT to feel with 5 Small Ways to Make Big, Beautiful Changes in Your Life? You can get that here!  Annnnnnd, I will also send you another freebie in a few days- it is a perfect compliment to the guide that I know you will love!   For more on and from Darcee Lee visit her at darceelee.com or shoot her an email at hello@darceelee.com to let her know what you want to talk about, hear about, or read about! She’d also love if you just wanted to say hello! Seriously, she would LOVE to hear from you AND would love to write back :)   You can also find her on Instagram and facebook AND if you really want to hang out, see what she is doing, or catch her live, check out her public group where all the cool (in that nerdy-quirky-awesome-cool kind of way)  and/or her private online Book Club for ladies only :)   One more thing: if you loved this episode or think that it can help someone you love to live a happier, healthier, more fulfilled life, we hope that you will leave a review on iTunes so that we can continue to offer the best we have to as many people who need it. Your support means the world to us, and you can help us meet more of the world

Dear World, Love Delilah Ep. 8- Either. Or. Both   “Love takes off the masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.” -James Baldwin   Hello Friends! And welcome to Episode 8 of Dear World, Love Delilah, the quotable podcast meant to motivate, inspire and empower!   In this episode Darcee Lee talks a little bit about the impact of kind words spoken by a friend, the many masks we wear, and what it means to remove them, and why we should provide a peek behind curtain…   For all of the awesome info, inspiration, resources and links mentioned in this week’s episode, you can go here :)   Want to get your hands on the FREE E-Guide I created to help you get closer to feeling the way you WANT to feel with 5 Small Ways to Make Big, Beautiful Changes in Your Life? You can get that here!  Annnnnnd, I will also send you another freebie in a few days- it is a perfect compliment to the guide that I know you will love!   For more on and from Darcee Lee visit her at darceelee.com or shoot her an email at hello@darceelee.com to let her know what you want to talk about, hear about, or read about! She’d also love if you just wanted to say hello! Seriously, she would LOVE to hear from you AND would love to write back :)   You can also find her on Instagram and facebook AND if you really want to hang out, see what she is doing, or catch her live, check out her public group where all the cool (in that nerdy-quirky-awesome-cool kind of way)  and/or her private online Book Club for ladies only :)   One more thing: if you loved this episode or think that it can help someone you love to live a happier, healthier, more fulfilled life, we hope that you will leave a review on iTunes so that we can continue to offer the best we have to as many people who need it. Your support means the world to us, and you can help us meet more of the world

Hello World!   Welcome to Ep. 7 ½ of Dear World, Love Delilah, coming to you in the form of Thursday’s Tea Time Mini: A bite sized piece of inspiration when a few minutes is all you have!   Today’s Yogi Tea time quote: “Preach Kindness at all times, and when necessary, use words.”   Want to get your hands on the FREE E-Guide I created to help you get closer to feeling the way you WANT to feel with 5 Small Ways to Make Big, Beautiful Changes in Your Life? You can get that here!  Annnnnnd, I will also send you another freebie in a few days- it is a perfect compliment to the guide that I know you will love!   For more on and from Darcee Lee visit her at darceelee.com or shoot her an email at hello@darceelee.com to let her know what you want to talk about, hear about, or read about!   You can also find her on Instagram and facebook AND if you really want to hang out, see what she is doing, or catch her live, check out her public group where all the cool (in that nerdy-quirky-awesome-cool kind of way)  and/or her private online Book Club for ladies only :)   One more thing: if you loved this episode or think that it can help someone you love to live a happier, healthier, more fulfilled life, we hope that you will leave a review on iTunes so that we can continue to offer the best we have to as many people who need it. Your support means the world to us, and you can help us meet more of the world

“I don't like to commit myself about heaven and hell - you see, I have friends in both places." - Mark Twain   Hello Friends! And welcome to Episode 7 of Dear World, Love Delilah, the quotable podcast meant to motivate, inspire and empower!   In this episode Darcee Lee talks a little bit about a quote from one of her absolute favorite minds to have ever graced the earth, her views on her religion and yours, and how we are connected even in the gaps  between our various beliefs.   For all of the awesome info, inspiration, resources and links mentioned in this week’s episode, you can go here :)   Want to get your hands on the FREE E-Guide I created to help you get closer to feeling the way you WANT to feel with 5 Small Ways to Make Big, Beautiful Changes in Your Life? You can get that here!  Annnnnnd, I will also send you another freebie in a few days- it is a perfect compliment to the guide that I know you will love!   For more on and from Darcee Lee visit her at darceelee.com or shoot her an email at hello@darceelee.com to let her know what you want to talk about, hear about, or read about! She’d also love if you just wanted to say hello! Seriously, she would LOVE to hear from you AND would love to write back :)   You can also find her on Instagram and facebook AND if you really want to hang out, see what she is doing, or catch her live, check out her public group where all the cool (in that nerdy-quirky-awesome-cool kind of way)  and/or her private online Book Club for ladies only :)   One more thing: if you loved this episode or think that it can help someone you love to live a happier, healthier, more fulfilled life, we hope that you will leave a review on iTunes so that we can continue to offer the best we have to as many people who need it. Your support means the world to us, and you can help us meet more of the world

Hello World!   Welcome to Ep. 6 ½ of Dear World, Love Delilah, coming to you in the form of Thursday’s Tea Time Mini: A bite sized piece of inspiration when a few minutes is all you have!   Today’s Yogi Tea time quote: “Live each season as it passes; breathe the air, drink the drink, taste the fruit.”   Want to get your hands on the FREE E-Guide I created to help you get closer to feeling the way you WANT to feel with 5 Small Ways to Make Big, Beautiful Changes in Your Life? You can get that here!  Annnnnnd, I will also send you another freebie in a few days- it is a perfect compliment to the guide that I know you will love!   For more on and from Darcee Lee visit her at darceelee.com or shoot her an email at hello@darceelee.com to let her know what you want to talk about, hear about, or read about!   You can also find her on Instagram and facebook AND if you really want to hang out, see what she is doing, or catch her live, check out her public group where all the cool (in that nerdy-quirky-awesome-cool kind of way)  and/or her private online Book Club for ladies only :)   One more thing: if you loved this episode or think that it can help someone you love to live a happier, healthier, more fulfilled life, we hope that you will leave a review on iTunes so that we can continue to offer the best we have to as many people who need it. Your support means the world to us, and you can help us meet more of the world

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. Ralph Waldo Emerson   Hello Friends! And welcome to Episode 6 of Dear World, Love Delilah, the quotable podcast meant to motivate, inspire and empower!   In this episode Darcee Lee talks a little bit about a dinner conversation she shared with some coworkers about not caring about what others think, about the impossibility of pleasing everyone, and about the importance of being your quirky, weird, unique you.   For all of the awesome info, inspiration, resources and links mentioned in this week’s episode, you can go here :)   Want to get your hands on the FREE E-Guide I created to help you get closer to feeling the way you WANT to feel with 5 Small Ways to Make Big, Beautiful Changes in Your Life? You can get that here!  Annnnnnd, I will also send you another freebie in a few days- it is a perfect compliment to the guide that I know you will love!   For more on and from Darcee Lee visit her at darceelee.com or shoot her an email at hello@darceelee.com to let her know what you want to talk about, hear about, or read about! She’d also love if you just wanted to say hello! Seriously, she would LOVE to hear from you AND would love to write back :)   You can also find her on Instagram and facebook AND if you really want to hang out, see what she is doing, or catch her live, check out her public group where all the cool (in that nerdy-quirky-awesome-cool kind of way)  and/or her private online Book Club for ladies only :)   One more thing: if you loved this episode or think that it can help someone you love to live a happier, healthier, more fulfilled life, we hope that you will leave a review on iTunes so that we can continue to offer the best we have to as many people who need it. Your support means the world to us, and you can help us meet more of the world

[powerpress] Hello World! Welcome to Ep. 5 ½ of Dear World, Love Delilah, coming to you in the form of Thursday’s Tea Time Mini: A bite sized piece of inspiration when a few minutes is all you have! Today’s Yogi Tea time quote: “It’s not life that matters, it’s the courage we bring to it.” Want to get your hands on the FREE E-Guide I created to help you get closer to feeling the way you WANT to feel with 5 Small Ways to Make Big, Beautiful Changes in Your Life? You can get that here!  Annnnnnd, I will also send you another freebie in a few days- it is a perfect compliment to the guide that I know you will love! For more on and from Darcee Lee visit her at darceelee.com or shoot her an email at hello@darceelee.com to let her know what you want to talk about, hear about, or read about! You can also find her on Instagram and facebook AND if you really want to hang out, see what she is doing, or catch her live, check out her public group where all the cool (in that nerdy-quirky-awesome-cool kind of way)  and/or her private online Book Club for ladies only :) One more thing: if you loved this episode or think that it can help someone you love to live a happier, healthier, more fulfilled life, we hope that you will leave a review on iTunes so that we can continue to offer the best we have to as many people who need it. Your support means the world to us, and you can help us meet more of the world

Episode 5- Hapless. Lucky. Obstinate. With Emily Flake, author of Momma Tried   Hello Friends! And welcome to Episode of Dear World, Love Delilah, the quotable podcast meant to motivate, inspire and empower!   In this episode, you’ll meet Emily Flake, cartoonist, writer, illustrator, performer, and author of the smart, witty, and oh so real, Momma Tried. Emily lives in Brooklyn, NY. Her work appears regularly in such publications as the New Yorker, MAD Magazine, Playboy, and the New York Times, amongst others, and she also performs a hybrid of cartoons and stand-up comedy on various stages in and around New York. Be inspired, be encouraged, and be ENTERTAINED.   For all of the awesome info, inspiration, resources, and links mentioned in this week’s episode, you can go here :)   Want to get your hands on the FREE E-Guide I created to help you get closer to feeling the way you WANT to feel with 5 Small Ways to Make Big, Beautiful Changes in Your Life? You can get that here!  Annnnnnd, I will also send you another freebie in a few days- it is a perfect compliment to the guide that I know you will love!   For more on and from Darcee Lee visit her at darceelee.com or shoot her an email at hello@darceelee.com to let her know what you want to talk about, hear about, or read about! She’d also love if you just wanted to say hello! Seriously, she would LOVE to hear from you AND would love to write back :)   You can also find her on Instagram and facebook AND if you really want to hang out, see what she is doing, or catch her live, check out her public group where all the cool (in that nerdy-quirky-awesome-cool kind of way)  and/or her private online Book Club for ladies only :) One more thing: if you loved this episode or think that it can help someone you love to live a happier, healthier, more fulfilled life, we hope that you will leave a review on iTunes so that we can continue to offer the best we have to as many people who need it. Your support means the world to us, and you can help us meet more of the world

Dear World, Love Delilah Ep. 4- Courage. Connectedness. Wakanda.   “Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says, ‘I’ll try again tomorrow’” Mary Anne Radmacher   Hello Friends! And welcome to Episode 4 of Dear World, Love Delilah, the quotable podcast meant to motivate, inspire and empower!   In this episode, Darcee Lee talks a little bit about tears, discomfort, courage, how we are rewarded for simply suiting up and showing up for our lives, even when we are not at our best, and how a small quote from the new movie The Black Panther-inspired much of this episode. We hope this episode gives you even a tiny bit of what you need to move through the day feeling inspired, supported, and ready to accept the beautiful things the Universe has in store for you!   For all of the awesome info, inspiration, resources, and links mentioned in this week’s episode, you can go here :)   Want to get your hands on the FREE E-Guide I created to help you get closer to feeling the way you WANT to feel with 5 Small Ways to Make Big, Beautiful Changes in Your Life? You can get that here!  Annnnnnd, I will also send you another freebie in a few days- it is a perfect compliment to the guide that I know you will love!   For more on and from Darcee Lee visit her at darceelee.com or shoot her an email at hello@darceelee.com to let her know what you want to talk about, hear about, or read about! She’d also love if you just wanted to say hello! Seriously, she would LOVE to hear from you AND would love to write back :)   You can also find her on Instagram and Facebook AND if you really want to hang out, see what she is doing, or catch her live, check out her public group where all the cool (in that nerdy-quirky-awesome-cool kind of way)  and/or her private online Book Club for ladies only :) One more thing: if you loved this episode or think that it can help someone you love to live a happier, healthier, more fulfilled life, we hope that you will leave a review on iTunes so that we can continue to offer the best we have to as many people who need it. Your support means the world to us, and you can help us meet more of the world

“Walking is the best possible exercise. Habituate yourself to walk very far. ~ Thomas Jefferson   Welcome to Day 15!  Walking for Your Life! (Nature for the Health of It) Let’s talk about something we have been doing since we were toddlers; something so ordinary, so seemingly unremarkable and ordinary that we daily take it for granted. Walking. When was the last time you thought, “Ok, I’m going to stand up now and walk over to the kitchen sink… Now I’m going to walk over to get my car keys and then walk to the car.”? It’s almost like breathing, (whose importance we daily need to be reminded of as well). Unless you've been in an accident, or are in some sort of physical rehabilitation, you probably just don’t ever think about it. Pretty much since the day we first learned how to walk as bambinos, we stopped noticing the fact that we were actually doing it, and just did it! And did it, and did it, and did it… sometimes to our parents' chagrin, but nevertheless invoking their pride and satisfaction as well. I have a friend who would laugh and laugh when his niece first learned to walk, as she held both her arms high in the air for balance, admittedly looking like an adorable little ape, proud of her progress. Just as she would get going and seemed to be achieving her balance, he would gently trip her from behind, causing her to fall onto the carpet, making her have to start all over again. She never got hurt or cried, but would just get a determined look on her face, pull herself up and start the process all over. I’m sure there’s some life lesson in there somewhere, but my real point in telling you is because I thought it was mildly cruel and hilarious to watch! Walking is one of the most underappreciated gifts known to man, but walking in Nature is even less valued and acknowledged in our society. Not only does walking in the wild calm our minds, help relieve stress, and give us an emotional connection to the living world, it actually is good for our health! Imagine that! A good brisk, or even moderate walk outside does so many amazing things for the health of our bodies. It helps develop our cardio muscles and improve circulation pumping life-giving blood throughout our bodies, provides fresh oxygen for our respiratory system, boosts our immune system, assists in the production of the vitamin D hormone which is good for our skin and bones, cell growth and even reduction in inflammation. In addition, hiking, strolling and ambling in the great outdoors is beneficial for getting and staying in shape, building and maintaining muscles, and aiding in the maintenance of balance, and of a healthy nervous system. And don’t forget, every area of our being is affected by every other area. We are spiritual beings, with thoughts and emotions, living in physical bodies. When we neglect our health, we neglect our whole beings. They say that sitting is the new smoking. Well how about cutting back to just a pack a day and getting outside for the health of it? For today’s outdoor activity we are going to step up the pace a bit! There is a place for thoughtful meandering, gentle strolls and slow, purposeful walking meditations. I hope you’ve been getting a lot of that in these past two weeks. If not, there’s still plenty of time to do it. But today, we are going to get our blood pumping a bit more than usual, (if high energy physical activity is not a part of your normal routine). We’re going to get a decent cardio work out in the great outdoors! That’s why it’s called a work “out”. We’re going to do it outside. It’s going to feel a little more like a challenge than what we’ve done so far. We are going to get our blood pumping a do a little “green” exercise, outside of the four walls. There are so many more benefits to exercising in a natural environment versus a gym. First of all, there are way less germs and lots more room and fresh air! Exercise equipment has been designed to make it easier for the human body to perform routine exercises. There is no muscle confusion, and after a short time, unless you are using a wide variety of different machines, only the same few muscles are getting a workout. Even then, the different angles and elevation changes found on the trail help challenge your balance and give every part of the muscle a chance to get a decent workout. There’s also a lower perceived exertion to outdoor exercise, (meaning, you work out longer without even realizing it), and it’s much more appealing than walking or running on a boring old treadmill. And on top of everything else, it’s free! So what are you waiting for? Head out the door, (mindfully, enjoying everything there is to enjoy in Nature), while walking or running as if your very life depends on it! Because it does… Thomas Jefferson, who was quite the naturalist said, “Walking is the best possible exercise. Habituate yourself to walk very far”. Great advice! Today, go fast and far my friend… Checklist for Day 15 ☐ MEDITATION: Day 15 – “Walking for Your Life” (You can listen to this active meditation on iTunes or here at Mountain Zen Den.) ☐ NATURE WALK: 20 minutes walking or running 10% faster than usual. ☐ JOURNAL: Skip the journal and get a little more exercise today. Who knows, you may just end up loving it and doing it a whole lot more! (If you really feel like journaling you can write about your experience today as well). Post your pictures, experiences, comments, etc. on our 21-Day Nature Challenge Facebook Community Group page.

Episode 3: Interview with Ayesha Ophelia- Wild, Juicy, Balanced, and the Girlfriend Manifesto. Hello Friends! And welcome to Episode 3 of Dear World, Love Delilah, the quotable podcast meant to motivate, inspire and empower! In this episode, you’ll meet Ayesha Ophelia of the Girlfriend Manifesto, a women’s space for inspired living. Her personal manifesto consists of a strong sisterhood, spirituality, a radical self-love practice, and adventure, and is evident in the way she speaks, loves and lives. When she is not traveling, winning contests, and creating content for her online adventures, she moonlights as a creative consultant with an emphasis on online marketing, social media, and graphic design. Holy Rebellion is her Youtube channel where she shares inspired content that speaks to the union of our sacred/holy and human selves. And this interview was incredible. Be prepared for so much laughter and real talk. Be inspired, be encouraged, and be WILD. For all of the info, inspiration, and links mentioned in this week’s episode, go here  Want your free E-Guide on Small Ways to Make Big Changes in Your Life? You can get that here!  Annnnnnd, I will also send you another freebie in a few days- it is a perfect compliment to the guide that I think you will love! For more on and from Darcee Lee visit her website or shoot her an email at hello@darceelee.com to let her know what you want to talk about, hear about, read about, or just to say hello! She would LOVE to hear from you AND would love to write back  You can also find her on Instagram and facebook AND if you really want to hang out, see what she is doing, or catch her live, check out her public group and/or her private online Book Club for ladies only  One more thing: if you loved this episode or think that it can help someone you love to live a happier, healthier, more fulfilled life, we hope that you will leave a review on iTunes so that we can continue to offer the best we have to as many people who need it. Your support means the world to us, and can help us meet more of the world

“If your dreams don’t scare you, they are not big enough.” Ellen Johnson Sirleaf Hello Friends! And welcome to Episode 2 of Dear World, Love Delilah, the quotable podcast meant to motivate, inspire and empower! In this episode Darcee Lee talks a little bit about how she is inspired by other podcasts and the incredible interviews she gets to listen to regularly, why having big dreams is not only ok, but necessary, and how much the world needs YOU (yes, you specifically and you exactly). Want to check out the awesome podcasts she mentions in this episode? You can find them here! Want your free E-Guide on Small Ways to Make Big Changes in Your Life? You can get that here!  Annnnnnd, I will also send you another freebie in a few days- it is a perfect compliment to the guide that I think you will love! For more on and from Darcee Lee visit her website or shoot her an email at hello@darceelee.com to let her know what you want to talk about, hear about, read about, or just to say hello! She would LOVE to hear from you AND would love to write back  You can also find her on Instagram and facebook AND if you really want to hang out, see what she is doing, or catch her live, check out her public group and/or her private online Book Club for ladies only  One more thing: if you loved this episode or think that it can help someone you love live a happier, healthier, more fulfilled life, we hope that you will leave a review on iTunes so that we can continue to offer the best we have to as many people who need it. With that, we look forward to seeing you soon. Until next time, Rock Stars!!! With Love, Delilah and her team! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

“We are all just walking each other home.” -Ram Doss Hello Friends! And welcome to the very first episode of Dear World, Love Delilah, the quotable podcast meant to motivate, inspire and empower. In this episode Darcee Lee tells you a little bit about herself, turning 40, some of the hardest and best lessons she has learned (often times the hard way), what she hopes to offer the world, and a little bit about what to expect in upcoming episodes of Dear World, Love Delilah. Want your free E-Guide on Small Ways to Make Big Changes in Your Life? You can get that here!  Annnnnnd, I will also send you another freebie in a few days- it is a perfect compliment to the guide that I think you will love! For more on and from Darcee Lee visit her website or shoot her an email at hello@darceelee.com to let her know what you want to talk about, hear about, read about, or just to say hello! She would LOVE to hear from you AND would love to write back  You can also find her on Instagram and Facebook AND if you really want to hang out, see what she is doing, or catch her live, check out her public group and/or her private online Book Club for ladies only  One more thing: if you loved this episode or think that it can help someone you love to live a happier, healthier, more fulfilled life, we hope that you will leave a review on iTunes so that we can continue to offer the best we have to as many people who need it. With that, we look forward to seeing you soon. Until next time, Rock Stars!!! With Love, Delilah and her team! See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In this episode, I am so excited to have spoken to SaraEllen Hutchison. SaraEllen is a Fair Credit Reporting Act lawyer in Seattle, Washington and on top of being a talented law professional and entrepreneur; she is a writer for her blog on finance and work-life balance which can be found on her website saraellenhutchison.com. She joins us today to talk on "lawyer burnout"; from defining "burnout", it's causes, and different aspects of the recovery. Topics Covered SaraEllen goes into detail as to how her work as a Consumer Protection Lawyer, and the politics/policies that go with that, led to her starting and developing her blog that aims to have a joint conversation on consumer issues and mindfulness. She defines her own personal experiences with burnouts, the symptoms that led to them, her own recovery through journaling and meditation, and how burnouts can happen to anyone, working for a practice or running their own. How her journey of self-care led to her creating a more frugal and lower over-head solo practice and the importance of knowing your worth and valuing your services appropriately. The dysfunction of the way we think of money by comparing ourselves to other lawyers financially and valuing our days by the 6-minute increment. Sources mentioned: Write It Down, Make It Happen: Knowing What You Want And Getting It Your Money or Your Life You can learn more about SaraEllen and her work at:  Her Websites: www.saraellenhutchison.com http://seattlefaircredit.com   Questions? Comments? Email Jeena! hello@jeenacho.com. You can also connect with Jeena on Twitter: @Jeena_Cho For more information, visit: jeenacho.com Order The Anxious Lawyer book — Available in hardcover, Kindle and Audible Find Your Ease: Retreat for Lawyers I'm creating a retreat that will provide a perfect gift of relaxation and rejuvenation with an intimate group of lawyers. Interested? Please complete this form: https://jeena3.typeform.com/to/VXfIXq MINDFUL PAUSE: Bite-Sized Practices for Cultivating More Joy and Focus 5-week program. Spend just 6 minutes every day to practice mindfulness and meditation. Decrease stress/anxiety, increase focus and concentration. Interested? Please complete this form: https://jeena3.typeform.com/to/gLlo7b Sponsor: Spotlight Branding provides internet marketing services exclusively for solo & small law firms. Unlike most internet marketing firms, they do NOT focus on SEO. Instead, they specialize in branding their clients as trusted, credible experts, increasing referrals, and ultimately driving growth. For our listeners, Spotlight Branding is offering a complimentary website review. Go to: SpotlightBranding.com/trl Transcript Intro: [00:00:02] Today's show is sponsored by Spotlight Branding. Spotlight Branding works exclusively with solo and small law firms to brand them as trusted, credible experts and help them stand out in a crowded market place. Their services include web design, social media, video marketing and more. SaraEllen Hutchison: [00:00:28] It takes time to calibrate your boundaries, your sense of case selection at your firm. And then when you go solo, all of a sudden you need to learn it all over again. But you learn it faster than you did the time before. [00:00:44] Welcome to The Resilient Lawyer podcast. In this podcast we have meaningful, in-depth conversations with lawyers, entrepreneurs and change agents. We offer tools and strategies for creating a more joyful and satisfying life. And now your host, Jeena Cho. Jeena Cho: [00:01:08] Hello my friends, thanks for being with us today. In this episode I'm so delighted to have SaraEllen Hutchinson. SaraEllen is a Fair Credit Reporting Act lawyer in Seattle, Washington. She's also an entrepreneur and a writer. She blogs about personal finance and work-life balance over on her website, saraellenhutchison.com. [00:01:28] But before we get into the interview, if you haven't listened to the last bonus episode, go back and check it out. I shared a six minute guided meditation practice to let go of stress and anxiety. It's a preview for my new course, Mindful Pause. So often I hear lawyers tell me that they know they should practice mindfulness meditation, but they just don't have the time. And I always suggest just starting with six minutes. Or just .1 hour of all the hours you dedicate to your clients, your work and others. Don't you deserve to have at least .1 hour to yourself? Mindful Pause is designed for lawyers like you, to fit into your very hectic schedule. Think of it like taking your daily vitamin to boost your well-being. Head on over to jeenacho.com to learn more. And with that, here's SaraEllen. SaraEllen, welcome to The Resilient Lawyer podcast. SaraEllen Hutchison: [00:02:27] Hi Jeena. Thanks for having me here. Jeena Cho: [00:02:29] So to get us started, can we have you just give us a 30 second introduction to who you are and what you do? [00:02:36] Well I am a consumer protection lawyer and my area of focus is Fair Credit Reporting Act. And essentially that is if Equifax, Experian, TransUnion, or one of the other smaller credit reporting agencies, also called the bureaus, if they mess something up on your credit report, like put somebody else's debt there that's not yours or merge your records with another person who might have a similar name, social security number or something like that. Or even you know, report something that was discharged in bankruptcy like it wasn't discharged, things like that. [00:03:22] You can bring a lawsuit against the credit reporting agencies and, in certain instances, against the creditors who report things to the bureaus. So that is my day job. And I also recently started blogging earlier this year, because as a consumer protection lawyer my work is so intertwined with politics and policy. And I think consumer issues are like a great uniter, they're pretty universal to people; fairness, truth, your good name, being treated well in a customer service context or by banks. That's pretty universal stuff across political affiliation. And I just saw how polarized people had become in this country, and I thought you know, this conversation needs to be about consumer issues and mindfulness at the same time. And when I started the blog, I wasn't completely sure how I was going to meld those together. But you know, we're working on it and it makes a lot of sense to me. And some of my blog posts are a little more political, and some of them are a little more about the mindfulness journey and the spiritual path. So that's what I'm doing on the side now. Jeena Cho: [00:04:57] Wonderful, I love that. And I know on your blog and you talk about lawyer burnout and sort of the causes of burnout and recovery. Before we sort of get into what burnout is, what got you interested in that topic and what made you start to write about it? SaraEllen Hutchison: [00:05:19] An intimate familiarity with burnout; all the different flavors and qualities of burnout. I've been a lawyer for 12 years; I went to law school pretty young. And it took me a while to find my current practice area, and to have the courage to go solo, which I did in 2010. And I found myself getting burned out pretty much everywhere I worked, for one reason or another. Either I was dealing with the wrong kinds of clients, or I was dealing with the wrong kind of workplace culture, or I loved everything about it but I wasn't being paid nearly enough. There was all these reasons and they always seemed external to me, and in many ways they were. [00:06:15] You know if you're wearing the wrong pair of shoes, you're going to rub a lot of blisters into your feet. But then you have to look into yourself and go, why do I keep picking the wrong shoes? Why do I keep walking around in them for so long? Uphill in the snow both ways. [00:06:30] So when I went solo in 2010, I had this great renewal of energy and enthusiasm for practicing law. And for the first time, I actually started to like it and realized, you know, find myself as a lawyer and have confidence and feel motivated and really love the clients that I was working with. But that didn't by itself make me immune to burnout forever. That wasn't just like, okay I fixed it. I'm never going to be angry or frustrated or burnt out at my job ever again. You know, there's no fix. Burnout is such a universally understood thing for American professionals these days, that it really is so cultural, it's so ingrained in American culture and Western culture too. [00:07:36] But from the very origins of our you know, the kinds of people who first settled the country, the colonial people. And the kinds of people who came here throughout the years and even today as immigrants, as people who just want to work really hard and make something of themselves. And that's wonderful, right? But the flip side of that is, is it sustainable? Are you going to get exhausted? Are you going to burn yourself out? Are you going to you lose sight of the goal behind the goal for why you're working so hard? Jeena Cho: [00:08:12] Yeah, yeah. SaraEllen Hutchison: [00:08:13] I had to then encounter burnout while I was basically still very happy with what I was doing. And I was pretty surprised, I was like, oh I'm self-employed. I can go skiing on Wednesday, what do I have to complain about? I'm making good money. And then I realized that the deeper origins of my burnout, and I think a lot of other Americans, were just sort of the liabilities of those positive traits that say, I'm going to go out and make something of myself. I'm going to go out and change things for the better. And I had to just come up with a way to realize that burnout was something that, it's always a risk. I think if you're working in law, it's always a risk if you have a position of much responsibility even in some other field in modern American life. And so it's a mindfulness practice to not dance too close to that fire. Jeena Cho: [00:09:24] Yeah. Well when you were going through burnout, what were some of the symptoms? Because I went through a burnout, and I don't know that it necessarily looked like what I thought it would. Like for me, I just felt really disengaged from my job, and I would just feel tired like all the time. Despite having gotten enough sleep, I just sort of felt lethargic and just tired and I thought, oh I'm just losing focus, all I have to do is just work harder. Which is of course just the opposite thing that you need to do when you're going through burnout. So what were some of the symptoms or signs you were going through a burnout? SaraEllen Hutchison: [00:10:04] Well earlier in my law career, I had mysterious health problems. My skin was a mess; I was tired all the time. I had to be perfect about my nutrition or I would immediately feel bad. And so I changed a lot of those external habits in my 20's and felt a lot better. But then when it hit me again a few years into my solo practice, I had this year where my neck would never be right. And I was also more active in CrossFit at the time. And I'm not now; part of it is my neck. But I just could not get my neck to feel right. [00:10:56] And I wake up in middle of the night and my mind would just be racing. Not really about anything upsetting, but just thinking about you know, miscellaneous stuff. Yes. My mind is just very, very active. So I had to quit drinking coffee. I cut way back on caffeine you know, from like tea and everything. And that helped. You know, there's always some external thing you can do to probably help support you in recovery from burnout, but ultimately you have to examine everything mentally and emotionally as well. But for me it was just like thinking too much. Waking up and thinking. And then my neck; I was in the chiropractor so much it was almost like a rent payment or a car payment, to go to the chiropractor. And my chiropractor was really nice and I kind of miss chatting with him. But I sure don't miss going to the chiropractor twice a week to have my neck and shoulders worked on. Jeena Cho: [00:12:16] So what was the recovery process, that journey from burnout to wholeness or well-being? What did that journey look like for you? SaraEllen Hutchison: [00:12:28] It was a few steps. I have off and on been a big journaler. So what I did, because I realized I had been just so happily working, working, working, that I hadn't been journaling. And my life was pretty good and happy, so I wasn't meditating. And I felt pretty good physically, I was active and everything. So I thought well, you know, no reason for me to slow down. I realized I had to do all of those things; I had to pick up my journaling practice again. I had to pick up meditation practice again. [00:13:12] You know, there's a big part of me that's a bit of an introvert. So I had to just create more downtime for myself, so for me that turned into going out to eat less and just riding my bike to the grocery store or something very simple like that. Where I'm just bathing in my own energy and not necessarily having a constant hustle and bustle of being out in the world. Just having some active meditation time where I'm just quiet, you know. So being quiet, doing activities by myself; just because the work can be so busy, and your social life could be so busy. And just taking that time and you know, changing what I was doing to stay physically healthy. Like you know, if my work is kind of intense, you know litigation practice can be pretty intense, maybe I don't need to also be in a competitive CrossFit class. [00:14:21] As much fun as that is for a lawyer and a type-A person, to go be competitive for fun, maybe that was counterproductive on certain levels. Will I say no to that forever? You know, probably not. I mean I don't like absolutes, but just trying to create a counterbalance to the intensity and in the fast pace. Jeena Cho: [00:14:49] Yeah, it sounds like so much of that journey was learning to treat yourself kindly. There's this tendency for us lawyers to sort of go and drive ourselves exhaustion, rather than treating ourselves kindly and as we would a good friend. And I've certainly gone through that experience of almost using exercise as, you know it's like exercise is supposed to be good for you. But there is also a point in which you're doing it but it's, you know maybe like counter to the actual goal. Like you were talking about, going to CrossFit and just pushing yourself a little bit too hard. Which is probably not what you were needing, especially if you were going through burnout at the office. SaraEllen Hutchison: [00:15:43] There is a time and place for everything. There was a point in my life where I had a job that I really enjoyed but I was not challenged very much. And so you know, being competitive outside of my job helped scratch that itch. But then when the stakes were higher several years later, I don't need to raise the stakes in every aspect of my life. You know, there needs to be a place where you can just be average. Where you don't have to perform, you don't have to be on. You don't need to measure yourself, you don't need to strive or achieve or even have a goal. Jeena Cho: [00:16:35] Yeah and I think that's such an important point, that over the course of your life your self-care practices are going to look different and that it will shift. Like it may be fine to do CrossFit at certain points of your life, but then as your life circumstances change, as your body changes, that we sort of have to modify what we do for self-care and those various activities. SaraEllen Hutchison: [00:17:02] Exactly. Jeena Cho: [00:17:03] So I know that this whole journey from burnout into, I don't know, something better, healthier, also gave you some insight into creating a more frugal and lower overhead solo practice. So tell me about that. SaraEllen Hutchison: [00:17:23] Yeah, so I was making pretty good money. I am making pretty good money. And the first couple of years that it started to really take off for me, I was just enjoying the relief of like, ahhh I can breathe. Everything's paid off and I can breathe. And then you get to another level where I had this huge tax bill. And it was about the time that I was burned out, that income was the product of a really hard working year you know, I earned it. Right? And I knew that I was going to have this tax bill, and I had the money set aside, I was responsible and all that stuff. But when it came time to pay it, I was not emotionally ready for it. [00:18:29] It made me look very deep into myself and go, why am I working so hard? Did I put forth double the effort to just get 30% more benefit? And so I had to ask myself, what I am a part of here? You know, doing consumer protection law you are running into people who are all across the socioeconomic spectrum, and they're all middle class people. But there are some at one end who are barely making ends meet and have you issues with debt collectors and creditors and are doing a spinning plates game with credit cards just to get by because they've been dealt a bad hand or have been unconscious about their own relationship with money. [00:19:47] And then on the other end, you have people who have great credit and high incomes, and spend a great deal of what they make. And when something happens that isn't their fault that still interferes with their ability to get the credit that they're otherwise qualified to get, it's a big deal to them. And so I was like, what am I working for? I'm bailing people out on one end, and then I'm just helping people spend money on the other end. And you know, is this good for anybody? And the busier I got, and I've always had a pretty low overhead practice. Off and on I've used a little contract labor here or there, I don't have any assistants or anything. But off and on I have used independent contractors and off and on I've used an answering service. And I got so busy that I was spending more on the answering service and the phone was ringing a lot. And a lot of it was just you know, I didn't have time and I didn't have space in my caseload. And I was spending all this money just to manage things that I wasn't going to get any benefit from and wasn't going to benefit anybody else. These are just people calling me that I can't help. Jeena Cho: [00:21:18] Yeah. And you know, I think that (because I do bankruptcy law, so I see my clients go through their own financial struggles) we're not really given a whole lot of tools for having a healthy relationship with money. And it wasn't until more recently that I actually had to sort of sit down and ask myself, these money beliefs that I have and like where do they actually come from, and are they actually serving me. And some of them are just, I don't know beliefs that I had that weren't true. Like I always sort of thought well you know, really wealthy people they're all bad or that someone like me can never be wealthy or someone like me can only earn a certain amount of money. [00:22:12] And it's just such an interesting thing, and for me it's actually become sort of more like a spiritual practice. To really sort of examine my relationship with money. And it sounds like maybe that was kind of part of your journey too and just sort of figuring out what is my relationship with money, what are the limiting beliefs I have around money? SaraEllen Hutchison: [00:22:34] Absolutely. I grew up in a middle-class household, middle-class family, everybody has a college education but no one's rich. And just the messages I got about money, some of them were really, really good. And some of them did limit me, and I had to work through those to just open up my channel to really earn what I was worth it. And once I had done that, then it was a whole new level of (and I feel like it's a privilege to even be able to ask this question) what's the larger meaning of my work. And you know, in the consumer credit realm, very broadly law, what's my spiritual role in the lives of my clients? You know, I just I don't really go there with my clients. There are limits to what we can do as legal practitioners. Jeena Cho: [00:23:53] Right, they're there because they want to hire you as a lawyer, not as their financial therapist. SaraEllen Hutchison: [00:23:59] Exactly. But when I am in that role, I'm holding an energy of this is a teaching opportunity. This is an educational opportunity. I'm still learning. I've been learning. And I spend a good deal of time thinking about what is the energy of money. What's our relationship to money in American culture, because that's a topic unto itself. And there's a reason why this person has found me and not one of the other lawyers in town. I mean that's one thing, there's not a lot of Fair Credit Reporting Act lawyers running around. And the other ones who are Washington licensed are excellent. But we all have our own flavor; we all have our own vibe and our own styles about how we relate to our clients. And I think it's really important to like your clients, only take on the people that you like. That's very important because you might be with this person for a year or two, on a journey toward their wholeness. Making them whole from their harm. Jeena Cho: [00:25:33] Getting a new website design can be a huge pain. But, what if I told you about building a new website for your law firm didn't have to suck? My friends at Spotlight Branding pride themselves on their responsiveness, on great communication, and on delivering results for their clients. And Spotlight Branding doesn't lock their clients into long-term contracts. In fact, they offer a no risk, money-back guarantee on their work so that you can have total peace of mind while you work with them. Spotlight Branding will help you stand out from the competition, drive more referrals, and ultimately achieve the growth you're looking for. Their team is currently offering a special, complementary website for our listeners. Visit spotlightbranding.com/trl to learn more. Jeena Cho: [00:26:28] You know I want to actually go back to something you just said a moment ago about knowing your worth, because that's something that I often struggle with, it is figuring out how much are my services worth, and actually valuing it appropriately. Talk a little bit more about that, how did you figure out, when you say I had to figure out what I'm worth, what did that journey look like. And how did you end up coming up with that conclusion? And was it a certain dollar amount that you came up with? Or was it just more, I don't know, something different? SaraEllen Hutchison: [00:27:11] That's been a lifelong process for me. For whatever reason, I had a pattern growing up and in my younger adulthood where I felt like I had to work really hard to get half the credit of other people around me. I don't know why. It started in ballet class. That's a whole nother topic. But I just had to, I guess we're taught to be humble and not to toot our own horn too much. And not to be shamelessly self-promoting. I mean those were definitely messages I got. You know, don't be too boastful. And then, when you get into a workplace...I mean when you're in law school, there's a lot of ego flying around, whatever. But at the end of the day, you're just competing for a grade and you don't have the office politics dynamics in law school that you have in actual workplaces. [00:28:36] And once got out into the work world, and I might have been one of two female lawyers. And there might have been seven or eight male lawyers for every gal. I found that my reluctance to toot my own horn or to overestimate my abilities and actually to underestimate my abilities in the interest of humility and caution and good taste, that did not help me. And I just wanted to compete for a personal best, and that just wasn't the culture of most places to work. [00:29:28] And when I went solo, I finally could have a safe bubble around myself where I am not really in any kind of power struggle with anybody in my workplace. All of the jerks are external to me. It's opposing counsel or it's a judge who has no feelings for the little guy or whatever. But then I was suddenly removed from it. And I decided that I wanted to do well financially, I was doing okay but it wasn't great. I knew that I was underpaid in my previous jobs. And so I just started journaling affirmations about income goals, like and it seemed really huge. The kind of numbers that now are what I expect to do and is not all that remarkable for me, was a big deal five years ago. And so I would journal goals. There was a book that I found about the time that I was studying for the bar called, "Write it Down, Make it Happen." It's a really light read but it really inspired me. And I was already a journaler and already somebody who would write down goals and everything, but it gave me a lot of ideas about how I could use visualization to greater effect and gave me some ideas for my journaling that were really effective. And I continued to refer back to that book off and on for years. That was a great find. Jeena Cho: [00:31:35] There is that Goldilocks dilemma, and I feel like it's more permanent for women. But you know it's like, be successful but don't be too successful. It's like what you were saying earlier about like, don't be a showoff but be really good at what you do. But don't brag about yourself. And earn money, but don't earn too much. And it's just this impossible tightrope that we have to walk. SaraEllen Hutchison: [00:32:04] Yeah. I mean so no wonder a certain amount of anxiety has been normalized. It's great that we all can identify with each other and hopefully have some empathy, but it's not good if something that's not really optimal is the "new normal." What an excuse, the new normal. Why be normal if you can be healthier? it takes a little bit of mental jiu-jitsu sometimes, but it's worth it. Jeena Cho: [00:32:42] I feel like as lawyers there's this pressure to sort of "keep up with the Joneses" or you your partner or other lawyers in your circle. And there's also this weird dynamic with money where we literally trade six minute increments for a certain dollar amount, which necessarily means that we can only generate so much income because there's only 1,440 minutes a day. And I feel like the way that we even think about money, there's just something really dysfunctional or not healthy about it. SaraEllen Hutchison: [00:33:20] Exactly. The life cycle of your average lawyer is, you work your butt off in law school and you pay a significant amount of money to go. And then you emerge into the practice and you have a big bill and your student loans to pay off. And then if you are working at a law firm, I mean obviously it depends on where you're located, if you are in a city or if you're in a small town. If it's public sector, if it's nonprofits, if it's private firms. There's a big, big, wide variation. But let's just take an average, all of a sudden you need to look the part, you need to look like you're a success. [00:34:26] You don't want to look like that frumpy person who shows up to court in the suit that has a stain on it and a bunch of pilley fuzzies under the arms or something. And there's a lot of lawyers who are like, well you know I'm making money now. As long as I'm servicing all of my debts and I have enough to live in this expensive house and drive this expensive car and have these expensive dinners out and also pay my student loans, then that's fine. [00:35:09] No one thinks that it's going to crash down on them. And no one thinks that they're going to run out of energy. Like oh, as long as I don't run out of money I'll be fine. I'll just continue to work harder and do better every year. And then I'll have enough when I'm when I'm 65 so I can retire and sail off into the sunset. And I think a lot of people get to the point where, if you're making a million dollars a year, but you're spending $900,000 to do it, to live the life, to keep up with it. Then how are you any different from the person who's just got a part-time practice out of their kitchen? And ultimately it's the utility of your time, and your time is money. [00:36:11] Like you said, we live in these tenth of an hour increments. Well what about the value of your own life force? I really like the book "Your Money or Your Life." by Vicki Robin. Some of the finance advice in there is a little bit dated, and that's acknowledged in later editions of the book. So you might want to branch out and read other things to get a complete plan for yourself. It's like when you're exercising on a treadmill or outside running hills. What's your rate of perceived exertion? Is this a five, where you can still carry on a conversation? Or is it a 10, where you can't talk and you are about to collapse in a pool of your own sweat? [00:37:10] If you can calibrate that for yourself in your work and then you look back at the past year, you will find that there are certain cases where maybe you might have made a large pile of money on it. But it took a lot of your life force, and it's trade-off. Like that's fine, you make that trade-off. But are you going to make that trade-off at the same pace every year for the rest of your life? And are you going to set up your own personal financial plan on the assumption that you're going to be able to continue at this pace for that many years? And I offer to anyone listening that practicing law, especially if your practice touches on policy at all, in today's polarized culture and environment it's not going to be sustainable at that pace. For all but the most special amazing people; an average person with an average amount of energy is not going to be able to sustain it at the same pace and keep up with their lifestyle for that long. But unfortunately the culture of law is, if you want to take a mini-sabbatical and go travel for three months, you don't have a job when you come back. You're a weirdo if you want to do something like that. And the millennial generation, people criticize them for being flighty or whatever, but they got something right. They're honoring that part of themselves and I know that some of them I've talked to really struggle going into the traditional law firm environment. Because you know, they want your butt in that chair X number of hours a week, pushing it and billing it whether it's really billable and they're to be billed or not. [00:39:39] It's very disordered. It's kind of a factory farm model of employing people to perform a service. I like to be more of a free-range lawyer. Jeena Cho: [00:39:58] Yeah. And I think understanding your own boundaries and your limitations is so important. And coming around full circle and avoiding burnout is, you know, I think burnout is stress, chronic stress sustained over a period of time that leads to burnout. [00:40:19] And often we just, you work and work and work, and we don't realize that we're kind of going at that 10 speed, where you're just sort of huffing and puffing, trying to catch your breath and you can't carry on a conversation. But we don't even recognize that that's where we're at. And I think that's where the danger comes in, like if that's your intention to work at that pace, great. But at least be mindful of it, like be cognizant of the fact that that's what you're doing. And also have it be something that is coming from a choice, an intentional choice that you're making rather than just going along with it whatever lands at your desk and not really paying attention to your own well-being. SaraEllen Hutchison: [00:41:05] Exactly. I think you know, you want to sustain that pace for five or ten years, then you should be saving a large portion of your income. So that you can slow down considerably after that amount. Even if you love it, even if you never want to actually retire from practicing and being of service, that's not what this is about. It's giving yourself the option to take care of yourself. For me you know, that's been self-employment. The answers might be different for other people. Jeena Cho: [00:41:51] Yeah and I think that's really important to point out, that there's no like singular right answer. And I think also that's where having self-knowledge is really important. Which is why I'm also such a huge advocate of having a regular mindfulness practice, because that gives you insight to yourself. And it's kind of shocking how little we often know about ourselves and what our limitations. Or even what we desire. Jeena Cho: [00:42:24] Well SaraEllen, I am so grateful to you for joining us and for your time. But one last question before I let you go. The name of this podcast is called The Resilient Lawyer. What does it mean to be a resilient lawyer to you? SaraEllen Hutchison: [00:42:41] I liked what you said earlier about boundaries, to know yourself, to know your limits, and to find a sustainable way of practicing. Jeena Cho: [00:42:55] And if you're doing it right, hopefully this will be a long career. It's a marathon not a sprint. SaraEllen Hutchison: [00:43:01] Yeah, and it takes time to calibrate your boundaries. And they change. You know, you might have a great sense of case selection at your firm, and then when you go solo all of a sudden you need to learn it all over again. But you learn it faster than you did the time before. And I think just being flexible. That would be part of it too. Being flexible, knowing yourself, being flexible and being willing to constantly question and experiment. Jeena Cho: [00:43:39] I love that. SaraEllen, for the listeners out there that want to learn more about you or check out your blog or connect with you, what are the best ways of doing that? SaraEllen Hutchison: [00:43:50] I would love it if you would check out my blog, it is at saraellenhutchison.com. And Sara does not have an "H" and Hutchison does not have an "N" there, it's just the end "Hutch-is-son." And you can also check out my practice website that is seattlefaircredit.com. Jeena Cho: [00:44:18] Awesome. SaraEllen, thank you so much for joining me today. SaraEllen Hutchison: [00:44:23] Thank you. I am honored to be part of this great podcast. [00:44:33] Thanks for joining us on The Resilient Lawyer podcast. If you've enjoyed the show, please tell a friend. It's really the best way to grow the show. To leave us a review on iTunes, search for The Resilient Lawyer and give us your honest feedback. It goes a long way to help with our visibility when you do that, so we really appreciate it. As always, we'd love to hear from you. E-mail us at smile@theanxiouslawyer.com. Thanks and we look forward to seeing you next week.

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