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What if the real reason your relationship feels off has nothing to do with love and everything to do with how you handle conflict?In this episode of The Happy Hustle Podcast, I sat down with my brother Jayson Gaddis for one of the realest conversations I've had about relationships, conflict, masculinity, and what it actually takes to build a thriving partnership while still chasing big dreams. Jayson is the founder of The Relationship School, a Wall Street Journal bestselling author of Getting to Zero, a husband, a father, and a former licensed psychotherapist who has spent decades in the trenches helping couples repair connection and communicate better. Over 100,000 people have gone through his programs, and it's easy to see why this dude doesn't sugarcoat the truth, but he delivers it with heart, humility, and wisdom.This episode matters because a lot of high-performing entrepreneurs are unknowingly burning down their most important relationship while trying to build everything else. We're great at hiring coaches for business, fitness, and money, but when it comes to marriage or partnership, we assume we should “just know.” Jayson breaks that myth wide open and shows why conflict isn't the problem… avoiding it is.One of the biggest takeaways for me was how ego and defensiveness quietly sabotage connection. Jayson explains how many men react from shame without realizing it, and how that defensiveness blocks intimacy and trust. Another powerful lesson was reframing conflict as a skill, not a sign you're with the wrong person. Conflict is inevitable. Learning how to repair is what separates relationships that grow stronger from those that slowly erode.We also dive deep into one of the most practical tools I've ever learned for communication: LUFU—Listen Until the other person Feels Understood. Sounds simple, but it's a total game-changer. Jayson walks through how to actually do it in real life, not theory, and why leading with understanding, not apologies, calms the nervous system and creates safety. That alone can transform how arguments end… and how connected you feel afterward.Another huge insight was understanding attachment styles, why one partner often wants space while the other wants to talk, and how those childhood patterns show up under stress. When you can recognize the dynamic underneath the argument, everything shifts. You stop fighting the person and start addressing the pattern.Finally, Jayson brings it home with a reminder we all need: great relationships aren't built when things feel easy; they're built through consistent repair, honest conversations, and a willingness to grow. Just like the gym, you don't work on your relationship only when it's broken. You train it for the long game.If you want to build a business you're proud of and a relationship that actually fuels your life instead of draining it, this episode is a must-listen. What does Happy Hustlin mean to you?Jayson says it means I'm working hard, it's not coming at the expense of my marriage or my kids or my own health and well-being. I'm able to be fulfilled working hard.Connect with JaysonInstagramYoutubeFacebookXTiktokLinkedinFind Jayson on his website: https://www.jaysongaddis.com/Connect with Cary!InstagramFacebookLinkedinTwitterYoutube Get a copy of his new book, The Happy Hustle, 10 Alignments to Avoid Burnout & Achieve Blissful BalanceSign up for The Journey: 10 Days To Become a Happy Hustler Online CourseApply to the Montana Mastermind Epic Camping Adventure“It's time to Happy Hustle, a blissfully balanced life you love, full of passion, purpose, and positive impact!”Episode Sponsors:If you're feeling stressed, not sleeping great, or your energy's been kinda meh lately—let me put you on to something that's been a total game-changer for me: Magnesium Breakthrough by BiOptimizers. This ain't your average magnesium—it's got all 7 essential forms that your body needs to chill out, sleep deeper, and feel more balanced. I take it every night and legit notice the difference the next day. No more waking up groggy or tossing and turning all nightIf you're ready to sleep like a baby, calm your nervous system, and optimize your recovery, go grab yours now at bioptimizers.com/happy and use code HAPPY10 for 10% OFF.
Jayson explores what it really takes to be yourself in relationship and in life. Why does hiding who you are come at such a high cost? What kind of courage does it take to live authentically, and why do intimate relationships often force an awakening to your true self?Timestamps:0:35 - The courage to be oneself3:00 - You can't be fulfilled when you hide who you really are8:13 - Awakening to who you really are through your intimate relationships13:43 - Jayson's newsletterLinks:The Relationship SchoolFollow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
Jayson examines why the masculine feminine framework often creates more problems than it solves. How can this framing be harmful for men? Why does trying to change your partner keep people stuck? What role does attachment play in relationship dynamics, and what is a better way to understand gender issues altogether? Jayson also reflects on his own experience with this framework and offers a more grounded perspective.Timestamps:2:12 - How the masculine-feminine frame can be bad for men3:57 - The trap of trying to change your partner6:09 - The importance of understanding attachment8:53 - A better framing11:11 - Social determinants of gender issues12:19 - Jayson's experience with the masculine-feminine frameLinks:The Relationship SchoolFollow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
How do you recognize someone who has actually earned wisdom? In this conversation, Jayson breaks down what makes an elder an elder. He explains why it has nothing to do with age or status, how real elders show emotional maturity, what it means to hold space without fixing or rescuing, and why outgrowing your parents is a part of becoming an elder. If you want to understand who to trust, who to learn from, or how to become someone worth following, this episode lays it out clearly.Timestamps:2:21 - Elders are people who did the work5:46 - Elders hold space9:28 - Outgrowing your parentsLinks:The Relationship SchoolFollow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
What happens when you spend your life trying to be the good one, the agreeable one, or the one who never makes waves? Jayson breaks down the hidden exhaustion that comes from living in your strategic self. He explains how masking drains your energy, why people in strategy stay on the surface, and what it takes to reconnect with your true self. If you feel tired from managing how you come across, this episode shows you why and what to do next.Timestamps:0:21 - Are you tired from wearing a mask?3:42 - If you're trying to be good you've already lost5:12 - The difference between your strategic self and your true self7:10 - People in their strategy stay surface levelLinks:The Relationship SchoolFollow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
What makes securely attached families different? Jayson explores how self-examination and meaning making play a vital role in healthy relationships. He explains why understanding your own story and continuing to make meaning from it is essential for building lasting connection and security.Timestamps:0:40 - The hallmark of securely attached families2:55 - Clients need to do self-examination5:19 - Making meaning is an ongoing processLinks:The Relationship SchoolFollow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
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What makes securely attached families different? Jayson explores how self-examination and meaning making play a vital role in healthy relationships. He explains why understanding your own story and continuing to make meaning from it is essential for building lasting connection and security.Timestamps:0:40 - The hallmark of securely attached families2:55 - Clients need to do self-examination5:19 - Making meaning is an ongoing processLinks:The Relationship SchoolFollow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
How do you know what to actually work on in yourself or your relationship? Jayson explains how to identify your pain points, avoid vague or unhelpful advice, and set goals that lead to real progress. If you're tired of spinning your wheels in personal growth, this episode will help you focus on what really matters.Timestamps:1:50 - Identify your pain points4:09 - Don't settle for vague help5:30 - Set goals around your pain pointsLinks:The Relationship SchoolFollow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
Avoiding hard conversations doesn't make them go away. It builds resentment, distance, and unresolved tension. In this episode, Jayson unpacks why avoiding conflict costs more than it saves, how to approach difficult conversations with honesty and care, and why vulnerability is the key to repair.Timestamps:1:00 - The cost of not having difficult conversations7:00 - How to have hard difficult conversations10:50 - Leading with vulnerability13:00 - Learning to repair after difficult conversationsLinks:The Relationship SchoolFollow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
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In the wake of the Charlie Kirk shooting and the Evergreen High School shooting, Jayson reflects on the wave of hatred and blame that erupts online after tragedy. From a Buddhist perspective, he explores how we can stop seeing others as the enemy, reclaim our focus, and begin creating the kind of world we actually want to live in.Timestamps:0:44 - Hatred and blame on social media1:41 - A Buddhist perspective3:53 - Stop seeing other people as the enemy5:46 - Controlling your focus7:56 - The world I want to live inLinks:The Relationship SchoolFollow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
Jayson breaks down the hidden problems with reassurance. What's wrong with saying “it's going to be okay”? When is reassurance actually appropriate, and when does it backfire? What makes reassurance a problem in coaching or therapy? Jayson explains what to say instead and why a deeper response is far more effective for real growth.Timestamps:0:32 - What's wrong with saying “it's going to be okay”?2:12 - When reassurance is appropriate4:14 - The problem with reassurance as a coach or therapist6:10 - What to say instead of “it's going to be okay”Links:The Relationship SchoolFollow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
Jayson explores the dynamics of conflict avoidance and why so many people are scared to speak up. What childhood roots contribute to staying silent? Who are you really protecting when you avoid conflict? How does the fear of abandonment keep you quiet? Jayson also unpacks the role of differentiation in learning to bring things up with courage and clarity.Timestamps:0:44 - Conflict avoidance1:28 - Childhood roots of being scared to speak up2:33 - Who are you really protecting by avoiding conflict?3:34 - Fear of abandonment7:25 - DifferentiationLinks:The Relationship SchoolFollow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
Jayson unpacks the difference between secure attachment and falling in love. Can you have secure attachment in a brand-new relationship? Why do people often confuse the rush of falling in love with genuine security? When does the attachment system actually turn on? Jayson shares how to support clients who are navigating the complexities of new relationships.Timestamps:0:41 - Secure attachment in a new relationship?2:28 - Confusing falling in love with secure attachment4:09 - When does the attachment system turn on?9:13 - Working with clients in new relationshipsLinks:The Relationship SchoolFollow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
Jayson explores why no one is truly broken. What should you do when a client feels like they are? Why can't you get rid of any part of yourself - and why is that a good thing? Jayson explains why every part of you has value and how embracing all of yourself can be a powerful path to healing.Timestamps:1:12 - Why no one is broken8:11 - What to do when a client feels broken9:16 - You can't get rid of any part of yourself11:31 - You need all parts of yourselfLinks:The Relationship SchoolFollow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
How should you coach men effectively? Jayson unpacks the impact of male social conditioning and what it means for therapy and coaching. What's different about working with men in couples therapy? How can coaches help men break out of rigid gender roles without making them feel inferior?Jayson also shares tips for navigating defensiveness and creating safety while challenging growth. Don't miss this direct and practical episode on supporting men more skillfully.Timestamps:1:48 - Male social conditioning7:30 - Men in couples therapy10:37 - What to do differently when coaching men21:42 - Escaping the gender straightjacket26:05 - When you sense a man getting defensive26:37 - Don't make men feel inferiorLinks:The Relationship SchoolFollow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
Jayson dives into the challenge of getting over anger toward your parents. Did your parents drop the ball in ways that still affect you today? How does your past shape your present relationships? What does it actually look like to move from victim to author? And how do you know when you've truly let resentment go?Jayson also explores why it's important not to focus solely on the negative, how growth can happen through adversity, and the personal cost of holding on to anger. Don't miss this powerful solo episode.Timestamps:1:50 - Did your parents drop the ball?4:45 - Your past impacts your present8:13 - Moving from victim to author11:04 - How do you know when you've let resentment go14:53 - Don't solely focus on negatives18:03 - Growth through adversity20:53 - The personal cost of anger and resentmentLinks:The Relationship SchoolFollow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
Are you stuck in victimhood? Jayson breaks down how to invert the victim triangle and make the shift from victim to author. What's the difference between blame and responsibility? Is being in the victim seat always a bad thing? Stay tuned until the end when Jayson shares one important question you should always ask your clients - and yourself.Timestamps:0:55 - The victim/drama triangle5:08 - The difference between blame and responsibility6:58 - Getting out of the victim seat8:31 - Inverting the victim triangle15:00 - Making the journey from victim to author18:15 - One challenging questionLinks:Relationship Coach TrainingFollow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
Jayson Gaddis is an artist, best selling author, podcaster, speaker, executive coach, CEO, founder, human behavior specialist and relationship expert. He is the creator of Interpersonal Intelligence® and Present Centered Relationship Coaching® and has trained hundreds of coaches in 11 countries. He is the author of the book ‘Getting to Zero: How to work Through Conflict In Your High Stakes Relationships'. He's been married to his amazing wife since 2007, has two beautiful kids, and lives in Boulder, Colorado. Join the free live call: DEEP RELATIONSHIP COACHING Join the course: RELATIONSHIP COACH TRAINING Use the code ‘sacredsons' for $1000 off! On this Episode: Jayson Gaddis | @jaysongaddis Adam Jackson | @adam___jackson Use the Promo Code: ‘SUMMER20' for 20% Off All Sacred Sons Offerings! Start Here–Check In With Sacred Sons: Check-In Survey Join The Circle Online Community: Join The Circle Join a Sacred Sons Event Near You: Event Calendar Sacred Sons Signature Events: CONVERGENCE X: Across Nations REMEMBRANCE II: Seeds of Change Connect with Sacred Sons: Shop: Sacred Sons Apparel & Cacao Instagram: @sacredsons Website: sacredsons.com YouTube: Sacred Sons Music: Ancient Future Want to become a Sponsor of Sacred Sons Podcast? Sponsorship Request Form
Is it time to fire your coach or therapist? Jayson breaks it down. Do the sessions you attend feel more like coffee dates? Is your trauma going unaddressed? Have you been seeing a practitioner for years without making real progress? If you're struggling to see results, you won't want to miss this episode.Timestamps:5:26 - Your story isn't being challenged6:35 - Sessions feel like a coffee date7:36 - Therapy feels like a friendship8:56 - Trauma isn't being addressed11:31 - No change is happening13:13 - Uncritically siding with your story15:20 - The asks are too challenging17:26 - You're not doing your homework21:19 - Final thoughtsLinks:Follow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
Jayson breaks down how to coach yourself using AI and shares a variety of example prompts. Can AI offer constructive criticism? What can it do with astrology and Gene Keys? Can it give you a tough-love wake-up call? Stick around until the end to learn how you can use AI to get the most out of your therapy sessions!Timestamps:2:40 - Ways to use AI as a client4:52 - Using AI for constructive criticism7:50 - Astrology10:27 - Tough love13:36 - Getting the most out of therapyLinks:Follow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
Jayson discusses the role of AI in the therapy and coaching space. Will AI replace therapists and coaches? Can it ever be better than a real coach or therapist? What are the downsides of using AI to coach yourself? Stay tuned until the end of the episode to find out how you can thrive—rather than just survive—as a coach or therapist in the age of AI.Timestamps:5:42 - Price point9:10 - Who will lose their jobs?12:53 - What AI can't replace19:24 - AI and intuition23:47 - How should coaches and therapists adapt to AI?Links:Follow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
If you want to get the most out of therapy or coaching, it's important to know how to be a great client. In this episode, Jayson shares his experience of being a client and breaks down how you can make sure you're getting the results you want. Is it ever okay not to make progress? Learn how to advocate for yourself, prepare for your sessions, stay accountable to friends and family, and much more in this episode!Timestamps:1:40 - Is it okay not to make progress?4:01 - Jayson's story8:51 - How to be a good client15:53 - When to have a frank conversation with your coach or therapistLinks:Follow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
What's wrong with going into fix-it mode when someone shares their problems?Jayson explains why it's better to offer understanding rather than jumping in with solutions—and how people are more likely to come up with their own answers when they feel truly heard.Timestamps:0:03 - What's wrong with "fix-it" mode?3:49 - Reflecting instead of fixing7:08 - Giving people space to come up with their own solutions8:30 - Understanding first, then solutionsLinks:Follow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
How should you coach someone who wants to be in a successful relationship? Jayson breaks it down. Do you need to have successful relationships yourself to coach effectively? How can you teach your clients the skills they need to develop, and what does that process look like? Don't miss this insightful episode.Timestamps:0:36 - You have to have successful relationships7:05 - Skill acquisition13:27 - Don't be uncomfortable with intimacy Links:Follow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
Jayson breaks down motivational interviewing. What is it? Can you force your clients to change? What should you do if a client is ambivalent about change? Is your client placing value on the right things? Whether you're a coach or a client, you won't want to miss this insightful episode.Timestamps:1:50 - Placing value on the right things3:34 - Motivational interviewing5:57 - Ambivalence about change11:37 - You can't force people to changeLinks:Become A Certified Relationship Coach (RCT) Follow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook
Jayson explores the pros and cons of coaching. Is coaching more effective than therapy? He discusses the lack of standards in coaching, the absence of trauma training, and the potential shallowness of the approach. Jayson also examines why prioritizing results over feelings can be problematic. However, he also highlights why coaching can sometimes be a better option than therapy. Why choose coaching? Tune in to find out. Timestamps: 0:57 - A lack of standards 4:26 - Results over feelings 7:47 - Does coaching get better results? 14:10 - Conclusion Links: Become A Certified Relationship Coach (RCT) Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook
Jayson breaks down the pros and cons of talk therapy. Where does talk therapy come up short? What are its strengths? What kind of therapy should you progress to after talk therapy? Why are relationships better than talk therapy? Whether you're a client, coach, or therapist, you won't want to miss this insightful episode. Timestamps: 3:13 - Where talk therapy comes up short 5:55 - Positive outcomes of talk therapy 8:33 - Moving on after talk therapy 10:28 - Relationships are better than talk therapy 13:11 - Conclusion Links: Become A Certified Relationship Coach (RCT) Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook
What is your main job as a coach? Jayson discusses the importance of giving your clients permission to be messy, finding key relationships where they can be authentic, and providing them with a sense of certainty. He also explains why your ultimate goal as a coach should be to work yourself out of a job. Tune in to discover how to help people authentically be themselves while achieving what they want in life. Timestamps: 4:52 Giving your clients permission to be messy 8:45 Finding key relationships 13:15 Summery Links: Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook
Jayson talks about what it means to truly love a client. What is the real definition of love? Why is being challenged so important? How do we “accept” ourselves and work on being better at the same time? How does accepting our limitations empower us? And why is it crucial not to expect relationships to be easy? Join Jayson as he explores the second principle of present-centered relationship coaching. Timestamps: 1:09 - What is love? 8:25 - Don't expect relationships to be easy 14:53 - Self-acceptance and self-mastery Links: Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook
Jayson shares his #1 principle for coaches and therapists. Learn how to empower your clients instead of treating them as fragile. It's time to stop missing the forest for the trees and take a broader view. Tune in to discover what powerful phrase he comes from in this episode. Timestamps: 1:10 - Taking a larger view 4:14 - The foundational principle 10:00 - Empower you clients Links: Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook
What is the role of therapy and coaching? In this overview episode, Jayson explores how humans navigate relationships. Why do we betray ourselves in pursuit of belonging? How can coaches challenge clients who seek the path of least resistance? When we choose not to grow, we pass on trauma. Whether you're a coach or a client, you'll find valuable insights in this episode. Timestamps: 2:28 - What is the context of coaching and therapy? 10:13 - Seeking pleasure and avoiding pain 13:47 - Projecting onto your partner 17:48 - Your shadow 22:49 - Challenging clients who choose the path of least resistance Links: Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook
Big changes are happening at The Relationship School Podcast! In this special update, Jayson Gaddis shares the new direction of the show, now called The Relationship Coaching School Podcast, focusing on coaching, therapy, and transformation. Whether you're a coach, therapist, or an engaged client looking to maximize results, this new format will deepen your understanding of human relationships and personal growth. Plus, Jayson teases an exciting new podcast with his wife, Ellen, and announces updates to his coaching training program—including in-person intensives. Tune in to hear what's next! Links: Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook
In this coaching session, Jayson works with Becca, a woman navigating a relationship with a partner who doesn't acknowledge her feelings. How should you deal with a partner who isn't open to seeking relationship help? What should you do if your partner struggles to handle your emotions? If you're in a relationship with someone who doesn't recognize your feelings, you won't want to miss this powerful session. Timestamps: 6:11 - When a partner isn't on board to get help 13:00 - When a partner won't recognize your feelings 16:50 - Don't settle for not being met Links: Communication Breakthrough System Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook
Jason Gaddis explores the nuances of sustaining healthy long-term relationships. He discusses self-reflection, setting boundaries, and open communication to enhance partnerships. Drawing on insights from Gaddis's book 'Getting to Zero,' the episode emphasizes resolving conflicts, mutual support, and tackling intimacy challenges, particularly relevant for women in perimenopause and menopause.This episode includes practical tips like financial reviews and date nights, underlining the critical link between relational health and overall well-being. Resources from the Relationship School offer further support, making this episode a vital guide for middle-aged women seeking to strengthen their relationship dynamics.Episode Overview:0:00 Intro/Teaser7:54 Challenges of Love and Hard Work11:35 Exploring Healthy Relationships and Codependency17:08 Building Secure Attachment Through Conflict Repair29:00 Knowing When to Let Go32:28 Navigating Mismatched Sex Drives in Relationships39:51 Navigating Emotional Affairs and Relationship Repair51:32 Impact of Divorce on Families1:01:10 Maintaining Connection and Family Values1:11:01 Impact of Relationships on HealthTo find the resources mentioned in this episode, please go to: https://drstephanieestima.com/podcasts/conflict-intimacy-in-long-term-relationships/Bio:Jayson Gaddis is an artist, best selling author, podcaster, speaker, coach, CEO, founder, human behavior specialist and relationship expert. He is the creator of Interpersonal Intelligence® and Present Centered Relationship Coaching® and has trained hundreds of coaches in 14 countries. His book Getting to Zero: How to work Through Conflict In Your High Stakes Relationships was #2 on the Wall Street Journal best seller list and was voted Editors Choice, Best non-fiction, and Best Leadership and Business book in 2021 on Amazon. He's been married to his amazing wife since 2007 and has two beautiful kids. They live in Boulder, Colorado. When he doesn't live and breathe this relationship stuff with his family, he pretty much gets his ass handed to him. He is the host of The Relationship School podcast: https://relationshipschool.com/relationship-school-podcastWe are grateful to our sponsors:EQUIP CLEAN COFFEEFor mold-free coffee with regenerative and sustainable practices, preserved antioxidants, and an exceptional taste, head over to https://EquipFoods.com/better and use code BETTER in the checkout to save 20% off your first order.PRIMEADINEPrimeadine has been shown to support memory, cognition, heart health, balanced hormones, and improved hair growth and fullness. If you are interested in trying it out, go to https://OxfordHealthspan.com/DrStephanie and use code DrStephanie15 to get 15% off of your order.COLDTUREEmbrace the cold with Coldture, the simplest and most fun way to feel the benefit of cold water immersion from the comfort of your home without having to load up ice in the bathtub. Head on over to https://coldture.com/drstephanie. And you are going to get $600 off plus 0% financing for 12 months on your Coldture cold plunge tub.
In this live coaching session, Jayson coaches Sharon, a woman struggling with self-worth and feelings of not being enough. How can you stop repeating untrue stories to yourself and create new associations? What's the best way to start focusing on the ways you are enough? What are you gaining by staying in negative patterns? If you're struggling with self-worth or feeling like you're not enough, you won't want to miss this inspiring coaching session. Timestamps: 6:00 - Struggling with shame 10:00 - The pattern of feeling not enough 15:24 - Recognizing the areas where you are enough 20:28 - Creating new associations Links: Communication Breakthrough System Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook
In this live coaching session, Jayson coaches Susan, a woman who has identified her spending patterns as problematic. How do you know when a behavior crosses over into an addiction? How does a lack of meaning contribute to addiction? What role can healthy relationships play in helping someone escape from addiction? If you or someone you know is struggling with addiction, you won't want to miss this inspiring coaching session. Timestamps: 4:29 - Spending addiction 11:51 - How do we define addiction? 14:37 - The root cause of addiction 17:35 - The role of meaning 22:48 - Religion Links: Communication Breakthrough System Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook
In this live coaching session, Jayson coaches Derek, an anxious man struggling with an avoidant partner. How should couples balance the need for space with the need for connection? How can you tell if your relationship concerns stem from care or fear? How do you know if couples therapy is working? Don't miss this powerful coaching session! Timestamps: 6:09 - How to set boundaries while maintaining a relationship 9:09 - Balancing the need for space and connection 15:27 - Is your therapy working? 21:16 - Are you working from fear or care? 24:12 - Being honest with your partner Links: My Relationship Coach (MRC) Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook
In this episode of the Mankind Podcast, hosts Boysen Hodgson and Brandon Clift are joined by Jayson Gaddis, founder of The Relationship School, to dive deep into the dynamics of relationships, emotional growth, and masculinity. Jayson shares his personal journey, starting with the pain and failure he experienced in relationships, and how that led him to do his inner work. He opens up about overcoming childhood conditioning, where he learned to suppress his emotions, leading to difficulties in intimacy and connection.Key themes include the challenges men face in relationships, the role of emotional intelligence, and how both men and women can break unhealthy patterns. Jayson introduces his concept of "Lufu" (Listen Until They Feel Understood), a transformative approach to communication, particularly valuable for men struggling to connect with their partners.The conversation also touches on how childhood experiences shape adult relationships, the importance of group work in healing, and the radical changes that can come from self-awareness. Jayson highlights the balance between fierce confrontation and tender care in coaching men to develop deeper, more meaningful relationships. He also shares his vision of reaching 17 million American families to teach them how to repair and grow from relational conflicts.Get Jayson's Book - "Getting to Zero" Find Jayson Gaddis - https://relationshipschool.com/Text Us Your Feedback! (Likes, Dislikes, Guest/Conversation Recommendations). Support the showAdditional Resources:Magic Mind: Get 20% Off Your Subcription Subscribe/Rate/Review on iTunes ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐: >>>HERE
In this episode, Jayson introduces three powerful trainings designed to transform your life and relationships. First, explore the Communication Breakthrough Experience, where hands-on demos and live coaching sessions help you overcome communication barriers and deepen your emotional connections. Next, learn about Relationship Coach Training, a program that empowers you to turn your passion for personal growth and relationships into a fulfilling career, making a meaningful impact on others. Finally, discover Couples Coach Training, a comprehensive 9-month journey that combines cutting-edge science and experiential therapies to equip you with the skills and confidence to coach couples effectively. Whether you're seeking personal growth, a new career, or the tools to help others, these trainings offer the potential for profound change. Don't miss this opportunity to take your life to the next level! Timestamps: 2:43 - Communication Breakthrough Experience 5:27 - Relationship Coach Training 7:16 - Couples Coach Training Links: Communication Breakthrough Experience Apply to Relationship Coach Training Couples Coach Training U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720-704-4850 Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok
Do you wish you and your partner still communicated like you did when you first fell in love? In this episode, Jayson delves into the science of infatuation—why we experience it and why it fades. Can you rekindle the magic of the early days of your relationship, or is there something even better ahead? Tune in to discover how to earn your second honeymoon stage. Timestamps: 2:48 - Infatuation 6:16 - Falling out of love or working toward relational maturity? 9:49 - Learning how to communicate 13:48 - Earning your second honeymoon stage Links: Reignite your connection-communicate like you did when you fell in love The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok
Jayson and Ellen delve into the complex relationship between teens, screens, and mental health. Is it okay to use screens to help kids calm down? Are teens becoming more anxious? At what age should children have their own cell phones? What societal changes are needed to protect the mental health and well-being of children and teens? How can you effectively implement boundaries at home? Tune in to find the answers to these and many more questions. Timestamps: 2:35 - Why screen time matters 5:50 - The Anxious Generation 9:00 - Using screens to help kids calm down 17:00 - The problem with content 21:00 - The problem with texting 23:30 - Setting boundaries 30:30 - Haidt's four recommendations 33:30 - Jayson and Ellen's recommendations 43:00 - Action steps Links: My Relationship Coach (MRC) Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero The Anxious Generation | Jonathan Haidt Peter Gray | Substack Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook
Jayson answers listener questions: How should you deal with trauma responses in intimate situations? Should your partner have access to your phone? What should you do if your partner isn't interested in personal growth? What is the right way to apologize? Is it possible to make a relationship work with an emotionless partner? Find the answers to these questions and more on this episode of The Relationship School Podcast. Timestamps: 2:19 - Trauma responses in intimate situations 5:55 - Dealing with a condescending partner 7:45 - Should your partner have access to your phone? 11:58 - Partner isn't interested in personal growth 14:32 - Apologizing 16:13 - Emotionless partnerships 18:45 - Intentions and apologies Links: My Relationship Coach (MRC) Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Sign up to get Jayson's weekly newsletter via email Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook
Jayson and Ellen offer advice for anxious new dads. Why do many new dads struggle to enjoy parenting? What happens when men become aware of their relational needs for the first time, and how should they approach meeting those needs? Should new dads consider therapy? What kind of support should new dads seek from their male friends? What about sex? If you're a new parent or know new parents, you won't want to miss this. Timestamps: 1:23 - When men struggle to enjoy parenting 14:57 - Men becoming conscious of their relational needs 24:42 - Support from other men 29:33 - Avoidant men 33:52 - Sex Links: Sign up to get Jayson's weekly newsletter via email Enroll in Relationship Mastery Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok
What's the #1 mistake people make after getting their feelings hurt? Jayson discusses how to handle hurt feelings, his experience with shutting down after experiencing hurt feelings, and how to work through hurt feelings. Tune in to find out how you can turn hurt feelings into an opportunity to grow into a more resilient, self-respecting, and confident person. Timestamps: 3:09 - The mistake people make when their feelings get hurt 6:18 - Jayson's experience with hurt feelings 10:18 - Feel your feelings 14:47 - Takeaway Links: The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok
Jayson opens up about his recent prostate cancer diagnosis. He talks about the causes of cancer, letting people's care in and his recommendations for how men should monitor their health as they age. This episode is a PSA for men over 40, if you haven't been screened for cancer, now is the time. Timestamps: 2:16 - Jayson's experience 6:34 - Causes of cancer 9:01 - Letting people's care in 12:15 - Recommendations for men over 40 Links: Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook
Are you attending couples therapy but feeling like you're not making progress? Jayson and Ellen delve into why couples often find themselves spinning their wheels and offer insights on how to propel your relationship forward if you're feeling stuck. They also tackle the issue of spiritual bypassing, emphasizing that true letting go is a gradual process. Timestamps: 2:01 - Couples not making progress 7:36 - Doing the work 22:28 - Overly spiritual couples Links: The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720-704-4850 Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok
Jayson shares his thoughts on the controversy surrounding popular podcaster Andrew Huberman. What can we learn about ourselves and our relationships from the online reaction to the recent revelations about Andrew Huberman? What are you projecting onto the authority figures in your life? Are you putting people in your life on a pedestal, and how will you react when they inevitably fail you? Timestamps: 2:17 - What can we learn from the Andrew Huberman situation? 5:24 - Pedestal to pit 13:55 - Are you projecting on to authority figures? Links: FREE Webinar: How To Resolve Conflict & Create Powerful Relationships Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok
Relationship pain has a very clear purpose. If you are hip to it, you'll thrive in relationships. If you are uneducated here, you'll run away and play the victim. Direct and to the point, I suggest a very important daily practice for you to strengthen your mindset about long-term partnership. Pain hurts indeed. And, what if pain was your ally in disguise? Relationship Pain Daily Practice I have two choices with my relationship pain: 1. Use it to make me weaker by whining, complaining, and blaming others (or myself). 2. Use it to make me stronger by seeing it as my ally to master the lesson it's bringing me. It's 100% of the time up to me to choose. Timestamps: 3:15 - Two choices when it comes to relationship pain 9:32 - The first thing to NOT do when in relationship pain 13:40 - The good news about pain and stress 19:40 - The link between your emotional pain and your numbing habits 24:37 - Action step Links: The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership Sign up to get Jayson's weekly newsletter via email Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok