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Jayson Gaddis is an artist, best selling author, podcaster, speaker, executive coach, CEO, founder, human behavior specialist and relationship expert. He is the creator of Interpersonal Intelligence® and Present Centered Relationship Coaching® and has trained hundreds of coaches in 11 countries. He is the author of the book ‘Getting to Zero: How to work Through Conflict In Your High Stakes Relationships'. He's been married to his amazing wife since 2007, has two beautiful kids, and lives in Boulder, Colorado. Join the free live call: DEEP RELATIONSHIP COACHING Join the course: RELATIONSHIP COACH TRAINING Use the code ‘sacredsons' for $1000 off!  On this Episode:    Jayson Gaddis | @jaysongaddis Adam Jackson | @adam___jackson   Use the Promo Code: ‘SUMMER20' for 20% Off All Sacred Sons Offerings! Start Here–Check In With Sacred Sons: Check-In Survey    Join The Circle Online Community: Join The Circle Join a Sacred Sons Event Near You: Event Calendar Sacred Sons Signature Events:   CONVERGENCE X: Across Nations   REMEMBRANCE II: Seeds of Change Connect with Sacred Sons:   Shop: Sacred Sons Apparel & Cacao  Instagram: @sacredsons  Website: sacredsons.com   YouTube: Sacred Sons    Music: Ancient Future Want to become a Sponsor of Sacred Sons Podcast? Sponsorship Request Form   

Is it time to fire your coach or therapist? Jayson breaks it down. Do the sessions you attend feel more like coffee dates? Is your trauma going unaddressed? Have you been seeing a practitioner for years without making real progress? If you're struggling to see results, you won't want to miss this episode.Timestamps:5:26 - Your story isn't being challenged6:35 - Sessions feel like a coffee date7:36 - Therapy feels like a friendship8:56 - Trauma isn't being addressed11:31 - No change is happening13:13 - Uncritically siding with your story15:20 - The asks are too challenging17:26 - You're not doing your homework21:19 - Final thoughtsLinks:Follow Jayson on social media:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠

Jayson breaks down how to coach yourself using AI and shares a variety of example prompts. Can AI offer constructive criticism? What can it do with astrology and Gene Keys? Can it give you a tough-love wake-up call? Stick around until the end to learn how you can use AI to get the most out of your therapy sessions!Timestamps:2:40 - Ways to use AI as a client4:52 - Using AI for constructive criticism7:50 - Astrology10:27 - Tough love13:36 - Getting the most out of therapyLinks:Follow Jayson on social media:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠

Jayson discusses the role of AI in the therapy and coaching space. Will AI replace therapists and coaches? Can it ever be better than a real coach or therapist? What are the downsides of using AI to coach yourself? Stay tuned until the end of the episode to find out how you can thrive—rather than just survive—as a coach or therapist in the age of AI.Timestamps:5:42 - Price point9:10 - Who will lose their jobs?12:53 - What AI can't replace19:24 - AI and intuition23:47 - How should coaches and therapists adapt to AI?Links:Follow Jayson on social media:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠

If you want to get the most out of therapy or coaching, it's important to know how to be a great client. In this episode, Jayson shares his experience of being a client and breaks down how you can make sure you're getting the results you want. Is it ever okay not to make progress? Learn how to advocate for yourself, prepare for your sessions, stay accountable to friends and family, and much more in this episode!Timestamps:1:40 - Is it okay not to make progress?4:01 - Jayson's story8:51 - How to be a good client15:53 - When to have a frank conversation with your coach or therapistLinks:Follow Jayson on social media:⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠

What's wrong with going into fix-it mode when someone shares their problems?Jayson explains why it's better to offer understanding rather than jumping in with solutions—and how people are more likely to come up with their own answers when they feel truly heard.Timestamps:0:03 - What's wrong with "fix-it" mode?3:49 - Reflecting instead of fixing7:08 - Giving people space to come up with their own solutions8:30 - Understanding first, then solutionsLinks:⁠⁠⁠Follow Jayson on social media:⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠

How should you coach someone who wants to be in a successful relationship? Jayson breaks it down. Do you need to have successful relationships yourself to coach effectively? How can you teach your clients the skills they need to develop, and what does that process look like? Don't miss this insightful episode.Timestamps:0:36 - You have to have successful relationships7:05 - Skill acquisition13:27 - Don't be uncomfortable with intimacy Links:⁠Follow Jayson on social media:⁠Instagram⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠Facebook

Jayson breaks down motivational interviewing. What is it? Can you force your clients to change? What should you do if a client is ambivalent about change? Is your client placing value on the right things? Whether you're a coach or a client, you won't want to miss this insightful episode.Timestamps:1:50 - Placing value on the right things3:34 - Motivational interviewing5:57 - Ambivalence about change11:37 - You can't force people to changeLinks:Become A Certified Relationship Coach (RCT) Follow Jayson on social media:InstagramYouTubeLinkedInTikTokTwitterFacebook

Jayson explores the pros and cons of coaching. Is coaching more effective than therapy? He discusses the lack of standards in coaching, the absence of trauma training, and the potential shallowness of the approach. Jayson also examines why prioritizing results over feelings can be problematic. However, he also highlights why coaching can sometimes be a better option than therapy. Why choose coaching? Tune in to find out. Timestamps: 0:57 - A lack of standards 4:26 - Results over feelings 7:47 - Does coaching get better results? 14:10 - Conclusion Links: Become A Certified Relationship Coach (RCT)  Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Jayson breaks down the pros and cons of talk therapy. Where does talk therapy come up short? What are its strengths? What kind of therapy should you progress to after talk therapy? Why are relationships better than talk therapy? Whether you're a client, coach, or therapist, you won't want to miss this insightful episode. Timestamps: 3:13 - Where talk therapy comes up short 5:55 - Positive outcomes of talk therapy 8:33 - Moving on after talk therapy 10:28 - Relationships are better than talk therapy 13:11 - Conclusion Links: Become A Certified Relationship Coach (RCT)  Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

What is your main job as a coach? Jayson discusses the importance of giving your clients permission to be messy, finding key relationships where they can be authentic, and providing them with a sense of certainty. He also explains why your ultimate goal as a coach should be to work yourself out of a job. Tune in to discover how to help people authentically be themselves while achieving what they want in life. Timestamps: 4:52 Giving your clients permission to be messy 8:45 Finding key relationships 13:15 Summery Links: Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Jayson talks about what it means to truly love a client. What is the real definition of love? Why is being challenged so important? How do we “accept” ourselves and work on being better at the same time? How does accepting our limitations empower us? And why is it crucial not to expect relationships to be easy? Join Jayson as he explores the second principle of present-centered relationship coaching. Timestamps: 1:09 - What is love? 8:25 - Don't expect relationships to be easy 14:53 - Self-acceptance and self-mastery Links: Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Jayson shares his #1 principle for coaches and therapists. Learn how to empower your clients instead of treating them as fragile. It's time to stop missing the forest for the trees and take a broader view. Tune in to discover what powerful phrase he comes from in this episode.  Timestamps: 1:10 - Taking a larger view 4:14 - The foundational principle 10:00 - Empower you clients Links: Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

What is the role of therapy and coaching? In this overview episode, Jayson explores how humans navigate relationships. Why do we betray ourselves in pursuit of belonging? How can coaches challenge clients who seek the path of least resistance? When we choose not to grow, we pass on trauma. Whether you're a coach or a client, you'll find valuable insights in this episode. Timestamps: 2:28 - What is the context of coaching and therapy? 10:13 - Seeking pleasure and avoiding pain 13:47 - Projecting onto your partner 17:48 - Your shadow 22:49 - Challenging clients who choose the path of least resistance Links: Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Big changes are happening at The Relationship School Podcast! In this special update, Jayson Gaddis shares the new direction of the show, now called The Relationship Coaching School Podcast, focusing on coaching, therapy, and transformation. Whether you're a coach, therapist, or an engaged client looking to maximize results, this new format will deepen your understanding of human relationships and personal growth. Plus, Jayson teases an exciting new podcast with his wife, Ellen, and announces updates to his coaching training program—including in-person intensives. Tune in to hear what's next! Links: Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

In this coaching session, Jayson works with Becca, a woman navigating a relationship with a partner who doesn't acknowledge her feelings. How should you deal with a partner who isn't open to seeking relationship help? What should you do if your partner struggles to handle your emotions? If you're in a relationship with someone who doesn't recognize your feelings, you won't want to miss this powerful session. Timestamps: 6:11 - When a partner isn't on board to get help 13:00 - When a partner won't recognize your feelings 16:50 - Don't settle for not being met Links: Communication Breakthrough System Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Jason Gaddis explores the nuances of sustaining healthy long-term relationships. He discusses self-reflection, setting boundaries, and open communication to enhance partnerships. Drawing on insights from Gaddis's book 'Getting to Zero,' the episode emphasizes resolving conflicts, mutual support, and tackling intimacy challenges, particularly relevant for women in perimenopause and menopause.This episode includes practical tips like financial reviews and date nights, underlining the critical link between relational health and overall well-being. Resources from the Relationship School offer further support, making this episode a vital guide for middle-aged women seeking to strengthen their relationship dynamics.Episode Overview:0:00 Intro/Teaser7:54 Challenges of Love and Hard Work11:35 Exploring Healthy Relationships and Codependency17:08 Building Secure Attachment Through Conflict Repair29:00 Knowing When to Let Go32:28 Navigating Mismatched Sex Drives in Relationships39:51 Navigating Emotional Affairs and Relationship Repair51:32 Impact of Divorce on Families1:01:10 Maintaining Connection and Family Values1:11:01 Impact of Relationships on HealthTo find the resources mentioned in this episode, please go to: https://drstephanieestima.com/podcasts/conflict-intimacy-in-long-term-relationships/Bio:Jayson Gaddis is an artist, best selling author, podcaster, speaker, coach, CEO, founder, human behavior specialist and relationship expert. He is the creator of Interpersonal Intelligence® and Present Centered Relationship Coaching® and has trained hundreds of coaches in 14 countries. His book Getting to Zero: How to work Through Conflict In Your High Stakes Relationships was #2 on the Wall Street Journal best seller list and was voted Editors Choice, Best non-fiction, and Best Leadership and Business book in 2021 on Amazon. He's been married to his amazing wife since 2007 and has two beautiful kids. They live in Boulder, Colorado. When he doesn't live and breathe this relationship stuff with his family, he pretty much gets his ass handed to him. He is the host of The Relationship School podcast: https://relationshipschool.com/relationship-school-podcastWe are grateful to our sponsors:EQUIP CLEAN COFFEEFor mold-free coffee with regenerative and sustainable practices, preserved antioxidants, and an exceptional taste, head over to https://EquipFoods.com/better and use code BETTER in the checkout to save 20% off your first order.PRIMEADINEPrimeadine has been shown to support memory, cognition, heart health, balanced hormones, and improved hair growth and fullness. If you are interested in trying it out, go to https://OxfordHealthspan.com/DrStephanie and use code DrStephanie15 to get 15% off of your order.COLDTUREEmbrace the cold with Coldture, the simplest and most fun way to feel the benefit of cold water immersion from the comfort of your home without having to load up ice in the bathtub. Head on over to https://coldture.com/drstephanie. And you are going to get $600 off plus 0% financing for 12 months on your Coldture cold plunge tub.

In this live coaching session, Jayson coaches Sharon, a woman struggling with self-worth and feelings of not being enough. How can you stop repeating untrue stories to yourself and create new associations? What's the best way to start focusing on the ways you are enough? What are you gaining by staying in negative patterns? If you're struggling with self-worth or feeling like you're not enough, you won't want to miss this inspiring coaching session. Timestamps: 6:00 - Struggling with shame 10:00 - The pattern of feeling not enough 15:24 - Recognizing the areas where you are enough 20:28 - Creating new associations Links: Communication Breakthrough System Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

In this live coaching session, Jayson coaches Susan, a woman who has identified her spending patterns as problematic. How do you know when a behavior crosses over into an addiction? How does a lack of meaning contribute to addiction? What role can healthy relationships play in helping someone escape from addiction? If you or someone you know is struggling with addiction, you won't want to miss this inspiring coaching session. Timestamps: 4:29 - Spending addiction 11:51 - How do we define addiction? 14:37 - The root cause of addiction 17:35 - The role of meaning 22:48 - Religion Links: Communication Breakthrough System Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

In this live coaching session, Jayson coaches Derek, an anxious man struggling with an avoidant partner. How should couples balance the need for space with the need for connection? How can you tell if your relationship concerns stem from care or fear? How do you know if couples therapy is working? Don't miss this powerful coaching session! Timestamps: 6:09 - How to set boundaries while maintaining a relationship 9:09 - Balancing the need for space and connection 15:27 - Is your therapy working? 21:16 - Are you working from fear or care? 24:12 - Being honest with your partner Links: My Relationship Coach (MRC) Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

In this episode of the Mankind Podcast, hosts Boysen Hodgson and Brandon Clift are joined by Jayson Gaddis, founder of The Relationship School, to dive deep into the dynamics of relationships, emotional growth, and masculinity. Jayson shares his personal journey, starting with the pain and failure he experienced in relationships, and how that led him to do his inner work. He opens up about overcoming childhood conditioning, where he learned to suppress his emotions, leading to difficulties in intimacy and connection.Key themes include the challenges men face in relationships, the role of emotional intelligence, and how both men and women can break unhealthy patterns. Jayson introduces his concept of "Lufu" (Listen Until They Feel Understood), a transformative approach to communication, particularly valuable for men struggling to connect with their partners.The conversation also touches on how childhood experiences shape adult relationships, the importance of group work in healing, and the radical changes that can come from self-awareness. Jayson highlights the balance between fierce confrontation and tender care in coaching men to develop deeper, more meaningful relationships. He also shares his vision of reaching 17 million American families to teach them how to repair and grow from relational conflicts.Get Jayson's Book - "Getting to Zero"  Find Jayson Gaddis - https://relationshipschool.com/Text Us Your Feedback! (Likes, Dislikes, Guest/Conversation Recommendations). Support the showAdditional Resources:Magic Mind: Get 20% Off Your Subcription Subscribe/Rate/Review on iTunes ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐: >>>HERE

In this episode, Jayson introduces three powerful trainings designed to transform your life and relationships.  First, explore the Communication Breakthrough Experience, where hands-on demos and live coaching sessions help you overcome communication barriers and deepen your emotional connections.  Next, learn about Relationship Coach Training, a program that empowers you to turn your passion for personal growth and relationships into a fulfilling career, making a meaningful impact on others.  Finally, discover Couples Coach Training, a comprehensive 9-month journey that combines cutting-edge science and experiential therapies to equip you with the skills and confidence to coach couples effectively. Whether you're seeking personal growth, a new career, or the tools to help others, these trainings offer the potential for profound change. Don't miss this opportunity to take your life to the next level! Timestamps: 2:43 - Communication Breakthrough Experience 5:27 - Relationship Coach Training 7:16 - Couples Coach Training Links: Communication Breakthrough Experience Apply to Relationship Coach Training Couples Coach Training U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720-704-4850 Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok

Do you wish you and your partner still communicated like you did when you first fell in love? In this episode, Jayson delves into the science of infatuation—why we experience it and why it fades. Can you rekindle the magic of the early days of your relationship, or is there something even better ahead? Tune in to discover how to earn your second honeymoon stage. Timestamps: 2:48 - Infatuation 6:16 - Falling out of love or working toward relational maturity? 9:49 - Learning how to communicate 13:48 - Earning your second honeymoon stage Links: Reignite your connection-communicate like you did when you fell in love The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok

Jayson and Ellen delve into the complex relationship between teens, screens, and mental health. Is it okay to use screens to help kids calm down? Are teens becoming more anxious? At what age should children have their own cell phones? What societal changes are needed to protect the mental health and well-being of children and teens? How can you effectively implement boundaries at home? Tune in to find the answers to these and many more questions. Timestamps: 2:35 - Why screen time matters 5:50 - The Anxious Generation 9:00 - Using screens to help kids calm down 17:00 - The problem with content 21:00 - The problem with texting 23:30 - Setting boundaries 30:30 - Haidt's four recommendations 33:30 - Jayson and Ellen's recommendations 43:00 - Action steps Links: My Relationship Coach (MRC) Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero The Anxious Generation | Jonathan Haidt Peter Gray | Substack Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Jayson answers listener questions: How should you deal with trauma responses in intimate situations? Should your partner have access to your phone? What should you do if your partner isn't interested in personal growth? What is the right way to apologize? Is it possible to make a relationship work with an emotionless partner? Find the answers to these questions and more on this episode of The Relationship School Podcast. Timestamps: 2:19 - Trauma responses in intimate situations 5:55 - Dealing with a condescending partner 7:45 - Should your partner have access to your phone? 11:58 - Partner isn't interested in personal growth 14:32 - Apologizing 16:13 - Emotionless partnerships 18:45 - Intentions and apologies Links: My Relationship Coach (MRC) Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Sign up to get Jayson's weekly newsletter via email Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Jayson and Ellen offer advice for anxious new dads. Why do many new dads struggle to enjoy parenting? What happens when men become aware of their relational needs for the first time, and how should they approach meeting those needs? Should new dads consider therapy? What kind of support should new dads seek from their male friends? What about sex? If you're a new parent or know new parents, you won't want to miss this. Timestamps: 1:23 - When men struggle to enjoy parenting 14:57 - Men becoming conscious of their relational needs 24:42 - Support from other men 29:33 - Avoidant men 33:52 - Sex Links: Sign up to get Jayson's weekly newsletter via email Enroll in Relationship Mastery Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok

What's the #1 mistake people make after getting their feelings hurt? Jayson discusses how to handle hurt feelings, his experience with shutting down after experiencing hurt feelings, and how to work through hurt feelings. Tune in to find out how you can turn hurt feelings into an opportunity to grow into a more resilient, self-respecting, and confident person. Timestamps: 3:09 - The mistake people make when their feelings get hurt 6:18 - Jayson's experience with hurt feelings 10:18 - Feel your feelings 14:47 - Takeaway Links: The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok

Jayson opens up about his recent prostate cancer diagnosis. He talks about the causes of cancer, letting people's care in and his recommendations for how men should monitor their health as they age. This episode is a PSA for men over 40, if you haven't been screened for cancer, now is the time. Timestamps: 2:16 - Jayson's experience 6:34 - Causes of cancer 9:01 - Letting people's care in 12:15 - Recommendations for men over 40 Links: Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Are you attending couples therapy but feeling like you're not making progress? Jayson and Ellen delve into why couples often find themselves spinning their wheels and offer insights on how to propel your relationship forward if you're feeling stuck. They also tackle the issue of spiritual bypassing, emphasizing that true letting go is a gradual process. Timestamps: 2:01 - Couples not making progress 7:36 - Doing the work 22:28 - Overly spiritual couples Links: The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720-704-4850 Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok

I used to think that the keys to great health were eating right, exercising often, and getting enough sleep. While these are good for your health, they pale in comparison to the quality of your relationships.  In fact, a Harvard study proved that your relationships are the #1 most important factor for your overall health and wellbeing.  But many guys, myself included, can be terrible at their most important relationship: The one you and your partner share.  I get it, relationships are hard. But men have a tendency to commit fatal mistakes in their relationships—and most of these mistakes fly under our radar.  That's the bad news.  The good news? Not only is improving your relationship possible, but nobody understands how to improve your relationship better than today's guest, Jayson Gaddis, author and founder of The Relationship School.  Jayson had broken relationships his entire life because of his childhood conditioning. After doing the work and addressing the root cause (which was himself), he's not only discovered how to improve his relationship, but he's coached thousands of couples (and saved countless marriages) with his teachings.  If you aren't completely satisfied with your relationship, this episode will show you the way.  And you know what?  It just might help you and your partner live 10 years longer…  In this episode, Jayson reveals:  How men unknowingly play the victim in relationships  How to have a healthier relationship with conflict  And how you can have better relationships (even if your relationship is less than perfect now)  As so much more, including…  The single biggest reason men tend to mess up in relationships (7:44)  Why becoming more comfortable with your feelings allows you to hold space for your partner's feelings (12:20)  How you subconsciously attract the perfect person to trigger your unresolved childhood emotions that can tear a healthy relationship apart (18:41)  The “Wisdom of Shame” secret for reframing shame into realistic goals (20:41)  2 questions to ask yourself every day to eliminate shame (27:27)  3 fundamental traits couples need to have for a successful, long-term relationship (32:32)  Why the “Outside In” approach to conflict in relationships is the #1 killer of relationships (and how to use the “Inside Out” method to enhance your relationship instead) (33:39)  The most important factor for success of a long-term relationship (and how to share this with your partner without triggering them) (36:21)  The only 2 choices you have around potential conflict in relationships (and how one leads to a great marriage while the other ruins it) (38:52)  The “impact me” formula for bringing up relationship problems in the healthiest and most effective way (46:25) How to better solve the wicked “fight below the fight” where men make conflict worse (55:47)  Couples that know how to handle conflict live 10 years longer than couples who don't. Here's how to get better at conflict… (58:25) Why what you fight about doesn't matter as much as how you fight (and how to argue in a more productive way) (1:06:21)  The “LUFU” skill required to handle conflict in a healthier way (1:09:25)  How leading with mini disclaimers before bringing up sensitive topics puts you and your partner on the same team (1:16:46)  Listen now! Resources mentioned on this episode:  1. Subscribe to Jayson's YouTube channel: If you want to improve your marriage, especially as a parent, Jayson puts out great content for free on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/@JaysonGaddis  2. Join Jayson's Relationship School: Nobody taught you how to be good at relationships… Until now. If you're serious about improving your relationships, check out Jayson's Relationship School here: https://relationshipschool.com/  3. Buy Jayson's Book, Getting To Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships: If you'd like to read Jayson's book, you can order it on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Getting-Zero-Conflict-High-Stakes-Relationships/dp/0306924811/  Other important links:  Want to improve your sexual wellness, get stronger erections, and last longer in bed? Then join the FREE 7-Day Sexual Wellness Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/uA27H  Want to unlock more flexibility and strength, reduce your risk of injury, and feel your absolute best over the next 7 days? Then join the FREE 7-Day Beginner's Yoga for Men Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/pTVc7  Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7 

Jayson shares his thoughts on the controversy surrounding popular podcaster Andrew Huberman. What can we learn about ourselves and our relationships from the online reaction to the recent revelations about Andrew Huberman? What are you projecting onto the authority figures in your life? Are you putting people in your life on a pedestal, and how will you react when they inevitably fail you? Timestamps: 2:17 - What can we learn from the Andrew Huberman situation? 5:24 - Pedestal to pit 13:55 - Are you projecting on to authority figures? Links: FREE Webinar: How To Resolve Conflict & Create Powerful Relationships Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok

Relationship pain has a very clear purpose. If you are hip to it, you'll thrive in relationships. If you are uneducated here, you'll run away and play the victim. Direct and to the point, I suggest a very important daily practice for you to strengthen your mindset about long-term partnership. Pain hurts indeed. And, what if pain was your ally in disguise?   Relationship Pain Daily Practice I have two choices with my relationship pain: 1. Use it to make me weaker by whining, complaining, and blaming others (or myself). 2. Use it to make me stronger by seeing it as my ally to master the lesson it's bringing me. It's 100% of the time up to me to choose. Timestamps: 3:15 - Two choices when it comes to relationship pain 9:32 - The first thing to NOT do when in relationship pain 13:40 - The good news about pain and stress 19:40 - The link between your emotional pain and your numbing habits 24:37 - Action step Links: The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership Sign up to get Jayson's weekly newsletter via email Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok

Jayson and Ellen discuss conflict, communication, and problem-solving versus understanding. What's the issue with being a conflict-avoidant couple? When is it appropriate to problem-solve and offer advice to a long-term partner? Can excessive understanding become problematic? Tune in to hear Ellen and Jayson offer a few simple strategies that you can use to resolve your communication issues. Timestamps: 1:51 - Avoiding Conflict 11:21 - Solving communication problems 17:04 - Problem solving vs understanding 20:28 - The conflict-repair cycle 22:31 - Taking action vs understanding Links: Enroll in Relationship Mastery Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok

Jayson coaches the couple, Anya and Bodhi. The last time this couple appeared on the podcast was in episode #364 when they were in the midst of deciding whether to stay together or break up. Since their last appearance, they have grown into a strong and stable couple. In this episode, they discuss the turning point in their relationship that led to them staying together. They also work through current tensions in their relationship related to conflicting schedules and navigating a small living space. You won't want to miss this insightful conversation. Timestamps: 5:17 - Anya & Bodhi's turning point 13:23 - Individual growth 20:00 - Getting to the root of relationship tension 33:34 - Feeling trapped by a lack of connectedness 39:05 - Spontaneity vs. responsibility 43:00 - Different schedules 47:00 - Helping your partner feel less judged 1:00:30 - Being true to yourself vs. being considerate 1:08:59 - Action step Links: Coaching a Couple Through Staying Together or Breaking Up – Jayson Gaddis – 364 FREE Webinar: How To Resolve Conflict & Create Powerful Relationships Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok

Is it possible to truly love someone while you're still infatuated with them? In this episode, Jayson and Ellen talk about the trap of falling in love and why it's important to learn to live with the reality of who your partner actually is instead of projecting your fantasies onto them. How can you make your partner your priority every day? What should your relationship boundaries be? It's time to take a deep dive into the world of love after infatuation. Timestamps: 2:16 - Infatuation vs. love 6:16 - Reality vs. fantasy 20:00 - Accepting people for who they are 24:48 - Know your relationship boundaries 28:16 - Love after infatuation 31:52 - Our impact on others Links: Sign up to get Jayson's weekly newsletter via email Enroll in Relationship Mastery Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok  

Jayson talks about dealing with division in the world, digital minimalism and getting unstuck in your relationship. Can solving division in the home help make the world a better place? How do you know when you're stuck as a couple? What should you do if you're stuck? Would you like to be the next guest on The Relationship School Podcast? Listen in to find out more! Timestamps: 4:01 - Couples, how do you know when you're stuck? 11:47 - Dealing with division 19:25 - Action steps Links: FREE Webinar: How To Resolve Conflict & Create Powerful Relationships Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok

Jason coaches two women live on the podcast. How should you deal with the experience of a long-term partner ghosting you? What should you do when you feel self-doubt and loneliness? How can you find meaning in the end of a long-term relationship? You won't want to miss the chance to sit in on this powerful coaching session with Jayson, Katie and Camille. Timestamps: 4:09 - Katie's story 8:27 - Being there for yourself 16:26 - Katie's personal growth journey 26:17 - Camille's story 29:56 - Dealing with a partner who ghosted 37:46 - Finding meaning in the end of a relationship 46:51 - Finding your anchor Links: Order Jayson's book: Getting to Zero Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok

Today, I'm chatting with Jayson Gaddis. Jayson is an author, speaker, coach, and relationship expert with a knack for understanding human behavior. Jayson is the creator of the Interpersonal Intelligence® and Present Centered Relationship Coaching® and the Founder of The Relationship School, and has trained over 200 coaches in 11 countries.  In our conversation, we dig into the wounds that are created from conflict in our relationships and how to repair them. We share some facepalm moments with our family, the times when we lost it with our partners or kids and ended up making things worse. Jayson shares thoughtful insights on why that might happen, pointing to those unresolved issues from the past that sneak up on us.  You'll also walk away with some practical advice and strategies on how we can change those patterns, connect more deeply with loved ones, and do it all without sacrificing our self-respect. A Wide-Ranging Conversation Through… Trauma, triggers and the silent treatment Getting to the root of relationship issues   Relationship conflict repair 101 Listen first, then take responsibility   Repairing conflict in front of the kids is a good thing Taking ownership and responsibility with empathy Feelings first, facts later It's what you say, and how you say it Letting kids feel all the feels Wisdom on relationships, parenting, business, and health  Get the Full Show Notes Want access to the full show notes, including links to all resources mentioned during today's conversation? Visit FrontRowDads.com/426 More About Front Row Dads Connect with us @ FrontRowDads.com & Instagram  Want to hang out with other FRDs in Austin? Watch this 3-min video from our last Front Row Dads Live event. Tickets avail now for December's event.  Not able to travel? We got you. Join our next online event, built just for kickass dads who know there's more to learn. FrontRowDads.com/summit  FRD is solving a huge problem for dads. Our culture has turned “Dad” into a joke. Go ahead, google Dad and you'll find Dad Bod, Dad Jokes, Dad Weed, etc. Culturally, it's a Homer Simpson mentality, and it's BS.   Our community is built for solid men. Men with range. Those who are badass, and know there's still more to learn, together.   Most guys find it hard to find “their crew.” Finding other committed men, who are successful in life, and want to put family first – these guys are rare. Is this you? In FRD, hundreds of men from all over the world show up for each other, to share resources and raise the bar of fatherhood (our core values) If you're reading this, you want to grow.  Podcasts are great, but guys… when you're ready to stop just listening to content, and want to JOIN the conversations – the FRD brotherhood is ready for you.   One more thing…  Has this podcast helped you? If so, please tell us how we're doing. Please take a minute and leave a review. Seriously, they matter. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen.  Subscribe to this show on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify

Jayson and Ellen team up to talk about working with men in coaching and therapy. How can you tell when a man is ready to grow? How does couples' work help men? What are the advantages of attending a men's group? Are men more comfortable with male or female therapists? If you're a man or you have men in your life, you won't want to miss this insightful conversation. Timestamps: 6:16 - Ways that men get stuck 10:52 - Working through men's defensiveness 13:56 - Recognizing men's issues 17:27 - How male clients project 21:10 - Are men more comfortable with male or female therapists 24:48 - Men's groups 29:44 - How couples work helps men 31:35 - How to get men to change 34:09 - Making sure a man is ready to grow 36:34 - Action steps Links: Free Webinar: Relational Warriorship for Men The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok

This week, Ashley Stahl sits down with Jason Gaddis, renowned author, speaker, and relationship expert, to discuss the importance of availability in meaningful relationships.  Jayson and Ash detail how curiosity, proper listening, and an awareness of emotional patterns can contribute to deeper connections. Jason explains the concept of 'availability,' the impact of the pandemic on relationships, unhealthy coping mechanisms, and the crucial need for partners to consider each other a priority.  Tune in to learn strategies for navigating early relationship phases, the importance of healing from past traumas, how to avoid projecting past experiences onto new partners, and how to foster 'safety' within relationships. You don't want to miss this episode! In This Episode, You'll Learn: Relationships as a vehicle for growth. How to navigate relationship challenges.  Tools to communicate needs and raise standards in relationships. The art of listening and creating safe spaces. How to navigate past relationship traumas. Connect with Jayson Gaddis https://www.instagram.com/jaysongaddis/ Tune in to the Relationship School Podcast Connect with Ash: https://www.instagram.com/ashleystahl/ Take a FREE Quiz to Discover Your Most Authentic Career Path: https://www.ashleystahl.com/freequiz/

What's wrong with wanting a healthy relationship? Jayson and Ellen are here to break it down. "Healthy" is a poorly defined concept, which can create nebulous expectations that are impossible to live up to. If you've written yourself off because you believe you're incapable of having healthy relationships, it's time to level up and start focusing on how you can foster growth-oriented relationships going forward. Tune in to learn how you can set realistic expectations and define the relationship experience that you want. It's time to plan for reality and aspire for greatness. Timestamps: 4:57 - Defining what “healthy” means 7:09 - Deciding on the relationship experience you want 8:41 - Creating realistic expectations 11:14 - Plan for reality, aspire for greatness 15:00 - Don't write yourself off 16:49 - Growth oriented relationships 19:17 - Action steps Links: U.S. listeners, sign up for relationship tips and support direct to your phone by texting this number: 720-704-4850 Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Ellen joins Jayson to discuss menopause and its impact on relationships. What is menopause? Do women in non-western cultures experience menopause differently than women in western cultures? What happens to women's hormones during menopause? What about hormone replacement therapy? Tune in to hear Jayson and Ellen share their personal experiences surrounding menopause and learn how you can nurture your relationships through the menopausal journey. Timestamps: 3:34 - What is menopause? 7:02 - How does menopause impact relationships? 13:53 - How does culture impact the experience of menopause? 16:50 - Why are resources for menopause scarce? 19:01 - What happens to women's hormones during menopause? 21:54 - Jayson's perspective 30:40 - Keeping your partner in mind 37:24 - Resource recommendation 41:51 - HRT Links: Enroll in Relationship Mastery Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok

Jayson and Ellen share valuable insights about nurturing antifragile confidence in sensitive children and offer practical tips for creating a supportive environment that encourages resilience and emotional well-being. Gain a deeper understanding of what defines a sensitive child. Discover practical strategies and compassionate approaches for navigating moments when your sensitive child is hesitant or resistant, and learn how to find the balance between challenging your child and respecting their emotions. Whether you're a parent, caregiver, or simply interested in understanding the dynamics of parenting sensitive children, this episode offers a wealth of wisdom. Tune in for a discussion that will empower you to embrace and celebrate the uniqueness of your sensitive child while fostering a foundation of strength and confidence. Timestamps: 5:54 - What is a sensitive kid like? 9:29 - Overprotective parenting 14:20 - Are you asking too much of your child? 19:40 - Helping your child build antifragile confidence 23:09 - Validating your child's feelings 32:07 - Action steps Links: Apply to Relationship Coach Training The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Everyone wants to be in a securely attached relationship, but what does secure attachment really look like? In this episode, Jayson and Ellen talk about secure attachment and address some common misconceptions. How can you know the difference between infatuation and secure attachment? How long does it take to develop secure attachment in a romantic relationship? How do securely attached relationships differ between different couples? Tune in to learn how you can create and maintain long-lasting and meaningful partnerships. Timestamps: 2:00 - Secure attachment vs. infatuation 5:21 - How long does it take to know if you're securely attached? 8:59 - Working through the challenge stage 11:26 - Misconceptions about secure attachment 20:25 - Make sure you both want the same type of relationship 23:02 - Action steps Links: Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Jayson explores the seven revealing signs of spiritual narcissism and the journey to authentic transformation. Join Jayson for insights into recognizing these behaviors in spiritual narcissists, from lingo mastery to their struggle with attachment work. Learn how to distinguish genuine growth and see when a spiritual seeker becomes an empowered, empathetic individual. Timestamps: 3:57 - Seven signs of the spiritual narcissist 4:42 - Talking the talk without walking the walk 5:54 - Unsuccessful long-term relationships 6:37 - Recreating the family of origin 7:25 - A lack of empathy 8:05 - Fear of attachment 9:19 - Refusing to do the work 10:47 - How do you know if they're changing? Links: 7 Signs of the Spiritual Narcissist and How to Know if They are Truly Healing 2 Types Of Narcissism & How To Avoid Them - Dr. Stan Tatkin The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

If you're in the personal development space, chances are you've heard the term 'doing the work' thrown around often, but what does it really mean? Is there a right way to do the work? How can you gauge whether your personal development work is really having an impact? Jayson and Ellen share their insights about what it means to 'do the work' and touch on topics from intimate relationships and family to psychedelics and yoga along the way.   Timestamps: 5:14 - What does "doing the work" look like? 8:17 - The litmus test for personal growth 10:15 - Why intimate partnership is so important for personal development 16:25 - Holding more complexity 21:12 - Doing the work should have results  23:45 - The role of relational context Links: Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" The End The Struggle With Him Roadmap & Monthly Group Coaching Membership Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Do you feel like you need to pick yourself back up? Jayson has a few words of encouragement for you today. All of us have an inner warrior that has gotten us through life's trials until this point and Jayson offers two great tips for how to connect with that warrior part inside ourselves. He also shares a hack that can help you when life feels like it's too hard. Tune in to learn how embracing hardship and getting out of your victimhood can help you meet life's challenges. Timestamps: 3:20 - Warriorship 9:05 - How do you meet challenges? 11:18 - Embrace hardship 15:31 - Your life is yours to deal with Links: Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

Jayson and Ellen talk entrepreneurship. What inspired Jayson to create The Relationship School? What is it like to be in a relationship with an entrepreneur? What drives entrepreneurs? Can you be addicted to stress? Are you afraid that you'll lose your motivation if you do the inner work and deal with your issues? Listen to discover how both your relationships and your business can benefit when you stop letting stress and inadequacy drive you. Timestamps: 2:59 - What is an entrepreneur? 4:48 - Why do people want to coach entrepreneurs? 8:05 - How do entrepreneurs fuel their work? 19:49 - What does it look like to run a business in an integrated way? 24:11 - Can you get addicted to stress? 29:48 - Applying a growth mindset to every area in your life 31:24 - Advice for partners of entrepreneurs 36:09 - How being preoccupied causes issues in the family system 41:48 - Being proactive Links: Get 50% off your first month of relationship coaching with the promo code "First50" Sign up to get Jayson's weekly newsletter via email Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook

This is a conversation I loved having because it is SO relevant for me right now as a new mom.  We cover mom guilt, parenting shaming, attachment theory, forgiving ourselves orver what what we "should have done" and SO much more.    My guest, Ellen Boeder, MA, LPC has been a licensed psychotherapist since 2003. After getting married and becoming a mother to two children (now 12 and 14 years old), Ellen began to focus primarily on couples in her private psychotherapy and coaching practice.  Ellen is now a certified practitioner of PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy)., Ellen enjoys teaching and consulting on relationship topics, writing her blog on motherhood and relationships, is fascinated by nature, spirituality, human development, and studies a range of topics from yoga and meditation to evolutionary sociobiology.  Ellen is also on faculty for the Relationship School—a business founded by her husband, Jayson Gaddis, that provides in depth relationship education and coaching training.  www.ellenboeder.com

Themes: Finding Yourself, Grief, Healing, Relationships, Mentors, Friendship, Connection, Transformation, Mental Health, Narcissism, Codependency Summary:  Today, I welcome back a returning guest and good friend, Jayson Gaddis! He is an artist, author, podcaster, speaker, executive coach, CEO, founder, human behavior specialist, and relationship expert. He is the creator of Interpersonal Intelligence® and Present Centered Relationship Coaching® and has trained over 200 coaches in 11 countries. His book Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict In Your High Stakes Relationships was voted Editors Choice, Best Non-fiction, and Best Leadership and Business Book in 2021 on Amazon.  In this episode, we talk about the powerful journey of awakening to the soul's desire to be in right relationship with self. We both share personal experiences on how we found our guides or mentors, and what motivated us to continue seeking transformation. Jayson also dives into the challenges of being in a relationship with a person exhibiting covert narcissism, the importance of valuing oneself and setting boundaries, the role of community and supportive relationships in personal transformation, and the significance of confronting shame and engaging in grief work.  Discover: Going on a journey to finding yourself – finding a mentor and the motivation to go through a transformation Becoming comfortable with change and accepting the hard truths about ourselves The importance of being alignment with your core values and the transformative power of accountability and purposeful living Exploring the complexities of covert narcissism and other personality disorders in relationships 00:00 Intro  00:47 Journey to yourself 04:10 The pain of grace 06:01 The first step to finding yourself 10:42 How to find the right teacher or guide? 20:52 The feeling when you “feel seen” 24:45 Discovering what truly matters 27:10 Becoming the witness of transformation 31:49 Learning to embrace the hard truths 36:37 How to orient yourself to change 39:27 Relationship complexities with personality disorder 43:09 Recovery from covert narcissism 46:29 Grief as a gateway 51:49 Become a Helper   Links: Certified Relationship Coach Training (RCT): https://relationshipschool.com/rct  IG: https://www.instagram.com/jaysongaddis/  @jaysongaddis Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/therelationshipschool @therelationshipschool Twitter: https://twitter.com/JayGaddis  @JayGaddis LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaysongaddis/  Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/JaysonGaddis   Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.