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Jayson Gaddis, MA, is a relationship student, teacher and host of the Smart Couple Podcast. He is also the author of “Getting to Zero: How To Work Through Conflict in your High Stakes Relationships.” Jayson is on a mission to teach people the one class they didn't get in school–” How to do Romantic Relationships.” That's why he founded The Relationship School®. He was emotionally constipated for years before relationship failure forced him to turn his life over to learning about relationships. Now, he's been married to his amazing wife since 2007 (after some brutal breakups) and has two beautiful kids. When he doesn't live and breathe this stuff with his family, he gets his ass handed to him.

Jayson Gaddis, MA, is a relationship student, teacher and host of the Smart Couple Podcast. He is also the author of “Getting to Zero: How To Work Through Conflict in your High Stakes Relationships.” Jayson is on a mission to teach people the one class they didn't get in school–” How to do Romantic Relationships.” That's why he founded The Relationship School®. He was emotionally constipated for years before relationship failure forced him to turn his life over to learning about relationships. Now, he's been married to his amazing wife since 2007 (after some brutal breakups) and has two beautiful kids. When he doesn't live and breathe this stuff with his family, he gets his ass handed to him. This podcast discusses relationships and how to work through conflicts.

JAYSON GADDIS - My guest today is relationship teacher, creator of the Relationship School, host of the Smart Couple Podcast and author of Getting to Zero, Jayson Gaddis. We talk all about ways to "do it better". Relationships are unique and personal, and there are so many ways to "do relationships". We talk about things that all couples can apply in their unique language to ask for what you need or want, resolve or avoid conflict, and to spend more time loving and less time being combative. There is no, one, right, way, but Jayson sheds light on helpful ideas and techniques for you to bring into your own methodology. Why are we all suffering? Do we have too? There are things we can practice and implement to navigate the hard times. Enjoy Jayson Gaddis www.jaysongaddis.com The Relationship School Podcast: The Smart Couple Podcast Books: Getting to Zero The Smart Couple Quote book Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep #153 - Jayson Gaddis, a relationship teacher and student along with the host of the Smart Couple Podcast, joins me for an interview on The Driven Entrepreneur Podcast. Jayson is on a mission to teach people the one topic, or one class, they didn’t get when there in school: “How to do intimate relationships.” This is why he founded the Relationship School. He describes himself as being emotionally constipated for years before relationship failures forced him to turn his life over to studying and learning about relationships. Now, Jayson is married to his amazing wife since 2007 and he has two beautiful kids. When he rests on his laurels and finds himself not living and breathing the same principles that he teaches, his family let him know about it. In our interview, we discuss the different relational blueprints and Jayson shares methods he has learned to calm down to work through issues. Anyone in a relationship can benefit from this discussion. Enjoy! Learn More About Jayson Gaddis: Visit the Relationship School Website at: https://relationshipschool.com/ Visit Jayson Gaddis’ Website at: https://www.jaysongaddis.com/ Get Free Access to “The 3 Keys to Work Through Differences and Disagreements Quickly:” https://www.jaysongaddis.com/3keys/ Check Out Jayson’s Book, “The Smart Couple Quote Book” on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1631610325/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_taft_p1_i0 Connect with Jayson Gaddis on Social Media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jaysongaddis/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jaysongaddisfanpage Whether you are new to The Driven Entrepreneur Podcast or are a fan, please don't forget to rate, review and subscribe to the show. Your support and your reviews help this show to attract prolific guests and to provide the best listening experience possible. Also, I love to hear from the fans and listeners. Please share your feedback, guest suggestions, or ideas for show topics with me on social media. Follow Matt Brauning on Social Media Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mattbrauning Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mattbrauning/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/mattbrauning Visit Matt Brauning's Websites: www.mattbrauningpodcast.com www.fireboxbook.com Get a copy of my brand new book, "The Firebox Principle," on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Firebox-Principle-Drives-Every-Entrepreneur-ebook/dp/B07FDKK9QW  

It's nearly impossible to have deeply connected relationships without vulnerability. And unfortunately, we weren't taught how to be vulnerable in school, or why it's important to stay open in your partnership. And, it's even harder for men to be vulnerable because the messaging has taught us that being vulnerable is a sign of weakness, when in fact, it's a relationship strength.  Jayson Gaddis is the founder of The Relationship School, and the host of The Smart Couple Podcast, and is actively doing the work to help folks have healthier and more connected relationships.  What you'll learn (or why you should care): • The importance of vulnerability and courage in your relationship • What it means to be emotionally available and how to move towards it • How relationships will highlight your areas of development and your zones of discomfort Where to find Jayson Gaddis: The Relationship School https://relationshipschool.com/ The Smart Couple Podcast https://relationshipschool.com/podcast/ Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/therelationshipschool Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jaysongaddis Instagram https://www.instagram.com/therelationshipschool/ Resources and Links Raising Boys to be Better Men with Rachel Guise https://thelovedrive.com/raising-boys-to-be-better-men-with-rachel-giese/ Learn more about The Love Drive Website https://thelovedrive.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive Become a Contributing Lovebird Support The Love Drive here https://thelovedrive.com/join/

This podcast comes from a blog post I wrote for Elephant Journal where I polled over 200 women on my social media channels wit this question: Hetero-women: What are you wanting from us men in the context of an intimate, monogamous partnership? Over 200 women responded. I got emotional reading them. So, guys, listen up and take notes. Soon, we’ll cover what men are saying they want in a partnership. SHOWNOTES (2:10) Top 6 things women want from men (3:56) Willingness (5:10) Emotionally availability (7:22) Presence (9:52) Honesty (11:18)Safety (12:20) Self-awareness (14:47) Action Step

In this episode we explore toxic masculinity and male sexuality. It all starts how we raise our sons. Check it out. SHOWNOTES: (0:15) Intro / Recap from last episodes (2:40) Why talk about toxic masculinity (5:00) #MeToo movement (8:28) Why men live in fear of being acused of toxic behaviors (10:10) Why closed and disconnected men display toxic behavior (12:33) What happens when we don’t teach our boys about sexuality (17:11) Understanding the factors that cause toxic behaviors

In this episode I explain how society and culture play an massive role in the indoctrination of men from a young age, which keeps their hearts behind a giant wall. From a young age, boys learn to repress and hide their emotions and their sensitive side in order to belong to the peer group, their family, and avoid rejection and abandonment.

Few experts have studied more marriages - and determined what makes those relationships succeed or fall apart - than Drs. John and Julie Gottman. The Seattle-based couple and founders of the Gottman Institute are leaders in their field, using decades of case studies to help both new couples and long-term partners communicate, ask the right questions, and find the solutions to keep their relationships intact and running smoothly. On this episode of the Smart Couple Podcast, the Gottmans discuss their newest book on relationships, some of the biggest flash points for arguments and contempt among couples, and why mutual respect is critical for success in any partnership.  SHOWNOTES  Background on the Gottmans [6:00] Surprising Marriage Revelations [9:50] Why Money Creates Arguments [11:20] How to Ask Meaningful Questions [15:25] Insights Learned from Couples on Dates [19:30] Why Fun is Crucial in a Marriage [22:35] The Perils of Screen Use [23:50] The Impact of Attachment [25:40] Interpreting Body Language and Contempt [30:45] How Positive Couples Last [36:25] How the Gottmans Solved Their Marriage [39:20] The Importance of Date Nights [43:50] The Role of Respect in a Relationship [46:30] Advice for Young Couples [50:10] How to Find The Gottmans’ New Book [52:00] Final Thoughts and Action Steps [53:15] HELPFUL LINKS Learn more about the Gottman Institute Buy a Copy of the Gottmans’ New Book Relationship School’s® Survey Smart Couple Facebook Group Roots Community Get the Smart Couple Quote Book The Relationship School® Facebook – Jayson Gaddis Fan Page How to Leave A Podcast Review

We're up to big things over here! Listen in for some Smart Couple Podcast updates and an upcoming events download.   SHOWNOTES: Jayson’s Teaching A Kripalu Workshop In March In MA! [4:00]  Jayson’s Mini Conflict Workshop @ Yoga Pod In Boulder On Saturday, March 9th [7:00] Smart Couple Podcast Update [8:00] Why You Should Consider Becoming A Relationship Coach [9:00] Action Step [12:00]   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.site/podcast228  

Interested in a super useful and deeply moving webinar replay featuring a legendary couple, both of whom are couples therapist and bestselling authors? If so, you’re in luck!    SHOWNOTES:   Why Do Couples Fight? [5:00] Expecting Your Partner To Fulfill Your Unmet Childhood Needs [10:00] What Does It Take To Love Your Partner More Than Yourself? [19:00] The Importance Of Being Present [26:00] Applying The Still Face Experiment & Being Present To Adult Interaction [35:00] Turning Being Present With Each Other Into A Spiritual Practice [42:00] How To Inspire Change In Your Partner [45:00] How To Heal Insecure Attachment [50:00] Helping Your Partner Recover From Dysregulation [54:00] Why Caring For Your Relationship IS Self-Care [55:00] Learning What Your Partner Really Needs [1:07:00] Harville's Thoughts On Co-Dependency & Co-Regulation [1:15:00] When Only One Of You Is Willing To Do The Work Is There Any Point? [1:19:00]   Changes In The New Version of Getting The Love You Want [1:25:00]    Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.site/podcast227  

 If you're serious about wanting to grow and become a better version of yourself you need to know how to ask people to challenge you. Don’t be afraid to get that super valuable feedback!   SHOWNOTES:   Send Us Feedback At info@relationshipschool.com! [1:00] Why Challenge Is Essential In Partnership [2:00]  Escape A Stagnant Relationship With Challenge [4:00] How To Play The "Challenge" Game [5:00] Possible Changes Coming To The Podcast [7:00]   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.site/podcast226  

 Your relationship on shaky ground? Learn the five signs of an insecure relationship and some steps you can take to build the secure relationship we all deserve.    SHOWNOTES:   What Type Of Insecurity Are You Experiencing [3:00] Sign #1 - Not Emotionally Safe & Relaxed [5:00] Sign #2 - Not Feeling Seen [6:00] Sign #3 - You Don’t Feel Supported After A Fight [7:00] Sign #4 - You Don’t Feel Challenged [8:00] Sign #5 - You Feel Like You Can’t Express Yourself [9:00] Info On Upcoming Free Web Events [11:00]   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.site/podcast225    

Hands up if you learned as much about relationships in school as you did about pythagorean theorem. Ya, me neither. Meet Jayson Gaddis -  relationship student & teacher, author, host of the Smart Couple Podcast, and founder of The Relationship School. He is on a mission to teach people the one class they didn’t get in school– 'How to do intimate relationships'. In this episode, we talk about how important it is to treat and train our relationship skills like muscles. Jayson drops some serious knowledge about the benefits of couples therapy (as well as why you might be scared to go), as well as what unconscious investments we all carry that keep us at our same old painful status quo. Let the class begin! Highlight reel: 8:10 – how we disappear in relationships and how to connect instead 13:30 – recognizing false vulnerability 17:30 – tips for having the therapy talk with your partner 23:00 – steps to opening up and transforming within relationships 27:55 – working through disagreements with your partner 31:50 – the window of presence and vulnerability 43:15 – healing after a break-up or divorce Links: Relationship School Instagram The Smart Couple Podcast    

In this episode, Jayson and Ellen speak with relationship mentors Gabrielle and Ted Usatynski about their spiritual journeys and how incorporating relational and scientific knowledge made each of them spiritually stronger than ever before.   SHOWNOTES:   Who are Gabrielle & Ted Usatynski? [6:00] Advantages And Challenges Of Spirituality In Relationship [14:00] Problems Ted & Gabrielle Saw In The Spiritual Community [23:00] Pros & Cons Of Devotion To One School Of Thought Vs Many [26:00] Ellen & Jayson Experience With Relational Problem In Spiritual Communities [32:00] How The Gabrielle And Ted Transitioned Out Of Their Spiritual Groups [36:00] The Pain Of Leaving A Spiritual Community [40:00] Increasing Your Personal Power Through Relationship [44:00] The Health Cost Of Being Alone Too Often [50:00] Ted & Gabrielle's #1 Tips For Listeners [1:00:00]   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode featuring Ted and Gabrielle Usatynski at https://relationshipschool.com/podcast224  

In this unique episode, Jayson and high school student Evalyn Peacey exchange questions about small talk, screen time, online relationships and much more.    SHOWNOTES:   How Should Students Be Taught To Deal With Disagreements [5:00] Why Are We Supposed To Keep Things Shallow In Small Talk [6:00] What Are Some Methods To Get Couples To Open Up And Communicate? [9:00] Some Of Jayson’s Biggest Suggestions For Young People [11:00] Why Do So Many Young People Struggle To Communicate And Bond [13:00] How Can We Learn To Accept Ourselves Sooner [15:00] What Are Some Challenges Teen Are Facing In Their Relationships? [20:00] The Teens & Screens Issue [21:00] Where Are Young People Going For Relationship Help? [23:00] How Can Adults And The Relationship School Help Young People [24:00] Would Students Take A Relationship Class [29:00]   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.net/podcast/relationship-advice-for-teens-evalyn-peacey-smart-couple-podcast-223  

Author and researcher Warren Farrell unpacks his new book The Boy Crisis showing nothing predicts hardship in a boy’s life more than being ‘dad deprived’.   Who is Warren Farrell? [1:00] What Inspired Warren To Focus On Gender? [4:00] Why Is The Father’s Contribution To A Child’s Development Undervalued? [10:00] Research Findings On The Dad Deprived Boy [10:00] Connecting The #MeToo Movement To Raising Boys [17:00] How Boys Are Being Encouraged To Stay Silent [26:00] Defensiveness: Humankind’s Achilles Heel? [30:00] How Rough Play Can Help Teach Empathy [32:00] Why It’s Important For Boys To Learn Postponed Gratification [39:00] How People Are Responding To The Boy Crisis [42:00] What Is Warren Farrell’s Number One Message For Young People? [46:00]   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode with Warren Farrell at https://relationshipschool.net/podcast222  

Saying sorry is the default, socially acceptable response to conflict but it’s also a cop-out. Learn to respond in a way that leads to REAL repair so the kids in your life learn to do the same.    SHOWNOTES: Why It’s Shitty Advice To Tell Your Kid To Say Sorry [2:00] Are You Teaching Your Kid To Say Sorry To Let Yourself Off The Hook? [3:00] What Kids Who Only Say Sorry Become As Adults [5:00] Two Ways To Respond To Conflict That Are Better Than Just Saying I’m Sorry [6:00]   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.net/podcast221  

Clinician and teacher, Stan Tatkin, explains what scientific research is telling us about pair bonding, adult attachment, and how to avoid triggering unwanted reactions.   SHOWNOTES:   Who Is Stan Tatkin? [1:00] Info On Stan’s New Book ‘We Do’ [4:00] Going From Me To We Is Not About Codependency [6:00] What is PACT & Psychobiology? [10:00] Questions You Need To Ask Yourself If You Had a “Great” Childhood [19:00] Allostatic Load And The Intersection Between Health and Security [24:00] How To Start Hard A Conversation [34:00] A Psychobiological Look At Emotions & Hormones [41:00] Listener Question: How Responsible Are We For Our Partner’s Feelings? [49:00] Listener Question: How Does Stan Address Sexual Desire Discrepancies? [55:00]   To RSVP for the free lunchtime webinar with Stan Tatkin and Jayson Gaddis visit https://relationshipschool.net/wedo/   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode with Stan Tatkin at https://relationshipschool.net/podcast220  

In this episode, psychotherapist Terri Cole shares some creative (and funny) strategies for handling problematic family relationships.   SHOWNOTES:   Why Interacting With Family Can Be So Difficult [1:00] Terri Cole’s Family Experience [3:00] The Importance Of Boundaries and Language With Family [7:00] Examples Of Managing Family Dysfunction Successfully [9:00] Strategies For Avoiding Unwanted Conversations With Family [14:00] Is It Okay To Just Walk Away From Shitty Family Conversations? [19:00] Taking A Break From Family And Avoiding Family Holidays Altogether [21:00] When Mom And Partner Are Competing For Attention [25:00] Family Drama Hotline info [29:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast219   Prepare for the holidays and join the free, Family Drama Hotline webinar hosted by Jayson Gaddis and Terri Cole on the evening of November 20th! RSVP at https://relationshipschool.net/hotline/  

THE HOLIDAYS ARE COMING! Are you ready for all the family time? Start preparing now and turn your annual holiday drama into time you really enjoy.    SHOWNOTES:   Why Holiday Cheer Can Be Such Bullshit [2:00] What Role Are You Playing To Appease Your Extended Family? [4:00] Consider Cutting Your Parents Some Slack [6:00] Terri Cole Holiday Drama Hotline Info [8:00] Two Mindsets To Adopt For The Holidays [11:00]     For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast218   Prepare for the holidays and join the free, Family Drama Hotline webinar hosted by Jayson Gaddis and Terri Cole on the evening of November 20th! RSVP at https://relationshipschool.net/hotline/  

So you're dealing with a breakup. In this episode, Jayson offers a guided meditation to help you work this heartache out of your system.   SHOWNOTES:   A Guided Meditation For People Facing A Breakup [2:00] Is Your Past Pain Playing Into Your Current Heartache? [12:00] Choose Who To Talk To About Your Breakup Wisely [14:00] How Relationship School Coaches Can Help You Through Your Separation [18:00]     For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast217    To sign up for Embracing Conflict Weekend, taking place November 9th - 11th in Boulder, Colorado visit https://relationshipschool.net/embracingconflict/  

If your partner feels like a 'ball and chain’, you're doing something wrong. You can feel free to totally be yourself AND have an intimate partnership.   SHOWNOTES: A Question From A Podcast Listener About Giving Space [2:00] Intimacy vs Closeness [4:00] Why the 'Ball and Chain' joke is such bullshit [6:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode on taking space and being yourself visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast216    To sign up for Embracing Conflict Weekend, taking place November 9th - 11th in Boulder, Colorado, visit https://relationshipschool.net/embracingconflict/  

In this final installment of a three-part series on conflict, learn four things you can do post-conflict to repair the relationship as quickly as possible.   SHOWNOTES: Four Things To Do To Reconnect After A Fight [4:00] Embracing Conflict Weekend Info [10:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for part three in this conflict series visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast215 To sign up for Embracing Conflict Weekend, taking place November 9th - 11th in Boulder, Colorado, visit https://relationshipschool.net/embracingconflict/. Use the promo code "smartcouple" before October 21st and get $100 off!

In part two of this three-part series on conflict, Jayson breaks down the two skills you need when you're in the heat of it and explains the different types of fights. SHOWNOTES: Embracing Conflict Weekend Info [1:00] Two Things To Do During Your Next Fight [2:00] The Three Types Of Fights [8:00]  To sign up for Embracing Conflict Weekend, taking place November 9th - 11th in Boulder, Colorado, click here. Use the promo code "smartcouple" before October 15th and get $100 off!  For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for part one of this conflict series episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast214   

Few things can rip a partnership or friendship apart like conflict. In part one of this three-part series on conflict, Jayson proposes ten pre-conflict agreements to transform conflict from a threatening experience into a growth opportunity. SHOWNOTES: Why Learning How To Do Conflict Is Important [1:00] Ten Agreement You Should Make With Your Partner BEFORE Conflict [3:00] Learn How To Do Conflict Well At The Upcoming Embracing Conflict Weekend! [18:00] For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for part one of this conflict series episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast213

Weddings include a lot of really great traditions. But those old school 'in sickness and in health' vows suck. Find out how to do vows the right way.   SHOWNOTES:  Personalized Wedding Vows Vs Traditional Vows [2:00] Why You Should Revisit Your Vows … Over & Over Again [5:00] Good Vows Challenge Your Partner [7:00] Tell Us About Your Wedding Vows! [11:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this Wedding Vows Dos and Don'ts episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast212

You've submitted questions. Jayson's got answers! This Ask Me Anything episode addresses feelings of inadequacy and mismatched sex drives.   SHOWNOTES: Why We Sometimes Feel We’re Not Enough & What To Do About It [2:00] What To Do When Your Partner Has A Different Sex Drive [6:00] How To Submit Your Questions [10:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this Ask Me Anything episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast211

Jayson Gaddis, a relationship student & teacher, host of the Smart Couple Podcast, and founder of The Relationship School™ joins Laurie on this incredibly helpful show. Jayson explains how he is on a mission to teach people the one class they didn’t get in school–”How to do intimate relationships.” Very informative and inspirational. You will […] The post How to do Intimate Relationships with Jayson Gaddis appeared first on WebTalkRadio.net.

 Have a partner, friend or family member with an addiction? Feeling discouraged about their ability to change? Well, often times at the core of addiction ... is a relationship problem. SHOWNOTES: The Connection Between Addiction And Prior Relationship Issues [2:00] Tips For People Who Love An Addict [4:00] Why Trying To Help Save Them Is A Bad Idea [7:00] Addressing The Addict In Your Life Starts With You [10:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode about addiction and partnership visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast210

Society often glorifies the caretaker to a saint-like status. But, it’s important to know when caretaking reaches the point of actually being more harmful than helpful.   SHOWNOTES: What is Caretaking? [1:00] The Caretaker Blindspot [4:00] Slipping From Being A Caretaker And Into Codependency [7:00] Action Step [10:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode about caretaking visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast209

Do you feel safe and secure? Seen and understood? Supported and loved? On a daily basis? Are you spending a fortune cleaning up after your failed relationships? In this episode, Jayson answers your questions about DPIR® and breaks down why the course is so worth it. Click here to apply.    SHOWNOTES: Think About WHY You Were Anxious About Going Back To School [1:00] Some Important Questions You Need To Ask Yourself [5:00] You Have Room For Growth & That's A Responsibility [10:00] Some Things You Get In The DPIR Course [15:00] Let's Break Down The Cost To Join DPIR [26:00] Jayson's DPIR Money-Back Guarantee [32:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode about the Deep Psychology of Intimate Relationships (DPIR)® course visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast208

According to professor and therapist Dr. Alexandra Solomon, engaging your partner in conversation about their past experiences is one of the best things you can do to keep your relationship sexy and exciting. Listen in to find out why! Who is Dr. Alexandra Solomon? [6:00] Alexandra Defines "Relational Self-Awareness" [8:00]  Are Some People Just More Interested In Self-Awareness? [10:00] How Gender Norms Encourage Defensiveness [13:00] Alexandra’s Theories About Why People Avoid Introspection [23:00] How To Start Investigating Your History [31:00]  Why It’s Never Okay To Use Stories From Their Past Against Them [37:00] Things Alexandra is Learning Her Own Marriage [40:00]  Why Self-Care It Vital To A Healthy Partnership [42:00] Relational Themes Dr. Solomon Is Seeing Working With Students [49:00 Getting Better At Relationship To Bring About Social Change [55:00] FREE WEB CLASS - Aug. 14th - CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP!  For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Dr. Alexandra Solomon visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast207

You know those couples where the woman handles almost everything and the man, well ... kind of kicks back and acts like a teenager? That's the mother-son dynamic and in this episode, you'll learn how to escape that relationship trap and figure out why it happens in the first place. The Mom-Son Dynamic From A Woman’s Perspective [3:00] The Mom-Son Dynamic From A Guy’s Perspective [5:00] How to Help A Couple Living In A Parent-Child Relationship [9:00] How The Male Ego Comes Into Play [16:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Ellen Boeder visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast206

As grand prize winners of a recent Smart Couple podcast contest, Heather and Thomas got to sit down for a free session with Jayson. In this emotional and inspiring interview, Jayson helps Heather and Thomas dig into their past to find answers they've been seeking for years. Heather Lays Out Her Side Of The Story [8:00] Thomas Connects With Heather’s Past [20:00] Find Out WHY Your Partner Reacts That Way [28:00] Where Does The Smack You Talk To Yourself Come From? [38:00] Ways To Shake Things Up If You Spend Too Much Time Together [42:00] Jayson Explains The Contest [47:00]   COUPLES CONTEST DETAILS:  You must complete all three steps to qualify. No exceptions.    1. Apply separately by clicking HERE   2. Pay $25 total together (per couple, not per person) by clicking HERE   3. Record a selfie video together as to why you want to do this. 1-3 minutes long. Send to info@relationshipschool.net, with "SC 205 Contest" in the subject line, and if you feel inspired post it in the Smart Couple FB group too.   Grand Prize: One FREE spot for the DPIR 9-month training, which includes two live workshops in Boulder, CO! One person pays in full, and the partner is free. So basically it's two for the price of one! (Value is $6,000) If selected you must be willing to have us document your journey, no matter what happens to you as a couple. We want to show people what's possible if you invest in your relationship like this!    All Participants Win: One FREE [couples] coaching session with one of our Level 2 Relationship Coaches. (Value is $100)   So you can’t lose!    Deadline to enter: Sunday, June 29th by Midnight MT      Winners will be announced August 3rd.       For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Heather and Thomas visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast205

 A lot of things you take personally in relationship have very little to do with your partner. Those issues are really the result of YOUR past, YOUR triggers and YOUR perspective...So says long-time Boulder, Colorado therapist & expert in the field of Child and Adult Attachment Theory and Models, Dr. Diane Poole Heller.  How The Therapy Field Chose Diane [7:00] Why The Attachment Model Is So Central To Diane’s Work [12:00] The Kind Eyes Exercise [19:00] The Three Attachment Styles [21:00] Why Are You Complaining About Your Great Partnership? [32:00] Starting A Relationship Revolution With Secure Attachment [41:00] The Effects of A Disorganized Relationship Environment [46:00] Diane’s Method For Repairing From A Damaging Relationship [52:00] Don’t Sabotage Your Healthy Relationship Because Of Your Attachment Issues [1:01:00] Why You Shouldn’t Try To Heal Trauma Alone [1:03:00] Using Mental Time Travel (Autonoesis) For Healing [1:08:00] Diane’s Take On Why People Experience Repeated Trauma [1:11:00] Diane’s Jem Of Advice For Young Adults & Not Taking Things Personally [1:17:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Diane Poole Heller visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast204

Todd and Cathy talk with Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder, partners and cofounders of The Relationship School. Jayson also hosts the Smart Couple Podcast, and Ellen is a therapist with a private practice. They discuss how couples grow and thrive, why men have a harder time focusing on personal growth, and why connection and self-understanding are the keys to an empowered life.

Todd and Cathy talk with Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder, partners and cofounders of The Relationship School. Jayson also hosts the Smart Couple Podcast, and Ellen is a therapist with a private practice. They discuss how couples grow and thrive, why men have a harder time focusing on personal growth, and why connection and self-understanding are the keys to an empowered life.

Todd and Cathy talk with Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder, partners and cofounders of The Relationship School. Jayson also hosts the Smart Couple Podcast, and Ellen is a therapist with a private practice. They discuss how couples grow and thrive, why men have a harder time focusing on personal growth, and why connection and self-understanding are the keys to an empowered life.

We all want a little reassurance. And that's okay! But as Jayson's wife Ellen Boeder points out, if you're needing reassurance because you feel jealous, the issue you should address is the insecurity in your relationship. Is Monogamy The Problem Or Insecure Attachment? [1:00] The Power Of Reassurance [5:00] Two Impediments To Reassurance [10:00] Navigating A Jealous Partnership [13:00] For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Ellen Boeder visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast203

What does it take to build a strong team-style partnership? Why do so many entrepreneurial types rely on teamwork in their careers, but struggle to be a team player at home? Renowned therapist and co-founder of The Couples Institue, Pete Pearson, leads Jayson through a body-mind exercise that demonstrates ways to control reaction to stress in conflict and improve teamwork.  What Catapulted Pete Pearson Into The Psychology World? [5:00] Why Entrepreneurial & Military Types Struggle With Teamwork At Home [8:00] How To Negotiate With Your Partner Well [14:00] Pete Walks Jayson Through A Calming Exercise [21:00] How Entrepreneurs Respond To Pete’s Self-Strengthening Technique [38:00] Advice For People In Love With An Entrepreneur [44:00] Pete’s Feedback For The Therapeutic Community [47:00] For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Pete Pearson visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast202

Are you just defaulting to monogamy? Ever GENUINELY asked yourself, "Would a different sexual model work better for me?" Author, sex-advice columnist, podcaster and public speaker, Dan Savage, says we should all ask ourselves these questions regularly. Dan and his husband have chosen what they call a "monogamish" relationship. They've accepted that it's impossible to fulfill all your partner's needs and that's a message we can all learn from. We usually focus on monogamous long-term relationships, but in this episode, we'll learn about how all types of relationships can be successful. Listen in and get ready for some introspection into your own sexual expression. SHOWNOTES: What It Means To Be "Monogamish" [2:00] Culture’s Lies About Love & Why You’ll Never Be Enough [9:00] Advice For Bringing A Third Person Into Your Relationship [13:00] Why Non-Monogamy In A Gay Partnership Can Be Easier Straight Relationships [21:00] Thoughts On Transforming The Broken Monogamy Model [28:00] Dan Savage’s Journey To Becoming Monogamish [30:00] How Dan And His Husband Work Out Their Differences [34:00] Is Infidelity Really The Ultimate Betrayal? [41:00] The Consequences Of Denying Your Sexual Needs [46:00] Closing Thoughts [51:00] For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Dan Savage visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast201

It's fair to say that relationship is a journey to discover and learn the answers to one love-related question after another. So, what better way to celebrate this in our 200th EPISODE than to answer as many of your love related questions as we can! SHOWNOTES:  200th Episode Contest Details! [2:00] Doing Partnership With Emotionally Unavailable People [11:00]  How To Hold Your Partner's Feet To The Fire - With Compassion [20:00] Working Through Past Pain For A Better Relationship [24:00]  How to Prioritize Your Partner When Kids Join The Mix [27:00]  Getting Involved In Your Partner's Health Issues [34:00]   ‘Win a Chance to be Coached By Jayson'   To celebrate our 200th Smart Couple episode, we're giving away some big prizes:   Grand Prize - A 45-minute coaching session for you (or you and your partner) with Jayson 2nd Prize - $500 off your DPIR course 3rd Prize - $200 credit for any Relationship School  course 4th Prize - $30 to be used in the Relationship School  store 5th Prize - Smart Couple Quote Book signed by Jayson   Boom! Who’s in?   To enter and win you must: 1. Be or become a member of the Smart Couple Facebook group. 2. Follow Jayson on Instagram and tag 3 friends under his most recent selfie (looks like the one above). 3. Record a selfie video (2 minutes or less) teaching us about one thing you learned from the podcast so far and why it's impacted you so much. And post it in the Smart Couple Facebook group. The contest is open to anyone in the world until Sunday, June 17th at midnight MT. Winners will be announced on the Smart Couple Podcast's 201st episode and on Facebook Wednesday, June 20th.   Will you play? Enter today!   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for our 200th episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast200

Couples therapy legends Harville Hendrix & Helen Hunt were told by THEIR therapist that they were the couple from hell. Since then, not only have they mended, they've gone on to write multiple best-selling books that have revolutionized the therapy field.   SHOWNOTES: Understanding "Connection" [8:00] What Does 'Imago' Mean, According To The Word's Inventors [15:00] Harville & Helen's Response To Imago Therapy Criticism [20:00] How Harville & Helen’s Turned Their Relationship Around [30:00] What is Zero Negativity? [35:00] Tips For Staying Together In The Face of Separation [40:00] Thoughts For The Therapy Field From Helen & Harville [49:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Harville Hendrix & Helen Hunt visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast199  

Having awesome friends is great. Having awesome friends that are ALSO on the personal growth path IS BETTER! Personal growth powerhouses Reuvain Bacal, Will Vanderveer, Keith Kurlander & Jayson Gaddis are longtime friends with a quarter century of coaching & self-improvement experience between them. Listen in on their convo!   SHOWNOTES: Who Are These Guys? [9:00] The Value Of Community [13:00] How These Four Bros Get Through Conflict With Each Other [21:00] Things The Guys Have Called Each Other On [27:00] How These Men Are Defining Love Today [37:00] What Inspires These Friends The Most [51:00] What Does It Mean to Have a Healthy Mind? [1:09:00] Parting Words of Wisdom [1:24:00]   FREE CLASS FOR MEN ONLY - CLICK HERE!  For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Keith Kurlander, Will Vanderveer and Reuvain Bacal visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast198

We all have a tendency to avoid things that are difficult but Human Connection Specialist and dating coach, Mark Groves, knows where there's pain there's gain. Let's take a look at our wounded, angry warrior sides and see what they have to teach us about loving well!   SHOWNOTES: Are You Fixing People to Boost Your Control? [8:00] Overusing of the "Narcissist" Title [16:00] The Value of Accessing Your Anger [21:00] So Your Relationships Are Tough - Stop Running! [28:00] How to Tap Into Your Inner Warrior [31:00] Skillful and Attractive Anger [34:00] Staying in The Hurt [48:00] Why You Should Be Going to Conferences (Like MOTU) [52:00] Leaving Friends Behind When You’re Growing [54:00] P.S. Mark is HOOKING US UP with $200 off tickets to the Masters Of The [U]niverse Summit in Vancouver this July! I'll be presenting along with many other crazy inspiring speakers. Just enter the code "Smart Couple" when you get your tickets. Click here to get started.    For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast197

Who knew saying the words "I'm insecure" could be so sexy!?! It's time to uncover those insecurities, let go of the entitlement and celebrate where you're really at on your growth path.   SHOWNOTES: Why Insecurity Gets a Bad Rap [2:00] Call B.S. on Your Insecure Friends! [5:00] What Does it Mean to be ”Entitled” [6:00] Your Action Step - It’ll Make You Look Sexy! [9:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast196

Coaches Neil Sattin and Chloe Urban are a great example of a couple getting it right in the face of some serious challenges. Listen closely and you can snag some of their most helpful relationship tools!   SHOWNOTES: Chloe Urban and Neil Sattin’s Love Story [5:00] Advice for Couples When Step-Kids Are Involved [11:00] Why We Fail To Stand Up For Who We Are In Partnership [25:00] Primal Fears [27:00] How Does “Safety” Play a Role In Neil and Chloe's Relationship [31:00] Tip to Repair Relationship Disconnection [36:00] Dr. Pete Levine’s “Vu-ing” Technique for Self-Regulation [41:00] Chole & Neil’s Spiritual Practice-Relationship Intersection [45:00] When One Member of a Couple Doesn’t Have a Spiritual Practice [50:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Neil Sattin and Chloe Urban visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast195

Jayson met up with renowned couples therapy expert and author, Ellyn Bader, at this year's Interpersonal Neurobiology Conference at UCLA. WOW, was she a treasure trove of insight. Not just theories and concepts, but insight that can be used every day. SHOWNOTES: Who is Ellyn Bader? [3:00] Anxiety vs Growth-Promoting Anxiety in Relationship [7:00] Three Different Decision-Making Strategies For Couples [16:00] Ellyn’s Insight for Therapists [21:00] Why Telling Your Partner What You "Need" Can be Problematic [29:00] The Confusion Around Differentiation vs Individuation [37:00] What Ellyn Means When She Asks, "Are You a Lie Invitee?" [47:00] For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode featuring Ellyn Bader visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast194

Right now, researchers and the public are fascinated with brain science and Dr. Dan Siegel is a legend in that department. Jayson and Dr. Siegel dig in deep in this one, discussing autoimmune disease, rewiring the brain, GMO food, struggles in the therapy field and so much more.d and so much more. SHOWNOTES: Why It’s Important to Have Healthy Adult Relationships for Good Health [12:00] Dr. Siegel's Thoughts on Epigenetics [15:00] The 5 Parts of Making Meaning [24:00] Emotion & The Importance of Subjective Experience [29:00] Autoimmune Disorders, Gluten and GMO Foods [41:00] Adverse Childhood Experiences and Illness [46:00] Where Are Therapist Falling Short And What Are They Doing Well [1:00:00] Dr. Siegel's Advice for Young People [1:06:00]   For the full web posting for this Smart Couple Podcast episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast193

Think a boring sex life is inevitable in a longterm relationship? Wrong! Jamie Wheal and Julie Webster are escaping traditional perceptions around intimacy. Learn how a sexual practice can refresh your relationship AND your nervous system.    SHOWNOTES: How Jamie and Julie's "Summer Connection Schedule" Works [7:00] Appreciating Life is in Chapters [16:00] What Burning Man Taught Jamie About Freedom [22:00] Explained: Polyamory and Hyrogamy [30:00] What is a Sexual Practice and Why You Should Have One? [44:00] Advice From Jamie and Julie [51:00]   For the full web posting for this Smart Couple Podcast episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast192    

A new study shows child abuse should be considered the second largest cause of illness in the U.S.. And yet, our diagnostic system ignores trauma completely. Listen to what trauma expert Bessel van der Kolk has to say about that and get his insight into turning traumatic pain into personal power!   SHOWNOTES: Bessel Responds to The Allegations Against Him [10:00] 2nd Largest National Health Problem: Child Abuse  [17:00] Avoiding Seeing Trauma Victims as Broken People [20:00] Why Meds Don't Cure Trauma [28:00] Explained: Why Child Abuse Can Lead to More Abuse [38:00] The Harm in Telling a Trauma Story Over and Over   For the full web posting for this Smart Couple Podcast episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast191

Jayson Gaddis is the founder of The Relationship School and the host of The Smart Couple Podcast. Jayson is a relationship student and teacher, and a true wealth of knowledge when it comes to love. In today’s episode, we dive into the intricacies of romantic relationships, including the three stages of love, how to identify your non-negotiable needs, what intimacy really means and how to cultivate it. Tune in for practical tips about how to be true to yourself, call in the ONE, or deepen a relationship with a current partner.  Full show notes and links at http://AreYouBeingReal.com/163

 Men are getting their world's rocked by the #MeToo movement and the rapid change in gender norms. In this episode, Jayson taps into Adam Gilad's valuable insight on men in the modern world. SHOWNOTES: Who is Adam Gilad & What is Going on With Men Right Now [3:00] Men and the #MeToo Movement [8:00] Why Does the #MeToo Movement Make Some Men Defensive? [11:00] Why Male Identity Ultimately Doesn't Mean Shit [14:00]  Mom Issues and Male Rage [18:00] Thoughts on Male Conditioning [20:00] How do you Help People who Don't Want to be Helped? [23:00] What Women Need to Know About men Right now [25:00]   For the full web posting for this Smart Couple Podcast episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast190

This year's Interpersonal Neurobiology Conference at UCLA was a dream for a relationship research and brain science nerd! If you geek out on that stuff, you'll love hearing the highlights Jayson and his therapist partner, Ellen Boeder, have in their personal conference notes. SHOWNOTES: Antonio Damasio Highlights [5:00] Dan Siegel Highlights [8:00] Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt Highlights - Safe Conversation [12:00] Crazy Listening Statistic [15:00] Secure Functioning Relationships and Other Stan Tatkin Highlights [18:00] Insight for Therapists and Couples from Peter Pierson [18:00] Affairs and Esther Perel Highlights [25:00] The Shame of Staying With a Partner That Cheats [29:00] Insight from the Couples Panel [31:00] For the full web posting for this Smart Couple Podcast episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast189

If you're like most people, you spend FOUR HOURS A DAY on your phone and check it ONE HUNDRED TIMES! Is all that time improving your life and the lives of others? If you use social media and want to hear a unique story about rebuilding after a separation, this episode is worth every minute!   SHOWNOTES: Who is Mark Shapiro? [5:00] Some Social Media Fails [12:00] Mark’s Extreme Social Media Experiment [16:00] Why do we Avoid Reaching out to Friends Online? [27:00] Mark’s First Marriage: Before & After [31:00] Showing Appreciation When You're not Feeling it [34:00] What was Open Relationship Life Like? [37:00] Advice for Couples Considering Divorce [48:00] Why Being Real is Important [56:00]   For the full web posting for this Smart Couple Podcast episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast188

Happy New Year! In this special episode, Jayson shares his candid thoughts on what worked for the Smart Couple Podcast last year, what did not and the changes planned for 2018. We also get Jayson's top ten episodes list from 2017.   SHOWNOTES The Smart Couple Podcast: Reflections on 2017 and Plans for 2018 [4:00] What's The Relationship School Have In Store for 2018? [12:00] Jayson's 2017 Top Ten Episodes List [17:00] Hidden Power Of Conflict – Annie Lalla – SC 88 How To Deal With An Avoidant Partner & Interpersonal Stress – Stan Tatkin – SC 104 The Neuroscience & Power of Safe Relationships – Stephen W. Porges – SC 116 Ayahuasca, Trauma, & Relationships – Dr. Gabor Maté – SC 134 The 4 Freedoms That Develop Masculine Depth & Purpose – Satyen Raja – SC 140 The Trap of Becoming Your Partner’s Therapist – Danielle LaPorte – SC 146 My Wife On How To Repair After A Ruptured Connection – Ellen Boeder – SC 152 Setting Boundaries With Ease, Grace and Love – Terri Cole – SC 156 Interpersonal Neurobiology – Dan Siegel – SC 158 Why Spiritually Developed People Struggle With Monogamy – Ellen & Jayson – SC 176

 Is your spiritual growth helping your relationship? Are you collaborating with your partner to better yourself as an individual? Or are you going to your corner of the house to meditate all by yourself? Their careers as therapists and decades of mediation experience have lead Jayson Gaddis and his wife Ellen Boeder to multiple spiritual development discoveries. Turns out even the most spiritually advanced amongst us struggle with relationships. Jayson and Ellen also encourage couples to discover how collaboration with a partner in times of stress can strengthen each individual. This episode is full of tips for anyone interested in bettering themselves and their relationship at the same time! Here are a few highlights:   SHOWNOTES How Ellen & Jayson Benefit from Spiritual Practice [2:00] Spiritually Advanced People Struggle With Relationships [10:00] Strengthening Relationship With Dependence [17:00] Calming Down Together [20:00] Where Spirituality Alone Falls Short [25:00] When “Your” Triggers Should Be An “Us” Thing [33:00]   'Win a Chance to be Coached By Jayson' To celebrate my first book, The Smart Couple Quote Book and the Holiday Season, I am giving away 3 big prizes. 2nd place) $200 credit for any of my courses, 3rd place) $30 to be used in the Relationship School store and the Grand Prize is a 45-minute coaching session for you or you and your partner from me! Boom! Who's in? To enter to win you must go to the Jayson Gaddis Fan Page on Facebook and 1. Find the Contest Post 2. Like the contest post 3. Comment on the post with what you love about The Smart Couple Book 3. Share the post and tag 3 friends   AND extra bonus points: For an extra 5 entries into the raffle, post a selfie of you on your social channels with the book tagging Jayson Gaddis OR leave a review of the book on Amazon. If you leave a review, email us a screenshot of your review at info@jaysongaddis.com . Make sure we see the tagged post as well. Send us an email as a back up with a link to your social post.   Contest is open to anyone in the world until December 10 at 11:59p MT. Winners will be announced on the Smart Couple Podcast and Facebook on Wednesday, December 13th.

Jayson Gaddis, relationship student & teacher and host of the Smart Couple Podcast, is on a mission to teach people the one class they didn’t get in school– "How to do Romantic Relationships.” That’s why he founded The Relationship School®. He was emotionally constipated for years before relationship failure forced him to turn his life over to learning about relationships. Now, he’s been married to his amazing wife since 2007 (after some brutal break ups) and has two beautiful kids. When he doesn’t live and breathe this stuff with his family, he pretty much gets his ass handed to him. Jayson teaches individuals how to use conflict to create a more fulfilling and sustainable relationship. He teaches virtual relationship empowerment classes to students around the globe. Most importantly, Jayson teaches that hidden within any and all relationship pain are the seeds of you getting more empowered in your life and more connected to yourself. Even though many of his school teachers said he sucked at writing, he writes anyway. His first book for the Smart Couple’s will be out November 2017. He has also written for The Good Men Project, Elephant Journal, Your Tango, The Jungle Of Life, Primer Magazine, Integral Life, and Recovering Yogi. Some topics in this podcast: - Conflict, how to lean into it and resolve it - How to transform conflict into intimacy - The relationship between judgement and accountability/ownership - Identifying the insecurity that is the root cause of conflict - The relationship between your nervous system and conflict - How to “do” romantic relationships - What is hidden and deeply embedded in your relationship pain - When to let go of a relationship and when to stay - 2 questions to identify your triggers & work through them  Check out the mini-episode "How To Know When To Go": https://mantalks.com/how-to-know-when-to-go/ For more information about ManTalks or to join a ManTalks Mastermind: Click Here Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Stitcher Radio | Android For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Some Questions Connor Asks:Could you share a defining moment for you? - 4:11 Why do so many men drag a relationship out instead of ending it? - 6:36 How can we be better about dealing with conflict? - 14:59 How do relationships effect nervous systems within couples? - 21:11 Can you repack the different types of reactivity and how do we address it? - 28:45 Did you enjoy the podcast?If so please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Stitcher. It helps our podcast get into the ears of new listeners, which expands the ManTalks Community!   Thank You to the Team:Editing & Mixing by: Aaron Johnson

Studies clearly show that fulfilling relationships are the most important part of a happy and full life.  Statistics show that weren't simply not very good at them.  In particular, men have not been brought up to prioritize relationships, nor have we been taught the skills needed for intimacy and connection.  Jayson Gaddis has a long history of working with men, and now teaches both men and women to do relationships better. Jayson is the host of the Smart Couple Podcast and the founder of The Relationship School.  He is a sought after marriage and relationship coach because he gets results.  Jayson's approach is no-nonsense and honest, he shares that the real work of being in a fulfilling relationship starts with doing your own personal work.   http://www.jaysongaddis.com/    

Jayson Gaddis, a relationship student & teacher, host of the Smart Couple Podcast, and founder of The Relationship School™ joins Laurie on this incredibly helpful show. Jayson explains how he is on a mission to teach people the one class they didn’t get in school–”How to do intimate relationships.” Very informative and inspirational. You will […] The post Sex and Happiness – How to do Intimate Relationships with Jayson Gaddis appeared first on WebTalkRadio.net.

Do you follow your "Yes?"Following your "Yes" is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week. On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week. Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”.  Enjoy! Clayton OlsonNot Following - Several years ago in a previous relationship Clayton was in a relationship with a woman and about 3 years into it, he knew they were not compatible anymore. They were just growing different directions. There was a large part of Clayton that did not trust breaking up with her at the time. Doubting if what he was feeling was real. As a result he prolonged the relationship for another 9 months to a year. The writing was on the wall, but he was too afraid of making a mistake and looking back and regretting it. Ultimately they could have saved each other a lot of time if they had just sat down and been honest with each other. Following - A few years ago Clayton was working in corporate America, making good money, working with friends, had a boss he respected and everything seemed perfect, but he was not fulfilled. It took some difficult evenings of realizing that what he was doing was not where he wanted to go. There was a gut feeling or a “knowing” that said, “this is not me.” He could not identify with the vision he saw of himself in the future if he stayed on this path. Although he had family and friends who thought he was crazy to start a coaching business, he didn’t listen to anybody except himself. Ultimately, it has been one of the best decisions he has ever made. It hasn’t been easy and he has questioned it at times, but he has no regrets. Listen to Clayton's full interview here (https://speakingofpartnership.com/127-clayton-olson/) Connect with Clayton - Clayton's website (http://www.claytonolsoncoaching.com) Jayson GaddisNot Following - Jayson was in a college fraternity and there was a lot of hazing going on. He had a gut feeling it was not cool, but he was overriding this sensitivity to try and fit in. So he didn’t speak up and say anything. And he participated in the hazing. Following - Eventually Jayson caught on and as president of that fraternity he started setting some boundaries. But it wasn't until he heard a talk on hazing that his inner voice was validated. Jayson knew in his heart that something was out of integrity. As he sat there, all this shame and guilt came up and he knew it was time to act. Jayson sent back to the fraternity as an alumni and put an end to it. He was hated by a lot of people, but he felt great about the decision to act. It was super empowering and something he is proud of to this day. Listen to Jayson's full interview here (https://speakingofpartnership.com/128-jayson-gaddis/) Connect with Jayson - Jayson's website (http://jaysongaddis.com) Relationship School (http://www.jaysongaddis.com/therelationshipschool/) The Smart Couple Podcast (https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-smart-couple-podcast/id997215878?mt=2) (https://speakingofpartnership.com/129-follow-yes-friday-38/)

Jayson Gaddis is a relationship student & teacher and host of the Smart Couple Podcast, and is on a mission to teach people the one class they didn’t get in school–”How to do intimate relationships.” That’s why he founded The Relationship School™. He was emotionally constipated for years before relationship failure forced him to turn his life over to learning about relationships. Now, he’s married to his amazing wife of 8 years and has two beautiful kids. And when he doesn’t live and breathe this stuff with his family, he pretty much gets his ass handed to him. Jayson will teach you how to use conflict to create a more fulfilling and sustainable relationship. He teaches you that hidden within any and all “relationship pain” are the seeds of you getting more empowered in your life and more connected to yourself. He teaches virtual relationship empowerment classes to students around the globe. And even though many of his school teachers said he sucked at writing, he writes anyway for The Good Men Project & Elephant Journal, The Jungle Of Life, Primer Magazine, Integral Life, and Recovering Yogi. Guiding Principle, Quote or Mantra Relationships are about growth, not happiness. When you have a growth mindset, then when your partner pisses you off or upsets you or does things that hurt your feelings, it’s not a problem. When You Tripped Up Early on in Jayson’s relationship with the woman who is now his wife he was studying psychotherapy and thought he really knew how to listen. When he tried to apply the techniques he had learned with his then girlfriend, they didn’t really work. And he kept trying them for years. Through her loving feedback, which was challenging at times, Jayson learned how to listen in a way that worked for her. And he realized he was mostly listening in a way that worked for him. Jayson’s rule of thumb that he learned from this experience is that he doesn’t understand his wife until she feels understood and she says so.  Proudest moment in partnership Jayson was recently backpacking with his wife and kids and he essentially set up the trip for everyone. As they watched the Sun set one evening, he looked over at the smiles on his family’s faces and was so proud and happy to have a family and partnership that he can do these types of things with. Current Partnerships Jayson and his wife make it a point to carve out time for a date night every week. They are both crazy busy and they make it a priority.  This commitment to connecting and supporting each other and challenging each other about their lives is huge for them. What is the best partnership / relationship advice you have ever received? Partnerships and relationships are about growth. And they can be a path to becoming more of yourself. Best Partnership Book (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1608820580/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=1608820580&linkCode=as2&tag=speakofpartn-20&linkId=3cccd0d6d6f623c618cfd09888db96e9) Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1608820580/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=1608820580&linkCode=as2&tag=speakofpartn-20&linkId=7be1c29bae48e4c54f53f34a58178f25) The Payoff of Partnership Having kids. For Jayson this is the biggest payoff. He knows he is a better person because he is a father and a husband. None of this would have been possible if he didn’t partner with someone. Jayson’s life is enhanced 10x because he is married to an amazing woman and they have a an awesome partnership. More is possible in his life, in his business and everywhere else, when he’s plugged into her and their vibe is good and their on. He can tackle...

In this episode, Jayson Gaddis provides valuable information for men who experience conflict in relationship. He provides a way of looking at relationships that will help men step off of the rollercoaster and manage their own triggers so they can show up in a way that leads to more harmonious relating. Jayson Gaddis, relationship student & teacher and host of the Smart Couple Podcast, is on a mission to teach people the one class they didn't get in school–”How to do intimate relationships.” That's why he founded The Relationship School. He was emotionally constipated for years before relationship failure forced him to turn his life over to learning about relationships. Now, he's married to his amazing wife of 9 years and has two beautiful kids. When he doesn't live and breathe this stuff with his family, he pretty much gets his ass handed to him.

Chris and Billy Jo are two podcast listeners who won a chance to be interviewed and laser coached by me on the podcast. As you listen, pay close attention to their dynamic, their openness to feedback and most importantly a commitment to growing individually and as a couple. If you got value from this episode format, please share your feedback in The Smart Couple Facebook Group and I’ll do more!   SHOWNOTES How did Chris & Billiejo meet and how long have they been together? [8:00] When did they know it was the right time to tell the kids about their relationship? [11:15] Their advice for couples on how to introduce your kids to your new dating partner? [13:30] How has The Smart Couple Podcast helped Chris & Billiejo in their relationship? [15:30] The big lesson that Billiejo learned from a big fight with Chris [19:00] Jayson gives his laser coaching on how to move beyond their repeating patterns. [20:15] The best reframe to heal from blame and resentment with an ex. [24:00] What to do to move beyond infidelity. [28:30] Jayson gives an action step to heal and process blame. [34:00]  

Jayson Gaddis, host of The Smart Couple Podcast, is the breakthrough marriage and relationship coach for smart, successful, people. He’s on the planet to help people learn and master intimacy and relationship. He’s a husband and part-time stay-at-home Dad getting schooled by his two cosmic kids. Jayson writes his own highly personal blog, and has also written for Integral Life, Digital Romance, The Jungle of Life, Primer Magazine, Recovering Yogi, & Elephant Journal. You can find him over at his website portal: Jayson Gaddis   In this episode we go deep on one of my favorite topics: relationships. You'll learn why so many of us experience a drift in our intimate relationships, common fixes of communication, why Men tend to hide their feelings -- and even catch Jayson coaching Tommy live on the air about a question many Men ask all the time.   If you enjoyed this episode of the Academy, we'd deeply appreciate a subscribe and review on iTunes and sharing it with your friends, you can also grab your FREE Resist Average Blueprint, a 10 page PDF designed to help you get clear and achieve unthinkable clarity and results starting today.   LISTEN HERE:   iTunes  Android Stitcher   Resist Average,   Tommy    www.ResistAverageAcademy.com  

Jayson Gaddis – Chief relationship geek and host of the Smart Couple Podcast is the breakthrough marriage and relationship teacher for smart, successful, people. He was emotionally constipated for years before relationship failure drove him into a corner where he had no where to go but face his demons. From there Jayson was determined to overcome his blocks to intimacy and self-sabotage in relationship. He spent years in therapy and self-development programs until he slowly figured this relationship stuff out. In this episode, Jayson talks with us about relationship pain and growth. He addresses three relationship types. If you and your partner have different relationship types, than this is probably causing some level of conflict and stress. This will especially be true if one of you has the growth and development type and your partner does not. (These are Show Notes: Be sure to listen to the episode to hear stories, examples, and more tips.) THREE TYPES OF RELATIONSHIP 1.  Comfort and Security Type: Partners want to be safe. They don’t want to grow. 2. Pleasure & Fun Type: Partners want to have fun. They don’t want drama and challenge. 3. Growth & Development Type: Partners wants to grow and learn. Jayson also talks with us about how to skillfully address your relationship desires with your partner so that you can be on the path towards relationship growth and fulfillment. MENTIONED Jayson Gaddis (website) Jayson Gaddis’ Map (opt-in) Smart Couple Podcast (itunes) Survey: How To Improve Empowered Relationship (survey) If you have a topic you would like me to discuss or a situation you would like me to speak to, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here. Thank you so much for your interest growing and improving your relationship. I hope you are more in the know of what leads to a lasting marriage/relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you!  If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Empowered Relationship Course or doing relationship coaching work with me.