The Terri Cole Show

Today I'm super excited to share an interview with Dr. Jody Carrington! Jody is a fearless advocate for authentic human connection in her speaking, writing, and clinical psychology. She shares so much about her personal story: From how her upbringing on a farm in the rural town of Viking, Alberta taught her that she couldn't rest to the way her identity was challenged when she learned that her parents had been hiding a secret sibling from her for her whole life. Plus, Jody shares her insights on trauma, empathy, and the power of analog human connection. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/753

Are family roles still running your life? Do you feel like you're always the "responsible one" in your family? Are you exhausted from being the designated crisis responder, organizer, or emotional go-between for your siblings? Do you find yourself stuck in the same childhood role you've been playing for decades, even though you're a full-grown adult? If you're nodding along, you're definitely not alone. I've been getting tons of emails from people struggling with difficult sibling relationships, dealing with lingering resentment, invisible labor, and feeling trapped in roles they never asked for but somehow feel like they can't escape. In this episode of The Terri Cole Show, I'm breaking down the six biggest triggers that keep adult siblings stuck in conflict, why those childhood family roles still control us, and what you can actually do to change these exhausting patterns. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/752

On today's episode I'm interviewing special guest Gretchen Rubin, who transitioned from a successful law career to become a bestselling author, speaker, and happiness expert. She tells me all about how her quest to understand power, money, fame, and happiness led her to write bestselling books like The Happiness Project. In this episode, Gretchen shares her insights on redefining success, embracing change, and living a life aligned with your values. Tune in to explore how you can expand your own idea of success and step into a bigger life! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/751

On today's episode, I get to welcome my pal Case Kenny back to the Terri Cole Show! We're exploring the themes of his new book, The Opposite of Settling: How to Get Everything You Want Out of Love and Life Without Losing Your Spark. He shares how we can redefine relationships to embrace independence, start dating already happy and complete, and find love that amplifies our true selves. If love is a part of your life (and what human could say it isn't?), then you need to hear today's episode!  Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/750

Are you the go-to person in your family, always fixing, supporting, and listening — but feeling drained? In this episode, we'll explore how to create boundaries without losing connection, and why boundaries are key to protecting your peace. I'll share my own story of stepping out of the “family fixer” role, the pushback I faced, and the identity shift that came with it. You'll learn practical ways to set emotional boundaries that honor both you and your relationships. It's time to stop over-functioning, protect your energy, and build healthier, more balanced connections through clear and compassionate boundaries. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/749

I first met Candy when she interviewed me on her show, and now I have the pleasure of inviting her on to the Terri Cole Show! She's an author, public speaker, and business expert who founded her first business before 21. She shares her very own story of creating the life she wanted from humble beginnings and offers some tips to build your financial literacy and help you create the life you want. Plus, she shares some common pitfalls entrepreneurs face and how you can avoid them! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/748

Today I'm sharing a chat with Stephanie Chinn, an expert on female solidarity and therapeutic arts practice. If you're always guilty when you spend time on something “unproductive” like art, especially bad art, Stephanie has an important PSA: It's okay to make bad art. In fact, making bad art is productive. If you want to hear all about that, plus Stefanie's own journey with addiction and body positivity, today's episode is for you! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/747

When you are upset, do you feel like you have to manage your emotions on your own? Maybe you don't need to! These days, emotional self-regulation and co-regulation are hot topics. In today's episode, I'm gonna be breaking down what these terms really mean and taking a stand for the fact that we were really never meant to regulate alone.  It's such a powerful process to be with other people and have the ability to co-regulate. Listen to today's episode for examples of what that looks like and how you can do it more in your own life. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/746

On today's episode, I'm lucky to be sharing a chat with renowned feminist theologian Meggan Watterson. She shares the narrative of Thecla, a saint whose story was nearly erased from history, and describes how her story can inspire us to take back our own inherent spiritual authority. Tune in to uncover the transformative power you can claim when you know your own worth and reclaim your spiritual authority. Plus, how piety might look different for women than for men. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/745

On today's episode, we're diving deep into Amber Rae's transformative journey. She's a best-selling author and speaker who broke free from a marriage that was really a friendship and chose to face real vulnerability instead. We chat about the challenges and triumphs of choosing authenticity over being a good girl. Plus, we chat about her memoir, Lovable: A Memoir, One Woman's Path from Good to Free. I hope you enjoy listening to today's discussion of self-discovery, intuition, and the power of personal choice as much as I enjoyed having it! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/704

Are you only as good as your last huge accomplishment? I want you to pause for a moment and think about how you measure your worth. Do you find yourself in that relentless cycle of head-down, go-go-go energy, telling yourself you'll celebrate when you get the big thing done? When you land the promotion, finish the project, and reach the milestone that feels worthy enough of your attention? If this sounds familiar, you're not alone. And you're also missing out on something profound. On today's episode, I'm giving you some tips to combat that tendency that makes you work more and celebrate less! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/743

On today's episode, I'm so excited to share a chat with Orion Talmay! She shares her personal story: how an abusive relationship shaped her life trajectory and propelled her to her current calling. Plus, she gives some tips for mirror work, inner child work, and manifesting that you can use yourself. We finished the show with some thoughts on the path to self-acceptance and self-love that I really think everybody needs to hear. I hope you enjoy today's episode with Orion as much as I enjoyed interviewing her! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/742

On today's episode, I'm sharing an insightful conversation with Vanessa Bennett, a licensed depth psychologist and co-author of It's Not Me, It's You. Together, we delve into the complexities of codependency and relationship dynamics, exploring how societal norms shape our understanding of love and attachment. Vanessa shares her journey from advertising to therapy and how she learned to value authenticity over attachment in relationships. Plus, how triggers can be opportunities for growth and why breaking up doesn't have to be a total mess. Whether you're navigating a breakup or seeking healthier relationship patterns, I hope you find Vanessa's tips just as valuable as I have! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/741

"I'll start dating as soon as I lose those 10 pounds." "I can't go to that event until I find the perfect outfit." "I'll put myself out there when I feel more confident, more ready." Do any of these sound familiar? That little whisper in the back of your head that seems so reasonable, almost protective? I want you to sit with this for a moment: underneath that whisper is a belief that where you are right now, exactly as you are, is not good enough. That unless you present some flawless version of yourself to the world, you're not worthy of love, connection, or success. This is how perfectionism sneaks its way into our relationships, and it's far more insidious than you might think. On today's episode I'm going to give you tips to identify where you're being a perfectionist, recognize the impact it's having on your relationships, and take your choices back from perfectionism. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/740

I felt so lucky to record this episode! On today's show, I had my first chance to host world-renowned fitness and nutrition expert JJ Virgin. She's been at the top of the wellness space longer than practically anyone else, and today she's using her expertise to teach us how to age powerfully. I always say that we don't get to choose whether we age, but we do get to choose how we age. If you choose to age without losing your strength and ability, then this episode is for you! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/739

Have you been going through life confused about why the people you trust always seem to let you down? Or do you avoid trusting anyone because you aren't sure who deserves it? You might have learned disordered trust patterns from your family of origin. On today's episode, I'm sharing some strategies for identifying patterns that don't serve you and getting clarity on who deserves a space in the front row of your life. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/738

I'm so excited to have Tim Chantarangsu on the show to talk about life as a comedian, being one of the OG content creators (he started *before* YouTube was a thing), family, food, and being a father.  I met Tim on the set of Counsel Culture with Nick Cannon and was immediately drawn to how insightful and humorous he was. I hope you enjoy this interview as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/737

Do you catch yourself saying… I don't want them to think… I don't want them to feel… I don't want to seem difficult… I don't want to hurt their feelings… If so, this episode is for you because it's about becoming a boundary boss without guilt. When we say, “I don't want them to think,” or “I just wanted to be nice,” we're self-abandoning and not setting boundaries we need to set. It's time to change that! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/736

I'm thrilled to welcome my close pal, Jennifer Pastiloff, back to the show to celebrate the release of her new book, Proof of Life: Let Go, Let Love, and Stop Looking for Permission to Live Your Life. It's a call to arms to stop self-abandoning and no longer wait for permission, which I think is perfect for this community. ❤️ Jen has such a unique voice and wonderful sense of humor, and in this girlfriend jam, we talk about shame loss, Jen's inspiration for the subtitle, and how she is really living what she's writing about. It's so inspiring and empowering.  Watch to the end because she also shares a beautiful poem for those who feel like they're constantly behind. I think you'll love it!  P.S. Jen's TEDx Talk, Nothing You Do Is Wrong: https://youtu.be/_-RlIS9JbhM?si=fU2V8AuP6CvlqzSw Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/735

Do you rush to fix other people's problems even before they ask you to? Do you pride yourself on being the go-to person people turn to for help? Are you the “I'm fine, I got it” person when it comes to your own problems? Maybe you anticipate other people's needs, overdeliver, rarely ask for help, and also feel exhausted, resentful, and underappreciated, while wondering why your relationships feel unsatisfying.  If this resonates, or you identify as a high-functioning codependent (HFC), today's episode is for you. I'm talking about when “helping” is hurtful, how HFCs tend to cross boundaries (even with good intentions), the hidden cost of emotional fixing, and how to respect the sovereignty of others. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/734

I am so excited to have dating coach and podcast host Sabrina Zohar on the show to talk about dating, relational issues, and what a secure, emotionally safe relationship looks like.  Sabrina shares the work that she did to get out of unhealthy relational patterns, how she navigates her relationship with her narcissistic father, what her and her partner do to make each other feel safe and secure, how she sets boundaries with difficult people, and so much more.

Do you say yes when you want to say no? Do you do more emotional labor in nearly all of your relationships? Are you the one everyone counts on, while no one is there for you? (Maybe you don't even allow people to be there for you?) If any of this sounds familiar, this episode is for you.  I had many requests to do another episode on people-pleasing, so let's cover how people-pleasing and self-abandonment are survival mechanisms, the cost of these behaviors to us and our relationships, and how we can slowly shift into healthier ways of relating. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/732

I'm so excited to have a new pal, Alana Carvalho, a licensed mental health counselor, on the show to talk about two topics we're both passionate about: codependency and perfectionism! We talk about why these two things go together, our experiences of being in recovery from both, what inspired Alana to create The Codependent Perfectionist brand, how to ease up on perfectionism and codependent behaviors, and so much more.  I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/731

Do you notice micro changes in people's facial expressions and ask yourself, “What did I do wrong?” Are you able to sit with someone in pain without trying to fix them? Are you so emotionally attuned to everything and everyone that you feel exhausted? If any of this sounds familiar, you're not broken; you just lack the skills (boundaries!) needed to embrace your superpower (being an empath). You can care, love, and feel deeply without losing yourself in someone's pain, which is what I'm talking about in this episode. I hope it helps you hit pause on taking on people's emotions and gives you the tools you need to manage your energy. Read the show notes from today's episode at terricole.com/730

I am thrilled to have Shannon Watts, author and founder of Moms Demand Action, on the show to talk about her new book, Fired Up: How to Turn Your Spark Into a Flame and Come Alive at Any Age. I was definitely fired up and inspired by what Shannon had to share, and I think you will be, too. If you've been going through life on autopilot (as many high-functioning codependents do), feel like something is missing, or like you've been playing it small and it's time to stop and do something different, this conversation is for you. Shannon shares practical tips and strategies for reimagining your life and while we talk about perimenopause and menopause, these tips can apply to anyone in any season of life! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/729

Every close relationship hits turbulence at some point. Conflict is inevitable.  That's why the real magic of secure, emotionally mature relationships isn't about avoiding conflict. It's about having the tools to come back together and repair. Repair requires us to be proactive because the work needs to begin long before it is actually needed. You can't build a bridge in the middle of a storm (aka, a conflict). Having the ability to repair after disconnection or disagreements is everything. In this episode, I'm teaching you how to create a repair kit so you can prepare to handle conflict much more productively. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/726

Sometimes, it helps to laugh at life's problems– Even the real ones. If you could use some help in finding humor in today's current events, Angie is your gal! Today I'm sharing a relaxed chat with Angie “Pumps” Sullivan, co-author of Life is a Lazy Susan of Shit Sandwiches and co-host of the podcast I've Had It. Somehow, the conversation feels light even as we delve into the reality of mourning dreams and expectations, being a role model for your children, and speaking up to yourself without being a “Karen.” I hope you enjoy today's episode with Angie as much as I enjoyed chatting with her! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/727

I am so excited to have Dr. Sara Reardon, aka The Vag Whisperer, on the show today to give us the basics when it comes to pelvic floor health. Why? Because the condition of our pelvic floor impacts so many different systems of our body and it changes throughout our life, especially in perimenopause and menopause. During our conversation, Sara breaks everything down in an accessible way and shares easy tips you can use to begin working on your pelvic floor. If you want more info, be sure to grab her book, Floored: A Woman's Guide to Pelvic Floor Health at Every Age and Stage! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/725

Did you know that 1 in 4 children in the US grows up without a father? Or that 80% of single-parent homes are led by mothers? These statistics may not come as a surprise, but what we don't talk about are the millions of other kids who may have dads who are physically present but emotionally absent. Dads who are abusive, addicted, sporadic, neglectful, or narcissistic.  As Father's Day approaches, I wanted to explore how father wounds can impact our relationships, self-worth, and overall success. I'll share my own experiences, debunk some father wound myths, and offer you ideas on how to heal and celebrate Father's Day differently. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/725

Today I'm so excited to welcome Rha Goddess to The Terri Cole Show! She shares what she's learned on her journey, from her origin story rooted in civil rights and hip hop to the personal awakening that led her to redefine ambition and success for herself. Plus, why now was the time to write her book Intentional Ambition and her own personal boundary struggles. Listen for everything you need to do life with more joy, freedom, fulfillment, and courage. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/724

I am so thrilled to have my friends and hosts of the popular Almost 30 podcast, Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik, on the show to talk about their new book, Almost 30: A Definitive Guide to a Life You Love for the Next Decade and Beyond.  If you're going through any sort of transition, I think you'll love it, because the big theme of our conversation is how to weather the storm of transitions. Lindsey and Krista offer the perfect blend of wisdom and curiosity in sharing their stories about questioning societal expectations, walking their own path, and befriending the body. I hope you enjoy this girlfriend jam as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/723

Does everyone come to you when there's a problem because you're known for giving the best advice or being good in a crisis? Do you intervene in family members' situations before they even ask for help? Do you feel anxious or guilty when others struggle? Do you rush to smooth things over? Or do you subconsciously look for people to save? The broken-winged birds? These are all signs you might have a savior complex. If you're exhausted from playing this role, you're in the right place.  I'll walk you through how to become an authentic supporter rather than a savior, the differences between the two, and share a few reasons why some of us naturally fall into the role of savior. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/722

Are you a highly capable and successful woman who feels lost when it comes to love and attracting an equal partner? Does it feel like love is the only area of your life you're *not* an expert in? Then tune into this episode with my pal Sami Wunder because Sami's expertise is in helping high-achieving women find lasting love. We talked about what Sami learned about love from her parents, her dating struggles, the ultimate boundary she set when dating, masculine and feminine energy, not trying to earn love, and believing that you're inherently worthy and how to date in a way that reflects this belief.  Sami is also offering two free gifts:  Early Dating Mastery: https://start.samiwunder.com/free-acess-early-dating-mastery-video-series/ Get Him Obsessed (for those who are partnered): https://start.samiwunder.com/get-him-obsessed-video-series-sign-up/ Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/721

Are you expressing anger in unexpected ways? Maybe you've been way more aggressive toward undeserving folks, inanimate objects, or fellow drivers because it feels safer or is the only way to express the anger you're feeling with all the unrest in the world. Or maybe you're guilty of spending hours thinking of the perfect comeback to a snide comment left on a social media post. With all of the global divisiveness we're experiencing, and it being the end of Mental Health Awareness Month, I wanted to bring the concept of displaced aggression or anger to your attention. If your anger is surprising you or coming out sideways, you might be displacing it.  In this episode, I'll break down what it is, how to know if you're displacing your aggression, and healthier, more productive ways we can channel and manage our anger. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/720

I am so excited to have my new pal, couples therapist and author Dené Logan, on the show to talk about her new book, Sovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine and Feminine Within.  There's a lot of misunderstanding when it comes to the masculine and feminine, and Dené does an amazing job of breaking this concept down.  We also shared our experiences with codependency in relationships and the importance of taking responsibility for our part in things (which includes understanding what activates you and being able to talk about it).  Dené offered so much wisdom in this conversation and I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/719

Do you ever wonder when it's appropriate to set a boundary? Or do you wish you knew what boundaries to set? Maybe unhealthy behavior was normalized in your family of origin, making it difficult to know when a request is “reasonable.” If so, this episode is for you. It's the second in a two-part series about boundaries and high-functioning codependency (HFC). In this one, we're covering the five types of boundaries, three boundary styles, and tips for when to set a boundary and how to do it. You can catch Part 1 here, where we covered boundary basics and talked about the unique challenges HFCs have in setting boundaries. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/718

I am so excited to have Selena Soo, my pal and publicity & marketing strategist, on the show to talk about her new book, Rich Relationships: Create a Million Dollar Network For Your Small Business. These tips apply to ALL our relationships, too!  Selena was the person I turned to in the very beginning stages of my online business, and her advice changed the way I looked at building professional relationships. I can't wait for you to hear her wisdom and start applying it! She shared the 5 types of rich relationships entrepreneurs need and the 6 circles of connection framework that we can use to help us navigate relationships without resentment.  Selena is also offering the first 4 chapters of the book for free: https://richrelationshipsbook.com/terricole PLUS relationship building scripts and a chance to win $1,000! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/717

Do you struggle with setting boundaries because it feels selfish or wrong to put your preferences or needs first?  Do you inadvertently trample on other people's boundaries? (Hyper-helping, auto-advice giving, etc.) Or are you a newly identified high-functioning codependent (HFC) wondering why it's especially tough to set boundaries? Then you're in the right place. In this episode, I am breaking down why it's challenging to set, stick to, and respect other people's boundaries, particularly as HFCs. This is part one, and in part two (coming next week), we'll cover boundary scripts and the different types of boundaries you might want to consider setting. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/716

I'm so happy to have my pal Michelle Chalfant on the show to celebrate her new book, The Adult Chair: Get Unstuck, Claim Your Power, and Transform Your Life! Michelle has been a therapist and life coach for the last 25 years and this book is the culmination of her work and experience with both her clients and herself. The Adult Chair model is an amazing way to cultivate self-knowledge throughout all phases of development and become more authentically you and who you want to be.  We talked about why self-worth needs to be in place to set healthy boundaries, why triggers are a gift and what we can learn from them, how to shift into empowerment and so much more. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/715

Are you a nice person? Do you think it's possible to be too nice? Or that wanting to be nice is an excuse some high-functioning codependents hide behind to avoid conflict? In my personal and professional experience, it is possible to be too nice, and it's not great for your relationships.  In this episode, we'll explore what it means to be nice, what being too nice looks like, why it matters, and how to shift your behavior to authentic niceness. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/714

I'm so psyched to welcome lawyer, author, and communication expert Jefferson Fisher to the show to talk about his book, The Next Conversation.  Many of you likely know Jefferson from social media, and for good reason- he teaches effective communication in an extremely accessible way. It's why I love his work and invited him to the show.  During our conversation, Jefferson shared the many ways his parents influenced his communication skills and style, the lessons he learned from them, as well as why direct communication is attractive, how to keep calm during tricky conversations, and so much more. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/713

Recently I held an interactive workshop that went too well not to share with you guys. So for today's episode, I'm uploading a special treat: The full 90-minute workshop recording! In it, I give a rundown on over-functioning archetypes, the costs of high-functioning codependency, and the pillars of boundary mastery– Plus, I answer all your boundary-setting questions. I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I enjoyed being there with all of you! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/713

I'm so excited to have Dr. Jessica Zucker, author of I HAD A MISCARRIAGE: A Memoir, a Movement, on the show to talk about her new book, NORMALIZE IT: Upending the Silence, Stigma, and Shame That Shape Women's Lives.  We talked about "the cult of shame" that women are indoctrinated into, from getting your period, to having a miscarriage, to going into perimenopause or menopause: all the things we're not 'supposed' to talk about as women! I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did and are inspired to think about what shame you're holding and how you might acknowledge and honor it.  Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/711

I'm so happy to have Amber Salisbury on the show for an inspiring conversation that you might want to listen to with a cup of coffee in hand! Amber and her husband Andrew founded Purity Coffee in 2016 with the goal of creating healthy coffee you can feel good about drinking, and Amber has also founded Sacred Cups to honor rituals around coffee.  She shares a ritual with us later in the conversation and also how her many varied life experiences brought her here. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did, and as a gift, if you head to puritycoffee.com/terricole and use code "terricole" you get 30% off your first order until May 15, 2025. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/710

How manipulatable are you? When someone is using fear, obligation, and guilt (FOG) to control you, do you recognize it, or not? If not, or you've never heard of FOG, you're in the right place. This episode is all about the FOG technique, commonly used by narcissists and others to manipulate people to do what they want at all costs. I'm breaking down what it is and sharing real-life examples from my therapy practice to help you become less susceptible.  Note: the purpose of this episode is to educate you on how people will try to manipulate you, not to make diagnoses. People using one of these tactics in isolation (like guilt) does not automatically make them narcissists. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/709

I am so excited to have podcaster, actor, and author Amy Wilson on the show to talk about her newest book, Happy to Help: Adventures of a People Pleaser. I felt seen by Amy's essays and reflections, and I think you will, too. We talked about so much– Amy's early introduction to putting others first by caring for her younger siblings, why modern productivity advice often just makes us feel bad, Amy's views on perfectionism, saying no and feeling scared, the freedom in saying "it's not for me," and the importance of being present. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/708

Have you ever wondered whether you feel drained because of what you're tolerating in life? Whether it's a cluttered office space, messy car, side table overflowing with paperwork, or something bigger like a one-sided relationship or ineffective communication with your partner, what you're putting up with could be exhausting you more than you think.  So…what are you consistently putting up with that gets on your nerves or depletes you? In this episode, we're looking at what we're tolerating in life– because we're not always aware of the things we put up with that make us low-grade aggravated and drained. I hope you'll leave with more awareness around what you're putting up with and feel inspired to stop settling and make changes for a more fulfilling life. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/707

Today I'm so excited to have my friend, money expert Kate Northrup, on the show again. We chat about the relatively new relationship that women have with money, common blocks women have around money, and how you can improve your relationship with your finances. Plus: How creating a feeling of safety in your body can help you make smarter money choices! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/706

How curious are you? Are you as curious as you used to be in your 20s when you were having new experiences more often? Or have you become complacent with curiosity or too busy to cultivate it? It recently struck me how important curiosity is to me. My husband, Vic, is the most curious person I know, and my friends are often original thinkers who enjoy questioning conventional wisdom, which I love. Stoking curiosity also makes life more juicy and satisfying, which is why this episode is all about the different ways in which we can curate more of it. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/705

I am SO excited to welcome bestselling author and counseling psychologist, Gay Hendricks, to the show to talk about themes from two of his books, The Big Leap and Conscious Loving. Gay has been a huge inspiration for me personally and professionally, and he makes psychological concepts easy to understand.  We talk about upper limit problems (self-sabotage) first, and then move into how to create epic relationships. Throughout the conversation, Gay shares invaluable wisdom from his own life. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/704

Do you get offended if a date doesn't immediately get back to you?  How about when you ask a friend to call you later and they don't? When you pass a stranger on the street and they glance at you, looking annoyed, do you assume their annoyance is directed at you? Or do you cut others slack in these situations, rather than take it personally?  In this episode, I'm sharing what the research says are the four dimensions of the tendency for interpersonal victimhood, breaking down the difference between having a victim mentality and being a victim, and giving you ideas on how you can shift from a victim mindset into a growth mindset. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/703