The Terri Cole Show

I'm so excited to have a new pal, Alana Carvalho, a licensed mental health counselor, on the show to talk about two topics we're both passionate about: codependency and perfectionism! We talk about why these two things go together, our experiences of being in recovery from both, what inspired Alana to create The Codependent Perfectionist brand, how to ease up on perfectionism and codependent behaviors, and so much more.  I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/731

Do you notice micro changes in people's facial expressions and ask yourself, “What did I do wrong?” Are you able to sit with someone in pain without trying to fix them? Are you so emotionally attuned to everything and everyone that you feel exhausted? If any of this sounds familiar, you're not broken; you just lack the skills (boundaries!) needed to embrace your superpower (being an empath). You can care, love, and feel deeply without losing yourself in someone's pain, which is what I'm talking about in this episode. I hope it helps you hit pause on taking on people's emotions and gives you the tools you need to manage your energy. Read the show notes from today's episode at terricole.com/730

I am thrilled to have Shannon Watts, author and founder of Moms Demand Action, on the show to talk about her new book, Fired Up: How to Turn Your Spark Into a Flame and Come Alive at Any Age. I was definitely fired up and inspired by what Shannon had to share, and I think you will be, too. If you've been going through life on autopilot (as many high-functioning codependents do), feel like something is missing, or like you've been playing it small and it's time to stop and do something different, this conversation is for you. Shannon shares practical tips and strategies for reimagining your life and while we talk about perimenopause and menopause, these tips can apply to anyone in any season of life! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/729

Every close relationship hits turbulence at some point. Conflict is inevitable.  That's why the real magic of secure, emotionally mature relationships isn't about avoiding conflict. It's about having the tools to come back together and repair. Repair requires us to be proactive because the work needs to begin long before it is actually needed. You can't build a bridge in the middle of a storm (aka, a conflict). Having the ability to repair after disconnection or disagreements is everything. In this episode, I'm teaching you how to create a repair kit so you can prepare to handle conflict much more productively. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/726

Sometimes, it helps to laugh at life's problems– Even the real ones. If you could use some help in finding humor in today's current events, Angie is your gal! Today I'm sharing a relaxed chat with Angie “Pumps” Sullivan, co-author of Life is a Lazy Susan of Shit Sandwiches and co-host of the podcast I've Had It. Somehow, the conversation feels light even as we delve into the reality of mourning dreams and expectations, being a role model for your children, and speaking up to yourself without being a “Karen.” I hope you enjoy today's episode with Angie as much as I enjoyed chatting with her! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/727

I am so excited to have Dr. Sara Reardon, aka The Vag Whisperer, on the show today to give us the basics when it comes to pelvic floor health. Why? Because the condition of our pelvic floor impacts so many different systems of our body and it changes throughout our life, especially in perimenopause and menopause. During our conversation, Sara breaks everything down in an accessible way and shares easy tips you can use to begin working on your pelvic floor. If you want more info, be sure to grab her book, Floored: A Woman's Guide to Pelvic Floor Health at Every Age and Stage! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/725

Did you know that 1 in 4 children in the US grows up without a father? Or that 80% of single-parent homes are led by mothers? These statistics may not come as a surprise, but what we don't talk about are the millions of other kids who may have dads who are physically present but emotionally absent. Dads who are abusive, addicted, sporadic, neglectful, or narcissistic.  As Father's Day approaches, I wanted to explore how father wounds can impact our relationships, self-worth, and overall success. I'll share my own experiences, debunk some father wound myths, and offer you ideas on how to heal and celebrate Father's Day differently. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/725

Today I'm so excited to welcome Rha Goddess to The Terri Cole Show! She shares what she's learned on her journey, from her origin story rooted in civil rights and hip hop to the personal awakening that led her to redefine ambition and success for herself. Plus, why now was the time to write her book Intentional Ambition and her own personal boundary struggles. Listen for everything you need to do life with more joy, freedom, fulfillment, and courage. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/724

I am so thrilled to have my friends and hosts of the popular Almost 30 podcast, Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik, on the show to talk about their new book, Almost 30: A Definitive Guide to a Life You Love for the Next Decade and Beyond.  If you're going through any sort of transition, I think you'll love it, because the big theme of our conversation is how to weather the storm of transitions. Lindsey and Krista offer the perfect blend of wisdom and curiosity in sharing their stories about questioning societal expectations, walking their own path, and befriending the body. I hope you enjoy this girlfriend jam as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/723

Does everyone come to you when there's a problem because you're known for giving the best advice or being good in a crisis? Do you intervene in family members' situations before they even ask for help? Do you feel anxious or guilty when others struggle? Do you rush to smooth things over? Or do you subconsciously look for people to save? The broken-winged birds? These are all signs you might have a savior complex. If you're exhausted from playing this role, you're in the right place.  I'll walk you through how to become an authentic supporter rather than a savior, the differences between the two, and share a few reasons why some of us naturally fall into the role of savior. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/722

Are you a highly capable and successful woman who feels lost when it comes to love and attracting an equal partner? Does it feel like love is the only area of your life you're *not* an expert in? Then tune into this episode with my pal Sami Wunder because Sami's expertise is in helping high-achieving women find lasting love. We talked about what Sami learned about love from her parents, her dating struggles, the ultimate boundary she set when dating, masculine and feminine energy, not trying to earn love, and believing that you're inherently worthy and how to date in a way that reflects this belief.  Sami is also offering two free gifts:  Early Dating Mastery: https://start.samiwunder.com/free-acess-early-dating-mastery-video-series/ Get Him Obsessed (for those who are partnered): https://start.samiwunder.com/get-him-obsessed-video-series-sign-up/ Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/721

Are you expressing anger in unexpected ways? Maybe you've been way more aggressive toward undeserving folks, inanimate objects, or fellow drivers because it feels safer or is the only way to express the anger you're feeling with all the unrest in the world. Or maybe you're guilty of spending hours thinking of the perfect comeback to a snide comment left on a social media post. With all of the global divisiveness we're experiencing, and it being the end of Mental Health Awareness Month, I wanted to bring the concept of displaced aggression or anger to your attention. If your anger is surprising you or coming out sideways, you might be displacing it.  In this episode, I'll break down what it is, how to know if you're displacing your aggression, and healthier, more productive ways we can channel and manage our anger. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/720

I am so excited to have my new pal, couples therapist and author Dené Logan, on the show to talk about her new book, Sovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine and Feminine Within.  There's a lot of misunderstanding when it comes to the masculine and feminine, and Dené does an amazing job of breaking this concept down.  We also shared our experiences with codependency in relationships and the importance of taking responsibility for our part in things (which includes understanding what activates you and being able to talk about it).  Dené offered so much wisdom in this conversation and I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/719

Do you ever wonder when it's appropriate to set a boundary? Or do you wish you knew what boundaries to set? Maybe unhealthy behavior was normalized in your family of origin, making it difficult to know when a request is “reasonable.” If so, this episode is for you. It's the second in a two-part series about boundaries and high-functioning codependency (HFC). In this one, we're covering the five types of boundaries, three boundary styles, and tips for when to set a boundary and how to do it. You can catch Part 1 here, where we covered boundary basics and talked about the unique challenges HFCs have in setting boundaries. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/718

I am so excited to have Selena Soo, my pal and publicity & marketing strategist, on the show to talk about her new book, Rich Relationships: Create a Million Dollar Network For Your Small Business. These tips apply to ALL our relationships, too!  Selena was the person I turned to in the very beginning stages of my online business, and her advice changed the way I looked at building professional relationships. I can't wait for you to hear her wisdom and start applying it! She shared the 5 types of rich relationships entrepreneurs need and the 6 circles of connection framework that we can use to help us navigate relationships without resentment.  Selena is also offering the first 4 chapters of the book for free: https://richrelationshipsbook.com/terricole PLUS relationship building scripts and a chance to win $1,000! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/717

Do you struggle with setting boundaries because it feels selfish or wrong to put your preferences or needs first?  Do you inadvertently trample on other people's boundaries? (Hyper-helping, auto-advice giving, etc.) Or are you a newly identified high-functioning codependent (HFC) wondering why it's especially tough to set boundaries? Then you're in the right place. In this episode, I am breaking down why it's challenging to set, stick to, and respect other people's boundaries, particularly as HFCs. This is part one, and in part two (coming next week), we'll cover boundary scripts and the different types of boundaries you might want to consider setting. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/716

I'm so happy to have my pal Michelle Chalfant on the show to celebrate her new book, The Adult Chair: Get Unstuck, Claim Your Power, and Transform Your Life! Michelle has been a therapist and life coach for the last 25 years and this book is the culmination of her work and experience with both her clients and herself. The Adult Chair model is an amazing way to cultivate self-knowledge throughout all phases of development and become more authentically you and who you want to be.  We talked about why self-worth needs to be in place to set healthy boundaries, why triggers are a gift and what we can learn from them, how to shift into empowerment and so much more. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/715

Are you a nice person? Do you think it's possible to be too nice? Or that wanting to be nice is an excuse some high-functioning codependents hide behind to avoid conflict? In my personal and professional experience, it is possible to be too nice, and it's not great for your relationships.  In this episode, we'll explore what it means to be nice, what being too nice looks like, why it matters, and how to shift your behavior to authentic niceness. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/714

I'm so psyched to welcome lawyer, author, and communication expert Jefferson Fisher to the show to talk about his book, The Next Conversation.  Many of you likely know Jefferson from social media, and for good reason- he teaches effective communication in an extremely accessible way. It's why I love his work and invited him to the show.  During our conversation, Jefferson shared the many ways his parents influenced his communication skills and style, the lessons he learned from them, as well as why direct communication is attractive, how to keep calm during tricky conversations, and so much more. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/713

Recently I held an interactive workshop that went too well not to share with you guys. So for today's episode, I'm uploading a special treat: The full 90-minute workshop recording! In it, I give a rundown on over-functioning archetypes, the costs of high-functioning codependency, and the pillars of boundary mastery– Plus, I answer all your boundary-setting questions. I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I enjoyed being there with all of you! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/713

I'm so excited to have Dr. Jessica Zucker, author of I HAD A MISCARRIAGE: A Memoir, a Movement, on the show to talk about her new book, NORMALIZE IT: Upending the Silence, Stigma, and Shame That Shape Women's Lives.  We talked about "the cult of shame" that women are indoctrinated into, from getting your period, to having a miscarriage, to going into perimenopause or menopause: all the things we're not 'supposed' to talk about as women! I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did and are inspired to think about what shame you're holding and how you might acknowledge and honor it.  Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/711

I'm so happy to have Amber Salisbury on the show for an inspiring conversation that you might want to listen to with a cup of coffee in hand! Amber and her husband Andrew founded Purity Coffee in 2016 with the goal of creating healthy coffee you can feel good about drinking, and Amber has also founded Sacred Cups to honor rituals around coffee.  She shares a ritual with us later in the conversation and also how her many varied life experiences brought her here. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did, and as a gift, if you head to puritycoffee.com/terricole and use code "terricole" you get 30% off your first order until May 15, 2025. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/710

How manipulatable are you? When someone is using fear, obligation, and guilt (FOG) to control you, do you recognize it, or not? If not, or you've never heard of FOG, you're in the right place. This episode is all about the FOG technique, commonly used by narcissists and others to manipulate people to do what they want at all costs. I'm breaking down what it is and sharing real-life examples from my therapy practice to help you become less susceptible.  Note: the purpose of this episode is to educate you on how people will try to manipulate you, not to make diagnoses. People using one of these tactics in isolation (like guilt) does not automatically make them narcissists. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/709

I am so excited to have podcaster, actor, and author Amy Wilson on the show to talk about her newest book, Happy to Help: Adventures of a People Pleaser. I felt seen by Amy's essays and reflections, and I think you will, too. We talked about so much– Amy's early introduction to putting others first by caring for her younger siblings, why modern productivity advice often just makes us feel bad, Amy's views on perfectionism, saying no and feeling scared, the freedom in saying "it's not for me," and the importance of being present. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/708

Have you ever wondered whether you feel drained because of what you're tolerating in life? Whether it's a cluttered office space, messy car, side table overflowing with paperwork, or something bigger like a one-sided relationship or ineffective communication with your partner, what you're putting up with could be exhausting you more than you think.  So…what are you consistently putting up with that gets on your nerves or depletes you? In this episode, we're looking at what we're tolerating in life– because we're not always aware of the things we put up with that make us low-grade aggravated and drained. I hope you'll leave with more awareness around what you're putting up with and feel inspired to stop settling and make changes for a more fulfilling life. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/707

Today I'm so excited to have my friend, money expert Kate Northrup, on the show again. We chat about the relatively new relationship that women have with money, common blocks women have around money, and how you can improve your relationship with your finances. Plus: How creating a feeling of safety in your body can help you make smarter money choices! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/706

How curious are you? Are you as curious as you used to be in your 20s when you were having new experiences more often? Or have you become complacent with curiosity or too busy to cultivate it? It recently struck me how important curiosity is to me. My husband, Vic, is the most curious person I know, and my friends are often original thinkers who enjoy questioning conventional wisdom, which I love. Stoking curiosity also makes life more juicy and satisfying, which is why this episode is all about the different ways in which we can curate more of it. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/705

I am SO excited to welcome bestselling author and counseling psychologist, Gay Hendricks, to the show to talk about themes from two of his books, The Big Leap and Conscious Loving. Gay has been a huge inspiration for me personally and professionally, and he makes psychological concepts easy to understand.  We talk about upper limit problems (self-sabotage) first, and then move into how to create epic relationships. Throughout the conversation, Gay shares invaluable wisdom from his own life. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/704

Do you get offended if a date doesn't immediately get back to you?  How about when you ask a friend to call you later and they don't? When you pass a stranger on the street and they glance at you, looking annoyed, do you assume their annoyance is directed at you? Or do you cut others slack in these situations, rather than take it personally?  In this episode, I'm sharing what the research says are the four dimensions of the tendency for interpersonal victimhood, breaking down the difference between having a victim mentality and being a victim, and giving you ideas on how you can shift from a victim mindset into a growth mindset. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/703

I am so excited to have my pal, award-winning journalist and menopause advocate, Tamsen Fadal, back on the show to celebrate her new book How To Menopause, which I had the honor of contributing to! It has been amazing to watch Tamsen step into being a midlife mentor. She is truly leading the menopause movement we desperately need and I am here for it. I don't know about you, but it wasn't fun going through perimenopause and menopause with next to zero knowledge and no one publicly talking about it. Tamsen shares how watching her mother go through menopause inspired her to cultivate a strong, shame-free community where women can talk about their menopause journeys. We're all going to go through it. Why not empower ourselves and the next generations with more knowledge? I think that's exactly what How to Menopause will do. ❤️ Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/702

I am so excited to have Breeshia Wade, author of Grieving While Black: An Antiracist Take on Oppression and Sorrow, on the show to talk about fear of future loss and Elemental Grief™. She explains some ideas from the book: The way that fear of future loss has shaped society, and the responsibility that majority groups have to attend to their own feelings of fear so that they do not project those feelings onto members of oppressed minorities. Breeshia also shares her experience attending Stanford University as a Black student, and we chat about fear of future loss in our marriages. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/701

Does it often feel like life is a grind of checking off endless to-do lists, where you barely have a moment for yourself? The emphasis on hustle culture in society has conditioned many of us to believe that rest and reward must be earned through hard work.  It's no wonder "little treat culture," a trend on social media that encourages us to use small rewards to stay motivated, is exploding in popularity.  As a little treat gal for many years, I want to talk about the power of motivating yourself by using little treats throughout your day, the psychology behind why they work, and how treats can make life a little sweeter. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/700

I am so excited to have one of my best friends on the show, Sabrina Soto. You may know her from HGTV, and she's here to celebrate some amazing news: the debut of The Sabrina Soto Show! (I'm a guest on one of the episodes

Have you ever lost someone close to you?  Or do you worry about the people you love dying? Death and dying have been on my mind a lot because I recently lost a close friend of mine. Knowing that she was going to die brought up a desire to explore and talk about death and dying. Whether you're actively dealing with this or anticipating it, I hope sharing my experience and what I've learned will help you feel more prepared. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/698

On today's episode, I've invited Diego Perez (pen name Yung Pueblo) on to celebrate his newest book, How to Love Better: The Path to Deeper Connection Through Growth, Kindness, and Compassion. We talk all about how to form better connections with everyone you love: How to meet conflict with teamwork, how mindfulness can help you respond rather than reacting, and making space to listen to others when they are overwhelmed with emotion rather than matching their energy. Plus, Diego shares his origin story and his own biggest boundary struggle! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/697

Have you heard the term erotic intelligence before?  If you haven't, does it sound like it's all about sex? Before attending a transformative retreat with Esther Perel and Paul Browde, that's kind of what I thought.  Talk about confronting! I had agreed to attend with a friend after her husband dropped out, without knowing the details, because it was in Costa Rica and who would say no to that? I was surprised to learn erotic intelligence is actually about feeling alive and energized in your life, and I walked away with a renewed sense of vitality.  In this episode, I'll share what I learned during the retreat as well as the questions and exercises we walked through to help raise your awareness around erotic intelligence. By the end, I hope you'll feel similarly lit up about life. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/696

How are you actually doing in this turbulent world we're living in right now? If you're feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or ungrounded, you're not alone. The constant barrage of negative news, social media alerts, and global uncertainty can take a serious toll on our mental and emotional well-being. The good news? You are more resilient than you think. But being proactive about protecting your peace isn't just nice to have – it's essential for navigating these challenging times. In this week's episode of The Terri Cole Show, I'm sharing practical techniques to soothe your nervous system and ground yourself, even during the most turbulent times. Plus, I've created a special guided meditation that you can download and use whenever you need a few minutes of calm. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/694

Today I'm sharing a chat with Karena Dawn, a second-time guest on the show! Since we spoke last, she's been hard at work writing as well as continuing to develop a platform around wellness and mental health awareness. We chat about her new memoir The Big Silence, in which she shares the story of how she and her family coped with her mother's schizophrenia during a time when people struggled to discuss mental health openly. Plus, she tells us the secret to building a successful community which can become a successful brand. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/693

Are you in a relationship with a high-functioning codependent (HFC)? Are both you and your partner HFCs? In my experience, HFCs tend to flock together. Many of my friends identify as HFCs, and my husband is also an HFC.  Some of you have asked how to navigate relationships with fellow HFCs, especially as you get into recovery and become more aware of (and perhaps annoyed by) their behavior.  If you can relate, this episode is for you because I'm talking about the dynamics of high-functioning codependency in relationships, how I've managed this in my marriage, and steps you can take to stay on your side of the street while shifting this dynamic into a healthier space. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/693

Today's guest has brought optimism and mindfulness to the interior design and DIY space like nobody else I know! I chat with Meaghan about how she got into decorating, writing, and editing– and how she maintains the pragmatic, positive mindset that helps her navigate her success. Plus: How parenting can offer special challenges and lessons for high-functioning codependents like Meaghan and I. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/691

Is flaking - canceling at the last second - the new self-care? It seems to be on the rise and according to an article in The Guardian, the answer for some people is yes. I disagree. Flaking is avoidable with healthy boundaries and self-knowledge, and there are many self-care practices we can do that don't involve regularly canceling on others. In this episode, I share my thoughts on flaking, explore the nuances of having the right to change our minds (which I stand by), and detail steps to take for actual self-care in your life. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/690

Jen Kem has spent her career marketing for some of the biggest corporate and personal brands–and today, she's sharing some tips to help you launch your next big idea! We chat about how Jen's leadership types model can help you construct the team that will help you reach your goals, how structure can help you let go of team members when they no longer serve you in a new season of your career, and Jen's childhood being told that women needed to be everything at once. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/689

Are you considered “successful” by societal standards, but can't enjoy your success because you're busy moving on to whatever's next? Or do you constantly feel behind, like you could be doing more? Have you checked all the ‘big' boxes in life (degree, career, love, stuff), but still feel unfulfilled or uninspired by what you've achieved? If you answered yes, this episode is for you because I am talking about the power of redefining success for less burnout, especially for high-functioning codependents (HFCs). I'm also giving you real-life examples of how our stories about success can lead us astray and practical steps to take to clarify what success means to you. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/688

I first found Dr. Bryant on Instagram, where her approachable wisdom about partnerships reeled me in. Today, I'm sharing it with all of you! This conversation is a real talk about why we sometimes seek relationships where people need us instead of want us and overcoming the urge to control everything instead of co-creating with a partner. Plus, we chat about when to cut someone out and when continuing to improve your 50% of the relationship might be a viable choice. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/687

Becoming a mother at 18 turned Heather from a self-described under-achiever into a high-functioning codependent. Receiving a stage 4 cancer diagnosis at 28 was the wake-up call that reminded her to live for herself. Heather shares her story, tells how she learned the role of internal resistance in positive change, and gives you tips that will help you take back control when you feel like you just don't have enough time. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/695

How do you feel about Valentine's Day? Do you often find yourself disappointed? Does it make you feel alone and down?  Does your partner forget about it, even though you ask to make plans? Do they give you gifts that feel hollow?  Whether you're single or partnered, I invite you to put a self-consideration spin on Valentine's Day with my favorite three-step self-love ritual. All the steps are below along with tips on how to avoid disappointment on the day. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/686 Don't miss the chance to join my free Raise Your Love Vibe Kickstart at terricole.com/love!

Some say you should never talk about politics, religion, or money in polite company – But today's guest doesn't agree! On today's episode, Marianne Williamson contextualizes Christianity and Christ to offer insight into modern challenges: Personal hardships, disconnection from others, and even the growing polarization of the political climate. She offers a perspective that harmonizes Christianity with other religious and spiritual ideologies that can guide us to cultivate healthy minds. Plus, Marianne shares the human moments that bring her joy despite her concern about world events. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/685

Is setting boundaries intimidating because you worry that people will get mad or abandon you if you do? Do you avoid telling the truth or setting limits out of fear? Or do you people-please to keep the peace and avoid rejection? If you're nodding your head, this episode is for you because I'm talking about how fear of rejection is the common root of many of our self-abandoning behaviors, what this fear costs us, and steps you can take to overcome it. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/684

Today I have the pleasure of sharing a chat with my long-time friend and repeat guest Christine Hassler. She shares the incredible story of how she pursued a healthy, mature partnership– And how you can also call that love into your life if you want to be partnered and you're not. We also chat about ways to self-regulate and soothe your immune system and how to seek love from a mindset of growth rather than suffering or lack.  Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/683

Do you reluctantly agree to things you'd rather not do because you don't know how to say no? When you're annoyed about something, do you say everything is FINE rather than saying what's bothering you? Do you also tend to judge someone if they don't pick up on how you really feel? In these situations, there's an expectation that people will intuit our true emotions from the clues we drop.  However, relying on indirect communication can cause stress and resentment in our relationships because how we feel isn't always apparent to others, even if we feel like it is. The solution is authentic and direct communication, which is usually less comfortable, and why we often act rather than talk things out!  I want to empower you to choose to talk and assert your needs, which is what this episode is about. I'll cover why we find it hard to speak our minds, why we may find it easier to judge and blame others, and ideas for being more authentic in our communication. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/682

Today I'm chatting with Jillian Turecki about her new book, It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life. She shares how acceptance and shared vision for the future can help you create a lasting love, how to tell if your partner isn't right for you, and some hard truths that will help you get unstuck in love and life. Plus, she answers a question that could change how you approach dating: In order to love someone in a healthy way, do you need to love yourself first? Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/681