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Masculine traits. Feminine traits. Can we please stop gendering leadership skills and focus instead on the human traits that will enable us to thrive?Today, I speak with culture and leadership expert Moe Carrick about gender traits in leadership. We discuss the traditional leadership narratives and the negative impact that has on both men and women in the workplace. We talk about the crisis for men and boys right now and why men are falling behind in all sectors. Moe shares the difference between emotionality and emotional intelligence and how we can help debunk outdated myths of masculinity. And she shares some great stories from past clients and what they were able to achieve as a leadership team in tough times when they embraced emotional intelligence and vulnerability. We dissect the current backlash toward more "masculine” energy in the workplace, which will only hinder our innovation and success, and the role women leaders can play to encourage healthier, more emotionally grounded leadership. To access the episode transcript, please search for the episode title at www.TheEmpathyEdge.comKey Takeaways:Gender has nothing to do with being a successful leader. While some traits may be considered more masculine or feminine in energy, skills are not gendered - they are all human traits.There is a difference between emotionality and emotional intelligence. Emotionality is unmetabolized emotional expression. Emotional intelligence is a source of data helping us navigate emotionality.Everyone needs to resist their own internal messaging about what good leadership looks like - it is not command and control or blaming and shaming. It is empathy and collaboration. "If we're going to encourage male vulnerability and male emotions in the same ways we experience and give women permission to express feelings, we need to be prepared to not jump into fixing and solving what they're struggling with." — Moe CarrickEpisode References:The Empathy Edge: Pam Fox Rollin: How to Grow Your Group Into a TeamThe Athena Doctrine By John Gerzema and Michael D'AntonioAtlas of the Heart by Brené BrownRichard Reeves: Institute for Men and BoysSuitsFrom Our Partner:SparkEffect partners with organizations to unlock the full potential of their greatest asset: their people. Through their tailored assessments and expert coaching at every level, SparkEffect helps organizations manage change, sustain growth, and chart a path to a brighter future.Go to sparkeffect.com/edge now and download your complimentary Professional and Organizational Alignment Review today.About Moe Carrick, CEO and Culture and Leadership PioneerMoe Carrick is a pioneer in workplace culture and leadership, known for her award-winning frameworks that have helped companies like Nike, Reddit, and Amazon improve engagement, reduce burnout, and drive performance. A TEDx speaker and bestselling author, Moe's work has transformed businesses across industries for over two decades. She specializes in creating environments where people thrive, rooted in her deep expertise in leadership, human connection, and innovative workplace practices.Connect with Moe:Moementum, Inc: moementum.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/moecarrickInstagram: instagram.com/moecarrickCulture Pulse Check: moementum.com/people-culture-pulse-checkWorkMatters Kit: moementum.kit.com/workmattersTedX: Rethinking Women's Role in Defining MasculinityTedX: Workplaces Fit for Humans Connect with Maria:Get Maria's books on empathy: Red-Slice.com/booksLearn more about Maria's work: Red-Slice.comHire Maria to speak: Red-Slice.com/Speaker-Maria-RossTake the LinkedIn Learning Course! Leading with EmpathyLinkedIn: Maria RossInstagram: @redslicemariaFacebook: Red SliceThreads: @redslicemariaWe would love to get your thoughts on the show! Please click https://bit.ly/edge-feedback to take this 5-minute survey, thanks!
Todd Adcock is a British PGA Accredited Golf Professional and a Scott Cowx Advanced Certified Coach. Todd turned to golf instruction after a successful playing career, highlighted by being ranked as high as 8th in the World Amateur Golf Rankings, representing England and winning the English Amateur Championship. Todd uses a holistic approach to golf instruction and most certainly applies his expertise and experience gained as a leading amateur and tournament-winning golfer. As a player he said he always looked for answers to problems and that bent led him to develop his "STOP Principle" for better decision-making, course management, and golf: S - Can I get a... Stance and Strike? T - What is the required... Trajectory" O - What are my... Options" P - What is the... Probability (of success)? He elaborates on each one of the relevant decision-making questions and illustrates how they can improve course management and scoring. He also dives into a few other game improvement concepts - (1) Finishing a Round well, (2) 1st Tee Nerves and the Opening Tee-shot, (3) Shot-shaping Windows and Club Selection, (4) Good Practice Habits, (5) Pragmatism vs. Emotionality, (6) Chasing Zeroes on a Launch Monitor, and (7) The Goldilocks Effect in Golf. This podcast is also available as a vodcast on YouTube - search and subscribe to Mark Immelman.
With just a few exceptions, most parenting advice focuses on the role of the parent in shaping a child's world. This ignores the fact that genetics shape almost every aspect of human behaviour. In today's podcast, Dr. Dick debunks the myth that parenting techniques alone determine a child's future. She looks at how Extraversion, Emotionality, and Effortful Control underline each child's predisposition and how the key to raising a child isn't to try harder to mold them, but rather to adapt your parenting to the way they are wired. Dr. Dick is an award winning researcher and the author of "The Child Code". To find out more about Dr Dick's work, click here.Join us for our Children's Mental Health and Parenting SummitOur Children's Mental Health and Parenting Spring Summit is happening from April 21- 25th.18 masterclasses, plus 5 live workshops, where world renowned experts tackle incredible topics like parental anxiety, getting kids to listen, early parenting intervention, picky eating, resiliency, keeping kids safe online, healing attachment and so much more!The summit is free- and for those of you who can not attend live - recordings are available. To find out more, click here Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
How would you react in the midst of a crisis? This week on The Unbeatable Mind, comedian, Crossfit affiliate owner, and leader of the successful men's group ‘ The Treehouse', Kenny Kane, shares his personal tale of losing his home to the recent fires in Los Angeles. Kenny recounts the harrowing moments of urgency as he and his family confronted the blaze, and the profound impact it had on their lives. Delving deep into themes of leadership, community, and the essence of human connection, Kenny details the importance of having a clear vision and purpose, especially when faced with volatile and uncertain situations. Kenny explains his commitment to nurturing resilient leaders through his men's group and the gym community, emphasizing physical training as a conduit for life preparation. Key Takeaways: Kenny Kane's Crisis Management: Listen to Kenny's story of losing his home in the Palisades fires—and how his previous experiences and personal philosophy helped him and his family manage. OODA Loop Framework: Hear Kenny talk about the OODA loop (Observe, Orient, Decide, Act), and how he applied it during the fire. Physical Preparedness: Discover the importance of physical and mental preparedness for unforeseen events and learn how he applies his physical training during times of crisis. Purpose Driven Leadership: Learn how in times of uncertainty, having a clear vision can anchor actions and decisions. Kenny Kane holds multiple certifications and is a graduate of SealFit's Kokoro Camp. The practical and spiritual teachings from Kenny's diverse athletic training have culminated in his context-driven coaching methodology where body, mind, and heart are given equal weight in the portrait of good health. Kenny has implemented his mind-body training protocol whilst coaching Olympians, NBA players, Premiere League soccer players, A-list celebrities, CrossFit Games athletes, and nine-to- fivers alike. He has also developed and directed several fitness programs for kids, coached an adaptive athlete to compete alongside able-bodied competitors, and continues to contribute to broader philosophical discussions concerning public health in podcasts and other forums with elite athletes, movement and human bioenergetics specialists, and thought leaders from around the world. He is the owner of and head coach at Oak Park, home of CrossFit Los Angeles. Body of Knowledge: https://thebodyofknowledge.com/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaYi-zzTBsYYLR-qvwIS_X8AJvTzPRcn92ydWzeDYOkh3q1qnexVORV3CU0_aem_AvT2YUXooXMSSPVti0PhSw Oak Park: https://www.oakparkla.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thekennykane/?hl=en Sponsors and Promotions: Marley Spoon: This new year, fast-track your way to eating well with Marley Spoon. Head to MarleySpoon.com/OFFER/DIVINE and use code DIVINE for up to 27 FREE meals! Seed: Visit Seed.com and use the code 25DIVINE to get 25% off your first month's order! Qualia Take a look at the Qualia line up of truly inspired health formulas at www.QualiaLife.com/divine15, and use code DIVINE15 at checkout for an additional 15% off your purchase. Defender The highest achievers among us are the people still striving, still reaching for something. It's those people who approach the impossible and embrace it. There's a vehicle for people like that. It's called the Defender. Explore the full Defender line-up at LandRoverUSA.com Timestamped Overview: 00:00 Trapped by Fire with Children 07:46 Fire Evacuation Crisis 15:04 "Devastating Fire Destroys Neighborhood" 17:39 Embracing Life's Uncertainty 22:39 Nose Breathing Amidst Chaos 27:31 "Lead: Exploring Purpose and Roles" 34:58 Navigating Business and Home Dilemma 39:55 Emotionality and Unavoidable Fires 43:01 "Shifting Realities and Human Connection" 49:32 Embrace Difficulty Together 55:05 Five Tenets for Business Harmony 58:07 Defining Purpose and Connection 01:03:40 Inflection Point in Bit-Based Reality 01:09:06 Misunderstanding Freedom and Connection 01:17:03 LAUSD Relocates Students Successfully 01:22:48 Balancing Nesting and Financial Stability 01:25:50 Crisis Scenario Planning Exercise 01:34:19 "Divine Inspiration & Seal Fit" 01:34:53 "Support Global Change Together"
Hanna and Johan Olzon-Åkerström are the founders of the personal care brand Soeder. Back in 2013, the couple started Soeder out of their garage—kicking things off with what's now their iconic natural soap. Fast forward to today, and they're crafting a full range of care products—from sanitizers to face creams to lip balms—almost entirely produced in the old repurposed SBB workshop in Zurich Altstetten. They've grown to over 75 employees, run three stunning stores in Zurich and Basel, and their products are stocked in dozens of Swiss and international hotels, bars, and restaurants. And if you're flying SWISS, you'll even find Soeder above the clouds. Over the past decade, Soeder has become a Swiss success story—a bright example of locally made products with global appeal. And if you ask the two, they're just getting started. ---- KAPITEL (00:00) Intro: Hanna & Johan (01:11) The History & Chemistry of Soap (10:44) Why Soap? (14:04) Entrepreneurial Journey (19:53) Emotionality of Care Products (24:56) Development of Recipes (32:01) Startup Phase (40:38) Scaling: Deal with Swiss (47:27) The Secret of Working Together as a Couple (53:31) Building a Team (56:40) Building a Value-Based Brand (01:10:13) Changing Roles as You Grow (01:17:40) The Future of Soeder (01:25:23) Challenge: Conscious Consumer ----- LINKS UND RESSOURCEN - Soeder Official Website - soeder.ch --------
In today's episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I sit down with psychologist, professional speaker, and author Dr. Matt Zakreski to explore the concept of neurodiversity and how to create a more supportive world for neurodivergent individuals. Drawing from both personal and professional experiences, Dr. Matt shares his journey as someone who is gifted and ADHD, and how that shaped his understanding and advocacy for neurodivergent folks. We discuss what neurodiversity truly means, highlight differences between neurotypical and neurodivergent brains, and break down why it's crucial to avoid framing neurodivergent individuals as “failed neurotypicals.” Dr. Matt provides practical strategies for understanding executive functioning challenges, improving communication, and fostering more inclusive environments both in schools and in everyday life. Whether you're neurodivergent yourself, raising a neurodivergent child, or simply looking to become a better ally, this episode is packed with insights and guidance to help you understand, accept, and celebrate neurological differences. Chapters: 00:15 — Introduction: Send in Your Questions & Introducing Dr. Matt Zakreski 02:00 — Defining Neurodiversity and Neurodivergence 08:00 — The Performance Cliff: When School Outpaces Natural Ability 11:00 — Common Threads: Executive Functioning and Pragmatic Language in Neurodivergence 17:00 — Brain-Based Differences: Sensory Input, Basal Ganglia, and Emotional Intensity 21:00 — Universal Design in Education: Creating Systems That Work for All 24:00 — Shame, Emotionality, and the Reality of ADHD 28:00 — Inattentive vs. Hyperactive: Recognizing Subtle Signs and Misdiagnoses 33:00 — Rethinking Assessment: Moving Beyond DSM Checklists 38:00 — Why Specialists and Relationships Matter in Mental Health Care 41:00 — Making Therapy Work for Kids: Meeting Them Where They Are 43:00 — The Neurodiversity Playbook: Tools, Strategies, and Action Points 48:00 — Intention vs. Impact: Communicating Clearly and Compassionately 52:00 — Practical Tips for Executive Functioning in Daily Life 54:00 — Final Takeaways: Building Community and Embracing Your Unique Brain About the Podcast I'm Dr. Robert Duff, a clinical psychologist and the host of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast. My mission is to break down complex mental health topics into approachable, actionable advice. Each episode dives deep into mental health, personal development, and practical strategies for thriving. Whether through expert interviews, audience Q&A, or practical tips, this show is all about making meaningful changes without unnecessary jargon or fluff. Guest Links: The Neurodiversity Playbook by Dr. Matt Zakreski: https://www.drmattzakreski.com/the-neurodiversity-playbook Dr. Matt Zakreski's Website: https://www.drmattzakreski.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmattzakreski/ Connect With Me: Website: https://www.duffthepsych.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/duffthepsych/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DuffThePsych #Neurodiversity #ADHD #Gifted #TwiceExceptional #Autism #ExecutiveFunction #InclusiveEducation #MentalHealth #SelfHelp #PersonalDevelopment
Take two minutes to share your ADHD story at SomethingShinyPodcast.com/Survey! Your input will help us shape future episodes and tools that make a difference for all neurodivergent folks. We can't wait to hear from you!How do you survive holiday travel with ADHD? What about traveling with children, particularly small children? And what happens when you find yourself rushing, leaving things until the last minute, and forgetting your charger once again? David and Isabelle swap stories and share specific tips to traveling and also discuss WHY ARE THERE SOCK NUBBINS AND TAGS. Seriously.-----There can be so much pressure to have a Hallmark, picture-postcard perfect holiday and it's so important to revise those expectations and think about what you actually want to do, for example, maybe it's “we go to the this house, tolerate everyone for 45 minutes, you grab the turkey, I grab the mashed potatoes, and we leave.” And what about the uncomfortable holiday clothes? Isabelle laughs and mentions a brilliant SNL fake ad for Macy's that's all about children's clothing and how uncomfortable it is. David describes this might be where task meets emotionality (for definition, see below)—is the task of the holidays spending time with family? David remembers the holidays being hard, everyone fighting on the way there and then fine when they got home, and wearing uncomfortable clothes, and just wanting to leave and it being awful. Isabelle remembers coming home so late and it was freezing and trying to sleep in the back seat, freezing. David had the experience going to his partner's holiday celebrations and—they don't have ADHD—everyone got along, hung out, sang songs, played piano—and this is real? Friendsgiving is a thing, and you can make choices, what you do for holidays is a choice: like winter is a choice. Anytime you feel trapped or caught in something, changing the language to “I'm choosing to do blank because blank…” with what needs your meeting with it, changes it from you “have to go see Meemaw” You can take the shoulds, musts, and have-to and change it to choices. And maybe Meemaw doesn't care what you wear, she just wants to see you. WHY ARE THERE TAGS IN CLOTHING? And NUBBINS ON SOCKS? We have evolved so many incredible things, we have AI, we have genome sequencing, and we have sock nubbins, and who invented pantyhose and shapewear. David likes shape wear because the underarmour stuff he wears is nice and tight. Isabelle describes that it's more designed to smush you in and sometimes it's great—this is maybe Isabelle's trauma after being a 6 ft woman at 14 year old, so she was fitting into shape wear and pantyhose as a kid and hated it so much and it was so uncomfortable. David always got all these hand-me-down socks that were in a constant state of yawn—now David gets the really tight socks that stay up all day, “look at you sock, staying up all day!” And transitioning back to travel—and sometimes travel is really hard because we're pushing ourselves harder than we should. Having the toolbox is just as important on the airplane or airport, or knowing how long you're waiting with a toolbox. Whoever's doing the traveling, your self care is the most important: you can't control your kids being miserable, they will be, you have to put your oxygen mask, go at your pace, go at your tolerance. Kids will fall apart. You need to be there for them when they do. So what do you need to be there for them? Maybe it's a treat, maybe it's slowing down—take care of you. Pack the day before. And always include an extra day back at home before transitioning back. You can change the day back—the end is always going to be the end of the vacation, but you being able to have a different re-entry ritual into your day to day can be game changing. Isabelle shares some tips from her own front line experiences, such as when driving from Indianapolis from Nashville as part of moving, when she forgot the iPad…and everything else, and her kid was stuck in the way back for hours bored out of their mind. Needless to say, iPads are last steps, so it's a plan B, but it forces them to have lots of plan A—and on this trip, she forgot all the plan B's and A's. And everyone is going to have a meltdown—Isabelle, as mom, will also have a breakdown. It doesn't matter how prepared you are, travel will break you at some point. Travel with kids is courting brilliant memories of chaos, so she anticipates and plans on her having a breakdown. So she tells herself that “I'm a good mom who's reached her limit.” You're trained from babyhood to meet their needs all the time, but it's a set up, the game is rigged, and part of the rigging is us thinking we're never going to lose it ourselves. Maybe it's the rule, not the exception. What about outsourcing, like checking your bags curbside, strapping your kid into the carseat on the plane (because they're used to it and airplane seatbelts do nothing). Be kind to yourself. There's also this idea that a vacation and a trip with kids are two separate things. The labor does not change, but increases, but the expectation for fun and frivolity is also increased, but maybe change the expectations inside. Also okay if it's extra hard because it actually really is. Take the wins. David names that it's very hard to hold dialectics, to opposing truths: you can love your kids and they can be too much, really hard, really frustrating. You need to find yourself a support group that can validate all the truths. For David, being a child who had ADHD, and seeing people with kids travel, and typically things feel better when there isn't as much pressure, when you're not rushing at the last minute, and have everything you need. Accepting that all of those things are going to be harder with ADHD and smiling when those things don't happen is the key. Accept that win, when you actually remember the charger. We can also flip the shame spiral into gratitude because you can maybe get the thing when you arrive, and David has needed to buy pretty much everything on arrival. Anything important, the things you can't live without, phone stuff, medication, certain items, should be carry-ons. If ever possible, don't check a bag, have a very compacted carry on. SNL Fake Macy's commercial for children's uncomfortable clothingDAVID'S DEFINITIONSTASK V. EMOTIONALITYTask: what you're trying to do - the ‘work' of a group or a person. for example: I am finishing my project this weekend.Emotionality: what you do to prepare to do a task - beliefs/fears/assumptions about what you're doingfor example: I'm doing it wrong/right, I always procrastinate, big fear you'll never get it done, dream that someone will come and save you from having to do it, etc. Traveling survival tipsPrep your go-bag, tool kit (and consider several plans, not just one, like the ipad, because batteries die)Kids will fall apart. They will fall apart when they travel. Be there when they do. What do you need to do to be there for them? Go at your pace. Pick up a treat. Do things to make it easier on you. Get ready to leave the night before. Have things packed. Plan to have a day off on...
In this episode of Moment of Zen, host Rudyard Lynch engages in a thought-provoking discussion with Samo Burja, exploring the breakdown of traditional power structures and drawing parallels between modern times and the religious wars of the 1600s. They delve into topics such as the aftermath of Trump's election victory, the rise of private military companies in Africa, and the evolving dynamics of global power. For full shownotes, visit highlight: https://highlightai.com/share/4f3ff1c4-1c9e-451c-b2d5-54bc06f8a87f -- Be notified early when Turpentine's drops new publication: https://www.turpentine.co/exclusiveaccess --
In today's episode with special guest Dr. Cheryl E. Matias, Lindsay discusses the topics of whiteness, emotionality, and education and how they associate with letting go of fear. Liked this episode? Rate, review, and share! Get In Touch With Dr. Cheryl E. Matias: Email: cmatias@sandiego.edu Website: www.cherylmatias.com Get Your Episode Freebie & More Resources On My Website: https://www.lindsaybethlyons.com/blog/182 Lindsay's Links: LinkedIn: @lindsaybethlyons Instagram: @lindsaybethlyons Facebook Group: Time for Teachership
This week, we're joined by media scholar and psychologist Soraya Giaccardi. She shares her work analyzing gender depictions in TV and helps Remoy and Samantha psychoanalyze their relationship to a TV classic and one of their faves, “The Fresh Prince of Bel Air.”But first, Remoy walks us through some surprising facts about boys' TV shows. Who are the leading characters in boys' TV shows? Remoy shares some stats from Soraya's seminal report (check it out; it's linked below) about how genders are represented in leading roles. Turns out that there is surprising parity among the binary genders in leading character representation.Girls being in leading roles is not as big a deterrent in boys' TV shows as we might collectively think… More on that later.Women and girls are way more represented than they used to be, but how much are current gender depictions on boys' TV shows challenging MASKulinity? The hosts discuss, with some valuable insights from our media scholar guest. LGBTQIA+ characters are still seldom the leading roles in boys' TV. Soraya hypothesizes why that might be… One factor that remains consistent is that boys remain perpetrators of violence on screen… and the victims of it. There's still so much work to do when it comes to men's and boys' representations on screen. While boys are disproportionately harmed on screen, we don't always see them processing that violence emotionally…Remoy draws key points from Soraya's report on how these depictions, or lack thereof, impact us boys in their real life.How exactly are boys' relationships with their close ones depicted on the small screen compared to their fellow femme characters? This all informs how they interpret gender.Soraya stresses the importance of deconstructing these stereotypes as boys intake them during formative years.Despite making so much headway in balancing the binary genders, boys continue to primarily show just one emotion on screen… You guessed it: anger.We watch TV a lot more than we used to as a society. It's available virtually at any time, on any nearby screen.How has that impacted the way we process TV shows? Soraya breaks down the connections between our viewership and our socialization in romantic and platonic relationships.Remoy and Samantha take a walk down memory lane, reflecting on one of their favorite TV shows, The Fresh Prince of Bel Air. Samantha shares how the show shaped her views of femininity and romantic relationships. Sue the woo! Track.Remoy looks back on a pivotal scene between Uncle Phil and Will. You'll recognize it when you hear it.Soraya's analysis highlights a critical knowledge on what supportive parenting can look like for boys as modeled by this touching scene.What show shaped your views of gender and romantic relationships? Let us know in the comments!In our Five Questions segment, the hosts go expectedly deeper.What does TV's impact look like in our lives?How does it manifest and what can we do about it? Soraya drops some key research findings about the way we relate to characters on screen. TV depictions aren't just impacting us unwittingly; characters and storylines on the small screen also allow us to access liberation in some ways… Soraya shares her own experience with TV as a youngster and how it can bridge us to worlds unknown, which for many of us, can be a connection to communities we long for. The surprising stats about women being more present on TV bring up an interesting point: if girls are just as likely to draw a boys' audience, why do we think that otherwise? Soraya cautions us about our own perceptions and how knowing the facts can shatter them. She stresses how controlling the narrative keeps us in the patriarchal loop of our own perceptions. Statistical facts humble us with the truth and can boys, men, masc folks, and all of us, really, closer to the truth.Soraya shares about this dream job marrying psychology and communications. We're glad she chose this route!Referenced in this episode:ENCORE: It *Was* Time to Loosen the Grip on Reproductive Freedom - Heidi Sieck schooled us on how controlling narratives led to the reversal of Roe vs. Wade..MASKulinity is making some people a lot of money - we talked about how women-led movies are of much better quality and get much better ratings than they get credit for…“If He Can See It, Will He Be It? Representations of Masculinity in Boys' Television”, the report Soraya wrote at the Geena Davis Institute in partnership with Equimundo and the Kering FoundationCultivation theory - read about TV impacts us over timeMedia Use and Men's Risk Behaviors: Examining the Role of Masculinity Ideology - cowritten by our illustrious scholar guest, Soraya GiaccardiCOMPANION PIECES:Trivia Night! Movie Time? Romance and Loneliness Edition - we talked about depictions of thoughtful fatherhood on screenRadicalization and TSwift - we talked with Jeff Perera about how men relate to women's jokesRomance MASKulinity: Getting the Girl… - we talked with Imran Siddiquee about what romance in movies teaches men and boys about masculinity
This week, we're joined by media scholar and psychologist Soraya Giaccardi. She shares her work analyzing gender depictions in TV and helps Remoy and Samantha psychoanalyze their relationship to a TV classic and one of their faves, “The Fresh Prince of Bel Air.”But first, Remoy walks us through some surprising facts about boys' TV shows. Who are the leading characters in boys' TV shows? Remoy shares some stats from Soraya's seminal report (check it out; it's linked below) about how genders are represented in leading roles. Turns out that there is surprising parity among the binary genders in leading character representation.Girls being in leading roles is not as big a deterrent in boys' TV shows as we might collectively think… More on that later.Women and girls are way more represented than they used to be, but how much are current gender depictions on boys' TV shows challenging MASKulinity? The hosts discuss, with some valuable insights from our media scholar guest. LGBTQIA+ characters are still seldom the leading roles in boys' TV. Soraya hypothesizes why that might be… One factor that remains consistent is that boys remain perpetrators of violence on screen… and the victims of it. There's still so much work to do when it comes to men's and boys' representations on screen. While boys are disproportionately harmed on screen, we don't always see them processing that violence emotionally…Remoy draws key points from Soraya's report on how these depictions, or lack thereof, impact us boys in their real life.How exactly are boys' relationships with their close ones depicted on the small screen compared to their fellow femme characters? This all informs how they interpret gender.Soraya stresses the importance of deconstructing these stereotypes as boys intake them during formative years.Despite making so much headway in balancing the binary genders, boys continue to primarily show just one emotion on screen… You guessed it: anger.We watch TV a lot more than we used to as a society. It's available virtually at any time, on any nearby screen.How has that impacted the way we process TV shows? Soraya breaks down the connections between our viewership and our socialization in romantic and platonic relationships.Remoy and Samantha take a walk down memory lane, reflecting on one of their favorite TV shows, The Fresh Prince of Bel Air. Samantha shares how the show shaped her views of femininity and romantic relationships. Sue the woo! Track.Remoy looks back on a pivotal scene between Uncle Phil and Will. You'll recognize it when you hear it.Soraya's analysis highlights a critical knowledge on what supportive parenting can look like for boys as modeled by this touching scene.What show shaped your views of gender and romantic relationships? Let us know in the comments!In our Five Questions segment, the hosts go expectedly deeper.What does TV's impact look like in our lives?How does it manifest and what can we do about it? Soraya drops some key research findings about the way we relate to characters on screen. TV depictions aren't just impacting us unwittingly; characters and storylines on the small screen also allow us to access liberation in some ways… Soraya shares her own experience with TV as a youngster and how it can bridge us to worlds unknown, which for many of us, can be a connection to communities we long for. The surprising stats about women being more present on TV bring up an interesting point: if girls are just as likely to draw a boys' audience, why do we think that otherwise? Soraya cautions us about our own perceptions and how knowing the facts can shatter them. She stresses how controlling the narrative keeps us in the patriarchal loop of our own perceptions. Statistical facts humble us with the truth and can boys, men, masc folks, and all of us, really, closer to the truth.Soraya shares about this dream job marrying psychology and communications. We're glad she chose this route!Referenced in this episode:ENCORE: It *Was* Time to Loosen the Grip on Reproductive Freedom - Heidi Sieck schooled us on how controlling narratives led to the reversal of Roe vs. Wade..MASKulinity is making some people a lot of money - we talked about how women-led movies are of much better quality and get much better ratings than they get credit for…“If He Can See It, Will He Be It? Representations of Masculinity in Boys' Television”, the report Soraya wrote at the Geena Davis Institute in partnership with Equimundo and the Kering FoundationCultivation theory - read about TV impacts us over timeMedia Use and Men's Risk Behaviors: Examining the Role of Masculinity Ideology - cowritten by our illustrious scholar guest, Soraya GiaccardiCOMPANION PIECES:Trivia Night! Movie Time? Romance and Loneliness Edition - we talked about depictions of thoughtful fatherhood on screenRadicalization and TSwift - we talked with Jeff Perera about how men relate to women's jokesRomance MASKulinity: Getting the Girl… - we talked with Imran Siddiquee about what romance in movies teaches men and boys about masculinity
How to stop diminishing yourself intellectually, emotionality. I play like im dumb around social settings to be liked, accepted, loved, apprpved of. Do you do the same? Listen and see if you can relate --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/yolanda254/support
Polish composer and singer Agata Zubel (Wrocław, 1978) is the voice of Vortex Temporum's 32th episode. She deals intimately with vocal sounds, both as singer and as a master composer of vocal music: reflecting on language, meaning and emotionality is a natural extension of her work. Have a listen and find out the world of this composer/performer!vortextemporum.com
Singer-songwriter Lynn has released 10 albums since 2001. We discuss the title track (and listen at the end to "I Waited Too Long") from High Tide (2024), "11:11" from Rise of the Fall (2017), and "Drugstore" from Crossing Frequencies (2001). Intro: "City Life" from Sugar on the Floor (2011). Hear more at lynndrury.com. Hear more Nakedly Examined Music. Support us on Patreon.
Here we go again, telling our stories from our lived experiences in the place that feels the best to do so! Right here on LHBS, with our people, with each other! Listen in while we discuss Day 1 of our retreat with Dana and Shayna of Dayluna and how that unfolded for each of us, independently and as a duo. In this episode, we walk through what actually happened, versus the expectation of what was planned, the emotional awareness that came with these experiences, and most importantly the living that happened! The themes we are discussing here are our own through this process but they also lend to this collective theme being spoken about revolving around 9 centered communication. We believe that means talking to ourselves with this level of awareness and communing with each other with this level of awareness, too. It's quite impactful when you can allow yourself to witness these levels of awareness in real time, with other humans who love and live this language, all while having your own human experience of it. Mind-blowing to say the least! Let's dig in to see what's in it for you! Ready to book your powerful human design reading with this dynamic duo? Here's the link: https://calendly.com/lovehumanbespirit/humandesignreading Follow us on Instagram: Love Human Be Spirit Podcast @lovehumanbespirit Monique Sampedro @moniquesampedro22 Amy Douglas @health_wellness_mindset_amy Photo credit to Kirsten Moore @kirstenmoorecre --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lovehumanbespirit/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lovehumanbespirit/support
You Have to Know the Power and Emotionality of Your Own Voice.“You cannot please everyone. So you just have to be your own self and believe in your journey and learn about yourself the most. You have to be strong," says internationally acclaimed operatic countertenor Jakub Jozef Orlinski. His singing career is ascendant. His performances have been heralded at the great opera houses of the world – including The Metropolitan Opera in New York, The Royal Opera House at Covent Garden in London, and The Theatre Des Champs-Elysees in Paris. His recitals from Chile to Poland, Germany to the United States are sold out. And his lyrical and emotionally impactful alto voice has earned Jakub the praise of the public AND the critics who have called him “angelic,” and a singer who is making the opera relatable and sexy. Behind the applause, he is a committed artist who recounts initially being rejected by top music programs globally, rejected for summer internships, and losing first round in competitive vocal competitions. He recalls of his beginnings, “There was constantly a fight for a place. Constantly.” What got him through those rough times and sustains him today in the unrelenting scrutiny of fame and success is focusing on the quality of the art he is making, believing in his journey, and owning and knowing his voice.At the Podium WebsiteAt the Podium on IGPatrick on IGFor more information contact Patrick at patrick@patrickhueyleadership.com
Carol sat stunned in silence as she read the paperwork the deputy handed her. She knew she had overreacted to Jessie's spending too much money on a golf tournament... she knew she had upset him when he left that day, now a week ago. She had no idea he would file for divorce, however. Her chest tightened, stomach knotting, and her voice escaped her. Don't find yourself in Carol's shoes. If you are dealing with emotionality in your marriage, know if you don't handle it the escalation will continue! Listen in as Kyle and Nina talk through the three ways emotionality is destroying your marriage. Be sure to grab our free pdf: Find Your Voice, 5 Tools to STOP Walking on Eggshells at https://greaterimpact.org
In this episode, host Dr. JPB Gerald re-teams with his friend and soon-to-be recurring co-host Elise Preisser to further explore underdiscussed aspects of ADHD and emotionality. Check out Dr. Gerald's work on his website, jpbgerald.com
In the final part of this series, Miyanovich and Dr. Stephanie discuss: the realities of Autism and threat assessment, neurologically typical and atypical emotionality, the power of teenage sexual validation, narcissism and entitlement in mass shootings, professional vicitims, and...well...we have to change things in this country with mass shootings. We have no choice. Again: see Threat Assessment.
Nicole Donnelly is the Founder of AI Smart Marketing, an AI-powered marketing agency that helps brands create personalized and effective marketing campaigns. Through AI courses, workshops, and services, the agency teaches people how to leverage cutting-edge AI tools to create effective AI solutions. Nicole has over 18 yrs of experience as an entrepreneur, having founded and built her company, BabyLegs, into a global brand. By 2009, she had grown it to around $5 million in sales with 24 employees and expanded to 85 countries before selling it. BabyLegs won the industry Design Excellence award for 12 years, was named one of Seattle's Best Places to Work, and received a national award for Workplace Flexibility." Nicole is also the Founder of Emotionality, a former professional snowboarder, snowboarding instructor, and author of Rash to Riches: How I Grew BabyLegs from a Home Business to a Global Brand. In this episode of the Smart Business Revolution Podcast, John Corcoran interviews Nicole Donnelly, the Founder of AI Smart Marketing, about strategies for leveraging AI in business. Nicole also shares her experience building and selling BabyLegs, the benefits of AI, and how to stay on top of AI developments.
E387 Dr. Brendan Kwiatkowski is a researcher specializing in adolescent boys' relationship to their emotions and how they develop those emotions into adulthood. A former secondary school teacher, he now teaches university courses relating to gender and education. He's also a musician! We discuss natural biasses, education and societal affect on masculinity, the reclaiming of […]
In this episode, Andrew interviews celebrated author Paullina Simons about her latest novel, Light at Lavelle. It tells the story Finn Evans, a Bostonian banker who at the end of the 1920s finds his life unexpectedly swirling into the orbit of Isabelle Lazar, a young Ukrainian farmer. Light at Lavelle takes readers on a journey over the breadth of its five hundred plus pages of romance fiction through stories of war, unspeakable hardships, and the unexpected unions that arise during these difficult times.In the following interview, Paullina talks about her own emotional journey of bringing her characters stories to life, especially as she is the first person to get to know them and hear their stories. Paullina also talks about the emotional connection that her readers have built up with her over the years since her worldwide best seller debut Tully and her bestselling novel The Bronze Horseman. She also talks about bringing herself into the world of her novels, amongst many other fascinating topics.Light at Lavelle is published in Australia through Pan Macmillan, who provided a copy of the book for the purpose of this interview. Light at Lavelle releases in Australia on 31 October 2023 and is available online and in all good bookstores.To listen to more interviews, visit TheCurb.com.au. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In this episode, Andrew interviews celebrated author Paullina Simons about her latest novel, Light at Lavelle. It tells the story Finn Evans, a Bostonian banker who at the end of the 1920s finds his life unexpectedly swirling into the orbit of Isabelle Lazar, a young Ukrainian farmer. Light at Lavelle takes readers on a journey over the breadth of its five hundred plus pages of romance fiction through stories of war, unspeakable hardships, and the unexpected unions that arise during these difficult times.In the following interview, Paullina talks about her own emotional journey of bringing her characters stories to life, especially as she is the first person to get to know them and hear their stories. Paullina also talks about the emotional connection that her readers have built up with her over the years since her worldwide best seller debut Tully and her bestselling novel The Bronze Horseman. She also talks about bringing herself into the world of her novels, amongst many other fascinating topics.Light at Lavelle is published in Australia through Pan Macmillan, who provided a copy of the book for the purpose of this interview. Light at Lavelle releases in Australia on 31 October 2023 and is available online and in all good bookstores.To listen to more interviews, visit TheCurb.com.au. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
What's good people, Paul Rodriguez is one of the greatest street skater of all time. Featured in numerous Tony Hawk games, 4 X-games gold medals... the guy is a legend. He came through camp today to talk about aliens, the pyramids, and skating for the rest of his life. This was an awesome pod. WELCOME TO CAMP00:00 Intro02:08 Parents involvement in show business03:55 Paul loves stand-up + Ralph Barbosa06:44 Mexican Skaters + skating is your community08:34 Emotionality in skating & stand-up09:44 Signing with Nike + learning from dad13:35 Skating obsession + lucky with injuries early17:42 Dealing with injury + acting classes22:23 Being Christian Slater + Worst bomb28:51 Dream Role + Stuntman + Tom Cruise37:16 Best actor + Forrest Gump + Tom Hanks40:17 “Street Dreams” skate movie + support from parents47:05 Why skating in the first place?48:25 Difference between NY v LA skating52:10 Japanese skaters & around the world56:11 Skating is art58:50 Meditation01:01:27 Anxiety + substances + 1st kiss01:08:58 Meeting Tom Penny + faking confidence01:13:26 P-Rod's girlfriend is THE extrovert + Dating01:17:19 P-Rod relationship with his dad01:22:46 1st check + dumbest thing he's bought01:25:00 Meeting his baby mama + having a kid01:35:49 Becoming a better person + father01:45:10 P-Rod's belief in God01:59:16 Prayer got P-Rod through everything02:02:40 Being LUCKY + King Henry's life SUCKED02:14:24 Reincarnation - Beaver v Eagle + Aliens02:25:00 Dinosaurs were LIT
When we met Dr. Stacia Alexander at a menopause symposium, we were instantly drawn to her energy, magnetism, and hot-pink-suit-wearing confidence. A seasoned psychotherapist, she has worked with professional women helping them understand that the journey to success does not make them immune to emotional and cognitive changes. Her most recent work focuses on the importance of accessing mental health care early, and she has even written a book that we wish we had read almost 30 (!!!) years ago: 10 + Things I Wish I Knew About Mental Health in College. We loved talking to Dr. Alexander about her use of testosterone as part of her menopause hormone therapy, her decision to become "sugar sober", and when it's time to press the Emergency Stop Button and take stock of your life. Get ready for lots of inspirational phrases that won't make you roll your eyes, but WILL make you want to get up and go dancing. What's the opposite of an energy vampire? Dr. Stacia Alexander, that's what. Topics and timestamps12:08 - Responsible use of testosterone as part of a hormone therapy regimen20:06 - The benefits of becoming "sugar sober"30:20 - The Emotionality of Success33:25 - Pushing the "emergency stop button" and assessing what your really want for your life40:13 - Tips for access to mental health care46:25 - The importance of goal-settingHandles and sitesDr. Alexander's websiteDr. Alexander's InstaDr. Alexander's facebookDr. Alexander's book 10+ Things I Wish I Knew About Mental Health in CollegeList of Resources MentionedWhy Annual Pap Smears Are History – But Routine Ob-Gyn Visits Are NotFirst testosterone patch for menopausal women to begin clinical trials this yearYour To Do List of FUNLeave us a review!Other LinksErin's Faces Affiliate LinkJulia G Wellnesshttps://circlingthedrainpodcast.buzzsprout.com/https://www.littlemissrecap.com/ https://www.mypostglow.com/Support the showBe one of the helpers! SUBSCRIBE to this podcast on APPLE PODCASTS or SPOTIFY and leave us a review on APPLE PODCASTS.
In honor of summer travel plans and it's own type of holiday magic, we revisit this classic (Episode 038): How do you survive traveling with ADHD? What about traveling with children, particularly small children? And what happens when you find yourself rushing, leaving things until the last minute, and forgetting your charger once again? David and Isabelle swap stories and share specific tips to traveling and also discuss WHY ARE THERE SOCK NUBBINS AND TAGS. Seriously.------There can be so much pressure to have a Hallmark, picture-postcard perfect holiday and it's so important to revise those expectations and think about what you actually want to do, for example, maybe it's “we go to the this house, tolerate everyone for 45 minutes, you grab the turkey, I grab the mashed potatoes, and we leave.” And what about the uncomfortable holiday clothes? Isabelle laughs and mentions a brilliant SNL fake ad for Macy's that's all about children's clothing and how uncomfortable it is. David describes this might be where task meets emotionality (for definition, see below)—is the task of the holidays spending time with family? David remembers the holidays being hard, everyone fighting on the way there and then fine when they got home, and wearing uncomfortable clothes, and just wanting to leave and it being awful. Isabelle remembers coming home so late and it was freezing and trying to sleep in the back seat, freezing. David had the experience going to his partner's holiday celebrations and—they don't have ADHD—everyone got along, hung out, sang songs, played piano—and this is real? Friendsgiving is a thing, and you can make choices, what you do for holidays is a choice: like winter is a choice. Anytime you feel trapped or caught in something, changing the language to “I'm choosing to do blank because blank…” with what needs your meeting with it, changes it from you “have to go see Meemaw” You can take the shoulds, musts, and have-to and change it to choices. And maybe Meemaw doesn't care what you wear, she just wants to see you. WHY ARE THERE TAGS IN CLOTHING? And NUBBINS ON SOCKS? We have evolved so many incredible things, we have AI, we have genome sequencing, and we have sock nubbins, and who invented pantyhose and shapewear. David likes shape wear because the underarmour stuff he wears is nice and tight. Isabelle describes that it's more designed to smush you in and sometimes it's great—this is maybe Isabelle's trauma after being a 6 ft woman at 14 year old, so she was fitting into shape wear and pantyhose as a kid and hated it so much and it was so uncomfortable. David always got all these hand-me-down socks that were in a constant state of yawn—now David gets the really tight socks that stay up all day, “look at you sock, staying up all day!” And transitioning back to travel—and sometimes travel is really hard because we're pushing ourselves harder than we should. Having the toolbox is just as important on the airplane or airport, or knowing how long you're waiting with a toolbox. Whoever's doing the traveling, your self care is the most important: you can't control your kids being miserable, they will be, you have to put your oxygen mask, go at your pace, go at your tolerance. Kids will fall apart. You need to be there for them when they do. So what do you need to be there for them? Maybe it's a treat, maybe it's slowing down—take care of you. Pack the day before. And always include an extra day back at home before transitioning back. You can change the day back—the end is always going to be the end of the vacation, but you being able to have a different re-entry ritual into your day to day can be game changing. Isabelle shares some tips from her own front line experiences, such as when driving from Indianapolis from Nashville as part of moving, when she forgot the iPad…and everything else, and her kid was stuck in the way back for hours bored out of their mind. Needless to say, iPads are last steps, so it's a plan B, but it forces them to have lots of plan A—and on this trip, she forgot all the plan B's and A's. And everyone is going to have a meltdown—Isabelle, as mom, will also have a breakdown. It doesn't matter how prepared you are, travel will break you at some point. Travel with kids is courting brilliant memories of chaos, so she anticipates and plans on her having a breakdown. So she tells herself that “I'm a good mom who's reached her limit.” You're trained from babyhood to meet their needs all the time, but it's a set up, the game is rigged, and part of the rigging is us thinking we're never going to lose it ourselves. Maybe it's the rule, not the exception. What about outsourcing, like checking your bags curbside, strapping your kid into the carseat on the plane (because they're used to it and airplane seatbelts do nothing). Be kind to yourself. There's also this idea that a vacation and a trip with kids are two separate things. The labor does not change, but increases, but the expectation for fun and frivolity is also increased, but maybe change the expectations inside. Also okay if it's extra hard because it actually really is. Take the wins. David names that it's very hard to hold dialectics, to opposing truths: you can love your kids and they can be too much, really hard, really frustrating. You need to find yourself a support group that can validate all the truths. For David, being a child who had ADHD, and seeing people with kids travel, and typically things feel better when there isn't as much pressure, when you're not rushing at the last minute, and have everything you need. Accepting that all of those things are going to be harder with ADHD and smiling when those things don't happen is the key. Accept that win, when you actually remember the charger. We can also flip the shame spiral into gratitude because you can maybe get the thing when you arrive, and David has needed to buy pretty much everything on arrival. Anything important, the things you can't live without, phone stuff, medication, certain items, should be carry-ons. If ever possible, don't check a bag, have a very compacted carry on. David is so grateful for you shiny people out there that send us really incredible messages, and he's really excited for our next season, as is Isabelle. We're going to bring guests on next season, and Isabelle is super excited and grateful, too, that it's building into an actual conversation, and so cool to be able to have that moment. Let's all raise a fist in the air as Judd Nelson in Breakfast Club at the right pace and the right angle. We're closing out this year with these holiday episodes, we've gotta turn around practice self-care, taking a couple of weeks off, and coming back in the next year with a new intro, new guests, and same ol' David and Isabelle--we can't wait to talk more, Team Shiny!SNL Fake Macy's commercial for children's uncomfortable clothingDAVID'S DEFINITIONSTASK V. EMOTIONALITY Task: what you're trying to do - the ‘work' of a group or a person.for example: I am finishing my project this weekend. Emotionality: what you do to prepare to do a task - beliefs/fears/assumptions about what you're doingfor example: I'm doing it wrong/right, I always procrastinate, big fear you'll never get it done, dream that someone will come and save you from having to do it, etc. Traveling survival tips Prep your go-bag, tool kit (and consider several plans, not just one, like the ipad, because batteries die) Kids will fall apart. They will fall apart when they travel. Be there when they do. What do you need to do to be there for them? Go at your pace. Pick up a treat. Do things to make it easier on you. Get ready to leave the night before. Have things packed. Plan to have a day off once you return. The last day of vacation will always suck, but you can make your return to your day to day so much better. Plan on your own breakdown. You're a good parent/partner and you can reach a limit. It's the rule, not the exception with travel. Outsource what you can. Keep your toddler in a carseat. Splurge on conveniences like curbside checkin (if you can) Travel is extra hard because it really is: super hard on kids (and folx with ADHD): you've disrupted routine, made yourself sit still and wait a lot, taken away your supports, and you've also done this for yourself if you have ADHD Typically things feel better when there isn't as much pressure, when you're not rushing at the last minute, and have everything you need. Accepting that all of those things are going to be harder with ADHD (and more likely to not happen) and smiling when it happens is the key. Give yourself the credit and the high five when you get the wins, like remembering the charger, maybe pause and flip that shame spiral about forgetting another charger again into gratitude for them being so accessibly restocked. Carry-on what you can't live without, including your medication. -----Cover Art by: Sol VázquezTechnical Support by: Bobby Richards—————
Huberman Lab Key Takeaways Psilocybin's main effect is to mimic serotonin in a very specific way, leading to neuroplasticityThe goal of psilocybin is the adaptive rewiring of the brain, not just rewiring of the brain – you want to rewire that leads to new and interesting ideasClinical trials using psilocybin for the treatment of depression are outperforming standard therapy and SSRIs (and other antidepressants) A combination of psilocybin + talk therapy shows evidence of the strongest long-lasting resultsPsilocybin increases communication across the brain and reduces the hierarchical organization of the brain, broadening the flow of information (including interoception and exteroception)“During the psilocybin journey, people have the opportunity to learn new relationships between different sensory and emotional states. Those new relationships seem to persist long after the psychedelic journey is finished.” – Dr. Andrew HubermanBest practices for an effective guided psilocybin journey: Sit or lie down comfortably with eyes closed or an eye maskMusic is critical to the experience1 or more people present should not be on psilocybinNo food at least 4 hours prior to the journeyKey features of the trip from those who experience positive results: a sense of unity, sense of spirituality, sense of bliss at some point during the experience, insight, and learning about one's lifeCurrent clinical studies and areas of promise for psilocybin use: treatment resistance depression, cancer-related depression, and anxiety Newer studies are exploring use for alcohol abuse, tobacco addiction, OCD, and moreRead the full notes @ podcastnotes.orgIn this episode, I discuss what psilocybin is (chemically) and how it works at the cellular and neural circuit level to trigger neuroplasticity, which is our brain's ability to rewire itself in ways that lead to long-lasting shifts in our emotional, cognitive and behavioral patterns and abilities. I discuss the emerging clinical trial evidence for the use of psilocybin in the treatment of depression, addictions and other psychiatric challenges. I explain the typical duration and phases of a psilocybin journey, the different categories of dosages often used and I explain the importance of set, setting and support when using psychedelics. I explain which groups of people place themselves at great risk by taking psilocybin as well as groups that could benefit, and I highlight the rapidly changing legal and medical landscape around psilocybin. This episode is a thorough exploration of psilocybin from the scientific and clinical literature perspective and ought to be of interest to anyone curious about psilocybin, mental health, neuroplasticity and/or psychedelics more generally. For the full show notes, visit hubermanlab.com. Thank you to our sponsors AG1 (Athletic Greens): https://athleticgreens.com/huberman Eight Sleep: https://eightsleep.com/huberman ROKA: https://roka.com/huberman HVMN: https://hvmn.com/huberman LMNT: https://drinklmnt.com/huberman Supplements from Momentous https://www.livemomentous.com/huberman Timestamps (00:00:00) Psilocybin, Legal Considerations (00:08:32) Sponsors: Eight Sleep, ROKA, HVMN (00:12:00) Psilocybin Becomes Psilocin in the Gut, Serotonin (00:17:00) The Serotonin 2A Receptor, Therapeutic Outcomes SSRIs vs. Psilocybin (00:21:40) Serotonin Receptor Expression; Visual Hallucinations & Eyes Closed (00:27:21) Safety & Cautions for Specific Patient Populations (00:29:13) Sponsor: AG1 (Athletic Greens) (00:30:28) Psilocybin, “Magic Mushrooms” Dosing, Micro-Dosing, “Heroic Doses” (00:36:21) Psychedelic Journey: Set, Setting & Support (00:43:43) Music & the Psilocybin Journey; Duration of Effects (00:48:58) Psilocybin & the Brain: Subjective Experiences, Perception (00:58:36) Sponsor: LMNT (00:59:48) Brain Networks & Therapeutic Outcomes (01:05:23) Creativity; Music, Emotionality & Psychedelic Journeys (01:12:39) Depression & Psychedelics as Neuroplasticity “Wedge” (01:16:53) Positive Psychedelic Journeys, Unity, “Oceanic Boundlessness” (01:25:23) “Bad Trips”, Anxiety & Physiological Sighs (01:32:57) Therapeutic Use of Psilocybin (01:36:11) Neuroplasticity, Structural Brain Changes & Psilocybin (01:48:08) Psychedelics: Therapeutic Breakthroughs & Depression (01:56:37) Combining Psilocybin Therapy & Talk Therapy, Antidepressant Effects (02:03:11) Psilocybin Experience & Mental Health (2:06:42) Zero-Cost Support, YouTube Feedback, Spotify & Apple Reviews, Sponsors, Momentous, Neural Network Newsletter, Social Media Title Card Photo Credit: Mike Blabac Disclaimer
In this episode, I discuss what psilocybin is (chemically) and how it works at the cellular and neural circuit level to trigger neuroplasticity, which is our brain's ability to rewire itself in ways that lead to long-lasting shifts in our emotional, cognitive and behavioral patterns and abilities. I discuss the emerging clinical trial evidence for the use of psilocybin in the treatment of depression, addictions and other psychiatric challenges. I explain the typical duration and phases of a psilocybin journey, the different categories of dosages often used and I explain the importance of set, setting and support when using psychedelics. I explain which groups of people place themselves at great risk by taking psilocybin as well as groups that could benefit, and I highlight the rapidly changing legal and medical landscape around psilocybin. This episode is a thorough exploration of psilocybin from the scientific and clinical literature perspective and ought to be of interest to anyone curious about psilocybin, mental health, neuroplasticity and/or psychedelics more generally. For the full show notes, visit hubermanlab.com. Thank you to our sponsors AG1 (Athletic Greens): https://athleticgreens.com/huberman Eight Sleep: https://eightsleep.com/huberman ROKA: https://roka.com/huberman HVMN: https://hvmn.com/huberman LMNT: https://drinklmnt.com/huberman Supplements from Momentous https://www.livemomentous.com/huberman Timestamps (00:00:00) Psilocybin, Legal Considerations (00:08:32) Sponsors: Eight Sleep, ROKA, HVMN (00:12:00) Psilocybin Becomes Psilocin in the Gut, Serotonin (00:17:00) The Serotonin 2A Receptor, Therapeutic Outcomes SSRIs vs. Psilocybin (00:21:40) Serotonin Receptor Expression; Visual Hallucinations & Eyes Closed (00:27:21) Safety & Cautions for Specific Patient Populations (00:29:13) Sponsor: AG1 (Athletic Greens) (00:30:28) Psilocybin, “Magic Mushrooms” Dosing, Micro-Dosing, “Heroic Doses” (00:36:21) Psychedelic Journey: Set, Setting & Support (00:43:43) Music & the Psilocybin Journey; Duration of Effects (00:48:58) Psilocybin & the Brain: Subjective Experiences, Perception (00:58:36) Sponsor: LMNT (00:59:48) Brain Networks & Therapeutic Outcomes (01:05:23) Creativity; Music, Emotionality & Psychedelic Journeys (01:12:39) Depression & Psychedelics as Neuroplasticity “Wedge” (01:16:53) Positive Psychedelic Journeys, Unity, “Oceanic Boundlessness” (01:25:23) “Bad Trips”, Anxiety & Physiological Sighs (01:32:57) Therapeutic Use of Psilocybin (01:36:11) Neuroplasticity, Structural Brain Changes & Psilocybin (01:48:08) Psychedelics: Therapeutic Breakthroughs & Depression (01:56:37) Combining Psilocybin Therapy & Talk Therapy, Antidepressant Effects (02:03:11) Psilocybin Experience & Mental Health (2:06:42) Zero-Cost Support, YouTube Feedback, Spotify & Apple Reviews, Sponsors, Momentous, Neural Network Newsletter, Social Media Title Card Photo Credit: Mike Blabac Disclaimer
This week is all about emotionality. ADHD emotions are like a light switch. They go ON and OFF. However, with "great power comes great responsibility"..errrr.. in other words, feeling uncomfortable emotions intensely also means that we get to feel love, joy, and excitement with an intensity unmatched by our neurotypical peers. In this episode, we talk through executive function, brain hacks that are positive, and less positive, for managing motivation and, most importantly, understanding the power that comes from how uniquely wired we are. If you have questions about this or anything else we've shared, you can text us directly to get personalized answers and feedback here: https://www.linq.ee/mindfulasamother
This week is all about emotionality. ADHD emotions are like a light switch. They go ON and OFF. However, with "great power comes great responsibility"..errrr.. in other words, feeling uncomfortable emotions intensely also means that we get to feel love, joy, and excitement with an intensity unmatched by our neurotypical peers. In this episode, we talk through executive function, brain hacks that are positive, and less positive, for managing motivation and, most importantly, understanding the power that comes from how uniquely wired we are. If you have questions about this or anything else we've shared, you can text us directly to get personalized answers and feedback here: https://www.linq.ee/mindfulasamother
In this episode of The Energetics of Everything, Eden talks about her perspective of emotionality through a human design and Rapid Resolution Therapy lens. Learn more about some of the differences in how human design and RRT look at emotions, how negative emotions might be holding you back in your life, and how if you are focusing on past emotions, you might be feeling stuck! If you are interested in learning more in a masterclass centered about what it means to be magnetic in human design and how to harness that, check out Magnetism. Join live February 28, 2023 or catch the replay after: Magnetism If you are interested in a beginners guide to interpreting the details of your human design chart, check out DECODED! This guide is composed of the outlines Eden has created for the Energetic Resumes, SSCC, and a few of her most saved Instagram posts. These are notes that Eden regularly references that provide a clear breakdown of the details of your human design chart. Learn more here: DECODED
Themes: Masculinity, Emotions, Vulnerability, Relationships, Men's Work, Self-Worth, Purpose, Pornography Summary: Today I'm chatting with one of my good friends, Connor Beaton. Connor is the founder of ManTalks, an international organization dedicated to men's wellness, success, and fulfillment. Connor is a coach, facilitator, teacher, podcast host, and speaker who helps men from all over the world find purpose, healthy love, a joy-filled life, and fulfilling sexual connection. His teachings draw from an in-depth apprenticeship in Jungian psychology, Gestalt, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, and both Buddhist and Taoist traditions. Known for his no-nonsense approach and compassionate understanding of human limitations, Connor has coached thousands of men through private coaching, group work, workshops, retreats, and masterminds. He has also shared the stage with renowned speakers like Gary Vaynerchuk, Lewis Howes, and Danielle LaPorte. Tune in for a free-flowing conversation where we jam on the challenges men face today, masculinity, turning towards our pain, and his new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, and Find Freedom. Discover: Our thoughts on why toxic masculinity manifests Why emotional suppression is so common for men in our culture today The healing that is being asked of men right now The value of an initiatory process as young men Why turning towards your pain is necessary in order to find freedom and be the man you want to be Why porn has become an addiction for many and its effect on relationships 00:00 Intro 04:12 The men's movement 06:10 Emotionality in men 12:00 Toxic masculinity 16:28 Hurt people hurt people 25:41 Men and vulnerability 33:44 Healing the divide between men and women 49:09 Men's work 54:42 A relationship with something bigger than yourself 59:20 “I don't trust men…” 1:05:19 You don't need to hit rock bottom to change 1:13:53 There's more to it than vulnerability 1:22:51 What fulfilling relationships require 1:28:00 Being present 1:31:27 Pornography 1:42:49 Impact of pornography on relationships 1:46:18 Healing a porn addiction Links: Website | mantalks.com Instagram | @mantalks Book | Men's Work, A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, and Find Freedom Podcast | ManTalks Sponsors: Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
(originally episode 08! rerun for your holiday break enjoyment!) How do we separate a task from our emotions about it? Especially when it comes to our own battles with procrastination? Isabelle is struggling with this and Bobby, her husband, is curious to hear more. David breaks it down like this: let's say the task is running 5 miles in 60 minutes, which sounds very hard to Bobby. Does it matter what you're wearing? What time of day you go? If it's raining or not? There's lots of things we can get caught up in the ‘emotionality': I don't have the right clothes, I don't like the weather, etc. The emotionality is the stuff that we get caught up in that doesn't matter. Our view of how it needs to be done that gets in the way. Can you walk while watching a video, for example. Isabelle tries to break a sweat once a day. But it only counts if she goes to the exercise class she signed up for. Bobby asks: why does a brain with ADHD is likely to procrastinate in the first place and then why do we discount doing it differently? ADHD individual needs a specific amount of stimulation to do a task; not enough or too much, they need to self-medicate. The emotions we use to self-medicate include anger, anxiety or excitement, etc. Medication can give you the stimulation without the anger, anxiety, or excitement. We procrastinate because it boosts the stakes, gives us a threat, so every moment of working on the task is alleviating the stress so there's no delay in gratification, we're instantly rewarded (yay dopamine!) for working on it. If you had worked on it two weeks earlier, you wouldn't feel any different because there was no stress/threat you were relieving, you wouldn't get that feeling of reward. So let's teach people how to procrastinate better, rather than trying to undo it. What if you knew you weren't going to work on the report until Saturday—what could you prep for Saturday, instead of beating yourself up for not working on it until then, if that's the sweet spot of stress/crunch time for you? Your brain needs to experience that threat to feel that relief. A person with ADHD can be an angry, anxious, etc. — I'm going to be a monster when I'm focusing on this, so what can we do to ask for what we need? Is it easier to find a quiet place to be a monster or not become a monster (let's say you get angry when you work yourself up to focus on something)? Bobby and Isabelle share that they would set each other off and both need accommodations in their relationships, but realizing that the meta-awareness of knowing it connects to ADHD and what they need has helped them navigate situations and help get out of each other's way rather than asking that person to magically change. David points out that we're normalizing that folx with ADHD can all become monsters in this sense and that not all monsters are bad—you could be angry/anxious to the max and find ways to create room for that that minimize the hurt and ill effects on those around you. There's lots of relational trauma for people with ADHD and other forms of learning differences. You see everyone sit down and do something one way and you do it differently, your brain tells you it's because you're stupid/not following the rules/not doing it right, etc. Right around between ages 7-11, kids' peers normalize their world rather than their parents. For example, how are relaxation and self care portrayed? As wine and spa time—what if you don't like wine and baths/spas (for example, like Isabelle). David makes the point that everyone else is doing it right, we're just not taking in the input right. Maybe no more boring baths. Something needs to move. What we can do with the optical illusion of snow falling or a shower rain falling. The ADHD brain is meant and designed to procrastinate, but people with ADHD are made to believe their thoughts are naturally wrong. Healing comes from acknowledging this.Does cranberry juice prevent UTI's? Yes (and no).Side note, one thing Isabelle learned on this internet rabbit hole about cranberry juice and UTI's was this: “Cranberry is a term derived from the contraction of “crane berry.” This name is derived from the nickname of the bilberry flower, which, when it withers, is similar in appearance to the head and neck of the sand crane, a bird that often feeds on the berries of this plant.” Who knew? For the full fascinating scientific article about cranberries and UTIs, click here. DAVID'S DEFINITIONS Task: what you're trying to do - the ‘work' of a group or a person.for example: I am finishing my project this weekend. Emotionality: what you do to prepare to do a task - beliefs/fears/assumptions about what you're doingfor example: I'm doing it wrong/right, I always procrastinate, big fear you'll never get it done, dream that someone will come and save you from having to do it, etc. PROCRASTINATION: this is the behavior that occurs in between the assignment of a task, and working on the task. This is waiting to the last minute, or what we do when we don't want to start work. Why do folx with ADHD procrastinate? Waiting for the last minute, or delaying starting can be self medication for someone with ADHD. Excitement, Anxiety, Anger are all feelings that trigger stimulate us (our heart rate increases). Once this happens we remove any delay in reinforcement, as all acts towards work completion reduce that feeling/stimulation. It can also really increase the feeling of winning, if deadlines are met.What do you mean by 'monster'?We all have a monster part. Our monster is the part of us that comes out when something changes in a way we don't like or we don't get our way; in other words, it is our extinction burst (see below). The trick is to not pretend it doesn't happen or somehow shame it away, but instead make space for it—even plan on it showing up—and reduce the impact on innocent others. Example: You really don't want to write a paper, but you have to. As you work through the heightened stimulation you need to switch from prep work to actually working on it, your behavior is changing and you don't like it (it's so hard when you're not getting the thrill of something novel, or that you enjoy, and really with procrastination you're just getting the relief of a stressor being reduced). SO, you may turn into a ‘monster,' — get irritated, annoyed, angry at anyone near you for getting in the way as you settle in to sit down to write it—which is ALSO giving you dopamine because emotions like anger, anxiety and excitement stimulate us (by way of building adrenaline, which ends up leading to more dopamine, among other things). Suddenly you have what you need to switch from prep to work, but—if you know this is how you work sometimes, you could let the people around you know/get out of dodge/have them be in other rooms, for example, so you're not inadvertently getting angry/anxious AT them (it'll happen regardless)—and that way you won't get the double reinforcement that you're some monster all the time ;).Extinction burst: Connected to behavioral theory, when you're no longer getting the reinforcement you want, your behavior dramatically increases in frequency, duration, and intensity as you seek to get that reinforcement. It's only when your behavior is not reinforced that you change. Example: You are normally reinforced in a way you enjoy by hitting the power button on your remote (behavior) and having your tv turn on (reinforcement). But one day you hit the power button and nothing happens. Most of us respond by an extinction burst: we hit the button again and again, we change the angle at which we hold the remote, we may hit the button harder (all of this is more frequent, lasts longer, and is more intense that what you usually do to turn on your tv)—and it isn't until the tv persists in staying off that you get up and get new batteries for the remote (your behavior changes).Technical support by: Bobby RichardsCover art by: Sol Vázquez--------
Soraya Chemaly is an award-winning author, activist and former Executive Director of the Representation Project and Director and Co-Founder of the Women's Media Center Speech Project. She has long been committed to expanding women's civic and political participation. She is the author Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger and the recipient of the 2022 Passionistas Persist Trailblazer Award. Learn nore about Soraya Chemaly. Learn more about The Passionistas Project. FULL TRANSCRIPT: Passionistas: Hi, we're sisters Amy and Nancy Harrington. We founded the Passionistas Project to tell the stories of women who are following their passions and fighting for equality for all. The more we spoke with women for our podcast, subscription box and the annual Power of Passionistas summit, the more we saw a common trait in all of them. They are unstoppable. Whether they choose to use their voices to start a women-owned brand or fight for the rights of the marginalized, we found that all Passionistas are resilient, compassionate and persistent. Each year, we honor women who embody these qualities by presenting the Passionista Persist Awards. This episode of the podcast is an interview with one of the 2022 recipients. Our next award this evening is the Passionista Persist Trailblazer Award. The definition of Trailblazer is a pioneer, an innovator, a person who makes a new track through wild. Tonight's recipient is an activist and author who is pushing boundaries for women daily in this wild country we live in. The award is being presented by Dr. Melissa Bird, a feminist, author, healer and coach. Melissa's purpose in this world is to teach women how to step into their truth and quit playing small. Melissa: I am so pleased to be presenting the 2022 Passionist Persist Trailblazer Award to my amazing, inspiring friend Soraya Chemaly. Soraya is an award-winning author, activist and is the former Executive Director of the Representation Project and Director and Co-Founder of the Women's Media Center Speech Project. And she has long been committed to expanding women's civic and political participation. One of the things I love and adore about Soraya is that she is the author of one of my most favorite books, Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger. And I do not think it is any coincidence that on this day of all days, on this year of all years, I get the privilege and the honor of presenting Soraya with this incredible Trailblazer Award. So, Soraya, thank you so much for joining me today to receive this amazing, beautiful, awesome, well-deserved award because you are certainly blazing many trails in my life and the lives of so many of us. Soraya: Thank you so much, Missy and thank you to, The Passionistas Project. I am really, genuinely so honored. It has been a difficult year. It's been a difficult decade, actually, and honestly, it's just nice to know that organizations like yours are thinking about the work that people are doing, that requires this kind of persistence, which doesn't necessarily mean the same thing as hope. But really and truly, I'm genuinely very, very honored and delighted to be able to have this chance to have a conversation with you again and want to just say thank you very much. Melissa: Oh, you are so welcome. God works in very fascinating ways and the fact that you and I are here together. After the Supreme Court has released so many devastating decisions just this week, like in the last literally six days. Yes, I think it is. Um, I think it is awesome actually, that you and I are together at this moment talking about trailblazing, right? And, and about how are we moving forward. Um, as part of the Passionistas Project, as part of the work, um, that Amy and Nancy have brought together and culminated so that so many people can have a platform for change and a platform for blazing trails. And I think that, you know, you and I in our professional work, Soraya, we work with so many organizations and so many people who are trying. The thing that I love about the Passionistas Project is they are doing in such an authentically beautiful way. And so the first thing I really want to talk with you about today is about the Power of the Passionista and this mission of bringing all these women together from literally all over the world to talk about making change with diversity, equity and inclusion. Truly doing it this time. Like the lineup just blows my mind every time I think about it. So what does the Power of Passionista mean to you? Soraya: When I first heard Passionista, my response was a, a little bit viscerally to think, oh, hold on. That's a word that I personally have heard that you have heard that many of us have heard. That's used dismissively. You're so passionate about that project you work on. Right. As though some of the issues that we are fighting against. Um, our pet projects that we do in our spare time because it makes us feel happy, you know, and so I actually had that initial response, but what I really came to understand and think about was the fact that there's no reason to reject the word passionate or the idea of what it implies and clearly means in this context. I mean, these are women from all over the world who are dedicating their lives to making change often in situations of. Grave, danger of risk, um, of political, uh, violence. Uh, increasingly we know this is the case. Increasingly, we know that the people at the forefront of so many movements, environmental movements, climate change, indigenous rights, uh, apportion, reproductive rights, racial justice, it's over and over and over. Women, black women, queer women, trans women, women who are just pushed farther and farther and farther into the margins. And so I think it's really important to understand what it means. Honestly, the word kind of to me lies at the nexus of the personal and political that some people have the luxury to think are. Right? We know that that's a decades old expression from the feminist world, that the personal is political. But a lot of people really still benefit from separating those two things. And, and, you know, we gain nothing by pretending that they're separated. Um, and I actually think the word Passionista, um, makes people think about that if they care to. Melissa: I think we have to have passion to keep moving on. If we remain passionate about the things that deeply impact our lives and our world and the world of other people, particularly all of the women you just mentioned, we start talking about disabled women, women who are engaging in decolonizing work. We start talking about rebellious women, women who are trying to get educated and disrupting the education system. When we think about people being the ones who are potentially gonna get us through. Then we have to understand passion. Because without passion, the drive in hopeless moments becomes diminished. And so what are you the most passionate about? Soraya: When the Dobbs decision came down, I think like a lot of people, I burst out crying. And the thing is that you've been doing this work, I've been doing this work for, oh, it feels like decades, right? Yeah. Like literally, there was no surprise in this at all. There was just profound loss and disappointment and sadness and rage. That's how I felt, you know? And it was just so eviscerating actually, because I think. If you have been on this side of this fight, seriously, you understand what just happened, what we just lost, what it represents. And that's not to diminish other losses at all, but it's such a turning point to have the right taken away. But it is a really critical point and a great unraveling. Yes and yes. Yes, yes. I'm so glad you called it a great unraveling because I think that is profoundly important for people to understand as we're thinking about, I mean, trailblazing the world as we know it will fall apart. And we're seeing it in little tiny anecdotes. Mm-hmm. you know, doctors who have a woman come into their emergency room at 11:30 PM who with an ectopic pregnancy, that's about to blow, but they've gotta get on the phone with the attorney. Yeah. And make sure they can do the procedure. Cuz her life isn't totally at risk yet, but it will be soon. Right. I, I'm just like, maybe now you understand that the single what the single issues. Not issue. It was always oversimplified into this idea of the act of abortion. And that is never what any of us was talking about, you know? And so I think the thing you were saying, what am I most passionate about? And I was kind of winnowed down into this nub of real despair. You know, just that feeling that you get, which is hopelessness. But I will admit that that was swamp. Pretty quickly by my rage. Yeah. And I think by many people who, many people had this experience of feeling this justifiable rage, but in fact, you can't let that rage hurt you. This is the point, right? If the, if the rage you feel is causing you dangerous stress or causing you to hurt yourself in other ways or. To, um, destroy relationships that are important, that that's not a functioning tool. And, and so I'm quite passionate in this moment about acknowledging anger, acknowledging the rage of the moment, and also appreciating that while it's not the conventional, socially acceptable, um, method of displaying. Anger is literally one of the most hopeful emotions because if you can maintain your anger, which is different from resentment, right? Like I feel resentment when I look back at people's decades of work that feels dismissed and lost, I'm looking back, right? That's different from a rage, which is a feeling that things can and must change. Because you don't feel rage. If you feel really genuinely hopeless. What you feel is sadness and despair and depression, and that's paralyzing. And it's okay if people feel that way because in fact, this is a sad, depressing, paralyzing moment. But I would just say that I also believe that, again, it's not, not to say embrace a rage and an anger that are destructive. It's not at all what I mean, but acknowledge that the rage and the anger are justifiable and that they need expression and that no matter what, they are hopeful. They are fundamentally hopeful. We think that in order to make change, we have to, we have to set aside anger and. And yes, what I love to refer to as Righteous Fury. Mm-hmm. in order to disrupt systems and make a difference. And I remember so many times when I was lobbying at the Capitol in Utah for a Planned Parenthood, I would just be furious. I can't play poker, I can't keep any emotion off my damn face. And I would be so livid and then I would like take this breath and go, what has to be done? How can I communicate what is necessary to these people to help things move forward? Because I had to focus on, not me, but the thousands and thousands of people that are gonna be impacted by that. Those pieces of legislation, either that I was trying to push forward or that other people were trying to push forward. And as soon as I channeled that rage and moved it into, everything changed as long as I wasn't screaming and yelling and huffing at, at directly at human beings and being abusive and confrontational, I still got rage. I still had all the rage. Mm-hmm. And I channeled it. Melissa: And I'm curious, when you talk about rage, what are the things that you really wanna help people who are part of this Passionistas summit understand. Soraya: Taking our rage and using it to blaze wherever we're going. There are a few things that really still strike me. Um, it's been three years since the book was published and, um, you know, it, it's one of these books I think that has a very long tale because in fact there is an evergreen quality to these ideas. Mm-hmm, you know, and, and we wanna underst. Emotionality and we in particular, I think wanna understand the role it plays in our cognition because if you are a woman, or if I'm identifying, you know, how quickly and easily people dismiss you, if you express anger. Which is why so many of us try not to show anger, feel anger, display anger. We've grown up being punished for it or, um, mocked for it. You know, that's the number one worry women have. It's not that someone's gonna be violent, it is that they will be mocked for expressing anger, which is an expression of need or an assertion of will. Right. And we're, we're, we're not supposed to have either of those, those things. Mm-hmm. , but I, I think. , there are a few things. One is to be a trailblazer and to use your passionate feelings and beliefs. Doesn't require that you take on the whole world all at once or have an institution or a structure. You know, the whole fact of trailblazing is that you find a new way. You find a way that makes sense to you, and then , most times it also makes sense to other people, but they just either didn't do it or didn't think of it or didn't have the time, but are so appreciative of the fact that you might do it. And so for some people that might be organizing a local choir to resist peacefully. In a certain way, right. To other people it may be writing legislation to other people. It may be mobilizing, um, transportation, who knows what it is, right? But I think it's really important to not feel paralyzed by the idea that there's a way to trail blades. The point is it's risky. Yes. You, you, you have to take the. People may call you stupid or you know, any number of terrible, terrible names, which 100% will happen. Okay. How you know you're on the trail. That's how you know you're on the trail. So you really have to, you have to really fundamentally be okay with people not liking you. That's the other lesson that really strikes me about being passionate and being angry as part of. We are so, so expected and socialized to be likable and to put others first, and not make other people uncomfortable. Trailblazing always makes people uncomfortable. It's okay. We need more people to be very profoundly uncomfortable. I'm thinking about my own moments where friends have come to me, or clients have come to me, or organizations have come to me and said, you know, I have this. I really wanna do it, and I don't think I should because if I do A, B or C is gonna happen, people won't like me. I'll lose my family, I'll lose my friends, which is what stops us from doing our core, what we are here to do. Right? Right. It stops us from living at our purpose. Oftentimes what I hear from people is that I must be really unique for writing the, the very first bill I ever wrote on my dining room table when I was getting my master's degree. Thinking about what propels you and the people that you know, all these women who are here as part of the summit, all these people that are connecting with all of us who are involved as either award recipients or speakers. What do you want people to know? You know, there's gonna be a lot of noise, there's gonna be a lot of us versus them. There's gonna be a lot of polarization cuz there's nothing. This country more loves more than polarizing each other. Melissa: What do you think people really need to hear about that polarization so they don't get distracted by all that noise? Soraya: Well, it's so hard, you know, because in fact the stage at which we're in the polarization is intimate, right? We're not talking about someone who lives in another state who feels differently. We may be talking as women about the person who's sleeping next to us in bed. That is a very difficult situation that millions and millions and millions of people find themselves in. The polarization is very gendered and very raced. The political polarization. Mm-hmm. But at the same time, we all know there are a lot of liberal progressive men and a lot of extremely conservative women. Yes. So, you know, I don't wanna suggest that it's straight down the line that fathers and daughters or, you know, so I, I think it's important to acknowledge. The intimacy of the issues that we're talking about and it demands of us different tactics and techniques. It demands, honestly, and this is what, this is why I gravitated towards anger as a way of shedding light on some of these issues of inequal. The inequalities are deeply intimate, right? And so the thing about anger in an intimate setting, whether it's a family setting, a religious community, which is almost always patriarchal, right? Our main religious faiths are all mainstream patriarchal, um, regardless of the community you're in. The thing about disdain, anger is that it, it erases the, even the idea of reciprocity, right? So if you're angry at people, you know, and you don't tell them who exactly are you protecting or hurting. Maybe you're protecting yourself because it's too big a risk to think, I love these people. I have dedicated my life to them. I've taken care of them, or I do it every day. But what if they don't return that care? Right? What if I say I'm very angry? This is very important to me, I need you to support me. And what they do is get angry at me for the way I express myself or laugh at me and diminish my concerns. Those are legitimate concerns because they happen every day. And so I just think we need to acknowledge the risk because in fact, the hard part about thinking about reciprocity is acknowledging. There are power. There's power at play, social power at play in our institutions at every level. So yes, in the government, but in our schools and in our places of worship and at our dining room tables, I always say, if you can't practice a hard conversation at home among the people that in that you trust and who in theory love you and support you, how are you supposed to do outside. I think that's really the thing that keeps people from engaging. Melissa: The topic of this conference is diversity, equity and inclusion, right? And I think that right there, Soraya is why people don't really authentically dig into do I work because I agree. Because if you can't have that conversation at home, right? Soraya: How in the hell are you supposed to have it in a corporation with thousands of employees. So often the onus of these conversations falls on the minority people who are most negatively affected. When we think about intersectionality, it's very often the case that you think about black women, um, or trans women, right? Yeah. And what gets erased is the intersectional nature or relevance or political. Identity of a white straight man, for example, or of a, a, a white straight woman. That identity, because it's so often conflated with a normal person mm-hmm. as opposed to, and, and a person whose identity doesn't matter. That gets very complicated. And so when you have to do the hard work of talking about those identities, It feels as we know, like an attack on people. That's, that's where the term white fragility comes from, you know? And so imagine being, uh, a woman at the dinner table who wants to talk to her children about whiteness, and that's not really appreciated by her spouse. How is she also gonna talk about male or straightness, right? If she has a child, if she like. It's a very complicated, and I think the reason it gets so complicated is because these conversations are threats to identity. You know, they're threats to how people think of themselves as being good people. I don't know how many men I've talked to who you know, hate identity politics. Without thinking about their own identities, right? Because in fact, from their perspective, which we keep hearing over and over again, they've done what everybody can do, which is work hard and provide and protect and do exactly what they were told to do, which in fact, they are doing, they are. And in fact, there are rewards that come with and those rewards do not extend to other people. That's the point. So the diversity and inclusion conversations come, as you say, to a hard stop because they, they have to happen intimately. Yeah. You know, they, they have, they, that's, that's the only way things are gonna change. Melissa: One of the things Amy, Nancy and I were talking about as we've been trying to get sponsorships for the conference, right? Because as you do, like it's a conference, right? Sponsorships. Right. One of the things we realized really early on, because I'm like, this is a DEI, no-brainer. We have elevated like people with disabilities. Yeah. You know, indigenous folks, like trans women, like we've. I've never been so involved with an organization that actually is doing all of this. Like I, I was really surprised. Yeah. Whoa. Like, this is real, right? We're having such a hard time getting money, and I realized we, we had this moment, this epiphany, Soraya, where I was like, we're elevating the other. A hundred percent. A hundred percent. Every person involved with this conference is the other. Yeah. And corporations can all day talk about how committed they are to whomever we wanna name, but when it comes to putting their money where their mouth is Right, they don't deliver. I agree. And I'm wondering if you think. If you have any ideas about how we can all leave this summit and, and really start to hold people's feet to the fire as we're moving into this new era where so much is gonna get decimated. Soraya: I belong to many different organizations. I've set on the boards and advisory boards of many organizations dedicated to. Um, representation, diversity and inclusion in lots of different industries. And the first thing that happens, of course, is that you, you go after the easy, theoretically, money, people who you already know are predisposed. If you belong to, uh, uh, an organization that traditionally focused on women mm-hmm. , you might go after. Women donors, right? Sure, sure. Yeah. Beautiful. To an organization that focused on black women, there were far less women donors that were black women. So, you know, your, your pool might be a little narrower. Yep. But what what happens is that even as you say, it's, it's not just in your case that you've gone after the other, it's that even a word like Passionista. Marginalize as an organization. Mm-hmm, because of its feminized underlying, vaguely sexualized, you know, kind of con the language, the context, the biases that go into that. Imagine if you had this kind of organization dedicated to men trailblazers, you just probably wouldn't call it Passionista. And so we end up being marginalized just by virtue of the words and identities that we're trying to support. When we do that, we end up, first of all, just going after about two to 4% of available monies that leaves the other 96 to 98. That in terms of private money, comes from men, individual men, wealthy men. Mm-hmm and, and I'm always flummoxed. Why, why are we not asking these very outspoken, wealthy men who claim to be supporters of freedom and you know, on and on and on. I'm like, where's their money? Yes, where's their money going? I mean, I only vaguely tongue in cheek did I suggest to a friend yesterday that there should just be a Men of Conscience organization that handed money over. Here's the money. Mm-hmm, but you know, very often money comes with strings attached. Yep. And that gets very complicated for some organizations, you know? Yeah. Um, so it kind of becomes a vicious, self-fulfilling cycle, cycle of scarcity. Mm-hmm. But we do have to find. To hold people publicly accountable. Yeah. Hold organizations accountable. There's very little transparency. Yeah. That's a big problem. You know, so I don't, you know, I don't have a really easy solution. I would say though, that if you are a trailblazer and gender is a component of your trailblazing, be aware of the degree to which that becomes marginalizing. By default, I mean, for 10 years now, I've lobbying fighting, engage in activism around freedom of expression, online harassment, violence against women, and really and truly, you have to explain which gobsmacking to me still why that's a matter of democracy. Yes, right. When your most vulnerable, marginalized citizens cannot speak without the threat of violence, yes, and harm and rape and lynching and horrible things, your democracy is not functioning. We just live in a society as we know where it's not until the freeze breach. Of the most powerful, who still tend to be cisgendered, straight white men, Christian. It's not until the those rights start getting scratched at that people pay attention to democracy. There's nothing new here. This is the, you know, it's the history of the nation that doesn't make it any less frustrating. How can we come together? I think it's very important to come together. To for, you know, the, the one thing about the internet, despite all of its bad, bad aspects, is that it does enable people to come together to build fluid communities. Um, you can build, you know, chains of ad hoc communities. That are meaningful and valuable and supportive and you know, people can share moments of joy and humor and accomplishment and shared goals and visions. And I think it's very easy, particularly since we seem to be pretending we still are not in a pandemic, but we are right. In a time like this, I think it's very easy not just to feel isolated, but also to withdraw. You know, I felt that tendency where. I think it's better to be alone than to be to, to subject other people to my particular mindset. Right now, I know what that's like. We, we went to dinner last week and this weekend and I walked in. I saw a man and I thought, if he offers me a drink, I think I have to just, I'm just gonna say to him, well, what do you want me to have? Because, What the fuck where you're at. Yeah. That's where I am. Right. I'm like, I can't have a conversation. I need to not have this conversation. Yeah, right. And, but I think that's a bad instinct. What we need is more connection, not disconnection, not connection with people we're angry at. I don't want to suggest that, you know, but we need to build on the relationships that bring us comfort and joy and connect. And we need to make those connections with more and more and more people. I, I love what I, I, what I love about that is that, um, I've been saying that if we really, truly are ready to disrupt white supremacy and racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, all the things, if we are really truly there, then connecting on. And allowing ourselves to let this crumble right is really important because I don't wanna live under a regime that is founded on the doctrine of discovery and manifest destiny. That's exactly right. Like we have been, we've been, nobody knows, frankly, what the doctrine of discovery is. Right. It is the document that our constitution is founded on, which says if you go to a piece of land from wherever you are and you, uh, whatever European Christian country, whatever European Christian country you're coming from, and you discover it, then you have free reign to kill everybody who's on it. So you can discover it. Yeah. And that is the Reader's Digest condensed version in literally half a second. Melissa: But I don't wanna live under that and when we come together and hold each other in all of this and we connect wherever we're at, then we can start to figure out ways to move through this as it is burning around us. Soraya: Yeah. Yeah. And I think too in, in terms of coming to terms with what all of that really means, I think that. What's very clear is that communities that have been under-resourced and PO and and punished for centuries. For centuries, right, they have been responsible for themselves. They have already been at war with the government. They have already been punished repeatedly by the society. Yes. You know, this is not new. Honestly, what's new right now I think is the shock to white communities. Just like, just like when Trump was elected, frankly. Yeah, right. Just the shock of it. To some people that, my God, it can actually happen. And you're like, yeah, yes it can. Yeah, sure enough it can. Cause it has, it's happened over and over and over again. And so that circle of people who are negatively affected is now bigger. And I think part of the problem is the instinct in many communities is, well, we need to do something and then they start from. Instead of stepping back and thinking this would be a really good time to educate myself, to listen, to learn, to support the leaders who've already been doing this, the communities that understand how to do this, you know, and I know this too, I will say this flat out because I have seen this over and over again. What often happens, particularly among. You've seen this too, right? In feminist organizations, but philanthropic organizations that aren't specifically feminists. White women will replicate patriarchal power structures by default, you know, and, and they will act in ways that are corrosive. To other types of organizations and societies. So very hierarchical, very dominant, very power over, very top down. We've seen that. We've seen that destroy organizations over and over again. So I think it's just really important in this moment. To step back and be very self-reflective. How am I contributing to this problem structurally without knowing it? What mistakes have I made? What can I learn? How can I be quiet? How can I learn? How can I learn? Is really, I think, possibly the most important thing that can, the question people can ask right now, we all can learn. Melissa: Soraya:, thank you so much for your time. Oh, thank you. I'm blazing a trail that I can go running down to. Soraya: No, thank you again. Really and truly. And you know, I wanna say thank you to Nancy and Amy especially, um, and always such a delight to talk to you and to work with you in solidarity. Um, so thank you all very. Passionistas: Thanks for listening to the awards presentation with Soraya Chemaly, and thanks to Dr. Melissa Bird for the amazing interview. To learn more about Dr. Bird, visit DrMelissaBird.com. To learn more about Soraya, visit SorayaChemaly.com and be sure to subscribe to The Passionista Project Podcast so you don't miss any of our upcoming inspiring guests. Until next time, stay well and stay passionate.
Lenora Edwards joins us today to share all about her online speech therapy practice from the comfort, safety and familiarity of their own home with the presence from their guardian if they so choose. She mentions the pause and pivot technique where we have a choice point to reconnect to our greater mission. When parents feel like they are not measuring up, it is crucial to remember that nothing is wrong but rather it is a moment to re-inform and re-connect to the emotional components at play as well. Lenora shares about her specialty in articulation, voice, fluency, understanding and expressing language verbally and behaviorally. BetterSpeech provides support with: Toddler/Child Speech Disorders Adult Speech Disorders Language Disorder / Delay Early Childhood Development Speech Sound Disorders Stuttering and Fluency Autism Spectrum Disorder Reading Readiness Accent Modification Speech Delay Lisp Apraxia Social Skillshttps://www.betterspeech.comhttps://www.instagram.com/betterspeech/https://www.youtube.com/@Better.Speech
There can be so much pressure to have a Hallmark, picture-postcard perfect holiday and it's so important to revise those expectations and think about what you actually want to do, for example, maybe it's “we go to the this house, tolerate everyone for 45 minutes, you grab the turkey, I grab the mashed potatoes, and we leave.” And what about the uncomfortable holiday clothes? Isabelle laughs and mentions a brilliant SNL fake ad for Macy's that's all about children's clothing and how uncomfortable it is. David describes this might be where task meets emotionality (for definition, see below)—is the task of the holidays spending time with family? David remembers the holidays being hard, everyone fighting on the way there and then fine when they got home, and wearing uncomfortable clothes, and just wanting to leave and it being awful. Isabelle remembers coming home so late and it was freezing and trying to sleep in the back seat, freezing. David had the experience going to his partner's holiday celebrations and—they don't have ADHD—everyone got along, hung out, sang songs, played piano—and this is real? Friendsgiving is a thing, and you can make choices, what you do for holidays is a choice: like winter is a choice. Anytime you feel trapped or caught in something, changing the language to “I'm choosing to do blank because blank…” with what needs your meeting with it, changes it from you “have to go see Meemaw” You can take the shoulds, musts, and have-to and change it to choices. And maybe Meemaw doesn't care what you wear, she just wants to see you. WHY ARE THERE TAGS IN CLOTHING? And NUBBINS ON SOCKS? We have evolved so many incredible things, we have AI, we have genome sequencing, and we have sock nubbins, and who invented pantyhose and shapewear. David likes shape wear because the underarmour stuff he wears is nice and tight. Isabelle describes that it's more designed to smush you in and sometimes it's great—this is maybe Isabelle's trauma after being a 6 ft woman at 14 year old, so she was fitting into shape wear and pantyhose as a kid and hated it so much and it was so uncomfortable. David always got all these hand-me-down socks that were in a constant state of yawn—now David gets the really tight socks that stay up all day, “look at you sock, staying up all day!” And transitioning back to travel—and sometimes travel is really hard because we're pushing ourselves harder than we should. Having the toolbox is just as important on the airplane or airport, or knowing how long you're waiting with a toolbox. Whoever's doing the traveling, your self care is the most important: you can't control your kids being miserable, they will be, you have to put your oxygen mask, go at your pace, go at your tolerance. Kids will fall apart. You need to be there for them when they do. So what do you need to be there for them? Maybe it's a treat, maybe it's slowing down—take care of you. Pack the day before. And always include an extra day back at home before transitioning back. You can change the day back—the end is always going to be the end of the vacation, but you being able to have a different re-entry ritual into your day to day can be game changing. Isabelle shares some tips from her own front line experiences, such as when driving from Indianapolis from Nashville as part of moving, when she forgot the iPad…and everything else, and her kid was stuck in the way back for hours bored out of their mind. Needless to say, iPads are last steps, so it's a plan B, but it forces them to have lots of plan A—and on this trip, she forgot all the plan B's and A's. And everyone is going to have a meltdown—Isabelle, as mom, will also have a breakdown. It doesn't matter how prepared you are, travel will break you at some point. Travel with kids is courting brilliant memories of chaos, so she anticipates and plans on her having a breakdown. So she tells herself that “I'm a good mom who's reached her limit.” You're trained from babyhood to meet their needs all the time, but it's a set up, the game is rigged, and part of the rigging is us thinking we're never going to lose it ourselves. Maybe it's the rule, not the exception. What about outsourcing, like checking your bags curbside, strapping your kid into the carseat on the plane (because they're used to it and airplane seatbelts do nothing). Be kind to yourself. There's also this idea that a vacation and a trip with kids are two separate things. The labor does not change, but increases, but the expectation for fun and frivolity is also increased, but maybe change the expectations inside. Also okay if it's extra hard because it actually really is. Take the wins. David names that it's very hard to hold dialectics, to opposing truths: you can love your kids and they can be too much, really hard, really frustrating. You need to find yourself a support group that can validate all the truths. For David, being a child who had ADHD, and seeing people with kids travel, and typically things feel better when there isn't as much pressure, when you're not rushing at the last minute, and have everything you need. Accepting that all of those things are going to be harder with ADHD and smiling when those things don't happen is the key. Accept that win, when you actually remember the charger. We can also flip the shame spiral into gratitude because you can maybe get the thing when you arrive, and David has needed to buy pretty much everything on arrival. Anything important, the things you can't live without, phone stuff, medication, certain items, should be carry-ons. If ever possible, don't check a bag, have a very compacted carry on. David is so grateful for you shiny people out there that send us really incredible messages, and he's really excited for our next season, as is Isabelle. We're going to bring guests on next season, and Isabelle is super excited and grateful, too, that it's building into an actual conversation, and so cool to be able to have that moment. Let's all raise a fist in the air as Judd Nelson in Breakfast Club at the right pace and the right angle. We're closing out this year with these holiday episodes, we've gotta turn around practice self-care, taking a couple of weeks off, and coming back in the next year with a new intro, new guests, and same ol' David and Isabelle--we can't wait to talk more, Team Shiny! SNL Fake Macy's commercial for children's uncomfortable clothingDAVID'S DEFINITIONSTASK V. EMOTIONALITY Task: what you're trying to do - the ‘work' of a group or a person. for example: I am finishing my project this weekend. Emotionality: what you do to prepare to do a task - beliefs/fears/assumptions about what you're doing for example: I'm doing it wrong/right, I always procrastinate, big fear you'll never get it done, dream that someone will come and save you from having to do it, etc. Traveling survival tips Prep your go-bag, tool kit (and consider several plans, not just one, like the ipad, because batteries die) Kids will fall apart. They will fall apart when they travel. Be there when they do. What do you need to do to be there for them? Go at your pace. Pick up a treat. Do things to make it easier on you. Get ready to leave the night before. Have things packed. Plan to have a day off once you return. The last day of vacation will always suck, but you can make your return to your day to day so much better. Plan on your own breakdown. You're a good parent/partner and you can reach a limit. It's the rule, not the exception with travel. Outsource what you can. Keep your toddler in a carseat. Splurge on conveniences like curbside checkin (if you can) Travel is extra hard because it really is: super hard on kids (and folx with ADHD): you've disrupted routine, made yourself sit still and wait a lot, taken away your supports, and you've also done this for yourself if you have ADHD Typically things feel better when there isn't as much pressure, when you're not rushing at the last minute, and have everything you need. Accepting that all of those things are going to be harder with ADHD (and more likely to not happen) and smiling when it happens is the key. Give yourself the credit and the high five when you get the wins, like remembering the charger, maybe pause and flip that shame spiral about forgetting another charger again into gratitude for them being so accessibly restocked. Carry-on what you can't live without, including your medication. -----Cover Art by: Sol VázquezTechnical Support by: Bobby Richards—————
Episode 59 - Warring with EmotionalityOne of life's inevitabilities is that it will throw you curve balls. Whether those curve balls come in form of life-altering events or minor annoyances, work stresses or personal trials, they also inevitably produce emotion. We might not be able to dodge the curve balls, or squelch the emotions that follow, but we can control how those emotions are then acted upon.Chad takes a long, furrow-browed stare at emotional inevitability as lead for this episode, while Ben plays the psychologizing co-host with a familiar-sounding southern drawl. The two face up to their general confusion over feelings and discuss how men might better deal with them. If it is neither good nor bad to experience an emotion, then how do we determine whether or not the emotion can be trusted? Can feelings lead us astray or betray us? What are some ways that men can master their emotions, and how can the theological term Joy be a possible solution to emotionality?SHOW NOTES:Wheel of Emotion: ejuktec3mb8wv51i9nlm.png (1202×1198) (d207ibygpg2z1x.cloudfront.net)Bill Johnson sermon on Joy: The Power of Choosing Joy | Bill Johnson - Bethel Redding Sermon of the Week | Podcast on SpotifyPeter Kreeft essay on Joy: Joy by Peter Kreeft
Scenes and sounds of conflict – from social media and online comments to news stories to the crisis of an airplane crash – may make for “good journalism” and set the scene for larger storytelling that journalism is known for. But what other social and cultural impacts do these kinds of stories and this kind of storytelling have? And what about the ordinary people who are caught up in them? How does what we might try to coin in this episode, the “emotional gatekeeping” of journalism shape the forms and functions of news? To answer these questions, we talk with Margareta Salonen at the University of Jyväskylä, in Finland, and Karin Wahl-Jorgensen at Cardiff University, in the U.K., about their coauthored pieces in Journalism Practice, Margareta's on “conversational gatekeeping” and Karin's on emotionality in news coverage of plane crashes.Text Featured in this Episode:Salonen, M., Olbertz-Siitonen, M., Uskali, T., & Laaksonen, S. M. (2022). Conversational Gatekeeping—Social Interactional Practices of Post-Publication Gatekeeping on Newspapers' Facebook Pages. Journalism Practice, 1-25.Boelle, J., & Wahl-Jorgensen, K. (2022). Emotionality in the television coverage of airplane disasters. Journalism Practice, 1-17.Produced and hosted by Robert (Ted) Gutsche, Jr. Give feedback to the podcast on Twitter @JournPractice or email jwordpodcast@gmail.com
Sherry goes over how emotional intelligence and how emotion is the core cause of every disease and how our to practice NEO (Non Emotional Observer) in this episdoe of The Quantum Truth with Sherry Anshara.
It's funny: when faced by grief, sadness, loss, or other "negative" emotions, we turn to interventions; but when we feel happy or joyful, we let them play out as they would. What if we did that with all our emotions? What sort of inner energy might we reclaim by allowing grief and loss their own momentum and wisdom?
ADHD women have heard every excuse under the sun for why their doctors won't consider an ADHD diagnosis or take their concerns seriously; everything from the classic “it's just anxiety,” to “you're too smart to have ADHD,” to even “you just think it's cool to have ADHD and that's why you want a diagnosis.” Seriously, what the hell?! Being gaslit, misdiagnosed, and dismissed by medical professionals can prevent us from getting a proper diagnosis and accessing treatment for years, even decades, because of the shame and self-doubt that follows these appointments. This episode I'm sharing misdiagnosis stories from members of the Facebook group to highlight just how often it happens. I'm also giving you some tips and tools for pushing back against the ADHD stereotypes that still very much exist in the medical community. We know our brains best and we know ADHD is real, and my hope is to empower you to keep advocating for yourself and your health until someone finally listens. Resources Help With ADHD Diagnosis: Symptom Evaluation Mistakes (additudemag.com) Was ADHD to Blame All Along? 8 Reasons Symptoms Are Mistaken (additudemag.com) ‘If you can pay attention, you do not have ADHD' — and 9 other misperceptions about the disorder - The Washington Post ADHD Signs Hidden in Plain Sight: Overlooked Symptoms (additudemag.com) ADHD Misdiagnosis Stories: Symptoms Mistaken for Anxiety, Depression, Bipolar (additudemag.com) 3 Defining Features of ADHD: Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, Hyperfocus, Emotionality (additudemag.com) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-40-how-to-prepare-to-meet-with-your-adhd-doctor/id1443678424?i=1000452867649
Isabelle & David welcome Isabelle's husband, Bobby, and their friends, Christina, AJ, and Gabe, to continue to listen and learn from David's tried and tested presentation on ADHD, which he normally gives to fellow clinicians (for the 1st-6th parts of this talk, please see episode 4, All About ADHD Part I; episode 6, All About ADHD Part II; episode 9, All About ADHD Part III; episode 12, All About ADHD Part IV; episode 15, All About ADHD Part V; episode 18, All About ADHD Part VI; episode 21, All About ADHD PART VII). Bobby starts by naming that a lot of self-help and business books focus on you giving one specific thing your all and focusing on that, continuing David's idea that folx with ADHD are like relief pitchers, so don't try to make them all around baseball players (play to your strengths rather than trying to change your vulnerabilities). David names that it can be distracting trying to be perfect. Bobby also names that being a freelancer means you are wearing so many hats and getting caught up in so much minutia. But it also is scary to say you're going to say no to 98% of what you would normally do and only focus on the 2% that's your focus—also, what about the fact that Bobby (and many of us) want to wear many hats and do so many different things? Isabelle relates to this in how she checks out a number of ebooks from the library and reads them all, but in patches and based on what her mood is. David names that what they're both talking about is the structure. You are focusing on one thing, but you're using a structure to determine what that one thing is, and how it's more of a pattern and a rhythm than you might realize. Bobby names that he thinks it's true because of Isabelle's 5 year journal, that reveals they are way more into repeating patterns throughout the year than you would think. Focusing on the things you're really good at allows you to notice what else you should pick up and add to your repetoire. People with ADHD often overcommit because they want to make people happy. So saying you can focus on what you're good at doesn't mean you have to do it one way, it's more that finding what you want to do helps you feel less overwhelmed. Find what you're good at and invest energy into it. David is good at talking and listening so that's what he does for a living. It's about accepting your vulnerabilities and knowing who you are, it's about embracing, not curing. ADHD requires a variability of stimulation. In the absence of stimulation, we can't do tasks. Example: one explorer goes ‘there's a cliff!” While the person with ADHD goes “there's a cliff!” and almost runs up to the very edge and sees an orchard that was hiding there. The need for stimulation is why you might get closer to the edge of the cliff, it might mean why you wait until the last minute to do something. This connects to procrastination and self-stimulation. (For MORE on procrastination, check out episode 08: Are We Designed to Procrastinate?) Which emotions help your heart beat faster, that help you self-stimulate? The ones you've practiced the most, usually, including: anxious, angry, or excitement (or arousal). Bobby and Isabelle both relate to the anxious/angry during transitions part. You can always expect those things around a transition. It can make you feel like less of a monster, if you can expect it. Instead of saying “why are you always so mean to me when we leave?” You say “oh my gosh, we need to leave, I'll meet you there.” David mentions that it's a DRO technique, which means a Differential Reinforcement of the Other (DRO), a type of behavioral technique that makes the behavior you're trying to avoid not an option. Bobby uses accommodations to make sure he's on schedule, so he gets anxious and needs to be on schedule and tries to be early. Isabelle, on the other hand, has her own rhythm and path and gets overwhelmed when she hears too many voices coming at her, and then gets really mad at herself. David names that it may be less about being mad at getting micromanaged and more about getting distracted. Isabelle agrees, that it feels like six competing voices sometimes, and it's very overwhelming, she gets that way about music and sounds in general. David talks over Isabelle to demonstrate what it's like when she's trying to go through her list and giving her instructions, and she gets so mad at him (and it's okay, it's part of the example) and he points out her way of creating a sound screen is to hate somebody. So with structure and independence, you don't need to get angry because you don't need to self-stim (see below) to stay focused. In essence, there's no way she can take on another competing stimulus (like someone telling her what to do as she has her own thoughts about what to do) without self-stimulating unless she is on a medication. AJ posits that maybe this means don't give competing instructions to someone with ADHD to limit this phenomena; David revises this as the person with ADHD saying “One, I need one”—it's about a need to self-regulate the process. Or if you give someone with ADHD a task to do and they say ‘sure,' it may get done in the next two days. So the call and response around this type of request might be “sure” and then let them do it right then, or alternately the person with ADHD saying “I can't” and you believing them. Gabe wonders how can you do this with kids, where you have so many different variables, and how the task of getting the kids to school on time, for example, becomes lost because there's so many moving parts. He names that if he has to get the kids somewhere and his wife has prepared a bag with all the needed things, he's able to do it. David asks what the accommodation there is: all the stuff being ready. He asks Gabe what he would need to get to school early? Gabe answers: all the stuff being ready. You can see exactly what you need but it can be hard to put it into a different context. One tip for talking to a child or someone with ADHD is to never ask them to do something a dead person could do. Examples include: “stand there,” "sit there,” “don't move,” “don't touch,” “wait for five minutes,” etc. You instead say what you want them to do, and be specific. “Play quietly” doesn't tell them what to do, it opens the door to everything. So instead, try “run around the block” or “run back and forth to the tree over there.” When it comes to asking kids to be quiet, making it a game, like a whisper game, instead of just saying “don't be loud,” which doesn't work. Knowing this is supposed to happen is really important, with kids, helping them recognize that the angry, frustration, arousal, stimulation needs are supposed to happen. We want to avoid saying the words “just” and “should” with kids, at all times. Don't “should” all over yourself. Bobby acknowledges doing this too often. Avoid saying “this is easy…” and try “I know this is hard and you only have two things left.” Because when someone's self-esteem is damaged, they'll throw everything away, and when they're self-esteem is intact, they'll do everything to save the crystal ball. Gabe gives an example with his kid finishing most of the broccoli in order to earn his cookie, but then he entered scorched earth level moments because there was one more bite—Gabe noticed himself wanting to say "it's just one more bite…” and instead thought of saying “I know this is hard, you did good” and actually told his son he had done enough and gave him the cookie. David names that this was smart, you want to avoid power struggles with someone with ADHD because the whole time they're debating you, they're getting reinforced. Not in his cognition, he hates the whole experience, but it's also giving him so much dopamine and stimulation to debate and be locked in this sense of doing something without knowing why he's doing it. Knowing it is not personal makes these moments hurt so much less. DAVID'S DEFINITIONS Task: what you're trying to do - the ‘work' of a group or a person. for example: I am finishing my project this weekend. Emotionality: what you do to prepare to do a task - beliefs/fears/assumptions about what you're doing for example: I'm doing it wrong/right, I always procrastinate, big fear you'll never get it done, dream that someone will come and save you from having to do it, etc. PROCRASTINATION: this is the behavior that occurs in between the assignment of a task, and working on the task. This is waiting to the last minute, or what we do when we don't want to start work. Why do folx with ADHD procrastinate? Waiting for the last minute, or delaying starting can be self medication for someone with ADHD. Excitement, Anxiety, Anger are all feelings that trigger stimulate us (our heart rate increases). Once this happens we remove any delay in reinforcement, as all acts towards work completion reduce that feeling/stimulation. It can also really increase the feeling of winning, if deadlines are met. For MORE on procrastination, check out episode 08: Are We Designed to Procrastinate?)Differential Reinforcement of the Other (DRO): Making the behavior you're trying to avoid not an option. How to succeed without having to combat an urge. For example: not having the amazon app so you don't buy things impulsively, not buying the marshmallows so you don't have them at home when hit with the urge to eat them. If you struggle in study hall because you want to talk to friends, you switch study hall to a room that doesn't have your friends in it.Self-Stimulants (AKA Self-Stim) are emotions you use to make your heart beat faster, arouse your nervous system, up your stimulation level. They are: anger, excitement, anxiety/fear. Tips for accommodations: Where does the behavior NOT happen? Get clues about the environment. Figure out what works for you. Embrace it. Radically accept it. Throw out what doesn't work for you. Don't look at it as a failure. How to tell what to outsource: you can tell someone what to do, but you can't tell them how to do it. What do you want done in a specific way? This goes both ways: how to give instructions to someone with ADHD (see above). Practice asking for time or for less "I need one thing!” when getting distracted by inputs Don't give instructions to do things a dead person could do. eg. Sit still, stay quiet, don't move, don't touch, wait five minutes, etc. Instead, think of a specific thing that is active to do in that time/moment. For lecture slides, full show notes, and more, check out our website!-----Cover Art by: Sol VázquezTechnical Support by: Bobby Richards—————
Have you been suffering from emotional outbursts, lashing out in ways where you begin to wonder if it was even “you”, dysfunctional communication in relationships, a disconnect from Self, and/or shame around feeling emotions like anger, depression, or frustration? Then this episode is for you. Rachel covers it all: What are “negative” emotions (truly), how we have been divorced from our allowance to feel our emotions, how to be able to have healthy communications with ourselves and others about our emotions, tools for working with our feelings, and the epic assistance that personal astrology can give in these moments! ✨ Show Notes: Book an Astrology for Mental Health Session with Rachel: https://www.doorwaytoself.com/astrology-for-mental-health ✨ Sam Lauer's 13-Sign Chart Calculator Packet: https://www.patreon.com/findmeinthestars ✨ Flower essences: The Unity Potion: https://shop.maythequartzbewithyou.com/collections/mtqbwy-potions/products/unity Essences by Kara McNabb: https://www.magnoliaholistichealth.com/shop Bach Flower Essences: https://www.bachflower.com Chalice Well Essences: https://www.chalicewell.org.uk/webshop/chalice-well-essences/ Cosmic Fluidity Moon Essences: https://www.instagram.com/cosmic_fluidity/ ✨ Essential Oils: Z Oils: https://www.etsy.com/market/z_oils May the Quartz Be With You Potion Oil Blends: https://www.maythequartzbewithyou.com/essential-oils/mtqbwy-potions/ Erin Margabeth: https://www.etsy.com/shop/erinmargabeth?fbclid=IwAR0wazv0mFlwJgXNhh8QkfOLGX7M5Cet79qN0V7qoXs11qCrNaSYJwkC56U§ion_id=29479575 ✨ Find and Follow Doorway to Self and Rachel Leah Gerson: Website and email list: www.doorwaytoself.com Facebook: facebook.com/doorwaytoself and facebook.com/thedoorwaytoselfpodcast Instagram: @doorwaytoself and @thedoorwaytoselfpodcast and @rachel.leah.gerson YouTube: youtube.com/c/doorwaytoself Donate to Support the Podcast: Donor Website: donorbox.org/doorwaytoself Venmo: @doorwaytoself Cashapp: $doorwaytoself --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/doorwaytoselfpodcast/support
An interview with an ex-law enforcement officer about life, death, self-awareness, and the beauty of a positive prospective. Matt Skidgel has had a few life experiences riding dangerously close to a self destructive end. He is an amazingly talented artist that can express his creative vision across many platforms. This open and honest conversation is exactly what you would wish for from any representative of the law or, even a member of the community. I deeply appreciate the opportunity to connect to such a beautiful soul. Please check out Matt's instagram page: @MattSkidgel Upcoming musical performance at "The Waterman Brewery" in Elk Grove 5/6/22 6:30 - 9:30pm
Tomorrow's news today from the legendary Rob Smith! It is March 30th 2022! Today's stories include but are not limited to: Biden the Puppet, DeSantis vs Disney, Touchups, the Emotionality of the Irish, Hollyweird, and AOC & Pelosi working the Beltway for Biden. Don't forget to LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, COMMENT, ALL THAT GOOD STUFF!WE POST DAILY! If you don't see us, check our other socials. If you got a favorite, we are most likely on it!Our Link Tree has all of our Socials! - https://linktr.ee/RobisRight
Dr. Julie Ponesse has a PhD in Philosophy (Western, 2008) with areas of specialization in ethics and ancient philosophy. Her story travels beyond the personal and examines the ethical and philosophical dimensions of our pandemic response. If there is anyone out there who feels alone in the struggle to preserve personal choice and freedom, this book offers some very human advice on how to move forward and makes it clear that your voice deserves to be heard. You can learn more about the book and order your very own copy at MyChoiceBook.ca.Get a signed copy of Michael Lewis' latest book 'Fight Like a Girl - Women Warriors Throughout History' at https://lewisbooks.comFollow Zuby - https://twitter.com/zubymusic Follow Julie - https://twitter.com/DrJuliePonessCheck out CrowdHealth - https://www.joincrowdhealth.comSubscribe to the 'Real Talk With Zuby' podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify & more - https://fanlink.to/zubypodcast Join our Locals community - https://teamzuby.locals.com Support Zuby on Patreon - https://patreon.com/zubymusic Special thanks to GOLD TIER Patreon members: Andrea Mucelli, Edwin Chiang, Libbie Richardson, Matt Gallagher, Matthew Steinfeld, Paul Pugh, Mondo, Todd Weyl, Destiny Hillhouse, OnlineBookClub.org Website - https://zubymusic.comOnline Store - https://teamzuby.com 'Strong Advice: Zuby's Guide to Fitness For Everybody' eBook - https://gumroad.com/l/zubyfitness
In episode 66, Josh Ashford and Kevin Brigance are joined by Mother & Licensed Professional Counselor, Dr Stacia Alexander. Dr Alexander is the creator of The Emotionality of Success. A program that helps brings balance, relief, hope strategy and support to our lives. She is a firm believer that we can all use a mental health check. You go to your dentist, optometrist, primary care physician and a host of other wellness visit every year. Faithfully. But many of us neglect the mental health portion. She walks us through what it looks like to break down the barriers and stigma we have setup around mental health and the outcome that could come from it. Additionally, she gives us a clue on how we can get free mental health sessions in our own county. Episode 66 - Mental Health Check w/ Dr Stacia Alexander - Dads on Purpose Podcast Learn more about Dr Alexander: https://www.staciaalexander.com/ Instagram Josh Ashford: https://www.instagram.com/DadOnPurpose Kevin Brigance: https://www.instagram.com/TheMentorCoach Dr Stacia Alexander: https://www.instagram.com/DrStaciaAlexander Fatherhood Apparel: https://TLCbrand.com Episode 66 - Mental Health Check w/ Dr Stacia Alexander - Dads on Purpose Podcast --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/tlcbrand/support
How do we separate a task from our emotions about it? Especially when it comes to our own battles with procrastination? Isabelle is struggling with this and Bobby, her husband, is curious to hear more. David breaks it down like this: let's say the task is running 5 miles in 60 minutes, which sounds very hard to Bobby. Does it matter what you're wearing? What time of day you go? If it's raining or not? There's lots of things we can get caught up in the ‘emotionality': I don't have the right clothes, I don't like the weather, etc. The emotionality is the stuff that we get caught up in that doesn't matter. Our view of how it needs to be done that gets in the way. Can you walk while watching a video, for example. Isabelle tries to break a sweat once a day. But it only counts if she goes to the exercise class she signed up for. Bobby asks: why does a brain with ADHD is likely to procrastinate in the first place and then why do we discount doing it differently? ADHD individual needs a specific amount of stimulation to do a task; not enough or too much, they need to self-medicate. The emotions we use to self-medicate include anger, anxiety or excitement, etc. Medication can give you the stimulation without the anger, anxiety, or excitement. We procrastinate because it boosts the stakes, gives us a threat, so every moment of working on the task is alleviating the stress so there's no delay in gratification, we're instantly rewarded (yay dopamine!) for working on it. If you had worked on it two weeks earlier, you wouldn't feel any different because there was no stress/threat you were relieving, you wouldn't get that feeling of reward. So let's teach people how to procrastinate better, rather than trying to undo it. What if you knew you weren't going to work on the report until Saturday—what could you prep for Saturday, instead of beating yourself up for not working on it until then, if that's the sweet spot of stress/crunch time for you? Your brain needs to experience that threat to feel that relief. A person with ADHD can be an angry, anxious, etc. — I'm going to be a monster when I'm focusing on this, so what can we do to ask for what we need? Is it easier to find a quiet place to be a monster or not become a monster (let's say you get angry when you work yourself up to focus on something)? Bobby and Isabelle share that they would set each other off and both need accommodations in their relationships, but realizing that the meta-awareness of knowing it connects to ADHD and what they need has helped them navigate situations and help get out of each other's way rather than asking that person to magically change. David points out that we're normalizing that folx with ADHD can all become monsters in this sense and that not all monsters are bad—you could be angry/anxious to the max and find ways to create room for that that minimize the hurt and ill effects on those around you. There's lots of relational trauma for people with ADHD and other forms of learning differences. You see everyone sit down and do something one way and you do it differently, your brain tells you it's because you're stupid/not following the rules/not doing it right, etc. Right around between ages 7-11, kids' peers normalize their world rather than their parents. For example, how are relaxation and self care portrayed? As wine and spa time—what if you don't like wine and baths/spas (for example, like Isabelle). David makes the point that everyone else is doing it right, we're just not taking in the input right. Maybe no more boring baths. Something needs to move. What we can do with the optical illusion of snow falling or a shower rain falling. The ADHD brain is meant and designed to procrastinate, but people with ADHD are made to believe their thoughts are naturally wrong. Healing comes from acknowledging this. Does cranberry juice prevent UTI's? Yes (and no). Side note, one thing Isabelle learned on this internet rabbit hole about cranberry juice and UTI's was this: “Cranberry is a term derived from the contraction of “crane berry.” This name is derived from the nickname of the bilberry flower, which, when it withers, is similar in appearance to the head and neck of the sand crane, a bird that often feeds on the berries of this plant.” Who knew? For the full fascinating scientific article about cranberries and UTIs, click here. DAVID'S DEFINITIONS Task: what you're trying to do - the ‘work' of a group or a person. for example: I am finishing my project this weekend. Emotionality: what you do to prepare to do a task - beliefs/fears/assumptions about what you're doing for example: I'm doing it wrong/right, I always procrastinate, big fear you'll never get it done, dream that someone will come and save you from having to do it, etc. PROCRASTINATION: this is the behavior that occurs in between the assignment of a task, and working on the task. This is waiting to the last minute, or what we do when we don't want to start work. Why do folx with ADHD procrastinate? Waiting for the last minute, or delaying starting can be self medication for someone with ADHD. Excitement, Anxiety, Anger are all feelings that trigger stimulate us (our heart rate increases). Once this happens we remove any delay in reinforcement, as all acts towards work completion reduce that feeling/stimulation. It can also really increase the feeling of winning, if deadlines are met. What do you mean by 'monster'? We all have a monster part. Our monster is the part of us that comes out when something changes in a way we don't like or we don't get our way; in other words, it is our extinction burst (see below). The trick is to not pretend it doesn't happen or somehow shame it away, but instead make space for it—even plan on it showing up—and reduce the impact on innocent others. Example: You really don't want to write a paper, but you have to. As you work through the heightened stimulation you need to switch from prep work to actually working on it, your behavior is changing and you don't like it (it's so hard when you're not getting the thrill of something novel, or that you enjoy, and really with procrastination you're just getting the relief of a stressor being reduced). SO, you may turn into a ‘monster,' — get irritated, annoyed, angry at anyone near you for getting in the way as you settle in to sit down to write it—which is ALSO giving you dopamine because emotions like anger, anxiety and excitement stimulate us (by way of building adrenaline, which ends up leading to more dopamine, among other things). Suddenly you have what you need to switch from prep to work, but—if you know this is how you work sometimes, you could let the people around you know/get out of dodge/have them be in other rooms, for example, so you're not inadvertently getting angry/anxious AT them (it'll happen regardless)—and that way you won't get the double reinforcement that you're some monster all the time ;). Extinction burst: Connected to behavioral theory, when you're no longer getting the reinforcement you want, your behavior dramatically increases in frequency, duration, and intensity as you seek to get that reinforcement. It's only when your behavior is not reinforced that you change. Example: You are normally reinforced in a way you enjoy by hitting the power button on your remote (behavior) and having your tv turn on (reinforcement). But one day you hit the power button and nothing happens. Most of us respond by an extinction burst: we hit the button again and again, we change the angle at which we hold the remote, we may hit the button harder (all of this is more frequent, lasts longer, and is more intense that what you usually do to turn on your tv)—and it isn't until the tv persists in staying off that you get up and get new batteries for the remote (your behavior changes).
What if there is no one right way to do something? Isabelle and David are joined by Isabelle's husband, Bobby, who also has ADHD, in this discussion on why we care how we do a thing. The idea there isn't a right way is a hard for Isabelle to take in, especially as David describes that how we feel when we feel like we have to be perfect on the outside to hide the fact that we feel so different/deficient on the inside (AKA Imposter Syndrome). For folx with ADHD, this can look like our habits and the way we approach tasks ‘appearing' neurotypical. 1 in 8 or 2 out of 10 people have a learning disability or ADHD in the U.S. right now (Updated stat: One out of every five people in the United States is identified as having a learning or attention issue. “The State of Learning Disabilities” 2017. National Center for Learning Disabilities). Is the task of a test to take the test in one go, or to do it in 20 minutes? Are we being tested on information or on the speed (for example, accommodations for more time on tests, for example). David would write a 3 hour talk on a plane ride in less than 2 hours and would never share this because, even if the talk was great, he would be judged for how he got the talk done—he thought he didn't work on it “long enough.” Isabelle resonates with this, an accommodation for her working memory is to do a task right away, but then sends it much later so it appears like she spent more time on it. Doing work how everyone else does it to not seem different, deficient, or to appear as if it was too easy or you cheated somehow. If it's easy for the ADHD person, they think it's easy for everyone; if it's hard for the ADHD person, they believe it's easy for everyone. What if you did something for a job that was easy? Would you rather do something you enjoy or do something that's hard? Bobby reclaims that reading a book includes listening to a book. He's listening to a self-help type book—you think it's the procrastination that's the problem, but the problem is you judging yourself for not doing it. David talks about Wilfred Bion (see below) and whether a group was working on a task or catering to the group's emotionality—what's the task of every group? David and Isabelle go down a rabbit hole about group dynamics and where some of the theory comes from around the idea of focusing on task v. emotionality. What matters for ADHD is that we can do the task v. our emotional baggage around proving how we did the thing. Embracing how you work instead of judging it. For example, David knows his body doesn't respond to meditation by breathing and sitting; he goes on endless walks instead. But if he were to let his beliefs/fears about how he's supposed to do it impact him, he wouldn't get the benefit of it. It's about letting people do things their way instead of the ‘one way.'Here's a link to how common ADHD and LD's are in the U.S. as well as the racial differences (racism loud and clear)Bobby's book he was reading on business - Bobby thinks it was Cal Newport's book, Digital Minimalism.DAVID'S DEFINITIONSIMPOSTER SYNDROME: is the belief you don't belong/are bad, or that you have to be perfect on the outside along with the fear you will be found out/exposed and people will know you're a mess on the inside.TASK V. EMOTIONALITY Task: what you're trying to do - the ‘work' of a group or a person. for example: I am finishing my project this weekend. Emotionality: what you do to prepare to do a task - beliefs/fears/assumptions about what you're doing for example: I'm doing it wrong/right, I always procrastinate, big fear you'll never get it done, dream that someone will come and save you from having to do it, etc. OTHER FUN STUFFWilfred Bion (1897-1979) was a British psychoanalyst who ran group therapy during World War II out of a military hospital (so folx with trauma). He was among the pioneers of ways of running a therapy group, writing about it, and co-creating the Tavistock Institute for studying group relations with other wartime psychologists. The term “Tavistock" later became synonymous with a form of studying group dynamics experientially also known as group relations work. It was basically a way to try to understand how people function in a group. For more, check out this wiki and this article. Want to go down a bigger rabbit hole about group relations (a theory of group dynamics)? Check out the following (or read Bion's work, Experiences in Groups, London: Tavistock, 1961; or an updated compilation from 1968).Basic assumption groups: Bion observed that there are recurring emotional states in groups (so among a group of people, certain patterns of emotional experiences happen again and again and interfere with whatever task the group has come together to accomplish)—the idea being that the emotional experience is called a ‘basic assumption' group. “Bion argues that in every group, two groups are actually present: the work group, and the basic assumption group. The work group is that aspect of group functioning which has to do with the primary task of the group—what the group has formed to accomplish; will 'keep the group anchored to a sophisticated and rational level of behaviour'.[31] The basic assumption group describes the tacit underlying assumptions on which the behaviour of the group is based. Bion specifically identified three basic assumptions: dependency, fight-flight, and pairing. [32] When a group adopts any one of these basic assumptions, it interferes with the task the group is attempting to accomplish. Bion believed that interpretation by the therapist of this aspect of group dynamics would, whilst being resisted, also result in potential insight regarding effective, co-operative group work." (https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wilfred_Bion)
Our emotions around what happened to us or the things we are going through are generated by thoughts. That is why when I hear someone asking themselves why they are always sad, what comes to my mind is the image of an open cage with a tiny bird in it that refuses to fly away. Changing how we feel is not easy, but it is totally up to us; it is a matter of looking for something greater, something higher than ourselves, than our ego, and stay connected with our emotionality. This episode is an invitation to embrace who we really are and embrace our humanity. Today, we discuss the importance of paying attention to our thoughts and understanding that we will always see what we are looking for. We explore how to control our mind, what we can do to flood it with positive thoughts and establish a deeper connection with others, with nature, and with our true self. We will also learn the importance of understanding that if our belief system doesn't serve us, we can replace it; we can always get in touch with our intuition, with our human heart. In This Episode, You Will Learn:Why being sad all the time feels like being inside an open cage (3:15)What makes our suffering continue and recycle itself (5:15)Why we must embrace who we are and what comes up (7:34)The mind controls everything, including how we feel (13:43)We must focus on being present, not perfect (17:27)Everywhere we look, we see what we are looking for (21:01)Let's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Living and Growing Through Grief Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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