Blessed in This Mess

Peace of mind is a hot commodity. I'm betting you would agree. So many circumstances (and even some people we know) can steal our peace!The Apostle Paul talks about “peace that passes understanding.” What is that, and how do we access it? Peace that passes understanding is NOT…Easily obtained…it requires a willingness to study, to confess, to be humbled, to let go of control, and to believe.A vending machine of blessing…I put in so many prayers and out pops my solution!“Worldly peace” that comes from healing on the world's terms or winning on the world's terms or seeing those who threaten our peace punished.Peace that passes understanding IS…Only found in one place, that is a relationship with God that is deep and trusting. A lifelong pursuit to know God more.Trusting that God is at work. He is never a passive bystander.A result of being broken and humbled by our situation so that we are prompted to look for God.Counter cultural, no, it's “other worldly.”The foundation for all hope in our lives, no matter what peace stealers threaten us.So, today, here's your gentle reminder that the God of the universe is at work in your life, even as you feel peace stealers all around.Yes, he wants our prayers and our gratitude, AND he desperately wants a relationship with us. Think of this imagery. He's got you by the hand, and he is walking it out with you. That's the imagery in Josh Wilson's song, The Things That I'm Afraid Of, from 2022. This song is a powerful reminder of God'sintention to walk through life hand-in-hand with us.Until next time, may the peace of God, which passes all understanding, keep your heart and mind focused on knowing and trusting God is at work in your mess!Have a blessed Easter! Resources:Bible Gateway: Philippians 4: https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Philippians%204%3A4-7&version=NIVJosh Wilson on YouTube: The Things That I'm Afraid Of: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JATpsO360bYMy website: www.lorischlosser.comMy Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaksMy Instagram page: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/Blessed in This Mess can be accessed on all major streaming platforms, including Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, and Spotify.

I know a number of caregivers or spouses who are going through some really hard changes right now. Maybe that's you; maybe it's someone you love. You're exhausted, sad, angry, or just numb.You're coming to terms with a new diagnosis, a deteriorating condition, hard changes in a relationship, a difficult move or adjusting to the loss of someone central in your life, someone you love very much. I'm amazed by the number of friends I have who are caring for parents whose lives have changed in hard ways.What does God's word say about the idea of change in the lives of his people? It didn't take me five minutes to come up with a list of 100 verses about a heavenly perspective on change. God has a lot to say about it. In invite you to think on these things.God is unchanging. Let him be your anchor.Malachi 3:6 – “For I the Lord do not change; therefore you, O children of Jacob, are not consumed.”Hebrews 13:8 – “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.”Following Christ involves a continual process of change, where we grow in holiness and leave behind our old ways.Romans 12:2 – “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”2 Corinthians 5:17 – “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.”Life is full of transitions, but God is sovereign over them all.Ecclesiastes 3:1 – “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.” When facing change, we're called to trust in God's guidance rather than their own understanding.Isaiah 43:19 – “Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.” Proverbs 3:5-6 – “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.” Even when change feels overwhelming, God is faithful to complete the work He has begun in us.Philippians 1:6 – “And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.”Joshua 1:9 – “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” According to the Bible, change is inevitable, but we are assured that God is in control and that His purposes will be fulfilled.Today I'm encouraging you to believe God is with you and he goes ahead of you wherever life is changing…in the positive changes and in the hard changes. Especially when change is hard, lean into the people and the places that will remind you of this. Guard what goes in your ears and your eyes. All of that affects your spirit and your outlook. Look for his hand. Trust his provision and his good plans for you. That's a focus on gratitude. Sending you love and light today. I hope you can feel it, and I hope you share it, even as seasons change, as sunlight comes and goes, and you reflect on the blessings in your mess.Resources:My website: www.lorischlosser.comMy Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaksMy Instagram page: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/Blessed in This Mess can be accessed on all major streaming platforms, including Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts and Spotify.

Even before I was married, I inherited a china cabinet that held special table settings from both of my grandmothers. As a new bride I added the china my husband and I selected to that cabinet. Over time, and with a lot more life in the rearview mirror, my philosophy about using our family china has certainly changed. In this episode I explain why I use our china every chance I get, and I encourage you to consider doing the same. Time passes so quickly. The faces around our tables change, as do the opportunities to honor and nurture the relationships that mean the most to us. May the moments you share around your table be a blessing, no matter what dishes you choose to use, even as the seasons of life roll on. Resources: My website: ⁠www.lorischlosser.com⁠ My Facebook page: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks⁠ My Instagram page: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/⁠

It's January, the perfect month to pivot the podcast in a slightly different direction. I'm excited to share this first episode of 2025, when I'm expanding my focus to offer encouragement and support across the board...to family caregivers AND anyone who could use gentle reminders about self-care, faith formation and maintaining a posture of gratitude, especially when life is messy. What's been your approach to a new year? Do you make New Year's resolutions? Researchers say most resolutions don't last four months. Consider this idea. What if we use the entire month of January to do these 3 things? The first is to practice solitude. The second is to spend a little extra time in prayer, Bible study, and reflection. Third is a specific reflective exercise offered by one of my favorite authors, Emily P. Freeman. She suggests January is an excellent time to reflect on something we want, something we need, and something we hope for in the New Year. I share an example to get your wheels turning on this suggestion. I used to loathe the cold, gray days of winter after the holidays. Now I see the wisdom and purpose in God's gift of January. This episode focuses there. Blessings on your January! Resources: Abide Meditations: https://abide.com/ The Bible in a Year Podcast with Pastor Jack Graham on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bible-in-a-year-with-jack-graham/id1646273281 The Bible in a Year Podcast on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6tNxjFCSoruX1vNFgicWEH My website: www.lorischlosser.com My Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks My Instagram page: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Blessed in This Mess can be accessed on all major streaming platforms, including Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts and Spotify.

New year, fresh vision, new focus for the Blessed in This Mess podcast, "Encouragement for Every Season." I'd like my digital footprint to reflect the positivity and light I carry with me, on my best days, yes, but especially when life is messy. Can you relate to a messy life? When the check engine light comes on and you smell oil. When an adult child accepts a fabulous new job...800 miles from home. When a little one's development is marked by unexpected changes or challenges. When you're cleaning out the house that holds so many memories, preparing for your next chapter. My goal is one post each week on the socials and one 7-12 minute podcast episode a month, with content that supports your faith journey, whole body wellness, and a focus on gratitude. Let's do this together. Grab that basket of laundry or your morning coffee. Put the car in drive or put your earbuds in for a walk, and join me! Let's do this! My website: www.lorischlosser.com My Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks My Instagram page: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Blessed in This Mess is available on all major streaming platforms, including Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts and Spotify.

This is the year in review, with a look at my top three lessons learned as I focused on “strengthening relationships in person” in 2023. It has been a wonderful year, filled with unexpected blessings as I connected with other caregivers and translated my experiences into podcast episodes. Lesson #1: There is no substitute for being fully present with each other, face to face, heart to heart. Check out Episode 31, “The Gift of Time” for more on this topic. Lesson #2: Self-care is the single most elusive piece of family caregiving. We all need daily reminders, fresh ideas, and inspiration to get this done. Self-care topics are sprinkled throughout episodes from 2022 and 2023. Lesson #3: Gratitude may be the most powerful weapon in our arsenal against anxiety, fear, depression, and pessimism. Check out Episodes 9, 32, and 33 for more on this topic. In 2023 these practices, being fully present with others, self-care, and daily gratitude have been so life-giving for me and for the caregivers in my world. Please consider “gifting” yourself in each of these areas in the new year. After much thought and prayer, I'm pivoting again in 2024. My website, lorischlosser.com, has been updated and will remain a point of contact for speaking engagements and for listening to all the content I've recorded over the last couple of years. In 2024 you can still reach me via Facebook at Lori Schlosser or on Instagram at lorischlosserspeaks, but I'm unplugging the boom microphone on my desk for the time being as I step in faith into the promise of 2024. I'm so grateful for your support of this ministry and for the way you share it with others. Thank you for encouraging me along the way with your notes and messages. They have meant the world to me. Behind every successful podcaster is a devoted crew. Mine includes my husband and our sons (my "editorial board") who have believed in this ministry even when my energy wavered. Special thanks to our son, Noah, who created my digital footprint in so many places, taught me how to use recording software, and professionally engineered every episode. I can't tell you how much his support has meant to the quality of the finished product.     In 2024, as always, you will remain on my heart and in my prayers. May God richly bless you with strength, patience, wisdom, and peace in the year ahead. If you need me, you know where to find me. Thanks for listening! Happy New Year! Resources: My website: www.lorischlosser.com My Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks My Instagram page: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Blessed in This Mess can be accessed on all major streaming platforms, including Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts and Spotify.

I'm flipping the script this Thanksgiving week, with this special prayer for family caregivers. Mara Botonis was a caregiver by profession until her work became personal when her grandfather, who had raised her, was diagnosed with Alzheimer's. Mara penned this prayer, which is really an exercise in unspoken gratitude, in her book, When Caring Takes Courage. I believe the sentiments shared in her writing apply to family caregivers in all circumstances, whether your care receiver is a parent or grandparent, an aunt or uncle, a spouse, a sibling, or a child. These sentiments may be shared often between you, or you may seldom hear these words spoken. I hope you find them life-giving. May the Giver of all good gifts grant you the strength, the patience, the courage, and the wisdom to meet each challenge, wherever you are in your caregiving journey. And may your spirit be renewed as you reflect on all the goodness in your life this Thanksgiving. Resources: My website: ⁠www.lorischlosser.com⁠ My Facebook page: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks⁠ My Instagram page: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/⁠ Blessed in This Mess can be accessed on all major streaming platforms, including Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts and Spotify.

November provides an opportunity for us to pause, share our experiences, and be strengthened in our journeys, as it is BOTH National Family Caregivers Month AND Diabetes Awareness Month. So many of us just do what we do day to day, seldom advocating in a public way, seldom sharing our struggles, sometimes too weary to answer another question or educate even interested family members or friends about our journeys or our need for support. Today, as we begin November, a few reminders: 1.    You have permission to be honest… to share your experiences transparently, unashamed. 2.    You have permission to be sad… to remember, to cry, and to grieve. 3.    You have permission to connect…. to rally with your people and to share each other's burdens. There is blessing in both sharing and listening to someone who trusts you to understand. No matter where you are in your journey, your experience could help someone else. 4.    You have permission to take a breath…. to practice self-care like it's your job. :) I'll give you some ideas! 5.    You have permission to let it go… to remember you are, ultimately, not in control. You are doing the best you can. I encourage you to hand it all over to God, because He reminds us, time and again, that on the heavenly calendar it is ALWAYS your month, and He's right there with you in your struggle to care for a loved one and/or to manage blood sugar. We are reminded in Matthew 28:11 28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Rest is a wonderful thing, in November and always! Resources: Today's Bible Verse: Matthew 11:28 https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew%2011%3A28&version=NIV My website: www.lorischlosser.com My Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks My Instagram page: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Blessed in This Mess can be accessed on all major streaming platforms, including Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts and Spotify.

Has family caregiving changed you? Your personality? Your outlook? The way you view yourself or others? I recently asked this question to a room full of family caregivers, and the response was overwhelmingly affirmative. Caregiving for someone with a chronic illness, extended sickness, or disability is life-changing, and not necessarily in a good way. I suggest we have a choice around the way in which we are changed. The daily challenges of caregiving may make us more pessimistic, anxious, or angry. Or, they may gradually transform us into someone who is more optimistic, flexible, and confident. I believe we have a choice, and the daily practice of gratitude is more powerful than previously understood. Join me as I pick up where I left off in Episode 32 and introduce the concept of neuroplasticity. That's a big word that captures our brain's God-giving capacity to change. Neuroplasticity gives us hope around the potential for positive changes in brain structure and response, even in the face of tough days (or weeks or years) as a family caregiver. I touch on the work of Dr. Andrew Huberman (Huberman Lab Podcast), a neuroscientist who has researched the connection between a daily practice of gratitude and a wide range of positive changes in the brain. I encourage you to a SHARED daily practice of gratitude, which may include your care receiver. It's a win-win! Consistency is key. What have you got to lose? Resources: The Huberman Lab Podcast: https://www.hubermanlab.com/episode/the-science-of-gratitude-and-how-to-build-a-gratitude-practice My website: www.lorischlosser.com My Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks My Instagram page: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Blessed in This Mess can be accessed on all major streaming platforms, including Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts and Spotify.

A focus on gratitude has become one of the most powerful tools in my caregiver toolbox. I have found it to be a gamechanger, especially when days are long and exhausting, or one challenging day as a family caregiver runs seamlessly into another. Did you know there is science to a posture of gratitude around changes in body chemistry and neuropathways? Our bodies release chemicals when we practice gratitude that build positive neuropathways. The more positive neuropathways, the better we feel. Did you know you can't be anxious and grateful at the same time? A focus on gratitude amplifies the good in our days, rescues us from toxic feelings, and strengthens our relationships with others. A grateful posture helps us sleep better, supports our immune system, increases our interest in eating right and exercise, affects our interest in healthier behaviors, and decreases our perceived aches and pains. I invite you to listen to the podcast, take the Gratitude Challenge, and reap the benefits of a daily focus on gratitude. I also invite you to join me at the AgeLinc Caregiver Conference, Saturday, September 16, at the Crowne Plaza in Springfield. Reservation deadline is September 4. You won't want to miss this opportunity to be further encouraged and equipped for the very important work you do! I hope to see you there! Resources: Gratitude, by Edgar Albert Guest, https://www.yourdailypoem.com/listpoem.jsp?poem_id=4277  AgeLinc Caregiver Conference, September 16, 2023, in Springfield, IL, https://agelinc.org/event/20th-annual-caregiver-conference/ My website: www.lorischlosser.com My Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks My Instagram page: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Blessed in This Mess can be accessed on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, and Spotify.

Last month I lost a special person whose positive influence on my formative years as a young professional is undeniable. This episode takes me back to the 1980s (VHS movies, big hair and big shoulder pads) for a reflection on the passage of time, often a precarious subject for family caregivers. We may dread the hours we spend caring for someone we know is not going to get better. We may wish we could slow time as we teach a child to manage a health condition more independently as she grows and eventually leaves home. When we're caring for someone who will outlive us and will continue to need extra support, but we don't know who will step up or how that will happen, we may fear the passage of time. When caregiving means missing family events, lunches with friends, or holiday gatherings, time can feel wasted. This episode invites us to repackage our negative impressions about the passage of time spent as a family caregiver. What if we approached each day, no matter how challenging, like a precious gift? What might that look like? Listen in! Resources: Episode 6, Playfulness & The Family Caregiver, https://www.lorischlosser.com/podcast/episode/292d7f4c/episode-6-playfulness-and-the-family-caregiver Episode 7, Celebrations in Your Caregiving Life, https://www.lorischlosser.com/podcast/episode/3a34ddf1/episode-7-celebrations-in-your-caregiving-life-with-noah-schlosser Today's Bible verse, Psalm 90:12, ⁠https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Psalm+90%3A12&version=NIV⁠ AgeLinc Caregiver Conference, September 16, 2023, in Springfield, IL, https://agelinc.org/event/20th-annual-caregiver-conference/ My website: www.lorischlosser.com My Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks My Instagram page: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Blessed in This Mess can be accessed on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, and Spotify.  

Two years ago, I was really struggling with sleep while caregiving for my mom, who was in her final weeks of life after several strokes and years of vascular dementia. Falling asleep was one thing. Waking at 3 a.m. and not being able to fall back to sleep was a whole other issue. The thoughts would swirl and build momentum, as I became more conscious, increasingly fretful, and fully awake in the early morning hours. I was a veteran of the Sleep Wars, having raised a child with blood sugar that danced around all night, in the days before insulin pump alarms and continuous glucose monitors. There was a lot of interrupted sleep to test blood sugar and to ensure he would be safe through the night. But the sleeplessness I experienced around Mama's struggles was filled with so much anxiety and sadness. How is your sleep? Do you get the recommended 7-9 hours? I imagine you may not. Johns Hopkins Center for Sleep says 60 million Americans suffer from poor sleep quality. Today's Caregiver says 72 percent of caregivers report problems sleeping. Is that you or someone you love? Today I'm sharing a couple resources I hope you'll find helpful for quality sleep, along with my experience around strategies for falling to sleep more peacefully and returning to sleep if you wake in the night. I also share some biblical perspective on sleep, along with encouragement to seek additional support if all else fails. Quality sleep is so important for all of us. May you rest peacefully each time you lay down to sleep! Resources: Article from John's Hopkins Center for Sleep, https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/natural-sleep-aids-home-remedies-to-help-you-sleep Article from Today's Caregiver, https://caregiver.com/articles/sleepless-night/ Today's Bible verse, Psalm 4:8, https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Psalm%204%3A8&version=NIV My website: www.lorischlosser.com My Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks My Instagram page: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Blessed in This Mess can be accessed on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, and Spotify for Podcasters.  

The more I connect with family caregivers, the more I see the real need for frequent reminders about self-care. It's SO EASY to neglect our own wellness when our days and nights are busy with the challenges of caregiving. Today's podcast is a story about chicken soup, but it's also encouragement to approach self-care from a direction advocated by one of my favorite writers, Emily P. Freeman, author of The Next Right Thing, which is also the name of her podcast (link below). Emily is a huge believer in assessing our lives as each season of the year comes to a close and another begins. So, here we are, just as rainy spring gives way to the sunshine of summer. Seems an appropriate time to ask two of Emily's favorite reflection questions. "What has been life-giving for me in this season, and what has been life-draining for me in this season?" The goal going forward is to spend more time doing the things that soothe or energize, and less time doing the things that frustrate or exhaust. I invite you to think on these questions as you approach self-care each day. Do the things, even if they're seemingly small, that bring you life! Today I made chicken soup, and I shared it. And, guess what? It was life-giving self-care! Here's to our days in the sun, spending time with the life-giving things that heal our hearts and nourish our souls...so important for our short-term wellness and our long-term health. Resources: Emily P. Freeman's book: https://emilypfreeman.com/next-right-thing-book/ Emily P. Freemans' podcast: https://emilypfreeman.com/podcast/ My website: ⁠www.lorischlosser.com⁠ My Facebook page: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks⁠ My Instagram page: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/

The hosts of one of my favorite podcasts, The Daily Grace Podcast, open each episode with delightful chatter about their latest “favorite things.” On days when I am particularly exhausted or overwhelmed with the caregiving gauntlet, I especially enjoy this chatter. It's light and entertaining. You can tell the hosts enjoy it too, as they describe, in detail, the best thing about something as frivolous as a newly discovered tea flavor or a lip gloss color that looks wonderful with every skin tone. What fun distractions! We all need those! In my view, favorite things are an integral piece of self-care, because they fill our proverbial “cup” from which we draw the patience, kindness, and strength to care for others day in and day out, over the long haul. How long has it been since you thought about or, better yet, treated yourself to one of your favorite things? Today I share a few of my current, favorite things. Nothing glamorous or expensive. I also share a few tried-and-true favorites that cost absolutely nothing, but are rich sources of self-care. The resource list is long. I hope it inspires you to take a few minutes for yourself and experience the life-giving effects of a daily self-care practice that includes at least one of your favorite things. Resources: The Daily Grace Podcast, ⁠https://thedailygraceco.com/blogs/the-daily-grace-podcast⁠ 100 Days of Grace and Gratitude Devotional, ⁠https://www.dayspring.com/shanna-noel-100-days-of-grace-gratitude-devotional-journal⁠ Episode 9 “Simply Gratitude,” ⁠https://www.lorischlosser.com/podcast/episode/2a2375ac/episode-9-simply-gratitude⁠ Chef Keila Stapleton, Pasta Al Dente on Facebook, ⁠https://www.facebook.com/pastaaldentebykeila/⁠ Red Aspen Nails, ⁠https://www.redaspenlove.com/home/⁠ Abide Meditations, ⁠https://abide.com/⁠ CeCe Winans Playlist on Spotify, ⁠https://open.spotify.com/playlist/37i9dQZF1DZ06evO1ZeHVf⁠ Bible Passage, Psalm 118:24, ⁠https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Psalm%20118%3A24&version=ESV⁠ My website: ⁠www.lorischlosser.com⁠ My Facebook page: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks⁠ My Instagram page: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/⁠ Blessed in This Mess can be accessed on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, and Spotify.

This episode features the story of Sue ("Mama Sue") Garrett, an unlikely social media sensation and the grandmotherly face of Mama Sue's Southern Kitchen. I stumbled upon her Facebook videos in 2020, at the height of the pandemic. That year, at the urging of her daughter, she began recording herself cooking simple family recipes in her kitchen. Her intent was to help young moms who were, be necessity, preparing more meals at home. I was quickly enamored with Mama Sue and her southern cooking, and apparently I was not alone. What's not to love about a sweet Alabama drawl, a wide smile, a positive attitude, and a simple recipe for something yummy? Much to her amazement, Mama Sue attracted thousands of followers who eventually persuaded her to publish a cookbook. Then, in 2021, she was diagnosed with breast cancer, and her unlikely cooking ministry became an even more powerful testimony. Her followers grew exponentially, as did her ministry. Her third cookbook is nearing publication. Mama Sue is all about serving up encouragement with every recipe. She gently reminds her followers to "be salt and light," even as they navigate the hardest days. Recently Mama Sue shared a recipe for key lime pie that I'm planning to try. I talk about it, and I've linked it below. Salt, light and key lime pie....it doesn't get any better than that! Listen in! Resources: Bible verses, Matthew 5:13-16 https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew%205%3A13-16&version=NRSVA Mama Sue's Southern Kitchen on the web: https://www.mamasuessouthernkitchen.com/ Mama Sue's Southern Kitchen on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mamasuessouthernkitchen Mama Sue's Fluffy Key Lime Pie recipe: https://www.mamasuessouthernkitchen.com/post/fluffy-key-lime-pie My website: www.lorischlosser.com My Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks My Instagram page: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/

As I shared in Episode 25, my personal focus in 2023 is on strengthening relationships, in person, face to face. I wasn't really sure how many podcast episodes I would produce this year. God has had the lead on this venture all along. That continues. While I relish the creative process, and I love interviewing guests, my 2022 production/promotion schedule was so time-consuming. This extrovert missed being with other people, and I felt called to "get back out there" in meaningful ways. The first two months of 2023 have been filled with reconnection of all sorts. So good for the soul! In this episode I share a reflection on the connections I've made in the last two months, a powerful story about the beauty of face-to-face interaction, and words of encouragement for even the weariest caregiver. There is nothing in the world like genuine, face-to-face, heart-to-heart connection. Even the briefest encounter can be so life-giving. I hope this episode brings you as much joy listening as it brought me to record. Resources: My website: www.lorischlosser.com My Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks My Instagram page: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Blessed in This Mess can be accessed on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify and Anchor.

2022 was an unbelievable year for the Blessed in This Mess podcast. Thank you for supporting my work in so many ways! In this episode I pay tribute to the year that was and share my plans for 2023, where my focus will be on strengthening relationships in person, rather than creating new podcast episodes and promoting them on social media. In the new year, my website and the archive of Blessed in This Mess episodes will continue to be available on all major streaming platforms. Therein lies the beauty of podcasting, a lasting auditory footprint. Please continue sharing episodes with friends and family who might need some encouragement in the mess of their caregiving journeys. And, yes, you may listen to them as many times as you'd like. I will continue to respond to messages on my website, on Facebook and on Instagram. I'll leave you with this final thought as I close this chapter and we look to the promise of 2023. Regret leaves us in the darkness of the past, and fear and worry project darkness into our future. None of that darkness is from God. Let's live in the light of the present, grateful for our blessings, big and small, and reliant on the God who gives us purpose each day, even in the messiest days of family caregiving. THANK YOU SO MUCH for your support of this ministry that started as a call on my heart and grew in unbelievable ways to reach more people than I imagined possible. You are, and will continue to be, on my heart and in my prayers. If you need me, you know where to find me! I hope to see you soon! L. Resources: My website: www.lorischlosser.com My Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks My Instagram page: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Blessed in This Mess can be accessed on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, and Anchor.

I see you in the grocery store or out in the community. You're caring for a loved one whose health is complicated or deteriorating, maybe an elderly parent or medically-complex spouse or adult child, and you're exhausted. The daily grind is wearing on you. You need help, but you're not sure where to turn. My guest for this episode knows the landscape well. Rod Lane is the Owner and Executive Director of Visiting Angels in Springfield, Illinois. He shares his passion for home services, as well as helpful perspective about the support offered by Visiting Angels' caregivers. I ask Rod the questions you most want answered. What is the difference between home services, home health care and home hospice care? What supports do home services caregivers provide? How are needs assessed? What if my loved one isn't open to support from professional caregivers? How much do home services cost, and what resources might help with those expenses? How do I access services designed specifically to support U.S. military veterans? Where do I look online for home services care options? Rod also shares his thoughts on self-care for family caregivers, and a word of encouragement about mindset. I'm thrilled to share this conversation and resource information about Visiting Angels. Whether you live in the Central Illinois area or elsewhere, I believe it's important to know about resources that may lighten your load in the short term and help preserve your health for the long run. Resources: Website for Visiting Angels, Springfield, IL, https://www.visitingangels.com/springfieldil/home Facebook page for Visiting Angels, Springfield, IL https://www.facebook.com/VAngelCentralIl Facebook page for Visiting Angels, Nationwide https://www.facebook.com/VisitingAngelsCorporate

Katie Roseborough, my guest for this episode, is one amazing mama. Wife and mom of three and a licensed physical therapist, she completely reconfigured her work focus when her daughter was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes (T1D) in 2020. By January of 2021 Katie was cranking out episodes of The Sugar Mama's Podcast, designed to support moms and other caregivers raising kids with T1D. She started with topics most relevant to newly diagnosed families, creating not only insightful podcast content, but also an entertaining presence on social media and an engaged Facebook community. Listen to my conversation with Katie about what motivates her and what she's learned from interviews with some of the nation's leading experts in the Type 1 world. I love her view on self-care, her honesty, and her heart. She gives me so much hope about the next generation of moms in the trenches of T1D management and the kids they are raising to be healthy, successful adults. Thanks for listening and sharing! Resources: Katie's website: https://www.sugarmamaspodcast.com/about/ Katie's podcast: https://www.sugarmamaspodcast.com/episodes/ JoAnne Robb's interview on the Sugar Mama's Podcast: Episodes 88-91 https://www.sugarmamaspodcast.com/episodes/ Let's Connect: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Website: https://www.lorischlosser.com/

In honor of National Diabetes Awareness Month, today's episode features psychotherapist JoAnne Robb, MFT, from Oakland, CA, mother of two children living with Type 1 Diabetes (T1D). Her passion is working with families affected by the disease to support emotional wellness and healthy relationships. JoAnne offers fresh perspective and practical answers to the behavioral questions that cause the greatest problems for parents raising kids with Type 1. She is wise and kind, and her transparency is so refreshing. JoAnne's online coaching courses and free webinars are powerful resources for newly diagnosed families, as well as parents who know the ropes but would like additional help as their children living with T1D grow into adulthood. JoAnne has a new podcast called Sweet Talk where she invites parents to ask her the pressing questions that keep them awake at night around T1D, emotions, and relationships. I love her work, because I believe it meets a real need nationwide for support with the feelings (grief, anxiety, fear, anger, resentment, denial) that often sabotage wellness for T1D caregivers and for the people they love. If you are raising a child with Type 1 diabetes or you know someone who is, please listen and share! And, if you are living with Type 1 or any form of diabetes, take heart. This month we honor YOU! Resources: JoAnne's website: https://www.diabetessweettalk.com/ The Sweet Talk Podcast: https://www.diabetessweettalk.com/podcast Episodes featuring JoAnne on the Sugar Mama's Podcast: Episodes 88-91 https://www.sugarmamaspodcast.com/episodes/ Let's Connect: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Website: https://www.lorischlosser.com/

I've learned that some of the most authentic dialogue in podcasting happens when the official recording has ended, and host and guest, connected by some common human experience, share their hearts with each other. That happened to me again last week. I was guest to a young mom who has quickly become an online influencer in the Type 1 diabetes world. She hosts a popular podcast for fellow T1D moms designed to support them as they care for children living with the disease. My work caught her eye because of my focus on self-care…but that's not what we talked about after we stopped recording for her podcast. No, that's when the super transparent sharing happened, and I was talking to this mama about the stuff that can seem forbidden to talk about in our world today…God's presence in the mess. Does faith in God really make a difference to moms raising kids with chronic conditions? Does it matter to adult daughters and sons supporting elderly parents as bodies fail and they finish their earthly journeys? Does faith in God make any difference at all to a husband sitting bedside as his wife recovers from chemo or open-heart surgery? I know it's taboo in some forums, but let's talk about faith in the mess of family caregiving. Hang with me for just a few minutes as I share what I've learned over the last 16 years. If you are a person who's wondered what difference it would make to trust God is present your mess, I've been where you are. Does faith in God REALLY make a difference? Even with all the perspective I've shared on the podcast, sometimes I feel like I don't talk enough about this fundamental question. This may be fresh perspective or a simple reminder for you. Either way, I've got some stories of remarkable caregivers that are worth sharing. I invite you to listen in. Resources: Today's Bible verse, Matthew 11:28-30, https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew%2011%3A28-30&version=NIV Let's Connect: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Website: https://www.lorischlosser.com/

Just as it's not easy being a family caregiver, it's not easy being married to one. My special guest is Bill Schlosser, DMD, my husband and a general dentist who regularly interacts with patients who are caring for family members through chronic illness, extended sickness, or disability. Bill relates easily to them, as he's witnessed me serve as primary caregiver for our son, diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes in 2006, and my mom, who suffered from multiple strokes and progressive dementia over seven years, until her passing in 2021. Bill and I will celebrate our 34th wedding anniversary this week. In an unexpected twist, half of those years I've been a family caregiver. Bill has been my sounding board, often listening to understand, sometimes stepping up to problem-solve with me, sometimes advocating on my behalf, sometimes nudging me to better self-care. Bill and I have known couples whose marriages imploded under the strain of family caregiving. We understand how easily the mess of caregiving could result in the end of a marriage. With God's help and lots of dialogue, we've managed to stay (mostly

There can be a tremendous amount of emotion (guilt, anger, anxiety, grief, etc.) in the life of family caregivers. Have you ever wondered if you'd benefit from talking about your experience with a licensed therapist or counselor? Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor Kathleen Lyons is my guest on this episode. Kathleen provides very helpful information about when and how professional counselors may support family caregivers. She explains the basics of talk therapy (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) Therapy. Her perspective on “compassion fatigue,” a huge issue among caregivers, is particularly insightful. She also addresses the typical length of time caregivers might need support, as well as how the cost of therapy is handled in her group. Kathleen is affiliated with Truth in Love Counseling & Care, a group of Christian counselors with offices in Bloomington/Normal and Springfield, IL. Resources: Read more about Kathleen here, https://www.truthinlovecounseling.com/kathleen-lyons For more information about Truth in Love Counseling & Care, https://www.truthinlovecounseling.com/ Let's Connect! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Website: https://www.lorischlosser.com/

This episode is a gift for all who have asked for a “sample” meditation to relax the mind and body. Amy Denney, certified Holy Yoga instructor, returns as my guest. (You may remember Amy from Episode 5, where she led us in deep breathing exercises.) Amy shares her insight about “yoga nidra,” which is typically done lying down. This practice is not intended to put you to sleep, but to offer deep relaxation. The benefits of this practice are numerous and outlined in a wonderful article linked below. They include relief from stress, back pain, PTSD, rheumatoid arthritis, insomnia and tinnitus. Have patience with this one. There are periodic pauses as you breathe and concentrate on Amy's prompts. The intention of this practice is peace, and who doesn't need more of that these days? Enjoy! Resources: Amy Denney is a light therapy and stress specialist, certified in Holy Yoga and trauma-sensitive Holy Yoga. She offers yoga nidra at the end of her Holy Yoga classes, which are currently taught at 5:30 p.m. on Thursdays at Truth in Love Counseling & Care, in Springfield, IL. Amy also offers a 12-week nervous system reset that involves yoga and light therapy in a one-on-one setting. She can be reached at 217-801-7464 or amy@shinelighttherapy.com. Helpful information about yoga nidra, included an extended yoga nidra exercise, recorded by seasoned yoga instructor, Michele D'Agostino, https://draxe.com/fitness/yoga-nidra/ The scripture for today's Holy Yoga practice is Philippines 4:6-7, https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Philippians+4%3A6-7&version=NLT Let's Connect! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Website: https://www.lorischlosser.com/

Are you just plain tired as we move into fall? That's the vibe I'm getting from listener feedback, and I'm right there with you! Today's episode is short and sweet. It's a reflection on rest in the broader sense…physical, emotional, spiritual. I'm offering a few thoughts about the kind of rest that refreshes and renews…so important for all of us. I've even got a great new TobyMac release to share, called (believe it or not) "Rest." Takeaways: My acronym for REST. RENEW YOUR SPIRIT with prayer, meditation, calming reading or music. Try TobyMac's latest release, “Rest” from his Life After Death album. EXERCISE YOUR BODY by moving it (walking, stretching) even for 10 min at a time - for a break, to decrease anxiety/depression, and get those endorphins (creating a positive feeling) flowing. Exercise helps us rest! SLEEP, with a goal of 7 hours, allowing for REM sleep. The brain is busy during sleep, as it sorts and stores info from your day, cells repair, immunity is strengthened, the sympathetic nervous system relaxes keeping BP down, and cortisol (stress hormone) levels decrease. Develop a sleep routine that calms you and make it a priority. TEND SUPPORTIVE RELATIONSHIPS, determining who will listen to understand, not always to respond. Is this a family member, friend, therapist, pastor? Resources: Psalm 116:7, https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Psalm+116%3A7&version=NIV “Rest,” by Toby Mac, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c4bxHdoBXoA Let's Connect! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Website: https://www.lorischlosser.com/

Janet Zeigler is an expert in advocacy for people living in skilled and residential care settings. Her life journey includes nursing school, critical care nursing, and simultaneously caring for her small children and for her mother as she battled Alzheimer's disease. Her experiences led her to her current role as a private duty nurse, serving clients in a variety of residential care settings. I have witnessed her devoted care to multiple clients and her commitment to supporting their families. I believe her wisdom is transferable to family caregivers in many circumstances. Janet speaks so transparently from both her personal and professional experience about what makes for quality care and how family members who are not the primary caregiver can help lighten the load for the family caregiver. Hear her heart and benefit from her wisdom. If you are loving on a senior with complex health issues or someone in residential care, I think you'll really appreciate this conversation. If you are a weary caregiver in ANY situation, this conversation will affirm you in so many ways. Resources: The best way to reach Janet is via an email to nursingkindness1@gmail.com. The listening device I used to communicate with Mama from a distance during the pandemic is a Pocketalker. This device works beautifully to assist listeners with all levels of hearing loss, https://www.diglo.com/williams-sound-pocketalker-20-personal-amplifier;sku=WS-PKT2.0;s=121;p=WS-PKT2.0 Let's Connect! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Website: https://www.lorischlosser.com/

On August 6 I traveled to Peoria, IL, to address participants in a JDRF Community Rally. A number of families in attendance were adjusting to a new Type 1 diabetes diagnosis. Others had been living with the condition for years. I was asked to talk about “Building a Support Network,” the topic Ashley Coker and I discussed in Episode 14. Along with our son, Noah, I shared three salient points about taking advantage of the resources provided by your medical team, cultivating in-person support, and finding trustworthy resources online. I summarize those ideas in this episode. I also offer reflections about a few of the incredible people I met at the event and the inspirational stories they shared with me. The lessons in their stories are transferable to family caregivers of all sorts as well as the loved ones they support. So much positive energy in one place! I had to share it with you! Credible on-line resources I recommend from first-hand experience: Facebook page for the Central IL Type 1 Support Group, https://www.facebook.com/groups/805603376131046 Facebook page for Touched by Type 1 (Chicago suburbs), https://www.facebook.com/groups/217682623448 JDRF Illinois, https://www.jdrf.org/illinois/ American Diabetes Association, https://www.diabetes.org/ Diabetes Connections, with Stacey Simms, https://diabetes-connections.com/ The Sugar Mama's Podcast, https://www.sugarmamaspodcast.com/ Today's Caregiver, https://caregiver.com/ For family caregivers in nursing home or long-term care facilities, IL Caregivers for Compromise, https://www.facebook.com/groups/illinoiscaregiversforcompromise The Alzheimer's Association, https://www.alz.org/ Let's Connect! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Website: https://www.lorischlosser.com/

Ashley Coker is my guest for this episode. Like me, Ashley is a mom in the Type 1 diabetes world. Ashley's son was diagnosed in November 2020, at the height of the pandemic. She is sharing valuable perspective about responding to an unexpected diagnosis, taking on the role of family caregiver, and finding resources, in person and online, to support her in her new role. I asked Ashley to be a guest as I prepare for a talk to Type 1 families at a JDRF community event in Peoria, Illinois, on August 6. So much of the wisdom she shares is transferable to caregivers around many conditions. If you're caring for someone newly diagnosed with Type 1 or any other condition…or you just want fresh perspective about building your support network as a family caregiver, I invite you to listen in. Resources: Facebook page for the Central IL Type 1 Support Group, https://www.facebook.com/groups/805603376131046 For information about the JDRF Community Rally in Peoria, IL, on August 6, contact Jennifer McDonald, jemcdonald@jdrf.org, or call 309-229-0558 Learn more about hiring a diabetes educator from the organization Ashley uses, Integrated Diabetes Services, https://integrateddiabetes.com/ Takeaways: A new diagnosis is overwhelming, because it thrusts a family caregiver into a new world of terminology and activity. The principles around building a support network as a family caregiver are similar, no matter the condition(s) you are helping to manage. Important parts of your support network include your loved one's clinical team, as well as in-person and online support from others who have experience with the practical side of managing the condition(s) you are also managing. A notebook where you can document information shared at medical appointments, calls to insurance, tips around daily care, suggested resources you'd like to review, etc., may be a helpful tool. Expect to assume many roles (e.g., nurse, tech support, insurance specialist, financial planner, school advocate) as a family caregiver. It may be helpful for one person in a family to be designated the point person for coordinating care, even if other family members are also helping. Determine what other family members and friends are best suited to help with. Not everyone is suited for direct care, but they may still assist you in valuable ways. Consider educating your work group to support you in specific ways (e.g., covering your calls if you need to address an emergency) as a family caregiver. Let's Connect! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Website: https://www.lorischlosser.com/

A year ago, on July 19, 2021, Mama transitioned from this life to the next. She was nearly 90 years old and had lived an incredible life. This episode pays tribute to her journey, which included more than 20 years as a family caregiver and more than six years as a care receiver. I've included three important lessons she lived through her example, and they were so wise! In full transparency, I've also included things I believe she might have done differently, if she was able to view her 89 years in totality. (Those last six were so challenging.) I finish this episode with one of the greatest Bible passages about love. I hope this episode encourages, inspires, and blesses you today! Resources: Today's Bible touchpoint, from 1 Corinthians 13:1-13, https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1%20Corinthians%2013&version=NIV Takeaways: The wisdom of Mama's 89 years includes three valuable lessons. #1 Do start your day with quiet time. This may include meditation, quiet time with a calming book, exercise, yoga, devotional time. Even five minutes can set your day in a peaceful way! Don't go into your headspace alone. Ask Jesus to be present. Intercessory prayer can be life-giving, because it allows us to hand our issues over to God. When words fail…or when you want something different…listening to faith-based music can also bring peace to your mornings. #2 Do your best to plan. Leave the rest to God. This applies to all major life transitions as well as finishing your earthly journey well. As an act of love and caring, outline your wishes for your family in a will, trust, or estate document, and share it in a timely fashion (when you are healthy and able to easily communicate). Before you have real health challenges, share relevant medical information, a living will in the event of a catastrophic health event, and your wishes around end-of-life arrangements. #3 Do get out of your own head. Help somebody else. Don't ask people to let you know if they need anything. Just share something. Serving in this way can be very simple..a greeting card with a personal note, a phone call to encourage, the gift of listening without judgement. If Mama could see her journey in totality, I believe she would have paid more attention to her self-care, journeyed through grief in a healthier way, and more seriously considered finishing well in her own home. 1Corinthians 13:1-13 is balm for the soul.

It has been an amazing six months encouraging and supporting family caregivers through my website, social media and the Blessed in This Mess podcast! Seems an appropriate time to reflect on where we've been and consider where we're headed. Today I'm sharing my Five Golden Nuggets, my pick of the important lessons I've learned since the podcast debuted in January. You have taught me so much through your feedback in person, on social media and on my website. See if the takeaways below resonate with you, and check out the resources that support your work as a family caregiver. I'd also appreciate your feedback about the topics or guests you'd like to listen to going forward. Is there some area of caregiving that is particularly challenging for you? What topic has helped you most? You can connect with me through the website or message me on social media. I'd love to hear from you! And THANK YOU for listening and for sharing the podcast with your family and friends! Resources: Info on Caregiving in the U.S. in 2020 - https://www.caregiving.org/caregiving-in-the-us-2020/ The Female Face of Family Caregiving Fact Sheet, 2018 - https://www.nationalpartnership.org/our-work/resources/economic-justice/female-face-family-caregiving.pdf Website for the Caregiver Action Network - https://www.caregiveraction.org/family-caregiver-toolbox Today's Bible touchpoint from Isaiah 41:13 - https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Isaiah%2041%3A13&version=NIV Takeaways: There is an identity issue around family caregivers; some are unclear about their role, especially if they don't interact with their loved one each day. The statistics around the sheer number of family caregivers and the negative health outcomes often associated with this role have surprised most of my audiences. Family caregivers benefit from easily accessible, reputable resources, like the Caregiver Action Network. Contrary to what some may believe, men care about family caregiving, either because they are caregivers themselves (40 percent), or because their loves ones are serving in this role. Listening to understand, not necessarily to respond, may be the greatest gift a family caregiver can receive. Never underestimate the value in finding someone who will listen without judgement or immediately going into problem-solving mode. Connect with me to share your ideas about future podcast episodes, potential guests or the topics that have helped you most! Let's Connect! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Website: https://www.lorischlosser.com/

This is a rewind of Episode 8, “Finding Peace After Caregiving Ends,” strategically shared in the week before Father's Day. Today I'm speaking to the hearts of listeners who have lost fathers, husbands, grandfathers, uncles, or someone special who's been like a father. This is a deeper dive into a more emotional subject that is messy to think about and messier still to put into words. “What do I do now that my caregiving days are over?” “How do I heal from the absence of someone whose life has been so intimately interwoven with mine?” There are volumes written on grief and recovery from loss. Full disclaimer, I am not a therapist. These are my observations about the grief process and tools that may help in healing, based upon all that I've learned. I offer three simple takeaways from three credible sources that have been useful for me and many others who are traveling this path to healing and wholeness after caregiving ends. Resources: The Journeying Through Grief booklets by Dr. Kenneth Haugk, https://www.stephenministries.org/griefresources/default.cfm/774 The Voices of Grief DVD, available to be streamed or purchased, https://voicesofgrief.org/ The website for Emily P. Freeman's podcast and book, The Next Right Thing, https://emilypfreeman.com/ Today's Bible touchpoint, from Ecclesiastes, 3:11, https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ecclesiastes+3%3A11&version=NIV Takeaways: Losing a loved one has been particularly difficult during these pandemic years, causing additional caregiver trauma. Dr. Kenneth Haugk is the author of a series of booklets called Journeying Through Grief that are designed to be read at particular times in the first year after loss. My takeaway from these booklets is “find your healing people.” Each person's journey through grief is unique. There is no timetable for grief. Voices of Grief: Honoring the Sacred Journey is an award-winning documentary filled with helpful information from contemporary authors, poets, and grief experts. My takeaway from this resource is, “You will be whole again, but you will never be the same.” This is not necessarily a bad thing. Author Emily P. Freeman hosts a podcast and has written a book, both titled The Next Right Thing. Her work focuses on helping people in any life circumstance discern next steps, especially when decision making is difficult. My takeaway from Emily's work is “Be open to being the wink of God for someone else.” Our Bible touchpoint from Ecclesiastes 3:11 is a reminder that we are on God's time, and that He continues to work in our lives, even when some of the things we experience cannot be explained. Let's Connect! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Website: https://www.lorischlosser.com/

Last week I spoke on Zoom to Margaret in England, as we chatted about my upcoming online talk to employees of a global technology company. It seems the need for support for family caregivers crosses oceans and time zones. We have so much in common, regardless of geography. After scanning my website and listening to a few episodes of this podcast, Margaret wanted me to be sure include some dialogue about the upsides of being a family caregiver. To focus on the positives, despite and in the face of the grind…the day-in-and-day-out vigilance, the interrupted sleep, the appointments, the worry, the stress, the mess. Challenge accepted! Today I'd like to suggest that we are becoming more. No. Not more grumpy or short-tempered; although some days feel like that. No. I mean the more you and I are becoming over the long haul. How do I know this is happening? Because I've been paying attention to us. And, as time marches on, we are becoming more of the good stuff, despite our messy days as a family caregiver. Today I cover my top 5 observations about the ways the family caregiving journey is molding us into better human beings. Resources: My story in the Illinois Times, https://www.illinoistimes.com/springfield/blessed-in-this-mess/Content?oid=14868320 My interview with NPR Illinois, https://www.nprillinois.org/community-voices/2022-05-20/lori-schlosser-provides-encouragement-to-caregivers-with-podcast-blessed-in-this-mess-community-voices Today's Bible touchpoint, James 1:2-4, https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=James+1%3A2-4&version=NIV Takeaways: Despite the difficulties around being a family caregiver, there are upsides to the journey. We are become MORE of the good stuff in many ways. I offer five. We are more deeply connected to friends who “get it.” We are more accepting and flexible around accommodating others who have needs, even those different than ours. We are more empathetic, better listeners, better encouragers. We can be more influential, offering education and advocacy in schools, with medical systems and insurance companies, and in the halls of government. We are more resilient, because we're accustomed to finding joy in hard places and figuring out how best to cope with strain over time. It is an act of extravagant love to persevere as a family caregiver. But that perseverance is shaping us into better human beings. Let's Connect: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Website: https://www.lorischlosser.com/

This episode focuses on an element of emotional health I believe is a game changer, practicing gratitude, even when caregiving is messy. I share a story about a pair of inexpensive sunglasses that remind me of famous actress, Elizabeth Taylor. She was often photographed wearing large, round, dark lenses with black frames. I inherited a similar pair after my mom passed, and the lenses make the world look so beautiful! The lens through which we see the world makes a difference, doesn't it? My focus today is on adopting a lens of gratitude, defining that lens, and offering a few simple suggestions around using it. Given the challenges of family caregiving, there's no shame in needing an occasional reminder around being grateful, because the benefits of this perspective are huge. Resources: Today's Bible touchpoint, 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18, https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1+Thessalonians+5%3A16-18&version=NIV Takeaways: A lens of gratitude is a conscious choice that takes practice and periodic reminders. This lens is an antidote to the darkest parts of caregiving, because it promotes a change in perspective, from what is wrong in our lives to what is right. This lens is also a powerful tool to share with the loved ones in our care as well as others we connect with each day. Start with the Rule of 3: Find 3 things you are grateful for each morning or evening. Some use gratitude journals for this exercise, but they are not necessary, unless you prefer to write them down. Tiny can be mighty. Your items don't have to be monumental, just meaningful. They could be as basic as, “I'm grateful for the end of another week.” If you're stuck, consider 3 things you were able to accomplish today. This can also be very basic, like “I was able to take a shower and wash my hair between tasks.” Or “I was able to take a 10-minute walk.” Simply gratitude, each day. This is your reminder about the power of this lens.

This episode is strategically timed to run prior to Mother's Day and Father's Day 2022, after so many of us have lost loved ones in the pandemic years. Several listeners have asked me to address this topic, because they are struggling with it. This is a deeper dive into a more emotional subject that is messy to think about and messier still to put into words. “What do I do now that my caregiving days are over?” “How do I heal from the absence of someone whose life has been so intimately interwoven with mine?” There are volumes written on grief and recovery from loss. Full disclaimer, I am not a therapist. These are my observations about the grief process and tools that may help in healing, based upon all that I've learned. I offer three simple takeaways from three credible sources that have been useful for me and many others who are traveling this path to healing and wholeness after caregiving ends. Resources: The Journeying Through Grief booklets by Dr. Kenneth Haugk, https://www.stephenministries.org/griefresources/default.cfm/774 The Voices of Grief DVD, available to be streamed or purchased, https://voicesofgrief.org/ The website for Emily P. Freeman's podcast and book, The Next Right Thing, https://emilypfreeman.com/ Today's Bible touchpoint, from Ecclesiastes, 3:11, https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ecclesiastes+3%3A11&version=NIV Takeaways: Losing a loved one has been particularly difficult during these pandemic years, causing additional caregiver trauma. Dr. Kenneth Haugk is the author of a series of booklets called Journeying Through Grief that are designed to be read at particular times in the first year after loss. My takeaway from these booklets is “find your healing people.” Each person's journey through grief is unique. There is no timetable for grief. Voices of Grief: Honoring the Sacred Journey is an award-winning documentary filled with helpful information from contemporary authors, poets and grief experts. My takeaway from this resource is “You will be whole again, but you will never be the same.” This is not necessarily a bad thing. Author Emily P. Freeman hosts a podcast and has written a book, both titled The Next Right Thing. Her work focuses on helping people in any life circumstance discern next steps, especially when decision making is difficult. My takeaway from Emily's work is “Be open to being the wink of God for someone else.” Our Bible touchpoint from Ecclesiastes 3:11 is a reminder that we are on God's time, and that He continues to work in our lives, even when some of the things we experience cannot be explained. Let's Connect: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Website: https://www.lorischlosser.com/

My guest in this episode is Noah Schlosser, my adult son, who's lived with Type 1 diabetes since he was a little guy. Noah believes that finding reasons to celebrate things big and small makes you a more positive person, even if parts of your life bring daily challenges. Frankly, as his caregiver, a celebration mindset, whenever possible, has been a Godsend for me, too, both as I've supported Noah and as I cared for my mom in her final years. This episode is lovingly dedicated to our friends in the Type 1 community, but the principles we cover apply across the board to family caregivers and care receivers everywhere. Resources: Find Noah's work on the web, https://www.noahschlosser.com/ Today's Bible verse, Psalm 118:24 https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Psalm%20118%3A24&version=NKJV Takeaways: Finding reasons to celebrate brings joy to our lives, even on challenging days. Our family uses a red plate with the words “You Are Special” on it to celebrate all sorts of things. It's special because we make it special. Celebration foods are made more special when we they are saved for special occasions. Reasons to celebrate can include the milestones we typically think of, like birthdays and graduations or “firsts.” Mini celebrations around accomplishments or effort can also elevate our mood and lighten our days. Consider mini celebrations around completion of difficult tasks or just persevering through challenging days or seasons. “Just because” is also a valid reason to celebrate. Get creative! The benefits of finding reasons to celebrate include building confidence around difficult tasks, giving us a breather, bringing people together, encouraging gratitude, and improving our attitudes. Mini celebrations can include a favorite treat, a change of scenery, attendance at an event, tiny gifts, interjection of music (or dancing!) in our days, time playing a game, or just time connecting with family or friends. Let's Connect: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Website: https://www.lorischlosser.com/

This topic is a breath of fresh air for family caregivers and care receivers. I share a favorite audio clip from the Disney movie, Mary Poppins, highlighting the importance of finding the fun “in every job that must be done.” Author Courtney Ellis suggests we should all be more open to what she calls “the joy and freedom of play.” Even in the messiness of family caregiving, I couldn't agree more There are many benefits to a playful mindset, for caregivers and everyone who surrounds them. Playfulness is easier to work into your day than you might think. Check out this episode for four simple steps to finding the fun in your day and for approaching the messiness of family caregiving from a playful perspective. One of my favorite episodes so far! Hope it gives you fresh perspective to consider as you move through your days. Resources: “A Spoonful of Sugar” audio clip from Mary Poppins Soundtrack, Disney, 1964 The No More Perfect Podcast with Jill Savage, guest Courtney Ellis, https://open.spotify.com/episode/55W0PHmzJEarRe29zrsEen Website for Courtney Ellis, https://courtneybellis.com/ A link to Courtney's book, Happy Now: Let Playfulness Life Your Load & Renew Your Spirit, https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/happy-now-courtney-ellis/1137916322 Today's Bible touchpoint, Ecclesiastes 3:1-4, https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ecclesiastes%203%3A1-4&version=NIV Takeaways: A spirit of playfulness can be a real blessing for a family caregiver, supporting a positive attitude for the caregiver, for the care receiver, and for everyone who comes in contact with them. Jill Savage recently interviewed author Courtney Ellis on The No More Perfect Podcast. Courtney wrote a book in 2021 about the importance of incorporating playfulness into your day. According to Ellis, “Playfulness raises us from our doldrums, lifts our gazes, and buoys our spirits. It holds the power to transform our lives. A gift from God who created us, playfulness reminds us that we are a people dearly loved and set free to tell everyone that they are dearly loved, too.” Caregivers can find a million reasons not to be playful, but there is joy to be found in adopting this mindset when circumstances allow it. My four steps to finding this joy in your day include giving yourself permission to play, looking for opportunities to play, not making it harder than it is, and not expecting perfection. Ellis suggests we think of something we loved to do as a child and adapt our activities in that direction or think about what we'd do for fun if we had a day to ourselves. I offer some ideas to encourage us to think more on this! Our Bible touchpoint from Ecclesiastes suggests there is a time for every activity under heaven, including a time to laugh and a time to dance. What a blessing to incorporate playfulness into our days as family caregivers! Let's Connect! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Website: https://www.lorischlosser.com/

In the last several episodes, I've talked about the stress inherent in family caregiving. This episode really focuses on relieving that stress using simple breathing techniques to calm the mind and body. Amy Denney, a light therapy stress specialist with certifications in Holy Yoga and trauma-sensitive Holy Yoga, is my guest. She shares her perspective on the value in meditation and deep breathing and guides us through several breathing exercises that can be used just about anywhere to relieve stress, support sleep, lower blood pressure, and aid in digestion. Resources: Amy Denney is a light therapy and stress specialist, certified in Holy Yoga and trauma-sensitive Holy Yoga. You can email her at amy@shinelighttherapy.com. Most recently she is collaborating with Based on Purpose to offer Moving Purpose Affirmations, short audio recordings combining yoga, breathing and scripture-based affirmations. You can find her meditation offerings here: https://www.shinelighttherapy.com/meditations My favorite Bible verse about being still, Psalm 46:10 https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Psalm%2046%3A10&version=NIV Takeaways: Most of us are shallow breathers who would benefit from deep breathing, as it positively affects the brain and almost every major organ, the heart, lungs and digestive system. Deep breathing can be used to re-energize or calm the body. Even one belly breath can be beneficial. Belly breathing can be practiced almost anywhere (in the car, working at the computer, in the doctor's office, etc.) and uses the diaphragm to more fully inflate and deflate the lungs. The ratio breath includes inhaling through the nose to a count of 4, holding the breath for count of 7, and exhaling through the nose or mouth for a count of 8. The box breath is a simple breath technique that may be helpful for children or visual learners. Breathing can be done as you trace the sides of a box drawn on paper or in the air, inhaling for 4 counts, holding for 4 counts, exhaling for 4 counts and holding for 4 counts. The more you practice this breathing, the more helpful it becomes, day or night. Let's Connect! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Website: https://www.lorischlosser.com/

Meditation and deep breathing are powerful tools to help reduce the negative impact of stress on family caregivers. In this episode, I share some common stress triggers for family caregivers, and ask you to think about your stressors and how your body is responding to them. I cover the definition of meditation and explain the many benefits of calming the mind and body in this way. Episode 5 will feature a guest expert who will further explain the use of these tools and share some simple exercises that can be used almost anywhere to relieve stress and calm the body. Our Bible touchpoint is from Psalm 46:10, where we are encouraged to practice self-care by being still. Resources: · My favorite simple wellness wheel, https://www.anchorpointcounselingministry.org/2017/09/20/balancing-your-wellness-wheel/ · Mayo Clinic information about meditation, https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/meditation/about/pac-20385120 · Abide Meditations, https://abide.co/ · Today's Bible verse, Psalm 46:10 https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Psalm%2046%3A10&version=NIV Takeaways: · Meditation and breathing are powerful tools in addressing the stress of family caregiving. · The benefits of using these tools are numerous and include a reduction in anxiety, depression, insomnia, heart disease, pain and digestive problems, along with improving attention, sleep, and even blood sugar control. · These tools are easy to learn and can be used almost anywhere. · Any use of these tools is a benefit. Episode 5 will feature a guest expert in this area who will share helpful exercises to calm the mind and body. Let's Connect! Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lorischlosserspeaks Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorischlosserspeaks/ Website: https://www.lorischlosser.com/

February is Heart Health Month, and this episode is designed to educate and encourage family caregivers to take care of their cardiovascular health. This is our first look at an issue in the physical wellness portion of our simple wellness wheel. I share a story about my grandmother and my mom, who suffered from cardiovascular issues after experiencing stress over many years as a caregiver. The statistics on caregiver stress leading to cardiac issues are not in our favor. I offer several helpful tip sheets for caregivers, prepared by the American Heart Association, along with my 3 M's of Heart Health – Mindset, Movement and Moderation. Our Bible touchpoint is from Matthew 11:28-29, where Jesus encourages us to find rest from our stress in His presence. Resources: · My favorite simple wellness wheel, https://www.anchorpointcounselingministry.org/2017/09/20/balancing-your-wellness-wheel/ · Helpful tips for caregivers from the AHA, https://www.heart.org/en/health-topics/caregiver-support/top-10-caregiver-tips-for-staying-healthy-and-active · More simple tips from the AHA, https://www.heart.org/-/media/Files/Health-Topics/Answers-by-Heart/How-Should-I-Care-for-Myself-as-a-Caregiver.pdf · Signs of heart attack and stroke in women, https://www.goredforwomen.org/en/about-heart-disease-in-women/signs-and-symptoms-in-women · Abide Meditations, https://abide.co/ · Today's Bible verse, Matthew 11:28-29, https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew%2011%3A28-29&version=NIV Takeaways: · The stress inherent in family caregiving can cause damage to the cardiovascular system, leading to heart disease, heart attacks and strokes. · There are things we can do to maintain heart health and decrease the likelihood that we will experience heart disease, heart attacks and strokes. · Mindset is important. Try morning meditation and deep breathing. Focus on your accomplishments and blessings, not your problems and worries. Take mini breaks throughout the day. Limit your screen time to improve your outlook. · Movement can be as simple as walking regularly for exercise. Strength and stretch exercises are also important. · Moderation around food and drink is key. More water and whole foods. Less processed foods, white flour and white sugar. We can enjoy our favorite things in moderation. · Christ offers us rest from the stress of family caregiving. Let's Connect: Facebook: Lori Schlosser Instagram: @lorischlosserspeaks Website: lorischlosser.com

In this episode prior to Valentine's Day, I explore love in a fresh way, as we consider four little words that are really the core of family caregiving, “I am with you.” I share a story from 2015, when my mom fell in her independent living apartment and laid on the floor for hours, believing that my presence with her was more important than calling for help without me. I offer examples of so many circumstances where family caregivers practice love in these four little words, and suggest that “I am with you” is the greatest love of all this Valentine's Day. The Bible touchpoint is Christ's words to his disciples and to us in Matthew 28:20, with an emphasis on “always.” Listen in! Resources: · My favorite simple wellness wheel, https://www.anchorpointcounselingministry.org/2017/09/20/balancing-your-wellness-wheel/ · Today's Bible verse, Matthew 28:20, https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew%2028%3A20&version=NIV · Statistics on family caregivers in the U.S., https://www.caregiving.org/caregiving-in-the-us-2020/ Takeaways: · “I am with you” is powerful love in four little words. · “I am with you” is a precious gift that may include physical presence, checking in by phone or text, or offering prayers on behalf of someone in our care. · “I am with you appears” numerous times in the Bible. One reassuring example is Christ's words in Matthew 28:20. · Christ promises his presence with our loved ones and with us, always. We can be assured we are never alone. Let's Connect: Facebook: Lori Schlosser Instagram: @lorischlosserspeaks Website: lorischlosser.com

Welcome! In this first episode, I share my five simple truths about family caregivers, which helps set the stage for future episodes. These truths shed light on how caregiving for family can feel simultaneously like both the right thing to do and one of the hardest things you've ever done. Check out the show notes below for links to resources used to prepare this episode. I've also added key takeaways, because nothing is better than a bulleted list. Listen in! Resources: · Statistics on family caregivers in the U.S., https://www.caregiving.org/caregiving-in-the-us-2020/ · My favorite simple wellness wheel, https://www.anchorpointcounselingministry.org/2017/09/20/balancing-your-wellness-wheel/ · Today's Bible verse, Jeremiah 29:11, https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Jeremiah%2029%3A11&version=NIV Takeaways: · Family caregivers are assimilating so much information, despite typically steep learning curves. Well done! · Learning to say "no" and to find our people can help with exhaustion and isolation. · Our wellness, as defined by a simple wellness wheel, is impacted in every area by the care we give. · Self-care begins with our own doctor's appointments. · We can make positive or negative choices about the ways caregiving will change us. · God is in our changes if we ask Him to be. Let's Connect: Facebook: Lori Schlosser Instagram: @lorischlosserspeaks Website: lorischlosser.com

If you are caring for a loved one - a child, spouse, parent, grandparent, or someone who is like family - with complex medical issues, a chronic illness, or disability, this new podcast is for you! Family caregiving can be messy, but there are blessings to be found, even in the mess. Meet Lori Schlosser, a family caregiver for both a son diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes and a parent who experienced multiple strokes and vascular dementia. Lori offers honest conversation about the joys and challenges of caring for someone you love around the clock, day in and day out. Join her here every other week to be encouraged, to be affirmed for the good work you do each day, and to be equipped to stay healthy for the long term. She promises to keep it simple and practical, because family caregivers are typically low on sleep and short on time. Designed to leave you feeling peaceful and better prepared for the important work of family caregiving, listen to Lori and her guests in your car, while exercising, doing housework, or getting ready for your day. Find out more about Lori's work to support family caregivers at her website, lorischlosser.com, on Instagram @lorischlosserspeaks or on Facebook.