Clarity Cafe Podcast

In this episode of the Clarity Cafe podcast, our hosts and special guest Jackee Stang touch on the concept of finding our “home” within ourselves and the importance of protecting it. They share real moments where they have felt disconnected from their “home” and what they did to help them reclaim their safe space and find happiness. 

Isn't it fun when little things happen throughout the day that brings a smile to your face? Episode #59 is a fun convo on simple ways to shift the vibe of your day when things are a little rough. It's the little things, like playing your favorite song, having a laugh with a friend, or putting a flower on your desk that can change the whole vibe of your day if it's not going as planned. So join us in this little giggle fest made with love to lighten your day!

What a sweet-smelling episode we have for you this week Clarity Fam! (Yup, we said smelling not sounding!) because this week we want ya'll to wake up and smell the roses!Yes! We are over here literally talking about flowers! Well, we are really talking about how flowers are a wonderfully beautiful metaphor for our lives and our evolution as human beings :) Just as flowers blossom from a tiny bud, flowering into something beautiful, we too grow and thrive in all our health and beauty at different times throughout our lives. And just like flowers, no two moments are the same. No two relationships are the same. Not even two of our lives are ever the same.There is something so powerful in drawing all these amazing parallels between flowers and ourselves that is just too good not to make your heart melt thinking about it next time you see your favorite flower. So enjoy this episode. We know we did.

Trust us when we say this episode is a game-changer when it comes to helping us deal with the fallout from some crummy exchange. One minute we are happy as larry plodding along through our day, not bothering anyone, when boom…the next minute someone says something to us that throws us off our whole darn day…Good news though, help is here! We have some tips and tricks up our sleeves to help us manage our mood when the vibe is off. We can either let those things ruin our day, or we can flip that mindset, get some perspective and find some neutrality. Remember their attitude says a lot more about them than it does about you. So don't take it personally and learn how to bounce back :)

Burn baby burn! Until we BURNOUT that is! Today's episode is a topic we all can relate to. The dreaded work burnout… and what a freakin topic and a half it is, right? Why does it feel like we got back from the great pause and boom! Work commitments accelerated like mad and there we are driving full speed down burnout road, where the only thing that will stop us is a brick wall!Hang on tho, there is no way we are going to let our Clarity Fam take that kind of a road trip! So phew, take a breath and settle in a minute. This episode is here to force us to slow down and think. A reminder that although we all have a tendency to push ourselves a little bit too far day after day, we can't forget to take time out to take care of ourselves. Our lives really do depend on it.

This is a Clarity Cafe first Fam! In this super special episode, we extend a very warm welcome to our amazingly talented friend, honorary Clarity Sister, and talented singer-songwriter Jackee Stang AKA Wolfstang. And what an epic story she has for you this week!  Tune in to hear how she transformed her pain and trauma by tapping into her creativity! Yup, channeling all those badass vibes into none other than… music, writing and producing her very first album “Daddy Wounds!” We are super proud of her healing journey and so appreciative to have her showing up with us here to share how embracing that little fiery creative spark inside of us, and doing something a little differently than the norm, can jump-start us on the path to healing.

This week's little Clarity Cafe episode is quite literally music to our ears ;) This super uplifting chat is dedicated to The Power of Music! We are in awe of the fact that no matter the time in our lives, whatever we might be going through, we can always look to music to bring us joy, to help lift us up when we are down, and to connect us to ourselves, the people we love and even complete strangers!So come vibe with us as we take a minute to connect back to our musical roots, reminisce a little, and talk about how we can train ourselves to create more positive vibes in our lives, healing our souls…all through the power of music!

Unreasonable expectations! We all got 'em. Sometimes we expect too much of ourselves, sometimes we place all those expectations on others, sometimes our expectations create limiting beliefs and sometimes we get caught up doing a little of all of them!Whatever “expectation” jam you are in, don't worry Clarity Fam, because in this week's episode we are going to take a little sip and savor how to best manage our expectations based on the reality of the situation.So let's dig in and begin this exploration of expectations – our own expectations, what to do with them, and how to sort and manage them. And let's not also forget how to manage and handle other people's expectations of us too!At the end of this episode, we are defo gonna walk away with some clarity on expectations, which in turn will hopefully take a lil' pressure off, because let's be honest here…. expectations can cause a lot of undue stress. Oh and this topic is a special listener request! So shout out for requesting it, thank you very much.

We are dropping the facts this week on Clarity Cafe! Starting with this little doozie…that nothing, and we mean NOTHING, is more important than your health Fam! Unfortunately for us… it's usually the thing we neglect the most… ugh, right?Well, it's a good job we are rolling up this week to give you a special promotion, to appoint you as CEO of your own health from this point forward. Yup, this episode teaches us to be large and in charge of our lives and bodies and reminds us that everyone else is just a consultant. If they are one of the good ones, they will improve your health, and if they gaslight you or don't give you the answers you're looking for… move on.Don't stop until you get what YOU need. Congratulations on your promotion in this episode.

An episode worthy of itself this week Clarity Fam. In this poignant and personal episode, we get really deep on the subject of our self-worth and how if we don't recalibrate our self-worth compass away from seeking external validation, then we will never feel 100% whole.Acknowledging it's a lifelong practice to master feeling worthy…that goes for all of us. This episode is here to share that there are ways to turn inward and recognize where we might be holding onto beliefs that cause us to question our worth.It's a game-changer when we can finally say, “I am enough here and now,” and that is exactly why we encourage you to join us on this journey and reset your mindset towards self-validation and recognizing that you are completely whole… just as you are.

This week we are feeling the EMPOWERED VIBES because our topic is all about putting yourself out there and really going for what you want in life!Yes, it's big, juicy and we love it! But to make it a little bit more digestible and actionable for you, we are going to focus on one small (but super important!!!) piece of it in this episode. The very first step to getting what you want in life…which is figuring out what it is you actually “want” to go get!So get ready, pull up those bootstraps, and learn some valuable self-development tools so you can start asking yourselves the right kinds of questions to figure out what you might be missing from your life now. Then get some clarity (no pun intended) and perspective on what it is that you actually want in life! Finally… go get it, Fam… that is…right after you've got the latest episode downloaded here ;)

What better way to jump into Spring AND Season 5 than taking a minute to dig in and declutter our lives first!!!!We don't mean declutter in the literal sense, like cleaning out your car or closet; we mean the important stuff, the oh-so juicy mental and emotional feels!? In much the same way, decluttering mentally and emotionally allows us to let go of old things hanging around our headspace, negative people, shame & guilt, or whatever is living rent-free in our head, and bring us into the present moment. Only then can we have clear space from which to create the next moment of our life.But first, Cali and Barb are here to help you break down the attachment to those little houseguests in your head because sometimes that attachment can be super strong and we have to be ready to ask if they are worthy of your mental and emotional energy anymore.

One word for the last episode of Season 4 - P-O-W-E-R-F-U-LWhy? Because we are channeling our inner vulnerability goddess Brene Brown, it is not to be missed! It turns out hosts Cali and Barb share similar sentiments around authenticity, connection, and courage. They are all about dispelling the myth that vulnerability is weakness and encouraging us to realize that it is our most accurate measure of courage! “When we dare to drop the armor that protects us from feeling vulnerable, we open ourselves to the experiences that bring purpose and meaning to our lives.”  - Dr. Brene BrownSo dare to give this episode a whirl and watch how YOU WILL GET STRONGER as you allow vulnerability into your life. As your vulnerability shines through, true connections will be made, connections both with ourselves and others.But what does it even mean to truly be vulnerable? You'll have to listen to find out…

Join us on this episode where Cali & Barb talk through how YOU CAN MAKE SELF-CARE A PRIORITY in your life and how to avoid the pitfalls of forgetting to give it to yourself daily Spend a quick 20 minutes as they share wisdom and experience on how to build more resilient and sticky self-care habits, get more out of the practice while giving you some new ideas to work with.Self-care is how we keep our batteries charged and maintain a healthy perspective on our lives. Self-care is something that builds us up and when we run into a deficit of it, our lives slowly become draining and eventually overwhelming as we try to battle through losing our sense of wellness. Remember no one else may notice if you skip that yoga class, take time to read a book, or take that walk in the sunshine… but your body, mind, and spirit will definitely experience the lack of time being invested in your personal sense of wellbeing. 

Fam.. we've been working on something really special and finally the time is just right to share it with you! In this very special episode of Clarity Cafe we are dropping our very own Limitless Healing App! We poured our heart and soul into creating something that will help us all heal on a deeper level by providing a safe place for people to develop their own internal navigation and loving inner voice. Teaching people how to heal themselves has become our life's mission. Turning people's perception from feeling like they are never enough to always enough, from being fearful to feeling safe and from pain and suffering to finally feeling well and wonderful.You see, helping people is just what we do and we really hope you love this little gift from us to you. Hang in, because we'll go into wayyyyy more detail in the episode and take the time to explain; how it all works, what to expect and how to get the most out of the app. So dive right in and ride the waves with us and repeat out loud “I am safe”, “I am well” and “I am enough.” Remember...YOUR HEALING IS LIMITLESS.

Welcome to a very special episode that's all about…L O V E! And we're not talking about love for your fam, friends, or pets, but the most important person…Y O U! Come with us as we explore how to cultivate a learning and loving mindset that allows you to grow and change as your heart and mind do. It's easy to slip into being hard on ourselves, overly self-critical and straight-up mean in the way we talk to ourselves. The thing is, you and your inner child deserve to be spoken to with kindness and compassion! You may be older now and we know you've experienced a ton that makes you feel like you shouldn't mess up anymore… but making mistakes is part of being human, and your inner child is still in there begging to be loved no matter what! So take a little listen and share this episode with a friend to spread the self-loveee

We talked about small and medium baggage in Season 1 and now, true to our promise, we are finally ready to take on the big mama of baggage in Season 4!  Let's face it, baggage is scary and the bigger stuff is even scarier. Sometimes it's invisible, but sometimes, when we least expect it, we look back in our rearview mirror and it's right there blocking our view! Look, nobody is saying we need to face this monster head-on, or even alone for that matter… but rather, let's take it in small steps…chipping away at it like a block of ice. And know that if you work hard at identifying the triggers and dealing with them, that ice will eventually melt away. We always believe in you, Clarity Fam, and in this episode, we have a feeling you'll be one step closer to your best self. Leave us a review and let us know how we're doing!     

We all know the saying “be the change you wish to see in the world,” right? And this week, that's what we're all about! You don't need to be a superhuman or a celebrity to become an activist for change. It doesn't even necessarily require a ton of time or money...none of that. All it takes is a human who cares enough to see a brighter and more positive home for themselves and their fellow earthlings. In this gentle episode, we want to help y'all see the power you hold within you. Especially in this age of information and social media where you have the ability to reach far and wide right at your fingertips…so instead of getting caught up in criticizing and judging people and situations in the world, embrace your rights AND responsibility to become an activist for change for the better. Who knows, maybe one day your name will go down in history, and you can say, “it all started with a little cup of clarity.

Perspective & Priorities Fam. Yup, we are throwing out the double “P's”  in this useful little episode that is all about how we can be more “large and in charge” of the (unreasonable?!?) requests being thrown at us on the regular. It's a fact that life can get a bit overwhelming sometimes, and when we think we've finally gotten stuff sorted…someone (or something!) comes along and piles even more on our plates! Or worse yet, we set unrealistic expectations for ourselves thinking we can do more than we can! These situations can be uncomfortable and just downright overwhelming. So, let's flip the script on this already and chat for a hot minute about how to remedy these stressors and find a solution that best suits everyone involved. Don't get us wrong…sometimes we need to grind to get things done, but it's not always 100% necessary. And in those instances, it's okay to just. say…. NO. Take a listen, learn and grow with us this week and make sure to check out our socials @ClarityCafePodcast. 

We seem to have lots to say about things we don't do so well, but how often do we stop, acknowledge, and compliment ourselves and each other for the things we are doing well? Sadly, it's probably not as often as it should be. No worries tho Fam, that's exactly why we have dedicated this episode to taking the time to inventory and acknowledge the things we do well… and do right! That way we can practice truly admiring ourselves and each other in more genuine and loving ways. For the record, we don't mean throwing around those flippant kind of compliments. We are talking about authentic compliments – the heartfelt ones that make us feel good, and the world a little better place to live in for each other. So give this episode a whirl, get to know the difference between authentic and inauthentic compliments, and why not drop us a little compliment in a podcast review section while you're at it :)

Fam, we are gonna have ourselves a little sip of sunshine on the topic of modeling boundaries this week. In this convo, we are going to focus on how to become aware of and reset our internal dialogs about boundaries, and re-parent our inner child to help create, improve and repair boundaries to be more kind and loving to ourselves. So sound sh*t off with us right here, and let's do it in a gentle loving way that doesn't leave you with a feeling of deprivation or that you haven't been as good to yourself as you could have been when creating some new boundaries in your life!

Get ready because this is a real feel good episode, Clarity Fam. We'll all leave this one patting ourselves on the back because we are gonna hit home on how to do a better job of acknowledging all the amazing things we do in our lives! Yup, we talk about breaking down that “ugh…nothing I did went right today” attitude and flipping it on its head.  The goal of this little nugget of clarity is to encourage us all to show ourselves the appreciation and love that we so deserve on the daily!

This week at Clarity Cafe we are helping take the effort out of decision making! Barb and Cali unpack different types of decisions that crop up in our lives and offer some useful guidance on how to get ahead of little decisions so we can save room to focus on the big ones. This cathartic episode provides some relief for anyone getting overwhelmed with all the decisions that might be piling up on their plate! It's jam packed with useful advice on how not to sweat the small decisions and help us move through them more efficiently. Soon enough we free up more time to really focus on the big decisions in life! So make the decision to listen to this episode today and stop sweating the small stuff.

Wow Fam! It's Season 4 already and we have a doozy of an episode to kick things off for y'all. This week starts the year off right as we chat about how we can all cultivate a brand new mindset for the new year! In a nutshell, it's all about knowing what voices we let dominate in our heads then inviting different perspectives, new ideas and fresh conversations into your life to open up your mindset!  As always we encourage you to take what works for you and leave what doesn't so that you can curate the most diverse, rich and bubbling beauty of a life for 2022 and beyond. Let's get to it fam! This is our year :)

Have you ever thought about which voice in your mind you give the microphone to? We all have a cacophony of voices in our brain fighting to be heard and acknowledged, but have you ever wondered which ones are the most dominant? Is it that 5-year-old who's loud and opinionated, but maybe lacks the perspective of someone older and more experienced? Is your inner skeptic's volume turned up to 11? In the season three finale episode of Clarity Cafe, Barb and Cali discuss how we can all learn and practice curating the voices in our head in order to raise the volume on the more positive ones, and quiet the ones that amplify our self-doubt, anxiety, and so on. This is a super juicy and helpful episode for anyone who wants to cultivate an inner voice that serves them better.

In this episode, Cali and Barb chat about what it means to be a good listener, and then they dive into ways to improve our listening skills. Spoiler alert! The first step involves learning how to truly listen to ourselves. Underneath all of the static and noise of our busy minds are our true thoughts and feelings. Once we learn how to listen to that quiet part of our brain, we can then listen more profoundly to others. And by listening, they mean listening without feeling the need to react or respond. The result is a conversation where both you and your loved one feels safe and heard.

Many of us tell each other how terrible we are at saying goodbye. We avoid it. We rush through it. We choke down any emotions that begin to gurgle up. But why? Why are we so bad as a society at saying goodbye? And how can we more directly honor that ending moment—whether it's a great neighbor who's moving away, our last day at a job, or a relationship that we know is ready to end. In this episode, Cali and Barb navigate through the different scenarios, illuminating ways for us to more directly (and with greater clarity) say our goodbyes.  

Your friend has a problem. A real problem. And you've gone through the exact same thing! Every single cell in your body wants to tell them what they should do, how they should handle it, and how they can avoid the mistakes you made. After all, they're your friend and you want to help. The intention is sooo good. But… and there is a but… sometimes you need to let people go through things their own way. Everyone needs to learn their own life lessons in whatever way is unique to them and their experiences. That instinct to dive in and immerse your loved one in what you believe is the answer to their problems is lovely. However, sometimes the best way you can support someone is by listening with neutrality, asking permission before sharing your similar situation, and then allowing them to take responsibility for their own choices. Sound impossible? It's not! Listen in and find out how you can do it! 

Are making decisions challenging for you? Even for those of us who consider ourselves to be swift decision makers, sometimes we stall out on a particular choice due to anxiety, confusion, and stress. In this episode, Barb and Cali guide us through ways to get some perspective on why making some decisions leave us so rattled. If we can take a step back and take the time to break down each aspect of an upcoming choice, we can get some much needed clarity on what's truly driving the stress we're feeling over making the decision. It can be stress about other people, stress over not having all of the answers yet, of the unknown, or even the fear of failure. So listen in and learn how to separate out all of these compounding forces so you can take the weight off your mind and begin making stress-free decisions. 

Everyone has their own style of communication. For some who have been diagnosed with ADHD, like Cali herself, communication—externally and internally—does not follow social norms. Many of us have a one-lane mental highway when we communicate, allowing us to open a topic, discuss it, and then close it out before we jump into an entirely new subject. Cali's brain however, usually has something more akin to a six-lane highway. Each road has its own topic, goes in its own direction, and may be just as important as the other five topics. With such a divergent way of communicating, how can we be sure to still have productive, effective, and supportive conversations? Listen in and find out!

Some episodes ago, clarity sisters Barb and Cali gave us thoughtful advice on asking for help. In this episode, they take the topic a step further by diving into productive ways of receiving help. Many of us like to grit our teeth and act like we've got it all handled, but in those moments when you know you need a helping hand, how well are you able to actually receive it? Do you micromanage the help you're given? Are you specific about what you need? Are you kind to yourself or do you judge yourself for needing some assistance? This is a juicy topic that can help you learn how to turn to your community when you need to, and accept their help with gratitude for them and for yourself. 

In this episode of Clarity Cafe, Barb and Cali wake our minds up to the importance of sleep and sleep rituals. If you often find yourself singing the 3AM blues, then you'll definitely want to tune in to this episode. They cover everything from why sleep is necessary not just for our bodies, but our brains as well, and how to set ourselves up for a fabulous night of rejuvenating rest. As always, take what works, leave what doesn't, but be sure to listen in, because you deserve to wake up everyday feeling bright-eyed and renewed.

Ever notice how the vibe we put out there can spread like the game of telephone through our home or workplace? No matter our emotion—whether it's stress, anger, or happiness—our mindset can not only influence other people's emotional state, it can also boomerang right back to us. In other words, the vibe we send out, is the vibe we get back. Come from a place of relaxation or neutrality however, and you'll find that you approach situations more mindfully, creatively, with greater clarity, and without affecting anyone else's state of mind. Cool, right? But how do you do it? Listen to this episode and find out!

Raise your hand if you've ever been in a situation where your expectations led you down a path of disappointment. We can see all of the hands from here! We've all been there. Whether it's expectations we have of ourselves, of certain relationships, or of certain situations. Expectations can be sneaky too in that we're not always even conscious of having them. In this episode, Cali and Barb walk us through ways to focus on goals rather than expectations. Doing this can bring about more satisfying and genuine outcomes that don't carry the stress and anxiety that all too often accompany our expectations. Listen in and start translating your expectations into goals today!

In this episode, Barb and Cali venture into a topic that they both share a passion for—connecting to their intuition. As Cali explains, connecting with your intuition is a practice, not a one-time goal. This is a mighty skill that can be learned and cultivated once you figure out how to quiet those noisy thoughts, and immerse yourself in that deep wonder of inner-wisdom and truth. And thanks to our Clarity sisters, we've got all of the guidance we need. From meditation tools, to information about the different types of intuition, to the very important reminder to keep our sense of humor throughout the process, this episode is the gateway to amplifying that sage inner voice that so often goes unheard.

Welcome back! It's our third season here at Clarity Cafe and we're excited to dive right back into all the good stuff! For our first episode of the season, we're launching right into the nitty gritty of speaking our truth. It can be challenging and uncomfortable, yet it is incredibly valuable to ourselves and our relationships. Clarity sisters Barb and Cali lay out the steps to follow in order to pursue the self-inquiry required to pursue your truth—even when you're feeling triggered by a person or situation. Listen in for some thoughtful guidance and, as always, some much needed clarity.

In this final episode of Season Two, Cali and Barb dig into the juicy topic of picking a partner that raises you up rather than brings you down. Regardless of the type of relationship you seek, it's important to bring awareness to patterns you might be repeating and the types of people you're manifesting. If you're currently in a relationship, how do you usually feel after an interaction with your partner(s)? Do you feel supported, content, loved? Are you able to be your authentic self around your partner(s)? Cali and Barb speak thoughtfully about the nurturing nature of healthy relationships, as well as what to do if we think our partnership is becoming dysfunctional or toxic. Listen in as our fearless co-pilots once again share their experiences and wisdom.

Moment of truth: Do you shrink a little bit when someone compliments you? Do you deflect and compliment them right back? Do you clam up and shutter from those seconds in the spotlight? We hear you. In this episode, Cali and Barb, with a little help from their friend Will (who also happens to be co-host on A Little Bit of Chill Podcast), address the challenges of giving and receiving compliments. They each share their own personal hurdles when it comes to giving and receiving compliments, and chat about ways to overcome them. Be sure to listen in so that the next time someone notices something awesome about you, you can be present, take it in, and simply say thank you.  

Fiercely independent. Does that describe you? If you're out there nodding your head in agreement then this episode is particularly important. We all seem to celebrate this notion of being totally self-reliant, but asking for and receiving help when you need it is also worthy of praise. Cali and Barb share their personal stories of how they came to terms with how and when to ask for a little assistance. Let's face it, sometimes the struggle is real, and when it is, it's important to look to your community (whether online or in person), to get the help you need. 

Be honest, are you “shoulding” yourself? Are you like many of us who spend way too much time telling ourselves what we should do rather than what we authentically want to do. We can get a case of the “shoulds” about everything, from minor choices— “I should wear this boring outfit over the one that I really love (heart emoji) because it's more age-appropriate”—to major life decisions— “I really want to take a year off to travel but I should go right to work after college”. In this episode, Cali and Barb get into “shoulding” territory by helping us shift our mindset so we can recognize when we're only doing something because we think it's what's expected of us. They help to decipher the difference between doing something out of obligation or out of a sense of service, and they lovingly help us remove the heavy judgement that always seems to accompany a “should”. Listen in and get some clarity on how to leave the “shoulds” behind, and find the beauty in making choices based on the present moment. 

In this episode, Cali and Barb introduce us to the metaphor of being a frog in a pot of hot soup. If we're metaphorically thrown into a pot of boiling soup, we're going to leap out of there immediately to protect ourselves. But if we start off in a broth that's at a comfortable temperature and then is gradually brought to a boil, we might not realize that we've got to leap out of there until it's way too hot. This has happened to all of us at some point in our lives. Maybe we were in a relationship that started out great, so we denied little hurts or some dysfunction until it became a toxic hot mess. Or maybe we began a job that seemed good and paid well, so we made excuses or back-burnered aspects that never felt quite right, until work became seriously stressful. So what do we do? How can we address simmering problems before we're in a rolling boil? Listen in and find out! 

Was your sugar detox crushed by the weight of your cravings for late night donuts (again!)? Instead of chastising your lack of willpower, treat yourself to an Accountability Buddy. If you've set a goal for yourself, having a safe, trustworthy partner who can serve as your very own nonjudgmental mirror can be unbelievably helpful. Cali and Barb dig into all the delicious details about these kinds of partnerships, and even challenge our preconceived notions about the different ways to put them to use… emotional support buddy anyone? Yes, please. Having a partner who's ready to share a goal and celebrate its achievement can be the secret ingredient you've been lacking in your efforts to finally crush that elusive goal.

Learning how to release toxic yuck and replace it with good stuff can be a challenge.  In this episode,  Cali and Barb move right into the subject of detoxing physically, mentally and emotionally.. How do we get back to what really matters when the stressors of life are constantly coming straight for us?  Barb and Cali share their personal detox ritual (hint: it often involves sauna, coffee and chit chat) and offer up some alternative rituals to take time to engage in that righteous circle of detox and replenishment. Did you know that infrared saunas are increasingly popular in the wellness community for a number of reasons, including the numerous health benefits..and let's face it, they just make you feel good! Cali & Barb mention a few favorites in this podcast like the Clearlight Sauna! There is also the HigherDOSE Infrared Sauna. If you don't have access to a sauna, Barb shares some creative detox & replenish rituals like hot + cold showers, drinking our favorite teas, etc. So give it a listen to find your personal pathway to feeling centered, clear, and grounded. 

In this episode, Cali and Barb dive deeper into mindset and the super cool idea of cognitive reframing. Episode 17 is all about how we can reframe our mindset around people, places, and events from our past, so we can more fully accept the nature of things as they are now in the present. If you ever find yourself routinely triggered by something, ask yourself, is this based on something happening right now, or is it bringing up an experience from my past that maybe I haven't totally dealt with yet? Changing your mindset around those triggers might just open up a whole new perspective and a slew of positive possibilities. And listen in for a chance to take advantage of free Chill Mindset tools through Clarity's friends and partners over at www.ALittleBitofChill.com You'll be seeing the world through a whole new lens in no time.  

 Now that Episode 15 has got us thinking and talking about our communities, it's only natural we segue into how we're communicating with the people around us. Or as Barb and Cali put it, “It's not what you're saying, it's how.” Are you stressed out? Feeling triggered? We've got news for you, it's no secret. Our emotional state easily seeps into our communications with everyone, from transactional conversations with the Starbucks barista to long chats with loved ones. How can we more healthily deal with our day and our feelings before they bleed into our interactions? Cali and Barb give us ideas on how to be present, be aware, and listen so we can be more effective communicators. And a nice side benefit of being a stellar communicator? Not experiencing those all-too-familiar aftershocks of regret about conversations where everything we said seemed to come out wrong. 

It's Season 2 ya'll! It's so good to be back with Barb and Cali for a little more Clarity. This season's themes will be Community, Communication, Healing and Mindset. First up for Barb and Cali is community. As we get older, our community can turn into a kind of hodge-podge collection of people from our past. Our family, friends from our college days, work friends, yoga friends, neighbors… We often just accept who is in our life without thinking about whether those relationships are serving us in their present state. But our community is something we can actually curate, and Cali + Barb tell us how. After all, you are the center of your own life, which gives you control over who is in it and what role they play.

Feeling overwhelmed? The pace of life isn't always at a speed we can handle, and when too much gets piled on our plate, or too many issues arise at once, it's easy to succumb to the paralysis and anxiety that comes with feeling emotionally overwhelmed. Cali and Barb guide us through how to take our anxiety off the table so we can take a step back and see things as they truly are. After breaking down the different ways life can overwhelm us, they offer up different, yet simple tools to find neutrality, take actionable steps to move forward, and keep our wits about us, no matter what life is dishing out.

In this episode, Cali and Barb guide you into giving yourself the ultimate gift—that of self-love and acceptance. We're all so used to judging everything around us, and saving the most potent criticism for ourselves. These judgy gymnastics lead us into an ever-repeating loop of negativity, shame, guilt, and denial. But in Cali and Barb's thoughtful style, we find out how to stop this shame loop once and for all. Packed with easy to follow tips on how to take your own side, even in your least proud moments, you'll soon be on your way to turning that negative self-talk into a voice brimming with compassion and understanding. 

In today's episode, Barb and Cali walk us through how to leave our metaphorical baggage at the door, no matter the situation. After explaining the different levels of baggage that we all may be carrying around, Cali and Barb then suggest useful habits to practice, so that we may put that baggage down once and for all. If you'd like some sage advice on ways to approach any new situation free from feeling held back by past experiences, then this helpful episode is a must.

Are the voices in your head judging you? In Episode 11, Cali and Barb tackle the most important relationship you'll have in your life—the one with yourself. They will offer insight into how to first bring awareness to the conversations you have in your mind, and then how to revise that self-talk if needed. They also provide guidance and tips on ways to fortify against the shame dragon or habitual catastrophizing, so that you can stop those negative thoughts cycles right in their tracks. 

Friendships. We need them, we love them, but do we ever really think about the different types of friends that come in and out of our life? In this episode, Cali and Barb walk y'all through types of friendships: friends that are with us for a Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime. Each friendship category is explained with nuance, and  are encouraged to think about what kinds of friendships they're putting their energy into? Are these relationships that have a balanced give and take? This is a thoughtful conversation on what friendships can provide, as well as what questions we should ask ourselves to guide us in these  vital relationships.