Mucked Up My Self-Care Podcast

Ever feel like the very act of planning self-care becomes another exhausting task on your to-do list? In this candid conversation, Jill and Linda explore the surprising paradox many moms face: sometimes our pursuit of self-care creates more pressure than relief. From decision fatigue to disappointment when plans fall through, we unpack why self-care sometimes feels like just another burden—and how to shift your approach for genuine restoration instead of more exhaustion.Episode Highlights:Delayed Exhaustion Is Real: Your body doesn't always process strain immediately. As Jill and Linda discovered, sometimes the exhaustion from challenging events hits hardest two days later—making preventative self-care even more important than reactive care.Decision Fatigue Matters: The mental load of deciding what self-care you need can itself become draining. As Linda points out, "Making the decisions to do self-care is exhausting," especially when you're already depleted.Flexibility Prevents Disappointment: When Jill's planned self-care night was canceled due to snow, she pivoted to a simpler alternative—early bedtime. Learning to adapt your self-care expectations helps prevent the emotional drain of disappointment.Quick Decisions Can Save Energy: Linda demonstrates the power of decisive action when she's depleted: "Toasted sandwiches for dinner, Bluey for the kids, and 30 minutes with my book." No overthinking required—just a rapid shift to protection mode.Self-Care Gets Easier: Both hosts agree that while self-care felt exhausting during early motherhood years, it becomes more intuitive and energizing as you develop your practice. What once drained you can become your source of restoration.Moving Forward:If you find yourself exhausted by the very thought of self-care, you're not alone—and we have solutions. We've compiled our top ten simple, free, and readily available self-care practices that require minimal decision-making energy. Reach out through our email (in the show notes) or on social media, and we'll send you this list to eliminate the decision fatigue. Remember: true self-care shouldn't drain you further—it should provide the exact kind of restoration your body and spirit need in this season of motherhood.You don't have to figure this out alone. Sometimes, the most powerful self-care is simply accepting support when it's offered.Connect with us:Please email your questions to muckedupyourselfcare@gmail.comJoin the conversation about what intentional self-care means to you.You can also find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

In this episode following our milestone 100th celebration, Jill and Linda dive into the vulnerable aftermath of putting yourself out there. Whether it's hosting an event, reaching a significant milestone, or simply stepping outside your comfort zone, the emotional toll often goes unaddressed. The raw conversation explores how to navigate the melty feelings that follow moments of visibility while balancing the needs of those around you.Key TakeawaysVulnerability requires recovery time - After putting yourself in the spotlight or reaching a milestone, your emotional reserves need replenishing. Both hosts share how they experienced this following their 100th episode celebration.Others' reactions can complicate your self-care - Linda opens up about the challenge of practicing self-care when those around you might feel confronted by your success or achievements. Navigating others' reactions while honoring your own needs requires careful boundaries.Children can be perfect self-care buddies - Both hosts find that immersing themselves with their children after emotionally demanding events provides natural self-care. Reading, singing, and simply being present with kids offers genuine connection when you're feeling vulnerable.Plan buffers around big moments - Schedule intentional recovery time before and after putting yourself out there. Whether it's quiet time alone or joyful connection with loved ones, anticipate your needs in advance.Recognize when melty feelings belong to someone else - An important skill is differentiating between your own emotional needs and those of others around you. While you can offer support, you aren't responsible for managing everyone else's feelings.Moving ForwardThe vulnerability that comes with putting yourself out there is worth it, even when the recovery isn't perfect. As you navigate your own self-care journey, remember that it's okay to prioritize your emotional wellbeing after moments of visibility or achievement. Try creating a simple plan for your next big moment—identify what you'll need before and after, communicate those needs clearly, and be gentle with yourself in the process.Your self-care practice is unique to you. We're walking this journey together, figuring it out as we go—messy, interrupted, imperfect, and beautifully mucked up. Join us next week as we continue exploring the art of caring for ourselves while caring for everyone else.The Mucked Up My Self-Care podcast with Jill and Linda explores the messy reality of building self-care habits as busy moms, delivered with authenticity and heart from opposite sides of the world.Connect with us on social media to share your self-care wins and struggles. Remember, as we've learned over these 100+ episodes, there are no rules – it's okay to muck it up rather than get it right.Email us muckedupmyselfcare@gmail.comConnect with Jill via her website www.mamaoutspoken.comConnect with Linda on Substack www.conversationsforgrowth.com

The 100th episode of the mucked up my self-care podcast certainly aligned with our vision and realities. From technical hiccups to sick children in the background, our 100th episode celebration embodied everything the Mucked Up My Self Care Podcast stands for – real, interrupted, and beautifully imperfect self-care. Join hosts Jill and Linda as they reflect on their two-year journey, sharing vulnerable moments and profound revelations that have shaped not just their podcast, but their approach to motherhood, entrepreneurship, and self-care.Key TakeawaysSelf-care doesn't require perfection. Through 100 episodes and nearly 40 hours of recorded conversations, Jill and Linda have discovered that self-care isn't about yoga retreats and spa days. It's about finding small moments throughout your day – even while picking up dog poop barefoot in the grass – and embracing the interruptions rather than fighting against them.We're all "born" alongside our children. As Jill beautifully reflected, "I was born at the same time that my son was born as a mom." Each new phase of motherhood requires a rebirth, learning to process emotions and prioritize ourselves in entirely new ways. This perspective gives us permission to be beginners again and again.Creating your village is essential work. The podcast itself has become a form of community care, bridging the gap for mothers seeking connection. As one listener noted, "It took a while to create a village because I couldn't find a village." This shared experience of searching for and building support systems validates the struggle many mothers face.Reliability comes in unexpected forms. Despite the chaos of life with children, recording 100 episodes across 677 days has become a source of reliability and self-care for both hosts. Their weekly conversations have fostered friendship, accountability, and a space to prioritize themselves amid the demands of motherhood and entrepreneurship.Our approach to self-care evolves. From basic needs like showering in the early postpartum days to embracing "rage vacuuming" as a legitimate form of emotional release, the hosts have expanded their definition of self-care. These evolving perspectives remind us that self-care looks different in different seasons.Keep Unstucking Your Muck!As we celebrate this milestone, we invite you to join our self-care village for the next 100 episodes. Whether you're a first-time listener or have been with us since episode one, there's a place for you in this conversation about messy, interrupted, imperfect self-care.Connect with us on social media to share your self-care wins and struggles. Remember, as we've learned over these 100 episodes, there are no rules – it's okay to muck it up rather than get it right.Email us muckedupmyselfcare@gmail.comConnect with Jill www.mamaoutspoken.comConnect with Linda www.conversationsforgrowth.comHeard in 30+ countries and counting – thank you for making our podcast part of your self-care journey!

In our 99th episode, Jill and Linda explore how collaboration can be a powerful form of self-care for moms. As we all navigate the exhaustion and demands of motherhood, finding ways to share the load with others isn't just practical—it's essential for our wellbeing. From carpooling arrangements to podcast partnerships, this conversation reveals how connecting with others helps lighten our burdens while strengthening our relationships.Episode Highlights:Collaboration as Load-Sharing: Discover how simple arrangements like carpooling for kids' activities can create breathing room in your schedule while building community with other parents.Start Small and Time-Limited: When beginning new collaborative efforts, consider starting with a defined timeframe (like a 6-week commitment) to reduce pressure and make it easier to say "yes."Relationship First, Plan Second: The strongest collaborations protect the relationship above all else. As Linda points out, "The plan is something that we just follow the rules on so we can protect our relationship."Finding the Overlap: Before diving into collaboration, identify where your "whys" match up with potential partners. Jill and Linda share how they used a Venn diagram to discover shared goals before starting their podcast.Accept Help Without Guilt: Jill's example of neighborhood childcare swapping reminds us that allowing others to help isn't a burden—it often provides mutual benefits that serve everyone involved.Moving Forward:If you're feeling overwhelmed by your to-do list, consider what burdens you could share with someone else this week. Even small acts of collaboration can provide meaningful relief. As we prepare for our milestone 100th episode featuring special guest listeners, we invite you to reflect on your own collaborative experiences. How might you create more "light lifts" in your life by connecting with others?Reach out through our show notes email or social channels to share your thoughts—we'd love to hear how you're using collaboration as self-care in your own motherhood journey!Remember: You don't have to do it all alone. That's not just good advice—it's good self-care.Connect with us:Email your questions for our 100th episode to muckedupyourselfcare@gmail.comJoin the conversation about what intentional self-care means to you.You can also find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

In this candid conversation, Jill and Linda dive deep into what it truly means to practice intentional self-care as busy moms. Moving beyond the superficial "just take a walk" advice, they explore how being purposeful with our self-care can transform everyday moments into meaningful experiences that fill our cups – even when things don't go as planned (like shower time with toddlers!).Key TakeawaysThe Power of Purpose in Self-CareNot all self-care is created equal. While activities like walking or spending time outdoors can be beneficial, setting a clear intention behind these moments – like using a walk to clear your mind or connect with your child – can dramatically enhance their impact on your wellbeing.Finding Self-Care in Unexpected PlacesSelf-care doesn't always need to be flamboyant or done in solitude. Sometimes it's found in multitasking moments, like grounding yourself while doing yard work, or discovering joy in a shared shower with your little ones when your original "me-time" plans get derailed.The Connection FactorFor many moms, meaningful connection is a vital form of self-care. Whether it's a half-hour chat with a friend or participating in a mastermind group, these social interactions can revitalize us in unique ways that complement our solo self-care practices.Managing Expectations vs. Setting IntentionsWhile having intentions for your self-care is valuable, setting rigid expectations about how you'll feel afterward can lead to disappointment. The key is to remain flexible and open to the benefits that emerge naturally from your self-care practices.Your Self-Care Journey ContinuesRemember, your self-care journey is uniquely yours – what works for someone else might not work for you, and that's perfectly okay. As you explore different ways to incorporate intentional self-care into your life, stay curious about what truly fills your cup and be gentle with yourself when things don't go as planned.Have questions about self-care or want to share your own experiences? We'd love to hear from you! Send us your questions and insights for our upcoming 100th episode celebration. Your story might be exactly what another mom needs to hear.Connect with us:Email your questions for our 100th episode to muckedupyourselfcare@gmail.comJoin the conversation about what intentional self-care means to you.You can also find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Ever feel like you're juggling a million pieces of your life, trying to keep them all perfectly balanced—only to have a toddler flood the laundry room or a child need an emergency trip to the hospital? Jill and Linda dive into the myth of balance and explore a more realistic approach to self-care for moms. Through their own daily struggles and victories, they reveal why chasing perfect balance might be holding us back from true self-care.Key Insights from This Episode:Rethinking Balance vs. HarmonyThe traditional idea of "balance" implies equal parts and perfect equilibrium—something that rarely exists in motherhood. Instead, consider viewing self-care through the lens of harmony, where different elements of life flow together naturally, even if not equally.Energy-Based Self-CareYour self-care needs shift with your energy levels. Some days require more intentional care than others. Learning to read and respond to your own energy patterns can help you better integrate self-care into your daily life, rather than forcing it into predetermined time slots.Embracing Flexibility Over FairnessLet go of the idea that self-care must be "earned" or balanced against your productivity. Your need for self-care isn't a transaction—it's a fundamental part of motherhood that deserves space regardless of what you've "accomplished" that day.Seasonal Self-CareWhat works during school term might not work during holidays. What serves you during toddlerhood might not serve you during the teen years. Allow your self-care practice to evolve with your family's changing seasons and needs.Moving Forward TogetherRemember, you're not alone in this journey of figuring out what self-care looks like in the beautiful messiness of motherhood. Whether you're stealing five minutes in the bathroom (usually with an audience!) or finding creative ways to recharge between school pickup and activities, every small act of self-care counts.We'd love to hear your thoughts!As we approach our 100th episode, we're inviting listeners to share their questions and experiences. Email us your questions about motherhood, self-care, or anything you'd like us to address in our celebration episode. Email us at muckedupmyselfcare@gmail.com.You can also find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!Join us next week as we continue to unstuck our muck together!

"You probably don't even realize that you're doing the self-care that you are doing."This week, Jill and Linda challenge the Pinterest-perfect version of self-care, trading Instagram filters for real talk about finding moments of peace in the chaos of motherhood. From monster truck shows to firework displays, they explore how true self-care often shows up in unexpected ways – and why the best "secrets" might not be secrets at all.Key TakeawaysSeeing Through Your Child's EyesWatch your kid's face light up at fireworks, and you'll catch a glimpse of what pure joy looks like. Jill and Linda discuss how tapping into your child's natural wonder can reshape your own approach to self-care, making everyday moments feel extraordinary.Reframing Daily RitualsThat morning walk you squeeze in? It counts. The five minutes of peace in your parked car? That counts too. Learn how to spot the self-care you're already doing and transform routine tasks into moments that actually fill your cup.The Permission to Keep It SimpleForget the pressure to make self-care Instagram-worthy. Sometimes the most effective self-care looks like sitting in your driveway with a project you love, or finding ten minutes to read between loads of laundry. The magic happens when you stop following someone else's blueprint.Building Trust in Self-Care ConversationsWhy do we whisper about taking time for ourselves? Jill and Linda dive into the complexity of sharing self-care wins without coming across as boastful, and how to create genuine connections with other moms around this topic.Moving ForwardYou're probably doing more self-care than you give yourself credit for. Instead of adding another item to your to-do list, try noticing the moments that already bring you peace. What if the secret to better self-care isn't about doing more, but about recognizing and protecting the little pieces of joy you've already carved out?As we approach our 100th episode, we're inviting listeners to share their questions and experiences. Email us your questions about motherhood, self-care, or anything you'd like us to address in our celebration episode. Email us at muckedupmyselfcare@gmail.com.You can also find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!Unstuck your muck with Jill and Linda every week on the Mucked Up My Self-Care Podcast, where we're figuring out this whole self-care thing right alongside you.

Jill and Linda peel back the layers of what it truly means to be vulnerable while trying to maintain self-care as a mother. From managing household chaos to handling hormonal challenges, they share their personal struggles with the constant pressure to "keep it all together." Their conversation reveals what many moms experience but rarely voice: those moments when everything feels like it's falling apart, and finding time for self-care seems impossible.Hear about:The Mental Load Runs DeepBehind every simple task like changing sheets lies an intricate web of mental labor - from remembering when they were last changed to knowing each family member's preferences. This invisible work often goes unrecognized but significantly impacts a mother's capacity for self-care.Hormonal Cycles Impact VulnerabilityBoth hosts openly discuss how their menstrual cycles affect their emotional resilience, particularly in high-pressure situations like managing children's behavior in public spaces. Recognizing these patterns helps in planning and managing self-care needs during challenging times.Team Effort Makes a DifferenceLinda shares a powerful example of how her children pitched in during an overwhelming moment, demonstrating that involving the whole family in household management can create beautiful moments of connection and support. However, one negative comment can quickly unravel that progress.Communication ChallengesThe discussion highlights how tone and delivery when asking for help can create tension in relationships, affecting both partnerships and parent-child interactions. This communication struggle often leads to mothers taking on more responsibility rather than continuing to ask for support.Your journey through motherhood's vulnerable moments isn't meant to be walked alone. Whether you're feeling overwhelmed by the mental load or struggling to find moments for self-care, remember that these experiences are shared by mothers worldwide. Join our community by following us on social media or sharing your own vulnerability story. Tune in next week as we continue these important conversations about motherhood and self-care.Connect with us:Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda at www.lindabonney.com.Resources mentioned in this episode:Jill and Bobby's Mama Outspoken Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mama-outspoken-podcast/id1576913893Linda's Substack article about care and mental load: https://www.conversationsforgrowth.com/p/reimagining-care-in-a-world-that?r=19nixhUntil next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Sometimes the last thing we want to hear when we're frustrated is "try some self-care." In this episode, Jill and Linda tackle the complex relationship between venting and caring for ourselves. Through stories of messy kitchens, interrupted plans, and late-night conversations, they explore how expressing our frustrations can either help or hinder our wellbeing.Key Insights from Our ConversationThe Fine Line Between Venting and ComplainingThere's a distinction between releasing built-up tension and falling into negative thought patterns. The hosts discuss how controlled venting can clear mental space for problem-solving, while endless complaints might reinforce unhelpful beliefs.Creating Safe SpacesFrom postpartum support groups to late-night talks with partners, having designated spaces to share struggles allows us to process emotions without judgment. These moments of connection often become their own form of self-care.When Emotions Get StuckRepressed feelings tend to "splatter like slime" in unexpected ways. The hosts share personal experiences of holding things in too long and the importance of finding healthy outlets before reaching breaking point.The Balance of Giving and Receiving SupportWhile many of us readily offer a listening ear to others, we often hesitate to share our own struggles. The conversation explores why we might guard our vulnerabilities and how to build trust within our support networks.Your Invitation to Find BalanceConsider how venting fits into your self-care routine. Maybe it's sharing highs and lows with a trusted friend, joining a supportive group, or writing down frustrations before they overflow. Remember that expressing feelings and caring for yourself aren't mutually exclusive – sometimes they're exactly the same thing.Join us in celebrating our upcoming 100th episode, where we'll continue exploring the real, messy, and vital aspects of caring for ourselves as parents. Stay tuned for special events and opportunities to connect with our community.Ready to explore the connection between expressing yourself and self-care? Tune in next week as we continue to "unstuck your muck" and navigate parenthood together.Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda at www.lindabonney.com.

What would self-care look like if we approached it as we would a new acquaintance? In this episode, Jill and Linda explore this question through their own experiences - from finding unexpected reading moments during summer play to recognizing how we speak differently about self-care to others versus ourselves. Their conversation reveals fresh perspectives on making self-care feel less like an obligation and more like a welcome presence in our lives.Key Insights from Our ConversationMaking Space for What MattersLinda shares how she's adapted her reading habits, keeping a book by the door instead of reaching for her phone during outdoor playtime with her children. This small shift shows how self-care can fit naturally into our daily rhythms rather than requiring dramatic lifestyle changes.Speaking Our Self-Care Out LoudWhen we name our self-care actions - whether at a business, the skate park, or during family time - we normalize it for others and ourselves. Jill describes how her son now understands and can explain to others what self-care means, creating a ripple effect of awareness and permission.Finding Familiarity in the UnfamiliarSometimes self-care feels strange, like during six days of caring for a sick child. The hosts discuss how these moments, though challenging, can teach us new ways to rest and care for ourselves within difficult circumstances.Changing the NarrativeRather than viewing self-care as a distant concept or an intimidating stranger, we can approach it with curiosity and openness. It might appear as a mirror showing us what we need, or as a wise grandmother figure offering gentle guidance based on lived experience. Your Invitation to Self-CareConsider how you might welcome self-care into your life this week. Perhaps it's bringing a book outside during playtime, speaking openly about your need for rest, or simply acknowledging that sometimes self-care looks different than expected. Remember, like any new relationship, your connection with self-care can grow stronger with time and attention.Join us for our upcoming 100th episode celebration, where we'll be exploring new ways to understand and embrace self-care. Stay tuned for special events and collaborative opportunities as we continue building this community together.Ready to make self-care feel more familiar? Tune in next week as we continue to "unstuck your muck" and explore practical ways to care for ourselves and our families.Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda at www.lindabonney.com.

In this episode, Jill and Linda talk about what it truly means to lead by example when it comes to self-care. They explore how mothers can embrace and model self-care in ways that ripple through their families and communities. This isn't about perfect Instagram-worthy wellness routines; it's about the messy, real-life ways we take care of ourselves and inspire others along the way.Key Insights from Our ConversationThe Power of Accepting HelpWhen Linda encountered a kind stranger at the hairdresser who helped entertain her children, she discovered that sometimes self-care means letting others step into our village – even temporarily. This beautiful moment reminded us that leadership in self-care often starts with being vulnerable enough to accept support when it's offered.Redefining What Self-Care Looks LikeThrough their candid discussion, Jill and Linda challenge the notion that self-care must be Instagram-perfect or expensive. Sometimes, it's as simple as finding joy in napping after a busy week or feeling the grass beneath your feet while doing mundane tasks. It's about finding what genuinely replenishes your energy, no matter how unconventional it might seem.Modeling Self-Care for the Next GenerationThe hosts share how their children are learning about self-care through observation. When Jill's son recognizes "daddy's self-care time," it demonstrates how openly discussing and practicing self-care can normalize it for our children, creating a lasting impact on future generations.Creating ChangeBy sharing their struggles and victories, both hosts emphasize how being authentic about our self-care journey can inspire others. Whether it's through random acts of kindness, honest conversations, or simply showing up imperfectly, every small action creates a ripple effect in our communities.Ready to become a self-care leader in your own life? Start by identifying one small way you can model self-care this week – whether it's accepting help from a neighbor, taking that much-needed nap, or having an open conversation with your children about why you need quiet time. Remember, you're not just taking care of yourself; you're showing others that it's okay – and essential – to do the same.Your journey matters, and we'd love to hear how you're leading the way in self-care. Join our conversation and connect with other moms who are navigating this path together. Together, we're building a community where self-care isn't selfish – it's necessary to be the mothers, leaders, and humans we want to be.Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.comLinda at www.lindabonney.comTune in next week as we continue to explore ways to "unstuck your muck" and create positive changes in your life.

Ever notice how your inner voice changes when you're running on empty? In this raw and honest episode, Jill and Linda dive deep into the complex relationship between self-care and the way we talk to ourselves. From sleep-deprived nights to moments of joy, they explore how our internal dialogue shapes our ability to prioritize self-care, especially during those challenging seasons of motherhood.Key Insights from Our Conversation:The Sleep-Care ConnectionSleep deprivation doesn't just affect our energy - it fundamentally changes how we speak to ourselves about self-care. We explore the delicate balance between rest and productivity, and why being gentle with ourselves during these periods isn't just nice, it's necessary.The Double Standard of Self-CareWe often give our friends permission to rest and recharge, yet struggle to extend that same compassion to ourselves. Learn how to recognize this pattern and start treating yourself with the same kindness you offer others.Making Self-Care VisibleSomething powerful happens when we name our self-care moments out loud. Whether it's calling a walk in the sunshine "self-care" or celebrating small moments of rest, actively acknowledging these choices helps validate their importance in our lives.The Power of Genuine DialogueNot all self-care mantras are created equal. We discuss why authentic, believable self-talk matters more than generic affirmations, and how to develop a more honest conversation with yourself about your needs.Your Next StepsYou're not alone in this journey of balancing self-care with the demands of motherhood. Whether you're thriving or just surviving today, we invite you to join our growing community of moms who are learning to unstuck their muck together. Share your thoughts on self-care dialogue with us. What resonates? What challenges you?Connect with us through email or social media (find all our details in the links below), and let's continue this conversation. Remember, your self-care journey doesn't have to be perfect to be valuable.Resources & Connect With Us:Email: muckedupmyselfcare@gmail.comHosts: Jill (New York) & Linda (Tasmania)Join our communities: Jill on Instagram at @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda on Twitter @_lindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Motherhood is full of moving parts, and sometimes, self-care feels like just another thing to add to the list. In this episode, Jill and Linda explore how self-care can fit into the everyday, even when life feels overwhelming. From joyful family moments to recognizing when to slow down, they reflect on the little things that make a difference.In This Episode:How family playtime can unexpectedly refill your cup (even if it's just a game of laser tag).The hidden ways we practice self-care without even realizing it.Why small habits, like taking a walk or reading, matter more than spa days and retreats.Managing the weight of daily responsibilities without burning out.Letting go of the idea that self-care has to be structured or planned.Self-care doesn't always look like what we expect. Sometimes, it's as simple as recognizing the little wins in your day. Like sitting down for five quiet minutes or sharing a laugh with your kids.We would love to hear from you. Find find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck!

In this episode, Jill and Linda are diving into the real benefits of self-care. The kind that gets you through those melty moments and helps you feel more like yourself again. The post-holiday chaos or the daily juggle of motherhood, we chat about why self-care is necessary.Our 5 benefits are not one and done. In fact, we feel that we could have easily listed 50 benefits of self-care (which would have made a very LONG episode). Here's what you can hear about in this episode.Energy Replenishment – How self-care helps you bounce back after big events (or big meltdowns).Building Better Neural Pathways – Small, intentional acts of care can shift your mindset in surprising ways.Less Eggshells – When you care for yourself, you're less on edge (and so is everyone else).Understanding Yourself Better – Self-care reveals what truly fills your cup (and what doesn't).Gentler Parenting – A little care for you leads to more patience and compassion for them.We're all about making self-care realistic, imperfect, and sometimes even messy and we'd love to hear what self-care looks like for you. What benefits have you noticed in your life? Share with us by reaching out or leaving a comment.Find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.And if you're craving more inspiration, check out episodes 42 and 43, where we share our personal top five self-care activities.https://mucked-up-my-self-care.captivate.fm/episode/jills-top-5-self-care-activities/https://mucked-up-my-self-care.captivate.fm/episode/lindas-top-5-self-care-activities/Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck!

As we wrap up 2024, Jill and Linda reflect on the highs and lows of the season. From sweet family traditions to the sometimes overwhelming need for solitude and balance. This episode concentrates on the real and relatable side of self-care, especially during the holidays when indulgence can sneak in under the guise of relaxation.The joy of family time, but also the need for space and quiet.The delicate balance between guiding little ones and managing their endless energy.Recognizing when self-care crosses into habits that leave us feeling worse, like too much social media scrolling or late-night Netflix binges.Small shifts to replenish energy without the guilt spiral.How to step into 2025 with intention, leaving the less helpful habits behind.As you reflect on your own self-care this season, we invite you to take stock of what truly fills your cup. Sometimes, the best self-care isn't what's easy but what nurtures you long-term.Take a moment this week to identify one small way to refresh your self-care routine. Share it with us – we'd love to hear how you're resetting for the year ahead.Thank you for spending this year with us. We're so grateful for our community of moms showing up, even in the muck of it all.Find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.See you in 2025 for more honest, imperfect self-care chats.

It's Christmas again for the Mucked Up My Self-Care Podcast. In this short special pre-holiday chat, we discuss what self-care means to us during this busy time.The joy of finishing work projects to the stress of unexpected family health issues.Letting go of guilt and embracing small moments of joy and quiet.Why normalizing conversations around rest and well-being can benefit the whole family.Christmas wishes for self-care. Jill and Linda share their hopes for more collective kindness and less internal criticism as we move forward.This episode is a gentle reminder that self-care doesn't have to be perfect or elaborate. Sometimes, it's about finding small joys and giving ourselves permission to pause.We'd love to hear from you! Share your self-care intentions for the holiday season by tagging us on social media or sending a message. If this episode resonated with you, consider sharing it with another mom who could use a little extra self-care this season.Find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.Until next time, may your holiday be full of moments that refill your cup. Merry Christmas from us to you!

This week, Jill and Linda dive into the messy, often interrupted journey of building resilience as moms and how self-care plays a pivotal role. From car troubles to toddler birthday cake improvisations, we share the highs and lows of parenting and how embracing imperfection helps us grow stronger. Here's what we unpack in this episode:How self-care is not just about pampering but building the emotional and physical stamina to handle life's chaos.Sharing the realities of parenting wins and setbacks, including creative cake fixes and resting through sickness.How setting personal incentives can help us prioritize self-care amidst busy schedules, and why boundaries matter for moms and kids alike.Navigating tantrums, hunger-fueled emotions, and how meeting basic needs connects to emotional resilience.Balancing emotional expression with boundaries and learning to parent while reparenting ourselves.Resilience doesn't mean avoiding emotions but learning to navigate them. Sometimes, having snacks at the ready (for kids and moms alike!) can be a game-changer.Are you navigating the beautiful, messy balance of motherhood and self-care? Share your thoughts with us—we'd love to hear from you! Send us a message or drop us a line in our inbox. Let's continue the conversation and keep mucking through this together.Find find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck!

The leading question in this episode is a slightly different take. We wonder what happens when we don't practice self-care. Most of us have been there, and Jill and Linda are no exception. While thinking about this question, we talk about several topics including:How we are more likely to engage in distractions and unhealthy behaviours such as scrolling or eating too much ice cream.The energy and bandwidth suck when we don't practice self-care, and on the other side, the energy it can take sometimes to do self-care in the first place.How little things may aggravate you more than they normally do.The example we are setting for our kids when we don't practice self-care.How do our bodies tell us/show us?Sleep and routines, how they affect our attitudes and general outlook when it comes to self-care.We would love to hear from you. Find find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Stress. It manifests physically, impacts decision-making, and leads to reactive behaviors and pushing our boundaries. In this episode Jill and Linda talk about stress from their own perspectives and provide insights into managing stress, the importance of self-care, and invite listeners to reflect on their own experiences with stress. Tune in to hear about:Jill shares the thrill of her first-ever book talk, stepping outside her comfort zone to connect with others and embrace new opportunities.From Halloween meltdowns to calendar overwhelm, we discuss the importance of leaving space to breathe and regroup amidst life's demands.Learn how stress can test or strengthen your boundaries and how setting realistic expectations helps reduce unnecessary pressure.Stress affects more than your mood—it impacts your physical health. Recognizing the signs, from foggy thinking to stress pimples, is key to holistic self-care.Discover how sudden stress reactions can confuse loved ones and how open communication fosters understanding and support.Your well-being matters just as much as everyone else's. Stress and self-care are part of the motherhood journey, and this episode invites you to reflect on your own experiences. What boundaries do you need to strengthen, and how can you better tune into your body's needs?We would love to hear from you. Find find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck!

In this episode, we continue our discussion around the question - why is self-care so hard? This is part two, after episode one of last week, in which Jill and Linda found there was actually quite a lot to talk about when it comes to the hard side of self-care. Afterall, self-care isn't meant to be 'hard', is it? Hear all about topics such as:Hard things in parallel with good things, such as allergies and encouragement and sleeplessness and arcade games.Constant interruptions and noise around us.Waiting for the 'right' time and for things to be perfect.Self-care bandwidth (or lack of)Social media making self-care look easier than it actually is and also only showing the self-care activity itself and not the logistics of making it happen and the 'hard' bits behind the scenes.Expectations. One word with big associations and big conversations.Regulation of emotions and feeling like me are insane and crazy.Talking ourselves into thinking that it is hard and feeling guilty if it doesn't happen.Is self-care really as hard as we make it out to be? We think both yes and no in answer to this question. What about you?We would love to hear from you. Find find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.

Why can self-care be so difficult to maintain? Should it really be this hard? Jill and Linda still wonder about these questions, even after 82 episodes of talking openly about these questions. Today's episode is no different, as we dive into the challenges and hard side of self-care. Take a listen as we chat about:All the different things we need to do before we can do something.The self-talk about how hard it is and how much this can cause a delay.Freedom to get up and go do something for ourselves, the changes and shifts that happen as mothers in this regard and for our self-care.Competing priorities and needs. Especially when we are at the stage where we are feeling like it is hard to manage and need to get some self-care time.Making self-care second nature and more of a habit, rather than another thing to remember.We hope this conversation encourages you to remember that self-care isn't always easy and even small acts of self-care can make a big difference. We look forward to joining you for part two next week!We would love to hear from you. Find find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.

It's no joke. Motherhood is full of intense emotional moments. Not only for us, but also from our kids as well. Jill and Linda both have had a lot of practice when it comes to emotions and now talking about self-care adds a whole new level to the conversation. Listen in as we talk about:What is 'too emotional'?The stereotypical labels that are placed on us, both from ourselves, others and society.Do we let our emotions determine the kind of self-care that we do? Or whether we do any at all?Do we need to be regulated to have effective self-care?Knowing that self-care is needed when we are too emotional or our kidsIs sleep your go to self-care when you are 'too emotional'?Different range of emotions - often we can only focus on the negative or bigger ones.Getting out of the funk.We would love to hear from you. Find find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Both Jill and Linda often refer to the concept of 'melty', which refers to the heightened emotional states following significant events or intense shifts in energy. In this episode, we're discussing the concept and unpacking it a bit further as we chat about:Personal stories and recent experiences with memorable family outings and unexpected challenges.What it means to be ‘melty' and why it's so common during transitions.Practical self-care tips for new mums to manage emotional ups and downs.The importance of noticing and accepting ‘melty' moments to stay balanced.We would love to hear from you. Find find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Jill feels like she's spent an entire day yelling back and forth because of blocked ears, sickness and more and Linda has spent an hour with two kids scrambling around the car while waiting for an appointment. Far from the picture of loving yourself as self-care that we are talking about in this episode. Yet, after sharing our highs and lows, we dive in and think about what loving ourselves actually looks like. What it actually means. We chat about things such as:The age-old saying of self-care isn't selfish and often we need to put ourselves first.Mothering (and loving) the mother and taking care of ourselves too.Acceptance. Recognising where you are and what season you are in. Whether it be sickness, being overwhelmed, or chucking your weekly plans in the bin.Expectations of ourselves and our self-care.We would love to hear from you. Find find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

If you Google the word "support," there's a description that says something like a thing that bears the weight of something or keeps it upright. Regarding supportive self-care, how can we practice self-care without bearing all the weight and still stay upright in the process? These are hard questions to ponder as Jill and Linda dive into another discussion and talk about:Practical ways in which we support ourselves and others, such as cooking a meal for someone, offering to look after an extra kid or two, and cleaning out a car.The nuances that are unsaid and unwritten when it comes to supportive self-care.How hard it can be to accept help, especially when we are sick or tired or unsure if we are a burden.Spending time alone to support ourselves and others, when its quicker and easier to get things done rather than having extra company alongside.Checking in to our immediate reactions to events or when self-care is mucked up and doesn't go as planned.Continuing to have conversations and feel seen and understood.We would love to hear from you. Find find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Hands up if you have faced the challenges of being sick as a parent? Extra hands up if you also struggle to fit in self-care when managing your health at the same time. Today Jill and Linda have thrown a spanner in the works and changed the episode title right on the line. Based on first hand experience, today's episode is talking about self-care when you're sick. Listen in as we talk about:What support looks like when you're sick and the importance of accepting help.Permission to drop the ball and rest. A reminder that we all need at times.Passing sickness around. How to navigate that and our own conflicts when it comes to self-care.Unsaid, unwritten and understood self-care of ourselves when we are sick.If you are sick when listening to this, please know that you are not alone. We would love to hear from you. Find find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.com.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

How do we incorporate self-care into our busy lives? It's a question that mamas across the world possibly ask countless times every day. Jill and Linda are making time today to have this conversation as they touch on their personal journeys and what they have learnt along the way. Tune in to hear about:Is self-care easier to plan on the calendar or leave white space available for it?Saying yes to self-care can sometimes mean saying no to other things.Sometimes, we think self-care takes longer than it does.The time we spend thinking about self-care compared to doing it can be significant, and it requires some honest examination.Motivation? Does this matter?Life demands always seem to be more important.Mothers' needs (self-care) often take a backseat to others.We continue to learn and do our best, especially when making time for self-care. We would love you to join the conversations and email us at muckedupmyselfcare@gmail.com with any questions, suggestions, or comments from this episode.Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.comUntil next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

As Linda approaches another school holidays and Jill is just off the back of one, today we are talking all about self-care activities at home. In the 75 episodes so far, we've realised that self-care at home has changed for both of us, which makes for an interesting conversation as we talk about:Guilt and priorities when it comes to house maintenance and chores and the distractions that can prevent us from getting true self-care moments.Doing self-care alongside our kids. What that looks like in reality, especially if our kids are sick.Being mindful of what we can accept and involve as self-care when it's harder at home with everything else around us.Mapping out our days and planning for spontaneity or when things get really mucked upMusic! How it adds an extra layer of enjoyment at home alongside other activities.We continue to learn and do our best and we would love you to join the conversations and email us at muckedupmyselfcare@gmail.com with any questions, suggestions, or comments from this episode.Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/ and Linda @hellolindabonney or https://www.lindabonney.comUntil next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Each episode Jill and Linda start the conversation by sharing recent highs and lows that are currently happening all around them. Why do we do this? To appreciate, acknowledge and understand that there are several aspects to self-care and parenting and life is 'real' in the fact that we can't just focus on one particular area. There are times when we are left unsatisfied that we didn't get the outcome we were hoping for. On the flipside, even if it doesn't work out the way we were hoping, there are still moments of joy and appreciation that things are working out differently. Listen in as we chat about the highs and lows and talk about:Starting the school year strong, even with mishaps along the way.When each time we sit down there is something being destroyed, destructed, ripped up, torn down and how we can turn that around.How in each bad day there can be good moments.It is important to talk it out and have support when we are stuck in lows and celebrating highs.The reality of mucked-up motherhood and self-care.We continue to learn and do our best and we would love you to join the conversations and email us at muckedupmyselfcare@gmail.com with any questions, suggestions, or comments from this episode.Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Do you feel comfortable getting told you are a good Mum/Mom? Yes, we're going with both versions today being that we are connecting across the globe for this conversation. Often we can get told one thing and think another, and parenting is no different. Jill and Linda think about what this phrase means for both of them as the conversation takes on a form of its own. Included inside this episode, we talk about:When you're crazy, stressed and ready to pack it all in and feel the need to defend yourself when someone says ‘you're doing great!'Getting kids into the car is a marathon in itself.The old saying ‘you're going to miss these days' when we have next to no energy and have so much happening around us.Does consistent self-care make you a good mum? Is it even possible?Superhero images and comparisons we make. Even between good and bad, each perspective may be different.We continue to learn and do our best and we would love you to join the conversations and email us at muckedupmyselfcare@gmail.com with any questions, suggestions, or comments from this episode.Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Self-care has become quite a buzz word these days and we are often led to believe that self-care can cure burn out, depression, anxiety, and other effects of living in a society built on imperialism. The narrative suggests that these issues can be easily solved by finding the perfect self-care routine or just setting better boundaries (another form of "self-care"). However, this oversimplifies the root causes of such problems and shifts the blame onto individuals rather than addressing systemic issues. Jill and Linda are discussing the narratives we often hear surrounding self-care in this episode and talk about:That there is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to the meaning of self-care.Our interpretations and perspectives of self-care.Blaming ourselves when self-care gets mucked up and how we compare ourselves to others.Should we be putting the onus for change entirely on us?Switching something out for self-care.We are excited that the narrative of self-care has expanded and will continue to have conversations surrounding self-care and what it looks like for us.We encourage you to join the conversations and email us at muckedupmyselfcare@gmail.com with any questions, suggestions, or comments from this episode.Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

For today's episode, Jill and Linda are celebrating Self-Care for Lazy Moms Day which is celebrated on September 6th!We ask the serious questions and laugh a little at how we've possibly 'almost' forgotten what laziness looks like. Listen in as we talk about:Have you forgotten how to be lazy as a mama?Is self-care a form of laziness?Sleep. The Achilles heel of many mothers and lack of it is certainly apparent!What would a lazy day look like for you? We would genuinely love to know!We encourage you to open up the conversation and see what has been stirred up for you. We have been sharing self-care ideas throughout our episodes and if you would like to find out more, we would love you to reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com.Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

What does being self-aware mean? And why does it matter? Jill and Linda are exploring these very questions and more in today's episode of the Mucked Up My Self-Care episode. Listen in as we share our highs and lows, ride the conversation, and talk about:Recognising our personal needs and those of our children and others around us.Finding the balance between our kids becoming self-aware and still being there for them (while keeping our sanity in the process)Understanding basic needs and thinking in the moment.Being in tune with our bodies and needs. Specifically in pregnancy, physical fitness and strength, foods that we are eating.We would love to open up the conversation and see what has been stirred up for you. We have been sharing self-care ideas throughout our episodes and if you would like to find out more, we would love you to reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com.Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

In this episode, Jill and Linda discuss success and what it looks like regarding self-care. At the time of recording, we are hot off the end of a sticky note weekend where we put our priorities into perspective. Listen to this episode to hear more about:Figuring out how to fit more self-care into our days.Prioritising what needs to get done.Getting out of the mindset of to-do lists and endless lists of things to get done.Leadership and direction in parenting and successful self-care.Decision-making and our bandwidth.How success on some days can be different to success on others.We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along! Please reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com with any questions, suggestions, or comments from this episode.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Self-care and self-compassion sound interchangeable, but they have a distinction between thinking and doing. Self-compassion is regarding yourself compassionately. Self-care, by contrast, is treating yourself compassionately. Jill and Linda explore these concepts and thoughts aloud in conversation as they cover:Navigating the highs and lows of life, ranging from steam cleaning carpets to enjoying live music.Feeling overwhelmed when it comes to tantrums, routines and trying to find balance amongst it all.How does the quality of our self-care have the potential to impact our ability to extend compassion to ourselves and others?Consistent, meaningful self-care can indeed make it easier to practice self-compassion and manage difficult moments gracefully.Forgiving ourselves, giving ourselves grace and accepting others as part of the healing journey towards both more self-care and self-compassion.We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along! Please reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com with any questions, suggestions, or comments from this episode.Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Values. We often might loose sight of what is important to us when we become mamas. There are times when our values also become stronger as we become parents. In today's episode, Jill and Linda talk about personal values and ask questions such as:What are they right now?How did you work out what your values were?How are we living our personal values?Are they changing?What do they mean?How are we aligning with our values?And more…We would love to open up the conversation and see what has been stirred up for you. We have been sharing self-care ideas throughout our episodes and if you would like to find out more, we would love you to reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com.Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

What does it look like to pat yourself on your back? Is it easier for you to pat someone else on the back? Let's be honest for a hot minute, being a mama is a role that can be quite demanding and exhausting. It's easy to put everyone else's needs before our own, leaving us drained and sometimes even feeling guilty for wanting just a little bit of "me time." But the truth is, self-care isn't a luxury; it's a necessity. Jill and Linda discuss the concept of pat on the back self-care and talk about themes such as:Why we deserve self-careRecharging your batteries. You'll not be able to give your best to those who need you without some acknowledgement and acceptance.Integrating self-care into our lives by starting small. You don't have to overhaul your routine overnight. Begin by carving out small pockets of time dedicated to you, whether it's enjoying a cup of coffee in peace or reading a few pages of a great book.The importance of physical movement and activity.One of the biggest barriers to self-care is guilt. Pat addresses this by encouraging us to reframe our thinking.Self-care is about more than just treating ourselves; it's about preserving our health and happiness. By making self-care a priority, we're not only investing in our well-being but also setting a positive example for our children.We would love you to support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com, as well as Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.comUntil next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Often, we can feel 'broken'. Sounds a bit dull right? Especially when there are a lot of messages out there telling that us that we aren't broken at all. Yet amidst the emotions, hormones, rage, PND, and pressures of parenting…it can feel like we're mucking up left, right, and centre. What does this mean when it comes to self-care? How can we fix ourselves, or at least increase our ability to deal with the overwhelm? Jill and Linda are curious to know if it is possible so we explore this topic further in this conversation and talk about:Hitting rock bottom and making it through to the other side, with an expansion and growth to boot!Open and honest vulnerability about how we sometimes struggle to fit in our own self-care time.Using our calendar and planning to stack out some non-negotiables.Overplanning mode and falling into the mode of busy-ness and the feeling of doing something.When things don't work the way we plan and the resilience we can build as part of that journey and acceptance of frustration or upset that it can sometimes cause.We all can get into a funk and it is common to feel that our self-care is broken. We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along! Please reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com with any questions, suggestions, or comments from this episode.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

How much are we celebrating? We would like to think that celebrations come easy, are plentiful….however the reality is that sometimes life goes along it's merry way and we forget how far we have come, forget that the little bits of self-care all add up and concentrate on getting through the day without utterly falling apart. Although both Jill and Linda are exhausted at the time of recording this episode, we still found a way to celebrate ourselves and our mucked up self-care. Listen in to hear about:Lifting heavy stuff! The empowering nature of strength, commitment and getting stronger.Celebrating in the form of doing the thing and taking action itself. Putting in extra effort to honour ourselves and events that have impacted our lives.When we don't feel like celebrating at all and in a muck.Small wins that we can celebrate and finding good in every day.We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along! Please reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com with any questions, suggestions, or comments from this episode.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

And we're back, from opposite sides of the world, from opposite time zones and weather seasons. Today, Jill and Linda are talking about self-care in postpartum, notably after Jill recent completed the Sounds of Silence 5k event. We both understand that postpartum extends beyond the immediate post-birth phase and can last several years. In this episode we dive into a topic close to our hearts and talk about:Accepting help! It can be really be the hardest thing to do at the best of times.Nap when the baby naps. While this seems simple, the reality can often be far from it. The temptation to use this time to catch up on chores or indulge in some "me-time" activities often overrides the need for rest.Taking it slowly when and where possible and remembering the beauty and simplicity of stepping outside for fresh air and getting into the sun.Reminding yourself that this is a phase that will not be forever.Nutrition and water. If you're breastfeeding, staying hydrated is even more crucial.Carrying baby if this works for you. It allows you to keep your baby close while freeing up your hands to accomplish other tasks. Cooking dinner, cleaning, or even working becomes more manageable, and you can move freely without constantly worrying about where the baby is.Embracing the mess and recognising small victories.Leaning on your community, family, friends and support groups.Both Jill and Linda are passionate about advocating for the need to find practical ways to care for yourself amidst the demanding early years of motherhood. Take a deep breath, sip some water, and give yourself that well-deserved breakWe would love you to support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com, as well as Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.comUntil next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Can we ever fully figure out what works for self-care? Afterall, what often works one day might not work on another day. Are the sells of quick fixes adding to our stress? What has worked for these two mamas makes an interesting discussion. We certainly don't think we have all of it figured out much of the time. So, listen in as we open up and share some thoughts together, touching on:How we often put ourselves last and focus on the needs of others, making it hard to sometimes remember what we desire, are striving for, enjoy and how we can better care for ourselves.Meal prepping, planning and figuring out small ideas that can help towards a smoother dinner time. Including juggling different phases of diets and hormones and needing a simpler approach to phase-specific meals.Creating joyful moments and rituals. Practical ideas to integrate joy and encourage a sense of connection with your kiddos at dinnertime.Consistency and effectiveness for self-careChecking in with our energy leaks. Whats working, what's not? Reflection and vulnerability as we share the load about household effectiveness and figuring it out one step at a time.We check back in with our top 5 again. Are they still relevant? How are we taking steps towards our favourite things as a way of figuring stuff out.We hope you find these insights and strategies helpful as you navigate the beautiful chaos of motherhood. By taking care of ourselves, we set a positive example for our children and ensure we have the energy and enthusiasm to meet life's challenges head-on.For more information about the Villiage, please visit https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/village.We would love you to support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com, as well as Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.comUntil next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

What happens when self-care feels like the hardest thing in the world? When you're swamped in responsibilities and hardly want to adult yourself into making dinner and tackling the toothbrush again? In this episode, we delve into the challenges of when self-care feels like a monster that is stuck under the bed. Tune in as we talk about:Balancing work, family, time and our own values with kids climbing on desks and all the unexpected things that happen as you try to run out the door.Trying to cram everything into shorter time slots and wondering how on earth we can increase our hours in the day to get it all done.Remembering how we have overcome and created experiences for both us and our family (even when it 'feels' too hard.Allowing ourselves to be okay with where we are at. Not adding unnecessary pressure is a form of self-care.Choosing your hard and living a value-driven life.The power of sticky note time and how it helps us to prioritise our self-care.The unfiltered and unedited quest continues, and even all these conversations and episodes in we still fully believe that self-care will feel hard at times. We hope you are finding yourself and setting yourself up for better success, especially through the hard bits.For more information about the Villiage, please visit https://www.mamaoutspoken.com/village.We would love you to support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com, as well as Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.comUntil next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!#muckedupmyselfcare #podcast

Self-care has become a buzzword in contemporary lifestyles, touted across social media as the key to well-being. But how can we sort out the juice and the fluff? What's a myth and what's not? Jill and Linda are back with another discussion about the importance of self-care, sharing personal highs and lows from their past week. Pick up the headphones, or hook up the Bluetooth in the car as we chat about:Is self-care optional? Whether you're aware of it or not, practicing self-care improves your well-being exponentially.Does self-care have to be expensive and lavish? Simple activities such as a walk outside or reading a book can be self-care.Is self-care selfish? There's a fine line between caring for yourself and neglecting your responsibilities.Saying ‘no' to events or engagements that overextend you is not selfish; it's smart.How can self-care backfire? Doom-scrolling on social media can seem restful but usually isn't.Understanding self-care's true essence is an ongoing journey. Whether you're a seasoned practitioner or just beginning, breaking through the myths and discovering what truly nourishes you is crucial.Self-Care Idea: Shake, shake, shake it all out.We have been sharing self-care ideas throughout our episodes, and if you would like to find out more, you can reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com.Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com, as well as Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!#muckedupmyselfcare #podcast

At times it seems that there's a wave of guilt that happens around being a mama, particularly when going from contributor to dependent. And chances have it that we would like to open up the discussion around this very topic in this episode. Grab your headphones if you can find them or listen out loud as Jill and Linda talk about:Identity shifts when becoming mum, when we may loose contact with what we believed we were good at or important to us.Postpartum realities of not wanting to go back to our old lives because our lives have changed so rapidly.Working from home and the adventure of becoming an entrepreneur.Social connections and contacts - talking to other adults in your day rather than toddler talk and/or interruptions in the park as you save your kid from climbing up the slide AGAIN...The unpaid labor of parenting and mothering and running a household.When we are still the primary contributor financially as well as the main parent - juggling both balls in the air all the time.Guilt and grief for a life we once had.Working out or priorities and playing along the way.Self-Care Idea: Take a walk.We have been sharing self-care ideas throughout our episodes and if you would like to find out more, we would love you to reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com.Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!#muckedupmyselfcare #podcast

It's school holidays and the overwhelm is the real deal. What happens when we are split between all the things and all the things and more? We turned up and recorded a podcast for you, in all the messy ways. In this episode Jill and Linda chat in between all the things and talk about:Fluctuating energies, whether it be because of hormones, parenting, work, weather, and unpredictability in our lives.Multitasking - do we think it's possible? Is it good for our brains? Are we lying to ourselves to think that we can do it like we want to?Time management and length of how long things ‘really' take to get done when our bandwidth is off.Compromises and interruptions – do we need to say any more?How splitting ourselves is sometimes the reality and turning up still necessary.How does split attention reflect on our priorities?If we could have your attention for just a moment. We have been sharing self-care ideas throughout our episodes and if you would like to find out more, we would love you to reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com.Also, please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

According to Google: self-care is done with the intention of caring for yourself, not with the intention to harm or take from others. Being selfish means there's a desire to take from others, often to their detriment. However, self-care is about replenishing your resources without depleting someone else's. Do you agree? Jill and Linda are discussing this definition and more popular cultural ideas in today's episode as we discover:How we've adapted to incorporating others into our self-care (particularly with children and work commitments)What self-care means to us individually and how our deeper understanding has helped our energy levels for us and those surrounding us.When our needs for self-care can become unhealthy. Balancing it with life and appreciating the small moments of joy in our days.Learning to say no (and still learning!)Ways we have changed our thoughts about self-care and found ways to do it alongside our kids as well. Examples of self-care with kiddos, friends, our significant other and ourselves.Being kind to others, even anonymously, can give you a burst of dopamine that warms your heart.We have been sharing self-care ideas throughout our episodes just like in this one and if you would like to find out more, we would love you to reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com.Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

What are your favourite places of enjoyment and self-care? In this podcast place today we have many little voices joining us and we are talking about places of self-care enjoyments and ways that we can unstuck our muck. Listen in as Jill and Linda talk about:Getting time alone vs the need for quiet. Linda had quite a time finding a place that wasn't filled with people and things and all the rest of it for her sticky note day.What we desire for our self-care and why that matters. Are we being fussy? Or simply aware of what is missing and seeking solutions?We check back in with some of our top 5 self-care activities and remember why we love a quiet afternoon or getting outside to put our feet in the grass.When we push ourselves a little out of the comfort and into new places of enjoyment we perhaps hadn't thought of before. Alternatives and solutions.Acceptance and shifting to places of enjoyment different to that previous to children.Figuring out our priorities and also emotional spaces and places that keep us tracking along.It's a jam-packed episode and one which we feel is definitely an enjoyable one. We have been sharing self-care ideas throughout our episodes and if you would like to find out more, we would love you to reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com.Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and www.mamaoutspoken.com and Linda @hellolindabonney or www.lindabonney.com.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

As we've hit the year mark for the Mucked Up My Self-Care Podcast Jill and Linda are chatting about (and reflecting on) how our self-care has grown since our earlier episodes. As humans, we are continually healing, growing, and mucking up – yet how does self-care fit into that picture? We recognise that we are not the only ones on this journey and share our thoughts as we chat about:Some of our most memorable moments and episodes to date.Being able to talk about self-care with family, friends and others with more confidence now.Ways that we continue to muck up making self-care happen in our livesAcceptance of mucked up self-care rather than getting it 'right'.Momentum and motivation for self-care activities and getting into the flow of self-care.The wisdom of what self-care is for us now versus what we thought it was.Our self-care idea for this episode is stretching. Sounds simple? We often are carrying a lot on our shoulders and forget the most basic of stretching. We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along! Please reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com with any questions, suggestions, or comments from this episode.Please support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and Linda @hellolindabonney.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Jill and Linda are ready for a pyjama day or two as we start to talk about healing ourselves with self-care. Throughout multiple conversations now we are discovering how many layers there are to the humans both around us and inside of us. Join us as we chat about:What do our experiences say about us and how are we helping to navigate self-care when we need it?Is self-care selfish? Can it be normalized?Some myths behind self-care and checking in with ourselves to make sure we're not hypocritical and living to our word.Is healing ourselves on for ourselves? The ripple that can benefit those around us.Loving ourselves daily, making sure we can allow ourselves to sit down and relax.Self-regulation, self-reflection and celebrating ourselves.Beliefs, values and shifts in our lives.Reactivity and healingA Self-Care Idea: Grounding - bare feet on the groundPlease support and follow along. You can find Jill on Instagram @mamaoutspoken and Linda @hellolindabonney.We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along! Please reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com with any questions, suggestions, or comments from this episode and to recieve our list of self-care suggestions just for you.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Today on the podcast Jill and Linda are unravelling and unpacking their journeys of self-care in all the mucked up kinda ways. Linda is in a different location; Jill is feeling just a bit flat – yet…. after this episode they were both in a lighter and much better place (and we hope that you might be too!). Listen in as they talk about:Navigating big moments in life, puzzling emotions and how we put our best foot forward for whatever is next.How unravelling ourselves doesn't have an end point and continues as we grow and shift.Pain points and untwisting ourselves from what we get used to as life changes.Different coping mechanisms and how we are honouring ourselves in self-care instead of putting it off.Compromises and unravelling how the out of the ordinary can sacrifice our self-care.How unravelling is a process and takes time, patience and remembering that pain points can be temporary and lead to better outcomes.For more ideas when figuring out how to unravel when it comes to self-care, please send us an email, we put together some activities for you to guide and help you along the way.You can reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com with any questions, suggestions, or comments from this episode.Until next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!

Hello and good morning!We're here with our dodgy internet, and mucking up as we know best. In our latest special episode it marks one year and 52 episodes of the Murked Up My Self Care podcast.Thank you for all your conversations and growth, and to our listeners for following along. This past year has been a huge milestone for us both. Let's continue unsticking muck together until the next 52 episodes.To listen to the latest episode, Confidence in Self-Care, please visit https://player.captivate.fm/episode/3789beae-dba6-4b1c-b53a-0696eee24bfdFor more ideas when figuring out how to grow your confidence when it comes to self-care please send us an email, we put together some activities from when were just starting out with self-care.You can reach out to us at muckedupmyselfcarepodcast@gmail.com with any questions, suggestions, or comments from this episode.We would love to hear from you, it always encourages us to know you are listening along!Connect with Jill at www.mamaoutspoken.com or on Instagram @mamaoutspokenConnect with Linda at www.lindabonney.com or on Instagram @hellolindabonneyUntil next week – we hope you can unstuck your muck!