The Sober Mom Life

As we enter the summer concert season (at least here in the midwest) I want you to know: nothing beats a sober concert. They are the best. Seriously, you owe it to yourself to experience a concert without alcohol, especially if an artist you love is performing. The truth is you're never fully present when alcohol is involved. The music flies by while you're thinking about your next drink, or thinking through your moderation rules, or finding yourself standing in the bathroom line as your favorite artist plays your favorite song (trust me, that is the worst!) Sobriety will give you the opportunity to fully experience the concert without anything in the way. There's nothing better. Tell me about your first concert (and your first sober concert, if you've had one) in the comments on my sober concert Substack post. Check out my Substack here! Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Sign up for our next ‘Fresh 30' and ‘Beyond 30' cohorts. Learn more here! Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Courtney joins me for another installment of SobrieTEA and we are two episodes into the Summer House reunion. It's… a lot. So much so that we're dedicating this entire episode to our reunion thoughts. We'll talk about everything having to do with the Amanda and West controversy. Is West a pathy? (what is a ‘pathy'?) What kind of furniture was Meija building at West's house (and how serious was their relationship?!)? Is this the reputation rehab that Kyle needed? Plus, we'll discuss the refreshing amount of tears coming from the men of the show, and we'll discuss the line when reality stops being fun and starts turning dark. Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Sign up for our next ‘Fresh 30' and ‘Beyond 30' cohorts. Learn more here! Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Day drinking is romanticized as ‘the ultimate summer freedom', but in reality? It's a recipe for disaster, and it's ruining your summer. Today we'll talk about how Big Alcohol has tricked us to feel an allure to day drinking, what day drinking really does to your body and mind, and what you'll gain in your summer days when you stop putting day drinking on a pedestal and leave it behind. Get my deeper thoughts on day drinking over at my Sober Summer Series on Substack! Subscribe here! Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Sign up for our next ‘Fresh 30' and ‘Beyond 30' cohorts. Learn more here! Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

After years of feeling like a socially awkward pre-teen, alcohol arrived in real sober mom Laura's life. It seemed to give her the courage to embody the persona of a ‘hot fun party girl,' and with it, she left her sense of awkwardness behind. From there on, ‘booze and boys' took priority over everything else in Laura's life. The party didn't stop when Laura entered her professional life. It didn't stop when she got married. And it didn't stop when she had kids. It just kept changing, and eventually it took on a new role - as a coping mechanism for the identity crisis of motherhood and resentments that she was struggling with in her life. Laura began to question: did she have a problem with alcohol? Laura's first attempt at sobriety was cut short by Covid. Future attempts, including medication and moderation, felt fruitless. She struggled to understand what she was ‘doing wrong' when everywhere else could drink ‘normally'. It was The Sober Mom Life podcast that gave Laura her first peek into who she really wanted to be as a sober woman. Now 2 ½ years sober, she's been a valued part of the Sober Mom Life cafe ever since! If you're in Southern Illinois, check out Clear and Connected, Laura's sober community in Clinton County! @ccsoberwomenCommunity makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Sign up for our next ‘Fresh 30' and ‘Beyond 30' cohorts. Learn more here! Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Fridays on the pod are now dedicated to all things summer! Sober summer, that is. Each week we'll talk through a different summer experience so that you'll feel ready to face it without a drink. Today we're tackling how to prepare for your first sober barbeque, or cookout, or any daytime non-pool gathering where alcohol will be present. We'll talk through how to prepare yourself before, during and after the event so that you can set yourself up for success. You'll walk into that first sober barbeque knowing what you're drinking, what to say, what to do with your hands, and even when to know that it's time to leave. Get my deeper thoughts on your first sober barbeque over at my Sober Summer Series on Substack! Subscribe here! Not sure what to say? Here are 33 Responses to “Why Aren't You Drinking?” Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Sign up for our next ‘Fresh 30' and ‘Beyond 30' cohorts. Learn more here! Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

My friend Jess of A Sober Girl's Guide is back to tell us all about her proactive sobriety support app: Bestday. Bestday shifts the question away from ‘why am I not drinking?' to ‘Why am I wanting to drink?'. The app's customized daily ‘risk score' will help you proactively prepare for the moment when a craving might hit. This kind of clarity can make all the difference in sustained long term sobriety.The benefits of the app go so much deeper than sobriety, though, and no one knows that better than Jess. Jess unexpectedly lost her mom right as the app was getting close to launch, and the daily tracker helped her immensely in navigating her grief. We'll get deep into grief in this conversation: how grief parallels early sobriety, how to support yourself (and others!) through the grief process, and even what not to do if someone you love is deep in grief. If you're in Vancouver, you'll get to experience Bestday in person! This summer Jess and Bestday will be all around Vancouver with The Bestday mocktail bar. Learn all about it here! Download the Bestday app for freeCommunity makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Sign up for our next ‘Fresh 30' and ‘Beyond 30' cohorts. Learn more here! Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The next 12 weeks of The Weekend Reset will be dedicated to all things summer! Sober summer, that is. Each week we'll talk through a different summer experience so that you'll feel ready to face it without a drink. Because trust me, a sober summer might be one of the best summers you've had since childhood. Go deeper with my Sober Summer Series on my Substack, Sober for Good! I'll expand on each of these topics on my Substack each Thursday. Subscribe here! Check out my 33 Responses to “Why Aren't You Drinking?” Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Sign up for our next ‘Fresh 30' and ‘Beyond 30' cohorts. Learn more here! Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

As the child of a parent in recovery, today's Real Sober Mom Meagan was always aware of the dangers of alcohol. It served to keep Meagan away from drinking… until college, of course, when suddenly everyone was doing it. In college and grad school, Meagan kept drinking to a weekend activity. Slowly but surely, though, it found its way into the role of her daily ‘best friend' during a heavy period of loneliness and heartbreak. After a difficult conversation with her current husband, and his recommendation of Quit Like a Woman, Meagan got sober for three years! Motherhood came rushing into Meagan's life when, through foster and natural birth, she became a mom of three… all in one year. Challenges with one of her children wore her down, and she found herself reaching for that old ‘best friend' alcohol to cope. After three years of sobriety, moderation felt possible. Yet, moderation showed itself to be a lie, and addiction took hold. After a terrible experience when she almost lost it all, Meagan knew: alcohol must leave for good. Meagan now attends AA and The Sober Mom Life Cafe! She's crafted the sobriety support that she needs. She wants you to know - don't ever be afraid of starting again… and again… and again. Sobriety will click, and each step you take on the journey is so worth it. Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Sign up for our next ‘Fresh 30' and ‘Beyond 30' cohorts. Learn more here! Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We are smack dab in the middle of what I call ‘Maycember', and the tidal wave of end of school year events feels unrelenting. Are you feeling the pre-summer pressure, too? You're not alone! I really lean on my parenting motto throughout May: Half Ass, Whole Heart. By choosing sobriety, you've gone a long way to showing up with your whole heart for your kids. The other stuff? ‘Half ass' it wherever you need to (store bought cookies are great!). Check in with yourself: What can you say no to this week? How can you take care of yourself when you're just trying to survive the month? What thing that doesn't really matter can you gently set aside so that a glass of wine doesn't sound like the solution at the end of the day? It might feel like you're treading water this month - but trust me - you've got this. My 12- week Sober Summer Series is starting next Friday right here on The Weekend Reset! I'll be going into more depth each week on my Substack, Sober for Good. Subscribe here! Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Sign up for our next ‘Fresh 30' and ‘Beyond 30' cohorts. Learn more here! Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Juliet Warner's road to sobriety began at age 20 with her first stint in rehab for opiate addiction. For 8 years, she was in and out of rehab and treatment facilities as she struggled with the push and pull of addiction. At 28, her sobriety solidified when she committed to the steps in AA. Yet, she always wondered - would she be able to drink ‘normally' someday? Alcohol hadn't been central to her addiction, after all. Alcohol slowly but surely found its way into Juliet's life eight years later through mommy wine culture. After 9 months, a major mental health slide, and more blackouts than she felt comfortable with, Juliet realized that alcohol was a drug just like all the rest… and one that was no longer welcome in her life. Juliet now shares her story of motherhood and sobriety and is dedicated to helping others on their sober journeys. Check her out @thejulietsocial. Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Sign up for our next ‘Fresh 30' and ‘Beyond 30' cohorts. Learn more here! Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

As moms, we give of ourselves from the moment we get up until the moment we put our heads on the pillow. In the midst of all that chaos, your needs are in there, too! Yet, if you're anything like me, your needs are probably the first to get set aside. That's how alcohol found its way into motherhood: In the gap between our needs and the lack of resources we had to meet them. You deserve so much more than that. This is your motherhood experience. You deserve to enjoy it. So I want you to ask yourself - what do you need this Mother's Day? Answering that question and communicating it to your loved ones could go a long way to rebalancing the scales that are so often balanced away from our needs as moms. Happy Mother's Day! Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Get my Free 5-Day Sober Vacation email series direct to your inbox Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sure, you can do sobriety alone, but it's so much more fun to do it with a community. Cafe leaders Jen and Amanda join me on the pod to give you a sneak peek into what you can expect to find in a sober community. Whether you're interested in joining The Cafe or joining another incredible sobriety community, let this be your sign to give it a go! These connections are unlike any others that you will find in your life - a community of women who get it, and who can walk with you no matter what stage of sobriety you are in. Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Sign up for our next ‘Fresh 30' and ‘Beyond 30' cohorts. Learn more here! Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Work Conferences are a big sober first for a lot of the women in The Cafe, and I have to admit I didn't fully understand… until now. I just got back from my husband's work conference in Texas and wow. There was So. Much. Drinking. If a sober work conference or work event feels daunting for you, then this episode is for you. We'll talk about why these events are so alcohol-drenched, and approaches you can take to get the best out of a work conference without feeling overwhelmed by the pervasive drinking culture that surrounds them. Sign up is now open for our May ‘Fresh 30' and ‘Beyond 30' cohorts. Learn more here! Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Get my Free 5-Day Sober Vacation email series direct to your inbox Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Kelley Kitley grew up in a world where alcohol wasn't only normalized… it was the family business. As a kid, she lived above her family's bar and she could not wait until she was old enough to experience what this drinking thing was all about. Now a licensed clinical social worker with 13 years of sobriety under her belt, Kelley helps women navigate their own relationships with sobriety, and she gets it. We talk about the ways in which alcohol was central to Kelley's family life growing up, her attempts to ‘dodge the bullet' of addiction by studying psychology, the mental strain of moderation, her experiences in and opinions of AA, her excellent memoir MY Self, and what it was like to go public with her personal story as a psychologist. Follow Kelley on Instagram @kelleykitleyCommunity makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We've been sold the idea that moderation is the goal, and that moderation is the ‘right way' to drink. …But what if moderation isn't the goal? What if you allowed yourself to see past all of the guardrails and rules that you've set for yourself in an attempt to control this addictive substance? What could be on the other side in a world where you leave all of this behind? In this episode I've got a few questions for you that will help you better understand your relationship with moderation and alcohol. Because you deserve better than moderation. Sign up is now open for our May ‘Fresh 30' and ‘Beyond 30' cohorts. Learn more here! Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We're back from the spring Sober Mom Life retreat in Mexico, and I don't even have words for how wonderful it was. Seriously, these retreats just keep getting better and better. The women were absolutely incredible and the sense of community we created together is going to last way beyond that weekend. If you've been curious about what actually happens on our sober retreats, then listen in! Courtney, my mom and I will talk about what to expect on a sober retreat and what might surprise you about the experience. Check out our next retreat here. Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Something happened last Saturday that absolutely rocked me - I was verbally assaulted by a stranger, all while I was with my daughter. (You guys, it was 8:30am. How could someone even have the energy to be so angry that early in the morning?)It really shook me up, and I feel so immensely grateful that alcohol had no part in my weekend. Due to my sobriety, I was able to show up for my daughter, and show up for myself as I recovered from the experience over the next few days. There was no masking my sense of fight or flight with a drink, and there was no hangover clouding my judgment as I navigated the situation. My gratitude for sobriety never ends, and it shows up in the most unexpected experiences. Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

My amazing Bravo obsessed friend Courtney joins me for this very important installment of Sobritea to discuss the shock heard round the Bravosphere: Amanda and West's relationship announcement. We have so many questions. What about Kyle and Ciara? What is West's appeal?! What in the ChatGPT word salad was that announcement? Is this as bad as #Scandoval? Plus - The unexpected let down of Beverly Hills and the unexpectedly strong start to The Valley. Our opinions on how kids are handled on Bravo. And, our final thoughts on Southern Charm now that the season is complete. Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Learn more about The Sober Mom Life fall retreat! Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I just got back from our family's annual Spring Break trip to Florida, and honestly? We just played. Nonstop. The whole time. It was amazing, and it got me thinking: would a vacation filled with this much fun and play have been possible if alcohol was in the mix? I really don't think so. One of the biggest lies we're sold is that we need alcohol to have fun. That is not true at all. In fact, alcohol steals fun. I'm so grateful that sobriety has given me the ability to experience the kind of fun and play that makes me feel like a kid again. I wrote more about our Spring Break over on my Substack. Check it out here! Learn more about the fall retreat! Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Learn more about The Sober Mom Life fall retreat! Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you've been going back and forth on sobriety, this episode is for you. Erin Washington, the host of ThERINpy, is 28 days sober. She's on her third Dry January, and for the first time it feels…easy! While she's not ready to commit to a sober life, she is definitely ready to commit to ‘not drinking today' and she's excited to see what can unfold from here. We get deep into the nitty gritty of how her aversion to restriction has kept her drinking in the years since she recovered from disordered eating. Erin shares all of the things that currently feel challenging in sobriety (social situations, dating, an intense sweet tooth. Sound familiar?). Plus, Erin will share the exact brand of NA wine that is SO good it has made her believe she could possibly give up alcohol for good. Check out Erin's podcast ThERINpy and find her on Instagram @iamerinwashingtonLearn more about the fall retreat! Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Learn more about The Sober Mom Life fall retreat! Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

2026 has so far been...kind of shitty. We're sold a lie that alcohol will hold your hand through hard moments. That's all bullshit. Yes, there will still be hard stuff and days where everything feels like it's going wrong. But believe me when I say - facing those challenges with a sober mind is a gift. I'm on Spring Break this week! If you're gearing up for your first sober vacation - just know it is so worth it. I wrote more about sober vacations on Substack. Plus, check out my past podcast episode on Your Guide to a Sober Vacation. Learn more about the fall retreat! Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Learn more about The Sober Mom Life fall retreat! Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sobriety coach Sara Kaufman-Bradstreet is six and a half years alcohol-free, one and a half years cannabis-free, and has never lost her excitement for a sober life. Today, Sara shares the story of how she ditched alcohol hand-in-hand with her husband, how cannabis became a crutch in her alcohol-free life and when she realized that it was time to also ditch that, the lessons she's learned quitting one substance at a time, and the freedom and self connection she has found within sobriety. Follow Sara and learn all about her offerings on IG @no_more_wasted_daysApril's Fresh 30 and Beyond 30 small groups are now open for enrollment!Learn more about the fall retreat! Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

My first sober vacation was a pivotal moment in my sobriety journey. It was the first time that I really felt that I was making a different choice for myself. Was it challenging? Yes. Was it worth it? Absolutely! Nothing feels better than waking up on a beautiful vacation morning with no hangover because you didn't drink the night before. If you're gearing up for your first sober vacation - just know it is so worth it. I wrote more about sober vacations on Substack this week. Plus, check out my past podcast episode on Your Guide to a Sober Vacation. April's Fresh 30 and Beyond 30 small groups are now open for enrollment!Learn more about the fall retreat! Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delanie Fischer joins the pod today to talk all about identity shifts. She's had a lot of them, from leaving her life as a comedian and reinventing herself into a new career as a podcaster, writer and NSFW mug maker (more on that in the episode!), to getting sober as part of her overall goal of living a healthier and more sustainable lifestyle. Delanie is the co-host of the top rated podcast Self-Helpless and the author of the absolutely wonderful mocktail book, Mocktales. Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Alcohol might be one of the longest-standing relationships in your life, and today's episode will give you permission to grieve the breakup. You were taught to put alcohol on a pedestal - a magical substance that ‘would make every experience better'. Realizing that lie might come with sadness, confusion, anger, and...yes, grief. Lean into that. Feel it all. You won't stay there. I'm proud of you. Keep going. Read more about my thoughts on grieving alcohol on my Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/p/on-grieving-alcohol-in-early-sobrietyCommunity makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Join me on Substack: https://suzannewarye.substack.com/Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Real Sober Mom Danielle couldn't imagine a life without alcohol. Though alcohol didn't play a large role in her upbringing in the Congo with her missionary family, it slowly began to creep into her life after the death of her grandmother who she'd been taking care of in her early 20s in Colorado. Alcohol showed up for Danielle in her grief, and from that point she began to really love the way it made her feel.Drinking was the norm at the school Danielle began to teach at, which cemented it even more deeply into her lifestyle. More and more each year, she leaned on it to get herself through the grief of a miscarriage and the consistent challenges of being a teacher. Danielle knew she needed to quit, but she had no clue what a positive sober life could look like. It wasn't until she found this podcast that she began to hear stories of women who actually loved their sober lives. After the loss of a close friend this past summer, Danielle knew it was time to quit. So, she began to search for the joy in sobriety. She is now six months sober and she wants to encourage you to keep going! Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Smack dab in the middle of my book The Sober Shift you'll find my ten things that I want you to keep in mind during early sobriety. This special segment of the book is a really handy support that will help to ground you at any point when your sobriety is feeling overwhelming. Today I'll give you a lightning fast overview of these ten things. If you want to go deeper with these tips go grab your copy of The Sober Shift! Plus - we'll talk about what you can expect from The Weekend Reset moving forward.Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you've struggled with how to navigate your sobriety journey when your partner still drinks, then this episode is for you. Relationship expert Dr. Alexandra Solomon joins me for a chat about how to navigate big transitions in your long term relationship. We'll discuss her three books Loving Bravely, Taking Sexy Back, and Love Every Day, and Alexandra will share her thoughts on couples therapy, navigating growth in mid-life, and how to set loving boundaries. Check out my episode on Dr. Alexandra's podcast with my husband, Russell! Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Join us inside of Fresh 30! Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today we tackle the dreaded ‘forever' question as we walk through Chapter 10 of my book The Sober Shift. You don't have to answer if giving up alcohol is forever. We don't ask that about any other lifestyle choice, why do we ask it about this? Instead, let me offer you a shift. What you thought of it as ‘sober for good'. Make a list of all the things that ‘sober for good' might mean to you and see if that reframe gives you the support that you need. It did for me. Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Carl Radke of Bravo's Summer House joins Suzanne and Katie to talk about his sobriety journey and his wonderful book Cake Eater: A Journey of Self Discovery. Carl will share his history with alcohol and cocaine, the challenges he experienced with moderation, how the heartbreaking passing of his brother ultimately led him to choosing sobriety, what it has been like to go through growth in front of reality TV cameras, the importance of community in his recovery, and how sharing his story through his book and his new podcast More Life has helped him find purpose through his story. Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When I polled my Instagram community and asked what was holding women back from committing to sobriety the biggest answer I received was FOMO - fear of missing out. Today as we cover chapter 9 of my book The Sober Shift I want to shift this fear for you and ask you to ask yourself the question: what is alcohol making me miss out on? For me and so many women, the realities of what we lost to alcohol only became clear in sobriety. Trust me, there are incredible experiences on the other side. Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Health and wellness coach Erin Treloar is here to help you regulate your nervous system so that you can find more calm, joy, and clarity in your life. Erin shares the science behind nervous system regulation, why alcohol can wreak havoc on your nervous system, and what you can do today (right now!) to help your body find inner calm. Plus, Erin will share a bit about her own sobriety journey, and how much more difficult it was for her to quit the second time around. Learn more about Erin's work at www.erintreloar.comCommunity makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Our society is stuck on the idea that sobriety should be rooted in shame. In today's episode and in chapter 8 of my book The Sober Shift, I push back on that and argue that your sobriety should not feel like something that you need to hide! I'll share how I shifted from my sobriety being something I did quietly to something that I proclaim proudly, and how you can make the shift too, in whatever way feels right for you. Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When Ariel was young she saw alcohol as her closest friend. But slowly the ways in which alcohol was not a close friend, but a toxic relationship, began to surface - through a DUI at 18, or the mom shame she began to feel for her drinking once she became a mother at 22. Alcohol was completely normalized in her family, though, and she could not even conceive that she would need to quit. As a social worker, Ariel had seen the worst cases of addiction and she did not relate to those at all. After Ariel's mother passed away her drinking ticked up and she fell into a deep depression. Two psychiatrists (one quite rudely!) alerted her to the fact that alcohol might be making her depression worse. On the day after her birthday last year she realized she was just ‘tired' of it, so she committed to 30 days of sobriety. And at the end of those 30 days? She just didn't see the point of drinking anymore. It had taken too much from her life. It was time to break up and leave her toxic relationship with alcohol for good. Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 5+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

My first sober vacation was a challenge, but when I was done I was in awe of myself. I did that! It was then that I started to think about the concept of ‘sober firsts'. Focusing on these challenging ‘first' experiences with sobriety - the sober summer, the sober wedding, the sober holiday - helped me stay in touch with how sobriety was impacting my life. And let me tell you: the self-confidence that you build when you dedicate yourself really experiencing these sober firsts, even when they're hard, is a self-confidence that you can rely on in every moment that comes after. Because you learn that you've got your back no matter what. That knowledge is invaluable. Are you gearing up to take your first sober vacation? Let me support you with this 5-day email series!What's on your list of upcoming sober firsts? Tell me on IG or comment on the Spotify feed or leave it in a review on Apple! Today I'm highlighting chapter 7 of my book The Sober Shift. Get your copy here! Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 5+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The incredible Margaret Josephs of Real Housewives of New Jersey is with us today!! Margaret has always stood out as someone who was refreshingly authentic in the Bravo world, and a part of that is rooted in her lifelong alcohol-free lifestyle! Margaret's sobriety has never stood in the way of her love of being the life of the party. This self proclaimed ‘professional non-drinking party girl' is here today to share her truth that the party only gets better once alcohol is out of the picture. Today Margaret shares how her childhood experiences led her to an adulthood of sobriety, how her mental clarity has allowed her to feel confident in her true authentic self, her experiences in the Bravo world, the Bravo shows that she personally loves to watch and so much more. Margaret has an incredible line of mocktails - Soiree! Soiree features four layered intricate alcohol-free flavors. Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 5+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The stereotype of ‘rock bottom' kept me drinking. I believed the lie that if my drinking didn't look like a dire stereotype then I did not qualify for sobriety. This lie stopped me from seeing what alcohol had already taken from my life. Today we'll talk through chapter six of my book The Sober Shift, where I'll help you reframe the concept of ‘rock bottom' so that you can find a softer place to land. Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 5+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ericka Andersen devoured every quit lit book she could find in early sobriety, but time and again something was missing for her: faith. Faith and religion is deeply central to Ericka's life, and so she set out to write the book that she needed when she got sober. Today Ericka tells us all about her book - Freely Sober: Rethinking Alcohol Through the Lens of Faith. Ericka wrote this book to serve as a support for anyone who is seeking to find faith-based or spiritual meaning in their sober journey. Learn more about Ericka and her work at https://erickaandersen.com/Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 5+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Alcohol is sold as a form of self care - a way for us to unwind and ‘come back to ourselves'. This is an absolute lie, one created by big alcohol in order to boost sales and to get us addicted. Today I'll walk you through chapter 5 of my book The Sober Shift where we dispel the myth that alcohol and wellness should go hand in hand, and I'll help you figure out what true wellness in sobriety looks like for you. Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 5+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Real Sober Mom Sarah grew up in Germany on a US military base where alcohol was such a way of life that her first drink was at thirteen years old at a restaurant with her family. As a mom, alcohol came in and out of her life but it wasn't until her kids were a bit older that it began to have a hold on her. Once she realized she was drinking every day, she began to worry - had her drinking gone too far? She began to take sobriety one day at a time. With community support in Fresh 30 and The Sober Mom Life Cafe, she has now been sober since late 2024! Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today I'll walk you through chapter 4 of my book The Sober Shift where we'll step back from romanticizing alcohol so that we can take a clear look at the real role that drinking plays in your life. I call this facing ‘the mold in the basement'. In order to be honest about alcohol, we have to face our stories about alcohol that we've avoided facing for so long. This part is challenging, but you can do this, and community can make all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 6+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week Suzanne and Katie break apart what Suzanne considers a ‘masterpiece': the latest episode of Real Housewives of Salt Lake city, Sisters of Salt. We'll get into how the cast's ability (or inability) to have challenging conversations majorly shapes the narratives of the show. Then, we'll explore the nature of flaunting wealth within these women's lives, and how for some it serves as a major veneer for their insecurities. Finally - is Meredith okay, and does substance abuse play a role in her challenges? Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 5+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you're stuck in what I call ‘moderation hell' then this episode is for you. We have all been sold the myth that moderation is the ‘normal' way to drink. If you can't achieve it? Then you have a problem. This is a myth! It could not be further from the truth. Today I'll walk you through chapter 3 of my book The Sober Shift where we dispel the myth of moderation in pursuit of getting you to where you really want to be - freedom. Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 5+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Certified parenting coach and the co-founder of Guardian Recovery Keesha Scott joins me today to share how her 23 years of sobriety have impacted her life, both personally and as a parent. For Keesha, sobriety opened up a path for her to finally feel her feelings. After over two decades of sobriety, she could never imagine wanting to hide from her feelings again. This ability to stare directly at the fear and insecurities that naturally arise in life has allowed her to show up in immense ways for both her family, her clients, and a wide community of people in the midst of their own recovery through Guardian Recovery. Check out my episode on Keesha's podcast, Cake for Dinner! Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 5+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mommy Wine Culture is a trend manufactured in boardrooms by Big Alcohol. I explore this deeply in the second chapter of my book, The Sober Shift, and today on The Weekend Reset I'll give you an overview of what I found in my research so that you can clearly see how we as moms have been manipulated to believe that alcohol could ‘help' us with motherhood. Alcohol was never here to help us. It was here to get us addicted in order to grow Big Alcohol's profits. Once you see this, it is so much easier to say goodbye to alcohol for good. Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 5+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Happy 2026! As we begin the new year, I'm joined by my amazing friends Casey Davidson of The Hello Someday Podcast and Gill Tietz of Sober Powered to bring you a fresh and empowering perspective on Dry January. If you're ready to reset your relationship with alcohol, let this episode be your support. We'll talk about how to navigate those first two alcohol-free weeks, perspective shifts that will deeply support you on your journey, why community and accountability make all the difference, and what to do if your sense of motivation begins to fade. Connect with Casey: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/Connect with Gill: https://www.soberpowered.com/Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 5+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book! The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Happy New Year! For the next ten weeks on The Weekend Reset I'll be walking you through my new book The Sober Shift chapter by chapter. Take a listen to the intro to get you up to speed! Today, in Chapter One, I want to invite you to shift how you're viewing the concept of sobriety. Society sells us on the idea that sobriety is all about deprivation. But what if you flipped that? What if you focused on all that you can gain through choosing a sober life? How would that change the experience for you? Join me at the Sober Mom Life treat in Mexico this February! Hurry - spots are going fast: https://thesobermomlife.com/thesobermomliferetreatCommunity makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 5+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Get Your Copy of my book The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In these final days of 2025 my mom and I are here to take stock of the year. We'll talk about big shifts we've experienced in our lives (A book release! Retirement!), what we're deciding to leave behind as we exit the year, how sobriety can serve as an endless springboard for growth, and our intentions for 2026. Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 5+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Does sobriety during the upcoming holiday season feel overwhelming? Sign up for my 10-Day Holiday Series! Each day you will receive an email message that I crafted to support you through your first sober holiday season. Sign up here. Get Your Copy of my book The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's the last Friday of 2025, so today I want to invite you to take a look back. No matter where you are on your sobriety journey, the fact that you're here tells me that in 2025 you showed up for yourself. It is so beneficial to reflect that fact. Maybe you have some sobriety under your belt now, or maybe you began to drink with the blinders off. Wherever you are on this path, you deserve self compassion and grace for all of the ways in which you grew and changed in your relationship with alcohol. Happy New Year. Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 5+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Does sobriety during the upcoming holiday season feel overwhelming? Sign up for my 10-Day Holiday Series! Each day you will receive an email message that I crafted to support you through your first sober holiday season. Sign up here. Get Your Copy of my book The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I love taking a look back at the end of each year, so today I've compiled some of my favorite moments from this year's episodes to share with you! Get ready to hear some standout moments from all of our fantastic guests in 2025.If you'd like to go deeper into any of these conversations, be sure to visit the full episodes! In this episode you'll hear highlights from:Celebrating Five Years of Sobriety (Episode 227) Gillian Tietz (Episode 232) Liza Feilner (Episode 238) Jyoti Chand (Episode 244)Amanda E. White (Episode 247) Luc Zoratto (Episode 251)Mocksticated (Episode 252)Jessica Guerrieri (Episode 259) Katy Olson (Episode 260)Therapy 101 with my Mom! (Episode 263)Jessica Stewart (Episode 267)Heather Lowe (Episode 269) The Weekend Reset: Am I That Bad? (Episode 272) Kate Vitela (Episode 273)Kristin McGee (Episode 275)The Weekend Reset: Gratitude in Sobriety (Episode 276) Mary Alice Stevens (Episode 277)The Weekend Reset: Navigating Cravings (Episode 278) Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 5+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Does sobriety during the upcoming holiday season feel overwhelming? Sign up for my 10-Day Holiday Series! Each day you will receive an email message that I crafted to support you through your first sober holiday season. Sign up here. Get Your Copy of my book The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We are officially deep in the holiday season, and if you're navigating early sobriety this can be a challenging time. So today, I'm here with some perspective on how you can protect your peace - even if it means saying no. I'll share scripts for how you can say no in a way that respects your own needs, whether that be saying no to an event, to friends, or to a drink that someone is trying to place in your hand. You've got this. Keep going. Community makes all the difference. Join The Sober Mom Life Cafe for 5+ Peer Support meetings each week and a private Facebook group to connect with sober and sober-curious women. Does sobriety during the upcoming holiday season feel overwhelming? Sign up for my 10-Day Holiday Series! Each day you will receive an email message that I crafted to support you through your first sober holiday season. Sign up here. Get Your Copy of my book The Sober Shift Follow on Instagram @thesobermomlifeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.