The Waiting Ruem Podcast

This is a short episode just to give you a life update. I haven't published any new episodes lately because I recently got engaged, and I am currently planning a wedding and preparing to move out of state after I get married. I will be taking a hiatus from the podcast indefinitely. When I do come back, the show will be bigger and better.   Feel free to go back and listen to any of the 40 episodes I have published to date. I have episodes about relationships, finances, mental health, physical health, and various other topics. Also, please continue to share this podcast with anyone you think would like to listen. Until next time take care!  Wedding website: Tyler & Rue Wedding     Here are all the books I have recommended in every episode to date: The Waiting Ruem | Books    I would love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast  

Welcome to the fortieth episode of The Waiting Ruem podcast. What a milestone! Thank you all for your support, feedback, questions, and involvement. Join me as I talk to a guest, April Shields, about learning to trust God in those unplanned seasons of life. Sometimes when life is changing, you do not know where things are going - you are just a passenger along for the ride. Learning to trust God is easier said than done, but it is possible. Remember that you are not in control and never were. God is writing your story, do not take the pen from Him – let Him finish what He started.  Here are all the books I have recommended in every episode to date: The Waiting Ruem | Books  You can see April's work on her:Website: April Shields PhotographyFacebook: @ashieldsphotographyInstagram: @ashieldsphoto  Jeremiah 29:11-13 - For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. I would love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast 

What are you going to do differently this year than you've done in years past? Oftentimes, we have an area or two in our lives that we know we need to change, but we never follow through. Let this year be different. Don't do the same thing you have always done and expect a different result.  Areas you can grow/change this year: Relationally – Are there any relationships your need to work on? Do you need to work on establishing boundaries? Do you need to improve your communication with those around you? Or maybe become a better listener? Emotionally – Are there any emotions you need to get rid of? Anger, Fear, Anxiety/worry. Are there emotions you need to embrace? Patience, love, kindness, forgiveness. Financially – How is your financial health? Does it need to improve? Do you have a written plan? Physically – Do you need to take better care of your body this year? Spiritually – how can you grow spiritually this year? Ho about reading your bible? Do you need to memorize scripture? How is your prayer life?  Tips to help you accomplish your goals: Write down your goals – when you write down your goals, it gives you clarity and direction and makes the task more attainable.Set realistic goals – start small Remove obstacles and excuses. Recommended book: Creatures of Habit: Breaking the Habits Holding You Back from God's Best by Steve Poe     Habakkuk 2:2-3: And the Lord answered me: “Write the vision; make it plain on tablets, so he may run who reads it. For still the vision awaits its appointed time; it hastens to the end—it will not lie. If it seems slow, wait for it; it will surely come; it will not delay. I would love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast 

What is generosity? It is showing a readiness to give more of something, as money or time, than is strictly necessary or expected. Generosity is a topic that many people don't talk about, even though it plays a significant part in our lives. Numerous articles talk about how to make money, how to earn more, how to increase wealth, and how to become rich. However, it's also important to understand that giving some of that away - sharing some of that, will help us emotionally, mentally, socially, and financially.  Benefits of generosity:  Generosity makes us healthy Generosity makes us happy Generosity lowers stress Generosity improves our relationships Generosity makes us healthy    How to be more generous:  Start small Pay for someone coffee or meal Donate to a charity Buy someone in need some groceries Pay your tithe and give offerings to your local church Recommended book: Get Good with Money by Tiffany Aliche    Read more about generosity here:    5 Research-Backed Benefits of Making Generosity a Habit (michaelhyatt.com) The Benefits of Generosity — Christian Stewardship Network I would love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast

Money can be a source of comfort for many people, but it is also a source of discomfort for others. Understanding your 'Why' and setting specific goals will help you gear your mind towards putting money aside over time. Successfully saving money requires consistency, discipline, and sacrifice, but it is achievable.  Importance of saving:  Saving can give you freedom Saving provides financial security to a certain extent  Saving means you can take calculated risks Saving prepares you for the future: new house, car, college education, etc.  Saving reduces stress   How to save money:  Pay off debt Cut down your grocery budget Cancel automatic subscriptions and memberships Spend extra or unexpected income wisely Lower your phone bill Do without the coffee trip Refinance your house Sell things you don't need Recommended book: Get Good with Money by Tiffany Aliche    Read more about saving money here:    3 Reasons Why You Should Save Money | Discover How to Save Money: 22 Simple Tips | RamseySolutions.com 6 Types of Saving Accounts (businessinsider.com) I would love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast 

I will be taking a two-week hiatus, so you can use this time to catch up on any episodes you might have missed. Please be safe this holiday season and enjoy the most important things in life; friends and family. Don't forget to celebrate the reason for this season: the birth of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ - who was the greatest gift to mankind.  Be on the lookout for the next episode, airing in the new year, on January 9th; where we will continue our money talk. Be safe and until then, take care!  Matthew 1:21: She will bear a son, and you shall call his name Jesus, for he will save his people from their sins.  I would love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.com Instagram: @thewaitingruem Website: The Waiting Ruem Podcast   Music: A Peaceful Winter by Scott Holmes Music 

Lifestyle creep occurs when increased income leads to increased discretionary spending. It's the temptation to start spending more on luxuries as your disposable income increases. The goal is to not fall into this trap and keep your expenses as they were and save the extra income for emergencies, life savings, or big purchases in the future. Areas you might experience lifestyle creep: Your social life Your wardrobe  Your commute Travel and vacation Household comforts  Entertainment   How to avoid lifestyle creep: Do not make any changes to spending for at least six months Build a budget and avoid impulse spending - know your goals and plan ahead of time Save first, spend later Evaluate your purchases and spending regularly Recommended book: Get Good with Money by Tiffany AlicheRead more about lifestyle creep here:   6 Telltale Signs of “Lifestyle Creep” I would love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast 

Budgeting tells your money where to go instead of wondering where it went. It ensures you always have enough money for the things you need. Budgeting also improves your financial health, which can, directly and indirectly, improve your mental, spiritual, and physical health as well. How do you create a budget? Use a spreadsheet, ledger, or notebook Write down all your sources of income Write all your expenses (house, car, debt, groceries, gas, etc.) Subtract your expenses from your incomeIf you're in the negative, that means you're living above your meansIf you have money left over, you're living within your meansYou can adjust your lifestyle to increase that marginCancel unnecessary subscriptions – you don't need all those streaming servicesEat out less – you've already bought your groceries, cook at home Recommended book: Get Good with Money by Tiffany Aliche   I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast   

How we spend our money is significantly influenced by our personalities. There are five major financial types: Big Spenders, Savers, Shoppers, Debtors, and Investors. It's possible to change your money personality, but it's going to require time and effort. Ways to improve your money personality: Commit to financial stability Educate yourself - read personal finance books Stop trying to keep up with the Joneses - stop focusing on what others have Make goals – write them down Be grateful for what you do have! Recommended book: Get Good with Money by Tiffany Aliche   Money personality quizzes: Learn About Your Money Personality | Empower Money Personality Type Quiz: Which One Are You? (buzzfeed.com) Discover Your Financial Personality | Marcus by Goldman Sachs® I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast  

Money is not the solution to every problem. And that there are some things you can't buy with money – happiness, love, time, purpose, health, true friendship, confidence, trust, respect, etc. However, how much or how little money we have does affect our overall well-being, emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. Ways can you improve your financial health: Budget Spend less than you earn Pay bills, debts on time  Start saving Giving/donations Recommended book: Get Good with Money by Tiffany Aliche  I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast  

At this point, you've made past the intentional friendship (noted those red, yellow, and green flags) - you've had a successful intentional dating phase now you're ready to seal the deal.   How do you know you are ready for engagement? Well, you've both dated for a while. You both have sought advice from wise counsel. You have discussed the future. You have both chosen to discuss and resolve challenging issues. You have prayed and come to a place of peace. You have chosen to grow personally and together towards your commitment and maturity in Christ. In this episode, I talk about the engagement stage in a relationship.   What engagement is not:  It's not marriage – save things joining bank accounts and sex for after you're married. It's not an irreversible decision. It's not a time to avoid hard questions or conversations - if you can't talk about the little thing, you'll have a hard time talking about the big things. It's not a time to isolate friends.  It's not guaranteed to be smooth. Scripture: He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147: 3)  Recommended Book: Intentional Relationships for Singles by Dan Houk & Kris Swiatocho     I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast  

How do you know if you're ready for intentional dating? Well, have you prayed? Do you have an accountability partner? How is your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual financial health? Have you healed from past relationships? Have you considered your children (if applicable)? In this episode, I talk about what intentional dating looks like.  Intentionally dating causes you to grow in intimacy in all areas:  Spiritually - you are equally yoked, believing God has brought you together Emotionally - you share your deepest, vulnerable feelings and hopes with each other only   Socially – you prioritize planning individual activities alone  Intellectually - you understand and accept each other's thoughts and values and support them  Commitment - you have an exclusive commitment by intentionally dating  Physically - you show affection in non-sexual ways while maintaining physical boundaries  Scripture: But seek first his Kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. (Matthew 6:33)  Recommended Book: Intentional Relationships for Singles by Dan Houk & Kris Swiatocho     I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast 

Loneliness is something we all deal with in different seasons of life. Whether or not you are in a relationship, you will battle loneliness at some point in your life. To overcome loneliness, you need to take your eyes off yourself and look at the big picture. When you are so consumed by loneliness, that can result in self-pity, entitlement, then sin. The only person who can cure loneliness is our Creator. If you try to fill the void with anything else, you'll come up short.What you can do when you find yourself feeling lonely:     Pray, read your bible – spend uninterrupted time with God  Reach out to (a lonely) friend – call, text, hang out – be a friend!  Workout – run, go to the gym  Read a book –learn something new  Travel – day trip, weekend trip, etc.  Volunteer  Try something new – write a song or poem, learn an instrument    Scriptures to help you when you're feeling lonely:  Deuteronomy 31: 6  Psalm 68: 5-6  1 Peter 5: 7  Psalm 147: 3  Hebrews 4: 15-16  Recommended Book: Priceless: She's Worth Fighting For by Luke Smallbone and Joel Smallbone     I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast 

Suppose you made it through the intentional friendship stage. You have mostly green flags, very few yellow flags, and no red flags, and now you are ready to move on to the next stage: intentional dating. In this episode, I'll be talking about what dating is because we live in a culture that seems to be confused regarding dating because of the false impression propagated by Hollywood and popular culture.   Dating IS:      Allowing you to learn more about each other at a deeper level  Building commitment  Learning how to take care of another person's needs  Building trust  Practicing forgiveness   Developing boundaries  Helping you discover how well you relate together as a couple   An opportunity to meet family members   Moving toward a vision of your future, possibly marriage and family  A time when you determine if it's going toward marriage   Learning about yourself so you can get healthier and make necessary personal changes  Maintaining exclusivity and loyalty with the person you are dating   Recommended Book: Intentional Relationships for Singles by Dan Houk & Kris Swiatocho      I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast  

Suppose you made it through the intentional friendship stage. You have mostly green flags, very few yellow flags, and no red flags, and now you are ready to move on to the next stage: intentional dating. In this episode, I'll be talking about what dating is not because we live in a culture that seems to be confused regarding dating because of the false impression propagated by Hollywood and popular culture. Dating IS NOT:    A time to start a dating relationship hoping you become friends About having someone in your life because you don't want to be alone Blind trust  Building physical intimacy prematurely Having poor boundaries Ignoring red flags  Expecting perfection  Living in the moment - no foresight  The time to keep secrets  Avoiding conflict for the sake of keeping the peace Isolating yourself with somebody at the expense of other relationships A placeholder to spend your time with until someone better comes along Recommended Book: Intentional Relationships for Singles by Dan Houk & Kris Swiatocho    I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast

Green flags are what we want to find as we get to know someone. If you are in an intentional friendship that has mostly green flags, hardly any yellow flags, and no red flags, then you might be ready to move to the next stage - intentional dating. Here's what green flags look like:   Their relationship with God comes first, and it is the guiding force of every area in their life  Respects your boundaries  Courteous and kind, even to the server  Asks questions to clarify your intent rather than assuming Show interest in your wellbeing Seeks to resolve conflict and forgiving Dependable Communication is not one-sided – they remember what you have said Humility - they admit when they are wrong - they can laugh at themselves Passionate about their interests, life, and their loved ones Take of themselves mind, body, and spirit  They don't embarrass or belittle you  Recommended Book: Intentional Relationships for Singles by Dan Houk & Kris Swiatocho   I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast

Yellow flags are not necessarily deal-breakers, meaning you don't need to stop your intentional friendship. However, they are cautionary and should be prayed through and considered. Ask for more information when clarity is needed. It is important to discuss yellow flags during the intentional friendship phase; before you commit to a more serious relationship. Under the right circumstances, yellow flags can be turned green.    Yellow flags to look for in a relationship:    Political differences   Inconsistent stories   Lack of spiritual growth based on the number of years they have been a Christian   Different denomination or doctrinal beliefs  Workaholic unbalanced work-life  Bad manners or hygiene  Cuts themselves down or cut other people down  No respect for your privacy  Obsession with sports, video games, or hobbies which interferes with daily living  Been married once or more before - with or without grounds for divorce  Recommended Book: Intentional Relationships for Singles by Dan Houk & Kris Swiatocho I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast 

Would you recognize a relationship red flag if it smacked you in the face? Red flags are the character issues or behaviors that are incompatible with who you are - these are dealbreakers that you learn about someone, which reveal that you would not be able to have a healthy relationship with them. It is important to discuss red flags during the intentional friendship phase; before you commit to a more serious relationship. Under the right circumstances, red flags can be turned green.  Red flags to look for in a relationship:  Compulsive lying Major debt due to poor spending and saving habits Neediness, codependent issues, insecurities Can't keep a job Living with parents due to poor finances Anger issues or violent temper Addiction of any kind Not respecting boundaries  Recommended Book: Intentional Relationships for Singles by Dan Houk & Kris Swiatocho  I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast 

What is an intentional friendship? It is the time between a simple friendship and a dating relationship with someone you think might be 'the one.' It is also a place where you agree to get to know each other better, where you spend consistent time together regularly so you can ask deeper and detailed questions that go beyond general friendship. Then at some point in time, you can decide to intentionally date or to remain just friends. Benefits of an intentional friendship: There is a lower risk of a broken heart.There's a lower risk of rejection and the pain that comes along with it.You grow personally and make adjustments and changes. You have more time to get to know someone without the pressure of dating.You are more in control of how much time to talk and spend together because expectations are lower.You learn about their boundaries and their respect for your own You can be yourself dash most of the time when people are dating they put up a good front to impress the other person, but in an intentional friendship, you can just be real.Recommended Book: Intentional Relationships for Singles by Dan Houk & Kris Swiatocho I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruem Website: The Waiting Ruem Podcast

In this episode, I'll be addressing the age-old question, Can men and women be just friends? Yes! Healthy male and female relationships can thrive without romantic pretense. Healthy communication and boundaries are crucial for this type of relationship to thrive. Jesus showed us with his life that it is possible to be just friends with the opposite sex. Here are some reasons why we need opposite-sex friendships: You learn about the other gender – how will communicate with your future spouse if you can't communicate with your brother or sister in Christ.To grow personally – you'll learn what you need to change in your life.It's not all about romance – learn how to care about people without the romantic pretense – love them as Christ loves them.To learn how to set and practice boundaries.Sets the foundation of a dating relationship  Recommended Book: Intentional Relationships for Singles by Dan Houk & Kris Swiatocho I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast

God wrote the rules of science, so wouldn't it make sense to read His Word in order to get the answers we need? Religion and science are not at odds, as many claim - in fact, true science is rooted in the truths of the word of God. There is no other book in any of the world's religions that contains scientific truth like the Bible. Here are 6 scientific facts found in the Bible: The earth is round The water cycle  Life in the blood Hygiene Quarantining the sick Oceanography Recommended Book: Undeniable Evidence: Ten of the Top Scientific Facts in the Bible by Ray Comfort  Want to learn more? Check out: Scientific Facts in the Bible | Living Waters Video: Ten of the Top Scientific Facts in the Bible  I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast

There are so many places to go, things to do, and people to meet. Yet we keep doing the same thing day in and day out, year in and year out. Traveling challenges us to step out of our comfort zones. You'll learn a lot about yourself and other people when you go places you typically wouldn't visit.  Here are some travel tips:  Use common sense and street smarts  Learn common phrases in that language  Use a local guide  Stop comparing  Have an open mind  Recommended Book: Around the World in 80 Days by Jules Verne Want to read more about other countries? Check out The Fact File.  I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.com Instagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast 

Episode 20 marks a huge milestone for me. If you had ever told me that I would ever have a podcast, I would have laughed and laughed some more, yet here I am twenty episodes deep. Thank you, listeners, for all your love and support! I'm sure I'm not the only one who has a dream they've been sitting on instead of going out there. This is also my first guest episode. Join the conversation as I talk to my best friend, April Shields, a professional photographer, about stepping in faith and dreaming big. Recommended Book: The Chronicles of Narnia by C. S. Lewis  You can see Aprils work on her:Website: April Shields PhotographyFacebook: @ashieldsphotography Instagram: @ashieldsphotoI'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruem Website: The Waiting Ruem Podcast 

What is it about changing habits that we find so difficult? As powerful as the human brain is, it is also quite lazy. It will take the path of least resistance when given the opportunity. That is why we get stuck in habits and routines because that's less work for the brain.   Our habits are controlled by what is called The Habit Loop: Cue/Reminder – Routine – Reward. To change your habit, you will need to change the routine and trigger a different reward.Ten ways to break a habit:  Identify your triggers Practice mindfulness Replace the bad habit Start small Focus on your WHY Prepare for slip-upsChange your environment Visualize your habit-free self Reward yourself Give it time  Recommended Book: The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg   Extra reading:   Sick of your bad habits? Here's how to break them (msn.com)  How to Break a Habit (and Make It Stick)   I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruem Website: The Waiting Ruem Podcast 

Emotional intelligence (EQ) is significant because it helps you relate to people. It is the ability to understand, use, and manage your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges and defuse conflict. EQ is more important than IQ because we interact with people more on a social level than intellectual. Here are five ways to improve your EQ:  Responding instead of reacting to conflict Empathize with others Utilize active listening skills Practice self-awareness Be motivated!Recommended Book: Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ by Daniel Goleman  Extra reading:  10 Ways to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence  Emotional Intelligence - Developing Strong "People Skills"  I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast

Why do we find it so difficult to express ourselves? I've heard it said that we have two ears and one mouth; we need to listen twice as much as we speak – if only we would put that into practice more. All of our relationships would benefit if we deliberately put more effort into becoming better communicators, whether it's verbal, non-verbal, written, or active listening. Here are 10 Ways to become a better communicator: Listen more, speak less Read body language Be in the moment Ask questions Listen to understand, not to respond Don't interrupt Embrace the silence Don't be that story topper Find common ground, even if you disagree Be transparent without oversharingRecommended Book: 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere! by Bento C. Leal III  I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast 

Sometimes the most well-meaning people say things to ingles that seem nice on the surface but end being more hurtful than helpful. These words repeated time after time become so ingrained that it's easy to start believing them. Here are some com common myths about singleness God will bring you a spouse when you are ready Getting married will fix your dysfunctional relationship Your soul-mate is out there - you need to find them Your biological clock is ticking You'll start to enjoy life or only be happy after you get married To successfully combat these myths, you have to know what the truth says. Knowing what od says and thinks about your life will give you the confidence to not be fazed by society's rules and standards. Recommended Read: Blink of an Eye by Ted Dekker and Sacred Search by Gary ThomasI'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast 

Sometimes it is tempting to compromise and settle for what seems to be the next available option, especially when you've been single for a long time. However, this compromise never turns out to be what you expected. Being unequally yoked in a relationship has more consequences than what meets the eye.This compromise can affect your relationship with God, personal growth, future, and destiny.Read: Sacred Search by Gary ThomasI'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast 

Nobody likes waiting, especially if you're waiting for something you really want, like a significant other. Sometimes the best we can do is focus on what we do have (that is, time, money, friends, independence, etc.) instead of what we don't have (that is, a relationship). Listen as I talk about how you can grow spiritually, emotionally, financially, and physically during the season of waiting. Because waiting well is what matters.  Recommended Book: Intentional Relationships for Singles by Dan Houk & Kris Swiatocho  I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast 

Mind your manners! Where has common courtesy and decency gone? We need to treat others as we would like to be treated. Listen to 20 things you need to know to be a decent human being; because who wants to put people off with bad manners?  Recommended Book: Etiquette book by Emily Post  I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast 

Freedom is never free. It costs time, money, and lives. As America celebrates its 245th independence day, you could also celebrate your freedom from sin. Jesus paid the ultimate price for your freedom! You don't have to be a slave to sin, bondage, depression, anger, fear, insecurities, and many other things.  Recommended Book: The Hiding Place book by Corrie ten Boom  I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast 

Our bodies were created for movement. There are ramifications of having a sedentary life, some that could cost you your life. Physical activity helps control weight, boost energy, improve memory, reduce the risk of several diseases and reduce stress, depression & anxiety. Here are some ways you could improve your physical health: Burn more calories than you consume Go for a walk Workout with weights Reduce fast food intake Improve your sleep hygiene Cook your own food Recommended Book: The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg   I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast 

If 2020 taught us anything it's that change is inevitable. How we adapt to the change will either make us or break us. We need to let go of the notion that we have control of every aspect of our lives because we don't. Here are some ways we can cope with change: Stop and breathe Observe and absorb the situation Adjust your expectations Don't stress about what's out of your control Find the humor in every circumstancePray Recommended Book: Who Moved My Cheese? By Spenser Johnson  I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast 

The average American spends over 11 hours per day listening to, watching, reading, or generally interacting with media. Do we really need that much exposure to media? The eyes and ears are windows to the soul, so we become what we are exposed to. Here are some things media shouldn't do: Control your time Affect your mood Be a source of temptation Be a source of validation Get in the way of you building real-life relationships with people Recommended Books: Lies Men Believe: And the Truth That Sets Them Free by Robert Wulgemuth and Lies Women Believe: And the Truth That Sets Them Free  by Nacy DeMoss Wulgemuth I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast 

Are you, like many others, having an identity crisis? Your worth doesn't come from popular culture, your clothes, job, car, house, relationship status, education, beauty, size, gender, or race. You will end up trying to be someone you're not when you don't know whose you are. You were uniquely made to be you. Recommended Book: Mark of a Man and Let Me Be a Woman both by Elisabeth Elliot  I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast 

Our financial health significantly affects our overall well-being. We need good money habits and bad money habits can be broken to thrive in our finances.  Honor God with your money – be a good steward  Live below your means  Pay off debt on time  Don't waste money on non-essentials  Save, save, save – be prepared for the unexpected  Educated yourself on personal finances  Recommended Book: Get Good with Money by Tiffany Aliche   I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast 

We live in a fallen world and there are unhealthy relationships everywhere. Listen to this episode to find out the characteristics of toxic relationships and what you can do to get out.  Verbal abuse  Physical abuse  Emotional/mental abuse   Sexual abuse  Manipulation  Gas-lighting  There is hope and healing that can always be found through Jesus.  If you live in the US and need help getting out of an abusive situation, check out these resources: www.211.org and www.findhelp.org   Recommended Book: When to Walk Away: Finding Freedom from Toxic People by Gary Thomas   I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast 

What makes a relationship healthy, you ask? Communication Empathy & compassion Mutual respect Vulnerabilty & trsut Honesty Forginess Encouragement and Gratitude These are just some qualities to look for in a healthy relationship. Are you lacking in any of these areas? Recommended Book: Winning the War in Your Mind: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life by Craig GroeschelI'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast 

You are the only person you will ever live with in your entire life. Having a healthy mind, body, and spirit is crucial for a well-balanced life. It's all connected – one area affects the other two. Lastly, Piercing the Darkness by Frank E. Peretti is the recommended read for this episode. Be sure to read it after reading This Present Darkness! If you want to submit a question to be featured in a future episode, email thewaitingruem@gmail.comRecommended Book: Piercing the Darkness by Frank PerettiI'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast 

Life wouldn't be the same without the people around us. Our family, friends, professional, and peripheral relationships play an important role in the making of who we are. Plus, it is not the quantity, but the quality of the relationship that matters when it comes to connecting with people. Lastly, This Present Darkness by Frank E. Peretti is the recommended read for this episode.   Recommended Book: This Present Darkness by Frank Peretti  I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast

God created us to have a relationship with him. The presence or absence of God in our lives is going to significantly affect every other area of our existence, including other Relationships. Listen to my testimony of how I developed a relationship with God. You too can come to know Him.  Recommended Book: 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman  I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast

We need people because... Listen for ten reasons why we need relationships – healthy ones that is. There are three main types of relationships- with God, with people, and with yourself and quality is better than quantity. Lastly, Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman is a great book to read if you want to strengthen your relationships.I'd love to hear your feedback, comments, or questions! Contact me via:Email: thewaitingruem@gmail.comInstagram: @thewaitingruemWebsite: The Waiting Ruem Podcast

Welcome to The Waiting Ruem! This show is for everyone and anyone who wants to thrive in their season of waiting. Remember, it's not how long you wait, but how well you wait. We will be discussing relationships, personal growth, money, health & fitness, travel, and everything else in between. So, pull up a seat and let's talk!