Podcasts about partner betrayal

If your partner cheats on you, can the relationship be repaired? Is it your fault if your partner cheats? And how do men respond differently to being cheated on? Adam Nisenson is the author of A Man's Guide to Partner Betrayal — a book specifically for men whose partners have cheated on them. We discuss why he calls infidelity a “death experience,” why it's such a blow to our self esteem, and what not to do if you find out your partner has betrayed you.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/03/cheating-guide-to-betrayal-nisenson   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

In this episode, Drs. Jessica Tyler and Simona Niculaes explore the complex emotional journey of individuals recovering from partner betrayal, especially in the context of sexual addiction. Drawing from clinical experience and key findings of a qualitative study, this episode examines common emotional and psychological challenges faced by partner survivors and the factors that facilitate post-traumatic growth and resilience. Listeners will gain insights into practical strategies that counselors can use to support and guide betrayed partners toward healing and growth. For more on our guests, links from the conversation, and APA citation for this episode visit https://concept.paloaltou.edu/resources/the-thoughtful-counselor-podcast  The Thoughtful Counselor is created in partnership with Palo Alto University's Division of Continuing & Professional Studies. Learn more at concept.paloaltou.edu

Today, Carol the Coach is interviewing  Emellina Belle MA, LMFT, ASECT, who is going to be discussing the needs for partners to have a supportive space fto actively navigate the tumultuous journey of discovery or disclosure, dealing with complex trauma, and experiencing PTSD symptoms. She will be discussing the profound impact of partner sexual betrayal trauma on the brain, exploring the latest in neuroscience to help partners understand their reactions and responses, additionally supporting individuals who have transformed their pain into strength. We will be covering essential topics like the physiological effects of trauma, the science behind emotional triggers, and effective strategies for managing stress and anxiety. It's not just about surviving trauma. It is about thriving beyond it. She believes that therapists need to  focus on Post-Traumatic Growth, offering practical advice and tools to help you actively rebuild trust, find inner peace, and foster resilience. Learn how to create boundaries, safety, and stabilization in your environment, establish healthy boundaries, and prioritize self-care. Join us for an insightful discussion as she offers valuable resources to actively support the healing journey. She would like for partners to discover how to turn their trauma into a pathway for post-traumatic growth, empowerment, and renewed hope.

We will be talking with the author of Determined for More, Shawna Meek, as she shares about her new book, an authentic memoir of a wife that was given God's grace beyond her own strength. Shawna shares how she loved, wept, pleaded and grieved, yet never stopped fighting for something she believed was possible. Her story is a real and raw account of twenty-five years of striving and remaining willing to find faith-filled hope in Christ forged by painfully compounding losses.  Coming into marriage with high hopes, Shawna faced a cascade of devastating events. Divorce, remarriage, betrayal trauma, emotional deprivation, and her husband's late in life diagnosis with autism. This often left her with few options for healing and recovery, yet she persevered and remains determined for more. Shawna truly understands the roots of attachment distress in a marriage, even after addiction sobriety. Her personal story began in 2000, and after many years of mentoring women, she knew God was calling her to an extensive coaching training program and ultimately APSATS as a certified partner coach. She is passionate about supporting women as they face specific challenges on this journey, including boundaries during separation and divorce, abuse and gaslighting, therapeutic disclosure preparation, intimacy anorexia and deprivation, and emotional and sexual reintegration

In today's episode of Psych Talk I chat with Stephanie Lynn, a trauma & relational recovery coach, who is passionate about relational recovery and post-betrayal dating. Stephanie shares her own experience as a betrayed partner dealing with sex addiction and sexual fetishism of her ex-partner. Stephanie discusses what betrayal in a relationship may look like, what betrayal trauma is, and some symptoms of betrayal trauma, as well as warning signs that your partner may be betraying you. Stephanie discusses ways individuals can work through their betrayal and their betrayal trauma, as well as overcoming fears when it comes to post-betrayal dating. Connect with Stephanie: Website: www.coachstephanielynn.com IG: @coach_stephanie_lynn Connect with Me: Follow me on IG ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jessicaleighphd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow the podcast on IG ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@psych.talk.podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow me on TikTok ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jessicaleighphd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow me on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  Follow me on Threads ⁠⁠⁠⁠@jessicaleighphd⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Welcome to Group Therapy Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join my Facebook community: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Grow Through What You Go Through⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ways to Work With Me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Mind Over Matter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LGBTQ+ Affirming Masterclass⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Be a guest on my podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Anti-Racism Resources⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LGBTQ+ Affirming Resources⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Helping Professional's Guide to Boundary Setting⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Intro/Outro Music ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Life of Riley⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ by Kevin MacLeod ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Music License⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Aura LaBarre (LCMHC) and Celynd Malone (LCMHCA) discuss betrayal trauma and its impact on partners.

Welcome to another episode of "Choosing to Stay," the podcast that explores the complexities of relationships, especially in the aftermath of partner betrayal. Today, we're delving into the terminology that often surfaces during the challenging journey of early recovery for couples. Thank you for joining us on this summary exploration of the terminology surrounding partner betrayal and early couples recovery. Remember, understanding this language is a crucial step toward healing and rebuilding. We'll be back with more insights and stories in our next episode. Until then, take care and choose to stay committed to your journey of recovery and growth. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio https://stephaniehambycoaching.youcanbook.me/ Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.  Healing Hearts Course - Stephanie Hamby leads This Couples Course that is a comprehensive program designed for early recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction. The course provides practical education and tools to support healing for the partner and relationship repair.  More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there with this accessible group that is free for the first 12 weeks.  Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity, and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.  Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.  Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and comradery.  Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.  Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.  Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.  Connect with Choose Recovery on Instagram

Aarti Chidambaram is Asia's sole APSATS-certified partner specialist. As a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS), she works with Partners of Betrayal Trauma. She is also on the Board of APSATS. Her approach to working with partners from “Discovery to Recovery©” focuses on practical tools to deal with complex issues. Facilitating one of the longest-running support groups in Singapore- and maybe in Asia, she is dedicated to helping partners find their voice and strength in the aftermath of betrayal. A Certified Clinical ERCEM Specialist (CCES), Aarti also works with couples to help them navigate the murky waters of recovery after the devastation of betrayal. She is also an ERCEM Supervisor, helping other professionals with her skills and expertise. She visits with Carol  today to discuss a truly transformative partner retreat nestled amidst the breathtaking hills of South India! Open to partners at any stage of recovery, this retreat offers a chance to rejuvenate oneself through yoga, breathwork, mindfulness, trauma work, and group sessions. Embrace nature's serenity and discover your inner self while connecting with other partners, fostering strength and empowerment on this shared recovery journey. Let's heal and thrive together!    

As a trailblazer and thought-leader in the field of GASLIGHTING, Sarah Morales found the "traditional" definition was leaving people MORE confused about what IS and IS NOT GASLIGHTING; it was stigmatizing; it was perpetuating fear and a sense of powerlessness. SHE FOUND THAT THIS WAS NOT HELPING ANYONE! Her work in this field over the past decade has led her to create her OWN definition of GASLIGHTING - one that has helped her clients SEE THEMSELVES; one that has helped shift the power BACK IN TO THEIR HANDS. LIsten as Carol the Coach interviews Sarah about her free DeConstructing Gaslighting Webinar and the other Courses and Certifications that she has to offer!

Carol the Coach believes that couples can get through partner betrayal  and find post traumatic growth. Today, she interviews authors Joanna and Matt Raabsmith who along with Dan Drake, wrote Building True Intimacy:Creating a Connection that Stands the Test of Time. In this book they describe about how couples can navigate some of the later stages of betrayal recovery as a team. Their roadmap helps a couple tackle issues like forgiveness and grieving, sexual reintegration, and building a thriving partnership. Using the skills and framework of the Intimacy Pyramid they will share how couples can work through some of the obstacles to full healing in their recovery journey. They have lived this journey and now they want you to find restoration too!  

Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Tune in to episode #7 of the Choosing to Stay podcast, where Stephanie engages in a thought-provoking dialogue with a distinguished guest, Danielle Lew. Danielle expounds on her experience of electing to remain in a relationship while leveraging her proficiency in the field. She underscores the significance of approaching partner betrayal through the prism of trauma, seeking assistance and therapeutic aid from certified experts and practitioners, and also reveals a tale of redemption. About Danielle Lew: Danielle is no stranger to hurt, depression, anxiety, addiction, and betrayal trauma; both in her childhood and in her marriage.  She is married to Derek and while she knew early on of his addiction to substances, she did not know there was another addiction lurking in the background. Pornography.  She recalls saying, “But I know he would never cheat on me…”.  It wasn't until several years and 3 children later that God led  Danielle opened up Derek's laptop to see the truth - he was acting out. She didn't realize that the addiction to substances and pornography fueled one another in an insidious cycle of drugs, porn, guilt, shame, drugs, porn, guilt, shame…   Danielle realized quickly that no matter what her husband was doing or not doing, she was responsible for herself. This was liberating and empowering. She worked on healing wounds, developing boundaries, and putting her faith in Jesus; not in her husband. She knew she had to surrender Derek at the foot of the cross.  Derek ultimately chose to fight for their marriage and they are now experiencing redemption in their 20+ years together.   Danielle helps women as a Coach (APSATS trained) and as a Group Facilitator through her practice Danielle Nicole Coaching & several other Christ-Centered organizations She is passionate about helping women & couples live an abundant life by finding their identity in Christ and taking back any areas of the body, mind, and spirit that the enemy has tried to steal, kill, or destroy! If you want to reach out to Dani, her coaching website is www.daniellenicolecoaching.com, or if you're looking for therapy in the state of PA www.trinitywellnessgroup.com Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio https://stephaniehambycoaching.youcanbook.me/ Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.  Healing Hearts Course - Stephanie Hamby leads This Couples Course that is a comprehensive program designed for early recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction. The course provides practical education and tools to support healing for the partner and relationship repair. 

Today, Carol the Coach, Mary Kay Cocharo who wants to educate our listeners abou a new type of support and intervention.Encounter-Centered Couples Therapy is an integrative relational model at the intersection of philosophy, clinical theory, organizational methodology, and relational neurobiology. It aims at assisting couples to experience the most alive and joyful connection with each other while helping each other grow and develop their relational intelligence on the path to relational maturity. It inspires couples to become not just good couples but creative couples!  In the stage of Intimacy Building, EcCT will help you to learn an effective and powerful tool for better communication, to deepen emotional connection, resolve conflict, and create a shared vision for your relationship.The work is done in weekly couples counseling, in Private Intensives, and in Weekend Couples Retreats.  We know what disconnects us from our partner, EcCT will teach you what connects.

The aftershock of betrayal can feel like a cracking in the landscape of your life. Nothing looks or feels familiar anymore.How do you move forward? What are next steps?On this episode of Sacred by Design, we'll tenderly walk through a framework to help you navigate the next steps.Infidelity, Cheating, Betrayal: Each of these words carries a lot of hurt and shame. Whether you just found out your husband's been unfaithful or you found porn on your loved ones phone, you may realize you're left with more than a broken heart. A Spiritual Coach offers a safe space for you to walk through the devastation of sexual betrayal from discovery to healing.Highlights:Because life might feel fuzzy, you're going to wonder: Did I cause this? Can I cure this? How do I control this?Remember, As You Navigate Recovery:You can't Control it.You can't Cure this.You didn't Cause this.You can Choose how to Recover from this.Praying Through RecoveryHelp me to journey beyond the familiar and into the unknown. Give me the faith to leave old ways and break fresh ground with you. Christ of the mysteries, I trust you to be stronger than each storm within me . I will trust in the darkness and know that my times, even now, are in your hands. Tune my spirit to the music of heaven. And somehow, make my obedience count for you. AmenHelp the show:Support the showAsk a question by emailing usLeave a reviewSubscribe wherever you get your podcastsFollow us on YouTube for behind the scenes and more

Discover How Past Partner Betrayal Can Impact Your Fertility with Kylene Terhune FDN-P, NLP Coach “Underneath every addiction is trauma and emotional wounds because addiction is a self-medicating process.” Topics Discussed:

It is so exhausting to deal with the collateral damage of being a partner. It is just so unfair!  You didn't ask for the betrayal with all of its emotional wounding and many partners wonder if they will ever be able to recover. To make matters worse, partners put themselves on the back burner. Partners have options to get intense help but they delay it because: They resent that they need to make space for this "_____." They resent that there is a need for this support and that it would take them away from their families for 3.5. or 7 days. And yet we know empiracallly that often times the brain needs to reset and being away in a supportive enviroment with others who have been through the same thing is exactly what needs to happen to recalibrate and find the safety and mindset to move forward into restoration of your own life as a couple and individually, Listen as Carol talks with Heidi Kinsella abouth the Partner Intensives that they have created together for Partners!

When a partner feels Post-Traumatic Growth, she is much more likely to want to share it with other women who need the encouragement! Listen as Carol the Coach, interviews a partner to find out how she got healthy and what she learned about herself!

Today, I interview Leslie McCall and Jeff Hernandez.  Leslie helps women who are dealing with a husband, fiancé or boyfriend who is wrestling with pornography or sexual addiction.  Listen as Leslie and Jeff talk about: How to confront a person who's is trapped in sexual addiction How to overcome the fear of change How to deal with gaslighters, anger and counterattackers How you can't forgive unless you know what you're forgiving How to deal with self-blame Questions: How'd you and Jeff meet? How'd you become a Christian? Jeff shared his story in a previous episode, why'd you get involved in coaching women whose husbands struggle with addiction? How do you know when your husband has an issue? What do you do when you find something? How do you confront the situation? What if your husband's a gaslighter, defensive or angry? What are seeing in people's lives? What are women dealing with? In the past, women in church were told either: Be more sexually available or: Leave your husband What are a woman's options? How do you deal with self-blame? Jeff, you've said that “Men set better boundaries.” Can you explain? What do you do if your husband is in a high profile position and you are afraid he may lose his job or status? What services do you provide? What does the program look like? Is there hope after recovery? Can a marriage be repaired? Are there any good news stories or examples? You can contact Leslie here:  Leslie@lovingwingsrecovery.com

Listen as Carol the Coach interviews Julie St Onge as she talks about how brainspotting can assist couples in their relational struggles. Brainspotting allows the emotional brain to reprocess trauma and reorganize it into the cortex or logical brain. It expedites the healing process. It is a process that involves using the optic nerve direction and bilateral music. We tap into where the trauma is and allow it to reprocess and reduce. This is not exposure therapy.  The benefit to couples spotting is that the wounding between the couple comes up immediately. This allows the couple to be more aware of the injuries and triggers that surface without any spoken words. They can be processed and even notice how one wound triggers another. Couples experience connection at a deep level as the emotional base heals. This allows more effective communication and use of tools and skills. 

Carol the Coach interviews Dr. Jill Manning, the creator of a Therapeutic Separation Planning Guide. This one-of-a-kind guide provides clinicians, coaches, and couples with a highly structured, worksheet-style resource for planning a customized therapeutic separation. Over 120 open-ended questions cover key topics for separating couples. In addition to a visually appealing layout, expert tips, research data, and quotes are included to assist couples in organizing a therapeutic separation that is as healing as possible. This digital resource is a must-have for anyone contemplating a therapeutic separation, or for professionals working with couples who are candidates for this type of intervention. A Therapeutic Separation Planning Guide is a 59-page PDF digital document that is divided into two main sections. Section one is for individual brainstorming by each partner, and section two is where the finalized therapeutic separation agreement comes together and is signed by the couple and the professionals involved. Each section includes worksheet-style pages filled with questions that are essential for creating a clear and effective therapeutic separation. Carol and Dr. Jill will be discusssing why this guide creates more safety for couples as they navigate their needs.   The open-ended questions cover topics such as: Purpose & GoalsStrengths & WeaknessesTiming & LengthExpectations for Individual WorkExpectations for Couples WorkLiving ArrangementsParenting ResponsibilitiesFamily ActivitiesCouple CommunicationDivision of Household ResponsibilitiesFinancesPhysical AffectionSexual IntimacyDatingHolidays & Special EventsWorship & Spiritual PracticesHandling Issues or Disagreements that AriseSobriety

Partners who experience berayal trauma can learn how to deal with the impact it has on their health. Today, Carol the Coach, interviews 2 partner betrayal specialists who have helped with other specialists to create a workshop for women who need to reclaim their lives. In this workshop, women will be able to : 1. Learn from partner betrayal trauma and behavioral health specialists 2. Grieve the losses with other women on a similar journey 3. Claim and give voice to their Body Bears the Burden path 4. Honor their story, honor your body, honor yourself Listen as Dr. Janice Caudill and Julie StOnges talk about this healing workshop available on Jan 14th from 9-0pm EST.  They would also like for you to take their survey to gain research on how partner betrayal has impacted you!

Everything changed with a ding, with a click on a tab; that's all it took to discover the man you love has been cheating on you. Now what? That's just one of the questions we'll walk through on this episode of “Sacred by Design.” Anne joins Andrea to discuss the ways infidelity leaves you with more than just a broken heart. Together, let's Learn to name the symptoms your body is experiencing, to give words to the screaming questions in your head, to validate your response to a devastating discovery. This is a heavy episode. Grab a cup of cold water and take a deep breath. Let's begin.HighlightsD-Day is also known as Discovery Day: You're caught off guard. You didn't know there was something going on with somebody. And then you start connecting the dots and panic sets in. Name what your body is feeling. Symptoms may include: confusion, irritability, headaches, lack of appetite, intrusive thoughts. This can be expected. You think your life looks one way and all of a sudden it looks completely different.Be aware of getting the right support. The wrong support can almost be re-traumatizing.Healing is possible. It can look like symptoms being reduced. The offending spouse is able to say, “What do you need today? What is this like? I'm here. I'm trying to walk in recovery.” And then, that builds trust because trust has been broken. Safety's been broken in the relationship. Long term observable actions make the biggest impact. And that is what helps the wife begin to heal.ResourcesDr Barbara SteffensThe Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma SpecialistsHelp the showSupport the showAsk a question by emailing usLeave a reviewSubscribe wherever you get your podcastsFollow us on YouTube for behind the scenes and more

Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Melissa Ruff who has developed livefreewives.org to serve woman who want to be free of the anxiety and fear that accompanies partner betrayal.She is going to share with partners how they can REALLY tell if theri husband is in true recovery or white knuckling it.

How to tell if your partner is slipping or you are?   There are many reasons to stay in a relationship, from family, finances, and most importantly love. But staying in a relationship where both parties are figuring out the next steps after the discovery of SA isn't easy. What if they cheat? What if I can never trust them again? How will I be able to tell if we can move past these issues or if our relationship is doomed? Sometimes, the problem isn't your partner. In this podcast, Carol the Coach will explore with Rebecca Stokes how to  explore the green lights that tell you your partner is doing well, and maybe it's your turn to do some work, as well as, the red lights that reveal real problems. We'll talk about how past traumas and betrayals impact the brain and nervous system, leading to cloudy decision making. Then we'll look at what you can do to take charge of your experience, set healthy boundaries, and decide whether to stay or go.

Today, Carol is interviewing a resilient woman who was raped by her husband and misguided by the church. She talks about her confusion about his actions and how they tried to find guidance with the church. She lived years in that confusion until she started to focus on herself which started the road to recovery.

In 2019, Charlen Benson, wrote the book Unstuck book. She has added a missing piece to the book and wanted our viewers to know that she has created a Study Guide which  offers thought provoking questions, easy-to-follow checklists, road-tested tips, healing exercise, insightful writing prompts, and profoundly moving prayers. She explains to Carol the Coach, "When we are ‘on the road' in our relationship, we get along fine and are able to navigate amicably our varying interests and desires.  On the road, we are conscious, mindful, balanced, and aware.  However, when we don't know how to balance our wants and desires with our mate, it's like we get stuck in a ditch. Where we land depends on childhood experiences.  We either default to becoming a people pleaser Others-Focused” (OF) or insist on our own way “Me-Focused.” (MF).  Over time I discovered 21 predictable OF and MF default behaviors, though that's not an exhaustive list. Each ditch behavior represents and extreme behavior that is a subconscious, automatic, preprogrammed, reaction, driven by fear and feeling powerless to do anything else.  When the default behaviors don't work, we switch to the opposite extreme reaction, propelling our counterpart to the opposite ditch. OF's engage in their behaviors to protect themselves from the rejection they experienced in childhood by acting in abandoning ways, while MF's try to protect themselves from abandonment by acting in rejecting ways.  When we identify our reactive behaviors, name the fears driving them, we then can overcome those fears by engaging in a combination of the 24 strategies offered. " Find out how you can create healthier relationships too!

I am so honored to be with Heidi Kinsella who has created an amazing Five Day Intensive Equine Inspired Experience for Women Join a small group of women for an immersive healing experience set in a rural setting including equine assisted therapy, mindfulness, group therapy around the campfire, psychoeducation about betrayal trauma, and Soundbath healing to help work through the emotional and stress responses to trauma.We will be taking women throughthe three stages of healing including:1.safety and stabilization 2.working through anger, grief and mourning 3.restoration of self with posttraumatic growth. Heidi is using the concepts and exercises  from Unleashing Your Powere the book that  Carol wrote to woork through the trauma and betrayal. If you feel stuck and need a healing place to nurture yourself and refocus your sense of emposwement. this may be the experience for you!         Designed and facilitated by Heidi Kinsella, LMHC, SUDP, CSAT, CPTT, CMAT, CCPS and Carol Juergensen Sheets, LCSW, CCPS-S, PCC and will bring her book Unleashing Your Power: Moving Through the Trauma of Partner Betrayal to life.   *Mention Restoring Hearts for a discount of $500.00 per person Starts at noon on Thursday, 8/4/22 and ends at 1pm on Monday, 8/8/22

Dr. Laurie discusses the partner betrayal trauma w/ Dr. Douglas Weiss. You'll also hear answers to listener submitted questions, and get Dr. Laurie's take on "Sex in the News".

Carol will be talking to a  visionary and pioneer in spiritual growth and transformation, who will be sharing life-changing experiences and insights with clarity and humor.She has developed the Blueprint for the Human Spirit®, her holistic model for conscious, compassionate living. She is uniquely qualified to talk about the Blueprint since it evolved in harmony with her transformation. She is an architect for the human spirit.These Spiritual Blueprinting sessions get to the heart of core issues and an individualized approach for you to transform your life through a holistic process. She is also a best-selling author of several books, including The Dance of Ego and Essence: Confessions of a Divine Diva. This book and its companion journal can help you to get real with yourself. Through radical honesty, you can release negative behaviors, emotional baggage, and old beliefs that keep you trapped in addiction and victimhood. She will inspire both addicts and partners to acknowledge how the tragedies that they have experienced can be a catalyst for post-traumatic growth.

No one should do “this” alone..  And with GFY Coaching, is going to describe their mission to ensure you don't have to. Carol will be interviewing both Gail and Judy who have shifted their vision from establishing and growing our business to what some would call, a grandiose proposition, where we work to reach ALL partners who want and need help overcoming the pain and devastation caused by sexual betrayal. There are so many women out there who desperately need the help, but are unaware of it… and even if they are aware, they either can't afford the help they need, or they don't know how or where to find the resources that are available to help them. This leads us to the first element of our Practice's focus…educating the community around us…stepping out of our APSATS community and into places that have never even heard the term sexual betrayal trauma.. educating, training and shedding light on this topic to anyone end everyone who is willing to listen. Churches, state organizations, community centers, wellness centers etc. time/cost effectiveness ..we can help more people at one time and at a much lower rate.

Today, Carol the Coach will be talking to Sarah who has many reasons to believe her husband is still acting out. She reached out to me for answers and I invited her to come on the show and talk about what she is facing in her marriage with a man who allegedley is doing lots of things that make her doubt his sincerity. She wants to get to the truth and is not sure how to do that. Listen to the common questions that partners have io get straight answers from their spuses.

It's hard enough to fully enjoy mutual intimacy in our romantic relationship. When picking up the pieces after relational betrayal, these natural difficulties become even more complex. After betrayal, navigating daily tasks and wondering what the future holds can feel very uncertain and fearful for both partners and the family. Today, Carol the Coach is interviewing Alex Avilia, who is going to be explaing the dynamics between the coupleship. Each person needs to feel a sense of Emotional Safety. When relational instability and loss of trust become emotionally painful, betrayed partners need to know they have something to hold onto. They can develop individual strength and resiliency and ask their addicted partner to be emotionally safe for them. The addict's attitude and presence—along with their consistent desire to develop relational insights and skills—means everything. Only when they can provide the safety and responsiveness that the betrayed partner wanted all along will they be able to fully heal themselves and exponentially boost their partner's sense of trust. In this episode, you will learn about the vital need for Emotional Safety, how to assess your vulnerability when taking risks to share more deeply, and how to stay present and engaged so both partners can feel increased hope in their relational recovery. EMAIL: alex@alexanderavila.com [AH-vee-law] WEBSITE: AlexAAvila.com [AH-vee-law] Sign up at AlexAAvila.com to be notified about pre-ordering his book. ([Carol, you can say “It's coming soon.” OR, you can share the Expected Release Date: February 2022.]) BOOK TITLE: “Emotional Safety: Honoring Yourself While Developing Trust and Presence to Experience Meaningful Relationships”

During phase two of APSATS trauma model, the SA, and often times the partner herself may ask “Why can't I/she get over it” or “why are we stuck and not moving forward”? When working with couples it is essential that the SA learn As much information as he can about betrayal trauma. And part of that information is not only about the timing and the patience that the SA needs to have but also how he needs to have the tools to help his partner move towards forgiveness. The partner never will “get over it” but she can grow from it and use her experience to become an even better version of herself, and eventually the couple can heal as well. But it all starts with safety and stability. Today, Carol the Coach willl be talking to Tiffany Comisky who wants couples to recognize the trauma of partner betrayal.The goal here is to help the partner move into a place in the relationship where she is finally feeling safe enough to feel “connected” with the SA. Much too often the SA wants to move straight into the post traumatic growth stage, especially if he is feeling free from his own pain of addiction and/or isn't dealing with the shame of it so wants to put it behind him as fast as possible. But it simply doesn't work that way. The SA needs to understand the damage that has been done to his partner and to their relationship is not an easy fix, but if he has the attitude of “I'm willing to be here for my partner and help her through this trauma for as long as it takes” then there is hope. The biggest challenge is having the stamina to do this.

Partner betrayal is devestating and you need the skills to get through it. Listen as Carol the Coach gives you tips on how to work through the pain! Today, Joanna Raabsmith is going to be talking about how she empowerw partners as their spouses struggle with sex addiction, infedelity and betrayal. When partners find out about the discovery, they typically feel disempowered and the imbalance can make them feel even more unsafe and insecure. As they become more empowered, they have more control and their personal healing increases.

Dr. Alexandra Katehakis, world renowned Sex Addiction Therapist and Director of the Center for Healthy Sex in Los Angeles shares a wealth of information today. What is Sex Addiction? Is it real, or just an excuse for bad behavior? She believes that compulsive sexual behavior is a way of masking very deep pain and extreme emotion dysregulation that typically originates in childhood. Dr. Katehakis explains that most sex addicts suffer from an early Attachment Disorder. Case presentations are discussed to highlight the complicated sexual arousal template that develops in the face of early childhood trauma and how shame, humiliation and fear are all fused with sympathetic arousal. The resulting compulsive sexual behavior is sometimes an attempt at self-soothing and sometimes a manifestation of trauma repetition-compulsion. “Shame is both the cause and effect of the Sex Addiction itself.” Dr. Katehakis discusses her most significant contribution to the field…long term psychotherapy for long term change and making the Carnes model a sex positive one. Her ultimate goal for her clients is a healthy sex life and healthy intimate connections. We underline the importance of group therapy as a vehicle to develop a capacity for intimate connecting with others and shame reduction. Other topics of conversation are the difference between sex and love addiction, the impact of sex addiction on the partner, the effect of the hundred billion dollar porn industry on our children and on the sexual functioning of young men, and what kind of conversations parents should consider having with their children about sex and pornography.

Today Carol the Coach is interviewing Jenni Rochelle who has created a coaching program for women healing from betrayal trauma.  It's a six-month, private coaching program for women who are in the later stages of healing and are ready to reclaim and rediscover themselves.   The website is www.jennirochelle.com/beautyafterbetrayal

Carol's guest was unable to appear so she talked about her new book "Unleashing Your Power" and how that book can move you through the 3 stages of partner betrayal. As you listen to the show, ask yourself what you can do to detach from the pain and grow from the inner strength that you have inside.

This episode was hands-down one for the books! Kelsi and I learned so much from Rebecca Ray about what intimate partner betrayal is, how it impacts both partners in a relationship, and how the healing process is facilitated through concrete action steps. We explored the differences between sex addiction and addiction to alcohol/drugs, the intersection of trauma wounds and so much more!⁣ Resources from Rebecca on the topic:⁣ -

Carol the Coach will be interviewing a couple about Sexual Addiction and Partner Betrayal and how to get clarity when it doesn't feel like recovery is working. Listen to their story and what they have tried to get healthy.

Replay of Carol the Coach talking with Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck talking about helpping couples heal.

Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Debby Flanagan who has more than 25 years of ministry experience helping women find healing from sexual and love addiction and trauma. As a survivor, she has a special connection with women who have experienced childhood sexual abuse. Debby works closely with women in recognizing areas of codependency and developing healthy boundaries.Debby is passionate about helping women discover their true identity in our Lord and the joy they experience when they find lifelong healing from shame and trauma.She works for Pure Desire and helps women access recovery tools that will reinforce their relationship with God.

Frequently churches are the first responders to help couples facing infidelity and sex addiction. Often times they are ill equipped to know how to handle it from a partner sensitive approach. Hence, they do more damage to the partner and contribute to her pain. Listen as Marie Celano talks about how she is educating the church leaders to provide services to partners from a trauma perspective. This will be an inspiring conversation that may motivate you to set up services in your community.

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Judee Alvarado and Julie StOnge, about the faith conference that represents a collaboration of organizations coming together to support women who have experienced betrayal and abuse in their intimate relationships. Partners, counselors, coaches, and those in ministry are encouraged to come. All are APSATS trained in the The Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model.  One of the main issues addressed will be the deconstruction and reconstruction of faith. Faith can be broken down due to incorrect clergy advice and handlings, unanswered prayers, the acting out partner unwilling to enter sobriety and recovery, an incorrect victim theology, and years lost with a person mishandling emotions and staying in addiction. Barbara Steffens, Laurie Hall, Catherine Etherington, Lyschel Burket, Kristin Carey and Karen Rellos will address how faith can be rebuilt and we can find our true selves again. There will be a powerful time of reflection, prayer, and connection led by Barbara Steffens at the end.

Repeat of APSATS President Laurie Hall talking about having read the first book on Partner Betrayal

Tonight Carol the Coach will be interviewing Dr. Stefanie Carnes about her new book entitled, "Courageous Love: A Couples Guide to Conquering Betrayal". Couragious Love is a book for couples who would like to work together to save their relationship, following an experience of betrayal. In the book, Dr. Carnes discusses betrayal trauma, and educates couples about normal responses to betrayal and how couples can work together to help repair the relationship. She shares the best strategies for cultivating honesty and talks about what couples can do to rebuild their relationship and redindle their intimacy.

Repeat of the show

Carol the Coach talks with experts on partner betrayal.

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Karen Rellos, APSATS Coach, who is a partner herself and has an amazing story about the relationship healing that occurred in her life. She feels that groups were instrumental in that journey and she wants to let parnters know how they can find sanity in an unsafe situation. We will be joined by 3 other partners  who have experienced the benefits and blessings of group!

Today, Carol will be interviewing Barbara Steffens, APSATS President, who will be sharing the history of why she started APSATS and how partners of sexual addiction can seek the safety they deserve. Nothing destroys trust like sexual betrayal. Beyond broken vows, a woman discovers that the man she loves has been compulsively visiting adult websites,chatting on line or having multiple affairs must deal with the devastating blows to her self-image and self-worth. She must grapple with the fact that the man she loved and thought that she knew has lied and deceived her. Where does she go for help? Carol the Coach will be hosting this show to help you find the strength and the resources to get you through this crisis. She is an APSATS trained therapist who understands partner betrayal. She knows that you can get through this and wants APSATS to be your source for healing! Carol and APSATS have made it their mission to provide support as you navigate through the betrayal and as APSATS President Barbara Steffens says, "Find safety in an unsafe situation."

This is a description of the show that we have created for you as you deal with being a partner of a sex addict and work through the trauma and drama in your life. You didn't cause this, you can't cure it but you can keep yourself safe and we are going to help you figure out how to do it!