Choosing to Stay

“One of the most painful places couples get stuck after betrayal is right here: One partner is thinking, ‘We're okay. Why can't we move on?' And the other is thinking, ‘I want to—but my body keeps panicking.' And both end up wondering what's wrong with them.In this episode, I want to explain why this disconnect happens—not because someone is resisting healing, but because the nervous system doesn't work on logic or timelines. If you've ever felt frustrated, confused, or ashamed of your body's response after betrayal, this conversation is for you.”Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingJoin me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences: The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual)Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026If today's episode resonated with you, you don't have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you're craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I'm helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal.

In this special bonus episode, Hali Roderick is joined by her friends and trusted colleagues Amie Woolsey and Alana Gordon for a shared conversation about the heart, vision, and deeper purpose behind the Rise, Renew, Restore Women's Retreat in Costa Rica.Together, we explore why this retreat is about so much more than getting away — it's about creating true nervous-system relief, embodied healing, and a felt sense of safety that many women have been longing for after betrayal, burnout, and chronic emotional stress.We also unpack the meaning behind the name Rise, Renew, Restore, and how each part reflects the journey women move through when they step into a space designed not just for insight, but for deep, body-level change.Stay Connected with Me:Join me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences: The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual)Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you're craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I'm helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Sign up for my Newsletter: Rooted and Rising WeeklyJoin the waitlist: Rooted and Rising: Reclaiming You CourseDownload my free:⁠⁠Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠Contact: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing@gmail.com⁠

Many couples stay together after infidelity—but staying together isn't the same as healing.In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we explore the quiet, often unspoken space many couples live in after betrayal: life looks calmer on the outside, but underneath there's still tension, disconnection, or a sense of holding your breath.This conversation gently examines how avoidance can masquerade as peace, the difference between rugsweeping and real repair, and the signs that healing is actually happening—for both partners.This episode isn't about pushing you toward a decision or creating pressure to “do more.” It's about offering clarity without urgency, and honesty without self-abandonment.Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingJoin me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences: The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual)Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026If today's episode resonated with you, you don't have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you're craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I'm helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal.

Can a relationship really heal after infidelity—or does staying just mean learning how to live with the pain?In this relaunch episode of Choosing To Stay After Infidelity & Betrayal, we're slowing things down and getting honest about what healing actually requires. Whether you're the betrayed partner wondering if you'll ever feel safe again, or the partner who broke trust and wants to repair but doesn't know how, this episode is an invitation to step out of fear-based decisions and into clarity.Healing after infidelity isn't about going back to how things were. That relationship no longer exists. What's possible—if both partners are willing—is building something new with more honesty, awareness, and intention than before.This episode sets the foundation for the year ahead: grounded, trauma-informed conversations about trust repair, emotional regulation, accountability, and discernment—without rushing forgiveness, minimizing pain, or offering false hope.Join me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences: The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual)Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026If today's episode resonated with you, you don't have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Connect with me at an Intensive or Retreat:If you're craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I'm helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal.

This episode is one of the early conversations that shaped the heart of this podcast, and we're bringing it back because its message is just as important today as it was when it first aired. If you're in the aftermath of betrayal or rebuilding a relationship after broken trust, this episode lays the groundwork for understanding what true repair requires.In this re-released conversation, we explore what a renewed commitment looks like from the unfaithful partner — not in words or promises, but in consistent action. Healing after betrayal begins when the betraying partner is willing to “do whatever it takes” to rebuild safety, honor the betrayed partner's pain, and repair the relational bonds shattered by the breach.Thank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Partner CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali's BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's BioWe look forward to journeying with you!Stay Connected with Hali:Download my free:⁠⁠Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠Contact: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing@gmail.com⁠

This special re-release revisits one of the most important conversations from our early episodes — an episode so foundational that we felt it needed to be heard again. If you or your spouse are in the early stages of betrayal trauma, discovery, or relational crisis, this conversation will give you the grounding, clarity, and practical steps you need to begin healing.In this re-released episode, we walk through what we call Trauma Triage — the immediate phase after betrayal when emotions are raw, the nervous system is overwhelmed, trust is shattered, and both partners are often flooded with fear, shame, confusion, and grief. This is the stage where calm, grounding support is crucial, but it's also the time when couples feel least equipped to offer it.Thank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali Roderick Certified Partner CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali's BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's BioWe look forward to journeying with you!Stay Connected with Hali:Download my free:⁠⁠Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠Contact: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing@gmail.com⁠

This special episode of Choosing to Stay marks a heartfelt transition and an important moment for our community. Hali and Stephanie sit down for one final conversation as co-hosts to reflect on what this podcast has become, how it has supported so many navigating betrayal trauma and relational healing, and what the future now holds. In this episode, Stephanie gently announces that she is stepping away from hosting as she moves into a new season of life and work. This change flows from clarity, alignment, and care. The friendship is strong, the mission remains, and there is no rupture — only a shift. Stephanie expresses continued belief in the podcast's purpose and offers her blessing as Hali continues forward.Together, they revisit the early days of the podcast — how it began without a detailed roadmap, how meaningful and vulnerable conversations naturally emerged, and how listeners' stories have shaped the heart of the show. Hali expresses deep gratitude for the wisdom, grounding, and compassion Stephanie has brought to every episode. Stephanie shares her favorite moments, lessons learned, and the profound impact of hearing how women and couples have grown along their healing journeys.Hali then shares what's ahead: the podcast is continuing. The mission stays the same. New guests, expanded conversations, and a refreshed energy will unfold in the new year. This episode is a celebration of what has been built, an honoring of Stephanie's contribution, and an invitation into a new season of growth.If you are a woman experiencing betrayal trauma, you can find Hali on her new podcast Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal.Thank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali Roderick TICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali's BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery Coach MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's BioWe look forward to journeying with you!Stay Connected with Hali:Download my free:⁠⁠ Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠Contact: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing@gmail.com⁠

Stopping destructive behaviors is only the beginning. In recovery after betrayal, many partners achieve behavioral sobriety but struggle with emotional sobriety—the ability to regulate, integrate, and share emotions in real time. In this episode, we'll break down the psychology of emotional sobriety, how compartmentalization keeps couples stuck, and what moving toward integration looks like for both the betrayed partner and the one seeking recovery.Thank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali's BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's Bio

In this episode, we share a core truth of couples' recovery: healing starts with honoring yourself — and that personal work naturally becomes a gift to your partner, your children, and future generations. Healing isn't about fixing each other; it's about becoming grounded, regulated, and emotionally responsible.We talk about how individual healing lowers reactivity, strengthens emotional tolerance, and creates stability at home. Children benefit when parents model accountability, honesty, repair, and regulation — even without knowing the details.We also explore how relationships shift when each partner focuses on their own growth instead of waiting for the other to change. Listeners will hear simple ways to practice daily healing and begin creating a legacy of emotional safety, honesty, and courage.Thank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali's BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

In this episode, Hali welcomes her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth, BCC, MFT-I to talk about how to help children feel secure, loved, and grounded during the holidays when the family system is healing from betrayal. Kids pick up on tension, silence, and emotional shifts more than words - but they don't need perfection, they need presence. This conversation explores how to offer age-appropriate honesty, create simple rituals of connection, and bring stability into a season that might feel uncertain or different this year.Thank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali's BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

In this honest and compassionate episode, Hali and Stephanie speak directly to those who have betrayed trust and are navigating the deep discomfort of the holiday season.When you're the one who caused harm, it's natural to want to “fix” things — to bring joy back, to create happy moments, to prove your love and remorse. But often, that well-intentioned positivity can feel like bypass to your partner — like you're skipping past their pain to ease your own guilt.This conversation helps you understand what empathy looks like in action — how to stay grounded, offer comfort without pressure, and walk through the season with humility, patience, and presence.You'll learn how to avoid common pitfalls like overcompensating, defensiveness, or forced cheer, and instead practice the kind of empathy that fosters real safety and trust over time.Thank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali's BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

In this heartfelt episode, When the Season Doesn't Feel Merry: Honoring Grief, Creating Boundaries, and Finding Grace, Hali and Stephanie talk about how to navigate the holidays when your heart is still healing from betrayal. The season that's “supposed to be” full of joy and family connection can feel heavy and disorienting after trust has been broken. Together they explore how to name and honor the layers of grief that surface this time of year, release the pressure to perform or pretend, and give yourself permission to do things differently. You'll hear honest reflections about how grief can show up for both partners — from sadness and guilt to numbness or overwhelm — and how authenticity can become the first step toward peace.They also share practical ways to protect your healing through boundaries, compassion, and grace. From creating a “holiday boundary check-in” to pausing for moments of shared breath and acknowledgment, this conversation offers tools to help couples stay grounded and connected through the discomfort. Whether you choose quiet simplicity or small new traditions, this episode is an invitation to honor your reality and care for your nervous systemThank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali's BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery Coach MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C Read Stephanie's Bio

In this special episode, Hali shares from the heart about her next chapter — the creation of Rooted & Rising After Betrayal, a new podcast and healing community for women walking the path of recovery after infidelity and betrayal.While Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal will continue to support couples doing the brave work of relational healing, Rooted & Rising offers a sacred space just for women to reconnect with their truth, rebuild self-trust, and rise into their next chapter with clarity, courage, and community.If you've ever thought, “I wish there was a space just for me — where I could feel seen, understood, and supported,” this episode is your invitation.The vision and heart behind Rooted & Rising After BetrayalWhy individual healing is important for relational repairThe meaning behind being Rooted (in truth) and Rising (into empowerment)How community and connection accelerate healingWays to stay connected through new resources and groupsIn This Episode

Healing after betrayal is some of the hardest emotional work a person can face — and it is exhausting. Recovery requires constant emotional energy, rebuilding trust, courage, and change over time. That level of effort wears on everyone involved.In this episode, we acknowledge how draining the process can feel for both the betrayed partner and the partner in recovery, and how that exhaustion can affect the relationship. You'll learn why fatigue is a normal part of healing, how to recognize when you're shutting down, and what small practices can help each partner stay engaged without burning out.This conversation offers validation, understanding, and practical support for anyone navigating the long road back from relational trauma.You're not weak. You're not failing. You're healing — and healing takes energy.Thank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali's BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

Lying often begins as self-protection—but in the aftermath of betrayal, it becomes one of the biggest barriers to rebuilding connection. In this solo episode, Hali explores why lying becomes a habit, how it deepens disconnection, and what it takes to courageously choose honesty as part of the healing journey. Whether you're the partner in recovery or the betrayed partner navigating trust issues, this conversation is about more than just telling the truth—it's about reclaiming integrity, safety, and authentic connection. “Honesty isn't just about facts. It's about aligning your inner and outer world—and that's where real healing begins.”In This Episode, You'll Learn:Why lying becomes a default pattern in betrayalThe hidden fears that fuel dishonesty (rejection, shame, loss of control)How dishonesty creates a cycle of disconnection and mistrustPractical steps to build honesty like a muscle—even in low-stakes momentsHow to repair trust through accountability and consistent truth-tellingWhy support systems matter in sustaining honesty and recoveryLying often starts as a survival skill—but it can't coexist with real intimacy.Honesty is a practice, not a one-time choice.Rebuilding trust requires truth, accountability, and self-regulation.Both partners need safe spaces to process pain and grow.Men's Brain-Body Healing Summit — November 6–9, 2025 | Mesa, AZIf you've ever felt stuck in old patterns—even after trying therapy, groups, or self-help—you're not alone. Healing after betrayal, trauma, or chronic stress isn't just a “mind thing.” It lives in the brain, body, and nervous system.That's why we created the Men's Brain-Body Healing Summit, a 4-day immersive experience designed to help men reset and reclaim their strength from the inside out.If you're ready to reset, reconnect, and rise, this may be the missing piece you've been looking for.

After betrayal, the future can feel like it's been stolen. For the betrayed partner, dreams may feel shattered or unsafe to hold. For the one seeking recovery, hope for the future may be tangled with guilt, fear, or the pressure to “make things right.”In this episode, we'll talk about what it means to truly process grief, why timing matters, and how both partners can begin to cautiously, safely, and authentically dream again.You'll discover:Why trauma makes future-thinking feel dangerous.How the betrayed partner and the one seeking recovery experience hopes differently.Signs you may be ready to imagine new possibilities.Thank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali's BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

When couples stay together after betrayal, there's a difference between acceptance and resignation. Acceptance leads to hope and healing; resignation leads to disconnection and despair. In this episodeWhat acceptance vs. resignation really looks likeHow it shows up for both the betrayed and betraying partnerKey questions to help you discern where you arePractical steps to move from resignation into true acceptanceWe're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali's BioStephanie Hamby Certified Relational Recovery Coach MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C Read Stephanie's Bio

Betrayal cuts deep, leaving both partners facing painful choices about the future of their relationship. For some, staying is the beginning of an authentic rebuilding process; for others, it becomes a form of self-betrayal. In this episode, we unpack the why and the how of staying after betrayal.We approach this conversation from both perspectives: the betrayed partner and the one who has betrayed. Together, we'll explore what makes staying a healthy path toward healing—and when it becomes unhealthy, unsafe, or unwise.We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali's BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

Trust after betrayal doesn't return with one big moment. It's not only rebuilt through formal disclosures, powerful apologies, or recovery milestones—it's the hundreds of small choices made day after day.In this episode, we talk about the power of micro-trust: those tiny interactions that slowly teach a partner's heart and nervous system, “Maybe I can breathe again. Maybe I can risk hope.”You'll learn:What micro-trust is and why it matters in healing after betrayal.Everyday examples of micro-trust builders that make a real difference.Common hurdles couples face when practicing micro-trust.Simple, steady ways to keep showing up, even when it feels overwhelming.Rebuilding trust is not about rushing or fixing it all at once. It's about steady, consistent deposits that eventually create a foundation strong enough to hold safety, hope, and repair.Thank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali's BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

In this episode of the Choosing to Stay Podcast, I'm opening up about something personal: my dad's journey with Lewy Body Dementia and how it sparked my own concerns about brain health. As I walked through my own healing from emotional trauma, I began to realize something powerful—trauma isn't just about thoughts or mindset. It lives in the brain and the body, shaping the way we show up in life and relationships.Most of the men I work with are carrying the weight of early adverse childhood experiences, and those wounds often fuel the destructive patterns that cause so much pain. If you've been working hard in therapy, recovery programs, or support groups but still feel stuck, it's not because you're failing. Trauma and addiction don't just live in your thoughts—they live in your nervous system, your cells, and the physical patterns of stress in your body. Healing requires a whole-person approach.That's why we created the Men's Brain-Body Healing Summit, happening November 6–9 in Mesa, Arizona. This 4-day immersive experience goes beyond talk therapy and gives men direct access to healing at the root level—brain, body, and spirit. Together with my husband, Dr. Jeff Roderick, a functional health chiropractor, and my daughter, Morgan Ellsworth, an LMFT intern and brainspotting practitioner, we'll be guiding participants through science-backed brain therapies, somatic healing, and hands-on restoration. You'll walk away with practical skills, renewed confidence, and a roadmap for continued growth.If you're ready to reset and reclaim your strength, this summit may be the missing piece. Join us for a transformational experience of healing, clarity, and brotherhood. Learn more HERE. To schedule a consultation to see if this summit is a good fit for you, please reach out to me at: haliroderickcoaching@gmail.com or Dr. Jeff Roderick at : proactivebrainhealth@gmail.com. 

Chandler Rogers is the CEO and founder of Relay, an app designed to help people overcome pornography and sexual addiction through community and shame-free accountability. Inspired by his own recovery journey, Chandler created Relay to provide structure, daily tools, and connection for thousands navigating healing. He lives in Orem, Utah with his wife, their 18-month-old son, and another little one on the way.

Do you ever find yourself craving closeness one moment and pulling away the next? You're not alone. In this episode, we're diving deep into disorganized attachment — a pattern of connection rooted in the paradox of both desiring and fearing intimacy.You'll learn:What disorganized attachment is and how it developsThe emotional, behavioral, and physiological signs to look forWhy betrayal trauma can activate this attachment style in adult relationshipsThe nervous system loop that drives the push–pull dynamicPractical tools to build secure self-attachment first — and then healthier, safer relational attachmentWe'll explore simple yet powerful ways to:Name and interrupt old patterns in the momentRegulate your body before respondingOffer yourself the safety and comfort you long for from othersCommunicate needs clearly instead of testingRepair after conflict and slowly rebuild trust in vulnerabilityWhether you've experienced betrayal trauma, childhood relational wounds, or simply want to understand your own patterns more deeply, this conversation will help you start moving from fear and confusion toward connection and security.Thank you for tuning in!Courage to Thrive Intensive – October 14-17, 2025 | Spanish Fork, UTAre you ready to begin healing from betrayal and reclaim your life? Join us for the Courage to Thrive Intensive, a transformative four-day experience designed to help women process trauma, set healthy boundaries, and rebuild trust in themselves and their relationships. Through a mix of somatic healing, practical tools, group support, and expert guidance, you'll gain clarity, release what's holding you back, and step into a life of hope, strength, and purpose.Whether you're just starting your healing journey or looking to deepen it, this intensive provides a safe and nurturing space to connect, grow, and thrive. Reach out to the Choose Recovery Services office by calling or texting (702) 277-9145. Or email them at info@chooserecoveryservices.com for more information. We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali's BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's Bio

 Avoidant Attachment – The Pull to WithdrawIn this episode, we explore the core traits, beliefs, and relationship patterns of dismissive/avoidant attachment — a style often rooted in early experiences where emotional needs were minimized or dismissed. You'll learn how these protective strategies form, the impact they can have on intimacy, and practical steps to move toward secure, balanced connection without losing your independence.Whether you recognize these patterns in yourself or in someone you love, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and tools for change.In this episode, we mention the How We Feel app that you might want to consider if you are working on emotional awareness. What You'll Learn in This Episode:The childhood experiences that often shape dismissive/avoidant attachmentHow core beliefs like “I can only count on myself” influence adult relationshipsCommon behavioral signs, from emotional suppression to conflict avoidanceThe hidden anxiety behind emotional distancePractical strategies to build emotional tolerance and safety in relationshipsHow to balance independence with authentic vulnerabilityTools to repair connection after withdrawingCourage to Thrive Intensive – October 14-17, 2025 | Spanish Fork, UTAre you ready to begin healing from betrayal and reclaim your life? Join us for the Courage to Thrive Intensive, a transformative four-day experience designed to help women process trauma, set healthy boundaries, and rebuild trust in themselves and their relationships. Through a mix of somatic healing, practical tools, group support, and expert guidance, you'll gain clarity, release what's holding you back, and step into a life of hope, strength, and purpose.Whether you're just starting your healing journey or looking to deepen it, this intensive provides a safe and nurturing space to connect, grow, and thrive. Reach out to the Choose Recovery Services office by calling or texting (702) 277-9145. Or email them at info@chooserecoveryservices.com for more information. We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali's BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

In this episode unpack anxious attachment — how inconsistent caregiving can lead to fear of rejection, hypervigilance, and dependency in relationships. Discussing how betrayal may amplify these patterns, what it looks like in adult relationships, and practical steps for moving toward secure connection.Thank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali's BioStephanie Hamby Certified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

In this episode of Choosing to Stay, certified relational and recovery coaches Halle Roddick and Stephanie Hamby continue their multi-part series on attachment styles, focusing on secure attachment — what it looks like, how it develops, and why it's a vital goal after infidelity and betrayal.They explore:What attachment theory is and the four main styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized)How secure attachment shows up in healthy romantic relationshipsWhy betrayal ruptures both real and perceived secure attachmentsThe importance of building self-secure attachment before working on relational repairPractical ways to cultivate internal safety, self-worth, and groundednessThe role of individual healing work for both the betrayed partner and the one seeking recoveryHow rupture and repair cycles strengthen trust in secure relationshipsResources Mentioned:You Are the One You've Been Waiting For – Richard Schwartz (Book Link)No Bad Parts – Richard Schwartz (Book Link)Altogether You – Jenna Riemersma (Book Link)Help.Her.Heal – Carol J. Sheets (Book Link)Internal Family Systems (IFS) Institute (Website)Connect with Us: Follow the podcast for candid discussions on healing, growth, and the journey of choosing to stay after betrayal.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali's BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

Thank you for tuning in! Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal The patterns we learned in childhood often become the lens through which we respond to betrayal. In this episode, we explore how your family of origin shapes the way you love, trust, and handle conflict—and why recognizing these patterns is essential for healing. From attachment styles to emotional suppression, we unpack common dynamics that show up after betrayal and share how awareness can lead to transformation.We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali's BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

After betrayal, healing isn't about rushing to “get over it”—it's about honoring what happened and who you're becoming.In this episode, we walk through the transformation from victim to survivor to thriver—not as a formula, but as a compassionate roadmap for reclaiming your peace, your power, and your partnership (if you choose to stay).You'll learn:What each phase really looks and feels like—emotionally, relationally, and somaticallyHow to recognize if you're stuck in survival—and what might help you move forwardWhy thriving doesn't mean the betrayal disappears—but it stops defining youWhat relational thriving looks like when both partners commit to individual healingHow the betrayer can move from shame to accountability and integrityHow the betrayed can reclaim voice, body, and boundariesWhether you're in the earliest days of devastation or years into the work of rebuilding, this episode invites you to pause, reflect, and consider: What stage am I in—and what does healing on my terms look like? Thank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali's BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

Thank you for tuning in!Betrayal doesn't just damage trust—it disrupts the very foundation of fairness and emotional safety in a relationship. In today's episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, Hali and Stephanie unpack a critical truth that many couples overlook in the early stages of healing: true recovery begins when the betraying partner takes the lead.This episode explores why betrayal is not just a mistake but a relational injustice—and why expecting the betrayed partner to initiate healing only deepens that wound. We discuss how the power dynamic shifts after betrayal, what it means to take responsible leadership in the recovery process, and how consistent, vulnerable actions by the betraying partner can begin to restore a sense of safety and connection.Whether you're the partner who's been hurt or the one who caused the harm, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and a grounded path forward.We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali's BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

 In this episode of Choosing to Stay, Hali welcomes Stephen Thomas, a seasoned sexual recovery coach who brings years of experience and a deeply personal understanding of the recovery journey. Stephen specializes in helping men move beyond behavior-focused sobriety by adopting a partner-sensitive lens—one that centers empathy, honesty, and emotional connection.Together, they unpack why true recovery must include the betrayed partner's experience, how relational healing is possible when humility and transparency lead, and what it really means to develop healthy sexuality. If you've felt stuck in cycles or confused about the next step in recovery, this episode will give you clarity and hope.

Thank you for tuning in!​​Shame Resilience in Recovery with Joseph McKinley In this episode of Choosing to Stay, we sit down with coach Joseph McKinley to talk about the role of shame in recovery and relational repair. We explore the difference between shame and guilt, how shame shows up in relationships, and why vulnerability and ownership are key to healing. Joseph shares tools, insights from his coaching work, and personal reflections on building resilience through self-compassion and connection.About Joseph McKinley: Joseph McKinley is a recovery coach specializing in overcoming unwanted sexual compulsive behaviors, intimacy anorexia, and partner betrayal trauma. He is certified as a Sexual Recovery Coach (SRC), Intimacy Anorexia Coach (IAC), Partners Recovery Coach (PRC), and Partner Betrayal Trauma Coach (PBTC) through the American Association of Sex Addiction Therapy (AASAT). He is also a Certified Mental Health Coach through the American Association of Christian Counselors. Joseph provides personalized coaching to help clients address the root causes of their struggles and heal from trauma, empowering both men and partners to reclaim their lives and relationships.Contact Joseph:

Thank you for tuning in!Safety Starts Within Reclaiming Internal Grounding After BetrayalWhen betrayal shatters your world, safety feels lost. In this episode, we explore how true safety begins within, not in someone else's behavior. Whether you're the one healing or the one working to rebuild trust, internal grounding is keyWe're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali's BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

 In this episode, we explore how betrayal trauma impacts the nervous system and what it truly means to feel safe again in a relationship. If you or your partner have been affected by betrayal—whether through infidelity, secrecy, or other trust ruptures—this conversation will help you understand why emotional reactions are not just “drama,” but deeply rooted in trauma physiology.We'll talk about what happens in the body after betrayal, how to recognize the signs that safety is still missing, and how both partners can support healing and trust-building in real, practical ways. We also mention the upcoming Revive and Thrive Somatic Healing Intensive on Aug. 26-28, 2025. 

In this deeply insightful episode, we welcome our newest coaching colleague at Choose Recovery Services, Isy Williams, for a conversation that touches the heart of every betrayed partner's healing journey: rediscovering the self after the deep shattering of betrayal.Together, we explore the often invisible yet powerful knowing that something is off—even before the truth is revealed—and the role that instinct and intuition play when the mind doesn't have all the facts. Isy shares wisdom on navigating the complex shame many betrayed partners face: the shame of “missing the signs,” the shame of staying, and the internal questioning of what that staying says about them.We also dive into a powerful truth: that this path of healing is not just about the relationship—it's about reclaiming your identity. This journey is an invitation to break out of old patterns, rediscover your voice, and reconnect with parts of yourself you may have lost or never fully known.Whether you're the one who was betrayed or the one who did the betraying, this episode affirms that true recovery requires courageous self-exploration from both partners. And while the work is difficult, the rewards—deeper intimacy, clarity, and emotional resilience—are life-changing.What You'll Hear in This Episode:How betrayed partners often “feel” the truth long before they know itThe role of intuition and gut instinct in betrayal traumaDeconstructing shame around staying and what it doesn't say about youWhy self-discovery is essential and empowering for both partnersHow healing creates space for deeper connection and intimacyInsights and encouragement from Isy's personal and professional experienceConnect with Isy Williams:Read more about her: https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/team/#IsyWilliamsEmail: isywilliams@brighhopecoaching.comWeb site: www.brighthopecoaching.comIf this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who needs to hear it, and consider leaving a review. Your voice helps others find this healing space.Thank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali's BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

In This Episode: We explore what it really means to let your spouse know you beyond surface communication and into emotional truth. We'll talk about the difference between empathy and vulnerability, how stuffing emotions can quietly stall your repair. The Importance of vulnerability that real connection can't happen without it.What You'll Learn:How your nervous system tries to protect you—and what healing asks insteadWhy emotional honesty is necessary for rebuilding connectionReal-life examples of letting your spouse know you againPractical steps for stepping into safe vulnerabilityThank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali's BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's BioWe look forward to journeying with you!Learning Vulnerability - allowing your spouse to know you.Different than empathy Stepping out of our old protective mechanismsStopping stuffing the emotions

In this powerful episode, Hali Roderick and Luke Gordon unpack three of the most common myths that keep men stuck and prevent relationships from truly healing after betrayal. Whether you're early in your recovery journey or have been doing the work for a while, these insights will help you shift from unintentional harm to intentional healing.We also introduce the Help Her Heal Intensive for men, happening this July in Spanish Fork, Utah. Check the link for an exciting new optional Add-On for couples, where wives can join for a guided, therapist-led day of healing, empathy practice, and emotional integration.MYTH 1: “Talking About It Just Makes Things Worse” Why silence reinforces trauma—and how showing up with presence (not perfection) creates safety.MYTH 2: “If I Show Emotion, I'll Make It About Me” The difference between emotional ownership and emotional dumping—and how authentic expression builds trust.MYTH 3: “I Just Want Her to See How I'm Doing Good” Why seeking validation in moments of her pain creates disconnection—and what to focus on instead.

Triggers Aren't Setbacks — They're Invitations to HealIn this powerful episode, we dive deep into what happens when a betrayed spouse is triggered — especially when the trigger seems irrational or unrelated to the present moment. If you're the partner who has caused the betrayal, it can be confusing and overwhelming to understand these reactions. But how you respond in those moments matters more than you might realize.We'll explore why logical explanations and defensiveness don't help, and how empathy, presence, and emotional attunement can become powerful tools for healing.Expect honest insights, relatable examples, and a trauma-informed lens on how to stay connected, even through the hardest moments.What a “trigger” really is and how it affects the brain and bodyWhy a betrayed partner's reaction might feel out of proportion — and why it isn'tHow common behaviors (like defensiveness or shame) unintentionally worsen the painWhat to say (and not say) when your partner is triggeredWhy presence and empathy create the safety needed for true healingReal-life storytelling moments that illustrate what empathy looks like in actionThank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali's BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

 In this episode of Choosing To Stay, we explore one of the most important—and often overlooked—skills in relational recovery after betrayal: seeking to understand.Seeking to understand isn't about agreeing or even seeing things the same way. It's about being present, seeking to understand, and respecting your partner's experience—even when it differs from your own. We dive into what active listening actually looks like, why it can feel so hard (especially when emotions run high), and how it helps build emotional safety during a time when safety often feels lost.Through practical insights and real-life examples, we'll talk about how active listening helps move the relationship forward—not by going back to what it was, but by co-creating something new, healthier, and more connected.Whether you're the partner in healing or the individual seeking recovery, this episode offers valuable tools for slowing down, tuning in, and creating space for healing through communication.Listener Reminder: Recovery takes time, intention, and practice. Active listening won't fix everything overnight—but it's one of the most powerful tools you can use to begin healing together.Thank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-trainedStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CWe look forward to journeying with you!

In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we dive deep into one of the most challenging aspects of healing after betrayal: breaking the cycle of unhealthy communication patterns. Infidelity can fracture not only trust but the way we communicate with our partners, often leading to constant arguments, defensiveness, and a lack of resolution. But it's possible to step out of these destructive cycles and create healthier, more productive conversations that promote healing, understanding, and trust. Join us as we explore practical strategies and tools to stop arguing and start communicating in ways that bring both partners closer together. We'll talk about emotional reactivity, the power of active listening, setting boundaries, fostering vulnerability, and when to seek professional help. In This Episode You'll Learn:How infidelity impacts communication and why arguments often escalate in unhealthy waysThe importance of understanding emotional triggers to break the cycle of blame and defensivenessHow to use active listening to truly hear your partner and reduce conflictPractical steps to set ground rules for healthier communication in your relationshipThe role of vulnerability in healing, and how to create a safe space to express feelingsHow to apologize and forgive in a way that fosters trust and closenessWhy seeking professional help might be necessary for breaking old communication patternsThe power of celebrating small wins in rebuilding communication and trust over timeThank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-CStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CWe look forward to journeying with you!

Thank you for tuning in! In this episode, Stephanie Lynn explores a unique healing tool—rhythmic expression using the ancient frame drum. Stephanie shares how this somatic practice helps betrayed partners process grief, anger, and overwhelm when words fall short. We talk about how drumming regulates the nervous system, reconnects the body, and gives voice to unspoken pain—all within a safe, guided space.Whether you're new to somatic healing or looking for something to support your journey beyond talk therapy, this conversation offers encouragement, education, and practical insight.We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-CStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CWe look forward to journeying with you!

After betrayal, both partners can find themselves stuck in overwhelming thoughts. The betrayed partner may struggle with replaying painful memories and fearing the future, while the partner who acted out may feel shame, regret, and self-doubt. In both cases, the emotional brain (limbic system) can hijack the logical brain, making it hard to make choices based on values, integrity, and true healing.In this episode, we'll explore how to shift out of the mental chaos and into heart-centered clarity, so both partners can make intentional, healing choices. You'll learn:✅ Why betrayal puts your brain into survival mode (and how to shift out of it) ✅ How fear, shame, and guilt can drive reactive, unhelpful behaviors ✅ The power of tuning into your body as a guide for healing and connection ✅ How to make values-based decisions instead of emotionally driven ones ✅ Practical tools for both partners to rebuild trust and stay groundedWhether you're the betrayed or the one who betrayed, this episode will help you get out of your head, reconnect with yourself, and create space for true healing—individually and as a coupleThank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal:Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM CandidateRead Hali's BioBook with HaliStephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM CandidateRead Stephanie's BioBook with StephanieEmail Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.comChoosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal.Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali. Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali.Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie. Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie. Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections.More from Choose Recovery Services:Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for womenChoose 90 for Men Choose 180 for MenChoose 360 for Men Road to Recovery Should I Stay or Should I Go? Empowered Divorce Q&A The Empowered Divorce Podcast Choose Recovery on Instagram

In this powerful episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, Hali is joined by her coaching colleague, Rachel Strong, to explore the similarities between physical and emotional healing. Rachel, who recently broke her elbow while ice skating, shares her personal experience of recovery and how it mirrors the emotional journey of healing from betrayal and infidelity.  Recovery, whether physical or emotional, is rarely a solo journey. The importance of seeking help from professionals, support groups, or trusted individuals plays a key role in both types of healing. Both emotional and physical healing take time. The episode emphasizes taking small, intentional steps forward and celebrating the progress, no matter how incremental it may seem. Rachel and Hali explore how acceptance and grief are essential parts of the healing process. Just as you need to grieve the loss of your physical strength after an injury, emotional healing involves accepting the pain and moving through grief to move forward. You learn more or connect with Rachel Strong HERE. Thank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery Coach TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-CStephanie Hamby Certified Relational Recovery Coach MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C Read Stephanie's Bio | Book with StephanieWe look forward to journeying with you!

Communication after betrayal can feel like walking through a minefield—full of triggers, misunderstandings, and deep emotional wounds. In this episode, we explore essential healthy communication strategies that help couples reconnect, rebuild trust, and create emotional safety in their relationship. Whether you're struggling to express your feelings, feeling unheard, or unsure how to move forward, this episode offers practical tools and real-life examples to guide you.Mentioned in this episode: Brene Brown on Empathy VideoThank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-CStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CWe look forward to journeying with you!

After infidelity, emotions can feel overwhelming. Many people unknowingly bypass their pain—either by forcing positivity, over-intellectualizing, or even using spirituality to avoid sitting with difficult feelings. But true healing requires emotional processing, not avoidance.In this episode, we break down:The difference between emotional processing, emotional bypassing, and spiritual bypassingSigns you might be avoiding your emotions without realizing itWhy “just moving on” too quickly can slow down true healingHow to process emotions in a healthy way—without getting stuck in painHow couples can support each other without forcing premature healingThank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-CStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CWe look forward to journeying with you!

In today's episode, we talk about the flood of questions a betrayed partner may have—some seeking clarity, some driven by hurt, and some that feel impossible to answer without making things worse. How a betrayer responds to these questions can either help rebuild trust or deepen the wound.In this episode, we explore how to navigate these difficult conversations with honesty, sensitivity, and emotional awareness. We'll discuss how to answer questions both before a formal disclosure and after full disclosure has taken place, while being mindful of the betrayed partner's healing process.To access the resources mentioned in today's episode: Help Her Heal group support for men working to rebuild trust and create safety. Choose Healing Group Support for betrayed partners. Dr. Jake Porter's video: How Betrayal Trauma Affects the BrainThank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-CStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CWe look forward to journeying with you!

Criticism can feel especially painful when you're healing from relational trauma—it can trigger old wounds, stir up self-doubt, and even make you question your progress. But what if criticism could be used as a tool for deeper connection instead of conflict? In this episode, we explore how to shift your perspective on criticism, separate past pain from present feedback, and use difficult conversations as opportunities for healing and trust-building.Thank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-CStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CWe look forward to journeying with you!

Resentment and bitterness can feel impossible to escape after betrayal. They're natural responses to deep hurt, broken trust, and the unfairness of it all. But what if these emotions aren't just obstacles—they're actually messengers? What if they're pointing to unmet needs, unresolved grief, or fears about the future?In this episode, we dive into the deeper meaning behind resentment, why it lingers, and how to move forward without bypassing your pain. If you feel stuck in bitterness, this conversation will help you find clarity, validation, and practical ways to release the weight of resentment—on your terms.Thank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-CStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's Bio | Book with StephanieWe look forward to journeying with you!

In this episode, we dive into the vital role that listening plays when navigating the difficult decision to stay in a relationship after infidelity and betrayal. Whether you're the one betrayed or the one seeking to rebuild trust, the way you listen to your partner can make all the difference in the healing process.We explore powerful listening techniques and how they can help restore connection, foster empathy, and rebuild trust. These tools are essential for creating a safe space for difficult conversations, acknowledging emotions, and ultimately finding a path forward together.Resources Discussed in today's episode: Brene Brown's Empathy videoThank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-CStephanie Hamby Certified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CWe look forward to journeying with you!

Pain is often seen as something to be avoided, suppressed, or overcome—but what if we could reframe it as a powerful signal? In this episode, we explore how pain, especially after betrayal, can be a guide rather than a burden. Instead of viewing it as a problem to be fixed, we can use it to uncover unmet needs, deepen self-awareness, and step into advocacy for ourselves and others.Thank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visitingthis link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-CStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's Bio | Book with StephanieWe look forward to journeying with you!

In today's episode ofChoosing To Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we're sharing a special recording from our monthlyRoad to Recovery webinar, where Hali sits down with Amie Woolsey to discuss the vital role of somatic healing after betrayal—for both partners.Betrayal trauma doesn't just affect the mind; it lives in the body. Understanding how trauma is stored physically is essential to the healing process, yet it's often overlooked. In this conversation, we explore various healing modalities, with a deep dive into the power of brainspotting—a transformative tool for processing painful experiences and releasing stored trauma.