Choosing to Stay

Triggers Aren't Setbacks — They're Invitations to HealIn this powerful episode, we dive deep into what happens when a betrayed spouse is triggered — especially when the trigger seems irrational or unrelated to the present moment. If you're the partner who has caused the betrayal, it can be confusing and overwhelming to understand these reactions. But how you respond in those moments matters more than you might realize.We'll explore why logical explanations and defensiveness don't help, and how empathy, presence, and emotional attunement can become powerful tools for healing.Expect honest insights, relatable examples, and a trauma-informed lens on how to stay connected, even through the hardest moments.What a “trigger” really is and how it affects the brain and bodyWhy a betrayed partner's reaction might feel out of proportion — and why it isn'tHow common behaviors (like defensiveness or shame) unintentionally worsen the painWhat to say (and not say) when your partner is triggeredWhy presence and empathy create the safety needed for true healingReal-life storytelling moments that illustrate what empathy looks like in actionThank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting PractitionerRead Hali's BioStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's BioWe look forward to journeying with you!

 In this episode of Choosing To Stay, we explore one of the most important—and often overlooked—skills in relational recovery after betrayal: seeking to understand.Seeking to understand isn't about agreeing or even seeing things the same way. It's about being present, seeking to understand, and respecting your partner's experience—even when it differs from your own. We dive into what active listening actually looks like, why it can feel so hard (especially when emotions run high), and how it helps build emotional safety during a time when safety often feels lost.Through practical insights and real-life examples, we'll talk about how active listening helps move the relationship forward—not by going back to what it was, but by co-creating something new, healthier, and more connected.Whether you're the partner in healing or the individual seeking recovery, this episode offers valuable tools for slowing down, tuning in, and creating space for healing through communication.Listener Reminder: Recovery takes time, intention, and practice. Active listening won't fix everything overnight—but it's one of the most powerful tools you can use to begin healing together.Thank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-trainedStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CWe look forward to journeying with you!

In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we dive deep into one of the most challenging aspects of healing after betrayal: breaking the cycle of unhealthy communication patterns. Infidelity can fracture not only trust but the way we communicate with our partners, often leading to constant arguments, defensiveness, and a lack of resolution. But it's possible to step out of these destructive cycles and create healthier, more productive conversations that promote healing, understanding, and trust. Join us as we explore practical strategies and tools to stop arguing and start communicating in ways that bring both partners closer together. We'll talk about emotional reactivity, the power of active listening, setting boundaries, fostering vulnerability, and when to seek professional help. In This Episode You'll Learn:How infidelity impacts communication and why arguments often escalate in unhealthy waysThe importance of understanding emotional triggers to break the cycle of blame and defensivenessHow to use active listening to truly hear your partner and reduce conflictPractical steps to set ground rules for healthier communication in your relationshipThe role of vulnerability in healing, and how to create a safe space to express feelingsHow to apologize and forgive in a way that fosters trust and closenessWhy seeking professional help might be necessary for breaking old communication patternsThe power of celebrating small wins in rebuilding communication and trust over timeThank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-CStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CWe look forward to journeying with you!

Thank you for tuning in! In this episode, Stephanie Lynn explores a unique healing tool—rhythmic expression using the ancient frame drum. Stephanie shares how this somatic practice helps betrayed partners process grief, anger, and overwhelm when words fall short. We talk about how drumming regulates the nervous system, reconnects the body, and gives voice to unspoken pain—all within a safe, guided space.Whether you're new to somatic healing or looking for something to support your journey beyond talk therapy, this conversation offers encouragement, education, and practical insight.We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-CStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CWe look forward to journeying with you!

After betrayal, both partners can find themselves stuck in overwhelming thoughts. The betrayed partner may struggle with replaying painful memories and fearing the future, while the partner who acted out may feel shame, regret, and self-doubt. In both cases, the emotional brain (limbic system) can hijack the logical brain, making it hard to make choices based on values, integrity, and true healing.In this episode, we'll explore how to shift out of the mental chaos and into heart-centered clarity, so both partners can make intentional, healing choices. You'll learn:✅ Why betrayal puts your brain into survival mode (and how to shift out of it) ✅ How fear, shame, and guilt can drive reactive, unhelpful behaviors ✅ The power of tuning into your body as a guide for healing and connection ✅ How to make values-based decisions instead of emotionally driven ones ✅ Practical tools for both partners to rebuild trust and stay groundedWhether you're the betrayed or the one who betrayed, this episode will help you get out of your head, reconnect with yourself, and create space for true healing—individually and as a coupleThank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal:Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM CandidateRead Hali's BioBook with HaliStephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM CandidateRead Stephanie's BioBook with StephanieEmail Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.comChoosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal.Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali. Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali.Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie. Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie. Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections.More from Choose Recovery Services:Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for womenChoose 90 for Men Choose 180 for MenChoose 360 for Men Road to Recovery Should I Stay or Should I Go? Empowered Divorce Q&A The Empowered Divorce Podcast Choose Recovery on Instagram

In this powerful episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, Hali is joined by her coaching colleague, Rachel Strong, to explore the similarities between physical and emotional healing. Rachel, who recently broke her elbow while ice skating, shares her personal experience of recovery and how it mirrors the emotional journey of healing from betrayal and infidelity.  Recovery, whether physical or emotional, is rarely a solo journey. The importance of seeking help from professionals, support groups, or trusted individuals plays a key role in both types of healing. Both emotional and physical healing take time. The episode emphasizes taking small, intentional steps forward and celebrating the progress, no matter how incremental it may seem. Rachel and Hali explore how acceptance and grief are essential parts of the healing process. Just as you need to grieve the loss of your physical strength after an injury, emotional healing involves accepting the pain and moving through grief to move forward. You learn more or connect with Rachel Strong HERE. Thank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery Coach TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-CStephanie Hamby Certified Relational Recovery Coach MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C Read Stephanie's Bio | Book with StephanieWe look forward to journeying with you!

Communication after betrayal can feel like walking through a minefield—full of triggers, misunderstandings, and deep emotional wounds. In this episode, we explore essential healthy communication strategies that help couples reconnect, rebuild trust, and create emotional safety in their relationship. Whether you're struggling to express your feelings, feeling unheard, or unsure how to move forward, this episode offers practical tools and real-life examples to guide you.Mentioned in this episode: Brene Brown on Empathy VideoThank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-CStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CWe look forward to journeying with you!

After infidelity, emotions can feel overwhelming. Many people unknowingly bypass their pain—either by forcing positivity, over-intellectualizing, or even using spirituality to avoid sitting with difficult feelings. But true healing requires emotional processing, not avoidance.In this episode, we break down:The difference between emotional processing, emotional bypassing, and spiritual bypassingSigns you might be avoiding your emotions without realizing itWhy “just moving on” too quickly can slow down true healingHow to process emotions in a healthy way—without getting stuck in painHow couples can support each other without forcing premature healingThank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-CStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CWe look forward to journeying with you!

In today's episode, we talk about the flood of questions a betrayed partner may have—some seeking clarity, some driven by hurt, and some that feel impossible to answer without making things worse. How a betrayer responds to these questions can either help rebuild trust or deepen the wound.In this episode, we explore how to navigate these difficult conversations with honesty, sensitivity, and emotional awareness. We'll discuss how to answer questions both before a formal disclosure and after full disclosure has taken place, while being mindful of the betrayed partner's healing process.To access the resources mentioned in today's episode: Help Her Heal group support for men working to rebuild trust and create safety. Choose Healing Group Support for betrayed partners. Dr. Jake Porter's video: How Betrayal Trauma Affects the BrainThank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-CStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CWe look forward to journeying with you!

Criticism can feel especially painful when you're healing from relational trauma—it can trigger old wounds, stir up self-doubt, and even make you question your progress. But what if criticism could be used as a tool for deeper connection instead of conflict? In this episode, we explore how to shift your perspective on criticism, separate past pain from present feedback, and use difficult conversations as opportunities for healing and trust-building.Thank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-CStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CWe look forward to journeying with you!

Resentment and bitterness can feel impossible to escape after betrayal. They're natural responses to deep hurt, broken trust, and the unfairness of it all. But what if these emotions aren't just obstacles—they're actually messengers? What if they're pointing to unmet needs, unresolved grief, or fears about the future?In this episode, we dive into the deeper meaning behind resentment, why it lingers, and how to move forward without bypassing your pain. If you feel stuck in bitterness, this conversation will help you find clarity, validation, and practical ways to release the weight of resentment—on your terms.Thank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-CStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's Bio | Book with StephanieWe look forward to journeying with you!

In this episode, we dive into the vital role that listening plays when navigating the difficult decision to stay in a relationship after infidelity and betrayal. Whether you're the one betrayed or the one seeking to rebuild trust, the way you listen to your partner can make all the difference in the healing process.We explore powerful listening techniques and how they can help restore connection, foster empathy, and rebuild trust. These tools are essential for creating a safe space for difficult conversations, acknowledging emotions, and ultimately finding a path forward together.Resources Discussed in today's episode: Brene Brown's Empathy videoThank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-CStephanie Hamby Certified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CWe look forward to journeying with you!

Pain is often seen as something to be avoided, suppressed, or overcome—but what if we could reframe it as a powerful signal? In this episode, we explore how pain, especially after betrayal, can be a guide rather than a burden. Instead of viewing it as a problem to be fixed, we can use it to uncover unmet needs, deepen self-awareness, and step into advocacy for ourselves and others.Thank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visitingthis link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-CStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's Bio | Book with StephanieWe look forward to journeying with you!

In today's episode ofChoosing To Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we're sharing a special recording from our monthlyRoad to Recovery webinar, where Hali sits down with Amie Woolsey to discuss the vital role of somatic healing after betrayal—for both partners.Betrayal trauma doesn't just affect the mind; it lives in the body. Understanding how trauma is stored physically is essential to the healing process, yet it's often overlooked. In this conversation, we explore various healing modalities, with a deep dive into the power of brainspotting—a transformative tool for processing painful experiences and releasing stored trauma.

In this special crossover episode, Hali joins Valerie Rubin, host of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, to dive deep into the impact of betrayal and infidelity on both our nervous system and sense of safety. Whether you're navigating the aftermath of betrayal in a relationship or simply trying to regain trust in yourself, this episode offers invaluable insights into how to begin healing. Together, Hali and Valerie discuss the powerful ways that betrayal affects us emotionally and physically, with a particular focus on how it disrupts our sense of safety and trust in the world around us. They share practical tools and strategies for reconnecting with our inner selves, rebuilding trust, and regaining control over our responses to trauma. You'll learn about: The deep, often underestimated effects of betrayal on the nervous system How trauma and betrayal can undermine our ability to feel safe, both within ourselves and in relationships Practical steps to start rebuilding trust in yourself, from creating safe spaces to listening to your body Ways to honor your own emotions and needs as you work through the healing process The importance of patience and compassion as you move through your journey of recovery If you've ever struggled with rebuilding trust after betrayal, this episode is a must-listen. Valerie and Hali offer real, actionable advice that can help you move forward with clarity and confidence, starting with trusting yourself first. Resources Mentioned in This Episode: The Anxiety Recovery Podcast: Listen to Valerie's show for more insights into anxiety recovery and building resilience. Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal Episode [link to the full episode here]. Connect with Valerie Rubin: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/ Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1UZDfyhUZgAGIdlEv5VP85?si=fb9ca0e82d554a62&nd=1&dlsi=546a32efcd5b4e06 Thank you for tuning in! We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing. Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link. Your Hosts: Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's Bio | Book with Stephanie We look forward to journeying with you!

In this special bonus episode of Choosing To Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, Hali sits down with Alana Gordon to dive deep into the ins and outs of couples work after betrayal. We break down the different phases of healing, what each phase entails, and how to know when you're ready to move forward. We discuss:✔️ The importance of slowing down the healing process✔️ Why individual work is essential before deep couples healing✔️ How to recognize when you're ready for the next phase of repair and reconnection✔️ Details about our upcoming Couples Intensive designed for couples ready to take the next steps  If you and your partner are navigating the aftermath of betrayal, this episode is packed with insights to help you understand where you are and how to move forward with intention. Ready to take the next step? Learn more about our upcoming Rebuilding Us Couples Intensive to be held in Mesa, Arizona on March 26-29, 2025.  Thank you for tuning in! We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing. Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link. Your Hosts: Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's Bio | Book with Stephanie We look forward to journeying with you!

In today's episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we dive into the emotional shields we build to protect ourselves after betrayal—and how those same shields can keep us from truly reconnecting with our partner. We explore the delicate balance of leaning in versus leaning back, understanding the role of defensiveness, and the importance of emotional vulnerability in rebuilding trust. Together, we'll discuss practical strategies for creating emotional safety, recognizing our own defenses, and the slow but powerful process of rebuilding connection. If you're feeling emotionally distant or stuck in a cycle of hurt, this episode is for you. Thank you for tuning in! We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing. Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link. Your Hosts: Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery Coach TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C Stephanie Hamby Certified Relational Recovery Coach MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C We look forward to journeying with you!

In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we explore the critical role of self-advocacy in the healing process. Recovery is a deeply personal journey, and learning to advocate for yourself—whether with professionals, your spouse, or even with yourself—is essential for moving forward. Join us as we dive into: Trusting Your Gut: Learn to tune into your inner voice and distinguish between intuition and fear. Discover practical ways to rebuild self-trust after betrayal. Advocating with Your Professional Team: Tips for choosing the right therapist, coach, or support group, communicating your needs effectively, and evaluating your progress along the way. Advocating with Your Spouse: How to set boundaries, create space for meaningful dialogue, and handle pushback while standing firm in your needs. Advocating with Yourself: Embrace self-compassion, define your non-negotiables, and hold yourself accountable without guilt or shame. Overcoming External Pressures: Strategies to resist people-pleasing tendencies, manage unsolicited advice, and stay true to your unique recovery journey. Thank you for tuning in! We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing. Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link. Your Hosts: Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery Coach TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C Stephanie Hamby Certified Relational Recovery Coach MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C We look forward to journeying with you! Trusting Your Gut Understanding Intuition: How to recognize your inner voice amidst the noise of emotions and external opinions. Distinguishing Fear from Intuition: Strategies to differentiate between instinctive knowing and fear-based reactions. Rebuilding Self-Trust: Practical steps to regain confidence in your decision-making after betrayal. Advocating with Your Professional Team Selecting the Right Professionals: Choosing therapists, coaches, or support groups that align with your values and needs. Clear Communication: How to articulate your goals, boundaries, and expectations with professionals. Evaluating Progress: Knowing when a professional relationship is working or when it's time to seek a new perspective. Advocating with Your Spouse Setting Boundaries: Communicating your needs clearly and respectfully without guilt or hesitation. Creating Space for Open Dialogue: Establishing times and ways to discuss your feelings and progress. Navigating Pushback: Handling resistance or defensiveness from your partner while standing firm in your needs. Advocating with Yourself Defining Your Non-Negotiables: Identifying what you need to heal and sticking to it. Practicing Self-Compassion: Giving yourself permission to prioritize your well-being without shame. Holding Yourself Accountable: Balancing self-advocacy with consistent effort in your healing journey. Overcoming External Pressures Managing Well-Meaning Advice: How to deal with unsolicited opinions from friends, family, or society. Resisting People-Pleasing Tendencies: Staying aligned with your needs rather than others' expectations. Focusing on Your Unique Path: Emphasizing that your recovery process is not one-size-fits-all. Encouraging Listeners Affirmation of Strength: Acknowledge their courage in advocating for themselves. Call to Action: Small steps they can take today to practice self-advocacy, such as journaling or having a candid conversation. This episode will empower you to stand up for yourself and trust that you know what is best for your healing process. Whether you're just starting or are well into your journey, these insights and strategies will help you take ownership of your recovery.

In this episode of Choosing To Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we explore the complex and often unspoken topic of shame for the betrayed partner who chooses to stay. Choosing to stay after betrayal can feel isolating, especially in a world that often labels this decision as weak or misguided. But staying is a courageous choice, rooted in love, resilience, and hope. Together, we'll unpack the origins of shame, its impact on your healing journey, and practical ways to overcome it so you can reclaim your power and peace. We also share ways that the spouse seeking recovery can acknowledge and support their betrayed partner through these difficult emotions.  Thank you for tuning in! We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing. Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link. Your Hosts: Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's Bio | Book with Stephanie We look forward to journeying with you!

In this episode of Choosing To Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we explore the profound journey of rediscovering oneself and rebuilding identity in the aftermath of betrayal. Whether you're navigating the impact of disclosure or grappling with the ripple effects of past choices, this episode offers insights and tools for self-reflection, healing, and growth. We discuss: The importance of self-reflection and self-awareness in the healing process. How betrayal impacts identity and challenges core beliefs about yourself and your relationship. Practical steps to rebuild self-worth and embrace authenticity. The role of trauma in shaping (and reshaping) your sense of self. How to create a new narrative that fosters healing, connection, and a stronger foundation for the future. Rediscovering yourself after betrayal is not only possible but essential for moving forward. Tune in to learn how to embrace your true identity and heal—individually and together. Thank you for tuning in! We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing. Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link. Your Hosts: Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's Bio | Book with Stephanie We look forward to journeying with you!

Welcome to this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal! As the New Year begins, many of us feel the weight of societal pressure to set ambitious resolutions. But for those couples on a healing journey, especially after being impacted by betrayal in your relationship, this pressure can feel overwhelming and misaligned. In this episode, we explore how to redefine growth for the New Year by shifting the focus from rigid resolutions to meaningful intentions. You can find the Good Day With Tay podcast on affirmations that is mentioned in this episode HERE.  Thank you for tuning in! We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing. Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link. Your Hosts: Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery Coach TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C Stephanie Hamby Certified Relational Recovery Coach MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C We look forward to journeying with you!

In today's episode of The Choosing to Stay Podcast, we're diving into a critical element of relational repair: consistency. Whether you're a betrayed partner or someone working on rebuilding trust and sexual integrity, consistency is the bridge that connects the promise of change to the reality of healing. What you'll learn: Why consistency is essential for relational repair. How consistent actions help rebuild trust brick by brick. Practical tips to maintain consistency, even when progress feels slow. The role of consistency in creating a new foundation for trust and connection. How betrayed partners can recognize and validate consistent progress. Strategies for staying consistent in your healing work. Key Takeaways: Consistency isn't about perfection; it's about showing up intentionally, day by day. For those repairing trust, consistency demonstrates real change and accountability. Betrayed partners can use consistency to nurture their own healing and emotional safety. Navigating setbacks with grace is an important part of the process for both partners. Practical Tips: Establish daily rituals to reinforce your commitment to growth. Celebrate small wins to stay motivated. Lean on support systems like coaches, mentors, and accountability partners. Practice self-compassion and stay open in communication with your partner. Final Thoughts Consistency is the foundation of relational repair. It takes patience, courage, and daily effort to rebuild trust and create a space where connection can flourish. Thank you for tuning in! Remember, healing and trust grow with every consistent step forward. Until next time, take care and keep nurturing your journey toward trust and connection. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie.  Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie.  Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections.

In this episode of the Choosing to Stay podcast, Hali and Stephanie dive into a listener's question: Does the pain ever go away after betrayal? They explore the emotional realities of betrayal trauma, what healing looks like over time, and how to approach the process of working through pain rather than avoiding it. From personal experiences to professional insights, Hali and Stephanie share: The nature of pain in the aftermath of betrayal. The impact of avoidance and survival mode on healing. How to honor and process pain for long-term growth. The importance of finding meaning in pain and experiencing post-traumatic growth. Whether you're just starting your healing journey or reflecting on years past, this conversation offers empathy, validation, and hope. Resources Mentioned: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Feelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol K. Truman Connect With Us:We love hearing from our listeners! If you have questions or topics you'd like us to address, please reach out. Thank you for tuning in! We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing. Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link. Your Hosts: Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie's Bio | Book with Stephanie We look forward to journeying with you!

Rebuilding After Betrayal – An Invitation to Heal Together⁠ I'm excited to introduce the Healing Hearts Live Group, a coaching program designed specifically for couples ready to move from surviving to thriving after betrayal. Why healing after betrayal feels overwhelming and how to take the first steps. The power of group coaching in providing tools, guidance, and shared learning. What makes the Healing Hearts Live Group different from traditional approaches. Practical tools and strategies to rebuild trust, foster communication, and create emotional safety. If you're ready to stop feeling stuck and start making relational progress, this episode is for you. ⁠Join the Healing Hearts Live Group: Registration & Info⁠ Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie.  Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie.  Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men  Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men  Road to Recovery  Should I Stay or Should I Go?  Empowered Divorce Q&A  The Empowered Divorce Podcast  Choose Recovery on Instagram

In this episode, we dive into the importance of applying healthy relationship skills in the journey of healing from infidelity and betrayal. We explore key strategies for improving communication, learning and practicing new skills, and how these tools can transform your relationship over time. Whether you're in the early stages of recovery or looking to strengthen your relationship, the process of healing requires intentional action and consistent effort. We also introduce two powerful resources designed to support couples in their healing journey: the Healing Hearts Couples Coaching Group which will be starting on January 26, 2025  and our upcoming Couple's Intensive that will be held in Arizona March 26-29, 2025. These resources provide the structure, guidance, and community support needed to put these healing tools into practice. You can register today by clicking on the links above. If you have questions about whether either or both of these options are a good fit for you, feel free to reach out to us at info.choosingtostay@gmail.com.  Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal.

In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we explore why consistency is essential for relational repair, whether you're the betrayed partner or the one working to rebuild trust. Learn how consistency transforms intention into real change and supports healing for both partners. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie.  Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie.  Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men  Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men  Road to Recovery  Should I Stay or Should I Go?  Empowered Divorce Q&A  The Empowered Divorce Podcast  Choose Recovery on Instagram

In the final episode of our When the Holidays Hurt series, we focus on how to heal and find joy amidst the chaos, especially when betrayal or family conflict has left emotional scars. The holidays can feel especially heavy during times of hurt, but we discuss how creating new traditions—no matter how small—can offer moments of peace and joy. We explore how stepping out of old traditions that no longer serve you can be a powerful act of self-care, and how to build a holiday season that feels right for you and your family. Plus, we dive into the unique challenges of navigating these shifts when you have children at home and how to find balance between your own healing and supporting their needs. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie.  Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie.  Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men  Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men  Road to Recovery  Should I Stay or Should I Go?  Empowered Divorce Q&A  The Empowered Divorce Podcast  Choose Recovery on Instagram

The holiday season can be full of joy—but it can also be a time of deep emotional strain, especially if you're navigating grief and betrayal. In this second episode of our When the Holidays Hurt series, we dive into how to protect your peace during this challenging time. We explore the importance of setting and maintaining healthy boundaries with yourself and others, and how to create emotional safety in your own heart. By tuning into your needs, learning to honor them, and embracing self-compassion, you can move through the holidays with a sense of calm and resilience, even amidst difficult circumstances. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie.  Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie.  Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men  Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men  Road to Recovery  Should I Stay or Should I Go?  Empowered Divorce Q&A  The Empowered Divorce Podcast  Choose Recovery on Instagram

In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we're diving into a topic that can bring up deep emotions for many—navigating the holiday season after the pain of betrayal. This episode offers guidance for those who are facing this season with new and complex challenges, helping you find ways to care for yourself, set realistic expectations, and create safe spaces for connection. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie.  Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie.  Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men  Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men  Road to Recovery  Should I Stay or Should I Go?  Empowered Divorce Q&A  The Empowered Divorce Podcast  Choose Recovery on Instagram

In this episode, we explore the delicate balance of prioritizing your own healing in the wake of betrayal when your spouse is struggling. We discuss strategies to maintain your well-being while supporting your partner, emphasizing the importance of self-care, communication, and setting boundaries. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie.  Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie.  Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men  Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men  Road to Recovery  Should I Stay or Should I Go?  Empowered Divorce Q&A  The Empowered Divorce Podcast  Choose Recovery on Instagram

In this episode, we dive deep into the nuances of healing after infidelity and betrayal, exploring why individual growth alone isn't sufficient for restoring a relationship. Join us as we discuss the importance of moving beyond mere checkbox recovery, peeling back the layers of inner work, and fostering a sense of community while avoiding isolation. We'll also touch on the significance of patience and understanding in the healing process as you focus on intentional consistency over time.  Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie.  Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie.  Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men  Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men  Road to Recovery  Should I Stay or Should I Go?  Empowered Divorce Q&A  The Empowered Divorce Podcast  Choose Recovery on Instagram

In this exciting episode of Choosing to Stay, co-hosts Hallie and Stephanie dive into Stephanie's latest project—her new podcast, Renewed Restored. Stephanie shares how this new venture focuses on whole-person healing: addressing mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical recovery, especially for those who have experienced betrayal trauma and those working on sexual integrity. Listeners will hear how Stephanie's pastoral background, coaching expertise, and personal experiences have shaped her vision for Renewed Restored, creating a space for individuals to find healing and growth. With professional guests, insightful topics, and a focus on faith-based transformation, Renewed Restored is set to guide listeners through recovery with compassion and clarity. If you're seeking tools for both personal healing and spiritual renewal, this is the podcast for you! Tune in to hear more about how Renewed Restored complements the work being done in Choosing to Stay and offers an additional resource for those on their path to wholeness. Email Stephanie info.renewedrestored@gmail.com Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie.  Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie.  Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men  Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men  Road to Recovery  Should I Stay or Should I Go?  Empowered Divorce Q&A  The Empowered Divorce Podcast  Choose Recovery on Instagram

In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we explore the painful dynamics that occur when a betrayed spouse feels dismissed, minimized, or unheard by their partner. After the trauma of infidelity, it's crucial for both partners to validate each other's feelings to heal and rebuild trust. But when the pain is downplayed, dismissed, or ignored, it deepens emotional wounds, creates feelings of unsafety, and prolongs the healing process. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie.  Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie.  Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men  Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men  Road to Recovery  Should I Stay or Should I Go?  Empowered Divorce Q&A  The Empowered Divorce Podcast  Choose Recovery on Instagram

Join us in Spanish Fork, Utah on October 23-26, 2024 for the Courage to Thrive Intensive! This is an opportunity for betrayed partners to come and experience weeks or months worth of work in just a few days! You will have experiential opportunities on topics such as grief, healthy boundaries, self-love and redefining yourself after betrayal. We will provide opportunities to experience somatic healing to help your physical body find some relief from the stress of trauma. I would love to see you in Utah in person! You can learn more HERE and reach out to Vanessa at Choose Recovery Services at (702) 277-9145 with questions.  In this episode, we are joined by Laura Fisher, MFT-I, BCC, who is a colleague of ours at Choose Recovery Services. She sees individual clients as well as couples. She has many specialized trainings in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), APSATS, Full Therapeutic Disclosures, Deconstructing Gaslighting, Mindfulness Based Addiction and Trauma Treatment and more. You can read all about her and connect with her HERE.   Laura joins us  as we dive deep into how to stay emotionally grounded when betrayal leaves us feeling out of control. We'll explore what it means to stay within your window of tolerance and why it's crucial for emotional stability and healing after infidelity. Learn how to identify when you're being triggered, and understand how these triggers are often a subconscious bid for connection and safety. We'll discuss how to regulate your nervous system in those moments when shame surfaces and past hurts resurface, offering practical strategies to help you manage your reactions instead of being overwhelmed by them. Whether you're struggling to stay present during difficult conversations or finding it hard to manage unexpected emotional waves, this episode provides tools to help you stay steady. Self-Care Wheel  Window of Tolerance for Men Window of Tolerance for Women  Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie.  Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie. 

Join us in Spanish Fork, Utah on October 23-26, 2024 for the Courage to Thrive Intensive! This is an opportunity for betrayed partners to come and experience weeks or months worth of work in just a few days! You will have experiential opportunities on topics such as grief, healthy boundaries, self-love and redifining yourself after betrayal. We will provide opportunities to experience somatic healing to help your physical body find some relief from the stress of trauma. I would love to see you in Utah in person! You can learn more HERE and reach out to Vanessa at Choose Recovery Services at (702) 277-9145 with questions.  In this episode, we explore the profound impact infidelity can have on personal and relational faith. Whether it's questioning long-held beliefs, grappling with feelings of betrayal, or navigating the complexities of trust, we discuss the various ways individuals and couples experience a crisis of faith in the wake of infidelity. Join us as we share insights and strategies for healing and rebuilding. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie.  Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie.  Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men  Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men  Road to Recovery  Should I Stay or Should I Go?  Empowered Divorce Q&A  The Empowered Divorce Podcast  Choose Recovery on Instagram

In this episode, we delve into the impact of avoidant behaviors on recovery after infidelity and betrayal. We explore how these behaviors can create barriers to healing, trust-building, and emotional intimacy. Join us as we help define what avoidant behaviors are and discuss practical strategies for recognizing and overcoming avoidance to foster a healthier path forward. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie.  Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie.  Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men  Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men  Road to Recovery  Should I Stay or Should I Go?  Empowered Divorce Q&A  The Empowered Divorce Podcast  Choose Recovery on Instagram

In today's episode, we delve into the critical steps of moving from immediate shock and pain to finding safety and stability initially. Addressing deeper relational issues is essential to relational repair, and sometimes those challenging dynamics appear because of unhealed wounding that one or both spouses may have been carrying for years. Using the powerful analogy of a car wreck, we explore how both partners are impacted by betrayal and the urgent need to manage immediate pain before tackling underlying relationship dynamics. Once a couple has moved into a state of stability, we can transition to exploring other unhealthy dynamics that may contribute to relational challenges. We discuss how to identify and address these deeper relational issues to prevent future problems and foster long-term healing. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie.  Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie.  Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men  Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men  Road to Recovery  Should I Stay or Should I Go?  Empowered Divorce Q&A  The Empowered Divorce Podcast  Choose Recovery on Instagram

In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we delve into the challenging yet rewarding journey of reconstructing a relationship after infidelity. Whether you're at the beginning of this process or looking for ways to deepen your healing, this episode offers practical insights and emotional guidance on forging a new path forward. We talk about getting clear on our current reality, how to create safety for change to happen, stepping out of old unhealthy patterns, and more practical  Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie.  Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie.  Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men  Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men  Road to Recovery  Should I Stay or Should I Go?  Empowered Divorce Q&A  The Empowered Divorce Podcast  Choose Recovery on Instagram

In this enlightening and hopeful episode, we sit down with John and Karen Rellos to explore impacts of intimacy deprivation and attachment wounds on couples. They share valuable experiences and insights into how these issues affect relationships and offer practical strategies for healing and rebuilding trust. Karen is an APSATS Certified Partner Coach, Intimacy Avoidance Coach, and Certified Bravehearts Mentor. She's been a group facilitator for Live Free Wives ministry for the past 9 years.  She is ERCEM Trained and a Level 1 & 2 IACCR with Dr. Jake Porter. She has completed many other trainings including Omar Minwalla's Integrity abuse, polyvagal theory, internal family systems, attachment, and somatic practices. Her husband John is a certified Bravehearts mentor and has worked with men in recovery for the past 9 years. Together, they are the founders of Redeeming Love Marriage Ministry coaching and mentoring. You can learn more about them here: Redeeming-love.com and Restored-hope.coach. You can also follow them on Instagram and Facebook.  Moving Toward Connection and Secure Functioning Handout  Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Free monthly webinar with Hali for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication and gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Led by Hali.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - A betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Led by Hali. Healing Hearts Couples Group - A supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Led by Stephanie.  Choose Renewal Group: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Led by Stephanie.  Healing Hearts Self-paced Course: A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women Choose 90 for Men  Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men  Road to Recovery  Should I Stay or Should I Go?  Empowered Divorce Q&A  The Empowered Divorce Podcast   Choose Recovery on Instagram

In this episode, we dive into an important and often overlooked aspect of healing after betrayal: understanding and asserting your personal rights. Just as the Bill of Rights protects individuals in various ways, having a personal Bill of Rights can  help guide you through emotional and practical challenges of deciding whether to stay in a relationship after betrayal. We'll discuss how to identify and communicate your needs, set healthy boundaries, and foster a path to recovery and growth.  Check out Hali's Bill ​​of Rights Examples Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.  Healing Hearts Couples Group - Stephanie Hamby leads Healing Hearts Live Group  a supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Choose Renewal Group for women: Stephanie Hamby leads Choose Renewal: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Healing Hearts Self-paced course: Written by Stephanie Hamby https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/healing-hearts-sp/ a 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hyper-vigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there. Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity, and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.  Choose 180 for Men Choose 360 for Men Road to Recovery Should I Stay or Should I Go? Empowered Divorce Q&A The Empowered Divorce Podcast Choose Recovery on Instagram

Join us this week we continue to dive into the complexities of abusive relationships by exploring the often misunderstood concepts of overt and covert abuse. While overt abuse is more recognizable, covert abuse can be insidious and harder to detect, leaving victims feeling confused and isolated. We break down the different forms these abuses can take, how they manifest in relationships, and the long-term impacts they can have on a person's emotional and mental well-being.  Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.  Healing Hearts Couples Group - Stephanie Hamby leads Healing Hearts Live Group  a supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Choose Renewal Group for women: Stephanie Hamby leads Choose Renewal: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Healing Hearts Self-paced course: Written by Stephanie Hamby https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/healing-hearts-sp/ a 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hyper-vigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there. Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.  Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.  Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.  The Empowered Divorce Podcast - with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning towards divorce.  Connect with Choose Recovery on Instagram

On the heels of our episode with Amie Woolsey, this week we dive into the complexities of abusive relationships by exploring the often misunderstood concepts of overt and covert abuse. While overt abuse is more recognizable, covert abuse can be insidious and harder to detect, leaving victims feeling confused and isolated. We break down the different forms these abuses can take, how they manifest in relationships, and the long-term impacts they can have on a person's emotional and mental well-being.  Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.  Healing Hearts Couples Group - Stephanie Hamby leads Healing Hearts Live Group  a supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Choose Renewal Group for women: Stephanie Hamby leads Choose Renewal: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Healing Hearts Self-paced course: Written by Stephanie Hamby https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/healing-hearts-sp/ a 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hyper-vigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there. Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.  Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.  Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.  The Empowered Divorce Podcast - with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning towards divorce.  Connect with Choose Recovery on Instagram

In this powerful episode, we sit down with relationship expert Amie Woolsey to delve into the intricacies of toxic and abusive behaviors within relationships. Amie shares her deep insights and practical advice on recognizing these harmful patterns, understanding their roots, and taking steps to move out of these behaviors and protect yourself from abuse.  Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.  Healing Hearts Couples Group - Stephanie Hamby leads Healing Hearts Live Group  a supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Choose Renewal Group for women: Stephanie Hamby leads Choose Renewal: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Healing Hearts Self-paced course: Written by Stephanie Hamby https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/healing-hearts-sp/ a 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hyper-vigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there. Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.  Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.  Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.  The Empowered Divorce Podcast - with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning towards divorce.  Connect with Choose Recovery on Instagram

Tune in to today's Bonus Episode where Hali is joined by Alana Gordon who is the co-owner and Lead Therapist at Choose Recovery Services. Hear details about our upcoming Betrayal Trauma Intensive to be held in Spanish Fork, Utah on August 21-24, 2024. At this intensive you will be introduced to and given the opportunity to experience different somatic modalities to help you heal your body after experiencing betrayal trauma. We would love to have you join us and you can do that HERE. If you have questions, reach out to Vanessa at Choose Recovery Services at (702) 277-9145 or you can email Hali at haliroderickcoaching@gmail.com if you want to learn more or have questions that are not answered in this episode.  Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.  Healing Hearts Couples Group - Stephanie Hamby leads Healing Hearts Live Group  a supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Choose Renewal Group for women: Stephanie Hamby leads Choose Renewal: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Healing Hearts Self-paced course: Written by Stephanie Hamby https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/healing-hearts-sp/ a 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hyper-vigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there. Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity, and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.  Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.  Connect with Choose Recovery on Instagram

In this episode we dive into the markers of rebuilding trust after experiencing betrayal in your relationship. We explore the 5 A's:  Acknowledgement, Amends, Acquiring Knowledge, Accountability, and Acceptance. Whether you've been betrayed or are seeking to rebuild trust, this episode offers valuable guidance and hope for the path to healing and renewed trust. ` Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.  Healing Hearts Couples Group - Stephanie Hamby leads Healing Hearts Live Group  a supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Choose Renewal Group for women: Stephanie Hamby leads Choose Renewal: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Healing Hearts Self-paced course: Written by Stephanie Hamby https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/healing-hearts-sp/ A 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hyper-vigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there. Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity, and/or betrayal. Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.  Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.  Road to Recovery Should I Stay or Should I Go? Empowered Divorce Q&A The Empowered Divorce Podcast Connect with Choose Recovery on Instagram

In this episode, we delve into the concept of foreboding joy and how it affects couples on the journey of relational healing after betrayal. We explore why it's often difficult to fully embrace happiness and joy after experiencing profound hurt, and we provide practical tips on how couples can work together to overcome these challenges and rebuild a foundation of trust and joy in their relationship.  Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.  Healing Hearts Couples Group - Stephanie Hamby leads Healing Hearts Live Group  a supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Choose Renewal Group for women: Stephanie Hamby leads Choose Renewal: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Healing Hearts Self-paced course: Written by Stephanie Hamby https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/healing-hearts-sp/ a 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there. Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity, and/or betrayal. Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.  Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.  Road to Recovery Should I Stay or Should I Go? Empowered Divorce Q&A The Empowered Divorce Podcast Connect with Choose Recovery on Instagram

In today's episode we discuss the challenges that come from having a strong desire for healthy connection when you are different paths of individual healing. We discuss strategies for surrendering what you cannot control and focusing on what is within your power. We highlight the empowerment that both spouses can experience as you embrace the responsibility of navigating your own healing.  Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.  Healing Hearts Couples Group - Stephanie Hamby leads Healing Hearts Live Group  a supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Choose Renewal Group for women: Stephanie Hamby leads Choose Renewal: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. Healing Hearts Self-paced course: Written by Stephanie Hamby https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/healing-hearts-sp/ a 15-week course for couples healing from betrayal, emphasizing empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy while providing practical tools for relational growth. Each partner takes the self-paced course separately, with weekly lessons, journaling, and note-taking sections. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hyper-vigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there. Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity, and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.  Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.  Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.  Connect with Choose Recovery on Instagram

Join Stephanie to learn on what it means to lead. Leading relational repair refers to the proactive and intentional efforts taken by the person who caused harm in a relationship to restore trust, improve communication, and rebuild the emotional bond. It involves taking full accountability for the actions that led to the breach of trust, demonstrating genuine remorse, and actively engaging in behaviors that facilitate healing and reconciliation.  Leading Relational Repair after Infidelity and Betrayal Resource  Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.  Healing Hearts Couples Group - Stephanie Hamby leads Healing Hearts Live Group  a supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Choose Renewal Group for women: Stephanie Hamby leads Choose Renewal: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hyper-vigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there. Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity, and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.  Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.  Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.  Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.  Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.  Connect with Choose Recovery on Instagram

In this episode, we focus on the stages of healing from partner betrayal and infidelity, sharing insights from Paula Hall's work, breaking down the healing process into easily understandable acrostics. We highlight the first phase of safety and stabilization, followed by grief and mourning, and finally post-traumatic growth and reconnecting with oneself. We also explore the importance of understanding the impact of one's actions on their partner as a foundation for developing empathy in the relationship. Here are the models introduced in today's episode: SURF Model: (betrayed partner healing) S: Survive the trauma and initial shock. U: Understand the cycle of reaction and triggers. R: Repair self-identity and self-esteem. F: Face the future with new perspectives. CHOICE Model: (one who has acted out healing) C: Challenge core beliefs hindering change. H: Have a vision for a healthier future. O: Overcome compulsive behaviors and triggers. I: Identify positive support networks. C: Continue healthy living practices. E: Embrace life fully in recovery. Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com  Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.  Healing Hearts Couples Group - Stephanie Hamby leads Healing Hearts Live Group  a supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Choose Renewal Group for women: Stephanie Hamby leads Choose Renewal: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hyper-vigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there. Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.  Connect with Choose Recovery on Instagram

In this episode we discuss how infidelity and betrayal can erode a person's sens of autonomy and can bring feelings of powerlessness and loss of control. Reclaiming autonomy is an important part of the healing process. We discuss some helpful ideas on how couples and individuals can navigate this process while maintaining the goal of relational repair if that is the desire.  Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali's Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie's Bio Book with Stephanie Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. Healing Hearts Couples Group - Stephanie Hamby leads Healing Hearts Live Group  a supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth. Choose Renewal Group for women: Stephanie Hamby leads Choose Renewal: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal. More from Choose Recovery Services: Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there. Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity, and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves. Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and comradery. Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery. Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage. Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce. Connect with Choose Recovery on Instagram