Podcasts about family therapist lmft

“He's been hard since the day he was born.” “Something in her is just off, and always has been.” “Is there something broken with my child?” Whitney traces questions and the fears beneath them to a centuries old belief that some people are simply born bad. It's a belief that has changed costumes across religion, science, and psychology but never fully gone away. Whitney brings questions like these into the present for the parents living with a child with a mental illness, an addiction, or a disability they can't fix.In this episode, you'll learn:- How the "born bad" idea traveled across history- Why temperament is real but more complicated than you think- How to recognize these fears if you were the "problem child" so you don't hand it downWhitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How do you keep giving to a relationship that isn't giving much back? How do you know when you've finally done enough? In this Q&A episode, Whitney answers two questions that arrived from very different places but land in the same spot: radical acceptance. First, a woman exhausted by in-laws who never make the drive, never offer help, and never seem to notice the effort going one direction. Second, a woman whose gone no contact with parents who keep leaving her voicemails claiming they have no idea why.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Something goes wrong at home. A glass tips over. Someone forgot to change the laundry, unload the dishwasher. The dog escapes. Within seconds there's a full trial underway about whose fault it is. Whitney breaks down what's actually happening in families that run on blame.In this episode, you'll learn:Why blame feels like accountability but actually prevents itHow the scapegoat and golden child both learn about faultThe three-part anatomy of real repairWhat to do when you can repair and your family can'tHow to stop the cycle blame with your own kidsWhitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Content warning: This episode discusses childhood abuse, domestic violence, racial slurs, and the death of a sibling.In this Q&A episode, Whitney reads a single letter from a woman who survived a childhood of severe violence, lost her sister at 24, and is now permanently no contact with a family system that still minimizes what happened. Whitney takes the letter in pieces and answers all three of her questions.In this episode, you'll learn:How to grieve a sibling whose life was overshadowed by abuse, without reducing them to what was done to themWhy thriving after you escape is not a betrayal of the people who didn'tWhat it means when an entire family, including the abuser, admits the violence happened and still asks you to come backWhy grief and boundary-holding almost always have to happen at the same timeWhitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Lindsay Gibson's first book, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, gave millions of people language for what happened to them growing up. Her new book flips the lens for the people who are now raising kids of their own and are quietly terrified of passing it all down. Whitney sits down with her to talk about what actually builds emotional maturity in a child, and what to do in the moments your own immaturity shows up.In this episode, you'll learn:Why the fear of becoming your own parents is often a sign you won'tWhat emotional maturity actually looks like at different ages, from newborn to teenagerWhy ruling through fear works in the short term and costs you the relationship long termHow to repair with your child in a way that actually changes the pattern instead of pseudo-apologizingWhy you don't have to be the perfect source of everything for your kidConnect with Dr. Lindsay GibsonGet her new book, How to Raise an Emotionally Mature Child: https://amzn.to/4fbX135 [this is an affiliate link - as an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases at not additional cost to you.]Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this Q&A episode, Whitney answers two questions from people trying to figure out where acceptance ends and cutting off begins. First, a woman who thought her mom was finally going to leave her father after a major blowup involving favoritism, triangulation, and infidelity, only to watch her mom stay and start calling her the difficult one instead. Second, a new mother whose parents made her postpartum period worse instead of better, and who's now wondering whether sending a birthday card is worth it after a year and a half of near silence.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Estranged parents often say: “We had a perfect relationship, and then something to them. Social media. A therapist. A partner. Their other parents. They were brainwashed. In this episode, Whitney takes that fear seriously and gives it an honest, research-informed answer.This episode explores:The real history of brainwashingWhat social media can and can't doIf therapists can implant grievances into clientsHow the brainwashing framework offers comfortSources:https://docs.google.com/document/d/1M0YYHl6m_W2HeEAIa5DhM4lH6VdVmhAxTyUuEuG6qXo/edit?usp=sharingWhitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

One of the harder truths of estrangement is coming to terms with the fact that your parent was not who you needed them to be and in many cases is not going to become that person. In this episode's Q&A, two questions circle that theme. First, a couple with two young children trying to integrate not one, but two sets of critical and unsupportive grandparents into their family. Second, a woman asks how to ever reach true acceptance when you're stuck between anger and still wanting them to be different.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Did you ever feel like you're in a conversation where the other person is just waiting for you to stop talking while they load up something to say? You can talk to members of your family every single day and still feel completely unheard. And it works the other way too. Whitney breaks down the real difference between hearing and listening. In this episode, you'll learn: Concrete tools for listening on both sides of a conversation How to actually listen when someone you love is hurtingWhy our instinct to fix or reassure often backfiresHow to ask for what you need when you're the one who doesn't feel heardWhitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this Q&A episode, Whitney answers two follow-up questions from her viral episode on parental curiosity. First, from a listener who wants to stay connected with an 81-year old father who has never once shown curiosity. Second, the opposite problem: a parent who, after a period of estrangement, suddenly asks a genuine follow-up question.The original episode that inspired the second question:When Parents Don't Show Curiosity About Your LifeWhitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is estrangement a privilege for the middle class and the rich? Whitney pushes back on the argument that cutting off family is something only wealthy people do, not because the critique is entirely wrong, but because it's drawing the wrong conclusion. Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this Q&A episode, Whitney answers two questions from people who love their families but are struggling with dynamics that aren't working. First, someone who spent their whole life as the family mediator and peacemaker, has done years of their own healing work, and is now asking how to stay connected to people who have never really shown curiosity about who they are. Second, a husband navigating the tension between his wife's need for distance from his parents and his own desire to maintain a relationship with them. He also asks what role, if any, his parents should have with their child.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You've heard that line before. And it didn't make things better, did it? Many apologies are not good, and often they make things worse. Whitney breaks down why some people over-apologize while others can't say "I was wrong" at all. She also gives advice for what to do when you're on either side of an apology that isn't landing.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Whitney answers two questions from people who have stepped back from a harmful family relationship, but are stuck in what comes next. First, a wife whose husband is facing a serious health issue and wants to share medical information with his brother, knowing it will reach an estranged mother who will use it as a way back in. Second, a woman estranged from a boundary-violating mother wrestling with the pull to explain herself.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When therapists say adult children are cutting off their parents for “normal parenting mistakes,” they're almost never specific about what that means. Whitney asked 300+ people to define a normal parenting mistake and the responses said it all. The episode explores what happens when there's no repair, no accountability, and no willingness to engage with a parenting misstep, unintentional or not, that genuinely hurt. Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Disclaimer: This episode contains explicit conversations regarding sex and physical intimacy. It is not suitable for little ears. Please use headphones or save this episode for later if you have children nearby.In this episode of the Married and Connected podcast, host Kameran sits down with Keri Green, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and certified sex therapist, for a highly practical and direct conversation about the realities of physical and emotional connection in marriage.Drawing from their professional expertise and personal experiences navigating divorce and dating, Kameran and Keri tackle the tough, often unspoken challenges couples face. From the impact of "sex sabbaticals" to managing mismatched libidos and performance anxiety, this episode provides actionable, evidence-based tools to help you and your partner build safety, trust, and genuine pleasure in your relationship.Key TakeawaysStaying for the Kids: A candid look at why waiting for the kids to grow up before addressing a fractured marriage often backfires, and why modeling a healthy relationship is paramount.The Danger of "Sex Sabbaticals": Why withholding intimacy as a punishment ultimately hurts both partners and turns spouses into mere roommates.Mismatched Sex Drives: Practical steps for bridging the gap when partners have drastically different desires for the frequency or type of sex, starting with redefining what "sex" actually means.Transitioning from Manager to Lover: How to drop the mental load of household chores and transition into an intimate headspace, including why foreplay actually starts the moment you wake up.Performance Anxiety: Understanding that both men and women experience physical and mental pressure in the bedroom, and how building body confidence and emotional safety counters it.Introducing Novelty: Why spicing up a long-term monogamous relationship doesn't require extreme measures—small, consistent changes in environment or routine make a massive difference.Notable Quotes"Foreplay begins the minute we wake up. Foreplay is anything we do throughout the day to show our partner we love them, we appreciate them, we're attracted to them." — Keri Green"Comfort first, pleasure second. We cannot find pleasure to the point where we want to, where we deserve to in a sexual experience unless we're comfortable." — Keri Green"It takes two people to start a relationship. It only takes one to end it." — Keri Green"The best sex that you can possibly have is with someone where you have so much trust and emotional intimacy and knowing, and not just honesty, but transparency." — KameranConnect with Keri GreenKeri Green is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Sex Therapist practicing in California and Colorado. She helps individuals and couples navigate relational and sexual challenges to build the sex lives they actually want.Website: Keri Green, LMFT, CST | Online TherapyWork with KameranLooking for practical, direct support for your marriage? Kameran provides relationship and marriage coaching focused on evidence-based tools and individual responsibility. Please note: Kameran offers relationship coaching rather than traditional therapy, and services are not eligible for insurance reimbursement.WebsiteVerafy your relationship Join the SKOOL CommunitySupport the show

Q&A episodes are back after Whitney's maternity leave. In the first question, a woman gets into an argument with her mom and sister the day before her daughter's first birthday party and starts to recognize a pattern of always being the one to apologize. Second, a daughter-in-law asks how her husband should handle a mother-in-law who keeps inviting extra people to agreed-upon meetups.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Describe your dad in three words. For a lot of adults, the father wound isn't about a dad who left it's about one who was physically present but emotionally absent. Whitney explores why our culture tells you this is actually not a wound at all and why this particular grief is so hard to name.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Not all distance in a family relationship is estrangement. Not everyone pulling away is escaping an abusive situation. In this episode, Whitney explores the gray area of quietly drifting from someone you love. Why does it happen? When does it cross into avoidance? What can reconnection look like realistically? Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you've done years of eating disorder recovery work and suddenly find old trauma surfacing, you are not alone. In this deeply honest conversation, Dr. Marianne Miller and Debbie Saroufim explore the complicated overlap between eating disorders, trauma recovery, body image, nervous system responses, and healing after survival mode. They discuss why trauma can emerge later in recovery, how eating disorders sometimes function as protection, and what happens when old coping strategies no longer work. Debbie shares personal experiences with trauma recovery, sexual trauma, body image struggles, EMDR, Internal Family Systems (IFS)/parts work, parenting, co-parenting, and navigating major life transitions while continuing the recovery process. Together, they unpack the emotional reality of healing in a world shaped by diet culture, misogyny, fatphobia, and systemic oppression. CONTENT CAUTION This episode includes discussion of trauma, sexual trauma, PTSD symptoms, body image distress, eating disorders, dissociation/freezing responses, misogyny, and systemic oppression. Eating Disorders and Trauma Recovery Many people assume eating disorder recovery means the hardest part is over. But for some people, healing from eating disorder behaviors can uncover trauma that had been buried underneath survival strategies for years. Dr. Marianne Miller and Debbie Saroufim discuss how eating disorders can function as protection, why trauma may surface later in recovery, and how recovery does not make people immune to pain, grief, fear, or nervous system overwhelm. The conversation explores the relationship between trauma and eating disorders, including how body image struggles, restrictive eating, binge eating, compulsive behaviors, and nervous system responses can become intertwined with survival. They also discuss the emotional shock that can happen when eating disorder symptoms are no longer the primary coping mechanism and unresolved trauma begins demanding attention. PTSD Symptoms, Nervous System Responses, and Survival Mode This episode examines trauma responses like freezing, dissociation, hypervigilance, minimization, emotional shutdown, and nervous system dysregulation. Debbie shares how experiences from adolescence resurfaced decades later during trauma recovery work and how those memories affected her relationships, parenting, body image, and sense of safety in the world. Dr. Marianne Miller and Debbie Saroufim also discuss the connection between trauma, body image, misogyny, fatphobia, oppression, and diet culture. They explore how living in a culture shaped by systemic inequality and body oppression can create chronic emotional stress that deeply affects mental health and eating disorder recovery. EMDR, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Parts Work Dr. Marianne Miller and Debbie Saroufim discuss how EMDR and Internal Family Systems (IFS)/parts work can help people process trauma and eating disorder recovery with greater self-compassion. Debbie explains how parts work helped her understand eating disorder thoughts as information instead of commands and how learning to “unblend” from different parts of herself changed her recovery process. The conversation also explores how eating disorders can begin as protective adaptations, why self-compassion can feel inaccessible during trauma recovery, and how nervous system regulation becomes an important part of healing. They discuss the idea that multiple truths can coexist at once and why recovery often requires compassion for every part of the self, including the parts carrying fear, shame, anger, grief, or overwhelm. Fat Liberation, Body Image, and Intergenerational Trauma This episode also explores the connection between fat liberation, trauma, body image, and intergenerational trauma. Debbie discusses how body image struggles are shaped by cultural messaging and systemic oppression rather than appearance alone. Dr. Marianne Miller and Debbie Saroufim talk about how trauma can be passed through generations, how children absorb messages about bodies and safety, and why many people are trying to break cycles of shame and silence within their families. They also discuss the emotional complexity of parenting while healing, the pressure many people feel to “fully recover,” and the reality that recovery is often ongoing maintenance work rather than a final destination. About Debbie Saroufim Debbie Saroufim is a body acceptance coach in Los Angeles, California. She helps people all over the world build resilience against diet culture and heal their relationship with food and body image through a harm reduction and fat liberation lens. Her work focuses on body image healing, eating disorder recovery support, trauma-informed coaching, and helping people navigate life in a world shaped by body oppression and systemic inequality. Debbie works with people of all body sizes through individual and group coaching and is passionate about bringing conversations about body diversity and fat liberation into schools and community spaces. Find Debbie Saroufim on Instagram at @bodyacceptance_coach and at thebodyacceptancecoach.com. Listen to Other Episodes With Debbie When Weight Loss Isn't a Win: Eating Disorders, Stress, & Body Image Confusion (Content Warning) on Apple or Spotify. Anti-Fat Bias in Schools and Society on Apple or Spotify. How Eating Disorder Recovery Heals Life Overall on Apple or Spotify. Let's Talk Recovery: Ditching Diet Culture & Crushing Eating Disorder Thoughts on Apple or Spotify. About Dr. Marianne Miller Dr. Marianne Miller is a San Diego, California-based Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), eating disorder therapist, podcast host, and advocate specializing in eating disorders, ARFID, binge eating disorder, body image, neurodivergence, and trauma-informed care. She works with adults, teens, and children and is known for her neurodivergent-affirming, fat-liberation-informed approach to eating disorder recovery. Dr. Marianne Miller provides eating disorder therapy (California) and coaching (worldwide) for people struggling with ARFID, anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder, OCD, body image distress, and complex relationships with food. Her work focuses on compassionate, evidence-based support that honors the role of nervous system regulation, sensory experiences, executive functioning, and systemic oppression in recovery. She is the host of the Dr. Marianne-Land podcast, where she explores eating disorders, mental health, neurodiversity, trauma, body image, and recovery through honest, nuanced conversations with clinicians, advocates, and people with lived experience. Learn more about Dr. Marianne Miller, therapy services, coaching, and courses at drmariannemiller.com. If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, rate, and review the Dr. Marianne-Land podcast on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Your support helps more people find eating disorder recovery, trauma recovery, ARFID support, binge eating support, body image support, and neurodivergent-affirming mental health resources.

Why do so many people with anorexia go undiagnosed simply because of their body size? In this episode of the Dr. Marianne-Land podcast, eating disorder therapist Dr. Marianne Miller explores anorexia in higher-weight bodies, restrictive eating disorders, weight bias in healthcare, and the dangerous myths surrounding “atypical anorexia.” This conversation unpacks how restrictive eating can become normalized, praised, or completely overlooked when someone does not fit the stereotype of anorexia. What Is Atypical Anorexia? Dr. Marianne explains why the term “atypical anorexia” can be misleading and why anorexia is not defined by weight alone. She explores how food restriction, fear around eating, compulsive control, and intense preoccupation with food can occur in bodies of all sizes. The episode also examines why so many people struggle to recognize their own eating disorder symptoms when culture continually tells them they are “healthy” or “doing well.” Restrictive Eating Disorders in Higher-Weight Bodies This episode takes a deeper look at hidden restriction, chronic dieting, skipped meals, rigid food rules, and the restrictive eating spectrum. Dr. Marianne discusses how eating disorders in larger bodies are frequently missed by healthcare providers, loved ones, and even the individuals experiencing them. She also explores how praise for weight loss can reinforce dangerous patterns and delay support. Medical Risks of Anorexia in Larger Bodies Anorexia in higher-weight bodies carries real psychological and medical risks. Dr. Marianne explains how undernourishment affects the body regardless of size, including impacts on heart rate, hormones, cognition, bone health, anxiety, and nervous system functioning. This episode challenges the harmful assumption that someone must appear underweight before restriction becomes medically serious. Weight Bias, Misdiagnosis, & Eating Disorder Stigma Weight stigma and anti-fat bias continue to shape eating disorder treatment and diagnosis. Dr. Marianne explores how medical gaslighting, diet culture, and stereotypes about anorexia contribute to delayed diagnosis and inadequate care. She also discusses how intersectionality, neurodivergence, disability, race, and gender identity can further complicate recognition and access to support. Neurodivergence, Restriction, & Eating Disorders This episode also examines how sensory sensitivities, executive functioning differences, autism, ADHD, and nervous system regulation can influence eating patterns and restrictive behaviors. Dr. Marianne discusses why neurodivergent people may experience eating disorders differently and why individualized, affirming care matters. Eating Disorder Recovery Without Stereotypes Recovery begins with recognizing that eating disorders do not have one look. This conversation encourages listeners to move away from appearance-based assumptions and toward a more nuanced understanding of anorexia, restrictive eating, and body diversity. Dr. Marianne also shares why support matters before symptoms escalate and why people in higher-weight bodies deserve compassionate, specialized eating disorder care. Related Episodes Anorexia in Higher-Weight Bodies: Rethinking “Atypical Anorexia” & the Restrictive Eating Spectrum With Dr. Jennifer Gaudiani, MD @gaudianiclinic on Apple & Spotify. Atypical Anorexia Explained: Why Restriction Happens at Every Body Size on Apple or Spotify. Atypical Anorexia: Mental & Physical Health Risks, Plus How the Term is Controversial on Apple or Spotify. Work With Dr. Marianne Miller Dr. Marianne Miller is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) specializing in eating disorders, ARFID, binge eating disorder, anorexia, bulimia, OCD, and neurodivergent-affirming care. She offers eating disorder therapy and coaching for adults in California, Washington, D.C., and globally through coaching services. Visit Dr. Marianne's website to learn more about therapy, coaching, ARFID support, and eating disorder recovery resources.

Do your parents express curiosity about your life? This was the subject of one of Whitney's most viral TikTok videos. 2,000 comments later, it's clear how widespread the pain of answering that question can be. Whitney cracks open what the research says about being known versus taken care of and what families who get this right are doing differently.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles. Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.co Follow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhit Follow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmft Order Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivity Sign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0o This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you feel like eating has to happen a certain way or your anxiety spirals? Do food rules, rituals, or intrusive thoughts take over your day in ways that feel exhausting but impossible to stop? In this episode of The Dr. Marianne-Land Podcast, Dr. Marianne Miller explores the complex overlap between OCD and eating disorders, including how compulsions, “just-right” feelings, anxiety, sensory sensitivities, and rigid food patterns can quietly shape someone's relationship with eating. Many people with OCD and eating disorders do not fit stereotypes. Some people struggle with restrictive eating, binge eating, ARFID, food avoidance, or repetitive rituals around meals without realizing that obsessive-compulsive patterns may be part of what is driving the cycle. This episode breaks down why food can become attached to safety, certainty, and relief from distress, and why recovery requires more than simply “stopping” the behavior. Dr. Marianne also explores how neurodivergence, including ADHD and autism, can overlap with OCD and eating disorders in ways that are frequently misunderstood in traditional treatment spaces. What OCD and Eating Disorders Can Look Like Around Food This episode explores how OCD can show up through food rituals, rigid eating rules, repetitive behaviors, intrusive thoughts, contamination fears, and overwhelming “not-right” feelings connected to meals and eating experiences. Dr. Marianne explains why these patterns often become reinforced over time and why eating can begin to feel emotionally loaded, exhausting, and difficult to navigate. The Difference Between Food Preferences, Rituals, and Compulsions Not every food routine is automatically OCD, and not every eating disorder behavior comes from body image concerns. Dr. Marianne discusses the difference between supportive structure versus compulsive rigidity and explains why understanding the function of behaviors matters so much in eating disorder recovery. OCD, Neurodivergence, and Eating Disorders Many autistic people and ADHDers rely on predictability, sensory consistency, and routines to reduce overwhelm. This episode explores how OCD can intensify those needs and why treatment must account for sensory processing, executive functioning, anxiety, and nervous system regulation instead of relying on shame or force. Why “Just Stop the Behavior” Usually Does Not Work When providers or loved ones do not understand OCD and eating disorders, people often receive advice that increases distress instead of helping. Dr. Marianne explains why compulsions and rituals are not simply habits people can turn off instantly and why recovery requires compassion, pacing, flexibility, and support for the nervous system. Recovery From OCD and Eating Disorders This episode also explores what can actually help when food rules and compulsions take over. Dr. Marianne discusses building tolerance for uncertainty, gently interrupting rituals, supporting sensory needs, reducing shame, and creating more flexibility around eating without overwhelming the nervous system. Related Episodes When Eating Disorders Meet Anxiety, OCD, or Depression: Co-Occurring Challenges & Recovery Strategies on Apple & Spotify. Obsessions, Compulsions, and Control: How OCD Intertwines With Eating Disorders on Apple & Spotify. Food, Fear, & Fixation: How OCD Shapes Eating Disorders on Apple & Spotify. Work With Dr. Marianne Miller Dr. Marianne Miller is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and eating disorder therapist who specializes in ARFID, binge eating disorder, anorexia, bulimia, OCD, and neurodivergent-affirming care. She works with teens and adults in California and offers coaching support more broadly. Learn more about therapy, coaching, and eating disorder recovery support on her website drmariannemiller.com. Listen and Subscribe If this episode resonated with you, follow The Dr. Marianne-Land Podcast on your favorite podcast platform and share this episode with someone who feels trapped in food rules, rituals, anxiety, or intrusive thoughts around eating.

Does one awkward interaction, unanswered text, or small piece of feedback ruin your entire day? You may not be “too sensitive.” You may be experiencing Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD), especially if you also live with ADHD or an eating disorder. In this episode, Dr. Marianne explores why rejection can feel emotionally and physically painful, why shame spirals happen so quickly, and how emotional overwhelm can shape eating patterns, body image, and self-worth. What Is Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD)? Dr. Marianne breaks down what RSD actually is and why perceived criticism, disconnection, or rejection can trigger such intense emotional reactions. She explores how ADHD nervous systems often process emotions differently and why even subtle social shifts can feel catastrophic. This episode also examines how years of feeling misunderstood, corrected, excluded, or “too much” can shape the way neurodivergent people experience relationships and emotional safety. ADHD, Emotional Regulation, & Eating Disorders This episode explores the powerful overlap between ADHD, emotional regulation challenges, and eating disorders. Dr. Marianne discusses how rejection can quickly trigger binge eating urges, emotional eating, restrictive eating patterns, perfectionism, body image spirals, masking, and all-or-nothing thinking. She also explains why many neurodivergent people struggle to “move on” after rejection and why emotional pain can linger in the body long after the moment itself has passed. Why Food Often Becomes Part of the Coping Cycle When rejection activates the nervous system, the brain often searches for relief. For some people, food becomes soothing, grounding, or numbing. For others, appetite disappears completely and restriction begins to feel safer or more controlled. Dr. Marianne explains why these patterns are not about lack of willpower and why eating disorder behaviors often function as attempts to regulate overwhelming emotional states. Anti-Fat Bias, Ableism, & Emotional Pain Rejection does not happen in isolation. Dr. Marianne explores how anti-fat bias, ableism, stigma, and chronic misunderstanding can intensify emotional pain and increase sensitivity to rejection. She also discusses why marginalized people often carry higher levels of hypervigilance in social situations and why intersectionality matters when talking about ADHD, eating disorders, and nervous system regulation. Neurodivergent-Affirming Tools That Can Help Dr. Marianne shares supportive strategies for navigating RSD and eating disorder recovery, including sensory supports, low-lift eating approaches, nervous system regulation, and ways to reduce shame spirals without relying on punishment or rigid food rules. This episode focuses on building more self-understanding and creating coping tools that actually fit neurodivergent brains and lived experiences. Related Episodes Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) & Eating Disorders: The Emotional Toll of Feeling “Too Much" on Apple & Spotify. Eating Disorders & ADHD: Neurodivergent-Affirming Recovery With Taylor Ashley, RP @taylorashleytherapy on Apple and Spotify. ADHD & Bulimia: Dopamine, Impulsivity, & the Hidden Link to Binge Eating With Kirsten Book, PMHNP-BC on Apple and Spotify. Work With Dr. Marianne Dr. Marianne Miller is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) specializing in eating disorders, ARFID, binge eating disorder, neurodivergence, ADHD, and emotional regulation challenges. She offers therapy and coaching for people navigating food struggles, shame, sensory sensitivities, and overwhelming emotional experiences. Check out her self-paced, virtual, ARFID and Selective Eating Course. Listen & Subscribe If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who may need it and follow the Dr. Marianne-Land podcast on your favorite platform.

Whitney breaks down one of the most requested topics from her audience: the neglecting, rejecting and cruel mothers. She defines the different types, walks through the lasting impact of a mother like this on your inner voice, attachment patterns, mental health, and relationships in adulthood. Then she gives practical steps for moving forward.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is Dr. Cheyenne Bryant actually a licensed therapist, or is this one of the biggest "rebranding" jobs we've ever seen? The psychology community is officially CLAPPING BACK, and the receipts are flying!

It's time for an honest look at therapists on the internet. Whitney answers the question of whether or not therapists as influencers and content creators are a problem... which includes an honest self-reflection.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Some of the hardest parent relationships to name are the ones that look fine from the outside. Whitney breaks down the distant parent-child relationship - what defines it, what it feels like to grow up never quite being seen, and why trying harder to earn closeness often makes the distance widen.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Whitney draws together hundreds of emails, letters, and social media interactions to create a profile of a specific type of parent she calls the perpetually estranged parent.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club⁠⁠Follow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmft⁠⁠Order Whitney's book, Toxic PositivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So you made the decision to leave a harmful family relationship. And you're wondering why it still feels so complicated. In this episode, Whitney walks through why the grief shows up at the strangest times, how to handle doubt without getting derailed, and what it means to finally start building a life that's yours.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club⁠⁠Follow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmft⁠⁠Order Whitney's book, Toxic PositivityThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode is brought to you by Alma. Visit https://helloalma.com/dg/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=paid&utm_campaign=privatepractice to learn more Sign up for the webinar Inside a Couples Intensive: The 4 C's in Action on Thursday, April 16, 2026: https://us02web.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_P24AEVQEQBOclzxNokvrEQ Get the Couples Therapy 101 course: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/ Join the Couples Therapist Inner Circle: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/inner-circle-new Join The Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/295562197518469/ In this episode, Shane talks with Trevor White about relationships & AI. Trevor is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the Founder of Constellation Therapy, a practice focused on infidelity recovery. Hear how infidelity is changing in the Age of AI, how to help couples agree on the rules of their relationship, how to manage AI interactions responsibly, what language to avoid as a couples therapist, and the AI tools valuable for couples therapists today. To learn more about Trevor White and Constellation Therapy, visit: TrevorWhiteTherapy.com ConstellationTherapySeattle.com

Whitney is joined by therapist Emma Mahony to break down one of the most unflinching portrayals of a parentified child on television: Fiona Gallagher from Shameless. Through neglect, addiction, manipulation, and moments of genuine heartbreak, they explore what it does to a child when taking care of your family becomes your entire identity. Emma Mahony is a mental health therapist based in London whose work centers on helping people understand the patterns they grew up with and how to move toward healthier, more conscious relationships with themselves and others. Emma's website: https://www.ecmtherapy.co/Emma's IG: emma.in.therapyEmma's TikTok: @emma.mahonyWhitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club⁠⁠Follow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmft⁠⁠Order Whitney's book, Toxic PositivityThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Not every relationship can be repaired, and not every relationship should be. In this episode, Whitney validates the decision to walk away from a family relationship for good and gives you the language to hold that boundary when the people around you won't stop pushing you to reconcile.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club⁠⁠Follow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmft⁠⁠Order Whitney's book, Toxic PositivityThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How does being sexually betrayed affect men? Adam Nisenson explains the phenomenon of masculine betrayal trauma and what healing looks like.Adam Nisenson is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT). He is known as The Betrayal Shrink, a pioneering voice in men's mental health, and the first professional to define and name the phenomenon of Masculine Betrayal Trauma.Drawing from his own lived experience after his former spouse's affair with her business partner over 12 years ago, Adam brings both personal understanding and clinical depth to every session, every book, and every word he shares.Resources by Adam Nisenson:A Man's Guide to Partner Betrayal (book)A Man's Guide to Trust After Partner Betrayal (clinical workbook)No Man's Land (guided journal)Listen to Adam's podcast,Men Get Cheated On Too! where he breaks the silence around male betrayal trauma and gives men a voice, language, and a path forward in a society that too often leaves them behind. His work blends depth psychology, trauma-informed care, emotional accountability, and masculine healing frameworks to help men confront betrayal without shame and emerge stronger than they were before.Learn more about masculine betrayal trauma and connect with Adam at betrayalshrink.comRegister now for the Husband Material Retreat in Georgia (April 24-27) at husbandmaterial.com/spring-retreatSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Whitney is joined by therapist Stephanie Lindeman to break down the Roy family from the HBO Max show Succession. Succession is one of the most psychologically precise portrayals of a narcissistic patriarch on television. Together Whitney and Stephanie explore what happens to adult children who spend their lives trying to win approval from a parent who is constantly playing a game that no one else can ever win.Stephanie's website:https://www.alifeworthsharing.com/aboutStephanie's IG:@steph_the_attachment_therapistWhitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club⁠⁠Follow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmft⁠⁠Order Whitney's book, Toxic PositivityThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you bring up a painful memory and your parents say it never happened, it can feel like you're losing your mind. Whitney explains the science behind why parents and children encode the same events differently. But how do you tell the difference between that and a parent who refuses to let your reality exist?Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club⁠⁠Follow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmft⁠⁠Order Whitney's book, Toxic PositivityThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dan is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) with over 36 years of clinical experience. Throughout his career, he has worked with a variety of therapeutic approaches, including Gestalt, psychodynamic, and systems-based therapies. He has practiced in diverse settings and worked with clients ranging from adolescents to adults. Dan's primary focus has always been on relationships—how we navigate both the challenges and strengths within them, move through periods of connection and disconnection, and develop healthier ways of relating to ourselves and others. He has 3 daughters and a wife who he loves to spend time with.  Dan's interests range from spirituality as well as taking hikes, spending time at the ocean, and hanging out with family.  In this episode Dan and I discuss that feeling emotionally disconnected from your partner can be deeply painful, but it's a common experience that often signals a need for deeper connection rather than the end of love. The pain typically arises from unmet emotional needs, unresolved conflict, stress, or differing attachment styles. Recognizing that disconnection is not a failure, but a signal to reconnect, is the first step toward healing.  Connect with Dan: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/dan-hadley-asheville-nc/907874 Let's Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.  Check out our Guided Audio Practices and Meditations at Relationships! Let's Learn About It. You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs. Don't forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music "These Streets" provided by Adi the Monk Sound Production by Matt Carlson

Erin Valente is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT) who gives practical advice for managing issues in your marriage, including moving through divorce. She also opens up about her abusive childhood and the work she's done to heal, as well as the process of her own divorce.For more about Erin: www.erinvalentetherapy.comThis episode is sponsored Quince. Go to www.Quince.com/mental for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too.This episode is sponsored by Alma. Search their directory of over 20,000 therapists with different specialities, life experiences, and identities, and 99% of them take insurance. Go to www.HelloAlma.com/happyhourThis episode is sponsored by The Jordan Harbinger Show. Learn more about the world, improve your critical thinking skills and be entertained! Listen or subscribe here: jordanharbinger.com/subscribe Apple Podcasts: jordanharbinger.com/itunesSpotify: jordanharbinger.com/spotifyHere are the two episodes Paul recommended.https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/1280-cory-doctorow-why-everything-got-worse-and-what/id1344999619?i=1000747830030Andhttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/1238-ken-burns-what-if-the-american-revolution-isnt-over/id1344999619?i=1000736232557If you're interested in seeing or buying the furniture that Paul designs and makes follow his IG @ShapedFurniture or visit the website www.shapedfurniture.comWAYS TO HELP THE MIHH PODCASTSubscribe via Apple Podcasts (or whatever player you use). It costs nothing. It's extremely helpful to have your subscription set to download all episodes automatically. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2Spread the word via social media. It costs nothing.Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod Become a one-time or monthly donor via PayPal at https://mentalpod.com/donateYou can also donate via Zelle (make payment to mentalpod@gmail.com) To donate via Venmo make payment to @Mentalpod See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Whitney breaks down Jeanette McCurdy's interview on Alex Cooper's Call Her Daddy. She discusses enmeshment, parentification and the painful process of accepting that a parent was abusive. Then she answers a listener question about an emotionally immature mother who insists on playing best friend and family authority at the same time.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club⁠⁠Follow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmft⁠⁠Order Whitney's book, Toxic PositivityThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice.01:27 Jeanette McCurdy's Story18:32 Listener Question Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Whitney is joined by therapist Patrick Teahan to break down one of the most diabolically toxic mother figures on television: Smurf from Animal Kingdom.Follow PatrickYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@patrickteahanofficialInstagram: @patrickteahanofficialWhitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club⁠⁠Follow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmft⁠⁠Order Whitney's book, Toxic PositivityThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode is brought to you by Alma. Visit https://helloalma.com/dg/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=paid&utm_campaign=privatepractice to learn more Get the Couples Therapy 101 course: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/ Join the Couples Therapist Inner Circle: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/inner-circle-new Join The Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/295562197518469/ In this episode, Shane talks with Kati Morton about Why Do I Keep Doing This?: Unlearn the Habits Keeping You Stuck and Unhappy. Kati is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), Media Personality, and Author. Hear why our inner dialogue isn't always correct, how to help your clients get unstuck, the importance of working on yourself, why it's okay to have healthy differences, and the difference between love & codependence. To learn more about Kati Morton, her latest book Why Do I Keep Doing This?, and her podcast Ask Kati Anything, visit: KatiMorton.com @KatiMorton on YouTube, TikTok, and Instagram  

Why aren't therapists centering estranged parents at least as equally as their children? Whitney breaks down what bias actually means in a clinical context.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club⁠⁠Follow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmft⁠⁠Order Whitney's book, Toxic PositivityThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Most apologies aren't great and sometimes even make things worse. If you've ever given or received an "I'm sorry" that left you feeling dissatisfied, Whitney walks through the three-part anatomy of an apology that will help get your relationship back on track.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club⁠⁠Follow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmft⁠⁠Order Whitney's book, Toxic PositivityThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Whitney addresses something that's been getting to her: the constant threats from estranged parents that they're reporting her to the licensing board. Then she answers two listener questions.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club⁠⁠Follow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmft⁠⁠Order Whitney's book, Toxic PositivityThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice.00:10 Therapists losing their license12:32 Listener question #120:56 Listener question #2 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What do enmeshed relationships actually look like? Why do parents become enmeshed with their kids? And what can you do about it? If you've ever felt like you can't hear yourself think, you're expected to be your parent's therapist or partner, or missing a weekly dinner feels like betraying the family, this episode is for you. Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club⁠⁠Follow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmft⁠⁠Order Whitney's book, Toxic PositivityThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Whitney answers two listener questions about family relationships that don't go full no-contact but are also deeply dysfunctional. She also discusses a viral Chinese app called "Are You Dead?"Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club⁠⁠Follow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmft⁠⁠Order Whitney's book, Toxic PositivityThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice.1:12 The viral "Are You Dead?" app from China06:24 Listener question #114:42 Listener question #2 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Whitney has taken estranged parents' bait for the last time, and it's time to set the record straight.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club⁠⁠Follow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmft⁠⁠Order Whitney's book, Toxic PositivityThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Whitney answers two listener questions about harm that happened during a crisis and harm that accumulated over years. One listener is navigating repeated boundary violations from in-laws during her husband's medical emergency while postpartum—and her husband doesn't remember any of it. The other was cut off by parents who refused therapy, yet they tell everyone she initiated no contact.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club⁠⁠Follow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmft⁠⁠Order Whitney's book, Toxic PositivityThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Parental rejection hurts more than almost any other kind of rejection, and it's a pain that doesn't dissolve with age. If you've ever minimized what happened by saying "they just weren't that affectionate" or wondered why you can't just get over it, this episode reveals the research-backed truth about how early rejection embeds itself into your nervous system, personality, and every relationship you have as an adult.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club⁠⁠Follow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmft⁠⁠Order Whitney's book, Toxic PositivityThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Whitney responds to a Facebook post from parents who feel blindsided by their college-age child who suddenly asks for no contact. She breaks down how the wrong response from parents can push the relationship toward permanent estrangement.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club⁠⁠Follow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmft⁠⁠Order Whitney's book, Toxic PositivityThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.