Finding Fertility

Your nervous system needs to feel safe by not doing anything. Topics Discussed Intuition practices for fertility Spirit baby communication Nervous system regulation and safety Letting go of control to access inner guidance Written dialogue technique for emotional clarity Fear of surrender during conception journeys Subconscious resistance to intuitive guidance You're not relinquishing control, you're gaining real power. Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… This episode is for every woman who's ever clenched her jaw trying to "do it right" and still felt completely lost. If you're crushing the diet, the supplements, the yoga, and yet still find yourself spiraling with anxiety and doubt, this is the wake-up call you didn't know you needed. We're going beyond the to-do list and deep into the intuitive zone, where the real shifts happen, not through hustle, but through hearing. You'll meet Katie, a medical intuitive who unapologetically invites you to drop the productivity addiction and sit with yourself for five freaking minutes. We unpack the radical idea that connecting with your spirit baby, your body, or your guides isn't woo: it's wise. And it's exactly what your burnout brain has been begging for. The truth? Your obsession with control might be the block. And the magic? It lives in the messy middle, where you breathe, listen, and get honest. Press play if you're ready to stop. Control is a survival mechanism, but it doesn't always serve us. Timestamps 02:15 A writing technique to calm your nervous system and access intuition and the lessons you'll learn. 05:45 Why most women struggle to sit with themselves and listen to their intuition. 06:29 How to let your inner guidance team actually help you to feel safe doing “nothing”. 09:07 How to handle scary truths that surface during intuitive work. 12:02 Understanding that radical changes often come from discomfort until you pay attention. 16:58 Why you need to prioritize your child over societal or familial expectations. 19:44 The importance of intentional change to avoid the same stress patterns carrying into pregnancy, postpartum, and parenting. The more you get what you need from your inner source, the less external noise matters. Connect with Katie Beecher www.katiebeecher.com   Medical & Emotional Intuitive & Medium                  Licensed Professional Counselor      Book: Heal From Within: A Guide to Intuitive Wellness https://amzn.to/3LySBUA   Instagram @katiebeecher_medical_intuitive    www.facebook.com/beechermedicalintuitive   Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/katie-beecher-medical-intuitive-part-two  Let's Do This Together

“Are you willing to look somewhere else—or are you just hoping the same path magically works?” Topics Discussed Energetic and spiritual root causes of infertility Soul contracts and past life agreements around parenthood Intuitive healing beyond the physical body Trauma, guilt, and nervous system imprinting How ancestral and childhood pain block conception Subconscious fears around motherhood and worthiness Spirit baby connections and intuitive parenting Emotional healing after loss, miscarriage, or abortion Why your baby might be waiting for you to change “Spirit babies are advanced souls, and some are just waiting for you to get your act together.” Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… If you've ever sat with the gut-wrenching thought, “I've done everything, why am I still not pregnant?”—this episode is the mic-drop truth-teller you didn't know you needed. I'm joined by the incredible Katie, a medical and spiritual intuitive who doesn't sugarcoat or sidestep the real sh*t—she dives straight into soul contracts, energetic blocks, and the hidden pain your doctor isn't trained to look for. Together, we unpack the layers most fertility journeys never touch—from repressed grief and subconscious guilt to childhood trauma and that secret fear you'll become your mother. Katie explains how spiritual blueprints and unresolved emotional patterns show up in the womb space—and how the body holds onto trauma like it's a family heirloom. Spoiler alert: IVF can't fix that. This episode isn't here to coddle you. It's here to wake you up with love. It's a call to radical responsibility—because sometimes the thing keeping you from your baby isn't a protocol, it's a soul-level pattern ready to be rewritten. So if you're ready to move beyond the Pinterest-perfect fertility checklist and into true transformation... Press play, love. “Some women are being called to heal generations of trauma—before they even conceive.” Timestamps 01:36 Katie's journey: A medical and spiritual intuitive who creates intuitive soul readings for women. 02:30 Understanding why fertility isn't always a physical issue but a soul contract thing. 04:00 Illnesses that block pregnancy, why they should be addressed, and how intuition reveals them 07:23 How the body stores energy from trauma, illness, or guilt can silently sabotage fertility. 09:09 Why spiritually evolved women face deeper fertility journeys. 12:58 Understanding the concept of spirit babies and why it is more than just a "woo". 16:31 A wild story: channeling a grandmother to open a blocked fertility path. 19:44 Why intuition matters more than any expert you work with in your journey. 27:25 Why your unmet expectations are prolonging the wait. “This isn't just about getting pregnant. It's about becoming the version of you your child deserves.”   Connect with Katie Beecher: www.katiebeecher.com  Medical & Emotional Intuitive & Medium                  Licensed Professional Counselor      Book: Heal From Within: A Guide to Intuitive Wellness https://amzn.to/3LySBUA   Instagram @katiebeecher_medical_intuitive    www.facebook.com/beechermedicalintuitive   Full Transcript on the Blog: The Soul Contracts That Could Be Blocking Your Pregnancy with Katie Becher Let's Do This Together

You don't have to hold on to what's not yours. Let the earth take it. Topics Discussed: Energetic grounding for fertility clarity Emotional release through meditation Nervous system regulation and coherence Fertility burnout and energy depletion Daily rituals to support subconscious healing You are not meant to carry it all. You're meant to clear, to ground, to connect. Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… Let's get real: if you're exhausted from trying everything and still feeling like your body's working against you, this episode is for you. I'm guiding you through the exact energy-clearing meditation that's helped me show up with way more peace, trust, and emotional bandwidth—even on the wildest days. No white-knuckling. No fake zen. Just real, grounded energy work that clears out the crap clogging your system. Because here's the deal: when you're on the fertility rollercoaster, your nervous system doesn't lie. You can drink the green juice, pop the supplements, and track your cycle till you're blue in the face—but if you're energetically clogged, you're not going to hear your intuition. This practice helps you drop in fast, clear emotional junk drawers, and open up that divine two-way convo between your womb and the universe. This isn't about being perfect. It's about showing up for your energy like it actually matters. Press play, drop in, and let's start clearing what was never yours to carry. Consistency isn't control—it's devotion to your own energy. Timestamps 00:00 - Why your nervous system needs this daily practice 01:30 - How Monica uses this meditation in chaotic moments 05:32 - Rooting into the earth: releasing what you've absorbed 08:57 - Connecting to source: your body's divine channel 11:35 - Building your frequency field for daily energetic protection 14:13 - How to instantly return to this grounded state 16:07 - A bold offer for burnt-out women ready to break the cycle This is one of the best ways to feel the energetic shift you've been longing for. Full Transcript on the Blog: Grounding & Clearing Energy Activation Meditation for IVF & Infertility  Let's Do This Together

Stillness isn't stagnation. It's integration. Topics Discussed The chaos addiction blocking your fertility Nervous system dysregulation and fertility struggles How trauma patterns show up after you get pregnant Epigenetics, motherhood, and the cost of overdoing Why your body can't receive in a high-alert state The energetic upgrade from hustle to healing How to actually trust the pause without spiraling You can chase in chaos, but you can't receive in chaos. Show Notes Summary Hello Beautiful Souls, the voice of Monica here... This one's raw, real, and honestly a little uncomfortable, in the best way. I skipped a podcast episode for the first time in five years. Not because I forgot. Not because I didn't care. But because I'm practicing what I preach: stepping out of chaos and into calm. This episode is a full-on permission slip to stop running yourself into the ground in the name of fertility. The endless doing, fixing, tweaking, chasing—it might feel productive, but it's actually the very frequency that's keeping your body in survival. Stillness, on the other hand, is scary because it's unfamiliar. But that's exactly where your intuition gets loud and your nervous system learns to receive. I get into how these patterns don't magically disappear once you get pregnant, and why so many mamas find themselves overwhelmed, triggered, and exhausted postpartum. If your chaos feels safer than peace, this episode is your invitation to shift. Press play. Let it land. And ask yourself: what if letting go is what moves you forward? You're not falling behind. You're finally tuning in. Timestamps 00:00 Why chaos is more comfortable than calm 03:25 The illusion of productivity in your fertility journey 04:52 Pregnancy and motherhood don't erase your patterns 07:50 The chaos comfort zone and your nervous system 08:51 Why peace can feel like panic and how to shift 12:54 Stillness as the gateway to intuition and coherence 14:50 How to gently rewire your frequency without overwhelm 16:18 Stillness doesn't mean failure. It means possibility 20:04 Preview of next week's grounding and clearing practice Read Mable's Truth # 10: Finding Comfort in Chaos During Infertility & IVF: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/truth-10-finding-comfort-in-chaos-during-infertility-ivf Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-hidden-reason-you-re-addicted-to-doing-on-your-ttc-infertility-ivf-journey Let's Do This Together

"You do not need another plan, you need presence." Topics Discussed: How scattered priorities sabotage fertility healing Rewiring subconscious patterns with consistency Understanding fear-based supplement routines The emotional cost of over-functioning and perfectionism Embodying the energy you want your baby to be raised in Recognizing when ‘calm' is just another performance How to shift from chasing to receiving Truth # 9 Scattered Priorities During Infertility & IVF: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/truth-9-scattered-priorities-during-infertility-ivf "Your baby is not waiting for you to be perfect, your baby is waiting for you to stop abandoning yourself." Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be... Today's episode is not for the faint of heart, but for the brave souls ready to ditch the invisible hustle and finally get real about where their energy is leaking. If you think slowing down means you're not hustling anymore, think again. Inside, you might still be sprinting like you are training for the Fertility Olympics. In this episode, we call out the sneaky ways perfectionism, fear-based habits, and shiny new supplement plans are secretly sabotaging your journey — and we bring it all back to radical honesty, radical presence, and radical self-love. We even tap into the deeper truth that sometimes, the stillness you are craving feels terrifying because your nervous system only knows chaos. Spoiler alert: you cannot out-supplement, out-research, or out-strategize your way into coherence. You have to live it. Piece by piece, moment by moment, tree nap by tree nap. If you are ready to stop proving, stop chasing, and start receiving, this episode is your wake-up call. "Some of your healthy habits might be keeping you stuck, because they are still rooted in fear." Timestamps 00:00 – The real reason your fertility journey feels overwhelming 01:30 – How scattered priorities sneak in without you noticing 03:00 – Why calm is not clarity if you are still performing 06:00 – Supplements: helpful support or fear-based crutch 09:00 – Radical responsibility and emotional triggers 13:00 – Why consistency, not chaos, brings your dreams into reality "Your dreams are not far away, they are already here — you just have to meet them in your now." Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/how-to-break-free-from-overthinking-and-hustle-energy-during-ivf-infertility Let's Do This Together

“Your old self will fight you over stillness because she doesn't believe it's safe.” • The gut-brain-womb connection • Fascia, trauma, and reproductive inflammation • Physical manifestations like fibroids and endometriosis • The emotional aftermath of fertility treatments • Why you still don't trust your body after IVF • The illusion of control • Grieving as a form of healing • Honoring emotional waves rather than bypassing them • Frequency shifts through micro-moments • Living in survival mode and how to get out • The danger of looping old subconscious patterns • Why trust lives in the body, not the mind • How coherence creates space for alignment • Energetic stillness as the new safety “The magic doesn't lie in the knowledge—it's in the integration, the coherence, the alignment.” Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be… Today's episode is a love note to every over-functioning, perfection-chasing woman who's convinced that doing more is the only way out. Spoiler alert: it's not. In fact, the exact thing you're resisting—stillness—is the very frequency your future baby is waiting for. We're diving deep into how Mabel, our resident recovering Type A, finally did something different. She didn't buy another supplement. She didn't add a new protocol. She simply slowed down. And in that pause, she found the real power—safety, trust, and coherence. You'll hear why emotional trauma disrupts more than your mindset—it lives in your fascia, your gut, your womb. And if you don't feel safe in your body, how the hell are you supposed to trust it? From grief to gut health to gut punches of truth, this episode hits hard and soft all at once. Listen in, feel it all, and get ready to stop spiraling and start receiving. “You can't trust your body if you don't feel safe inside it.” Timestamps 00:00 – Why your frequency matters more than your protocol 01:03 – The micro-moment that changed everything for Mabel 03:22 – Coherence vs. chaos: your body craves a new kind of safety 04:46 – Real reasons you don't trust your body (and it's not your fault) 06:43 – Trauma, fascia, and the invisible root of fertility issues 08:11 – Monica's raw story of grief and honoring emotional waves 10:31 – Radical responsibility in the mundane moments 12:22 – What Mabel's spirit baby revealed (and why it'll give you chills) 15:03 – The one small thing you can do today to shift your energy “Trust doesn't live in your brain—it lives in your body.” Read Truth #8: What If the Pause Is the Portal to Fertility Success During IVF & Infertility?https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/truth-8-what-if-the-pause-is-the-portal-to-fertility-success-during-ivf-infertility Full transcript over on the blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/still-stuck-in-infertility-ivf-burnout-the-subtle-shift-that-changes-everything Let's Do This Together

This Active Meditation Helps You Hear the Fertility Answers Already Inside You  "Your intuition isn't missing, it's just buried under layers of fear, guilt, and Google tabs." Topics Discussed: • Fertility burnout and emotional fatigue • IVF trauma and feeling broken after failure • The subconscious blocks sabotaging inner knowing • A guided frequency-based practice to shift stuck emotions • Gut instinct vs. overthinking (and how your body tells the truth) • Coherence, embodiment, and listening to the womb-heart-brain connection Truth # 7: From Overthinking to Inner Knowing During Infertility: Trusting Yourself on the Road to Pregnancy: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/overthinking-to-inner-knowing-during-infertility "Intuition isn't a magical skill you need to learn, it's a power you need to stop ignoring." Hello Beautiful, Monica here supporting you to become the conscious mama you were born to be... You've done it all. You've tracked, tested, timed, and twisted yourself into a pretzel trying to "do it right"—but something still feels off. In this episode, we go deep into what that off actually is. Spoiler: it's not your uterus, it's not your protocol, it's not even the moon phase. It's that you've been trained to trust data over your divine knowing, and it's time to come back home to yourself. Mabel's journey through IVF heartbreak led her not to the end, but to the beginning of her own awakening. And yours can too. This episode walks you through a powerful, active meditation to shift the stuck frequencies that are jamming your inner signal. We're talking fear, guilt, shame, grief—the whole unglamorous gang—and helping you finally feel them so you can alchemize them. Get cozy or take this on a walk and let this practice unlock the clarity that's been inside you all along. Ready to stop chasing and start trusting? Then press play. "I do not lose the dream, I alchemize it." Timestamps: 00:00 – Why tuning into intuition is more powerful than another supplement 02:50 – The moment Mabel ignored her inner knowing and hit her breaking point 04:44 – The step-by-step frequency practice to unblock intuition 06:13 – Where emotions get stuck in the body and what they might look like 12:48 – Honoring your frequency and shifting stuck emotions 15:42 – Anchoring into love, creativity, and the frequency of motherhood "Your womb holds unexpressed potential. Stop silencing her with spreadsheets and fear." Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-fertility-clarity-you-ve-been-ignoring-hint-it-s-not-another-protocol-during-ivf-infertility Let's Do This Together

"I sabotage everything for myself and I get in my own way. Even knowing that I can not stop it."

“I don't care if it's voodoo, it's working.” Topics Discussed: The power of using your voice on the fertility journey How childhood wounds and people-pleasing patterns sabotage fertility Gut health and its surprising connection to emotional suppression Letting go of perfectionism and societal expectations Radical responsibility and nervous system regulation Understanding the energetic roots of fertility issues The impact of SIBO and functional medicine protocols The role of inner child healing and subconscious reprogramming Challenges of navigating fertility with a partner not on the same page Releasing limiting beliefs and stepping into trust and surrender “If you don't feel safe, and you're in a state of fear, you're going to have cortisol overdrive.” Hello, beautiful Monica here! And oh honey, buckle up, because today we're diving into the emotional jungle gym that is your fertility journey. Spoiler alert: it's not just about diet, supplements, and fancy med protocols. Sometimes, the real block is you not using your damn voice. Yep, we said it. In this raw and revelatory episode, we sit down with a brave soul who has been through more fertility treatments than anyone should ever have to endure (we're talking double digits, people). But the real kicker? She hadn't been speaking up—for her body, her emotions, her intuition. And let's be real, when your husband is channeling all the Type A, competitive, masculine energy, it's no surprise your inner child is quietly rocking in a corner whispering, “Please don't fight.” We talk about burping (yes, burping) and how it's somehow the digestive version of not using your voice—seriously, who knew your gut could get passive-aggressive too? We unravel people-pleasing, perfectionism, and the childhood moments that had you hustling for love and safety. Monica walks her guest through a transformational subconscious technique that had her feeling chills—in the best possible way. And just when you think you've heard it all, we go full metaphysical with past life patterns and inner child work. Because why not? So if you've been quietly nodding along with society's rules while screaming inside, this one's your wake-up call. Spoiler: the more you people-please, the longer you stay in fertility hell. Let's change that. “You attract what you're vibing on.” Timestamps: 03:13 When you don't use your voice, you're not setting boundaries or following your intuition 05:39 Gut symptoms like burping linked to emotional suppression 07:04 Quitting a high-stress job and facing fears of disappointing a partner 10:23 Relationship shifts and fear of changing the status quo 13:37 Fertility treatments making things worse when gut health isn't addressed 16:52 Having the courage to stand in your power—even if it feels like you need “balls” to do it 18:44 The ‘no' phase of fertility and becoming radically selfish (in the best way) 21:38 Childhood rot, emotional inheritance, and the body's reaction to unresolved trauma 24:31 The danger of outsourcing worthiness and the subtle art of not giving a f**k 26:52 Internalizing the need to be perfect and strong to keep the peace 28:58 Visualization and emotional flipping technique to rewire stored trauma 34:18 Whole brain integration and the chills-inducing release moment 39:23 Bringing a photo of your inner child into your healing journey 42:11 Choosing to step into the woman you were born to be, baby or no baby 45:02 Fertility Breakthrough Sessions: What they are, who they're for, and how to get one “This is not evidence of your future, because you're going to start moving differently now.” Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/from-infertility-burnout-to-fertility-breakthrough-the-real-reason-you-re-not-getting-pregnant Let's Do This Together

"Your body innately knows how to do fertility—it's just waiting for you to stop micromanaging." Topics Discussed The unseen ways clinging to the identity of “the one who's trying” can hold you back Why letting go doesn't mean giving up – and what it actually does for your fertility The role of hope in your journey and when it shifts from empowering to sabotaging The difference between wanting and having – and how to shift into the energy of “having” The sneaky way stress and control are keeping your body from feeling safe enough for pregnancy What radical honesty really looks like on this journey (spoiler: it's not just positive thinking) How your subconscious beliefs about infertility could be shaping your reality The importance of embodying trust, surrender, and joy – and how to actually do it "You can't have and want at the same time." Show Notes Hello, Beautiful! Monica here to shake things up and throw a little radical honesty your way. Ever feel like you're trapped in the never-ending cycle of “trying” to get pregnant? Like your whole existence has somehow become wrapped up in charting, Googling, and second-guessing every decision? Well, buckle up, because we're about to dive into why that's a huge part of the problem. This episode is all about the identity you've unknowingly taken on—the one who is always trying. And guess what? That identity might just be keeping you stuck. We're talking about why your subconscious clings to this label, how hope (yes, even hope) can sometimes keep you in limbo, and why shifting from wanting to having is the secret sauce you didn't know you needed. I also get into the real reason your body might not be “playing along” with your fertility goals (spoiler: it's not because it's broken). It's because stress and control are energy vampires, and your body needs to feel safe before it gives the green light to baby-making. So if you're ready to ditch the death grip on your journey, trust your body, and step into the energy of having, this episode is your permission slip to finally let go. Let's do this! Timestamps 01:30 – The inspiration for this episode: a perfectly timed post about letting go 02:53 – Why clinging to the “trying” identity could be keeping you in an endless loop 04:48 – The sneaky way your subconscious labels shape your reality (and how to shift it) 06:42 – You can't have and want at the same time—how to embody trust instead 07:48 – Why white-knuckling your way through this journey is an energy drain 08:44 – The magic in the mundane: shifting from lack to joy in everyday life 09:37 – Hope isn't the problem…until it is. When hope keeps you stuck instead of moving forward 11:33 – The fear that keeps you gripping control: If I let go, am I giving up? (Spoiler: nope) 12:48 – How your body actually thrives when you stop stressing over every little detail 14:15 – Why quick fixes don't work & what to focus on instead 15:14 – A sneak peek at next week's episode: a game-changing fertility breakthrough session! "Hope is supposed to be a bridge, not a place where you set up camp and live forever." I'm deep-diving into TEN truths, peeling back the layers of chaos with practical tools, empowering insights, and her real-life experiences. Whether you're feeling stuck in your fertility journey or wrestling with overwhelm and doubt in another area of life, these conversations offer a roadmap to healing and transformation. ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn't Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing Subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@findingfertility Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/FertilitySuccessTrustingBodyBreakingFreeInfertilityStruggle  Let's Do This Together

"The shift from chasing to trusting is the real work. It's easy to stay in a loop of doing more research, more protocols, more control. But remember, the real magic is when you stop overcompensating and start trusting yourself." Topics Discussed The surprising fear of success in fertility and how it keeps you stuck Why your brain might see pregnancy as another way to fail instead of freedom The deep-rooted programming that keeps you addicted to “doing” instead of “being” How unworthiness and identity play a major role in fertility struggles Breaking the habit of seeking validation through achievement Why anxiety over fertility can escalate into pregnancy anxiety (and how to prevent it) The three powerful questions to ask yourself to shift out of fear and into trust "If you deep down don't believe you deserve to become a mother, you'll subconsciously create obstacles to prevent it." Truth # 4: The Hidden Block to Fertility Success: Overcoming Suppressed Emotions During Infertility & IVF https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-z2s2n-18073a4 Truth # 3: The Hidden Impact of Overworking & Stress on Your Fertility During Infertility & IVFhttps://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-ywdwv-17ea0ee  Truth # 2: How to Overcome Overthinking, Worry & Fear During Infertility & IVF https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-dzrwn-17c5c7d Truth # 1: The Illusion of Control: How Letting Go Can Transform Your Fertility Journey During Infertility, IVF & Beyond https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-j6pya-17b061a Hello, Beautiful! Monica here, and today we're diving into a mind-bending, slightly uncomfortable (but wildly important) topic—FEAR OF SUCCESS. Yep, you read that right. Not fear of failure. Fear of actually getting what you want. Sounds crazy, right? I mean, isn't the whole point of this journey to become pregnant? But let's be real—your brain has been so busy obsessing over the struggle, the next supplement, the next protocol, the next thing—that the idea of finally crossing the finish line is, well… TERRIFYING. Because what happens when you're no longer the one “trying”? What happens when you do get pregnant? Your subconscious is sneaky like that. It convinces you that staying in the hamster wheel of research and control is saferthan stepping into the unknown of success. Because success means transformation. It means surrender. And let's be honest—Type-A, overachieving, Google-addicted Mabel is not a fan of surrender. In this episode, Monique is rolling her eyes at Mabel's overthinking, Monica is here to gently guide the way, and YOU are going to uncover whether fear of success is secretly sabotaging your journey. You'll also get three game-changing questions to sit with (preferably under a tree, because let's add some nature to the healing process, shall we?). So, if you've been stuck in doing instead of trusting, if pregnancy feels just as scary as infertility, or if your brain has ever whispered “What if I mess this up?”—this episode is your wake-up call. Let's break the cycle and step into the version of you who is ready to receive. "For so long, you have been the woman who's trying. That's who you are. That's how you relate to yourself, your partner, your doctors. The idea of not being her anymore? That can feel like a loss—even though it's what you want more than anything." Three Questions to Help You Move Past the Fear of Success Why do I feel more comfortable being the woman who is trying rather than being the woman who is pregnant? If I stop chasing and just trust, who even am I? What does that version of me look and feel like? How do I let go of the identity of the one who is trying when I've been living in it for so long? Timestamps 00:00 – Welcome to Finding Fertility! Let's talk about the sneaky fear of success. 01:33 – Why getting pregnant might feel scarier than failing (subconscious sabotage 101) 02:56 – “What if I don't deserve this?” How unworthiness keeps you stuck 04:26 – The real reason you can't stop doing (and why sitting under a tree might help) 06:23 – Mabel's lesson on repeating the same old patterns in fertility 07:19 – The 3 questions you need to ask yourself today 08:34 – If you stop chasing and start trusting… who even are you? 10:00 – The science behind stress in pregnancy (aka, get that cortisol down NOW) 11:29 – Letting go of the identity of the “woman who's trying” 12:56 – How to shift into the version of you that's ready to receive "The magic is in the mundane. When you feel that anxiety bubbling up, the real work is sitting in the uncomfortableness of not doing." I'm deep-diving into TEN truths, peeling back the layers of chaos with practical tools, empowering insights, and her real-life experiences. Whether you're feeling stuck in your fertility journey or wrestling with overwhelm and doubt in another area of life, these conversations offer a roadmap to healing and transformation. ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn't Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing Subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@findingfertility Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/from-infertility-chasing-to-fertile-trusting-the-real-mindset-shift-for-fertility-success  Let's Do This Together

"If you're still feeling stuck, if you're still feeling there's something more, it's because you're not going inward enough." Topics Discussed How hormonal shifts impact motivation, mindset, and fertility The importance of radical honesty in personal transformation Why slowing down is essential for healing and self-awareness The false sense of security in doing "all the things" vs. actually going inward How subconscious patterns and generational imprints affect health and fertility Breaking free from the belief that healing must be instant or dramatic The underestimated power of sitting with discomfort and listening to intuition Menstrual cycles as a roadmap to self-awareness and hormonal balance How society conditions women to override their natural rhythms The importance of practitioners as mirrors for inner work rather than fixers Menopause as a transition into personal power rather than a decline The silent crisis of men's sperm health and why fertility is an overall health marker How epigenetics play a role in generational health challenges The importance of creating daily habits that support long-term well-being "The answer is within, the answer is always within." Hello, beautiful—the voice of Monica is here to shake up your fertility mindset once again. If you're still on the never-ending hamster wheel of “doing all the things” but still feel like you're getting nowhere, buckle up because today's episode is your reality check. We're talking about something that might make your Type A tendencies twitch—slowing down. Yep, the thing that feels impossible but is actually the secret sauce to unlocking your fertility and overall well-being. Rebecca Rankin is back, and we're diving deep into why ignoring your body's signals, overriding your natural rhythms, and stuffing your schedule with all the “fertility must-dos” is actually working against you. We're talking about real radical honesty—the kind that makes you question your midnight Googling sessions and your obsession with finding the next best supplement. Spoiler alert: the answer isn't out there. It's in you. Always has been. We also get into the not-so-sexy but oh-so-important truth about consistency, how your hormones affect EVERYTHING (yes, even that sudden urge to question your entire existence while doing the dishes), and why menopause might actually be your power era instead of something to dread. Plus, we tackle the biggest lie in the fertility world: the idea that once you “fix” your health, life will be smooth sailing forever. Newsflash—it's a lifelong journey, but one you actually have control over. So, if you're ready to ditch the frantic energy and actually start aligning with your body's wisdom, this episode is for you. Let's go. "Slowing down enough to listen to yourself is the most radical act of self-care you can do." Timestamps 00:37 – The power of radical responsibility and self-trust in fertility 01:17 – Why the inner work feels “slow” but is actually the fastest way to transformation 02:32 – The hard truth about healing: Why modalities don't work if you avoid the real work 03:53 – How past traumas and subconscious programming affect your nervous system 04:51 – The lost art of slowing down: Why we ignore our intuition 06:19 – Practitioners as mirrors, not saviors—how to know when to trust yourself 07:48 – Are you living on autopilot? Why you need to take back control 09:14 – The silent work your body does for you—hormones, gut health & energy 10:36 – Consistency over perfection: The secret to long-term healing 11:34 – The domino effect of small daily changes on your health & mindset 13:30 – How society has conditioned women to ignore their own needs 16:21 – The rising infertility crisis: What sperm health tells us about modern health 17:19 – Why birth control masks issues instead of fixing them 19:42 – Menopause: The era of not giving a f*** and stepping into your power 21:30 – The body's signals don't lie: How to listen and respond to your own needs 22:56 – Can you sit with yourself? Why true transformation happens in stillness 23:50 – The radical idea of just being with yourself—no distractions, no numbing 24:47 – Final thoughts: The one small action you can take today to shift your energy "You don't have to be perfect, but you do have to show up for yourself every single day." Connect with Rebecca Rankin: Free Cyclical Living Journal - https://www.rebeccarankinyoga.com/journalprompts 1 Month FREE Trial of The Women's Moon Wisdom Self Care App - https://womensmoonwisdom.mvt.so/ Use code: findingfertility to receive 1st month free Website: https://www.womensmoonwisdom.com Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/womensmoonwisdom Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/how-radical-honesty-can-transform-your-mindset-fertility-journey-with-rebecca-rankin-part-2 Let's Do This Together

"We are the creators, and when we're in complete flow with ourselves, the power is undeniable." Topics Discussed: A guided meditation to ground and reconnect with your higher self Why women's bodies are NOT meant to function like men's (and why that matters) The power of cyclical living and how honoring your natural rhythms can transform your life The real reason you feel exhausted and burnt out—hint: it's not laziness How tracking your cycle can reveal hidden patterns in mood, energy, and decision-making The problem with hustle culture and why women need to redefine productivity The generational patterns that keep women stuck in overwork and guilt How patriarchal conditioning has disconnected women from their true power Why tuning into your body's natural rhythms leads to better intuition, health, and fertility 2nd Top Quote: "We're not meant to be perpetually productive. Our power is in the ebb and flow." Hello, beautiful.! Monica here, back in your ears, and today, we're talking about something that might just shake up everything you've been taught about success, productivity, and even your own body. Buckle up. Here's the thing—women have been lied to. For centuries. We've been told to push harder, do more, and operate like mini-men in a world that rewards burnout. But what if the key to feeling your best, being your most creative, and even boosting fertility isn't in doing more, but in doing differently? Today, I'm joined by the incredible Rebecca Rankin, who's here to drop truth bombs about cyclical living—aka, why your hormones are actually your superpower (if you stop fighting them). We're talking about why you feel like an unstoppable queen one week and a drained zombie the next, why ignoring these shifts wrecks your health, and how simple awareness can change the game. Spoiler alert: If you've ever felt like you're doing "everything right" but still not seeing results, this episode is your wake-up call. Get ready to stop playing chauffeur to everyone else's needs and start reclaiming your rhythm, your energy, and your damn life. "Radical responsibility means calling out the ways we sabotage ourselves—yes, even while washing the dishes." 00:37 – Understanding how your body is actually working FOR you, not against you 00:51 – Quick disclaimer: I don't diagnose, prescribe, or hand you a magic fertility pill 01:18 – Guided meditation: A quick practice to center yourself in the present moment 06:34 – Rebecca's journey: From architecture to yoga to women's wellness 09:27 – The wake-up call moment: When you realize your body has been screaming for attention 12:21 – How women are taught to ignore their own cycles & why that's a huge mistake 16:40 – The truth about hustle culture: Why women need a different approach 18:07 – Why men and women's energy cycles are fundamentally different 19:31 – The fertility trap: When "doing all the things" is actually making it worse 22:53 – Understanding your menstrual cycle as a guide for energy, productivity & intuition 24:42 – Why "just think happy thoughts" isn't enough (and what actually works) 28:38 – The most powerful first step: Start tracking your cycle & mood patterns 29:35 – Monica's realization: All the spiritual work in the world won't fix subconscious programming 30:49 – Final thoughts: Unpacking, unlearning, and stepping into your power "Your hormones are your mystical superpower—if you stop trying to override them." Connect with Rebecca Rankin: Free Cyclical Living Journal - https://www.rebeccarankinyoga.com/journalprompts 1 Month FREE Trial of The Women's Moon Wisdom Self Care App - https://womensmoonwisdom.mvt.so/ Use code: findingfertility to receive 1st month free Website: https://www.womensmoonwisdom.com Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/womensmoonwisdom Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/ditch-the-hustle-why-women-thrive-when-they-honor-their-natural-rhythms-with-rebecca-rankin-part-1 Let's Do This Together

"You can have 500 suitcases lined up full of crap that isn't yours or just one or two you don't even realize you're carrying." Truth # 4: Mabel's Buried Emotional Baggage: The Silent Stories That Shape Our Lives  Truth # 3 Mable's Hustle Trap: Put the To-Do List Down: What Are You Running From? When Productivity Becomes a Coping Mechanism https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-ywdwv-17ea0ee Truth # 2: How to Overcome Overthinking, Worry & Fear During Infertility & IVF https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-dzrwn-17c5c7d Truth # 1: The Illusion of Control: How Letting Go Can Transform Your Fertility Journey During Infertility, IVF & Beyond https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-j6pya-17b061a Topics Discussed The sneaky ways buried emotional baggage shows up in your life How your subconscious beliefs shape your fertility journey The real reason why you might still feel stuck despite doing everything ‘right' Why functional medicine alone isn't always enough The power of emotional release and why your gut health depends on it Breaking free from childhood programming around emotions Whole brain state: a powerful tool to rewire subconscious beliefs Why ‘staying strong' and suppressing emotions could be blocking your fertility How unresolved emotions manifest as physical symptoms Simple journal prompts to uncover and release emotional baggage READ Chapter 4: Mabel's Buried Emotional Baggage: The Silent Stories That Shape Our Lives - https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/truth-4-mabel-s-buried-emotional-baggage-the-silent-stories-that-shape-our-lives  "Maybe your parents just didn't want to deal with your emotions because they were raised by the silent generations and emotions weren't even a thing." Hello, Beautiful—Monica here, back again with a hard-hitting, no-nonsense dive into your emotional baggage. (Yes, we're going there today.) We're talking about those neatly packed, possibly designer-labeled suitcases of emotions you've been dragging around for decades—some that aren't even yours. Fun, right? Maybe you've done all the ‘right' things—cleaned up your diet, taken the right supplements, maybe even dabbled in energy work—but somehow, you're still stuck. Here's a not-so-fun fact: You can't out-salad your subconscious beliefs. If your nervous system is still holding onto past emotional wounds, it doesn't matter how many green juices you chug or how ‘clean' your diet is—your body is still living in an old story. So today, we're unpacking those dusty, forgotten emotional wounds that are silently running the show. We'll also talk about the oh-so-familiar conditioning many of us got growing up. You know, the "big girls don't cry,""stop being so sensitive," and "it's not that big of a deal" mantras that taught us to shove our emotions down like last season's trends. But here's the thing—what you suppress doesn't disappear; it festers, manifests in sneaky ways (hello, chronic gut issues and hormonal chaos), and keeps you stuck in a loop. And because I love to make things practical, I'm giving you a few journal prompts to help you dig deep, a breakdown of how your beliefs shape your reality, and the inside scoop on whole-brain states (aka how to trick your brain into rewiring old beliefs). If you've ever found yourself wondering why you're still stuck despite doing all the things, this episode is for you. Let's get into it. "I wasn't even really allowed to express my emotions—Wendy the Whiner wasn't invited, and big girls don't cry." Timestamps 03:01 – The truth about buried emotional baggage 04:57 – How subconscious beliefs control your fertility 06:20 – Emotional suppression: the silent fertility killer 08:07 – The physical symptoms of unresolved emotions 10:00 – That moment when you realize your dad's BS is why you can't tolerate nightshades 12:46 – How childhood conditioning still affects you today 14:33 – The journal prompts that will change your life 19:14 – What did you need as a child that you never got? 21:36 – The story you're telling yourself about your body 23:55 – Why functional medicine alone isn't the whole answer 26:13 – Whole-brain state: the cheat code to subconscious rewiring 30:56 – What happens when the fight is over? (Spoiler: identity crisis) 32:41 – Your challenge for the week—time to release what's holding you back "You can't heal what you're unwilling to look at." I've got three journal prompts to get you started. Then, don't forget to access the D.R.E.A.M.S. course for more in-depth support for each area: 1️⃣ "What did I need as a child that I never got?" What emotions did I have to suppress? How did I learn to cope? How is this showing up in my life now?

Truth # 3 Mable's Hustle Trap: Put the To-Do List Down: What Are You Running From? When Productivity Becomes a Coping Mechanism Truth # 2: How to Overcome Overthinking, Worry & Fear During Infertility & IVF https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-dzrwn-17c5c7d Truth # 1: The Illusion of Control: How Letting Go Can Transform Your Fertility Journey During Infertility, IVF & Beyond https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-j6pya-17b061a The Hidden Impact of Overworking & Stress on Your Fertility During Infertility & IVF  "If you've been in this fertility journey, you have probably had a spreadsheet for everything." Topics Discussed The addiction to busyness & why it keeps you stuck in your fertility journey Why we equate doing more with progress (and why that's a lie) How avoiding stillness is actually avoiding healing The subconscious patterns that drive over-researching and over-planning How Mabel, Monica & Monique tackle the obsession with control What happens when you finally slow down and listen to your intuition The role of stress, cortisol, and burnout in fertility struggles Why busyness is often a form of emotional avoidance The mindset shifts needed to embrace trust and surrender Practical steps to break free from the cycle of overdoing "Busyness isn't always about progress. Sometimes it's just a fancy disguise for avoidance."   Hello, beautiful- Monica here, and today we are about to RUIN your addiction to busyness—in the best way possible. You see, I know you. You're the type who has an ovulation tracking spreadsheet, a supplement rotation schedule, and a fertility research folder so detailed that even a NASA scientist would be impressed. And hey, I was that girl too. But let's be real for a second—how's that working out for you? Monique is rolling her eyes SO HARD at Mabel today because, spoiler alert, Mabel thinks if she just does more, she'll fixher fertility struggles. Sound familiar? But what if doing more is actually the problem? What if your obsession with figuring it all out is the very thing standing in your way? Today, we're diving into why busyness is often just a sneaky way to avoid the real emotional work. Why sitting still feels terrifying. Why slowing down might be your biggest act of healing yet. Oh, and if you think this episode is gonna be all soft and fluffy, don't worry—Monique is here with some tough love (and a few hard truths you probably don't want to hear but absolutely need to). And because I love making things super practical, I'm giving you a little challenge at the end: Five minutes of stillness. No distractions, no research, no checking your fertility apps. Just you, sitting with yourself. Scary, right? That's the point. So grab your tea (or let's be real, your third cup of coffee), and let's get into it. "If you don't give yourself permission to slow down, your body will do it for you." Timestamps 00:00 - Hello beautiful and welcome to the Finding Fertility podcast 00:10 - The real work of uncovering the hidden layers of your fertility journey 00:37 - Why radical responsibility is key to getting pregnant 00:51 - Disclaimer: Finding Fertility empowers, not diagnoses 01:15 - Recap: Did you listen to my episodes with Tally Miller? 01:44 - Grounding meditation: Releasing the addiction to busyness 07:19 - Are you addicted to busyness? Let's talk about it 07:49 - The fertility journey spreadsheet life (yep, we've all been there) 08:17 - What happens when you STOP trying to fix everything? 10:38 - The illusion of control & why Mabel is struggling 11:05 - Monique calls out the hustle culture in fertility 12:27 - The subconscious patterns keeping you stuck in overdoing 14:54 - What happens when you finally slow down & listen to your body 17:05 - IVF as a bypass for deeper healing (let's get real) 19:29 - Healing requires space, not just more action 21:25 - The hardest thing to surrender: The way you've been living 23:49 - My personal story: Quitting my job & shifting priorities 25:17 - Three journal prompts to help you break free from busyness 26:41 - Monique's take: Stuffing down emotions isn't a long-term strategy 27:40 - Your challenge: 5 minutes of stillness—no distractions 28:08 - Your default energy is running the show (not your yoga practice) 29:28 - Closing thoughts & next week's deep dive into emotional baggage "Repressed feelings don't stay repressed. They just get passive-aggressive—like resentment toward your partner for breathing too loudly." I'm deep-diving into TEN truths, peeling back the layers of chaos with practical tools, empowering insights, and her real-life experiences. Whether you're feeling stuck in your fertility journey or wrestling with overwhelm and doubt in another area of life, these conversations offer a roadmap to healing and transformation. ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn't Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing Subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@findingfertility Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/the-hidden-impact-of-overworking-stress-on-your-fertility-during-infertility-ivf   Let's Do This Together

"The frequency of actually guiding a soul towards their own autonomy is the highest level mastery position you could have in this life as a female." Topics Discussed Why modern motherhood feels like a trap & how to break free The illusion of control & how it sabotages your fertility How feminism may have set women up for burnout instead of freedom The real cost of trying to “have it all” & what to do instead How unresolved generational trauma affects fertility & motherhood Why masculine & feminine energy imbalances lead to dysfunction The unexpected ways children mirror your emotional wounds The importance of presence over perfection in parenting How to recognize & break toxic patterns before they pass to your kids "You're not here to give your man a baby or have a Pinterest-perfect pumpkin patch photoshoot with your child. You're here to guide a soul. That's the assignment." Hello, beautiful - Monica here and today, we're diving DEEP into a conversation that might shake up everything you thought you knew about motherhood, fertility, and, well… life itself. We're talking about the real reason so many women are burnt out, overwhelmed, and struggling—not just with fertility, but with life balance, motherhood, and relationships. You know that sneaky little voice that says, “You should be doing more”? Yeah, it's been lying to you. We're breaking down the illusion of control and how it keeps you trapped in an exhausting cycle of overwork, perfectionism, and self-sacrifice. We're exposing the dark side of feminism—the part that told us we could (and should) do it all but forgot to mention that “doing it all” comes with a side of adrenal burnout, hormone chaos, and deep dissatisfaction. And let's talk about generational baggage, because, spoiler alert: If you don't heal it, your kids WILL carry it. So grab your tea (or wine, no judgment), because this episode is a no-BS, high-energy call to action to start living in a way that actually supports your body, mind, and soul. Let's break the cycle and build something better—for us, for our children, and for the generations after that. "Women are out here taking care of other people's kids as teachers and nannies, nurturing other families as nurses, and completely neglecting their own. Tell me how that makes sense." Timestamps 00:00 – Hello beautiful & welcome to Finding Fertility 00:10 – The 6 essential steps to creating the family of your dreams 00:37 – Why radical responsibility is the key to fertility success 00:51 – Important disclaimer before we dive in 01:21 – Why you NEED to get your emotional sh*t together before becoming a mom 03:10 – How not unpacking your trauma keeps you stuck in struggle mode 03:40 – The REAL assignment of motherhood (hint: it's not what society told you) 04:08 – The self-sacrificing motherhood trap & why you must escape it 05:06 – The ‘oxygen mask' analogy & why saving yourself is saving your family 07:01 – The feminist lie that left women exhausted & infertile 09:24 – What society gets wrong about the value of feminine energy 12:14 – Girlboss culture: Empowerment or just a different kind of slavery? 17:27 – Your kids will mirror your wounds—whether you heal them or not 19:24 – The life events that finally wake women up to their patterns 23:33 – How your kids actually learn from you (hint: it's not what you say) 27:27 – The sneaky ways women self-sabotage their fertility & happiness 30:42 – Why some people never get results from self-development work 32:07 – You have to carry your own water: No one else can do the work for you "We're out here ‘girlbossing' ourselves into hormone hell, and then wondering why we're exhausted, sick, and disconnected from our kids. Newsflash: You can't have it all without sacrificing something." Connect with Talie Miller: https://taliemiller.com/ https://www.instagram.com/taliemiller https://substack.com/@taliemiller Is this all there is?: Awaken to a Deeper Life off of Amazon: https://amzn.to/4hty8ja Full Transcript on the Blog: Overworked, Burnt Out & Infertile? The Real Reason Women Are Struggling with Fertility with Talie Miller Part 2 - https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/overworked-burnt-out-infertile-the-real-reason-women-are-struggling-with-fertility-with-talie-miller-part-2 Listen to more great episodes about Spirit Babies & Soul Contracts: Finding Fertility:  Can Spirit Babies Influence Your "Infertility" Journey to Motherhood with Abigail White Part One: https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-swpjm-15d3ad3  Unlocking the Mysteries of Spirit Babies: A Soulful Journey to Parenthood with Abigail White Part Two: https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-sxt3x-15d3ada  Choices Podcast: Beyond Earthly Choices: Understanding Our Spiritual Journey & Soul Contracts Kim Arneson & Abigail White Part One: https://monicacox.podbean.com/e/soul-contracts-part-1/?token=3aa1307fa564fad67b84586fa3fa6f72  The Ripple Effect of Conscious Choices: Soul Contracts and Purpose with Kim Arneson & Abigail White Part 2: https://monicacox.podbean.com/e/soul-contracts/?token=9a3f3c1ab83d8e675e3c44220ac171fe  Breath of Life Soul Contract Series:  The Hardships of Parenting: Soul Contract Series Parenthood Edition pt One: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i0E8xA0F_bg Guilt and Fear in Parenting: Soul Contract Series Parenthood Edition pt Two https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3QacHjzTqfY Did you Want to be a Mom: Soul Contract Series Parenthood Edition pt Three https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FaxRZt2NpaA Why is Parenting so Special: Soul Contract Series Parenthood Edition pt Four https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PPqGdOIntJg Let's Do This Together

Uncovering the Hidden Layers of Your Fertility Journey: Radical Responsibility, Intuition & Trust Welcome back, conscious mamas-to-be! In this week's Finding Fertility podcast, I take you behind the scenes of what it really takes to navigate your fertility journey with radical responsibility, trust, and deep surrender. "Your body is time-based, your spirit is timeless. If you don't integrate healing into the body, it doesn't stick." The Addiction to Busyness: How high-achieving women tie self-worth to staying busy and the impact on fertility. Deep Surrender & Letting Go: Why releasing control is the hardest yet most powerful step in the fertility journey. Patterns & Quantum Psychology: The role of pattern recognition in identifying emotional and subconscious blocks. Inner Work vs. External Fixes: How true transformation comes from within, not just more information. The Feminine Wound & Burnout: Why so many women are exhausted and how embracing feminine energy is the key. Energy Medicine & Quantum Healing: Bridging psychology, spirituality, and energy work to heal from the inside out. Spiritual Detours & Avoidance: The danger of chasing external validation through plant medicine, psychedelics, and endless courses. The Power of Integration: Why embodying healing is more important than constantly seeking the next thing. Surrendering to True Leadership: The deep desire for strong, grounded masculine energy and why many women struggle with it. "If you actually tune into the energy of the universe, you'll see that guiding a soul is the highest level mastery position you could have as a woman." Hello, Beautiful - Monica here to shake things up, ruffle some feathers, and most importantly, get you to stop overthinking yourself into infertility hell. This episode? It's personal. I'm talking about the addiction to busyness—something I know way too well. I built my entire business off of it, and guess what? It wasn't sustainable. We're diving into patterns, surrender, and why you might be subconsciously blocking your own success—not just in fertility but in life. And because I'm all about keeping it real, I'm not just talking theory here. I'm sharing my own struggles of letting go, especially when life threw me into deep surrender with my father's passing. (Spoiler: The universe doesn't let you fake it.) But wait, it gets juicier. I'm also bringing you part one of an epic conversation with my mentor, Talie Miller. This woman reads patterns for a living, and trust me, she has a gift. If you've ever felt like you're doing ALL the things but still stuck, this episode is a must-listen. We also tackle the wild world of quantum psychology, energy medicine, and why some of the most popular self-development spaces are basically cults (yep, I said it). And for my Type-A ladies who are trying to “fix” themselves into pregnancy? Oof. You might not love hearing this, but you cannot logic your way into surrender. So buckle up, because we're talking intuition, feminine energy, the illusion of control, and why women secretly want strong masculine leadership (but won't admit it). Oh, and I'll probably get canceled for saying some of this, but Monique and I are fine with that. "You can clear your energy all you want, but until your body understands the assignment, nothing changes." Connect with Talie Miller: https://taliemiller.com/ https://www.instagram.com/taliemiller https://substack.com/@taliemiller Is this all there is?: Awaken to a Deeper Life off of Amazon: https://amzn.to/4hty8ja Timestamps 00:00 – Welcome & Why This Episode Almost Didn't Happen 01:20 – The Addiction to Busyness & How It's Shown Up in My Own Life 03:06 – Introducing My Mentor, Tali Miller & Why I Love Her Work 04:59 – Why Type-A Women Struggle With Surrender & Stillness 07:25 – What Quantum Psychology Really Is & Why It Matters 12:30 – The Dangers of Spiritual Detours (and Yes, Plant Medicine Too) 17:01 – Emotional Neglect & Why It's Harder to Heal Than Big Trauma 20:23 – The Role of the Body in Healing & Why It's Ignored 26:10 – The Importance of Staying in Your Body for True Healing 32:16 – Feminine Energy, Masculine Leadership & Why We're Burnt Out 36:38 – Motherhood as a Sacred Calling vs. A Box to Check Off 38:05 – Wrapping Up: Next Week's Episode & Why You Need to Be There "Your body is time-based, your spirit is timeless. If you don't integrate healing into the body, it doesn't stick." Full Transcript Over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/is-your-infertility-ivf-journey-just-another-way-you-re-feeding-your-addiction-to-busyness-with-talie-miller Let's Do This Together

Overthinking, Worry & Fear: How Mabel Found Peace in Her Thoughts:  Topics Discussed The difference between rumination and overworrying and how they impact fertility Tools to interrupt overthinking patterns and create new neural pathways The illusion of control and why overthinking doesn't create solutions Why your age isn't the true fertility villain—cellular health matters more The importance of slowing down and creating space for healing How consistent, simple practices can rewire decades of ingrained thought patterns Mabel and Monique's late-night showdown over age anxiety and overthinking Second Top Quote "Stop fighting time and start working with it." Hello, beautiful—Monica here, your guide in uncovering what really matters on your fertility journey. In this episode, we dive into the chaotic storm that is overthinking—you know, that exhausting mental loop where you rehearse every worst-case scenario like you're auditioning for an Oscar. Spoiler: your mind doesn't actually get a trophy for all that drama. With the help of my unapologetically sassy alter-ego Monique (yes, she's back and fiercer than ever) and my ever-panicked former self, Mabel, we unpack the evil twins of rumination and overworrying. Mabel's spinning out over her age again, convinced the universe slapped an expiration date on her forehead. But don't worry—Monique's got her metaphorical megaphone and some hard truths to share. This episode isn't about magic fixes or fairy dust; it's about showing up for yourself in those unglamorous, mundane moments. We're talking about the simple, powerful shift of saying, “We don't live here anymore” when your brain starts building castles out of what-ifs. And guess what? If you're obsessing over the clock ticking, Monique has some spicy words for you—because your age isn't the real villain here. It's time to ditch the chaos, embrace clarity, and trust your body's ability to work with you, not against you. Grab your tea, your notebook, or just a cozy spot to listen—you don't want to miss this one. And if you catch yourself spiraling into overthinking after this? Well, you'll know exactly what to say: “Babe, we don't live here anymore.” "Overthinking doesn't create control—it creates chaos." Timestamps 00:00 - Hello beautiful and welcome to the Finding Fertility podcast 00:10 - Introduction to the six essential steps for your fertility journey 00:37 - Radical responsibility: Trusting your body and creating transformation 01:19 - A grounding meditation to release overthinking 03:00 - Visualization: Letting the river carry away your thoughts 06:26 - Affirmation for calm energy and self-trust 07:39 - Why overthinking feels safe but creates chaos 08:08 - Mabel and Monique's showdown: Overthinking at midnight 13:44 - The difference between rumination and overworrying 15:10 - Tools to interrupt rumination and over worrying 18:19 - Monica's personal journey with overthinking and consistency 20:36 - The addiction to control and how it keeps you stuck 21:35 - Preview of next week's episode: Slowing down and creating space for healing "Slowing down and sitting with your feelings is where true healing begins." ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn't Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing Subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@findingfertility Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/how-to-overcome-overthinking-worry-fear-during-infertility-ivf-2 Let's Do This Together

Hello Beautiful! Let's talk about something we all love to hate—control. In this episode, I took you on a little meditation journey to ditch the chaos and open yourselves up to receiving all the good vibes. Spoiler alert: we don't need to white-knuckle every step of this fertility thing! Read The Illusion of Control over on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/Illusion%20of%20Control%20Infertility%20Failed%20IVF%20IUI%20Pregnancy%20Issues The Illusion of Control: How Letting Go Can Transform Your Fertility Journey During Infertility, IVF & Beyond Met three fabulous characters: Mabel: The Queen of Overthinking & To-Do Lists (we love her, but girl needs to chill). Monica: The grounded guide reminding you to breathe and TRUST the process. Monique: The unapologetic truth-teller, side-eyeing your control freak tendencies. I spill the tea on how trusting, surrendering, and letting go can actually make you feel more empowered, not less. And we're all about small, actionable steps here—no 300-point fertility checklists, thank you very much. The Illusion of Control Let's call it what it is: CONTROL is a sneaky little minx that makes you feel productive but leaves you spinning your wheels. We channeled our inner Mabels (bless her Type A heart) and reminded her that micromanaging every little thing won't speed things up. Trust & Surrender I know, I know—“trust” and “surrender” sound like buzzwords on a coffee mug. But seriously, letting go of the need to control everything doesn't mean giving up—it means opening the door for better things to flow in. Baby steps, babe. Self-Awareness is Sexy Radical honesty, anyone? I challenged you to check yourself before you wreck yourself. What's essential? What's just busywork? Bonus points if you kick that checklist to the curb and lean into grace instead of grind. Joy, Gratitude & Self-Care Control blocks joy—it's science (or at least Monica-science). Slow down, make time for what lights you up, and let your body and intuition do their thing. Pro tip: less Googling, more dancing around the kitchen. Alright, here's your homework (but make it fun): Be radically honest: Notice when you're spiraling into overthinking mode (and laugh at yourself a little). Simplify your list: Do the important stuff and leave the rest. Seriously, you're not a fertility robot. Build trust: Your body's got this. Let it work its magic without you micromanaging every second. Find joy: Do one thing this week that's just for YOU. Bonus if it makes you giggle like a kid. Make a small shift: Pick one thing to let go of this week—like skipping that extra supplement deep dive or saying no to something that drains you. Listen, queen: control isn't the key to your fertility kingdom. Shifting from fear to trust? Now that's where the magic happens. Let go, tune in, and take it one step at a time. And if you're ready to go deeper, I've got you covered with community sessions, one-on-one magic, and tools to help you finally ditch the chaos. So, what's your one small shift this week? I'm rooting for you—and so is Monique, with her sassy clap-back energy. I'm deep-diving into TEN truths, peeling back the layers of chaos with practical tools, empowering insights, and her real-life experiences. Whether you're feeling stuck in your fertility journey or wrestling with overwhelm and doubt in another area of life, these conversations offer a roadmap to healing and transformation. ALL 10 TRUTHS: Why Grief Isn't Failure: The Raw Truth About Infertility and Healing - Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-grief-isn-t-failure-the-raw-truth-about-infertility-and-healing Subscribe on Substack: https://substack.com/@findingfertility Full Transcript on the Blog: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/podcastIllusionofControlWhyLettingGoCouldTransformYourFertilityJourney Let's Do This Together

"Your baby is watching over you, rooting for you to take the steps to become the conscious mama they know you can be." Topics Discussed The concept of the morphic field and how it applies to fertility Balancing surrender and control on the fertility journey Why healing requires more than physical effort—energetic alignment and belief systems matter Stories of clients shifting perspectives and embracing empowered choices Overcoming societal pressures and Type A tendencies to let go and trust the process The importance of energetic and subconscious shifts for fertility success "Surrendering doesn't mean giving up. It means letting go of fear-based decisions and stepping into empowered choices." Hello, beautiful, Monica here, serving up another soulful—and slightly sassy—dose of Finding Fertility wisdom. Buckle up because this episode isn't about what your ovaries are doing; it's about what your mind is doing. Let's talk morphic fields, baby! No, it's not sci-fi—it's science-y magic for your belief system. Morphic field: https://www.sheldrake.org/research/morphic-resonance/introduction Today, we dive into why letting go of control doesn't mean waving the white flag of defeat. Surrendering is actually your secret weapon to crushing Type A tendencies and opening the door to energetic alignment (and let's be real, less stress). Spoiler alert: fertility isn't just about diet and supplements—it's about stepping into the energy of possibility. I also share stories of clients who've stopped living in the land of "medical-only hope" and started listening to their intuition. If you've been throwing darts in the dark or feel like every doctor visit is a round of fertility roulette, this episode is your flashlight. So grab your coffee, your tea, or whatever makes you feel like the goddess you are, and let's get to it! "Your consistent action creates your evidence. You don't need proof to believe in your limitless potential." Timestamps 00:00 – Visualization exercise: Imagine your dream family and align with joy, peace, and love 00:28 – The six vital steps for fertility success: Diet, rest, energetics, awareness, mindset, and surrender 02:22 – Understanding the morphic field: Believing in your body's natural ability to heal 04:10 – Why belief systems are key to overcoming infertility blocks 06:07 – Real client stories: Intuition vs. fear-based decisions in fertility journeys 09:49 – How to shift from control to surrender without losing hope 13:27 – Energetic lessons and how they impact your fertility journey 17:49 – Why starting over isn't starting from scratch—it's starting smarter 20:33 – Closing thoughts: Stepping into the energy of possibility "Your body is a healing machine, designed to reset and thrive when you align with its natural flow." Let's Do This Together

"Your baby is watching over you. Start living your life in the energy of joy, peace, and love." Topics Discussed The surprising ways diet can harm your fertility journey. Why keto and paleo might not be the right diets for you. The dangers of over-supplementing and its impact on detoxification. How back-to-back fertility treatments like IVF and IUI may hinder success. The Type A trap: why overdoing it harms your fertility journey. The power of patience and listening to your body's needs. "We type-A our way into infertility, thinking checklists and overdoing will save us—it won't."   Hello beautiful, Monica here! Let me just start by saying, if you're one of those amazing, determined women who think they can bulldoze their way through fertility challenges with sheer willpower and an endless checklist… buckle up, because I'm about to burst that bubble with love and honesty. This episode dives into the oh-so-common traps we all fall into on the fertility journey. From the "health" foods that might be your worst enemy (hello, tomatoes!) to the supplement aisle looking like a fertility gold mine but actually being a liver's worst nightmare—we're calling it all out. And let's not forget the emotional and physical toll of IVF and IUI. Yep, we're going there, because someone has to say it: more treatments don't always equal more chances. I also share a bit about my own Type A tendencies and how they didn't just slow me down—they made my body rebel. If you've ever thought, “I'll just outwork this infertility thing,” let me save you some time: stop. Tune in for some real talk, a little tough love, and a whole lot of practical tips to help you step back, slow down, and get on the right path to becoming the conscious mama your baby knows you can be. "Most people going through fertility treatments don't actually need IVF—they need to heal first." Timestamps 00:00: Visualization exercise—align your energy with your dream family. 00:28: The six vital steps to fertility success: diet, rest, energetics, and more. 00:56: Welcome to Finding Fertility: Why infertility isn't always about your lady bits. 01:50: The harms of social media black holes—and the lessons from TikTok. 02:48: Diet mistakes: Why keto and paleo might not work for you. 04:00: Over-supplementation and the strain it puts on your liver. 04:50: The hidden costs of repeated IVF cycles and fertility drugs. 06:10: The importance of health improvements between fertility treatments. 07:08: Type A tendencies: How overdoing and stress derail fertility. "Stop over-supplementing—it's not a quick fix, and your liver isn't a superhero." Let's Do This Together

What Testing Should I Do During Infertility – Investing in Fertility Testing: Is it Worth It? "Remember, anytime you're looking into testing, ask yourself if it's the right test for you and if it brings you peace of mind." Topics Discussed:

Crucial Tips for Choosing Protein Powder - Fertility Shakes vs. Real Food During Infertility & IVF “When you do use a protein shake, you want to have something alongside that you can eat to help start the digestive process.” Topics Discussed:

"Infertility" - Why It's Easy for Some and Not Others to Get and Stay Pregnant  “Some people succeed with free resources because they're able to get crystal clear and take action independently.” Topics Discussed:

Healing Emotional Patterns and Strengthening Partnerships on the Fertility Journey "The baby is the cherry on top; everything you choose to shift is for long-term well-being." Topics Discussed:

How to Transform Your Breakfast& Mindset for Fertility Success "Live in the reality that there is an abundance of things you can do to shift out of that reality you don't want to be in." Topics Discussed:

Boosting Fertility with Real Food: Essential Nutrients, Ancestral Diets, and Male Fertility with Lisa Hendrickson-Jack Part Two “Fertility isn't something you fix; it's the result of whole-body wellness, a balance of mental, emotional, and physical health.” Topics Discussed:

Understanding Real Food for Fertility: Nutrient Needs, Food Sensitivities, and Cycle Health with Lisa Hendrickson-Jack Part One "If you're trying to conceive, you need a diet that supports optimal hormone balance and menstrual health." Topics Discussed:

AMH and High NK Cells Don't Dictate Your Fertility Future: The Real Truth About Infertility & IVF “If you have never gotten pregnant or are dealing with reoccurring miscarriages or even dealing with secondary infertility, the likelihood of knowing you have high natural killer cells, and the likelihood of you getting and staying pregnant soon is low without all the medical assistance.” Topics Discussed:

Top Secret You Need to Know to Have a Fertility Breakthrough & Get Pregnant “The real core of actually seeing the results of your body being able to do it lies in the work you're probably avoiding.” Topics Discussed:

Overcome Infertility: An Honest Raw Talk About the Healing Work You're Avoiding "Avoidance and denial might feel comfortable, but they'll keep you from reaching your goals." Topics Discussed:

Finding the Root Cause of Recurrent Miscarriages – Increasing Your Chances of a Health Pregnancy  "Your fertility struggles might not be about what's wrong with your reproductive system, but what's happening in your gut and adrenals." Topics Discussed:

Learning to Release Anger & Forgive During Infertility to Achieve Your Dream Family "I hope you heal so deeply that you no longer feel the need to make sense of what happened." Topics Discussed:

Unlocking Your Power: A Guide to Fertility Success "You need to be willing to step outside the box, take risks, and believe that you can change your situation through diet, mental and emotional health, sleep, exercise, and mindset." Topics Discussed:

The Truth About Dairy & Gluten When You're Dealing with Infertility & IVF "The perfect diet for you is simply finding what foods you're intolerant to right now." Topics Discussed:

"I believe that most food intolerances are energetic anyways, but it's a really big step to say to someone, you're intolerant to a tomato and that's because of your father's BS." Sign up for the Healthy Pregnancy Revolution Summit here: https://healthypregnancyrevolution.com/optin-monicacox Topics Discussed: The energetic origins of food intolerances Using high-quality food sensitivity tests for accurate diagnosis The role of stuck emotions in perpetuating food intolerances The process of emotional release and its impact on food sensitivities Personal experiences with nightshade intolerance and overcoming food fears Techniques like Psych-K, Emotion Code, and muscle testing to address emotional blocks The importance of empowering oneself to intuitively navigate diet and health choices Real-life stories of overcoming food-related trauma and emotional blocks The journey of self-empowerment and conscious parenting "I just started doing, you know, because I'm Psych-K trained, and there's a really good book you can do for yourself called the Emotion Code in the Body Code." Show Notes: Hello, Beautiful Souls, the voice of Monica is here to dive deep into the wild world of food intolerances—because who knew that your aversion to tomatoes might actually be your dad's emotional baggage? In this episode, we're not just peeling back the layers of an onion, we're digging into the very core of why that onion might be giving you trouble in the first place. No, it's not just about cutting out foods like nightshades because some diet said so; it's about the emotional and energetic blocks that are making your body rebel against what should be perfectly healthy foods. And let's not forget the part where we explore how your intuition plays into all this—yes, you might just be the next food whisperer. We'll chat about the power of Psych-K, Emotion Code, and even the art of muscle testing to unlock those hidden emotional ties that could be the key to unlocking better health. By the end of this episode, you'll be ready to take charge of your health, ditch those food fears, and maybe even become that conscious mama the world desperately needs. So, grab your notepad (or don't, we're all about intuitive listening here), and let's get into it!  "I do believe there's... we can switch on and off intolerances that are created from an emotional state." Timestamps: 00:00 - Thanks for watching! 01:01 - "I believe that most food intolerances are energetic anyways, but it's a really big step to say to someone, you're intolerant to a tomato and that's because of your father's BS." 01:30 - The value of high-quality food sensitivity tests and immediate results from eliminating triggers. 02:00 - Diving into the emotional roots of food intolerances and the power of energetic healing. 02:29 - Personal journey with nightshade intolerance and overcoming fears tied to food. 03:27 - The role of Psych-K, Emotion Code, and intuition in addressing food intolerances. 04:22 - The emotional connection to infertility and how it impacts food sensitivities. 05:20 - The struggle of navigating food restrictions and the trauma tied to them. 06:17 - How to use intuition when choosing the right diet and the challenge of pinpointing food intolerances. 07:15 - The possibility of changing emotional states to overcome food intolerances. 08:08 - Real-life example of emotional connections to food and how they manifest. 09:04 - Can we change our genetics and switch off intolerances? The discussion deepens. 09:54 - "It's all about alignment with your higher self and releasing emotions that no longer serve you." 10:22 - The simplicity of emotional healing and the power of letting go. 11:12 - The innate ability to heal emotionally and why society makes it seem more complicated than it is. 12:09 - The importance of being in tune with your body and allowing emotions to be felt and released. 13:25 - The role of coaches in helping you see past your own blocks and move forward. 13:54 - Empowerment and the ultimate goal of becoming a conscious mama. Full transcripts over on the blog Let's Do This Together

Creating Your Reality: Insights on Mindfulness, Soul Contracts and Growth During Infertility & IVF "The true magic lies in taking the knowledge and vibrations handed to you and rising to create your reality." Topics Discussed:

Navigating Thyroid Issues, Gut Health, and Trust in Your Journey to Motherhood "When you feel confident about your journey, you can go into surrender mode. You can release to surrender." Topics Discussed:

From Struggle to Surrender Finding Fertility Success: The Role of the Waiting Room & Healing "Surrendering is not about giving up; it's about letting go of control and embracing the flow of life." Topics Discussed:

Boost Your Egg Quality: Proactive Health Changes and Mindset Shifts with Dr. Marc Sklar Part Two "We shouldn't give up our lives. We shouldn't stop living just to try to get pregnant. We do need to be able to move through and enjoy life because if not, we will have a lot of regrets." Topics Discussed:

Optimize Your Health for Fertility Success: Cellular Health, Intuition & Conscious Choices with Dr. Marc Sklar Part One “It is essential that you don't just assume that because you're going to do IVF, you don't have to do anything different in your life.” Topics Discussed:

Boost Your Fertility Naturally: Secrets to Enhancing Egg Quality You Need to Know During Infertility “I truly believe that no matter what you're dealing with, you have to find the right path for you in the six essential areas, including diet, rest & recovery, energetics, awareness, mindset, and targeted supplementation.” Topics Discussed:

Discover the Power of Meditation and Surrender for Fertility with Michelle Oravitz “The way you've shown up to your fertility journey is how you've lived your whole life; you don't become this different person in your fertility journey.” Topics Discussed:

How to Break Free from the Past and Be Empowered in Your Fertility Journey

Navigating a Challenging Fertility Journey: Hope, Struggles, and Resilience

Why You Want to Boost Your Egg Quality Before Doing a Round of IVF - Infertility & Epigenetics "Random shit happens all the time. You cannot control everything. This is not about perfection. It's about gaining the knowledge for your body to increase your chances." Topics Discussed:

Is Gut Health Really Having an Impact on My Fertility? "Investing in gut health through diet, stress management, and targeted supplementation can save you time, money, and heartache on your fertility journey." Topics Discussed:

Overcoming Unexplained Infertility: Gut Health, Autoimmunity & Positivity

Unlocking Spiritual Fertility: Connect with Your Spirit Baby with Christel Part Two "The more you are connected to yourself, the more the spirit baby can merge with you; it's like they're merging with your energy." Topics Discussed:

Spiritual Side of Fertility: The Concept of Connecting with Future Souls with Christel Part One “There are so many souls that want to be born, and 80% of those are born by attraction, which means that they usually don't have the preparation to come to earth.” Topics Discussed:

The Best Tips for Meal Prepping and Maintaining a Healthy Diet During Infertility "Just showing up for yourself is more than most people are doing. You are taking control of your life, not only for your fertility and your future family."  Topics Discussed: