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Dealing with our own anger habits in a healthy and productive way can be challenging in itself, but what can often be even more difficult is learning how to deal with receiving someone else’s anger in a way that doesn’t turn into a conflict or inspire feelings of resentment. If we leave ourselves unchecked, it can be easy to ‘feed off’ of someone else’s anger. Keeping ourselves grounded when receiving someone’s anger is critical to defuse the situation, but how do you do that? Addiction counselor, trauma specialist, and co-founder of Still Point Wellness, Corey Costanzo, suggests it starts with self-regulation In today’s episode, Corey and I discuss the varying degrees of anger - both giving and receiving it. We discuss how some anger is considered healthy and how we can determine when someone’s anger becomes unhealthy and abusive. We explore ways couples can help their partners defuse their anger. We discuss how my wife, Rainbow, helps me self-regulate my angry feelings by allowing me to vent. We highlight the strategies we use to keep ourselves grounded when we’re on the receiving end of someone’s anger, such as breathing deeply and validating the other person’s point of view. We discuss the importance of setting boundaries when receiving someone’s anger, some of the phrases that can often trigger a person’s anger, such as“calm down,” “just deal with it,” and “ you’re making too big of a deal out of this.” We also share alternative phrases you can use to help defuse an angry situation and Corey shares how his wife, Robin, helped him snap out of an ‘anger fog’ through empathy, understanding, and love.   “It’s the validation of an angry person’s anger that is most likely going to defuse the anger and lead towards greater connection and understanding.”  - Corey Costanzo   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It: Understanding the difference between ‘healthy anger’ and ‘unhealthy anger’ and why it’s critical to recognize the boundary line between them How mirroring strategies and allowing your partner to express their anger without interruption can help them self-regulate their behaviors How our childhood experiences with anger Impact the way we deal with other people’s anger in adulthood Using deep breathing techniques to keep yourself grounded while receiving someone’s anger Setting healthy boundaries when someone’s anger crosses the line Identifying and addressing emotionally, psychologically, and verbally abusive behaviors Working with your partner to set healthy boundaries, agreements, and commitments for dealing with each other’s anger Phrases that can often fuel a person’s anger and what you can say instead to help defuse the situation How validating your partner’s feelings and experiences can help them feel less threatened How Robin snapped Corey out of an ‘anger fog’ by expressing her concern for his health and wellbeing Using the practice of witnessing your partner’s anger when it’s directed at an object Retraining your mind and body to respond to anger in a healthier way through visualization techniques Preparing ourselves for conflicts in our relationships   Resources Mentioned: National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) The Right Use of Power: The Heart of Ethics by Cedar Barstow   Related Content: The Anger Habit   Connect with Corey Costanzo: Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Still Point Wellness on Instagram Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn   Sponsored by Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before! Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372. Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!   Let’s Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs. If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, contact us. Your question may be featured on a future episode! Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk

Whether we are its origin or its receiver, we all experience anger throughout our lives. While anger isn’t necessarily “bad,” it is a critical emotion to understand, for what we do with anger has the opportunity to bring our loved ones closer or push them away from us. And like other emotions, we become more accustomed to anger the more we express it without restraint, creating a toxic habit that can lead to contempt in our relationships. Anger becomes more difficult to manage when it becomes a habit, for habits are executed without much conscious effort. Although the anger habit can be hard-wired in a person’s brain, bodywork therapist and Still Point Wellness owner Corey Costanzo suggests that a person can break free from anger’s chains through awareness, conscious work, and education. In this episode, Corey and I define anger as the need to be in control of external factors. We reveal how helplessness leads to frustration and, eventually, anger. We highlight different means of expressing anger in a healthy, non-destructive way. We discuss how anger impacts relationships and creates codependent dynamics in family systems. We also uncover the other emotions behind the mask of anger and underscore the power of appreciation as an antidote to the anger habit. “Anger is an emotional pathway that gets hard-wired in the brain. With a bit of awareness, work, and information, you can shift out of the anger habit.” - Corey Costanzo   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It: Anger as an emotional pathway and contraction in the body The roots of anger Why anger is a false sense of power and how it disempowers other people The first door to frustration and how it translates to anger A pet pig named Ginger and Corey’s recent experience with anger and frustration The feeling of justification whenever we express our anger How Corey shifted his expressions of anger and frustration The difference between feeling your anger versus expressing it without a filter How unmanaged anger creates a codependent dynamic in family systems and relationships Feelings of helplessness, frustration, anger, and how they all lead to contempt in relationships Why anger isn’t a bad emotion and how expressing a specific emotion creates more of it The value of visualizing our moments of anger Creating an environment where we can express difficult feelings in a healthier way Sitting with anger and how it’s different from ruminating on it The power of breath in dissipating anger Using anger, frustration, and other challenging emotions as biomarkers to detect the need to shift something How anger impacts children, their behavior, and the development of their nervous system The different styles of anger and how to manage them through awareness   Resources Mentioned: How Anger Affects Intimate Relationships by Randi Gunther Headspace   Related Content: Emotional Regulation Codependency Codependency: Ways to Overcome The Biggest Predictor of Relationship Failure New Love...Taking Risks to be Real Relationship Sabotage   Connect with Corey Costanzo: Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Still Point Wellness on Instagram Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn   Sponsored by Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before! Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372. Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!   Let’s Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs. If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, contact us. Your question may be featured on a future episode! Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk

Once a person recognizes codependent patterns in their relationships, the next important step is to learn how to overcome them. Our friendships can be a source of good modeling and influence our journey through healing codependency in our lives. My friend, Corey Costanzo, is one such friend who encourages my positivity in the world. He is a licensed addictions counselor, bodywork therapist, and somatic experiencing practitioner who owns Still Point Wellness, the premier Esalen Massage and Salt Water Floatation spa in Asheville, North Carolina. Through the years, Corey and I have worn many hats together: as colleagues who consult with one another and as fathers who celebrate each other’s parenting. Ours is a friendship that has seen joy and appreciation - truly, a fine piece in overcoming codependent tendencies. In this episode, Corey and I discuss the hallmarks of codependent patterns and behaviors in relationships and the tools a person needs to break them. We discuss how childhood upbringing and family dynamics can inform codependent behavior later in life and illustrate how friendships can support the healing of codependent relationships. We highlight the role of education in raising awareness of codependent patterns as well as overcoming them. We also underscore the power of the breath in realizing, managing, and healing codependent behavior and explain how meditative practices can help us self-soothe difficult emotions.   “The antidote is loving oneself, self-respect, and self-awareness.” - Corey Costanzo   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It: The signs of codependency and how people develop them Codependency as a learned behavior and how it shows up in families struggling with addiction and long-term illnesses How codependency lives in the subconscious patterns of a family system The role of awareness in overcoming codependency The characteristics of people with codependency issues The difficulty of codependent people going through relational conflict Why education is an essential piece in overcoming codependent patterns Cultivating a sense of self and its power in overcoming codependency The fear of being independent in relationships and what we lose from becoming codependent The importance of aligning with your personal values and building self-worth Putting up boundaries to break codependent patterns What ruminating is and how negative emotions can impact physical health Meditating with difficult emotions and other methods to manage negative feelings The power of the breath in regulating emotions and gaining awareness of codependent patterns How utilizing the breath gives you the agency to speak your truth Attraction to the “bad boy” type and picking people as projects to fix Why people stay in codependent and emotionally abusive relationships How codependency can be a spiritual issue Bringing awareness to the potential of love and compassion to heal   Resources Mentioned: Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie Al-Anon Family Groups Headspace   Related Content: Codependency People-Pleasing Expressing Needs Do the Right Thing Emotional Regulation Is Stress Affecting Your Relationship? The Importance of a Personal Practice Addictions and Their Effects on Relationships Sound and Attunement Healing in Relationships   Connect with Corey Costanzo:  Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Still Point Wellness on Instagram Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn   Let’s Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs. If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, contact us. Your question may be featured on a future episode! Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk

Codependency is rather insidious: though many people are familiar with the term, they don’t know how it manifests in families and impacts relationships. Awareness, Corey Costanzo stresses, is key to healing it. Corey is a licensed addictions counselor and bodywork therapist, somatic experiencing practitioner, a master didgeridoo player, and a good friend of mine. Together with his wife, Robin, Corey co-owns Still Point Wellness, a premier Esalen Massage and Salt Water Floatation spa in Asheville, North Carolina. Today, Corey and I explore the hallmarks of a dysfunctional family and how it breeds codependency. We illustrate the dynamics of codependent relationships and their children and explain why dysfunctional families find it difficult to navigate difficult emotions and situations. We describe the characteristics of codependent behaviors and illustrate their impact on relationships. We also share our experiences in dealing with codependent relationships and emphasize the role of awareness in breaking the cycle of codependency.   “Codependency is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have healthy, mutually satisfying relationships.”  - Corey Costanzo   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It: Codependency as a learned behavior in families and how it can be passed to generations The relationship between codependency and addiction The consequences of codependent behavior Codependent relationships between children and parents Why parents need to deal with their own emotions The characteristics of a dysfunctional family What makes families afraid of discussing difficult emotions and experiences Detachment and fear of connection in dysfunctional families Experiencing codependence in my family and learning to talk about emotions How Corey cultivated trust between himself and a teenager in his practice Breaking the cycle of codependency in couples Witnessing our partners’ experiences with emotions What enmeshment in a relationship looks like and what it takes to be differentiated Relationships with people with diagnosed mental illness and how to navigate them The fear of abandonment and the experience of isolation in codependent relationships The characteristics of codependent people and how codependency manifests in a couple’s sex life   Related Content: Expressing Needs Emotional Regulation Do the Right Thing Is Stress Affecting Your Relationship? The Importance of a Personal Practice Addictions and Their Effects on Relationships Sound and Attunement Healing in Relationships     Resources Mentioned: Headspace App Al-Anon Family Groups Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love by Pia Mellody     Connect with Corey Costanzo:   Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Still Point Wellness on Instagram Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn   Let’s Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.   If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, contact us. Your question may be featured on a future episode!   Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.   And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk

A lot of people are in tremendous stress as a result of the global pandemic. Some people find themselves falling back to some old behavior patterns that they thought they had already let go. This is what’s called regression: a defensive mechanism for coping with stress. It’s a common phenomenon many of us experience unconsciously. Corey Costanzo - a licensed addictions counselor and good friend of mine - believes that a significant part of managing our regressive responses to stress is mindfulness. Corey is a licensed massage and bodywork therapist, somatic experiencing practitioner, and co-owner of Still Point Wellness, a premier Esalen Massage and Salt Water Floatation spa in Asheville.   Today, Corey and I discuss our tendency to regress when we are under stress. We highlight the different ways regression can manifest in our lives and how they can impact our relationships. We share some of the tools you can use to learn how to recognize regressive tendencies and manage them. We also draw from our personal experiences with regression and illustrate how we work with it, as well as emphasize the parents’ roles in teaching children how to cope with stress and negative experiences.   “It’s important for everybody to figure out the resources to be able to stand up in the face of uncomfortable sensations and thoughts.” - Corey Costanzo   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It: How a stunted developmental stage can result in adult regression The collective stress resulting from the pandemic and how stress triggers regressive behavior Substance use and addiction as a form of regression and the importance of bringing regressive behavior into the consciousness Regression and self-sabotage The difference between a regressed response versus a partnered response The value of communicating our needs and meeting them ourselves How mindfulness can help the awareness of regression and recognition of stress The neuroscience of stress and meditation and how our brain regresses to primitive lifeforms when we’re stressed Corey’s experiences with regression and how he transforms them How our regressive behaviors are exhibited when we’re with family My tendency to shut down and get defensive under stressful situations Experiencing tension, anxiety, and regression in the body What it means to resource for ourselves Regression in children and teenagers and how parents can model calm and mindfulness for their kids The importance of seeking support in times of stress    Related Content: Anxiety in Families Emotional Regulation Do the Right Thing Is Stress Affecting Your Relationship? Addictions and Their Effects on Relationships Sound and Attunement Healing in Relationships   Resources Mentioned: Headspace App   Connect with Corey Costanzo Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Still Point Wellness on Instagram Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn   Let’s Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, visit our podcast page to leave us a voice message. Your question may be featured on a future episode! Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk

Many of us maintain daily practices. They bring us to a state of a balanced and stable mind. For some, that practice is yoga or meditation, while for others, it could be writing morning pages or creating art. For Corey Costanzo, it’s doing didgeridoo meditation sessions. Corey - a colleague and long-time friend of mine - is a master didgeridooist who has been playing the instrument for over 20 years. For over 100 days since the COVID-19 pandemic started, Corey has been hosting 20-minute didgeridoo meditation sessions at Still Point Wellness on Facebook.   Corey is a licensed massage and bodywork therapist, a licensed addictions counselor, somatic experiencing practitioner, and co-owner of Still Point Wellness, a premier Esalen Massage and Salt Water Floatation spa in Asheville. By transforming his morning routine with the didgeridoo to a shared experience with an online community, Corey continues to realize the connection between cultivating personal practices and wellbeing.   In this episode, Corey and I discuss the importance of personal practices. We differentiate routine from cultivating a personal practice and illustrate how our relationships can benefit from the latter. We describe how bringing curiosity and mindfulness into our practice can bring us to a deeper understanding of ourselves. We also explore the overwhelm and guilt people feel when they fail to follow-through on habits and practices as well as share advice on how we can cultivate a daily practice.   “Personal practice is the antidote to a co-dependent relationship. I fill myself with what brings me joy and from there, I meet my partner.” - Corey Costanzo   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:  A didgeridoo meditation with Corey Our relationship with our personal practice and how they affect us and our relationships How Corey found his connection with the didgeridoo and how he taught himself to play it The difference between a routine and a personal practice How mindfulness can bring a deeper self-awareness The art of breathing and recognizing the connection between breath and anxiety The benefits of breathing through your nostrils and how breathing through the mouth can negatively impact our health Transforming the Relationships: Let’s Talk About It! Podcast from routine to personal practice How podcasting has affected my relationship with my wife, Rainbow The importance of having an interest or hobby outside of your relationship Going back to our personal practice for self-care, self-soothing, and self-regulation Learning more about ourselves through diving into personal practice The overwhelm and guilt that comes with trying to maintain a daily practice and how to cope with them Identifying the link between curiosity and mindfulness   Related Content:  Emotional Regulation Do the Right Thing Is Stress Affecting Your Relationship? Addictions and Their Effects on Relationships Sound and Attunement Healing in Relationships    Resources Mentioned: Breath: the New Science of a Lost Art by James Nestor   Connect with Corey Costanzo: Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Still Point Wellness on Instagram Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn    Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.   If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, email HeartShares@yahoo.com or visit our podcast page to leave us a voice message. Your question may be featured on a future episode!   Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.   And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk

Corey Costanzo is a licensed addiction counselor and somatic therapist who seeks to help people achieve a higher flow in their life experience. Another area of expertise is bodywork, a mix of Esalen Massage, Craniosacral therapy, and Didgeridoo sound vibration healing. A kind-hearted person and good friend of mine, Corey helps the local community improve their lives by offering donation-based Restorative Yoga classes at Asheville Community Yoga and teaching somatic psychology at the Center for Massage. He co-owns Still Point Wellness, Asheville’s premier spa featuring sensory deprivation float tank and world-class Esalen Massage, with his wife, Robin.   In today’s episode, Corey and I discuss emotional self-regulation and how we can bring awareness and mindfulness to respond to our internal experiences. We explain how we can choose to self-regulate instead of allowing ourselves to be swept by emotions and share tools and coping techniques we can use to regulate. We explain how a parent’s ability to regulate their emotions can affect their children’s psychological development. We differentiate feelings from emotions and explain how this distinction can help us manage our emotions. We also draw from our personal experiences to share the steps we took to self-regulate in times of conflict.   “If we know how to self-regulate as a parent, then that’s a form of wisdom we can pass on to our children.” -Corey Costanzo   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:   Corey’s definition of emotional regulation How to access the choice to emotionally self-regulate instead of being swept by emotions Using mindfulness and awareness practices to help emotional self-regulation The biochemistry of emotions and where they are felt How to distinguish feelings from emotions to regulate responses Self-soothing and self-care methods to increase self-awareness The importance of co-regulating a partner’s emotional experiences Why parents should develop emotional regulation skills and how dysregulation can affect childhood development How attachment styles affect confrontation and conflict management in couples Resources Mentioned:   Molecules of Emotions by Candace Pert 045 Do the Right Thing 018 Is Stress Affecting Your Relationships? 007 Addictions and Their Effects On Relationships 004 Sound and Attunement in Relationships   Connect with Corey Costanzo:   Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Still Point Wellness on Instagram Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn   Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.    If you have a relationship question you’d love to have answered, visit our podcast page to leave us a voice message. Your question may be featured on a future episode!   Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.   And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk   Relationships! Let’s Talk About It is produced by Auxbus. You can create your own great podcast - faster and easier - at Auxbus.com

Corey Costanzo is a Somatic Therapist, a Licensed Addiction Counselor, and a Licensed Massage and Body Work Therapist. He is the co-owner of Still Point Wellness, an award-winning Salt Water Floatation and Esalen Massage spa in Asheville, NC. He earned his Bachelor’s degree in Psychology from the University of Vermont and a Master’s degree in Clinical Psychology with a special focus on somatic/body psychology from Santa Barbara Graduate Institute.   Corey joins me today to discuss the aspect of integrity and doing the right thing when faced with difficult decisions. We discuss the difference between following what our bodies and hearts tell us to do versus following our thoughts. We explain how practicing mindfulness and self-inquiry can help you determine whether you’re making the right decisions based on your values and integrity and how these practices can help you be more in-tune with your spouse, partner, or others in your relationships. We also discuss how our past experiences shape the way we make decisions and influence our decisions on doing the right thing.   “When the right thing is done, it can turn into some of the most profound growth experiences in life.” - Corey Costanzo   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:   How volunteering at a men’s detention center has impacted Corey’s perspective on doing the right thing. How Corey knows when he has made a good decision that is in alignment with his values. How to use your body as a checks-and-balances resource to guide your decisions. How mindfulness, self-inquiry, and breathing practices help you make better decisions that are in alignment with your core values and integrity. Making good relational decisions versus simply compromising. How to balance understanding your partner’s reality and sharing your own perspective without being judgmental. Corey’s recent experience of planning his sister’s surprise birthday party and how he realized he was making decisions based on his preferences instead of what his sister would want. The importance of being disciplined to think beyond yourself when making decisions that will impact others. Rewarding children for showing empathy and claiming ownership of their mistakes. What it means for parents to set ‘hard-core boundaries’ for their children and why Corey believes there is a more effective way to teach children to do the right thing. How your unique experiences, personality, and character structure influences your decision-making skills. An effective strategy for rebuilding trust that has been broken in a relationship. How to identify if your behavior and actions are in alignment with the relational agreements you’ve made. How learning from your previous mistakes and poor decisions helps you make better decisions in the future.    Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.   Don’t forget to visit our website, like us on Facebook at HeartShare Counseling, join our Relationships! Let’s Talk About It Facebook group, and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.   And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk   Relationships! Let’s Talk About It is produced by Auxbus. You can create your own great podcast - faster and easier - at Auxbus.com

Have you ever felt trapped in a conversation with someone who can’t seem to run out of things to say? You start to wonder when the monologue will end so you can carry on with your life and make the most out of your time. If bumping into a talkaholic feels like your time has been stolen from you, then it’s time to speak the truth and be authentic in your encounters.   In today’s episode, I explain the different factors that contribute to the making of a talkaholic. I share stories of my interactions with people who talk excessively as well as how I have experimented on my responses under those circumstances. I also share strategies you can use when dealing with talkaholics, including actual phrases you can practice and experiment with to discover the best way for you to handle these situations.   “Don’t have the fear to interrupt. Allow yourself to do that - experiment with interrupting.” - Pripo Teplitsky       This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:   The declaration my wife made during a significant time in her life that inspired me to be more authentic in my conversations. How my siblings and I rescued each other from our talkaholic Uncle Harry. What makes a talkaholic. How Excessive Talking Disorder is a symptom of several mental, physical, and emotional health issues. The effect on talkaholics when they listen to another person. How people with genuine self-confidence and self-esteem respond in conversations. What an arrogant person thinks that causes him or her to keep on talking. The possible effect of having even one dominant parent at home. Why it’s crucial to know the cause of a talkaholic’s excessive talking. How to still have compassion while maintaining your boundaries. Steps to take when confronting a talkaholic. Good starter sentences when confronting a talkaholic at work and at home. Ways to help others be aware of and cope with their excessive talking. Defining what a conversation is. Expressions I use as a therapist that work well and bring about empathy from the other person. When to leave the conversation. What to do if you intend to stay and not confront the person. How to use your imagination as a way to deal with a talkaholic. What ‘mindfulness presence’ is and how to practice it. Questions to ask when talking with a talkaholic. How to experiment with interrupting. How to take advantage of the pause. How to deal with talkaholics if the person is someone you have a relationship with. What happens when you do not do something to take care of yourself and be authentic. Why five minutes is a good allotment for a back and forth conversation. How to condition each other through the back and forth continuity of your discussion. The story of how a female talkaholic trained herself to pause and give chance to others. Different ways to set boundaries.           Sponsored by Still Point Wellness   Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!   Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.comor call (828) 348-5372.   Mention the code:Pripoto receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!     Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It- the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.   Don’t forget to visit our website, join us on Facebook at HeartShare Counselingand Relationships! Let’s Talk About It, and follow us on Twitterand Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.   And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcastpage!   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk     Relationships! Let’s Talk About It is produced by Podcraft. You can create your own greatpodcast - faster and easier - at Podcraft.com.

Steve Torma is the co-founder of The REAL Center, an organization based in Asheville, North Carolina that is committed to encouraging compassion, communication, and intimacy. He is also the former president of Earthaven Ecovillage in Black Mountain, North Carolina as well as a former core faculty member of The Asheville Tantra School. For over 30 years, he has been passionate about helping others master the art of communication and compassion. His deep desire to help others seek healing and find direction in their lives led him to pursue training in several fields such as Non-Violent Communication, Radical Honesty, Restorative Circles, and Permaculture.   Steve joins me again to elaborate what non-violent communication is, what it looks like, and the different ways to show it. We discuss the concepts of Evolutionary Psychology, Mismatch Instincts, and Negativity Bias and why the latter is the greatest cause of human suffering. We also share helpful tips and tools to overcome Negativity Bias as well as how to change this habit so you can improve the quality of your life and your relationships.   “The more we focus on gratitude, the more we’ll have neuro-pathways for gratitude and the more inner peace we’ll have. The more inner peace we have, the better the relationships we will have. It just becomes an upward spiral.” - Steve Torma      This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:   What is Non-Violent Communication (NVC). The “honesty” part of the NVC Model. The distinction between a need and a request. Examples of the four parts of the communication model in a real-life situation. The two types of requests in the NVC World. The kind of request that helps most people work through a conflict. Why making a connection request is crucial before making an action request? The significance of being curious and interested versus listening to judgmental self-talk - even during conflicts. Why curiosity is important in conversations. What empathy deficit is and why many people are operating on it. The concept “Interrupting a conversation to bring it back to life.” The root behind the impulse of talkaholics. How to make it easier for people to hear feedback. Defining Evolutionary Psychology and its relation to a person’s responses. What are Mismatched instincts? Identifying one of the most obvious types of mismatched instincts. The main mismatch instinct that hampers human beings. The ratio between positive interactions and negative interactions for a relationship to be sustainable. Explaining the concept of Unchosen Nature and how this explains a person’s impulse to look for what’s wrong. Why you should make a list of the ten most memorable positive moments in your life. The chain reaction that happens in your body when you choose to feel gratitude. The power of choice and changing your belief system. How negative awareness and thoughts are part of the healing and growth process.    Resources Mentioned:   Episode 10: Non-Violent Communication     Connect with Steve Torma:   The REAL Center Email: info@therealcenter.org   Sponsored by Still Point Wellness   Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!   Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.comor call (828) 348-5372.   Mention the code:Pripoto receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!   Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It- the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, join us on Facebook at HeartShare Counselingand Relationships! Let’s Talk About It, and follow us on Twitterand Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk   Relationships! Let’s Talk About It is produced by Podcraft. You can create your own greatpodcast - faster and easier - at Podcraft.com

The secret to love is kindness -- a very simple concept that many people tend to overlook. Take a closer look at your relationships, for example. When was the last time you made coffee for your husband or gave your wife a back rub?   When was the last time you were present and available to listen to what your children had to say?   When was the last time you did an unexpected good deed for someone you don’t know just because you want to be kind?   When was the last time you made a conscious effort to pay attention to your tone and attitude when expressing your feelings or a different point of view?   Today, I share how to be kind to the people in your relationships -- to your spouse, children, even to strangers. I explain the difference between being nice and being kind, the impact that a parent’s kindness can have on their children’s character, and the significance of being kind to yourself. I also emphasize the roles that your tone and body language play in showing kindness to others and yourself as well as some actionable tips on showing kindness to the people in your relationships.   “Research has shown that kindness along with emotional stability is the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in a marriage.” - Pripo Teplitsky    This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:   Why it is often hard for kindness to thrive. Why I believe people are not more kind to others. How being kind to yourself allows you to be more kind to others. Small acts of kindness you can do for yourself. Showing kindness by owning up to an unkind act. The best situation to practice kindness. Factors at the root of extreme niceness. The difference between being nice and being kind. How my wife has been a continuous inspiration of being kind to oneself. How openness, seeking positive attributes and giving them the benefit of the doubt are powerful signs of love and kindness. Telltale signs that you’re not kind in the relationship. The importance of your tone and intention. Why people can take your text messages the wrong way. Choosing between leaving a voicemail versus texting emotional content. Why you should make it a priority to spend time with your spouse. The “hypocrisy of kindness” parents are not aware they’re doing. How to show kindness through body language. An inspiring story about showing small acts of kindness to strangers. How the “little things” show small acts of kindness. How holding your tongue or holding back on things you want to say can be a small act of kindness. Quick tips on showing kindness to your spouse every day. One of the kindest acts a person can do. How being rude, hurtful, and mean destroys trust and intimacy in your relationships. Reflective questions parents can ask themselves to check if they are kind to their children. Things parents can do to show kindness to their children. The direct correlation between the parent’s kindness towards their children and having kind children. Why moving away from talkaholics is considered a kind act to yourself.   Resource Mentioned:   Diane A. Ross    Sponsored by Still Point Wellness   Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!   Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.comor call (828) 348-5372.   Mention the code:Pripoto receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!   Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It- the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, join us on Facebook at HeartShare Counselingand Relationships! Let’s Talk About It, and follow us on Twitterand Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk   Relationships! Let’s Talk About It is produced by Podcraft. You can create your own greatpodcast - faster and easier - at Podcraft.com

Corey Costanzo is the co-owner of Still Point Wellness,  a premier spa based in Asheville, North Carolina that offers first-class services such as Salt Water Floatation (a.k.a. sensory deprivation), Esalen Massage, and Cranial Sacral Therapy. Having a very intimate relationship with stress and anxiety, Corey studied Somatic Psychology and acquired a master’s degree in Clinical Psychology.  Additionally, he is a certified Esalen Massage and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, a licensed clinical addictions counselor, trauma and anxiety specialist, and music therapist.   Corey joins me today to share how understanding your body and being aware of what happens to it when you’re stressed can affect your personal and professional relationships. We discuss where to look and what to do to the body when you’re stressed and explain the gravity of destressing and taking care of your ownanxiety so you can take care of others. We also share techniques that you can use to help you improve relaxation and decrease stress and explain why self-care is not simply a luxury, but a necessity for achieving a harmonious relationship with others.    “There’s always going to be anxiety. There’s always going to be stressful things. It’s how we deal with those things and what tools we can use in the present moment to be able to work with that energy of stress.” - Corey Costanzo    This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:   How stress affects the physical body according to science. What the Zen Breath technique is and how to do it. Why yoga, meditation, and mindfulness are popular de-stressing activities. The first step to unlocking the door to stress and anxiety. The benefits of being aware of your stress. A technique to avoid the stress blame-game. The importance of giving your partner some space when managing stress. The benefits of doing physical activities instead of rationalizing your stress. The difference between shallow-breath reactions versus deep-breath responses. How deep breathing affects your body and influences your connection with others. Regulation versus dysregulation of the nervous system. The reason Corey began working the field of healing arts. How he learned to beat depression and anxiety. The paradox of holding stress as a badge of honor in some communities. How your family background affects the way youhandle stress and anxiety. How addiction in the family affects the next generation. How parents’ suppressing stress or anger transfers to their kids and the results. The link between indecisiveness and anxiety. Why you should give yourself permission to be wrong. The unselfish aspect of taking care of yourself so you can take care of your relationships. How you can choose to break the stress cycle and habit. What the habit of stress looks like and the biological markers and symptoms to watch out for. The number one go-to stress buster and stress reliever. What the Curious Paradox is and how it helps you accept what’s going on in your body. How Epsom salt and Esalen Massage help reduce stress and anxiety.   Connect with Corey Costanzo:   Still Point Wellness   Sponsored by Still Point Wellness   StillPoint Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!   Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.comor call (828) 348-5372.   Mention the code:Pripoto receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!   Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It- the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, join us on Facebook at HeartShare Counselingand Relationships! Let’s Talk About It, and follow us on Twitterand Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk   Relationships! Let’s Talk About It is produced by Podcraft. You can create your own greatpodcast - faster and easier - at Podcraft.com  

Moe Bruce is passionate about investing in deep and meaningful connections and intimacy, engaging with others, building relationships, and being present in the moment. For 20 years, she has been a coach and consultant for CEOs and global leaders in large and small international organizations and has built profound connections with strangers throughout America and Europe. She’s always had a deep curiosity about how people live their lives as well as what she can learn from them. Moe joins me today to discuss how to take risks with strangers by going beyond the regular chitchat our society is so used to. We discuss the inspiring experiments she conducted throughout New York and Europe while building connections with strangers as well as how the workplace is hungry for vulnerability, transparency, and truth.  We discuss an observation she had about me and how my answer revealed something enlightening and personal as we experience the magic that comes from being open and present in the moment.   “If you want a connection, you can have it. If you’re willing to be vulnerable and revealing and curious, you can make it your world. You don’t have to suffer chitchat.” - Moe Bruce   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:   What Moe does while in contact with strangers. How her 3-phrase experiment in New York impacted her. The impact that her “Being Loved” experiment in Berlin had on her and the people around her. Why she doesn’t allow ‘chit chat’ in her conversations and connections with strangers. How she leads conversations with strangers to make them feel comfortable, connected, and open. How being open and willing to share things about yourself in conversations helps you build deep connections with others. What the Modality of Circling is. How to make the conversation “your world” as well. When it’s okay not to put limits on what to reveal and how to make distinctions about things to share. The effect of being vulnerable and having closer connections in the workplace. What the courage to be vulnerable requires. Strategies she used to connect with strangers in Atlanta during an experiment. The impact that beingpresent can have on those around you. How she makes a game out of connecting and communicating with others to relieve the pressure of “doing it right” or doing it a certain way. How building meaningful connections with strangers helps builds hope for humanity. How she discovered the Strategy of Circling. The backstory of circling and how to do it. How circling can help parents in their relationship with their children. How she felt reborn after a circling session. How her curiosity about my openness led us to the most transformational moment of my life   Sponsored by Still Point Wellness   StillPoint Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!   Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.comor call (828) 348-5372.   Mention the code:Pripoto receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!    Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It- the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, join us on Facebook at HeartShare Counselingand Relationships! Let’s Talk About It, and follow us on Twitterand Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk   Relationships! Let’s Talk About It is produced by Podcraft. You can create your owngreatpodcast - faster and easier - at Podcraft.com

There’s a common expression that says, “You wouldn’t want to marry yourself!” This expression sounds funny to many, but if you look closely, it expresses a deeper issue people face in relationships. Having differences is inevitable, but whether you choose to be accepting or critical, curious or judgmental, interested or disrespectful towards the other person makes the difference in the status of your relationships.   On this episode, I discuss the differences in people’s relationships and how to navigate them through real-life stories and examples. I emphasize the importance of the “how” versus the “what” when negotiating differences, the difference among needs, wants, and preferences as well as how to effectively communicate using these. I also explain how to train your mind to see traits you can like and appreciate about the other person and discuss the difference between a complaint and criticism as well as ways of dealing with differences in money, expectations, and non-negotiables.     “Differences call for understanding and negotiating.” - Pripo Teplitsky       This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:   The wrong notion about compatibility being synonymous with similarity The role that differences play in relationships Why we choose somebody that’s different from us The essence of choosing well and carefully in partnerships How women typically choose men What to do when projecting expectations towards your partner The role that the foundational aspects of communication and connection play in your relationship Two vital learner type questions to ask yourself as you assess your response to your partner A story of a couple who didn’t think alike but loved alike The antidote to relationships who are facing problems regarding their differences Why disgust is one of the major poisons in relationships and examples of how we show it Redefining self-esteem in relationship negotiations The mystery of the wine colored French beret How the differences can be a tremendous gift in a person’s growth Examples of basic commonalities you don’t need to negotiate Questions to ask yourself when assessing your relationships Facing challenges regarding non-negotiables The power of appreciating somebody for who they are The difference between a complaint and a criticism Dealing with differences in money How to work through expectations       Sponsored by Still Point Wellness   StillPoint Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!   Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372.   Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!     Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk     Relationships! Let’s Talk About It is produced by Podcraft. You can create your own great podcast - faster and easier - at Podcraft.com

Lee Warren is the co-founder, designer, and builder of a sustainability co-housing community at Earthaven Ecovillage in Black Mountain, North Carolina as well as the co-founder of the 5-acre cooperative farm, Imani Farm. She is an herbalist, writer, teacher, and food activist with an avid interest in rural wisdom, alternative relationships, sustainable economics, and women’s issues. She is the Managing Partner of the organic food production learning institute, School of Integrated Living(SOIL). Additionally, she is the Executive Director of the Organic Growers Schoolin Asheville, NC.   Lee joins me today to discuss the multi-faceted concept of consent and the importance of communicating consent and boundaries to build stronger andhealthier relationships. She explains the “wheel of consent,” the crucial role consent plays in your personal and professional relationships, and the importance of communicating your preferences. She also shares why it’s important to reframe ‘no’ as an act of liberation instead of a rejection.    “When you say ‘no,’ you’re saying ‘yes’ to something else. And that’s your sovereignty.”  - Lee Warren   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:   Understanding the concept and full scope of consent. The different realms of abuse and why consent transcends sexuality. How restrictions imposed upon us during childhood affect our perceptions ofintimacy as adults Why saying ‘yes’ or ‘no’ has everything to do with you and nothing to do with the other person. Reframing ‘no’ from rejection to liberation. The importance of being able to trust responses from others. Why consent doesn’t take the sexiness and appeal out of things, despite what most people may think. How consent changes things for the better, especially when it comes to intimacy. The importance of communicating your preferences and how the overall experience is for you. Consent outside of the sexual realm. Coercion and co-dependency, and why we need to move away from them. The value of listening. How adults “play,” and how consent figures into that need. Tackling the barriers of intimacy. How consent opens new pathways for showing adoration and communicating warmth. The need for different ways to say ‘no’. Why saying ‘no’ is actuallysaying ‘yes’ to something else. How you can learn what’s ‘yes’ and what’s ‘no’ for you.    Connect with Lee Warren:   Imani Farm School of Integrated Living website Organic Growers School website Email: lee@organicgrowersschool.org    Sponsored by Still Point Wellness   StillPoint Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!   Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.comor call (828) 348-5372.   Mention the code:Pripoto receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!   Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It- the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, join with us on Facebook at HeartShare Counselingand Relationships! Let’s Talk About It, and follow us on Twitterand Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships.   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk    Relationships! Let’s Talk About It is produced by Podcraft. You can create your own greatpodcast - faster and easier - at Podcraft.com  

When was the last time you said ‘I’m sorry’ and truly meant it? It is often easy to say the words, but to truly feelsorry - to be vulnerable, take accountability, and try to change a bad behavior or habit - it can often prove more difficult. We tend to say ‘I am sorry’ when we feel embarrassed aboutmistakes or trying to appeaseanother person.   The art of apologizing is a critical skill we must learn in order tobuild deep, meaningful relationship with those around us. And while we often try to avoid conflict in our day-to-day lives - especially with those closest to us - it’s important to remember that it is through conflict and differences that we learn, grow, and improve ourselves and our relationships.   On today’s episode, I discuss the art of apologizing and why it is critical for deepening your relationships. I explain why conflict is necessary for self-growth and understanding and the connection between self-compassion, accountability, and a sincere apology. I also explain how a sincere apology can impact the healing process following a hurtful event, why it’s okay to take time to truly feelsorry before apologizing, and how it can often lead to acceptance and forgiveness.    “One of the greatest gifts of exploring apologies is the lesson of humility.” - PripoTeplitsky   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:   The importance of only apologizing when you truly feel sorry. How to handle situations when you’re not ready to apologize. The importance of taking time to digest and understand your partner’s perspective in a hurtful situation. Why it is often difficult to take accountability for hurting others. The connection between self-compassion, accountability, and a true apology. The difference between feeling remorse and feeling embarrassed or ashamed. What is required before true forgiveness can occur? How apologizing can impact your relationships with your How apologizing can help heal wounds and build bridges in estranged family relationships. The importance of empathizing with how the other person feels. The importance of expressing your regrets when apologizing. Identifying strategies for changing poor behavior or habits. Examplesof effective, heartfelt apologies. Setting realistic expectations when apologizing and asking for forgiveness. The difference between accepting an apology and true forgiveness. The importance of always accepting an apology - even if you can’t forgive the behavior. Expressing the qualities you seek in an apology with your spouse or partner. How sincere apologies can impact the healing process. The impact that accountability and apologizing have had in political disputes. The importance of apologizing even when you don’t feel accountable, wrong, or that you’ve intentionally hurt the other person. Exercises to help you improve your apologizing skill to deepen your relationships and begin the healing process.   Resources Mentioned:   The Healing of Americaby Marianne Williamson The Gifts of Imperfectionby Brene Brown    Sponsored by Still Point Wellness   StillPoint Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!   Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.comor call (828) 348-5372.   Mention the code:Pripoto receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!    Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It- the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk   Relationships! Let’s Talk About It is produced by Podcraft. You can create your own greatpodcast - faster and easier - at Podcraft.com

Angela Porter specializes in providing guidance to people with addictions, relational troubles, mental health problems, and codependency issues. Her impressive 25-year career as a professional therapist in California encompasses trauma and addiction treatment, self-care workshops and consultations for therapists as well as international BREEMA workshops for professionals in the medical and healthcare industries. After serving as a Program Director at the New Bridge Foundation’s substance treatment program in Berkeley, she is now a group facilitator at Bayside Marin’s substance abuse treatment program in San Rafael and maintains an active private practice in both San Rafael and Oakland.   Angela joins me on today’s episode to discuss the art of confrontation — why we shouldn’t fear it, how we should do it, and why it’s important to confront not just others, but ourselves. She shares her experiences in working with people suffering from addiction, mental health issues, and emotional problems, as well as one life-changing moment that imparted upon her a lifelong lesson. In addition, she and I take the time to talk about our own friendship, and how our commitment and desire to connect by embracing the truth in ourselves has allowed us to help each other grow as individuals and as professionals.   “You don’t feel safe because of inner conditions — because you’ve stopped listening to your own truth, and you’re looking for it outside of yourself.”  - Angela Porter   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:   The various ways to confront people, including yourself, in a manner that’s kind yet clear. My friendship with Angela, and how confrontation plays a positive role in it. The underlying desire for connection and transcendence in every relationship — and how that need is only fulfilled by the presence of truth. The extensive work that Angela has done in dealing with people and helping them stand up with truth. A powerful, truthful moment that we shared during a rather memorable workshop. Expectations in a relationship, and how the need for confronting people’s truths plays into those. Angela’s experiences with her partner with regard to confrontation. My personal experience where I confronted someone with a powerful truth, resulting in a very positive outcome. A unique and difficult experience involving a client that taught Angela a valuable lesson. Confronting people with their positive attributes, instead of their negatives and what they lack. The word “confrontation” itself, its power, and its impact. Understanding that whatever you’re doing right now is NOT who you are. What an apology really means, in the context of self-confrontation. How Angela walks people through the sense of discomfort that comes with confrontation. How the truth is actually a holistic experience. The self-loathing and fundamental brokenness at the heart of every human being. How we can’t really “teach” each other anything — and what we CAN do for each other, instead.   Connect with Angela Porter:   Angela Porter’s website Email: angelaportermft@gmail.com   Join Us for The Power of Appreciation Workshop   Join Pripo and his wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, on Sunday, November 11, 2018, in Asheville, NC to learn the secrets of unlocking the Power of Appreciation in your relationships. Genuine appreciation, regardless of how simple or profound, has been proven to bring an immediate shift in the quality and closeness of loving relationships. The Power of Appreciation Workshop will teach you the necessary skills and fundamental process of enriching your relationship with your partner, deepening the connection, and enhancing the flow of positive.   To learn more about The Power of Appreciation Workshop, and to register, visit HeartShare Counseling & Consulting PC or call (828) 712-8398.   Sponsored by Still Point Wellness    Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!    Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372.    Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!      Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk   Relationships! Let’s Talk About It is produced by Podcraft. You can create your own great podcast - faster and easier - at Podcraft.com  

When was the last time you sat with your significant other, put down your mobile device, and just focused on your partner and everything you appreciate about them? Or the last time you smiled at a co-worker, waved at an acquaintance, or did a high-five with a friend you haven't seen in a while? What about the last time you shared positive feedback or words of encouragement with a stranger whom you felt needed it? In other words, when was the last time you had a brief but genuine connection — a micro-moment — with another human being?   On today’s episode, I share my thoughts on micro-moments: what they are, how they occur in relationships, and why they matter tremendously. I share stories about my favorite micro-moments with friends, co-workers, family members, and even total strangers over the years - some of which are my most cherished memories of them. I also discuss the aspects of micro-moments and explain the concept of “authenticity on demand.”   “It is not in the big grandiosity, the big moments and glamor of the date nights and weekend getaways that’s your connection. It’s in the mundane, in the routine, in every moment of life.” - PripoTeplitsky   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:   The concept of micro-moments: the small moments in day-to-day life you take for granted. How a temporary break from the busy aspects of modern life can allow micro-moments in relationships to pop up and thrive. The value of asking questions, even just the little ones, in establishing your connection. How the often-repeated sentiment that “it’s the little moments that matter most” is very, very true. My favorite memories of the numerous micro-moments I shared with my loved ones, especially my son. The significance of nicknames and positive acknowledgment in those little moments of connection. How the thought of “What if this were my last day?” helps us appreciate these micro-moments more. How even the most mundane moment of a unique day can be so profound. Why true connection doesn’t require a lot of dialogue. The concept of “authenticity on demand.” Negative micro-moments, and what we can do to change them. Giving and receiving appreciative statements.   Join Us for The Power of Appreciation Workshop   Join Pripo and his wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, on Sunday, November 11, 2018, in Asheville, NC to learn the secrets of unlocking the Power of Appreciation in your relationships. Genuine appreciation, regardless of how simple or profound, has been proven to bring an immediate shift in the quality and closeness of loving relationships. The Power of Appreciation Workshop will teach you the necessary skills and fundamental process of enriching your relationship with your partner, deepening the connection, and enhancing the flow of positive.   To learn more about The Power of Appreciation Workshop, and to register, visit HeartShare Counseling & Consulting PCor call (828) 712-8398.   Sponsored by Still Point Wellness   StillPoint Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!   Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.comor call (828) 348-5372.   Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!   Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It- the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk    Relationships! Let’s Talk About It is produced by Podcraft. You can create your own great podcast - faster and easier - at Podcraft.com

R010 Non-Violent Communication   Steve Torma is the co-founder of The REAL Center, an organization that has been committed to encouraging compassionate relationships since 2007. He is the former President of Earthaven Ecovillage in Black Mountain, NC, and was a core faculty member for The Asheville Tantra  School. He has established a thirty-year career of helping countless people find healing, direction, and meaning in their lives through his mastery of Non-Violent Communication (NVC), Radical Honesty, Body Electric, Cuddle  Party, Restorative Circles, Permaculture, and Creation Spirituality.     Steve joins me today to discuss non-violent communications and how being in sync with our feelings can help us better understand our needs and gain insight on why we make the decisions we make. He explains how our relationships are affected by how well - or how poorly - we know our own feelings, particularly in the way we translate our thoughts into words. He also briefly touches on the four gateway feelings in his line of work — anger, depression, shame, and guilt — and what each of those things really means for the individual.   “Thoughts are obviously important, but to be able to communicate what’s in your body — that kind of aliveness is one of the main things that creates connection.’” - Steve Torma   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:   Learning how to feel exactly what is going on with your body. The profound difference between thinking and feeling. Having a solid emotional vocabulary. Starting with feeling awareness, and realizing that feelings give us important information. Understanding why we make the choices we make — why we feel what we feel. Distinguishing between needs and wants by learning how to feel one’s needs. How — and why — the foundation of a dysfunctional relationship is not knowing your partner’s needs. How to effectively train people to be more attuned to their feelings. The definition of self-directed neuroplasticity: Why it is possible for people to change. Why pain is NOT suffering. The four parts of the training process for non-violent communications. Creating a connection between two people through the verbalization of feelings. The significance and power of acknowledging what and how we are feeling. The value of understanding the thoughts behind your anger.  The meaning of feeling a “sweet pain.” Understanding the basic principle of NVC. Healing shame by realizing its roots. Seeing through the eyes of compassion. The truth behind how nature designed us, with regard to stress.   Connect with Steve Torma:   The REAL Center website Email: info@therealcenter.org    Join Us for The Power of Appreciation Workshop   Join Pripo and his wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, on Sunday, November 11, 2018, in Asheville, NC to learn the secrets of unlocking the Power of Appreciation in your relationships. Genuine appreciation, regardless of how simple or profound, has been proven to bring an immediate shift in the quality and closeness of loving relationships. The Power of Appreciation Workshop will teach you the necessary skills and fundamental process of enriching your relationship with your partner, deepening the connection, and enhancing the flow of positive.   To learn more about The Power of Appreciation Workshop, and to register, visit HeartShare Counseling & Consulting PC or call (828) 712-8398.   Sponsored by Still Point Wellness    Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!    Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372.    Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation or Esalen Massage®!    Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk   Relationships! Let’s Talk About It is produced by Podcraft. To learn more about how Podcraft can make it easy for you to create a professional show, visit Podcraft.com  

Setting boundaries in relationships is usually a challenging topic to tackle, and with good reason. Aside from the fact that the very idea of imposing restrictions between yourself and your partner is hard to define, the act itself can be quite tricky to navigate — especially if you’re afraid that you might offend your partner. What many don’t realize is that setting healthy boundaries won’t tear your relationship apart; in fact, it’ll strengthen it, or perhaps even save it.   On today’s episode, I break down the details of boundary-setting in relationships, from defining the concept to classifying the types of boundaries you need to set. I explain the concept of differentiation within the context of a relationship and explain why it’s important to set aside time for personal activities and to put your needs at the forefront. I also share personal stories that illustrate the importance of saying “no” and how to say it properly, the impact of setting healthy boundaries on your relationship and your life in general, and the consequences of failing to do so.   “A relationship can’t be healthy until both parties communicate their boundaries clearly, and the other person respects them.” - PripoTeplitsky   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:   Defining what boundaries are, in the context of relationships. Distinguishing physical, sexual, emotional, and material boundaries. The benefits of establishing healthy boundaries in a relationship. How to establish healthy boundaries in a relationship. Defining and developing differentiation in your relationship. The concept of self-soothing to relieve your own The importance of putting your identity and needs at the forefront. Why you should learn to say “no”... and why it’s okay to say “yes.” Setting — and respecting — personal schedules or activities without your partner. A personal story relating to my vision quest at Esalen Institute. How to handle unsolicited advice from loved ones. What happens when we don’t set boundaries, or when we set unhealthy ones. How boundaries allow us to grow.   Join Us for The Power of Appreciation Workshop   Join Pripo and his wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, on Sunday, November 11, 2018, in Asheville, NC to learn the secrets of unlocking the Power of Appreciation in your relationships. Genuine appreciation, regardless of how simple or profound, has been proven to bring an immediate shift in the quality and closeness of loving relationships. The Power of Appreciation Workshopwill teach you the necessary skills and fundamental process of enriching your relationship with your partner, deepening the connection, and enhancing the flow of positive.   To learn more about The Power of Appreciation Workshop, and to register, visit HeartShare Counseling & Consulting PCor call (828) 712-8398.   Sponsored by Still Point Wellness   StillPoint Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!   Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.comor call (828) 348-5372.   Mention the code:Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation and Esalen Massage®!   Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It- the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!   Theme music provided by Adi the Monk

Gregg Levoy is anauthor, speaker, and seminar leader. He is the acclaimed author of Vital Signs: The Nature and Nurture of Passion and Callings: Finding and Following An Authentic Life, the latter of which is among the Workforce Information Group’s "Top 20 Career Publications". He previously worked as a Behavioral Specialist at USA Today. Currently, he is a regular contributing author and blogger for Psychology Today. He frequently holds workshops about the business, educational, governmental, faith-based and human-potential industries as well as keynote presentations for audiences at prestigious organizations such as the Smithsonian Institution, the Environmental Protection Agency, and Microsoft.   Gregg joins me today to discuss the importance of self-inquiry and knowing your true self and how it impacts your ability to build healthy relationships. We discuss the importance ofnot just of listening, but also of having genuine conversations with yourself, especially in uncovering things you never knew about your character, your relationships, and the world around you. We share how being authentic means paying attention to signs within and around you — and preparing to hear self-truths from ourselves that may not always be pleasant.   “It’s really that age-old idea that ‘you can’t love other people until you love yourself.’” - Gregg Levoy   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:   Knowing yourself through dreamwork, journaling, and asking questions about yourself. How to be a generous listener. Why having an ongoing, conversational relationship with yourself is critical. The meaning of self-reflection and understanding why some people don’t turn their “receivers” on. What dreams actually tell you on a conscious level. How — and why — Gregg turned down an opportunity of a lifetime because of a dream. The benefit of journaling. The value of curiosity, not just about the world, but about each other. The crucial difference between evoking and provoking. “The alien game” and learning about yourself, your partner, and the world. The concept of “dating cities,” and how “I like myself here” can be applied in multiple relationships in your life.   Connect with Gregg Levoy:   Gregg Levoy website Gregg Levoy on Facebook   Join Us for The Power of Appreciation Workshop   Join Pripo and his wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, on Sunday, November 11, 2018, in Asheville, NC to learn the secrets of unlocking the Power of Appreciation in your relationships. Genuine appreciation, regardless of how simple or profound, has been proven to bring an immediate shift in the quality and closeness of loving relationships. The Power of Appreciation Workshopwill teach you the necessary skills and fundamental process of enriching your relationship with your partner, deepening the connection, and enhancing the flow of positive.   To learn more about The Power of Appreciation Workshop, and to register, visit HeartShare Counseling & Consulting PCor call (828) 712-8398.   Sponsored by Still Point Wellness   Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!   Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.comor call (828) 348-5372.   Mention the code:Pripoto receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation and Esalen Massage®!     Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It- the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!   Theme music provided by Adi the Monk

Corey Costanzo is the co-owner of Still Point Wellness, an award-winning spa based in Asheville, NC offering world-class services including Salt Water Floatation - also known as sensory deprivation - Esalen Massage, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Corey is a man of many talents and wears multiple hats. He holds a master’s degree in Clinical Psychology with a special focus on Somatic Psychology and is a certified Esalen Massage and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner. He is a licensed clinical addictions counselor, trauma and anxiety specialist, and mindfulness meditation teacher. Additionally, he is a music therapist as well as a talented didgeridoo player. Corey joins me today to discuss how addictions affect relationships. He explains how couples can improve their relationship when an addiction is present and how to identify when an addiction becomes an issue. He also explains what non-addicted partners can do to help themselves in a relationship involving addiction and how insight and awareness can help addicted partners learn to make better choices and decisions that are aligned with their life goals.   “When there’s an addiction in the relationship, it’s almost as if there’s a third-party that’s in the relationship.” - Corey Costanzo   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:   How addictions often drive a wedge between partners. The importance of non-addicted partners seeking help, counseling, and treatment. What is Al-Anon and how it helps relationships involving addictions? Signs of co-dependence and how it impacts your relationship. How co-dependences tendencies impact future generations. The difference between judging a person judging the behavior. The importance of setting boundaries. The difference between advocating sobriety vs. advocating moderation. How addictions impact trust. The importance of staying disciplined and focused on the long-term goal when facing relapses. How periods of addiction relapses can help identify what is “lacking” in an addicted person’s life. How practicing mindfulness meditation can help non-addicted partners stay aligned with and empowered to hold their boundaries. Recognizing triggers that lead to addiction or relapse. How insight and awareness can help addicted partners make better choices that are in line with their life goals. How one person seeking help can lead others to do so as well.     Resources Mentioned: Al-Anon Headspace Meditation App     Connect with Corey Costanzo: Still Point Wellness   Sponsored by Still Point Wellness   Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!   Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372.   Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation and Esalen Massage®!     Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!   Theme music provided by Adi the Monk  

Andy Bosley is the co-founder of Yellowroot Farm CSA. He is currently studying to become an electrician, focusing on residential solar power. His journey into Men’s Work initially began in 2004. Since then, he has become increasingly involved in projects that impact and improve the relationships men have with other men such as the ManKind Project and the New Warrior Training Adventure.   Andy joins me today to share his perspective on having healthy male relationships and how he became involved in projects like the ManKind Project. He shares his experience with the New Warrior Training Adventure and how it has impacted his relationships with other men in his life. We discuss the connection between a man’s feeling of self-worth and their feelings of inadequacy and expressions of anger. He also shares how the concept of shadow work and inner emotional work can impact a man’s relationship with their spouse, partner, or significant other as well as why women should encourage men to build healthy, authentic, and vulnerable connections with other men.   This episode will also help women that want to better understand men’s thoughts and feelings on a deeper, more intimate level.     “Feeling heard is a way of connecting.” - Andy Bosley    This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:   His experience with the ManKind Project and New Warrior Training Adventure. The importance of men getting comfortable with being vulnerable around other men. The difference between “male bonding” and “male connecting.” Understanding the pros and cons of “being right” vs. “being heard.” The Shadow Work Concept and how it drives change in male relationships. The connection between a man’s self-worth, feelings of inadequacy, and expressions of anger. Safe ways men can express their anger. How learning to safely express his anger has enriched his relationships. Why it is critical for men to find a safe space to be their authentic, vulnerable selves. How men can help other men overcome tendencies of grandiosity, narcissism, and depression. Why women should encourage men to build healthy connections with other men. How his relationship with his partner has benefitted from the Men’s Work experience. The difference between feeling guilty and feeling shameful. How the work he has done internally has impacted the way he connects with and raises his children. The importance of allowing children to realize their feelings and emotions are normal and acceptable. The impact that modeling healthy emotional behaviors can have on young men and children. What it means for men to be deprived of intimacy from other men - beyond the sexual identity aspect - and why it’s important for healthy male relationships.     Connect with Andy Bosley:   Earthhaven Ecovillage Yellowroot Farm CSA    Sponsored by Still Point Wellness   Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!   Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372.   Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation and Esalen Massage®!     Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!   Theme music provided by Adi the Monk  

One of the most common complaints in distressed marriages, partnerships, and relationships is that one - or both - people feel as though the other is not really listening to them. Mastering the art of listening is a critical component for improving your communication skills - and ultimately - your ability to deepen your connection with your partner and the people around you.   On today’s episode, I discuss the importance of honing your listening skills and how it can impact and improve your relationship with your partner as well as your friends, family, and colleagues. I explain what reflective listening is and how monitoring your self-talk can impact your ability to become a good listener for others. I also explain what it means to listen with empathy and how being present, curious, and interested in a conversation you are engaged in can impact the way the speaker feels as well as how it can help deepen the connection with them.       “Listening and empathy skills are the hallmarks of good communicators.” - Pripo Teplitsky       This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:   What is “true listening?” How being authentically curious and interested in your partner impacts your listening skills. What it means to “listen with the ears of the heart.” How monitoring your self-talk during a conversation impacts your ability to be a present and empathetic listener. How to become a reflective listener. The difference between agreeing with the speaker vs. validating and acknowledging their experience and emotions. The importance of eye contact. Why it’s important to resist the temptation to engage your thoughts that might interrupt the speaker’s train of thought. Resisting the urge to fill moments of silence. The importance of being honest when you’re distracted during a conversation. Getting clear on what the speaker expects from the listener. The correlation between your listening skills and intimacy. How breathing impacts your ability to listen and be present in a conversation. How deep listening creates authentic connections between individuals and partners.       Join Us for The Power of Appreciation Workshop   Join Pripo and his beautiful wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky, on Sunday, November 11, 2018, in Asheville, NC to learn the secrets of unlocking the Power of Appreciation in your relationships. Genuine appreciation, regardless of how simple or profound, has been proven to bring an immediate shift in the quality and closeness of loving relationships. The Power of Appreciation Workshop will teach you the necessary skills and fundamental process of enriching your relationship with your partner, deepening the connection, and enhancing the flow of positive.   To learn more about The Power of Appreciation Workshop, and to register, visit HeartShare Counseling & Consulting PC or call (828) 712-8398.     Sponsored by Still Point Wellness   Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!   Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372.   Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation and Esalen Massage®!     Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!   Theme music provided by Adi the Monk

Corey Costanzo is the co-owner of Still Point Wellness, an award-winning spa in Asheville, North Carolina. He is a licensed clinical addictions counselor, trauma and anxiety specialist, music therapist, and mindfulness meditation teacher. He earned his master’s degree in Clinical Psychology with a focus on Somatic Psychology. Additionally, he is a certified Esalen Massage and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner as well as a very talented didgeridoo player.   Corey joins me today to share how he is using sound and vibration as a tool to heal and transform the lives of those around him. He explains how sound helps in becoming more attune with your partner and its impact on the connection you build with them. He also explains how harmonics and vibrations influence partnerships, strategies to become more attuned to yourself as well as your partner, and how he uses the didgeridoo as a guided meditation tool in his philanthropic work.   “Attunement is a beautiful ingredient to the recipe of a successful relationship - and a successful life.” - Corey Costanzo   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:   How he uses sound and healing as meditative tools to impact the healing and transformation process. Using the didgeridoo as a healing instrument in guided meditation sessions. The “Inside Out” meditation strategy and how it works. The history of the didgeridoo. How his guided meditation sessions with the didgeridoo at a men’s detention center helped transform the lives of incarcerated men and trauma sufferers. The connection between emotional attunement and harmonic attunement. How attunement can be positive or negative. How being attuned to yourself - your knowing, alignment, and groundedness - impacts your ability to be attuned to others. Strategies to become attuned to yourself, your energy, and your personal space. The power of mental imagery, visualization techniques, and self-attunement. Designing your life with awareness and thought through mindfulness and attunement techniques.     Resources Mentioned:   Touch the Sound Documentary Ear Hustle Podcast Light A Path Organization Asheville Community Yoga The Effects of Mental Imagery on Free Throw Performance study by The College at Brockport: State University of New York   Connect with Corey Costanzo:   Still Point Wellness    Sponsored by Still Point Wellness   Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!   Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372.   Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation and Esalen Massage®!   Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!   Theme music provided by Adi the Monk

One of the most powerful ways of showing your love and deepening the connection of your relationships is through the power of appreciation. Research studies have shown that it takes at least five positive interactions in a relationship to every one negative interaction for a spouse, partner, or significant other to truly feel appreciated. Today, many couples struggle to share and receive deep appreciation - for a variety of reasons.   So, how can we strengthen the emotional connections we share with our loved ones? How do you begin showing your appreciation for the people around you if you’ve never been given a positive example to model and emulate?   On today’s episode, I explain how sharing your appreciation for those around you - as well as being open to receiving it - can impact the way we connect with others and the world around us. I explain how feeling appreciated can impact your health as well as your intimate relationship with your spouse and how the power of appreciation can impact a couple’s ability to communicate better, cope with challenging issues, and repair conflicts. I also share practical strategies you can use to begin improving your relationships through the power of appreciation.       “Appreciation is like the vitamins in a couple’s immune system.” - Pripo Teplitsky       This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:   The importance of appreciating things in the moment - instead of waiting until it’s too late. The “Zap Out” technique and how it helps inspire and encourage feelings of appreciation. Why being authentic about your appreciation for others is critical for the receiver to feel appreciated. How feeling appreciated impacts your health and the “feel-good” hormones, oxytocin and serotonin. What is “The Couple Bubble” and how it impacts your personal How grounding the connection of your relationships in appreciation can help couples cope with challenges, communicate better, and repair conflicts. How giving and receiving appreciation can impact a couple’s intimacy and sexual desire. What is “Appreciation HeartShares,” how the exercise can be used to positivity impact your relationships, and why you should do it regularly. How focusing on negativity blocks your ability to show appreciation. Why parents should model appreciation for - and with - their children. Strategies for consistently practicing the art of appreciation. The impact of using positive interactions and endearing, loving names during moments of conflict. Why it’s critical to be specific when sharing your appreciation for others. How writing - and speaking - your appreciation for others can empower and deepen your relationship.         Sponsored by Still Point Wellness   Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!   Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372.   Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation and Esalen Massage®!     Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!   Theme music provided by Adi the Monk  

Lee Warren is an herbalist, writer, teacher, and food activist with an avid interest in rural wisdom, alternative relationships, sustainable economics, and women’s issues. She is the co-founder, designer, and builder of Earthaven Ecovillage, an off-grid, sustainable-built, co-housing neighborhood in Black Mountain, North Carolina. She is the founder and Manager of Imani Farm, a 5-acre pasture-based co-op farm as well as the Managing Partner of S.O.I.L. - the School of Integrated Living - which teaches organic food production, regenerated systems, and community living.   Lee joins me today to discuss the dynamics of monogamous and alternative relationships, why she believes many first-marriages often result in divorce and the importance of being open to experimentation and exploring new possibilities. We discuss the difference between open relationships and polyamory and the qualities that make up healthy, loving, and successful relationships. She explains why she believes there’s a lack of abundance regarding love, touch, sexual expression, and sensuality in today’s society and culture. She also explains how your intrapersonal relationship impacts your interpersonal relationships and how “emotional foreplay” can improve relational communication and understanding between men and women.   “We need to be experimenting on every level.” - Lee Warren   This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:   Her perspective on monogamous and alternative relationships. Divorce statistics involving monogamous marriages. Values and qualities of successful relationships. The difference between open relationships and polyamory. How much of your needs should be met by your primary partner? Finding rich, diverse, loving relationships without involving the sexuality factor. Why she believes we live in a culture of ‘lack’ regarding love, touch, sexual expression, and sensuality. How the primary partnership relationship model can sometimes contract the feeling of freedom. How society, culture, and economics incentivizes being in a nuclear family. Intentional communities and how they inspire and encourage experimentation and explore new possibilities. How community-life inspires a culture of sharing, openness, and experimentation. What are the “Zones of Intimacy” and how they relate to the relationships we develop? Skills we need to teach the younger generations to improve the relational evolution. Why intrapersonal relationships are critical for developing successful interpersonal relationships. Why men and women need to understand how each gender processes thoughts and feelings and how it can improve your relationships. What “emotional foreplay” is and how it can impact your relational communication. The benefits of having a primary, monogamous relationship without living together and how it affects the relationship dynamics.     Resources:   How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving by David Richo     Connect with Lee Warren:   Earthaven Ecovillage Imani Farm O.I.L - School of Integrated Living     Sponsored by Still Point Wellness   Still Point Wellness is Asheville’s premier spa experience. Enjoy effortless relaxation and rejuvenate your body through Still Point’s world-class services including Esalen Massage®, Salt Water Floatation also known as sensory deprivation, Cranial Sacral Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. Experience the healing powers of deep relaxation like never before!   Schedule your first appointment by visiting www.StillPointWell.com or call (828) 348-5372.   Mention the code: Pripo to receive 10% off your first Salt Water Floatation and Esalen Massage®!     Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and share your favorite episodes on social media!   Theme music provided by Adi the Monk

Corey runs Still Point Wellness, a float and wellness center out in Asheville, North Carolina. He’ll be partnering up with Treeka Drake of One Love Float to put on a Friday Activity entitled “Shamanic Floating Concepts with Didgeridoo Journey.” Corey will be playing using his didgeridoo to take people on this sound based journey. Read […] The post 104: Corey Costanzo – Shamanic Floating Concepts appeared first on Float Conference 2020.