Boundaries & Grace with Taylor Chandler

The Season 12 Finale! Let's bring everything from these past few months together.I planned on going over just a few notes to wrap the season, but I was in the zone and we got a lot more out of this. Discussing the importance of bringing humanity and decency back to relationship conversations, while also making clear distinctions between high-value behavior and low-value behavior and the outcomes that come with the respective mindsets.Few keywords for the episode:-Two types of people in the world: the responsible and the irresponsible-Importance of principle-driven behavior and decisions-Disliking Black People being unequal to calling out “bad behavior”-Eliminating dead weight from your life-Intro to my frameworks on individual and relational development (Phase 2)Thank you for your support!Let's Work Together: Interest Form Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

We've had years of polarizing relationship content and we need to get clear on how to move forward.In this episode, we dive into the key differences between pro-social and anti-social people, exploring where these traits stem from—specifically the aspects of someone's upbringing. We discuss the importance of aligning with pro-social individuals to foster positive change in relationships and families. References:https://www.statista.com/statistics/205097/percentage-of-poor-black-married-couple-families-in-the-us/#:~:text=U.S.%20poverty%20rate%20of%20Black%20married%2Dcouple%20families%201990%2D2023&text=In%202023%2C%206.5%20percent%20of,line%20in%20the%20United%20States.https://blackdemographics.com/https://www.census.gov/library/stories/2024/10/marriage-and-divorce.htmlThank you for your support!Let's Work Together: Interest Form Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

We've had years of polarizing relationship content and we need to get clear on how to move forward.In this episode, we dive into the key differences between pro-social and anti-social people, exploring where these traits stem from—specifically the aspects of someone's upbringing. We discuss the importance of aligning with pro-social individuals to foster positive change in relationships and families. References:https://www.statista.com/statistics/205097/percentage-of-poor-black-married-couple-families-in-the-us/#:~:text=U.S.%20poverty%20rate%20of%20Black%20married%2Dcouple%20families%201990%2D2023&text=In%202023%2C%206.5%20percent%20of,line%20in%20the%20United%20States.https://blackdemographics.com/https://www.census.gov/library/stories/2024/10/marriage-and-divorce.htmlThank you for your support!Let's Work Together: Interest Form Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Let me check myself, help you check yourself, and try to keep us balanced! In this episode, we're highlighting the issues of Radical Red Pill ideology, which is a response to problematic Radical Feminism ideology.Let's make an effort to stay sane, stay reasonable, see the value in both sides, and use critical thinking to make responsible decisions for ourselves and our relationships.Thank you for your support!Let's Work Together: Interest Form Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

I think the whole episode is more interesting than just the Main Points! Here are the 5 Tips for Moving Forward with the Mission, 5 Markers of the Inferior Man, and everything else in between.Thank you for your support!Let's Work Together: Interest Form Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

This short episode is part of a longer episode (about 1 hour). I edited this down to my first 5 tips to help us stay focused as we move forward with this work.Thank you for your support!1-on-1: Interest FormCashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Western culture has emphasized work and de-valued relationships. The impact on women is significant. Women who want marriage and family are over-burdened and under-prepared for what relationships take to thrive. Let's talk about the issues. If you want solutions, join us at workshop Saturday, Feb. 22nd 2025: Industrious Woman Workshop: RegisterThank you for your support!1-on-1: Interest FormCashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

This season is about making clear distinctions between who is who. Who can progress forward with us and who is going in a different direction.Here are 5 Markers of the Inferior ManThank you for your support!1-on-1: Interest FormCashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Last Call for Women! Examining social and cultural issues preventing women from getting the relationships they want. We're talking about the breakdown of the nuclear family, the echo chamber reinforcing faulty thinking, rejecting accountability, and cult-like thinking.The Industrious Woman Workshop - Saturday, February 22, 2025 from 11 AM - 1 PM ESTRegister: https://TaylorChandler.as.me/?appointmentType=73712513Thank you for your support!1-on-1: Interest FormCashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

-Overview of Marriage and Divorce Stats-Making sense of the Numbers-Why Black Women's Numbers Look Different From Everyone Else?-Body and Attitude FactorsReferences:https://www.niddk.nih.gov/health-information/health-statistics/overweight-obesityhttps://blogs.cdc.gov/nchs/2024/03/15/7567/https://www.census.gov/library/stories/2024/10/marriage-and-divorce.htmlhttps://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4850739/#T1Thank you for your support!1-on-1: Interest FormCashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Prioritizing Money over godly principles has put relationships in chaos - disordered and dysfunctional. Finances are seen as the root of stability rather than a solid family structure. Let's discuss the spiritual issue of disordered relationships with money and how it impacts people, specifically women.Let's work together: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/teluZNqPThank you for your support!1-on-1: Interest FormCashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Distinguish between Leading vs. Controlling vs. Condescending4 Points about Leadership4 Ways to Make Leadership BetterInterested in working together 1-on-1: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/teluZNqPInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamtaylorchandler/Thank you for your support!1-on-1: Interest FormCashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Instead of New Promises in the New Year, I'm challenging you to BREAK old ones.Happy 2025!SUBSCRIBE TO YOUTUBEThank you for your support!1-on-1: Interest FormCashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

For women facing tough internal conflicts and for men who seek to understand women better.01:50:00  Be Present03:10:00 Balance Desire and Good Stewardship03:42:00 Missed Opportunity06:48:00 Continuous Progress07:43:00 Michelle's Review09:05:00 Investing in Yourself is Attractive11:44:00 What do I pray for?16:41:00 Men & Your Accomplishments21:13:00 Do I work on this or wait for better?23:03:00 When the honeymoon endsThank you for your support!1-on-1: Interest FormCashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

An informal Q&A from my porch!Married Men Flirting, What is Cheating?, Bad Relationships with a Family Member, Do I Need to Change My Tone?,  Open Relationships, She's Great and I Don't Trust It, Dating Outside Your Circle01:16 Married Men Flirting01:38 Micro-Cheating04:40 Bad Relationship with Sibling06:07 Should I Change My Tone?14:36 My Husband Has A Problem With My Tone21:14 Gaslighting with Calm Tone24:44 Open Relationships26:25 I Don't Know How to Express Myself27:43 She's Great. Is She Putting On An Act?30:40 Can It Work with Someone Who Has More Than You?Thank you for your support!1-on-1: Interest FormCashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Giving you tools you can begin using ASAP at The Attachment Workshop! Listen in to some questions sent in on Instagram Live.Workshop is Sunday, Oct. 13 at 11 AM EST or Monday, Oct. 14 @ 6 PM EST. You choose your day!2 hour workshop for $15 (10% the price of a 1-on-1 session)Click here to RegisterThank you for your support!1-on-1: Interest FormCashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

One of the most common pairs - the Anxious-Avoidant Couple. Here are 8 Points for you to work on if this has been your pattern in dating.If you are currently in this type of relationship, you will hear things you can your partner can work on together… with a therapist!03:33 Anxious-Avoidant Pairing05:03 I Was Anxious, Then Avoidant, Then Secure07:32 Couple-Work 09:16 Boundaries15:21 Attunememt17:43 Distance19:19 The End of Negotiations22:26 Make Believe23:34 All That Time Wasted26:27 Trauma Histories27:17 Cycles28:12 Halt - Get HelpThank you for your support!1-on-1: Interest FormCashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

For single people who want to vet better! Ask THESE 5 questions to get a better idea of who you're dealing with and if they're worth your time.5 Questions you NEED to Ask Before Date 305:51 Social Media is a circus08:18 “I'd Rather Be Single”18:21 What Are You Looking For?20:15 Hedging Your Bet24:52 Do You Want Kids?31:04 First Class vs. Economy Dating36:00 “I Want Kids, but Only with the Right Person”37:36 When Did Your Last Relationship End?40:51 How Did Your Last Relationship End?46:11 What Has Your Experience Been of Me So Far?Pop the Balloon show: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=USOQid7YJ2sThank you for your support!1-on-1: Interest FormCashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Can Women and Men *really* be friends? Should you even have opposite-gender friends if you're in a romantic relationship?04:37 Will I do paid matchmaking?07:02 Free Coaching and Free Therapy - Sessions will be made public (https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/pLCXjOMz)08:46 Can women be friends with men?17:13 Context, Nuance, and Rigidity20:13 Context of Male Friendships24:44 How I Think Women Should Handle Male Friends33:17 Picking Up New Opposite-Gender Friends41:23 You Look Like a Mark42:38 Have a Conversation with Your Significant Other58:24 “My baby mama hates me and I deserve it. How do I create a better co-parent situation?”1:01:28 “What dod you do when you acknowledge your bad behaviors and still commit to the relationship, but the victim is not being graceful or is having a hard time forgiving?”Thank you for your support!1-on-1: Interest FormCashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

The last 5 questions from my Live Q&A00:38 Communication Skills06:30 “Should I date someone I'm not physically attracted to?”10:10 Look Better15:16 How does Taylor deal with negativity online?18:38 How to deal with the condescending nature of the question “Who Hurt You?”21:37 Navigating STI/STD conversations in dating?Thank you for your support!1-on-1: Interest FormCashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Be sure to follow on Instagram @iamtaylorchandler to participate LIVE and submit questions!How to stay hopeful and optimistic while dating?Social Media DetoxGet clear on your Values and what you wantBeing a Serious Person when DatingPhysical Appearance - Show up ReadySerious CommunicationKnow your Strengths and Weaknesses“I keep giving grace and they don't give grace in return”“How much time to spend before commitment?”“How do I deal with a breakup?”Thank you for your support!1-on-1: Interest FormCashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Manage the conflict between wanting a relationship while having fear of becoming too attached, or attached to the wrong person!At the end of the episode I give you 4 things you may want to consider when determining if the person you're dating is worth the investment.04:27 What does it mean to become “Attached”?06:00 Your Attitude About Attachment09:00 Fear of Becoming Dependent / Losing Yourself09:41 Interdependency 10:57 Willing and Open13:46 Comment: “Vulnerability and Attachment is seen as weakness”18:21 “I will stay single forever”21:10 When Attachment really IS Weak22:08 Good and Bad Managers24:00 Do it Anyway and Do it Responsibly Thank you for your support!1-on-1: Interest FormCashapp: $taychand Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Let's Review! Attachment is a Major Key for Better RelationshipsYour Attachment Style helps you understand how you relate to others, what your triggers and blindspots are (and why), and gives you a map to what you Need to feel safe and happy.Everyone has either an Insecure style or a Secure style.Insecure Attachers struggle with maintaining healthy relationships due to excessive anxiety and/or avoidance.The goal is to Shift to Secure attachment where you can have solid, lasting relationships. First and foremost, your relationship with yourself will improve as you get a better grasp on your emotions and thoughts. Then, you're able to engage with others in new, healthier ways.Pioneers of Attachment Theory: Mary Ainsworth and John BowlbyVolume 1 of Bowlby's Attachment Trilogy: https://www.amazon.com/Attachment-Loss-Vol-John-Bowlby/dp/0712674713Thank you for your support!1-on-1: Interest FormQuestions and Topic Requests: Submit Here$taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandlerThreads: @iamtaylorchandler

I see a clear rise in the number of women who say they are abstaining from physical intimacy. This can make dating difficult. I understand this personally!It makes it even MORE difficult when you're not really being honest with yourself and/or others about WHY you're abstaining.Here are some things to consider if you are dating while abstaining, and hopefully it is also helps men understand what questions to ask, where women are coming from in general, and how to navigate the conversation betterThank you for your support!1-on-1: Interest FormQuestions and Topic Requests: Submit Here$taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandlerThreads: @iamtaylorchandler

Most people dating seem to be WAY more concerned with what they're getting rather than what they can give!Everyone is in relationships to fulfill some kind of personal goal but it becomes selfish and toxic when you lose sight of how you can support and nourish the one you're with.Today we're talking about GIVING and RECIPROCATION.I'm highlighting 5 ways YOU can reciprocate in a relationship so you can check how well you're doing with things you can directly control TODAY.References:Obesity data: https://www.cdc.gov/obesity/data/adult.htmlhttps://minorityhealth.hhs.gov/obesity-and-african-americans#:~:text=How%20Does%20Obesity%20Affect%20African,women%20are%20overweight%20or%20obese.Infertility: https://www.nichd.nih.gov/health/topics/infertility/conditioninfo/common#:~:text=About%209%25%20of%20men%20and,States%20have%20experienced%20fertility%20problems.&text=In%20one%2Dthird%20of%20infertile,problem%20is%20with%20the%20man.Thank you for your support!1-on-1: Interest FormQuestions and Topic Requests: Submit Here$taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandlerThreads: @iamtaylorchandler

Manipulation Tactics - How to Spot Them and What to Do About ItWhat is DARVO?DENYATTACKREVERSEEffects of DARVOResist DARVOReferences: https://www.choosingtherapy.com/darvo/https://bayareacbtcenter.com/reverse-darvo-for-combating-gaslighting-and-emotional-abuse/#:~:text=What%20Is%20DARVO%3F,the%20blame%20onto%20their%20victims.Thank you for your support!1-on-1: Interest FormQuestions and Topic Requests: Submit Here$taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandlerThreads: @iamtaylorchandler

This episode is a conglomerate of a few topics!-There's a difference between wanting a relationship and being Ready for a relationship. Your emotional availability makes all the difference.-Many women can function well on their own, but still don't have the relationship they really want. Let's talk about some of the things that need to change in order to set yourself up for the man you're looking for.-Men can be giving out way too much of themselves to others in an effort to be helpful and provide. However, this leaves him drained and unavailable for the woman he really wants. Listen in on what he can do about that.-While you're single, how can you spend time most effectively?-In order to have space for a new person, you've got to get rid of the old. Let's talk about letting go, forgiveness, and those tricky ‘soul ties' that may be holding you back.Let's work together 1-on-1: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/teluZNqPThank you for your support!$taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandlerThreads: @iamtaylorchandler

When you become aware of how your childhood has impacted your adulthood, angry feelings arise towards your parents.You realize your anxiety or your avoidance is directly related to how you have experienced your mother and father.It's common to have conflicted feelings.You may struggle with loving them and resenting them. Having empathy for their experiences and feeling the pain of how their experiences have negatively affected the way they related to you.Or you may be less conflicted and more enraged. You want them to feel what you feel.Or you might be less enraged and more disconnected. The anger became too exhausting.Regardless of where you are now, I hope this episode gives language and validity to the anger associated with having parents who did not parent you in a way that gave you that you needed emotionally.**At  around minute 15:00 I should have included the BOOMERS with Gen X'ers1-on-1 Interest Form - CLICK HEREThank you for your support!$taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandlerThreads: @iamtaylorchandler

We experience frustration and pain when the position someone has in our life does not match our experience of them.For example -You can have a mother who you do not experience as mothering.A father who does not treat you like a son or daughter.A spouse who treats you like a stranger._One of the goals of this video is to help you make a distinction between Role and Relationship so that you are better able to locate where your negative emotions are likely coming from.I will also give you l ideas about how to resolve this problem!Thank you for your support!$taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandlerThreads: @iamtaylorchandler

Q&A from Dec 2023 about dating and relationship topics:Including -Serious DatingWhat does it meant to be “Exclusive”Passport brosHow to soften your communication“What do you bring to the table?”Toxic friendsEffort in datingDefensivenessVettingWhy people lieRelationship goalsCasual physical intimacy*Let's work together (1-on-1): https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/teluZNqPThank you for your support!$taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandlerThreads: @iamtaylorchandler

Attachment Wounds are the experiences that serve as catalysts for Insecure Attachment.I'm going to define specific Attachment Wounds, describe the effect of those wounds, and point you in the direction you need to go in to heal these wounds.If you don't, these wounds bleed out into your present relationships (whether platonic or romantic, but especially romantic) and negatively effect your chances of having a healthy, happy connection.KEY WORDS: emotional intelligence, emotional maturity, rejection, abandonment, relationship trauma, projection, insecure attachment, secure attachment, emotional needsLet's work together (1-on-1): https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/teluZNqPThank you for your support!$taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandlerThreads: @iamtaylorchandler

Your Attachment Style begins developing at a young age and is able to be defined by age 5!In this video I'm going to go over 4 big areas of Attachment Development1. Attachment Bases2. Concepts of Self and Other3. Programming4. Intervention01:06 Overview06:23 Self-Concept8:56 Other-Concept / Exploration12:54 Survival18:29 Programming22:05 InterventionLet's work together (1-on-1): https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/teluZNqPThank you for your support!$taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandlerThreads: @iamtaylorchandler

Tiana is basically an Attachment Expert at this point! She's done all the workshops and the Reattach Coaching Program.She has a lot of insight and wisdom for you about situationships, self-esteem, and overall guidance about what you can expect on your journey of self-improvement and healing.I'm grateful for her time and I know you're going to get a lot of out of this conversation!Thank you for your support!$taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandlerThreads: @iamtaylorchandler

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If curses and blessings are real, someone has to be doing the cursing and blessing, and that One must be God. So we need to know what God says about blessings and curses!What's the responsibility of your ancestors' for negative experiences you're having now? What's your role? And what do you do now?This is the intersection of the practical and the spiritual.1-on-1 Interest Form: Click HereThank you for your support!$taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandlerThreads: @iamtaylorchandler

When we are hurt, we may struggle to let go of the pain and we may struggle to trust again. In this episode, I'm going to talk about the impact of unforgiveness, the need for grace, and 3 ways to open yourself back up for healthy relationships.Thank you for your support!$taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandlerThreads: @iamtaylorchandler

Rafer is a husband, father, and pastor in New Mexico who struggled with Anger and Anxiety - until he did his Work! Listen in as he shares about his desire to live like Jesus, coming to terms with the fact he was not, and doing the necessary steps to change.Reattach Fast TrackBeginning August 28th1-on-1 InterestThank you for your support!$taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandlerThreads: @iamtaylorchandler

We've heard mindset is everything. Limiting Beliefs have been a popular (mainstream) way of expanding a restricted mind. But when you have a spiritual issue, you can affirm and challenge your thinking all you want and still not see the progress you should see.Strongholds are the spiritual parallels to Limiting Beliefs, but not quite equal. Strongholds are stronger and tricker to detect, in large part because mainstream culture doesn't even talk about it. Secondarily, many don't know how to take Strongholds down!This is Spiritual Warfare and it could be affecting your life and relationships right now, keeping you in negative cycles and ruts, despite how hard you try to get out of it.There is a way out! You need the right tools and the right strategy.Reattach Program1-on-1 Interest FormBible StudyThank you for your support!$taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandlerThreads: @iamtaylorchandler

A very common pattern in romantic relationships: one person is constantly trying to move the relationship in a particular direction and the other is sitting back, much less involved, engaged or active. One person feels they're the only one that really cares and the other feels helpless and powerless to really make any change.There are 3 ways of looking at this dynamic - 1. Anxious / Avoidant 2. Codependent3. Ahab / JezebelWe've talked a lot about the Anxious-Avoidant pair over the last 9 seasons and we'e broken time Codependency! Now let's see the Spiritual issue behind this dynamic._Ephesians 6:12For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.1-on-1 Interest: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/MkDPUneBBible Study: https://TaylorChandler.as.me/?appointmentType=47308139Thank you for your support!$taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler Threads: @iamtaylorchandlerYouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

What if the Self-Love movement is one big deception? What if the promises are empty and the consequences are eternal?Feeling good about yourself and thinking positively about yourself is great. But the best lies always have a little bit of truth in them. The best lies go right outside the bounds of the truth, expanding into territory that is not “real” and not “true.” Whenever you're working in “unreal territory,” your efforts are fruitless. It's like chasing the gold at the end of the rainbow… you never quite get there.I'm going to break down 4 lies of Self-Love and 4 truths to get you on track.Bible Study: Sign up hereThank you for your support!$taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler Threads: @iamtaylorchandlerYouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

The Psychology world isn't telling you everything you need to know about the issues you're facing. I actually believe they leave out the most important part. The spiritual issues behind things like childhood trauma and the manifestations in adult life. The spiritual problem behind failed relationships and inability to maintain intimate connections.In this episode we're going deeper into what comes through those "open doors" we talked about in Episode 1 of this season and how to know if you have a demon issue, not just an inner child problem!Ephesians 6:12For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.2 Corinthians 10:5We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.Bible Study: Join HereThank you for your support!$taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler Threads: @iamtaylorchandlerYouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

It's a new season! Welcome to Season 10This episode is broken up into two parts, the Standard Problem and the Spiritual Problem. In the first part, you will better understand how Attachment works, how your past affects your present, and what the essential parts are that need your focus in order to improve negative relationship patterns. You really can change what you may been experiencing all your life!You either have an Insecure or Secure Attachment.Insecure Attachers struggle with Anxiety and/or Avoidance in intimate relationships.In the second half, I introduce the Spiritual Problem.There is a spiritual association to the traumas we experience here in the physical world. Our souls are affected by emotional and mental pain.We talk about spiritual attack / demonic intrusion that occurs when you have insecure relationship experiences, such as rejection and abandonment.Ephesians 6:12For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.2 Corinthians 10:5We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.Thank you for your support!$taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler Threads: @iamtaylorchandlerYouTube: @iamtaylorchandler

Season 9 Finale!Let's go into the reality of this all-too-common and always-stressful paring: the Anxious-Preoccupied and the Dismissive-AvoidantI'll define the terms, break down what most people THINK this pairing is and what it ACTUALLY is, and I'll share what I think you should do about it!See you in season 10 :)Thank you for your support!Patreon$taychand PayPal Venmo @iamtaylorchandler

Ashley completed 1-on-1s and the Reattach Coaching Program!One of the many things I love about Ashley and this episode is that her trigger into healing her codependency occurred with a platonic friend. Many others (including me!) have experienced this with friends and it's awesome to hear someone talking openly about it, since most of the time we're referring to romantic partners.Listen to her talk about the "DREAD" she felt in this relationship and how she learned a framework for letting go that she is able to use in day-to-day life.Ashley has embraced the warm parts of her but has put boundaries in place to protect those same parts. She can be herself while not being taking advantage of or feeling resentful towards others. Success!I hope you enjoy the episode. If you want to do what she did, join us in Reattach!Reattach Coaching ProgramThank you for your support!Patreon$taychand PayPal Venmo @iamtaylorchandler

We love a Q&A! I'm helping you with...Shifting from Anxious to Secure AttachmentHealing Love AddictionWhat to do with someone who switches up on youUnderstanding StonewallsReconnectingHow to deal with people who keep reminding you of your mistakesThank you for your support!Patreon$taychand PayPal Venmo @iamtaylorchandler

10 ways to show up as more Emotionally Safe for Better Outcomes!You're going to want your notepad out for this one.The unedited version of this podcast is double the time and had me cracking up, so if you want to join us for Live Recordings, join us on Patreon! $5 / month tierIt's also a great way to give back to the podcast on the low and on the regular… if you're regularly getting better because of it!Thank you for your support!Patreon$taychand PayPal Venmo @iamtaylorchandler

My favorite dating coach has finally graced the podcast! Alison - @alignwithalison - is giving you her best tips on:Putting yourself out thereBelieving what people tell youWhat kinds of questions to ask Potential MatchesWhat to do with the Submission wordDo "the butterflies" matter?Follow her on IG here: @alignwithalison and check her services out!Thank you for your support!Patreon$taychand PayPal Venmo @iamtaylorchandler

Trust is on the GROUND FLOOR of healthy relationships! When the foundation is weak, everything else falls apart. Here's some insight into what to do about ONGOING  relationships that have experienced attachment wounds / broken trust.How to break from Denial and Clear ConfusionThe Hyper-independence to Co-dependence SpectrumThe importance of InterdependencePatreon - Live Q&A re: Emotional Safety on Sunday 3/26 at 6 PM EST Boundary PlaybookReattach Coaching Program Thank you for your support!Patreon$taychand PayPal Venmo @iamtaylorchandler

I worked with Alexandria 1-on-1 and in the Reattach Coaching Group. Then, she came to the Reattach Retreat in Atlanta - December 2022. Now, she is serving on the Reattach Team, helping others through the Reattach Program (IT'S BACK Y'ALL!) and planning the Reattach 2023 Retreat!This is what Healing sounds like :)Thank you for your support!Patreon$taychand PayPal Venmo @iamtaylorchandler

Emotional Safety is a 3-part series recorded Live on Zoom, available for Reattachers on Patreon! You can join us - click here.-What is an Emotionally Safe person?-What happens when Attachment Wounds aren't attended to?-Understand Insecure Attachment through the lens of crying babies-The link between the Past and Present-How you can start breaking Barriers to Vulnerability downThe Video Replays are available on Patreon for 30 days, so if you join late, you can still get access to the videos.Reattach is back! Read more about it here and join the Waitlist.Thank you for your support!Patreon$taychand PayPal Venmo @iamtaylorchandler

The final part in the series!-The undercover reason you pair with under-developed people-The role of anxiety-What your parent has to do with it2-Hour Live Workshop on Zoom - Sat. March 25 ($25) Replay available for attendeesThank you for your support!Patreon$taychand PayPal Venmo @iamtaylorchandler