Post Traumatic Parenting

What if your "good" childhood still left emotional scars that impact your parenting? Emotional intelligence parenting requires us to confront our own histories, even when they seem picture-perfect on the surface. In today's episode, I speak with Stephanie Pinto, author of "From Chaos to Connection," who shares her remarkable story of how her body literally shut down through fainting episodes because she couldn't process certain emotions.We'll discuss how well-meaning parents can unintentionally create emotional voids by teaching children to suppress "unacceptable" feelings. Stephanie will explain how naming emotions gives children crucial language for their inner experiences and demonstrates what true co-regulation looks like with concrete examples from her own family. You'll hear about emotion wheels, the polyvagal theory, and simple techniques to help children express big feelings safely. Most touchingly, Stephanie reveals how her personal struggles became her greatest strength as a parent. So if you've ever felt overwhelmed by your child's emotions or wondered why certain situations trigger extreme reactions in yourself, this conversation offers hope and steps forward.Topics covered on Emotional Intelligence Parenting:What is emotional intelligence parenting?How can trauma exist even in what we consider "good" childhoods?What happens in our bodies when we don't process emotions properly?Why is naming our emotions such a powerful tool for both adults and children?How can parents stay present with a child's big emotions without shutting them down?What does co-regulation look like in practice with an overwhelmed child?Why might our bodies "take us out" when emotions become too overwhelming?How can we turn our own struggles with emotional regulation into strengths as parents?Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and don't forget to subscribe to our YouTube channel Post Traumatic Parenting.For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2025/06/10/emotional-intell…-stephanie-pinto

What if you could replace timeouts with a more effective approach that actually strengthens your connection with your child? Generation Mindful founder Suzanne Tucker joins me to explore the revolutionary "time-in" approach that's changing how parents respond to big emotions.As a mom of four who grew up in a "happy-happy" household, Suzanne will share how her own trauma and loss led her to create tools that give both children and parents permission to feel all emotions. You'll hear practical ways to implement emotional literacy in your home, from simple card games to creating dedicated calming spaces. Suzanne will explain why traditional timeouts can actually reinforce shame, while time-ins build emotional intelligence that lasts a lifetime. This conversation offers a refreshing perspective for any parent who's felt overwhelmed by tantrums or worried they're "doing it wrong." So if you've ever struggled to handle your child's big feelings (or your own), this episode will give you the roadmap to more peaceful, connected parenting without expecting perfection from yourself or your child.Topics covered on Generation Mindful:What happens when we grow up in families where only "happy" emotions are allowed?Why are timeouts harmful and how do "time-ins" offer a better alternative for both children and parents?What's the connection between emotional regulation and using concrete tools like Generation Mindful's card decks?Why does labeling a feeling as something we "have" rather than something we "are" make such a difference?How can we recognize when a child's difficult behavior is actually communication about unmet needs?What simple rituals can families implement to start building emotional literacy from an early age?How does permission to feel all emotions protect children from developing hidden trauma?Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and don't forget to subscribe to our YouTube channel Post Traumatic Parenting.For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2025/05/26/how-generation-m…h-suzanne-tucker

Ever wonder if your trauma means you're destined to parent imperfectly? In today's episode, Theraplay expert Dafna Lender shares how all parents mess up - and that's actually okay!As a clinical psychologist and post-traumatic parent myself, I was fascinated by Dafna's perspective on how we can provide healthy childhoods despite our own wounds. She compassionately explains why parents with trauma histories often experience such crushing self-doubt and offers practical ways to rebuild connection through play. What struck me most was Dafna's story about a mother and adopted daughter who transformed their relationship over two years of treatment - proving healing is possible even in the most challenging circumstances. If you've ever frozen during a parenting moment, felt triggered by your child's behavior, or wondered if you're "too damaged" to parent well, this conversation will reassure you that repair is always possible. You'll learn why those moments when your kids push your buttons can become opportunities for growth rather than shame.Topics covered on Theraplay:How does parental trauma affect our ability to be responsive to our children's needs?Why do we feel like our children are "triggering" us, and what can we do about those moments?What happens when professionals exclude parents from their child's therapy sessions?How can theraplay help rebuild damaged relationships between parents and children?Why do parents without secure attachment models experience more self-doubt?How can we explain our trauma responses to our children in age-appropriate ways?How long does it really take to repair damaged attachments between parents and children?Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and don't forget to subscribe to our YouTube channel Post Traumatic Parenting.For full show notes and more resources visit https://www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2025/05/09/theraplay-healin…ith-dafna-lender

What if the way we parent is shaped more by culture than we realize? Multicultural parenting offers a fresh perspective on how families around the world build community and raise children. In today's episode, I sit down with Marina Lopes, a Brazilian American journalist and author of "Please Yell At My Kids," to explore how cultural traditions influence parenting decisions and what we can learn from them.We discuss the challenges American parents face, often raising children without the support systems found in other cultures, and how this independence can feel isolating. Marina shares her experiences from living and parenting across ten countries, offering stories that challenge assumptions and inspire new ways of thinking about family and community.Together, we explore the role of multigenerational relationships, the importance of creating a support network, and how traditions from around the world can help us rethink parenting norms. Tune in to discover how embracing different perspectives can make parenting a more connected and fulfilling experience!Topics covered on Multicultural Parenting:What can we learn from multicultural parenting practices around the world to challenge our assumptions and improve our own parenting?How does the American emphasis on independence impact parents and their sense of community?What unique postpartum traditions exist globally, and how can they inspire us to better support new parents?How can we embrace multicultural parenting to create a more inclusive and supportive parenting experience?How can we adapt global parenting traditions to fit our own lives and create a stronger sense of belonging?What surprising lessons can we take from cultures where parenting is a shared responsibility?Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and don't forget to subscribe to our YouTube channel Post Traumatic Parenting.For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2025/04/23/multicultural-parenting-lessons-from-around-the-world-with-marina-lopes

What role does emotional regulation play in post-traumatic parenting, and how can it shape the way we connect with our kids? In today's episode, I sit down with Dajana Yoakley, a peaceful and playful parenting coach, to explore how neuroscience, mindfulness, and self-compassion can guide us through the challenges of raising children. Dajana shares her personal journey from corporate leadership to parenting, offering stories about navigating toddler tantrums, pre-teen autonomy, and everything in between.We discuss how to move away from control-based parenting and instead focus on fostering connection, respect, and empathy. Dajana explains why it's essential to understand your child's development and how your own emotional state can influence their behavior. We also talk about the importance of self-compassion, building a supportive community, and allowing children to express their individuality while maintaining boundaries. Tune in to hear how small shifts in perspective can make a big difference in your parenting approach.Topics covered on Emotional Regulation:How can post-traumatic parents navigate the triggers that arise when children assert their autonomy?How can we foster emotional regulation in both ourselves and our children?Why is it important to respect children's preferences and individuality?What role does playfulness have in building stronger bonds with children?How can parents support their children's autonomy while maintaining boundaries?What steps can post-traumatic parents take to build a supportive community and stay motivated on their parenting journey?Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and don't forget to subscribe to our YouTube channel Post Traumatic Parenting.For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2025/04/11/how-emotional-re…h-dajana-yoakley/

What does raising strong-willed children really look like when life throws unexpected challenges your way? In today's episode, I sit down with Sonali Vongchusiri, a passionate advocate for parenting with humor and compassion, to explore how we can connect with our kids while honoring their unique needs—and our own. Sonali shares her personal experiences of parenting while navigating life with legal blindness and albinism, offering a fresh perspective on balancing visible and invisible challenges.We dive into the importance of embracing differences, processing emotions creatively, and fostering genuine connections with our children. Sonali's stories will make you laugh, reflect, and maybe even rethink how you approach parenting. Whether you're raising a deeply feeling child, a strong-willed one, or both, this conversation is packed with relatable moments and practical ways to create a family dynamic where everyone feels seen, heard, and valued.If you've ever wondered how to meet your child's needs while staying true to yourself, this episode is for you. Join us as we explore how to parent with authenticity, humor, and heart.Topics covered on Raising Strong-Willed Children:How can we embrace our own differences and teach our children to celebrate theirs?What does it mean to balance visible and invisible needs in parenting, and how can we do it effectively?How can humor and creativity help us process emotions and connect with our kids in meaningful ways?What are the unique challenges of raising strong-willed children, and how can we navigate them with compassion?How can we use rituals and small moments to build deep, lasting connections with our children?How can we reframe challenges like dissociation or sensory sensitivities into opportunities for growth and connection?How can we empower our kids to handle difficult questions or situations with confidence and humor?Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and don't forget to subscribe to our YouTube channel Post Traumatic Parenting.For full show notes and more resources visit https://www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2025/03/19/raising-strong-w…nali-vongchusiri/

Are you feeling the weight of parental burnout and looking for relief? Parental burnout is a reality many of us face, but what if there were a way to navigate it with mindfulness and compassion? In today's episode, I sit down with Sally Arnold, a renowned mindfulness educator and parenting coach, to explore how small, practical mindfulness practices can make a significant difference in our lives as parents.We'll dive into the importance of community support and self-compassion, and how these elements can help us manage stress and build resilience. Sally will share her journey and insights, offering a fresh perspective on how to approach parenting challenges in today's fast-paced world. Join us as we discuss the impact of social media on parenting, the role of mindfulness in overcoming parental burnout, and the power of connecting with others who understand our struggles.Whether you're a parent seeking support or simply curious about mindfulness, this episode offers a heartfelt conversation that resonates with anyone navigating the complexities of parenting. Tune in and discover how to create a more mindful and connected parenting experience.Topics covered on Parental Burnout:What is parental burnout and why do most parents feel reluctant to admit they're experiencing parental burnout?What are the differences in parental burnout experiences between parents of young children and teenagers?Why is community support crucial for parents experiencing parental burnout?How can mindfulness help post-traumatic parents manage parental burnout and stress?What are the small, practical mindfulness practices that can make a big difference in your parenting?How do you start reclaiming joy when you're at the end of your rope as a parent?How can parents create a safe space for their children to express difficult emotions?Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and don't forget to subscribe to our YouTube channel Post Traumatic Parenting.For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2025/03/11/the-truth-about-…ith-sally-arnold

Have you ever wondered how EMDR therapy can change the way we process trauma? Join me in today's episode as I sit down with Dr. Deborah Korn, a leading expert in EMDR, to explore the profound impact this therapy can have on healing traumatic memories. Together, we'll dive into the intricacies of how traumatic experiences get locked in our nervous system and how EMDR therapy helps in reprocessing these memories to reduce distress and foster healing. Dr. Korn will share her wealth of knowledge on the importance of a safe therapeutic relationship and how EMDR can facilitate post-traumatic growth. We'll also discuss the challenges of accessing therapy, the importance of working with well-trained therapists, and what questions to ask when choosing the right therapist for you. Join us for an engaging and informative discussion that will leave you with a deeper understanding of EMDR therapy and its role in trauma recovery.Topics covered on EMDR Therapy:What is EMDR therapy?How do traumatic memories become locked in the nervous system, and what impact does this have on trauma symptomatology?What are the common misconceptions about EMDR therapy, and how does it differ from other therapeutic approaches?How can EMDR therapy help us process and heal from past traumas that affect our present lives?How can EMDR therapy help integrate new positive beliefs and perspectives?What are the misconceptions about PTSD triggers, and how can understanding them improve our parenting?How can clients ensure they are working with a well-trained EMDR therapist, and what questions should they ask?Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and don't forget to subscribe to our YouTube channel Post Traumatic Parenting.For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2025/02/19/emdr-therapy-for…-dr-deborah-korn

Are you ready to confront the invisible bruises that linger from your past? In today's episode, we'll talk about breaking the cycle of family trauma with my guest, Dr. Kaytee Gillis, a psychotherapist and author with a passion for working with survivors of relationship and family trauma. As a fellow advocate for trauma survivors, Kaytee will share her journey and expertise in helping individuals heal from the scars of psychological abuse.We'll discuss the importance of acknowledging the trauma of absence, such as neglect and abandonment, and how these invisible wounds can impact our lives. Kaytee and I share our passion for a complex trauma-informed approach, emphasizing that healing is a journey, not a destination. We'll also touch on the societal perceptions of trauma and how they have evolved over time.Join us as we'll navigate the path to self-awareness and healing, offering a candid conversation about the realities of breaking free from harmful patterns. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of resilience and the power of understanding our past to create a better future for ourselves and our children.Topics covered on Breaking the Cycle of Family Trauma:What is one of the often-overlooked traumas?How have societal perceptions of trauma evolved in the last years?What is Kaytee's book "Invisible Bruises" about?What does it mean to break the cycle of family trauma?How can you avoid repeating harmful patterns with your children?How do we navigate the complexities of post-traumatic parenting?What are the challenges of understanding trauma beyond physical abuse?Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and don't forget to subscribe to our YouTube channel Post Traumatic Parenting.For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2025/02/05/invisible-bruise…th-kaytee-gillis

Welcome back to another episode of the Post Traumatic Podcast! For today's episode, I invited another special guest, Sarah Hoover—the author of the book Motherload, who will share her raw and honest birth trauma story and how it redefined her motherhood journey.We'll talk about the unspoken challenges of postpartum depression and the societal pressures that often leave new mothers feeling isolated. Sarah will open up about her personal struggles, revealing the vulnerability and courage it took to confront her own truths. We'll discuss the importance of empathy and trauma-informed care in transforming the childbirth experience, and why sharing these stories is crucial for breaking the cycle of shame and silence.This conversation is not just about motherhood; it's about understanding the profound impact of birth trauma on our lives and the power of speaking our truths. Tune in to hear Sarah's story and gain a deeper understanding of the complexities of motherhood in today's world.Topics covered on Birth Trauma Story:Sarah's birth trauma story and the hidden challenges of motherhood that she revealed in her book.How does trauma influence maternal instincts and the parenting journey?Why is the myth of instant maternal love a disservice to new mothers?How can empathy and trauma-informed care transform the childbirth experience?What role does societal pressure play in shaping a mother's mental health?The long-term effects of postpartum depression on both mothers and their families.How can mothers advocate for themselves in a medical system that often overlooks trauma?Why is it crucial for healthcare providers to understand and address trauma in their practice?Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and don't forget to subscribe to our YouTube channel Post Traumatic Parenting.For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2025/01/22/the-motherload-sarah-hoovers-birth-trauma-story

Are you ready to discover the secrets to building resilience in children? For today's episode, I invited Dr. Tovah Klein, a renowned psychologist and author, who shares her expertise on nurturing resilience in kids. We will explore the five foundational pillars that support resilience and discuss how parents can help their children navigate life's uncertainties. Dr. Klein offers thoughtful perspectives on managing emotions, understanding the impact of our own trauma on parenting, and finding the balance between support and independence. We will also address common parenting challenges, such as dealing with selective mutism and the importance of accepting children for who they are. Tune in to learn how to create a safe and supportive environment that encourages your child's growth and adaptability. This episode will provide you with a fresh perspective on parenting and resilience, leaving you with plenty to think about and apply in your own family life!Topics covered on Building Resilience in Children:How to build resilience in children during uncertain times?What are the five pillars of building resilience in children, and how do they help kids thrive?Why is it crucial to allow children to experience all emotions?What strategies can help parents avoid over-involvement in their child's life?The importance of accepting your children for who they are, and how it affects their development.How can parents manage their own triggers while supporting their children?How can you support your kids in developing independence and self-agency?Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and don't forget to subscribe to our YouTube channel Post Traumatic Parenting.For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2025/01/08/building-resilie…tegies-that-work

How can the Hand in Hand Parenting approach transform your relationship with your child? In today's episode, we explore this question with Emily Murray, a certified Hand in Hand Parenting instructor. You'll discover how this approach emphasizes building strong connections through five essential tools that can reshape how you interact with your children. Emily shares her personal experiences and insights into how understanding emotional triggers can lead to more meaningful parenting moments.We'll dive into the practical aspects of listening partnerships and special time, offering a fresh perspective on how these techniques can help you reconnect with your child. Emily's journey from struggling with parenting challenges to becoming an advocate for this approach provides relatable and inspiring stories that every parent can learn from.Join us as we discuss the nuances of setting boundaries while maintaining a nurturing environment, and how humor and empathy can enhance your parenting style. Tune in to explore how the Hand in Hand Parenting approach can make a difference in your everyday interactions.Topics covered on Hand in Hand Parenting Approach:What is the Hand in Hand parenting approach, and how can it transform your relationship with your child?How can understanding your emotional triggers improve your parenting?Why is being truly listened to so powerful for both parents and children?How can humor and empathy play a crucial role in effective parenting?What are stealth special time and play listening, and how can they help reconnect you with your child?How can you provide a supportive environment for your child to express emotions while maintaining consistent boundaries?Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and don't forget to subscribe to our YouTube channel Post Traumatic Parenting.For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2024/12/18/the-hand-in-hand…s-with-your-kids/

Are you curious about developing friendship skills in kids? Join me in today's episode as I explore this vital topic with Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore, a renowned psychologist and author. We'll dive into the common myths surrounding children's self-esteem and why these misconceptions might be holding them back. You'll discover how focusing on connection, competence, and choice can help your child develop a healthy sense of self and navigate social challenges with confidence.We'll also tackle the crucial distinction between bullying and ordinary meanness, offering strategies for parents to address each situation appropriately. For post-traumatic parents, Dr. Kennedy-Moore shares insights on managing personal triggers and fostering empathy in your parenting approach. Additionally, we'll discuss the impact of social media on children's friendships and how to guide them in building genuine connections.This episode is full of thoughtful discussions and practical strategies to support your child's social development. Whether you're dealing with friendship struggles or simply want to enhance your child's social skills, this conversation offers valuable perspectives and tools to help you along the way. Tune in now!Topics covered on Developing Friendship Skills in Kids:What are the common myths about children's self-esteem, and why are they misleading?How can post-traumatic parents help their children focus on connection, competence, and choice to build a healthy sense of self?Why is it important to distinguish between bullying and ordinary meanness, and how can parents address each?How can post-traumatic parents manage their triggers when their children's social struggles arise?What strategies can parents use to encourage empathy and effective communication in their children?How does the concept of a "quiet ego" contribute to a child's development, and why is it beneficial?In what ways can parents support their children in navigating social feedback and building resilience?What are the implications of labeling every negative interaction as bullying, and how can this affect children?Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and don't forget to subscribe to our YouTube channel Post Traumatic Parenting.For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2024/12/04/developing-friendship-skills-in-kids-a-guide-for-post-traumatic-parents/

Are you curious about art therapy and how it could help you and your children process trauma? In today's episode, I sit down with Leah Guzman, an art therapist, artist, and author, to explore the profound impact of art therapy on emotional healing. We'll dive into how art can serve as a powerful tool for expressing emotions that words often fail to capture. Leah shares her unique techniques, like using colors to convey feelings and creating art journals, which can be particularly beneficial for both children and parents navigating the complexities of trauma. We'll also discuss the importance of self-care for parents and how balancing formal art training with personal creativity can enhance the therapeutic process.Whether you're a parent looking to support your child's emotional well-being or someone interested in the healing potential of art, this episode offers valuable perspectives and resources. Tune in to discover how art therapy can become a meaningful part of your journey toward healing and connection with your loved ones.Topics covered on Art Therapy:How can art therapy help children and adults process trauma?What role does creativity play in post-traumatic parenting?How can parents use art to connect with their children?What are some effective art therapy techniques for emotional expression?Why is it important for parents to engage in creative activities with their children?How can art journals serve as a therapeutic tool for kids?How can art therapy be a soft entry point for children in counseling?Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and don't forget to subscribe to our YouTube channel Post Traumatic Parenting.For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2024/11/21/healing-connecti…with-leah-guzman/

Are you ready to transform your parenting approach with conscious communication? In today's episode, we're diving into the world of conscious communication with our children in a way that fosters respect, understanding, and emotional growth. Joined by Lori Petro, founder of Teach Through Love, we explore the profound impact of our words and how they shape our children's lives. You'll discover the power of shifting from punitive to empathetic language and learn practical strategies to connect with your kids on a deeper level.We'll discuss the challenges of breaking free from the communication patterns we inherited and how to create a nurturing environment that supports both parents and children. Whether you're dealing with a messy room or a child who struggles with homework, this episode offers insights into addressing these everyday issues with compassion and clarity. Tune in to learn how to regulate your own emotions, repair relationships, and build a foundation of trust and love with your children. Don't miss out on this opportunity to enhance your parenting skills and create lasting positive change in your family's dynamic.Topics covered on Conscious Communication:What is conscious communication and how can it transform your parenting approach?Why is shifting your perspective crucial in parenting, especially for post-traumatic parents?What are Conscious Communication Cards?How can Conscious Communication Cards change the way you communicate with your children?How can emotional regulation techniques improve your interactions with your children?What are effective strategies for repairing and strengthening relationships with your children, even if mistakes have been made?Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and don't forget to subscribe to our YouTube channel Post Traumatic Parenting.For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2024/11/06/conscious-communication-how-to-effectively-communicate-with-your-children/

Are you navigating the rollercoaster of matrescence and feeling overwhelmed? You're not alone! Dive into today's conversation with Dr. Nikki Pensack, author of "Rattled," where we peel back the layers of becoming a new parent, discussing why this transformation is a normative trauma, regardless of your background or education.You'll discover how your brain's incredible ability for self-directed neuroplasticity during motherhood can be your ally in achieving post-traumatic growth. Plus, you'll learn to embrace the 'mommy brain' as a badge of honor, showcasing your newfound emotional intelligence and multitasking prowess. This episode is a treasure trove of insights that will empower you to own your journey through parenthood with confidence.Join us as we normalize the struggles, celebrate the strengths, and provide practical tips for thriving during one of life's most intense transitions. Tune in now and become part of a community that understands the unique challenges and joys of post-traumatic parenting. Your adventure through matrescence awaits!Topics covered on Matrescence:What is matrescence?How can the intense challenges of new motherhood lead to personal growth and transformation?Why is no one immune to the struggles of matrescence?Insights from Dr. Nikki Pensack's book "Rattled" for mothers navigating the tumultuous period of matrescence.How can the skills honed during matrescence be valuable assets in the professional world?Why is it important to normalize the difficulties of motherhood instead of perpetuating the myth of perfection?Reframing the concept of "mommy brain" from a negative stereotype to a recognition of a mother's cognitive strengths.What strategies can mothers use to navigate the return to work after maternity leave with confidence and strength?Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and don't forget to subscribe to our YouTube channel Post Traumatic Parenting.For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2024/04/25/embracing-matres…dr-nicole-pensak/

Are you a post-traumatic parent struggling to navigate the complexities of relational aggression and bullying? Tune in to today's episode where we'll dive into the world of relational aggression with Rosalind Wiseman, the author behind "Queen Bees and Wannabes" – the book that sparked the hit movie "Mean Girls." You'll discover how to empower your children and yourself to rise above bullying, maintain dignity, and foster respect in the face of life's challenges. We'll explore the invisible rules of social dynamics that can leave us feeling lost and the importance of understanding the difference between respect and dignity. Rosalind will share lots of practical examples on how to deal with passive-aggressive behavior within families and how to support your kids through discomfort without overprotecting them. This episode is a must-listen for any post-traumatic parent seeking to navigate these difficult social challenges so they can provide a healthy childhood for their children.Topics covered on Navigating Relational Aggression Bullying for Post-Traumatic Parents:What is relational aggression bullying, and how does it affect children, especially those with traumatic backgrounds?How did the book "Queen Bees and Wannabes" inspire the movie "Mean Girls," and why is it a must-read for understanding girl dynamics?Why are dignity and respect crucial in post-traumatic parenting, and how can parents ensure their children feel their inherent worth?How can post-traumatic parents help their kids navigate social challenges effectively?Practical examples of how to deal with passive-aggressive behavior without losing authenticity or self-respect.How to ask the right questions that lead to self-reflection and better management of difficult conversations.What strategies can post-traumatic parents use to manage their bandwidth and still connect authentically with their kids during tough times?Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and don't forget to subscribe to our YouTube channel Post Traumatic Parenting.For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2024/04/11/navigating-relat…rosalind-wiseman/

Healing from childhood trauma is at the heart of today's podcast episode, where I sit down with Brandi Cox, author of "In Better Hands: An Appalachian Memoir of Healing and Grace." Brandi's raw and inspiring narrative, released just this year, offers a beacon of hope to anyone navigating the aftermath of a turbulent past. As a debut author, she shares her compelling desire to use her story as a catalyst for change, providing insight into the possibility of breaking free from the chains of generational curses. Join us as we dive into the essence of Brandi's journey, exploring the resilience of the human spirit and the transformative power of sharing one's truth. This episode is filled with candid conversations that will not only enlighten but also embolden you to believe in the dawn that follows the darkest of nights. So, if you're seeking a sign of hope or a reminder that healing is within reach, this conversation with Brandi Cox is an essential listen.Topics covered on Healing from Childhood Trauma:Brandi Cox's memoir about overcoming and healing from childhood trauma.How did Brandi navigate knowing her birth father but being raised by her grandparents?What challenges did Brandi face when transitioning into motherhood given her past?How has Brandi's approach to parenting been shaped by her own experiences?What drove Brandi to seek counseling, and how did it help her heal from childhood trauma?How did cultural and regional attitudes shape Brandi's experience with mental healthWhat revelations or unexpected memories surfaced while writing her memoir?Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and don't forget to subscribe to our YouTube channel Post Traumatic Parenting.For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2024/02/15/from-trauma-to-hope-brandi-coxs-story-of-healing-from-childhood-trauma

Welcome to a very special episode of the Post Traumatic Parenting podcast! I'm so excited about today's episode because I had the chance to sit down with Kimberly Shannon Murphy, an incredible stuntwoman and gifted author of the book Glimmer. In our conversation, we dove deep into the profound impact of generational trauma and post-traumatic parenting. Kimberly opened up about her personal journey of overcoming incest and how this experience shaped her life and approach to motherhood. This episode is not just about survival but also about breaking cycles of generational abuse and forging a new path for our children and future generations. While we do touch on sensitive topics, our conversation is ultimately one of resilience, healing, and hope. Whether you're taking your first steps toward healing or you're further along on your path, joining us today could be a pivotal point in your own narrative. Tune in, and perhaps even ignite the spark for your personal healing journey.Topics covered on Healing From Generational Trauma:How did Kimberly's experiences with abuse shape her journey into motherhood, and what does she share in her memoir "Glimmer"?What were the biggest challenges Kimberly faced when trying to parent her daughter?Breaking the cycle of generational trauma and providing a healthier childhood for our children.The body memories and the physical aspects of trauma in our everyday lives and on parenting.How can we reclaim our bodies and lives after experiencing trauma?The power of sharing personal stories in generational trauma.How does the concept of forgiveness play a role in healing from generational trauma, and is it necessary for everyone?How can we use our trauma as a springboard for growth and healing, rather than letting it define us?Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and don't forget to subscribe to our YouTube channel Post Traumatic Parenting.For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2024/01/25/breaking-the-cycle-of-generational-trauma-with-kimberly-shannon-murphy

Are you navigating the challenging waters of post-traumatic parenting of middle school children? Today, I sit down with Nik Bowers, a former middle school principal and fellow post-traumatic parent. We dive deep into our personal experiences of overcoming trauma and how it has shaped our approach to parenting. We discuss the importance of being 'cycle breakers'—striving to provide our children with healthier childhoods than we had.Nik shares her powerful story of surviving child sexual abuse and how she used her pain as a catalyst for change in her parenting style. We also delve into the critical role of teaching middle schoolers about relationships, emotions, and problem-solving. We share practical tips on how to foster authentic relationships with your kids and why it's essential to model problem-solving skills. Plus, we reveal exciting projects to help parents and children learn together.This episode is a must-listen for any parent seeking to understand and improve their approach to post-traumatic parenting of middle school children. It's an honest, raw, and insightful conversation that promises to leave you feeling empowered and equipped to face the challenges of parenting head-on. Tune in now!Topics covered on Post-traumatic Parenting of Middle School Children:How to break the cycle and provide a healthier environment for your children?Nik Bowers' personal journey from being a victim of child sexual abuse to becoming a proactive parent and educator.What are the unique challenges and opportunities of post-traumatic parenting middle schoolers?Teaching middle school children about relationships and setting boundaries.The significance of open communication between post-traumatic parents and middle school children.Using challenges as opportunities to teach children valuable life skills.How can you ensure that your children grow up to be independent problem solvers, critical thinkers, and kind individuals?Creating an authentic relationship with your children while healing your own trauma.Quote:"I always say that I paint beauty with ashes and in order to do that, you have to do the work." - Nik BowersConnect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and don't forget to subscribe to our YouTube channel Post Traumatic Parenting. For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2024/01/18/post-traumatic-p…-with-nik-bowers.

Welcome to another guest episode of Post Traumatic Parenting! In today's episode, we'll be diving deep into the complexities of navigating toxic relationships with a nationally recognized expert clinical psychologist - Dr. Sherrie Campbell. Dr. Campbell shares her personal journey of growing up in a toxic environment and how she broke free from the cycle of abuse.We discuss the importance of understanding family dynamics and setting boundaries to protect not only yourself but also your children. She provides invaluable insights on harnessing anger as a healthy emotion for justice and boundary-setting, distinguishing it from destructive rage. She emphasizes the need to prioritize your own happiness and privacy when dealing with toxic individuals. Dr. Campbell also introduces us to the concept of "gray rocking" - a strategy to navigate conversations with toxic individuals you can't avoid. This episode is a treasure trove of advice for anyone grappling with the aftermath of a toxic relationship or seeking to break free from one.A trigger warning: This episode contains swear words and discusses family estrangement. It may be triggering for parents who have experienced post-traumatic stress and have heard statements like, "If you set boundaries with me, your kids will grow up to cut you off."Topics covered on Navigating Toxic Relationships:The impact of growing up in a toxic environment on your parenting style.How can understanding family dynamics help you navigate toxic relationships?The importance of setting boundaries to protect yourself and your children from toxic relationships.How does Dr. Sherrie Campbell's personal experience inform her expertise on dealing with narcissistic and toxic people?Why is self-healing crucial for post-traumatic parents and how can you break the cycle of abuse?How can love be a powerful tool in overcoming trauma and fostering a nurturing environment for children?What is the 'gray rocking' technique and how can it be used to manage toxic relationships?Why is valuing privacy essential when dealing with toxic relationships?How can reclaiming your own happiness and psychological resources help you deal with toxic relationships?Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology. For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2023/11/29/breaking-free-fr…sherrie-campbell

Welcome to another episode of the Post Traumatic Parenting podcast! Today's episode is extra special because I'm joined by Lynn Greenberg, co-author of the book "Robby the Dyslexic Taxi and the Airport Adventure". This episode is being released in October to honor Dyslexia Awareness Month, so let's celebrate by discussing how post-traumatic parents can better support their children with dyslexia in understanding and embracing their diagnosis.If you're a loyal listener of the Post Traumatic Parenting podcast, you've heard me talk about my AIM Model - acceptance, integration, and mission. Jonathan is a perfect example of how this model can be applied. It shows us how we can take a diagnosis that initially appears as a challenge and transform it into a superpower and a unique gift. Join us in today's podcast episode to celebrate Dyslexia Awareness Month together and learn more about Jonathan & Lynn's journey, the challenges they overcame, and how it inspired them to write their beautiful and empowering book "Robby the Dyslexic Taxi and the Airport Adventure".Topics covered on Celebrating Dyslexia Awareness Month:What inspired Lynn & Jonathan to write "Robby the Dyslexic Taxi and the Airport Adventure"?How does this picture book help children with dyslexia understand and embrace their diagnosis?What is the positive message that Lynn & Jonathan aim to convey through their book?The challenges of living with dyslexia that the book acknowledges.What other neurodiverse issues do Lynn & Jonathan plan to address in future books?How do Lynn & Jonathan hope to promote acceptance and understanding of neurodiversity through their work?The impact "Robby the Dyslexic Taxi and the Airport Adventure" had on its readers.How can literature play a role in promoting empathy and understanding towards people with neurodiverse conditions such as dyslexia?What advice do Lynn & Jonathan have for parents or educators who want to support children with dyslexia?Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology. For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2023/10/25/dyslexia-awarene…h-lynn-greenberg

In today's podcast episode, we will address the concerns of post-traumatic parents who may feel a sense of sadness as they learn about cycle-breaking and attachment theory. They wonder how their own attachment experiences may have impacted their children. However, we will debunk the myth that secure attachment is beyond the reach of post-traumatic parents. Instead, we will focus on how we can work towards repairing attachment, even if it feels challenging.Throughout this episode, we will examine attachment theory through the lens of trauma and post-traumatic parenting. We will break down the components of attachment and understand how we can repair it. It is important to remember that everything can be repaired if we know how. So let's approach this episode with a positive attitude, knowing that attachment is not an unattainable concept for post-traumatic parents.Join me as we explore attachment theory, learn how to repair attachment, and empower ourselves as post-traumatic parents. Together, we can provide our children with the healthy attachment they deserve.Topics covered on What You Didn't Know About Attachment Theory:How does trauma affect our ability to form healthy attachments with our children?What is the significance of attachment theory in understanding parent-child relationships?Can feelings of sadness and inadequacy impact your role as an attachment figure for your children?How can we repair broken attachments and achieve earned security through therapy and self-work?What are the functions of the attachment system and how does trauma impact it?Why are attunement, delight, and reciprocal movement vital in building a healthy attachment with children?Is it possible to learn and repair attachment even if you did not experience it yourself?How does trauma lead to difficulties in regulating emotions and building trust?What strategies can be employed for healing and strengthening attachment relationships?Why is self-care an essential component in the journey towards healthier attachment and when should professional help be sought?Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology. For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2023/10/18/what-most-post-t…ttachment-theory

Are you a parent who has experienced trauma and is now raising a neurodiverse child? Have you ever wondered how to navigate the challenges and joys that come with it? In today's podcast episode, we discuss how to overcome the challenges of parenting a neurodiverse child while addressing your own trauma with my special guest, Dayna Abraham. Dayna is a parenting educator and author of the book "Calm the Chaos." She shares her personal journey as a parent of a neurodiverse child and how she discovered the transformative effects of shifting her mindset and questioning traditional forms of parenting. Dayna reveals how reframing can lead to positive changes in our lives and relationships with our children but that's not all! We also talk about her book "Calm the Chaos," her failproof roadmap for parenting, and how it helps parents handle challenges proactively instead of reacting in the moment. If you want to learn more about different strategies to improve your relationship with your neurodiverse child, today's episode is for you!Topics covered on PTSD Parenting Your Neurodiverse Child:Dana's journey as a post-traumatic parent and how she integrated it into her parenting values.How does Dana's book "Calm the Chaos" provide a neurologically and neurodevelopmentally informed approach to parenting?Dana speaks about navigating internal distractions, such as PTSD, while dealing with external factors like parenting challenges.Addressing your trauma while raising a neurodiverse child. How does Dana help parents who raise neurodiverse child and feel conflicted when traditional parenting approaches contradict their values?The four key elements for approaching any parenting situation.What strategies can you use to get ahead of the moment and handle parenting challenges proactively?What strategies can we use to help neurodiverse children overcome challenges and make information more concrete?How to empower neurodiverse children to take control of their own motivation and learn to hack their own brains?Practical tips for balancing personal goals, parenting, and other responsibilities.How can parents overcome shame and approach challenges with a mindset of curiosity?What strategies can be employed to make complex information more accessible and easily digestible for neurodivergent individuals?Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology. For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2023/09/06/ptsd-parenting-y…th-dayna-abraham

Welcome back to another episode of the Post-Traumatic Parenting podcast! In this episode, I am joined by Dr. Brie Turns-Coe, a licensed marriage and family therapist, and together we discuss how to parent the child you have, not the child you were, and how to provide your children with a healthy childhood. Dr. Brie Turns-Coe emphasizes the importance of recognizing the unique needs of each child rather than parenting based on our own childhood experiences or the opposite of them. We also delve into the topic of post-traumatic parenting, how to identify it, including speaking to your inner child and understanding what you needed as a child versus what your child needs now. We touch on the challenges of parenting a child with psychodiversity, the importance of recognizing and meeting our own unmet needs as post-traumatic parents, the harmful effects of spanking, why it is not an effective form of discipline, and more.Topics covered on Parent the Child You Have, Not the Child You Were for Post-traumatic Parents:Are you unknowingly parenting based on the opposite or the same methods as your own parents?How can you focus on the unique individuality of your child instead of your own inner child?Healing without placing unnecessary blame on your parents.Strategies you can implement to create a safe and nurturing environment for your child.How can we avoid playing trauma poker and acknowledge each other's challenges?How to identify and heal your own childhood as a post-traumatic parent?Meeting your children's needs without forcing your unmet needs onto them.Different parenting styles across generations.Navigating the challenges of post-traumatic parenting in the digital age.Benefits of addressing personal traumas and unresolved issues before starting a family.What are some alternative options for post-traumatic parents to talk to their children about them without passing their own hang-ups?The importance of allowing your body to release trauma through shaking and other physical responses naturally.Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology. For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2023/07/26/parent-the-child…h-brie-turns-coe

Tune in to today's episode to explore the topic of shame in parenting, healing low self-worth, and how to provide children with a shame-free childhood. My special guest, Maggie Nick, founder of Parenting with Perspectacles, shares her inspiring story of breaking the cycle of shame in parenting and together, we discuss the importance of breaking these cycles to ensure our children grow up feeling loved and worthy. We also talk about the transformative power of rejecting shame, fear, intimidation, and punishment as parenting tools and challenge the notion that being a "good parent" depends on having a "good" and obedient child. Join us as we explore why is it so important to allow children to release stress and regulate themselves, the negative impact of the fear of being perceived as a bad parent if a child acts disrespectfully, how to set boundaries without shaming or threatening your children to strengthen the parent-child bond, and more.Topics covered on Breaking the Cycle of Shame in Parenting:Maggie's journey as a cycle breaker and her realization that trauma and shame in parenting were the root causes of her own struggles.Breaking cycles of trauma and shame in parenting to ensure children grow up feeling loved and worthy.Exploration of the deep sadness, despair, and jealousy that can arise when providing a different, more loving parenting experience to your own children.Rejecting the idea of using shame, fear, intimidation, and punishment to enforce compliance and obedience in children.Being a "good parent" is not solely determined by having a "good" and respectful child.Why do you need to allow children to release stress and regulate themselves through resistance and pushing back?Exploring the negative impact of shame and the fear of being perceived as a bad parent if a child acts disrespectfully.Estrangement from a parent is a serious decision that results from severe mistreatment. People may judge estrangement because it challenges their own beliefs about maintaining relationships with their parents.Challenging negative self-beliefs and recognizing their origins can promote healing and prevent passing on harmful patterns to children.Why is it important to hold space for children to express their negative emotions and allow them to release and clear any underlying issues?Children who hold everything in and pretend to be fine may experience chronic dysregulation and can benefit from emotional releases.Parents may get triggered by their child's behavior due to their own past traumas, and it's important to recognize and heal those triggers.Trusting the body's response and understanding that there's always a reason behind reactions can help parents navigate challenging situations with their children.Reactions to children are often not about the child but about the parent's past experiences, and it's important to separate the two.Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology. For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2023/07/19/breaking-the-cyc…with-maggie-nick

In today's episode, I had the pleasure of hosting Michelle Zagardo, a member of the post-traumatic parenting community. Our discussion centered around post-traumatic parenting while in eating disorder recovery. We debunked the myth that only those who are severely ill require treatment for eating disorders. Additionally, we delved into the relationship between food and control, especially for individuals who grew up without much autonomy. We also explored how societal messages can impact our relationship with food and our bodies. It is crucial to have a healthy relationship with food, where it is viewed as a tool for nourishment and enjoyment without becoming an obsession. Furthermore, we highlighted how parents can inadvertently project their discomfort with food onto their children, leading to a lack of self-regulation and co-regulation skills. Tune in as we examine the impact of trauma on our relationship with our bodies, how it can become a battlefield that we cannot escape, and discover how to model positive relationships with food and your body for your children.Topics covered on Eating Disorder Recovery:Michelle shares her experience of post-traumatic parenting while in eating disorder recovery.Michelle explains the concept of having a competent relationship with food.Differing perspectives on feeding children candy.Potential risks of hyper-focusing on nutrition and creating hangups about food.How do big industrial food companies make non-nutrient-dense foods attractive to children?Importance of balance and avoiding perfectionism in post-traumatic parenting.Early childhood experiences with food impact our relationship with food later in life.How parents can unintentionally project their own discomfort with food onto their children?How can you as a parent model positive relationships with food and your body for your children?Educating children about nutrition can be done positively by focusing on nutrients rather than labeling food as "healthy" or "unhealthy."Influence of diet culture and societal pressures on body image and self-perception.How can trauma disconnect us from our bodies and lead to eating disorders?Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology. For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2023/07/12/eating-disorder-recovery-for-post-traumatic-parents-with-michelle-zagardo

In today's podcast episode, I delve deep into the world of parts work therapy with the incredible trauma therapist, author, and parts work expert - Ilyse Kennedy. Ilyse's area of expertise lies in working with complex trauma, and she has helped numerous parents unpack their trauma while parenting their children.In this interview, Ilyse sheds light on the concept of parts work therapy, which involves identifying and addressing different parts of yourself. She also talks about the importance of parts work therapy and how it can help post-traumatic parents navigate the challenges of parenthood. Tune in as we discuss the unique struggles post-traumatic parents face daily, the pitfalls of social media's idealized versions of motherhood, and how to embrace your authentic qualities as both an individual and a remarkable parent.Topics covered on Parts Work Therapy: Ilyse's background and experience in trauma and parts work therapy.What is parts work therapy?The concept of self-energy.How does parts work therapy help post-traumatic parents navigate the challenges of parenting?The connection between trauma and postpartum depression.How becoming a parent can bring up unresolved childhood trauma.The challenges presented by the added layer of trauma for post-traumatic parents.The significance of trauma awareness in parenting and the exploration of your own childhood experiences.How does parts work therapy help post-traumatic parents better understand themselves and navigate parenting challenges?The pressure and comparison caused by social media accounts that portray idealized versions of motherhood.The value of recognizing and appreciating your own qualities as an individual and parent.Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology. For full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2023/06/06/parts-work-therapy-for-post-traumatic-parents-with-ilyse-kennedy/

In today's episode of Post Traumatic Parenting, I delve further into the topic of entanglement, boundaries, and how to get out of entanglement. If you recall the previous episode, you remember Esme, a post-traumatic parent who is so tangled up in the dynamics of her family of origin that it interferes with her parenting style and hinders her ability to parent in accordance with her values. Esme has sought my guidance in analyzing her situation and finding a way out of this entanglement. While some may believe that cutting off ties or completely withdrawing from her family is the solution, they are mistaken. The answer lies in something that many post-traumatic parents find confusing and challenging: boundaries. By setting healthy boundaries and honoring them, parents like Esme can reclaim their true identity, realign with their values, and once again parent in accordance with their values. Join me as I discuss the importance and purpose of boundaries, the adverse effects of repeatedly breaking boundaries, how to establish clear boundaries, effectively communicate them with others, and more.Note: In this episode, I mistakenly referred to it as episode 15. However, we had to publish an additional episode prior to this one. Therefore, please note that this episode is actually episode 16. We apologize for any confusion this may have caused and hope you enjoy listening to this episode!Topics covered in this episode:Why do post-traumatic parents often lack an understanding of boundaries?The story of Mrs. McGillicutty highlights the importance of boundaries and the consequences of ignoring them.Boundaries are not about estrangement, but rather about mediating closeness and maintaining personal integrity.How does anger serve as an antidote to guilt, and what role does justified guilt play in acknowledging mistakes and repairing relationships?In what ways can anger temporarily suppress guilt, potentially leading to the acceptance of behaviors that would normally be unacceptable in a calm state?Why do boundaries exist, and what purpose do they serve in relationships?Different understandings of boundaries often cause anger and conflicts in relationships.Why is there no objective standard for boundaries, and why might what works for one family not work for another?When can exceptions be made to boundaries, and how should these exceptions be handled?Setting clear boundaries and effectively communicating them in relationships.How does setting boundaries help children establish a strong sense of self and values as part of their development?How can good boundaries protect children from peer pressure?Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology. For full show notes and more resources visit https://www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2023/05/31/getting-out-of-e…-into-boundaries/

Welcome to another episode of Post-Traumatic Parenting! I'm thrilled to share today's episode with you as I'm experimenting with a new format for solo episodes. After hearing from several post-traumatic parents who reached out to share their stories on the podcast but were concerned about protecting their identities, I wanted to find a way to help them and analyze their situations without revealing any sensitive information. By doing so, we can learn so much from one another's experiences and grow together as a community.In today's episode, I begin by discussing the five different types of post-traumatic parents, with a particular focus on the entangled parent and establishing boundaries. I then introduce you to the first story of Esme, an entangled parent, and we explore her entanglement with family, the impact it had on her day-to-day life, and my advice for her moving forward. Tune in for this and more!Topics covered in this episode:The 5 types of post-traumatic parentsWhat it means to be an entangled parentEsme's own entanglement story The challenges of working from homeEsme's emotional displacement onto her children due to the entanglement situationEsme's arbiters of reality and how they influence her day-to-day lifeWhat is the AIM model and how to apply it in Esme's situationWhy post-traumatic parents often struggle with establishing boundariesThe trait that others find annoying may actually be your secret superpowerWhy is it hard to establish boundaries at timesHow to reclaim your reality from the arbiters of realityDon't let your kids be the caretaker of your own emotionsConnect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and for full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2023/05/10/post-traumatic-p…entangled-parent/

Columbine. Las Vegas Rt. 91. Sandy Hook. Robb Elementary School. These shootings (and sadly, so many more) are seared into our public consciousness. I can still remember where I was when the news about Columbine broke. For many Post-Traumatic Parents, the thought of mass violence or school shootings is terrifying, because who knows better than us just how unsafe the world is? Even if our trauma wasn't about mass violence, the unsafe feeling trauma leaves behind affects us. In this deeply moving episode, the women of Survivors Path talk about the courage it takes to parent after being in a mass casualty event, the way trauma leaves a long shadow on our lives, and how to go on. This episode is all about the "M" of our "AIM" model for coping with trauma - making a mission and meaning out of it. For Survivors Path, that mission is supporting other survivors. Trigger warning - this episode does talk about mass violence, shooting, death, and the death of children. I'm deeply honored to have Survivors Path on the Post-Traumatic Parenting podcast and I can't wait for you to listen to the episode.In this episode, we talk about:What is it like to be a parent who has experienced trauma themselves and how it affects interactions with their childrenThe impact of trauma on their parenting journey, including panic attacks, anxiety, and navigating their children's exposure to violenceThe challenges of being a post-traumatic parent: setting boundaries, navigating difficult conversations with their children, and dealing with children's exposure to violence in the mediaWhy should you teach children the reasons behind rulesThe judgment faced by mass shooting survivors in handling their experiences and the challenges of navigating through trauma-related fearsCoping with stress and trauma through dissociation and its drawbacksAnticipatory anxiety and the aftermath of anniversaries related to traumatic eventsThe importance of support, friendship, and solidarity among mass violence survivorsFinding acceptance, integrating trauma into one's identity, and creating meaning and purpose in life as part of the healing processRecognizing and respecting children's interests and desires while discussing the consequences and responsibilitiesHow to have open communication and provide a safe space for discussing difficult topics with childrenRecognizing that it's okay not to know every detail of a child's experience and allowing them to advocate for them something Connect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and for full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2023/05/18/post-traumatic-parenting-after-mass-violence-survivors-path-share-their-wisdom/

The metaphor I like to use the most for trauma is it's like a mobile app running in the background. It drains your battery and keeps giving itself permissions unless you actively limit them. You could think of it as well-intentioned malware that was baked into your phone. What's the goal of the trauma app? Restore a sense of safety. But here is the thing. The trauma app can't tell the difference between feeling safe and being safe. It overrides your true self and your ability to act in accordance with your values and that's why it makes you engage in behaviors that create an illusion of safety at that moment but are actually not safe for you. Join me in today's podcast episode as I explore how the trauma app works, its impact on your daily life, how you can stop it from hijacking your brain, and much more!In this episode, I talk about:What is traumaNot all traumas are traumaticWhy do we cling to behaviors that we know are counterproductivePTSD doesn't always look like shaking on the floor and panickingUnexpected parenting situations that will trigger youHow to deal with a child's meltdowns Why we don't act in accordance with our values when we are in a stress responseHow to restore your sense of safety when you're in a stress response Why are boundaries confusing for many post-traumatic parentsConnect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and for full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2023/05/01/how-to-stop-the-…cking-your-brain/

When we as post-traumatic parents, come to the realization of how our traumas impact our parenting, we get anxious and try to get better quickly because we realize how much our children depend on us. Speeding out your trauma recovery is an often discussed topic in the Post Traumatic Parenting community. Members often ask me about self-healing approaches that could be used between therapy sessions to turbocharge their therapy.That's why for today's podcast episode, I invited Dr. Kate Truitt to talk about havening and how to use it to heal your trauma, and soothe yourself when you get triggered. Tune in as we talk about what is havening, what are the four havening techniques, why havening is a perfect technique for post-traumatic parents, how to use it to reprogram your brain, and so much more!Note: We experienced some internet connection issues during the recording, which led to some distortion and breaking in the audio in some parts of the interview. Although we weren't completely happy with the sound quality, we decided to release the episode anyway because we felt that Dr. Truitt shared so much value in her insights that we didn't want to keep them from you. We appreciate your understanding and continued support.In this episode, we chat about:What is Havening and how it worksHow Havening directly accesses the amygdala What makes Havening a perfect method for post-traumatic parentsWhat is the amygdala's role in your body and how does it keep you safeHow I used to use dissociation as a coping mechanism until my kids noticedHow to actively manage your triggersDr. Truitt shares common trauma myths people ask her about all the timeHow to reprogram your brain when you get triggeredHealing your traumas is not a linear processWhat most people misunderstand about the neuroplasticity of our brainsWhat is Dr. Truitt's book about and who it was written forHow to use emotional co-regulation with your childrenDr. Truitt shares supportive tools from her book for post-traumatic parentsConnect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and for full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/2023/03/06/healing-your-tra…h-dr-kate-truitt/

Welcome to another exciting episode of the Post-Traumatic Parenting podcast! In today's podcast episode, I'm joined by Stephanie Chandler, the founder of the Nonfiction Authors Association. I recently attended her conference and when I heard her unique post-traumatic parenting story I knew I had to share it with you all because I love bringing post-traumatic parents on the podcast so that we can hear real-life Post-Traumatic stories. Stephanie is someone I admire a lot, she turned her trauma into a superpower, while remaining a conscious, present parent. Tune in as we talk about Stephanie's story, how she suddenly lost her husband and became a single parent, how to process grief when you lose a loved one, what is grief hijack, different ways to process your trauma, and managing trauma while parenting a traumatized child. In this episode, we chat about:Stephanie shares how she suddenly lost her husbandThe difference between being a single parent and an only parentA missing male figure in Stephanie's son's lifeWhen should you seek professional help with processing your griefWhat is a grief hijackStephanie's journey of starting the Nonfiction Authors AssociationHow did Stephanie hack her trauma and turned into a superpowerDifferent ways to process your traumaHow to supercharge your therapyWhat motivated me to become a psychologistSuicide is not selfish, and depression is not only in your headStephanie's son's reaction to his dad passingWhat they don't teach you in school about businessStephanie shares how she started her first writers' conference Tips on writing a book, building a platform, and finding an agentTurning your fear into a helpful friendWhy post-traumatic parents are the world's natural entrepreneursConnect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and for full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/turning-your-trauma-into-superpower-with-stephanie-chandler

Postpartum can be tough. Whether you are a new parent or you already have children, you have never done this pregnancy before, you have never adjusted from one baby to two and from two to three. That's why postpartum recovery might look very different for every one of us. Postpartum shakes, not feeling the rush of maternal love, or feeling incompetent and unsupported, it's all part of the postpartum journey.Your body goes through intense experience during childbirth, so it's important to be kind to yourself. It will take time to adjust to the new period in your life, but it will pass and it will get better. Being post-traumatic just intensifies that experience! I want to normalize this experience for you, that's why for today's podcast episode, I invited Chelsea Bodie, the co-founder of Mama Psychologists. Tune in as we talk about postpartum recovery, what you can expect from postpartum, things that most people don't tell you about, how to set boundaries with your loved one in the postpartum period, and much more!In this episode, we chat about:Who is behind Mama PsychologistsPostpartum experiences that aren't talked aboutWhat can you expect from Not Your Mother's Postpartum BookHow to filter through parenting content on social mediaWhat are the most common things moms wish they knew about postpartumWhy are you experiencing retraumatization symptoms The importance of validating your feelings and having a communitySetting boundaries with friends and family in the immediate postpartum periodHow did starting Mama Psychologist influence Chelsea's parenting journeyWhat phases children go through that are completely normal but make parents freak outConnect with me on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and for full show notes and more resources visit www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/what-they-dont-tell-you-about-postpartum-life-trauma-with-chelsea-bodie-of-mamapsychologists

Do you worry about how to protect your kids from online dangers, from predators to porn? As Post-Traumatic Parents, we are especially aware of how dangerous the world can be! In this episode, Kristen A Jenson, from Defend Young Minds, helps us explore how to protect our kids in the digital world. We talk about her books, like Good Pictures, Bad Pictures, her journey towards being a kid safety crusader, and why digital safety is particularly important for those of us who have been traumatized. You can find Kristen online atwww.defendyoungminds.com Website/Books: https://defendyoungminds.com/books Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DefendYM Instagram: @defendyoungminds Twitter: @defendYM Trigger warning – for those Post-Traumatic Parents who have experienced boundary-crossing touch or physical abuse – this episode will explore those topics. Make sure to take some self-care precautions before listening. As Post-Traumatic Parents, we sometimes feel safer when we don't think about these dangers, but that's replacing the illusion of safety for actual safety. Instead, it's better to educate ourselves and come up with a proactive plan to keep our kids safe. It can be done!

Do you worry about how to protect your kids from online dangers, from predators to porn? As Post-Traumatic Parents, we are especially aware of how dangerous the world can be! In this episode, Kristen A Jenson, from Defend Young Minds, helps us explore how to protect our kids in the digital world. We talk about her books, like Good Pictures, Bad Pictures, her journey towards being a kid safety crusader, and why digital safety is particularly important for those of us who have been traumatized. You can find Kristen online at www.defendyoungminds.com Website/Books: https://defendyoungminds.com/books Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DefendYM Instagram: @defendyoungminds Twitter: @defendYM Trigger warning – for those Post-Traumatic Parents who have experienced boundary-crossing touch or physical abuse – this episode will explore those topics. Make sure to take some self-care precautions before listening. As Post-Traumatic Parents, we sometimes feel safer when we don't think about these dangers, but that's replacing the illusion of safety for actual safety. Instead, it's better to educate ourselves and come up with a proactive plan to keep our kids safe. It can be done!

Is shame the hardest part of Post-Traumatic Parenting? Shame and trauma go together, and shame and parenting do, too. Dr. Patti Ashley, author of Shame Informed Therapy, website https://pattiashley.com/ is the expert on this. We talked about how shame is a sense of not being enough, no matter how well we're doing, and how trauma leads to shame. Most crucially, we talked about what to do about it. So many PTPs want to avoid shaming our own kids, but we don't know exactly how. Dr. Ashley has some great ideas.

Is shame the hardest part of Post-Traumatic Parenting? Shame and trauma go together, and shame and parenting do, too. Dr. Patti Ashley, author of Shame Informed Therapy, website https://pattiashley.com/ is the expert on this. We talked about how shame is a sense of not being enough, no matter how well we're doing, and how trauma leads to shame. Most crucially, we talked about what to do about it. So many PTPs want to avoid shaming our own kids, but we don't know exactly how. Dr. Ashley has some great ideas.

Post-Traumatic Parents know what helpless feels like, and we don't want to inflict that feeling on our kids. We don't want to parent coercively. But the behavioral approach to parenting seems to be the only game in town! Is there a way to help our kids learn emotion regulation or coping without sticker charts? Dr. Mona Delahooke https://monadelahooke.com/ has a parenting plan that combines Polyvagal theory with child development research and neuroscience. Let's apply her work to Post-Traumatic Parenting.

Post-Traumatic Parents know what helpless feels like, and we don't want to inflict that feeling on our kids. We don't want to parent coercively. But the behavioral approach to parenting seems to be the only game in town! Is there a way to help our kids learn emotion regulation or coping without sticker charts? Dr. Mona Delahooke https://monadelahooke.com/ has a parenting plan that combines Polyvagal theory with child development research and neuroscience. Let's apply her work to Post-Traumatic Parenting.

Post-Traumatic due to divorce? You'll want to hear what Dr. Ann Buscho has to say. She's a psychologist and an expert in “Nesting,” a form of divorce where the kids stay home and parents rotate in and out.  Her book, The Parent's Guide to Birdnesting, is a roadmap to the only truly child-centered divorce possible. You can find her and her book  at https://drannbuscho.com/ Here's my review of her book: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/targeted-parenting/202012/book-review-the-parents-guide-birdnesting

Post-Traumatic due to divorce? You'll want to hear what Dr. Ann Buscho has to say. She's a psychologist and an expert in “Nesting,” a form of divorce where the kids stay home and parents rotate in and out.  Her book, The Parent's Guide to Birdnesting, is a roadmap to the only truly child-centered divorce possible. You can find her and her book  at https://drannbuscho.com/ Here's my review of her book: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/targeted-parenting/202012/book-review-the-parents-guide-birdnesting

Nir Eyal is the bestselling author of Indistractable. Distraction is familiar to us Post-Traumatic Survivors and Thrivers, right? It's part of our recovery. As PTPs, we struggle with time management and distraction.  Reading Indistractable changed my life – and my conversation with Nir – even more so! His insights on attention and the post-traumatic brain are fascinating. He makes a crucial distinction that will blow your mind. You will never think about attention the same way again after hearing this.

Nir Eyal is the bestselling author of Indistractable. Distraction is familiar to us Post-Traumatic Survivors and Thrivers, right? It's part of our recovery. As PTPs, we struggle with time management and distraction.  Reading Indistractable changed my life – and my conversation with Nir – even more so! His insights on attention and the post-traumatic brain are fascinating. He makes a crucial distinction that will blow your mind. You will never think about attention the same way again after hearing this.

Part II of my interview with Dr. Kelly Odenweller, a professor of communication at Iowa State University. To read my Psychology Today blogpost about Dr. Odenweller's research on Mommy Wars, click here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/targeted-parenting/201910/have-we-weaponized-parenting Here's what we talked about – as two working moms who research this: Helicopter parenting Mommy Wars and the time I almost joined them! Between-group communication My position on mother-in-law jokes….. And so much more!

Part II of my interview with Dr. Kelly Odenweller, a professor of communication at Iowa State University. To read my Psychology Today blogpost about Dr. Odenweller's research on Mommy Wars, click here:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/targeted-parenting/201910/have-we-weaponized-parenting Here's what we talked about – as two working moms who research this: Helicopter parenting Mommy Wars and the time I almost joined them! Between-group communication My position on mother-in-law jokes….. And so much more!

As long as we've been momming, we've been mom-shaming. The Internet just lets us do it on a grand scale. In this installment, I talk with Dr. Kelly Odenweller, a professor of communication at Iowa State University. Turns out, mom-shaming is predictable and quantifiable. Specific types of moms are shamed for specific types of behaviors, and some moms are more universally shamed than others. Post-Traumatic Parents are super-vulnerable to mom-shaming. Let's discuss why we mom-shame, and what to do about it.

As long as we've been momming, we've been mom-shaming. The Internet just lets us do it on a grand scale. In this installment, I talk with Dr. Kelly Odenweller, a professor of communication at Iowa State University. Turns out, mom-shaming is predictable and quantifiable. Specific types of moms are shamed for specific types of behaviors, and some moms are more universally shamed than others. Post-Traumatic Parents are super-vulnerable to mom-shaming. Let's discuss why we mom-shame, and what to do about it.

Are you passionate about doing parenting right, and desperately afraid you'll mess up? Parenting Perfectionism is common for us Post-Traumatic Parents. Problem is – the burning desire to parent perfectly can mean…. burning out. In this episode, we talk to groundbreaking researcher Dr. Moïra Mikolajczak, who discovered parental burnout is a thing. This episode explores the implications of her research for Post-Traumatic Parenting.  Turns out – parental burnout is real, and it can be fixed. Let's learn how.

Are you passionate about doing parenting right, and desperately afraid you'll mess up? Parenting Perfectionism is common for us Post-Traumatic Parents. Problem is – the burning desire to parent perfectly can mean…. burning out. In this episode, we talk to groundbreaking researcher Dr. Moïra Mikolajczak, who discovered parental burnout is a thing. This episode explores the implications of her research for Post-Traumatic Parenting.  Turns out – parental burnout is real, and it can be fixed. Let's learn how.