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So you’ve been told that you shouldn’t mix business with leisure - and pleasure - right? Or is the accepted ‘norm’ that if you work together you’ll inevitably get divorced, because hey you’re with each other 24/7? Well, look at Ron and Lexie Lee. If they

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    Episode 50: Stop the Critical and Defensive Behavior

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 1, 2023 13:14


    “I feel overwhelmed when I'm putting the kids to bed because they're trying to go in more directions than I have hands. And what I need is for you to help tag team and keep them on track at night.” - Lexie Lee   In any marriage, criticism and defensiveness can be like poison, slowly eroding the foundation of love and connection. Renowned relationship expert John Gottman refers to them as part of the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" - destructive behaviors that can lead to the downfall of a relationship. Criticism often arises when we fail to express our needs assertively. Instead of calmly communicating what we desire or how we feel, we resort to pointing out flaws and attacking our partner's character. This not only damages their self-esteem but also creates a hostile environment where open communication becomes nearly impossible. Defensiveness, on the other hand, is a habit that many people fall into when faced with criticism. Instead of listening and trying to understand their partner's perspective, they immediately put up walls and counterattack. This defensive stance prevents any meaningful resolution or growth within the relationship. But there is hope! It is essential for couples to find a better way to ask for what they need without resorting to criticism or defensiveness. By practicing active listening, empathy, and using "I" statements instead of "you" statements, couples can foster an atmosphere of understanding and compassion. Remember, marriage is a partnership built on love and respect. By replacing criticism with assertive communication and defensiveness with openness, couples can overcome challenges together and create a stronger bond that withstands the test of time.   In this Podcast:   Which four behaviors can predict divorce or breakup in a relationship? Which behavior usually happens first, defensiveness or criticism? How can one effectively ask for what they need without being critical? How can one respond to criticism without becoming defensive? What can be done if a defensive response is given but a do-over is desired? Which four behaviors can predict divorce or breakup in a relationship? The four behaviors that can predict divorce or breakup in a relationship, according to John Gottman's research are criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling.   Which behavior usually happens first, defensiveness or criticism? Criticism happens first. You have one partner who is critical or even just says something, they may even say it right, but usually not. Usually it comes out as a criticism and then the partner feels like they have to defend themselves.   How can one effectively ask for what they need without being critical? It is suggested to use a script that includes the following elements: Start with “I feel” followed by an emotion (e.g. overwhelmed, frustrated). State the specific situation or behavior that triggers the emotion (e.g. when I'm putting the kids to bed). Explain the reason behind the emotion (e.g. because they're trying to go in more directions than I have hands). Clearly state what is needed (e.g. what I need is for you to help tag team and keep them on track at night). By using this script, individuals can express their needs without resorting to criticism, which can lead to more productive conversations and better understanding between partners.   How can one respond to criticism without becoming defensive? The following strategies are offered as ways to address criticism without becoming defensive: Take a breath and pause before responding to criticism. Practice giving the benefit of the doubt to your partner and assume their intentions are good. Make requests instead of complaints, using a script such as “I feel [emotion] when [situation] because [reason], and what I need is [specific request].” If you still find yourself responding defensively, it's okay to ask for a do-over. Own your mistake, raise your hand, and say something like, “My bad, scratch that. What I want to say is I understand what you're saying and I'll work on it.” By implementing these strategies, one can respond to criticism in a more productive and non-defensive manner.   What can be done if a defensive response is given but a do-over is desired? If a defensive response is given but a do-over is desired, it is okay to ask for a do-over. The suggestion is to raise your hand, admit your mistake, and say something like, “My bad, scratch that. What I want to say is I get what you're saying and I'll work on it.” Resources Mentioned and Useful Links Rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, and Spotify. Practice of the Practice Network   Connect with the Married Entrepreneurs Visit the Married Entrepreneurs Website Facebook Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com About the Married Entrepreneurs Podcast   We have such a passion for meeting new people and helping those peeps who are crazy like us and have decided that two entrepreneurs who don't follow the traditional path should be in business together while married to each other.   We met each other over 25 years ago and although it was not love at first sight, it is a love story for the history books.  We have navigated how to be married, which can be a feat in itself, and survived the early years of keeping the children alive; also not easy.  And we did all this while being in multiple businesses together.  When we say we have been there, we mean it. We have made poor choices in the past, struggled to make a profit, and had to learn not to listen to all those who say you can't mix business with pleasure. Sound familiar? Want to join us on this journey?  We are unpacking what we have learned in this process and as marriage counselors by trade while also bringing on other experts who can help us all on this path to avoid failing businesses and divorce court.  Join us on the path to happily ever after and listen today.  

    Episode 49: Are You Enjoying the Holiday Season?

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 25, 2023 19:06


    "Focus on the positive as much as you can, even on the things that you do like about those troublesome family members, because usually they're not all bad." - Lexie Lee   The holiday season is meant to be a time of joy and celebration, but for many, it can also bring along its fair share of family drama. Managing these tensions and ensuring a harmonious gathering requires careful planning and a proactive mindset. To successfully navigate family dynamics during the holidays, it is essential to manage expectations. Communicate openly with your family members about what you hope to achieve during this time together. Setting realistic expectations can help avoid disappointment and unnecessary conflicts. Another useful strategy is to make a plan ahead of time. Determine the schedule for activities, meals, and any potential discussions that may arise. Having a structured itinerary can provide structure and minimize opportunities for tension or disagreements. Preparing topics and activities in advance can also be helpful in diverting attention away from potential triggers. Engaging in fun and light-hearted conversations or participating in enjoyable activities can create positive memories while preventing heated discussions. Perhaps one of the most crucial aspects of managing family drama during the holidays is adjusting your mindset. Instead of becoming furious or defensive when faced with difficult situations or confrontations, approach them with curiosity. Seek to understand different perspectives without judgment or anger, fostering empathy and open communication. Setting boundaries is another essential aspect of maintaining peace during family gatherings. Clearly communicate your limits when it comes to certain topics or behaviors that may lead to conflicts. Avoiding excessive indulgence in alcohol can also contribute to maintaining clear-headedness and preventing unnecessary arguments. By employing these strategies – managing expectations, making a plan, preparing topics/activities, adjusting your mindset from fury to curiosity, and setting boundaries – you can effectively navigate family drama during the holidays while fostering an atmosphere of understanding, respect, and harmony. In this podcast: Why is it important to be curious rather than furious during family interactions? How do simple and easy games and activities prevent chaos in family events? Why do you need to plan out discussion topics and activities before a family gathering?   Why is it important to be curious rather than furious during family interactions? It is important to adopt a curious rather than furious mindset during family interactions. This involves assuming an observer role. By observing the interactions and behaviors of family members, individuals can gain insights into their actions and words, without becoming emotionally invested in conflicts or negative interactions. This approach allows individuals to maintain a positive mindset and focus on the positive aspects of their family members, even if they possess some troublesome qualities. Ultimately, this approach fosters a more harmonious and enjoyable family gathering.   How do simple and easy games and activities prevent chaos in family events? It is a good practice to incorporate easy topical games into family events to facilitate discussions and prevent chaos. There should be availability of several games that are simple to play, requiring only the pulling of a card and asking a question. These games serve as a common ground, engaging everyone in conversation. These discourage wasting time searching for the right game and ensure there is no downtime or awkwardness, allowing everyone to participate in the planned activities.   Why do you need to plan out discussion topics and activities before a family gathering? It is important to plan out discussion topics to avoid sensitive issues that may lead to hurt feelings or arguments. Having safe topics ready for discussion and avoiding subjects known to cause chaos. By having predetermined topics, it becomes easier to steer the conversation away from potentially divisive subjects. Resources Mentioned and Useful Link Rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, and Spotify. Practice of the Practice Network   Connect with the Married Entrepreneurs Visit the Married Entrepreneurs Website Facebook Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com About the Married Entrepreneurs Podcast We have such a passion for meeting new people and helping those peeps who are crazy like us and have decided that two entrepreneurs who don't follow the traditional path should be in business together while married to each other.   We met each other over 25 years ago and although it was not love at first sight, it is a love story for the history books.  We have navigated how to be married, which can be a feat in itself, and survived the early years of keeping the children alive; also not easy.  And we did all this while being in multiple businesses together.  When we say we have been there, we mean it. We have made poor choices in the past, struggled to make a profit, and had to learn not to listen to all those who say you can't mix business with pleasure. Sound familiar? Want to join us on this journey?  We are unpacking what we have learned in this process and as marriage counselors by trade while also bringing on other experts who can help us all on this path to avoid failing businesses and divorce courts.  Join us on the path to happily ever after and listen today.

    Episode 48: Are You Holding A Grudge?

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 18, 2023 24:01


    “And part of how we know that you're not letting it go is because you're continuing to think about it. And the more you think about it, the more you are feeding it.” - Lexie Lee Are you holding a grudge? It's important to recognize the impact that holding onto resentment and anger can have on our physical and emotional well-being. Whether it's a perceived threat or an actual event, such as the ongoing political divide between government parties, harboring grudges can lead to negative patterns of behavior. Research has shown that holding grudges can contribute to various health issues, including heart problems, stomach disorders, and chronic pain. The stress and negativity associated with holding onto resentment can take a toll on our bodies over time. Fortunately, there are effective strategies for letting go of grudges and finding inner peace. One approach is meditation, which helps cultivate mindfulness and allows us to observe our thoughts and emotions without judgment. By practicing meditation regularly, we can develop greater awareness of our grudges and work towards releasing them. Another helpful technique is journaling. Writing down our feelings about the situation that caused the grudge can provide clarity and insight into why we're holding onto it. Additionally, writing a letter to the person involved (even if you don't intend to send it) or engaging in a curious conversation with them can help foster understanding and potentially resolve any lingering issues. Remember, holding onto grudges only weighs us down emotionally and physically. By actively seeking ways to let go of resentment through practices like meditation, journaling, or open dialogue with those involved, we pave the way for healing ourselves from within.   In this Podcast: What are some negative effects of holding a grudge or resentment? How can journaling help in letting go of resentment? What is the importance of changing one's perspective when holding a grudge? How can noticing one's thoughts throughout the day help in letting go of resentment? What is the recommended approach for having a conversation about resentment?   What are some negative effects of holding a grudge or resentment?  Holding a grudge can lead to physical health issues such as increased blood pressure, stomach problems, and disrupted sleep. It can also have negative impacts on mental health, including depression, anxiety, and a sense of hopelessness. How can journaling help in letting go of resentment? Journaling allows individuals to express their feelings and emotions, providing a space to process and release negative thoughts. By writing out their resentment and then shifting to gratitude, individuals can gain a more balanced perspective and let go of the grudge. What is the importance of changing one's perspective when holding a grudge?  Changing perspective helps individuals understand the intentions of the other person involved. Often, people assume that the other person's actions were meant to cause harm, but by considering alternative perspectives, individuals can realize that the intention may not have been malicious, leading to a shift in their own feelings. How can noticing one's thoughts throughout the day help in letting go of resentment? Noticing negative thoughts and tallying them can create awareness of how often these thoughts occur. By recognizing these patterns, individuals can actively work on redirecting their thoughts and replacing them with more positive or neutral ones, ultimately reducing the hold of resentment. What is the recommended approach for having a conversation about resentment?  The recommended approach is to have a curious, not furious conversation. This involves taking turns speaking and listening, with the listener paraphrasing what they hear to ensure understanding. It is important to avoid defensiveness and focus on understanding the other person's perspective rather than trying to solve the problem.   Resources Mentioned and Useful Links Rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, and Spotify. Practice of the Practice Network Connect with the Married Entrepreneurs Visit the Married Entrepreneurs Website Facebook Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com   About the Married Entrepreneurs Podcast We have such a passion for meeting new people and helping those peeps who are crazy like us and have decided that two entrepreneurs who don't follow the traditional path should be in business together while married to each other. We met each other over 25 years ago and although it was not love at first sight, it is a love story for the history books.  We have navigated how to be married, which can be a feat in itself, and survived the early years of keeping the children alive; also not easy.  And we did all this while being in multiple businesses together.  When we say we have been there, we mean it. We have made poor choices in the past, struggled to make a profit, and had to learn not to listen to all those who say you can't mix business with pleasure. Sound familiar? Want to join us on this journey?  We are unpacking what we have learned in this process and as marriage counselors by trade while also bringing on other experts who can help us all on this path to avoid failing businesses and divorce court.  Join us on the path to happily ever after and listen today.

    Episode 47: Are You Having Weekly Meetings?

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 12, 2023 12:55


    “The premise for meetings is that there's the ability to connect on a different level. That's part of why we say we have them because we're in business together. But if you're not in business together, you can have that opportunity to connect and be sure that you're on the same page.” - Lexie Lee   In any relationship, whether it's romantic, platonic, or professional, it is crucial to have regular communication and connection. One effective way to achieve this is by having a weekly meeting dedicated to discussing important aspects of the relationship. This practice can be particularly beneficial when it comes to discussing finances, scheduling, project management, and problem-solving. By setting aside time each week for this purpose, you create a dedicated space to openly discuss financial matters. This includes budgeting, expenses, savings goals, and any other financial concerns that may arise. Regularly addressing these topics can help prevent misunderstandings or conflicts related to money. Additionally, a weekly meeting allows for effective scheduling and project management discussions. By reviewing upcoming commitments together and coordinating schedules, you can ensure that both parties are on the same page regarding important events or deadlines. This helps avoid conflicts or last-minute changes that could negatively impact your relationship. Furthermore, dedicating time for problem-solving during these meetings allows both individuals to address any issues or concerns that may have arisen since the last meeting. It provides an opportunity for open dialogue and finding solutions together in a constructive manner. By addressing problems promptly and collaboratively in a dedicated setting, you can maintain a healthy and thriving relationship. Ultimately, having a weekly meeting serves as an invaluable tool for maintaining strong communication in your relationship. It allows you to connect regularly on various important topics such as finances, scheduling, project management, and problem-solving. By making this commitment to connect and talk consistently with one another, you lay the foundation for long-term success and happiness in your relationship.   In this podcast: What are the ways to improve communication and alignment with weekly meetings to strengthen your business and personal relationships? How do you maximize meeting productivity to avoid frustration and unproductive discussions? Why is it important to discuss important topics such as money, goals, project management, and employee issues in meetings? What are the ways to improve communication and alignment with weekly meetings to strengthen your business and personal relationships? Regular meetings are crucial for married partners in business together to foster alignment and enhance their communication. By discussing both business and personal aspects, couples can avoid misunderstandings and ensure they are working towards shared objectives. Improved communication often results in better decision-making and the ability to overcome business challenges together. How do you maximize meeting productivity to avoid frustration and unproductive discussions? To avoid falling into the trap of unproductive meetings, it's essential to have a clear agenda. This way, couples can focus on pertinent topics such as finances, project management, goals, and issues related to employees or children. Regular scheduled meetings avoid the risk of excessive impromptu meetings or overlooking important discussions, ultimately maximizing productivity. Why is it important to discuss important topics such as money, goals, project management, and employee issues in meetings? Delving into a variety of topics during these meetings can unite couples both on a personal and professional level. Business-related subjects might include financial management or goal setting, while personal matters can encompass discussions about family or recreational pursuits. This holistic approach ensures that not a single important topic is overlooked, fostering a healthy balance between work and personal life.   Resources Mentioned and Useful Links: Rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, and Spotify. Practice of the Practice Network   Connect with the Married Entrepreneurs Visit the Married Entrepreneurs Website Facebook Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com   About the Married Entrepreneurs Podcast   We have such a passion for meeting new people and helping those peeps who are crazy like us and have decided that two entrepreneurs who don't follow the traditional path should be in business together while married to each other.   We met each other over 25 years ago and although it was not love at first sight, it is a love story for the history books.  We have navigated how to be married, which can be a feat in itself, and survived the early years of keeping the children alive; also not easy.  And we did all this while being in multiple businesses together.  When we say we have been there, we mean it. We have made poor choices in the past, struggled to make a profit, and had to learn not to listen to all those who say you can't mix business with pleasure. Sound familiar? Want to join us on this journey?  We are unpacking what we have learned in this process and as marriage counselors by trade while also bringing on other experts who can help us all on this path to avoid failing businesses and divorce courts.  Join us on the path to happily ever after and listen today.  

    Episode 46: A heart to Hart Conversation

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 4, 2023 24:02


    "When you're holding regular meetings when there's nothing really to talk about, that you're just talking about when we're going to get the yard mowed and when we're going to get that tree trimmed and when we're going to get that, you know, those financial things that we don't need to get done. When you're holding conversations like this on a regular basis, it's easier to talk about difficult things because your brain has become used to the feeling of difficult things and your body doesn't run away from it." - Ron Lee Episode 46: A heart to Hart Conversation Are you feeling lost in the maze of marriage? Ron and Lexie open up the conversation and embark on a discussion about a godly and successful relationship. We dive deep into the principles of love that focus on protection, trust, hope, and perseverance discussed in 1 Corinthians 13. This discussion includes how your attitude towards issues can make or break your union. Instead of pointing fingers at each other, learn to introspect and identify what needs to change within yourself. This discussion includes a talk about how empathy is likened to driving a standard automobile. In this Podcast:   Why is it crucial to engage in open and honest conversations in a marriage? What is the significance of having unconditional positive regard and empathy in a relationship? How do past experiences and learned behaviors influence how individuals manage conflict? Why is it significant to grasp the concept of feeling with your partner and understanding their perspective? What are the benefits of regular communication and holding meetings to discuss various aspects of life and the relationship? Why is it crucial to engage in open and honest conversations in a marriage?   The need for couples to regularly sit down and talk, even when there may not be any pressing issues to discuss: By holding regular conversations, couples become more comfortable with discussing difficult topics and are better equipped to handle conflicts. It also helps to create a safe space where both partners can express their feelings and concerns without fear of judgment. Open and honest communication allows for a deeper understanding of each other's perspectives and helps to build trust and intimacy in the relationship. What is the significance of having unconditional positive regard and empathy in a relationship?   There is a need for unconditional positive regard and empathy in a relationship because It creates a safe space, It fosters understanding, It promotes effective communication, It strengthens the relationship, and It promotes a healthier and more fulfilling partnership. How do past experiences and learned behaviors influence how individuals manage conflict?   Past experiences and learned behaviors have a significant impact on how individuals handle conflict. The people's upbringing, childhood experiences, and observations of their parents' behavior during conflict shape their own approach to conflict resolution. The individuals often operate based on what they have learned and experienced, and this can influence their reactions and behaviors in conflict situations. Therefore, understanding these past experiences and learned behaviors is crucial in order to effectively navigate and resolve conflicts in relationships. Why is it significant to grasp the concept of feeling with your partner and understanding their perspective?   Empathy is important in a relationship because it involves putting yourself in your partner's place, understanding their story, and feeling with them. It is about listening to their feelings and experiences without making it about yourself. Engaging in the practice of empathy can help couples navigate difficult conversations and create a safe space for understanding and connection. What are the benefits of regular communication and holding meetings to discuss various aspects of life and the relationship?   The benefits of regular communication and holding meetings to discuss various aspects of life and the relationship include: Desensitization to difficult conversations, Increased comfort and safety, Resolution of conflicts, Understanding and empathy, Improved problem-solving skills, and Strengthened bond and connection. Resources Mentioned and Useful Links   Rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, and Spotify.   Practice of the Practice Network   Connect with the Married Entrepreneurs Visit the Married Entrepreneurs Website   Facebook   Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com About the Married Entrepreneurs Podcast   We have such a passion for meeting new people and helping those peeps who are crazy like us and have decided that two entrepreneurs who don't follow the traditional path should be in business together while married to each other.   We met each other over 25 years ago and although it was not love at first sight, it is a love story for the history books.  We have navigated how to be married, which can be a feat in itself, and survived the early years of keeping the children alive; also not easy.  And we did all this while being in multiple businesses together.  When we say we have been there, we mean it. We have made poor choices in the past, struggled to make a profit, and had to learn not to listen to all those who say you can't mix business with pleasure. Sound familiar? Want to join us on this journey?  We are unpacking what we have learned in this process and as marriage counselors by trade while also bringing on other experts who can help us all on this path to avoid failing businesses and divorce court.  Join us on the path to happily ever after and listen today.  

    Transparency Vs Honesty

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 28, 2023 19:22


    Transparency Vs Honesty, a thought-provoking guide to navigating the blurry lines between truthfulness and openness in relationships. In a world where brutal honesty can sometimes hurt, and transparency is seen as a double-edged sword, this podcast aims to shed light on the nuances of communication. Have you ever wondered if a certain level of honesty was truly necessary? Could the delivery have made a difference? We delve into real-life examples where individuals grapple with the dilemma of sharing their thoughts, feelings, perspectives, struggles, and desires. But what exactly sets transparency apart from honesty? We provide examples that help you understand the distinction. From answering honestly about a big purchase on your credit card to revealing it transparently before being asked – we explore how these choices can shape relationships. It might look like asking for permission rather than forgiveness, dealing with the consequences head-on. But here's the catch: Can you handle the truth? As Jack Nicholson famously stated in A Few Good Men, "You can't handle the truth!" The reactions to honesty and transparency determine if they will continue to flourish in any relationship. Our guide offers valuable insights on how not to be defensive, approach situations logically rather than emotionally, show empathy, and not take things too personally. Navigating through these complexities may seem messy at first. But remember, keep talking until you get it right! How can you include more transparency this week? Self-reflect on what you want more or less of in your relationship. Share your thoughts with your partner. Ask your partner what you can do to make their week a little bit better. In this Podcast: What is the difference between transparency and honesty? Why is it important to be transparent in a relationship? How can being transparent lead to better communication? What are some strategies for handling defensive reactions during transparent conversations? How can self-reflection help improve transparency in a relationship? What is the difference between transparency and honesty? The difference between transparency and honesty is that honesty is simply answering a question truthfully, while transparency goes beyond that by including thoughts, feelings, perspectives, struggles, and desires. Transparency also involves proactively sharing information before being asked. Why is it important to be transparent in a relationship? Being transparent in a relationship is important because it fosters trust, open communication, and deeper connection. It allows partners to understand each other on a deeper level and creates a safe space for vulnerability and growth. How can being transparent lead to better communication? Being transparent can lead to better communication because it encourages both partners to express their true thoughts and feelings. It eliminates misunderstandings and allows for a more authentic and genuine exchange of ideas. Transparent conversations also promote problem-solving and finding solutions together.   What are some strategies for handling defensive reactions during transparent conversations? Strategies for handling defensive reactions during transparent conversations include staying calm and non-reactive, practicing active listening, and using the "curious, not furious" approach. It's important to avoid getting defensive or taking things personally, and instead, focus on understanding the other person's perspective and feelings. How can self-reflection help improve transparency in a relationship? Self-reflection plays a crucial role in improving transparency in a relationship. Taking the time to reflect on one's own thoughts, desires, and areas for growth allows individuals to approach transparent conversations with clarity and self-awareness. It also helps in identifying personal contributions to any issues or conflicts and taking responsibility for one's actions. Self-reflection can lead to more productive and meaningful conversations with a partner. Resources Mentioned and Useful Links   Rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, and Spotify. Practice of the Practice Network Connect with the Married Entrepreneurs Visit the Married Entrepreneurs Website Facebook   Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com   About the Married Entrepreneurs Podcast   We have such a passion for meeting new people and helping those peeps who are crazy like us and have decided that two entrepreneurs who don't follow the traditional path should be in business together while married to each other. We met each other over 25 years ago and although it was not love at first sight, it is a love story for the history books.  We have navigated how to be married, which can be a feat in itself, and survived the early years of keeping the children alive; also not easy.  And we did all this while being in multiple businesses together.  When we say we have been there, we mean it. We have made poor choices in the past, struggled to make a profit, and had to learn not to listen to all those who say you can't mix business with pleasure. Sound familiar? Want to join us on this journey?  We are unpacking what we have learned in this process and as marriage counselors by trade while also bringing on other experts who can help us all on this path to avoid failing businesses and divorce court.  Join us on the path to happily ever after and listen today.

    Episode 44: How to Apologize

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 20, 2023 19:00


    "Changed behavior is the best apology." - Lexie Lee How to Apologize   Ron and Lexie discuss 5 Ingredients in an apology. A good apology includes 1. ownership of your own behavior, 2. expression of regret, 3. acknowledgement of the impact, 4. asking for forgiveness and 5. restitution. Listen to hear examples of good and bad apologies and how love language can help in the delivery. In this Podcast:   What are the five ingredients of a proper apology? Why is it important to own your behavior when apologizing? What is the significance of asking for forgiveness in an apology? How can love languages be incorporated into an apology? Why is it important to avoid over-apologizing? What are the five ingredients of a proper apology?   The five ingredients of a proper apology are ownership of behavior, regret, acknowledgement of the impact on the partner, asking for forgiveness, and making restitution. Why is it important to own your behavior when apologizing?   It is important to own your behavior when apologizing because shifting blame or not taking responsibility for your actions undermines the sincerity of the apology. When you genuinely accept responsibility for your behavior, you demonstrate accountability and integrity. This not only strengthens the sincerity of your apology but also shows that you respect the feelings and rights of the person you've hurt or wronged.   What is the significance of asking for forgiveness in an apology?   Asking for forgiveness in an apology shows respect and acknowledges the impact of your actions on the other person. It allows them to decide whether or not to forgive you. You acknowledge the seriousness of your actions and the potential emotional toll you may have caused by specifically requesting their forgiveness. How can love languages be incorporated into an apology?   Particularly after a disagreement or misunderstanding, including your partner's love languages in your apology can be a potent approach to show that you still value, care for, and are committed to them.Love languages are the unique ways individuals express and receive love and affection. Why is it important to avoid over-apologizing?   Over-apologizing can diminish the impact of an apology and may convey a lack of confidence or self-worth. It is important to apologize sincerely and only when necessary. Overcompensating with your apologies might weaken their impact and affect how other people see you. Instead, concentrate on offering sincere, considerate apologies when necessary and utilizing these instances as chances for development and enhanced communication. Resources Mentioned and Useful Links   Rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, and Spotify.   Practice of the Practice Network   Connect with the Married Entrepreneurs Visit the Married Entrepreneurs Website   Facebook   Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com About the Married Entrepreneurs Podcast   We have such a passion for meeting new people and helping those peeps who are crazy like us and have decided that two entrepreneurs who don't follow the traditional path should be in business together while married to each other.   We met each other over 25 years ago and although it was not love at first sight, it is a love story for the history books.  We have navigated how to be married, which can be a feat in itself, and survived the early years of keeping the children alive; also not easy.  And we did all this while being in multiple businesses together.  When we say we have been there, we mean it. We have made poor choices in the past, struggled to make a profit, and had to learn not to listen to all those who say you can't mix business with pleasure. Sound familiar? Want to join us on this journey?  We are unpacking what we have learned in this process and as marriage counselors by trade while also bringing on other experts who can help us all on this path to avoid failing businesses and divorce court.  Join us on the path to happily ever after and listen today.  

    Episode 43: 4 Reasons Marriage and business fail

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 13, 2023 20:25


    "And because I already knew that from the beginning that if I'm taking money out of the company and I'm putting it into an apartment where I can live lavishly, there's not going to be enough money to make the company work." - Ron Lee 4 Reasons Marriage and business fail Marriages and Businesses fail for the same reasons. In this episode, Ron and Lexie discuss four of those. 1. Have the right mindset 2. Understand the changing market. 3. Build trust, transparency and communication. 4. Manage finances. Mastering these 4 can help improve your success. In this Podcast:   The importance of having the right mindset in business. Understanding the changing market is crucial for businesses. A lack of transparency and trust. Poor financial management can be detrimental to both businesses and marriages. In marriages, understanding the changing dynamics and seasons is important. The importance of having the right mindset in business   Many individuals embarking on their first business venture tend to adopt an employee mindset, focusing on superficial aspects like office furniture rather than practical and cost-effective solutions. Conversely, an entrepreneur mindset involves being resourceful and willing to bootstrap the business. The significance of understanding the ever-changing market   Whether in marriages or businesses, it is crucial to stay updated and adapt to market fluctuations. In the business realm, this entails comprehending the needs and preferences of customers and adjusting strategies accordingly. Similarly, in a marriage, it is vital to grasp and adapt to the evolving dynamics and needs of the relationship. The lack of transparency and trust, particularly in communication   Open and honest communication is essential for success in both marriages and businesses. Without transparency and trust, conflicts can arise, and important information may be withheld, leading to misunderstandings and ultimately failure. The importance of effective financial management   Proper financial management is critical for both marriages and businesses. This encompasses budgeting, expense tracking, and making informed financial decisions. Without sound financial management, both marriages and businesses can encounter financial difficulties and potential failure. In marriages, understanding the changing dynamics and seasons is important   What worked during dating may not work after marriage or when children are involved. Adapting and communicating about these changes is key. Resources Mentioned and Useful Links   Rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, and Spotify.   Practice of the Practice Network   Connect with the Married Entrepreneurs Visit the Married Entrepreneurs Website   Facebook   Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com About the Married Entrepreneurs Podcast   We have such a passion for meeting new people and helping those peeps who are crazy like us and have decided that two entrepreneurs who don't follow the traditional path should be in business together while married to each other.   We met each other over 25 years ago and although it was not love at first sight, it is a love story for the history books.  We have navigated how to be married, which can be a feat in itself, and survived the early years of keeping the children alive; also not easy.  And we did all this while being in multiple businesses together.  When we say we have been there, we mean it. We have made poor choices in the past, struggled to make a profit, and had to learn not to listen to all those who say you can't mix business with pleasure. Sound familiar? Want to join us on this journey?  We are unpacking what we have learned in this process and as marriage counselors by trade while also bringing on other experts who can help us all on this path to avoid failing businesses and divorce court.  Join us on the path to happily ever after and listen today.  

    Episode 42: When to let it go?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 17, 2023 21:38


    "Yes. And it's amazing how much better you feel when you clean something out and you're like, I'm never going to let it get like this again." - Lexie Lee When to let it go? Are you holding on to things in your home or business that you need to get rid of? Why do we hold on to these things? How do we overcome the resistance? Ron and Lexie discuss 4 reasons we hold on to things and offer ways to resolve the issue. In this Podcast:   How do you know when to let something go?  What are some common reasons why people hold onto things?  How can sentimental items be dealt with?  How can sunk costs be overcome?  What are some strategies for letting go of clutter? How do you know when to let something go?    Knowing when to let something go can be a difficult decision. It often involves considering factors such as sentimental value, burnout, sunk costs, and the potential for repurposing the item or idea. What are some common reasons why people hold onto things?    People often hold onto things for sentimental reasons, such as items that hold memories or belonged to loved ones. Burnout and the reluctance to deal with clutter can also contribute to holding on to things. Sunk costs, where people feel the need to hold on to something because they have invested money or time into it, is another common reason. Lastly, the belief that something may be useful in the future can also lead to holding on to items. How can sentimental items be dealt with?    Sentimental items can be dealt with by finding ways to honor the memories associated with them. This can include displaying the items, creating scrapbooks or photo albums, or even repurposing them into something new, like quilts or pillows. Alternatively, taking photos of the items can help preserve the memories without the need to physically hold on to the items. How can sunk costs be overcome?   Overcoming sunk costs involves recognizing that the money or time spent on something is already gone and cannot be recovered. It is important to assess the current value or usefulness of the item or idea and make a decision based on its present worth, rather than holding on to it solely because of past investments. Repurposing or revamping the item or idea can be a way to make the most of the sunk costs. What are some strategies for letting go of clutter?   Letting go of clutter can be achieved by starting small and tackling one area at a time. Assessing the usefulness or value of each item and asking when it was last used can help determine whether it should be kept or discarded. Repurposing or donating items can also be a way to let go of clutter while still finding value in them. Additionally, setting boundaries for future acquisitions, such as implementing a "one in, one out" rule, can help prevent clutter from accumulating in the future. Resources Mentioned and Useful Links   Rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, and Spotify.   Practice of the Practice Network   Connect with the Married Entrepreneurs Visit the Married Entrepreneurs Website   Facebook   Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com About the Married Entrepreneurs Podcast   We have such a passion for meeting new people and helping those peeps who are crazy like us and have decided that two entrepreneurs who don't follow the traditional path should be in business together while married to each other.   We met each other over 25 years ago and although it was not love at first sight, it is a love story for the history books.  We have navigated how to be married, which can be a feat in itself, and survived the early years of keeping the children alive; also not easy.  And we did all this while being in multiple businesses together.  When we say we have been there, we mean it. We have made poor choices in the past, struggled to make a profit, and had to learn not to listen to all those who say you can't mix business with pleasure. Sound familiar? Want to join us on this journey?  We are unpacking what we have learned in this process and as marriage counselors by trade while also bringing on other experts who can help us all on this path to avoid failing businesses and divorce court.  Join us on the path to happily ever after and listen today.  

    Episode 41: You Condition the Response

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 2, 2023 16:09


    Ron and Lexie discuss B.F. Skinner and the Ikea Effect Study to show how we can use this information in our relationships. In this Podcast: How does the concept of conditioned responses apply to relationships?  How can the IKEA effect be applied to relationships and business?  How does involving individuals in decision-making lead to greater acceptance of behavioral changes? What is the impact of involving children in developing house rules? How does the concept of conditioned response apply to setting boundaries in the workplace?   How does the concept of conditioned responses apply to relationships?  In relationships, people react based on the environment and behavior they are exposed to. By setting up certain patterns of attention and withdrawal, individuals can manipulate the behavior of their partners and create dependency or control. How can the IKEA effect be applied to relationships and business?  The IKEA effect suggests that when individuals are involved in the process of building or creating something, they perceive it as more valuable. This can be applied to relationships by involving partners in decision-making and rule-setting, making them more invested in the relationship. In business, including employees in the process of change or decision-making can increase their commitment and acceptance of new practices.   How does involving individuals in decision-making lead to greater acceptance of behavioral changes? When people feel included and have a voice in the decision-making process, they are more likely to value and follow the rules or changes because they have a sense of ownership and value in the decisions being made.   What is the impact of involving children in developing house rules? Involving children in the decision-making process of developing house rules makes them more likely to follow the rules and experience less resistance.   How does the concept of conditioned response apply to setting boundaries in the workplace? Consistently enforcing boundaries makes it less likely for individuals to cross them again, while inconsistent enforcement may lead to repeated boundary testing. Setting either flexible but respected or strictly enforced boundaries is crucial in managing expectations. Resources Mentioned and Useful Links   Rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, and Spotify. Practice of the Practice Network   Connect with the Married Entrepreneurs Visit the Married Entrepreneurs Website Facebook Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com About the Married Entrepreneurs Podcast We have such a passion for meeting new people and helping those peeps who are crazy like us and have decided that two entrepreneurs who don't follow the traditional path should be in business together while married to each other. We met each other over 25 years ago and although it was not love at first sight, it is a love story for the history books.  We have navigated how to be married, which can be a feat in itself, and survived the early years of keeping the children alive; also not easy.  And we did all this while being in multiple businesses together.  When we say we have been there, we mean it. We have made poor choices in the past, struggled to make a profit, and had to learn not to listen to all those who say you can't mix business with pleasure. Sound familiar? Want to join us on this journey?  We are unpacking what we have learned in this process and as marriage counselors by trade while also bringing on other experts who can help us all on this path to avoid failing businesses and divorce court.  Join us on the path to happily ever after and listen today.  

    Episode 40: Here's something to think about.

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 26, 2023 14:34


    “Sometimes the next great idea comes when we give ourselves the space to sit quietly and see what comes up. So not just controlling our thoughts, but letting them flow naturally.” - Ron Lee Here's something to think about. What you think is important. Do you give yourself space to think? How do you think about those you love or work with? In this episode, Ron and Lexie discuss the importance of thinking. In this Podcast:   What is the importance of remembering positive memories and thinking positively about loved ones?   How can one be intentional about positive thinking?   Why is it important to think positively about others and give them grace?   How can one reflect on the positive aspects of relationships?   What is the importance of daily reflection and positive thinking? What is the importance of remembering positive memories and thinking positively about loved ones?   The brain tends to remember negatives, so it is important to actively remember the good stuff and keep positive memories alive. In our fast-paced and often stressful lives, consciously remembering the good stuff can also serve as a form of mindfulness. It allows us to be fully present in the moment and appreciate the positive aspects of our current circumstances. How can one be intentional about positive thinking?   By revisiting places, looking at pictures, or engaging in activities that remind one of good times, one can intentionally focus on positive thoughts. This intentional focus on positive experiences can have various beneficial effects on one's well-being and mental state. Why is it important to think positively about others and give them grace?   People tend to judge others more harshly than themselves and transfer their bad moods onto others. By thinking positively and giving grace, we can have a truer picture of others and appreciate their positive traits. How can one reflect on the positive aspects of relationships?   By creating rituals, such as watching old family videos, one can remind oneself and their partner of the good times and memories shared. This helps to focus on the positive traits that initially attracted someone to the relationship. What is the importance of daily reflection and positive thinking?   Taking time to think and reflect is important, as people often distract themselves and don't give themselves the opportunity to sit with their own thoughts. By intentionally guiding thoughts and looking for the positives, one can counteract the brain's tendency to focus on negative experiences. Resources Mentioned and Useful Links   Rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, and Spotify.   Practice of the Practice Network   Connect with the Married Entrepreneurs Visit the Married Entrepreneurs Website   Facebook   Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com About the Married Entrepreneurs Podcast   We have such a passion for meeting new people and helping those peeps who are crazy like us and have decided that two entrepreneurs who don't follow the traditional path should be in business together while married to each other.   We met each other over 25 years ago and although it was not love at first sight, it is a love story for the history books.  We have navigated how to be married, which can be a feat in itself, and survived the early years of keeping the children alive; also not easy.  And we did all this while being in multiple businesses together.  When we say we have been there, we mean it. We have made poor choices in the past, struggled to make a profit, and had to learn not to listen to all those who say you can't mix business with pleasure. Sound familiar? Want to join us on this journey?  We are unpacking what we have learned in this process and as marriage counselors by trade while also bringing on other experts who can help us all on this path to avoid failing businesses and divorce court.  Join us on the path to happily ever after and listen today.  

    Episode 39: You Need a Vacation

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 20, 2023 19:21


      "Stop thinking about things. Stop the anxiety, stop the stress. And when you come back, you'll actually do better work." - Lexie Lee You Need a Vacation   Many entrepreneurs are guilty of not taking vacations or if they do, they still check email and answer the phone. In this episode, Ron and Lexie discuss why vacations are important and the benefits that come from vacations. Listen as they discuss how to take a vacation as a small business entrepreneur and how to plan with your spouse. In this Podcast: What is the importance of setting up systems and training employees for entrepreneurs to be able to take a vacation?  How can vacations benefit entrepreneurs and creatives?  What are some tips for planning a vacation? Why is it important for small business owners to set up boundaries before going on vacation?  What is the significance of talking through difficult situations and expressing gratitude? What is the importance of setting up systems and training employees for entrepreneurs to be able to take a vacation?    Setting up systems and training employees allows entrepreneurs to delegate day-to-day operations and ensures that the business can run smoothly in their absence.  By implementing systems, you create a foundation that enables delegation. Clear processes and guidelines empower employees to take ownership of their tasks, make decisions, and perform their duties independently.    How can vacations benefit entrepreneurs and creatives?    Vacations can increase creativity, lead to "aha" moments of inspiration, improve sleep, and boost mindfulness by breaking the monotony of daily routines. By breaking away from the familiar and immersing oneself in new experiences, vacations provide an opportunity to engage the senses fully and cultivate a mindful state of awareness.  What are some tips for planning a vacation?   Some tips for planning a vacation include hiring a travel agent, discussing individual preferences and activities, considering the needs of children, and openly discussing anxieties about being away. Remember, the goal of a vacation is to relax, recharge, and create lasting memories. Why is it important for small business owners to set up boundaries before going on vacation?    Setting up boundaries allows small business owners to fully disconnect from work and enjoy their vacation without constantly checking emails or being in work mode. By setting up clear boundaries, communicating effectively, and prioritizing self-care, small business owners can create an environment that allows them to fully disconnect from work and enjoy their vacation without constantly being in work mode. What is the significance of talking through difficult situations and expressing gratitude?   Talking through difficult situations can help alleviate guilt or shame associated with leaving work behind and expressing gratitude. When it comes to work-related guilt or shame, sharing your concerns with others can help you gain a fresh perspective on the situation. Resources Mentioned and Useful Links   Rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, and Spotify.   Practice of the Practice Network   Connect with the Married Entrepreneurs Visit the Married Entrepreneurs Website   Facebook   Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com About the Married Entrepreneurs Podcast   We have such a passion for meeting new people and helping those peeps who are crazy like us and have decided that two entrepreneurs who don't follow the traditional path should be in business together while married to each other.   We met each other over 25 years ago and although it was not love at first sight, it is a love story for the history books.  We have navigated how to be married, which can be a feat in itself, and survived the early years of keeping the children alive; also not easy.  And we did all this while being in multiple businesses together.  When we say we have been there, we mean it. We have made poor choices in the past, struggled to make a profit, and had to learn not to listen to all those who say you can't mix business with pleasure. Sound familiar? Want to join us on this journey?  We are unpacking what we have learned in this process and as marriage counselors by trade while also bringing on other experts who can help us all on this path to avoid failing businesses and divorce court.  Join us on the path to happily ever after and listen today.  

    Episode 38 Time to Reset

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 5, 2023 13:10


     "Start small, and then you build. Make today the choice and start the small battles and you'll win." - Ron Lee   After you do your mid-year review, you may see that you need a reset. In this episode, Ron and Lexie talk about their own reset and give tips on how to do your own.   Listen in as they delve into the concept of resetting goals and making changes in different areas of life, including health and business. In this Podcast:   How can not-so-great doctor's visits serve as wake-up calls? What foods can you eliminate during the elimination diet? How can you incorporate intermittent fasting into your routine? How can you discreetly support a partner struggling with food goals? What advice can you give regarding resetting goals in other areas of life? How can not-so-great doctor's visits serve as wake-up calls?   Not-so-great doctor's visits can act as wake-up calls, prompting individuals to prioritize their health. These experiences serve as reminders that adjustments are needed in their lifestyle to enhance their overall well-being. What foods can you eliminate during the elimination diet?   During the elimination diet, courageously eliminated gluten, grains, eggs, dairy, and nightshades. These foods were removed to identify any potential sources of inflammation and improve health. How can you incorporate intermittent fasting into your routine?   Incorporate intermittent fasting back into the routine by gradually reducing the eating window. Start by easing into it, gradually shortening the time period in which you can consume your meals. This approach will allow you to adjust to the fasting period without feeling overwhelmed. How can you discreetly support a partner struggling with food goals?   Discreetly support your partner by finding ways to indulge in treats without drawing attention. For example, they would enjoy treats while on the way back from a store run or choose to go out to eat them. This approach will allow you to support your partner without making it a big deal or adding unnecessary pressure. What advice can you give regarding resetting goals in other areas of life?   Be realistic: Assess your current situation and set goals that are achievable and aligned with your abilities and resources. Setting overly ambitious goals can lead to frustration and demotivation.External factors, such as the economy, can impact our goals, and it's important to adapt accordingly. If necessary, it's okay to lower financial targets or make adjustments to ensure they are achievable. Resources Mentioned and Useful Links   Rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, and Spotify.   Practice of the Practice Network   Connect with the Married Entrepreneurs Visit the Married Entrepreneurs Website   Facebook   Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com About the Married Entrepreneurs Podcast   We have such a passion for meeting new people and helping those peeps who are crazy like us and have decided that two entrepreneurs who don't follow the traditional path should be in business together while married to each other.   We met each other over 25 years ago and although it was not love at first sight, it is a love story for the history books.  We have navigated how to be married, which can be a feat in itself, and survived the early years of keeping the children alive; also not easy.  And we did all this while being in multiple businesses together.  When we say we have been there, we mean it. We have made poor choices in the past, struggled to make a profit, and had to learn not to listen to all those who say you can't mix business with pleasure. Sound familiar? Want to join us on this journey?  We are unpacking what we have learned in this process and as marriage counselors by trade while also bringing on other experts who can help us all on this path to avoid failing businesses and divorce court.  Join us on the path to happily ever after and listen today.      

    Episode 37: It's Ok to be a Man.

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 21, 2023 17:25


    “Men have to have a reason for getting up in the morning. Men have to have a reason for taking care of this stuff. And purpose is really important to men.” – Ron Lee It's Ok to be a Man Society has been sending a message about masculine toxicity and men are suffering. In this episode, Ron and Lexie discuss the increase in suicide for men and some of the causes. Listen to hear statistics about what is happening and some ideas about how to turn the tide.   In today's episode, Ron and Lexie discuss the challenges faced by men in today's society and the impact of societal messaging and education on boys and men. In this Podcast:   How does society's denial of the importance of purpose and action impact men's development from a young age? What are the challenges and issues faced by men in today's society? What is the role of fathers and what is the importance of fathers in today's society? What is the "redshirting boys" movement and how does it aim to address the developmental differences between boys and girls in education? What are the impacts of societal messaging and boys' education? How does society's denial of the importance of purpose and action impact men's development from a young age?   Society is denying the importance of purpose and action for men, and that this messaging starts at a young age. They note that only 24% of teachers from kindergarten to 12th grade are male, and that boys are often labeled as having disabilities for exhibiting natural masculine traits.  What are the challenges and issues faced by men in today's society?   Men face unique challenges in today's society, and it's important that we recognize and address them. Suicide rates are rising, and many men feel lost and undervalued. The messaging that boys receive in their elementary years can have a negative impact on their self-esteem and sense of purpose. What is the role of fathers and what is the importance of fathers in today's society?   Approximately one in three children lose contact with their fathers if their parents separate. Even if fathers are fulfilling their financial responsibilities through child support, they may still be unable to maintain a relationship with their children due to various reasons.  What is the "redshirting boys" movement and how does it aim to address the developmental differences between boys and girls in education?   Boys tend to develop at a slower pace compared to girls. This has led to a movement called "redshirting boys," which suggests not holding them back a year in school so that they can catch up developmentally with girls. The delay in development may contribute to lower grades for boys, and it is suggested that the educational focus on girls has resulted in a significant gap where more females become valedictorians. What are the impacts of societal messaging and boys' education?   There is a lack of psychologists and counselors specifically catering to men, especially those under the age of 30. It suggests that a message is being conveyed that conditions like ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder) or ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) are more prevalent among men. The hosts argue that there is a difference in how boys and girls exhibit behaviors, and boys are often diagnosed with autism or put on medication to control their behaviors. They attribute this to a societal expectation for boys to conform to the behavior of girls in educational settings, such as sitting still, being quiet, and raising their hand. Resources Mentioned and Useful Links   Rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, and Spotify.   Practice of the Practice Network   Connect with the Married Entrepreneurs Visit the Married Entrepreneurs Website   Facebook   Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com About the Married Entrepreneurs Podcast   We have such a passion for meeting new people and helping those peeps who are crazy like us and have decided that two entrepreneurs who don't follow the traditional path should be in business together while married to each other.   We met each other over 25 years ago and although it was not love at first sight, it is a love story for the history books.  We have navigated how to be married, which can be a feat in itself, and survived the early years of keeping the children alive; also not easy.  And we did all this while being in multiple businesses together.  When we say we have been there, we mean it. We have made poor choices in the past, struggled to make a profit, and had to learn not to listen to all those who say you can't mix business with pleasure. Sound familiar? Want to join us on this journey?  We are unpacking what we have learned in this process and as marriage counselors by trade while also bringing on other experts who can help us all on this path to avoid failing businesses and divorce court.  Join us on the path to happily ever after and listen today.

    Episode 34: Organized Office Space Leads to More Productivity

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 16, 2023 15:07


    Ron and Lexie are still dealing with remodel headaches. The biggest is a cluttered workspace and that makes working more challenging.  In this episode, we discuss the importance of a clear workspace for increased productivity. We discuss the research on the matter and offer some tips on how to have a more productive space.

    Ep. 35 Mid-year Goal Review

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 7, 2023 16:38


    It's time to review our 2023 goals to be sure we are on track. In this episode, Ron and Lexie discuss the importance of goals. Many don't have relationship goals or goals for their kids. Ron and Lexie provide areas to have goals and link the GPS system of goals to KPI's that we have in business. Listen to learn more about how you can knock 2023 out of the park.

    Ep. 34 Renovation Project Communication Tips

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 2, 2023 15:17


    Ron and Lexie discuss what they've learned in how to reduce conflict around renovations.   You'll learn about communication, assigning roles, budgeting and planning relaxation.

    Episode 33: Let's Talk Vulnerably

    Play Episode Listen Later May 24, 2023 17:27


    Vulnerablility in relatiobnships helps to deepen connection.  We find that couples avoid certain topics of discussion and therefore miss out on the deeper connection they crave.  In this episode, Ron and Lexie discuss the importance of vulnerability and offer tips on how to have a vulnerable conversation.

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    Episode 32: Watch Your Reaction

    Play Episode Listen Later May 17, 2023 16:57


    In this episode, Ron and Lexie discuss 4 types of reactions that happen during conflict. Listen and learn what type you may be and how a nuclear reaction is the most productive type of reaction.

    Let's Talk Money Pt 2

    Play Episode Listen Later May 3, 2023 21:12


    Money is a sensitive subject, and it can be difficult to discuss with family and friends. In this episode, Lexie and Ron Lee share their tips on how to structure conversations about money, limit conflict, and handle outlier conversations. They provide valuable advice for those who want to learn how to navigate the complexities of discussing money with loved ones. They also talk about the importance of setting boundaries and expectations when it comes to conversations about money. It can be difficult to keep the conversations about money positive and tension-free. However, there are strategies that can provide helpful guidance on how to have productive conversations about money without any negative effects.

    Let's Talk Money Pt 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 26, 2023 21:27


    In this podcast, Lexie and Ron Lee share their childhood money story experiences and how they have navigated conversations around money in their marriage. Marriage is a journey that requires both parties to understand each other's perspectives and needs. Money is one of the most important topics in any marriage, but it can be difficult to talk about. They discuss the importance of finding out your partner's money story and how to hold meaningful conversations about finances in order to create a stronger relationship. — Everyone has their own approach to money management. Some people are spenders, others are savers, and some prefer to avoid money altogether. Each of these approaches has its own advantages and disadvantages, so it's important to understand which one you are. Spenders are those who enjoy spending money on things they want or need. They tend to be more spontaneous in their decision-making and don't think too much about the consequences of their purchases. Savers, on the other hand, prefer to put aside money for future use or invest it in something that will generate long-term returns. Avoider types try to stay away from dealing with money as much as possible, often relying on others for financial advice and support. No matter what type of person you are when it comes to managing your finances, understanding the different types of money management styles can help you make better decisions with your finances in the future.

    Happiness is a choice Pt 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 19, 2023 19:34


    Ron and Lexie continue the discussion on happiness, but this time the focus is on relationships.

    Happiness is a Choice

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 12, 2023 22:33


    Ron & Lexie talk about what to do when you want to be happy.

    Giving Sincere Appreciation

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 12, 2022 10:45


    “The first step in anything is acknowledging where you are and what you're feeling. Name it to tame it.” Giving Sincere Appreciation Are you experiencing the “funk” with your partner? Is it something that's making your marriage life less bearable? How can you know if you're already on that stage in your relationship?  In this podcast episode, Ron and Lexie speak about proper communication and how to properly do it without offending the other person. In this Podcast:  Becoming the average of the five people you hang out with. Hanging out with funk-ed up couples How to practice your communication skills Getting out of the funk What is the funk? It's not depression that meets the clinical definition but it occurs if you're going for two weeks and you've lost motivation. And yet, it also is just like, you're, you're just not as happy as you have been. As professional counselors, we've been with them a lot! “The couples you hang out with can obviously charge a conversation or charge a feeling.” - Ron Lee And sometimes, it gets to you when you hang out with them too. “The closer you are with a couple, the more their stuff can rub off on you.” - Lexie Lee What if you're both in the funk? Falling out of love in a relationship can be easier to solve if you're not married. It's either you break up or stay in a loveless relationship until you both find other people to fall in love with.  But once you're married, you need to make an extra effort to understand your partner's feelings. And one helpful way to do it is by having that conversation to resolve the issue. Fight the funk Proper and mature communication can solve a lot of problems in this world. If you want to fight the funk, make sure you're aware of the following points to make sure that the “talk” won't lead to another argument you want to avoid in the first place. 1 - Have the “are you aware” conversation to make sure if you're both in the funk or if only one of you is in that zone. 2 - Recognize that you're not responsible for your partner's feelings, mood or perceptions. 3 - Talk it out and walk the talk. 4 - If you really need professional help, do it and take some meds if it's really serious. Name it to tame it, move it or lose it, take responsibility for yourself, recognizing that's all that you're responsible for, and you can invite your partner to join you. - Lexie Lee These tips will work wonders especially if you talk it out in a calm and peaceful manner! Resources Mentioned and Useful Links   Rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Podcasts, and Spotify.   Practice of the Practice Network   Connect with the Married Entrepreneurs Visit the Married Entrepreneurs Website   Facebook   Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com   About the Married Entrepeneurs Podcast   We have such a passion for meeting new people and helping those peeps who are crazy like us and have decided that two entrepreneurs who don't follow the traditional path should be in business together while married to each other.   We met each other over 25 years ago and although it was not love at first sight, it is a love story for the history books.  We have navigated how to be married, which can be a feat in itself, and survived the early years of keeping the children alive; also not easy.  And we did all this while being in multiple businesses together.  When we say we have been there, we mean it. We have made poor choices in the past, struggled to make a profit, and had to learn not to listen to all those who say you can't mix business with pleasure. Sound familiar? Want to join us on this journey?  We are unpacking what we have learned in this process and as marriage counselors by trade while also bringing on other experts who can help us all on this path to avoid failing businesses and divorce court.  Join us on the path to happily ever after and listen today.

    Ep 26 - Midlife Crises and What To Do About Them

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 21, 2022 14:00


    Are you going through a midlife crisis? Are you running on negative thoughts and feelings about your everyday life? What can you do about it to make a change for the better? In this podcast episode, we speak about midlife crises and what to do about them. We reflect on the signs of midlife crises, and how you can manage your emotions and decisions appropriately. For show notes click here. Connect with us on Facebook @MarriedEntrepreneursPodcast  Sign up for the free e-course: Mixing Business with Pleasure Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com Visit our website: www.marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com

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    Ep 25 - The Difference Between a Life Coach and a Therapist

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 14, 2022 20:18


    Do you want to hire a life coach or see a therapist? What is the difference? Why can counselors be coaches but coaches cannot be counselors? In this podcast episode, we speak about the difference between a life coach and a therapist. We reflect on what each can offer you, and how you should decide which type of support you need. For show notes click here. Connect with us on Facebook @MarriedEntrepreneursPodcast  Sign up for the free e-course: Mixing Business with Pleasure Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com Visit our website: www.marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com

    Ep 24 - Using Affirmations To Tackle Limiting Beliefs

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 7, 2022 17:40


    How do you describe yourself to yourself? Have you struggled with impostor syndrome? Can you be intentional with your words to shatter limiting beliefs and help you to achieve your success more easily? In this podcast episode, we speak about using affirmations to tackle limiting beliefs. We consider the power of being intentional, and how to empower yourself by changing your self-perception. For show notes click here. Connect with us on Facebook @MarriedEntrepreneursPodcast  Sign up for the free e-course: Mixing Business with Pleasure Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com Visit our website: www.marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com

    Ep 23 - How Transactions Work In Your Relationship

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 31, 2022 19:13


    Who are the people in your life that you spend time around? Do they inspire you to strive higher, or do they get you down about life? What can you do to get yourself – or to help your spouse – get out of a funk? In this podcast episode, we speak about working through a funk. We discuss how you can acknowledge a funk, and how to support someone who is going through one. For show notes click here. Connect with us on Facebook @MarriedEntrepreneursPodcast  Sign up for the free e-course: Mixing Business with Pleasure Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com Visit our website: www.marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com

    Ep 22 - Working Through A Funk

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 24, 2022 14:35


    Who are the people in your life that you spend time around? Do they inspire you to strive higher, or do they get you down about life? What can you do to get yourself – or to help your spouse – get out of a funk? In this podcast episode, we speak about working through a funk. We discuss how you can acknowledge a funk, and how to support someone who is going through one. For show notes click here. Connect with us on Facebook @MarriedEntrepreneursPodcast  Sign up for the free e-course: Mixing Business with Pleasure Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com Visit our website: www.marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com

    Ep 21 - Running a Business With Your Siblings

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 17, 2022 14:19


    Do you run a business with your family? Have you worked in a company with your siblings? How can a shared vision help minimize poor conflict and failing motivation? In this podcast episode, we speak about running a business with your siblings. We reflect on how you can draw clear boundaries around your business relationships, and how to create a shared vision. For show notes click here. Connect with us on Facebook @MarriedEntrepreneursPodcast  Sign up for the free e-course: Mixing Business with Pleasure Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com Visit our website: www.marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com

    Ep 20 - Five Types of Physical Touch and How to use Them

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 10, 2022 16:52


    Do you use physical touch to increase intimacy in your relationship? What are the expectations that you have about physical touch within your marriage? How can you create a safe and enjoyable physically intimate space with your partner? In this podcast episode, we speak about the five types of physical touch and how to use them. We reflect on the different levels of physical intimacy, and how to communicate nonverbally with your partner. For show notes click here. Connect with us on Facebook @MarriedEntrepreneursPodcast  Sign up for the free e-course: Mixing Business with Pleasure Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com Visit our website: www.marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com

    Ep 19 - How To Motivate Yourself

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 3, 2022 17:46


    Are you in a rut? Have you started new projects with loads of motivation and then feel lost in the “messy middle”? How can you help yourself sustain genuine excitement and motivation? In this podcast episode, we speak about how to motivate yourself. We reflect on the power of habit, keeping a positive mentality, and recognizing when you're in a rut. For show notes click here. Connect with us on Facebook @MarriedEntrepreneursPodcast  Sign up for the free e-course: Mixing Business with Pleasure Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com Visit our website: www.marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com

    Ep 18 - Conflict: The Paradox of Not Reacting

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 27, 2022 18:49


    Do you feel like your arguments often end in huge fights? When correctly handled, why is conflict in relationships not always bad? How can you intentionally work on your marriage with your partner? In this podcast episode, we speak about how to achieve effective communication with your partner during conflict and the paradox of not reacting. For show notes click here. Connect with us on Facebook @MarriedEntrepreneursPodcast  Sign up for the free e-course: Mixing Business with Pleasure Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com Visit our website: www.marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com

    Ep 17 - What Makes a Good Marriage?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 20, 2022 15:49


    Does the busyness of life sometimes make you forget to appreciate your partner? Do you assess your marriage by how “happy” it makes you? How do you measure what makes a “good” marriage? In this podcast episode, we discuss the fundamentals of marriage. We reflect on how you can show appreciation for your partner, and the different perspectives of what makes a "good and happy" marriage. For show notes click here. Connect with us on Facebook @MarriedEntrepreneursPodcast  Sign up for the free e-course: Mixing Business with Pleasure Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com Visit our website: www.marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com

    Ep 16 - Intentionality and Self-care: It is okay to say "no"

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 13, 2022 16:58


    Do you struggle to say “no”? Do you find yourself apologizing when you say “no”? Are you wanting to make and sustain positive changes in your life? In this podcast episode, we speak about intentionality and self-care through learning that it is okay to say “no”. For show notes click here. Connect with us on Facebook @MarriedEntrepreneursPodcast  Sign up for the free e-course: Mixing Business with Pleasure Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com Visit our website: www.marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com

    Ep 15 - Improve Your Communication: How to get Expectations to Meet Reality

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 6, 2022 17:01


    Do you and your spouse often bicker? Are you feeling frustrated that the communication with your spouse seems to be subpar? How can the both of you easily and respectfully get your points across to one another? In this podcast episode, we speak about how to improve your communication and get expectations to meet reality. We discuss ways for enacting happier communication and how to express your emotions clearly. For show notes click here. Connect with us on Facebook @MarriedEntrepreneursPodcast  Sign up for the free e-course: Mixing Business with Pleasure Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com Visit our website: www.marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com

    Episode 14 - The Different Styles of Decision Making

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 29, 2022 21:42


    What factors of a situation do you look at before making a decision? Is your decision-making process structured or feeling-based? Do you want other people's input or do you decide of your own volition? In this episode, we discuss the different styles of decision-making. We discuss the various ways you can solve a problem and how you and your partner can communicate effectively. For show notes click here. Connect with us on Facebook @MarriedEntrepreneursPodcast  Sign up for the free e-course: Mixing Business with Pleasure Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com Visit our website: www.marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com

    Ep 13 - Using Improv Rules for Personal Growth with Ben Winter

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 22, 2022 21:21


    Can you be upset constructively? What is the first step to overcoming and getting past denial? Can you hold two separate truths at the same time? In this podcast episode, we speak about using improv rules for personal growth with Ben Winter. We discuss the ways in which you can overcome denial and how to build a positive-progress mindset. For show notes click here. Connect with us on Facebook @MarriedEntrepreneursPodcast  Sign up for the free e-course: Mixing Business with Pleasure Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com Visit our website: www.marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com

    Ep 12 - Transforming Pain into Progress with Giada Labrecque and Spud Kennedy

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 15, 2022 34:14


    Would you be willing to change pain into progress? Were there struggles in your life that forced you to grow and develop for the better? Can you make meaning in discomfort and use it to help others? In this podcast episode, we speak about transforming pain into progress with Giada Labrecque and Spud Kennedy. We discuss how to use difficulty as an opportunity, and how to generate an authentic message. For show notes click here. Connect with us on Facebook @MarriedEntrepreneursPodcast  Sign up for the free e-course: Mixing Business with Pleasure Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com Visit our website: www.marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com

    Ep 11: The Beta Male Revolution with Billy and Brandy Eldridge

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 8, 2022 25:16


    What is life like outside the podcast studio for married entrepreneurs? How do you maintain emotional intimacy and trust when you are in business with your partner? What are some of the common challenges that married couples face in hosting a podcast? Today we speak with Billy and Brandy Eldridge about the Beta Male Revolution Podcast, their challenges with working together as a married couple, and how they get through it. For show notes click here. Connect with us on Facebook @MarriedEntrepreneursPodcast  Sign up for the free e-course: Mixing Business with Pleasure Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com Visit our website: www.marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com

    Ep 10 - How Do You Know You Need a CFO with Mimi Jeannotte

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 1, 2022 23:42


    Are you wearing all the hats within your business, including the financial ones? Do you find yourself spending hours learning something new that someone else knows and can easily do? Are you concerned that money is being lost? In this podcast episode, we speak with Mimi Jeannotte, a finance and accounting expert, about the value of hiring a CFO. We discuss the fundamentals of task delegation, and how to manage business partnerships. For show notes click here. Connect with us on Facebook Sign up for the free e-course: Mixing Business with Pleasure Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com

    Ep 9 - The Hero's Journey: how to foster connections with your ideal clients with Mitch Russo

    Play Episode Listen Later May 25, 2022 26:17


    What is your Hero's Journey story? Why should you write a manifesto for your business? How can you use your origin story to draw in the best ideal clients for you? In this podcast episode, we speak with Mitch Russo about using your Hero's Journey to foster connections with your ideal clients. We discuss how you can attract clients to you through your origins story, and how to foster connection through vulnerability. For show notes click here. Connect with us on Facebook Sign up for the free e-course: Mixing Business with Pleasure Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com

    Ep 8 - How to build a Sellable Business with David Barnett

    Play Episode Listen Later May 18, 2022 28:34


    Do you want to exit your business and still earn income? Why is documenting systems the key to making a business sellable? Why should you consider your business as an asset and not a life role? In this podcast episode, we speak about how to build a sellable business with David Barnett. We discuss how to evaluate and record your business's systems, as well as how to view your business as an investment. For show notes click here. Connect with us on Facebook Sign up for the free e-course: Mixing Business with Pleasure Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com

    Ep 7 - How to Boost Your Sales by Creating a Case Study with Jonathan Woodruff

    Play Episode Listen Later May 11, 2022 25:11


    Are you launching a new service or product to your audience? Have you done a case study before? Why are case studies essential to converting new clients and boosting your business? In this podcast episode, we speak with Jonathan Woodruff about how to boost your sales by creating a case study. We discuss the importance of providing honest and clear information to your clients, as well as the importance of testimonials.  For show notes click here. Connect with us on Facebook Sign up for the free e-course: Mixing Business with Pleasure Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com

    Ep 6: How to Scale Your Side Hustle with Phoenix Rose and Danielle O'Donnell

    Play Episode Listen Later May 4, 2022 30:35


    Are you in business with your partner? How can you tell which of your great ideas to pick and work on to develop into a business? Why is alignment important? In this podcast episode, we discuss how to scale your side hustle with Phoenix Rose and Danielle O'Donnell. We reflect on the importance of having strong work boundaries, as well as how to create alignment in your company. For show notes click here. Connect with us on Facebook Sign up for the free e-course: Mixing Business with Pleasure Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com

    Ep 5 - Are You Managing Your Partner's Emotions?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 21, 2022 19:59


    Are you and your partner caught in a bad habit of managing one another's emotions? Why are your partner's emotions your concern and not your responsibility? Have you and your partner had a Geneva Convention for your marriage? In this podcast episode, we discuss what happens to couples when they try to take responsibility for each other's emotions.  For show notes click here. Connect with us on Facebook Sign up for the free e-course: Mixing Business with Pleasure Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com

    Ep 4 - How To Stop Micromanaging Your Spouse

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 21, 2022 24:44


    Are you a perfectionist or a wild card? Do you struggle with micromanaging your business partner? How can you avoid micromanaging while maintaining open communication? In this podcast episode, we discuss how business partners can practice open, successful, communication, without overstepping each other's boundaries. For show notes click here. Connect with us on Facebook Sign up for the free e-course: Mixing Business with Pleasure Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com

    Ep 3 - This Is Our Why

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 21, 2022 19:05


    Why did I become a counselor? What drives people to become interested in psychology? Who are our ideal clients? In this podcast episode, we reflect on our journey to becoming counselors, and what sorts of people we aim to help. For show notes click here. Connect with us on Facebook Sign up for the free e-course: Mixing Business with Pleasure Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com

    Ep 2 - Our Story: The Greatest Gift

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 21, 2022 21:35


    What is an example of a married couple working their way together through multiple jobs? How does a couple go from running a dry-cleaning business to working together in private practice? What is the key to building longevity and financial stability in a business? In this podcast episode, we reflect on how we met, and how our history has influenced the way we view our lives and careers. For show notes click here. Connect with us on Facebook Sign up for the free e-course: Mixing Business with Pleasure Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com

    Ep 1 - Introduction to the Married Entrepreneurs Podcast

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 21, 2022 18:43


    Are you in business with your partner? Have you always had an entrepreneurial streak? How do you combine a healthy marriage with a thriving business? In this podcast episode, we introduce ourselves and our goals for this podcast. For show notes click here. Connect with us on Facebook Sign up for the free e-course: Mixing Business with Pleasure Email us at: Info@marriedentrepreneurspodcast.com

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