Untaming Masculinity

Untaming Masculinity has been on a hiatus, but we're getting the band back together! We'll be doing things a little differently this time (hint: Episode 49 might give you some clues).Come check out this episode to see what our plans are!Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Standard – a level of quality or attainment.Every man has a standard. For some men, the standard they have established is one of excellence. However, the standard set forth by most men leaves much to be desired. So, the question must be asked: how can a man raise his standard?In raising one's standard, you are required to have an understanding of who you are and who you want to be while being unwilling to compromise. As Steve Maraboli said, “You are the point of origin for everything in your world: you set the standard for yourself.”It's critical also to raise the standard of those around you continually. When it comes to your band of brothers, the collective standard is something you should constantly be looking to improve. As you inspire and will each other forward, your shared meaning and purpose will result in the bar being raised.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad discuss standards and why every man must not only aim to raise his standard but the standard of the men around him. They share tactics to help you establish a higher baseline for your standard and how you can leverage those around you to become the man you are destined to be.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Preemptive – serving or intended to preempt or forestall something, especially to prevent attack by disabling the enemy.As men, we all too often find ourselves not communicating our plans and not taking action before any number of events. As a result, we can sow discord and distrust with those closest to us.When we make the effort to be preemptive, we get out in front of a situation by choosing to openly and transparently discuss and share plans, contingencies, and other possibilities that may exist. That level of preparedness not only positively impacts us but those around us, as well.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad dive into the concept of preemptiveness and why there is a remarkable power in choosing to preempt situations both personally and professionally. The guys discuss why choosing to be preemptive creates a level of trust in those around you and how choosing to communicate will enable you to avoid common pitfalls that men find themselves struggling with.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Appearance – the way that someone or something looksWe've all heard the saying, “A real man doesn't care how he looks.” We all also know that saying is nonsense.How a man dresses and carries himself is vital. He cannot reasonably expect to gain approval or influence if he shows up looking messy, unkempt, or as if he simply doesn't care. How you appear is an outward manifestation of what you want others to see in you. Your appearance deserves to be taken seriously.As the author Charles Hix once said, “Looking good isn't self-importance; it's self-respect.” By learning to dress well, work on your posture, and take care of your physical condition, you will start to gain a level of confidence that will pay tremendous dividends both personally and professionally.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad discuss why a man needs to take pride in his appearance. They share some tips and tactics that have served them well in improving their appearance, from learning how to dress to giving a firm handshake. They share how taking action to improve their appearance has transformed their lives. They also discuss how you can start to develop your own style and what you can do to look your best in adopting that style.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Something that can be challenging for a man is to find joy in the mundane or in the routine. Life has a few peaks and many valleys, so a lot of the time we find ourselves on the grind.The grind can feel exhausting, but it's while on the grind that we discover a lot about ourselves. It's here where we find our purpose and meaning.As we embrace the fact that character is built through struggle, we begin to find joy. As we begin to find joy, we start to look forward to what lies before us, and we become grateful for it.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad discuss the concept of learning to find joy in the journey. Dan shares his current experience of putting together a home gym and how the various struggles he's run into have become challenges he has looked forward to overcoming, while Brad discusses his long-standing challenge of becoming proficient at jiu-jitsu. The guys also discuss why finding joy in their journey has made them better men and how you can find the same.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

We all want to win. Not only that, but we want to win big. The reality is that we very rarely win big, and there are days when we must do everything in our power just to cross the finish line.The thing we can't do, however, is lose. We often let go of the rope and allow ourselves to lose. Whether it's with our diets, our relationships, or our careers, we simply concede defeat and fail hard.Life rarely goes as planned. Adversity awaits around every turn, and wins are much harder to come by when things don't go according to plan. As Rocky Balboa said, “Life ain't about how hard you can hit; it's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward.” We must choose to keep moving forward, regardless of what gets thrown at us.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad discuss why it's vital for us not to lose, even in situations where we can't win. They get into an in-depth conversation on why you can't keep putting off winning until tomorrow and how, eventually, those tomorrows will be gone, and you will only have yourself to blame.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Mask – a covering for all or part of the face, worn as a disguise, or to amuse or terrify other peopleAs men, we all too often put on masks, whether it is as simple as telling everyone that we're “fine” when we clearly aren't or putting on a façade for others. We all too often put on these masks to hide. We are afraid, ashamed, embarrassed, or too proud to admit that we aren't fine, and the choice to simply hide can prove to be destructive.As men, we need to learn to push past saying we are “fine” and allow ourselves to open up and lean into our band of brothers.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad dive into the masks we wear as men and tackle why we do it. They share insight on why learning to take the mask off, while intimidating, helps liberate a man and provides some actionable tips on how to open up, let your guard down, and share what is going on in your life with the men around you.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Ask – Say something in order to obtain an answer or some information.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad field questions from listeners in their monthly ASK ME ANYTHING. If you have any questions you would like to ask the guys in a future AMA, post them on Instagram (@untamingmasculinity) or in the Untaming Masculinity Facebook Group.Show HighlightsHow do you push past fear that seems overwhelming?What can you do to motivate someone who doesn't seem to care?What's one lesson you wished you had learned sooner that would have saved you a lot of trouble?Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Patience – the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.All too often, we find ourselves getting impatient not only with ourselves but with others. Whether we become impatient with our kids or co-workers, or because we cannot hit that PR at the gym as quickly as we want, we often allow impatience to control us. As an old Chinese proverb says, “One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.”While we want things done our way, right now, life doesn't work that way. As Bruce Lee once said, “Patience is not passive; on the contrary, it is concentrated strength.” While impatience lacks mental strength, the ability to learn patience, while difficult, is one of the most rewarding things a man can achieve.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad discuss the topic of patience and how they've learned to develop it. They discuss various personal and professional situations where they showed impatience and learned valuable lessons along the way. They also dive into how we can develop the strength to be more patient both with ourselves and others. They discuss the importance of understanding that getting where you want takes reps and practice, both of which require time, patience, and discipline. The guys also provide tips to help answer the question, “How can we develop the strength to be more patient?”Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

This week we revisit one of our favorite episodes – a deep, insightful conversation with our friend Ben Kjar where we discuss overcoming adversity and the power of a positive mindset. We hope you enjoy it and look forward to new episodes next week!We are not victims. In a world where too many people use victimhood as a badge of honor, it's the men who do not allow themselves to play the victim card who ultimately achieve victory.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, the guys are joined by Ben Kjar. Ben was born with Crouzon's syndrome, which is a craniofacial anomaly. As a boy, doctors told him he would live a different life, but he did not allow that to define him.Ben has gone on to become an NCAA Division 1 Wrestling All-American, a highly successful real estate investor, a house flipper, and an international professional speaker. Most importantly, he has also become a husband and a father of three young children. He has adopted a Victor Over Victim mindset throughout his life and shared this message worldwide.In this inspiring, fiery conversation, Ben discusses how his mindset was forged at a young age by a loving mother who would not allow him to feel sorry for himself. He discusses how this has led him to consciously decide to look at himself in the mirror daily and be proud of the man staring back at him.Ben talks about understanding his core values, which he calls his 6 F's (you'll have to listen to learn all six!). He goes into how these 6 F's have developed his mindset to enrich his life and allowed him to positively impact countless others positively.This is the story of a man who decided not to allow what may have seemed to be an unfair hand to derail him but rather to springboard him to an abundant, successful life.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Follow BenInstagramWebsiteSubscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

We all have failed at something. We have failed at a lot of things. We fail constantly. Regardless of our circumstances, we all can look back at a history of failure.However, even though we all fail, we have been told that failure is wrong and that “failure is not an option.” We have been conditioned to believe that failing at something makes you a failure.The fact is that failure is necessary, and it is good. Failure is an opportunity to learn, grow, and progress. We cannot become the men we strive to become without experiencing and learning from failure. Failure allows us to iterate, to learn, and to course correct. It helps us understand and genuinely appreciate our triumphs.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad discuss failure and why we need to fail. They recount examples where they failed and how that failure allowed them to achieve victory. They also talk about why you should not be afraid of failing and how failing will help you become a stronger, more capable man.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Inertia – 1. a tendency to do nothing or to remain unchanged; 2. a property of matter by which it continues in its existing state of rest or uniform motion in a straight line, unless that state is changed by an external force.We, as men, can often find ourselves in a state of inertia. Whether it's due to sitting on the couch for the last few years or being unhappy through constant poor choices, we often find ourselves in a state of inertia.We must make a decision to do something about it. We must be willing to push past the fear and pride that don't want us to get started. The pride of dwelling on who we once were interfering with us working to become what we can be or being afraid to take the first step in repairing your marriage is destructive. If you are unwilling to do something about it, you will stay exactly where you are. You will suffer.Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.ARTHUR ASHEStarting somewhere can be difficult. But it is absolutely necessary.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad discuss the concept of initial inertia and starting from where you are. They both discuss situations from their past they learned to work through and how doing so made them better men and happier men. Also, Dan makes an impassioned plea to men to learn to be happy for themselves, which will, in turn, benefit the lives of those around them.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan has a fireside discussion with our friends Andy Musser and Jake Everett about their backpacking adventure attempting the Pemi Loop in the White Mountains of New Hampshire.The trip quickly went sideways with adverse weather conditions, and the guys share their experiences of what they experienced together, setting out on this challenging adventure. They found themselves in a near hypothermic downpour and spent a bone-chillingly frigid night in a wooden shelter. Despite some minor injuries along the way, they accomplished something incredible together as men and brothers. They close out this fascinating discussion by discussing some incredible lessons they learned about Mother Nature, themselves, and what men are capable of. Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Adventure – an unusual and exciting, typically hazardous, experience or activityWe often discuss the need for adventure and doing hard things, especially physically. A complacent, comfortable man is rarely a man who is thriving in his marriage, his career, or his life.As Matt Reynolds discussed in our conversation with him, a man needs voluntary hardship. Choosing hardship in the physical realm is one of the catalysts to a successful man, and furthermore, hardship with your brothers is something that defines a man and something he will look back on fondly.As we take time to plan adventures that introduce a level of hardship, risk, and adventure, we learn something about ourselves that will help forge our legacy.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad discuss Dan's upcoming backpacking trip in the White Mountains of New Hampshire and how Dan mentally and physically prepared himself for the adventure. The guys also spend some time talking about how taking risks and seeking adventure are not only important for a man but vital.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Hardship – severe suffering or privationWe here at Untaming Masculinity find ourselves talking about training and working out a lot. Men who work out and lift heavy things tend to accomplish a great deal, and there is a correlation between lifting and masculinity.The question, therefore, becomes why working out and lifting weights pay so many dividends. How can lifting and barbell training not only make you a more capable man but a better one?In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad have the pleasure of being joined by Matt Reynolds. Matt is the founder and CEO of Barbell Logic, an elite-level powerlifter and professional strongman. In this hard-hitting and incredibly powerful interview, Matt talks about how he got started in the fitness industry, and how he transitioned from a powerlifter to a strength coach to a CEO, and the many lessons he has learned along the way.He shares the story of how lifting weights helped his body transform physically and how the mental and emotional changes he saw were revolutionary. Consistent barbell training resulted in a confidence that allowed him to carry himself well and how he's helped guide the thousands of people he has helped since.The guys also dive into the concept of the value of strength training and how that shapes our masculine identities. We have a calling as men to be masculine. We are called to be strong. We need to be strong enough to handle what life throws at us.You will leave this episode motivated and inspired to be a better, more capable man.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS“Voluntary hardship” makes you better.The days that shape your masculinity and identity are when you get up, don't have it, or don't want to work.Choosing to find a way or make one.Being a father to daughters and how we are the lens through which our daughters view the world.Choosing motivation and making the choice to act NOW.Strength training helps supplement us when it comes to protecting and providing.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.CONTACT MATTInstagramTwitterCONTACT BARBELL LOGICWebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterYouTubeSUBSCRIBE AND SHARESubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Barbecue – a meal or gathering at which meat, fish, or other food is cooked out of doors on a rack over an open fire or on a portable grillSometimes we must hit rock bottom to realize that we must change our lives. For some of us, rock bottom literally comes at the bottom of a pile getting wailed on.In these moments of fear, we have to make a decision. Will we continue living the directionless life that got us there, or will we take the necessary steps to become the men we are destined to be?In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad are joined by their friend James Percival. James is a husband, a team leader in the Iron Council, and the owner of Percy's Barbecue. In this powerful conversation, James discusses life in a motorcycle club and his decision to change his life and focus on serving others through faith, example, and good barbecue.James shares some powerful examples of why barbecue brings folks together and how men sitting shoulder to shoulder at a dinner table, in a hunting blind, or at church leads to powerful conversation. He also discusses how men often run from these powerful conversations and why opening up to other men and seeing that you aren't alone in your struggles is life-changing.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Follow JamesInstagramWebsiteSubscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Romance – to try to influence or curry favor with especially by lavishing personal attention, gifts, or flatteryOne of the things that many men struggle with is the ability to romance their woman in a way that is meaningful to her and to restore romance to their relationship.As John Eldridge clearly outlines in his seminal work “Wild At Heart,” every man needs a beauty to rescue. Learning to fight for the Beauty is not only one of man's core passions, it is one of life's greatest joys.However, the key to romancing your woman is not putting her on a pedestal or being subservient to her. It's a natural give and take in serving each other, not because you're compelled to, but because you want to. It's learning not to give to get or to fall into covert contracts.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad discuss how you can create a dynamic, thriving romantic relationship with the woman in your life. They share insights (and mistakes) made along the way and why learning to truly give and show affection in a way that is meaningful to her makes all the difference.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.ResourcesThe Five Love Languages (Gary Chapman)Wild At Heart (John Eldredge)Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Life – the condition that distinguishes animals and plants from inorganic matter, including the capacity for growth, reproduction, functional activity, and continual change preceding deathMany men have thought about hiring a personal trainer or a coach to dial in their nutrition or step it up in the gym. However, the benefits of hiring a coach go well beyond the gym and the kitchen.Simply making the effort to go to the gym or eat well isn't hard. However, executing on that requires resiliency and consistent execution. It requires diving into your psyche and making changes. While we may think we can do this on our own, we often need someone to help us get the ball rolling.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad are joined by their friend Ryan Murray. Ryan is an online fitness and nutrition coach who owns Uplift Coaching, which started in 2021. In this wide-ranging conversation, Ryan talks about how he transformed himself from a man struggling with depression and anxiety to one who created a business to improve the lives of others.Ryan discusses the concept that when a man goes to the gym, he sets out to pick up heavy stuff and put it down repeatedly. With that, you turn your mind off but think about everything simultaneously, and the results are freeing.As you do the things that most men are not doing today, you will find yourself.Other topics discussed include:Why a man must make his health a priorityHow life is a series of failures, we learn fromThe concept that life happens in the middleFollow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Contact RyanInstagramFacebook – Uplift CoachingSubscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Code of Conduct – a set of rules outlining the norms, rules, and responsibilities or proper practices of an individual party or an organization.This week we revisit one of our favorite episodes – a deep dive into creating your own personal code of conduct. We hope you enjoy it and look forward to new episodes next week!Too many men wander aimlessly through life without a direction or without the focus needed to become what they are meant to truly become. That lack of direction can have devastating effects.Learning focus and direction comes from understanding who you are and what you're all about. That understanding is obtained through establishing terms of engagement for yourself in any circumstance, or in other words, a code.As Jocko so succinctly states in The Code. The Evaluation. The Protocols: “We can prevail over mediocracy. We do that by chasing the ideal. Our ideal. An ideal that we must define. An ideal that we must codify in no uncertain terms so that we know what we are striving for. We must have a code to follow.”In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad take a look into what it means to create a code for yourself and why having one is so crucial.A code should speak to your soul and compels you to action, so as a result, it is intensely personal. It should not be taken lightly and deserves real time and investment in creating.The guys share some tips on creating a code for yourself, writing one out, and making the conscious decision to live by this code every single day, no matter the circumstances. They also end the episode by sharing their personal codes of conduct, which provide them with the direction and clarity they need daily.Show NotesThe Code. The Evaluation. The Protocols: Striving to Become an Eminently Qualified Human – Jocko Willink, Dave Berke, Sarah ArmstrongSovereignty: The Battle for the Hearts and Minds of Men – Ryan Michler“The Power of Uncomfortable Truths with Sean Whalen” – Order of Man Podcast“Episode 84. The Discipline Code” – Real AF with Andy Frisella Podcast“Forging Your Own Path with Mat Best” – Order of Man Podcast“The Churchill School of Adulthood – Lesson #1: Develop a Mighty Moral Code” – The Art of Manliness Podcast“The Pursuit with Pete Roberts” – Order of Man PodcastFollow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Prioritization – the action or process of deciding the relative importance or urgency of a thing or things.Life is busy. We find ourselves being hit from multiple angles with various tasks with varying degrees of urgency. Keeping all of these tasks organized and prioritized can be a challenge. While many tools and resources have been developed to help us stay on task, few are more well-known than the Eisenhower Matrix.The Eisenhower Matrix is a tool that originated with President Dwight D. Eisenhower, which he designed to help him prioritize and deal with the many issues he dealt with as an Army general, the commander of NATO, and ultimately, as President of the United States. It's a simple matrix with importance on the y-axis and urgency on the x-axis, yielding powerful results.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad discuss how utilizing the Eisenhower matrix has helped them stay on top of tasks and commitments. They also talk about how you can distinguish between what is urgent and important and why learning to see the bigger picture is critical when handling what comes next. They share examples and tactics to help you personally and professionally and explain why the secret to success stems from learning how to delegate.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.ResourcesThe Eisenhower Matrix: How to prioritize your to-do listAvoid the “Urgency Trap” with the Eisenhower MatrixEisenhower Matrix – Overview, History, and CategoriesSubscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Ask – Say something in order to obtain an answer or some information.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad field questions from listeners in their monthly ASK ME ANYTHING. If you have any questions you would like to ask the guys in a future AMA, post them on Instagram (@untamingmasculinity) or in the Untaming Masculinity Facebook Group.Show HighlightsAs men, most of us have pain and trauma that helped shape us into who we are now. How do we handle that pain?What advice would you give a new dad?How do you handle a dominating or domineering parent?Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Opinion – a view or judgment formed about something, not necessarily based on fact or knowledgeWe all have opinions.  Whether it's an opinion on politics, sports, or which handgun is best for self-defense. However, we all too often find that our opinions can get us into trouble. Namely, because we feel this incessant need to share our opinion about everything with everyone.While having an opinion is natural, sharing your opinion isn't always the best course of action. If you share your opinion with someone who sits on the other side of the aisle as you politically, it can quickly devolve into an argument that will only result in hostility, resentment, and tension. How does that serve you as a man?All too often, we find that we just want to win or find ourselves being dismissive of the opinions of others. While we may believe that our opinion is the right one, we far too often forget that the other person feels the same way about theirs. Arguing over who is right rarely gets the outcome you think will come.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad discuss why it's not always necessary to share your opinion.  While you may be passionate about something, it's important to understand what you're after and that it's sometimes necessary to keep that to yourself. They also discuss the importance of having honest, respectful conversations with those with whom you may not see eye to eye.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Spark – 1. a small fiery particle thrown off from a fire, alight in ashes, or produced by striking together two hard surfaces such as stone or metal.; 2. a trace of a specified quality or intense feelingHave you ever watched a Cam Hanes video and thought to yourself, “I want to try that”? Or wanted to go hunting, but have been hesitant to be the old guy in hunter's safety? Maybe you've wanted to try your hand at fly fishing, but simply don't know where to begin.Odds are many men reading this can comfortably say yes to any of those scenarios. Whether it's the fear of spending money on something we're not sure we'll love, telling ourselves that we don't know anyone who could help us with it, or simply telling ourselves we're too busy or too old to start, we run excuses through our heads constantly.We live in a world filled with adventure with so many incredible things to explore. Now, someone is setting out on helping men (and women) to introduce themselves to these incredible adventures to hopefully light a spark within.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad welcome back their friend Clint McInnes to talk about his new venture, Spark Adventures. Spark Adventures is a company that has one objective: to introduce more people to the world of the outdoors and hopefully light that spark within.Clint discusses how he took an uncommon path later in his life to fall in love with the outdoors, hunting, and fishing, and how this passion has made him a better man. He talks about how he wants to give back to those around him by finding someone who has never held a fly-fishing rod before and putting them out into the wild where they can experience the thrill of catching their first fish. Or putting a bow in someone's hands and experiencing the thrill of hitting the target with an arrow for the first time.Any purchase made on Spark Adventures prior to April 26, 2023, enters you into a giveaway where you could win an all-expenses paid fly fishing trip to Utah. This is an opportunity to buy cool merchandise and potentially win a life-changing trip that could easily light a spark within.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Contact ClintInstagramFacebookContact Spark AdventuresInstagramWebsiteSubscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Ego – a person's sense of self-esteem or self-importanceOur ego is often the enemy.  In the book “Ego Is the Enemy,” Ryan Holiday states the following:Ego is the enemy- giving us wicked feedback, disconnected from reality. It's defensive, precisely when we cannot afford to be defensive. It blocks us from improving by telling us that we don't need to improve. Then we wonder why we don't get the results we want, why others are better and why their success is more lasting.- RYAN HOLIDAYAs we work on ourselves, we often hit these checkpoints where we convince ourselves that we no longer need to improve. That we are killing it and that we deserve a break. In those moments of complacency, we stop getting the results we want and all too often look back to see ourselves regressing.Whether it's a conscious or subconscious decision to let off the gas, stagnation can be destructive and undo our work. So the question becomes; why do we let this happen? What can we do to get back on track?In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad discuss the destructive nature of ego. They share experiences in which they found themselves easing up and share what they had to do to get back on track. They also talk about the importance of introducing discomfort in your life to keep you focused and moving forward. Additionally, they talk about how things such as gamification can keep you progressing.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

“He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone . . .” – John 8:7We, as men, are fallible creatures. We make mistakes, and some of them have dire consequences. When we fall, we must be held accountable for our actions.However, when a man has fallen or lost his way, it's critical not to throw stones in glass houses. Holding a man accountable is not ridiculing him or belittling him. Don't kick him when he's down. Don't make a show of his failures for your own personal clout or to “one up” him.When a man is reeling, offer a hand up. Support him. And yes, hold him accountable. He has to know that what he has done is not okay, but he also has to know that what he has done is in the past and that his story is not yet written.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad discuss why you must not kick a man when he's down. They discuss current events and why dunking on someone is not the answer. They also get into the necessity of having a group of men in your life that will hold you accountable and lift you up when you need it, and why having that is paramount for any man.For the strength of the Pack is the Wolf, and the strength of the Wolf is the Pack. - RUDYARD KIPLINGFollow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Risk Mitigation – the practice of reducing the impact of potential risks by developing a plan to manage, eliminate, or limit setbacks as much as possibleMost people know Tom Brady as the greatest QB and winner in NFL history. Few remember that he was the backup QB to a former #1 overall pick and multiple-time Pro Bowl QB, Drew Bledsoe, who had signed what was, at the time, the biggest deal in NFL history. Brady was thrust into a starting role after Bledsoe sustained an injury early in the 2001 season. Because the New England Patriots had a full bench, the rest became history.In business and in life, we find ourselves in positions where we need someone to step in for us, whether due to promotion, leaving the company, time away, injury, etc. When those moments strike, do we have someone who can come in and not skip a beat? Additionally, are our teams where they need to be so we can delegate responsibilities and grow ourselves? Neither of these opportunities are possible if we don't have a full bench.Building a full bench will benefit you in any situation, both personally and professionally. Not only will it benefit you, but it will benefit the individual members of your team, as you are putting them in situations to grow and progress. If you find yourself in a position where you don't have a full bench, you'll be in trouble. So, it's critical to get to work in building one.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad talk about the concept of having a full bench and why making yourself replaceable is necessary. They share personal and professional experiences and insight on how having succession plans and fallbacks is crucial and why you must get them in place. They also discuss ways to think outside the box if you feel you may not have a full bench and why taking calculated risks can pay huge dividends.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Adventure – an unusual and exciting, typically hazardous, experience or activityHow often do we tell ourselves that we don't have enough time or that we are too old to do something we've always wanted to do? How often have we put off an adventure because we're “responsible?”When you put off that snowboarding trip or that whitewater rafting adventure, you are doing yourself much more than a disservice; you are impacting your masculine nature.As John Eldridge so eloquently says:Ask men about the greatest moments in their lives—moments they felt truly alive. They will always tell stories of adventure. That motorcycle trip to Burma, rafting the Colorado, a night on the open sea. That's why the heart of a man slowly dies when chained to a desk, an assembly line, or a cell phone.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad discuss why men need adventure and why you should say yes to taking advantage of it. Dan shares the story of a recent impromptu snowboarding trip with his buddies to Vermont that would have been something he would have said no to in the past. The guys also discuss how taking the leap and embarking on adventures like this will help you feel alive and how it will only benefit your life but the lives of your wife and children. You are much more capable as a husband and a father when you feel truly alive.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Emotion – a feeling such as happiness, love, fear, anger, or hatred, which can be caused by the situation that you are in or the people you are with.This week we revisit one of our favorite episodes – an interview with the host of Fiscally Savage, Dylan Bain! We hope you guys enjoy it and look forward to getting back to new episodes next week!The relationship men have with money can be a difficult one. Limiting self-beliefs prevent so many men from doing more than they are currently doing. Their financial well-being is on the back burner due to fear, complacency, or simply feeling unworthy. Taking the leap of faith and showing courage is far too often neglected, and the results can be devastating.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad are joined by Dylan Bain. Dylan is a corporate CPA, a world-class financial coach, and the host of the Fiscally Savage Podcast.Dylan shares his remarkable story of walking away from a teaching job where he was barely getting by, living on food stamps, to getting his MBA and becoming a corporate CPA for one of the big four accounting firms. He talks about how he could rise above his struggles and failures along the way simply because he was unwilling to lose sight of the vision that he had for his family and himself. This vision of having the big house with his kids playing in the yard and steaks on the grill got him through the darkest times. Despite tough situations like his MBA program being (temporarily, thanks to him) canceled and multiple people telling him he was too old, he kept moving forward with remarkable determination and grit. You'll hear Dylan share in incredible detail how that resiliency has made him an unstoppable force.Dylan also discusses the battle that men face when it comes to their finances and how learning to understand your emotions with your finances can help direct your future. When you learn to understand yourself and address your relationship with money, you can begin to dictate the terms of your future.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Follow DylanWebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterSubscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Victor – one that defeats an enemy or opponentWe are not victims. In a world where too many people use victimhood as a badge of honor, it's the men who do not allow themselves to play the victim card who ultimately achieve victory.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, the guys are joined by Ben Kjar. Ben was born with Crouzon's syndrome, which is a craniofacial anomaly. As a boy, doctors told him he would live a different life, but he did not allow that to define him.Ben has gone on to become an NCAA Division 1 Wrestling All-American, a highly successful real estate investor, a house flipper, and an international professional speaker. Most importantly, he has also become a husband and a father of three young children. Throughout his life, he has adopted a Victim over Victor mindset and shared this message worldwide.In this inspiring, fiery conversation, Ben discusses how his mindset was forged at a young age by a loving mother who would not allow him to feel sorry for himself. He discusses how this has led him to consciously make the decision daily to look himself in the mirror and be proud of the man staring back at him.Ben talks about understanding his core values, which he calls his 6 F's (you'll have to listen to learn all six!). He goes into how these 6 F's have developed his mindset to enrich his life and allowed him to positively impact countless others positively.This is the story of a man who made the decision not to allow what may have seemed to be an unfair hand to derail him but rather to springboard him to an abundant, successful life.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Follow BenInstagramWebsiteSubscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Stupid – having or showing a great lack of intelligence or common senseAs men, we are all guilty of doing stupid shit. While most of us have done more dumb things than we care to admit, there are consequences to making bad decisions. If we are continuously making bad choices, those consequences can be devastating.There is a saying: play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Too often, we find ourselves playing stupid games; every time we do, it's by choice. Our conscience sounds the alarm prior to us dipping our toe into those waters, but as most any guy can attest, we don't always heed that warning. The prizes that result from these conscious decisions are never worth it.What we so easily ignore is that the small missteps we take now can lead to those stupid prizes down the line. We must consistently choose to do the right thing, even if it may seem difficult.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad discuss the dangers of continually doing stupid shit. They share personal and second-hand examples of why playing stupid games will always result in stupid prizes. They also take the time to discuss why it's important not to let smaller bad decisions snowball and adversely impact your life.The guys discuss the importance of making the right choices and how you can better heed the warning signs before you do something you regret.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Adversity – a state or instance of serious or continued difficulty or misfortuneAll men face adversity at various points in their lives. When it strikes, we are faced with a choice. We can either choose to fight or we can choose to give up. Nobody remembers the man who gives up.There are few examples of adversity more harrowing than a cancer diagnosis. Staring down the very real possibility of your own mortality can bring even the strongest of men to their knees. In those moments, it's paramount that we stand up and fight relentlessly.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad are joined by their friend Andy Musser. Andy is a landscaper and hardscaper by trade, an avid outdoorsman, a husband, and a father. In this remarkable conversation, Andy shares his experience of finding out he had cancer only weeks after finding out he was going to be a father, just as everything in life was falling into place.He talks about how he was initially misdiagnosed with Stage IV colon cancer, being told he only had a couple of years to live, and how those initial dark days led him to turn to God and choose hope.After that initial misdiagnosis, Andy was diagnosed with Stage IIIA colon cancer and approached his treatment and inevitable recovery with tenacity and relentlessness. He chose to study his enemy, fight aggressively, and never concede. That tenacity eventually led to his ultimate victory: a clean bill of health and being cancer-free.Andy admits that he is grateful for cancer. Not because of the illness itself, but the lessons it taught him that he has now extended to all areas of his life. This is a story of determination and resiliency and one of our most powerful conversations yet.Follow AndyInstagramSubscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Structure – the arrangement of and relations between the parts or elements of something complex.This week we revisit one of our most downloaded episodes – an interview with “The Swole Father” – Father Michael Butler! We hope you guys enjoy it and look forward to getting back to new episodes next week!We live in a world where too many men have lost their way. All too often, we see men who have turned their backs on God and the church. However, a relationship with God is critical for a man to fully embrace his masculine self.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad are joined by Father Michael Butler, archpriest for Holy Transfiguration Orthodox Church in Livonia, MI, and professional bodybuilder.In this wide-ranging, powerful interview, Father Michael discusses his journey to the ministry and how serving God has been paramount in his life and the lives of his family.Father Michael goes into detail about how his work is done out of gratitude for all that God has given him and how his work has been especially focused on young men and the importance of the church in their lives. There is an influx of men finding their way to faith and the church and we discuss in detail what these men stand to gain through finding faith, including Truth, stability, accountability, and brotherhood.We are not meant to undertake this journey alone. As men turn from themselves to others, they find their purpose and are led back to God.Father Michael also shares how he discovered bodybuilding at the age of 53 and outlines his journey into the world of professional bodybuilding. Bodybuilding has positively impacted every facet of his life, including his ministry. It's a powerful testament to it never being too late to start changing your life.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Show NotesHoly Transfiguration ChurchContact Father Michael ButlerYouTubeFacebookInstagramTikTok

Culture – the customs, arts, social institutions, and achievements of a particular nation, people, or other social groups.When it comes to building a team or creating a family dynamic, culture is the connective tissue. The success or failure of a group depends greatly on how successful its culture is.Building a culture is not linear. How you choose to build one should be based on the composition of the team and its shared values and objectives. If a culture is toxic, it will bring each of its members down.Culture can seem difficult to build and cultivate, but it shouldn't be. It simply requires identifying those shared values and objectives and allowing each member to play a part in them.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad discuss something they are both passionate about; creating a killer culture. They share experiences in creating a legendary culture on their team within the Iron Council and how the lessons learned there have benefitted them professionally and personally.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Potential – latent qualities or abilities that may be developed and lead to future success or usefulnessWe all have bad days. We all may find ourselves in difficult situations that can push us to the brink. However, it's far too common for men to give up or let go of the rope.In times of adversity or struggle, it's crucial to find ways to execute. You have to get yourself right so that you are able to perform when needed. Regardless of the circumstances you are facing, others are looking to you, and you have to be able to deliver to the best of your abilities.It's not easy to work on yourself when you or those around you are struggling. Too often, we as men feel that we need to focus on others, but it's vital to make time for ourselves daily and prioritize our well-being. As you get yourself right mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually, you will have the strength to perform and endure any situation.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad discuss the ability to perform regardless of the situation. They share some recent examples in their lives and the lives of other men where doing the work made all the difference when presented with a difficult circumstance. They also discuss some practical ways in which any man can perform to their potential.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Recovery – a return to a normal state of health, mind, or strengthWhen it comes to sleep, most guys know they don't get enough. They go to bed too late, wake up too early and spend too much time sitting in a cubicle at work. They're always tired and unable to perform at their best. What these men may not recognize is the direct impact rest and recovery have on their overall well-being.Being able to adequately rest will allow you to recover sufficiently, which will help you be able to perform at your peak. If you are not well rested, the effects can be substantial, both mentally and physically.There is a lot more that goes into rest and recovery than simply getting a good night's rest. What you do throughout the day, your diet, your work routine, how you train, and your nighttime routine are a few crucial things that play a significant role in your ability to rest and recover. With the many factors out there, it can seem a little daunting when it comes down to knowing where to begin.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad sit down with Scott Shortmeyer, the host of The Rest and Recovery Podcast. In this wide-ranging discussion, Scott discusses what led him down the path of optimizing recovery and the many lessons he's learned along the way. He provides some guidance to men who want to start to understand how to more fully optimize their recovery, through tactical tips and strategies.Some of the many topics discussed include:The importance of not always going all out on days where you just don't have it, and why that is so critical in your ability to recover adequatelyThe role late-night snacking plays in impacting recoveryWhy you always find yourself getting up in the middle of the nightHow eliminating light in your bedroom can help you sleep betterThe importance of a nighttime routineHow you can leverage technology to help support recoveryThis episode is a great introduction to a fascinating topic and was one of our favorite conversations yet. It's not one you will not want to miss.Follow ScottInstagramFacebookTwitterRest and Recovery PodcastResources MentionedThe Sleep Solution – Dr. Chris WinterThe Rested Child – Dr. Chris WinterRise AppWhoopOOLER Sleep SystemSubscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Humility -a modest or low view of one's own importance; humblenessSometimes life throws you unexpected curveballs. Being able to handle those curveballs often means exhibiting a great deal of humility.Humility is something that many guys bristle at. Vulnerability is another. All too often, being unwilling to authentically embrace your humility and vulnerability holds us back. However, learning to lean in and get uncomfortable is where true growth comes.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad sit down with their friend, Chris Gachko. Chris is the event coordinator for Order of Man, a father, a husband, and has a burgeoning career in cybersecurity. In this deep, powerful conversation, Chris talks about spending two decades in the hospitality and event coordination field for an international hotel chain, only to lose his job during the pandemic. Rather than feel sorry for himself, he humbly reinvented himself as a stay-at-home dad and transformed himself into an IT professional. He discusses in great length the lessons he learned along the way and how humility and vulnerability set him up to succeed.Chris also discusses the power of finding a band of brothers and that the secret to creating this group of men is not to simply talk about your wins and successes but to reach deep within your soul and talk about the stuff that matters. The struggles and the insecurities. Through that, you will be able to transform your life.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Follow ChrisInstagramSubscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Leader – the person who leads or commands a group, organization, or countryHow often have we heard the term “born leader”? Truth be told, this term is a misnomer. Leaders are not born. Yes, some men have leadership characteristics that come naturally to them, but leaders are forged. So this begs the question: How is a leader forged? How can a “regular guy” learn to become a leader?In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad are joined by their good friend Steve Baumgartner. Steve is the host of The Fire Forged Leader Podcast, a husband, a father, a son of God, and a man who has forged himself into a leader over a two-decade career. In this fantastic, wide-ranging conversation, Steve talks about his difficult upbringing, which led him down a path filled with bad decisions. He shares in great detail his “Prodigal Son” moment, where he was staring down thirty years in prison as a 22-year-old father of three, and how he used that moment to rebuild his life and get himself started on a path of forged leadership.In Steve's podcast, he describes a Fire Forged leader as a leader who is forged through heat, pressure, and a whole lot of sweat. He discusses some of the sweat equity needed to excel in leadership both at home and in the workplace. He and the guys provide several examples of how successful leaders operate in the workplace, and what distinguishes a great leader from a mediocre one.Every man has the ability to lead within his sphere of influence, whether that is in the workplace, at home, or elsewhere. This conversation is of value for anyone, with actionable tactics and strategies you can start applying today.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Follow SteveInstagramYouTubeFacebookPodcastSubscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

AAR – A tool used to debrief a project or event to understand what took place, why it happened the way it did, and how to improve on it.Happy New Year! As we embark on 2023, it's important to take a look at the year that was and make an honest assessment. It's vital to conduct an AAR (after-action review) to see what went well and what didn't. Identify things that you set out to accomplish and succeeded in, as well as failures. A successful AAR is contingent on being honest and being in integrity with yourself as you evaluate, assess, and set out to improve.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad conduct an AAR of 2022 and discuss the year that was. They talk candidly about their wins, their losses, and the takeaways they will need to apply in 2023 and beyond. They also discuss not only their personal goals for 2023 but the goals they have to grow Untaming Masculinity and its underlying message.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Choice – An act of selecting or making a decision when faced with two or more possibilitiesIt's easy to fall off the wagon during the holiday season. Between all the parties, family dinners, and constant food and drink, it's easy to get off track. Once you've gotten off track, it can be difficult to make the choice to get back after it, but it doesn't need to be.We are constantly presented with choices to make throughout our lives. Each of those decisions plays a vital role in framing our lives. The goal of any man is to make as many good choices as possible, yet realistically, we are going to make our fair share of bad choices.  It's important to not only acknowledge that but accept it.Not every decision you make will be a good one. There will be lots of neutral ones and plenty of bad ones. The key to success is to simply make good decisions more often than not. By so doing, you will keep pressing forward every day in becoming the man you are meant to be.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad talk about how to get back on track. They share some tactics, strategies, and insights they've used when they've gotten away from who they are as men and how to not allow a day or two to turn into months or years of neglect.  Especially after the holidays, it's important to recognize that consciously taking your foot off the gas is fine (and arguably a good thing!) as long as you get back after it tomorrow.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad field questions from listeners in their monthly ASK ME ANYTHING. If you have any questions you would like to ask the guys in a future AMA, post them on Instagram (@untamingmasculinity) or in the Untaming Masculinity Facebook Group.Show HighlightsWhat's the biggest challenge men like us in the masculine self-improvement space face in today's world?Why do men around us shy away and don't respond when we talk about self-help or self-care practices?How do you teach management (money, time, resources, etc.) skills to a significant other without ending up in the dog house?How do you get your child to stop being picky about their food?And a short story on why it's nice to be a bigger guyFollow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Physically Capable – the ability to satisfactorily perform the essential job duties of the position, with or without reasonable accommodation, to which a man finds himself inA man must take care of himself physically. Any man who has lost control of his physical condition is unable to truly become the man he is meant to be. Unfortunately, it's far too common to see men who have not fulfilled their potential physically or who have yet to start on the path toward wellness. The question these men often ask themselves is “where do I begin?”In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad are joined by their friend Johnny Loreti. Johnny is a fitness professional who owns a performance center in downtown Boston focusing on personal training, rehab, and martial arts, and also operates as a health and performance consultant. In a wide-ranging, informative, and powerful discussion, Johnny talks about his journey from being a bartender after college to starting his performance center by simply accepting the challenge and encouragement of a friend who saw what he could become.Johnny answers the questions of why a man should take his fitness seriously and how he can get started. Getting off the couch and getting moving is the first step, and he shows with some personal examples that it's never too late for anyone and there is no challenge that cannot be overcome. He also discusses why it is important to track what you eat to increase your likelihood of success.He also shares insights on why collecting data is so crucial for men on their fitness journey. He discusses the benefits of using devices such as Whoop and Oura, and why more and more individuals in the fitness space are using glucose monitors to achieve peak performance.Whether you are just starting on the path to wellness or further along and looking to optimize performance, there is something in this conversation that will apply to you.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Follow Johnny LoretiPersonal InstagramBack Bay Fitness - WebsiteBack Bay Fitness - InstagramBrazilian Top Team - Back BayEpisode ResourcesSleep Smarter by Shawn StevensonWhoopOura RingSubscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Survival – the state or fact of continuing to live or exist, typically in spite of an accident, ordeal, or difficult circumstancesAs we rapidly descend on the holidays, we find ourselves being invited to parties and dinners with family and friends. For as many of these parties we look forward to, there are likely just as many that we dread. However, in any situation we put ourselves into, there's no excuse to not show up as an exemplary man.When we show up to a family holiday party, there are usually those guys that can be selfish jerks or guys who embarrass themselves and their loved ones. Whether it's that brother-in-law that makes sure he's first in line to eat, the uncle who refuses to clean up after himself, or the father who likes to get confrontational about politics, a lot of men embarrass themselves consciously or subconsciously.What is so often neglected is that we, as men, are looked up to. Our kids watch our every move. Our sons will emulate us and our daughters will take note of the kind of men we are when they look for men to marry. Our wives are discreetly hoping that we are the man that everyone is looking to as an example. While too many men set a poor example, there is no excuse for us to do the same.In this festive episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad discuss some tactics that act as a men's holiday party survival guide. They share five practical ways that you can show up to your family's Christmas party this year and be the kind of man that others look up to and the kind of man that can take pride in himself and in his actions.This episode is a great reminder of manners, stewardship, and of ownership. While nothing the guys talk about is earth-shattering, it's a great reminder of the small things that make a remarkable difference.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Lesson – an amount of teaching given at one time; a period of learning or teachingThere are few things as humbling as a first-time hunt. There are also few things that connect you to nature and your soul than spending time in a tree stand with nothing but your weapon, your instinct, and your mind. In these scenarios, there are valuable lessons to be learned.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan talks with Brad about his experience of spending a few days at deer camp and the life lessons that he found in a tree stand. During his few days in the woods, braving the elements, he discovered a lot about masculinity and himself.One of those key lessons, especially on the hunt, is that of failure. Failure is often seen as a debilitating setback that cannot be overcome. This view is shortsighted and destructive. In reality, failure is a valuable lesson. We, as men, fail. We fail regularly. The conscious decision to learn from failure and to fail fast and fail forward is what distinguishes great men from the rest of the pack. By learning to finish your failure, you will ultimately succeed.He also learned other valuable lessons that he discusses, including integrity and how choosing to obey the laws of the land when no one is watching is what distinguishes great men from mediocre ones. He discusses experiencing life lessons about legacy and rites of passage that are passed from generation to generation. He also spends some time talking about the thrill that comes from being on the precipice of danger and how men crave that in their lives.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Suggested ResourcesFiring Frozen Lemons With Dylan BainAdult Onset Hunting With Sam AyresSubscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Suffer – experience or be subjected to something bad or unpleasantThis week we revisit one of our best episodes – an interview with fitness guru and all-around good dude, Anthony Diehl! We hope you guys enjoy it and look forward to getting back to new episodes next week!In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad have the opportunity to sit down with our friend, world-class professional strongman, bodybuilder, and fitness coach Anthony Diehl. Anthony shares the incredible journey that took him from working in corporate America to being able to build a successful coaching business. Oh, and he also conquered the strongman world!  He finishes by talking about his pivot into bodybuilding and how he's focused on providing incredible resources to other coaches.What sets a man apart is a willingness to suffer.  Take risks.  Be ok failing.  Anthony discusses the trajectory of his life and how it took a powerful turn simply because he was willing to take risks and potentially fail.  He, like many of us, was presented with some pivotal moments in his life to take a chance. Ultimately he chose to take them. Anthony leveraged the foundation he had set for himself in his professional career to create a thriving business, and he shares some tips and advice he learned along the way.  He also discusses some of the other projects and companies he's working with and how he refuses to settle, simply because he is willing to suffer.Anthony is the self-proclaimed World's Strongest Nutrition Coach. He has helped hundreds of men and women transform their lives through fitness and nutrition.  If you are interested in his coaching or want a great, inspirational, no-holds-barred follow, you can check him out on Instagram (link below).  Also, support him and his friends at Hunt Lift Eat on Instagram at @huntlifteatofficial, or check out their website at https://www.huntlifteat.com.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Contact Anthony DiehlInstagramTwitterAnthony's LinkTreeSubscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad field questions from listeners in their monthly ASK ME ANYTHING. If you have any questions you would like to ask the guys in a future AMA, post them on Instagram (@untamingmasculinity) or in the Untaming Masculinity Facebook Group.Show HighlightsWhat is the best way to approach a friend who isn't being the man he could be due to keeping up the “badass” facade?Why are sports such a powerful method of male bonding?How do you know when to end a friendship? What are some red flags?How and where do you find positive men locally to surround yourself with?What suggestions do you have for not getting sucked into the negativity of old friends and just having a good time when at a social function?What are the biggest challenges you've both faced when it comes to building a vision you connect with and that drives you?And a short story on Dan's nickname. You'll have to listen for more on that one…Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Emotion – a feeling such as happiness, love, fear, anger, or hatred, which can be caused by the situation that you are in or the people you are with.The relationship men have with money can be a difficult one. Limiting self-beliefs prevent so many men from doing more than they are currently doing. Their financial well-being is placed on the back burner due to fear, complacency, or simply feeling unworthy. Taking the leap of faith and showing courage is far too often neglected, and the results can be devastating.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad are joined by Dylan Bain. Dylan is a corporate CPA, a world-class financial coach, and the host of the Fiscally Savage Podcast.Dylan shares his remarkable story of walking away from a teaching job where he was barely getting by, living on food stamps, to getting his MBA and becoming a corporate CPA for one of the big four accounting firms. He talks about how he was able to rise above his struggles and failures along the way simply because he was unwilling to lose sight of the vision that he had not only for his family but also for himself. This vision of having the big house with his kids playing in the yard and steaks on the grill got him through the darkest of times. Despite tough situations like his MBA program being (temporarily, thanks to him) canceled and multiple people telling him he was too old, he kept moving forward with remarkable determination and grit. You'll hear Dylan share in incredible detail how that resiliency has made him an unstoppable force.Dylan also discusses the battle that men face when it comes to their finances and how learning to understand your emotions with your finances can help direct your future. When you learn to understand yourself and address your relationship with money, you can begin to dictate the terms of your future.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Follow DylanWebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterSubscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Overcome – To defeat or succeed in controlling or dealing with something.Far too often, men choose to not overcome their circumstances. Young boys raised in difficult situations become men who choose a life lacking purpose or meaning. However, there is the uncommon man who chooses to rise above the morass and live a life of meaning and purpose.When a man chooses to overcome his past, the lessons learned are remarkable and inspiring. In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad are joined by their friend Corey Turner. Corey trains horses, is a fire captain, a one-time MMA fighter, and an all-around badass.In this powerful, moving conversation, Corey discusses his remarkable journey from a kid who grew up in a broken home and ran with gangbangers in Las Vegas to an untamed man. He discusses the abyss he found himself in for many years, some of the choices that led him into the abyss, and how four months working on a fishing boat in Alaska allowed him to work on himself and transform his life.Corey also talks about the concept of doing the things you have to do to do the things you want to do, and how that's laid the foundation for him in building a remarkable life with his wife and kids in southern Utah. He also discusses how he's recently almost died twice and the powerful lessons he learned through demonstrating incredible mental resiliency while suffering physically and how he not only has gotten back on his feet but thrived.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Follow CoreyInstagramFacebookSubscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Victory – Achievement of mastery or success in a struggle or endeavor against odds or difficultiesWhen a man is on the path to bettering himself, the results are life-changing. Whether it's getting healthy, saving his marriage, or becoming successful in his business or career, he has successfully executed a plan to better his life.This is no small task.A driven man is so focused on bettering himself that he often doesn't take the time to celebrate his victories. He is doing himself a disservice when he doesn't. When you are on the path, taking a second to look around to see just how far you've come is not only richly validating, it's necessary.There are myriad reasons that a man doesn't take a moment to celebrate victories. From your ego getting in the way to feeling dissatisfied with where you stand when you compare yourself to someone else's impossible standard, you are subconsciously looking for reasons to discredit yourself. It is important to learn to give yourself credit where credit is due.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad discuss the importance of celebrating victories. They illustrate ways in which they have learned to set aside the unfair comparisons to others that men find themselves mired in and share some strategies that have helped them learn to recognize how far they've come. They also discuss how this is not an excuse to become complacent or content.Each victory along the way is simply a checkpoint on the path to excellence and untaming your masculinity.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Root cause – The fundamental reason for the occurrence of a problemAs men, we are focused on improving our lives and our situations. Rarely does a day go by where a man doesn't look at himself in the mirror and commit to being better. We all too often, however, struggle to get off the ground with many of our initiatives and goals. It's simply because we choose not to address the root cause of many of our habits and tendencies. As a result, many well-intentioned men fail. Fitness journeys stop before they've started, business ventures never get off the ground, and marriages stagnate.So many men fall short and even give up because they simply don't do the deep work required to address the core issue. Rather than identify the why behind the struggle, men find themselves papering over these core issues and try to charge through a well-intentioned but shortsighted plan of improvement.If you are overweight, the story is much more than simply eating too much or not exercising. Why do you eat too much? Start by simply asking yourself the question “why”. From there, continue to ask yourself “why”, and you can begin to unearth the real cause of your struggle. Once you unearth this root cause, you can begin to do the real work.Real work takes time. It takes effort. However, by doing the real work, it will not only address the initial issue at hand but will begin to help you understand and address other long-dormant issues.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad discuss the concept of understanding the why and how they have learned to do the deep work required to change their lives. They both discuss some tactics they use, and how simply taking the time NOW to search within yourself to address issues at their foundation will set you up for incredible success.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Complacency – A feeling of smug or uncritical satisfaction with oneself or one's achievements.All too often, men find themselves stuck in a career they are not happy or fulfilled in.  Some of these men feel stuck.  Some of these men choose to be complacent.  Whether it's a job where you aren't able to spend enough time with your kids or one you don't ethically agree with, men can easily feel stuck in a job.Then there is the uncommon man who chooses to do something about it.  In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad are joined by their friend Nolan Connell, who recently transitioned out of law enforcement into an entirely different career servicing and selling Kubota equipment.In this wide-ranging conversation, the guys discuss the decisions Nolan made to create a new life for himself and his family, simply by consciously choosing to be true to himself.  He discusses some of the struggles that many police departments are facing across the country and why the time was right for him to make a decision that was best for him and his family.Nolan also discusses the power of surrounding yourself with the kind of men who will help inspire you and push you to be the best man possible, and how you can position yourself to do the same.Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Contact NolanInstagramFacebookSubscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review

Ask – Say something in order to obtain an answer or some information.In this episode of Untaming Masculinity, Dan and Brad field questions from listeners in their first ASK ME ANYTHING. If you have any questions you would like to ask the guys in a future AMA, post them on Instagram (@untamingmasculinity) or in the Untaming Masculinity Facebook Group.Show HighlightsWith the vast personal development universe, where does a man start to find and get on the path?What habits do high achievers implement on a daily basis to stay ahead of the game?What tactics do you use to fight off the natural man (e.g., laziness, comfort, and complacency)?How do you say no to others so you have time to say yes to yourself?If you can't do something like the Iron Council or another men's group, how do you build a community of men or at least a core group?How can I get my wife to decide where to eat?Why are bees little assholes?Follow Untaming Masculinity on your favorite podcast app, YouTube, and Instagram.Show NotesAtomic Habits – James ClearAs A Man Thinketh – James AllenCan't Hurt Me – David GogginsMiracle Morning – Hal ElrodNo More Mr. Nice Guy – Robert GloverAndy Frisella Power ListF3Subscribe and ShareSubscribe to our YouTube channelConnect with Dan on Instagram and TwitterConnect with Brad on Instagram and TwitterFollow Untaming Masculinity on Instagram and TwitterJoin the Untaming Masculinity Facebook GroupPlease leave us a rating and review