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In this episode of LaidOPEN Podcast, I have an insightful conversation with activist and author Dean Spade about his extensive work in movements for queer and trans liberation, anti-militarism, and the abolition of police and prisons. Dean and I discuss his new book titled 'Love in a Fucked Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together,' covering topics such as mindful practices for managing stress, the evolution of his book over nine years, and personal growth in relationships. We also delve into the romance myth, decentralizing romantic relationships, and the importance of community support. Dean shares valuable insights and practices for generating internal safety and the importance of collective care in social movements. This episode is an enriching dialogue aimed at anyone interested in social justice, personal growth, and transformative community practices. Show Notes: 00:00 Introduction and Course Announcement 00:55 Introducing Dean Spade 02:01 Dean Spade's Book Journey 02:28 Healing Modalities and Personal Growth 03:05 Non-Monogamous Relationships 03:34 Challenges in Writing the Book 05:15 Self-Help Literature Critique 06:45 Emotional Awareness in Movements 15:27 Decentralizing Romantic Relationships 23:49 Self-Generated Safety and Belonging 31:40 Therapy Misconceptions and Realities 32:38 The Overuse of Pathologizing Language 33:23 Forgiveness and Self-Inquiry in Relationships 36:05 The Impact of Alcoholism on Relationships 37:28 The Process of Forgiveness and Healing 41:34 Sexual Trauma and Cultural Narratives 44:18 Transformative Justice and Community Response 49:52 Decentralizing Romantic Relationships You can watch this episode on my YouTube channel, just search LaidOPEN. Plus, I have free guided visualizations and a host of other tools and resources available to you there and on my website at CharnaCassell.com.
Our guest on today's show is Ari, and we're talking about conflict in activist spaces and in community group settings. Ari (they/them) is a community organiser, mediator and support worker who is passionate about exploring the transformative potential of generative conflict and accountability work. Working primarily in community organising settings, Ari believes that how we relate to each other directly impacts our political capacities, and that although large-scale political organising is vital, most change happens at the relational and community level. Their work is informed by abolitionist and transformative justice frameworks, which are ways of being and organising rooted in indigenous knowledge and BiPoc communities in which there have historically been other ways of dealing with conflict than the models white supremacy culture teaches us today. Authors and organisers who have inspired them greatly are Andrea Ritchie, adrienne maree brown, Mia Mingus, Mariame Kaba, Dean Spade and many more. When not organising workshops or supporting comrades in conflict resolution, they enjoy learning about generative somatics, dancing and moving their body and supporting community events. They grew up in Germany and are currently living on unceded Wurrendjeri Woi-Worrung Land. Links: A really helpful resource is the booklet Working with conflict in our groups: A guide for grassroots activists produced by Seeds for Change UK. You can download the guide as a PDF file here https://www.seedsforchange.org.uk/downloads/conflictbooklet.pdf Ari's workshop in Naarm/Melbourne at Black Spark Cultural Centre is on Sunday June 15 between 3.00-6.00pm. Registration is required as it's limited to a small group. Please complete the registration form if you're interested. https://tinyurl.com/accountabilityws Please note that for copyright reasons we cannot include the songs played on the show in the podcast. The songs have been added to the Freedom of Species Spotify playlist here: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3TJQujKYjGFoFP6LhBbaTS?si=bfcb55c3f7634f0e The music we played on the show: Trans 101 (Scarim) by Bobby Sanchez https://open.spotify.com/track/2qlHAUxjsB0mBpGOKSqNx3?si=4nyByc0tRmud5kNL1-rR4A Cavaliers by Mansfield TYA https://open.spotify.com/track/07F8ojojIcr19BWqHJFLyo?si=-x8qtJzcTc6oMpGKMD8rzw&nd=1&dlsi=eb00fc0e895541d3 A Bigger Cage is still a Prison by Cistem Failure https://open.spotify.com/track/29Klq6FWTjZg22v8eei9sZ?si=w1hftqycSxyIrqwfk5ERLw&nd=1&dlsi=3bbccd65c29f4e96 June is Radiothon month at 3CR Community Radio. The station needs your support to keep going and by donating you are investing in the future of 3CR. Please tune in next Sunday June 15 at 1pm for Freedom of Species' Radiothon Animal Trivia show. We invite listeners to text in their answers to the trivia questions on 0488 809 855. If you would like to donate to Freedom of Species' 2025 Radiothon target of $1500, our GiveNow page is here: https://www.givenow.com.au/cr/freedomofspecies?fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAR2jsVKFa8k Thank you for listening and please feel free to contact us and share any feedback with us at freedomofspecies@gmail.com
The sisters are thrilled to welcome Dean Spade to the show! He has been working to build queer and trans liberation based in racial and economic justice for the past two decades. He is a professor at the Seattle University School of Law and author of the new book, Love in a Fucked Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell, Together.Dean and Autumn and adrienne discuss holding anxiety in your body, literally touching and flirting with trees, the most exciting thing on your horizon, giving eachother what we need, self-authorizing, the dangers of isolation, why we become relationship monsters, love as a psychedelic journey, how our childhoods play into our patterns, Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix, everyone needing good, quality attention, the exclusivity spell, normalizing jealousy, locating our personal sore spots and whether we're gonna be able to move together enough to stop these ecocidal maniacs bent on killing us all!---TRANSCRIPT---SUPPORT OUR SHOWhttps://www.patreon.com/Endoftheworldshow---HTS ESSENTIALSSUPPORT Our Show on Patreonhttps://www.patreon.com/EndoftheworldshowPEEP us on IGhttps://www.instagram.com/endoftheworldpc/
Hello friends, and a huge thankyou for joining us for an unprecedented two-episodes-in-a-week of the Radio Reversal Podcast. In this first episode, we're amplifying a couple of important expressions of autonomous political resistance and solidarity that we've seen here in Magan-djin this week. In particular, we're looking at how diverse communities are working to challenge the forces that work to normalise colonial and racial violence in all its forms - from here in so-called australia, to Gaza, and beyond.As evidence of the ongoing genocide in Gaza continues to mount, communities around the world are gathering together, refusing to stay silent, and refusing to allow this violence to be normalised or legitimised by the state. People are finding ways to escalate their organising; to disrupt and cause a ruckus; to get in the way of the gears of the colonial capitalist state. All of this work is experimental. It's an ongoing project that relies on us sustaining each other to keep trying out different tactics, to keep learning from our experiences, and to keep working to embody our commitments to justice and liberation in all of the work we do. And like all political work that aims to interrupt entrenched regimes of violence, these experiments are often messy and challenging. We face up against the limits of our power; we find the points at which we are compromised and limited by our own investment in existing systems. We experience points of friction and fear; we face criticism and contempt. It is humbling - and powerful - to be part of communities that strive on regardless.So this week, I wanted to share some conversations about some ongoing and important struggles against intersecting sites of colonial and racial violence, and the work that people are doing to challenge the normalisation of this violence in the here and now. I kick off this episode by reflecting on a really interesting autonomous action organised over the weekend by workers, patrons and performers at the Wickham Hotel. In case you missed it, over the weekend, a loose collective of performers, workers and patrons of the Wickham Hotel downed tools and refused to take shifts or perform their sets to protest a decision by Aus Venue Co, the parent company who owns the Wickham Hotel, to book an event hosted by the State Zionist Council of Queensland. 'For some context: the State Zionist Council of Queensland is a political lobby group set up as an umbrella organisation for other Zionist groups in Queensland with the express purpose “to promote and communicate Israel's interests within the broader Queensland community and to promote Queensland's relationship with Israel” as well as “to create an atmosphere within the community that values Zionist thought and expression…and pride in Israel and her achievements.”Now, there's been a lot of pretty ridiculous and hateful media coverage of these protest actions by the mainstream media and conservative politicians, who have worked hard to position this as a hateful or anti-semitic protest rather than a principled refusal to support an event hosted by a Zionist political lobby group. Much has been made of the fact that the social event coincided with the Jewish celebration of the Shavuot, which celebrates the giving of the Ten Commandments to Jewish people on Mount Sinai. Despite not being there in person, Lord Mayor Adrian Schrinner felt confident to circulate a front page story from The Courier Mail article with the headline “Backed by Green Hate,” a story which focused a truly unhinged amount of attention on the fact that Jonathan Sriranganathan had attended and supported the protest. Indeed, much of the mainstream media coverage completely fails to mention that this action was organised by workers, performers and patrons of the Wickham Hotel, and that they had tried a number of other measures to ask their parent company, Aus Venue Co, to cancel the booking. It also conveniently erases the context of this protest being organised and formulated by queer and trans members of the Wickham community who were deeply uncomfortable about the venue being used by a political lobby group that actively supports Israel's occupation of Palestinian land, and at least tacitly supports the current atrocities in Gaza. Certainly, the State Zionist Council of Queensland has done nothing over the past 608 days to raise concerns about Israel's current actions in Gaza, or made any attempt to censure the Israeli government or the Israeli Occupation Forces. Considering that their stated goal is to foster “pride in Israel and her achievements,” and to encourage closer connections between Jewish Zionists in Queensland and the state of Israel, I don't think it's a stretch to say that this suggests that the organisation actively supports the ongoing Israeli invasion of Gaza, and the now well-established war crimes being conducted. In this context, it is not hard to see how disingenuous the arguments being made across conservative media and by politicians (including both the Lord Mayor of Brisbane and the state Premier) really are. To claim that these actions were “spreading hate” by making Jewish people feel unsafe at a religious event is to wildly misconstrue both the nature of the protest and the political function of the State Zionist Council of Queensland. Organisers involved in this action were predominantly targeting the decision of Aus Venue Co to host an event by a political lobby group who are supportive of the actions of the Israeli government. The fact that the event in question is a social event is irrelevant. To accept the idea that protesting an event like this is inherently anti-semitic would be, as Jonathan Sriranganathan put it - like suggesting that it constitutes religious discrimination if protesters interrupt a Christmas party hosted by Pauline Hanson's One Nation Party (or indeed, by Labor MP Jim Chalmers, which Justice for Palestine Magan-djin planned to do in 2023). And yet, these are the lines that the mainstream media has consistently been running, along with attempting to use the presence of people like Jonathan Sriranganathan and Remah Naji as evidence that this autonomous action was a Greens event. Leaving aside how frustrating and disrespectful this is to all of the people who were actually involved in organising the action, it's also emblematic of the continuing pressure to censure higher-profile figures including people like Jonno and Remah, as well as academics like Mununjahli and South Sea Islander Professor Chelsea Watego, writer Ren Wyld, and academic Dr. Randa Abdel-Fattah. So we figured that it was worth spending some time this week getting to the bottom of what this action was really about, and how it came about. I start this episode with a chat to drag performer and artist Lulu LeMan, who stopped her performance on Friday evening at the Wickham in order to join talks with workers and management about the planned picket for Saturday night. I then share a live radio interview with two of the organisers who helped workers hold a picket on Saturday evening: Oriela, who is a non-binary Lebanese person and a proud disabled dyke, an advocate, and a long-time patron of the Wickham; and Bizzi, who is a Wakka Wakka and Arrendte Burlesque performer and writer with deep ties to the Wickham performance community. We talk about the work that went on behind the scenes to build some momentum for a protest against this booking, and in opposition to this exploitative use of a beloved queer venue to pinkwash an event hosted by a Zionist political lobby group. If you're not familiar with the term, Dean Spade explains that pinkwashing is: “a term activists have coined for when countries engaged in terrible human rights violations promote themselves as “gay friendly” to divert attention from terrible human rights violations, in this case diverting attention from the brutal colonization of Palestine. Israel is the country most famous for pinkwashing, engaging it as a strategy in their rebranding campaign for the last decade.”This particular angle has been largely erased in media commentary about the picket, which, as Oriela and Bizzy explain, was largely focused on challenging the use of an iconic queer venue for this particular State Zionist Council of Queensland event. Another key thread that has been largely ignored by mainstream commentary is the fact that this picket was organised by a collective of workers, patrons and performers and included the incredible decision of workers from the Wickham Hotel deciding to refuse to work if the booking went ahead. To talk about the importance of this action, I catch up with dear friend of Radio Reversal, Ari Russell from Unionists for Palestine, to put this action in the broader context of workers organising against the ongoing genocide in Gaza. We talk about how hard it has been for many of us to find ways to leverage our power as workers; and the ongoing struggle to build a sense of collective power in a time of record-low union membership and ineffective trade union bureaucracies. In this context, it is especially important to highlight the significance of autonomous worker-led action like this event. It might not be perfect, but it's worth emphasising how powerful it can be for workers, performers and broader community to flex their muscles together in ways like this; standing, as Lulu LeMan put it, against pinkwashing, against the exploitation of workers, and in solidarity with queer Palestinians. We wrap up by talking a bit about an ongoing crowdfunding campaign to support workers and performers who lost wages as a result of refusing to work during this event, which you can find and support here. Another jam-packed episode full of revolutionary potential and tantalising threads. As usual - we'd love to hear your thoughts, concerns and questions. Get in touch with us here or via social media to let us know what you think!Yours in solidarity,Anna (for the Radio Reversal Collective) This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit radioreversal.substack.com
Sam and Jamie continue their conversation with Dean Spade, going deeper into the book as well as beyond. What is the romance myth and how does it work at cross-purposes to radical movements? How do we fight the atomization and predetermined relationship structures capitalist society wants to enforce on us? And just how close should we be with our comrades? All this, plus our new friend Dean counsels us on intimately personal matters. FULL EP ON PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/posts/bonus-we-should-129530888?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Buy the book: https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/dean-spade/love-in-a-fucked-up-world/9781643756462/ Find more of Dean's work at deanspade.net *** SIGN UP NOW at https://patreon.com/partygirls to get all of our bonus content, Discord access, and a shout out on the pod! Join our YouTube channel as a member to get access to bonus videos (the same one's you'd find on Patreon!): https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0T-lzkTsMt1tBSvp958UGQ/join Follow us on ALL the Socials: Instagram: @party.girls.pod YouTube: @partygirlspod TikTok: @party.girls.pod Twitter: @partygirlspod BlueSky: @partygirls.bsky.social Leave us a nice review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify if you feel so inclined: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/party-girls/id1577239978 https://open.spotify.com/show/71ESqg33NRlEPmDxjbg4rO
Sam and Jamie speak with Dean Spade about his new book, Love in a F*cked Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together. Why did Dean decide to write a self-help book geared towards organizers, and what are the stakes of this work? Why has neither Sam nor Jamie ever seen an accountability process succeed? What openings does he see for the left to take up self-improvement as a non-reactionary project? All this, plus the hosts get candid about some of their own experiences. Buy the book: https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/dean-spade/love-in-a-fucked-up-world/9781643756462/ Find more of Dean's work at deanspade.net SIGN UP NOW at https://patreon.com/partygirls to get all of our bonus content, Discord access, and a shout out on the pod! Follow us on ALL the Socials: Instagram: @party.girls.pod YouTube: @partygirlspod TikTok: @party.girls.pod Twitter: @partygirlspod BlueSky: @partygirls.bsky.social Leave us a nice review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify if you feel so inclined: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/party-girls/id1577239978 https://open.spotify.com/show/71ESqg33NRlEPmDxjbg4rO
Care Chats are short, mindful conversrations where we share what's on our hearts. Join TanyaMarck + Nick + Dean Spade for this juicy chat about what it means to liberate love + beauty + queer joy during challenging times. Dean Spade (he/him) has been working in movements for queer and trans liberation, anti-militarism, and police and prison abolition for the past 25 years. He's the author of "Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics, and the Limits of Law", and "Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During This Crisis (and the Next)." His new book is "Love in a F*cked Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up and Raise Hell Together." Connect with Dean on Instagram @spade.dean Links + Resources + Invitations: An invitation to join the private Queer Spirit Community to connect with other listeners. Join us for FREE virtual Care Circles meditation + chanting + breath work circles online. We meet monthly on the 1st Saturday, 3rd Sunday + 4th Sunday. Follow us on BLUESKY + IG! Join our mailing list to get the QS Weekly Bulletin with news, Astrology + Magical Care, Care Circle + podcast updates sent directly to you. QS Resources: News, Education + Care.
Want more depth from your relationships? Feeling lonely and aren't sure what to do about it? You aren't alone, beloved. In a very special episode, we are very excited to welcome author, professor, and organizer Dean Spade! Dean breaks down why he felt called to write his latest amazing book, Love in a F*cked Up World: How To Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together. This episode explores:Why we are conflict avoidant, and why it's not your faultHow to build deeper relationshipsSimple ways to check yourself How honesty can strengthen all your relationships, including the one with yourself This is an episode you will take notes from, listen to numerous times, and forward to friends. Dean Spade Bio: Dean Spade has been working to build queer and trans liberation based in racial and economic justice for the past two decades. He is a professor at the Seattle University School of Law. He has written 3 books, his latest is Love In A F*cked-Up World. Find Dean here and here. Links mentioned: Creative Conflict Mariame Kabatransformharm.orgTake $9 off Our Hermit Year Workshop with code PODGIFT until May 31. MOON STUDIO WORKSHOP LINKSOur Hermit Year.The Highly Sensitive In RelationshipMystic Vision Workshop.Future Self Workshop.Join the Moon Studio Patreon.Buy the 2025 Many Moons Lunar Planner.Subscribe to our newsletter.Find Sarah on Instagram.
Join me as I reflect on the month of April, discussing the return of the sun and its impact on my mental health, personal growth, and the delicate balance of maintaining connections while undergoing distress tolerance therapy. In this episode, I introduce new ideas for tracking personal development and share invaluable insights from recent guests such as Dean Spade, Ravenous Randy Myers, Amy Lester, and Brett Cassidy. Learn actionable steps to improve friendships and hear my thoughts on whether friendships should have breakup conversations. Plus, discover my favourite songs from my monthly playlist and set intentions for the coming month. Don't miss it!Sign up for the Friendless Substack HERE!Listen to my monthly Spotify playlist HERE!Follow Friendless on TikTokand on InstagramSupport the show, Buy Me A Coffee!!Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr00:00 April Reflections and Personal Growth03:51 Dialectical Behaviour Therapy Insights08:01 Interview Highlights: Dean Spade11:03 Interview Highlights: Ravenous Randy Myers13:32 Interview Highlights: Amy Lester15:44 Interview Highlights: Brett Cassidy20:16 Actionable Steps for Personal Development24:54 Listener Questions and Interactions51:45 Reconnecting Through Communication53:49 Navigating Breakups with Grace56:24 Petty Reasons for Unfriending01:01:08 Anonymous Messages to Ex-Friends01:04:12 Monthly Playlist Highlights01:07:23 Setting Monthly Intentions01:13:03 Final Reflections and Gratitude
Dean Spade is the author of Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During this Crisis and the Next, and Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics, and the Limits of Law. Well known for highlighting the ways that mutual aid can be a direct response to societal needs as well as a transformative practice that shifts our... Read Full Article
Some podcast apps may not display links from our show notes properly, so we have included a list of links at the end of this description. * Lifelong activist and educator Dean Spade dares us to decide that our interpersonal actions are not separate from our politics of liberation and resistance. Many activist projects and resistance groups fall apart because people treat each other poorly, trying desperately to live out the cultural myths about dating and relationships that we are fed from an early age. How do we bring our best thinking about freedom and justice into step with our desires for healing and connection? * In this episode, Dean is joined by CIIS Anthropology and Social Change Associate Professor Targol Mesbah in a liberating conversation on how to combat cultural scripts and take our relationships into our own hands, better preparing us for the work of changing the world. * This episode was recorded during an in-person and live streamed event at California Institute of Integral Studies on February 28th, 2025. You can also watch it on the CIIS Public Programs YouTube channel. A transcript is available at ciispod.com. To find out more about CIIS and public programs like this one, visit our website ciis.edu and connect with us on social media @ciispubprograms. * We hope that each episode of our podcast provides opportunities for growth, and that our listeners will use them as a starting point for further introspection. Many of the topics discussed on our podcast have the potential to bring up feelings and emotional responses. If you or someone you know is in need of mental health care and support, here are some resources to find immediate help and future healing: * -Visit 988lifeline.org or text, call, or chat with The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline by dialing 988 from anywhere in the U.S. to be connected immediately with a trained counselor. Please note that 988 staff are required to take all action necessary to secure the safety of a caller and initiate emergency response with or without the caller's consent if they are unwilling or unable to take action on their own behalf. * -Visit thrivelifeline.org or text “THRIVE” to begin a conversation with a THRIVE Lifeline crisis responder 24/7/365, from anywhere: +1.313.662.8209. This confidential text line is available for individuals 18+ and is staffed by people in STEMM with marginalized identities. * -Visit translifeline.org or call (877) 565-8860 in the U.S. or (877) 330-6366 in Canada to learn more and contact Trans Lifeline, who provides trans peer support divested from police. * -Visit ciis.edu/ciis-in-the-world/counseling-clinics to learn more and schedule counseling sessions at one of our centers. * -Find information about additional global helplines at befrienders.org. * LINKS * Podcast Transcripts: https://www.ciispod.com/ * California Institute of Integral Studies (CIIS) Website: https://www.ciis.edu/ * CIIS Public Programs YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/ciispublicprograms * CIIS Public Programs Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ciispubprograms/ * Mental Health Care and Support Resources: https://988lifeline.org/ https://thrivelifeline.org/ https://translifeline.org/ https://www.ciis.edu/ciis-in-the-world/counseling-clinics https://befrienders.org/
In part 3 of our deep dive into the nuances of the Hermit archetype, Sarah Faith Gottesdiener explores some of the challenges that come with being an intuitive, mystical, sensitive person wanting to have healthy relationships of all kinds. In this episode, Sarah discusses the different challenges intuitives and sensitives face trying to find right-fit relationships in a numbed out, often cruel world. Plus, we have the delightful author of Love in Fucked Up World, Dean Spade, on the show to answer listener questions! Tune in to learn about: Why you got so exhausted masking and why it is better to unmask Why you attract people who don't understand youHow to know if you are ending past life contracts with othersWhat soul friends are and why it's so important to look for them How to find new, healthy, intimate relationships The questions Dean and I answer are these: Can someone who is committed to spirituality and growth be friends with folks who have no interest in personal growth and change? How to know when a friendship has run its course, or when it is white supremacy influenced disposability? What to do when beloveds have very different political beliefs as you—to stay or to go? If you want to feel affirmed and less lonely, tune in for today's episode! Take $9 off Our Hermit Year Workshop with code PODGIFT until May 31. MOON STUDIO WORKSHOP LINKSOur Hermit Year.The Highly Sensitive In RelationshipMystic Vision Workshop.Future Self Workshop.Join the Moon Studio Patreon.Buy the 2025 Many Moons Lunar Planner.Subscribe to our newsletter.Find Sarah on Instagram.
Subscribe on Patreon and hear this week's full patron-exclusive episode here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/127162993 Beatrice speaks with Dean Spade about holding together political coalitions, friendships, and organizing partnerships in the face of a culture of disposability and a world on fire. Note: We're back! Thank you to everyone for all the well wishes and many kind messages during our parental leave. We have a lot coming together soon processing current events and reacting to some big developments that happened while we were away. As we ramp production back up we'll be prioritizing the patron feed first to make sure you all get a new episode every week. Get Health Communism here: www.versobooks.com/books/4081-health-communism Find Jules' new book here: https://www.versobooks.com/products/3054-a-short-history-of-trans-misogyny
“Our movements are pretty much just made of our relationships — whether we can move together, coordinate, collaborate, figure out disagreements [and] stay loyal to each other when the repression comes down,” says Dean Spade. In this episode Dean and Kelly discuss the lessons of Dean's new book, Love in a F*cked-Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together. Music: Son Monarcas, Pulsed & David Celeste You can find a transcript and show notes (including links to resources) here: truthout.org/series/movement-memos/ If you would like to support the show, you can donate here: bit.ly/TODonate If you would like to receive Truthout's newsletter, please sign up: bit.ly/TOnewsletter
Dean Spade joins The Great Battlefield podcast to talk about his career as an activist and professor, his book about mutual aid and his most recent book "Love in a F*cked Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell, Together".
Are the same dynamics screwing up our relationships also hampering our social movements? Sarah and Alex talk to activist and law professor Dean Spade about the romance myth, capitalism and love in this f*cked up world. Mentioned in the episode: Love in a F*cked Up World | DeanSpade.net | The Death Panel | Movement Memos Also by Dean Spade: Mutual Aid | Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics, and the Limits of Law mistakescast@gmail.com | https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Logo design by roy franklin: www.whateverfactory.org Links to bookshop.org are affiliate links. Any proceeds will support this podcast!
Here's an energizing and hopeful Talk It Out episode for POWER to regular people! We are delighted to bring you Dean Spade, author, professor, and wonderfully clear channel of the wisdom of healthy relationships and local community! Mutual Aid 101 is a talk Dean recently provided for shareable.net and the Response Podcast, who graciously shared it for you our KPFA audience. Please click HERE to visit Shareable's site for class materials and recordings from a whole recent class series on Mutual Aid. You can connect to Dean directly HERE. The post Mutual Aid 101 with Dean Spade appeared first on KPFA.
Explore the timely insights from activist Dean Spade on how reshaping our personal connections can bolster our fight for justice, as featured in his latest book, "Love in a F*cked Up World."This show is made possible thanks our members! To become a sustaining member go to https://LauraFlanders.org/donate Thank you for your continued support!Description: In a time of climate catastrophe, genocide, mass incarceration and political turmoil, people need to work together – better! That's why lifelong activist Dean Spade has written “Love in a F*ed Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell, Together”. Which tools can help people and social justice movements face conflict and emerge stronger (rather than weaker)? Which stories do we tell ourselves that aren't helping us think — or act — in our best interest? In this timely conversation, Spade shares tips on how we might get our interpersonal houses in order so that we're better equipped to show up for others and the causes we care about. Spade is a lawyer, educator, and author of “Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During This Crisis (and the Next)”, and “Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics and the Limits of the Law”. He's the director of “Pinkwashing Exposed: Seattle Fights Back!”, and in 2002 he founded the Sylvia Rivera Law Project in New York City, a law collective that provides free legal services to trans and gender non-conforming people who are low income and/or people of color. He has useful things to say about romance too, which are worth bearing in mind, as the Valentine's marketing crush hits, as Laura reflects in her commentary.“. . . Most of us are taking in all the bad news by ourselves through a screen . . . One of the best things we can do to support our own wellbeing through the overwhelm is be with others, joining any kind of project in our communities, a creative project, a mutual aid project . . .” - Dean Spade“The typical self-help genre is very focused on the individual. It doesn't contextualize the kinds of suffering that everyone's going through in a broader feminist analysis, anti-capitalist analysis, anti-racist analysis . . . If we understand that our individual suffering is a bunch of bigger scripts, . . . it can be a little bit freeing.” - Dean Spade Guest: Dean Spade: Author, Love In A F*ed-Up World: How To Build Relationships, Hook Up, And Raise Hell Together & Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During This Crisis (and the Next) This show is made possible thanks our members! To become a sustaining member go to https://LauraFlanders.org/donate Thank you for your continued support!Watch the broadcast episode cut for time at our YouTube channel and airing on PBS stations across the country Subscribe to episode notes via Patreon Music In the Middle: “We are Rising” by activist, singer and songwriter, Taína Asili. She created the song for One Billion Rising's 2020 global campaign.. And additional music included- "Steppin" and "All The Ways" by Podington Bear. Related Laura Flanders Show Episodes:• The New Transgender Movement: Race, Poverty, Gender, Policing, and Pinkwashing, Watch• Emergent Strategies for Abolition: Andrea J. Ritchie's Toolkit for Activists: Watch / Download Podcast• Mariame Kaba: Rooting Out Our Culture of Harm: Watch / Download Podcast: Episode & Full Uncut Conversation• adrienne maree brown: Pleasure Activism and Black Women's Legacy of Joy, Watch (06:58) / Download Podcast: Full Uncut Conversation (37:20) Related Articles and Resources:• Our Best Option for Defending Ourselves From Trump's Second Term Is Each Other, by Dean Spade, November 12, 2024, TruthOut• Checking in with Dean Spade (ep181), December 9, 2024, Gender Reveal Podcast•. “The Mask Is Off:” Dean Spade and Susan Stryker on Trans Resistance in Trump's America, by Them, December 18, 2024, Them.us Laura Flanders and Friends Crew: Laura Flanders, along with Sabrina Artel, Jeremiah Cothren, Veronica Delgado, Janet Hernandez, Jeannie Hopper, Sarah Miller, Nat Needham, David Neuman, and Rory O'Conner. FOLLOW Laura Flanders and FriendsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauraflandersandfriends/Blueky: https://bsky.app/profile/lfandfriends.bsky.socialFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/LauraFlandersAndFriends/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lauraflandersandfriendsYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFLRxVeYcB1H7DbuYZQG-lgLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/lauraflandersandfriendsPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/lauraflandersandfriendsACCESSIBILITY - The broadcast edition of this episode is available with closed captioned by clicking here for our YouTube Channel
Explore the timely insights from activist Dean Spade on how reshaping our personal connections can bolster our fight for justice, as featured in his latest book, "Love in a F*cked Up World."This show is made possible by you! To become a sustaining member go to https://LauraFlanders.org/donate Thank you for your continued support!Description: In a time of climate catastrophe, genocide, mass incarceration and political turmoil, people need to work together – better! That's why lifelong activist Dean Spade has written “Love in a F*cked Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell, Together”. Which tools can help people and social justice movements face conflict and emerge stronger (rather than weaker)? Which stories do we tell ourselves that aren't helping us think — or act — in our best interest? In this timely conversation, Spade shares tips on how we might get our interpersonal houses in order so that we're better equipped to show up for others and the causes we care about. Spade is a lawyer, educator, and author of “Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During This Crisis (and the Next)”, and “Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics and the Limits of the Law”. He's the director of “Pinkwashing Exposed: Seattle Fights Back!”, and in 2002 he founded the Sylvia Rivera Law Project in New York City, a law collective that provides free legal services to trans and gender non-conforming people who are low income and/or people of color. He has useful things to say about romance too, which are worth bearing in mind, as the Valentine's marketing crush hits, as Laura reflects in her commentary.“. . . Most of us are taking in all the bad news by ourselves through a screen . . . One of the best things we can do to support our own wellbeing through the overwhelm is be with others, joining any kind of project in our communities, a creative project, a mutual aid project . . .” - Dean Spade“The typical self-help genre is very focused on the individual. It doesn't contextualize the kinds of suffering that everyone's going through in a broader feminist analysis, anti-capitalist analysis, anti-racist analysis . . . If we understand that our individual suffering is a bunch of bigger scripts, . . . it can be a little bit freeing.” - Dean SpadeGuest: Dean Spade, Author, “Love In A F*cked-Up World: How To Build Relationships, Hook Up, And Raise Hell Together”, “Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During This Crisis (and the Next)” and more. Watch the episode cut airing on PBS stations across the country at our YouTube channelSubscribe to episode notes via Patreon Related Laura Flanders Show Episodes:• The New Transgender Movement: Race, Poverty, Gender, Policing, and Pinkwashing, Watch• Emergent Strategies for Abolition: Andrea J. Ritchie's Toolkit for Activists: Watch / Download Podcast• Mariame Kaba: Rooting Out Our Culture of Harm: Watch / Download Podcast: Episode & Full Uncut Conversation• adrienne maree brown: Pleasure Activism and Black Women's Legacy of Joy, Watch (06:58) / Download Podcast: Full Uncut Conversation (37:20)Related Articles and Resources:• Our Best Option for Defending Ourselves From Trump's Second Term Is Each Other, by Dean Spade, November 12, 2024, TruthOut• Checking in with Dean Spade (ep181), December 9, 2024, Gender Reveal Podcast•. “The Mask Is Off:” Dean Spade and Susan Stryker on Trans Resistance in Trump's America, by Them, December 18, 2024, Them.us Laura Flanders and Friends Crew: Laura Flanders, along with Sabrina Artel, Jeremiah Cothren, Veronica Delgado, Janet Hernandez, Jeannie Hopper, Sarah Miller, Nat Needham, David Neuman, and Rory O'Conner. FOLLOW Laura Flanders and FriendsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauraflandersandfriends/Blueky: https://bsky.app/profile/lfandfriends.bsky.socialFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/LauraFlandersAndFriends/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lauraflandersandfriendsYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFLRxVeYcB1H7DbuYZQG-lgLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/lauraflandersandfriendsPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/lauraflandersandfriendsACCESSIBILITY - The broadcast edition of this episode is available with closed captioned by clicking here for our YouTube Channel
This week, Bryan Lowder sits down with activist and author Dean Spade to discuss his latest book, Love in a F*cked Up World. Together, they unpack how capitalism, white supremacy, and patriarchy shape our desires, the pitfalls of the “relationship escalator,” and why collective care might be the most radical love of all. From breaking free of toxic relationship scripts to reimagining intimacy beyond hierarchy and control, this conversation challenges everything we've been taught about love—and offers a vision for something more liberatory. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week, Bryan Lowder sits down with activist and author Dean Spade to discuss his latest book, Love in a F*cked Up World. Together, they unpack how capitalism, white supremacy, and patriarchy shape our desires, the pitfalls of the “relationship escalator,” and why collective care might be the most radical love of all. From breaking free of toxic relationship scripts to reimagining intimacy beyond hierarchy and control, this conversation challenges everything we've been taught about love—and offers a vision for something more liberatory. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week, Bryan Lowder sits down with activist and author Dean Spade to discuss his latest book, Love in a F*cked Up World. Together, they unpack how capitalism, white supremacy, and patriarchy shape our desires, the pitfalls of the “relationship escalator,” and why collective care might be the most radical love of all. From breaking free of toxic relationship scripts to reimagining intimacy beyond hierarchy and control, this conversation challenges everything we've been taught about love—and offers a vision for something more liberatory. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week, Bryan Lowder sits down with activist and author Dean Spade to discuss his latest book, Love in a F*cked Up World. Together, they unpack how capitalism, white supremacy, and patriarchy shape our desires, the pitfalls of the “relationship escalator,” and why collective care might be the most radical love of all. From breaking free of toxic relationship scripts to reimagining intimacy beyond hierarchy and control, this conversation challenges everything we've been taught about love—and offers a vision for something more liberatory. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week, Bryan Lowder sits down with activist and author Dean Spade to discuss his latest book, Love in a F*cked Up World. Together, they unpack how capitalism, white supremacy, and patriarchy shape our desires, the pitfalls of the “relationship escalator,” and why collective care might be the most radical love of all. From breaking free of toxic relationship scripts to reimagining intimacy beyond hierarchy and control, this conversation challenges everything we've been taught about love—and offers a vision for something more liberatory. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Is there such a thing as "The One?" Is there such a thing as "choosing well" when it comes to a partner, or are we always looking to trade up to a "better model?" Laura and Crystal discuss a quote from Dean Spade's new book, "Love in a F*cked Up World."Resources discussed in this episode:We Grow the World TogetherBecoming KinEmergent StrategiesLove in a F*cked Up WorldTribal Justice on PBSRestorative JusticeJoin our Patreon!Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Time to Lean on social media @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media @thatdarnchatFollow Crystal on social media @itscrystalbrittDomestic Violence Resources Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) Get bonus content on Patreon Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
This week's horoscope is short and sweet, so stay tuned for an extra special segment with Jessica in conversation with Dean Spade (https://linktr.ee/deanspade) about mutual aid and we can come together, for each other.
Tuck and Ozzy chat with writer Vera Blossom (she/her). Topics include: Being the hottest girlie at the men-only bathhouse Writing a memoir-grimoire complete with magic spells What did estrogen teach Vera about the life cycle of pigeons??? Is Shrek the ideal man? (And are straight roommates queer-coded?) Plus: Las Vegas, Pokemon boarding school online role-play, and the ghost of the gay guy who previously owned Vera's bread machine This Week in Gender: We revisit past interviews with Dean Spade and Chase Strangio and recommend reading “literally what can we do.” Submit a piece of Theymail: Today's messages were from et al. Scholars and Max Burns UX. Find Vera @cuteflesh and at howtofucklikeagirl.com. How to Fuck Like a Girl is available now at bookshop.org. We're on tour this week! Any tickets left are at genderpodcast.com/live. ~~ Join our Patreon to access our monthly bonus episodes and weekly newsletter. Find transcripts and more at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Additional help from Lil Gael Montevecchi Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional music: “Spinning Meter” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)
It started when San Jose State University's Diversity, Equity and Inclusion office sponsored a visit from CSU's premier Zionist. Sang Hea Kil describes the repression she experienced as the only faculty member who joined an encampment of Muslim students in solidarity with Palestine last year at the school. Later in the episode, G, a former worker at GLIDE Church (a San Francisco nonprofit where the head of "Social Justice" is a Zionist rabbi), speaks about explicit and implicit Zionist bias at progressive nonprofits. Sang's piece in Radical Teacher: "Islamophobia, Dirty Water Tactics, and Student Encampments for Gaza": https://radicalteacher.library.pitt.edu/ojs/radicalteacher/article/view/1310 Sang on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sangheakil/ G on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gay13/ Episodes mentioned: How South African Solidarity Encampments Worked f/ Matt Ray and Matt Wranovics (Left in the Bay): https://episodes.fm/1653309103/episode/YmVmZmIxY2QtYzg4Ny00OTliLWJmZGYtMjVkOTM1MjYwNWJj Can't Hide a Genocide f/ Dylan Rodriguez and Loubna Qutami: https://episodes.fm/1653309103/episode/ZmVhOGRjMDYtMmVjOS00NmM4LThmZDktN2JmYjQxMTk0Yjc4 Debt is a Threat to Liberation f/ Maddy Clifford (Debt Collective): https://episodes.fm/1653309103/episode/MjdhNWQzNmMtNTg4My00NDkwLWIyMmItZmE4NzkwN2RkYzAx Should Social Movement Work Be Paid? with Dean Spade: [https://episodes.fm/1653309103/episode/ZmY5YTNkMTUtOTkzNC00YTBjLTk0NDQtMzNkOTliY2EzMDdk Support us and find links to our past episodes: patreon.com/sadfrancisco ]
This is the third in a series of episodes on HOW TO LIVE IN 2025, focusing on the thoughts, feelings, and actions we need to thrive, develop, create, and resist. At the end of each of these episodes, I'll offer an exercise - a thought exercise, spiritual exercise, or practical exercise - that brings an experiential dimension to what I and the shows guests talk about. This episode's theme is CONNECTAnd my guest is organizer, activist, and writer, DEAN SPADE Our disconnection from each other is the negative space that power thrives in. It's a void that threatens to overtake us with its heavy unfeeling emptiness. Connection is the remedy, but more than that: it's the great meaning we all seek. The connections we form with each other can create networks of mutual aid, solidarity, safety, love, pleasure, and happy engagement with the challenges of our time. Dean's new book, Love in a F*cked-Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together offers a powerful look at connection. And it gives everything its title promises: a wealth of practical steps you can take to learn how to live well in this world through what you learn in relationship with others. It's a book about relationships that takes nothing for granted from the dominant narratives that rule our lives. Rather than trying to fit society as it is, the book asks us what it would look like if our relationships were built out of our desires, including our desire to create a better word through better relationships.
Explore the timely insights from activist Dean Spade on how reshaping our personal connections can bolster our fight for justice, as featured in his latest book, "Love in a F*cked Up World."This show is made possible thanks our members! To become a sustaining member go to https://LauraFlanders.org/donate Thank you for your continued support!Description: In a time of climate catastrophe, genocide, mass incarceration and political turmoil, people need to work together – better! That's why lifelong activist Dean Spade has written “Love in a F*ed Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell, Together”. Which tools can help people and social justice movements face conflict and emerge stronger (rather than weaker)? Which stories do we tell ourselves that aren't helping us think — or act — in our best interest? In this timely conversation, Spade shares tips on how we might get our interpersonal houses in order so that we're better equipped to show up for others and the causes we care about. Spade is a lawyer, educator, and author of “Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During This Crisis (and the Next)”, and “Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics and the Limits of the Law”. He's the director of “Pinkwashing Exposed: Seattle Fights Back!”, and in 2002 he founded the Sylvia Rivera Law Project in New York City, a law collective that provides free legal services to trans and gender non-conforming people who are low income and/or people of color. He has useful things to say about romance too, which are worth bearing in mind, as the Valentine's marketing crush hits, as Laura reflects in her commentary.“. . . Most of us are taking in all the bad news by ourselves through a screen . . . One of the best things we can do to support our own wellbeing through the overwhelm is be with others, joining any kind of project in our communities, a creative project, a mutual aid project . . .” - Dean Spade“The typical self-help genre is very focused on the individual. It doesn't contextualize the kinds of suffering that everyone's going through in a broader feminist analysis, anti-capitalist analysis, anti-racist analysis . . . If we understand that our individual suffering is a bunch of bigger scripts, . . . it can be a little bit freeing.” - Dean Spade Guest: Dean Spade: Author, Love In A F*ed-Up World: How To Build Relationships, Hook Up, And Raise Hell Together & Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During This Crisis (and the Next) This show is made possible thanks our members! To become a sustaining member go to https://LauraFlanders.org/donate Thank you for your continued support!Watch the broadcast episode cut for time at our YouTube channel and airing on PBS stations across the country Subscribe to episode notes via Patreon Music In the Middle: “We are Rising” by activist, singer and songwriter, Taína Asili. She created the song for One Billion Rising's 2020 global campaign.. And additional music included- "Steppin" and "All The Ways" by Podington Bear. Related Laura Flanders Show Episodes:• The New Transgender Movement: Race, Poverty, Gender, Policing, and Pinkwashing, Watch• Emergent Strategies for Abolition: Andrea J. Ritchie's Toolkit for Activists: Watch / Download Podcast• Mariame Kaba: Rooting Out Our Culture of Harm: Watch / Download Podcast: Episode & Full Uncut Conversation• adrienne maree brown: Pleasure Activism and Black Women's Legacy of Joy, Watch (06:58) / Download Podcast: Full Uncut Conversation (37:20) Related Articles and Resources:• Our Best Option for Defending Ourselves From Trump's Second Term Is Each Other, by Dean Spade, November 12, 2024, TruthOut• Checking in with Dean Spade (ep181), December 9, 2024, Gender Reveal Podcast•. “The Mask Is Off:” Dean Spade and Susan Stryker on Trans Resistance in Trump's America, by Them, December 18, 2024, Them.us Laura Flanders and Friends Crew: Laura Flanders, along with Sabrina Artel, Jeremiah Cothren, Veronica Delgado, Janet Hernandez, Jeannie Hopper, Sarah Miller, Nat Needham, David Neuman, and Rory O'Conner. FOLLOW Laura Flanders and FriendsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauraflandersandfriends/Blueky: https://bsky.app/profile/lfandfriends.bsky.socialFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/LauraFlandersAndFriends/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lauraflandersandfriendsYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFLRxVeYcB1H7DbuYZQG-lgLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/lauraflandersandfriendsPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/lauraflandersandfriendsACCESSIBILITY - The broadcast edition of this episode is available with closed captioned by clicking here for our YouTube Channel
In "Love in a F*cked Up World," Dean Spade shares insights on fostering relationships and activism in the face of global crises—find out more about his approach to solidarity now!This show is made possible by you! To become a sustaining member go to https://LauraFlanders.org/donate Thank you for your continued support! Description: In a time of climate catastrophe, genocide, mass incarceration and political turmoil, people need to work together – better! That's why lifelong activist Dean Spade has written “Love in a F*cked Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell, Together”. Which tools can help people and social justice movements face conflict and emerge stronger (rather than weaker)? Which stories do we tell ourselves that aren't helping us think — or act — in our best interest? In this timely conversation, Spade shares tips on how we might get our interpersonal houses in order so that we're better equipped to show up for others and the causes we care about. Spade is a lawyer, educator, and author of “Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During This Crisis (and the Next)”, and “Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics and the Limits of the Law”. He's the director of “Pinkwashing Exposed: Seattle Fights Back!”, and in 2002 he founded the Sylvia Rivera Law Project in New York City, a law collective that provides free legal services to trans and gender non-conforming people who are low income and/or people of color. He has useful things to say about romance too, which are worth bearing in mind, as the Valentine's marketing crush hits, as Laura reflects in her commentary.“. . . Most of us are taking in all the bad news by ourselves through a screen . . . One of the best things we can do to support our own wellbeing through the overwhelm is be with others, joining any kind of project in our communities, a creative project, a mutual aid project . . .” - Dean Spade“The typical self-help genre is very focused on the individual. It doesn't contextualize the kinds of suffering that everyone's going through in a broader feminist analysis, anti-capitalist analysis, anti-racist analysis . . . If we understand that our individual suffering is a bunch of bigger scripts, . . . it can be a little bit freeing.” - Dean SpadeGuest: Dean Spade, Author, “Love In A F*cked-Up World: How To Build Relationships, Hook Up, And Raise Hell Together”, “Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During This Crisis (and the Next)” and more. Watch the episode cut airing on PBS stations across the country at our YouTube channelSubscribe to episode notes via Patreon Related Laura Flanders Show Episodes:• The New Transgender Movement: Race, Poverty, Gender, Policing, and Pinkwashing, Watch• Emergent Strategies for Abolition: Andrea J. Ritchie's Toolkit for Activists: Watch / Download Podcast• Mariame Kaba: Rooting Out Our Culture of Harm: Watch / Download Podcast: Episode & Full Uncut Conversation• adrienne maree brown: Pleasure Activism and Black Women's Legacy of Joy, Watch (06:58) / Download Podcast: Full Uncut Conversation (37:20)Related Articles and Resources:• Our Best Option for Defending Ourselves From Trump's Second Term Is Each Other, by Dean Spade, November 12, 2024, TruthOut• Checking in with Dean Spade (ep181), December 9, 2024, Gender Reveal Podcast•. “The Mask Is Off:” Dean Spade and Susan Stryker on Trans Resistance in Trump's America, by Them, December 18, 2024, Them.us Laura Flanders and Friends Crew: Laura Flanders, along with Sabrina Artel, Jeremiah Cothren, Veronica Delgado, Janet Hernandez, Jeannie Hopper, Sarah Miller, Nat Needham, David Neuman, and Rory O'Conner. FOLLOW Laura Flanders and FriendsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauraflandersandfriends/Blueky: https://bsky.app/profile/lfandfriends.bsky.socialFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/LauraFlandersAndFriends/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lauraflandersandfriendsYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFLRxVeYcB1H7DbuYZQG-lgLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/lauraflandersandfriendsPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/lauraflandersandfriendsACCESSIBILITY - The broadcast edition of this episode is available with closed captioned by clicking here for our YouTube Channel
“This book has a lot of the wisdom of things that feminists and queers have learned in the community about sexuality, but the book is really for anybody who is political, even those just starting out and beginning to realize that there is something wrong with the systems they live under. I want to be in movements. Our movements are made of relationships. So, if you're just getting into our movements, or if you've been here for years and have been watching the ways we hurt each other and fall apart relationally, this book is about identifying these common patterns.”Dean Spade is an organizer, speaker, author, and professor at Seattle University's School of Law, where he teaches courses on policing, imprisonment, gender, race, and social movements. He is the author of Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During this Crisis (and the next) and Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics and the Limits of Law. His latest book is Love in a F*cked-Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together.Episode Websitewww.creativeprocess.info/podInstagram:@creativeprocesspodcast
“This book has a lot of the wisdom of things that feminists and queers have learned in the community about sexuality, but the book is really for anybody who is political, even those just starting out and beginning to realize that there is something wrong with the systems they live under. I want to be in movements. Our movements are made of relationships. So, if you're just getting into our movements, or if you've been here for years and have been watching the ways we hurt each other and fall apart relationally, this book is about identifying these common patterns.”Dean Spade is an organizer, speaker, author, and professor at Seattle University's School of Law, where he teaches courses on policing, imprisonment, gender, race, and social movements. He is the author of Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During this Crisis (and the next) and Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics and the Limits of Law. His latest book is Love in a F*cked-Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together.Episode Websitewww.creativeprocess.info/podInstagram:@creativeprocesspodcast
“This book has a lot of the wisdom of things that feminists and queers have learned in the community about sexuality, but the book is really for anybody who is political, even those just starting out and beginning to realize that there is something wrong with the systems they live under. I want to be in movements. Our movements are made of relationships. So, if you're just getting into our movements, or if you've been here for years and have been watching the ways we hurt each other and fall apart relationally, this book is about identifying these common patterns.”Dean Spade is an organizer, speaker, author, and professor at Seattle University's School of Law, where he teaches courses on policing, imprisonment, gender, race, and social movements. He is the author of Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During this Crisis (and the next) and Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics and the Limits of Law. His latest book is Love in a F*cked-Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together.Episode Websitewww.creativeprocess.info/podInstagram:@creativeprocesspodcast
“This book has a lot of the wisdom of things that feminists and queers have learned in the community about sexuality, but the book is really for anybody who is political, even those just starting out and beginning to realize that there is something wrong with the systems they live under. I want to be in movements. Our movements are made of relationships. So, if you're just getting into our movements, or if you've been here for years and have been watching the ways we hurt each other and fall apart relationally, this book is about identifying these common patterns.”Dean Spade is an organizer, speaker, author, and professor at Seattle University's School of Law, where he teaches courses on policing, imprisonment, gender, race, and social movements. He is the author of Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During this Crisis (and the next) and Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics and the Limits of Law. His latest book is Love in a F*cked-Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together.Episode Websitewww.creativeprocess.info/podInstagram:@creativeprocesspodcast
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“This book has a lot of the wisdom of things that feminists and queers have learned in the community about sexuality, but the book is really for anybody who is political, even those just starting out and beginning to realize that there is something wrong with the systems they live under. I want to be in movements. Our movements are made of relationships. So, if you're just getting into our movements, or if you've been here for years and have been watching the ways we hurt each other and fall apart relationally, this book is about identifying these common patterns.”Dean Spade is an organizer, speaker, author, and professor at Seattle University's School of Law, where he teaches courses on policing, imprisonment, gender, race, and social movements. He is the author of Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During this Crisis (and the next) and Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics and the Limits of Law. His latest book is Love in a F*cked-Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together.Episode Websitewww.creativeprocess.info/podInstagram:@creativeprocesspodcast
LOVE - What is love? Relationships, Personal Stories, Love Life, Sex, Dating, The Creative Process
“This book has a lot of the wisdom of things that feminists and queers have learned in the community about sexuality, but the book is really for anybody who is political, even those just starting out and beginning to realize that there is something wrong with the systems they live under. I want to be in movements. Our movements are made of relationships. So, if you're just getting into our movements, or if you've been here for years and have been watching the ways we hurt each other and fall apart relationally, this book is about identifying these common patterns.”Dean Spade is an organizer, speaker, author, and professor at Seattle University's School of Law, where he teaches courses on policing, imprisonment, gender, race, and social movements. He is the author of Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During this Crisis (and the next) and Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics and the Limits of Law. His latest book is Love in a F*cked-Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together.Episode Websitewww.creativeprocess.info/podInstagram:@creativeprocesspodcast
Why is it that we find the courage to boldly confront mainstream societal norms and structures, yet are so often unable to treat romantic partners with care and generosity? Why do we lose our principles when we become insecure, disappointed, or jealous? Why do we act our worst in sexual and romantic relationships? And why do we prioritize romantic connection above other types of relationships, like friendship?Dean Spade is an organizer, speaker, author, and professor at Seattle University's School of Law, where he teaches courses on policing, imprisonment, gender, race, and social movements. He is the author of Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During this Crisis (and the next) and Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics and the Limits of Law. His latest book is Love in a F*cked-Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together.“This book has a lot of the wisdom of things that feminists and queers have learned in the community about sexuality, but the book is really for anybody who is political, even those just starting out and beginning to realize that there is something wrong with the systems they live under. I want to be in movements. Our movements are made of relationships. So, if you're just getting into our movements, or if you've been here for years and have been watching the ways we hurt each other and fall apart relationally, this book is about identifying these common patterns.”Episode Websitewww.creativeprocess.info/podInstagram:@creativeprocesspodcast
Why is it that we find the courage to boldly confront mainstream societal norms and structures, yet are so often unable to treat romantic partners with care and generosity? Why do we lose our principles when we become insecure, disappointed, or jealous? Why do we act our worst in sexual and romantic relationships? And why do we prioritize romantic connection above other types of relationships, like friendship?Dean Spade is an organizer, speaker, author, and professor at Seattle University's School of Law, where he teaches courses on policing, imprisonment, gender, race, and social movements. He is the author of Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During this Crisis (and the next) and Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics and the Limits of Law. His latest book is Love in a F*cked-Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together.“This book has a lot of the wisdom of things that feminists and queers have learned in the community about sexuality, but the book is really for anybody who is political, even those just starting out and beginning to realize that there is something wrong with the systems they live under. I want to be in movements. Our movements are made of relationships. So, if you're just getting into our movements, or if you've been here for years and have been watching the ways we hurt each other and fall apart relationally, this book is about identifying these common patterns.”Episode Websitewww.creativeprocess.info/podInstagram:@creativeprocesspodcast
Why is it that we find the courage to boldly confront mainstream societal norms and structures, yet are so often unable to treat romantic partners with care and generosity? Why do we lose our principles when we become insecure, disappointed, or jealous? Why do we act our worst in sexual and romantic relationships? And why do we prioritize romantic connection above other types of relationships, like friendship?Dean Spade is an organizer, speaker, author, and professor at Seattle University's School of Law, where he teaches courses on policing, imprisonment, gender, race, and social movements. He is the author of Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During this Crisis (and the next) and Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics and the Limits of Law. His latest book is Love in a F*cked-Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together.“This book has a lot of the wisdom of things that feminists and queers have learned in the community about sexuality, but the book is really for anybody who is political, even those just starting out and beginning to realize that there is something wrong with the systems they live under. I want to be in movements. Our movements are made of relationships. So, if you're just getting into our movements, or if you've been here for years and have been watching the ways we hurt each other and fall apart relationally, this book is about identifying these common patterns.”Episode Websitewww.creativeprocess.info/podInstagram:@creativeprocesspodcast
Why is it that we find the courage to boldly confront mainstream societal norms and structures, yet are so often unable to treat romantic partners with care and generosity? Why do we lose our principles when we become insecure, disappointed, or jealous? Why do we act our worst in sexual and romantic relationships? And why do we prioritize romantic connection above other types of relationships, like friendship?Dean Spade is an organizer, speaker, author, and professor at Seattle University's School of Law, where he teaches courses on policing, imprisonment, gender, race, and social movements. He is the author of Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During this Crisis (and the next) and Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics and the Limits of Law. His latest book is Love in a F*cked-Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together.“This book has a lot of the wisdom of things that feminists and queers have learned in the community about sexuality, but the book is really for anybody who is political, even those just starting out and beginning to realize that there is something wrong with the systems they live under. I want to be in movements. Our movements are made of relationships. So, if you're just getting into our movements, or if you've been here for years and have been watching the ways we hurt each other and fall apart relationally, this book is about identifying these common patterns.”Episode Websitewww.creativeprocess.info/podInstagram:@creativeprocesspodcast
Why is it that we find the courage to boldly confront mainstream societal norms and structures, yet are so often unable to treat romantic partners with care and generosity? Why do we lose our principles when we become insecure, disappointed, or jealous? Why do we act our worst in sexual and romantic relationships? And why do we prioritize romantic connection above other types of relationships, like friendship?Dean Spade is an organizer, speaker, author, and professor at Seattle University's School of Law, where he teaches courses on policing, imprisonment, gender, race, and social movements. He is the author of Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During this Crisis (and the next) and Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics and the Limits of Law. His latest book is Love in a F*cked-Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together.“This book has a lot of the wisdom of things that feminists and queers have learned in the community about sexuality, but the book is really for anybody who is political, even those just starting out and beginning to realize that there is something wrong with the systems they live under. I want to be in movements. Our movements are made of relationships. So, if you're just getting into our movements, or if you've been here for years and have been watching the ways we hurt each other and fall apart relationally, this book is about identifying these common patterns.”Episode Websitewww.creativeprocess.info/podInstagram:@creativeprocesspodcast
Why is it that we find the courage to boldly confront mainstream societal norms and structures, yet are so often unable to treat romantic partners with care and generosity? Why do we lose our principles when we become insecure, disappointed, or jealous? Why do we act our worst in sexual and romantic relationships? And why do we prioritize romantic connection above other types of relationships, like friendship?Dean Spade is an organizer, speaker, author, and professor at Seattle University's School of Law, where he teaches courses on policing, imprisonment, gender, race, and social movements. He is the author of Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During this Crisis (and the next) and Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics and the Limits of Law. His latest book is Love in a F*cked-Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together.“This book has a lot of the wisdom of things that feminists and queers have learned in the community about sexuality, but the book is really for anybody who is political, even those just starting out and beginning to realize that there is something wrong with the systems they live under. I want to be in movements. Our movements are made of relationships. So, if you're just getting into our movements, or if you've been here for years and have been watching the ways we hurt each other and fall apart relationally, this book is about identifying these common patterns.”Episode Websitewww.creativeprocess.info/podInstagram:@creativeprocesspodcast
LOVE - What is love? Relationships, Personal Stories, Love Life, Sex, Dating, The Creative Process
Why is it that we find the courage to boldly confront mainstream societal norms and structures, yet are so often unable to treat romantic partners with care and generosity? Why do we lose our principles when we become insecure, disappointed, or jealous? Why do we act our worst in sexual and romantic relationships? And why do we prioritize romantic connection above other types of relationships, like friendship?Dean Spade is an organizer, speaker, author, and professor at Seattle University's School of Law, where he teaches courses on policing, imprisonment, gender, race, and social movements. He is the author of Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During this Crisis (and the next) and Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics and the Limits of Law. His latest book is Love in a F*cked-Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together.“This book has a lot of the wisdom of things that feminists and queers have learned in the community about sexuality, but the book is really for anybody who is political, even those just starting out and beginning to realize that there is something wrong with the systems they live under. I want to be in movements. Our movements are made of relationships. So, if you're just getting into our movements, or if you've been here for years and have been watching the ways we hurt each other and fall apart relationally, this book is about identifying these common patterns.”Episode Websitewww.creativeprocess.info/podInstagram:@creativeprocesspodcast
As this year comes to a close, we're releasing a Best of 2024 series—by no means objective, and making plenty of tough decisions to leave a few favorites out. Each of these will also be posted in the public feed. We'll be back early in the new year with new episodes. Original description: Beatrice speaks with Dean Spade about how we respond to crises, from climate collapse to covid, and how the state's primary response to these crises is to try to narrow the possibilities for political action around them. Read Dean's piece, “Climate Disaster Is Here—and the State Will Never Save Us” here: https://inthesetimes.com/article/climate-disaster-ecological-crisis-deluge-ministry-markley-robinson-gelderloos Transcript: https://www.deathpanel.net/transcripts/dean-spade-collapse This episode was originally released on February 22, 2024. Find our book Health Communism here: www.versobooks.com/books/4081-health-communism Find Jules' new book, A Short History of Trans Misogyny, here: https://www.versobooks.com/products/3054-a-short-history-of-trans-misogyny As always, support Death Panel at www.patreon.com/deathpanelpod
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On today's episode, writer and activist Dean Spade (he/him) joins us for a conversation all about liberating our relationships from patriarchal and capitalist understandings of connection. Together we talk about building community outside of the nuclear model, choosing to be uncomfortable in order to live more, and feeling powerless to jealousy. If you are also interested in participating in the research on Relationship Anarchy and sharing your voice in the movement or reading Nicole's dissertation, then click on the link below. RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchy If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/191-relationship-anarchy-and-the-romance-myth-with-dean-spade Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith Modern Anarchy Community: Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
Tuck & Ozzy catch up with organizer and author Dean Spade (he/him). Topics include: Tools for moving through jealousy, handling in-group conflict, and supporting someone during a breakup Why symbolic arrests aren't currently an effective political strategy Why mutual aid is most important when we feel scared, avoidant or isolated Plus: “Better” titles for Dean's book, promiscuous friendship, and what you should do about that gender marker on your ID… This Week in Gender: we peek into the 2024 Gender Census results Submit a piece of Theymail: Today's messages were from Fiona Palmer and The Dugout: a Black anarchist podcast. Tickets for our Gender Ordeal live shows in DC, San Francisco, and Seattle are on sale now (and going fast)! Find Dean at deanspade.net and linktr.ee/deanspade. Preorder Love in a Fucked-Up World via Bluestockings for 15% off (with code F*CKED
[This episode went up back in September, but it felt OK to put it back on the feed for anyone who might've missed it. New episodes soon.] As liberation movements face intense repression from CEOs, cops, landlords, politicians, and Zionists, Dean Spade and friends put together a list of questions we can all ask ourselves, so we don't reproduce the logics of the state. Dean is author of the classics Mutual Aid and Normal Life: Administrative Violence and the Limits of the Law, and future classic Love in a F*cked-Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell, Together. "Cultivating Solidarity in Times of Escalating Repression" (Dean, with Community Justice Exchange, Jocelyn Simonson, Pilar Weiss, Atara Rich-Shea and Zohra Ahmed: http://bit.ly/cultivatesolidarity Our last episode with Dean: Should Social Movement Work Be Paid? https://www.patreon.com/posts/should-social-be-109620321?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link Dean's website: http://deanspade.net Support us and watch the video version of this episode on Patreon.
I talk with authors/teachers/organizers DEAN SPADE (Mutual Aid) & SHULI BRANSON (Practical Anarchism) about how to get out of the mindset of the state as the election approaches, and how to think about creative and real engagement with the political instead.
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