Gender Reveal

Tuck chats with writer Harron Walker (she/her). Topics include: Sleepaway Camp (1983) vs They/Them (2022) Making sense of GSA Day of Silence circa 2007  Advice for women who keep accidentally dating eggs Ways that even “supportive” adults influence trans kids' genders Plus: The Marshafication of Cecilia Gentili, Bill Clinton's death in a tragic saxophone accident, and three tips for being normal :) :)  Submit a piece of Theymail: Today's messages were from Eliot West Editorial and Chrysalis Magazine. Find Harron at harronwalker.com and @harnwaw. Aggregated Discontent is available at thisistrans.info and your local bookstore.  You can find Harron's profile of Cecilia Gentili on Vulture and read the full interview transcript via the Poetry Project.  ~~ Join our Patreon to access our monthly bonus episodes and weekly newsletter. Find transcripts and more at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional music: Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck and Mckenzee chat about the big knife in Moonstruck (1987), pizza mnemonics, blue foods, trans vibing, and the special cat that David Lynch invented for Dune (1984). Listen to the full episode on Patreon to hear additional movie reviews and recommendations, plus our medical histories(?!), cat updates, lite gossip, tips for being normal, and much more.  You can follow Mckenzee & Tuck on Letterboxd if you're into that sort of thing. Come see Gender Ordeal in Brooklyn on May 9, which is your last chance to see our little trans comedy show!!!!!!! Tickets at genderpodcast.com/live. ~ Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: Blue Dot Sessions

Tuck chats with author Caro De Robertis (they/them). Topics include: Caro's oral history work with trans, genderqueer, and two-spirit elders of color Why Spanish can be more gender-affirming than English  How Caro's knowledge of South American dictatorships informs their perspective on US politics  Why Black trans women were encouraged to detransition during the AIDS crisis (and other stories from elders) Plus: Butch babies, genderfuck, and staying free (!) Gender Ordeal be in Chicago (4/24), Minneapolis (4/25) and Brooklyn (5/9) and then we're done forever! Grab your tickets at genderpodcast.com/live see u soon!!! This Week in Gender: We share info about US border crossings.  How to enter the US with your digital privacy intact (Wired) Tracking the foreign nationals detained by ICE as tourists or U.S. residents (Axios) What green-card and visa holders should know before traveling abroad (NPR) Can Border Agents Search Your Electronic Devices? It's Complicated. (ACLU) Countries issue advisories about trans people traveling to the United States (CNN) Submit a piece of Theymail: Today's message was from the Dancing Rabbit Ecovillage. Find Caro at caroderobertis.com. So Many Stars is available for pre-order now. ~~ Join our Patreon to access our monthly bonus episodes and weekly newsletter. Find transcripts and more at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional music: “Huffalo” “Four Count” & “Nine Count” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Happy Trans Day of Having a Nice Snack! In this bonus episode, Tuck and Ozzy chat with author Jeanne Thornton (she/her) about ‘90s chatrooms, masking quizzes, community open mics, second-person narration, a possible Plot Conflict Trans Misery Industrial Complex, and hidden crossover events in the Jeanne Thornton literary universe. Listen to the full episode on Patreon to hear discussions of Topside Press goss, job interview horror stories, trans motherhood advice, Jeanne & Anton's friendship origin story, and whether the ending of A/S/L is “ontologically evil” lol. Grab our Trans Day of Snack graphic here.  Find Jeanne @jeanneticallymodified and at jeannethornton.com and instarbooks.com, and at World Transsexual Forum every fourth Monday at Franklin Park. A/S/L is available from Soho Press. Come see Gender Ordeal on tour in Chicago and Minneapolis in April!  ~ Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: Blue Dot Sessions

Ozzy and Tuck chat with philosopher Talia Mae Bettcher (she/her). Topics include: Creating a theory of trans oppression beyond the “wrong body” and “beyond the binary” accounts  How clothing can be part of an abusive system of forced disclosure  “Let's meditate on genitalia if we can for a moment” Why are there so many terfs in philosophy??  Plus: Phoria, apparitionals, moral sex, and other fun new vocab  This Week in Gender: Updates on Trans Day of Having a Nice Snack community events! Apply for funding at bit.ly/tdos2025 or donate at @Tuck-Woodstock & PayPal.me/TWoodstock. Submit a piece of Theymail: Today's messages were from Queer Third Space and Voces Language Club. Find Talia's work here and here. Beyond Personhood is available from University of Minnesota Press. Gender Ordeal is coming to Chicago and Minneapolis! Grab your tickets quickly at genderpodcast.com/live. ~~ Join our Patreon to access our monthly bonus episodes and weekly newsletter. Find transcripts and more at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional music: “Kickstep” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck explains this year's Trans Day of Snack celebrations — which includes the opportunity to organize a Gender Reveal-funded gathering! — before chatting with Seattle Trans Joy's Jerika Che (they/them). Topics include: How do I organize a Trans Day of Snack event in my area? How do I choose a location? How can I spread the word? What safety measures might be helpful? Plus: Trans vegan donuts, potlucks, and emotional support cis? For more organizing tips and stories, listen to last year's episode with Jerika. Learn more about Trans Day of Snack via these PopSugar and Vice articles. (We also chatted with TDOS co-founder Lilith on Gender Conceal.) Organizing your own Trans Day of Snack event? Apply for a small grant at bit.ly/tdos2025. (Folks can send donations to @Tuck-Woodstock or PayPal.me/TWoodstock) CHICAGO! Gender Ordeal is coming to you! Tickets on sale now, please come hang out!  ~ Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional music: “Beignet” and “Palms Down” by Blue Dot Sessions

Tuck chats with Palestinian activist Yaffa (they/she) about their experiences with last year's student encampments, their belief in collectivism, and their journey to mononymity.  Listen to the full episode on Patreon to hear what Yaffa learned about gender from Palestinian elders, among other topics.  Find Yaffa @yaffasutopia across platforms, and at themasgd.org and merajpublishing.com. ~ Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: Blue Dot Sessions

Tuck and Ozzy chat with writer Vera Blossom (she/her). Topics include: Being the hottest girlie at the men-only bathhouse Writing a memoir-grimoire complete with magic spells What did estrogen teach Vera about the life cycle of pigeons??? Is Shrek the ideal man? (And are straight roommates queer-coded?) Plus: Las Vegas, Pokemon boarding school online role-play, and the ghost of the gay guy who previously owned Vera's bread machine  This Week in Gender: We revisit past interviews with Dean Spade and Chase Strangio and recommend reading “literally what can we do.” Submit a piece of Theymail: Today's messages were from et al. Scholars and Max Burns UX. Find Vera @cuteflesh and at howtofucklikeagirl.com. How to Fuck Like a Girl is available now at bookshop.org.  We're on tour this week! Any tickets left are at genderpodcast.com/live.  ~~ Join our Patreon to access our monthly bonus episodes and weekly newsletter. Find transcripts and more at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Additional help from Lil Gael Montevecchi Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional music: “Spinning Meter” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck, Mattie (she/they) and Calvin (he/him) attempt to answer two questions:  What is Gender Ordeal? Why are they doing it? Along the way, we also reveal the amount of time that Tuck can be emotionally available on a plane, and how many years you have to stay married before you earn a watch.  Listen to the full episode on Patreon for discussions of gender-swapped holes, erotic landlord chocolate, a new definition of bi vs gay, the world's largest ball of sisal twine, furry-owned pants stores, Mattie's secret tour talent, puppy girl representation, and what gay guys are doing over there.  Find us on tour! We're in DC THIS FRIDAY and on the west coast Feb 10-12. Come have fun for an hour why not? ~ Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: Blue Dot Sessions

We're celebrating Gender Reveal's seventh anniversary by journeying into a little galaxy of gender futures.  Join our Patreon to access Gender Conceal and discover even more futures of gender. Find episode transcripts at genderpodcast.com. Sound Design: Arlie Adlington Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighTheme: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: Blue Dot Sessions

Tuck chats with Basketdolls founder Devin Myers (she/her). Topics include: Infusing queer nightlife vibes into a streetball tournament Creating a sixth official job for trans women!? Working at the "Gay Cracker Barrel” in Tallahassee “If I see a need for something that doesn't exist, I don't care what it takes, I'm going to make it.” Plus: #1 Dad Dwayne Wade, the New York Liberty, and various Wallaces This Week in Gender: We revisit Past Futures of Gender in a special segment Submit a piece of Theymail: Today's message was from @emkaisart.  Find Basketdolls @basketdolls, @trand1streetball, and linktr.ee/Basketdolls; learn more via this beautiful profile in SELF. Tickets for our Gender Ordeal live shows in DC, San Francisco, Portland and Seattle are on sale now! ~~ Join our Patreon to access our monthly bonus episodes and weekly newsletter. Find transcripts, grant winners and more at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck chats with comedian Sunny Zimmerman (they/them) about LBJ: the Play, LBJ-inspired gender, moral ambiguity in politics, and the value of slapping around yr Conventionally Hot Cis Guy Friend onstage :)  Listen to the full episode on Patreon to hear discussions of Oh, Mary!, Ronan Farrow's pop single, The Power Broker, the Ship of Theseus, and a certain president's huge hog :) :)  Find Sunny at sunnyzimmerman.com and at @zimmer_down_ on Instagram and TikTok. Come see us on tour in Washington DC, San Francisco, Portland(!!!!!) and Seattle! Tickets on sale now (and some are selling out just a heads up)! ~ Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: Blue Dot Sessions

Tuck & Ozzy catch up with organizer and author Dean Spade (he/him). Topics include:  Tools for moving through jealousy, handling in-group conflict, and supporting someone during a breakup Why symbolic arrests aren't currently an effective political strategy  Why mutual aid is most important when we feel scared, avoidant or isolated Plus: “Better” titles for Dean's book, promiscuous friendship, and what you should do about that gender marker on your ID…  This Week in Gender: we peek into the 2024 Gender Census results  Submit a piece of Theymail: Today's messages were from Fiona Palmer and The Dugout: a Black anarchist podcast. Tickets for our Gender Ordeal live shows in DC, San Francisco, and Seattle are on sale now (and going fast)! Find Dean at deanspade.net and linktr.ee/deanspade. Preorder Love in a Fucked-Up World via Bluestockings for 15% off (with code F*CKED

Tuck and Ozzy tackle advice questions about coming out (or not), accessing medical transition in This Political Moment, and dating for the very first time.  Listen to the full episode on Patreon to hear discussions of business casual tits, getting back into domming, being normal around other trans people, brainstorming nonbinary tattoos, coming out at work, going on T, and of course, choosing one person to eat. (Who would you eat?) Subscribe to Advice For/From the Future right now!  Submit your own advice question here. Come see us on tour by the way!!!!! Philly show is TOMORROW.  

Tuck chats with visual artist and author Rani Som (she/her) about writing an exquisitely eggy memoir, coming out in her 40s, and exploring the inevitable failure of trans utopia. Listen to the full episode on Patreon to hear discussions of growing up in Manhattan, working in architecture, drawing sex scenes (or not), Kate Bush, misanthropy, and the freaky pickle art on Tuck's wall. Find Rani at bishakh.com and @biche_bash.  Apsara Engine and Spellbound are both available on Bookshop.org. Get your Philly live show tickets and come hang out with Tuck, Mckenzee, Mattie, Calvin, Sadie Dupuis and moooore on December 3! Or else!  ~ Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: Blue Dot Sessions

Tuck chats with filmmaker and intersex activist River Gallo (they/them). Topics include:  Making cinema history with (and getting force-femmed by?) Indya Moore  How to reckon with the fact that yr genitals are on Wikipedia  Why growing up in restaurants made Tuck & River into storytellers Evolving Ponyboi from experimental John Waters-y play to Sundance-premiering comedy thriller  Plus: Trans Hamlet, trans Bruce Springsteen, trans Totoro, real New Jersey, and the Huff & Puff Queen.   Submit a piece of Theymail: Today's messages were from Trans Sexual Pod and I. E. Lewis Editorial. Find River @rivergallo and keep an eye out for Ponyboi to hit theaters.  Get your Philly live show tickets!  ~~ Join our Patreon to access our monthly bonus episodes and weekly newsletter. Find transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: DeleteMe (code: TUCK20) & Queer Candle Co (promo code: GENDER10)

Tuck chats with Still Life author Katherine Packert Burke (she/her) about trans lit, Austin TX, Susan's Place, and possibly getting her egg cracked by Drake.  Listen to the full episode on Patreon to hear discussions of Gossip Girl, the Strand, autofiction, lesbian TTRPGs, someone Tuck dated in high school, returning to your hometown as a transsexual, and why 2 Trans 2 Furious is an Uncle John's Bathroom Reader. Find Katherine at katherinepackertburke.com, on Twitter @katpburke and on IG @vegetasackvillewest. Still Life is available now. ~ Get your Boston live show tickets! Applications for our grant program are open now through October 31. Don't forget to send us your SCATC submission by October 21! Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: Blue Dot Sessions

Tuck chats with Colby Gordon (he/him), a founder of Early Modern Trans Studies. Topics include:  How much of Colby's work is writing slashfic about the Bible?? The limits of secularism in protecting trans people, and why Colby wants more trans people to have access to religion How the IRS randomly assigned Colby a trans name as a teen  Running a twitter poll to decide between rabbinical school and a neck tattoo Plus: Phalloplasty, Wheat Jesus, trans mayhem(!), and the return of Spinoza This Week in Gender: We preview many new trans books! A full list with links is available here. Submit a piece of Theymail: Today's messages were from Urge Surfer and Max Burns. Find Colby at colbygordon.com and @badinfinity2. Glorious Bodies is available now. Applications for our grant program are open now through October 31! Get your Boston live show tickets! Don't forget to send us your SCATC submission by October 21. ~~ Join our Patreon to access our monthly bonus episodes and weekly newsletter. Find transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Three bits of news that couldn't wait until our next episode: Submissions for the second Girl Dad Press anthology are open now for a limited time! Learn all about the submission process here. WE'RE COMING TO BOSTON on 11/3! Tickets are on sale now! All ages show but no guarantees that we will behave.  Lastly, patrons have until Sunday (11/6) to fill out our annual patreon survey and enter to win a fun prize! (If you're not a patron, it only costs $1 to join, and your feedback will be used to shape the next year of Gender Reveal/Conceal/etc.)   

Tuck chats with drag performer and artist Yvie Oddly (she/they). Topics include: How being on Drag Race changed the way Yvie watches TV An impromptu analysis of RuPaul's memoir  Why dysphoria is universal and drag is inherently trans What Yvie and Chappell Roan have in common Plus: FtMtW transgender, unionizing Drag Race, bendy bones gender and accessibility at the club Submit a piece of Theymail: Today's message was from Chris Gallego. Join our Patreon to access more of this conversation with Yvie, plus our monthly bonus episodes and weekly newsletter. Find Yvie at oddlyyvie.com and @oddlyyvie. ~~ Find transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck chats with Vogue culture writer Emma Specter (she/they) about unionizing Condé Nast, embracing Bisexuality 2, and not monetizing their gender exploration.  Listen to the full episode on Patreon to hear Emma talk about seeing girlies from middle school at their book events; being asked about her boyfriend on the local news; and shoplifting gender from an infinite nonproblematic Sephora. Emma's memoir More, Please is available now! Find Emma @specteremma / @emmaspecter. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: Blue Dot Sessions

Tuck and Ozzy chat with Rose Eveleth (they/them), creator of Tested. Topics include: Details and stories cut from Tested that Gender Reveal listeners would appreciate! Why individual trans and/or intersex athletes have conflicting ideas of what “fair” competition looks like  How the Paralympics can help us imagine new ways of categorizing elite sports What well-intentioned people often get wrong about sex testing in sports Plus: A breaking news name reveal(!?!), a Pokémon gender, and a review of Dune Messiah? This Week in Gender: LGBTQ Olympians and Paralympians.  Find Tested at tested-podcast.com, and find Rose at roseveleth.com. Here's Tuck's Life Kit episode that Rose mentioned. ~~ Come see Tuck, Mattie & Calvin on September 22 at Union Hall!  We're fundraising for Gaza aid in our merch shop.  Order 2 Trans 2 Furious from AllLitUp (Canada) or directly from Tuck. Join our Patreon to access monthly Gender Conceal episodes and our weekly newsletter. Find transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Ranch Hand” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck and Ozzy chat with historian Susan Stryker (she/her). Topics include: Publishing old kink erotica in a new academic reader  Truffle-hunting for niche trans subcommunities on Reddit What does it look like to embrace monstrosity in today's world? How Susan pieced together the story of Compton's Cafeteria Riot  Plus: The literal meaning of life!  Find Susan at susanstryker.net. When Monsters Speak is out now. (Watch Screaming Queens for free on YouTube!) Come see Tuck, Mattie & Calvin on September 22 at Union Hall!  Pre-order 2 Trans 2 Furious, and learn more about Girl Dad Press via Vogue and/or Gender Conceal. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to monthly Gender Conceal episodes, our weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find episode transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Lost Shoe” by Blue Dot Sessions

Happy pub day to Heavyweight, a graphic memoir by Solomon J. Brager! Tuck chats with Sol (they/he) about the intersections of Zionism and transphobia, the need to make up true stories, and the arguments against claims of Jewish indigeneity.  Listen to the full episode on Patreon for discussions of teaching a class called Graphic Sex, stealing boxing valor, navigating our mothers' feelings about our hair color, and much more. Find Sol at solomonbrager.com and @jbbrager. Heavyweight is available now!!!  Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: Blue Dot Sessions

Tuck shares an exciting 2 Trans 2 Furious update before chatting with Arlie Adlington (he/him) about queer labor solidarity, Pride movie recs, and normal tea.  Listen to the full episode on Patreon to hear Arlie talk about working with Sam Smith, navigating the world of UK t-shots, and writing an important song about beverages (before Sabrina Carpenter did it, even!) See you at the Bell House on Thursday for our Pride™ live show!  (Oh and here's the video that Casey took hehe.)

For our season finale, Tuck catches up with historian Jules Gill-Peterson (she/her). Topics include: Why Jules might be writing a trilogy of books against ~transgender~ Why liberal trans inclusion is the “kissing cousin of fascism” A list of fun hot reasons why people have transitioned throughout history Is transphobia always rooted in misogyny? Plus: Fighting your publisher over derogatory italics; learning the secrets of the most trans dinosaur; and once again asking whether a certain trans clothing company is a psy-op… Today's Theymail message was from Thirst Pebble. Find Jules @gpjulesss. A Short History of Trans Misogyny is out now. Come see us at the Bell House on June 20!  Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Mischief Making” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Queer Candle Co (promo code: GENDER10)

Tuck and Ozzy chat with director Jane Schoenbrun (they/them). Topics include: Working through gender feelings onscreen with Brigette Lundy-Paine How did Limp Bizkit's Fred Durst end up in I Saw the TV Glow? What happened to that film adaption of Nevada? Why the third movie in Jane's Screen Trilogy is actually three novels Plus: The most sapphic Spielberg film; A Trip to the Moon (1902); custom Jane's Bar Mitzvah CD booklets; and getting warped by Nickelodeon  This Week in Gender: None, but may I instead introduce you to Mr. Celery, Otey, Muddona, and Ballapeño? Submit a piece of Theymail: Today's messages were from Go Press Girl and CN Lester. Come see us at the Bell House on June 20!  ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Isn't It Always” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Queer Candle Co (promo code: GENDER10) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

In this bonus episode, Tuck chats with Cat Fitzpatrick and Casey Plett about what's going on over at LittlePuss Press post-SPD collapse. Topics include: What's next for LittlePuss?  How can we learn to log off?  Wouldn't it be mortifying to win a Nobel Prize? Cat's thoughts on historical fell type?? Plus: An upcoming book that "establishes, at a stroke, [the author] as one of the great writers of her generation"(!!!) Support the LittlePuss Press Kickstarter by May 17, or shop all their existing titles at LittlePuss.net. 

Tuck tackles more advice questions with BFF of the show Mckenzee Griffler (she/her). Topics include: What if my partner doesn't want me to come out to their parents? Are we sure that cis people don't think about gender this much? Can my gender be “boy” if I'm in my thirties?  Should I live the plot of Boys Weekend by Mattie Lubchansky? Plus: wedding photos, astrology, nonprofits, FFS soup, King of Falafel, and securely attached Super Smash Bros characters? This Week in Gender: Kai Jacobsen bravely attempts the segment that Tuck refused. Find Mckenzee at mckenzeegriffler.com and @mckenzeeisshortforzee. Submit a piece of Theymail: Today's message was from Succulent. Come see us at the Bell House on June 20!  ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Young Buck” & “Tin Tile Shuffle” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Queer Candle Co (promo code: GENDER10) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck catches up with organizer Jerika Che (they/them). Topics include: Creating an abolitionism-inspired trans summer camp What's up with all the gender-segregated trans picnics? Advice for creating your own trans community events  Learning to successfully collaborate with co-organizers Plus: Xenogenders, Transoween, and Warrior Cats? This Week in Gender: The Girls & Gays Movie Corner (lol) Find Jerika's events at seattletransjoy.com and @seattletransjoy. Submit a piece of Theymail: Today's messages were from Joce Ryder/Gentlethem and the podcast Cruising. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Queer Candle Co (promo code: GENDER10) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck chats with author KT Hoffman (he/him) about trans romance novels, egg & cheddar gender, egg behavior, and not being Assigned Mariners At Birth.  Listen to the full episode on Patreon for discussions of bagel recipes, real-life baseball romance (in our dreams), local queer softball leagues, formative gay YA novels, and which marginalized group will get to play professional baseball first (lol).  The Prospects is available now wherever books are sold! Find KT Hoffman at kthoffmanwrites.com and @squashgoblin.

Ozzy and Tuck chat with with Yin Q (they/them). Topics include: How parenting changed Yin's relationship to gender and kink What queer people still need to learn about kink and consent  How the Red Canary Song documentary honors its subjects' privacy and agency Decriminalizing sex work — and then taking the “work” part out of it Plus: Spiritual sexuality, the kink-o-meter, and parent-child top surgery? This Week in Gender: A Trans Day of Snack update!  Find Yin @redcanarysong @kinkoutevents and @yinq13ritual. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we'll read on the show. Today's message was from the podcast Cruising. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Jadie Grange” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Queer Candle Co (promo code: GENDER10) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Happy (almost) Trans Day of Snack! We're explaining this weekend's mutual aid campaign (including FREE SNACKS for trans people in 26 US states) and sharing part two of our chat with Shuli Branson. Sign up to receive your snack and/or financial aid at bit.ly/tdos24. View our list of trans resources at bit.ly/tdos24links. Spread the word! Our full chat with Shuli is available here. (Part one is available here.) Find Shuli at sjbranson.com and @shulibranson. Practical Anarchism is available from Pluto Press. Support The Breakup Theory on Patreon. Get 25% off the Surviving the Future paperback or e-book with the coupon code GENDERREVEAL at pmpress.org this weekend. Donate to our mutual aid/snack fund via PayPal or Venmo. (Put "TDoS" in the subject line plz.) Please donate to families fleeing Gaza at linktr.ee/fundsforgaza. Our Trans Day of Snack merch is available through March 31 at bit.ly/gendermerch. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Hensteeth” & “Road to Petersby” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: ShopEnby.com (code: GenderReveal) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck chats with with writer Jamie Lauren Keiles (he/him). Topics include: Writing a nonbinary history book that eschews common trans identity rhetoric  Reporting on phallo and blowjob jokes for the New York Times Magazine  Why Jamie will never run another Most Transgender Name Competition  Why everyone in the trans community is annoying in different beautiful ways :) :) :) Plus: “Fake bi to real bi,” best novelty license plates, and Chaz Bono shopping in Miami? This Week in Gender: There's new work by Andrea Long Chu, Beans Velocci, Paisley Currah and Judith Butler… but we instead quote Sawyer Kemp, Lola Pellegrino and Foz Meadows.  Find Jamie at jamielaurenkeiles.com and on Instagram and Twitter. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we'll read on the show. Today's message was from Southpaw Cafe. We've got limited-edition Trans Day of Snack 2024 merch on sale this month, with proceeds benefiting our mutual aid fund. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our starter packs at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Syriah” & “The Odd About It” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: ShopEnby.com (code: GenderReveal) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck and Ozzy chat with Liz Fong-Jones (she/her). Topics include: Creating a Coworker Solidarity Fund to support worker organizing and potential strikes Organizing your Google colleagues so hard that you crash Google Docs Being realistic about your security threats (e.g., is it safe to organize in Google Docs?) Ways that (trans & cis) tech workers can support trans people  Plus: How the Joy Luck Club (not that one) saved her life This Week in Gender: Listen to Hang Up. Find Liz at lizthegrey.com and on cohost. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we'll read on the show. Today's message was from Wren Dove Lark. We've got limited-edition Trans Day of Snack 2024 merch on sale this month, with proceeds benefiting our mutual aid fund. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our starter packs at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Hrse Hrse” & “Gamboler” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: ShopEnby.com (code: GenderReveal) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck shares last year's conversation with Nigerian fashion designer and activist Fola Francis (she/her/they). Topics include: Dodging a blacklist to walk in Lagos Fashion Week Advice for other people living under anti-LGBTQ laws  “Queerness has always been very African”  Hosting several of Lagos's first balls Plus: Nigerian healthcare, Dolls Activities, and And Just Like That…  This Week in Gender: Remembering Fola.  A full episode transcript is available at genderpodcast.com/listen. You can find archives of Fola's life at @folafrancis and @thefolafrancis.  We've got Trans Day of Snack merch for a limited time over at bit.ly/gendermerch. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our starter packs at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Taoudella” by Blue Dot Sessions

Tuck chats with linguist Ariana Steele (they/them). Topics include:  Studying ways that Black nonbinary people degender themselves via language Developing a “chill vs loud” nonbinary fashion taxonomy  How Ariana's autism and gender relate to each other… …and how all this ties into their mixed identity and Aquarius-Pisces cusp Plus: Britney Spears, the “gay lisp,” and doing ethnographies in the club This Week in Gender: Get ready for Trans Day of Snack 2024! Find Ariana at arianasteele.com. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we'll read on the show. Today's message was from MappingTransJoy.org. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Beignet” & “Capering” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: ShopEnby.com (code: GenderReveal) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck chats with artist and experience designer Shing Yin Khor (they/them). Topics include:  The memoirist's dilemma: narcissism vs turning other people into Content™  “The long human tradition of grabbing some clay and making a little guy” Shifting your approach to activism in order to (hopefully!) avoid burnout Transitioning out of gender entirely? Plus: Burning Man hot takes, Paul Bunyan's BDE and the Muffler Man renaissance  This Week in Gender: Krys Malcolm Belc reviews Caitlyn Jenner's memoir. Find Shing at shingkhor.com, on Patreon, and @sawdustbear. Read “I Do Not Want to Write Today” on Catapult. Suggested Gaza support: @fundsforgaza & MECA Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we'll read on the show. Today's message was from Alex Nolos. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Slimheart” “Our Only Lark” & “The Poplar Grove” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Aphrodisia Boutique (code: GENDERREVEAL) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck chats with writer Lucy Sante (she/her). Topics include:  Why Lucy finally transitioned after avoiding it for nearly 60 years Why the worst trans memoirs are like pre-cooked bacon What does it mean to identify as a bohemian? Reading about the Street Transvestite Action Revolutionaries in the newspaper as a high school student Plus: Trans lit recs; vibe shifts at the Strand; and how Harry Potter ruined a visit to a Portuguese bookstore This Week in Gender: Cecilia at St. Patrick's. (Full video on YouTube. Read more in Vogue. More photos via Time. Here's a recap of the aftermath. Most importantly, donate to the Legacy Fund!) Find Lucy at lucysante.com. I Heard Her Call My Name is available now. Other texts referenced: Low Life by Lucy Sante  Nevada by Imogen Binnie Andrea Long Chu (generally) Can the Monster Speak? by Paul Preciado I Want What I Want by Geoff Brown April Ashley's Odyssey by Duncan Fallowell & April Ashley  Apologia Pro Vita Sua by John Henry Newman Confessions by Jean-Jacques Rousseau An Anecdoted Topography of Chance by Daniel Spoerri A Sorrow Beyond Dreams by Peter Handke Maybe the People Would Be the Times by Lucy Sante “Commerce” by Lucy Sante (link) Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we'll read on the show. Today's message was from Tiny Parade Coaching. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Vulcan Street” & “Douglass Stairs” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Popwink (code: GENDER20) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

This week, we remember advocate, storyteller, and mother Cecilia Gentili.  Cecilia resources & links:  Cecilia's legacy fund!!! Faltas (published by our friends at LittlePuss Press) Full videos of Cecilia's 2/7 memorial service  Speaking with M. E. O'Brien for the NYC Trans Oral History Project (with transcript) “Cecilia Gentili's Revolutionary Ask” on Latino USA “History of the Stroll & Stories from a Trans Elder” on Afterlives: The Layleen Polanco Story (w/ Raquel Willis) Interview with Harron Walker for Interview Mag (2023) Profile by Harron in Vulture (2022) Interview with Grace Byron for Xtra (2022) Interview in Paper about COIN, a free healthcare program for sex workers (2021) Our Cecilia story collection on Instagram (@gendereveal) More links and videos  Posts cited: Fran Tirado Cyd Nova Chiquitita Peppermint Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “On the Hour” & “Lean Dream” by Blue Dot Sessions

Tuck chats with Shuli Branson (she/they), author of Practical Anarchism: A Guide for Daily Life. Topics include:  Transition as a form of anarchist refusal (and why transition itself isn't liberatory) Breakup theory: letting go of the expectation that everything needs to last forever  How raising kids can help you catch your authoritarian impulses Is it actually more responsible to give away your savings right now?? Plus: Palestine solidarity, abolishing work, and signing up for your shift at the depression factory This Week in Gender: Conflict with Lantern and Moss?? Find Shuli at sjbranson.com and @shulibranson. Practical Anarchism is available from Pluto Press. Support The Breakup Theory on Patreon and subscribe wherever you're reading this. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we'll read on the show. Today's message was from Queer Thrival. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and episode transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “On the Hour” & “Lean Dream” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Popwink (code: GENDER20) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Episode 163: Cassius Adair Tuck finally chats with academic and occasional Gender Reveal producer Cassius Adair (he/him). Topics include:  His role in the Twin Flames cult documentary Getting mpreg (lol) 12 years after being told that HRT would sterilize him Joining trans studies because he got on the wrong flight in 2011 Writing about whiteness, tech history, and hot trans social contagion  Plus: Lexification of t4t and putting ur relationship through academic peer review This Week in Gender: Jesse Lawson & Lou Sullivan on “How to Look 30 When You Are 30” (listen here). Find Cassius at cassiusadair.com, and find us both at sylveon.co. We've got three Palestinian solidarity designs (plus trains flag restocks) in the merch shop this month. Get 10% off everything with code TRAINS. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we'll read on the show. Today's message was from FLIES FLIES FLIES. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and episode transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Lost Shoe” & “Lakkalia” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Popwink (code: GENDER20) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck catches up with multidisciplinary artist Salimatu Amabebe (he/they). Topics include:  Barracuda, an it/its drag monster and perverse people-pleaser Should you retcon your dead dad into someone more convenient? Demanding better (and more creative) gender-affirming surgeries The pros and cons of making earnest, vulnerable art  Plus: Envisioning yourself as a house for many different / differently-gendered beings (“and they're all employed!”) This Week in Gender: We remix a 4-year-old TSA segment.  Find Salimatu on Instagram @salimatuamabebe and @black.feast. We've got three Palestinian solidarity designs (plus trains flag restocks) in the merch shop this month. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we'll read on the show. Today's message was from Max Burns UX. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “CoulisCoulis” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Aphrodisia Boutique (code: GENDERREVEAL) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

We're back, baby! Tuck chats with Lamya H (she/they), author of Hijab Butch Blues. Topics include:  Discovering queer themes (and dykes!) in the Quran  How having a baby helped Lamya assert their own gender identity  TFW someone suggests you read your own pseudonymous memoir  Finding gender euphoria in religious practice Plus: Pinkwashing, Dadaism, and subway speed challenges This Week in Gender: Dakota Hommes reports on union bargaining for trans healthcare.  Find Lamya at lamyah.com and @lamyaisangry. Paperbacks are available for preorder.  We've got three Palestinian solidarity designs (plus trains flag restocks) in the merch shop this month. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we'll read on the show. Today's message was from Luke Dani Blue.  ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and episode transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Away Game” “Faithless Constellation” “Passages Interlude” & “Copper Halls” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Aphrodisia Boutique (code: GENDERREVEAL) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck chats with Rax Will (he/they) about queer food, pronoun-themed cocktails, and “AFAB” trans clothing brands (derogatory). Plus, news about next season! Listen to the full episode on Patreon for discussions of: Rax's extensive research about trans people and dog food(?!) Why the hottest new accessory is the NYC diaper Receiving the perfect “sorry I misgendered u” gift  Why one of the best queer bars won't hang a pride flag And more that we cannot even mention here!!!  Find Rax @bigfoodie69. Articles mentioned in this episodes include: “The Best Shorts for Trans Men and GNC Badboyz” (lol) “The Next Generation of ‘Lesbian Bars' Is Here. What Should We Call Them?” “When Sir and Ma'am Miss the Mark: Restaurants Rethink Gender's Role in Food Service” (gift link) Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Dialtone 11” by Blue Dot Sessions

Tuck speaks with Ally Beardsley and Babette Thomas way back on Trans Day of Snack 2023. It's a Gender Reveal x Gender Spiral crossover event!  Find Gender Spiral at genderspiralpod.com as well as Instagram, TikTok, and Patreon. 

A few quick announcements on what's coming up next.  Thanks to Blue Dot Sessions as always for the music bed. 

Quick announcement because I remembered that not everyone is on Instagram dot com. This year's grant applications close on Halloween night. Apply at bit.ly/GRgrant23, and find a full list of past grant recipients at genderpodcast.com/grant. Spread the word!  Grab free tickets for the November 10 2 Trans 2 Furious event (featuring Tuck, Tre'vell Anderson, and Mckenzee Griffler) at bit.ly/2T2FLA. Only a few left!  Also, we've got a new Gender Conceal episode with Mckenzee and it really is something.

Tuck chats with activist Raquel Willis (she/her). Topics include:  Why having the ~most radical gender~ isn't a useful standard  Reconciling your feminism with your transsexual desires  Parental loss, and death as an animating force How to choose a good beneficiary for trans fundraising  Plus: Afrotransmisogyny, Janet Mock, and… Fortnite?? This Week in Gender: Girlfriends by Emily Zhou; Idlewild by James Frankie Thomas; People Collide by Isle McElroy; Laugh Riot by Io & Jonas Goonface. Find Raquel on Instagram and Twitter. Preorder The Risk It Takes to Bloom before Nov 14. Find a copy of 2 Trans 2 Furious here, and join us on Nov 10 at North Figueroa in LA. (RSVP here, ignore the date listed lolol.) Check out our nonprofit merch store by October 15!  Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to access our bonus podcast, newsletter, and other fun perks. Find us genderpodcast.com (for starter packs, FAQ, grant info, transcripts, etc) and @gendereveal. Join the Gender Detective Slack here (link expires in 28 days). Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Di Breun” and “Hedgeliner” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: ShopEnby.com (promo code: GenderReveal)

Tuck and Ozzy chat with author Alison Rumfitt (she/her). Topics include:  When people fail to recognize their kink as simply a kink Letting go of the need to ~understand~ TERFs What makes a good trauma narrative? Reappropriating an accidentally-trans Eminem lyric Plus: Utopian organ dreams and trans slug allyship? (Also: worms!)  Find Alison @alison.zone (IG) and @hangsawoman (Bluesky/Twitter). Preorder Brainwyrms before Oct 10. Come see Tuck & Mckenzee at North Figueroa Bookshop on Nov 10!  Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to access our bonus podcast, newsletter, and other fun perks. Find a copy of 2 Trans 2 Furious here. Find us genderpodcast.com and @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderSponsors: ShopEnby.com (promo code: GenderReveal)

Tuck chats with drag performer Chiquitita (she/her). Topics include:  Why trans people make the best drag performers (even w/o clothes) Dealing with family members who don't grow alongside you A romcom-worthy t4t meet-cute  An exclusive future name change announcement(!) Plus: Nicki, Lana, TS Jackson, getting FFS in Spain and tranifesting a trans magician?? This Week in Gender: Should you let an app trace your gender? Part 3!  Find Chiqui @chiquitettas on IG. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to access our bonus podcast, newsletter, and other fun perks. 2 Trans 2 Furious PDFs and physical copies available via BigCartel. Find us genderpodcast.com and @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Tall Journey” and “Dream Her Voice” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: ShopEnby.com (promo code: GenderReveal) and bit.ly/transtechdesign.