Podcast appearances and mentions of mari lee

On this episode: Nate and guest host Tom Moucka discuss the difference between a therapist, coach, and Silas. Our Guest: Mari Lee: author, speaker, therapist, CSAT, trained in Gottman, betrayal trauma, complex trauma, sexual addiction and recovery, EMDR, and mindfulness based therapy. Mari discusses how her pain became her passion. We don't have to live in the past, but the past lives in us. She explains the importance of disclosure in creating trust when working with couples and individuals. For some, the clinical relationship may be the first relationship where there is healthy attachment in an individual's life. Discussing that divorce is OK. Other topics include: shame, polyamory, LGBTQI, and throwing onion dip. Links:   Growth Counseling Services The Counselors Coach Books: Facing Heartbreak Workbook In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction by Gabor Maté Sponsor: Life Works Counseling Annual Retreat: 2023 Samson Annual Retreat   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Feeling like an “outsider” can be isolating, and sometimes you don't even realize the weight you're carrying until you find yourself in a place of belonging. In Episode 4, a circus performer, Shakespearean actor, classical musician, and Native storyteller share their journeys from “outsider” to “insider,” exploring representation, safe spaces, embracing identity and confronting privilege. Introduction: “In The Spotlight” with Chris Rooney, a circus performer and founding member of the BIPOC Circus Alliance Midwest in Chicago, Illinois. Act One: “Barred from The Bard ” with Farah Merani, an actor, writer and arts educator in Los Angeles, California. Act Two: “Into the Fold” with Mari Lee, the CEO and artistic director of Salon Séance in New York, New York. Act Three: “Walking Between Worlds” with Leland Faulkner, a performing artist and arts educator. He lives in Maine on Mi'kmaq‎, Penobscot‎, Passamaquoddy‎ and Abenaki‎ tribal land. You can find a full transcript and more on APAP's website: https://apap365.org/podcast/ Are you a performing arts worker with a story to tell? Submit it here: https://bit.ly/AWLpodsubmit

Today, on the Hudson Mohawk Magazine, We begin with Eric Wohlleber (Wall le-ber) of Poestenkill, who wants NYS to pay for PFOA testing Then, Bernice Mennis of ‘North Country Earth Action' on ecofeminism speaks with Mark Dunlea Later on, we're talking Nataure, Writing and Mushroom Farming in the Collar City with Avery Stempel After that, we hear about the celebration of the Canandaigua Treaty Finally, We talk with Mari Lee, creator of Salon Séance about “The End of Time”,

Violinist Mari Lee, creator of the innovative ensemble Salon Séance, talks with Hudson Mohawk Magazine's Andrea Cunliffe about the meaning of this piece, inspired by "Quartet for the End of Time." Friends of Chamber Music of Troy, NY will co-present this concert on November 19th at The Sanctuary for Independent Media. Salon Séance brings “communing with kindred spirits through music” with the "End of Time" to the Sanctuary on November 19th 2022. https://www.mediasanctuary.org/event/salon-seance/

Historian Simon Lee joins Andrea Cunliffe on Hudson Mohawk Magazine to talk about this interdisciplinary presentation by Salon Séance "The End of Time," a production of live classical music with visual and theatrical storytelling. The co-creators of Salon Séance, Simon Lee and his sister Mari Lee, developed this unique concert piece of piano, violin, cello, and clarinet together with a mystic play inspired by Olivier Messiaen's chamber music masterpiece "The Quartet of The End Of Time." This is the regional premiere of "The End of Time." This event is co-sponsored by the Friends of Chamber Music. Salon Séance "The End of Time" will be performed at the Sanctuary for Independent Media on November 19, 2022 at 7pm.

In this episode, I interview Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Mari Lee, about women who have experienced sexual deception and betrayal trauma due to their partner’s sex addiction and/or porn addiction. Mari A. Lee is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Certified in Sex Addiction and Partners, Betrayal Trauma, and Mindfulness. Mari also discusses what it was that brought her to this work, sex and porn addiction, sexual compulsivity, is porn harmful? What is betrayal trauma? Gaslighting and betrayal trauma, boundaries, the grief cycle, the impact of betrayal on the body, mind & soul, complex trauma, and how to heal from trauma.   For the show notes, go to: 027: Sexual Deception & Betrayal Trauma with Mari Lee - The Soul Centre   

Have you broken your partner's trust and want a structured process to help you repair it? Get instant access to my 12-week online Trust Building Bootcamp and begin repairing your marriage. Illuminate listeners can get 30% off the price of the course by visiting https://www.trustbuildingacademy.com/bootcamp and entering coupon code ILLUMINATE at checkout. In this episode, I interview Mari Lee, LMFT, CSAT-S, CPTT-S, CMBAT-S on the topic of toxic giving and taking in relationships. She also wrote a helpful blog post addressing this topic here: http://www.growthcounselingservices.com/blog/2015/8/24/givers-and-takers-which-one-are-you In this episode, we discuss: 1. The differences between givers and takers. 2. What a healthy balance of giving and taking looks like. 3. What causes people to become toxic givers and takers 4. How the giver and taker dynamic impacts recovery for trauma and sexual addiction. 5. What needs to happen with givers and takers to create change. 6. Specific tools you can use to change these dynamics in your relationships. Mari A. Lee is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Supervisor, a Certified Partners Trauma Therapist and Supervisor, a Certified Mindfulness Based Addiction Therapist and Supervisor, and the founder of Growth Counseling Services, a private recovery practice located in Glendora, California. Mari is recognized for her clinical work with sex addicts, traumatically betrayed spouses, and couples healing from infidelity. Additionally, Mari is a trusted coach with 30 years of business experience. She is the founder of, "The Counselor’s Coach" and provides coaching and consulting, clinical materials, and dedicated support to therapists across the U.S. and around the world. Mari's specialized coaching is focused on helping therapists create and launch multiple income streams beyond the one-on-one clinical hour. Mari is also a popular national speaker and presents across the country on the topic of sex and love addiction and betrayal trauma. She is the co-author of the bestselling book, “Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts”, and she is the author of, “Healing Betrayal”, and “The Creative Clinician”, and a contributing author to “Behavioral Addictions: Criteria, Evidence and Treatment.” Her next book, “The Gift in the Wound: Stories of Resiliency and Hope” will be out in 2020. To learn more about Mari’s clinical work visit: www.GrowthCounselingServices.com To schedule coaching session with Mari visit: www.TheCounselorsCoach.com The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT and founder of LifeStar of St. George, Utah, a treatment program for couples healing from the impact of pornography and sexual addiction. Learn more at www.lifestarstgeorge.com Please donate to support the Illuminate Podcast: anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast/support Geoff has also created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store

Have you broken your partner's trust and want to repair it? Get instant access to the 12-week online Trust Building Bootcamp and begin repairing your marriage. Illuminate listeners can get 30% off the price of the course by visiting https://www.trustbuildingacademy.com/bootcamp and entering coupon code ILLUMINATE at checkout. I interview Mari Lee, LMFT, CSAT-S, CPTT-S, CMBAT-S on the topic of how mindfulness can help improve outcomes when treating pornography/sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. In this episode, we discuss: - How she discovered the power of mindfulness in her personal life and professional practice. - The definition of mindfulness - Why mindfulness is an important piece for healing trauma and addictions - What she noticed changing in her clients when she began incorporating mindfulness work in to their treatment - How betrayed partners can benefit from a mindfulness based therapy plan - How addicts can benefit from working with a therapist who weaves in mindful approaches in to the recovery work - Why she believes therapists working in this specialization would benefit from training in mindfulness based therapy Mari A. Lee is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Supervisor, a Certified Partners Trauma Therapist and Supervisor, a Certified Mindfulness Based Addiction Therapist and Supervisor, and the founder of Growth Counseling Services, a private recovery practice located in Glendora, California. Mari is recognized for her clinical work with sex addicts, traumatically betrayed spouses, and couples healing from infidelity. Additionally, Mari is a trusted coach with 30 years of business experience. She is the founder of, "The Counselor’s Coach" and provides coaching and consulting, clinical materials, and dedicated support to therapists across the U.S. and around the world. Mari's specialized coaching is focused on helping therapists create and launch multiple income streams beyond the one-on-one clinical hour. Mari is also a popular national speaker and presents across the country on the topic of sex and love addiction and betrayal trauma. She is the co-author of the bestselling book, “Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts”, and she is the author of, “Healing Betrayal”, and “The Creative Clinician”, and a contributing author to “Behavioral Addictions: Criteria, Evidence and Treatment.” Her next book, “The Gift in the Wound: Stories of Resiliency and Hope” will be out in 2020. To learn more about Mari’s clinical work visit: www.GrowthCounselingServices.com To schedule coaching session with Mari visit: www.TheCounselorsCoach.com The Illuminate Podcast is hosted by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT and founder of LifeStar of St. George, Utah, a treatment program for couples healing from the impact of pornography and sexual addiction. Learn more at www.lifestarstgeorge.com Please donate to support the Illuminate Podcast: anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast/support I have also created audio and video courses to help support individuals and couples in marriage, addiction, and betrayal trauma recovery at www.geoffsteurer.com/store

I’m super excited to introduce today’s guest, and the co-host of the upcoming Shine Retreat for Women, Mari Lee. Mari and I will be talking not only about the work that Mari does, helping support women to heal and grow, but also about The Shine Retreat, and how it’s based on filling your own cup, of restoration, connection, and most importantly, giving yourself permission to have fun. You are invited to join us, both here on the podcast, and at the Retreat. We hope to see you!   Mari A. Lee is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in sex addiction and partner betrayal. Mari is also a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, a Certified Partners Trauma Therapist, a Certified Mindfulness-Based Addiction Therapist, the founder of Growth Counseling in Glendora, CA., and the co-founder of The Mindfulness Academy for Addiction & Trauma Training (TMATT) in Newport Beach, CA. In addition to her clinical work, Mari is a trusted business coach to therapists around the world, is the founder of The Counselors Coach, and she is the co-founder of The Shine Women’s Retreat in Laguna Beach, CA. Mari is also a popular national speaker on betrayal trauma, and a respected author of multiple books, including, “Healing from Betrayal”, and “Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts”, and “The Creative Clinician: Exercises and Activities for Clients and Group Therapy.” Her next book, “The Gift in the Wound” will be out in 2020.    You can learn more about Mari’s services and support here: Growth Counseling Services Therapy support for Sex Addicts & Betrayed Partners www.growthcounselingservices.com The Counselor’s Coach Online Coaching Support for Therapists. Clinical Books, Materials and Free Resources for Therapists www.thecounselorscoach.com The Mindfulness Academy for Addiction & Trauma Training We provide training for clinical professionals seeking their Mindfulness-Based Addiction Therapist (MBAT) Certification www.thecounselorscoach.com The Shine Retreat for Women A healing retreat for all women regardless of age, size or ethnicity in Laguna Beach, CA. All women are warmly welcomed for an inspiring weekend of self-care, workshops, yoga, beach pampering, connection, yummy meals, and fun! www.shineretreatforwomen.com   Don’t forget about the upcoming SHINE RETREAT FOR WOMEN!!! A healing retreat for all women regardless of age, size or ethnicity in Laguna Beach, CA. All women are warmly welcomed for an inspiring weekend of self-care, workshops, yoga, beach pampering, connection, yummy meals, and fun! Join Anna and her cohost, today’s special guest, Mari A. Lee!!    SPECIAL INVITATION: Shine Retreat is coming up September 27th - 29th, 2019!!  Registration at: https://www.shineretreatforwomen.com/ Email me at info@ShineRetreatforWomen.com to receive a $50 discount code off registration. You can also reach me at anna@herlifeunscripted.com. “Shine Retreat” is limited to 40 women.   Show Highlights:   Mari works with women whose worlds have just been shattered. Women have been so focused on taking care of someone else that they have forgotten how to take care of themselves. As women, we’ve come to accept phrases like, “What a wonder woman you are, I want to be just like you when I grow up!”, “How do you find hours in the day to do all that you do, you just blow me away!” as compliments, but if we are not making time each day for some self-care, then we are setting ourselves up for crises. Learning how to manage others’ expectations and knowing, naming, and maintaining boundaries is so important, and these are things that Mari teaches. Mari and Anna discuss the shaming messages we get around self-care. Mari explains FOG - Fear, Obligation, and Guilt. We all do self-care differently and need to lift each other up. This is what you’ll find at The Shine Retreat. Both Mari and Anna divulge their personal insights into how they each know they’re needing some self-care. The Shine Retreat is a place for a small group of women to come together and fully immerse themselves in taking a moment and pushing the pause button and asking themselves what they need. We sometimes struggle to articulate our needs. Mari shares some surprises to expect from the retreat - such as a workshop on the beach. Under the stars. And in your PJ’s! Women find a way to release guilt, shame, pain, responsibility, and leave with insight, knowledge, and tools, and a tribe of women. Open invitation to the Retreat. We can’t WAIT to meet you!! Resources:   Her Life Unscripted Facebook Page, give it a LIKE!  https://www.facebook.com/herlifeunscripted/   Anna’s Website: https://lifeunscriptedcounseling.com     SPECIAL INVITATION: Shine Retreat is coming up September 27th - 29th, 2019!!  Registration at: https://www.shineretreatforwomen.com/ Email me at info@ShineRetreatforWomen.com to receive a $50 discount code off registration. You can also reach me at anna@herlifeunscripted.com. “Shine Retreat” is limited to 40 women.     Mari’s Links:   To learn more about Mari’s services and support: www.growthcounselingservices.com   Clinical Books, Materials and Free Resources for Therapists:  www.thecounselorscoach.com   To learn more about training for clinical professionals seeking their Mindfulness Based Addiction Therapist (MBAT) Certification: www.thecounselorscoach.com   The Shine Retreat for Women! A healing retreat for all women regardless of age, size or ethnicity in Laguna Beach, CA. All women are warmly welcomed for an inspiring weekend of self care, workshops, yoga, beach pampering, connection, yummy meals, and fun!  www.shineretreatforwomen.com

Disclaimer: This particular episode has an Explicit Rating, and is not meant for younger ears.   Today, I’m so excited to bring you yet another sponsor of the upcoming Shine Retreat, Gaelyn Rae Emerson.   Have you ever struggled with moving forward in the aftermath of a failed relationship? There’s trauma associated with the complex emotional process of disintegration. Gaelyn understands first-hand, and being able to see a way to serve and help others in the midst of her own pain was a powerful awakening and an asset to her healing. Please join us today as we dive into some profound matters of the heart, and the process of working through them.   Gaelyn is madly, passionately, head over heels in love... with her job. :) As a professional life, relationship and divorce recovery coach, Gaelyn dedicates her working hours to helping her clients survive and revive - whether or not their relationships do. Gaelyn is credentialed by the International Coach Federation, with advanced training in relational trauma for survivors of abandonment, abuse, addiction, betrayal, deception, divorce, infidelity and more. Gaelyn coaches clients around the world, through her online private practice, Women Ever After. Gaelyn is known for (and lives by) her collection of meaningful, expressive and well-timed quotations. Her current favorite is this quote from the Baal Shem Tov: “Let me fall if I must. The one I will become will catch me.”   Mari Lee, my co-host for the upcoming Shine Retreat for Women, and I would like to extend a personal invitation for you to join us September 27th - 29th, at this restorative women’s retreat, the ultimate self-care weekend where every woman is welcomed. You will be among friends! I encourage you to email me or Mari Lee at info@ShineRetreatforWomen.com to receive a $50 discount code off registration. Shine Retreat is limited to 40 women, and it’s filling up fast, so be sure to register at https://www.shineretreatforwomen.com/.     Show Highlights:   Divorce is traumatic even when it’s also a necessary act of self-preservation.  The act of divorce does not end the trauma but compounds it by adding another layer of trauma. For many women, divorce often involves an increased opportunity and risk for relational abuse. There’s a prolific shift in your support system post-divorce. Some women adapt to the trauma, manage that trauma, by becoming used to that standard of fast and furious, turmoiled emotions. Transitioning to a life that is not about constantly dodging the fast and furious assaults can be its own interesting transitional period. When a relationship is terminally wounded, you still have to survive, even when the relationship doesn’t.  There are many more resources for assistance today than there were even a decade ago. “Roadmap Gap” - Gaelyn explains that the roadmap gap is when you reach a screeching halt in the standard guidelines for how to heal because you’re doing without the cooperation of a partner, and with the additional layer of trauma induced by the separation or divorce. The end result is that you feel marginalized.  Learning how to simultaneously (or in adjacent or successive seasons) cherish everything that was good, while you’re grieving and detaching from everything that wasn’t. Giving permission to miss the beautiful life and love you shared with someone, even amidst of despising the uglier parts of the abuse or the abandonment. Labeling aspect of how you see yourself in the aftermath (survivor? victim?). Self-Discovery: Defining who you are outside of the relationship and the experience. According to Gaelyn, working through relational trauma is difficult, and some days you’re going to be flattened. . .and you will get up. . .and the next day, you grow wise.     Resources:   Her Life Unscripted Facebook Page, give it a LIKE!  https://www.facebook.com/herlifeunscripted/   Gaelyn’s Website: https://www.womeneverafter.com/   Special Invitation: Shine Retreat is coming up September 27th - 29th, 2019!!    Registration at: https://www.shineretreatforwomen.com/   Email me at info@ShineRetreatforWomen.com to receive a $50 discount code off registration.   You can also reach me at anna@herlifeunscripted.com.   “Shine Retreat” is limited to 40 women.

A licensed marriage, family and sex addiction therapist, Mari Lee understands the differences between sex addiction and other forms of addiction such as drugs and alcohol. The founder of Growth Counselling Services and the Shine Women’s Retreat in Laguna Beach, CA, Mari is an expert on helping sex addicts, and their betrayed partners, find clarity and understanding.  This type of trauma can leave many physical, mental and emotional symptoms in its wake, and through the help of professional like Mari you can discover if healing is possible in your relationship. Mari is here to help you rebuild your self-esteem from feelings of rejection and abandonment and help you manage and heal from your betrayal trauma.  Today we dive into the bio-psycho assessment process, sexual dependency inventories and formal disclosure processes so that you can be equipped with the necessary knowledge to take the first steps to recover. When dealing with a sex addict it takes wisdom and insight to figure out how to heal, and Mari is here to help you gain that knowledge.  How has sex addiction impacted your relationship? Share with us in the comments on the episode page.    In This Episode Learn how sex addiction differs from alcohol or drug addiction  A look into the assessment and treatment process for individuals and couples The common denominator between betrayed partners of sexual addiction  Understanding what self-care means to different people based on your history  Exploring the role your faith plays in your relationship and values   Quotes “When we talk about my specialization, which is working with sex addicts and their betrayed partners, we're talking about a different level of trauma because a bottle of vodka, for example, doesn't have a penis or breasts or a vagina.” (5:23) “All of this information, these messages that we hear that have so much mistruth to them, we really do need to challenge them and show up for ourself.” (17:12) “It is very likely that they can heal as long as both people are willing to do the work.” (21:59) “This is truly a labor of love to help women get their feet back on the ground.” (31:43)   Links The Counselor’s Coach Growth Counseling Services Shine Retreat for Women Healing from Betrayal by Mari Lee  Facing Heartbreak by Mari Lee   Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/73 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Mari Lee, my co-host for the upcoming Shine Retreat for Women, and I would like to extend a personal invitation for you to join us September 27th - 29th, at this restorative women’s retreat, the ultimate self-care weekend where every woman is welcomed. You will be among friends! I encourage you to email me or Mari Lee at info@ShineRetreatforWomen.com to receive a $50 discount code off registration. Shine Retreat is limited to 40 women, and it’s filling up fast, so be sure to register at https://www.shineretreatforwomen.com/.   On today’s podcast, I’m here to share with you about this last week and want to hear your feedback and learn from your wisdom.   Do you ever have those weeks where you’re cruising along, you’ve got a to-do list, and you get some things done, but it’s not a matter of life or death if you don’t?   Last week I had a huge list of things that had to be done, but the way I had poorly planned my schedule I was going to fall miserably short.   Being an optimist, I see the glass as half-full. Therefore, when I look at a project, I think it won’t take any time at all, but in reality, it needs more time than originally estimated. So that’s what happened last week. I had more than I could possibly handle, and I made a lot of promises that I could not fulfill, and I let a lot of people down.   Please join me as I delve into negative head chatter, the way we talk to ourselves, and the unrealistic expectations we hold for ourselves. Let’s explore what happens when we lean into our disappointments and failures. Let’s talk about grace.     Show Highlights:   Optimists see the glass as half-full and may underestimate the time it takes to complete a task. Learning to listen to negative head chatter and what it can tell us  Leaning into our disappointments Apologizing and offering to make things right when we’ve fallen short Why do we give others grace that we won’t extend to ourselves? Shame that smashes into sense of self based on an action We need to allow ourselves to make mistakes, to be human. Three ways we can learn to stop verbally and emotionally assaulting ourselves when we mess up: You must work on the shame. Reach out to your community and the people you’ve fallen short with and have a conversation.  Be open to the idea that what you’re categorizing as disappointment may be totally unrealistic. Sometimes, the expectations we set for ourselves are not on anybody else’s radar. The three steps can also work in other areas that clutter up headspace, aside from leaning into your disappointments. Cleaning up your headspace is the most important piece when it comes to our need to be able to move forward from our mistakes.     Resources:   Her Life Unscripted Facebook Page, give it a LIKE!  https://www.facebook.com/herlifeunscripted/   Book Mentioned: John C. Maxwell, Failing Forward   Special Invitation:   Shine Retreat is coming up September 27th - 29th, 2019.     Registration at: https://www.shineretreatforwomen.com/   Email me at info@ShineRetreatforWomen.com to receive a $50 discount code off registration.   You can also reach me at anna@herlifeunscripted.com.   “Shine Retreat” is limited to 40 women.

Today, I am thrilled to introduce yet another sponsor for the Shine Retreat, which is coming up in September. I’ll be giving you more information on how listeners of this podcast can get a $50 discount off registration, so you’ll want to listen in! Today’s guest is also a dear, dear friend of mine who has been on the podcast one other time. She was so supportive and encouraging to me when I first started out. Our friendship has evolved though the years, which has been such a cool thing to experience, and her work has transformed, as well. Nicol thought she might die in that cubicle, and that's when she decided to make some changes. She is now self-employed. She is an expert witness in court (don't tell anyone), a child custody evaluator (for real, don't tell anyone), an author (tell everyone), a motivational speaker (tell everyone) a mom (2 cutie pies), a wife, a mompreneur, a taxi, a motivational speaker, a skincare consultant (hello good skin and tax write-offs), a non-profit director (in all her spare time) a lover of spas and massages and at times "the fit hits the shan" in her life ... but it's hers, and there is beauty in that. She is here to share her journey with us, this evolution she has gone through, and she will be sharing how to give yourself permission to live the life you want, and how to take risks in order to create happiness in your life. Here’s more information on the Shine Retreat that I promised you! Mari Lee, my co-host for the upcoming Shine Retreat for Women, and I would like to extend a personal invitation for you to join us September 27th - 29th, at this restorative women’s retreat, the ultimate self-care weekend where every woman is welcomed. You will be among friends! I encourage you to email me or Mari Lee at info@ShineRetreatforWomen.com to receive a $50 discount code off registration. Shine Retreat is limited to 40 women, and it’s filling up fast, so be sure to register at https://www.shineretreatforwomen.com/. Show Highlights: When we get stuck in fear, it becomes our story. There’s something that everybody wants more of. Our expectations can get in the way. Other’s expectations can appear to be a lack of support. When we get resistance, they are telling us their story, it is not our own. Create a shortlist of those who get to have a say in your life. Women who feel stuck can get trapped easily. By saying “no” to others, it’s saying “yes” to a different set of opportunities. Stay away from emotional vampires. Other people’s stress can make us physically ill. We have a tendency to self-sabotage. Men are taught to take more risks from an early age, so be careful and question what you think. Get past the “what-if’s”. Identify your own definition of “success”. Examine who is in your circle. Get more information about what’s possible, instead of what’s not possible. Resources: Her Life Unscripted Facebook Page, give it a LIKE!  https://www.facebook.com/herlifeunscripted/ Find out more about Nicol Stolar-Peterson here! http://www.nicol.live http://www.permissiontosucceed.us   Special Invitation: Shine Retreat is coming up September 27th - 29th, 2019.   Registration at: https://www.shineretreatforwomen.com/ Email me at info@ShineRetreatforWomen.com to receive a $50 discount code off registration. You can also reach me at anna@herlifeunscripted.com. “Shine Retreat” is limited to 40 women.

Darrin Ford is the special guest I would like to introduce you to today. Darrin is also a sponsor for the upcoming Shine Retreat.    Today, Darrin and I will discuss changing the word “mindfulness” from a trendy buzzword to something tangible that we can apply to our lives and use as a way to tune in to ourselves, to learn and to grow as we move through this journey called life.   Darrin Ford is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in treating addictive disorders. His practice began in Long Beach, California and has extended over the years to include treatment centers in West Los Angeles and Orange County. As co-founder of Sano Center for Recovery, he currently serves as the chief executive officer, runs intensive workshops, and mentors new therapists. He is a certified Sex Addiction Therapist Supervisor, who was trained directly by the pioneer of the field, Dr. Patrick Carnes. He also has Founded The Mindfulness Academy of Addiction and Trauma Training with Mari Lee LMFT, CSAT-S, MBAT-S AKA The Counselors Coach and CEO of Growth Counseling Services. In his years of treating those afflicted with addiction, he ascertained the keystone of mindfulness in breaking free from old patterns, habits, and ways of thinking. Steeped in his passion for science and Buddhist philosophy, he co-wrote the Mindfulness-Based Addiction Therapy Certification Program (MBAT™). His expertise in the field of addictive behaviors can be found in the program, which takes a modern approach to Eastern techniques in exploring the mind. His next book, Awakening to the Addictive Mind: A Story of and Guide to Addiction, sheds an intimate light on his own struggles and how he came to help others on a path he is intimately familiar with. His upcoming book will be available in 2018 Darrin is also available for public speaking events and coaching. For more information please visit www.darrinford.com.   Mari Lee, my co-host for the upcoming Shine Retreat for Women, and I would like to extend a personal invitation for you to join us September 27th - 29th, at this restorative women’s retreat, the ultimate self-care weekend where every woman is welcomed. You will be among friends! I encourage you to email me or Mari Lee at info@ShineRetreatforWomen.com to receive a $50 discount code off registration. Shine Retreat is limited to 40 women, and it’s filling up fast, so be sure to register at https://www.shineretreatforwomen.com/.                 Show Highlights:   Mindfulness: Looking at the “mind” in that word.  Is this accurate? Is what my mind telling me aligning with where I am at with my environment and everything right now? Getting as accurate alignment with reality as possible Impulsivity and habits becoming our destiny  Conditioning the mind and recreating conflict Mindfulness exercise activities Addiction at its core is an intimacy disorder Using mindfulness for anger management and conflict resolution We’re sometimes not aware that we use mindfulness Using focus to move into practices that cultivate more mindfulness Suggestions for moments of pause Practice: very simple, but not always easy Compassion is not altruism  Constructive and destructive compassion Destructive compassion helps someone feel better in the short run, but is destructive in the long run. Constructive compassion helps someone heal in the long run, but may anger the person offered it in the short run. Emotions rise, crest, and fall, and as humans beings, we can expect this. Offering ourselves compassion through the distress of feeling an emotion When the pain becomes too overwhelming, we have to have the presence of mind to reach out and share it with someone so they can be present for the process. If someone is suffering from psychotic symptoms, or somebody who has other symptoms of detachment from reality, we wouldn’t want to you to be practicing mindfulness, as it wouldn’t help. Enlisting expert help Overwhelming evidence of how mindfulness works with the neuroplasticity of the brain Darrin shares what’s coming up in his work                         Resources:   Her Life Unscripted Facebook Page, give it a LIKE!  https://www.facebook.com/herlifeunscripted/     Links to Darrin’s websites:   www.sanopress.com  www.sanorecovery.com www.TMAATT.com www.DarrinFord.com      Special Invitation:   Shine Retreat is coming up September 27th - 29th, 2019.     Registration at: https://www.shineretreatforwomen.com/   Email me at info@ShineRetreatforWomen.com to receive a $50 discount code off registration.   You can also reach me at anna@herlifeunscripted.com.   “Shine Retreat” is limited to 40 women.

Thank you to this episode's sponsor, TherapyNotes. Get a 2-month free trial of TherapyNotes by going to www.TherapyNotes.com and using the promo code TherapyChat.  Welcome back to Therapy Chat! In today's podcast host Laura Reagan speaks to Mari Lee about showing up vs. showing off. Mari A. Lee is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Supervisor, and the founder of Growth Counseling Services, a private recovery practice located in Glendora, California. Mari is recognized for her clinical work with sex addicts, traumatically betrayed spouses, and couples healing from infidelity. Additionally, Mari is a trusted coach and respected entrepreneur with 30 years of business experience. She is the founder of, "The Counselor’s Coach" and provides effective coaching, clinical materials, and dedicated support to therapists across the U.S. and around the world. Mari's specialized coaching is focused on helping therapists create and launch multiple income streams beyond the one-on-one clinical hour. Mari is also the co-author of the bestselling book, “Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts”, and she is the author of, “Healing Betrayal”, and “The Creative Clinician." Her next book, “The Gift in the Wound: Stories of Resiliency and Hope” will be out in 2020. Finally, Mari is a popular speaker and presents across the country on the topic of sex and love addiction, partner’s betrayal trauma, and is the co-founder of, “The Shine Retreat for Women”, which is an inspiring, rejuvenating and inclusive self care weekend retreat where all women are warmly welcomed. Shine 2019 is happening September 27-29th in beautiful Laguna Beach, California. Resources  To learn more about Mari’s clinical work visit: www.GrowthCounselingServices.com  To schedule coaching session with Mari visit: www.TheCounselorsCoach.com  To attend The Shine Women’s Retreat visit: www.ShineRetreatforWomen.com  Are you a therapist needing support to sharpen your clinical skills in working with trauma survivors? Want to work with Laura for clinical consultation? Get in touch via laura@bahealing.com. Or if you're interested in joining an upcoming online or in person clinical consultation group, go here to sign up on the interest list!  Please let us know what you'd like to learn more from Laura by completing this short survey!  Want a cool Therapy Chat t-shirt, sticker or mug? Find them here: https://www.teepublic.com/user/therapychat  Please consider supporting Therapy Chat by becoming a member on Patreon! Just $1 a month would make a huge impact to keep Therapy Chat going strong! To learn more head to - https://patreon.com/TherapyChat where members get special perks and swag too!  Leave me a message via Speakpipe by going to https://therapychatpodcast.com and clicking on the green Speakpipe button.  Thank you for listening to Therapy Chat! Please be sure to go to iTunes and leave a rating and review, subscribe and download episodes. You can also download the Therapy Chat app on iTunes by clicking here.  Podcast produced by Pete Bailey - https://petebailey.net/audio   

Mari Lee is an author of best-selling books Facing Heartbreak and Healing Betrayal, speaker, and LMFT, a Sex Addiction Therapist, Specialist, and Supervisor. She also is the founder of Growth Counseling Services and Shine Women’s Retreat. She talks with Rob about what it is like to be a woman in her job working with both partners and addicts healing from betrayal, and how she helps her clients feel heard, resources for hope and healing, and why she loves working with addicts.   TAKEAWAYS: [2:37] Mari didn’t always want to work with sex addicts. When she came into the work, her passion was about supporting traumatized partners. There wasn’t a lot of support or knowledge about working with betrayed partners, and much of it was based in codependency rather than prodependence. [4:31] Mari began to understand that the choices the addict was making had little to nothing to do with their partner. [7:25] Mari does a lot of psychoeducation with her clients about what is going on in the limbic and nervous systems. [8:55] If a partner grows up in an environment where there is shaming and much negativity, hiding and deceit become coping mechanisms and they develop a core belief that they are unloveable. Their actions then reinforce that behavior, and they need to first get help for the relationship they have with themselves. [13:18] It is often more difficult for the partner who has to look at their spouse as troubled because they want to have empathy but they are so hurt, shocked and angry. [16:45] The disclosure process, or “clinical formal disclosure” can be a very painful and traumatic time. This is a very thorough process where the addict and partner agree to come into a sacred healing space to disclose all the betrayals and hidden secrets. [17:43] Over time, a partner that is being gaslighted feels fear, obligation, and guilt. One of the most healing tools is for the addict to work with a therapist and give their partner full disclosure and truth, and the power to decide if they want to continue the relationship. [26:45] Mari wrote Facing Heartbreak for partners who can’t afford to see a therapist, or are unable to see one due to logistics, insurance or financial means. [30:14] Mari refers to her clients as survivors and thrive-rs. They may be scared at first, but she helps them move away from the idea of victimization and towards empowerment and understanding how to set tangible boundaries.   RESOURCES: Sex and Relationship Healing @RobWeissMSW Sex Addiction 101 Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency Rob@sexandrelationshiphealing.com Shine Women’s Retreat Growth Counseling Services Facing Heartbreak Healing Betrayal   QUOTES: “I knew I wanted to be somebody that created healing spaces, materials, support, and community for partners in pain.” “Therapists need to educate their clients in what is going on in their nervous system and brain.” “I help a partner understand how she can share her truth.” “The intuition of human beings is one of the most powerful gifts we have. When you send a woman out in the world doubting her own intuition, you make that woman very vulnerable.” “We need to have a focused roadmap for the treatment team.”

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Mari Lee, the internationally and nationally recognized co-author of "Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts"  and "Healing Betrayal: First Healing Steps for Partners of Sex and Addicts." Mari believes that  intentional self care is essential for partners of sex addicts. Listen as they discuss the 12 tenets to follow while dealing with the aftermath of sexual addiction.

Carol Sheets will be interviewing renowned author, Mari Lee, who has written the book Gifts in the Wound: Stories of Hope and Resilency where she shares real stories of partners and couples who moved through the pain of sex addiction and partner trauma and found their way back to strength through recovery.

We talk with our friend and returning guest Mari Lee about current affairs and why so much emotion is evoked around large issues like #metoo, politics, guns, and the like.   Mari mentioned a blog post in this episode.  This is the link: http://www.thecounselorscoach.com/practice-business-building-ideas-counselor-blog/worship-narcissistic-therapist-leaders   Jackie and Mari also mentioned a quote from David Bowie- here it is in its entirety.   “And these children that you spit onAs they try to change their worldsAre immune to your consultations.They're quite aware of what they're going through.- Changes”

We talk with our friend and returning guest Mari Lee about current affairs and why so much emotion is evoked around large issues like #metoo, politics, guns, and the like.   Mari mentioned a blog post in this episode.  This is the link: http://www.thecounselorscoach.com/practice-business-building-ideas-counselor-blog/worship-narcissistic-therapist-leaders   Jackie and Mari also mentioned a quote from David Bowie- here it is in its entirety.   “And these children that you spit onAs they try to change their worldsAre immune to your consultations.They're quite aware of what they're going through.- Changes”

Mari Lee, LMFT, CSAT-S, owner of Growth Counseling Services joins us for an enlightening chat on narcissism and sex addictions. Mari educates us on what a sex addiction is, and why it is vital to our health to get support when battling these issues. To get in touch with Mari Lee, LMFT, CSAT-S please check out: Growth Counseling Services Resources mentioned: https://www.IITAP.com https://www.sexhealth.com https://www.sanon.org https://www.sexhelp.com https://www.sexaa.org Facing The Shadows, by Patrick Carnes, Phd. If you have questions for Dr. Jones, or if you are interested in sponsoring the podcast please email: adatewithdarkness@gmail.com. Be sure to stay connected with Dr. Jones and A Date With Darkness Podcast. Visit the website: A Date With Darkness. Let's keep in touch via social media! Facebook: @adatewithdarkness Instagram: @adatewithdarkness Twitter: @adatewdarkness To connect with likeminded individuals seeking support from hurtful and abusive relationships in a safe space, please join the private FB group: A Date With Darkness Group.    

We were excited to sit with Mari Lee and talk about her upcoming book "The Gift in the Wound: Stories of Hope and Resiliency"  Mari, Jackie, and Jon all reflect on the changes and gifts that have come into their lives post trauma and heart-break.   Mari A. Lee, LMFT, CSAT-S is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, and is recognized nationally and internationally for her work with sex addicts and their partners. She is the founder of Growth Counseling Services, a recovery center located in Southern California.  Mari is also the author of the best selling book, “Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts”, and “The Creative Clinician.” Her next book, “The Gift in the Wound: Stories of Hope and Resiliency” will be out in 2018. She is a popular speaker and presents across the country on the topic of sex and love addiction, partner’s trauma and resiliency. In addition to her clinical work, speaking and writing, Mari is known as “The Counselor’s Coach”, and is a trusted business coach helping therapists create multiple income streams and develop successful private practices. She facilitates the popular on line coaching group, “Like A Boss”, and gives generously to the clinical community with free information on her coaching website blog. Mari has created a complete clinical packet for therapists in private practice, as well as group therapy forms, and freebies on her toolbox page as a support. For supportive information, materials and workshops, please visit: www.thecounselorscoach.com For further information and support, or if you are interested in hiring Mari as a speaker for your organization, event, TV, radio, or pod cast show, you may contact Mari at 818.521.4370, or reach her via email at:mari@thecounselorscoach.com

We were excited to sit with Mari Lee and talk about her upcoming book "The Gift in the Wound: Stories of Hope and Resiliency"  Mari, Jackie, and Jon all reflect on the changes and gifts that have come into their lives post trauma and heart-break.   Mari A. Lee, LMFT, CSAT-S is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, and is recognized nationally and internationally for her work with sex addicts and their partners. She is the founder of Growth Counseling Services, a recovery center located in Southern California.  Mari is also the author of the best selling book, “Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts”, and “The Creative Clinician.” Her next book, “The Gift in the Wound: Stories of Hope and Resiliency” will be out in 2018. She is a popular speaker and presents across the country on the topic of sex and love addiction, partner’s trauma and resiliency. In addition to her clinical work, speaking and writing, Mari is known as “The Counselor’s Coach”, and is a trusted business coach helping therapists create multiple income streams and develop successful private practices. She facilitates the popular on line coaching group, “Like A Boss”, and gives generously to the clinical community with free information on her coaching website blog. Mari has created a complete clinical packet for therapists in private practice, as well as group therapy forms, and freebies on her toolbox page as a support. For supportive information, materials and workshops, please visit: www.thecounselorscoach.com For further information and support, or if you are interested in hiring Mari as a speaker for your organization, event, TV, radio, or pod cast show, you may contact Mari at 818.521.4370, or reach her via email at:mari@thecounselorscoach.com

Josh speaks with Mari Lee and Mark Jafari of the Frederick County Democratic Central Committee to discuss the Volunteer and Outreach sub-committee.

My guest today is Mari A. Lee a licensed marriage and family therapist, a certified sex addiction therapist, the founder of Growth Counseling Services in Glendora, California, a best-selling author, popular national speaker, and a business coach supporting therapists in developing multiple income streams. Additionally, Mari is the co-founder of the annual “Shine Retreat for Women” in Laguna Beach, CA. In this episode, you will learn: Mari talks about her own experience of being in foster care The Roles moms and dads can play in supporting teen girls How self-care can benefit your teenage daughter I invite you to sign up for my newsletter to stay updated and receive other parenting tips or information about upcoming events at www.LaunchingYourDaughter.com or www.NicoleCBurgess.com/ep56

Episode 25: Courage to be Vulnerable with special guest Mari Lee, LMFT, CSAT-S EXPLICIT RATING On today’s show I talk with the amazing and courageous Mari Lee, LMFT, CSAT-S.  Mari Lee is recognized for her clinical work with male and female sex addicts, love and pornography addicts, as well as her groundbreaking work with spouses and partners of sex addicts.  Mari shares about the “Gift in the Wound” a platform that she has created through her own experiences, expertise and passion.  Her work is truly transformative and helps to encourage us all to find the courage in our vulnerability. She highlights the power of rising above and being able to create connection and healing after tragedy. Click here to access the full show notes and get in on all the action!

Dr. Mari Lee Mifsud, Professor of Rhetoric and Women, Gender and Sexuality Studies, discusses her new book, Rhetoric and the Gift: Ancient Rhetorical Theory and Contemporary Communication, published recently by Duquesne University Press. Rhetoric and the Gift, taking as its … Continue reading →

Are you hurting or deceiving someone you love? Or has someone you loved betrayed you with an affair or sexual secrets and your heart is broken? Perhaps you have been struggling with depression or anxiety and don't know where to turn. If so, you are not alone. Every person and couple stumbles at some point in their life and needs support along the way. Today’s guest is Mari Lee. She’s a respected and trusted therapist, who brings a compassionate and direct focus to her work treating each counseling client as a unique human being. Mari is recognized nationally and internationally for her work with spouses and partners of sex addicts, and with male and female sex, love and pornography addicts. Additionally, Mari is the best-selling author of, “Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts” and speaks and teaches nationally on this topic, as well as supervises and trains other therapists and counselors around the world in sex addiction recovery treatment. You can read the full show notes and access all the links and resources at www.lourdesviado.com/women-in-depth-podcast

Mari Lee, LMFT, CSAT-S is a psychotherapist and author specializing in sex and porn addiction who practices in Glendora, California. In addition to her books and her work with clients, she is a coach helping therapists in private practice create businesses they love. Mari is a national speaker and trainer who has personally transformed her business into one that allows her to have a balanced life. In Episode 14, Mari talks about her journey from working in the corporate world to going back to school to become a therapist and shares the change she made in her private practice which helped her get off the burnout track and back to living a life she loves. Therapists and non-therapists alike can benefit from listening to this interesting conversation about authenticity in work and life, and the importance of self care. 

Mari A. Lee will be presenting information to partners of addicts from a book she co-authored "Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts" As many partners know ...the shock from discovering your partner is an addict can be devestating and this book is extremely helpful in unraveling the chaos.....Listen in Monday night 9PMEST to www.blogtalkradio.com/sexhelpwithcarolthecoach.Sexual Addiction can be managed if you utilize a variety of resources. This radio show teaches you the recovery tasks needed to work through the shame that accompanies this compulsion. Carol the Coach has worked with 1000's of clients who have fought this disorder and learned how to manage it and live fully optimal lives. Listen to her as she shares her wisdom and interviews the experts in her field. Carol Juergensen Sheets is a certified sexual addictions counselor and was trained by Dr. Patrick Carnes who has been instrumental in developing programs and clinical skill sets that promote recovery,

Our guest on this episode of The Addicted Mind podcast is *Mari Lee* , a licensed marriage and family and certified sex addiction therapist supervisor, consultant, coach, speaker, author, and founder of Growth Counseling Services in Glendora, CA. Mari is a firm believer in the power of group therapy in conjunction with individual therapy and 12-step sessions to aid in the recovery process, especially with sex and porn addictions. Addiction thrives in secrecy and isolation, and could often be triggered by boredom and loneliness, so an excellent way to progress in the recovery process is to have a confidential group of individuals who know what you are going through and can support you along the way. The members of this group could, in fact, be the first healthy relationships they have each experienced. *Sign Up For our 6 Day Mindfulness Email Series* theaddictedmind.com/mindfulness ( http://theaddictedmind.com/mindfulness ) Group therapy, when facilitated the right way, can provide the individuals with shame reduction practices, a community with the other members, structure, consistency, inclusion, focused discussions, and accountability. The connections between the group members are often viewed as a brotherhood or sisterhood and provide a foundation for each member as they engage with their life circumstances outside of the group as well. It is common for individuals in the group to have trauma from their families of origin, and these traumas and unhealthy familial roles typically play a part in these group therapy sessions. Group therapy members are also encouraged to attend 12-step programs to support their individual recovery as well since these programs are more systematic and structured, providing each individual with a sponsor for accountability. However, 12-step programs do not have the flexibility of group therapy when it comes to cross-talk between group members, feedback, and deep conversations. *Episode Link* theaddictedmind.com/54 ( http://theaddictedmind.com/54 ) Mari encourages anyone out there who is considering joining a group therapy session to go ahead and give it a shot. Be sure to do a pre-group interview with your therapist to determine which group might be best for you and be open to being referred to a group in another therapist’s practice if that one is the best fit. Find out the logistics of when the group meets and how a session typically looks, so you are as prepared as possible for your initial meeting. Be open to the process and commit to the group for your own healing. Therapy in their practices, Mari recommends reaching out to a consultant who can help you come up with curriculum, client standards, policies, forms, standards of care, and a general roadmap for conducting and facilitating your group.