Podcast appearances and mentions of geoff steurer

When Recovery Means Different Things to Each Partner Summary: One of the most difficult aspects of healing after betrayal is that both partners may believe they are working toward recovery, yet they may have very different ideas about what healing actually looks like. In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner is joined by MaryAnn Michaels and Geoff Steurer to explore why couples often struggle to align their expectations during the recovery process. While both partners may want the relationship to improve, the impact of betrayal trauma, personal histories, and emotional needs can create very different timelines and definitions of what recovery means. The conversation explores the early stages of recovery, when many couples are simply trying to stabilize after the shock of discovery. Dr. Skinner, MaryAnn, and Geoff discuss why healing is rarely a straight path and how grief, emotional processing, and honest conversations play an essential role in rebuilding trust. They also explore a common challenge in recovery: when one partner feels they are doing everything they can to repair the relationship, yet the other partner still does not feel safe or connected. Rather than focusing on checklists or expectations, the discussion emphasizes the importance of curiosity, deep listening, and emotional presence. Another important topic addressed is the difference in timing when couples begin considering physical or sexual reconnection. Geoff shares insights from his work with couples and introduces the concept of “Not Yet,” highlighting the importance of patience, safety, and open dialogue when partners are not emotionally ready at the same time. Ultimately, healing after betrayal requires more than stopping harmful behaviors. It involves rebuilding emotional safety, learning to communicate vulnerably, and continually checking in with each other as the relationship evolves. As the conversation highlights, recovery is not a single event but an ongoing process of deeper understanding, connection, and growth. Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Geoff Steurer – From Crisis to Connection Podcast Geoff Steurer – Courageous Together Couples Program Dr. Kevin Skinner – Treating Sexual Addiction: A Compassionate Approach to Recovery Dr. Sue Johnson – Love Sense John Gottman – Love Maps Brené Brown – Research and teachings on vulnerability, safety, and self-trust Human Intimacy Conference Geoff Steurer will be presenting at the 2nd Annual Human Intimacy Conference, held March 13–14, 2026, where he will speak on the topic “Not Yet,” focusing on how couples can thoughtfully and safely navigate sexual reconnection after betrayal. To learn more or register for the conference, visit: bit.ly/humanintimacy Use the Coupon Code: 30off New Sponsorship If you or someone you love is looking for a place to begin the healing journey, you can learn more at BeginAgainInstitute.com. We're grateful to Begin Again Institute for supporting the Human Intimacy Podcast.  

Free Video Training Resource for Betrayed Partners: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/romance-after-betrayal This episode is taken from a presentation I gave at the Betrayal Healing Conference earlier this year, where I shared what later-stage recovery really looks like for couples working to rebuild trust and connection.In this episode, we talk about what it takes for couples to truly thrive after the initial crisis of betrayal has passed. We explore what “later-stage” recovery looks like: not just surviving, but building something new, strong, and deeply connected. Key Takeaways ✅ Later-stage recovery is often overlooked, but it's essential for rebuilding connection ✅ Surviving crisis is not the same as building a new relationship ✅ Emotional intimacy, shared vision, and curiosity fuel long-term healing ✅ You need new skills for this stage, old crisis tools won't get you there Free Video Training Resource for Betrayed Partners: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/romance-after-betrayal If the podcast has helped you and you want to support what we're building, we'd be grateful for a one-time donation (https://buy.stripe.com/bJe28sach0uS6T065o4wM00). You can also subscribe, leave a review, or share your favorite episode with someone who needs it.

Guest: Geoff Steurer, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Betrayal Trauma Specialist, and Co-Host of From Crisis to Connection  Episode Summary: In this powerful conversation, Dr. Debi Silber sits down with Geoff Steurer to unpack the deeply layered process of rebuilding trust after betrayal. Whether the betrayal came from infidelity, emotional disconnection, or broken agreements, Geoff explains how couples can not only survive the fallout—but create a completely new, stronger relationship. Drawing from his personal marriage journey and 20+ years of professional experience, Geoff shares the turning point that transformed his own relationship and the essential roadmap he uses with couples navigating the aftermath of betrayal.  You'll hear how full disclosure is not just a confessional but a structured, trauma-informed process that sets the stage for healing. You'll also learn why most traditional couples counseling fails betrayed couples, what real accountability looks like, and how the betrayer can become a source of strength instead of pain.  This episode is a must-listen for anyone considering rebuilding after betrayal—or helping others do the same.   

In this episode of the Unhooked Podcast, I interview Geoff Steurer, a licensed marriage and family therapist with over 25 years of experience in dealing with sexual betrayal, compulsive sexual behavior, and addiction. Geoff is the creator of the Courageous Together program and the co-author of 'Love You, Hate the Porn.' We delve into the intricacies of overcoming betrayal trauma induced by pornography, the importance of full disclosure, and why traditional marriage counseling often fails in these scenarios. Geoff also explains the stages of healing and how couples can rebuild trust and intimacy. This conversation is filled with hope, accountability, and practical steps for everyone struggling with or supporting someone in recovery from compulsive behavior.

When it comes to betrayal, we often hear one story: the man cheats, the woman is hurt, and support rallies around her. But what happens when the script is flipped? In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Adam Nisenson, a coach and author who helps men navigate betrayal trauma—a subject that's rarely talked about and often misunderstood. Adam shares his own experience of being betrayed, the cultural narratives that silence men in pain, and why so many men suffer in isolation. We explore how betrayal crushes identity, triggers deep ego wounds, and leaves men unsure of how to move forward. This episode offers insight, language, and hope for betrayed men—and for those who love them. Key Takeaways: ✅ Men are betrayed too—and they need space, language, and support to heal ✅ The stigma around male pain leads to silence, shame, and self-blame ✅ Performing, providing, and pretending don't heal betrayal—they hide it ✅ Surrendering isn't weakness—it's the first step toward reclaiming your strength ✅ Healing after betrayal can lead to deeper self-respect, better boundaries, and healthier love If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need it. And don't forget to leave a review—we'd love to hear how this podcast is supporting your healing journey!

In early recovery, survival is the focus. But what does it look like for couples who've done the foundational healing work to move beyond crisis and start rebuilding true partnership? In this powerful and relatable episode, we sit down with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith, a couple who have lived through the depths of betrayal trauma and are now guiding others in later-stage recovery. Together, we explore what healthy partnership looks like after the secrets, lies, and trauma are out in the open—and when safety, sobriety, and honesty are becoming consistent. We dig into the real dynamics of post-trauma cooperation vs. competition, compliance, and conflict avoidance. The Raabsmiths share personal stories and practical tools that couples can use to rebuild trust and co-create a shared life vision. What You'll Learn in This Episode:⏳ [02:30] – The essential recovery foundations that must be in place before true partnership is possible⏳ [04:00] – Why couples often fall into competition or compliance, and how it erodes intimacy⏳ [07:00] – How to recognize covert power struggles and replace them with cooperative communication⏳ [09:30] – The hidden dangers of “polite compromise” and why it's not the same as collaboration⏳ [20:20] – Using values and emotions to rebuild a shared vision after betrayal⏳ [22:45] – How individual healing (therapy, support groups, boundaries) is an act of relational care⏳ [32:00] – What shared responsibility and honest self-expression look like in real-time partnership If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need it. And don't forget to leave a review—we'd love to hear how this podcast is supporting your healing journey!

You've stopped the behavior. You're going to the meetings. You're doing everything the books and podcasts say to do. So why doesn't your partner trust you yet? In this honest and challenging conversation, we talk with Roland Cochrun, a recovery advocate and founder of SuccessfulAddict.com, about the biggest blind spots in early recovery—and why checking the right boxes doesn't guarantee real change. Roland shares his personal experience, the research behind what actually works, and why recovery must be more than just avoiding relapse. If you've ever felt stuck, discouraged, or unsure whether your progress is enough, this episode offers a much-needed reset. What You'll Learn in This Episode:⏳ [04:00] – The false sense of progress in early recovery—and why so many miss the bigger picture⏳ [06:00] – The difference between sobriety and recovery (and why most guys confuse the two)⏳ [09:30] – Why focusing only on stopping behaviors leads to high relapse rates⏳ [12:30] – What betrayed partners are really asking for when they say, “You're not trying hard enough”⏳ [16:00] – Understanding process addiction and why porn or sex might not be the real issue⏳ [19:50] – How to define “good recovery” and why most guys aren't doing it⏳ [32:30] – Why couples need a shared roadmap and how to build one together If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need it. And don't forget to leave a review—we'd love to hear how this podcast is supporting your healing journey!

Betrayal trauma is devastating on its own—but for many betrayed partners, there's a deeper, more disorienting layer they can't name: covert abuse. In this eye-opening conversation, we explore how covert abuse operates beneath the surface of a relationship—often wrapped in kindness, plausible deniability, and social approval. Our guest vulnerably shares her personal story of discovering the hidden abuse patterns that accompanied betrayal in her marriage, how she came to name them, and what she's learned about reclaiming power, rebuilding trust in herself, and navigating confusing dynamics—even when the overt behaviors like addiction or infidelity have stopped. This episode is a must-listen for anyone who feels confused, dismissed, or unseen in their relationship. What You'll Learn in This Episode: ⏳ [04:00] – What covert abuse is and how it differs from overt abuse ⏳ [06:30] – Why covert abuse is so confusing—and often goes undetected for years ⏳ [10:15] – How gaslighting, image management, and passive aggression show up in betrayal recovery ⏳ [11:20] – The difference between emotional immaturity and covert control ⏳ [18:30] – Why even “sober” partners can still use passive forms of control ⏳ [26:00] – The role of body intuition and emotional awareness in identifying covert abuse ⏳ [39:50] – How therapists and helpers can unintentionally enable covert abuse ⏳ [47:00] – Steps betrayed partners can take to protect themselves, find support, and reclaim power If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need it. And don't forget to leave a review—we'd love to hear how this podcast is supporting your healing journey!

Healing Body Image and Self-Perception After Betrayal   In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore how early life experiences, cultural messaging, and exposure to media and pornography shape self-perception and body image—especially after betrayal. They discuss why betrayed partners often feel "not enough," and they share research shows that pornography harms both users' and partners' body image.   The episode offers practical strategies for healing, including gratitude for the body's functionality, redefining beauty beyond appearance, and reconnecting with the joyful, authentic self. This conversation invites listeners to free themselves from harmful comparisons and embrace their inherent worth. Resources Discussed: - Study: The Association of Pornography Use and Body Image Among Heterosexual and Sexual Minority Men (Archives of Sexual Behavior). - Key concepts: Self-perception, media influence, social comparison theory, and gratitude-based body acceptance. —- Did you miss the First Annual Human Intimacy Conference? Session replays are now available. Click here and use this coupon code to get a 20% discount (Conf20). Watch Dr. Kevin Skinner, MaryAnn Michaelis, Karen Strange, Michelle Mays, Geoff Steurer, and many others as they discuss the healing and recovery process.

Why do some people heal from betrayal and rebuild their lives, while others stay stuck in pain and resentment for years—or even decades? In this powerful episode, we speak with Dr. Debi Silber, founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation (PBT) Institute, about the three groundbreaking discoveries from her PhD research on betrayal. Dr. Silber breaks down the specific symptoms of betrayal trauma, explains why time alone doesn't heal it, and outlines the five predictable stages of healing she's observed in over 100,000 participants. If you've felt like you're stuck, looping through pain, or numbing out to avoid facing what happened, this conversation is for you. You'll walk away with clarity, encouragement, and a path forward—no matter where you are in the healing process. What You'll Learn in This Episode:⏳ [02:15] – Why betrayal is a different kind of trauma that needs a different healing path⏳ [04:20] – The symptoms of Post Betrayal Syndrome—and why they linger for decades if unhealed⏳ [10:45] – What it really means to have “repeat betrayals” or to build emotional walls⏳ [14:45] – The four reflection questions to know if you're numbing, avoiding, or stuck⏳ [20:15] – The five stages of Post Betrayal Transformation—and what to do in each stage⏳ [32:30] – Why trust can't be repaired—but it can be rebuilt⏳ [35:00] – The truth about transformation and what's possible on the other side of pain If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need it. And don't forget to leave a review—we'd love to hear how this podcast is supporting your healing journey!

After betrayal, it's common for women to turn inward, blaming their bodies and questioning their worth. In this important conversation, we talk with Dr. Lauren Barnes, therapist, researcher, and director of clinical training at BYU's Marriage and Family Therapy program. Dr. Barnes shares how her clinical and personal experiences led her to work with women struggling with body image and eating disorders. Together, we explore the connection between faith, culture, self-worth, and body image—especially in the aftermath of sexual betrayal. If you've ever felt the impact of betrayal show up in your relationship with your body, this episode will help you understand why it happens, how cultural and religious messages shape that experience, and what you can do to reclaim your body as a source of power, connection, and joy. What You'll Learn in This Episode (with Timestamps):⏳ [04:30] – Why Dr. Barnes shifted from betrayal trauma to body image work⏳ [07:00] – How eating disorders and body image issues are often about control and connection⏳ [10:30] – Key findings from Dr. Barnes' study on LDS women, faith, and body image⏳ [16:00] – How doctrine (like belief in divine nature or the Word of Wisdom) influences body image⏳ [17:50] – Surprising findings about cosmetic surgery and “costly grace” beliefs⏳ [30:00] – Why open conversations, community, and connection improve body image⏳ [32:30] – Practical ways to build a healthier relationship with your body after betrayal If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need it. And don't forget to leave a review—we'd love to hear how this podcast is supporting your healing journey!

When betrayal strikes a marriage, the pain is immediate for the couple—but what about the children? In this powerful and eye-opening episode, we speak with Morgan Ellsworth, a board-certified betrayal trauma coach and MFT student, who brings both personal and professional experience to this often-overlooked topic. Morgan was a teenager when her family experienced betrayal, and she vulnerably shares what it was like to navigate that chaos without support or guidance. Today, she works with families, betrayed partners, and children affected by betrayal trauma, advocating for a whole-family approach to healing. We discuss how children experience betrayal, how parents can support them without oversharing or hiding the truth, and what it takes to repair the parent-child relationship over time. What You'll Learn in This Episode (with Timestamps):⏳ [02:40] – Morgan's personal story as a betrayed child and how it shaped her passion for this work⏳ [06:20] – The emotional climate children experience in a home affected by betrayal⏳ [08:50] – What it really means to “protect” your kids—and why hiding the truth can backfire⏳ [11:45] – How to talk to your kids about betrayal in age-appropriate, validating ways⏳ [21:00] – The role of emotional safety, non-gaslighting, and honoring kids' intuitive reality⏳ [24:00] – Why you need to help kids find other safe adults to talk to⏳ [28:00] – Long-term ways to rebuild the parent-child relationship after betrayal If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need it. And don't forget to leave a review—we'd love to hear how this podcast is supporting your healing journey!

What if the things you dislike most about yourself aren't signs of failure—but invitations to heal? In this episode, I sit down with Haley Hinkle, associate marriage and family therapist and IFS-informed practitioner, to explore a compassionate and non-pathologizing way to understand the parts of us that act out, shut down, or sabotage. We dive into the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model—a powerful therapeutic approach that helps us relate to our inner world with curiosity, clarity, and compassion. Whether you're dealing with betrayal trauma, relational conflict, anxiety, or self-sabotage, this episode will help you reframe your struggles and discover new ways to care for all the parts of you—especially the ones that feel hardest to love. What You'll Learn in This Episode:⏳ [02:55] – What is Internal Family Systems (IFS) and why it's not just “therapy talk”⏳ [08:15] – How parts of us get stuck in protective roles and where they come from⏳ [09:15] – The difference between “protectors” and “exiles” (and how they interact)⏳ [13:40] – How IFS helps us develop self-compassion and stop trying to “fix” ourselves⏳ [16:25] – The power of self-leadership: calmness, curiosity, compassion, and more⏳ [30:00] – How childhood wounds shape our internal system—and how to heal⏳ [34:30] – Practical tools to start using IFS in your daily life If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need it. And don't forget to leave a review—we'd love to hear how this podcast is supporting your healing journey!

In this follow-up to our popular episode “What to Do When Your Partner Lacks Motivation,” we dive deeper into an important listener question: How do you tell the difference between a lack of motivation and a lack of ability in your partner? At first glance, these two challenges can look the same—lack of movement, stalled growth, avoidance. But understanding what's really happening changes everything. In this episode, we break down the differences between someone who won't move forward (lack of motivation) and someone who can't (lack of ability or skill) and what it means for your relationship. We share personal stories, examples from our work with couples, and practical ways to recognize the difference—so you can respond in a way that creates connection instead of frustration. What You'll Learn in This Episode:⏳ [01:30] – The energetic difference between lack of motivation and lack of ability (and why it matters)⏳ [04:30] – How lack of motivation shows up as stagnancy, avoidance, and numbing behaviors⏳ [05:45] – What lack of ability looks like—movement, effort, clunky attempts, and vulnerability⏳ [7:40] – Why imperfect attempts still build connection and intimacy⏳ [10:45] – How motivation shows up when someone is pushing their personal edge⏳ [13:30] – The importance of appreciating progress, even if it's not perfect or complete⏳ [20:00] – Why expecting your partner to think and act like you is a relationship killer⏳ [21:15] – The truth about real relationships: effort and caring matter more than perfection If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need it. And don't forget to leave a review—we'd love to hear how this podcast is supporting your healing journey!

Healing from betrayal trauma is a deeply personal journey, but why do some people seem to heal and move forward while others stay stuck? In today's episode, we welcome back Dr. Jill Manning, a renowned therapist, researcher, and speaker with over 20 years of experience in betrayal trauma recovery. Dr. Manning shares the key factors that help betrayed partners heal, as well as the common obstacles that slow down the recovery process. She offers practical steps to move through the pain and build a life of stability, connection, and renewed purpose—whether or not the relationship survives. If you've been feeling stuck in your healing journey, this episode will give you clarity, direction, and hope. What You'll Learn in This Episode:⏳ [03:00] – The rising severity of betrayal trauma and why cases are more complex today⏳ [08:15] – The 5 key factors that help betrayed partners heal (CAVED Framework)⏳ [15:30] – Why connection is essential and how isolation keeps people stuck⏳ [22:45] – The role of advocacy—having at least one person who truly understands you⏳ [28:00] – Why validation is critical and how to avoid minimizing your experience⏳ [34:10] – The impact of education—why learning about betrayal trauma helps you heal⏳ [40:00] – Why having a clear roadmap (direction) makes all the difference If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need it. And don't forget to leave a review—we'd love to hear how this podcast is supporting your healing journey!

Have you ever felt stuck, unmotivated, or unsure how to move forward—especially in your relationship? In this episode, we're flipping the script from our last discussion on what to do when your partner is unmotivated and speaking directly to the partner who feels stuck. If you're struggling with motivation, feeling overwhelmed, or comparing yourself to your more driven spouse, this episode is for you. We share why feeling unmotivated is a normal human experience, how to recognize if you're actually doing more than you think, and most importantly, how to take small, imperfect steps forward—even when you don't feel like it. This is a judgment-free conversation about growth, movement, and self-compassion. If you or your partner are feeling stuck, we hope this episode brings clarity and encouragement. What You'll Learn in This Episode:⏳ [03:00] – Why feeling unmotivated is normal (and why we all go through it)⏳ [06:45] – The importance of movement—even small, imperfect action counts⏳ [10:30] – How to recognize if you're doing more than you think (you may not be as stuck as you believe)⏳ [13:50] – The impact of shame and comparison on motivation⏳ [16:00] – How to communicate with your partner about your struggles without feeling pressured or judged

When betrayal happens in a marriage, the emotional impact on a betrayed partner is overwhelming. But what about the children? How can a mother (or father) navigate their own healing while still being present for their children? In this powerful episode, we're joined by Dr. Jenet Erickson, an expert in family relationships and maternal mental health. She shares research-backed insights into the connection between mothers and children, how emotional regulation plays a role in both healing and parenting, and why you don't have to be a perfect parent for your child to thrive. If you've ever felt guilt or fear about how your trauma is affecting your kids, this episode offers hope, encouragement, and practical ways to show up for your children while also taking care of yourself. What You'll Learn in This Episode:⏳ [04:00] – The unseen impact of betrayal trauma on parenting⏳ [07:10] – The science behind mother-child attachment and emotional regulation⏳ [16:00] – The myth of shielding children from emotions—and why they need honesty instead⏳ [20:00] – How taking care of your own healing benefits your children long-term⏳ [24:10] – The power of small daily rituals (and why they matter more than hours of time)⏳ [26:00] – How healing is possible no matter how much time has passed⏳ [34:00] – Why your presence matters more than perfection in parenting Key Takeaways:✅ Children are resilient—they don't need perfect parents, just present and emotionally engaged ones.✅ Healing yourself first is one of the greatest gifts you can give your children.✅ Small, predictable moments of connection (like bedtime stories or shared meals) are more important than constant time together.✅ Children can handle emotions—what they struggle with is when their emotions are ignored or denied.✅ It's never too late to heal. Even if your children are grown, your healing still impacts them in powerful ways.

What happens when you're motivated, driven, and actively working on personal growth—but your partner isn't? In this episode, we explore the challenges of navigating a relationship when one partner struggles with motivation—whether due to personal crises, depression, or long-standing patterns of complacency. We discuss why this imbalance happens, how gender differences may play a role, and what you can do when your partner isn't taking initiative in their own life. Whether you're dealing with a spouse who lacks direction, struggles with personal responsibility, or seems stuck in shame or avoidance, this episode offers practical insights on how to stay focused on your own growth without losing connection in your relationship. What You'll Learn in This Episode:⏳ [01:25] – The challenge of feeling “unequally yoked” in motivation and life direction⏳ [02:00] – Why some people struggle with self-commitment and personal responsibility⏳ [03:15] – How men and women often respond differently to feelings of failure or loss of direction⏳ [09:50] – The two extremes: Over-independence (“You do you, I'll do me”) vs. Over-dependence (“I have to carry you”)⏳ [15:20] – Healthy ways to support your partner without over-functioning or losing yourself⏳ [19:00] – The importance of boundaries, self-care, and focusing on your own life, goals, and well-being Key Takeaways:✅ You can't force your partner to change, but you can focus on yourself and set healthy boundaries.✅ The imbalance of motivation in a relationship can create frustration, resentment, and emotional exhaustion—it's important to name it.✅ Avoid falling into extremes: pulling away completely or over-functioning to “fix” the problem.✅ It's okay to live your life fully while still caring for your partner—but without enabling their avoidance.✅ If your partner is making an effort, even in small ways, that can be a powerful sign of commitment.

In this episode, we explore the intersection of faith, mental health, and agency—how our ability to choose extends beyond simple decisions and impacts how we respond to betrayal, anxiety, depression, and life's unexpected challenges. Our guest, Brianna Holmes, is a therapist specializing in relationship issues, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, and postpartum disorders. She also writes for Public Square Magazine and has published insightful articles on mental health and spirituality. Together, we discuss how agency is more than just free will—it's deeply connected to truth, meaning, and the way we engage with our experiences. Whether you're facing the emotional weight of betrayal trauma, struggling with mental health, or wrestling with faith-based questions about suffering, this conversation offers new ways to see your choices, reframe your experience, and reclaim your power. What You'll Learn in This Episode:

In today's episode, we're talking about something so many people ask—What if I'm bad at connection? What if I don't know how to connect? If you've ever felt disconnected or unsure how to build meaningful relationships, you're not alone. We'll walk through the developmental roots of connection, how it's learned, and what you can do if it wasn't modeled for you growing up. We'll also explore what real connection looks like in relationships—especially for couples healing after betrayal. You'll learn why connection isn't always natural but can absolutely be developed. So if you've been wondering if there's hope to feel truly seen and known by others, stick with us. There's good news ahead. What You'll Learn in This Episode:

The Power of Attachment in Healing Relationships with Geoff Steurer   In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner welcomes his longtime friend and colleague, Geoff Steurer, a licensed marriage and family therapist and expert in relational healing. Together, they dive into the crucial role of attachment in relationships, especially in the aftermath of betrayal and addiction.   The conversation explores how attachment bonds shape our experiences of intimacy, trust, and security. Geoff and Kevin discuss common attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—and how they influence relationship dynamics. They address the unique challenges couples face when navigating the tension between wanting to stay together and the pain of betrayal.   Listeners will gain insights into:   - Why attachment is not a choice but a fundamental human experience.   - How attachment wounds impact relationships after infidelity and betrayal.   - Practical strategies for healing and strengthening bonds.   - The role of reassurance, validation, and vulnerability in rebuilding trust.   - Overcoming common obstacles like sexual desire discrepancies and emotional disconnect.   As a preview of the upcoming Human Intimacy Conference on March 14-15, 2025, Geoff shares how his session will provide a deeper dive into attachment wounds and betrayal trauma.   If you've ever struggled with trust, emotional safety, or relationship recovery, this episode provides practical tools and compassionate guidance for navigating relational challenges with greater awareness and intention.   Resources Mentioned:  1. Human Intimacy Conference (March 14-15, 2025) – Featuring leading experts, including Geoff Steurer, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Michelle Mays, and Dr. Kevin Skinner.      - Learn more: [HumannIntimacy Conference 2025 Use Coupon Code 50off 2. Books & Research:      - Hold Me Tight– Dr. Sue Johnson (Emotionally Focused Therapy and Attachment Science)      - Attached – Dr. Amir Levine & Rachel Heller (Understanding Attachment Styles)      - The Power of Attachment — Dr. Diane Poole Heller      - Love 2.0 – Dr. Barbara Fredrickson (The Science of Creating Love)   3. Therapeutic Approaches Discussed:    - Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)      - Polyvagal Theory – Dr. Stephen Porges      - The Impact of Early Attachment Experiences on Adult Relationships   4. Geoff Steurer's Work & Resources:      -Website: GeoffSteurer.com   Join us in this enlightening conversation to better understand attachment and how it shapes the way we love, connect, and heal in relationships.

ORIGINAL: NOV. 21, 2021Geoff Steurer is a licensed marriage and family therapist and relationship coach with over 20 years of experience. In this episode, he gives great insights for your relationship, especially when it comes to disclosure. A must-listen.

One of the most common questions I hear from couples navigating betrayal recovery is, “Is it even possible for us to heal?” If you've ever wondered the same thing, you're not alone. In today's episode, I'm sharing the five key things I've seen every couple do when they successfully heal from betrayal. I'll also help you reimagine what healing actually looks like—not just surviving, but creating a relationship that feels safe, connected, and even joyful again. What You'll Learn in This Episode: What healing from betrayal really looks like (it's probably different than you think) Why both partners must commit to radical honesty—not just the one who broke the trust The personal growth work both partners need to do for lasting change How to integrate the betrayal into your story without being defined by it The power of community and why you can't heal in isolation Why professional support is essential—and what kind of help actually works Join me for a FREE webinar. REGISTER HERE "Reclaiming Your Peace: What 400+ Couples & Individuals Revealed About Healing from Betrayal" Join Me in the Courageous Together Program! If you're looking for structured guidance, support, and a clear roadmap for recovery, check out my Courageous Together Program—an online course and support system designed to help couples rebuild trust and connection. Inside, you'll get: ✅ A structured healing roadmap ✅ Live Q&A sessions with me ✅ Exclusive video lessons and worksheets ✅ Confidential and secure access

Breaking Free: How to Get Unstuck from Trauma and Reclaim Your Life   In this milestone 52nd episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis discuss one of the most challenging aspects of healing—getting stuck in trauma. Many individuals feel trapped in past experiences, unable to move forward despite years of therapy or self-help efforts. Trauma is not logical; it bypasses rational thought and gets stored in the body, often resurfacing in fight, flight, or freeze responses.   This episode delves into the neuroscience behind trauma, explaining implicit vs. explicit memories, generational trauma, and learned helplessness. Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn explore why people remain stuck and share proven strategies for processing and releasing trauma through evidence-based therapies. They emphasize the importance of body-based approaches, neuroplasticity, and the hope that real healing is possible.   Listeners will also hear about the Human Intimacy Conference (March 14-15, 2025), featuring leading experts in the field. As a special thank-you, podcast listeners can receive 50% off registration (expires Feb 8) and a free 100-day healing course upon signing up.  Coupon Code: 50off Resources Mentioned in This Episode:   Therapeutic Modalities for Trauma Healing:   1. EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) – Uses bilateral stimulation to help the brain process and integrate traumatic memories.   2. ART (Accelerated Resolution Therapy) – Uses visualization and rapid eye movement to help rewrite trauma narratives.   3. Brainspotting – Identifies and processes trauma by focusing on where distress is stored in the brain.   4. Somatic Experiencing (Dr. Peter Levine) – Focuses on releasing trauma stored in the body through physical awareness.   5. Polyvagal Theory (Dr. Stephen Porges) – Helps regulate the nervous system and restore safety in the body.   6. Trauma-Informed Yoga – Uses movement and breathwork to help the body release trauma.   Books and Experts Referenced:   - The Body Keeps the Score – Dr. Bessel van der Kolk   - Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma – Dr. Peter Levine   - The Developing Mind – Dr. Dan Siegel   - Facing Codependency – Pia Mellody   - The Circuit of Hope – Dr. Martin Seligman   - The Choice – Dr. Edith Eger   Human Intimacy Conference (March 14-15, 2025):   - Coupon Code: 50off —50% discount available for podcast listeners (expires Feb 8).   - Featured Experts: Dr. Kevin Skinner, Michelle Mays, Dr. Sheri Keffer, Dr. David Robinson, Geoff Steurer, and more.   - Bonus: Register and receive a $100 gift toward Dr. Skinner's 100-Day Healing Course.   - Special Sessions: Pre- and post-conference Evening With the Experts, covering topics like rebuilding trust and getting unstuck.   Final Message:   If you feel stuck in trauma or emotional patterns that seem impossible to break, know that healing is possible. The brain can change, and you are not alone in this journey. Seek support, explore body-based healing modalities, and, most importantly, give yourself compassion.  

If you've ever caught yourself checking your partner's phone, feeling anxious when they're late, or wondering if you'll ever trust again, you're not alone. In today's episode, I'm diving into the four hidden fears that keep so many people stuck after betrayal—and, more importantly, how you can move past them. These fears aren't signs of weakness. They're normal responses to an abnormal situation. I've seen these fears show up again and again. I'll walk you through each one and share insights on how to work through them. What You'll Learn in This Episode:

If you've ever caught yourself checking your partner's phone, feeling anxious when they're late, or wondering if you'll ever trust again, you're not alone. In today's episode, I'm diving into the four hidden fears that keep so many people stuck after betrayal—and, more importantly, how you can move past them. These fears aren't signs of weakness. They're normal responses to an abnormal situation. I've seen these fears show up again and again. I'll walk you through each one and share insights on how to work through them. What You'll Learn in This Episode:

In this solo episode, I'm diving into three hidden barriers that can keep you stuck in the healing process after betrayal. Whether you're the betrayed partner or the one working to rebuild trust, these common fears and beliefs can make it hard to move forward. I'll walk you through why these barriers exist and share practical ways to navigate them so you can keep progressing in your healing journey. What You'll Learn in This Episode:

In this episode, I address one of the most common questions couples ask when healing from betrayal: “How long does it take?” I discuss the factors that influence the timeline for recovery and highlights the challenges couples face along the way. I also explain the importance of creating emotional safety, overcoming fears of relapse, and synchronizing individual and couple healing journeys. I'm also excited to introduce my new program, Courageous Together, designed to guide couples through this process with a clear and supportive roadmap. Stay tuned for more information about this groundbreaking program! Key Takeaways:• Why there isn't a finish line in healing, but rather a lifelong journey of growth.• The difference between healing and curing, and how betrayal recovery fits into this framework.• How fear of relapse and repeated betrayal can slow progress and what can be done to address it.• The critical role emotional safety plays in accelerating the healing process.• Strategies for intertwining individual and couple recovery journeys to foster connection and trust. Watch the Courageous Together Webinar Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship. Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody's most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski. The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

In this episode, I discuss the common mistakes couples make during betrayal recovery and provide guidance on how to move forward with intention and clarity. I also share the inspiration behind my work and introduce you to my upcoming program, Courageous Together, designed to give couples a trauma-informed roadmap to rebuild trust and connection. Stay tuned for more information about this groundbreaking program! Key Takeaways: Why forgiveness should never be rushed and how timing impacts healing. The dangers of mutualizing blame in betrayal recovery and how to maintain clarity. How to distinguish between valid feelings and thoughts influenced by trauma. The reality that strong relationships require intentional effort and ongoing maintenance. How modern marriages face unique challenges and the importance of building support networks. Watch the Courageous Together Webinar Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship. Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody's most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski. The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

The idea of “consent” can be difficult to teach to children, but in this episode our guest has been able to effectively describe body autonomy and help parents and children recognize the importance of personal agency and consent even at a very young age. We welcome Rachel Brian, author and animator, to discuss her children's book on consent, which teaches kids how to set boundaries and be helpful bystanders. Rachel shares the personal inspiration behind creating the book and explains the importance of teaching consent to children at a young age. Join us as we also dive further into the impact of cultural norms on consent and how consent contributes to healthy relationships. Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship. Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody's most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski. About Rachel Brian:Rachel is a writer, illustrator and animator who likes to think about ways to make art that connect with people. Rachel is the founder and CEO of Blue Seat Studios, an award-winning company that specializes in using humor to teach big ideas using humor and compassion. Schools and organizations nationwide depend on Blue Seat Studios animated content to teach about Consent, Title IX, Anti-Bullying, Online Safety, Mental Health Support, and more. An entrepreneur and a former researcher, consultant, and teacher, she's known for her work on Tea Consent and the book Consent (For Kids!) which has been translated and published worldwide. She is also the author of The Worry (Less) Book and the soon-to-be-released (Be Smart About) Screen Time book. She is a graduate of Brown University and lives in Rhode Island. https://youtu.be/fGoWLWS4-kU?si=_EmKvXqZUkUZAx8n www.blueseatstudios.com https://www.youtube.com/@blueseatstudios6366 https://www.blueseatstudios.com/ https://amzn.to/4eSjznU (Link for Consent for Kids book) https://amzn.to/4ePJE6X (link for the Worry Less book) https://amzn.to/3XXfQyh (link for Be Smart About Screen Time book) The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

In this episode we continue our conversation about great listeners in our lives. Join us as we discuss how feeling truly seen by someone makes it easier to truly see others. These personal stories we share highlight the importance of genuine curiosity, engagement, and presence without seeking personal benefit in conversations.  The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!  Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”  Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship. Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:  Connect with me on social media: INSTAGRAM FACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody's most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski. The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

In this episode we continue our conversation about great listeners in our lives. Join us as we discuss how feeling truly seen by someone makes it easier to truly see others. These personal stories we share highlight the importance of genuine curiosity, engagement, and presence without seeking personal benefit in conversations. The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off! Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship. Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody's most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski. The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

In this episode we welcome Sam from Sam's Healing Podcast to discuss the complexities unfaithful partners face during recovery. Sam shares his personal story of infidelity, the transforming experience of owning one's actions, and the importance of creating safety and accountability in relationships. Join us as we delve into the healing process, the significance of internal self-reference, empathy, and honesty. There is potential for unfaithful partners to become safe and trustworthy, thereby fostering hope for relationship recovery. For those feeling unworthy of redemption, start by taking small steps to rebuild trust. The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off! Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship. Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody's most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski. About Sam:Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his two podcasts, Sam's Healing Podcast and Ask the Unfaithful, Samuel continues to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. https://www.youtube.com/@samshealingpodcast https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7-EAqGXkglc8WRWdpXlemg/about The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

In this podcast episode, we dive into a discussion about the importance of good listening, particularly in the context of personal relationships and healing. Join us as we discuss how undivided attention, patience, and follow-up questions create a sense of being truly seen and understood. Although sometimes challenging, slowing down and investing in genuine communication and deep listening ultimately fosters love and connection. The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!  Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”  Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship. Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:  Connect with me on social media: INSTAGRAM FACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody's most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski. The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

In this podcast episode, we dive into a discussion about the importance of good listening, particularly in the context of personal relationships and healing. Join us as we discuss how undivided attention, patience, and follow-up questions create a sense of being truly seen and understood. Although sometimes challenging, slowing down and investing in genuine communication and deep listening ultimately fosters love and connection. The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off! Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship. Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody's most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski. The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

‘Being yourself' goes beyond what you do, or what you like to do. It really expands into how you move through life. In this episode we focus on the idea of exploring this complexity beyond surface-level actions and roles. We examine how American culture's emphasis on group belonging and hyper-individualism affects personal development and authenticity. Join us as we highlight the importance of self-awareness and honesty in relationships, especially in the context of betrayal. We dive into the importance of recognizing and accepting one's true self, including negative traits, which can lead to better personal and relational growth. Starting with small, honest acknowledgments of one's behaviors and needs can pave the way for deeper self-discovery and improved connections. The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off! Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship. Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody's most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski. The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

So many family members sit on the sidelines worried about the health and welfare of their addicted loved ones, struggling to know what to do to help. In this episode we've invited Dr. Carrie Wilkins to discuss evidence-based practices for supporting loved ones struggling with addictive behaviors. As Co-President and CEO of CMC: Foundation for Change, Dr. Wilkens highlights the 'Invitation to Change' model, which integrates strategies from CRAFT, motivational interviewing, self-compassion, acceptance, and commitment therapy. Join us as we discuss the importance of understanding addictive behaviors, managing emotional responses, and utilizing practical, compassionate strategies to create positive change. The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off! Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship. Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody's most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski. About Dr. Carrie Wilkens:Carrie Wilkens, PhD, is a psychologist with over 25 years of experience in the practice and dissemination of evidence-based treatments for substance use and Post-Traumatic Stress. She is the Co-Founder and Clinical Director of the Center for Motivation and Change, a group of clinicians serving all ages in NYC, Long Island, Washington, DC, San Diego, CA, and CMC:Berkshires, a private, inpatient/residential program for adults. She is co-author of the award-winning book Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change, a practical guide for families dealing with addiction and substance problems in a loved one based on principles of Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT), and co-author of The Beyond Addiction Workbook for Family and Friends: Evidence-Based Skills to Help a Loved-One Make Positive Change . Dr. Wilkens is also Co-President and CEO of the CMC:Foundation for Change, a not-for-profit with the mission of improving the dissemination of evidence-based ideas and strategies to professionals and loved ones of persons struggling with substance use. The CMC:FFC team's Invitation to Change approach is an accessible set of understandings and practices that empower families to remain engaged and be effective in helping their struggling loved one make positive changes. The approach has been widely used across the country and is utilized in trainings with laypeople and professionals. Dr. Wilkens has been a Project Director on a large federally-funded Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) grant addressing the problems associated with binge drinking among college students. She is regularly sought out by the media to discuss issues related to substance use disorders and has been on the CBS Morning Show, Katie Couric Show, frequent NPR segments, and podcasts, including Ten Percent Happier with Dan Harris. She is also in the HBO documentary Risky Drinking. Dr. Wilkens is a member of the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies and the American Association of Addiction Psychiatrists. Invitation to Change The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

A common reaction after an argument is the need for space to cool down and collect one's thoughts. But when the silent treatment is continually given to intentionally shut someone out or hurt them, it becomes stonewalling, a concept identified by John Gottman. Join us as we discuss the dynamics of stonewalling, especially in the context of betrayal trauma and recovery, and the importance of addressing and working through difficult emotions and patterns to build healthier relationships. The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!  Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”  Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship. Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:  Connect with me on social media: INSTAGRAM FACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody's most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski. The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

A common reaction after an argument is the need for space to cool down and collect one's thoughts. But when the silent treatment is continually given to intentionally shut someone out or hurt them, it becomes stonewalling, a concept identified by John Gottman. Join us as we discuss the dynamics of stonewalling, especially in the context of betrayal trauma and recovery, and the importance of addressing and working through difficult emotions and patterns to build healthier relationships. The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off! Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship. Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody's most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski. The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

We typically address betrayal and recovery from the perspective of the betrayer and their partner. But in a family dynamic, there are often children involved that feel the weight of the betrayal as well. Children are keenly aware of feelings and emotions and are heavily impacted by those even when they don't understand exactly what's happening or the reasons behind them. In this episode we welcome Tara McCausland, Executive Director of SA Lifeline. Tara shares about her personal experience growing up with a sex-addicted father and the impact of addiction on family dynamics, especially children. Tara shares how recovery efforts from both parents and open, honest communication played critical roles in her family's healing process. The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off! Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship. Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody's most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski. About Tara McCausland:Tara McCausland is the Executive Director of S.A. Lifeline and holds a B.S. in Family, Consumer, Human Development from Utah State University and a M.A. in Executive Leadership from Liberty University. She is a podcaster, speaker, former life coach and job coach and is passionate about helping people become the best version of themselves and create a life they love. As the daughter of a recovering sex addict, Tara understands the deep pain associated with addiction and trauma. But having witnessed her parents and others heal and thrive, she knows that with a committed, willing heart and the right tools, recovery from sexual addiction and betrayal trauma is possible. Tara lives in Southern Utah with her husband, Luke, and their 4 kids. www.salifeline.org FB - salifelinefoundation Instagram - @salifeline SA Lifeline Recovery Puzzle Blog Post on Disclosure by Claudia BlackThe advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

In this solo episode I'd like to take a look back at the last twenty-five years as a therapist specializing in problematic sexual behaviors and betrayal trauma. I began my career before the Internet and smartphones were a staple for most adults and teenagers. And, while those inventions are not where problematic behaviors begin, the ease of access of sexually explicit material accelerated a need for improvement in treatment and care. Join me as I discuss my transformation as a therapist as I developed more trauma-informed, attachment-based, and compassionate methods of helping couples and individuals. Join the Courageous Together waiting list! The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off! Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship. Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody's most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski. The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

In this episode we explore the journey from identifying as a victim to achieving personal empowerment, particularly in the context of recovering from broken trust and betrayal. The initial protective nature of victimhood can be useful, but has potential to lead to entitlement if prolonged. Join us as we discuss moving beyond victimization by establishing healthy boundaries, embracing personal ownership, and continuously engaging in life to achieve fulfillment. The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!  Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”  Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship. Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:  Connect with me on social media: INSTAGRAM FACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody's most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski. The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

In this episode we explore the journey from identifying as a victim to achieving personal empowerment, particularly in the context of recovering from broken trust and betrayal. The initial protective nature of victimhood can be useful, but has potential to lead to entitlement if prolonged. Join us as we discuss moving beyond victimization by establishing healthy boundaries, embracing personal ownership, and continuously engaging in life to achieve fulfillment. The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off! Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship. Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody's most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski. The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

Have you ever considered that being brutally honest could be more of a reactive emotion rather than being an authentic communication skill? In this episode we welcome Dr. Jason B. Whiting to discuss the challenges of honesty in our most intimate relationships. From seemingly harmless avoidances of the “full truth”, to outright lies and deception, he shares insights on the balance between transparency and healing, the impact of emotions on perceived honesty, and the challenges in maintaining honesty, especially after betrayal. The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off! Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship. Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody's most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski. About Dr. Jason Whiting:Jason B. Whiting, PhD, LMFT is a Professor in the Marriage and Family Therapy program at Brigham Young University. He researches healthy and unhealthy marriage and is the author of Love Me True: Overcoming the Surprising Ways We Deceive in Relationships, as well as other books and articles on control, respect, and communication. www.drjasonwhiting.com https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/contributors/jason-whiting-phd The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

Partnership is the foundation of healthy intimacy and connection. In this episode we discuss the necessity of developing a protective partnership that fosters mutual understanding, safety, and commitment beyond monogamy. While it is common for men and women to enter a marriage with different life experiences and expectations around partnership, it is important to ask deeper questions to understand each other's experiences, emphasizing intentionality and vulnerability to foster deeper connections. Although vulnerability can be uncomfortable, nurturing a safe environment can enhance the partnership, promoting respect, loyalty, and intimacy. The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!  Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”  Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship. Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:  Connect with me on social media: INSTAGRAM FACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody's most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski. The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

Partnership is the foundation of healthy intimacy and connection. In this episode we discuss the necessity of developing a protective partnership that fosters mutual understanding, safety, and commitment beyond monogamy. While it is common for men and women to enter a marriage with different life experiences and expectations around partnership, it is important to ask deeper questions to understand each other's experiences, emphasizing intentionality and vulnerability to foster deeper connections. Although vulnerability can be uncomfortable, nurturing a safe environment can enhance the partnership, promoting respect, loyalty, and intimacy. The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off! Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship. Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody's most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski. The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

In this episode we welcome Dr. Heidi Hastings, a marriage and sex researcher, to discuss her research on the impact of betrayal on a partner's identity. Dr. Hastings outlines the five stages of betrayal and self-development, which include innocence, crisis, aftermath, healing, and transformation. Through her research involving diverse women, Dr. Hastings found that betrayal deeply affects multiple aspects of a woman's identity, prompting significant personal growth through crisis. By the end of the transformation stage, many women felt a deeper sense of identity and did not wish to return to their previous selves despite the pain they endured. The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off! Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship. Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody's most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski. About Dr. Heidi Hastings:Heidi Hastings is a marriage and sex researcher, educator, and relationship coach. She also teaches Family Stress and Coping for BYU-Idaho Online. Heidi recently completed a PhD in Human Development and Family Studies from Texas Woman's University. Her research interests include betrayal trauma, healthy sexuality, the impact of pornography on religious women, adult development, and transformational growth. She is currently writing a book for religious women who have experienced sexual betrayal, their religious leaders, and others who support them. The book is based primarily on her academic research but is also influenced by her own experiences with betrayal in her first marriage. Heidi and her husband, Dr. Scott Hastings, are the co-hosts of the recently launched Marriage IQ podcast. The podcast is a platform for reengineering the findings of Heidi's research on betrayal to educate about marriage from prevention and new beginnings perspectives. https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558652547411 https://www.instagram.com/marriage.iq/ www.drheidihastings.com The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

In this episode we continue our conversation on self advocacy, focusing on rebuilding trust after betrayal. Considering that a safe person is someone who can be confronted, we explore the important roles of external advocacy, such as interventions, therapists, or community support, in situations where self-advocacy is not effective. While finding external advocates may be necessary, it is important to maintain integrity and self-respect to ensure that the focus isn't on building an army of advocates to avoid making hard decisions in the relationship. The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off! Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship. Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody's most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski. The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

In this episode we continue our conversation on self advocacy, focusing on rebuilding trust after betrayal. Considering that a safe person is someone who can be confronted, we explore the important roles of external advocacy, such as interventions, therapists, or community support, in situations where self-advocacy is not effective. While finding external advocates may be necessary, it is important to maintain integrity and self-respect to ensure that the focus isn't on  building an army of advocates to avoid making hard decisions in the relationship. The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!  Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”  Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship. Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:  Connect with me on social media: INSTAGRAM FACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody's most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski. The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

In this episode we welcome our guest, Jeni Brockbank, to discuss her book 'Healing in Christ's Light,' which merges principles of therapy with Christian faith to help readers navigate their recovery journey. Join us as we cover the importance of boundaries, self-discovery, and the integration of faith in the healing process. Jenny emphasizes that her approach is trauma-sensitive and advocates for a personalized path to recovery, with insights from both psychology and scripture. She also highlights the significance of maintaining a relationship with God during the healing journey and the supportive role of community and 12-step groups. The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off!  Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust”  Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship. Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements!  Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse:  Connect with me on social media: INSTAGRAM FACEBOOK Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources. About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children. About Jody Steurer: Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody's most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski. About Jeni Brockbank: Jeni Brockbank lives in Northern Utah with her 6 children. She loves the color red because it reminds her that she is seen and known by God. As a believer in Jesus Christ, Jeni continues to learn how healing in Christ's light expedites healing. https://healinginchristslight.com https://www.instagram.com/healinginchristslight?igsh=MXQ1MXJvOHZmZDJ1bQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/healing-in-christs-light/id1685778824 Episode on Healing In Christ's Light with Geoff Steurer https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/healing-in-christs-light/id1685778824?i=1000611530546