Bold as Love with April Boyd

Send us a textToday we explore two reasons why  the heavy burden many women feel when juggling responsibilities in their personal and professional lives. The conversation dives into the cultural expectations that lead to overfunctioning, how these beliefs impact relationships and why over-working becomes a stress management tool you probably don't even notice you're using.• Discussing the overwhelming mental load women carry • Societal expectations and the "good wife" stereotype • The correlation between overfunctioning and self-worth • Unpacking overfunctioning as a coping strategy for stress • Challenging fears of being seen as demanding in relationships • Introducing the Reset and Reconnect Program to help shift dynamics Come check out Reset and Reconnect and see if this program feels right for you.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://fun-cell-31288.myflodesk.com/ppxzb70s3e Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Send us a textThe episode dives deep into the often-overlooked dynamic where one partner assumes a parental role over the other. We explore the roots of this behavior, how it can backfire, and actionable ways to restore balance in relationships. • The pitfalls of becoming a caretaker rather than a partner • How societal expectations play into relationship dynamics • Strategies for breaking the cycle of over-functioning Check out the "Reset and Reconnect" program for couples ready to evolve their relationship dynamics! Get all the details here.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://fun-cell-31288.myflodesk.com/ppxzb70s3e Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Send us a textWe all know that building healthy relationships requires open communication- but what when they don't want to hear what you have to say?  What about those times when it just seems to cause or fight- or worse- leaves you feeling dismissed and ignored?When it doesn't feel it's okay to say what you need to say, you can develop a habit of biting your tongue, stuffing down your needs, and just trying harder to be more tolerant, more understanding, more forgiving.But this doesn't get us what we want- and sometimes, like in my story that I'm sharing with you here- it's actually just makes things worse.So today we're diving deep into the self-sacrificing and peace-making tendencies that can create emotional distance and contribute to the erosion of a relationship over time.  Reset & Reconnect is open! This is a course for couples who want to create more balance, have more productive conversations and get back to things feeling fun and easy again.Get all the details here.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://fun-cell-31288.myflodesk.com/ppxzb70s3e Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Send us a textAre you feeling the anxiety & stress that's all around us right now? Me too. That's why I decided to put some energy into the things I can control - and I'm inviting you to do the same by channelling your anxiety into your purpose. This conversation is a call to action for those with a yearning to share their ideas—whether it's writing a book, launching a business, or starting a nonprofit. Join me Saturday for a free workshop, Create & Contribute, where I'm going to share some of the questions I ask myself and processes I use when I am beginning a new project or putting my work out into the world.Sign up here.Right now the world needs more acts of care, service & contribution.  We need more do-gooders. Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://fun-cell-31288.myflodesk.com/ppxzb70s3e Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Send us a textCan a simple act of validation shift our relationships, both personally and professionally? Join me, April Boyd, as I share insights from my facilitator training session on the "Is it Me or Is it Them" podcast. We'll explore why acknowledging emotions is a critical ingredient in creating genuine connections, helping others and avoiding conflict. Whether you're consoling a grieving friend, having a difference of opinion with a colleague, or talking to your partner, understanding the power of validation is key to ensuring everyone feels truly heard and understood. I delve into practical strategies to incorporate this essential tool into your everyday interactions, promising a new level of effective communication and deeper connection.But that's not all! I extend an invitation to a free workshop aimed at helping you get your gifts and ideas into the world.This Saturday at 11 am Eastern, we gather for our first session of the "do-gooders club," a place to share your ideas, get support and ask me any questions about how I've wrote my books, created the Love & Loss Project or grew my private practice. Whether you're dreaming of writing a book, starting a business, or simply spreading kindness when this world needs it most, this session offers encouragement, clarity, and community support. Your ideas hold immense power, and together, we can harness it to make a meaningful impact in the world. Join us to fuel your imagination and contribute to a kinder, gentler world.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://fun-cell-31288.myflodesk.com/ppxzb70s3e Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Send us a textIs it just a rough patch or a sign of a deeper relationship issue? This is the question I should have been asking during my first marriage and today I'm finally going to share my story. Join me, April Boyd, as I unravel the complexities of relationship dynamics, unpacking the difference between temporary stressors and recurring patterns that may indicate something more serious. Through my personal experiences, I touch on the importance of recognizing when a pattern of feeling unseen and unheard becomes too persistent to ignore. This conversation invites you to reflect on your own relationships and consider whether your struggles are truly temporary or symptoms of a larger issue that needs your attention.As we explore this topic, I'm thrilled to introduce an upcoming program designed to transform relationships by going deeper into your own personal growth, and reconnecting with the stronger, happier version of you as you change the ways you and your partner communicate and connect.  Don't miss your chance to be part of this transformative journey; sign up for my email list to receive exclusive updates and invitations. Thank you for joining me on this path to living more authentic lives and nurturing the relationships that matter most!SIGN UP TO GET YOUR INVITATION TO RESET & RECONNECT HERE.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://fun-cell-31288.myflodesk.com/ppxzb70s3e Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Send us a textWhen things feel frightening and uncertain in the world around me, I try to go back to what I know for sure. One thing I know for sure is that we need more do-gooders in this world.  We need people who care about other people.We need people who are willing to give more than they take.We need people who want to use their gifts & energy to help others.  So if you have ever had the urge to create something, start a project, grow a business or offer something that benefits other people, I would love to support you in your work.Today's episode is a heartfelt invitation to join me for a free workshop, "Create & Contribute," happening on Saturday, February 22nd. This workshop is to offer support and guidance to anyone who wants to share their gifts and ideas in a way that helps others, maybe by starting a project, growing a business, or find meaningful ways to help others. Whether you're considering writing a book, starting a fundraising, opening an etsy shop, or even if you don't know yet what you want to offer, you just know you want to use your ideas, energy and resources to offer something good and loving to others, this workshop is your opportunity to get support, clarity and direction.Get all the details here.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Send us a textIs it needy to want to feel appreciated?  Or just a basic relationship need? in relationships?  The episode discusses over-giving tendencies, our need for affirmation, and helps you know when you need to speak up- or just validate yourself.  Whether you are dealing with a co-worker, client or spouse, this episode is going to help you know when you just need to be content and confident in what you have to offer- and when we need more reciprocity and balance.Here's what we're talking about:• Exploring the tension between self-validation and external appreciation• Recognizing when we may be over-giving in relationships• Understanding the importance of reciprocity and mutual recognition• Validating the desire for words of affirmation as a legitimate need• Communicating needs in relationships effectively• Summarizing key questions for self-reflection on giving and receiving• Introducing the upcoming Relationship Reset programRESET YOUR RELATIONSHIP STARTS SOON!here's the details: https://fun-cell-31288.myflodesk.com/klhjku65orHave a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Send us a textAre you in a relationship someone who doesn't seem to carry their weight? Ever found yourself wondering if the trade-offs in your relationship are worth it? Today we're unpacking some of the difficult decisions and dynamics of life with an under-functioning partner. Listen in to learn:how to tell the difference between your needs & wants.decision-making tips for knowing when to stay and gonew ways of finding a balance that works for your personal values and comfort levelsThis episode will help you to get more clarity about whether or not to stay with someone who doesn't seem to make any real effort to live up to their own potential. Together, we'll explore when it works to accept a partner's limitations - and how to avoid being exhausted by them- and when the balance may be too far off to fix.Throughout our discussion, you'll hear insights on crafting your own relationship rules, understanding that there's no one-size-fits-all blueprint for love. We'll talk about the necessity of recognizing your deal breakers and tapping into your own power within the dynamic.  If our conversation resonates, consider sharing this episode with others who might benefit from it, helping spread the message of better love in long term relationships.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Send us a textIn this episode of Is It Me or Is It Them?, therapist & coach April Boyd explores the tension and frustration that arise in relationships when someone doesn't get you- and doesn't seem to want to.  Whether you're navigating challenging dynamics with family, in-laws, or friends, this conversation sheds light on how to stop chasing external validation and reclaim your sense of peace and agency.What You'll Learn:How to recognize when you're stuck in a pattern of frustration and approval-seeking.Why relationships can feel harder as you grow and start noticing dynamics that once seemed “normal.”The common trap of thinking your only options are “submit” or “burn it down.”The importance of stepping into "Option C"—taking care of yourself while letting others be who they are.How to shift away from giving others power over your emotional well-being.Key Takeaways:Many people feel torn between maintaining harmony by suppressing their needs or risking conflict to stand up for themselves.Self-validation begins with accepting that others may not respond the way you hope—and that's okay.It's empowering to let go of trying to force change in others and focus on what you can control in the relationship.Questions to Reflect On:Are you placing your emotional safety in the hands of someone who can't meet your needs?What would it look like to stop chasing validation from others and give it to yourself instead?How can you honour your boundaries while maintaining relationships in a way that feels healthier for you?Listen Now:Tune in for thoughtful insights and practical tips on creating healthier dynamics without losing yourself in the process..Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Send us a textIf I had to pick the one question that has made the biggest difference in my life, my self-esteem and my social circle- this might be the one.  This episode invites you to reflect on your relationships, work and life with one really simple check in.Listen in to hear:•Why we stay stuck in unhealthy relationships & friendships• How accepting unacceptable behaviour can weigh us down • A personal story about confronting a toxic friendship• How to get more clear & honest about what is working- and what's notIf you only do one piece of self-reflection as you begin the new year, let this be it.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Send us a textEver wonder why some individuals persistently disregard your boundaries, or don't seem to care if they are having a negative impact on you?Setting boundaries with difficult people can transform your relationships and preserve your emotional well-being and so today I'm sharing 5 important boundary reminders that are going to help you:** feel less guilty for setting limits or saying no ** get more control when dealing with emotionally immature people**understand where you might be giving away your power and sabotaging your own peace of mind**avoid the pitfalls that many of us fall into when we are dealing with someone who is causing us stress and upset.** understand why some people aren't interest in finding solutions or trying to understand you.** be able to better recognize when someone is trying to control you.Navigating difficult relationships doesn't have to be a personal battleground. Understand how to depersonalize interactions by recognizing that others' behavior often reflects their limitations rather than an attack on you. Explore the societal pressures that steer women towards politeness, even in discomfort, and the importance of standing firm when your boundaries are tested. Through personal anecdotes and insights, we shed light on recognizing the red flags you should be taking bigger note of, and the thinking traps that are making you small and vulnerable to difficult and selfish people. If you found this useful, please share it with someone who would benefit and help me reach 20 000 this month!Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Send us a textHave you been feeling unmotivated, a bit burnt out or low energy lately?  Have you been feeling like you just don't want to do anything?  Sick of working so hard?  You're not the only one. Join me, April Boyd, as I share personal reflections on our latest episode about embracing the season of rest. This episode is a heartfelt invitation to recognize that personal growth doesn't always demand grand gestures or constant momentum. Instead, let's give ourselves permission to tune into the our natural, necessary rhythms, honor our needs and allow ourselves to slow down.  It's the end of the year after all!  Of course we're tired.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Send us a textThere seems to be so much advice that tells us to "talk it out," but what we seem to overlook is that talking it out comes with very real risks.  There's a reason so many of us try so hard to avoid conflict and keep the peace- and it's not because of a lack of communication skills or self-confidence.  While communication is great and necessary for healthy relationships, not all the relationships in your life are healthy ones - and that's not always within your control.   Not everyone is willing or able to do repair and connection with you.  The truth is there are times when talking it out just doesn't work. Not all connections are meant to be mended, and setting realistic boundaries can be key.  This episode is packed with strategies to maintain your peace of mind and engage in more effective conversations, all while ensuring your response is one you won't regret, or that won't waste your precious energy.  Before you try to talk it out and seek repair with a difficult person, you need to ask yourself the questions I'm sharing with you here.  Lastly, I'll encourage you to reclaim your power through self-accountability, focusing on personal growth rather than trying to change the immovable. Tune in to gain insights that will empower you to handle life's relationship hurdles with confidence and clarity.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Send us a textEver find yourself holding back with your friends?   Like maybe you shy away of sharing your accomplishments, or you downplay your gifts, hide your true ambitions, or basically just feel like you have to dial parts of yourself down when you're with them?Listen into the episode as I share how confidence and competition sometimes impact our connections with other women and why we all need a safe place where we can be ALL of ourselves- the sparkly, powerful good stuff AND the messy, questioning, imperfect part of us too.You'll also get to hear about my biggest takeaway from the in person Bold as Love Collective Retreat that I recently hosted and what it means to really hold space for, support and uplift other women.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Send us a textMiscarriage and infant loss are heart-wrenching subjects that are often met with silence in our society.  Listen in to this episode to hear:what NOT to saypractical ideas for support that are meaningful and usefulwhat it means to hold spacewhat kind of support people actually want to receive Join me, April Boyd, as we navigate the challenging terrain of grief and loss, not just as a therapist but as a mother who has walked this path herself.  You'll learn to avoid ineffective and unhelplful phrases, like "let me know what I can do" into acts of genuine support that truly matter to those grieving.  This episode stands as a guide for anyone struggling to find the right words or actions when a loved one is suffering the unimaginable pain of losing a child. With a focus on understanding the depth of this grief, I share insights and strategies to help you offer support that validates and comforts. Discover why mentioning the loss isn't just okay—it's essential, as it serves as a profound reminder that the person they lost is remembered and cherished. Through heartfelt conversations and practical advice, we aim to challenge cultural norms and empower you to be a steadfast presence for those navigating through their darkest days.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Send us a textEver had that gut feeling that something just wasn't right, but you ignored it?  I recently ignored my intuition about someone, and doing so left me stranded at the side of the road- literally. In this episode of "Is it Me or Is it Them," I share some important reminders:vibes never liehow to listen to your instinctswhy you should never lower your standards for how you want to be treated- even over the little things. ANNOUNCEMENT:Our 6th round of the Bold as Love Collective is happening in January!  This is a group coaching experience for women who want to evolve, tidy up old patterns that no longer serve you, and connect with people who actually get you and support you.Join the waitlist below to be the first to receive all the glorious details and your exclusive invitation. https://fun-cell-31288.myflodesk.com/ipaz0zbshiHave a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Send us a textDoes it weigh on you when someone just doesn't like you?  Do you catch yourself questioning your worth and actions?  Or trying harder to be liked?Before you start chasing the approval of someone who you know doesn't like you and is not-so-secretly judging you, try asking yourself this one question instead.This is going to help you to break the cycle of people pleasing and approval chasing, get more confident, set better boundaries and get super clear on what you stand for.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Send us a textI turned 45 this year! Yay!   It was so interesting to notice how frequently people asked me how I felt about getting older, like they were half expecting this to be some kind of crisis or problem. So in today's episode I'm sharing some reflections on getting older and unpacking some truths and myths about aging.  Spoiler alert: the best is yet to come!But if you're feeling uncomfortable or afraid of getting older, you definitely need to listen in because I'm sharing one really important question you need to ask yourself.Listen in to hear about: getting free from our cultural obsession with youthwhy you couldn't pay me to go back to my younger selfthe one question you need to ask yourself if you feel afraid of agingHave a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Send us a Text Message.How do you handle a friend or loved one who constantly unloads their problems on you, but never seems willing to make any changes?   Perhaps you've spent hours listening and trying to be supportive, while they reject every attempt you make to help them get unstuck and now you're starting to get frustrated and annoyed.If you have someone in your life who seems to be miserable, but responds with "yeah, but..." every time you give them advice or try to get them to see a different perspective, this episode is for you.Listen in to hear:why you're efforts to help may be back-firingthe assessment you need to make  before you keep tryingthe boundaries you need to set for yourself to protect your energy and timepractical advice for how to manage your reactions and interactions with those who love to ventHave a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Ever found yourself in a difficult situation with someone as you realize that you each had wildly different expectations of each other that just don't match up? Like...Finding out the hard way that not only are you not on the same page, but you're not even in the same book.Realizing that you assumed they saw things the same way you did, but it's become very clear that they don't.Discovering that you each had assumptions about how things would go, but you never actually talked it about directly or clearly, and now it's a hot mess.With 20 years of legal experience, helping people to avoid conflict and respond to conflict, Corrine Boudreau some fascinating thoughts on how to set boundaries, ask for what you need, and stand up for your self, in your business and your personal life.Listen in to hear about:* how to be really generous- and still take care of your own well being* strategies to help you set better boundaries- without feeling bad, mean or guilty* how unspoken assumptions are often the culprit behind a whole lot of conflict* how to set clear expectations that keep your relationships healthy and honest Corrine is a master of providing super generous business services without over-extending herself, and she has some incredible resources for Canadian business owners who work in the online space.  Listen in to gain insightful strategies on setting boundaries that allow for both generosity and self-preservation, helping you to have better conversations, better relationships and build a better business, without compromising your wellbeing or putting yourself at risk.Connect with Corrine Boudreaux here:https://www.legalmybiz.ca/pages/about-mehttps://www.instagram.com/legalguidecorinne/?hl=enHave a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

In this episode, I share a piece of advice my sister gave me  about how to treat myself better, raise my standards and improve my quality of life one with one tiny upgrade.Have you ever considered how small upgrades in your daily environment can drastically boost your mood and momentum?  Today we're talking about how to make one tiny change that will reduce the frustration and increase the flow of your daily life. By replacing worn-out items, like that broken toaster or creaky cupboard door, you can significantly reduce daily frustrations and enhance your well-being.  Join me as we explore how these seemingly minor changes can create a ripple effect, improving not just your day-to-day life but also your mental clarity and productivity. I'll guide you through identifying one simple change you can make right now to reduce these micro frustrations and reclaim your mental bandwidth. Don't miss out on this discussion, and be sure to share this episode with a friend who could benefit from a little more ease and flow in their life.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

What do you do when someone refuses to acknowledge their wrongdoing?Often times, we can find ourselves trying to explain and justify why you're hurt or how they've harmed you, hoping that if you can just get them to understand and acknowledge what they did to you, that you'll be able to move on.However, when someone refuses to see your point of view, and won't take responsibility for their actions, regardless of how much evidence, facts or information you give them, you need to stop and realize that you are in a futile game of tug of war.Trying to do repair and reconciliation with someone who is full of denial and defensiveness, can be incredibly frustrating, hurtful and exhausting.So in today's episode of Is it Me or is it Them?  I'm sharing five questions you need to ask yourself to get out of gridlock.  This episode is going to help you:* take back some power* protect your own wellbeing* stop wasting energy by trying to explain and justify yourself* start finding more clarity and peace in the midst of a really crappy situation.* find a faster route to peace.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Ever felt like you need to change your body before you can feel free to enjoy your life? Like you go to the beach but hide under a towel? Or you get invited to a pool party but all you feel is dread?  Today we're talking about the thinking traps that stop us from feeling more confident and free in our bodies and how we hold ourselves back from having fun and living fully. I'm sharing some personal experiences and powerful insights from my work as a therapist and breaking down how societal pressures lead to self-loathing and inhibit us from fully participating in life's beautiful moments. We need to stop chasing perfection and start living more fully right now, instead of waiting for the elusive magical moment when we suddenly feel good enough.  By examining the fear of judgment and the elusive quest for physical perfection, I highlight the deep emotional and relational costs of these beliefs. Let's shift our focus together, moving from self-criticism to self-acceptance and paving the way for true freedom and joy.This episode is a celebration of the present. Don't wait for a flatter tummy or a bigger butt to start living fully. Embrace who you are right now and appreciate the amazing things your body can do today. I'll share inspiring stories and practical tips to help you seize the moment and move through your day with confidence. Your future self will thank you for recognizing your worth today. As I head off to enjoy a breathtaking hike along the cliffs of Lagos, Portugal, I invite you to appreciate your own journey and leave a review if this message resonates with you. Let's spread this empowering mindset far and wide!Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Ever find yourself at a crossroads, paralyzed by what your future might hold if you choose one path over another?    Or worried that one day you'll look back on your life with regret and mourn your missed opportunities?Today we are unravelling the complex web of life's decisions and the daunting fear of regret that often lurks behind our choices.   We're diving deep into the struggle to distinguish genuine desires from the hefty weight of societal expectations, social media comparisons and endless possibility.  For those of you seeking clarity, authenticity and satisfaction in your choices, this episode is a coaching call to help you figure out what is right for you and how to tell the difference between a true desire and a distraction. So press play and listen in—because this episode is not just a conversation, it's a map toward living a life brimming with contentment and free of regret.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Have you ever found yourself hesitantly mumbling 'yes' when every fiber of your being was screaming 'no'? Welcome to the club. I'm April Boyd, and in our latest episode, we navigate the tricky waters of upholding our own boundaries without compromising the commitments and relationships we cherish.  I'm sharing how to distinguish between when you're saying yes because people pleasing and when it's truly the right thing to do, even if it's something you don't really want to do.  This episode is not just about preserving our sanity, but about living with integrity. Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Today,  we pull back the layer of an over-scheduled life to see what is really going on with that part of us that can't slow down, can't relax and has somehow managed to turn even "self-care" into something to excel at. Listen in to hear about:* why you turn even the things that are enjoyable into a chore* what it looks like when you are in the energy of anxiety and control* how to create a life that doesn't just look good, but actually feels good* finding a better balance between obligation and flowHave a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Why are so many women downplaying their brilliance, their skills and procrastinating on their big dreams?Imposter syndrome is a word that gets thrown around a lot in the personal development world and while there are times when I'm speaking to to someone who is truly doubting and disconnecting from their capabilities, often what I see is a women who knowns deep down that she's really great at what she does- but is hiding anyway.So in today's episode we're unpacking fear of claiming our talents, gifts and desires so we can be more of who we really are and feel more free to go after the things we really want.  the difference between imposter syndrome and just plain old fearhow to train your brain to feel more confident & capablewhy you need to celebrate your successeshow to get more free to be yourself and go after your dreamsHave a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Ever avoid doing something you really want to do because you're worried you're going to be judged or feel like you're not good enough?Like maybe you want to start going to the gym but you're afraid people will look at you like you don't belong there...Or maybe there's a dream you've always wanted to go after but you're embarrassed to tell your friends...Or maybe you've been showing up and making things happen but still find yourself feeling like you don't measure up to everyone else at the table...Comparison and judgment are really normal human thought patterns, but when we let our insecurities and worries run wild, we can end up living a life that feels safe to our nervous system, but really frustrating and unfulfilling for our hearts.In today's episode I'm sharing: the one realization you need to hear to start taking actionwhat showing up at the gym with my muffin top showed me about competitionhow you can move from comparison and competition mean girl energy to big alpha female energy- kind, ambitious, caring, and powerfulHave a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Ever catch yourself doubting your instincts or second guessing your decisions?  Ever feel like you've outgrown a relationship or situation but you stick around anyway?Ever feel like you know in your gut that something's not good for you but you keep toughening it out anyway?In today's episode I'm breaking down what the real issue is that makes it hard to trust yourself and that stops you from taking action, even when you know that something isn't the right match for you.Many of us have been conditioned to "make do" and "make it work", causing us to stay in situations and relationships that are no longer good for us or are not what we hoped they would be.  And  while there may be very real times in our lives when we really do need to just toughen it out, push through or stay put for the time being for a variety of reasons, many of us have adopted the idea of settling as a way of life. So press play and get a deeper understanding of why you stay in the places that aren't right for you and consider this invitation to raise your standards and allow more joy and goodness into your life.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Today we have a special guest!  And I got to tell you, I have never laughed so much while talking about really hard topics.    Tuck Cornelius is a comedian, artist, poet, filmmaker and trans rights advocate who bends steel and breaks stereotypes.  He's joining us today for a conversation about defying social expectations, surviving traumatic things and having the audacity to be yourself even when the costs are high.In this episode Tucks tells us about his experiences with domestic abuse, suicide and violence as he unfolds his powerful story of survival, tenacity, love and connection.He is a breathe of fresh air and a trailblazer in the field of authenticity and courage.  I'm sure you will enjoy this conversation as much as I did.And as mentioned, we get into potentially triggering and activating topics, so get yourself some extra support from the resources below.  You matter. You belong here.  You have the right to feel safe.  Connect with Tuck and thank him for his courage and openness on instagram here.SUPPORTS & RESOURCES:United States:Trevorproject text 678-678Translifeline Call 877-565-8860Crisis Textline: Text home to 741741The National Domestic Violence Hotline (200 languages): 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY). Advocacy information and safety planning. Email (English) and chat (English and Spanish) are also available. Forge Forward: Support for trans people & trans victims of violence. Crisis Services Canada:  Established in 2002, Crisis Services Canada is a nonprofit national network of existing distress, crisis, and suicide prevention line services that assist populations across Canada.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Have you ever felt the world spinning a little too fast, leaving you gasping for a moment of peace? I certainly did, and that's why I took an unexpected step back from the show to move from juggling all the things to prioritizing on the necessary things.  We're talking about how to find some 'white space' in our routine and creating a life that isn't just about ticking boxes off the to-do list.And if you're looking to make some big changes in how you are showing up in your own life and your relationships, the bold as love solo experience may be for you.I am opening spaces for 3 women who want to go deeper in healing, changing negative habits and feeling more confident and free in their lives, conversations and relationships.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Have you ever noticed how there's a change that you want to make,  you make a declaration, you say now's the time I'm going to start to take this seriously, I really need to get my act together, and you go all in, but soon it all falls flat?  Often we find ourselves right back in the same place where we started, feeling totally defeated and frustrated. I want to tell you, the problem is not you. The problem is you're approaching change in a way that does not work. In today's episode I'm sharing with you why what you've been doing hasn't been working and how you have likely been sabotaging your efforts towards change when you're trying to break old habits.   And I'm going to show you how one of the ways we approach change in the Bold as Love Collective,  a way that actually works, is much easier, kinder and way more effective that what you've probably been doing. and some ways that you can actually start to create change that actually work, ways of doing change that are easier, more sustainable and way more effective. The Bold as Love Collective is starting January 22/ 24.  This is a group for women who want to grow, evolve and get rid of old habits that don't serve them for good.  Get the details here: https://aprilboyd.ca/reset-your-mindsetThe Bold as Love Collective is a transformative experience and gathering for women who want to untangle from old beliefs, get rid of negative relationship patterns and know it's time to uplevel their health, happiness and relationships. This is for women who want to live with more love and less fear, more confidence and less people pleasing, and more fun and ease and less forcing and hustling.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Have you ever felt like a change as small as a new hat could throw your entire circle of friends into a tailspin?  In this episode I'm sharing how a questionable fashion choice revealed the unspoken rules that my friends and I were putting on each other without realizing it.   So today, we're peeling back the curtain of comfort provided by your closest relationships to reveal how sometimes, even though you love each other and want the best for each other, you may need to step outside of your usual group of friends to find some new room to grow.We explore the balancing act of valuing and maintaining these connections while also creating and finding new spaces where you are more free to redefine who you are, try on new hats, and aspire for more.Want a safe place to grow & expand who you are?  The Bold as Love Collective is an online personal growth and support group that's a haven for women ready to reinvent their lives. This program is all about shedding outdated selves and warmly welcoming in the new, all within a nurturing community that revels in each other's transformations. It's a place where challenging the norm isn't just accepted; it's celebrated. So, if you're longing for a tribe that cheers on your desire to grow, join us and be part of an empowering journey that acknowledges and applauds the beautiful complexities of change.The Bold as Love Collective is a transformative experience and gathering for women who want to untangle from old beliefs, get rid of negative relationship patterns and know it's time to uplevel their health, happiness and relationships. This is for women who want to live with more love and less fear, more confidence and less people pleasing, and more fun and ease and less forcing and hustling.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

I was working in a coffee shop the other day when I couldn't help but overhear a conversation between the two women sitting next to me.   Listening to this meeting between a boss and junior employee, I was struck by how hard to the younger woman was working to be the "okay maker," to remain pleasant, accepting and tolerant of the utter nonsense of this conversation she was being forced to participate in, a conversation where she was having to explain and defend a list of insignificant micro differences between the ways she took care of herself in the workplace and what her boss wanted a "team player" to act like.It reminded me of all the times when I had normalized being treated like less than,  times when I had thought it was normal and fine to just put up with weird abuses of power, environments that compromised my values, and relationships where I was held in a dehumanized, inferior position.  It reminded me of how I had accepted all of this without question, without noticing how easy it would have been to just treat people better, without taking in how dysfunctional and abusive these dynamics really were at times.  So in today's episode I'm encouraging you to consider a new question. Where in your life do you need to raise your standards?Get a notebook and pen, press play on this episode and come join me as we start to change the way you let others treat you and how you treat yourself. If this speaks to you, I encourage you to check out the Bold as Love Collective.  It's a small intimate coaching group for women who are ready to look at the patterns they've co-created in their lives, get untangled from limiting beliefs and relationship models that no longer serve them and get into alignment with a happier, healthier, more vibrant and alive version of themselves. Get the details here. We start in January.https://aprilboyd.ca/reset-your-mindsetThe Bold as Love Collective is a transformative experience and gathering for women who want to untangle from old beliefs, get rid of negative relationship patterns and know it's time to uplevel their health, happiness and relationships. This is for women who want to live with more love and less fear, more confidence and less people pleasing, and more fun and ease and less forcing and hustling.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Ever felt like conversations with your friends are running on a loop, touching the surface but never getting into the stuff that actually matters?   If you're finding resistance when you try to go deeper, if you find yourself holding back parts of yourself, and staying quiet when you're tempted to share more about your thoughts, your creations or what you really want, because you're afraid you'll be seen as intimidating, triggering, or "showing off," this episode is for you.In this episode, I walk you through the subtle yet significant signals that it's time for you to expand your social circle.   We explore the profound effects of our closest relationships on our happiness and growth, and what happens when you hit a ceiling with the circle of you love. P.S. Calling all women who crave deeper connection, better conversations and personal growth: this is your call to action! Starting in January, I'm excited to welcome you into our circle of wonderful women, a collective committed to breaking patterns, uplifting our mindset and cheering each other on along the way. Get the details here. We start in January.The Bold as Love Collective is a transformative experience and gathering for women who want to untangle from old beliefs, get rid of negative relationship patterns and know it's time to uplevel their health, happiness and relationships. This is for women who want to live with more love and less fear, more confidence and less people pleasing, and more fun and ease and less forcing and hustling.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

As I was at the movie theatre last night, I noticed a strange little habit that I was doing mentally, a habit that I've probably done a million times without realizing it. It got me thinking about beauty standards, competition among women and how much time and energy so many women spend hating on themselves.In this episode we're talking about beauty standards, self-criticism and self-worth, why we can't seem to stop chasing the beauty ideals that the partriarchy has set for us, and how we can start to build ourselves up instead of tearing ourselves down.If you find yourself falling into comparison, feeling like you're not measuring up and getting obsessed with trying to improve your appearance, today's episode is for you.  We're breaking down the self-attacking thoughts we all face, why being a "trophy wife" might be the worst prize you could possibly win and how we can start to create our own defintions of beauty and worthiness in a culture that will always tell us we're not enough.WOMEN'S GROUP IS STARTING IN JANUARY:get all the details here.https://aprilboyd.ca/reset-your-mindsetThe Bold as Love Collective is a transformative experience and gathering for women who want to untangle from old beliefs, get rid of negative relationship patterns and know it's time to uplevel their health, happiness and relationships. This is for women who want to live with more love and less fear, more confidence and less people pleasing, and more fun and ease and less forcing and hustling.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

What would change if you started treating your own wellness, aliveness and vitality as if they were really important things to nurture and to care about?  Many of us go through our weeks and lives acting like our own needs don't really matter- that we don't really matter.  We focus more on just getting things done and just getting through, instead of actually enjoying our time, tasks, activities and our lives.  Navigating life's ups and downs has definitely taught me that life needs to be more than just surviving- we need to be able to love our lives, so that when everything gets knocked over and the rug gets pulled from under us, we already know how to take care of ourselves, how to dig deep and how to rebuild a life that is worth fighting for.  I've come to strongly believe that joy, ease, and authenticity aren't just lofty ideals but necessities for a truly satisfying, fulfilling life.  Join me as I open my heart and share how these experiences and share how they've shaped my approach to every day living.Women's Group Invitation: The Bold as Love Collective is a 9 week course to reset your mindset and start living bigger, happier and easier.  Get the details here:https://aprilboyd.ca/reset-your-mindsetHave a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Ever found yourself tongue-tied when an aunt passes judgment on your career choices or your mother in law shots a passive aggressive arrow your directions?   Many of us are moving through the holidays with a lot of anxiety and dread as we know we are going to be confronted by some of the people who most push our buttons, get under our skin and who may seem to even enjoy offending us.  This episode is your guide to handling those tense, risky moments with grace and assertiveness.  We delve into the power using simple questions to stand up for ourselves, hold someone accountable while inviting opportunities for repair and genuine connection. You're going to want to get your notebook for this one because you'll be learning some new ways to strike that delicate balance between accountability and kindness when someone steps over the line.  From discussing how past role models influence our conflict resolution styles, to techniques like setting conversational checkpoints and subtly holding up a mirror to the other person, this episode is going to help make the hard interactions a lot easier.   So, grab a cup of mulled cider, get cozy, and let's get ready to turn those difficult conversations into opportunities for growth and greater self-respect.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Are you finding it hard to keep up with the chaos of life, feeling overwhelmed by your to-do list? This time of year is especially crazy, particularly for women who do most of the behind the scenes to make the holidays magical for everyone else. I'm April Boyd, and in this conversation, I promise to guide you on how to sort through the madness, prioritize tasks, and most importantly, find more peace and time to yourself.  Grab your journal, because you'll want to jot down your thoughts and answers as we journey through these transformative questions together.Join me as we navigate the thin line between striving for the standards we hold for ourselves and the reality of our to-do lists and and get out of the trap of perfectionism that often leaves us over-loaded and over-worked.   Let's break out of old habits of overfunctioning together and have some honest, brave, and kind discussions about how to manage life's demands.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Ever just try harder when you get the vibe that someone doesn't like you?  I used to take someone not liking me as a sign that I just need to try harder, be nicer, clear up whatever misunderstanding had occurred. Since then I've realized 3 things that helped me to stop caring too much about what other people think of me , stop wasting so much time and energy trying to figure out what I did wrong and instead starting treating myself with a little more care and respect. And remember, your support means the world to me, so don't forget to share this episode with someone who would also benefit from it!Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Ever feel like you're drowning in your to-do list? Let's change that. I'm April Boyd, and I'll guide you to declutter your commitments and redefine what truly needs your attention.  When life becomes a relentless pursuit of "getting things done," it's time to reassess. In today's episode, I'm sharing the 5 shifts I made that have helped me to feel generally more relaxed, present and chilled out in my daily life. And if you love this episode please share it.  By sharing this episode, you're not just supporting me, you're spreading a message of empowerment. So, tune in, take a deep breath and let's move through this together.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Have you ever noticed that the first question we often get asked as women when we're meeting someone new is "so do you have kids?"   Our identity as parents - or lack thereof- at times seems to function as a social filter of inclusion and measuring stick of our worth and goodness in a culture where motherhood appears to be held as the standard of healthy womanhood.   As a person who is not parenting, our it can often feel like we don't belong, we're misunderstood and even at times, are even actively excluded or looked down upon.If you are someone who is not parenting and trying to find your way through a world that seems to think you should be, this conversation is for you.  In this episode, you'll get to meet the amazing Katy Seppi, founder of the Childless Collective, an online gathering for childless women and non-binary people, and the Childless Collective Summit, a free 4 day experience of support, community and connection.In this conversation, Katy and I go deep into our experiences of moving through the world as childless women, bridging friendships between parents and non-parents, the judgments we've each faced first hand, what you can expect at the Childless Collective Summit this year and so much more. Sign up for the summit for free here This year at the Childless Collective Summit, I'll be speaking about How to Claim you time, worth and sovereignty in a world that thinks you're always available.Join me and many other incredible and fascinating women well worth knowing.  Sign up to attend the summit for free here.Connect with Katy Seppi on instagram here and https://childlesscollective.com/Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

I recently canceled three commitments within ten days and it felt amazing.  Do you ever feel like you'd just love a night to slow down or an afternoon to yourself, but it doesn't feel like it's okay to cancel or rock the boat?   In this episode, I share my own journey of breaking free of people-pleasing and over-functioning.  the immense relief that came with it. This isn't just about backing out of plans; it's about learning to respect your energy levels and recognizing the warning signs of impending burnout.This episode is not just a story but an invitation to a mindset shift. We dive deep into the concept of energy management as a crucial act of self-care.  I also share some questions you can ask yourself to reevaluate your commitments and see where it feels comfortable and okay to change plans or change your mind without having to worry that you look flakey or unreliable.  This conversation aims to help you regain control over your schedule, assess your actions' impact on others, and understand how canceling plans affects our relationships and reputation. Join me for an eye-opening discussion about energy management, commitments, and breaking free from old patterns.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

We've all been there - stuck in an recurring argument with our partner, feeling unheard and misunderstood and never getting to the bottom of things.  Did you know that 69% of your fights with your partner are unresolvable? World renowned couple's therapists and researchers, the Gottmans, have identified that nearly 2/3 of our conflicts with our spouse are Gottman are what they call "perpetual problems" - those unsolvable issues that you're never going to seee eye to eye on just because you are two different people.  So what if the key to resolving the endless arguments with your partner isn't about getting your partner to get on the same page as you and start seeing more eye to eye, what if it's about digging deeper to understand the fears, wishes, and desires behind the disagreement?   It's time to stop proving who's right or wrong and start understanding the deeper issues at play. I'm guiding you on how to turn challenging conversations into opportunities for growth and understanding.  FREE MINI-COURSE TO STOP THE FIGHTING & FRUSTRATIONGet access to a free five-day mini-course to help you and your partner glide through tough conversations with grace. Brace yourselves for a paradigm shift in your relationship as we navigate the gridlock together and find more peace between the differences.SIGN UP HERE:https://fun-cell-31288.myflodesk.com/i0qbwrz0mjHave a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Are you feeling weighed down by a friendship but can't seem to pinpoint why? Are you left drained after every interaction but can't decide if it's them or you?  Are you thinking it may be time to let this friend go?   Here's your chance to gain clarity. In this deep-dive episode of the 'Is it Me or Is it them?' Podcast, we go through 5 questions you need to ask yourself if you are thinking that it may be time to end a friendship.  We'll explore the intricate components of a healthy friendship, learn to recognize signs of imbalance and potential toxicity. Is the problem centered on one annoying behavior, or is it something more profound?  How well do your values jive with theirs? Are they enriching your life or sapping your energy? We're all about identifying the issue, deciding if it's reparable and making the best choice for your wellbeing.  Letting go of a friend can be just as painful and difficult as letting go of a romantic partnership.  So listen in to today's episode to help you feel more clear and confident in your decision. Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Ever feel like people are judging you or thinking negative things about you?  If you often find yourself feeling self-conscious about what others are thinking or saying about you, today's episode is for you.I'm sharing the one habit that you probably don't realize you're even doing- but that massively fuels your fear of judgement and causes a huge increase in social anxiety.   You'll leave with a practical tool that will help you feel safer, more secure, and more at ease in your relationships and in the world.Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

 Is there a project, goal or change you just can't seem to find time for?  You are not alone.  For years I wanted to write my book and for years, it stayed at the very bottom of my to-do, making me feel guilty and stressed.  This year I got honest with myself about what was really getting in the way of getting this thing done and subsequently got untangled from the lies that we tell ourselves about discipline, productivity and "getting it all done."No one is "getting it all done."  Listen in as I share how I grappled with my own limiting beliefs and toxic productivity myths and finally made the changes I needed to do to get done something that was really important to me to do.  By sharing my journey, I aim to offer you a fresh perspective on prioritization, the importance of self-kindness, and the necessity of realistic goal-setting. Let's together navigate the roles we play in our own frustrations and harness the power to change our approach, our mindset, and most importantly, meet our own needs, get into integrity with ourselves and get happier, more relaxed and more accomplished with the stuff that actually matters to us. Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

You know those moments when everything just clicks? That was me during a recent breathwork session – a transformative, 30-minute experience that rocked my world.  We often talk about releasing trauma, but this time, I felt a powerful need to claim it, recognizing these experiences as part of my human journey. Yes, healing is challenging and, paradoxically, we often resist doing what's best for ourselves, even when we know better.  But trust me, embarking on this journey is worth every moment.In this episode I'm sharing about my own journey of healing trauma with breathwork and why I resist doing these sessions even though I always feel like a million bucks after.  Whether you're contemplating therapy, a breathwork session, or just seeking a fresh perspective on personal growth and healing, this episode might just be the nudge you need. And hey, if you're intrigued by the idea of a one-to-one breathwork session with me, reach out and let's help your system get more free, clear and happy.Learn more about working with me for a private session here:https://aprilboyd.ca/contactHave a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Do you ever find yourself trapped in a cycle of overthinking and second guessing yourself?  Like when you have an unpleasant interaction with someone and you just can't seem to let it go and instead obsess over it for days?  Or you lie awake at night weight out the pros and cons for a potential opportunity, without ever getting the peace and clarity you're trying so hard to force yourself to find?In this episode, I share what I believe is one of the key reasons we get stuck in overthinking and 3 ways that you can start to more clearly recognize and respond to the nudges and pulls from your nervous system so you can learn to  hear what your own truth and inner guidance.If you find this conversation helpful, please share it with someone else who may benefit. And if you have any questions or want to dive deeper, I'm here for you.You can book a private session with by getting in touch via my instagram @withloveapril or email me at april@lovelossproject.com Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Does it feel like your time belongs more to other people than it does to you? Do you ever feel like you're spending your days just trying to keep up with everything that needs done?  Do you never seem to have enough time to do the things that truly matter to you?  If that sounds all too familiar, join me as I share five powerful questions that will not only help you regain control over your busy schedule but also improve your overall well-being. It's time to reevaluate the commitments in your life and determine which ones truly serve you. Here's what you'll hear about:*the difference between activities that drain us and those that uplift us * recognizing when we've overcommitted ourselves*the reasons why we over-commit and stretch ourselves too thinHave a topic or question you'd love to hear about?Message me and let me know.email april@lovelossproject.comInstagram @with.love.aprilhttps://www.instagram.com/with.love.april/Sign up to get tips & tools sent to your inbox.https://aprilboyd.ca/ Please note: This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if neededAll identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.