Mundane Magic

Validation. Feeling heard, seen, understood.This tiny but actually massively powerful concept that affects every part of who we are, and whether we trust ourselves or not.Do you feel validated in your life by those closest to you?Do you validate (and therefore trust) yourself? Do you validate the experience of others even though you do not 'understand' them? If you've lost touch with who you are through invalidation, it's time we rebuild the connection between your gut and your head.You are unique and quirky and valid in every sense of who you are, and to live and flourish fully in this human experience, you must learn to fully trust yourself once again.

How do you view and value the things you know that you are naturally, intuitively gifted at?The thing that you have always wanted to do, the thing that you love, the thing that you know you should be doing.In this society of the last 50/100 years, we have been trained (through the schooling system and society on a whole) that only certain things are worth putting our time and money into and that if we don't, we will amount to nothing. We have been taught that science and math are what will make us money one day, and that only certain 'careers' are worth pursuing if we ever wish to 'make money'.  We are handed a very few select subjects to learn about in school, and if we happen to find them boring and unable to waste our precious time on them, we're labeled by low scores as 'unintelligent' in that realm.Of course, a lot of that has changed and  is now changing, but that has been and still quite often is the undertone of many of our belief systems.We value a hard-copy certificate over somebody's natural talent.We doubt our ability to do the thing we know that we are really good at but have nothing to 'prove' that we are good at it.We're told to take classes and courses that only serve to water down the uniqueness of our personal gifts.But it's time to shift all of that.There has never been a better time in history than now to step into the magic of what you know you are naturally capable of.The world is waiting, and the universe will serve you.

You have a duty - and that is to be true to your inclinations and desires!We so often fear doing something that we are really called to do in the concern over the other people that may be affected by our choice.What we are not acknowledging, is that there is always a perfect plan in motion. You will never know the outcome of any of the actions you choose to take, but you can trust that it WILL turn out great for everybody else affected.When you have a strong, sincere desire to do something, do it. You are a part of something bigger (always), and by taking action on YOUR part, you open up the magic for ANOTHER'S part.This works the other way around too.When somebody takes an action that affects you, even though it may not seem comfortable from your current viewpoint, know that everything happens FOR you.There was a reason that somebody had to do that something.You will lessen your frustration  remarkably when you acknowledge this wise truth.

The power that we hold when it comes to our perspective and the ability to control our energy is immense.This becomes extra important when it comes to what we consciously (or unconsciously) choose to energetically absorb.We live in a time where information is constantly surrounding us - information about the whole wide world - much more information than we were ever designed to be able to take on.We have a limited amount of full energetic attention to give, and when it is subconsciously given to burdens that are actually not ours to carry - the load can become dark and heavy.More importantly, it will distract us from what really matters - our own energy and capacity to give.  We cannot give whole-heartedly when we have not first given fully to ourselves.The best magic of all is that we have the power to choose to 'help' in a different way.  A way that leaves both the other person/situation AND ourselves more enlivened and energized.

Have you ever noticed why and when you feel uncomfortable or unable to fully be yourself around another person?  It's usually the people we are closest to.What triggers the discomfort?Learning to be fully comfortable with every aspect of ourselves doesn't quite come naturally.  There are likely parts of yourself that you are ashamed of, or parts that you label negatively.This is where the beautiful shadow work needs to happen. The work of digging deeper into the parts of ourselves that we don't show the world, and rewriting the story.By understanding, accepting, and embracing all aspects of who we are, we allow ourselves to be authentic with others.When we reach that magic, powerful place, we give that same gift to others.  Only when we love and accept all of who we are, can we love and accept all the parts of another.

Why is it that honesty has become awkward in our culture? Why do we live and believe that it's normal to keep the peace and lie to somebody, when we know we are lying to ourselves? Digging even deeper into it, what are the BELIEFS we hold about why a certain topic is considered "awkward and uncomfortable"?How could our communication, honesty, and re-framing of why we see things the way we do change our lives?Brad Blanton - author of Radical Honesty and highly esteemed psychologist - believes sincerely that the main reason for much of today's psychosis and depression (and most other psychological ailments) lies in our inability to tell the truth.I couldn't agree more. We have the power to change that.Radical Honesty https://www.amazon.com/Radical-Honesty-Transform-Telling-Truth/dp/0970693842 

When I think of a positive life, I think of a life lived fluidly with a general disposition of optimism and hopefulness. Though 'optimism' is a trait, living life optimistically is mostly something that is intentionally done, with practice in the small things.Like everything, the magic and momentum happens in the small, everyday interactions and moments and responses and reactions. It is never the few big things  you do that create the impact and get you closer to what you want for yourself. It's always the littlest things that you may think have no impact. From those spaces, before you know it, you'll be exactly where you want to be. But, you must intend and practice with the little things.In essence, that big thing you want to achieve really isn't difficult if you see the truth that the magic happens in the small, easy opportunities. 

So many topics of debate are pointless if you think about it, unless both parties are sufficiently experienced in and/or educated on the topic at hand. If not, what is the point? And if we just decided to talk and judge less about the things we do not fully know - wouldn't everything be so much more peaceful?Conversation and talking is such a big part of our lives, one of the biggest things next to sleeping and breathing, right? But how much do we talk talk talk when we just don't need to? How much simpler could everything be if we became more conscious of when and why we spoke?

Have you ever seen something for what it really is? No label no story no judgement? Most of what you think and what you think you know wasn't even consciously decided by you.Much of what you think comes from culture, history, family, religion, etc.And so we go about our lives living our thoughts out on autopilot.What do you think when you look at yourself in the mirror? When you think of divorce? When you think of 'beauty'?Are you aware of the stories you've been telling yourself? Do they serve you and others, or do they break you (and others) down?What could your life look like if you decided to start thinking for yourself? To start questioning why you believe what you do and why you judge certain things the way you do.To rewrite your scripts from scratch into a story that serves you really well.Everything in life is constantly evolving, and this makes it extra important to evolve our personal thought processes with nature, as we grow and as life grows.For if you aren't consciously doing it, you're either staying way back on the train, or you're having your thoughts decided for you. Both of those options suck. When you see things for what they really are, judgement cannot be a part of it.This world needs people who think for themselves from an open, liberated, judgement free, love filled mind. 

Sometimes, we get so used to not feeling our feelings. Maybe it's easier.Less painful.Less humiliating.Makes us seem stronger than we are.Where did we get this from and when did we start believing it?And then of course, we don't do well at accepting or allowing the feelings of others. This is dangerous for us, because unfelt emotions get stored deep within the fiber of our being.Don't ever stop feeling. Don't dim down your big feelings in fear of unacceptance. Learn to feel all over again, and start with yourself.

Resistance sucks - purely.It does nothing for you, except push away the things that you really really want. Why do we give attention to the things that we don't want, when we could just focus solely on the things that we DO want?When you focus on what you don't want, or when you focus on why you think you haven't gotten/didn't get what you wanted, you are setting into motion a lack vibration.Like attracts like. So a lack vibration will attract more lack = less of the thing you DO want.An abundance vibration (trust, hope, positivity, detachment, belief that something better is on the way) will attract more abundance = MORE of everything that you do want.Pairing non-resistance with an abundance mindset will get you everything you ever (and never) thought you wanted and more!When you let go of thinking that you know what is best for yourself, you never let the universe show you the magic. 

This is the age of the global internet! We are exposed to millions of differing belief systems and viewpoints on a daily basis. Amidst all of this, here we are just trying to figure out what it is we ourselves even believe - and it's become more challenging than ever. It makes sense. We all need to have something to believe in and 'attach to' - that's human nature. We also have an innate need to find people who believe and live like we do - out tribes. We seek to be understood. Understanding all of this, how do we find a peaceful way to believe passionately in whatever it is we want to, while giving others the same respect and value toward the beliefs that they hold true? Because there is no other choice, if we ever want a peaceful existence. 1. Find your tribe of those who believe like you - they will give you the belonging and assurance you seek.2. Create awareness of your autopilot defenses toward differing beliefs, and cultivate respect, humility, and understanding.You can never control anybody else - not even your kids.

Pleasing others instead of being honest to yourself?Being afraid of that awkward feeling of letting somebody down when you really really know what you want to say but just CANNOT? Feeling this way is 'normal', but it shouldn't be. Being dishonest to ourselves is not 'normal'. Neither is being afraid to speak our truth.Or fearing losing somebody in our lives by being honest.But something happens along the journey of our young lives and through our culture where we are (unintentionally??) silenced. It becomes more normal to be silent and pleasing to others than to be honest to ourselves. That's not good for anybody.When you are true to your truth, whatever that may be, you are lighting up your path toward all things good a whole lot quicker.It's good to feel afraid!It's great to take risks!It's liberating to say no.

Community is Life.A true tribe that consists of relationships with deep meaning, vulnerability, consistency, and trust are the foundation FOR everything that we are. This community is HOW we got to where we are today in the evolution of humanity. I thought I was deeply connected in my life, but then I started to listen a little closer to the emptiness that started to echo from within. I have many friends, but do I have my tribe of people who get me and who are LIKE ME? What does community even mean - to you? How can you create it? 

How deeply have you explored the WHOLE you? Are you in touch with and connected to your body? Can you hear the whispers when your body is speaking to you?Do you feel like your emotions and body are connected? You express everything that you are through this physical vehicle that you call your body. A melting fire between your body, heart, mind, emotions, and soul are the magic brew to truly experiencing all that this life has to offer - and it has SO much indescribable beauty to offer.

Life, in all of it's different realms, strives for a balanced state. How in tune are you with your state of balance? Have you noticed certain areas of your life feeling a little out of tune: relationships? physical activity?rest?creativity?emotional release or lack thereof? Balance is a beautiful place to be, and it always starts with awareness.When we don't respond and start to balance out the imbalance, our bodies will tell us in ways that end up being a lot more difficult to manage in the long run.

We, in the Western cultures, are taught that death is scary.We are subconsciously taught to not really think about it or prepare for it in any way.We associate death with loss, sadness, and fear.I feel that this association doesn't to anything for us.What if you chose to rewrite your script of what death meant to you?Death and rebirth are a continual cycle in every arena of our lives, so seeing death as a rebirth becomes the magic that empowers us.Just like everything else in life, death can take on a whole new meaning, if we choose to have the awareness that we, ourselves, hold the paintbrush of acceptance and imagination in our own hands.

If you take a closer look, I bet you'll notice that when you feel a certain feeling, you're very likely telling yourself a story about that particular feeling - which essentially takes you out of the full experience of that feeling!Being fully quiet and present with our feelings, without judging them, holds so much magic. Our feelings have so much to teach us, and only by being present with them can we hear the message.

Another ground shaker by one of my favorite teachers, Florence Scovel Shinn. Gratitude is one of the most powerful emotions. It shifts the energy field into such a high vibrational frequency and opens the path up to attract so much more wonder into your life. Gratitude invites more and more of the goodness, it is abundant.Complaint, on the other hand, is also very powerful, but in the opposite way. Complaint sets the vibrational frequency to one of lack and loss. Complaint invites loss into your life and takes away from all of the good you have going on. It is limited.By becoming aware of the focus you put into your feelings, you can create your life more intentionally, and prepare your energy field for greatness and abundance, instead of unintentional lack and grumbling.

Growing up amidst trauma or dysfunction will undoubtedly have an effect on self-worth, self-love, self-confidence.In this episode we'll take a deeper look into the damaging effects that unprocessed, painful experiences and memories can have on our self-worth.When we go through a painful experience, especially one that we weren't able to make sense of, the unprocessed emotion will often turn into some sort of shame or embarrassment. This shame can be carried around for a lifetime if it is never dealt with. This shame is debilitating in so many ways, and can affect us in every realm of our lives: career, relationships, friendships, potential.The goal becomes to become aware of and process these pains, as we move forward with the intention of turning them into something radically beautiful.We have power to rewrite our story.To rewrite our beliefs.To choose a whole new way of life and living.To finally be set free.

We all carry past pain or trauma to some extent. Some of us much deeper than others.Pain and trauma live and breathe inside of us, and until we come face to face with the deep wounds, the self-sabotaging behaviors we learned as a result of those pains will continue to affect our lives and relationships in debilitating ways. The pain that we don't heal within us will, with amazing accuracy, become the pain of the next generation (and of those we love). It is vital to examine our past.To acknowledge and work through our pain.To detach from the labels we have given ourselves.To realize, maybe for the first time, that we are NOT the things (insert character traits) that we have always thought we were. Those things are only character defaults we learned as kids so that we could cope. We are so much bigger and brighter, and our true golden selves are hiding beneath the traumas and begging to be set free.

We have a limited amount of energy, focus, and attention per day. That energy should ideally be used to attend to our personal lives and concerns, but we often take on the concerns and worries of others without knowing it. This depletes us, and leaves us with little left for the things that really need our attention.Let's become aware of what it looks like to hold your own space.To respectfully listen to another's concerns, but not absorb them as your own.To protect your energy space.

Feeling heard when we share our feelings and emotions is vital. For our wellbeing and for our relationships.Most often, healthy communication does not come naturally, and along with that comes an unconscious tendency to invalidate or shut down other people's (or our own) emotions. Conscious awareness of our feelings and choice of words/expressions can and will create an environment that is easier to thrive in. One in which emotions are understood and validated - which promotes honesty and vulnerability.One where we are finally set free of the belief that we have to 'fix' somebody else's feelings.One in which we learn, perhaps for the first time, to listen to, accept, and validate our OWN feelings.

When we have a goal or dream in mind, we tend to focus so hard on this one thing.What if most of the magic happens when we look away? When we give ourselves over to something different just for a moment? The most basic yet beautiful secret of life is giving. When we give - in any form - we achieve and receive in ways we could never have imagined. We are raised in a Western Society that teaches independence and self-sufficiency, but that goes against the laws of nature.Amidst the wonderful process of giving yourself fully to something else, you suddenly notice that you are 500 steps closer to everything YOU have been trying to do and become!

We love to label things. Ourselves, our capabilities, other people.The human brain strives to make sense of everything by labeling and boxing, but what could life be like if labels were slowly stripped away and we gave ourselves a chance to experience ourselves as the ever-changing beings that we are?How incredible could it be to drop judgement and lift the cap off the limits we give ourselves through labeling?We experience something or someone according to the story we tell ourselves about that something or someone. The Magic starts to happen when we harmonize with the flow of nature, which is constant change and full acceptance and embracing of that constant change.You will let people be their most free self, and you will get to experience yourself for who you really are instead of who you THINK you are.

What is competition and is it even real? Competition is an illusion. Competition is only competition to you because you BELIEVE it to be.Everything that you believe to be your competition is only pointing you toward yourself. The notion of competition exists only in your head.THAT'S your competition:Your thoughtsYour mindsetYour limiting beliefsYour lack mentality Your ego Your judgementsYourselfCompeting and looking outside of yourself is taking away the precious attention and energy that should be going toward yourself. That is how you will get ahead.Competition doesn't FEEL good because it's not true. I believe we all have a 'truth' antennae that resonates and knows when something is true. TRUE feels good and pure and hopeful and abundant and peaceful.Anything that does not feel like that is not true. There is more than enough. There is SO much more than you could ever comprehend. There is no need to compete.

The Super-Conscious Mind is the lesser known but most powerful part of our 'mind'.This is the part of our mind that is energetically and vibrationally connected to everything that ever was and ever will be.The eternal, all-knowing part of ourselves that just IS. The part of our soul that recognizes its oneness with everything else.Getting to know the power, love, and limitless nature of your Super-Conscious mind is where you will reconnect to the reason you are HERE.You will find everything you've always been looking for, right there.

Before you can embark on any life-changing journey, you've got to know what does and does not work for YOU. YOU, meaning your specifically tailored individuality. The way your body responds to certain foods.The way your body responds to heat and cold.The way YOUR body responds to different workouts.The way YOU respond to the energy of/social interaction with others.You are like nobody else that ever was or ever will be.Getting to know your individuality will change your life in the deepest way.It will also bring deep trust, strong intuition, unshakeable confidence, and more freedom than you knew could be possible

The fundamental human desire and need to TELL OUR STORY. We are designed to share our hearts, and we deserve to be heard.We also need to slow down, keep quiet, and learn how to truly LISTEN to another being.Being unable to honestly and vulnerably express for the lack of being heard and understood is strangling our freedom.Not being able to truly listen to anybody else could be where the problem starts.

Going about your daily life is a constant wave of energy exchange.Clearing and cleansing that energy daily can be the biggest assistance in keeping you peaceful, clear minded, and energetic.This is one of those tiny habits that lead to magical changes!

There is this beautiful notion that we don't always know what is best for us.I love this! I love it because it helps me let go of the wheel a little and really flex my 'trust' muscle. And the more this notion is proved to me, the more trusting I become, and the more I let the bigger things come into my life.The Law of Substitution, as taught by Florence Scovel Shinn, teaches that we must take caution against pushing for things that we 'think' we want, but that may actually not be beneficial for us.The magic begins when we learn to detect when something is flowing smoothly, and when something is being wrongly forced. This life is good, this universe is abundant. When we finally start to trust that there is so much more available to us than we could EVER imagine - things get fun!!

There are so many ways to process emotions, and it looks different for everyone. A powerful turning point happens when you become aware of the purpose each of your emotions hold.It's vital to feel emotion, and it's even more vital to know when to let go of emotions that are no longer doing you good.

Self-improvement / Spirituality can get a nasty rap.The concept has sadly been dogmatized and sometimes become very impractical to understand - which is bizarre because it's just as much a part of ourselves as our physical body.Let's break this down and become aware of the simplicity and practicality of 'spirituality' without the fluff.

Your feelings are always communicating with you.Learn how to befriend, accept, and learn from your feelings, but more important than anything:Realize that you have the power to control and shift your feelings.You don't have to be held hostage to feelings that are not taking you any closer to the best version of yourself.Feeling good is your right.When you are feeling 'good' (at ease, peaceful, happy, secure, fulfilled), you are on track to your most authentic, happy self.

You are a creative being by nature, and you have a deep rooted need to self-express and release your creativity.In the busyness of life, it's easy to forget about this, and we can slowly start to lose touch with these parts of ourselves. This can cause you to feel like something is missing, or that you aren't being honest with yourself.Becoming aware of and feeding your need for creative self-expression will open your heart up and take you to the fullest, most honest version of yourself.The fullest version of yourself is the best gift you can give to yourself, and the world.

Fall in love with your duality.You are made up of so many different aspects, and all of them are beautiful. We are somehow taught to shine light on our good qualities but bury the ones we don't like as if they don't exist. We do this to be accepted, but how can we ever be fully accepted and loved for who we are if we don't accept and fully show ourselves? You are strong, AND you are weak.You are confident, AND you are insecure.You are gentle, AND you can be aggressive. You can only know yourself fully if you accept all parts of yourself as they perfectly are.

Whatever we put our attention onto, we magnify.Where focus goes, energy flows.The thing that we subconsciously (or consciously) choose to give our main focus to will take up most of our mental energy - and other things may start to seem like distractions to us. This can cause us to be pulled in two directions which can cause frustration and resentment. Just like everything in this world, we go through cycles and we constantly evolve. This means that our priorities are constantly changing too.Becoming aware of this constant shifting will help you understand the importance of changing your priorities as you shift, and help you find balance through awareness.

It can be really really hard to see your beauty when you're taught that beauty is a fine line.If the concept of beauty is personal and malleable, why not make sure that it is serving you? You'll only ever be able to see true beauty when you let go of everything that you think 'beauty' should be. The biggest transformation toward self love happens when you are able to look into the mirror in absolute awe of the wholesome perfection that you are.

The simplest magic that will change everything for you and make you aware of your: Responsibility and Power.If something isn't working for you, CHANGE it. Become aware that you have the power to change what isn't working for you.There is ALWAYS something you can change about anything that isn't working for you.If something isn't making you feel good or adding value to your life - change it.

The fear of being honest with each other about our trying times is like a sneaky, slimy virus that runs throughout society.We subconsciously believe that it's great to share the good things with everybody else, but when it comes to the hard stuff - we store it silently and dangerously in a place that nobody else should see.We become ashamed to share certain parts of our lives and our selves.This causes a big disconnect within our own psyches and an even bigger disconnect between each other.How are we supposed to be able to relate to each other when we are all hiding parts of ourselves?We, and the world, need to be healed by shameless vulnerability.

Can you truly say that you are madly in love with all of who you are?Are you tickled do death that YOU are YOU?Do you take the time to love and express gratitude toward every thing about the physical person that you are?Everything that you do, and how you do it, springs from the central well of how you see yourself. You cannot love and fully appreciate another until you've learned to fully love and appreciate YOU.Here's a ritual to get you going

Each word and conversation that we speak sets an energy wave into motion.Becoming AWARE of this energy wave will put you in full control of what you choose to release with your words, and what you choose to accept from others' words.This awareness will open up a whole new dimension for you, as you grasp the power that is within a single word or conversation - and how you can recreate your life and your relationships with your choice and awareness of WORDS. The Four Agreements (BOOK) by Don Miguel Ruiz:https://www.miguelruiz.com/the-four-agreements*** All of Don Miguel Ruiz work is worth a read!

Your mindset is where all change starts, and it's certainly where your perfect body begins manifesting. Your body is the most important thing about being on this earth. Feeling great in it should always be number ONE. What great looks and feels like to you and I may be different, but that's not the point.The point is about YOU experiencing the easiest and most fun path toward feeling your best in your physical body.Your mind and mindset is where this powerful journey begins and it's the path that is designed to last.It is also the avenue that is most neglected! Don't do that :)Basketball visualization study: https://www.breakthroughbasketball.com/mental/visualization.htmlHEAL documentary:https://www.healdocumentary.com/Book on Nueroplasticity:http://www.normandoidge.com/?page_id=1259

The laws of nature that we cannot see with our eyes become a little harder to grasp, but once we do, we can never look at things the same way again. The law of use, and the understanding and awareness of it, is one of the most magical mindset shifts that will open you up for more abundance.See the Law of Use like Feng Shui for your mind and life.The goal is to create a constant flow of incoming and outgoing, of receiving and giving, of accumulating and using.You will come to experience that in order to receive more abundance, you must let go of the fear of letting go.Resources mentioned:Florence Scovel Shinn book 'The Game of Life and how to play it https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mu-es6rGfOERobert Kiyosaki - https://www.richdad.com/

There is so much information accessible to us about anyTHING, so it has become more important than ever to use your own creative mind.How do we even remember to use our own creativity when so many step-by-step processes are thrown at us.Why would we even want to use our own brains and thought power if it's easier to follow along to an established method that works?? Well, you must.You have abilities and methods and ideas that are unique to you, and the world needs your creativity.

Motivation is a vital component of every single thing that you do - from brushing your teeth to crushing your goals and dreams.Discover the powerful combination of motivation - visualization - imagination - expectation, and tap into your strongest ability to ride the motivation wave without constantly falling off. Experience also how expectation is the secret captain of your life! TED talk mentioned about expectation:** Sorry guys, can't find the link right now! It was quite a while ago and the pool of TED talks is pretty darn deep. I'll upload as soon as I find it **

As you go about your daily boring (or fun) tasks, try to become more aware of the moments that cause you to want to take a quick pause.Often times it's in the most boring of moments, too. See them as an invitation to grow a little more. See how much fun and inspiration they can bring you!

Sometimes you know exactly where you're going and your confidence is pumping!Sometimes, you have no idea who you even are and you have no idea where you're going. Are your dreams worth it? Are you capable? What about what everybody else thinks?!It's normal to feel this way, and often times the most magic happens by just showing up.

Your beliefs will either assist you in creating the life you're after, or they will subconsciously keep you from it.Information comes soaring at us constantly from too many places in all directions, and our human minds are not equipped for such bombarsion. Regularly checking in on your beliefs and expectations and becoming aware of the power YOU have to rewrite them, is where all of your life's magic begins.

In an overly connected yet completely disconnected, lonely world, the need for a tribe of human connection and vulnerability has become urgent. Our stories need to be heard, and we need to learn to listen.It's our time to reconnect to who we are and to fill the space that is ours and ours alone - while encouraging others to do the same!