Podcasts about Arthur Aron

Love isn't just a feeling—it's a science. Arthur Aron, the psychologist behind the 36 questions that went viral, shares what really makes people fall and stay in love. You'll hear why new experiences matter, how to deepen intimacy, and what most couples get wrong.Whether you're looking to strengthen a relationship, connect more deeply with friends, or understand human bonding, this is a conversation you won't want to miss. 

This new Essential Habits series breaks down the key habits behind high performance, one episode at a time. This week's habit is deceptively simple: asking better questions.Philosopher Alain de Botton joins us to explore how a single, uncomfortable question, “How have I annoyed you?” can deepen trust, defuse tension, and create stronger connections in every part of life.Whether it's at home, at work, or with close friends, we often avoid the conversations that would help us grow. Alain shows us a different way, one built on emotional generosity, honest listening, and the courage to be vulnerable.In this episode, we explore:Why awkward questions build trustHow to listen without getting defensiveThe science behind emotional connectionWhat high-performing teams can learn from philosophyThe hidden power of backstories and being 'truly heard'Here is a list of studies referenced in the episode:The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness. Arthur Aron, Elaine Aron (1997)Understanding the conversation gap: Why employees aren't talking, and what we can do about it (Braverly), referenced in How to Navigate Difficult Conversations with Employees. Harvard Negotiation Project Rejection Really Hurts, published in Science (Oct 2003). University Of California - Los AngelesDaring Greatly by Brené BrownListen to the full episode with Alain De Botton here: https://pod.fo/e/1f5db0

This week's question was so open-ended that we weren't sure where it was going to take us. It ended up bringing us a delightful conversation about countries we'd love to visit and cities in which we're currently living. What do you still want to know about us?   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question was a fun and easy one! We both feel so fortunate to have built the friendship that we share today, and it was fun to talk about it a bit!   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question seemed pretty quick and easy at first, but then we both got ourselves second-guessing a bit! (Well, Henny was more unsure than Sandy, to be honest.) And at the end of the day, we think we both answered incorrectly! Whoops!   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

There's no magic potion that can make someone adore you. But there are things you can do to promote a deep and enduring connection — and even feelings of passion — between yourself and your partner. In the final chapter of our Relationships 2.0 series, psychologist Arthur Aron shares some techniques for falling and staying in love. In today's conversation, we explore:*The assumption that love fades over time.*The effects of daily routine on romantic relationships.*What our choice in a romantic partners says about us*How successful long-term couples keep love aliveIf you love Hidden Brain, please join us for our upcoming live tour! Shankar will be visiting cities across the U.S., and our listeners have the first crack at purchasing tickets. You can get yours at https://hiddenbrain.org/tour/. Use the pre-sale code BRAIN. We hope to see you there!  

This week's question brought us on a few tangents, but we hope you'll indulge us anyway! We have a good conversation about how realistic it is to “never go to bed angry” and discuss the difference between irritation, annoyance, and anger.   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question gave us lots to talk about but not too much to chuckle about. We had a great conversation about jokes and comedy and when certain jokes may or may not be acceptable! What do you think?   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question was a fun one because it brought us down memory lane. We recall how we met and how we first became fast friends. We were both a bit brave by ourselves, but we're both much braver together.   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

Have you ever had a conversation that made you feel truly seen, understood, and connected?  This week, we're unpacking the art of connection, exploring Arthur Aron's 36 Questions.  References:Harvard Study of Adult Development, 2017Holt-Lunstad, Smith, & Layton, Perspectives on Psychological Science, 2010Mehl et al., Eavesdropping on Happiness, Psychological Science, 2010Aron et al., The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness, Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 1997)Arthur Aron 36 Questions:1.    Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest? 2.    Would you like to be famous? In what way? 3.    Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why? 4.    What would constitute a "perfect" day for you? 5.    When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else? 6.    If you were able to live to the age of 90 & retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want? 7.    Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die? 8.    Name 3 things you and your partner appear to have in common. 9.    For what in your life do you feel most grateful? 10.If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be? 11.Take four minutes & tell your life story. 12.If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any 1 quality or ability, what would it be?13.If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know? 14.Is there something that you've dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven't you done it? 15.What is the greatest accomplishment of your life? 16.What do you value most in a friendship? 17.What is your most treasured memory? 18.“ “ terrible memory?19.If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why? 20.What does friendship mean to you? 21.What roles do love & affection play in your life? 22.Share something you consider a + characteristic of your partner. Share a total of 5 items. 23.How close & warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most people's?24.How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?25.Make 3 true "we" statements each. For instance, "We are both in this room feeling..." 26.Complete this sentence: "I wish I had someone with whom I could share..." 27.If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for them to know. 28.Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest, saying things that you might not say to someone you've just met. 29.Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life. 30.When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself? 31.Tell your partner something that you like about them already. 32.What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?33.If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to speak with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven't you told them yet? 34.Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones & pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any 1 item. What is it? Why? 35.Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why? 36.Share a personal problem & ask your partner's advice. Ask your partner to reflect how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.Let's go, let's get it done. Get more information at: http://projectweightloss.org

This week's question isn't actually a tear-jerker! Don't worry. We do have some good discussion about what makes us cry and how we feel about crying in front of other people.   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question may bring you some second-hand embarrassment as we tell some of our most humiliating (and hilarious) stories. Join us as we chuckle and cringe at some of our past experiences.   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question was surprisingly easy to answer and gave us both a nice surprise. Think about the people in your life who you admire. Is the thing you admire about them something they would expect?   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question gave us some good food for thought. We have a good giggle about a paddle-boarding adventure we went on together years ago. We have some serious chat too. Don't worry!   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question is a pretty straightforward one, but we were unsure as to whether or not we'd have good answers. Don't worry! We both thought of something! Let us know if you'd be interested in being our plus ones for either of our requests!   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question sounds a bit clunky, but it turned out to be fun and easy to answer! In fact, the trickiest part of the question ended up being deciding on which 3 things we would pick. What would you say is true about both of us?   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question brought us everything: clichés, revelations, laughter, and tears. The question had us thinking about past decisions, about our current lives, about our times abroad, about aging, and about - you guessed it - weight.   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question had us strolling down memory lane for a bit. We think it's always interesting to hear about other people's experiences within their families and familial relationships. We hope you like hearing a bit about ours!   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question might be the best one yet. We had so much fun identifying the very best of each other. It was tough to pick only five words! We did stick to 5 words each, but we ran over time a bit. Hope you don't mind!   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

Era il 1997 quando lo psicologo Arthur Aron esce sul New York Times con la lista di 36 domande per innamorarsi. Di cosa si tratta?Oggi abbiamo spolverato un argomento che vi ha incuriositi e c'è chi si è messo in gioco...Ascolta il podcast!

This week's question had us feeling all warm and tingly. We love love, and we loved chatting about how we show love to the people in our lives who are most important to us.   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question isn't a repeat, but it does seem a bit similar to a question we had a few weeks ago. However, we have a completely new and interesting conversation about it. Can your romantic partner be your best friend?   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question got us thinking about change. Change is hard. Change is necessary. Change is ongoing and continuous. And usually, change is good. All that being said, we don't anticipate changes for us in the near future!   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question could have gone to the deep dark depths of despair, but somehow it brought us some laughter too. Wishing you all some light and love even when things are tough.   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question was uplifting for both of us. We had surprisingly similar answers too. If you want to put a smile on your face, you really have to answer this question!   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question got us a bit emotional and then it got us a bit silly. Would you expect anything else from the two of us?   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question was great food for thought! We got to thinking about what it actually means to have accomplished something and whether or not our “great” accomplishments have to be big things.   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question was super fun, and we learned some new things about each other too. Why is it that we put things off when we really want them?   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question was tricky because we both had an answer that we weren't too thrilled about having. Come along with us this week as we discuss our mortality . . . yeah . . . it's a bit deep.   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question was an easy one for us. There are lots of things we'd like to be able to do. Some of which we could do if we put our minds to it, and others . . . are probably not available to us. Too bad!   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question was a fun one, and we even learned some new things about each other! We get to thinking about how we identify ourselves . . . is it by our accomplishments, our careers, our families, our hobbies, or something else?   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

心理學家 Arthur Aron 打造的愛情36問中場休息結束，今天就讓我們完成這趟令人小鹿亂撞的旅途！下半篇的題目更有深度，好比說你認為友誼的意義是什麼？「愛」在你的一生中扮演什麼角色？你和家人是怎麼樣的相處？除了以上比較與自身相關的問題外，也有相對有趣輕鬆的題目像是請我們當場稱讚對方、講出對方的優點和最欣賞他們的地方（也是直男們極少數正經對話的場合

This week's question was nothing we haven't talked about before, but you know us . . . we still had plenty to say! We often reminisce about our childhoods, and we're both pretty fortunate to have had pretty good ones.   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

怕氣氛僵狂冷場的朋友不能錯過這一集，心理學家 Arthur Aron 的愛情36問讓你不怕沒話題！這些不同面向且發人深省的問題除了能讓你更了解彼此之外，回答的過程說不定也會讓你漸漸愛上對方！好比說你會不會渴望成名？你最美好的一天是什麼樣子？打電話前會先彩排要講什麼嗎？Kai 甚至提到他有種神秘第六感知道自己大概何時會離開這個世界…我們也探討了比較深入的話題像是人生最大的成就是什麼？友情裡面最看重哪一個點？最快樂的回憶等等。聽完這集的聽眾，也可以和我們分享有沒有因為這些問題而愛上我們（？

This week's question was an easy one for us both to answer. We're both very fortunate to be living fairly happy and healthy lives right now. We wish you all the same in the days and weeks to come! If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question had us reminiscing and laughing about all the ways we look the same, act similarly, and are guaranteed to have crossed paths years and years ago. If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question got us thinking about some scary things, some peaceful things, and some responsible things. Sometimes the things that are the toughest to talk about are also the most important.   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question is a “would you rather” that is impossible to answer. How could you possibly choose between a young body and a young mind?! We want both . . . does that make us greedy?   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question had us both singing a tune. We think it would be weird if someone didn't sing to themselves on a regular basis, don't you?!   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question was an easy one for us, and our answers should come as no surprise to anyone! Once you listen, you'll have to let us know whose day you'd like to join. ;)   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

This week's question was one to which we already knew each other's answers; however, it still sparked a great convo about why we may or may not practice the things we say ahead of time.   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

Our guest on the podcast today is Charles Duhigg, a Pulitzer Prize-winning investigative journalist and author of The Power of Habit, Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business, and Smarter Faster Better. His writing has won numerous honors, including the National Academies of Sciences, National Journalism, and George Polk awards. Duhigg is a former Los Angeles Times staff writer. In between 2006 and 2017, he was a reporter at The New York Times. He currently writes for The New Yorker magazine and other publications. He graduated from Yale University and earned a Master of Business Administration from Harvard Business School. He is here today to discuss his most recent book, Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection.BackgroundBioThe New Yorker magazineBooksSupercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of ConnectionThe Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and BusinessSmarter Faster Better: The Transformative Power of Real ProductivityOther“The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness: A Procedure and Some Preliminary Findings,” by Arthur Aron, Edward Melinat, Renee J. Bator, Elaine N. Aron, and Robert Darrin Vallone, Sage Journals, April 1997.“Unpacking the 36 Questions That Lead to Love: Why and How They Work,” by Kendra Cherry, verywellmind.com, Feb. 12, 2024.The Harvard Study of Adult Development

This week's question was an easy one for both of us! What do you think?   If you're interested in seeing where the questions we're using come from, google “Arthur Aron's 36 Questions”.

Haben wir jetzt einen Laberpodcast? Um die Pause zu überbrücken öffnen wir uns in dieser Spezialfolge mehr denn je, sprechen über unsere privaten Liebesgeschichten, über Ängste, Kindheitstraumata, Whiskey, Morgensex und andere intime Dinge. LOVIES macht euch bereit für das legendäre Experiment der 36-Fragen-zum-Verlieben (von denen wir aber nur elf Fragen geschafft haben weil wir viel Redebedarf hatten). Was sind 36 Fragen zum Verlieben? Der amerikanische Wissenschaftler Dr. Arthur Aron wollte herausfinden: Können sich zwei fremde Menschen nur anhand von 36 Fragen ineinander verlieben? In seinem 1997 veröffentlichten Bericht "The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness: A Procedure and Some Preliminary Findings" (Die experimentelle Erzeugung zwischenmenschlicher Nähe) beschreibt er, wie Intimität zwischen zwei völlig fremden Personen hergestellt werden kann. Es geht um Selbstoffenbarung, das Einschätzen der Person gegenüber und um Gemeinsamkeiten. Hat Aron wirklich die Formel zum Verlieben gefunden? Wir haben uns in dieser Spezialfolge die ersten 11 Fragen gestellt! Haben wir uns (noch mehr) ineinander verliebt? Du möchtest mehr über unsere Werbepartner erfahren? Hier findest du alle Infos & Rabatte!: https://linktr.ee/truelove_podcast Für mehr folge Content: @true.lovepodcast Hast du die Folge gerne gehört? Dann bewerte unbedingt unseren Podcast und klick auf abonnieren!

The Power of Habit author Charles Duhigg wrote his new book in an attempt to learn how to communicate better. Steve shares how the book helped him understand his own conversational weaknesses. SOURCES:Charles Duhigg, journalist and author. RESOURCES:Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection, by Charles Duhigg (2024)."2023 Word of the Year Is 'Enshittification,'" by the American Dialect Association (2024)."When Someone You Love Is Upset, Ask This One Question," by Jancee Dunn (The New York Times, 2023).Smarter Faster Better: The Secrets of Being Productive in Life and Business, by Charles Duhigg (2016)."The 36 Questions That Lead to Love," by Daniel Jones (The New York Times, 2015).The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business, by Charles Duhigg (2012)."The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness: A Procedure and Some Preliminary Findings," by Arthur Aron, Edward Melinat, Elaine N. Aron, Robert Darrin Vallone, and Renee J. Bator (Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 1997). EXTRAS:"How Can You Get Closer to the People You Care About?" by No Stupid Questions (2023)."How Do You Connect With Someone You Just Met?" by No Stupid Questions (2023)."Can I Ask You a Ridiculously Personal Question?" by Freakonomics Radio (2021)."Amanda & Lily Levitt Share What It's Like to be Steve's Daughters," by People I (Mostly) Admire (2021)."Marina Nitze: 'If You Googled ‘Business Efficiency Consultant,' I Was the Only Result,'" by People I (Mostly) Admire (2021)."How to Be More Productive," by Freakonomics Radio (2016).Frozen, film (2013).

Charles Duhigg shares the simple secret that helps you build powerful connections with anyone. — YOU'LL LEARN — 1) What supercommunicators know that others don't 2) How to ask questions that deepen and enrich relationships 3) How one sentence can dramatically ease workplace conflict Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep937 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT CHARLES — Charles Duhigg is a Pulitzer Prize–winning investigative journalist and the author of The Power of Habit and Smarter Faster Better. A graduate of Harvard Business School and Yale College, he is a winner of the National Academies of Sciences, National Journalism, and George Polk awards. He writes for The New Yorker and other publications, was previously a senior editor at The New York Times, and occasionally hosts the podcast How To!• Book: Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection • Book: The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business • Website: CharlesDuhigg.com • Email: charles@duhigg.com — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Study: “The Experimental Genesis of Interpersonal Closeness: A Procedure and some Preliminary Findings” by Arthur Aron, et al. • Book: A Visit from the Goon Squad by Jennifer Egan • Book: The Varieties of Religious Experience: A Study In Human Nature by William James See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

[Recibe contenido que NO comparto en abierto uniéndote a mi lista de email: https://www.hombrealfa.top/comunidad/ ] *¿Qué aprenderás en este episodio?: 1) ¿Existen las "preguntas para ligar"? 2) Las 36 preguntas de Arthur Aron para enamorar a dos desconocidos. 3) ¿De qué temas hablar con una chica desconocida? 4) Los 20 "enlatados" que puedes "copiar y pegar" en tus interacciones. 5) Valor, romance y conexión: qué tienes que tener en cuenta en tus relaciones. En el Episodio de hoy analizamos las famosas "preguntas para ligar", si realmente funcionan y qué tener en cuenta a la hora de elegir de "qué hablar con una chica". [Recibe contenido que NO comparto en abierto uniéndote a mi lista de email: https://www.hombrealfa.top/comunidad/ ] Además compartiré contigo 20 preguntas enlatadas que puedes usar directamente en tus interacciones para sacar temas de conversación originales y huir de conversaciones aburridas. ¡Suscríbete y dale like si te aporta!

Neurochemically, what is love? How can neuroscience help us maintain long-term relationships? Is heartbreak real? In this episode, we discuss the neuroscience and psychology of: • Why falling in love can feel so stressful • How being infatuated activates the same neurotransmitters as having OCD • What happens to your brain when exciting new romances settle into comfortable decades-long unions We speak to Dr. Anna Machin, renowned author and evolutionary anthropologist at the Department of Experimental Psychology at Oxford University, England, and author of ‘Why We Love', about oxytocin, dopamine, and lesser-discussed hormones like beta-endorphins, whether genetics can heighten our predisposition to desire relationships, and why love (in all forms, not just romantic) is a fundamental human need.  Cardiologist Columbus Batiste, MD joins us for a conversation around love's impact on both the heart and the brain, and what the medical term for heartbreak has to do with octopi! We speak with psychologist Dr. Arthur Aron, esteemed professor of psychology at the State University of New York at Stony Brook, best known for his work on intimacy in interpersonal relationships, and development of the self-expansion model of motivation in close relationships, about the differences between passionate and companionate love, and what his self-expansion model says about why we're motivated to seek out relationships. Dr. Richard S. Schwartz, MD, renowned psychiatrist, author and associate professor at Harvard Medical School and on the faculty of the Boston Psychoanalytic Society and Institute and the Psychodynamic Couple and Family Institute of New England, discusses the neuroscience of distinguishing love from obsession. His work and research focuses on social connection and lasting marriage. With his wife, Jacqueline Olds, MD, he has co-authored three books on these subjects. Plus: we share our own love story — meeting while working on healthcare systems in war-torn Afghanistan — and explore how love can be found in the midst of shared challenges. ‘Your Brain On' is hosted by neuroscientists and public health advocates Ayesha and Dean Sherzai. ‘Your Brain On... Love' • SEASON 1 • EPISODE 1 CONTEST To celebrate the launch of our new podcast, ‘Your Brain On', we're giving away prizes to its earliest listeners — like you! Prizes include memberships to our thriving NEURO Academy community, and bundles, like our Better Brain Cooking Box, Books Bundle, and Better Brain Favorites Box. To enter, all you'll need to do is subscribe to Your Brain On, leave an honest review of the show on Apple Podcasts, and then sign up for the contest at thebraindocs.com/podcast. LINKS Join the NEURO Academy: NEUROacademy.com Instagram: @thebraindocs Website: TheBrainDocs.com More info and episodes: TheBrainDocs.com/Podcast

Ponemos a prueba la ciencia del amor de Arthur Aron, en la que te enamoras de alguien después de hacerle 36 preguntas

Why do we love? What brings us together? How to heal ethnic hatred? According to my guest, the answer to all these questions lies in the human desire to grow ourselves through connecting with others. Arthur Aron is a psychologist who studies human bonding in all its forms. A pioneer in the field, he has studied topics from connecting with strangers to maintaining romance in life-long marriages. And many of his findings are ultimately hopeful. In this conversation, we discuss topics such as: (4:30) Why we love  (12:50) Tools to cultivate love (24:30) Friendships with the ethnic "other”  (31:30) Are we naturally xenophobic? MENTIONS Names: Elaine Aron, Helen Fisher, Stephen Wright Articles: For links to videos, articles, and the 36 Questions, see https://onhumans.substack.com/p/links-for-episode-35 MORE LINKS Read the On Humans newsletter at OnHumans.Substack.com Support On Humans at Patreon.com/OnHumans