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When did you realize you were falling in love? The Modern Love podcast asked listeners this question, and the voice messages came pouring in. Listeners sent in stories that happened over dinner dates, on subway rides, while watching sunsets or at concerts. They described love at first sight, love built over time and much more. Today, we hear some of the most moving and surprising listener messages. Then, the Modern Love editor Daniel Jones discusses how we fall in love, and what the famous “36 Questions That Lead to Love” reveal about that process. And finally, Mandy Len Catron, the writer who popularized the 36 questions in her Modern Love essay, “To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This," tells us whether she's still in love with the same man 10 years later. For more Modern Love, search for the show wherever you get your podcasts. New episodes every Wednesday.   Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

Why are some people able to talk with just about anyone—about almost anything? One answer may lie in the questions we ask—and how deeply we ask them. Stick with us here… In this episode, host Charles Duhigg examines why deep questions are so powerful and how to ask them in everyday life. He talks to Nick Epley, psychology professor at the University of Chicago and lifelong researcher of deep questions. And we catch up with Mandy Len Catron, 10 years after she wrote the viral New York Times article “The 36 Questions That Lead to Love.” This Slate miniseries dives into the art and science of meaningful conversations, inspired by Duhigg's bestselling book, Supercommunicators.  Supercommunicators was produced by Derek John and Sophie Summergrad.  Our technical director is Merritt Jacob.  Joel Meyer is our supervising producer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why are some people able to talk with just about anyone—about almost anything? One answer may lie in the questions we ask—and how deeply we ask them. Stick with us here… In this episode, host Charles Duhigg examines why deep questions are so powerful and how to ask them in everyday life. He talks to Nick Epley, psychology professor at the University of Chicago and lifelong researcher of deep questions. And we catch up with Mandy Len Catron, 10 years after she wrote the viral New York Times article “The 36 Questions That Lead to Love.” This Slate miniseries dives into the art and science of meaningful conversations, inspired by Duhigg's bestselling book, Supercommunicators.  Supercommunicators was produced by Derek John and Sophie Summergrad.  Our technical director is Merritt Jacob.  Joel Meyer is our supervising producer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why are some people able to talk with just about anyone—about almost anything? One answer may lie in the questions we ask—and how deeply we ask them. Stick with us here… In this episode, host Charles Duhigg examines why deep questions are so powerful and how to ask them in everyday life. He talks to Nick Epley, psychology professor at the University of Chicago and lifelong researcher of deep questions. And we catch up with Mandy Len Catron, 10 years after she wrote the viral New York Times article “The 36 Questions That Lead to Love.” This Slate miniseries dives into the art and science of meaningful conversations, inspired by Duhigg's bestselling book, Supercommunicators.  Supercommunicators was produced by Derek John and Sophie Summergrad.  Our technical director is Merritt Jacob.  Joel Meyer is our supervising producer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why are some people able to talk with just about anyone—about almost anything? One answer may lie in the questions we ask—and how deeply we ask them. Stick with us here… In this episode, host Charles Duhigg examines why deep questions are so powerful and how to ask them in everyday life. He talks to Nick Epley, psychology professor at the University of Chicago and lifelong researcher of deep questions. And we catch up with Mandy Len Catron, 10 years after she wrote the viral New York Times article “The 36 Questions That Lead to Love.” This Slate miniseries dives into the art and science of meaningful conversations, inspired by Duhigg's bestselling book, Supercommunicators.  Supercommunicators was produced by Derek John and Sophie Summergrad.  Our technical director is Merritt Jacob.  Joel Meyer is our supervising producer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why are some people able to talk with just about anyone—about almost anything? One answer may lie in the questions we ask—and how deeply we ask them. Stick with us here… In this episode, host Charles Duhigg examines why deep questions are so powerful and how to ask them in everyday life. He talks to Nick Epley, psychology professor at the University of Chicago and lifelong researcher of deep questions. And we catch up with Mandy Len Catron, 10 years after she wrote the viral New York Times article “The 36 Questions That Lead to Love.” This Slate miniseries dives into the art and science of meaningful conversations, inspired by Duhigg's bestselling book, Supercommunicators.  Supercommunicators was produced by Derek John and Sophie Summergrad.  Our technical director is Merritt Jacob.  Joel Meyer is our supervising producer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why are some people able to talk with just about anyone—about almost anything? One answer may lie in the questions we ask—and how deeply we ask them. Stick with us here… In this episode, host Charles Duhigg examines why deep questions are so powerful and how to ask them in everyday life. He talks to Nick Epley, psychology professor at the University of Chicago and lifelong researcher of deep questions. And we catch up with Mandy Len Catron, 10 years after she wrote the viral New York Times article “The 36 Questions That Lead to Love.” This Slate miniseries dives into the art and science of meaningful conversations, inspired by Duhigg's bestselling book, Supercommunicators.  Supercommunicators was produced by Derek John and Sophie Summergrad.  Our technical director is Merritt Jacob.  Joel Meyer is our supervising producer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why are some people able to talk with just about anyone—about almost anything? One answer may lie in the questions we ask—and how deeply we ask them. Stick with us here… In this episode, host Charles Duhigg examines why deep questions are so powerful and how to ask them in everyday life. He talks to Nick Epley, psychology professor at the University of Chicago and lifelong researcher of deep questions. And we catch up with Mandy Len Catron, 10 years after she wrote the viral New York Times article “The 36 Questions That Lead to Love.” This Slate miniseries dives into the art and science of meaningful conversations, inspired by Duhigg's bestselling book, Supercommunicators.  Supercommunicators was produced by Derek John and Sophie Summergrad.  Our technical director is Merritt Jacob.  Joel Meyer is our supervising producer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why are some people able to talk with just about anyone—about almost anything? One answer may lie in the questions we ask—and how deeply we ask them. Stick with us here… In this episode, host Charles Duhigg examines why deep questions are so powerful and how to ask them in everyday life. He talks to Nick Epley, psychology professor at the University of Chicago and lifelong researcher of deep questions. And we catch up with Mandy Len Catron, 10 years after she wrote the viral New York Times article “The 36 Questions That Lead to Love.” This Slate miniseries dives into the art and science of meaningful conversations, inspired by Duhigg's bestselling book, Supercommunicators.  Supercommunicators was produced by Derek John and Sophie Summergrad.  Our technical director is Merritt Jacob.  Joel Meyer is our supervising producer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why are some people able to talk with just about anyone—about almost anything? One answer may lie in the questions we ask—and how deeply we ask them. Stick with us here… In this episode, host Charles Duhigg examines why deep questions are so powerful and how to ask them in everyday life. He talks to Nick Epley, psychology professor at the University of Chicago and lifelong researcher of deep questions. And we catch up with Mandy Len Catron, 10 years after she wrote the viral New York Times article “The 36 Questions That Lead to Love.” This Slate miniseries dives into the art and science of meaningful conversations, inspired by Duhigg's bestselling book, Supercommunicators.  Supercommunicators was produced by Derek John and Sophie Summergrad.  Our technical director is Merritt Jacob.  Joel Meyer is our supervising producer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why are some people able to talk with just about anyone—about almost anything? One answer may lie in the questions we ask—and how deeply we ask them. Stick with us here… In this episode, host Charles Duhigg examines why deep questions are so powerful and how to ask them in everyday life. He talks to Nick Epley, psychology professor at the University of Chicago and lifelong researcher of deep questions. And we catch up with Mandy Len Catron, 10 years after she wrote the viral New York Times article “The 36 Questions That Lead to Love.” This Slate miniseries dives into the art and science of meaningful conversations, inspired by Duhigg's bestselling book, Supercommunicators.  Supercommunicators was produced by Derek John and Sophie Summergrad.  Our technical director is Merritt Jacob.  Joel Meyer is our supervising producer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mandy Len Catron is known for her wildly popular Modern Love essay in the New York Times, “To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This." She popularized the 36 questions that are said to make people fall in love. Mandy's essay inspired her book of the same name. In the book, “To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This," Mandy deconstructs her own personal canon of love stories through a series of candid and vulnerable essays. She dives all the way back to 1944, when her grandparents first met in a coal mining town in Appalachia, to her own dating life as a professor in Vancouver, drawing insights from her research into the universal psychology, biology, history, and literature of love. And she tells the story of how she decided to test a psychology experiment that she'd read about — where the goal was to create intimacy between strangers using a list of thirty-six questions — and ended up in the surreal situation of having millions of people following her brand-new relationship. Originally published in July 2017. Watch this episode at youtube.com/TalksAtGoogle.  

This week, we read How to Fall in Love with Anyone by Mandy Len Catron This memoir from the author of the popular New York Times essay, “To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This,” explores the romantic myths we create and explains how they limit our ability to achieve and sustain intimacy. When her parents divorced after a twenty-eight year marriage and her own ten-year relationship ended, those were the questions that Mandy Len Catron wanted to answer. Bekah joins me on this episode to discuss:  Why Bekah gave this book 2 stars and Jenna gave this book 5 stars… An inside look at Bekah and Jenna's love lives Why Pretty Woman is the ultimate love story Open your book and press play on a podcast episode that will have you either stressed out or hopeful about love.  Mentioned in the Pairings section of the podcast: DRINK: Milkshake with two straws, red wine TV SHOW - New Girl, Normal People BOOK - Wild Geese, Of Love, Traveling Mercies MOVIE -  Pretty Woman, The Last Five Years ***  Once you're done listening, hop onto our Instagram and TikTok @rwreadspodcast to give us your thoughts on the discussion and the book. We look forward to hearing from you!    * Disclaimer * At Red Wine Reads, we want to engage in the stories of people from all kinds of backgrounds and experiences. The value of books lies in the power of storytelling and sharing a range of perspectives. We don't want to just read what we know, we want to read stories that open our worldview. And in turn, that means getting into challenging, rewarding conversations. But we are not experts in any field — literature, race relations, politics, etc .— and we know that our reviews of these books come from a place of privilege. We encourage our community of readers to add to these conversations with their own thoughts, critiques, and questions. We want to open up a safe place for people. That being said, we also realize that getting into race, sexuality, gender, and other difficult topics can be triggering. We aim to include content warnings whenever they are applicable but we are not perfect. So as we continue to do our best, know you have the room to tell us when we can do better and even, if you want to, share resources with us. Let's learn, grow, and have fun together.

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Rachel talks about reaping rewards in her own life before continuing the conversation we began last episode about the advantages and dangers of social media therapy/pop therapy and therapy-speak. She then sits down with a VERY exciting guest, Eri Kardos. Eri is a speaker, relationship coach, and author of “Relationship Agreements”. She and Rachel dive into talking about how to relearn love, emotional potty training, relationship agreements, and more! Episode Notes: Conversation with Eri begins at 00:19:59. Follow Eri: Website: https://www.relearnlove.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coacherikardos/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Eri.Kardos Relearn Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/loveandrelationshipscommunity YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@relearnlovewitherikardos LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erikardos/ FREE Masterclass - “Teammates: The 5 Transformational Shifts For Getting On The Same Team As Your Partner”: https://www.relearnlove.com/teammates Discussed in the episode: Relationship Agreements: A Simple and Effective Guide for Strengthening Communication, Reducing Conflict, and Increasing Intimacy to Design Your Ideal Relationship (2016), by Eri Kardos: https://www.amazon.com/Relationship-Agreements-Strengthening-Communication-Increasing/dp/1540338487 Tristan Taormino: http://tristantaormino.com/ The School of Life: https://www.theschooloflife.com/ The School of Life children’s books on emotional intelligence: https://www.theschooloflife.com/shop/?_product_type=for-children Attachment theory: https://psychcentral.com/health/4-attachment-styles-in-relationships Discussed in the intro: Glamour, “Jonah Hill’s Alleged Texts to Ex-Girlfriend Sarah Brady Have Enraged the Internet”, by Emma Tannenbaum: https://www.glamour.com/story/jonah-hill-sarah-brady-controversy Evie Magazine, “Jonah Hill's Ex-Girlfriend Revenge Leaks Private Information About Another Ex-Boyfriend, Labeling Him A ‘MAGA Communist’”, by Gina Florio: https://www.eviemagazine.com/post/jonah-hills-ex-girlfriend-revenge-leaks-private-information-ex-boyfriend-maga-communist The Guardian, “Are Jonah Hill’s texts really ‘therapy speak’? I asked a therapist” by Daisy Jones: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2023/jul/13/jonah-hill-texts-therapy-speak-therapist-boundaries TED Ideas, “Creating a contract — yes, a contract! — could help you get what you want from your relationship” by Mandy Len Catron: https://ideas.ted.com/creating-a-relationship-contract/ -------- Let’s keep talking! Have a question or idea for a topic? Email winedine69pod@gmail.com! Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers). Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann.

Rachel talks about reaping rewards in her own life before continuing the conversation we began last episode about the advantages and dangers of social media therapy/pop therapy and therapy-speak. She then sits down with a VERY exciting guest, Eri Kardos. Eri is a speaker, relationship coach, and author of “Relationship Agreements”. She and Rachel dive into talking about how to relearn love, emotional potty training, relationship agreements, and more! Episode Notes: Conversation with Eri begins at 00:19:59. Follow Eri: Website: https://www.relearnlove.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coacherikardos/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Eri.Kardos Relearn Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/loveandrelationshipscommunity YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@relearnlovewitherikardos LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erikardos/ FREE Masterclass - “Teammates: The 5 Transformational Shifts For Getting On The Same Team As Your Partner”: https://www.relearnlove.com/teammates Discussed in the episode: Relationship Agreements: A Simple and Effective Guide for Strengthening Communication, Reducing Conflict, and Increasing Intimacy to Design Your Ideal Relationship (2016), by Eri Kardos: https://www.amazon.com/Relationship-Agreements-Strengthening-Communication-Increasing/dp/1540338487 Tristan Taormino: http://tristantaormino.com/ The School of Life: https://www.theschooloflife.com/ The School of Life children’s books on emotional intelligence: https://www.theschooloflife.com/shop/?_product_type=for-children Attachment theory: https://psychcentral.com/health/4-attachment-styles-in-relationships Discussed in the intro: Glamour, “Jonah Hill’s Alleged Texts to Ex-Girlfriend Sarah Brady Have Enraged the Internet”, by Emma Tannenbaum: https://www.glamour.com/story/jonah-hill-sarah-brady-controversy Evie Magazine, “Jonah Hill's Ex-Girlfriend Revenge Leaks Private Information About Another Ex-Boyfriend, Labeling Him A ‘MAGA Communist’”, by Gina Florio: https://www.eviemagazine.com/post/jonah-hills-ex-girlfriend-revenge-leaks-private-information-ex-boyfriend-maga-communist The Guardian, “Are Jonah Hill’s texts really ‘therapy speak’? I asked a therapist” by Daisy Jones: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2023/jul/13/jonah-hill-texts-therapy-speak-therapist-boundaries TED Ideas, “Creating a contract — yes, a contract! — could help you get what you want from your relationship” by Mandy Len Catron: https://ideas.ted.com/creating-a-relationship-contract/ -------- Let’s keep talking! Have a question or idea for a topic? Email winedine69pod@gmail.com! Podcast artwork by Yogesh Nankar (Design by Dreamers). Intro and Outro music by John Bartmann.

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How To Fall In Love with Anyone by Mandy Len Catron . She teaches creative writing at the University of British Columbia and Downtown Eastside Women's Center in Vancouver

When Mandy Len Catron blew up in 2015, people were asking: could someone really have unlocked the key to falling in love? Spoiler alert: not quite...but also maybe.Mandy is perhaps best known as the writer of a New York Times article titled; To Fall In Love With Anyone, Do This. It was one of the most popular features in the New York Times in 2015. She's also authored a popular book, How to Fall in Love with Anyone: A Memoir in Essays.She shares with Antonia what love is, and how to get better at falling in love. She won't take you from single to attached next week, but her scientific approach to love has real life benefits that aren't as impractical as they might sound.It really is a fascinating listen, giving an insight into love and how it works, with wide-reaching implications on the way we live our lives and how we feel about a whole bunch of things - including ourselves. Mandy isn't some weirdo love doctor - she's very real and a lot of fun. Enjoy!Brought to you by: Antonia Prebble & Roar CollectiveHost: Antonia PrebbleProduced by: Antonia Prebble & Roar Collective

When we talk about “falling in love,” we talk about it like it is something that just happens. Suddenly the ground opens up and we are falling for somebody, as if there is no choice in the matter. This is everywhere -- in movies, TV shows, novels, and of course, in opera. Take Wagner's Tristan und Isolde - while Tristan is bringing her across the Irish sea to marry his uncle Marke, King of Cornwall, they both drink a love potion and fall instantly, madly in love with each other. But Isolde is still betrothed to King Marke, who catches them in a passionate night of love, and one of his men stabs Tristan, who later dies from the wound. Standing over his lifeless body, Isolde sings of her love for Tristan in her final climactic aria, the “Liebestod,” as their love triumphs over even death itself. As their love transcends death.Host Rhiannon Giddens and her guests explore forbidden passion, agonizing desire, and what it means to “fall” in love. Soprano Jane Eaglen is known for her portrayals of Wagner's most commanding heroines, including Brünnhilde and Isolde. She actually met her husband during her first-ever production of Tristan und Isolde at Seattle Opera, and she would find his seat in the audience each night and sing to him from the stage. She is on the voice faculty at the New England Conservatory. Alex Ross is the music critic for The New Yorker and author of The Rest is Noise and Listen to This. He spent nearly a decade writing his most recent book, Wagnerism: Art and Politics in the Shadow of Music, which explores Wagner's wide and complicated influence on art and politics. When he first heard Wagner's music, he thought it was “messy, unsteady, and confusing,” but Tristan und Isolde was the opera that changed his mind. Mandy Len Catron has been studying and writing about romantic love for ten years. She wrote the essay, “To Fall In Love With Anyone, Do This,” for The New York Times “Modern Love” column about how she and a friend fell in love by answering 36 questions and staring into each other's eyes--almost like a modern-day love potion. The essay went viral shortly after its publication in 2015. She has also written the book How To Fall in Love With Anyone: A Memoir In Essays. To spice things up, she's currently working on a book about loneliness.

Wilson is missing! So, naturally, Junyip and Danny decide to find out more about each other by asking each other the 36 Questions That Lead to Love by Mandy Len Catron. Cozy up with the boys, as they ask each other intimate/uncomfortable questions!2:57 What would constitute your perfect day?16:36 If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?19:17 Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.23:02 What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?26:20 For what in your life do you feel most grateful?30:17 What is your most treasured memory?37:43 If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?42:35 What is your most terrible memory?48:50  Alternate sharing a positive characteristic 53:30 Crazy Hinge date tangent60:32 If a crystal ball could tell you about your life, what would you want to know?65:11 If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for them to know.67:06 Make three true “we” statements each. 72:57 What is the impact the pod had on you?76:25 When did you last cried?85:21 What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?@moreboredhouse on Instagram. Support us at patreon.com/boredhouse  Visit us at www.bored.house Support the show@moreboredhouse on Instagram. Support us at patreon.com/boredhouse Visit us at www.bored.house

Today we get back to some of my favorite kinds of writing exercises, a prompt style from Natalie Goldberg, where you have your prompt and you write from it, but as you lose the thread of a thought or want to push yourself deeper into your thoughts, you repeat the prompt and write again, and again and again. The focus of the writing today is all hovering around themes of love and relationships it feels like. That's what comes from writing after going on a walk with a friend who's a dating coach! Today's song: "For Now" by Kina Grannis - https://open.spotify.com/track/0c99BUd87HQfzgUUQqRyds?si=fdd9aa14461e431c Other links: Kimberley Healey, dating coach: https://www.instagram.com/hijomitmoi/ "A better way to talk about love" TED Talk by Mandy Len Catron: https://youtu.be/zMWYQRKuc5M A talk about Sula by Toni Morrison from The Carter G. Woodson Institute for African American and African Studies: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vzw61BfnE6M Happy writing! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/justwriteforintroverts/support

What is it that makes people fall in love? It's one of the greatest mysteries of being human. I walked into the bookstore here in Colorado and stumbled upon Mandy Len Catron's memoir, How to Fall In Love with Anyone by Asking Them 36 Questions, and I couldn't help but wonder if these questions really could make you fall in love with anyone. My roommate, Matt, and his girlfriend at the time, Laura, volunteered to ask each other these questions to find out if this might just lead to a deeper connection and take us closer to solving the mystery of love.Sound design and Mix Engineering by Josh BallardFeaturing former guests of the Unmistakable Creative podcast Megan Poe, Susan Piver, Bob Goff and Jennifer Taitz A special thanks to my roommate, Matthew T. Cooke, and Laura Foster, for agreeing to be our guinea pigs.Listener TribeWe have our own private social network for listeners of the Unmistakable Creative podcast. You can meet other listeners, discuss episodes, and engage with the creative community! Just visit https://the-unmistakable-creative-podcast.mn.co/ to sign up. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Mandy Len Catron wrote an essay titled, "To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This," where she refers to a study done by psychologist Arthur Aron which examines the possibility of intimacy being expedited between two random strangers who ask one another a series of personal questions. From that study arose 36 questions that are broken down into 3 sets, each set more personal and intimate than the previous. In this week's episode, we explore these 36 questions and the topic of deep conversations and their importance. Tune in to listen to which questions we chose to ask each other at the end, and how we responded. You can find the questions at https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/09/style/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html

Inspired by Mandy Len Catron's Modern Love essay “To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This” and Arthur Aron's theories on intimacy, we explore three sets of questions that blooms intimacy through mutual vulnerability and honesty. In this episode, we invite you to a shared moment of full vulnerability between two close friends, as we explore topics on parental influence, death, accomplishments in life, and many more! We understand that allowing oneself to be vulnerable with another person can be exceedingly difficult. We hope that our shared moment will promote comfort and understanding on how this process can be liberating and empowering, for not only the relationship, but also yourself. ______________________ Find us at: Anchor.fm: https://anchor.fm/dmc-with-a-friend Instagram: www.instagram.com/dmcwithafriend/ Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dmc-with-a-friend/id1549482629 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3duoPwbslegHBJ14EVeTQw

You might remember Mandy Len Catron from her hit Modern Love essay about going through 36 questions to fall in love. You might have even tried those questions yourself. Catron's book is called How to Fall in Love With Anyone, and Vice's Rachel Wilkerson Miller spoke with her about it.

What if we looked at the way we talk about love? Could that possibly clue us into a better way to experience relationships and even heartache? In this Tedtalk, Mandy illuminates how our words shape and frame our ideas of love and relationships.  Life Coaching Homework Tip: Reflect on your past relationships. Write down words you've used to describe being in love and going through heartache. Notice common themes that pop up! Next, write down a list of words that you hope to have more experience with. Then put those words into practice. Interested in 1:1 Coaching? Reach out to me at cherianderson.com to set up a discovery call.  Visit www.patreon.com/unbreakmyheart to support and invest in the show.  For more info on Mandy, check out her site https://www.mandylencatron.com/about/

In episode 18 Amber and Danny continue to use the New York Times Article, "The 36 Questions that lead to love" by Daniel Jones to discuss getting to know you questions. This article is based on Mandy Len Catron's essay "To fall in love anyone, do this" where she discusses a study by psychologist Arthur Aron and his associates which notes that intimacy can be accelerated by a specific series of questions. Amber and Danny break down the 36 questions continuing with part 3 here. See if true love really comes after just 36 questions. New York Times article: https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/09/style/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html?smid=fb-nytimes&smtyp=cur&fbclid=IwAR3nLFUleVc34bj6shIjXtCWG_U5wgKrxm8upEcEcqYIXsaJv4m42IzyjRM

In episode 17 Amber and Danny continue to use the New York Times Article, "The 36 Questions that lead to love" by Daniel Jones to discuss getting to know you questions. This article is based on Mandy Len Catron's essay "To fall in love anyone, do this" where she discusses a study by psychologist Arthur Aron and his associates which notes that intimacy can be accelerated by a specific series of questions. Amber and Danny break down the 36 questions continuing with part 2 here. See if they fall in love all over again in section 2! New York Times article: https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/09/style/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html?smid=fb-nytimes&smtyp=cur&fbclid=IwAR3nLFUleVc34bj6shIjXtCWG_U5wgKrxm8upEcEcqYIXsaJv4m42IzyjRM

In episode 16 Amber and Danny use the New York Times Article, "The 36 Questions that lead to love" by Daniel Jones to discuss getting to know you questions. This article is based on Mandy Len Catron's essay "To fall in love anyone, do this" where she discusses a study by psychologist Arthur Aron and his associates which notes that intimacy can be accelerated by a specific series of questions. Amber and Danny break down the 36 episodes, beginning with part 1 here. New York Times article: https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/09/style/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html?smid=fb-nytimes&smtyp=cur&fbclid=IwAR3nLFUleVc34bj6shIjXtCWG_U5wgKrxm8upEcEcqYIXsaJv4m42IzyjRM

What is it that makes people fall in love? It's one of the greatest mysteries of being human. I walked into the bookstore here in Colorado and stumbled upon Mandy Len Catron's memoir, How to Fall In Love with Anyone by Asking Them 36 Questions, and I couldn't help but wonder if these questions really could make you fall in love with anyone. My roommate, Matt, and his now girlfriend, Laura, volunteered to ask each other these questions to find out if this might just lead to a deeper connection and take us closer to solving the mystery of love.Sound design and Engineering by Josh BallardFeatured former guests from the Unmistakable Creative podcast include Megan Poe, Susan Piver, Bob Goff and Jennifer Taitz A special thanks to my roommate, Matthew T. Cooke, and his girlfriend, Laura Foster, for agreeing to be our guinea pigs. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Credits:Record Club is a Kelly&Kelly production. It is produced by Chris Kelly, Max Collins, and Jodie Camilleri. Special thanks this week to Cam Burke.It is recorded on the unceded territories of the Squamish, Musqueam and Tsleil-Waututh nations.Record Club was created and produced by Lizzy Karp + Ken Tsui and recorded at a Here There  event. Special thanks to the following generous souls for sharing their stories:Featured in the podcast:Mandy Len Catron, Sonja Larsen, Joni McKervey, Jordan Kawchuk.Live show performers: Kevin Kokoska, Gillian Damborg, Shawn Conner, Melly Kage, Valerie Sing Turner.

In this episode, we discuss the first question in Dr. Arthur Aron's list of 36 questions to fall in love, made famous by Mandy Len Catron of Modern Love's viral New York Times article. The question, “given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?” leads us to a poignant discussion, followed by a kooky debate about the use of the word dungarees!

If you're running out of things to do at home — or if you just need a break from stress and worry — we have a suggestion. Listen to this week's episode featuring Gillian Jacobs and Mandy Len Catron, and then try the 36 questions that (may) lead to love. You can find the 36 questions here: https://nyti.ms/2SFbICi

Hvad er en perfekt dag for dig? Hvad er dit bedste minde? Og hvis der gik ild i dit hus eller din lejlighed, og du havde fået din familie og kæledyr i sikkerhed, men du så kunne redde en ting fra dit hjem, hvad skulle det så være? Ifølge en artikel fra New York times så burde den her type af spørgsmål gøre at du på en date bliv forelsket i vedkommende stiller de her spørgsmål. Sådan fremgår det i hvert fald i en New York Times artikel fra 2015. Artiklen hedder "To Fall In Love With Anyone, Do This" og er skrevet af Mandy Len Catron. Er det click bait eller kan man gøre nogen forelsket ved at stille nogle specifikke spørgsmål? Daniel Cesar taler med Charlotte Meister, som er psykoterapeut.

This week, we go through the second half of the 36 Questions That Lead To Love from the New York Times. From the article:In Mandy Len Catron’s Modern Love essay, “To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This,” she refers to a study by the psychologist Arthur Aron (and others) that explores whether intimacy between two strangers can be accelerated by having them ask each other a specific series of personal questions. The 36 questions in the study are broken up into three sets, with each set intended to be more probing than the previous one.Obviously, we're married, but we thought these questions were really interesting and created some really great conversations. We encourage you to go through these questions with us and your significant other. You can access the article here.The wine we drank this week was a Chardonnay from Camp in Sonoma. Super tasty, smooth, not too oaky/buttery. If you're in Grand Rapids or Brooklyn, NY you can pick this bad boy up at Leon & Son. Love Happily Opinionated? Share us with a friend. The best way for us to keep doing what we do is if more people can find us and we need your help. Thank you, friends.Follow Us and React:InstagramTwitterFacebookWhat's your opinion on today's episode? We'd love to hear your thoughts - some we may even read during our next show. Drop us a note at hottake@happilyopinionated.com.You can also email us directly at:adam@happilyopinionated.combeth@happilyopinionated.com

This week, we go through the half of the 36 Questions That Lead To Love from the New York Times. From the article:In Mandy Len Catron’s Modern Love essay, “To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This,” she refers to a study by the psychologist Arthur Aron (and others) that explores whether intimacy between two strangers can be accelerated by having them ask each other a specific series of personal questions. The 36 questions in the study are broken up into three sets, with each set intended to be more probing than the previous one.Obviously, we're married, but we thought these questions were really interesting and created some really great conversations. We encourage you to go through these questions with us and your significant other. You can access the article here.Some of the questions we talked through are:If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?The wine we drank today was a Blauer Zweigelt from Brunn. One of our favorite wines that we keep stocked in our home at all times, this wine is fruity, decadent, and is packed with flavor. Best news: It's under $15.Love Happily Opinionated? Share us with a friend. The best way for us to keep doing what we do is if more people can find us and we need your help. Thank you, friends.Follow Us and React:InstagramTwitterFacebookWhat's your opinion on today's episode? We'd love to hear your thoughts - some we may even read during our next show. Drop us a note at hottake@happilyopinionated.com.You can also email us directly at:adam@happilyopinionated.combeth@happilyopinionated.com

We went back into the archives for an oldie but greatie! Join Mica as she chats with love experts Mandy Len Catron and Carrie Jenkins about love sweet love. Together, they answer questions from listeners about prioritizing (or not prioritizing) romantic love, how love and violence are linked through language, divorce, and relationship contracts that have nothing to do with marriage! Also please enjoy Mica's opening monologue, in which she roasts her former self and divulges details of her romantic past.

First Draft Episode #227: Courtenay Hameister Courtenay Hameister, debut author of memoir Okay Fine Whatever: The Year I Went From Being Afraid of Everything to Only Being Afraid of Most Things, and former host, co-producer and head writer of Live Wire Radio. Links and Topics Mentioned In This Episode Books by Beverly Cleary (author of Ramona Quimby, Age 8, Beezus and Ramona, and The Mouse and the Motorcycle) and and Judy Blume (author of Are You There, God? It’s Me, Margaret, Forever, and Tales of a Fourth Grade Nothing) and The Crystal Cave series by Mary Stewart were some of Courtenay’s favorites growing up Create More, Fear Less is an organization in Portland Courtenay volunteers with that works with anxious kids While Courtenay went to New York University, she had the chance to work with legendary comedy group The State. The State — made up of Kevin Allison, Michael Ian Black, Robert Ben Garant, Todd Holoubek, Michael Patrick Jann, Kerri Kenney-Silver, Thomas Lennon, Joe Lo Truglio, Ken Marino, Michael Showalter, and David Wain — was formed in 1998 and had a self-titled comedy sketch show on MTV from 1992-1995. You can learn more about the history of the group in The Union of the State by Corey Stulce. Members of The State went on to create Reno 911, which is coming back! “The 7,000 Dollar Pyramid,” is one of The State’s sketches that Courtenay remembers Robert Ben Garant writing Writing Movies For Fun and Profit: How We Made a Billion Dollars at the Box Office, and You Can, Too! by former State members and co-writers Thomas Lennon and Robert Ben Garant The Joan Didion quote Courtenay paraphrases is, “I don't know what I think until I write it down.” Some of Courtenay’s favorite guests from her many years of hosting Live Wire include: comedian, storyteller, director and actor Mike Birbiglia, who is best known for Sleepwalk With Me, which was also a comedy special and a New York Times bestselling book, Sleepwalk with Me and Other Painfully True Stories, and his new comedy special, The New One is also going to be a book, coming out in May 20202, The New One: Painfully True Stories from a Reluctant Dad; Carrie Brownstein, guitarist with Sleater-Kinney (who have a new CD in 2019, The Center Won’t Hold), co-creator and writer of TV show Portlandia, and author of memoir Hunger Makes Me a Modern Girl; director Todd Haynes (who has directed Velvet Goldmine, Far From Heaven, and this year’s Dark Waters; Cheryl Strayed, author of Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life From Dear Sugar and memoir Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail; and David Rakoff, humorist and author of Fraud: Essays, Don't Get Too Comfortable: The Indignities of Coach Class, The Torments of Low Thread Count, The Never- Ending Quest for Artisanal Olive Oil, and Other First World Problems Courtenay’s friend Daniel H. Wilson wrote Robopocalypse: A Novel (which was optioned by Steven Spielberg, but after some delays has now been thrown over to Michael Bay) was the one who introduced Courtenay to his agent, Laurie Fox, who is an author in her own right, of The Lost Girls: A Novel and My Sister From the Black Lagoon: A Novel of My Life. Jean Garnett at Little, Brown was Courtenay’s editor Courtenay super recommends Sleepwalking with Einstein by Joshua Foer (and, oh my god, would you look at that, he also has a TED talk!) The Oprah and James Frey controversy which exploded over his memoir, A Million Little Pieces, is an inevitable reference point for a conversation about what “truth” means in the memoir category Courtenay’s recommendation for David Carr’s memoir, Night of the Gun: A Reporter Investigates the Darkest Story of His Life. His Own, was so persuasive that I bought the audiobook that night! I admit to being a complete comedy nerd, and having recently mightily enjoyed John Hodgman’s collection of personal essays, Medallion Status: True Stories From Secret Rooms. Jennifer Pastiloff (author of On Being Human: A Memoir of Waking Up, Living Real, and Listening Hard) and Lidia Yuknavitch (author of memoir The Chronology of Water and Verge: Stories, out Feb. 4, 2020!) teach a class called “Writing and the Body” that incorporates yoga and writing to enrich personal stories. Humor writer Steve Almond, author of Bad Stories: What Just Happened to Our Country? and William Stoner and the Battle For the Inner Life: Bookmarked. Writers Samantha Irby (author of We Are Never Meeting in Real Life: Essays, Meaty: Essays and omg she has a new one coming out this year, Wow, No Thank You!) and Jenny Lawson, aka The Blogess (author of Let’s Pretend This Never Happened: A Mostly True Memoir and Furiously Happy: A Funny Book About Horrible Things), were bloggers before they had books, and they indicate the kind of conversational writing style that Courtenay tends to naturally align with in her writing Elizabeth Gilbert’s 2009 TED Talk, “Your Elusive Creative Genius” Dan Harris, author of 10% Happier Revised Edition: How I Tamed the Voice in My Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing My Edge, and Found Self-Help That Actually Works--A True Story, and Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics: A 10% Happier How-to Book Susan Cain, author of Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking and her TED talk on the subject of introverts Courtenay admires Michael Ian Black’s evolution as a writer. Especially significant to her was his honesty in the memoir Navel Gazing: True Stories of Bodies, Mostly Mine (But Also My Mom’s, Which I Know Sounds Weird). His newest book, A Better Man, tackles toxic masculinity in the form of letters to his son as he goes off to college. I have always dreamt of being able to link to an article about Jeff Bezos’s dick pics (just kidding but here we go): this incident was wild - The National Enquirer allegedly tried to blackmail Jeff Bezos, threatening to release intimate pictures of him unless he paid up. Instead, Bezos released the pics himself and told them to screw off. It was wild. It was great. That incident calls to mind So You’ve Been Publicly Shamed by Jon Ronson “To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This,” the Modern Love essay by Mandy Len Catron, references Dr. Arthur Aron’s study, which included 36 questions to generate intimacy. (And hey, look at that, Mandy has TED talks about love stories, too!) I want to hear from you! Have a question about writing or creativity for Sarah Enni or her guests to answer? To leave a voicemail, call (818) 533-1998. Subscribe To First Draft with Sarah Enni Every Tuesday, I speak to storytellers like Veronica Roth, author of Divergent; Linda Holmes, author and host of NPR’s Pop Culture Happy Hour podcast; Jonny Sun, internet superstar, illustrator of Lin-Manuel Miranda’s Gmorning, Gnight! and author and illustrator of Everyone’s an Aliebn When Ur a Aliebn Too;  Michael Dante  DiMartino, co-creator of Avatar: The Last Airbender; John August, screenwriter of Big Fish, Charlie’s Angels, and Charlie and the Chocolate Factory; or Rhett Miller, musician and frontman for The Old 97s. Together, we take deep dives on their careers and creative works. Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, or wherever you get your podcasts. It’s free!   Rate, Review, and Recommend How do you like the show? 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We've reached a barking point in American history. (Yeah, I'm sorry for that one.) A few years ago, for the first time ever, the number of dogs in this country surpassed the number of children under eighteen. According to Statista, there are 90 million dogs in America today, up from just 68 million in 2000. And a higher percentage of American households own dogs than ever before. By contrast, there are just over 73 million children. That still sounds like a lot, but as a percentage of the population, children have never been rarer. In 1960, for instance, over one-in-three Americans were under the age of eighteen. According to government projections, by 2050, children will make up less than a quarter of the population. As you'd expect, this drop in birth rates corresponds to a drop in marriages. What you might not expect is that it also corresponds to a drop in happiness. The General Social Survey in 2018 found that Americans today are more miserable than they've been in decades. And replacing family with dogs isn't reversing the trend. Of course, what we increasingly hear today, in print and on television and movies, is that what will make us happy is the freedom that can come only from singleness and childlessness. Writing in The Atlantic recently, Mandy Len Catron bemoaned all of the things “You Lose When You Gain a Spouse.” According to her, family life is isolating and unfair to outsiders, because spouses give most of their attention to each other and to their kids. When people get married, she writes, they retreat into “socially neglectful cocoons.” London School of Economics professor Paul Dolan goes even further in his book, “Happily Ever After.” He says the only reason married people report being happier on average than singles is that they're lying to save face. The book was corrected, by the way, when this claim turned out to be unsupportable. In reality, the statistics are clear: Married people really are happier than those who are unmarried—by an average of ten percentage points. But is that because marriage makes people happy, or because happy people are more likely to get married? A new paper by the Institute for Family Studies offers a surprising answer. Instead of looking at the effect of family itself, author James McQuivey decided to look at the effect of the desire for family. He asked over a thousand men and women how much they value having an emotionally intimate relationship, sexual faithfulness, and children. He then combined these answers into a single measure, which we might call a desire for a traditional, nuclear family. He discovered that scoring higher on this measure predicted greater happiness and overall life satisfaction—regardless of whether or not the respondent was actually married or had kids! It's one of those results that makes you do a double take. After all, you'd expect people who want a family life and haven't found it to be dissatisfied. But on average, they're not. As McQuivey says, “[i]f you merely have the desire to pair bond and procreate, you are already happier than average...” Act on that desire, he adds, and your happiness jumps, while your life satisfaction (a separate metric) “practically leaps off the chart.” In other words, contrary to the thesis that getting married and having kids dooms you to misery, committing to a family is one of the most effective means ever created to train people to care for others. And a cornerstone of psychology is that other-centeredness brings human beings happiness. Look, dogs are great and all, but we were made for communion with other people. The family bond is so central to our design that merely pursuing it leads to greater happiness. For a society like ours, one in the midst of family and happiness shortages, the solution is obvious, but it won't be found at the dog park.  

We think of love as a mysterious, unknowable force. Something that happens to us. But what if we could control it? This hour, TED speakers on whether we can decide to fall in — and out of — love. Guests include writer Mandy Len Catron, biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, musician Dessa, One Love CEO Katie Hood, and psychologist Guy Winch.

Joey & Amanda re-ask each other the 36 questions they once answered 4 years ago as they began to fall in love. These questions have been carefully crafted by many psychologists that were exploring whether falling in love can be accelerated. Joey and Amanda are using these questions from Mandy Len Catron's Modern Love essay, "To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This." Music by Jahzzar Our GDPR privacy policy was updated on August 8, 2022. Visit acast.com/privacy for more information.

L'actualité culturelle à New York avec Emmanuel Kattan. Élisabeth Vallet a lu pour nous Dignity. Seeking Respect in Back Row America, de Chris Arnade. Littérature jeunesse avec Catherine Trudeau et Monique Polak. Analyse de l'arrêt de principe sur la question du discours haineux avec Rachel Chagnon. Marie-Claude Beaucage et Olivier Arbour Masse ont testé pour nous Comment tomber amoureux d'un inconnu: en 36 questions (et 4 minutes de silence), de Mandy Len Catron. Raphaëlle Delorme et Pierre Craig ont lu pour nous Facfullness, pourquoi le monde va mieux que vous ne le pensez, de Hans Rosling.

Summary:   "Deeply ordinary." We continue our celebration of bride month by tackling the 1999 rom-com Runaway Bride, discuss the possibilities of rebranding velcro and discover that we may actually love the work of director Garry Marshall.   Show notes: Runaway Bride trailer   Films directed by Gary Marshall   26 Years Ago, Julia Roberts Was Literally A 'Runaway Bride' (Throwbacks)   Recommendations:   Lisa: Chernobyl (HBO), The Chernobyl Podcast   Andrea: How To Fall In Love With Anyone by Mandy Len Catron  (book)     Music credits:    "Flutterbee" by Podington Bear From Free Music Archive CC BY 3.0   Theme song "Pyro Flow" by Kevin Macleod From Incompetch CC BY 3.0 Intro bed:"OLPC" by Marco Raaphorst Courtesy of Free Music Archive CC BY-SA 3.0 NL Pop This! Links: Pop This! on TumblrPop This! on iTunes (please consider reviewing and rating us!) Pop This! on Stitcher (please consider reviewing and rating us!) Pop This! on Google PlayPop This! on TuneIn radioPop This! on TwitterPop This! on Instagram Logo design by Samantha Smith Pop This! is two women talking about pop culture. Lisa Christiansen is a broadcaster, journalist and longtime metal head. Andrea Warner is a music critic, author and former horoscopes columnist. Press play and come hang out with your two new best friends. Pop This! podcast is produced by Andrea Gin and recorded at the Vancouver Public Library's wonderful Inspiration Lab.  

本期是Sparkle的第六期，主播仍然是熟悉的四人局，话题主要关于感情和家庭，从“是否和爱的人结婚”这个问题延展开。我们首先讨论了对理想伴侣的期待和如何维护感情以及婚姻，主要结论是双方应该都是独立的人，并一起去创造、培养和实践这个关系，共同面对困难，不应该是依赖、占有的自私的心态。之后对一些感情和婚姻中的实际问题进行了探讨，比如双方家庭背景、处理婆媳关系；结婚以及未来的人生计划；是否要小孩以及教育问题；出轨以及性的讨论。 本期节目中你可以听到： 关于理想伴侣的讨论 是否与爱的人结婚：发现对方的缺点越来越多、结婚过早or被迫结婚 爱情和结婚的双标/悖论；婚姻和爱情的关系的讨论 关于对爱的实践、培养，伴侣双方共同的努力和实践，重视、维护关系中正面的事情，弗洛姆《爱的艺术》 共同的爱好、兴趣，共同面对现实问题的同时保持自身的独立性 当爱情转变成亲情 尊重对方而非是自私的占有、依赖，“巨婴”的心态 国外留学生的情感依赖，陌生环境下的“相依为命” 遇到困境时向他人寻求情感支持的必要性 如何判断是否喜欢一个人 TED演讲：把爱情当作艺术品去合作和创造 双方家庭背景差距太大怎么办 如何处理婆媳关系、赡养老人等现实问题 未来规划中有没有考虑过另一半；结婚的计划 关于是否要小孩的现实问题的讨论，如教育 大龄未婚焦虑 对婚姻和亲密关系的期待 如何处理婚内出轨的讨论；忠诚 关于性的讨论，以及另一半性冷淡或不能满足性需求，会怎么做？ 主播： 子霆、纪元、陈铎、小波老师 参考资料： 《爱的艺术》，弗洛姆 公开课：哈佛积极心理学 TED演讲：A better way to talk about love, by Mandy Len Catron 《巨婴国》，武志红

There’s a widespread assumption that we are all are better off in relationships, that you can and must find your soul mate, and that true love conquers all. Mandy Len Catron has been aware of the power of love stories, ever since her childhood in rural Appalachia in the American south. As the daughter of a cheerleader and a football coach, her family stories read like the perfect American Dream. But when the reality of life fell short of these idealised, and highly feminised, notions, Mandy turned to science to explore what other narratives might be available. From her research came a blockbuster essay in the New York Times, and then a book,  How To Fall in Love With Anyone. Mandy continues to write and think about how the powerful narratives from our childhoods and our culture can be flipped into something infinitely more interesting. This episode of It's a Long Story is hosted by Edwina Throsby Show notes Mandy Len Catron at Sydney Opera House Mandy's New York Times Modern Love column Arthur Aron's 36 Questions to fall in love Elizabeth Brake on Amatanormativity  

Whether you want to create rapport with a new staff member, employee or student, this is a must listen episode for you! Get ready for deep dive into the topic of love, vulnerability, consent in the age of the “me too” movement and learning the practice of truly seeing one another. My guest plunges into the story of how it took just 36 questions to fall in love with her now-husband and how the experience illuminates simple effective ways to create platonic rapport within schools amongst staff, parents, and students. Hope you enjoy this fun conversation. You can find her on twitter, facebook and Instagram by searching Mandy Len Catron or on her website mandylencatron.com Originally from Appalachian Virginia, Mandy Len Catron now lives in Vancouver, British Columbia. Her writing has appeared in the New York Times, the Washington Post, The Rumpus, and The Walrus, as well as literary journals and anthologies. She writes about love and love stories at The Love Story Project, and she teaches English and creative writing at the University of British Columbia. Her article “To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This” was one of the most popular articles published by the New York Times in 2015. How to Fall in Love with Anyone: A Memoir in Essays is her first book. It was recently long-listed for the 2018 RBC Charles Taylor Prize. For more information visit my website smallactbigimpact.com and search for episode #22.

Mandy Len Catron's 2015 article for the New York Times Modern Love Column 'To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This' examined whether there is scientific reasoning behind romantic connection. Her consequent memoir, How To Fall In Love With Anyone, used the article as a springboard to discuss intimacy, chemistry, vulnerability and cultural myths about relationships. She joined Clementine Ford at All About Women 2018 to unpack the science of attraction.  See more from All About Women 2018 on Youtube.

Today we dive deep into the romantic adventure sub-genre with "Romancing the Stone." Also discussed: Norm Macdonald, Nailed It and Are We Not Cats?   Show notes:   Norm Macdonald on Twitter   How I Finally Made Twitter Tolerable by Sarah Hagi   Romancing the Stone trailer   The Best Romantic Adventure Movies of All Time   Romancing the Stone Soundtrack Main Theme    Pop This! Valentine's Day with Mandy Len Catron    Diane Thomas, screenwriter for Romancing the Stone   The Michael Douglas kiss on Romancing the Stone     Recommendations:   Lisa Christiansen: Are We Not Cats?   Andrea Warner: Nailed It (Netflix)   Music credits:     "Good Times" by Podington Bear From Free Music Archive CC BY-NC 3.0   Theme song "Pyro Flow" by Kevin Macleod From Incompetch CC BY 3.0 Intro bed:"OLPC" by Marco Raaphorst From Free Music Archive CC BY-SA 3.0 NL Pop This! Links: Pop This! on TumblrPop This! on iTunes (please consider reviewing and rating us!) Pop This! on Stitcher (please consider reviewing and rating us!) Pop This! on Google PlayPop This! on TuneIn radioPop This! on TwitterPop This! on Instagram Logo design by Samantha Smith Pop This! is two women talking about pop culture. Lisa Christiansen is a broadcaster, journalist and longtime metal head. Andrea Warner is a music critic, author and former horoscopes columnist. Press play and come hang out with your two new best friends. Pop This! podcast is produced by Andrea Gin and recorded at the Vancouver Public Library's Inspiration Lab.

For our Valentine's Day episode, we invited writer Mandy Len Catron on the podcast to talk about her favourite rom-coms, her least-favourite fictional couples, and what it was like to go viral with her NYT article "To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This."   Show notes:   9-1-1 (tv show)   Oliver Stark twitter   Mandy Len Catron   Coal Miner's Daughter   How to Fall in Love with Anyone: A Memoir in Essays   Romancing the Stone trailer     Recommendations:   Lisa Christiansen: Creep 1 and Creep 2 (films)   Andrea Warner: The Good Place (tv show)   Mandy Len Catron: Call Me By Your Name, audiobook version   Music credits: "Flutterbee" by Podington Bear From Free Music Archive CC BY 3.0 Theme song "Pyro Flow" by Kevin Macleod From Incompetch CC BY 3.0 Intro bed:"OLPC" by Marco Raaphorst From Free Music Archive CC BY-SA 3.0 NL Pop This! Links: Pop This! on TumblrPop This! on iTunes (please consider reviewing and rating us!) Pop This! on Stitcher (please consider reviewing and rating us!) Pop This! on Google PlayPop This! on TuneIn radioPop This! on TwitterPop This! on Facebook Logo design by Samantha Smith Pop This! is two women talking about pop culture. Lisa Christiansen is a broadcaster, journalist and longtime metal head. Andrea Warner is a music critic, author and former horoscopes columnist. Press play and come hang out with your two new best friends. Pop This! podcast is produced by Andrea Gin and recorded at the Vancouver Public Library.

My interview today is with Mandy Len Catron, author of How to Fall in Love with Anyone, a memoir in essays, and a professor of English and creative writing at the University of British Columbia. You might be familiar with Mandy's name because she wrote one of the most popular Modern Love columns of all time: "To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This." As her book's title might let on, Mandy studies love—what makes love work? What makes it last? Does it really work the way we see it working in the movies?—so not only is this interview appropriate for Galentine's Day, but also, as Mandy tells me, a lot of the decisions she made in her twenties were because of a relationship she was in. "When I was in my twenties, and I was trying to figure out how to be a person in the world, I had this idea that if I attached myself to other interesting people, then suddenly I would become interesting, and I could count somehow," she says. "My primary way to do that was through my romantic relationship. If I could go back and do it differently, I would invest more seriously in my own interests. I wish I had just said, 'F*** it, I'm going to be a writer,' and writing is a legitimate way to spend my time." Mandy and I discuss struggling with the belief that the only path to writing legitimacy is getting an MFA...and the downside to starting an MFA program when you're 22: You might not have as much life experience as your older cohorts. Actually, make that the downside of your twenties in full: no life experience, zero patience, and, as Mandy says, "I was constantly waiting for my life to start." Mandy also talks about jobs she held while writing (competitive barista-ing to interning at National Geographic Kids), the best thing she did for her writing career (pushing through the fear of sharing unpolished work via a blog), and what Day 1 of Writing a Book looks like (a lot like Day 10). I asked Mandy if, in the years she spent shaping her book manuscript, she ever felt like giving up—and she remembers a time when she, well, did. Mandy went to a retreat where Cheryl Strayed was speaking, and asked the famous memoirist if she had any advice for someone who was writing and just felt grossed out by her own voice. Mandy's fix was to take a year off, and in that time, she read a book by Queen Rebecca Solnit, The Faraway Nearby, that gave her an idea on how to structure her own. What she ended up publishing didn't follow that structure, but it moved the needle. This episode was produced by Erin McKinstry. Our music, from Blue Dot Sessions, is called The Zeppelin. This interview was recorded with the help of Skype. Logo by Theresa Berens of Boss Dotty.

In Love Me True, 27 creative nonfiction writers and 20 poets explore how marriage and committed relationships have challenged, shaped, supported and changed them. Contributions come from recognizable names like Mandy Len Catron (How to Fall in Love with Anyone) and award-winners like Michael Crummey and Evelyn Lau. This new anthology releases on February 8th just in time for Valentine's Day and how better to dig deep into our understanding of love than through literature? On Wednesday, February 14th, from 7:30 PM to 9:30 PM at Vancouver Public Library, Central Branch (350 West Georgia St, Alice McKay Room), the Vancouver Writers Fest launches the book as part of their Incite program. Editors Fiona Tinwei Lam and Jane Hamilton Silcott will be joined by contributors Mandy Len Catron and Kevin Chong (The Plague) to discuss the book, take questions, and sign copies. Books will be available for sale and all are welcome. Guest: Fiona Tinwei Lam - Editor Guest: Jane Silcott - Editor

Yogiraj Wendy Newton and I talk about the nature of love and how to find it! Jenny Bloom and I start today's episode. I ask Jenny to share her experience after I gave her a personal mantra – just like you can if you subscribe at Patreon at the Mantra level. (You should subscribe at any level!) Then, Wendy and I have a deep conversation about finding and staying in love. We discuss the book Yoga of the Nine Emotions, by Peter Marchand, where he talks about love and beauty, or shingara in Sanskrit. I also mention Mandy Len Catron's article and book about how to fall in love with anyone. Please rate the podcast to help spread the word! There are instructions here.

In love, we fall. We're struck, we're crushed, we swoon. We burn with passion. Love makes us crazy and makes us sick. Our hearts ache, and then they break. Talking about love in this way fundamentally shapes how we experience it, says writer Mandy Len Catron. In this talk for anyone who's ever felt crazy in love, Catron highlights a different metaphor for love that may help us find more joy -- and less suffering -- in it. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode 2: "Love", featuring writers and UBC professors Mandy Len Catron and Carrie Jenkins.

Helen Zaltzman has a way with words, which is why we're putting her to work solving one of the trickiest parts of online dating—composing your opening messages. Some lines can break the ice, while others just throw more ice into the void. We'll suggest a few ideas that just might work for you. Helen is the host of the The Allusionist podcast, and we especially adore her episode about online dating profiles. Plus, Mandy Len Catron helps us become better matchmakers. She's the author of the book How to Fall in Love with Anyone. Wanna Be Set Up on a Blind Skype Date? You don't even need to wear pants! Just fill out this Google form to be considered in our pool of singles or visit our website: whyohwhyradio.com. Live in Chicago Nov 2nd! Join us for a live taping at Chicago Theater Works on Thursday, November 2nd, including an old-fashioned dating game with Chicago’s most eligible bachelors and bachelorettes. Our live show will be part of The Fest, curated by Third Coast International Audio Festival, a spectacular two-week lineup of live podcasts in Chicago this November, in venues across the city. Tickets here or at thefestchicago.com. Our sponsors for this episode are ThirdLove, Winc, and Trackr. Go to thirdlove,com/WHY, winc.com/WHY or thetrackr.com/WHY for special offers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How does love actually work? Is it really possible to fall in love with anyone? Today we're going into a powerful interview about love!  In today's interview with Mandy Len Catron, we are going to explore love on a really profound level. Mandy's written a book, which is a beautiful tale as well as a process that she managed to unearth, where you really can fall in love with anyone. Mandy has thirty-six questions in her process, that can be used to foster compassion, understanding, and connection with literally anyone. All of us can really use this powerful tool, in this day and age, to help us to connect with those we feel hatred or anger either from or towards. Alex really encourages you to listen in very carefully and with an open heart, as  Mandy talks about the book she wrote in 2015, which became a New York Times Modern Love Piece.  It's called How To Fall In Love With Anyone and it went insanely viral, being one of the most shared articles in The Times, that year.  In our current times, we really need to learn how to connect with the people who are different from us or the ones that we don't know much about. That is, ultimately, what will save us. Listen in now! You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/154

Episode Twenty Two Show Notes Author Spotlight with Shuly Xóchitl Cawood The Going and Goodbye: A Memoir Shuly’s blog can be found here: http://www.shulycawood.com/blog-1/ About the book and how to purchase it: http://www.shulycawood.com/memoir/ – Also Mentioned – The poem “The Writer” by Richard Wilbur Mary Oliver is one of Shuly’s favorite poets. She suggests her poem “Thirst.” Shuly also recommends the poet Ada Limón and her book Bright Dead Things. Shuly is currently reading Mandy Len Catron’s book How to Fall in Love with Anyone: A Memoir in Essays.

L. Gordon Flake of Univ of Western Australia discusses the trouble in Asia. Newspaper companies take on Facebook and Google with Cleveland State's Chris Sagers. Martin Reimann at Univ of AZ on trust and distrust. Apple Seed stories with Sam Payne of BYUradio. Diogo Verissimo of John Hopkins Univ says we should save the ugly animals, too. Love stories are not good for us says Mandy Len Catron.

If you can fall in love with anyone, how do you choose well? Mandy Len Catron offers an answer. She's the author of the book How to Fall in Love with Anyone. She also wrote the Modern Love essay "To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This" for The New York Times, which was one of the top 5 stories the paper ran in 2015. You can try “The 36 Questions That Lead to Love” by downloading this free New York Times app to your phone, tablet or other device. Our sponsors for this episode are NatureBox and Lola (code: WHY). Go to naturebox.com/WHY or mylola.com and use the promo code for special offers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mandy Len Catron joins the show to discuss her memoir of "How to Fall In Love With Anyone."

Today's episode is brought to you by: coincidence. It's how I met both of these great writers. Last year, I covered Bob Brody's essay panel at the American Society of Journalists and Authors for The Writer Magazine. His book Playing Catch with Strangers came out on Father's Day this June on Heliotrope Books. This year, I interviewed Mandy Len Catron for my book proposal on Modern Love essays. Her new book How to Fall in With Anyone comes out on June 27 on Simon and Schuster. Listen below or subscribe on iTunes.

You can now subscribe to the Wooist youtube channel for more content by clicking: In 2015, Mandy Len Catron's Modern Love essay, “To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This,” which she refers to the study by the psychologist Arthur Aron explored how 2 strangers could quicken their connection with 36 personal questions. I wanted to put two people together who didn't know anything about each other and I tested to see if they would all in love after I asked them these 36 questions. Today we have Mike And Lin. Here are the questions: Set I 1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest? 2. Would you like to be famous? In what way? 3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why? 4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you? 5. When did you last sing to yourself? Or to someone else? 6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want? 7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die? 8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common. 9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful? 10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be? 11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible. 12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be? Set II 13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know? 14. Is there something that you've dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven't you done it? 15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life? 16. What do you value most in a friendship? 17. What is your most treasured memory? 18. What is your most terrible memory? 19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why? 20. What does friendship mean to you? 21. What roles do love and affection play in your life? 22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items. 23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people's? 24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother? Set III 25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling ... “ 26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ... “ 27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know. 28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you've just met. 29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life. 30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself? 31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already. 32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about? 33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven't you told them yet? 34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/patrickwu/message

怎样在最短的时间内让两个陌生人产生爱情二十多年前，心理学家Arthur Aron成功地让两个陌生人在他的实验室里相爱了。去年夏天，我将他的方法运用到了自己的生活中。正是因为这样，我才会在午夜站在一座桥上，凝视一个男人的眼睛，整整四分钟。容我解释。当晚早些时候，那个男人说：“我猜想，在具备一些共性的基础上，你可以爱上任何一个人。如果真是这样，你怎样选择爱上某个人呢？”他是我在大学里认识的人。我时不时会在室内攀岩室碰见他，也曾想“我们要是在一起，会怎样？”我在Instagram上小窥过他的日常生活，但这是我们第一次单独出来玩。“其实，心理学家们尝试过让人们相爱，”我回想起了Aron博士的研究，因此说道。”挺有意思的。我一直想试试。“ 第一次读到这个研究时，我正经历分手。每次我想要离开，感性都战胜理性。我觉得自己停滞不前。因此，就像一名优秀的学者，我转而投靠科学，希望有一种更聪明地去爱的方法。我向我这位大学熟人解释了这个研究。一对异性恋男女从两个不同的门进入实验室。他们面对面坐着，并回答一系列私密程度逐渐提高的问题。然后，他们静静地凝视对方的眼睛四分钟。最令人感到好奇的细节是：六个月后，两名被试结婚了。他们请了整个实验室的人去参加了他们的婚礼。“那咱们试试，”他说。我承认我们的实验已经不符合研究的几点。第一，我们是在一个酒吧里，不是在一个实验室里。第二，我们不是陌生人。不仅如此，我现在意识到，如果某人对浪漫爱情的发生并不怀有开放的态度，此人不会建议也不会同意尝试一个旨在创造爱情的实验。我谷歌了Aron博士设置的问题，有36道。我们花了接下来的两个小时，把iPhone传来传去，一交一替地问每个问题。开始的问题很无害：“你想要当名人吗？什么样的名人？”还有“你上回给自己唱歌是什么时候？给别人唱歌是什么时候？”但问题马上就变得深入了。在回答“说出三个你和你的搭档似乎有的相同之处”这个问题时，他看着我说，“我觉得我们都对对方有意思。”在他又列了另外两个我马上就忘了的共通点时，我边笑边喝了一大口啤酒。我们交换了最近一次我们俩各自哭时的故事，也坦白了我们想向算命师傅请教的一件事。我们解释了我们和我们各自母亲间的关系。这些问题让我想到了那个讲烂了的温水煮蛙的实验。实验中，青蛙意识到水变热时已经太晚了。对于我们，因为所暴露的弱点的程度是逐渐增加，所以直到我们已经进入了私密的领域时，我才有所察觉。这个过程，通常要花上几周或几个月。我喜欢通过我自己的答案了解自我，但我更喜欢了解关于他的事情。在我们稍事休息去卫生间时，我们刚来时空荡的酒吧已经坐满了人。我独自一人坐在我们的桌边，一小时以来第一次意识到我周遭的环境，并且疑惑有没有人在听我们的对话。如果他们在听，我是没有注意到。并且我也没有注意到人潮散去，夜渐深深。我们都有一套好讲给生人和熟人的对自身的叙述，但是Aron博士的问题令人不可能依赖于那一套叙述。我们的对话是一种加速度的亲密行为。我对这种行为的记忆源自儿时的夏令营，和新朋友熬一整晚，交换我们短暂人生的所有细节。13岁时，第一次离开家，快速了解某人显得自然。但是成人生活很少赋予我们这样的环境。我感到最不舒服的时刻并不是当我需要坦白关于我自己的事情的时候，而是勇敢地提供对于我搭档的看法的时候。比如，“轮流分享你认为你的搭档所拥有的积极的性格特点，一共说五点”（22题），还有”告诉你的搭档你喜欢他们什么；这次，诚实地说出你可能不会给一个刚认识的人说的事情“ （28题）。Aron博士的研究主要集中在创造人与人之间的亲密感。确切地讲，有几个课题是探究我们如何将他人和我们对自身的认知一体化的方法。我们能很容易地意识到这些问题是如何鼓励人们做到他们所说的“自我延展”。 说一些类似于“我喜欢你的声音，喜欢你对啤酒的喜好，喜欢你的朋友们仿佛都很欣赏你”的话，会令属于一方的某些优秀的特点明确成为对另一方有价值的内容。听到某人欣赏你什么，真的，很令人惊喜。我不知道为什么人们不常常衷心地去互相夸奖。我们在午夜时回答了所有的问题，花的时间远比原来做研究时的90分钟要长。环视酒吧，我觉得自己仿佛大梦初醒。“这没那么糟糕，”我说。“绝对比凝视对方双眼好受多了。”他犹豫了犹豫，问：“你觉得我们也应该那么做吗？”“在这儿？”我环视了一下酒吧。这感觉有点太怪了，太公开。“我们可以站在桥上，”他转向窗口说道。那晚天气暖和，而且我一点也不困。我们走到了桥的最高处，然后转身面向对方。我设秒表时紧张地摆弄着我的手机。“OK，” 我边大口吸气边说"OK，" 他微笑着说道。我曾在陡坡上滑雪而下，也曾被短短的一条绳子挂在岩壁上，但是安静地凝视某个人的眼睛四分钟是我人生中最激动也最吓人的体验之一。我花了前几分钟仅仅试着恰当地呼吸。还有很多紧张的微笑，直到最终，我们习惯了这样的状态。我知道眼睛是心灵的窗口那些有的没的，但是那个时刻真正的关键不仅仅是我真的在看某人，而是我在看的人也在看我。当我接受了这个想法的吓人之处，并花时间平复下来，我达到了一个意料之外的境界。我感到勇敢，也进入了一种疑惑的状态。一部分疑惑是关于我自身的弱点，一部分则是一种奇怪的疑惑，类似于你一遍又一遍地说一个词，直到它丧失了含义，继而变成了它的本质：多种声音的一个集合。关于眼睛也是亦然，它不是一个通向什么的窗口，而不过是一丛非常有用的细胞。与眼睛相关的情感不再，而我是被它惊人的生物性现实所打动：眼球的天然的球状，瞳孔的明显的肌肉组织，还有角膜的光滑湿润的镜面。它既奇怪又精致。当秒表响的时候，我吃了一惊——也有一点释然。但是我也有一种怅然若失感。我已然开始透过不真实也不可靠的视角来回顾我们的夜晚了。第一组世界上任何一个人都能选，你会想要选谁来做晚餐客人？你想成为名人吗？什么样的名人？在打电话前你会排练你将要说什么吗？为什么？哪些事会组成你的“完美”的一天？你上一回给自己唱歌是什么时候？你上一回给别人唱歌是什么时候？如果你能够活到90岁并在人生的后60年保留30岁的心智或30岁的身体，你会选择哪一个？你有一个关于你会如何死去的秘密预感吗？说出三个你和你的搭档似乎有的相同之处。你对你人生中的什么最感到感恩？如果你能改变你是如何被抚养长大的，你会改变什么？在四分钟内告诉你的搭档你的人生故事，越多细节越好。如果你能某天早上醒来具有某种品质或能力，那会是什么？第二组如果一个水晶球能够告诉你关于你，你的人生，你的将来的任何事情，你会想要知道什么？有没有一件你很长时间以来都梦想去做的事情？你为什么还没有去做？你人生的最大成就是什么？你在一段友谊中最在乎的是什么？你最珍惜的记忆是什么？你最糟糕的记忆是什么？如果你知道一年内你会突然过世，你会改变任何你现在的生活方式吗？为什么？友谊对你而言意味着什么？爱和感情在你人生中充当着什么样的角色？轮流分享你认为你的搭档所拥有的积极的性格特点，一共说五点。你的家庭有多紧密和温暖？你觉得你的童年生活比别的大多数人的要更开心吗？你如何看待你与你母亲之间的关系？第三组说出三个“我们”相关的正确的陈述。比方说，“我们两个都在这个房间里，都感到......”将这句话补充完整：“我希望我能有一个可以和我分享......的人。”如果你和你的搭档成为亲密的朋友，请分享给她／他很有必要知道的事情。告诉你的搭档你喜欢他们什么；这次，非常诚实地说出你可能不会给一个刚认识的人说的事情。给你的搭档分享一个你的人生中很尴尬的瞬间。你上一回在别人面前哭是什么时候？自己哭是什么时候？告诉你的搭档一件你已经喜欢他们的事。如果有的话，什么事是严肃到不能拿来开玩笑的？如果你今晚就要离世，没有能够和任何人沟通的机会，你会最后悔没有给什么人说什么事？你为什么还没有给他们说呢？你的房子着火了，里面有你拥有的所有东西。在救出了你的爱人和宠物后，你有时间安全地冲进去最后一趟去救任何一件物品。那件物品会是什么？为什么？你全家所有人中，谁的离世会让你感到最烦闷？为什么？分享一个私人的问题并询问你的搭档的建议，看他／她会如何处理这个问题。而且，让你的搭档反映你看上去对你所提出的这个问题是怎么想的。最后，请凝视对方4分钟原文作者：Mandy Len Catron译者：管它如何译文出处：http://select.yeeyan.org/view/465121/439835 

In love, we fall. We're struck, we're crushed, we swoon. We burn with passion. Love makes us crazy and makes us sick. Our hearts ache, and then they break. Talking about love in this way fundamentally shapes how we experience it, says writer Mandy Len Catron. In this talk for anyone who's ever felt crazy in love, Catron highlights a different metaphor for love that may help us find more joy -- and less suffering -- in it.

In love, we fall – wir fallen in Liebe. Wir sind verknallt, hingerissen, blind oder krank vor Liebe. Wir brennen vor Leidenschaft, unsere Herzen schmerzen und brechen. Auf diese Art von Liebe zu sprechen, formt unsere Liebeserfahrungen grundlegend, sagt die Schriftstellerin Mandy Len Catron. In diesem Vortrag stellt sie für alle, die schon mal verrückt nach jemandem waren, eine andere Metapher für die Liebe vor, die uns helfen könnte, mehr Freud und weniger Leid in ihr zu finden.

No amor, nós caímos. Somos atingidos, esmagados, paralisados. Nós ardemos de paixão. Amor nos deixa loucos e doentes. Nossos corações doem, e então se partem. Falar sobre o amor dessa maneira fundamentalmente modela como lidamos com ele, diz a escritora Mandy Len Catron. Nessa palestra para qualquer pessoa que alguma vez já se sentiu louco de amor, Catron destaca uma diferente metáfora para o amor que pode nos ajudar a encontrar mais alegria, e menos sofrimento, nele.

En amour, nous tombons. Nous sommes foudroyés, nous attrapons le béguin, nous défaillissions. Nous brûlons de passion. L'amour nous rend fous et malades. Nos cœurs se languissent et puis se brisent. Parler ainsi d'amour façonne notre expérience, dit l'écrivain Mandy Len Catron. Dans cette présentation adressée à tous ceux qui se sont un jour sentis fous amoureux, Catron met en avant une métaphore différente pour l'amour qui pourrait nous aider à y trouver plus de joie et mois de souffrance.

사랑을 할 때 우리는 빠져듭니다. 부딪히고, 짓밟히고, 정신을 빼앗깁니다. 우리는 열정으로 불타오르죠. 사랑은 우리를 미치게 만들고 아프게 만듭니다. 심장은 아파오고 부서져버립니다. 이러한 방식으로 사랑을 얘기하는 것이 근본적으로 우리의 경험을 결정짓는다고 작가인 맨디 렌 카트론은 말합니다. 사랑에 미쳐보았던 모든 이들을 위한 이번 강연에서 카트론은 사랑에 관한 색다른 비유를 강조합니다. 이 비유는 우리가 사랑 안에서 더 많은 기쁨을 발견하고 덜 고통스럽게 느끼도록 도와줄 수 있습니다.

En el amor, caemos. Nos abruma, nos extasía. Ardemos de pasión. El amor nos vuelve locos y nos enferma. Nuestros corazones duelen y se parten. Hablar de amor de esta manera nos da la guía de cómo vivirlo, dice Mandy Len Catron. En esta charla, para cualquiera que se haya enamorado locamente, Catron refleja una metafora diferente de amar que puede que nos ayude a encontrar la felicidad... y con menos sufrimiento.

Lori talks with Mandy Len Catron, author of one of the most read pieces ever on the New York Times website: "To Fall In Love With Anyone, Do This." The "this" she refers to is a list of 36 questions to ask and answer with a stranger. The questions were first assembled by the psychologist Arthur Aron. Catron studied the questions, and tried them with an acquaintance a year ago. She explains to Lori what's happened to her and her acquaintance since then.