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Send us a textIn this week's episode we join the silly season with the rest of the country.The election date is here, Rowlers' handover is complete and Stuart Young is now the jefe.He done establish dominance with a. cabinet reshuffle like a true top dawg. Somehow we had him down as a softy after seeing him fall off the stage what day but who knew he was a bully in his school days. Lasana Libud put an end to any thoughts of denying the incident so the PR statements and clean ups are rolling in. Who thought that in 2025 we would be referencing The Mirror Newspaper. We get into what bullying entails and his response to the incident.The opposition is in go mode to launch their entire slate and with the resignations flying in we're working on getting a call up.TTFA is also looking for volunteers so we might be coming out of retirement to hold down a number 9 for the Soca Warriors.Enjoy!!!

In case you didn't know, we're still making two episodes a month for our Patreon and Apple Plus subscribers. We wanted to give all of our listeners a little preview of our most recent episode! Consider joining TTFA Premium on Apple to listen to the rest of the episode, get additional bonus episodes, and ad-free episodes! _ In 2022, Prolonged Grief Disorder was added to the DSM-V. A new mental health disorder tied to grief ruffled a lot of feathers, including Nora's. She talked about it on TTFA (including skepticism around this diagnosis) and you all shared your thoughts on this news as well.  This episode is a very cool follow up because we get to learn more about this disorder from one of the doctors who created the diagnosis. Nora interviews Dr. Katherine Shear from Columbia University's Center for Prolonged Grief about the difference between grief and prolonged grief, the treatment plan she and her team developed, and how American culture is still *so* bad at grieving.  Listen to the previous episodes: How Long Should Grief Last? How Long Should Grief Last? Part 2  _ Please send us your questions and comments about this episode or any other! You can email us at ttfapremium@feelingsand.co or leave us a voicemail at 612-568-4441.  — Check us out on YouTube. Find all our shows and more at feelingsand.co

In case you didn't know, we're still making two episodes a month for our Patreon and Apple Plus subscribers. We wanted to give all of our listeners a little preview of our most recent episode! Consider joining our Patreon to listen to the rest of the episode(or watch the episode!), get additional bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. (Or, if you're an Apple Podcast listener, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app!) _ Refamulating, one of our other shows at Feelings and Co, is back today with its second season! To celebrate, we wanted to share one of their episodes from season 1. It's called “Seahorse Dad” and features former TTFA guest Liam Magan (from Liam and the Letters).  When Nora interviewed Liam a few years ago, he shared his experience of coming out as trans and the conflict that caused with his evangelical family. Liam is in a very different place in his life these days, and in this episode of Refamulating he talks about his journey of trying to get pregnant as a trans man.  Listen to the new season of Refamulating now! _ Please send us your questions and comments about this episode or any other! You can email us at ttfapremium@feelingsand.co or leave us a voicemail at 612-568-4441.  — Check us out on YouTube. Find all our shows and more at feelingsand.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In case you didn't know, we're still making two episodes a month for our Patreon and Apple Plus subscribers. We wanted to give all of our listeners a little preview of our most recent episode! Consider joining our Patreon to listen to the rest of the episode(or watch the episode!), get additional bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. (Or, if you're an Apple Podcast listener, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app!) _ Three years ago we published a TTFA episode called ‘Don't You Want Somebody To Take Care Of You?', an interview with Gina Demillo Wagner about her experience growing up in a dysfunctional family and being a caregiver as a child.  Gina's brother Alan had a rare genetic disorder that caused him to veer from loving to violent. His illness put stress on the entire family, including her parents, whose mental illnesses went untreated.  Since that episode, Gina's written a book about this experience called Forces of Nature: A Memoir of Family, Loss and Finding Home. On this episode, Gina and Nora catch up about writing the book, how writing helped her process and how some of the Real Housewives helped give her the courage to cut off contact with some family members. _ Please send us your questions and comments about this episode or any other! You can email us at ttfapremium@feelingsand.co or leave us a voicemail at 612-568-4441.  — Check us out on YouTube. Find all our shows and more at feelingsand.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Subscribe to TTFA Anthologies here. This is an episode about two letters. One of those is the letter Jim left for his wife, Annie, before he died by suicide. The second is the letter Annie wrote to Jim after his death — and as she dealt with her own mental health issues and suicidality in the wake of it. When someone dies by suicide, people want it to be someone's fault, so they can (hopefully) feel less like it's their fault. But the thing is … it's never anyone's fault. _ Terrible, Thanks for Asking tells the real stories of real people who have lived through the terrible things in life. TTFA Anthologies are a curated collection of some of our best stories; released in seasons that focus on a specific topic. You can find our entire episode catalog ad-free on Apple+ or Patreon. – Find Nora's weekly newsletter here! Also, check out Nora on YouTube. _ The Feelings & Co. team is Nora McInerny, Claire McInerny, Marcel Malekebu and Grace Barry. _ Find all our shows and our store at www.feelingsand.co. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Subscribe to TTFA Anthologies here. Terrible, Thanks for Asking tells the real stories of real people who have lived through the terrible things in life. TTFA Anthologies are a curated collection of some of our best stories; released in seasons that focus on a specific topic. You can find our entire episode catalog ad-free on Apple+ or Patreon. – Find Nora's weekly newsletter here! Also, check out Nora on YouTube. _ The Feelings & Co. team is Nora McInerny, Claire McInerny, Marcel Malekebu and Grace Barry. _ Find all our shows and our store at www.feelingsand.co. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nora reads one of the eulogies from the Pet Funeral episode of Terrible, Thanks for Asking Premium.  Check out the TTFA episode about Adrienne and her dog Luke, called Toothless Little Wonders.  _ If you have anxiety, depression or any sense of the world around you, you know that not *everything* is going to be okay. In fact, many things aren't okay and never will be! But instead of falling into the pit of despair, we're bringing you a little OK for your day. Every weekday, we'll bring you one okay thing to help you start, end or endure your day with the opposite of a doom scroll. Created and hosted by Nora McInerny. - Find Nora's weekly newsletter here! Also, check out Nora on YouTube. _ “It's Going To Be OK” is brought to you by The Hartford. The Hartford is a leading insurance provider that connects people and technology for better employee benefits.  Learn more at www.thehartford.com/benefits.  _ Share your OK thing at 612.568.4441 or by emailing a note or voice memo to IGTBO@feelingsand.co. Start your message with “I'm (name) and it's going to be okay.”  _ The IGTBO team is Nora McInerny, Claire McInerny, Marcel Malekebu, Amanda Romani and Grace Barry. _ The transcript for this episode can be found here. Find all our shows and our store at www.feelingsand.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode we have recorded a discussion session which was part of our recent TTFA course. This discussion was hosted by Dean Bland  BA(Hons) DipWCF(Hons) GradDipELR(RVC) Dip.Ed MAFA and the students on this course and was part of one of assignments covered within the course, of which is part of the pathway to becoming a training farrier (ATF) here in the UK. Within this we discuss many topics including Health and Safety, Safeguarding, Legislation, Employment Law and most importantly training. This episode is aimed at potential ATF and trainers, but is important CPD for all existing ATF's currently in the system (free CPD for ATF's, you're  welcome).For those living outside the UK this will give an insight into what it takes to be a trainer in the UK system. Link to FRC ATF info pageFarriers Registration Council : Approved Training Farriers (ATFs) (farrier-reg.gov.uk)Our awesome sponsors:Silverback Chaps – silverbackchaps.comThe Shoeing Lab

Years ago, when Nora was in the worst phase of her life (dead husband, dead dad, lost pregnancy) she heard a lot of people describe her as resilient. Those people meant it as a compliment, but to Nora it didn't feel that way. She was tired, grieving, and lost so much in her life- the “resiliency” people saw was often just…the privilege she had to survive it.  So when Nora got the new book, The Resiliency Myth by Soraya Chemaly, she devoured it. In this episode, Nora and Soraya talk about different ways to think about resiliency and how celebrating it can be a little toxic.  We are still on hiatus! But this episode in the main feed was brought to you by our TTFA Premium subscribers. Since the hiatus, we've been producing two episodes a month for people who support us on Patreon and Apple Premium (join in your Apple podcast app). If you want more TTFA, consider joining us on one of those platforms.  _ Check out Nora on YouTube! __ Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Two years ago Julia Winston was asked to help a gay couple start a family by donating her eggs. At the time, she was 38, single, and had no idea if she'd start her own family. Sometimes that made her feel insecure, so the opportunity to donate her eggs allowed her to help create a family, just not the one she imagined in her head. Since the donation, she's gone through an emotional transformation that opened her eyes to all the different ways a family can look.  Julia is the host of Refamulating, the newest podcast from the Feelings and Co universe. Listen to Refamulating now, wherever you get your podcasts. Follow the show on Instagram.  _ This is our last episode of Terrible Thanks for Asking for a while. If you want to get new episodes of TTFA through August, consider joining our Patreon. (Or, if you're an Apple Podcast listener, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app!) Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — We're lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! Foria: Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting foriawellness.com/TERRIBLE OR use code TERRIBLE at checkout. I recommend trying their new Massage Oil combined with their Awaken Arousal Oil. You'll thank me later. BetterHelp: Learn to make time for what makes you happy, with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/TTFA today to get 10% off your first month. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

As we prepare for our indefinite hiatus, we wanted to remind you that we will still be making TTFA episodes on our Patreon and Apple Premium feeds. If you aren't a premium member, we wanted to show you what kind of episodes we make over there by bringing one of our bonus episodes to the main feed. Recently, we asked listeners to send in obituaries about your dead people, and boy oh boy did you all deliver some gems that made us laugh, cry and reeeeeally want to double fist a Dr. Pepper with a Miller High Life.  In this bonus episode, Nora reads some of her favorites. _ Find Nora's weekly newsletter here. _ We're lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! Foria: Experience your juiciest and deepest sensual experience with a bottle of Foria. FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting foriawellness.com/TERRIBLE OR use code TERRIBLE at checkout. I recommend trying their new Massage Oil combined with their Awaken Arousal Oil. You'll thank me later. BetterHelp: Learn to make time for what makes you happy, with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/TTFA today to get 10% off your first month. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In 2015, Sarah Super was raped by her ex-boyfriend Alex Neal. And she channeled that act of violence into a mission-driven organization that helped survivors of sexual violence feel seen and heard. 9 years after the night that changed her life, Sarah reflects on what it means to move forward with her life and to reclaim her identity as more than a survivor. Sarah was a guest on the first season of our podcast.To hear Sarah's original episode, Unbroken, click here. — Want more TTFA? Become a member of our Patreon!  Patrons get bonus episodes, invites to monthly office hours with Nora, and access to the full back catalog of episodes. Patrons are the only people who get other perks like discounted live event tickets or opportunities to sit in on an editing session for future episodes.  __ Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. __ Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We have a big update about the future of TTFA, and something a lot of you have been asking about since the last episode, where I mentioned *casually* in the credits that we were going to be taking an indefinite hiatus. I wanted to talk more about what that means going forward, and thank all of you for listening and supporting our show.  xo,Nora — You can read the transcript of this update here. — We'll be creating *NEW* episodes on Patreon through August 2024. Consider joining us on Patreon if you want to hear new episodes and access our back catalog.  — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

For years, Nancy could picture her ideal partner. She wanted someone who would make her laugh, who would love her son, and who would make her feel confident and empowered. When she met Noa, he checked all the boxes. Everything she thought other people made up about love suddenly came true. But…this perfect love didn't last forever.  Today we hear from both Nancy and Noa as they perform an autopsy of sorts on their relationship and why it didn't work.  –  Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles.  Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here.                       The episode transcript can be found here. — We're lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! Foria: FORIA is offering a special deal for our listeners. Get 20% off your first order by visiting foriawellness.com/TERRIBLE OR use code TERRIBLE at checkout.  Sundays: Get 40% off your first order of Sundays. Go to sundaysfordogs.com/TERRIBLE or use code TERRIBLE at checkout. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Greetings, loved ones. We're back with one of our time honored Terrible traditions: The Grudge Book. Sit back, get cozy, bring your petties, and enjoy this selection of listener grudges featuring the wisdom of Nora and Marcel.  THEE Bath and Body Works Peach Bellini Rant Video — Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles.  Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on FacebookSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jenni was raised Mormon, and for the first part of her life, was a dutiful follower. She got married young, attended church, and was a loyal wife. But life got messy and complicated for Jenni, and she eventually made a choice that surprised her. A choice considered a sin in her culture, and a pretty hurtful thing to do by the rest of society: she cheated. For the last year, Jenni's been grappling with the shame and guilt of this choice and how parts of her dating history led to this choice.  — Want more TTFA? Become a member of our Patreon!  Patrons get bonus episodes, invites to monthly office hours with Nora, and access to the full back catalog of episodes. Patrons are the only people who get other perks like discounted live event tickets or opportunities to sit in on an editing session for future episodes.  — Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Nora sits down with her friend and fellow podcaster PJ Vogt of Search Engine. They discuss what he found in his own interviews with a drug dealer who used fentanyl in his drug supply. That, plus the original Search Engine episode are included here. If you have not yet listened to this week's TTFA episode, “86 Sundays,” we suggest you go back and listen so you can see why we were inspired to share this Search Engine episode with you. — Original Search Engine episode description: We speak to Luis, a former fentanyl dealer and user who tells us why a dealer might want to put fentanyl in less lethal drugs. Luis also tells us how he learned the rules of dealing, and how the rules changed over his multi-decade career. If you have questions or comments about this episode, or if you'd like to support the show, head to our newsletter: pjvogt.com.  — Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. (Or, if you're an Apple Podcast listener, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app!) Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — We're lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! Indeed: Start hiring NOW with a SEVENTY-FIVE DOLLAR SPONSORED JOB CREDIT to upgrade your job post at Indeed.com/TTFA. Offer good for a limited time. Just go to Indeed.com/TTFA and support the show by saying you heard about it on this podcast. Terms and conditions apply. Need to hire? You need Indeed. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feliz lost her sister, Karina, in a horrifying way — in a way that's quick to draw judgment and condemnation. Feliz has seen the worst of it all, but Karina deserves to be defined by her life, not her death. A warning that this episode includes discussions of drug use and poisoning. Resources: CDC guidelines on how to test drugs for fentanyl  Find fentanyl test strips here DrugsData.org provides a rolling update of what's in illicit drugs by geographical area. The data is sent in by strangers, and you might be able to see what's happening in your city, depending on where you live. The use of NarCan can help prevent an opioid overdose. Check in your local area to find nonprofits that provide training and distribute the medicine. Find how to use NarCan here.  — Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. (Or, if you're an Apple Podcast listener, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app!) Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — We're lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! Indeed: Start hiring NOW with a SEVENTY-FIVE DOLLAR SPONSORED JOB CREDIT to upgrade your job post at Indeed.com/TTFA. Offer good for a limited time. Just go to Indeed.com/TTFA and support the show by saying you heard about it on this podcast. Terms and conditions apply. Need to hire? You need Indeed. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If your holiday season is feeling less sparkly, less warm, less…happy, you've come to the right place! Every year we make an episode about the bad, terrible and subpar side of the holidays and this year's Happyish Holidays episode is a real doozy. Brianna Liestman shares how every Christmas from 2007-2010 was "ruined" by a different member of her family. There's fires, hospital visits and crying at Kay Jewelers.  Listen to past Happyish Holidays episodes in our back catalog on Patreon.  — Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. (Or, if you're an Apple Podcast listener, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app!) Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — Happyish Holidays is sponsored by Option B. Option B provides practical, compassionate, everyday advice both for those who are facing loss and hardship and for those who want to support their loved ones during life's hardest moments. When our friends and family are struggling with loss, it's the absolute WORST. Whether your partner lost a parent, your best friend recently had a miscarriage, or your child is going through a painful divorce, knowing what to do or say over the holidays can leave us feeling helpless and stuck. If you're feeling unsure of how to help, check out OptionB. There for the Holidays at www.optionb.org/holidays. You'll find #realtalk holiday cards to send to your family and friends, stories from celebs about how they've re-created traditions after loss, and tips you can implement right away on how to show up for your loved ones. Join us at www.optionb.org/holidays and @optionb on Instagram and Facebook for holiday tips and to follow along. — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kelly loved her dad, then she lost her dad. Kelly loved her grandpa, then she lost her grandpa. Now that Kelly's a mom herself, she wants to ensure that her son knows he's loved, no matter what comes. — Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. (Or, if you're an Apple Podcast listener, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app!) Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — We're lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! Indeed: Start hiring NOW with a $75 SPONSORED JOB CREDIT to upgrade your job post at Indeed.com/TTFA. Offer good for a limited time. Just go to Indeed.com/TTFA and support the show by saying you heard about it on this podcast. Terms and conditions apply. Need to hire? You need Indeed. Squarespace: Go to Squarespace.com/TTFA and use offer code TTFA to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are some stories so plainly horrifying, some crimes so gut wrenching, that it can be hard to imagine the perpetrator as anything other than a villain. A drunk driving accident that killed 6 people does not sound like the beginning of a redemption story. But this episode isn't about redemption — it's about learning to live alongside an unthinkable mistake. — Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Subscribe within Apple Podcasts for ad-free listening, bonus episodes, and access to our full archive, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app! Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — We're lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! Indeed: Start hiring NOW with a SEVENTY-FIVE DOLLAR SPONSORED JOB CREDIT to upgrade your job post at Indeed.com/TTFA. Offer good for a limited time. Just go to Indeed.com/TTFA and support the show by saying you heard about it on this podcast. Terms and conditions apply. Need to hire? You need Indeed. Squarespace: Go to Squarespace.com/TTFA and use offer code TTFA to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Christina met Thomas as a young adult, their relationship felt different, and right. As time goes on, cracks start to appear in their dynamic, but Christina doesn't give up on the people she loves. But how many cracks does it take before a dam breaks?  — Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. (Or, if you're an Apple Podcast listener, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app!) Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — Nora's new Happyish journal and affirmation deck based on her own journaling practices launches today! We have a special deal for you on these new items:  25% discount for the Em & Friends website. Coupon code: HAPPYISH25. This will only work on the Em & Friends website, not on Amazon. — We're lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! Indeed: Go to indeed.com/TTFA to claim your $75 sponsored job credit to upgrade your job post.  Fordham University: Earn a degree that matters and choose social work. Learn more at fordham.edu/mswjourney. Squarespace: Go to Squarespace.com/TTFA and use offer code TTFA to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Greg was married to his best friend, Anna, for 6 years. He loved and respected her. So the night he told her he was gay was painful because he knew how much he was hurting her. In the ten months since then, Greg has looked hard at his depression and addiction, two things that held him back from admitting his sexuality. This is part 2 of a story about one couple's divorce. Listen to part 1 of this episode, “Everything, All Of You…” If you need support for addiction, check out these resources: Ben's Friends- a support group for people in the food and beverage industry Alcoholics Anonymous SAMHSA- a hotline that can connect you to local treatment facilities, support groups, and community-based organizations. If you are struggling with suicidal thoughts (or love someone who does): Text HOME to 741-741 for a free, confidential conversation with a trained counselor any time of day.  If you feel unsafe right now, text or call 988 or use the chat function at 988lifeline.org If you need help figuring out HOW to tell someone that you're having suicidal thoughts, here are some prompts.  If you suspect someone in your life is having suicidal thoughts, here are some questions you can ask them.  Read the CDC's Suicide Prevention Resource for Action. If you're struggling with depression, know some of the tools that can help lift you out of a hard time.  ___ We're going on tour! Happyish Holidays is a “Terrible, Thanks for Asking “ tradition for everyone who has a complicated relationship with the “most wonderful time of the year.” Our live podcast shows bring together a blend of audio, video, and in-person holiday magic. Games! Jokes! Tragicomic stories of holidays gone wrong! Gifts! Dust off your sequins ... your ugly sweaters ... your cozy socks ... and join us! November 28th | Boston, MA | Wilbur Theatre November 29th | Washington, DC | 9:30 Club November 30th | Philadelphia, PA | World Cafe Live December 1st | Brooklyn, NY | Bell House December 4th| Dallas, TX | Texas Theatre December 5th | Chicago, IL | Park West December 7th | Minneapolis, MN | Parkway Theatre December 8th | Minneapolis, MN | Parkway Theatre- Sold Out!! December 12th | Portland, OR | Aladdin Theatre December 13th | Seattle, WA | Neptune Theatre December 14th | Los Angeles, CA | Lodge Room ___ Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. (Or, if you're an Apple Podcast listener, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app!) Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). The episode transcript can be found here. ___ We're lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! Squarespace:  Fordham University: More than one in five US adults live with a mental illness, and licensed social workers play a crucial role in their empowerment. Fordham's top-ranked Master of Social Work program equips students with the clinical training and skills needed to supply these vital mental health services. Their flexible full-time and part-time options cater to your schedule and interests. Earn a degree that matters and choose social work. Learn more at fordham.edu/mswjourney. Indeed: Start hiring NOW with a $75 SPONSORED JOB CREDIT to upgrade your job post at Indeed.com/TTFA. Offer good for a limited time. Just go to Indeed.com/TTFA and support the show by saying you heard about it on this podcast. Terms and conditions apply. Need to hire? You need Indeed. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Anna was a 24 year-old hostess at a restaurant, she fell in love with the chef in the kitchen. Their relationship, and later marriage was filled with love. But Anna could always feel something was off between her and her husband. One night last December, she found out she was right.  — Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. (Or, if you're an Apple Podcast listener, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app!) Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox).  The episode transcript can be found here. — We're lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! Hatch: Right now, Hatch is offering our listeners $20 off your purchase of a Hatch Restore and free shipping at hatch.co/ttfa.  You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jeremy Norton has been a firefighter for over 20 years, a job that's considered heroic and honorable…a job that sometimes means showing up to a false alarm…and sometimes means soaking up the trauma of the city around you.  Jeremy has been a TTFA listener since day one. His first book — The Trauma Sponges: Dispatches From The Scarred Heart of Emergency Response — is out October 10, 2023.  Link: https://bookshop.org/a/12538/9781517914189 Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. (Or, if you're an Apple Podcast listener, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app!) Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. — We're lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! Liquid IV: Get 20% off when you go to liquidiv.com and use code TTFA at checkout. BetterHelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/ttfa to get started with 10% off your first month. Learn more at BetterHelp.com Squarespace: Go to Squarespace.com/TTFA and use offer code TTFA to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. Hatch: Right now, Hatch is offering our listeners $20 off your purchase of a Hatch Restore and free shipping at hatch.co/ttfa. Sleep deeply and wake gently with the Restore - go to hatch.co/ttfa to get $20 off and free shipping! Bookshop.org: You can save 10% on your next order when you shop at Bookshop.org/TTFA and use code TERRIBLE at checkout. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Claire was a teenager, she held a lot of big, difficult feelings, and for a while, she saw only one solution for them. Though Claire decides to not act on those feelings, her story gets shared anonymously online — and continues to appear when she needs it most. Note: This episode is about suicide. If you are or someone you know is experiencing thoughts of suicide, there are free resources available to you:  Text HOME to 741-741 for a free, confidential conversation with a trained counselor any time of day.  If you feel unsafe right now, text or call 988 or use the chat function at 988lifeline.org If you need help figuring out HOW to tell someone that you're having suicidal thoughts, here are some prompts.  If you suspect someone in your life is having suicidal thoughts, here are some questions you can ask them.  Read the CDC's Suicide Prevention Resource for Action. If you're struggling with depression, know some of the tools that can help lift you out of a hard time.  Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. (Or, if you're an Apple Podcast listener, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app!) Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — We're lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! Liquid IV: Get 20% off when you go to liquidiv.com and use code TTFA at checkout. BetterHelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/ttfa to get started with 10% off your first month. Learn more at BetterHelp.com You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Like many teachers, when Kristen Playter started her career at 22, she was hopeful and excited. She loved working with students with special needs, and loved learning how their brains worked. But over the years, the job became harder and harder because of the lack of support she received. Eventually, all of the small moments of feeling left out to dry led to a falling out with the career she loved.  __ Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining our Patreon to get bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. (Or, if you're an Apple Podcast listener, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app!) Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — We're lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! BetterHelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/ttfa to get started with 10% off your first month. Learn more at BetterHelp.com/privacy. LiquidIV: Get 20% off when you go to liquidiv.com and use code TTFA at checkout. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Anaya and Dave Lee fell in love, they saw a whole future with each other. Part of that future included being parents. But when they started trying, they learned creating a family was going to be much more challenging than they expected. They eventually had to ask the question, if a baby doesn't happen, what would our family look like?   Note: this episode talks about pregnancy loss. ---- Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining our Patreon community to get bonus episodes, talk to other Terribles in our a community, and attend online events with Nora and the team.  If you only want bonus episodes, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in your Apple Podcasts app.  Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — We're lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! BetterHelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/ttfa to get started with 10% off your first month. Learn more at BetterHelp.com. SquareSpace: Go to Squarespace.com/TTFA and use offer code TTFA to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and our store at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Like everyone else in 2020, Grant Khanbalinov downloaded Tik Tok. He wasn't trying to learn dances or find a community- he wanted to learn the platform for his marketing job. To practice using the app, he made videos with his wife and kids. Then a video of his three-year-old daughter went viral, and Grant's account blew up. He gained millions of followers and eventually made hundreds of thousands of dollars from his videos. It all felt like a dream, until…one night he realized there is a dark side to sharing his kids online. You can follow Grant on Tik Tok @heyelliamfamily.  This week's bonus episode on TTFA Premium is an interview with Sarah Adams (@mom.uncharted), an advocate for children's privacy online, and Chris McCarty, a 19-year-old who is working to make policy changes to protect the children of influencers.  Follow our other show, The Terrible Reading Club, to get an upcoming episode featuring Nora and friend of the pod Kate Kennedy, and their conversation around books that explore this idea of "sharenting".  If you want to learn more about sharenting and putting kids on social media, check out these resources:  Surgeon General report on social media's effects on teens YouTubers Myka and James Stauffer shared every step of their adoption process. Until the last via The Cut A Child's Tik Tok Stardom Opens Doors. Then A Gunman Arrives via New York Times. 18-year-old sues her parents for sharing childhood photos — Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining our Patreon community to get bonus episodes, ad-free episodes, and join a community of Terribles. (Or, if you're an Apple Podcast listener, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app to get bonus episodes!) Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — We're lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! BetterHelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/ttfa to get started with 10% off your first month. Learn more at BetterHelp.com. SquareSpace: Go to Squarespace.com/TTFA and use offer code TTFA to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and our MERCH STORE at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are taking a break this summer (not a vacation!) to produce new stories, so we are sharing some of our favorite episodes while we're working. This episode was first broadcast in 2018. Remember, our full episode archive, including the follow up to this episode "About Laura," is always available to TTFA Premium members! Join here — or, if you're an Apple Podcast app listener, you can subscribe right in your app! Couldn't be easier! If you are a Premium subscriber, search "About Laura" or scroll back to June 14th 2022 in your TTFA feed to find the follow-up to this episode! — When Laura gets a call from the hospital telling her that her dad has severe frostbite and could die, Laura is shocked. Not because of the whole frostbite part ... but because her dad is alive. She hasn't seen or talked to him in years and honestly assumed he was long dead. This is a story about what happens when we realize our parents are, in fact, real people — and that real people mess up and make mistakes. — Listener support helps make our independent podcast possible. Consider joining TTFA Premium to get ad-free episodes, bonus content and more.  Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join the club here.  This episode transcript can be found here.  – We're lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! BetterHelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/ttfa to get started with 10% off your first month. Learn more at BetterHelp.com/privacy. Squarespace: Go to Squarespace.com/TTFA and use offer code TTFA to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. LMNT: Visit DrinkLMNT.com/TERRIBLE to get a free sample pack with any purchase. Hiya: Receive 50% off your first order by visiting hiyahealth.com/TERRIBLE. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and shop our merch at feelingsand.co — Follow TTFA online! Instagram | Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nathan always knew he was different growing up. He also knew the LDS church had certain expectations of him: He'd do his mission, find a girl, get married and settle down. Being gay? Not part of that plan. Nathan does everything he can to be straight, including sending himself to "conversion therapy." It, of course, doesn't work. Then ... he starts to uncover his true self. And his true self is beautiful. This episode was originally broadcast in 2018. To hear a recent interview with Nathan, become a TTFA Premium member. Head to Apple Podcasts and sign up for Premium right in our feed. — Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — We're lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! BetterHelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/ttfa to get started with 10% off your first month. Learn more at BetterHelp.com Squarespace: Go to Squarespace.com/TTFA and use offer code TTFA to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and SHOP OUR MERCH at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jamie Hahn was 29 years old when she was murdered by Jonathan Broyhill — the guy who had been the best man in her wedding to her husband, Nation. The intrigue surrounding Jamie's death and her killer's subsequent murder trial created non-stop news fodder ... and the story quickly became about Broyhill — his lies, his deception, his crimes. Nation wanted to tell his and Jamie's story without putting her murderer at the center of it. And in this episode, he does exactly that. — Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining TTFA Premium to get ad-free episodes, bonus content, and more. (Or, if you're an Apple Podcast listener, you can sign up for TTFA Premium right in the app!) Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — We're lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! BetterHelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/ttfa to get started with 10% off your first month. Learn more at BetterHelp.com Squarespace: Go to Squarespace.com/TTFA and use offer code TTFA to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and SHOP OUR MERCH at feelingsand.co. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are taking a break this summer (not a vacation!) to produce new stories, so we are sharing some of our favorite episodes while we're working. This episode was first broadcast in 2018. Remember, our full episode archive is always available to TTFA Premium members! Join here — or, if you're an Apple Podcast app listener, you can subscribe right in your app! Couldn't be easier! — Religion often gives people a sense of belonging. It tells them who's in and sometimes (depending on the faith, or depending on the microcosm of the faith they're raised in) who's out. That's how Patricia grew up — in a faith where leaving your religion meant leaving behind everyone you love. She is a former Jehovah's Witness who left the church when she was in her mid-20s. This episode looks at what's worse: keeping the people you love at a distance, or showing them your true colors and losing them forever. — Listener support helps make our independent podcast possible. Consider joining TTFA Premium to get ad-free episodes, bonus content and more.  Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join the club here.  This episode transcript can be found here.  – We're lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! BetterHelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/ttfa to get started with 10% off your first month. Learn more at BetterHelp.com/privacy. Squarespace: Go to Squarespace.com/TTFA and use offer code TTFA to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. LMNT: Visit DrinkLMNT.com/TERRIBLE to get a free sample pack with any purchase. Hiya: Receive 50% off your first order by visiting hiyahealth.com/TERRIBLE. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find all our shows and shop our merch at feelingsand.co — Follow TTFA online! Instagram | Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are taking a break this summer (not a vacation!) to produce new stories, so we are sharing some of our favorite episodes while we're working. This episode was first broadcast in 2018. Remember, our full episode archive is always available to TTFA Premium members! Join here — or, if you're an Apple Podcast app listener, you can subscribe right in your app! Couldn't be easier! — Charlotte's career is built on theoreticals. As an operating room nurse, she has a protocol for every tragedy — a “then” for every “if.” That all changes one night when, on her way home, Charlotte encounters a teenage girl on the wrong side of a guardrail on an overpass above a highway. Charlotte wasn't this girl's mother, or sister, or best friend. She didn't even know her. But Charlotte was the last person who spoke to the girl before she died. She was THERE. And now, she doesn't know how to get back to the way her life used to be. NOTE: This episode includes discussion and depictions of suicide. — Listener support helps make our independent podcast possible. Consider joining TTFA Premium to get ad-free episodes, bonus content and more.  Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join the club here.  This episode transcript can be found here.  – Shop our Sponsors We're lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! Rothy's: Get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/TERRIBLE. Osea: Head to oseamalibu.com and use code TTFA for 10% off. You can find our full sponsor list here. Find all our shows and shop our merch at feelingsand.co — Follow TTFA online! Instagram | Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are taking a break this summer (not a vacation!) to produce new stories, so we are sharing some of our favorite episodes while we're working. This episode was first broadcast in 2018 and is one of our all-time favorites. The Achilli siblings would like you to know that if there was a Dead Parent Contest (there's not), they would win the gold medal. In 2008, their dad was murdered by a hitman in a dispute over a girlfriend. Four years after their father's killers are tried and convicted, their mom dies after driving her car off a cliff. This is a story about being orphaned as young adults and the family ties that keep siblings together. — Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining TTFA Premium to get ad-free episodes, bonus content, and more. Our TTFA Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. The episode transcript can be found here. — We're lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! Rothy's: Head to oseamalibu.com and use code TTFA for 10% off. Osea: Get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/TERRIBLE. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So many people start off their stories by saying their pain and suffering doesn't compare to what happened to someone else. But this isn't a game of Who Has It Worse, so why do we act like there is some sort of imaginary yardstick for struggling? Today's episode tries to convince you that if you're feeling pain, it's painful- no caveats. We are taking a break this summer to produce new stories, so we are sharing some of our favorite episodes while we're on break. This episode was first broadcast in 2017, the year after we launched the show. This episode transcript can be found here. — Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining TTFA Premium to get ad-free episodes, bonus content, and more. Our TTFA Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join us here. — We're lucky to only work with sponsors and brands we know and love. Using our links and codes saves you money and supports our independent production! Squarespace: Go to Squarespace.com/TTFA and use code TTFA to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. Osea: Head to oseamalibu.com and use code TTFA for 10% off. BetterHelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/ttfa to get started with 10% off your first month. Learn more at BetterHelp.com/privacy. You can find our full sponsor list here. — Find TTFA on social: TTFA on Instagram | TTFA on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Here is a preview of an episode that you can find in its entirety over on TTFA Premium. TTFA Premium is our paid subscription that gives members access to bonus content and regular episodes ad-free and earlier. Your support helps fund our independent production amidst a sea of big media companies. We couldn't do this without you. Subscribe to TTFA Premium at TTFA.org/Premium. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Five years ago, on Mother's Day, Katie was sitting in prison, far from her kids. She couldn't hug them, she couldn't kiss them. It was at that moment she decided she would completely change her life so she could be with them again. But changing her life required a lot of help that didn't exist in prison. Then one day, she opened a book in the prison library and a brochure fell out. It was for a place called Benevolence Farm, and they could help her change her life. If you want to help Benevolence Farm continue helping formerly incarcerated women in North Carolina, you can shop the Farm's products here or make a donation to their programs here. _____________ Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining TTFA Premium to get ad-free episodes, bonus content, and more. Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join the club here. The episode transcript can be found here. Shop Our Sponsors:  Hiya: Receive 50% off your first order by visiting hiyahealth.com/TERRIBLE. Squarespace: Go to Squarespace.com/TTFA and use code TTFA to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. Rothy's  Osea  Our Social Media: TTFA on Instagram TTFA on Facebook Nora on Instagram Nora on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you liked what you heard and you want to hear more, consider supporting our independent production by going to TTFA.org/Premium. As a Premium subscriber, you can hear the rest of this episode, other bonus episodes, and our whole back catalogue ad-free. Thank you for your support! Our new show, It's Going to Be OK, launches on May 1st! Listen to the trailer here and subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts.  Our last leg of the Bad Vibes Only tour is hitting the road in a couple months! Click the links below to snag tickets: Friday, April 28 | Columbus, OH | Lincoln Theater Saturday, April 29 | Indianapolis IN | The Toby Sunday, April 30 | Cincinnati, OH | Woodward Theater Monday, May 1 | Ann Arbor, MI | The Ark Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Courtney Maum is having a midlife crisis. Parenting is taking so much of her time. Her writing career is going well, but that means she's overwhelmed by deadlines and book deals. Her marriage is in a rough patch, and when she starts asking herself “should I have an affair?” and “should I become an alcoholic?” she recognizes she needs a change in her life.  She dreams of finding an escape that brings her back to her childhood passion of being outside for hours, lost in her thoughts. In this episode, we follow Courtney as she tries to find her Secret Garden.  Courtney is an author, her most recent book The Year of the Horses is a memoir about rediscovering herself through her love of horses. Nora recommends her fiction: I Am Having So Much Fun Here Without You and Touch. __ You can read the episode transcript here. Listener support makes our independent podcast possible. Consider joining TTFA Premium to get ad-free episodes, bonus content, and more. Our Substack is a great way to connect with us and other listeners (and get more Terrible in your inbox). Join the club here. — Shop Our Sponsors:  Rothys: Get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/TERRIBLE. Osea: Head to oseamalibu.com and use code TTFA for 10% off. Headspace: Try Headspace FREE for 30 days by going to headspace.com/Nora30Day. Boll and Branch: Get 15% off your first order when you use promo code TTFA at bollandbranch.com. LMNT: Visit DrinkLMNT.com/TERRIBLE to get a free sample pack with any purchase. Foria: Get 20% off your first order by visiting foriawellness.com/TERRIBLE, or use code TERRIBLE at checkout. — Come see TTFA live! We're touring this spring and still have a few dates left:  Friday, April 28 | Columbus, OH | Lincoln Theater Saturday, April 29 | Indianapolis IN | The Toby Sunday, April 30 | Cincinnati, OH | Woodward Theater Monday, May 1 | Ann Arbor, MI | The Ark Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Like many people who identify as women, Nora grew up being inundated by very specific ideas of what it meant to be beautiful. In this TTFA Premium episode preview, she talks with rapper Dessa about their complicated feelings surrounding beauty standards and aging. To get access to the rest of this hour-long conversation and the rest of our bonus episodes, subscribe to TTFA Premium! We're an independent production and your support means the world to us. Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join our mailing list here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter  and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis. We're out on tour! Get your tickets to a live show near you at TTFA.org: Friday, April 28th | Columbus, OH | Lincoln Theater Saturday, April 29th | Indianapolis, IN | The Toby Sunday, April 30th | Cincinnati, OH | Woodward Theater Monday, May 1st | Ann Arbor, MI | The Ark Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Ashley went through puberty, she knew her body. Or at least, she felt like she knew it. As an adult, Ashley undergoes an unexpected and rapid physical change, and she struggles with accepting her new body and all that comes with it. If you love the show, consider supporting us by becoming a TTFA Premium member!  Since 2016, we've been making space for stories that matter. Not just sad stories, but human stories. Life stories.  Since 2022, we've been an independent production in a sea of big fish with big budgets…and we want to keep it this way.  Listener support helps keep us going and growing, bringing the world a show that's free for anyone who needs it, any time.  TTFA is going on tour! This spring, we're traveling the country to tell you terrible (and funny) stories live. We love meeting our listeners, so check out the last few stops on our spring tour.  Friday, April 28 | Columbus, OH | Lincoln Theater Saturday, April 29 | Indianapolis IN | The Toby Sunday, April 30 | Cincinnati, OH | Woodward Theater Monday, May 1 | Ann Arbor, MI | The Ark Follow TTFA online! Instagram Facebook Our website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are a ton of money stories out there. Stories about people who are screwed financially through no fault of their own. People who did everything right and still cannot get a leg up. This episode is not one of those. It's an excavation of a specific kind of debt, and a specific kind of shame. The kind that Jamie Feldman found herself in when she was 33 years old: credit card debt. Resources:  Average credit card debt in the U.S. Information on emotional spending Find Jamie on TikTok and Instagram @RealGirlProject.  If you have a story about credit card debt – or any financial struggle – reach out to us at terrible@feelingsand.co or leave us a voicemail at 612-568-4441. We might use your story in a future TTFA episode or Premium episode.  Support our *newly independent production* by joining TTFA Premium and get ad-free episodes, bonus content, and more. Our Substack subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join our mailing list here. Shop Our Sponsors:  Farmers Dog: Get 50% off your first box of fresh, healthy food at thefarmersdog.com/nora. Headspace: Try Headspace FREE for 30 days by going to Headspace.com/nora30day. We're out on tour! Get your tickets to a live show near you at TTFA.org: Friday, March 31 | Milwaukee, WI | Turner Hall Saturday, April 1st | St. Louis, MO | Delmar Hall Sunday, April 2nd | Lawrence, KS | Liberty Hall Monday, April 3rd | Boulder, CO | Boulder Theatre Friday, April 28th | Columbus, OH | Lincoln Theater Saturday, April 29th | Indianapolis, IN | The Toby Sunday, April 30th | Cincinnati, OH | Woodward Theater Monday, May 1st | Ann Arbor, MI | The Ark Our social media: TTFA on Instagram TTFA on Facebook Nora on Instagram Nora on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In April 2022, Marlin Sill's father died from a head injury caused by a cycling accident. A few weeks later, he embarked on a months-long hike through the Western United States. Throughout last summer, Marlin sent the TTFA team voice memos of himself processing his dad's death while he hiked. In this episode we take you on the trail with Marlin as he grieves, and also throughout the rest of the first year without his dad. Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up. Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join our mailing list here. Read the episode transcript here. Shop Our Sponsors:  Rothy's: Get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/TERRIBLE Vegamour: Visit vegamour.com/Terrible and use code Terrible to save 20% on your first order Squarespace: Visit squarespace.com/TTFA for a free trial and use offer code TTFA to save 10% Find tickets to spring tour cities below or at TTFA.org: Friday, March 3 | Phoenix, AZ | Crescent Ballroom Saturday, March 4 | Austin, TX | Stateside at Paramount Theatre Sunday, March 5 | Atlanta, GA | Variety Playhouse Monday, March 6 | Durham, NC | Motorco Music Hall Friday, March 31 | Milwaukee, WI | Turner Hall Saturday, April 1st | St. Louis, MO | Delmar Hall Sunday, April 2 | Lawrence, KS | Liberty Hall Monday April 3 | Boulder, CO | Boulder Theatre Our social media: TTFA on Instagram TTFA on Facebook Nora on Instagram Nora on Facebook Nora on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A very long time ago (like … honestly maybe a year ago now?) we asked TTFA listeners how their school's gifted and talented programs messed them up (or didn't). In this bonus episode, Nora listens to your voicemail, reads your email, and responds to them. Find tickets to spring tour cities below or at TTFA.org: Friday, March 3 | Phoenix, AZ | Crescent Ballroom Saturday, March 4 | Austin, TX | Stateside at Paramount Theatre Sunday, March 5 | Atlanta, GA | Variety Playhouse Monday, March 6 | Durham, NC | Motorco Music Hall Friday, March 31 | Milwaukee, WI | Turner Hall Saturday, April 1st | St. Louis, MO | Delmar Hall Sunday, April 2 | Lawrence, KS | Liberty Hall Monday April 3 | Boulder, CO | Boulder Theatre Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

TTFA producer Claire McInerny experienced an extreme weather event in 2021, a result of climate change, that left her worried about the future. She started channeling her anxiety about the future of our world into another important question she was asking herself: “Should I have kids?” In this episode, Claire tries to untangle her feelings around what the world will look like in the future with her desire to have a family of her own. SHOP OUR SPONSORS: ROTHY'S: Get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/TERRIBLE THE FARMER'S DOG:Get 50% off your first box at thefarmersdog.com/nora SQUARESPACE: Visit squarespace.com/TTFA for a free trial and use offer code TTFA to save 10% OSEA: Head to oseamalibu.com and use code TTFA for 10% off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Here's a sneak peek of what you'll get when you join us on TTFA Premium. For $7.99 a month, you can support our show AND get ad-free episodes and bonus content. Sign up today at TTFA.org/Premium. When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're back with another Terrible Reading Club episode! Think of it as our book club for truly terrible times. Haven't read the book we're discussing? Good news: In this reading club, that's not a requirement. Today, we're chatting with KC Davis, author of “How to Keep House While Drowning.” KC Davis used to feel terrible about the way her home looked all the time. But does having a clean space have to be a moral issue? ______ Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up. Our Substack subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join here. You can find the episode transcript here. Catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter  and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis. SHOP OUR SPONSORS: OSEA: Head to oseamalibu.com and use code TTFA for 10% off ROTHY'S: Get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/TERRIBLE VEGAMOUR: Visit vegamour.com/Terrible and use code Terrible to save 20% on your first order THE FARMER'S DOG: Get 50% off your first box at thefarmersdog.com/nora SQUARESPACE: Visit squarespace.com/TTFA for a free trial and use offer code TTFA to save 10% Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Team Terrible is going back on the road for the second leg of the Bad Vibes Only live show tour. Where are we going? What does a live show look like? Listen in and let Nora tell you herself! Find tickets to spring tour cities below or at TTFA.org: Friday, March 3 | Phoenix, AZ | Crescent Ballroom Saturday, March 4 | Austin, TX | Stateside at Paramount Theatre Sunday, March 5 | Atlanta, GA | Variety Playhouse Monday, March 6 | Durham, NC | Motorco Music Hall Friday, March 31 | Milwaukee, WI | Turner Hall Saturday, April 1st | St. Louis, MO | Delmar Hall Sunday, April 2 | Lawrence, KS | Liberty Hall Monday April 3 | Boulder, CO | Boulder Theatre Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up. Our email subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join our mailing list here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter  and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nora's dad died in 2014 from pretty much all of the cancers, leaving her mom Margaret without her life partner of almost 50 years ... and leaving Nora without a dad. Does a 40-year-old married woman with four children of her own need a father figure in her life? Nora thinks so! But what does Margaret have to say about dating in your 70s? Support our new independent production (and get bonus content galore!) by joining TTFA Premium. We now offer tiers as low as $4.99 / month. Sign up. Our Substack subscribers get first dibs on ticket sales, new merch, show announcements and more. Join here. You can find the episode transcript here. Catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter  and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis. SHOP OUR SPONSORS: OSEA: Head to oseamalibu.com and use code TTFA for 10% off ROTHY'S: Get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/TERRIBLE VEGAMOUR: Visit vegamour.com/Terrible and use code Terrible to save 20% on your first order THE FARMER'S DOG: Get 50% off your first box at thefarmersdog.com/nora SQUARESPACE: Visit squarespace.com/TTFA for a free trial and use offer code TTFA to save 10% Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices