It's Personal with Pants Optional

Therapist and founder of PsychoSocial Media, Luis Cornejo, talks with us about how we can break out of our survival mode into Thrive Mode - a place of security, empowerment, and alignment. How do we move past the constant worry of needing to feel safe or secure to a space where we can feel empowered, trusting, and living up to our truest selves? Check out PsychoSocial Media: @psychosocial_media // https://psychosocial.media/Check out Pants Optional: @ughpants // pantsoptional.co

We've all experienced the uncertainty, frustration, and confusion that comes from embarking in *love* - but how can we ease our relationship anxiety in order to form healthier attachments and truly learn what we want?  Relationship Anxiety coach, Robyn Michon, talks with Edeliz about how to know when to leave your partner, how to figure what you want, and how empowering it is to stay true to yourself. Check out Robyn: IG @relationshipanxietycoach // https://www.robynmichon.com/Check out Pants Optional: @ughpants // hello@pantsoptional.co 

Did you grow up in a religious household? Have you questioned your beliefs surrounding religion or how you were raised? Edeliz and therapist, Casey Bain discuss religious trauma and the way growing up religious can affect you through adulthood.  Work with Casey: https://unravelingfree.com/ || @unravelingfree Follow Pants Optional: @ughpants // pantsoptional.co 

So excited to jump back into the podcast with Tashonta Fairman, Founder of Big Sisters Club! Tash and Edeliz talk about growing up as independent eldest daughters, how they've learned to trust themselves and follow that independence, and some of the guilt that comes along the way. Check out Pants Optional - @ughpants // hello@pantsoptional.coStay in Touch with Big Sisters ClubInstagram - @bigsistersclub_Website -  www.bigsistersclub.comEmail List - Join Our CommunityTwitter - @bigsistersclub_Facebook - Big Sisters Club

Throughout our journey of growth, we've had to learn how to be patient, kind, and gentle with ourselves, much like an older sister would be. Annabelle Dura, who started the community "Letters to my Little Sisters" is on the podcast today to talk with us about self-discovery, healing, mentorship and how to find our inner big sister. Check out Annabelle: @annabelledura // letterstomylittlesisters.com Follow PO: @ughpants // pantsoptional.co 

Yes, another episode about existential dread, get into it. In our 20's we may go through the QLC (quarter life crisis) where we start questioning everything, wonder if there's something wrong with us, and mostly sit and contemplate a lot. Quarter Life Crisis Coach, Hannah Allsop, talks with us about how we can get through the QLC, why our 20's are so exhausting, and how truly knowing who you are is going to be your biggest asset. Check out Hannah Allsop: @hannah.allsop.coach // hannahallsop.com Check out PO: @ughpants // pantsoptional.co Send us a love letter: hello@pantsoptional.co

For this week's episode we talk to Alyssa Galloway, founder and CEO of Binded App - a mobile app creating space for BIWOC. Alyssa and Edeliz talk about the importance of cultivating community, having a safe space to go when we feel most isolated, and how we can learn to find our voice and advocate for ourselves in all situations. Binded App coming soon! - Follow Binded App on IG: @binded.app Pants Optional IG: @ughpants // pantsoptional.co Donate: patreon.com/pantsoptional

How awkward was the sex talk in middle school? We want to throw it back this episode like it's 2004 and you're sitting cross-legged on the floor and the teacher rolls in the TV to show you a health video. Shelly Crossland, co-host of Vulnerable Views, joins us on today's episode to discuss sexual health, learning to embrace your sexuality, and how becoming comfortable in our own bodies is a journey. Follow Shelly on IG / Tik Tok: @shamelesslyshellyFollow PO on IG: @ughpants / pantsoptional.co Say hi: hello@pantsoptional.com

Why does it take so much work to say what we're really thinking and feel what we really feel? Shelly and Faria, from the podcast "Vulnerable Views" tell us about what lead to them to the journey of vulnerability, how we can learn to open up about uncomfortable topics, and why it's important to be vulnerable with yourself. Check out Vulnerable Views on IG: @vulnerableviews / wherever you get podcasts Pants Optional IG: @ughpants // pantsoptional.co 

wow hey look at us on an episode roll! For this week's episode, PhD student Yesenia Zetino who studies immigrant mental health, helps us understand why we struggle to set boundaries with our parents as we get older, why it makes us feel so guilty to say no, and how making ourselves a priority will always be better in the long run. Though this episode is specifically about immigrant families, it can be applied to all of us who struggle with setting boundaries in our families. Check out Yesenia on IG: @yeseniagetsaphdFollow Pants Optional on IG: @ughpants / pantsoptional.co / Email us: hello@pantsoptional.co

This episode is electric! Are you living your life fully and purposefully? What are the stories you're telling yourself that are holding you back? This week, Natalie Williams is on the podcast talking with Edeliz about changing your narrative, creating your reality, and living life intentionally. Find Natalie on Social Media: @natalieinthewild Natalie's podcast: Tell Me Everything // wherever you find podcasts Pants Optional IG : @ughpants // pantsoptional.co Send us a love letter -> hello@pantsoptional.co

Wow hey, mid-March already! For this week's episode, Edeliz talks with filmmaker Chinwe Okorie about what it's like to carve a path for yourself in an industry that is constantly testing you. What Chinwe's ideas of success in her early 20's were compared to now, 30. And how standing up for yourself and trusting your gut can actually turn your dreams into reality. Check out Chinwe's short film "Lovebites" : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0QaCrUHnz_8Follow her on all platforms: @chinwefilmsFollow PO: @ughpants

Do you know how to regulate your nervous system? Neither do we. That's why this week we have Alina Grenier, co-founder of the board game Alegoria, the puzzle piece board game that encourages genuine connection and conversation. Edeliz and Alina discuss what Alegoria board game is, how asking the right questions can bring us closer together, and how something as simple as a good conversation can regulate your entire nervous system. Check out Alegoria Game: https://www.alegoriagame.com/and follow them on IG: @alegoriagameFollow Pants Optional on IG: @ughpants // pantsoptional.co

Just in time for the day of love, we have writer, author, and relationship expert Heidi Busche talking talking about self-love, emotional maturity, and how to avoid fucking the people who just aren't worth it. Find Heidi on IG @heidibcoachingBuy her book "Relationship Ready: How I Stopped Fucking Randos and Started Cupcaking my Soulmate" - https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578557746?ref_=pe_3052080_397514860Check out Pants Optional on IG : @ughpantsSupport Us: patreon.com/pantsoptionalWebsite: pantsoptional.co Email: hello@pantsoptional.co

What was your introduction into mental health? Edeliz speaks with the Mental Monarchs, a non-profit organization fighting the stigma against mental health about therapy. Reasons why someone might need it, the importance of challenging our thoughts and caring for ourselves, and how life transitions have a big impact on our mental health. Disclaimer: The content here is for informational purposes only, and because each person is so unique, please consult your healthcare professional for any medical questions.Check out Mental Monarchs on IG @mentalmonarchs and blogs on mentalmonarchs.comFollow @ughpants / pantsoptional.co / patreon.com/pantsoptional

What are stonks? Idk we're too hot to know how that works. For today's episode we have Nestle from Not My Problem podcast. We discuss how our ideas of success have shifted as we've grown up and how we could honestly just go for a hug. Check out Not My Problem pod wherever you get podcasts. IG: @notmyproblempodFollow pants optional @ughpants or check out our site, pantsoptional.co :)

We are all beautiful artisan mugs that need to be filled with only the best, french pressed premium coffee - but right now, we're drinking Keurig coffee and we're not feeling 100. In today's episode, Edeliz speaks with Yamyo Monie from "Rooted with Yams" to talk about what it means to fill your cup, take stock of what you're consuming, and adjust accordingly in order to feel great every sip. Check out Yamyo's podcast Rooted With Yams on Apple Pods/Soundcloud or follow her on IG @rootedwithyams ! Follow Pants Optional on IG: @ughpants Support Us: pantsoptional.co/shop

The tweet that started it all. Alyssa Saenz is back on the podcast to discuss a tweet of hers that got some traction. "I don't want to see your weight loss pictures" opened up a dialogue for some and caused a negative response with others. In this episode, we discuss why we believe happy=skinny and fat = sad, why strangers on the internet feel the need to control the opinions of fat people, and how the way we feel about our own body is often negatively projected onto the bodies of others. website: pantsoptional.co merch: pantsoptional.co/shopsupport us! ---> patreon.com/pantsoptional

What does that little voice inside of you say? Is it loud enough to be heard? We can get so caught up trusting and believing everyone but ourselves that by the time it comes for us to make adult decisions, we freeze with fear. Today's smol episode is about learning how we can take steps to drown out every single voice that isn't oursIG: @ ughpants Merch: https://pantsoptional.co/shop/Patreon: patreon.com/pantsoptional

Another episode about friendships! We don't get tired of talking about it so we hope you don't get tired of listening. In this episode, Edeliz brings on Elsa Cavazos, a journalist in South Texas. Elsa shares her experiences with growing apart from your childhood best friend to being an adult and having a loving Cheetah Crew to support you through your most memorable journeys. Follow Elsa's work: @elsacavazos // www.millennialsandmimosas.com -- support this podcast: patreon.com/pantsoptional --

Diets, exercise, scales, oh my! Edeliz brings back resident PO guest, Yasmeen to talk about a topic we all have an opinion on -- body image. Yasmeen dives into how living with PCOS (polycystic ovary syndrome) has affected her relationship with her body. Body image affects a lot of us very early on, from dieting in grade school, shaving, getting weighed at the doctor, comments from family members, the way we look from the time we're kids is something we're always aware of. As we're getting through our 20s, we have to question where our body ideals come from and who is shaping that. So let's have our cake and eat it because cake is delicious.

What's that smell? Performative allyship, of course! (among other things) Zack Bryant comes on the pod to discuss his feelings about how people are just coming around to acknowledging the racial injustices in the country that have been going on for centuries. How he, as a Black person, is learning and growing in his allyship just like everyone else, and even though he's a little cynical, hopes change comes out of the protests around the country. Follow Pants Optional on IG and twitter at @ughpants.

After a 2 month hiatus, It's Personal is back! For today's episode, we're talking about allyship, a buzzword these days. Edeliz brings on Aaron Ibañez to discuss Black Lives Matter, how being an ally is a daily practice, and the importance of being continually open to learning.

Michelle Branch said it right, "if I just breathe...let it fill the space between, I'll know everything is alright." A queen. Today's mini-episode is about remembering to be intentional about your day while in quarantine, although once this is over, it should still apply tbh. It's very easy to lose sight of yourself when you don't know what day or time it is and it's easy to just go through the motions and feel numb. This episode is about reminding you to come back to yourself and be present.

Khrannavirus has got us all. Today's mini-sode is about unemployment during a pandemic. We've tackled unemployment on It's Personal before, how alienating and overwhelming it can be, but this time it's different. On top of grieving our losses, we need to support each other during trying times, and set-backs like these are a reminder that we can only look ahead and be hopeful about the future.

Much like romantic breakups, friend breakups can be confusing, exhausting, and enraging. In this mini-episode, Edeliz shares her experience with a friend breakup and talks about the signs of a toxic friendship and why losing a friend is the worst. Keep social distancing and staying hydrated and healthy! Follow us @ughpants and check out pantsoptional.co // send hand soap and toilet paper to hello@pantsoptional.co. Thanks for listening!

Looking beyond the "how's the weather?" small talk and learning to make the effort to truly connect. For this month's episode we talk about talking! What does it means to have an "intentional" conversation? Staying connected, with not just our friends and family, but the world around us, is difficult. Edeliz and guest, Lauren, talk about what making the effort to go out of your comfort zone and engage in emotionally necessary conversation with someone looks like. How do we make a conscious effort to connect to those around us?

Just in time for Valentine's Day, we wanted to talk about the least romantic side of finding L O V E - dating. And not just dating, dating for the first time in your 20s. Disney and Nickelodeon taught us that everyone dates in middle school. Well, what if you didn't date in middle school, or high school, or even college? Our guest, Paty, talks with us about how embracing her sexuality until the end of her senior year in college, left her feeling like she missed out on the "teen dating" experience. And how regaining confidence in her identity allowed her to push forward and start swiping right a little later in the game than most. But always remembering, the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself. Happy V-day ;)

TIME IS GOING BY -- In the first episode of 2020, Edeliz sits down with Jesus Acosta to talk about how the New Year makes us feel like we're not accomplishing enough and how consistent social media content plays a role in conflating our idea of success. They discuss why we feel like we have to accomplish everything and succeed and fulfill out dreams RIGHT NOW and how feeling like you're never doing enough ruins your ability to be in the present. There's lots of other things too but you're just gonna have to listen.

Hot, rich women on novelas, our families, the media all have a hand in our development and understanding of our gender as we grow up. From traditional gender roles in our households to thinking of "ambition" or "feminist" as a dirty word, the ways we are conditioned to see other women, more often than not, have a greater impact with how we view ourselves. In this month's episode Edeliz and guest, Evelyn Cantu, break down how internalized misogyny shaped their views on sexuality, womanhood, and cultural identity.

Edeliz and guest Alexa Boone discuss their relationship with money and how it has changed since college. They break down why talking about money can be awk around friends, how they've learned to manage it, and what they've done to learn new habits. We tend to feel like we're not where we're "supposed to be" for our age and this episode is about how we are all exactly where we need to be as we transition into adulthood.

This week we have our old friend Alyssa Saenz on the pod talking (and ranting) about what it's like to grow up near the Texas/Mexico border not speaking Spanish and how that has affected her Latinx identity. It's hard when you identify with two cultures, but you're not really "enough" of one or the other. Now that Alyssa has grown up and moved away from what she's known, she's had to break down other people's expectations of her.Alyssa Y Saenz is a Tejana living in Los Angeles pursuing a career in entertainment. She’s fat and funny and doesn’t speak Spanish...but maybe that’ll change soon. You can find her online at @alyssayvonneappleteaYou can find more of our content online at pantsoptional.co and follow us at @ughpants everywhere. Want to share your story with us? Hit us up at hello@pantsoptional.co

This week we have our dear friend/Twitter mutual Natalie Sizemore on the pod helping us talk about friendship, specifically in your 20s! Friendships develop and even fade out over time, so it's important to have good friends and commit to those relationships. Natalie shares how it was really hard for her to go from living with your best friends during college to maintaining long-distance friendships. We also discuss building the confidence to make new friends because talking to people is...hard.You can find more of our content online at pantsoptional.co and follow us at @ughpants everywhere. Want to share your story with us? Hit us up at hello@pantsoptional.co

Our guest for this week is Maria Salmeron! She's a good friend, owner of her own construction company, and you would never know that she recently had to rebuild her entire future. Maria shares her story about how the expectations she had for herself ever since she was a little girl changed after a painful break up. The husband, the house, and the family she always wanted after college were no longer in the picture. Now, she's working on finding value in herself and thinking about what her new goals in life are going to be. You can find Maria's own podcast, The Reality of It Is, on Soundcloud right here: https://soundcloud.com/maria-salmeron-476090624 You can find more of our content online at pantsoptional.co and follow us at @ughpants everywhere. Want to share your story with us? Hit us up at hello@pantsoptional.co

This week we have Yasmeen Yahya back on the show to talk about first generation guilt and how it makes every life decision a little bit harder. First-gens have to balance independence with our parents' expectations. These expectations are usually formed around the traditional values and collective ideologies that they grew up with, and if you go against any them...then shame! Edeliz and Yasmeen discuss what first-gen guilt means to them and how they're trying to manage it. Rather than being an extension of our immigrant parents, we're working on embracing the best parts of them and becoming our own person. You can find more of our content online at pantsoptional.co and follow us at @ughpants everywhere. Want to share your story with us? Hit us up at hello@pantsoptional.co

Our "Girls Just Wanna Have Funds" series continues with the hot topic of getting...fired. This week we have Fabiana, a publicist living in Austin, on the show telling us about the time when she got fired from her first professional job and how she coped with that experience. You can find Fabiana on Instagram at @fffabianita serving looks and killing it on the pole. Because she's also an amazing pole dancer. You can find more of our content online at pantsoptional.co and follow us at @ughpants everywhere. Want to share your firing story with us? Hit us up at hello@pantsoptional.co

Welcome to It's Personal, a new podcast brought to you by the girls behind Pants Optional. We'll be releasing episodes every other week covering topics related to millennial struggles. We will be featuring guests and interviewing others so that you don't have to hear us go on rants all the time. Thanks for tuning in! If you have any topic suggestions, let us know at hello@pantsoptional.co You can find all of our content at pantsoptional.co and follow us at @ughpants

Our first episode of It's Personal kicks off our work series called "Girls Just Wanna Have Funds." We interviewed Yasmeen Yahya about what it's like to have a job after graduating, hating that said job, quitting, and navigating unemployment. Unemployment is a hard subject, especially when you're young and supposed to be thriving in your 20s. We think that it's important to talk about the things that people don't share online because nobody should feel like they're going through it alone. You can find more of our content online at pantsoptional.co and follow us at @ughpants Want to share your story with us? Hit us up at hello@pantsoptional.co