Permission for Pleasure

Oral sex is a highly reliable path to pleasure and orgasm for women. This episode is the second most downloaded of all episodes on the show. So, I am bringing it back for new listener's and their partner's. I talk about creating anticipation, building arousal toward crescendo and specific tongue techniques to stimulate the clitoris and vulva. Also hear tips on positioning, when to add variety, and when to stick with consistency. Learn the signs of approaching orgasm, to help your partner go over the edge with pleasure.Mentioned in this episode:The Kivin Method -Oral SidewaysMake Some NoiseTemperature PlayThe Key to Women's PleasureThe Clitoris - it's a network!The Clitoris has a hoodFemale Anatomy 101She Comes First Book ReviewUsing Your Senses for PleasureWhy Arousal Takes More Than 5 MinutesMen and SexTalking about sex with a partnerCommunication, Couples and SexORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual GardenJOIN my Newsletter: Good Education for Good SexFOLLOW on Instagram @cindyscharkeyVISIT my website and blog

Want to slow down and experience more pleasure in your life? Euphemia Russell, a somatic coach and author of Slow Pleasure shares practical ways to focus on sensations, as well as practices to shift your state towards enlivening. Learn to create pleasure habits and increase your capacity for pleasure in and out of the bedroom.Euphemia Russell is a somatic coach and bestselling author ofSlow Pleasure. They are trained in somatic coaching, International Coaching Federation, sex-positive education, sexual violence counselling, trauma-informed facilitation, and has a background in Community Cultural Development.Mentioned in this episode:Sexual Wellness and Pleasure List with MichalThe Pleasure Crisis with Nan WiseLearning to Listen to Your Body with Hillary McBrideConnecting With Our Body and Nervous System with Aurora AllenORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual GardenJOIN my Newsletter: Good Education for Good SexFOLLOW on Instagram @cindyscharkeyVISIT my website and blog

Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons, a leading expert in sex research, shares her list of ingredients for good sex from her book Good Sex: Stories, Science and Strategies for Sexual Liberation. She walks us through strategies to study our sexual satisfaction as well as tools to increase it. Does frequency make the list? Nope? Tune in to learn what does.Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons is an award-winning associate professor at Emory University's Rollins School of Public Health and author of Good Sex. As a thought leader, Dr. Hargons continues to shape the conversation around sexual wellness, advocating for liberation and wellness within marginalized communities.Mentioned in this episode:How Curiosity Fuels Desire with Emily JameaThe Rise in Rough Sex with Debby HerbenickWhat's Ruining Sex for Men with Cam FraserORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual GardenJOIN my Newsletter: Good Education for Good SexFOLLOW on Instagram @cindyscharkeyVISIT my website and blog

I'm bringing back conversations with members of our community where they share their stories and we explore what they have learned about their bodies, sex and pleasure. My new friend and poet, Sarah Jeannine Gawthrop, joins me to talk about her journey of pleasure reclamation through the sacred forest and poetry.Sarah Gawthrop is a queer, neurodiverse poet and editor on the West Coast of Canada. Her writing explores themes of place, identity, and longing, with a focus on how nature shapes our sense of self. When she's not walking in the forest, she's studying Creative Writing or working with PULPmag and ROOM Magazine. Her first poetry collection, Topophilia: A Strong Sense of Place, celebrates our deep connections with people and places. Connect with her on Instagram @sarahjeanninewritesORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual GardenJOIN my Newsletter: Good Education for Good SexFOLLOW on Instagram @cindyscharkeyVISIT my website and blog

Answering your community questions: “Do I have to swallow?” “Can I get pregnant from pre-cum?” and “Are wet dreams normal?” I'll also explain the difference between semen and sperm, why a cum cloth is a good idea and the pregnancy rate with the pull-out method. Mentioned in this episode:Can I get pregnant from pre-cum?Can men be multi-orgasmic?Do women ejaculate? What is squirting?Cum cloth: Play Towel by Coconu use code 30PLEASUREORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual GardenJOIN my Newsletter: Good Education for Good SexFOLLOW on Instagram @cindyscharkeyVISIT my website and blog

Susan Bratton calls herself the “Orgasmanaut.” She's here to share what she has learned, along with some juicy and practical ways for you to experience more orgasms. As her mentor taught her; with sex - there is always something more! Listen to hear the ingredient list and recipe to follow for more!Visit our episode sponsor UBERLUBE and use discount code CINDY Susan Bratton, "Intimacy Expert to Millions" is a champion and advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long. She's created hundreds of techniques that transform “having sex” into making love and is the world's most well-respected sexual biohacker.More on this topic:Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual GardenCliteracy and the Orgasm GapEverything You Need to Know About the ClitorisThe Clitoris has a HoodLet's Talk OrgasmsPleasure TechniquesFemale ArousalDesire StylesWhy Vibrators Work for Women and How to Choose OneToys, Fantasy, and Play in the BedroomCan Men Be Multi-orgasmicORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual GardenJOIN my Newsletter: Good Education for Good SexFOLLOW on Instagram @cindyscharkeyVISIT my website and blog

If you want to enhance the intimacy and eroticsm in your relationship - this conversation is for you! Nicolas Velotta, lead relationship researcher for Arya - a couples sexual wellness company, talks about erotic styles and four specific erotic personas. This episode will help you to open a conversation about your turn-on's, desires and preferences with a partner.Learn more about Arya and use discount code CS15Nicholas Velotta is a relationship scientist and sexologist exploring how technology shapes our most intimate connections. As the Head of Relationship Research at Arya—the world's leading relationship wellness app—he uses cutting-edge methods to develop psychological profiles of our erotic and emotional selves. Blending research with innovation, Nicholas designs AI-powered algorithms that curate personalized experiences aimed at deepening relationship and sexual satisfaction. ORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual GardenJOIN my Newsletter: Good Education for Good SexFOLLOW on Instagram @cindyscharkeyVISIT my website and blog

When I saw Michal Morrison's Sexual Wellness and Pleasure list on Threads, I thought, "Who is this woman and how did she come up with this amazing list?!" Learn about toys, tools, good reads and more to empower you on your wellness and pleasure journey.Visit our episode sponsor UBERLUBE use code CINDY for 15% offMichal Morrison is an Austin-based entrepreneur and the founder of her eponymous brand, Michal Morrison—a cutting-edge skincare company rooted in science and powered by groundbreaking stem cell technology. With a passion for science-based innovation, Michal has worked in health-focused startups and femtech companies, championing wellbeing in both the health and beauty spaces. Beyond her entrepreneurial pursuits, Michal is committed to social impact, championing causes around women's health, gender equality, and mental health.Mentioned in this episode:Tabu Prim PillowPositions with propsOhnut use discount code CINDY  Foria meltsUberlube use discount code CINDYCome As You Are book reviewShe Comes First book reviewPermission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual GardenSpicy Audio StoriesLionessSex and PainWhat Pelvic Health has to do with painful sexStretched out vaginas and other myths with Heather Jeffcoat DPTTips from my pelvic floor therapistPleasure techniques with penetrationGuide to lubeOMGYESRosy AppLeloDame EvaAll bodiesLoralsORDER my Book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual GardenJOIN my Newsletter: Good Education for Good SexFOLLOW on Instagram @cindyscharkeyVISIT my website and blog

Just in time for love month, I'm sharing some gift ideas for lovers, friends and something for yourself. I introduce you to Arya, a sexual wellness subscription for couples, focused on reigniting your passion and bolstering communication. You'll also hear ways to explore your sexuality and how to be a permission giver to your friends. This Valentine's Day, let's prioritize pleasure. Mentioned in this episode:ARYA use discount code CS15Temperature PlayWays to explore your sexuality other than masturbationPermission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden My Letter to Young WomenWant Better Sex? Ask the QuestionsSensuality: Pleasure with Your SensesBodies, Nervous System and Mindfulness with AuroraMindfulnessm, Desire and Sex with Dr. Lori BrottoORDER my BookJOIN my Newsletter CommunityFOLLOW on InstagramVISIT my Blog

Do you struggle with anxiety or perfectionism? Therapist Caitlin Harrison joins me for a down to earth conversation about how anxiety shows up in our inner thoughts and the bedroom. You'll hear discussion about purity culture, sexual shame, and how anxiety can disrupt the arousal process.Learn more about Caitlin Harrison, LMFTMore on these topics:When the problematic people are the ones we love Evolving out of purity cultureUntangling sexual shame Reclaim your arousal mindsetLet's Go Girls: Hailey from PasadenaOrgasm is a big brain eventMasturbation: Let's dig inConnecting with our bodies and nervous system for better sexPleasurable touch exercise ORDER my BookJOIN my Newsletter CommunityFOLLOW on InstagramVISIT my Blog

Welcome to season 5 and my book launch! Join me as I share why I wrote Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden. Since we can't all gather together across the globe I am bringing the party to you. More on these topics:Spicy Audio StoriesMasturbation: Let's Dig InUberlube use code CINDY for 15% Foria Arousal Oil Arya use code CS15ORDER my BookJOIN my Newsletter CommunityFOLLOW on InstagramVISIT my Blog

Wrapping up Season 4 with two proven ways affection can deeper your connection. Use the practices of kissing for 6 seconds and hugging for 30 seconds to strengthen your relationships.Limited time 20% discount BOOK orderPermission to GrieveORDER my BookJOIN my Newsletter CommunityFOLLOW on InstagramVISIT my Blog

Great sex is a mind and body experience. To truly enjoy the sex you're having - you have to be paying attention to the sex you are having! In this episode, I read you a short excerpt from my book Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden focused on strengthening your mind-body connection.  My book is available now for pre-order with a special 20% holiday discount through the month of December. Holiday PRE-ORDER discount!More on this topicBetter Sex Through Mindfulness Book ReviewThe Truth About Desire with Dr. BrottoDesire and Mindfulness with Dr. BrottoRelieving the Mental Load PRE-ORDER my BookJOIN my Newsletter CommunityFOLLOW on InstagramVISIT my Blog

Research shows that greater curiosity outside the bedroom leads to higher sexual satisfaction. Sex therapist and author Dr. Emily Jamea joins me to talk about her book Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion. Learn how novelty works as a key component for fueling your desire. Learn more about Emily JameaMore on these topicsPracticing Flow State Sex with Emily JameaUnderstanding Your Desire StylePartner desire discrepanciesWant better sex? Ask yourself these questionsFantasy and play in the bedroom with Dr. Carolin KleinPRE-ORDER my BookJOIN my Newsletter CommunityFOLLOW on InstagramVISIT my Blog

Learn the difference between vaginal estrogen, vaginal moisturizers, and lube for sex. This quickie episode outlines what each one is, when their use is appropriate and a few frequently asked questions about each. Bite size education for everyone, but especially for those in perimenopause and the menopause transition.Visit our episode sponsor Uberlube and use code CINDY for 15% offMore on this topic:Guide to LubeLube Lube Lube Perimenopause 101: Hormones and SymptomsPerimenopause 101: Treatment Options Tips for talking to a providerMidlife, Menopause and BeyondSexual Reset for Midlife WomenYou're Not Broken with Dr. Kelly CaspersonPRE-ORDER my BookJOIN my Newsletter CommunityFOLLOW on InstagramVISIT my Blog

Our nervous systems play a critical role in connection and the sensory experience of sex. Aurora Allen, a somatic experiencing practitioner and nervous system educator shares practical steps to connect our bodies and nervous systems for more satisfying sex. Learn more about Aurora Allen More on this topic:Dating Your Body with AuroraLearning to Listen to Your BodyPermission to GrieveReconnecting to Yourself and to Your BodyPRE-ORDER my BookJOIN my Newsletter CommunityFOLLOW on InstagramVISIT my Blog

Need better ways to initiate sex in your relationship? Vanessa and Xander Marin join me to discuss everything we are getting wrong about initiation and tips to do it better. She's a sex therapist with 20 years of experience, he's a regular dude and together they wrote Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. Tune in and learn to change the communication of initiation in your relationship.Visit our episode sponsor UBERLUBE - use code CINDY for 15% offLearn more about Vanessa and Xander MarinPRE-ORDER my BookJOIN my Newsletter CommunityFOLLOW on InstagramVISIT my Blog

Author Brit Barron joins me to discuss her new book, Do You Still Talk to Grandma? When the problematic people in our lives are the ones we love. Listen in as we talk about the role social media plays, our desire for belonging, and the importance of embracing both nuance and boundaries as a way forward.Learn more about Brit BarronMore from Brit on the podcastEvolving Out of Purity CulturePRE-ORDER my BookJOIN my Newsletter CommunityFOLLOW on InstagramVISIT my Blog

You know that running to do list in your head? It's called the mental load. Although it is often invisible, it has a big impact on our relationships, sexual desire and stress level. Bringing back an impactful episode from the archives with Dr. Morgan Cutlip. You'll hear communication starters and practical tips to help you ‘off-load' and free up mental space for a healthier you and strengthened relationships.Learn more about Dr. Morgan CutlipPRE-ORDER my BookJOIN my Newsletter CommunityFOLLOW on InstagramVISIT my Blog

Dr. Jenn Gunsuallus joins me to share practical tools for positive relationships. Listen in for her 4 point approach to generous listening and ways to answer bids for connection. Celebrate World Sexual Health Day with these tools that all couples can use to foster healthy connection.Jennifer Gunsaullus, Ph.D. is a Sexologist, Sociologist, Relationship Coach, Author, and International Speaker.  More on this topicThe Truth About Desire: Mindfulness and the Value of VarietyConversation Starters to Help You Talk About Sex With a PartnerPRE-ORDER my BookJOIN my Newsletter CommunityFOLLOW on InstagramVISIT my Blog

Get ready to discover some cheeky and charming ways to turn up the fun and connection between you and a partner! Whether you're looking to bring a little fun into your sexy time or just have a laugh, I've got a lineup of games that'll make your bedroom into a playground. More on this topic:The Pleasure Crisis and Why Good Sex MattersOrgasm is a Big Brain EventTemperature PlayExploring Erogenous Zones: Pleasure PracticePRE-ORDER my BookJOIN my Newsletter CommunityFOLLOW on InstagramVISIT my Blog

Dr. Debby Herbenick wants us to know that today's trend for rough sex is different than what we might expect. Her research, as detailed in her book Yes, Your Kid: What Parents Need to Know About Today's Teens and Sex, shows a rise in aggressive and risky behavior, often lacking the crucial communication necessary between partners. Listen in as we unpack the rise in rough sex - specifically choking. We also discuss nude images, digital safety, and the importance of having conversations around all these topics with our teenagers and young adults. Dr. Debby Herbenick is a Provost Professor at the Indiana University School of Public Health-Bloomington, Director of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion, and an AASECT-certified sexuality educator. Her research focuses on women's sexual health, US population-representative research, as well as trends in sexual attitudes and behaviors. JOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.

I have lost my beloved. There are hardly any words for me right now. I have tried to give you the few I could manage in the midst of this deep grief over the sudden death of the love of my life.JOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.

This week I'm joining Kara Ryska, host of The Special Needs Mom Podcast and sharing our conversation on reconnecting to your body and redefining sensuality. Listen in as we cover some practical ways to build a practice around connecting with yourself, your needs and the sensations in your body.Find out more about Kara Ryska and The Special Needs Mom PodcastJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.

To celebrate my 60th birthday this week, I want to share three key insights that have significantly influenced my journey towards sexual wellness. These discoveries are crucial in helping you find the freedom to express, experience, and enjoy your sexuality. Plus, I have an exciting announcement to share!Visit our episode sponsor UBERLUBE and use code CINDY for 15% offMore on these topics:All About LubePain and SexLube. Lube. Lube.Pelvic Health and Painful SexLearning to Listen to Your BodyJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.

Embrace your desire. Own your wanting and gather your sexual agency. Doing this will help you change your relationship with desire. Dr. Juliana Hauser joins me to talk about reframing desire and how to get in touch with your vibrancy. You'll hear practical ways to figure out what you want sexually and ideas for approaching and trying new things. Learn about the four quadrant exercise, a no thank you bite, and why Dr. Juliana believes safety is the strongest aphrodisiac.Learn more about Dr. Juliana HauserMore on this topic:The Truth About Desire (part one)The Truth About Desire (part two)Partner Sexual Desire DiscrepanciesWhy don't I want sex as much as my partner?When a partner wants to start something newJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.

Text me your questions or feedback!Are you curious about female ejaculation and squirting? Tune in as I answer your frequently asked questions. Yes - women ejaculate, and yes women can squirt. However, they are not the same thing. Learn the where, why and how in this - all about the fluids episode.Visit our episode sponsor UBERLUBE and use code CINDY for 15% offMore on these topicsEjaculation and Squirting blogFemale Anatomy of Arousal  book reviewFemale Anatomy 101Clitoris - it's a networkAll About LubeG spot (area)Why Female Arousal Takes More Than 5 MinutesJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.

Text me your questions or feedback!Loving behaviors is one of the six ingredients Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh has found necessary to build a lifetime of love. In this second part of our conversation, we talk about the importance of touch and developing a touch lexicon within your relationship. We get specific about all the ways to touch and how to make sure the touch given is received as intended. Sara also shares her distinction between sexual chemistry and sexual harmony, to help couples create desire and arousal as relationships evolve over time.Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh is an Author, Speaker and Thinking Partner with a PhD in Social Psychology and specialization in the fields of human sexuality and relationships. Her latest book is,  Love by Design: 6 Ingredients to Build a Lifetime of Love.JOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.

The names we do or don't call our genitals are fascinating. Where do these terms come from? What about the silence around our private parts? Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, who specializes in the fields of human sexuality and relationships, joins me to share her research about genitals around the world. From what we call them and how we groom them, to our relationship with them. We discuss practices around pubic hair, beauty standards, penis size and more. At the end of the episode, Sara shares an exercise to help us begin a healthier relationship with our genitals.Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh is an Author, Speaker and Thinking Partner with a PhD in Social Psychology and specialization in the fields of human sexuality and relationships. Her mission is building world peace one relationship at a time.  More on this topicLearning to listen to your bodyDating your bodyJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.

Scientists have found that sexual noises go hand in hand with enhanced pleasure. Whether you hum, purr or moan - giving voice to what your body is feeling may make sex better. Bonus- it also serves as non-verbal communication and positive reinforcement to your partner! Make some noise on the blogJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.

People masturbate for all kinds of reasons including pleasure, exploration, sleep and pain relief. For women who have never experienced orgasm, self-pleasure is the most scientifically supported sex therapy technique to learn the stimulation needed to climax. August McLaughlin, a journalist, author and host/producer of Girl Boner Radio, joins me to share her insights, and personal journey with masturbation. We discuss some practices and tips, as well as debunk a few common myths around solo sex.  August McLaughlin is a journalist, author and host/producer of Girl Boner Radio. Her acclaimed Girl Boner book is currently in its second printing. Visit our episode sponsor UBERLUBE use code CINDY for 15% offMore on these topics:Orgasm is a Big Brain Event with Dr. Nan WiseThe Pleasure Crisis and Why Good Sex Matters with Dr. Nan WiseExploring Your Perspective of Pleasure10 Ways to be Sexual Without MasturbatingUntangling Sexual ShameLearning to Listen to Your BodyNatural Health Benefits of OrgasmJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.

All about the pelvic floor! Alexa Charbonneau, PT, DPT of Sarton Physical Therapy, joins me to offer her top tips and education for all ages and stages. Do you cough, laugh, sneeze and wet your pants? Do you have pain with sex? Do you have chronic prostatitis? While many of these might be common issues, they are not normal! The good news is there is physical therapy specifically for your pelvic floor. It may hold the solution you've been looking for. Find Alexa Charbonneau and Pelvic HealingVisit our episode sponsor PodbeatMore on these topics:Pelvic Floor and Painful SexPainful sexStretched out vaginas and other myths with Heather JeffcoatJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.

In this quickie episode I'll introduce you to the Kivin Method or oral for her – sideways. Hear a how-to guide and why you might want to try it. I'll also answer a few community questions including 'How can I make doggy style more intimate?' and 'Why do I bleed after sex?' Ten minutes of good education for good sex!Visit our episode sponsor UBERLUBE use code CINDY for 15% offMore on these topics:Oral Sex for WomenGuide to LubePositions with PropsThe clitoris has a hoodThe clitorisWhy female arousal takes more than 5 minutesTrying something newTalking with a provider about sexJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.

My guest found that her college students had very little understanding of their own bodies and how to navigate sex in a healthy way. Professor Gwendolyn Dolske Ph.D. teaches Philosophy at Cal Poly Pomona. One of her classes, Current Debates in Sexuality, gives her a unique perspective on what young adults are asking about when it comes to sex and relationships. We discuss topics such as consent, current dating culture, and the high alert status women must negotiate to feel safe in the world.Learn more about Prof Dolske and Good is in the Details Learn more on these topics:Why Sex Ed Really MattersGirls and Sex/Boys and Sex, by Peggy OrensteinThe Growing Mental Health Crisis of Our GirlsUnderstanding Consent and Unlearning Body ShameJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.

People sometimes assume the source of erectile changes in men as they age is a condition called - erectile dysfunction or ED. This is not always the case. In this episode I am discussing some of the normal sexual changes men may experience in midlife and beyond. Listen to learn about normal changes in erections, sexual functioning, and desire for men.More on these topicsErectile changes vs. erectile dissatisfaction blogCam Fraser: Can Men Be Multi-OrgasmicScheduling Sex video blogThree tips for boosting your arousalTalking about sexual health with your medical providerMedication and your sex lifeThe different ways to experience desirePartner desire discrepanciesJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.

As Gina Gutierrez, the co-founder of Dipsea, says in her Ted Talk, “Using their memories, fantasies, and some focus - women can turn themselves on with their thoughts.” In this conversation, Gina and I discuss exploration of fantasy, the differences between erotica and porn, ways to figure out what turns you on, and barriers to pleasure. I like the way Gina puts it, "Your desire is not a problem to be solved, but a fire to be stoked." You may discover a new tool to spark the flame in this episode.Use code CINDY for a free month of Dipsea Audio StoriesMore on this topicThe pleasure crisis and why good sex mattersOrgasm is a big brain eventWomen's Anatomy of Arousal book reviewCome As You Are book reviewExploring your perspective of pleasureFantasy and play in the bedroomFemale arousal takes more than 5 minutesHow desire really works with Dr. Lori BrottoYour brain and sex videoJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.

Most of us didn't get a lot of education around sex, let alone how to talk about sex with a partner. Just like any new language, sexual conversation is a learnable skill that gets more comfortable with practice. Use the questions and prompts in this episode as conversation starters. Designed to be used with a partner, these are great for date night, weekend walks or on your next long drive together. Learn to talk about sex - one chat at a time.More on this topic:Conversation PromptsTalking with a partner about sexSexual communicationWant better sex? Ask yourself these questionsToys, Fantasy and Play in the BedroomGet out of your foreplay rutDesire StylesPartner Desire DiscrepanciesSexify your spaceSensual PlayJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.

My guest Matthias Roberts, psychotherapist, and author of Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms says, “Wherever there is sex, there seems to be shame.” Matthias writes and speaks nationwide about the intersections between gender, sexuality, mental health, and theology. He feels one of the first steps in fighting shame is to practice recognizing it. Together we discuss how to identify our shame, acknowledge our worthiness, and allow ourselves pleasure.Find Matthias RobertsJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.

There are many options available to treat your symptoms during the menopause transition. I continue my conversation with Dr. Shyama Mathews, a Board Certified OB/GYN, and NAMS Certified Menopause Specialist about perimenopause. We discuss non-hormonal prescriptions, systemic hormonal therapy, vaginal estrogen, moisturizers, and lubricants for sex. Dr. Shyama also shares how to find qualified menopause clinicians and why we should all ask for a pelvic floor physical therapy referral. Visit our episode sponsor UBERLUBE use code CINDY for 15% offLearn more about Dr. Shyama MathewsMore on these topics:Find a menopause practitioner through NAMSMidlife & Menopause: Let's Go Girls with HeatherSexual Reset for Midlife WomenDo you ever think your sex life is broken with Dr. Kelly Casperson Tips for speeding up arousalPain and SexGuide to LubePelvic HealthHow to talk to a provider about sexual healthJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.

Education is key to entering the menopause transition knowledgeable and prepared! In this episode, learn what you need to know about perimenopause with Dr. Shyama Mathews, a Board Certified OB/GYN, Minimally Invasive Gynecologic Surgeon, and NAMS Certified Menopause Specialist. We discuss when changes start, the common symptoms experienced, and what your hormones are doing. Don't “gut out” the menopause transition, instead feel empowered to advocate for your health.Learn more about Dr. Shyama Mathews Visit our episode sponsor UBERLUBE use code CINDY for 15% off More on these topics:Find a menopause practitioner through NAMSPain and SexGuide to LubePelvic HealthHow to talk to a provider about sexual healthJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.CALL or TEXT to submit a question: 1-714- 455-9149

"Confidence is the sexiest thing a woman can have." Dana B. Myers, self-described as a sensually empowered voice for women, joins me to talk about how to embrace your sensuality and sexuality to boost your confidence. Dana and I get practical with tips for sexy talk, sexy texting, and how to communicate your desires. This episode will help you feel more turned on, assertive and engaged with your sensuality for a sexier YOU!Learn more about Dana B. MyersMore on these topics:Foreplay using your sensesTen ways to explore being a sexual personMake some noise during sexGet out of your foreplay rutTalking about sex with a partnerScheduling sexJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.CALL or TEXT to submit a question: 1-714- 455-9149

My guest Ruthie Lindsey invites us into the liberating process of unlearning the stories we have been told about our bodies and finding delight in reclaiming pleasure. Having survived a catastrophic accident that left her living in chronic pain, Ruthie shares her journey toward embodied living and the many tools she's found to help her along the way. Although the pain still visits her, Ruthie has found healing by learning to love and listen to her body. “Love is always inviting us back home to ourselves, to our bodies, and to healing.”Learn more about Ruthie Lindsey Learn more about these topicsLearning to Listen to Your BodyDating Your BodyUnlearning Body Shame and Understanding ConsentComing Home to Yourself with Arielle EstoriaMy Letter to Young WomenJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.CALL or TEXT to submit a question: 1-714- 455-9149

This is the second most downloaded episode of all three seasons! Originally called Pleasure Techniques (Episode 41), I cover two important topics. First, I share the four specific techniques women can use with vaginal penetration to experience more pleasure and potential for orgasm. Then, I talk about how faking orgasms can undermine your pleasure and cause sexual miscommunication with a partner. If you're new to my listening community, missed it the first time around, or want a refresher, give this quickie a listen. More on this topicPairing demoShallowing demoRocking demoThe clitoris - it's a network!Questions about orgasmThe key to female pleasurePleasure techniques Faking orgasms Let's talk orgasmsJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.CALL or TEXT to submit a question: 1-714- 455-9149

Did you know the medications you take can have an impact on your sex life? Learn about medications known to have sexual health side effects and what those common side effects are. I also offer talking points and my best nurse tip for having a conversation with your healthcare provider about any concerns or inquiries you might have pertaining to your sexual health and the medications you are taking. Get curious and be empowered to ask questions and advocate for your health! More on this topicMedications and your sexual healthSSRIs and sex Talking about sexual health with a healthcare providerJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.CALL or TEXT to submit a question: 1-714- 455-9149

Join me for a conversation with Abby, a devoted volunteer for our podcast and member of our community. We dive into the challenging waters of unlearning body shame, dismantling beliefs around our bodies and reclaiming sexual health education. Abby shares her experiences of how the pandemic era has shaped new perspectives on bodily autonomy and navigating consent. Learn more about what consent is, what it isn't and how to cultivate discussions around it. More on this topic:Dating Your BodyLearning to LIsten to Your BodyComing Home to YourselfEvolving Out of Purity CultureLess Shame - More Sex EdWhy Sex Ed Really MattersReclaim Your Arousal MindsetMy Letter to Young WomanExploring Your Perspective of Pleasure10 Ways to Be Sexual Without MasturbatingJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.CALL or TEXT to submit a question: 1-714- 455-9149

Do you feel at home in your body? I had the pleasure of talking about our relationship to our bodies with the multitalented Arielle Estoria, an artist, poet, writer, and actor. Her journey of self-discovery and spirituality is beautifully chronicled in her book, 'The Unfolding: An Invitation to Come Home to Yourself. ' Her story is a testament to the transformative impact of embracing one's body for ultimate liberation.  Arielle shares the practices that allowed her to release years of self-condemnation and reconnect with her body on her own terms. Tune in and let Arielle inspire you to find home within yourself.Find out more about Arielle EstoriaMore on these topicsLearning to listen to your bodyDating your bodyEvolving out of purity cultureMy letter to young womenBook review: The Body Is Not An ApologyBook review: Mother's, Daughter's and Body ImageJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.CALL or TEXT to submit a question: 1-714- 455-9149

Dabbling with hot and cold sensations can be a tantalizing way to explore erotic sensuality alone or with a partner. Our bodies have so many sensitive erogenous zones that can respond to temperature changes. Play with these simple ideas to create exciting and sexy anticipation for your body and brain as you bring the heat or cool things down.More on these topics:Temperature Play BlogUsing Your Senses for PleasureForeplay 101Maude massage candles (affiliate link: discount code CINDY10)Pleasurable Touch ExerciseYour Brain's Sexual Accelerator and Brake VideoJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.CALL or TEXT to submit a question: 1-714- 455-9149

Leah Fischer and Cass Redding, founders of Intimate Wellbeing, join me to share their individual journeys of self-discovery and finding sexual pleasure in midlife. Their paths of growth empowered them to team up and create an e-commerce platform for women. They are on a mission to provide tools and resources for enhancing intimacy and pleasure for the midlife woman, all while ending sexual health stigma.Learn more about Intimate WellbeingUse discount code CINDY15 Learn more on these topics:Why vibrators work for women and how to choose oneGuide to lubeMidlife & Menopause with Heather Toys,  Fantasy and Play in the BedroomVibrators, Edging and Anal SexJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.CALL or TEXT to submit a question: 1-714- 455-9149

Play in the bedroom is highly underrated! Psychologist and sex therapist Carolin Klein joins me to offer tips and answer questions about toys, vibrators, and fantasy. Learn about some common fantasies and less intimidating ways to share what makes your heart race. We talk through a helpful list of dos and don'ts for choosing toys and how to introduce the idea with a partner.  Create memorable sexual experiences by bringing more play into the bedroom.Visit our episode sponsor Intimate Wellbeing and use code CINDY15Dr. Carolin Klein is a sex therapist and a Registered Psychologist. She is co-founder and co-director of the West Coast Centre for Sex Therapy in Vancouver, BC.Learn more about these topics:Why vibrators work for women and how to choose oneWhy don't I want sex as much as my partner?Partner Desire Discrepancies Want better sex? Ask these questionsVibrators, Edging and Anal SexTalking about sex with a partnerWhen your partner wants to try something newJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.CALL or TEXT to submit a question: 1-714- 455-9149

All people, regardless of abilities, are sexual beings, and deserve access to sexual health education. Mad Hatter Wellness creates comprehensive sex ed and health curriculum primarily for people with intellectual and developmental disabilities. Educator Anna Hayek, their heart of operations, joins me to discuss tools, language and strategies for parents and caregivers. Learn more about Mad Hatter Wellness Free resources from Mad Hatter WellnessPeople in My Life and Relationship CircleHeart of Relationships with Healthy & Unhealthy chart Anna's Recommended Disability Educators and Activists Eva Sweeney Andrew Gurza Judy HeumannJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.CALL or TEXT to submit a question: 1-714- 455-9149

If you want to become a more attentive lover, start with foreplay and pre-foreplay! Meygan Caston of Marriage365 joins me to bring some sweet and spicy ways to cultivate better intimacy in and out of the bedroom. Use these ideas to create sexual tension and excitement as well as emotional safety with your partner. Learn how get out of your foreplay routine, and level up your sexual connection. Visit our episode sponsor Intimate Wellbeing and use discount code CINDY15Learn more about Marriage365Learn more on these topicsForeplay Using Your SensesOral Sex for WomenTemperature PlayCommunication, Couples and SexTalking About Sex (when things aren't great)Sexify Your SpaceCreate a Sexy PlaylistSex and Your BrainErogenous Zones PracticeArousal, Role Play & CondomsJOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.CALL or TEXT to submit a question: 1-714- 455-9149