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When we hear the word “codependent,” we often picture someone clinging to toxic relationships or constantly rescuing others.  But the brilliant psychotherapist and boundary expert Terri Cole challenges this idea, revealing how capable, competent, and successful people can struggle with codependent patterns too,  just hidden under the mask of over-functioning and over-investing in people's lives.  Doing it all? That's the problem. In this episode, Terri shares how our deep desire for peace and control can drive us to do too much for others—emotionally, mentally, and physically— even at the cost of our own well-being. This conversation is a loving nudge to pause and ask:  “What am I doing for others that they could be doing for themselves?” We explore how stepping out of this “handle-it-all” mindset isn't just freeing—it's life-changing.  Tune in to this episode to learn to overcome high-functioning codependence and find ease, joy, fun, balance, and healthier relationships in your life! Terri Cole Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert. She's the author of the books Boundary Boss and Too Much. For over 20 years, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients–  from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She makes complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so the people she works with can achieve sustainable change.  IN THIS EPISODE Understanding the term “high-functioning codependency” Physical manifestations of being a high-functioning codependent  Helpful ways to set and maintain boundaries with others  Addressing resentment in a relationship  Why burnout is common among high-functioning codependents  Letting go of intervening to “help” others & focusing on yourself QUOTES “You see it as well, that high functioning codependence. We give too many F's for too long about all the things and all the people… and perfectionism and making sure everything gets done.” “There are ways we can help children and people we love find their own answers without therapizing them. But giving them our answers is not loving. It's treating people as projects.” “When you spend decades of your life checking boxes that someone else constructed, you end up with this existential crisis of loneliness– like, ‘wow, people do not know ME'.”  RESOURCES MENTIONED Get The HFC Toolkit:  Simplify & Do Less video lesson with integrative exercises & meditations  Terri's Website Order Terri's Book Too Much HERE  High-quality olive oil: go to www.getfreshenergized.com to get your free $39 bottle for just $1 shipping. Skin longevity made simple: Head to oneskin.co/ENERGIZED and use code ENERGIZED. Terri's Socials:  Instagram Facebook YouTube Podcast  RELATED EPISODES  #569: How to Build a Strong Emotional Connection with Your Partner and How to Transform Your Love Life with Vanessa and Xander Marin #629: Unlocking Emotional Resilience with Awareness, Lifestyle and Tools to Regulate Your Stress Triggers with Dr. Drew Ramsey #170: Saying NO to People Pleasing and Establishing Effective Boundaries with Amy Smith

About 60% of women in perimenopause report "not feeling like themselves". And it's more than just mood swings—it's about energy, memory, motivation, passion for life, intimacy, and so much more.  That's why in this week's powerful episode, I'm joined by the brilliant Dr. Kelly Casperson to dive into the often-overlooked role of hormones—especially testosterone—in women's health during perimenopause and beyond. We'll talk about midlife hormone changes impacting your romantic life, and why hormone therapy is such an essential (and safe!) conversation for you to have with your doctor.  If you're ready to feel passionate about your life again, reclaim your energy, and advocate for your long-term health, this is an episode you cannot miss. Dr. Kelly's insights are practical and empowering for any woman navigating perimenopause, menopause, or simply feeling a little lost in her own body. Tune in to learn how to be more in tune with your changing body, re-ignite a spark in your love life, and feel overall healthier again in midlife and beyond!  Kelly Casperson, MD  Dr. Kelly Casperson is a board-certified urologic surgeon and the CEO and founder of The Casperson Clinic– a modern practice dedicated to hormones and sex medicine. She's a renowned public speaker, sex educator, and host of the top-ranking podcast You Are Not Broken. Dr. Kelly is dedicated to helping women demystify sexual health, intimacy, and midlife wellness. Her work also provides essential education on hormones and midlife health. IN THIS EPISODE The most common complaints regarding intimacy in midlife Giving yourself permission for pleasure  The biopsychosocial aspect of sex, especially for women Addressing lower libido in perimenopause/menopause  The benefits of an orgasm and advice for increasing desire  Testosterone levels in women and hormone replacement options Debunking myths about menopause and hormones  Daily non-negotiables to feel your best  QUOTES “I think a lot of women are still under the impression that they should be able to have an orgasm vaginally. And 70% of women, they need, they need clitoral stimulation to make that happen.” “A big thing about sex– number one and two about sex is you have to feel safe and you have to not be stressed.” “They're like, ‘so is your goal to get every woman on hormones?' And I'm like, ‘No. My goal is to educate every single woman so that she can make the right decision if she chooses not to.'” RESOURCES MENTIONED Order Dr. Kelly's Book: You Are Not Broken HERE  Pre-Order Dr. Kelly's New Book: The Menopause Moment HERE  Dr. Kelly's Website  Dr. Kelly's Instagram Dr. Kelly's Podcast: You Are Not Broken  Dr. Kelly on YouTube BEAM Minerals: Use code ENERGIZED at checkout for 20% off your first order!  High-quality olive oil: go to www.getfreshenergized.com to get your free $39 bottle for just $1 shipping. RELATED EPISODES #506: Optimizing Testosterone, Growth Hormone and Other Metabolic Hormones in Our 40s and Beyond with Dr. Stephanie Estima #605: Breaking the HRT Confusion: The Truth Behind Hormone Replacement Therapy for Perimenopausal Women with Karen Martel 579: Hormone Replacement Options and Hormone Testing for Women in Midlife + Self Advocacy for Optimal Health with Esther Blum #569: How to Build a Strong Emotional Connection with Your Partner and How to Transform Your Love Life with Vanessa and Xander Marin #347: Got Low Testosterone? What Women Can Do About It

Whether aware of it or not, a lot of parents subconsciously fall back on harmful patterns experienced as kids themselves, and project them onto their own family.  So how do we break this cycle?  Author of Parent Yourself First Bryana Kappadakunnel joins the podcast today to offer you tools to help you consciously parent and support your children.  Because often in Bryana's experience as a Family Therapist, she's discovered that usually, it's us as the parents who need fixing, not our children.  If you're a mama, mama-to-be, or even grandma, the tools from this episode are life-changing for you and your family. By treating our kids with respect and using the techniques offered by Bryana, your children will grow to be confident, compassionate, and empathetic leaders.  Don't miss out on this opportunity to learn how YOU can show up for your kids, so they can grow into their best possible selves! Bryana Kappadakunnel Bryana Kappadakunnel is a mom, author, and licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over a decade of experience. She's the founder of Conscious Mommy, an online hub for all things parenting. From parenting groups to one-on-one support to workshops and more, she believes long-term family healing happens in a community. Conscious Mommy equips parents with the tools to respond more effectively in their homes and nurture their children in the best way possible.  IN THIS EPISODE Addressing your inner trauma as a parent  The stressors and mental load on modern-day parents Managing parental mental health and your kid's mental health  The importance of compassion for ourselves as parents  How children respond to seeing a parent in distress  Providing routine, sense of calm, and intentional slowness to kids  Top techniques for conscious parenting  QUOTES “What happens is that we're having our own reaction. That's what needs to be healed. That's what needs to be explored. That's what needs to be understood… so we don't have to be these reactive parents who probably, I would say 100% of them, at the end of the day feel guilty and feel bad about it.” “The surgeon General re-released a report at the end of 2024 and said that parenting is bad for your mental health. We are in a serious crisis for parental mental health.” “Children don't just learn off of what we say to them, but they are actually primarily learning based off of what they see in us.”  RESOURCES MENTIONED Bryana's Website: Conscious Mommy Join The Conscious Mommy Community HERE! Bryana's Book: Parent Yourself First  Bryana's Socials: Instagram  TikTok Facebook0 RELATED EPISODES  585: Actionable Strategies and Tools for Whole Child Resilience & Reducing Chronic Conditions with Dr. Elisa Song #569: How to Build a Strong Emotional Connection with Your Partner and How to Transform Your Love Life with Vanessa and Xander Marin #383: How I Build Metabolically Healthy Meals for My Family to Maintain Steady Blood Sugar and Energy Levels

Initiating sex is something that a lot of people struggle with. So why is it hard, and how can we make it easier? That’s what we’re talking about in today’s show. In this episode, we're revisiting a wonderful conversation I had with Vanessa and Xander Marin, the co-hosts of the “Pillow Talks” podcast and co-authors of the book, Sex Talks: Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. Some of the questions we answer include: Why is initiating sex so hard for so many people? What are the dos and don’ts of sexual initiation? How do you figure out your initiation style? How do you say “no” to a partner's initiation attempt without hurting their feelings? Are there ways to encourage your partner to initiate sex more often? Make sure to check out Vanessa and Xander's website, and visit their Youtube, Instagram, and TikTok to learn more. And be sure to get a copy of Sex Talks! Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors!  Tap into your natural sex appeal, attract the person you're looking for, cultivate meaningful connections, and re-ignite the spark in your relationship with The Art of Sex Appeal class by Shan Boodram on Masterclass. Sex and Psychology listeners can get an additional 15% off any annual Masterclass membership at masterclass.com/sexandpsychology The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University has been a trusted source for scientific knowledge and research on critical issues in sexuality, gender, and reproduction for over 75 years. Learn about more research and upcoming events at kinseyinstitute.org or look for them on social media @kinseyinstitute. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Bluesky to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field. Xander, her husband, is a self proclaimed “regular dude who's been married to a sex therapist for over a decade.” Together, they help people stop feeling so embarrassed about sex, start having more fun in the bedroom and communicate better. They join the show to talk how to *actually* keep the spark alive in long term relationships, being child-free by choice, how to discern between true incompatibility and just poor communication, the two types of desire and sex drives, relationship and sex myths and how to talk to your partner about sex.This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Go to clearstem.com/WELL and use code WELL at checkout for 20% off. Save 15% off my favorite red light face mask at boncharge.com and use code BLONDE.Go to www.YNAB.com/well for an exclusive three-month free trial with no credit card required.Visit hungryroot.com/blonde to get 40% off your first box and a free item of your choice.Visit opositiv.com/blonde for 25% off your first order.Visit nutrafol.com and use code BLONDE to get $10 off your first month's subscription & free shipping.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Vanessa a Xander Marin napísali knihu Sax Talks, 5 rozhovorov o sexe, ktoré potrebujete mať keď chcete lepší sexuálny život. My sme sa pozreli na prvé 4 metódy ktoré nám odporúčajú. Podcastové aplikace nám nic neplatí. Moc vám děkujeme za odběry, díky nim můžeme fungovat.

On today's episode of Reimagining Love, Vanessa & Xander Marin join Dr. Alexandra for a frank and compassionate conversation about sex—specifically, sex in long-term relationships. It's normal for couples to fall into a rut in the bedroom, ranging from sex feeling kind of “meh,” to long periods without any intimacy at all. These ebbs and flows are part of being in a long-term relationship or marriage, and the good news is, there are actions you can take to chart a new course with your partner and to get excited about each other again. Vanessa and Xander are a couple who have been creating that very roadmap for folks, through their amazing online courses, their podcast, Pillow Talks, and their New York Times-bestselling book, Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. Vanessa is a sex therapist with 20 years of experience who has been featured in outlets like O, The Oprah Magazine, Harper's Bazaar, Vogue, and Goop, and she has written for The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker. And Xander? Well, he is a “regular dude” who left his corporate job to join Vanessa in this work. Together they blend clinical wisdom, humor, openness, and their own personal stories to normalize talking about our sex lives and to offer techniques for improving yours. You are going to hear about their personal experience with couple therapy and how they landed on the agreement, “If it matters to one of us, it matters to both of us.” They share so many juicy insights about sex, from desire discrepancy to initiation to their amazing acronym “P.L.E.A.S.E.,” which you'll learn in this conversation. This episode will give you the confidence to shift the way you and your partner talk about sex and couple therapy, as well as anything else you might be stuck on.Relevant Links:Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life by Vanessa & Xander MarinVanessa & Xander's website: https://vmtherapy.com/https://vmtherapy.com/Vanessa & Xander's courses & challenges: https://vmtherapy.com/holiday-gift-guide-2024Vanessa & Xander's podcast, Pillow Talks: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pillow-talks/id1569466131Order Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Give the gift of Relational Self-Awareness! All of Dr. Alexandra's online offerings are 20% off until December 20th, 2024! They include the hallmark course "Intimate Relationships 101" and the Reimagining Love Workbook as a beautiful companion to this podcast. Visit https://dralexandrasolomon.com/giftguide2024/ to explore Relational Self-Awareness as you and your loved ones move into the new year.

Sex and business have a lot in common. They both take communication, there's no such thing as perfection yet we're always striving to grow, and both suffer when we don't make them a priority. I'm excited to have Vanessa and Xander Marin on the podcast with Lori and I to talk about a topic we don't typically cover on the podcast, sex. The Marins are friends of ours and both happen to also be in our Elite Entrepreneur Mastermind. They give incredible tips in this episode to approach communication when it comes to sex whether you're in a long term relationship or are looking for a partner. Plus, they share how they've been able to grow a massively successful online business while being in a category where they don't have the ability to promote their business with typical ads.    HIGHLIGHTS How to bring up conversations about sex in a positive way with your partner. Tips every couple can implement for more pleasure and connection. How hustle culture in entrepreneurship can impact your intimacy. Ways to organically promote and grow your business.   RESOURCES Join us in our Elite Mastermind to work on your business in 2025 - Go to chrisharder.me/mastermind Text DAILY to 310-421-0416 to get daily Money Mantras to boost your day. Want to grow your email list - Get Over 240 Free Lead Magnets HERE! Check out upcoming events + Masterminds: chrisharder.me   FOLLOW Chris: @chriswharder Lori: @loriharder Frello: @frello_app Vanessa and Xander: @vanessaandxander  

In this episode, you'll hear from a sex therapist and her husband, Vanessa and Xander Marin! We talk about when to bring up sex in early dating, what to do if you don't feel a “spark,” and you'll get specific tips for navigating other sex-related conversations. You'll hear about how Vanessa and Xander help clients talk to their partners about sex and their interests and tips for taking responsibility for your own pleasure. At the end, we get into what has become a huge topic in recent years: mental load and how it can negatively affect your sex life. Follow Vanessa and Xander on IG: https://www.instagram.com/vanessaandxander/  Visit Vanessa and Xander's website: https://vmtherapy.com/  Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9  Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/free-guides Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP About Vanessa and Xander: Vanessa is a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field, and Xander is a regular dude who's here to show you that you don't need a graduate degree or license to have extraordinary intimacy. Together, they wrote Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, which is an NYT best seller, and they host the podcast, Pillow Talks, available on all platforms. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of the Fertility Confidence Podcast, I sit down with intimacy experts Vanessa and Xander Marin to talk about the unique challenges that couples face with intimacy while navigating fertility struggles. Vanessa and Xander are known for their candid advice and practical strategies, and together, we explore ways to help you and your partner reconnect and overcome the pressures that fertility can put on your relationship. Here's what we cover: The “Fairy Tale” expectations around sex and how they create unnecessary stress Why sex can start to feel like just another “checkbox” and how to bring back the connection How to break out of routine and rediscover passion during your fertility journey Understanding responsive vs. spontaneous desire so each of you can feel supported Tools and rituals to help maintain intimacy and reduce performance pressure Tips for managing the “mental load” of trying to conceive and communicating about it Resources We Mentioned: Vanessa and Xander's Foreplay Guides and Courses – These are fantastic, shame-free resources for bringing more excitement and understanding to your sex life Follow Vanessa and Xander on Instagram for candid, relatable content: @vanessaandxander If you're ready to embrace a stronger connection and create a partnership-focused approach to intimacy, tune in and discover new ways to feel closer and more in sync with your partner. Don't forget to subscribe for more expert insights to help you move forward on your fertility journey with confidence!  

“Sex isn't really worth having without vulnerability.”Sexuality and intimacy can be sensitive topics, especially in long-term relationships. But what if these conversations could be transformed into pathways to deeper connection and more fulfilling, mutually satisfying sex? In this episode, we're thrilled to welcome our first couple(!) to Hotter Than Ever: Vanessa and Xander Marin. Vanessa, a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience, and her husband, Xander, bring their unique perspectives together to foster honest, vulnerable discussions around sex and intimacy. Together, they've written the NYT bestselling book “Sex Talks” and are on a mission to help couples achieve true closeness.Join us for an illuminating conversation on the essential ingredients for a rewarding sex life and on dismantling long-standing misconceptions about intimacy. This episode is a powerful reminder that true intimacy—whether in long relationships or new ones—requires courage, open communication, and a fresh look at what we really need and desire. We discuss:Why open conversations about sex are crucial for fostering intimacy and connection between partners.Breaking down male expectations around intimacy and performance, and how these notions can block true connection and vulnerability.Prioritizing quality over quantity in sex—focusing on enhancing pleasure and satisfaction over frequency.Practical, small-scale actions to boost emotional intimacy, like expressing gratitude, embracing a 30-second hug, or sharing a 6-second kiss.Cultivating your own individual sexuality to reinforce a sense of self and desire, no matter your relationship status.Navigating sexual changes through perimenopause and menopause, with tips on staying connected to your body and sexuality.OUR GUESTS: Vanessa and Xander Marin are the dynamic duo behind the NYT bestseller “Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life”. Vanessa, a certified sex therapist, and her husband Xander, who left a career at Google to join her in this mission, combine their expertise and candid, down-to-earth approach to help couples kick shame out of the bedroom and embrace deeper connection, pleasure, and joy. Together, Vanessa and Xander have been featured in top publications like O, The Oprah Magazine, Harper's Bazaar, Vogue, and Goop, and Vanessa has contributed to The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker.Want more Vanessa & Xander? Tune into their podcast Pillow Talks for practical relationship advice, real-life insights, and plenty of laughs as they share what truly goes on behind closed doors.Follow them on:Instagram: @vanessaandxanderTikTok: @vanessaandxander YouTube: @vanessaandxander Facebook: @vanessaandxander Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at

Need better ways to initiate sex in your relationship? Vanessa and Xander Marin join me to discuss everything we are getting wrong about initiation and tips to do it better. She's a sex therapist with 20 years of experience, he's a regular dude and together they wrote Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. Tune in and learn to change the communication of initiation in your relationship.Visit our episode sponsor UBERLUBE - use code CINDY for 15% offLearn more about Vanessa and Xander MarinPRE-ORDER my BookJOIN my Newsletter CommunityFOLLOW on InstagramVISIT my Blog

Vanessa and Xander make their triumphant return to Fake Doctors to tell us about butt stuff, and how to keep the wife happy. Just a reminder - this one isn't for the kids. Enjoy! Go to vmtherapy.com for Vanessa's guides.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today's guests are Vanessa and Xander Marin from VM Therapy. They come on to share about common struggles for couples regarding sex, and the crossover we can see with finances. You'll hear about some of the growing pains with relationships and intimacy while also getting some tips for how you might be able to initiate sex that double as a financial conversation piece! Enjoy!   In this episode, we chat about: The discomfort with initiation Having hard conversations about sex The “Bristle Reaction” in sex + money   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Forbes Article CONNECT WITH TODAY'S GUEST:  https://vmtherapy.com/ Instagram  TikTok  Pillow Talks Podcast Courses & Guides Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life    ABOUT PRICE OF AVOCADO TOAST: Listen in with Haley and Justin Brown-Woods, married millennials picking up the pieces from the financial fiasco they created as a young couple.  They want to normalize conversations about money and learn from others on the path towards financial empowerment. Whether you are just getting started on your debt-free journey, or if you are really starting to hit your stride, this podcast is for YOU!  Join weekly as they interview some others who have done it the right way, the wrong way, and every way in between. Avocado toast may cost a pretty penny, but that doesn't mean it can't be in your budget! FIND HALEY AND JUSTIN ONLINE + SOCIAL MEDIA HERE: priceofavocadotoast.com Price of Avocado Toast Instagram Price of Avocado Toast Twitter Price of Avocado Toast Threads Price of Avocado Toast on TikTok Price of Avocado Toast Facebook Join the Price of Avocado Toast Newsletter OTHER LINKS: Apply for 1:1 Coaching With Haley & Justin Schedule a Budget Builder call with Haley & Justin Price of Avocado Toast customizable 12 month budgeting template   RECOGNITION: Audio engineer: Garrett Davis Podcast Support: Weir Digital Marketing  

EP428. Vanessa Marin, LMFT and her husband, Xander are the authors of Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. One common issue that comes up in marriage post-baby is a lack of intimacy and a loss of connection. We think sex should happen spontaneously and naturally, and that we shouldn't need to do anything to feel desire. It often does feel that way in the beginning of relationships, meaning that couples never have meaningful conversations about sex, what turns them on, what they need to feel connected, or learn how to navigate sexual conflict effectively. So when the honeymoon phase wears off, and the spark dims, couples are left feeling lost if their sex life doesn't live up to what it used to be. In this Episode, Vanessa and Xander help us discover what type of sex drive, sex personality type, and initiation style you have, and then they get into the five essential conversations that every romantic couple should have. RENEE REINA www.themomroom.com Instagram: @themomroompodcast | @thereneereina TikTok: @thereneereina Facebook Community Youtube: Renee Reina- The Mom Room Podcast VANESSA & XANDER Instagram: @vanessaandxander SPONSORS: Little Spoon. ginger + dandelion. Fungies. Hello Bello. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you're listening in real time, it's the week of Memorial Day and we know a lot of you are busy. But we wanted to bring back this “Greatest Hits” episode with our dear friends Vanessa and Xander Marin. They way they talk about big breaks and if they actually happen or if it's a series of small breaks that leads you to growing your business is refreshing. The two of them are married and they go into what it's like to run a business with a partner and how to keep that relationship healthy while doing so.Vanessa is a psychotherapist that specializes in sex therapy. Xander is a regular dude that has been married to a sex therapist for over 10 years. After a few years owning her business- they decided that Xander would help her! He started behind the scenes, but now is a full fledged face of the business. We also dive into questions about their fast growing business. They've had a remarkable year growth wise and we dive into what has been working. They left SO much tangible insight and we're excited for our listeners and their fans to get a peek at this side of their relationship. Buckle up for one great conversation!MEET VANESSA AND XANDER: https://www.instagram.com/vanessamarintherapy/VM THERAPY WEBSITE: https://vmtherapy.com/Workshop: How to Launch a Profitable PodcastLet's connect!Purposeful Week Planner: https://www.pursuingherpurpose.com/shopOur WEBSITE: https://www.pursuingherpurpose.comINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/pursuingherpurpose/MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer/MEET KAT: https://www.instagram.com/kat.herro/ MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen/

Episode 33: Maintaining Intimacy After Kids with Vanessa and Xander Marin @vanessaandxander In this episode, Rachael Shepard-Ohta speaks with Vanessa and Xander Marin, authors and husband and wife duo, all about intimacy, relationships, and their new book, Sex Talks!  They discuss the inspiration behind the book and the importance of open and honest communication about sex and relationships. They highlight the conversations on emotional connection and pleasure as particularly important. They also address the challenges couples face during the roommate phase and provide tips for navigating different levels of readiness for intimacy. Hear their take on the benefits of couples therapy and alternative resources for couples seeking support.  Meet New York Times Best Selling authors Vanessa and Xander Marin. She's a sex therapist with 20 years of experience, he's a regular dude, and together they wrote Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. They're the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you'll be calling your new besties in no time. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Follow them on Instagram @vanessaandxander, and tune in to their podcast, Pillow Talks, for totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It's the sex education you WISH you'd had! Mentioned in this episode: Xander and Vanessa's Instagram @vanessaandxander Vanessa and Xander's Online Courses: https://vmtherapy.com/courses Rediscovering Us: Intimacy and Sex for Parents Course Pillow Talks Podcast  Sex Talks Book Rachael is a mom of 3, founder of Hey, Sleepy Baby, and the host of this podcast. Instagram (Show page) Tiktok (Rachael's tiktok account) Show Website (transcripts available here) If you enjoyed this episode please rate and review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are so many factors at play in our sex life after baby, from resentment and conflict to the invisible load to a lack of time for emotional intimacy. But when we learn how to talk openly about sex we can overcome those factors and rekindle the spark in a way that feels good for both partners.  This week on The Momwell Podcast, I'm joined by Vanessa and Xander Marin, hosts of the podcast Pillow Talks and NYT bestselling authors of Sex Talks to discuss why our sex lives change so much after baby and how we can work through barriers to create intimacy and connection. Show Notes: https://bit.ly/49bm2qN  Book a Free 15 min Consult with a mom therapist: momwell.com  Follow Momwell on Instagram: instagram.com/momwell  Sign up for our weekly VIP Newsletter: momwell.com/newsletter  Register for one of our popular workshops and courses: momwell.com/shop  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EPISODE SUMMARY Ladies… take a good look at your love life.  Are you holding back?  Less satisfied in the bedroom? Worried your sex drive will never come back? Trust me, I know these topics can be hard to talk about.  But opening up about sex with your partner can be a complete game-changer for your relationship.  Married couple Vanessa and Xander Marin join me today to help YOU uncover what's holding you back in your relationship.  You'll learn exactly how to feel a deeper connection to your partner. PLUS you'll get tons of tips for feeling more confident and pleasured in– and out– of the bedroom.  Don't miss this podcast– especially before Valentine's Day! It's the perfect time to strengthen your relationship and amp up your love life for the long term.  Vanessa and Xander Marin Vanessa & Xander Marin are New York Times best-selling authors who wrote Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. Vanessa is a sex therapist with 20 years of experience. And with Xander– the hilarious couple makes a dream team. They're shockingly open and slightly nerdy, and they'll feel like your new besties in no time. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving step-by-step techniques for improving yours. IN THIS EPISODE How Vanessa got started as a sex therapist  Common reasons couples don't have the sex life they want Declining sex drive in long-term relationships Communication and connection with your partner  The 2 different types of sex drive and what they mean  Dealing with mismatched sex drives in a relationship  Different needs for male vs. female orgasms  All about Vanessa & Xander's resources for YOUR sex life!  RESOURCES MENTIONED Vanessa & Xander's Website Get 40% off The Sweet or Spicy Challenge HERE Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life Online Courses & Guides  Get Freebies from Vanessa & Xander Here!  Vanessa & Xander's Instagram Pillow Talks Podcast RELATED EPISODES  #540: WHY SOCIAL CONNECTION IS CRITICAL TO LONGEVITY AND HOW TO INFUSION MORE JOY INTO YOUR DAILY HEALTH PRACTICES WITH COLLEEN AND JASON WACHOB #45: REGENERATING YOUR SEXUAL HEALTH WITH THE SEXUAL SOULMATE PACT WITH SUSAN BRATTON #37: 5 WAYS TO REV UP YOUR SEX DRIVE WITH ESSENTIAL OILS

Welcome to The Tara Talk, your go-to podcast for all things mindset + movement! Today Tara connects with Vanessa Marin to talk about sex, pleasure, and how to communicate your needs.Vanessa Marin is a sex therapist and instant New York Times Best Selling author of Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, co-written with her husband and partner-in-crime, Xander Marin.Vanessa is here to help you kick shame out of the bedroom so you can start feeling the connection, pleasure, and joy you deserve!Episode Highlights: Fluctuating sex driveHow to communicate your needs with your partnerTips for talking about sexHaving open conversations with friendsLet's talk about butt stuff!How to start with analQuality over quantity with sexSelf pleasure Q&ADirect vs indirect clitoris stimulationDiffering sizes and shapesLube 101How to have the sex talk with kidsCreating an experience for both to enjoyThe Valentines Day Sex Challenge! Are you ready to uplevel your health & fitness with Legion?  Use code TaraTalk for 20% off your first order and double loyalty cash back any order after that when you shop at LegionAthletics.com If this episode resonated please leave a rate & review and share with friends! Your support means so much! Watch the episode on YouTube HERE.  Connect with Vanessa @vanessaandxander Learn more about her courses , resources and podcast HEREFollow along on @taralaferrara for no BS fitness + life advice. Follow along on @thetaratalk for episode updates and extra content.  Sign up for the newsletter HERE and never miss an update!Work with Tara:1:1 coaching (apply to see if this is a fit for you)TL Method (get a FREE week of workouts!)

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Are you curious why Vanessa and Xander, a happily married couple, chose not to have children? Find out by joining therapist Vanessa and her husband Xander as they share their personal story about why they chose to remain childfree. Tune in to learn more about their unconventional decision and how it has impacted their lives! Follow Vanessa and Xander Marin https://sextalksbook.com/ https://vmtherapy.com/ HelloFresh Go to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life!  StoryWorth Go to http://StoryWorth.com/lovers and save $10 on your first purchase!  Zoc Doc Go to Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodram http://tiktok.com/shanboody

On this week's episode, Joelle finally booked sex therapist, Vanessa Marin, and her partner, Xander. Donald brings CaCee down for a quick session, and Zach does a dramatic reading from Vanessa and Xander's book. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ready to transform your relationship? Let's talk: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/  ------ Is low sex drive ruining your relationship? All long term couples experience sexual dry spells, whether it's due to stress, hormonal changes, emotional disconnection, or simply being too tired to get frisky at the end of a long day (pro tip: sex does not have to happen at bed time!).  Luckily, it doesn't matter how often you're "doing it" — what matters is that you and your partner know how to navigate periods of low sex drive while keeping your relationship healthy and strong.  It's totally possible, and this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast will show you the way! My guests are Vanessa and Xander Marin, authors of "Sex Talks: The 5 Conversations that Will Transform Your Love Life." Vanessa is a sex therapist, and along with her partner Xander, she's sharing her top tips for keeping low sex drive from ruining your relationship — and for reigniting your sexual spark. I hope you'll join us! xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby https://www.growingself.com/ 

Today on Let's Talk Love, Robin sits down with Vanessa and Xander Marin. Together they explore the pages of Vanessa and Xander's book, Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. Vanessa is a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field. Xander refers to himself as a regular dude who has been married to a sex therapist for over a decade. Their unique perspectives provide a refreshing take on relationships, intimacy, and communication.Vanessa and Xander challenge the notion that the fading of romantic sparks signifies the loss of a relationship's essence. Rather, they say that the true culprit often lies in the breakdown of communication. Vanessa and Xander graciously unveil invaluable insights into understanding oneself and one's partner, all while fostering open, clear, and loving dialogues. Join us for this enlightening conversation and discover how to embrace vulnerability, dissolve barriers, and reignite your sex life.We want to hear from you! Send us your anonymous questions for the Podcast as well as our weekly IG Live Ask The Experts Q&A. https://realloveready.com/submitaquestionLearn more with Xander & Vanessa:Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love LifeCourse: The Art of InitiationWebsite: https://vmtherapy.com/FOLLOW XANDER & VANESSA: INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK | TIKTOKFOLLOW RLR: INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK | TWITTERWatch the podcast on YouTube: youtube.com/reallovereadyCredits: the Let's Talk Love Podcast is hosted by Robin Ducharme, recorded and edited by Maia Anstey, and transcribed by Otter.ai. Watch the podcast on YouTube: youtube.com/realloveready Credits: the Let's Talk Love Podcast is hosted by Robin Ducharme, recorded and edited by Maia Anstey, and transcribed by Otter.ai.

Welcome back! Today we're joined by Vanessa Marin, licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field, and her husband, Xander, chatting about all things sex and intimacy. what we talk about: Why Vanessa decided to be a sex therapist & how Xander decided to start working with her Each of our experiences getting (or not getting) "the talk" How to actually talk to a partner about sex (no matter the relationship stage) What to do if you've been faking it with your partner (and want to stop) Why foreplay is important and how to do it right & more! Find Vanessa & Xander on Instagram or their website where you can purchase their courses and learn about working with them. As always, find us on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlybalancedpodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠. Thanks for joining us and please leave a rating or review if you enjoyed the episode! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mostlybalanced/support

In this episode, Jamie interviews New York Times Best Selling authors Vanessa and Xander Marin. She's a sex therapist with 20 years of experience, he's a regular dude, and together they wrote Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life.   They're the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you'll be calling your new besties in no time. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours.   Follow them on Instagram @vanessaandxander, and tune in to their podcast, Pillow Talks, for totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It's the sex education you WISH you'd had!     For more from Jamie Scrimgeour visit www.jamiescrimgeour.com Follow along on Instagram: www.instagram.com/jamiescrimgeour Follow along on Facebook: www.facebook.com/scrimgeourjamie   Join The KICK-ASS Stepmom Community: www.jamiescrimgeour.com/membership FREE GUIDE: The Secret To Improving Your Stepfamily Life: www.jamiescrimgeour.com/freeguide FREE GUIDE: How To Coparent With A High Conflict Ex: www.jamiescrimgeour.com/https://jamiescrimgeour.com/how-to-co-parent-with-high-conflict-ex     For More From  Vanessa and Xander Marin Follow them on Instagram Listen to their podcast: Pillow Talk   Get Your Copy: Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life.     Thanks to Our Sponsors: LMNT - www.drinklmnt.com/kickassstepmom to get a free sample pack with your purchase   OSEA - www.oseamalibu.com and use the code KICKASSSTEPMOM for 10% off your order   Tonic Site Shop - www.jamiescrimgeour.com/tonic and use the code JAMIE15 for 15% off  

Welcome back to Brunch with Desb! Today, I am absolutely thrilled to have New York Times best-selling authors Vanessa and Xander Marin on the podcast to talk all about sex! Vanessa is a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and Xander is just a regular dude along for the ride. Together, they wrote Sex Talks and are very open about the ups and downs in their own relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques to improve yours. They share doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, and honest sex stories. In this episode, we are diving into all things long term relationships, initiating sex, as well as sex postpartum. How do we navigate sex after becoming parents with our partners? How do we keep the spark alive when it feels like the honeymoon phase is over? How do we explain to our partners how we're feeling after experiencing a traumatic birth? We'll be answering all of these questions and so many more so keep listening! Time Stamps: (4:33) Get to Know Vanessa & Xander Marin (14:38) Adult Sex Ed (23:37) Long Term Relationships (38:56) Postpartum Sex (47:07) How Often Should I Have Sex? —--- Find Vanessa and Xander: https://vmtherapy.com Follow on IG: https://instagram.com/vanessaandxander Follow on Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@vanessaandxander Sex Talks Book: https://amzn.to/3OLffvg Join BetterHelp today - www.betterhelp.com/desb code “desb” for 10% off your first month! #ad #sponsored JOIN MY APP: https://train.desbfittraining.com/trainers/desb___/landing/  ubeauty skincare: DESB for 25% off tula skincare: DESB for 15% off #tulapartner watch my latest YouTube video: HTTPS://WWW.YOUTUBE.COM/@DESB___  DM me on IG: www.instagram.com/brunchwithdesb  Follow my like to know it: https://www.shopltk.com/explore/desb___ Follow up amazon store: https://www.amazon.com/shop/desb___  —--- OPEN FACEBOOK FITNESS COMMUNITY: www.facebook.com/groups/dbftcommunity 

Why is sexual communication one of the key ingredients of our sex lives, but yet is one of the hardest things for us to do? Very few of us feel well set up or equipped to talk about sex comfortably, and so in this episode Vanessa and Xander Marin New York Times Best Selling authors of  Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life and hosts of  Pillow Talks podcast, unpack the specifics and mechanics of how to talk about sex, covering the five conversational steps from their book  - acknowledgement, connection, desire, pleasure and exploration. Vanessa is a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and has been featured thousands of times in major publications, and Xander describes himself as a regular dude. As a couple they share the ups and downs in their relationship, while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Follow them on Instagram @vanessaandxander --- This episode is sponsored by Roam, a brand changing the game when it comes to sexual wellness by creating inclusive, skincare inspired sex care that is good for you and good for the planet. With a selection of lubes designed for different explorations, from front and back lube to masturbation cream and massage oil. Condoms that contain 40% less packaging than traditional condoms and a selection of discreet, rechargeable toys to guarantee a better solo experience.  Roam believes that everyone should feel confident and comfortable having sex. By breaking down taboos and challenging stigmas around sex, Roam is here to make the world a more sex-positive place and make everyone feel seen. Get 20% off with Code SESSIONS20 at exploreroam.com Follow Roam on Instagram @exploreroam --- The Sexual Wellness Sessions is hosted by Kate Moyle, a Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist and Certified Psycho-Sexologist, and author of The Science Of Sex : Every Question About Your Sex Life Answered.   Follow Kate on Instagram at @KateMoyleTherapy

A conversation with child-free adults, including their personal decisions to not have kids, how it has impacted their lives and relationships, and their tips for navigating society as a child-free person.  the historical context for how we view mothers how they all knew they didn't want kids tips for discussing being childfree with a partner what parents in their lives told them (confidentially) that influenced their decision how to deal with the grief of lives unlived, whether you have kids or are childfree how to handle the opinions (and disappointment!) of parents, friends, & others  how being childfree impacts friendships how to find purpose in life outside of procreation  what the motherhood spectrum is & how to know where you fall on it the best and worst parts of being childfree by choice and so much more!  For more from Ruby, head to her website rubywarrington.com, follow her on social media at @rubywarrington, and grab her book Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood.  For more from Vanessa and Xander, head to their website vmtherapy.com, follow them on social media at @vanessaandxander, and grab their book Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life.  To join the Healthier Together Podcast Club Facebook group, go to https://www.facebook.com/groups/healthiertogetherpodcast. Ready to uplevel every part of your life? Pre-order my new book 100 Ways to Change Your Life: The Science of Leveling Up Health, Happiness, Relationships & Success now!  This episode is sponsored by: Seed: go to seed.com/lizmoody and use code LIZMOODY for 25% off your first month. AG1: visit athleticgreens.com/healthiertogether and get your FREE year supply of Vitamin D and 5 free travel packs today.  Paleovalley: go to paleovalley.com/lizmoody for 15% off your order. Cozy Earth: visit cozyearth.com and use code HEALTHIER35 for up to 35% sitewide.  Healthier Together cover art by Zack. Healthier Together music by Alex Ruimy.

Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She's a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he's a regular dude. Together they're the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Follow them on IG @vanessamarintherapy, tune in to their podcast, Pillow Talks, and join their email list at vmtherapy.com for totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It's the sex education you WISH you'd had!They're joining us today to talk about all things sex. I compiled a list of YOUR top asked questions and  they're breaking them down for us. Including about butt stuff, vanilla sex, sex after baby and more!Check out these courses:Finishing School (if you hav trouble orgasming, this is a must) Rediscovering DesireModern Man's GuideThe Passion ProjectVanessa & Xander's IG________________________________________________________________Did you love this episode? BUY ME A COFFEE for support!Find me on Instagram@balkanina@mamaknowspodcastFind me on TikTokBalkaninaSubscribe to my NewsletterPrivate Facebook Motherhood-Podcast CommunityMama Knows FBDisclaimer: This podcast does not provide any medical advice, it is for informational purposes only!

On today's episode Aurora & Kristen sit down with sexpert couple & authors of The New York Times bestseller Sex Talks. We cover it all- men's thoughts on vaginas, fear of pooping after butt stuff, & ultimately why communication is the key to good sex, not just taking your clothes off. Ladies (& Gents) get ready because you are about to learn A LOT.Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sex Therapist Vanessa Marin is back on the pod to discuss how we can all make sex more ENJOYABLE. She shares with us:  How we can stop faking our orgasms and experiment with real pleasure;  How to communicate honestly with our partners about what we want in bed; and Why masturbation can be an opportunity for self-exploration and reclamation. She also offers empowering advice for individuals recovering from sexual trauma.  Plus, Glennon contemplates writing erotica.  CW: Discussion of sex after sexual trauma  For our previous conversations with Vanessa, check out: Episode 195 Sex Talk & That Night in Miami: Sex Therapy with Vanessa Marin, Episode 196 How Glennon & Abby Learned to Talk Dirty with Vanessa Marin, and Episode 213 Sex Fantasies: What Do They Say About Us? with Vanessa Marin. About Vanessa: Vanessa Marin is a sex therapist and instant New York Times Best Selling author of Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, co-written with her husband and partner-in-crime, Xander Marin. Vanessa is here to help you kick shame out of the bedroom so you can start feeling the connection, pleasure, and joy you deserve! TW: @VMTherapy IG: @vanessaandxander To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Buckle up today, y'all, because we are diving in to the topic of sex. We get to hang out with Vanessa and Xander Marin. They are over at Vanessa and Xander on Instagram. They wrote an incredible book called, Sex Talks. And what I love about them is that their approach to sex is really about an approach to communication. How are we showing up in relationship with one another? How are we having conversations, especially ones that might feel awkward or new for us, like, if we didn't grow up having these conversations or witnessing them, what does it look like to have them? It is truly the sex education I wish existed for all humans. What does this look like postpartum? What does it look like to prioritize our relationships and really pour into one another? Or connect when our bandwidth is low, when we're pulled in 7000 directions, or you've had a baby on your body all day? I love how practical and applicable their tips in the book and then in this podcast episode are and I cant wait to share them with you.    Love this podcast? Scroll down to leave a review! I read every one and they fill my heart with joy.   Connect with Vanessa and Xander: Sex Talks Book  Pillow Talk Podcast  Instagram @vanessaandxander Vmtherapy.com   Connect with us on:   Instagram: Tiny Humans, Big Emotions (@seed.and.sew)   Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Music by: Bensound   Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz

You heard them first with Glennon and Abby, but NOW, Jess and Jess get a chance to sit down and chat all things S-E-X with the adorable and incredibly knowledgeable "sexpert couple" Vanessa and Xander Marin! The authors of SEX TALKS: The 5 Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life  come on the show to talk about why it's so hard for couples to talk to each other about sex, and that most sex problems between couples usually boil down to something much less complicated than drive or compatibility. It's communication that is key.JessB is uncomfortable talking about sex on air, and JessK is super comfy talking about all things between the sheets. From fairy tale sex lives- what we most often see on television on repeat, to what "should" our sex lives look like, Vanessa and Xander challenge Jess and Jess to ponder what great sex actually means to them- and what they want in the bedroom.Whether sex is the last thing you think about or it's on the forefront of your relationship struggles- you need to listen to this episode, and even more, you need to go and get the book!About the authors:Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex therapy. She has bachelor's degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University and a master's degree in counseling psychology. She has written for The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker, and has been featured many times in major publications like Oprah Daily, Harper's Bazaar, Vogue, and Real Simple.Xander Marin is a regular dude who left a cushy career in tech once he realized it was more fun to talk about sex with his wife all day. He's here to show you that you don't need a graduate degree or a license to have extraordinary communication skills—you just need to have an open mind and willingness!Support the show

Today's juicy episode is with an incredible couple that loves to make sex a topic you actually talk about. I imagine many of you listening have had the ups and downs in your sex life with your partner. We can remember the start of a relationship that was hot and heavy, passionate and alluring...then fast forward to a year or more into the relationship. Maybe sex isn't as frequent and maybe becomes less interesting. Well first and foremost to let you know this is more common than some might think it is...but that doesn't mean it needs to be this way. My guests today will share how to reignite the spark and the intimacy back in your relationship. To welcome my guests, Vanessa and Xander Marin. A married couple her to help keep the spark alive in your long-term relationship. Vanessa's a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field. Xander's a regular dude who gets to talk about sex with his wife all day. Together they share totally doable sex tips, relatable relationship advice, and honest and sometimes hilarious stories about what really happens behind closed bedroom doors.  Their mission is to take the intimidation out of getting intimate, and they are the authors of the New York Times best selling book, Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. In this conversation you will learn: Acknowledging things where they are so you can take next step The common blocks that dim the spark in a relationship The 2 separate sex drives we have The golden rules before starting a conversation with your partner  What chips away at connection What to do to create more connection The 5 sex talks we should be having Episode Sponsored by: Go to https://betterhelp.com/plppodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored For full show notes and episode resources head to: https://ericalippy.com/vanessa-and-xander-marin/ Find our guest at: Vanessa And Xander Marin | Website,  Instagram ,Facebook Grab their book: Sex Talks Grab their resources  Follow me on Social Media: Your Host: @ericalippy Podcast: @passionlovepursuit Facebook YouTube PASSION LOVE PURSUIT PODCASTS: https://ericalippy.com/the-podcast/  

Sex therapist Vanessa Marin and her husband, Xander join PRETTYSMART to discuss their mission to help people have more (and better!) sex. They share:  What made them decide to start working together and helping others improve their sex lives. What is off limits for them when it comes to talking about sex publicly. Their philosophy on why sex is so important in relationships. What it really means to have great sex. Why we are all afraid to talk about sex.  How sex changes as we age.  The two different sex drive types and how they impact our sex lives.  Ways to open up to your partner about sex (and prompts to help you feel more comfortable doing so!)  How to get your partner to initiate more.  If it's normal to squirt or not during sex.  How to bring new relationship energy back to your sex life. What to do if you've been faking your orgasms.  How to communicate any sexual fantasies you might have.  The impact the porn industry has had on our sex lives and how we all think about sex.  Why you should reframe the way you think about the number of sexual partners you've had. Follow Vanessa and Xander on IG Here  Buy their book “Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life” Here  Vaulted affiliate program for you to sign up through: https://vaulted.com/gold-affiliate-program/ Cozy Earth: Up to 35% off site wide when you use the code PRETTYSMART

On today's episode, I virtually sit down with Vanessa and Xander Marin. We talk about how to keep the sexual spark alive, how to initiate properly, the right way to turn your partner down, how to ask for exactly what you want, telling your partner you don't like something sexually, positive reinforcement, the 5 conversations every couple needs to increase intimacy and connection, and more. This episode starts with a solo where I discuss what you can change about your SO, going through a partner's phone, and feeling strange post engagement.    Buy Sex Talks!   Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.   Sponsors: Indochino.com code ACME for 10% off a showroom appointment or order Drinklmnt.com/acme to claim your free LMNT sample pack Prose.com/acme for a FREE in-depth hair consultation and 15% off your first order Visit seed.com/ACME code ACME to redeem 25% off your first month of Seed's DS-01® Daily Synbiotic   Produced by Dear Media.

Sex therapist Vanessa Marin is back and we're digging into: why we're (sadly and ironically) proven to be less likely to try new things in the bedroom the longer we've been partnered; how to spice up your sex life when things get bland – including how to find out and explore your sexual fantasies; how not all orgasms (even for men!) are created equal; and the TikTok sex challenges we should probably pass on. For our previous conversations with Vanessa, check out: Episode 195 Sex Talk & That Night in Miami: Sex Therapy with Vanessa Marin and Episode 196 How Glennon & Abby Learned to Talk Dirty with Vanessa Marin. About Vanessa: Vanessa Marin is a sex therapist and instant New York Times Best Selling author of Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, co-written with her husband and partner-in-crime, Xander Marin. Vanessa is here to help you kick shame out of the bedroom so you can start feeling the connection, pleasure, and joy you deserve! Vanessa has been featured in various major publications and has written for The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker. TW: @VMTherapy IG: @vanessaandxander To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In today's episode, Alexa sits down with Vanessa and Xander, authors of "Sex Talks" and advocates for improving intimacy through open conversations. Vanessa, a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years in the sex therapy field, and Xander, who brings the perspective of being married to a sex therapist, discuss their mission to take the intimidation out of intimacy. They share their personal journey, including the ups and downs they've faced, and provide actionable strategies for couples to navigate common sex and intimacy challenges. The pair highlight the importance of cultivating connection outside of sex, starting conversations about sex before problems arise, and understanding the key reasons behind low sex drive. Their approach combines psychotherapy insights with real-life experiences, making their advice relatable and practical for any couple.Today on That Sex Chick:Vanessa & Xander's journey: challenges, breakthroughs, and lessonsBuild a positive foundation with open sex conversations5 key conversations every couple can haveUnderstanding and navigating low sex driveCultivating connection and intimacy outside of sexThis show is sponsored by:Yoni Pleasure Palace | Visit yonipleasurepalace.com and get 15% off with the code THATSEXCHICK.Sex Coach Prep School: sexandlove.co/prep-school Connect with Vanessa & Xander:Instagram: @vanessaandxander  Book: Sex TalksPodcast: Pillow TalksConnect with Alexa:Instagram: @thatsexchickWebsite: sexandlove.coFree resources: sexandlove.co/resourcesFacebook Group: Sex & Love Co Community Click here to submit your review for That Sex Chick, and you'll get access to “Uncover Your Inner Kink,” a guided meditation and more, created by Alexa! This show is produced by Soulfire Productions

In this episode of the Digital Business Evolution Podcast, Jess connects with 2 very special guests as they dive deep into mindset, social media, communication, and Sex! Today meet your new BFF couple Vanessa and Xander. who together, are a shockingly open and self described nerdy couple. This couple is all about sharing their sexual experiences and sharing with everyone step by step techniques for improving your relationships and sex life!  Being open about sex on social media can be a polarizing topic. With that comes a lot of questions surrounding how vulnerable and open Vanessa and Xander are and how they manage it. What is the fine line between marketing and vulnerability? How do they navigate judgment? And how have they built a community that is so strong? All of these questions and more are answered in this fun and very informational episode you won't want to miss.  As always, cheers to your evolution! Key Takeaways: Learn how vulnerability has an impact on your community to build strong relationships.  Learn how to build a strong community by doing what you find the most fun and delegating the rest.  Learn about the 5 conversations every couple should be having in the bedroom!  Key Timestamps [4:00] – How did it all start; [11:15] – How vulnerable should you be on social media; [14:35] – What is vulnerability hangover; [20:40] – How to navigate judgment on polarizing topics; [29:35] – Building a strong community; [36:20] – The Sex Talks book; Episode Quotes “If you can talk about sex, you can talk about anything.” - Vanessa & Xander “There's nothing that's really that embarrassing because there are so many people that go through the same things.” - Xander  Episode Resources Beyond 6-Figures The Mentorship: https://www.jessglazer.com/beyond-6-figures Official Website For Vanessa and Xander's New York Times best seller book: Sextalksbook.com Connect with Vanessa & Xander Instagram: @VanessaandXander Website: @vmtherapy.com Podcast: @ThePilloTalksPocast Connect with Jess Instagram: @iamjessicaderose  TikTok: @iamjessicaderose YouTube: Jessica DeRose 

Even if you think sex has nothing to do with your business, your life, and your overall success and happiness, you're wildly mistaken! Join me to talk about all things sex, and to debunk common myths while providing practical advice, are my amazing friends Vanessa and Xander Marin.  Vanessa is a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field. Xander's a “regular dude” who's been married to a sex therapist for over a decade, and together they help couples in long-term relationships keep the spark alive through their guides, courses, free challenges, their own podcast and their new book called Sex Talks.  I fully believe that your love life and the confidence you have in yourself is directly related to your success and expansion in all areas of your life, including business, and there are no better people to shed more light on these topics than Vanessa and Xander. What they teach and share has been a huge help for my relationship with my own partner, and I think people will have so many more questions for Vanessa and Xander that we just may have to bring them back on the podcast for a Part Two!  Make sure to check out all that Vanessa and Xander have to offer, and send us a DM, @katetaylorstylist and @vanessandxander to let us know what you got from this powerful conversation!   I want to hear from you. Is there a specific guest you'd like to have on the show? Do you have a question that you'd love to have the answer to? Connect with me on social and send me a message, and I'm at @katetaylorstylist. Don't forget to subscribe to this podcast to get all the up-to-date info and the latest episodes!  For all things podcast and to get the freebies and downloads, go to ​​https://katetaylorstylist.com/podcast.   

The first man we've ever had on the pod! We've had a lot of requests to hear from couples about how they navigate the childfree choice together, so we reached out to Xander, husband and business partner of sex therapist Vanessa Marin. The couple opened up on their Pillow Talks podcast about their decision not to have children, in what proved to be their most popular episode ever!Xander told us how they arrived at their choice, and when they did, how this “domino belief” gave them permission to create a life together that truly fulfils them. It was great to hear from a man about how his experience differs from his wife's, how they've coped with their families' expectations, and how they counsel parents about their relationships and sex lives.Check out Vanessa and Xander Marin on vmtherapy.com and their Instagram.Pillow Talks: The Truth About Why We're Child FreePillow Talks: How To Decide If You Should Have Kids Or Not. And Are We Still Child Free By Choice?Join the We are Childfree membership for a video version of this podcast.

We're chatting with Vanessa Marin and her husband Xander about their new book, Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. She's a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he's a regular dude. Together they share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. We're talking all about communicating in relationships and how to keep long term relationships spicy.  Follow / DM us at @HowCumPodcast, @RemyKassimir, @vanessaandxander Sign up for our newsletter howcumpodcast.com    Check out our website for extra info & merch! RATE, REVIEW & SUBSCRIBE 

In today's episode, I'm joined by Vanessa & Xander Marin.  She's a sex therapist with 20 years of experience, he's a regular dude, and they recently co-authored their first book Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, which became an instant NYT bestseller. We cover:The five conversations you need to be having about sexNavigating mismatched libido & (perceived) sexual rejection in relationshipsHow emotional intimacy (or lack thereof) impacts sexual intimacyWhat to do when sex becomes a heavy, high-pressure topic in your relationshipHow to bring back fun, play & lightness to your sex lifeFollow Vanessa & Xander on Instagram @vanessaandxander, and tune in to their podcast, Pillow Talks, for totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. Further Links & Resources Apply for my 6-month Homecoming Mastermind Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment Visit my website

1. How to finally discover what turns us on, how to discuss turn-offs – and how to create “sex menus” with our partners. 2. The real reason so many of us don't feel like having sex.  3. How to ask for more sex – and how to turn it down without hurting your partner.  4. Orgasm – why it's not the whole shebang – and what to do if we've been faking it.  5. Glennon and Abby engage in an exercise to practice talking dirty. (Glennon has not recovered.) For the first part of our conversation with Vanessa, check out Episode 195: Sex Talk & That Night in Miami: Sex Therapy with Vanessa Marin. And to hear our original “Silent Sex Queen” episode, go way back and check out: Episode 14: SILENT SEX QUEEN: Why aren't we talking about sex more? About Vanessa:  Vanessa Marin is a sex therapist and instant New York Times Best Selling author of Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, co-written with her husband and partner-in-crime, Xander Marin. Vanessa is here to help you kick shame out of the bedroom so you can start feeling the connection, pleasure, and joy you deserve! Vanessa has been featured in various major publications and has written for The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker. TW: @VMTherapy IG: @vanessaandxander To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Andrea and Dr. Vanessa and Xander Marin, New York Times Best Selling authors, dive into a conversation about all things SEX! That's right! Sexual health is am important part of personal health and they are discussing the importance of normalizing communication in intimacy. Vanessa is a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and has been featured in The Oprah Magazine, Harper's Bazaar, Vogue, Goop, and more. Vanessa and Xander co-authored their best-selling book,Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life.Follow Vanessa (and Xander)Instagram @vanessaandxander Podcast  Pillow TalksBook Sextalksbook.comMake it Simple is sponsored by Cozy EarthVisit www.cozyearth.com to get 40% off using code SIMPLE40Follow the Make it Simple Podcast@make.it.simple.podcast Follow Andrea on Instagram@deliciouslyfitnhealthy@dfh.training.picsTraining & Coachinghttps://www.deliciouslyfitnhealthy.com/linksVisit Andrea's Websitewww.deliciouslyfitnhealthy.comProduced by Light On Creative, LLC

Two silent sex queens & Abby invite sex therapist Vanessa Marin onto the pod and into their bedrooms to discuss:  1. Practical, concrete tips for how to get over your discomfort and talk about sex with your partner – and how Vanessa's advice is currently working for Glennon and Abby.   2. Why women tend to struggle receiving during sex – and how hustle culture shows up in the bedroom. 3. How to activate desire instead of shame when asking for more frequent or different sex. 4. A great tip for how to “post-game” about what you like and appreciate after sex.  For the first “Silent Sex Queen” conversation, go way back and check out: Episode 14: SILENT SEX QUEEN: Why aren't we talking about sex more? About Vanessa:  Vanessa Marin is a sex therapist and instant New York Times Best Selling author of Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, co-written with her husband and partner-in-crime, Xander Marin. Vanessa is here to help you kick shame out of the bedroom so you can start feeling the connection, pleasure, and joy you deserve! Vanessa has been featured in various major publications and has written for The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker. TW: @VMTherapy IG: @vanessaandxander To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

EP283. Vanessa Marin, LMFT and her husband, Xander are the authors of Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. One common issue that comes up in marriage post-baby is a lack of intimacy and a loss of connection. We think sex should happen spontaneously and naturally, and that we shouldn't need to do anything to feel desire. It often does feel that way in the beginning of relationships, meaning that couples never have meaningful conversations about sex, what turns them on, what they need to feel connected, or learn how to navigate sexual conflict effectively. So when the honeymoon phase wears off, and the spark dims, couples are left feeling lost if their sex life doesn't live up to what it used to be. In this Episode, Vanessa and Xander help us discover what type of sex drive, sex personality type, and initiation style you have, and then they get into the five essential conversations that every romantic couple should have. RENEE REINA www.themomroom.com Instagram: @themomroompodcast | @reneereina_ TikTok: @reneereina_ Facebook Community Youtube: Renee Reina- The Mom Room Podcast Vanessa & Xander Instagram: @vanessaandxander SPONSORS Athletic Greens HelloFresh Lume Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you're ready to create the sex of your wildest dreams, just by talking about it, this episode is for you.  We are joined by Vanessa and Xander Marin -- New York Times Best Selling authors Vanessa and Xander Marin. She's a sex therapist with 20 years of experience, he's a regular dude, and together they wrote Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. They're the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you'll be calling your new besties in no time. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. PARTNER SHOUTOUTS:  If you're looking for your life partner, look no further. Decoding Success has partnered up with TAWKIFY to help you meet your one to bask in these beautiful, euphoric moments of intimacy with. Check them out here: https://bit.ly/tawkifyxdsp One way to optimize your intimacy is to ensure you're taking care of yourself by getting the best sleep possible. So, we've partnered up with PROPER SLEEP to help our community feel rested and recharged. 50% off all first-time orders here: https://bit.ly/getproperdsp CONNECT w/ VANESSA & XANDER: Want to keep up with Vanessa and Xander on social? Catch them here on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vanessaandxander/ Grab your copy of Sex Talks here: https://sextalksbook.com/ Keep up with Vanessa and Xander here on their website: https://vmtherapy.com/ ^ they have a ton of incredible freebies, courses, a rockin' podcast, and so much more there.   

Today's episode is an incredible, unique special one that is all about……sex. You may ask why we want to talk about this on the podcast, but so much of relationships and intimacy really does tie into business, as you'll learn about today, as well as in our overall happiness in life.  The quality of your life is absolutely connected with and correlated to the quality of the relationships that you have, which is why we're so excited to introduce you to our good friends, Vanessa and Xander Marin, to cover these topics!  Vanessa is a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field, and Xander is a regular dude who's been married to a sex therapist for over a decade! Together, their mission is to take the intimidation out of getting intimate, and they are the authors of the New York Times best selling book, Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, which you can get right now at https://sextalksbook.com/!  If this episode inspired you in some way, take a screenshot of you listening on your device and post it to your Instagram Stories, and tag us, @jameswedmore, @jeunejenni and @vanessaandxander.    You need an audience if you want to sell your stuff, but what if I told you that you don't need a big audience, or millions of followers to do that? In fact, we see that it's just with your first 100 leads where you really start getting momentum! That is why I created my FREE 14-video step-by-step mini-course, Your First 100 Leads, and the feedback and results we're seeing from this free program is incredible! To access it, simply go to https://jameswedmore.com/100! Haven't left a review yet? All you have to do is go to http://jameswedmore.com/itunes, and thanks for your support of this show! I want to invite you to help contribute to this podcast by submitting a question for a #Q&AEdition of The Mind Your Business Podcast. All you have to do is go to http://jameswedmore.com/QA and record a question (under 4 minutes or less) that could be featured on an upcoming episode. For full show notes and links, visit: https://www.mindyourbusinesspodcast.com/blog/603 

Let's talk about sex baby...but after baby! I'm so excited to share my conversation with New York Times bestselling authors of the book Sex Talks: The Five Conversations that will Transform Your Sex Life, Vanessa and Xander Marin. She's a sex therapist with 20 years of experience, and he's a regular dude! Together they've made it their mission to provide the sex education we all deserve but didn't get. In this episode we are talking to parents, because let's be real...there can be SO many blocks to intimacy after baby and beyond. This episode will help you answer the question: "where do we even start?" Vanessa is also one of my book besties. We connect over our love of spicy fantasy fiction, and share how reading spicy books can be a supportive step in reconnecting with that part of ourselves in parenthood. Connect with Vanessa and Xander over on Instagram @vanessaandxander where they share informed and open sex education with a hint of humor that makes it oh so relatable. You can learn more about Vanessa's work at vmtherapy.com and get their book at sextalksbook.com Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with you first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/holdingspace. To connect with Dr. Cassidy or learn more about her private practice, visit www.drcassidymft.com.

A lot of people struggle with sexual initiation. In fact, this is one of the most common topics that readers and listeners ask me about! So why is sexual initiation so hard, and what can we do to make it easier? Let's talk about it! For today's show, I am joined once again by Vanessa Marin, a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex therapy, as well as Xander Marin, a self-described "regular dude" who left a cushy career in tech once he realized it was more fun to talk about sex with his wife all day. They co-host the "Pillow Talks" podcast and co-authored the new book, Sex Talks: Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. Some of the topics we discuss include: Why does initiating sex feel so hard for people? What should you do (and what should you avoid) when it comes to sexual initiation? What are the six different sexual initiation styles? How can individuals navigate sex when they have different initiation styles? How do you say "no" to a partner's initiation attempt without hurting their feelings? What are some things you can do to encourage your partner to initiate sex more? Make sure to check out Vanessa and Xander's website, and visit their Youtube, Instagram, and TikTok to learn more. And be sure to get a copy of Sex Talks! Thank you to our sponsors! The Modern Sex Therapy Institutes is one of the leading sex therapy certification programs in the world, meets all AASECT certification requirements, has 12 other specialty certifications, and a Ph.D. program in Clinical Sexology. Visit modernsextherapyinstitutes.com to learn more. Put a "ring" on it with FirmTech's Performance Ring, which is designed to boost your sexual stamina and give you harder, longer-lasting erections, while also enhancing pleasure. Their Tech Ring has the added benefit of tracking your erectile health. Visit myfirmtech.com and be sure to use my exclusive discount code Justin20 to save 20% off your purchase.  *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

It's getting hot in here – as we chat about sex, intimacy, and why talking about sex could be the key to having the love life you've always wanted. Whether you wish you were having more or happy with the way things are, single or partnered up – it doesn't matter – we're diving into it all with sex therapist Vanessa Marin and her husband Xander. We discuss what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors for couples, how to talk about sex in early dating without being creepy, and why talking about sex doesn't have to be scary (and can actually be sexy!). Learn more about Vanessa and Xander at: https://sextalksbook.com/ and check out their book 'Sex Talks: The 5 conversations that will transform your love life' today.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThis episode is sponsored by:One Love Foundation: visit JoinOneLove.org, a national non-profit dedicated to ending relationship abuse, and learn to spot the signs of unhealthy AND healthy relationship behaviors.BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEDrizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsOur Sponsors:* Check out Drizly: https://drizly.com* Check out Factor 75 and use my code dateable50 for a great deal: https://www.factor75.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

So much sex advice can be boiled down to just one thing: communication. But how exactly should you communicate about sex? And what are the things you need to communicate about? In this episode, we're going to discuss the five "sex talks" that partners in every relationship should have. We'll explore how to get started, tips for navigating each of these conversations, as well as what to do when a conversation about sex turns into a fight. For today's show, I am joined by Vanessa Marin, a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex therapy, as well as Xander Marin, a self-described "regular dude" who left a cushy career in tech once he realized it was more fun to talk about sex with his wife all day. They co-host the "Pillow Talks" podcast and co-authored the new book, Sex Talks: Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. Some of the topics we discuss include: How to start acknowledging sex in conversation. How partners can successfully communicate about sex and build connection with one another. How someone can identify their own sexual desires and share those with a partner. How individuals can practice talking about pleasure so that they're more confident when expressing their desires. Why asking a partner "what's your fantasy?" might be the wrong place to start when trying to explore new things in the bedroom. Make sure to check out Vanessa and Xander's website, and visit their Youtube, Instagram, and TikTok to learn more. And be sure to get a copy of Sex Talks! Thank you to our sponsors! Put a "ring" on it with FirmTech's Performance Ring, which is designed to boost your sexual stamina and give you harder, longer-lasting erections, while also enhancing pleasure. Their Tech Ring has the added benefit of tracking your erectile health. Visit myfirmtech.com and be sure to use my exclusive discount code Justin20 to save 20% off your purchase.  The Modern Sex Therapy Institutes is one of the leading sex therapy certification programs in the world, meets all AASECT certification requirements, has 12 other specialty certifications, and a Ph.D. program in Clinical Sexology. Visit modernsextherapyinstitutes.com to learn more. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

Should you schedule sex? How many times a week is normal? What do you do when one person wants it more than the other? Heather brings on Pillow Talks podcast hosts Vanessa & Xander Marin to answer all of your burning questions and to chat about their new book Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life! Check out our amazing sponsors!!! Relief Band: Go to Reliefband.com and use code HEATHER to get 20% off plus free shipping! Indeed: Go to Indeed.com/heather to start hiring now!

Today's guests are Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new couple BFFs. The pair are co-hosts of the popular podcast Pillow Talks, where they cover juicy topics and share their real world relationship advice. They are the sex education you wish you had, with proven tips that have helped hundreds and thousands of couples create a sex life beyond their wildest dreams. In their new book, Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, they share how couples can have fun talking about sex while keeping the spark alive and stay emotionally connected throughout the whole process. Vanessa and Xander open up to their own experiences in their relationship and apply what they've learned to help couples at any stage in their intimacy journey.We also cover…00:02:09 — Becoming a Sex TherapistThe very first sex talk…with the parents. Why is it so hard for us to talk about sex?Sex therapy as a careerMaking sex therapy as joyful as buying cookbooksInternal beliefs that prevent couples from talking about sex De-shaming & normalizing sex talks 00:11:30— Important Conversations For A Couple's Sex LifeTaking the first step to initiate the conversation of sexWhy communication is the key to creating your dream sex life Simple, practical tips to maintain an emotional connectionDevelop cheat codes that speak to each other's love languages How to stop focusing on what's wrong with the relationship00:23:00 – Uncovering your Desires Inside & Outside of the Bedroom Finding new ways to initiate sex that feel like an invitationFun ways to spice up your long-term relationshipChange your delivery, change your energyFamily friendly initiation phrases for couples with kids The two main mismatched sex drive typesRemoving the obligation of sex for your partnerLearning to gently turn your partner & find other ways to please one another00:40:15 – Discovering Pleasure for Yourself & Your PartnerWhy there's no such thing as being universally good in bedFun exercises that bring you pleasureOvercoming the narrow expectations around sex for menThe orgasm gap: what do women really need Using pleasure mapping to open lines of communication with positive feedbackSubtle changes to keep the spark alive in a relationshipWhy all-or-nothing leads to negative resultsFinding the joy in intimacyResources:Website: VMTherapy.comInstagram: @vanessaandxanderPodcast: Pillow TalksRead: Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life by Vanessa and Xander MarinConnect with Kelly:Kellyleveque.comInstagram: @bewellbykellyFacebook: www.facebook.com/bewellbykellyBe Well By Kelly is produced by

Please welcome Vanessa and Xander Marin to the Rise Together podcast! Vanessa is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in sex therapy. With a Bachelor's in Human Sexuality and Sociology and a Master's in Counseling Psychology, she's written for The New York Times, Allure, Lifehacker, and more! And Xander? He's just a regular guy who's here to show you that you don't need a degree or a license to have extraordinary communication skills. You just need to have an open mind and willingness.  To learn more about the work Vanessa and Xander do, head over to their website! You can order your copy of Sex Talks now! Head to this link or find it wherever books are sold! -------- The next 60-Day Get Fit Challenge is the ultimate platform for overall transformation. This challenge is designed to provide you with the tools that are proven to work, not just for 60 days, but for every single day after. You'll see incredible results in these next 8 weeks and leave with the biggest win…the blueprint on how to actually enjoy the journey of becoming the best version of YOU. Hit this link for more info: mrdavehollis.com/getfit -------- Dave and his daughter Noah have crafted a delightful children's picture book, based on their popular video series “Teatime with Noah,” that encourages children to be brave, believe in themselves, and DREAM BIG!! In Here's to Your Dreams!: A Teatime with Noah Book (available now!), readers will follow along with Daddy and Noah as one of their beloved father-daughter tea parties magically transforms into a fantastical adventure. As Noah pursues her dream of becoming a sea captain, it's not all smooth sailing: she realizes she doesn't know how to be a captain and doesn't even have a ship! With each challenge and difficulty, Daddy gently guides Noah to ride the waves of life with courage… and to chart her own path. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today's guests are Vanessa and Xander Marin. Vanessa is a licensed psychotherapist and has spent over 20 years as a sex therapist. She has bachelor's degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University and a master's degree in counseling psychology. Xander is a regular dude who left a cushy career in tech once he realized it was more fun to talk about sex with his wife all day. He's here to show you that you don't need a graduate degree or a license to have extraordinary communication skills. Vanessa and Xander also host the highly popular Pillow Talks podcast where they share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. In this episode we discuss how to maintain emotional connection during your relationship, how to get the “spark back” if you are feeling disconnected from your partner, the relationship between physical and emotional intimacy, how to improve your sex life with your partner, why gratitude is so effective for rebuilding relationships, how to know if you're relationship is stale and much more. While this episode covers some mature content, it's intended for educational purposes and to help you improve the relationship with yourself and/or your partner. Thanks to this episode's sponsor:   MANSCAPED:  Check out the new Beard Hedger™ Pro Kit. It also makes a great Valentine's Day gift for your partner. Get 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code BOPST at www.manscaped.com. .    What to Listen For: 00:00 Intro 02:08 Maintaining emotional connection during a relationship 04:32 How to get the “spark” back in a relationship 07:35 Why is diving back into memories effective for rebuilding emotional connection 09:17 Does sex lead to emotional connection? 11:35 How long should you wait before getting intimate in a relationship? 14:36 Does chemistry in the bedroom matter? 17:05 Your sex life shouldn't be a fairytale 18:36 Why is it weird to talk about sex? 20:54 Has Vanessa and Xander ever lost attraction for each other? 26:02 Is your relationship stale? 29:16 How do you know if your relationship is healthy?  31:18 Discovering your interests in the bedroom 32:38 Initiating sex with your partner 36:28 Communicating your needs to your partner 43:22 Biggest “turnoffs” in a relationship 46:31 What to do if your partner doesn't want to work on the relationship 49:42 Dealing with resentment in a relationship 50:19 How to flirt with your partner 52:22 Exploring new things with your partner     Episode Resources: Vanessa and Xander | Website, Instagram, Podcast, Get their book, TikTok Follow me on Social Media: LinkedIn Instagram Twitter   ***WELLNESS DISCLAIMER***      

This couple shares all the intimate details of their own lives so you can learn exactly how to have the best sex life ever.  an argument for lackluster sex exactly where to start when trying to spice things up in the bedroom why everything we learned about what men want in bed is wrong how to initiate sex without feeling embarrassed the the top 2 oral sex tips you need to hear right now (for men & women)  how to give the best hand job ever  what to do if your sex drive doesn't match up with your partner's the two different types of sex drives + how to identify which you have how to create excitement & intimacy outside of sex  actionable ways to build chemistry with your partner  how to actually have more fun (& more orgasms) in bed  what you should do TODAY to have your best possible sex life and so much more!   For more from Vanessa and Xander, visit sextalksbooks.com and get their brand new book Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life.  To join the Healthier Together Podcast Club Facebook group, go to https://www.facebook.com/groups/healthiertogetherpodcast. This episode is sponsored by: Thrive Market: go to thrivemarket.com/healthiertogether to join Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order plus a free $60 gift.  Seed: go to seed.com/daily-synbiotic and use code LIZMOODY for 15% off your first month. Pique: go to piquelife.com/LIZMOODY and use code LIZMOODY for 15% off plus free shipping FOR LIFE on Pique's Radiant Skin Duo. Nutrafol: go to nutrafol.com and use code HEALTHIERTOGETHER for $15 off your first month's subscription, plus free shipping on every order.  Healthier Together cover art by Zack. Healthier Together music by Alex Ruimy.

It's a fun episode today because I have two of my friends, Vanessa and Xander Marin, and we are going to talk about a topic that we haven't had on the podcast yet. Are you ready? It's about sex and having a better sex life. Vanessa is a sex therapist and her husband, Xander, helps run her business and gives the perspective of a “Regular Dude” when it comes to sex and building the sex life that you want to have. So, if you're someone who feels like your sex life needs more pizzaz, this is a fantastic episode for you to listen to.Find show notes at bicepsafterbabies.com/264Follow me on Instagram and Tiktok!Preorder your book at www.sextalksbook.comLooking for a way to improve your relationship with food? Macro counting helped me improve mine AND I also was able to use it to hit other goals like seeing muscle definition for the first time. If you're ready to learn how to use macro counting to hit your 2023 goals, go to www.bicepsafterbabies.com/start and join my 14-Day Macro Counting Boot Camp

Blaming Her For His ED, UTIs on Social Media, Sex Toys in the Middle East, Female Testosterone Guidelines and More - January Live Podcast Vanessa and Xander Marin's survey – over 54,000 people - their Sexual Frequency Report They were on my podcast # 181 – sex talks with social media's sex educators Justin Dubin's paper on Blaming women for erectile dysfunction Examples of misinformation found on YouTube and tiktok videos regarding urinary tract infection Sex toys in the middle east Mindfulness with Female Sexual dysfunction Clinical practice guidelines for use of T in Women https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/epdf/10.1080/13697137.2021.1891773?needAccess=true&role=button Justin M. Dubin, MD, W. Austin Wyant, MSc, Navin C. Balaji, BE, Iakov V. Efimenko, BSc, Quinn C. Rainer, BA, Belen Mora, BA, Lisa Paz, PhD, Ashley G. Winter, MD, Ranjith Ramasamy, MD, Is Female Wellness Affected When Men Blame Them for Erectile Dysfunction?, Sexual Medicine, Volume 9, Issue 3, June 2021, Page 100351 Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes. www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership

It's time for INITIATION… but like the consensual, fun, sex kind. If you've ever wondered how to initiate sex, struggled with a fear of rejection, or are looking for long term initiation tips, this episode is for you! We chat with some of our favorite experts AND share our own struggles to bring you one hell of a guide… We cover: Obstacles to initiating sex Fear of rejection How to take the pressure of off initiation Fun, indirect ways to initiate sex Sexy and very direct ways to initiate sex Finding the right words Initiating while in a long term relationship Experts Featured: Jessie Fresh, Intimacy & Relationship Coach, @jessiefresh Lisa Welsh, Sex & Pleasure Educator, @inbedwithlisa Ari Antwine, Sexologist & Bisexuality Coach, @sensualle.education Vanessa and Xander Marin, Sex Therapist & Husband, @vanessamarintherapy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Vanessa's a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field. Xander's a regular dude who's been married to a sex therapist for over a decade Their hot take on desire. Their top three causes of low libido that they see 1) Painful sex 2) Unpleasurable sex 3) Relationship issues “Our libido gets affected by everything in our lives” – Vanessa Marin “Is my life actually supporting my libido?” – Vanessa Marin Let's talk about initiation – tips, couples get stuck in old scripts that stop working as relationships change “You get rejected once and you think you are unlovable” – Dr. Casperson “initiation should feel like an invitation” – Vanessa “Initiation takes a large amount of vulnerability” – Vanessa “There are a lot of unhealthy gender dynamics that come up with initiation” – Xander Marin According to their online poll, only 2% of breast owners like the “boob honk” as a way to initiate sex. Spouses who avoid talking about sex – they are writing a book! What to do when a partner stonewalls the conversation – don't start with the problems. Connected to feel like sex or sex to feel connected – often one of each in a partnership At what point should couples consider bringing in a therapist? How to find out how much sex is “right” for someone's relationship Woman says – he doesn't care about my pleasure – what to do? Vibrator envy – help for the woman when the partner doesn't understand and being able to advocate for your pleasure. Consent and the problem of “I just do it for him” Avoiding sex because of erectile dysfunction. They help us trouble shoot. 2023 new book! Sex Talks: The 5 Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life Hardcover – February 7, 2023 https://www.instagram.com/vanessamarintherapy/ https://vmtherapy.com https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pillow-talks/id1569466131?i=1000577319619 Sex Talks Book: Pre-Order - https://amzn.to/3CR8OT9 Did you get the You Are Not Broken Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes. www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership Our podcast sponsor is Bonafide Bonafide products help women embrace the natural changes that occur throughout all phases of life. Discount code for 20% off: NOTBROKEN Sales link: https://hellobonafide.com/notbroken

This week on the You, The Mother Podcast, Abbey welcomes Vanessa and Xander Marin. The sex therapist - normal dude duo has created courses, free guides, a podcast, and an engaging social media platform to support couples and help keep the spark alive! Vanessa and Xander provide insight into what intimacy looks like and how we can maintain intimacy once we enter into different chapters of our live including parenthood. They give practical tips that are easy to implement and maintain in our busy lives. Vanessa normalizes the ebbs and flows of the spark in our relationship through science and real life examples, and Xander provides insight into better communication. Are you wanting to revamp your sex life? Let's talk about it! ——————————————— You can find Vanessa and Xander Marin: www.vmtherapy.com https://vmtherapy.com/online-sex-therapy-programs/ https://vmtherapy.com/free-stuff www.instagram.com/vanessamarintherapy Podcast - The Pillow Talks Podcast ——————————————— Instagram @youthemother FB /youthemotherbyabbeywilliams Email abbey@mimosaswithmoms.com

This is the episode everyone has been waiting for. Yep, the conversation about S-E-X, sex.  On the podcast today, Landyn is bringing on Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends. Vanessa is a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and well, Xander is just a regular dude. Tune in as Vanessa brings her education and clinical experience to the table - while Xander breaks it down to understand the men in our lives. Landyn is asking the couple YOUR question you submitted via Instagram. And surprisingly (or maybe not so much!) - most of you were asking the SAME question! In this conversation, they are covering things like:  What is the average amount people are having sex?  How to get the connection back after you've been in a dry spell with your significant other The difference between physical vs emotional intimacy; and how to know which one you are What a man is ACTUALLY thinking during those intimate moments in the bedroom, and How and WHEN to bring up conversations around sex with your spouse - even when they don't want to talk about it   Guys - they aren't holding anything back!  It's basically the sex education you WISH you'd had! Follow Vanessa and Xander: https://www.instagram.com/vanessamarintherapy For full episode notes, head to: www.livingwithlandyn.com/all-things-sex-education-what-men-are-really-thinking-in-the-bedroom-how-to-get-the-spark-back-in-your-relationship-with-vanessa-xander-marin

This episode welcomes back Vanessa Marin, who has now teamed up with her awesome partner Xander to become the dream duo for partnered sex and relationship advice. The three of us talk about farting and pooping in front of partners (are you for or against?), mental loads, trying new things in the bedroom, how to come back to the moment when you get distracted during sex, and more. Check them out:https://vmtherapy.com/   FOLLOW US  Twitter Instagram Facebook Send questions, comments, stories, rants to: SlutsAndScholars@gmail.com   Sluts And Scholars is a production of sluts and scholars media.

029 | Keep the Spark Alive After Baby with a Sex TherapistHey Shayla Podcast | Ep: 029Guest: Vanessa and Xander Marin Sex Therapists @vanessamarintherapyThank you for listening to the Hey Shayla podcast!  Here, we love to learn new things and decide what works for us and our family. We're the moms that support instead of judge and know there are many ways to do something right.  I'd love to connect on Instagram @heyshaylaYou're told not to have sex until at least your 6 week postpartum check up. But a lot of women still can't fathom having sex that soon.  There are so many things going on, hormones play a huge role, you're exhausted, you're touched out… AND you love your partner and want them to feel it.How do you keep the spark alive with out the S.E.X.? It's a lot simpler than you might think! I had Vanessa and Xander Marin on my podcast, she's a sex therapist and author and he's a regular (and hilarious) dude. Their mission is to take the intimidation out of getting intimate and they do an extraordinary job on their social media and through the free material and courses they offer! They chatted with me about postpartum sex and how to communicate with your partner that your  lack of sex drive has nothing to do with them. This one might be a good one for both you AND your partner.Xo ShayCourses they offer on their website: https://vmtherapy.com/Free resource:  30 tips for parents for keeping the spark alive: http://join.vmtherapy.com/30-tips-for-parents-by-parents30 day connection challenge: https://vmtherapy.com/30dcc-priority-notificationMental Load Workbook: https://vmtherapy.thrivecart.com/mental-load-workbook/30 day sex challenge: https://vmtherapy.com/30dsc-priority-notificationFinishing School: https://vmtherapy.com/how-to-orgasmJoin the email list to be notified when episodes go live HERE!Affiliates in this Episode:*Clearly Filtered: Filtered water bottle pitcher use code HEYSHAYLA for 15% off*TushBaby: Great “Up-Down” Baby carrier use code HEYSHAYLA for 15% offLet's Connect!Instagram (@heyshayla)YouTube (Hey Shayla)Website (www.heyshayla.com)Amazon (https://www.amazon.com/shop/heyshayla)**Disclaimer: Please note that some of the links here are affiliate links. Which means at no cost to you, I will earn a commission if you decide to make a purchase after clicking through the link. I only work with companies that I love, and that I think you will love.

Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She's a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he's a regular dude. Together they're the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Follow them on IG @vanessamarintherapy, tune in to their podcast, Pillow Talks, and join their email list at vmtherapy.com for totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It's the sex education you WISH you'd had!They're joining us today to talk about all things sex. I compiled a list of YOUR top asked questions and  they're breaking them down for us. Including about butt stuff, vanilla sex, sex after baby and more! Check out these courses:Finishing School (if you hav trouble orgasming, this is a must) Rediscovering DesireModern Man's GuideThe Passion ProjectVanessa & Xander's IG________________________________________________________________Did you love this episode? BUY ME A COFFEE for support!Find me on Instagram@balkanina@mamaknowspodcastFind me on TikTokBalkaninaSubscribe to my NewsletterPrivate Facebook Motherhood-Podcast CommunityMama Knows FBDisclaimer: This podcast does not provide any medical advice, it is for informational purposes only!

It's time for another Behind the Scenes look at our business, and we're so excited to share this one with you! This month a big conversation for us was the workloads we each have and the sustainability of them, which is why we wanted to dedicate an episode to this subject.The purpose of this episode is to encourage you to think about your own workload and processes, even if you're a solopreneur. What is sustainable right now, and what is not sustainable in the long-term for you? Where could your systems get better so that things could feel more sustainable, and what can you remove to give yourself more freedom? All 3 of us are really committed to living out the values of balancing work and life outside of work. We've always felt that we want to move at a pace that lets us feel well, feel creative, and be in alignment with our values, and today we reveal a few examples of what we're doing to make this happen. As you'll hear in this episode, we're relaunching our next cohort of Purposeful Business very soon, on April 18th, 2022! If you are not already on the waitlist and this episode is making you excited to take part, you'll want to sign up here to be the first to get information on when you can reserve your spot! If you love this episode, make sure to head over to Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcast app and leave us a review! As a small business, those acts of free support mean so much to us, and they allow us to continue to produce our content for free. We appreciate you so much, and we're excited to see your reviews! Links & Resources:Waitlist for Purposeful Business (Relaunches April 18th!): https://view.flodesk.com/pages/615b95bff88d548e68f5c1f2Episode 14: Vanessa and Xander Marin on What It's Like to Work with Your Partner and Their Breakthrough YearLet's connect!Purposeful Week Planner: https://www.pursuingherpurpose.com/shop Our WEBSITE: https://www.pursuingherpurpose.comINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/pursuingherpurpose/MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer/MEET KAT: https://www.instagram.com/kat.herro/ MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen/

Sex after baby? We go there with Vanessa and Xander Marin. She's a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he's a regular dude. Together they're the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. It's the sex education you WISH you'd had! They give away the majority of their content for free, but if you are wanting more, here are they offer online courses! For more of Vanessa Marin, please visit  http://vmtherapy.com on the Web https://vmtherapy.com/pillow-talks/ on the Web @vanessa.marintherpy on Facebook and Instagram For more of We Go There Podcast, please visit https://www.instagram.com/wegotherepodcast/ on Instagram https://wegotherepodcast.podbean.com/ on the Web *Warning- this podcast is completely unfiltered. If you are around young children, we suggest headphones.* *Disclaimer: All opinions of our guests are their own and in no way represent that of Lexi Miles Corrin and or Nikki Bergen.*

Vanessa Marin is a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and Xander Marin is a self proclaimed “regular dude”. As a team they share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. On their podcast, “Pillow Talks” they discuss totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories. During  this bold episode they discuss with Richelle their writing journey as a couple and changing lives with their relationship advice. This episode contains content and language that is graphic for some listeners.

You know Jessi loves talking about the more taboo topics so it's very fitting that today's episode is all about intimacy & relationships. Jessi brings on Sex Therapist, Vanessa Marin and her hubby Xander to get their expert tips on spicing up your sex life, what to do about unmatched sex drives, how to feel worthy of pleasure and so much more. Vanessa and Xander make talking about sex approachable, realistic and fun!     Find more of Vanessa & Xander:   Website: www.vmtherapy.com/free Instagram: VanessaMarinTherapy   Book a free strategy call with a Food Freedom Online Program Alumni » www.foodfreedomonlineprogram.com/ffm   For more information and strategies follow Jessi on Tik Tok & Instagram @jessijeannn

It's 2022, we are here to release the shame and taboo around ALL conversations that surround women's health, including sex education. In this episode, guest and sex expert and therapist Vanessa Marin, shares how to have more orgasms and improve your sex life.   Vanessa's business partner is her husband, Xander Marin.  A lot of people on the internet call them “That Sex Couple.” Vanessa's a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field. Xander's a regular dude who's been married to a sex therapist for over a decade. (Which makes him very popular at parties!) Their mission is to take the intimidation out of getting intimate.   They will make you laugh while giving you the courage to talk openly about sex and relationships so you can have more fun in the bedroom.   In this episode we discuss: When Vanessa knew she wanted to study sex therapy as she was becoming a psychotherapist. I have a lot of women who listen to the show struggle with their relationships with their bodies. This can translate into a hard time being comfortable in the bedroom, speaking up for what they want, and pleasing others before themselves. Vanessa shares tips to help you begin to speak up for yourself and your needs. Where you start if you are not having enough orgasms, and how to know if you are having an orgasms. How to speak up and share with your partner what you like and what feels good. How Vanessa practices wellness without obsession.   Learn more about Vanessa: Vanessa's You Tube channel Vanessa's Instagram account (you must follow!) Vanessa's sex therapy blog   We are currently booking for January, February and March for our virtual practice, Nourishing Minds Nutrition. Reach out now to get started with one on one coaching for intuitive eating, body image, hormone support and digestive relief.   Resources for you: Learn more about our services at Nourishing Minds Nutrition. Read testimonials from our amazing clients here.  Join our FREE support group for like-minded women, the Nourishing Women Community for more community & support. Take a look at our online shop, the Wellness Without Obsession Shop. Our next program enrollment periods will be March for Get Your Period Back Playbook, and April for Food & Body Peace Playbook.   Let's hang out! Connect with Victoria and the staff at NMN: Victoria's Instagram Victoria's Website Nourishing Minds Nutrition Instagram Nourishing Minds Nutrition website For every guest that comes on the show, we donate money to Loveland Foundation. The Loveland Foundation, is a foundation that provides therapy and  healing to Black women and girls. We are honored to donate monthly to the Loveland Foundation, and you can learn more and donate yourself here.

Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen sit down with the hosts of the Pillow Talks Podcast, Vanessa & Xander Marin, to talk all about sex. Vanessa is a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field and Xander's a regular dude who's been married to a sex therapist for over a decade. They start by normalizing the idea of scheduling sex and explain why it can be really wonderful for our sex lives. They then go on to answer your sex life questions like: how to approach a conversation with your partner about having more sex, how to work to heal from a past sexual trauma with your partner, the difference between couples therapy and sex therapy, how to increase libido, and working through self consciousness during sex. We learn why Vanessa does not like the word “rejection” when it comes to sex, a story about Xander's 90 year old Nana listening to their podcast, and why sex doesn't have to be spontaneous to be good. You do not want to miss this one! You can find Vanessa, Xander, and all of their amazing content @vanessamarintherapy on Instagram and on their website: vmtherapy.com ! If you want to watch ShrinkChicks episodes on YouTube, you can find our channel here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg Thanks to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: TrueBill: TrueBill is the new app that helps you identify and stop paying for subscriptions you don't need, want, or simply forgot about. Go to truebill.com/shrinkchicks to start cancelling today - it could save you thousands a year! Zocdoc: Go to zocdoc.com/shrinks and download the ZocDoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor. Many are available as soon as today! Quip: Quip has completely changed the toothbrushing game! Go to getquip.com/shrink to get your first refill for FREE! Princess Polly: Head over to princesspolly.com and use the code SHRINK20 for 20% off your next order! Valid for a limited time only and exclusive to ShrinkChicks listeners!

Vanessa and Xander Marin of Vanessa Marin Therapy join us for this incredibly candid interview. Vanessa is a psychotherapist that specilizes in sex therapy. Xander is a regular dude that has been married to a sex therapist for over 10 years. After a few years owning her business- they decided that Xander would help her! He started behind the scenes, but now is a full fledged face of the business. We chat with them about what that transition looked like and what it's like to work with your partner.We also dive into questions about their fast growing business. They've had a remarkable year growth wise and we dive into what has been working. They left SO much tangible insight and we're excited for our listeners and their fans to get a peek at this side of their relationship. Buckle up for one great conversation!Let's connect!INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/pursuingherpurpose/MEET VANESSA AND XANDER: https://www.instagram.com/vanessamarintherapy/VM THERAPY WEBSITE: https://vmtherapy.com/MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET KAT: https://www.instagram.com/kat.herro/ MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Vanessa Marin is a sex therapist who is on a mission to help as many women as possible achieve their first orgasm. She also wants it to feel more natural to talk about sex with your partner. Her husband, Xander, is just a "regular dude" who decided to quit his corporate job to join Vanessa in her practice. Together they have helped normalize the conversation about intimacy and help couples feel more comfortable in the bedroom. The two couples chat about everything from why women fake orgasm to dirty talk in the bedroom, to their openness about most likely not wanting to have children, and why it is such an important conversation to keep having. Order The Date Night Questions ebook here Learn more about Vanessa and Xander here See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Today's episode is one of our most requested topics … SEX. Let's be honest … there is nothing sexy about a TTC journey and sex can often feel like the *last* thing we want to do in the midst of tests, treatments, and the emotional load of TTC. In today's episode, Kat and Jasmine interview the incredible Vanessa Marin, sex therapist, and her hilarious and insightful husband, Xander. They provide very tangible tools, so you can reconnect with your partner in and outside the bedroom to bring FUN back to your sex life. You do not want to miss this episode.  Links:  TTC Society FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ttcsociety Vanessa Marin's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vanessamarintherapy/  Vanessa Marin's website: https://vmtherapy.com/  Sex Position Playbook: https://vmtherapy.thrivecart.com/sex-position-playbook-early-bird/?_ga=2.230184346.761627751.1630776503-1959018551.1630776503 

Vanessa and Xander Marin (she's a psychotherapist and he's just a regular guy) join us to discuss sex in the context of long-term relationships. We talk about how to keep it spicy (spoiler: it won't always be and that's OKAY), how to navigate sex-related issues, and whether or not it's cool to schedule sex. It's basically the sex therapy session we've all been waiting for.    Sponsor: MANSCAPED | Get 20% off and free shipping with code DEWME at manscaped.com   Foria | Get 20% off with code HONEYDEWME20 at foriawellness.com

Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She's a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he's a regular dude. Together they're the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It's the sex education you WISH you'd had! Whether you're looking to learn how to orgasm, skyrocket your confidence, or rekindle the spark with your partner, Vanessa & Xander can help you identify and overcome your blockages around, and learn how to have more fun in the bedroom. Head over to vmtherapy.com

Let's talk about S-E-X. Yes, sex. I know it can be a scary word after having a baby. Your body just went through some major ish, your doctor cleared you for sex at 6 weeks and you're thinking "that's the farthest thing from my mind right now." Rest assured, this is very common and Vanessa Marin is here to save the day. This episode is all about sex, intimacy and partner connection. Not just after baby, but for really for any couple or individual! Grab a cold beverage- some steamy hot content up ahead! Check out Vanessa and Xander Marin's Instagram here! See their website for their courses and more right here! Find me on Instagram @thebalanceafterbabyAnd check out my website for more here.Don't forget to subscribe if you dig it, throw me some stars as a rating & maybe type a few words for a review to really impress me! All jokes aside, your support is appreciated for this one-woman show with no funding, ads, or sponsors. (Yet! Dream big...)