The 3D Parent Podcast

In this episode of the 3D Parent Podcast, I'm discussing the uneven distribution of emotional and mental labor and how this impacts parenting partnerships. Emotional and mental labor is the work required for both logistical and psychological aspects of families. It doesn't usually affect marriage partnerships until after couples have children. And the sad truth is that typically, one person in a marriage is doing the majority of the work. In heterosexual couples, it's usually women. In the episode, I'll illustrate what this unequal division looks like and how it can impact your family. Points we discuss include: Examples of emotional and mental labor Who takes on the work The impacts of the unequal distribution of labor What to do about it Carrying the majority of mental and emotional labor for your family is exhausting, but the first step to changing it is awareness of it. I encourage you to talk about this issue and share this episode with people you care about to get the discussion going. I hope that this episode validates your experience and gives you some tools for starting to shift the unequal balance. I'll see you back here after the summer break! Stay tuned for some exciting and fresh content in August. Have a great summer vacation. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent  Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!  Schedule a free parent coach consultation/interest call!  CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community   EPISODE RESOURCES:  The Bulk of Emotional Labor Falls on Moms Moms Do More Invisible Labor The Hidden Load

In this episode of the 3D Parent Podcast, we are talking about sleep-away camp and whether or not your child should go. This can be a wonderful opportunity for your child to grow in maturity and independence, make new friends, and just have an incredibly fun summer experience. Today, I'll guide you through some things to consider as you decide whether attending a sleep-away camp would be a good option for your child.  Points we discuss include: Possible benefits of sleep-away camp How to prepare your child for camp How to help your child hold onto your connection when you are apart Post-camp “re-entry” Sleep-away camp can be an invaluable experience for children. They have the opportunity to make memories and friendships that last a lifetime. However, your child may not be ready for it yet, or it may not ever be a good fit for them. You have to find the opportunity that's best for you and your family. I hope this episode helps you take the necessary steps to make this decision. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent  Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!  Schedule a free parent coach consultation/interest call!    CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community   EPISODE RESOURCES:  Homesick and Happy: How Time Away from Parents Can Help a Child Grow

In this episode of The 3D Parent Podcast, I'm talking about why kids don't listen to their parents. This is an issue I hear many parents talk about in my coaching practice, and I also have personal experience with this issue as a mother of four children. Parents often assume that kids don't listen because they are being disrespectful or lack discipline. But it's actually an issue with how parents communicate.  Points we'll discuss include: The reasons children don't listen How parents can fix the issue We all would love our children to do what we say just because we are the parent. But it doesn't work like that. And ask yourself: do you like to be ordered, threatened, punished, or lectured? Neither do your kids! A relationship-focused approach to communicating with your kids is always better and sets them up for respectful communication with others in the future. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent  Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!  Schedule a free parent coach consultation/interest call!    CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community EPISODE RESOURCES:  How to Get Your Child to LISTEN! 10 Reasons Your Kids Don't Listen to You

In this episode of The 3D Parent Podcast, I'm discussing the difference between natural and imposed consequences and how they affect our children's behavior. All parents want their children to grow into true maturity and take responsibility for their actions. The traditional methods of issuing rewards and punishments may seem to work, but it ultimately backfires. In the episode, I'll talk about how to use natural consequences and our relationship with our child to help them grow and learn from mistakes.    Points we discuss include: The difference between natural and imposed consequences The problem with imposed consequences Using natural consequences to our advantage How our connection with children influences their behavior I hope you'll think a little bit more about the use of both natural and imposed consequences and how they affect your children. When your children make a mistake, I invite you to take a step back and get to the reason why the mistake was made in the first place. Instead of jumping right into issuing an imposed consequence, take a step back and see if you could figure out the root of the behavior. Perhaps nature can teach the lesson through a natural consequence, and you can see if you can help your children come up with their own solution in a way to make things right in the future.

In this episode of The 3D Parent Podcast, I'm sharing the surprising benefits of pet ownership for children. Taking care of animals can help children develop responsibility, empathy, and motivation. It can be wonderful for both their physical and emotional health.    Points we discuss include: How pet ownership helps children develop into maturity The ways animals can help regulate emotions Points to consider before bringing animals into your family   While pet ownership is a big responsibility, it can bring so much joy into the lives of children. Should you decide to dive into pet ownership, you might discover and experience all the hidden benefits a pet can provide for your child and find a new way to connect as a family through your pet(s).   If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent    Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!    Schedule a free parent coach consultation/interest call!    CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community   EPISODE RESOURCES: 25 Benefits for Kids Growing Up with Pets How Pets Can Help Children with Mental Health and Development The Best Pets for Kids at Each Age 12 Best Pets for Kids 13 Low Maintenance Pets for Kids Episode 19: The Power and Importance of Play Episode 23: Parenting the Highly Sensitive “Orchid” Child Episode 42: Parenting Dominant “Alpha” Children Episode 47: Encouraging Empathy in Children Episode 50: Parenting an Anxious Child Episode 70: How to Help the Child who Bullies

In this episode of The 3D Parent Podcast, I'm focusing on finding the best school fit for highly sensitive children. Typical or traditional school environments can often be highly overwhelming and even wounding for highly sensitive children. An overly stimulating classroom can cause high alarm for children with this temperament. Today we will examine the unique needs of children who are highly sensitive and discuss how to make the best decision for your child and your family.   Points we will discuss include: How traditional school environments affect highly sensitive children Special considerations for the schooling environment of highly sensitive children How to know if your current school environment is working or if it's time for a change If you have a highly sensitive child and a typical school environment seems like it is not a good fit for your kid or is not working, you may be right. Realize that you may need to go down a different path than you anticipated or change your child's world if it is not working. And remember that what's needed now will not necessarily be what is needed forever. Trust yourself to make the best decision for your child and your family.  If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent    Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!    Schedule a free parent coach consultation/interest call!    CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community   EPISODE RESOURCES: Episode 23: Parenting the Highly Sensitive “Orchid” Child The Perfect School for Highly Sensitive Children Article

  “Time-outs use your relationship as something that can be given and then taken away; it makes your relationship with your child conditional.” Time-outs are a widely utilized parenting technique. A time-out is a punitive consequence used to “teach a lesson” to a child. While this technique is popular and recommended by many professionals, there is evidence that time-outs do much harm and very little good for the parent-child relationship. That's why in this episode of The 3D Parent Podcast, I will share why time-outs are problematic and suggest ways to discipline without using time-outs. Points we will discuss include: Why time-outs are so widely used How time-outs can strain the parent-child relationship Alternative strategies to using time-outs Discipline choices either contribute or detract from the conditions which are optimal for growth, maturation, and the development of self-control. You cannot force maturity through time-outs. In fact, you may even stall true maturation and make it more difficult to have the power to influence your child through your deep connection.  Perhaps it is the time-out itself which needs a time-out! I hope that you will think twice before giving a time-out and try a connecting strategy instead. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent    Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!    Schedule a free parent coach consultation/interest call!    CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community   EPISODE RESOURCES: The Trouble with Time-outs article by Deborah Macnamara

“Most problematic behaviors are driven by an unmet need. So the question is not what to do, but rather, what's the cause?” In this episode of The 3D Parent Podcast, I'm focusing on one of the most common questions I get in my coaching practice. Many parents ask how they should respond to particular behaviors of their children. They ask, “What should I do when my child behaves like…” I can tell in their questioning that they are looking for a tool, trick, or fitting punishment/consequence to match and solve the behavior. However, what they should be asking instead is, “What is driving this behavior?” When parents can name the cause of the behavior, then they will realize they know how to respond. Points we will discuss include: Six essential needs our children have What it looks like when these needs are met and unmet How to determine and respond to our children's needs  Parents, remember that it's not about “what to do when…” That's the wrong question. Asking that question is causing you to lose your sense of intuition and direction. Instead, it's about asking what unmet need is driving the behavior. I invite you to put on your 3D Parent lens and determine what unmet need is causing the behavior and then provide the answer by meeting the need. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent    Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!    Schedule a free parent coach consultation/interest call!    CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community   EPISODE RESOURCES: Episode 19: The Power and Importance of Play The Science of Emotion Course Discipline without Distress Book Empowering Communication Booklet

In this special episode of The 3D Parent Podcast, I'm giving a live coaching session of myself working with a parent on a specific challenge they are facing. We'll dive into the history and causes of the problem, as well as discuss potential solutions using the 3D Parent approach. I am joined today by Lauren, a mom of an 18-month-old boy, Baby J. Baby J is a spirited and adventurous little boy, but he sometimes has outbursts of emotional aggression. In the episode, I discuss with Lauren how she can help Baby J better express his emotions.   In the episode, we discuss: Emotional frustration in young children Spirited and sensitive temperaments Ways to deal handle emotional aggression   Emotional aggression is a common issue, especially in young children who don't have full language acquisition yet. Understanding the root of their frustrations and learning to help them express their emotions is very helpful in managing their outbursts.   If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent    Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!    Schedule a free parent coach consultation/interest call!    CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community   CONNECT WITH LAUREN: Instagram

Today's episode of The 3D Parent Podcast is based on a question-- “What makes a good parent?” I recently learned that the number one searched question on the internet when it comes to parenting is “how to be a good parent.” I'm really curious how we define good parenting and how we judge whether we are or aren't good parents. In today's episode, I want to define what makes a good parent and hopefully provide you with some relief that you are, despite your challenges, a good parent.    Some points we'll discuss include: What makes a good parent (and who defines this) Embracing real-life “non-Instagrammable” moments How to end perfectionism and trust yourself    If you've googled “how to be a good parent,” please know that I am 100% confident that you already are. Stop worrying about how you or your kids compare and measure up, and remember that parenting is a journey to embark upon, not a race to be won. That journey is sure to come with many twists and turns, complications, and surprises. So trust that journey, and trust yourself.    If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent    Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!    Schedule a free parent coach consultation/interest call!    CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community

“Kids are born knowing how to sleep. Our job as adults is to create an environment where sleep feels like a safe and happy place.” In this episode, I'm excited to welcome a special guest, Sarah R. Moore! She is the founder of Dandelion Seeds Positive Parenting. As a certified gentle parenting coach, she's a regular contributor to international parenting magazines, as well as frequent guest on podcasts and parenting summits. She offers a popular series of mini-courses, webinars, and expert interviews. She's currently writing two books that will be released this year. I'm excited to have her on the podcast to share her perspective on a more gentle approach to children's sleeping habits.  Some points we will discuss include: The conventional wisdom around sleep training and the problems behind it How the Cry it out (CIO) method affects your child How parents can trust their intuition when it comes to making decisions for their children Ultimately, you know what is best for your family, and you can feel confident trusting your instincts. We hope this episode has helped you feel less conflicted and confused about making decisions around children's sleeping habits.  If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent    Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!    Schedule a free parent coach consultation/interest call!    CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community   CONNECT WITH SARAH: FACEBOOK INSTAGRAM PINTEREST TWITTER  YOUTUBE COURSES EXPERT INTERVIEWS

“Parenting is a great lesson in this pandemic. Parenting is a master class. You can make all the plans you want, but that doesn't mean they're going to work out.” In this episode of The 3D Parent Podcast, I'm sharing your thoughts and reflections on a year of pandemic parenting. It has been one year since the arrival of Covid-19 in the United States, and I wanted to reflect on this past year. I put out five questions on social media and collected responses from you, my listeners.   The five questions I asked were: What has been the hardest part of parenting during this last year? What has/have been your family's silver lining(s)? Is there anything you hope to continue when more typical life returns? If you could go back to March 2020 and offer your past self any advice, what would it be? Is there anything you never want to see, do, or hear again (related to parenting)?    In the episode, I read listeners' responses to these questions, as well as share my own reflections. It was very interesting to hear a diverse group of people respond to these questions. I hope hearing these reflections helps you feel less alone in your own pandemic parenting. Please keep the conversation going with me on social media! I want to hear from you.   If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent    Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!    Schedule a free parent coach consultation/interest call!    CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community

“A child who bullies is capable of transformation.”   In this episode of The 3D Parent Podcast, I'm talking about how to help children who bully others. Most of the conversations I hear around bullying are focused on the victims of bullying. It's being forgotten that bullies are deeply wounded children who also need help.   We will go over topics such as: Why children become bullies What is and is not effective in preventing bullying How relationships can change bullies   I hope this episode reminds you that bullies are still children who need us and that it gives you some ideas about how you can help wounded children.   If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent    Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!    Schedule a free parent coach consultation/interest call!    CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community   EPISODE RESOURCES: Reclaiming our Students Book

*Trigger warning: I will refer to youth suicide and self-harming behaviors as it relates to bullying. Please proceed with caution if talking about this topic is a trigger for you.*   “When children feel seen, heard, and accepted for who they are in their parent's eyes, they won't believe that they don't belong or are without value like the bullies want them to believe.”   In this episode of The 3D Parent Podcast, I am talking about how you can “bully-proof” your child. It's no doubt that parents want their children to find acceptance and belonging with their peers. Unfortunately, we know that this is not always the case. As parents, we cannot completely protect our children from bullying, but we can work to boost their self-esteem and help them feel loved and supported so that the words of a bully will not hurt them as much.    We will go over topics such as: What bullying is and isn't Developing a connection that can cushion your child from the blow of harsh treatment from others Helping your child orient to adult caretakers rather than peers   I hope this episode gives you practical ways to support your child. Remember that you cannot protect them from everything, but you can be as supportive and nurturing as you can to help them.    If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent    Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!    Schedule a free parent coach consultation/interest call!   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community   EPISODE RESOURCES: Episode 3: Cultivating a Deep Connection with Our Children Hardened or Hardy Article Hold on to Your Kids Book

“Clothing confidence comes from really owning the fact that if a piece of clothing doesn't fit, that's the only thing. That means it doesn't mean that your body is too big. It doesn't mean that it's too tall or too long or too curvy or too whatever. It just means that this piece of clothing doesn't fit.” --Holly Chayes In this episode of The 3D Parent Podcast, I'm joined by style coach and consultant Holly Chayes. We are talking about how personal style is a form of self-care and self-expression and how to maintain that as a parent.   We will go over topics such as:  How clothing can profoundly affect the way you feel How body acceptance comes into play with personal style How to balance the needs of your life with the wardrobe you want   I hope this episode helps you think about the style you want to express and how you can balance that with all your responsibilities as a parent.    If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent    Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!    Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here!   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community   CONNECT WITH HOLLY: WEBSITE PODCAST: TALKING ABOUT CLOTHES WITH HOLLY CHAYES FREE E-BOOK: PERSONAL STYLE FUNDAMENTALS

“You have to keep the kids at the pinnacle of the decision-making. They are the true north.” --Merry Senn   This week on The 3D Parent Podcast, I'm discussing co-parenting with special guests Merry and Ashley Senn. Merry and Ashley are good friends of mine from the theater community. They have been married for just over five years. They live in Edmonds WA and share 2 boys Calvin (12) and Sawyer (9). Years of friendship and couplehood have led them to begin their own podcast, Your Friends Ash & Mer. They have honest and mostly hysterical conversations about marriage, parenthood, and making it through this life together. The highlight of their show is when Ash & Mer talk to their incredible friends from every facet of their life and bring their unique and incredible stories to their podcast listeners. They are great examples of people who make co-parenting look easy, despite its challenges.   We will go over topics such as: Common challenges of co-parenting Navigating family transitions and custody arrangements Tools parents can use to make co-parenting easier   Merry and Ashley say that keeping their children at the pinnacle of their decision-making is crucial. If you keep their best interests at heart, then the best decisions will be made. Co-parenting is challenging, but with good communication and strategy, it is manageable.    If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent    Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community CONNECT WITH ASHLEY AND MERRY: PODCAST INSTAGRAM FACEBOOK  

In this episode of The 3D Parent Podcast, I want to take the opportunity to speak to people who consider themselves allies in the fight against systemic racism. This episode is an opportunity for you to assess where you and your family are when it comes to your commitment to be an anti-racist family.    We will go over topics such as: The history of Black History Month How Black History might actually uphold white supremacy The cycle of inaction   I hope this episode will help you evaluate where you are and help you move forward in your commitment to anti-racism.    If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent    Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!    Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here!   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community

“We felt there were a lot of opportunities to expand our knowledge of the world and to have our children increase their ability to interact in a meaningful way with people that didn't look like them and that didn't speak like them.”   This week on The 3D Parent Podcast, I'm discussing if au pairs may be right for your family. My family has hosted a total of eight au pairs over the years, and I want to share my experience and tips with you about the au pair process.   We will go over topics such as: What an au pair is and how it's different from a nanny Pros and challenges of having an au pair Tips on the au pair matching process How to welcome your au pair into your home   While having an au pair takes patience and flexibility, it can be a wonderfully enriching experience for your whole family. I hope this episode helps you decide if having an au pair is the right fit for your family.   If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent    Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!    Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here!   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community     EPISODE RESOURCES OH MY, AU PAIR! BOOK

“We tend to sometimes not be able to differentiate between somebody else's problem stress, worry, frustration and our own.”   This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I'm discussing parenting tips for empaths and highly sensitive people. I'm defining Highly Sensitive People, or HSPs for short as people who have sensory processing sensitivity and about 15-20% of the population fits into this category. Being an HSP parent presents challenges, but there are also many gifts.     We will go over topics such as: Challenges for HSP parents Stress-relieving activities How to see your sensitivity as a gift   With healthy skills in place, you will come to see your sensitivity as a gift and will be better able to manage your and your child's emotions.   If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent    Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!    Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here!   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community   EPISODE RESOURCES Unlocking Us Podcast Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle

“Rewards are problematic because you're not calling upon your attachment and connection with your child to motivate change. You have to go to something external that you feel might have an influence on your children because you don't.”   This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I'm discussing the use of bribes and rewards with children. While these kinds of external motivators can sometimes be helpful, using them for long-term discipline actually creates more problems.    We will go over topics such as:   What makes bribes and rewards problematic How rewards can affect children's development When using external motivation can be helpful   To help children mature, we have to stop treating them like rats in a Psychology experiment! To grow emotionally, they need to learn how to self-regulate and be internally motivated. I hope this episode inspires you to take a different and more effective approach to your parenting.   If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent    Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!    Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here!   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community

“Your healthy meal is healthy for your children and a good way of introducing healthy eating at an early stage.”   This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I'm joined by Dr. Orlena Kerek. She trained as a pediatric doctor in the UK. She now lives in Spain with her four children. She teaches families to enjoy healthy eating and living without having to think about it. She is the author of the book Feeding Toddlers and also hosts the podcast Fit and Fabulous at 40 and Beyond. Today we are discussing how to encourage healthy eating habits in your family.      We will go over topics such as: How to help your children become healthy adults How to manage picky eaters Vegetarian diet in children If you set the foundation of healthy eating now, your children will form habits that will carry them through their lives. I hope this episode empowers you to make healthy decisions for your family. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent  Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!  Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here!   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community   CONNECT WITH DR. ORLENA: Fit and Fabulous at Forty and Beyond Blog Dr. Orlena Instagram Fit and Fabulous Facebook Group

“You're going to make a change. It's going to be uncomfortable. You're going to maybe not know what to do at times.”   This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I'm outlining the 5 steps of the 3D Parent reset. These steps will help you give your parenting a reboot in the New Year. This can really make an incredible difference for your family and for the way that you parent.      We will go over topics such as: Taking a one week to detox from punishment and to up your connection game Really listening to your children and keeping your responses to a minimum  Inserting more joy into your family routines   My hope is that this episode gives you a framework you can use as the start of revolutionizing your parenting and family dynamic. You can take your family in a direction that is aligned with your values.    If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent  Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!  Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here!   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community

This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I will be giving tips that you and your family can use to connect and reflect with each other on New Year's Eve or New Year's day. This episode is meant to guide you and your family in the right direction while leaving behind any baggage from 2020. I will dive into some fun game ideas and different activities you could use with your kids. Even some activities for the adults!   We will go over topics such as: Ending 2020 on a positive note and starting the New Year off fresh.  Ten ideas and activities you could use to bond with your family during your New Year celebration.  Questions you and your family could ask each other to reflect from the past year.   Given the year that we had, it is important that we create a family connection in a fun and creative way. Don't stress yourself out trying to have the best New Year celebration, instead make it a celebration you will remember with your loved ones. I hope you are all able to close this year's chapter and open a new book of possibilities for 2021.  If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent  Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!  Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here!   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community

“You don't need to seek out preschools and daycare for your children to become socialized. It can still be a great fit for your family but remember it's not something you need to do.”   This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I will be talking about young children and their socialization needs. I want to address a few myths, one of the biggest being, that daycares and preschools are the way to develop your children socially. I will also dive into the importance of the adults your children are surrounded by, and the role this plays in the socialization development.   We will go over topics such as: How peer interactions are not key to early socialization of young children. Weighing the pros and cons of a daycare or preschool environment for your child. The main ways your child is influenced to develop socialization skills.    My hope is that this episode brings you peace of mind if you are a parent who has been feeling pressure to put your child in a preschool or daycare environment simply to promote socialization. Remember, you are what your child needs in order for them to reach their full potential!    If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent  Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!  Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here!   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community

“This is the year where you can be making, baking, watching things and reading things because you're not as scheduled and you have more time. Let's take advantage of the benefits that come from a less scheduled holiday season.” This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I will be talking about alternative ways to have yourself a merry COVID Christmas this year. With the restrictions in place, this year's Christmas surely won't feel the same. That doesn't mean families can't get creative and find new ways to still experience the magical holiday spirit! We will go over topics such as: New activities families can explore to create new holiday traditions Creative turnarounds to still enjoy traditional holiday activities while maintaining safety and keeping social distancing Possible ideas to get you started on your very own holiday bucket list With lockdowns and safety restrictions, the holidays don't seem so fun and exciting as before. Thankfully, there are many resources for us to explore so that we can keep our family safe and still celebrate holidays with joy and excitement. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent  Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!  Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here! CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook The 3D Parent Lounge Facebook Community

This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we're bringing in a professional mediator expert/parent educator and coach, Susan North. Susan will be joining us to discuss possible solutions to sibling fighting. We will be talking about the golden nuggets from her book The Opposite of Combat: A Parent's Guide for Teaching Siblings How To Collaborate & Solve Their Own Conflicts. We will go over topics such as: Susan's journey and what inspired her to write a book on siblings conflict. How mediation meets 3D Parent Approach. Why meditation is preferred over arbitration as solution to sibling fighting. Collateral benefits of mediation. While siblings fighting is a common occurrence in a household, many parents are struggling more than ever with increasing conflicts due to the stay-at-home set-up that we have today. If you are having a hard time dealing with mediation around your home, maybe it's time for you to explore Susan's philosophies and guidelines so you'll be equipped with the knowledge and skills necessary to help children of all ages navigate their own conflicts. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent  Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!  Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here! CONNECT WITH SUSAN: Facebook Page  Squabblefest Blog North Parent Coaching Blog CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook 

“I encourage you to embrace and make space for your children's frustration to move. It might be the answer as to what's been missing from your parenting and self-care practice during this period of high frustration.” This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I will be talking about making space for frustration which is very timely considering there is a high-level of frustration building up around the pandemic. Thankfully, there are a lot of easy-to-do activities that can help us and our children find the much-needed emotional release. We will go over topics such as: The importance of embracing and expressing frustrations in our family and our society. What foul frustration is all about and key behaviors to identify if your children are struggling with it. Three categories of emotional playground including specific emotional release activities you can easily try the comfort of your home! When exploring the activities mentioned in this episode, remember that there is not a single activity that will work on all children. So I encourage you to have patience and understanding when trying to help your kid move their frustrations.  If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent  Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!  Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here! CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook

This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I'm going to dive into an overdue topic, raising kids in a screen-filled world. It has become one of the most prevalent topics that parents think about, and probably will continue to do so. I'm going to share personal narratives, as well as questions to ask yourself, in terms of how to deal with screen time in your household. We will go over topics such as: My family's journey on navigating the screen-filled world including the highs and lows My personal insights, reflections, and learning in dealing with screen time Essential questions you need ask yourself when it comes to deciding your family's rules and regulations on screen time There is not a one size fits all recommendation in terms of dealing with a screen-filled world. Each situation will look a bit different for each family, so remember that the decision on screen time and gadget-restrictions should always depend on what works for you and your family members. As this is only the first part of this particular topic, feel free to share your particular concerns so we can address that in upcoming episodes. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent  Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!  Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here! CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook

“Parents, your job is not done yet. Your role has changed but it's not done.” This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I'm going to share my insight and top tips with you on how you can navigate the tween:teen transition within your child. This is a period of time where many parents can find themselves uncertain or unclear on how to approach the shifts happening in their children's behavior. I want to share my top seven tips that I found useful as I was navigating this transition with my own children. We will go over topics such as:  My top seven tips to navigate the tween:teen parenting transition. The importance of space and understanding as your child expresses new behaviors and ways of communicating. How you can empower your child rather than enable. Navigating the tween:teen parenting transition is far from easy. I know when I experienced this phase within my two children, I found myself quite uncomfortable at first. Know that it's normal and you will get through this transition. Parents, remember, your job is not done yet. Your role may have changed, but your job is far from over. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent  Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!  Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here! CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook

“It's always worth involving kids in chores, even though they may not always be done to your ideal standards. Don't disinvolve your kids from pitching in with chores just because you know you could do it better.” This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I'm going to delve into the topics of chores, jobs, and allowances within the household. I'm also going to share some tips on how to encourage your child to participate in chores, and the common pitfalls of parents when it comes to chores. We will go over topics such as:  The values and importance of chores for kids, and why it's important for them to get involved. Key points to remember when involving kids with the household chores. The correlation between allowance and chores, and why you shouldn't tie the two together.   Chores are a fundamental concept in life, and at some point, children must be able to learn how to do it in order to become an independent, full-functioning adult in the future. As parents, it is our responsibility to successfully incorporate the true values of chores even if it seems a little bit tricky! If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent  Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!  Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here! CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook

“There are low to no risk activities which could add up to a really great Halloween so that this year's Halloween celebration is not full of scary disappointments, but more full of fun and celebration.”   This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I'm going to share with you the recommendations of things to avoid for this year's Halloween due to the unfortunate pandemic and things you can still proceed with while taking proper precautions.   Some of the topics I discuss include: High-risk activities that should be avoided for this week's Halloween celebration. Moderate risk activities that you could explore, bearing in mind the risk that comes with it and proper precautions to remember. Low to no risk activities which are safe alternatives compare to traditional Halloween activities that may not be advisable this year.   The pandemic has already brought a bunch of disappointments, not just for adults, but also for children. With the CDC's consideration and guidelines for holiday celebration, it reminds us that we can still have a fun and joyful holiday without compromising our safety. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent   Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode?  I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here!   Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here!   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT Instagram Facebook   EPISODE RESOURCES: CDC Holiday Celebrations Guidelines

“Maturity also can't be hurried up nor is it guaranteed. Only growing older is guaranteed. And I think many of us could think about adults in our lives who are incredibly immature, who maybe are on a maturity level, not much beyond a five or six or seven years old. And it may be that they are not very developed when it comes to their integrative functioning, their mixing of conflicting feelings.”   This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I'm going to dig in a little deeper on developing self-regulation in children. I'm going to provide parents and educators with signs to look for when the self-regulating skill is already developing and how to encourage its development even further.   Some of the topics covered in this episode include:   Exposing facts and fiction when it comes to self-regulation and its development in children.   The role of integrative functioning in children's self-regulation skills; when this usually develops and why sometimes it doesn't develop on schedule.   Unpacking the five steps of emotional maturity by Dr. Gordon Neufeld and its role in self-regulation in children.   What to do when your child loses their ability to self-regulate.   Understanding how self-regulation develops in children is an integral concept in parenting. Knowing the facts behind self-regulation helps ease anxiety for a lot of parents out there. In this episode, I hope that I can help parents nurture an environment that is needed so that self-regulation can develop in your child.  If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent   Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here!   Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here! CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT Instagram Facebook

“Understand that the goal here is not to extinguish the flame of anxiety, but instead to lead your child through or around the fire. I'm going to end with this quote again by Dr. Deborah MacNamara: Fear is not a problem to get rid of. Rather, it is a way of moving us forward to caution, to tears or to courage.”   This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we will be delving into the concept of anxiety including its root causes, neurological processes, and possible symptoms. I will also provide some insights on what to avoid when dealing with an anxious child as well as tips and tricks to help guide your child during their alarm state.   We will go over topics such as: Making sense of what anxiety is all about and how it works. Identifying common root causes of anxiety in children. 4 things to avoid in order to avoid worsening your child's anxiety. 12 tips and tricks to help you parent your anxious child.   I hope that these tips will help you make sense of what anxiety is all about. While anxiety is a universal feeling, remember that there are ways you can explore to ease your child's anxiety. Lastly, take note of the things that you should probably steer clear of to avoid worsening your child's state of alarm. Remember that when parenting an anxious child, the goal is to help cope with anxiety and not to completely eradicate it.   If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent   Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode?  I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here!   Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here!   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT Instagram Facebook

“I'm feeling so much of my own frustration and frustration in the face of my children's frustration that I am not parenting within my own intention. I am not treating my children with a level of warmth and love and respect that is in line with my intention. And I need to check myself on that. I need to reach out for my own source of support and help.”    This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we will be talking about our children's mental health in time of a global pandemic and how you can maintain, and hopefully improve, their emotional well-being.   I am going to share some of the highlights that I have learned on the webinar I attended hosted by the Neufeld's Institute. Additionally, I am going to share tips and insights on how to further support your child's mental health during the COVID-19 pandemic.   Some of the topics I discuss include: What to look out for in terms of your child's emotional health and other reassuring facts to help us ease anxieties told by Dr. Neufeld himself. My personal struggles and vulnerabilities dealing with my children's emotional breakdowns due to quarantine and remote learning. Five tips on how to support your children's mental health during this difficult time.   Eventually, this pandemic will come at ease and we will all move on from the traumatic experience that we are currently suffering. The main goal, however, for parents and caretakers out there is to help our children ease their pain and suffering. And the best way to do that is to heighten our support for our children's mental health.   If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent   Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode?  I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here!   Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here!   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT Instagram Facebook

“The reality check is if your child is in a state of alarm, there's no learning happening anyways.”   This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I am going to share seven actionable steps that you can take right away so you can bring back control as a parent in navigating remote learning.   Some of the topics covered in this episode include: My personal experience and struggle with remote learning as a parent and what I learned during those valuable moments. Seven actionable tips: a hybrid of reality checks and actionable steps you can take TODAY to get ahead of remote learning. The most imperative thing to prioritize in relation to remote learning and today's climate.   Juggling the work-from-home set-up and remote learning for our children can easily get overwhelming, especially with the uncertainties brought about by the pandemic. In this episode, I'm going to share seven suggestions and reality checks for parents to get a hold of remote learning more easily, as well as my personal experiences and struggles with remote learning. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent   Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode?  I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here!   Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here!   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT Instagram Facebook

“We as parents, as our children's first teachers, we're the ones that can do the work to plant those seeds of empathy for our own children.”   This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I'm going to share some tips that you can implement in your own family to create an environment of empathy. I am also going to talk about things that might be getting in the way of your child's development of empathy.   Some of the topics covered in this episode include: The definition of empathy. Why empathy can't be taught and why children don't have the concept of empathy at an early age. Tips on how to create an environment of empathy. Four steps from Dr. Deborah MacNamara to keep our children's hearts soft.   While children are born primed with empathy, it takes a loving and supporting environment to help develop those empathetic instincts within them. The key to understanding empathy is to accept that they cannot be taught. It is a delicate blend of children's innate capacity, environment, and upbringing. So I encourage parents to reevaluate the environment where they raise their child and analyze whether it is a viable environment for empathy to grow and flourish.   If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent   Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode?  I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here!   Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here!   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT Instagram Facebook

“Instead of banishing your child or sending them to time out, make space for your children and let them know that they're welcome to be in your presence no matter what version of themselves is there.”   This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we are going to discuss what kids don't need from their parents. This is a different approach from what I usually do on my episodes but it is equally important as these are common mistakes that a lot of parents make.   We'll walk through the difficult moments that parents usually experience with their child and discuss the underlying factors that contribute to your child's frustrations. We will also navigate through what to do and what not to do during these challenging times.   Throughout this episode, I will unpack six pointers on what kids don't need from their parents, and the reasoning behind why our children don't respond well to these six things. I will also provide guides on what to do instead so that you will not end up wounding your relationship with your children.    If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, share it on Instagram and tag me, @the3Dparent   Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode?  I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT Instagram Facebook

“Bring that good attitude along so that you can have as much fun as possible on your RV travel vacation and try it. Your kids may be scared to jump in but it might just be one of the best trips your family has ever taken, just like it was for ours.”   This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I'm going to share some valuable RV travel survival tips for newbies which I have personally learned and experienced last summer.   Some of the topics covered in this episode include: Tips on how to improve family dynamics during your RV travel adventures. Life-saver tools and technologies you can utilize to have a smooth-sailing travel experience. The ultimate RV Packing list: What to bring and what not to bring.   Our RV camping adventure was one of the best trips that our family ever had and we made a life-time worth of incredible memories along the way. I hope that the topics discussed in this episode can help you plan your very own RV travel adventure. With safe travel options like RV travel, even the pandemic couldn't stop us to create wonderful memories that will surely last a lifetime.   If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent   Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode?  I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here!   Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here!   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT Instagram Facebook

“For me it was very important that children of color could see themselves blooming where they're planted and that your story doesn't take place necessarily in China or in India or in a country in Africa, that your story can take place here where you are and you belong here.”   This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I am chatting with guest Mijha Godrey, who is co-founder of Jambo Books. We're having another conversation about race, and getting Mijha's perspective on why she decided to start Jambo Books and her mission behind it.   Some of the topics covered in this episode include: Mijha's mission and journey to start Jambo Books. The meaning behind Jambo Books and the importance of opening up conversations we need to have through these books. Bringing more awareness and impact to the publishing industry.   Storytelling and providing books is such a powerful vehicle to children and encouraging us to have important conversations. In this episode, Mijha is sharing how she began Jambo Books, why, and her long-term goals as well.   If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent   Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode?  I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here!   Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here!   CONNECT WITH MIJHA Website Facebook Twitter Instagram   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT Instagram Facebook

“Soon you'll find that raising a child with learning differences is a gift.”   This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I am sharing my top tips on raising children with learning differences, based both upon my personal upbringing and my personal experience with my children.   Some of the topics covered in this episode include: How to detect the signs of your child having learning differences. What proper steps and actions you should take as a parent when you determine your child has a learning difference. How to embrace your child having a learning difference and realizing it's a true gift.   If you currently have a child with a learning difference or maybe you grew up yourself with one, it can be an overwhelming situation at first. In this episode, I'm going to share my top ten tips on parenting children with a learning difference, as well as my personal experiences with this topic.   If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent   Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode?  I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here!   Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here!   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT Instagram Facebook

“The level of cooperation parents get from their children is usually equal to the level of connection. Children feel with their parents.”   This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we'll share with you valuable insights on how to effectively parent a dominant “Alpha” child.   Some of the topics covered in this episode include: What is an alpha child and how to determine if your child is an alpha. How do a child progress on becoming an alpha and how you can avoid it. Seventeen powerful tips that parents can efficiently do to ultimately change the dynamic in a parent-child relationship.   If you are tired of feeling powerless and constantly frustrated from having to walk on eggshells around your potentially explosive child, know that it doesn't have to be this way. In this episode, I'm going to share some pointers to shed light on what being an alpha is all about and offer solutions just for you. I encourage parents to dig deep into this episode so you can finally take back your natural alpha role as a parent and ultimately, help your child reach their full potential.   If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent   Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode?  I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here!   Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here!   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT Instagram Facebook

“Stop being a martyr. You deserve a break. You deserve a rest. You are not supposed to be selfless. You need to take care of yourself so that you can care for others.”   This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I will be sharing my six mid-summer joy fixes to bring back the joy in your summer. I know that we can't rely on the usual summer activities that we've had in the past like summer camps or summer jobs due to the pandemic. With that in mind, I'm going to share with you some quick solutions that have been helping me make it through this unique summer with more joy and less stress.   We will go over topics such as: My biggest takeaway from this summer. The importance of having a solid teamwork with your partner/spouse. Why you should rebel against the ‘shoulds'.   If you're having a hard time facing the difficulties of summer quarantine, try these six mid-summer joy fixes that I have for you. Hopefully, this could give you a redo on this summer and consequently, helps you find the summer joy you and your family definitely deserve.   If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, share it on Instagram and tag me, @the3Dparent   Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode?  I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT Instagram Facebook

“You have to be intentional. We treat black people fairly. We treat Asian people fairly. We treat Hispanic people fairly because we are all human beings and we all have the same worth.”   On this episode of the 3D Parent Podcast, we will be diving into the topic of race and parenting and specifically getting a black mother's perspective with our very special guest, Nishea Clark.  She is a New Jersey-based mother of two and founder of NVC Consulting. She will be sharing her insight and perspective on race and how that plays a role for her as a parent.   When it comes to conversations about race, it can be a controversial topic. With all of the recent events happening across the world, it's time we shed light on different perspectives. Especially a black mother's perspective, as a parent there are already enough challenges and obstacles to face.   In Episode 40 of the 3D Parent Podcast, I want to explore and have a deeper conversation about race and the role it plays for parenting. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, share it on Instagram and tag me, @the3Dparent   Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode?  I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT Instagram Facebook   RESOURCES: The Invisible Load of Motherhood: Mothering Black Children Jack and Jill of America, Inc. NVC Consulting Glamping While Black

“Think of the discipline again as a word that is meant to be about leadership.  It requires us as parents to take responsibility for our children and be able to identify what's not working so that we can address it.”   On this episode of the 3D Parent Podcast, we will be diving into disciplining your children with dignity.  We will be reviewing the older, more popular ways to discipline your child, discuss why they are hindering your connection with your child, and how to improve your discipline tactics.   So what does discipline with dignity mean?  It means disciplining your children through your connection and creating a safe environment for them to work through their emotions when they are met with boundaries or decisions they don't like.   Just keep in mind, this won't always be easy, but be firm in your boundaries and always work to maintain that connection with your child. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, share it on Instagram and tag me, @the3Dparent   Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode?  I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT Instagram Facebook   RESOURCES: Connection to Parenting by Pam Leo Discipline Without Distress by Judy Arnall Hold onto Your Kids by Dr. Gordon Neufeld

“You need to develop a sense of curiosity about your child, and you cannot get sucked up into the emotions of what's going on.”   On this episode of the 3D Parent Podcast, I want to go deep in discussing deep connection with your children.  First we'll look at a couple of studies regarding the different types of connection that can be used to classify young children.  Then we'll discuss in depth the different stages of attachment and what stage looks like.   Before the conclusion of the episode, I will also identify some roadblocks for you that are common challenges that come up for parents in trying to establish a connection with their child.  Finally, I will give you some tips so you can start incorporating connection at every attachment stage to help you reach your goal as a parent as your child's secret keeper. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, share it on Instagram and tag me, @the3Dparent   Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode?  I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT Instagram Facebook   RESOURCES: Connection to Parenting by Pam Leo Aha! Parenting The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel J Siegel The Kissing Hand by Audrey Penn Dr. Neufeld's Six Stages of Attachment

“You need to develop a sense of curiosity about your child, and you cannot get sucked up into the emotions of what's going on.”   This week on the podcast I will be talking about the 3D Parent approach and how you can start making that transition in your home today.  Now, this won't be easy, especially if you are used to trying to control your child's behaviors with rewards and punishment. This may feel very foreign to you and you may feel like you have no idea what you're doing.  That is completely normal, but I want to encourage you to not give up.   In this episode I will break down the difference between approaching your child's behaviors from a behaviorist perspective vs. a developmentalist perspective, and how to start making the transition to nurture their development without trying to force them into a box.   If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, share it on Instagram and tag me, @the3Dparent     Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode?  I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!   Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here!   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT Instagram Facebook   RESOURCES The Neufeld Institute Hold on to Your Kids by Dr. Neufeld

"My topic for today is how to prepare for your child's coming out. In honor of Pride Month, it seemed like a good time to record this topic. And obviously, if you're listening to this and your child is not out as a member of the LGBTQ+ community, this is a hypothetical preparation of some sort. But it's important to think about because you never know, this might be a part of your journey as a parent."   This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we will be talking about preparing for your child's coming out, which can be a hypothetical situation for some parents but remains vitally important to talk about. I will be sharing some tips on what to avoid when a child comes out and ways you can show your support of their decision.   We will go over topics such as:    My son's own experience of coming out, and different factors that helped or hindered the process.  What to do when your child comes (and what to definitely NOT do or say!) Why the coming out of a child should lead to the whole family “coming out” as well.  After a child comes out, parents often move through different stages similar to grief. We may feel that we've lost the future we imagined for our child...but those are our dreams, not theirs. And at the end of the day, your kid is still the same wonderful person they were before they came out, and I hope this podcast episode reminds you of that!  If you enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent  Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode? I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here!  Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here! EPISODE RESOURCES: www.mykidisgay.com  This is a Book for Parents of Gay Kids by Dannielle Owens-Reid & Kristin Russo https://www.familyequality.org/2018/06/01/what-to-do-and-not-do-when-your-child-comes-out-to-you/  https://momastery.com/blog/2013/03/26/a-mountain-im-willing-to-die-on-4/  https://johnpavlovitz.com/2015/06/25/if-i-have-gay-children-four-promises-from-a-christian-pastor-and-parent/  https://www.thetrevorproject.org/    EPISODES TO FURTHER THE DISCUSSION: Episode 28: Talking to your Kids about Sex Episode 34: Talking to our Kids about Race, Racism and Privilege    CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook

“This may have not been the summer you or your kids had envisioned for yourselves, but that does not mean it needs to be terrible. Make it a summer to remember for you and your family.”   This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I'm going to share some fun ideas for summer activities that you can enjoy with your kids even with the restrictions brought on by the pandemic. Plus, most of the ideas that I will share are accessible and very affordable.   If you have a child who is disappointed by the cancellation of their summer activities, then this episode is definitely for you. Aside from the summer activities I'm going to share, we're also going to discuss how these activities can help parents navigate the stress of this difficult situation.   I hope the topics that we will discuss here will help you plan your summer activities and make it one of the most memorable summers for you and your family, despite the difficulties caused by COVID-19. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent  Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode?  I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!  Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here! EPISODES TO FURTHER THE DISCUSSION: Episode 4: Discipline with Dignity Episode 17: Melt-down Free Shopping Trips with Kids    CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook

“It's okay to make mistakes when you're advocating or speaking out. And not everyone's going to welcome your participation. That's okay. That's the price we pay for our privilege. Just listen, learn and continue to do the best you can to make a positive difference.”   This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I am going to share six actionable steps that you can take right away to address race, identity, prejudice within your own families.   Some of the topics covered in this episode include: Common reasons why White parents choose to not to talk about racism and prejudices (and how that choice is actually a privilege) The importance of intentionality when teaching kids about race, racism, and privilege. Six actionable steps that parents can start taking TODAY to effectively and appropriately address race, racism, and privilege within their family.   If you're feeling intimidated or unsure of how to discuss the topics of race, racism, and privilege with your children, know that you are not alone. However, these conversations are necessary building blocks to a more equal society. So I encourage parents to make a commitment to complete at least one step a week to genuinely address these difficult topics within your households.   If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent   Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode?  I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions. Please share your parenting question here!   Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here!   EPISODE RESOURCES: Explanation of what it is to be a white accomplice: https://www.whiteaccomplices.org PDF on what children understand about race from birth through age 6+:  Five episode program for parents from Seattle's King 5 News on race, racism, identity Harvard Implicit Association Test Children's Book: Something Happened in Our Town: A Child's Story About Racial Injustice by Marianne Celano PhD, Marietta Collins PhD, and Ann Hazard PhD. Here is a link to a YouTube read-aloud version. Children's Book: A Kids Book About Racism by Jelani Memory. Here is a link to a YouTube read-aloud version. Website with book lists on police brutality, black heroes, recognizing privilege and more resources King 5 Series on Race and Parenting:  “How we talk to our kids about race, racism and identity”  http://www.willaplayschool.org   EPISODES TO FURTHER THE DISCUSSION: Episode 24: Surviving and Thriving During the Coronavirus Outbreak Episode 28: Talking to Your Kids About Sex   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook

“I want to invite you to see this as an opportunity to help your child develop a capacity to be resilient. If you get in the way, you might be keeping your child from being able to develop those skills. Handling disappointment and sadness is like a muscle that needs to be worked out. Your child needs to continue to work out this resiliency muscle.”   This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, I'll share some valuable tips on how you can help your child process disappointments so they can grow into a mature and resilient adult.   We will also look at ways you can hold space for your children when they are in a fragile state, especially with stress and disappointments triggered by the pandemic. Finally, I'll provide some pointers on what to avoid doing when your children are going through the process of disappointment and frustration.   If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent    Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode?  I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!    Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here!     EPISODES TO FURTHER THE DISCUSSION: Episode 23: Surviving and Thriving During the Coronavirus Outbreak Episode 32: Tears: The Key to Getting Kids “Unstuck”   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook

“Crying and tears helped both of us deal with what was such a difficult day and a difficult process. It was a perfect illustration of how tears can be so helpful when a child can access those emotions and is willing to cry when they cannot do anything different and they realize they have to face what is in front of them.”   This week on the 3D Parent Podcast, we will be talking about the concept of crying and how it can help your child become a mature, emotionally evolved human being.    Besides discussing the benefits of crying, throughout the episode we're also going to share tips and suggestions that can help with getting kids “unstuck” if they aren't naturally prone to crying.    Some of the topics that we will cover include:    Why not all tears are created equal, and how tears from emotion like sadness and frustration can actually help children (and adults!) navigate the futilities of life. Tips on how to help your kid access complicated feelings if they aren't naturally prone to crying The importance of normalizing crying and how you can do so properly in your own family.    So often as parents, we worry about stopping our kids' tears, but as this episode explains, it's even more important to teach your children how to properly let out their sadness and emotions through tears. So I hope this episode helps you get your children's tears “unstuck” and don't hesitate to reach out on the website if you have any parenting questions! If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to Instagram and share it your IG stories and tag me, @the3Dparent  Do you have a parenting question for an upcoming episode?  I would LOVE to connect with you and answer your questions.  Please share your parenting question here!  Grab your free copy of the 10 Steps To Get Back in Control of Your Children here! EPISODE RESOURCES: Dr. Deborah MacNamara's article about tears Hold on to your kids: Why parents need to matter more than their peers by Dr. Neufeld Crying: The Mystery of Tears by William H. Frey and Muriel Langseth   EPISODES TO FURTHER THE DISCUSSION: Episode 17: Melt-down Free Shopping Trips with Kids Episode 24: Parenting the Highly Sensitive Orchid Child   CONNECT WITH THE 3D PARENT: Instagram Facebook