Podcast appearances and mentions of Gordon Neufeld

AMDG. In a continuation of last week's episode, Lisa Popcak shares her advice for new homeschooling families, including what aspects of education matter most and what worked in her own family. “I had promised her… you will be 100% fine,” Lisa recalled. “And sure enough, she got recruited by her college… and got almost a full ride to be a pre-med student.”     Lisa reflects on her children leaving the home for college, navigating hard seasons in the home, liturgical living, and so much more.     Kolbecast episodes mentioned & relevant:  261 Flow & Connection through Learning, the first part of our conversation with Lisa Popcak  255 Family Life as Liturgy with Dr. Greg Popcak  131 It's All about Relationship with Danielle Bean  62 Due Diligence with Darren Jones of the Homeschool Legal Defense Association (HSLDA)  105 Not Just for Special Occasions  Related links:   CatholicHOM (Households on Mission)  CatholicCounselors.com  More2Life Radio & podcasts  Books by Dr. Greg & Lisa Popcak  Momfidence podcast  BeDADitudes podcast  Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More than Peers by Gordon Neufeld & Gabor Maté  Books by the Popcaks mentioned in this conversation:  Discovering God Together: The Catholic Guide to Raising Faithful Kids  Parenting Kids with Grace (birth to age 10)  Parenting Your Teens and Tweens with Grace  Once upon a Lifetime Podcast  Have questions or suggestions for future episodes or a story of your own experience that you'd like to share? We'd love to hear from you! Send your thoughts to podcast@kolbe.org and be a part of the Kolbecast odyssey.   We'd be grateful for your feedback! Please share your thoughts with us via this Kolbecast survey!  The Kolbecast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and most podcast apps. By leaving a rating and review in your podcast app of choice, you can help the Kolbecast reach more listeners. The Kolbecast is also on Kolbe's YouTube channel (audio only with subtitles).  Using the filters on our website, you can sort through the episodes to find just what you're looking for. However you listen, spread the word about the Kolbecast! 

AMDG. Catholic podcaster and co-founder/vice-president of  CatholicCounselors.comLisa Popcak shares her wisdom on homeschooling and raising children in the faith. Lisa advocates for “flow” rather than structure in the homeschool day and paints a picture of what a rich— but achievable— prayer life looks like in a busy home. “We have to get away from the idea that our prayer life has to be rigorous,” Lisa says. “If our children are called to a rigorous monastic life, God will give them the grace for that. We have many saints who were… and many saints who went a different way.”     Kolbecast episodes mentioned & relevant:  255 Family Life as Liturgy with Dr. Greg Popcak  131 It's All about Relationship with Danielle Bean  Related links:   CatholicHOM (Households on Mission)  CatholicCounselors.com  More2Life Radio & podcasts  Books by Dr. Greg & Lisa Popcak  Momfidence podcast  BeDADitudes podcast  Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More than Peers by Gordon Neufeld & Gabor Maté  Have questions or suggestions for future episodes or a story of your own experience that you'd like to share? We'd love to hear from you! Send your thoughts to podcast@kolbe.org and be a part of the Kolbecast odyssey.   We'd be grateful for your feedback! Please share your thoughts with us via this Kolbecast survey!  The Kolbecast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and most podcast apps. By leaving a rating and review in your podcast app of choice, you can help the Kolbecast reach more listeners. The Kolbecast is also on Kolbe's YouTube channel (audio only with subtitles).  Using the filters on our website, you can sort through the episodes to find just what you're looking for. However you listen, spread the word about the Kolbecast! 

Predstavili smo knjigo z naslovom Otroci nas potrebujejo v kateri avtorja v prostor starševstva in vzgoje vnašata številne nove teme ter opozarjata, kako nehote in nevede izgubljamo svoje otroke, še preden so dovolj zreli, da bi jih lahko izpustili izpod svojega okrilja. Zavedata se, da je starševstvo danes polno izzivov, da staršem pogosto zmanjkuje moči in da se soočajo s številnimi pritiski sodobnega časa. Knjiga je izšla pri založbi Primus.

Are you struggling to connect with your teenager in the digital age? Dr. Gabor Maté and Dr. Gordon Neufeld join Reena & Dr. Lisa to reveal groundbreaking insights into parent-child relationships, tech addiction, and the secret to maintaining a strong bond during the challenging teen years. Discover the neuroscience of attachment, the dangers of digital devices, and how to create a warm, supportive environment that helps teens thrive. This episode is a must-listen for any parent feeling lost or frustrated in the parenting journey. We want to hear from you! What's your biggest challenge in connecting with your teenager? Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers: https://neufeldinstitute.org/resources/hold-on-to-your-kids-book/ Learn more about Children & Screens. ________________ “Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Parenting” is the essential podcast for parents seeking expert guidance, tested strategies, and psychological insights on raising kids, especially tweens and teens. Join renowned clinical psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and former journalist and mom of two Reena Ninan as they explore real-life parenting challenges.  Looking to learn more about how to boost kids' resilience, build their confidence, or support their emotional well-being? Dr. Lisa and Reena have got you covered! Together they address listener questions about stress, anxiety, social media concerns, school pressures, and challenges in peer relationships. Each episode provides practical advice and science-backed solutions to help parents raise resilient, confident, and emotionally healthy kids. Tune in every week for the latest topics in parenting, child psychology, and family wellness. Get answers to your most pressing parenting questions. New episodes drop every Tuesday.  Check out our Ask Lisa Podcast Playlists. Binge specific topics like Raising Sons, Staying Connected to Your Teen: https://www.youtube.com/@asklisapodcast/playlists ________________ Episode Keywords: attachment, digital addiction, neuroscience, family relationships, communication, social media, parenting tips, dr gordon neufeld, dr gabor maté, hold on to your kids Show Keywords: ask lisa podcast, dr lisa damour, reena ninan, psychology, parenting, podcast, teens, tweens, parenting teens, parenting tweens, teen parenting, tween parenting, parenting tips, parenting advice, positive parenting, parenting podcast, teen behavior, tween challenges, raising tweens, raising teens, parenting hacks, parenting help, family dynamics, kids podcast, mental health, teen mental health, attachment styles, emotional intelligence

Are you struggling to connect with your teenager in the digital age? Dr. Gabor Maté and Dr. Gordon Neufeld join Reena & Dr. Lisa to reveal groundbreaking insights into parent-child relationships, tech addiction, and the secret to maintaining a strong bond during the challenging teen years. Discover the neuroscience of attachment, the dangers of digital devices, and how to create a warm, supportive environment that helps teens thrive. This episode is a must-listen for any parent feeling lost or frustrated in the parenting journey. We want to hear from you! What's your biggest challenge in connecting with your teenager? Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers: https://neufeldinstitute.org/resources/hold-on-to-your-kids-book/ Learn more about Children & Screens. ________________ “Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Parenting” is the essential podcast for parents seeking expert guidance, tested strategies, and psychological insights on raising kids, especially tweens and teens. Join renowned clinical psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and former journalist and mom of two Reena Ninan as they explore real-life parenting challenges.  Looking to learn more about how to boost kids' resilience, build their confidence, or support their emotional well-being? Dr. Lisa and Reena have got you covered! Together they address listener questions about stress, anxiety, social media concerns, school pressures, and challenges in peer relationships. Each episode provides practical advice and science-backed solutions to help parents raise resilient, confident, and emotionally healthy kids. Tune in every week for the latest topics in parenting, child psychology, and family wellness. Get answers to your most pressing parenting questions. New episodes drop every Tuesday.  Check out our Ask Lisa Podcast Playlists. Binge specific topics like Raising Sons, Staying Connected to Your Teen: https://www.youtube.com/@asklisapodcast/playlists ________________ Episode Keywords: attachment, digital addiction, neuroscience, family relationships, communication, social media, parenting tips, dr gordon neufeld, dr gabor maté, hold on to your kids Show Keywords: ask lisa podcast, dr lisa damour, reena ninan, psychology, parenting, podcast, teens, tweens, parenting teens, parenting tweens, teen parenting, tween parenting, parenting tips, parenting advice, positive parenting, parenting podcast, teen behavior, tween challenges, raising tweens, raising teens, parenting hacks, parenting help, family dynamics, kids podcast, mental health, teen mental health, attachment styles, emotional intelligence

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“It's not about free play with peers. It's not even about free play. It's about emotional playgrounds, and this is where culture is important, and you can't transmit your culture without attachments. Your children need to be attached to you.” - Dr. Gordon NeufeldToday's special guest on 2 Dads 1 Car is Dr. Gordon Neufeld, a father of five, grandfather to seven, prolific educator, and bona fide parenting expert in both educational background and experience. In this episode, Dr. Neufeld delves into his attachment-minded approach to parenting by re-framing the concept of parent-child connection in the context of his own experiences. With touching stories as a son, father, and grandfather, Dr. Neufeld portrays the power of delineating between parent and peer attachment during the development process, and raising healthy children at home before they enter society. Thank you very much to Dr. Neufeld for this masterclass in fatherhood and parenting! Please check out his book “Hold On To Your Kids”, his speaking engagement on April 30th (link below), and the Neufeld Institute for more of his educational material. https://neufeldinstitute.org/event/supporting-well-being-in-2025-live-bell-centre-event/Please also check out our website at 2dads1car.com, and follow us on Instagram for the latest update. I hope you love this episode!Credit:Podcast Guest: Dr. Gordon NeufeldPodcast Host: Steven NgoPodcast Producer: Baron Hsueh

In questo episodio esploriamo un tema di grande rilevanza per la crescita di bambini e bambine: l'orientamento ai pari secondo la prospettiva di Gordon Neufeld e Gabor Maté, i quali ne hanno ampiamente parlato nel volume "I vostri figli hanno bisogno di voi" - ed. Il Leone Verde.Scopriremo cosa significa quando i bambini iniziano a guardare principalmente ai loro coetanei per orientamento e approvazione, piuttosto che agli adulti di riferimento. Questo episodio vi fornirà una lente per guardare alle relazioni sociali dei bambini più a fondo e per accompagnarli a crescere con relazioni ben bilanciate tra adulti e coetanei.Per continuare a seguire Percorsi formativi 06, ti indichiamo i nostri canali: SITO www.percorsiformativi06.it INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/percorsiformativi06/ YOUTUBE https://www.youtube.com/c/SilviaIaccarinoPercorsiformativi06/videos FB https://www.facebook.com/percorsiformativi06 GRUPPO FB https://www.facebook.com/groups/177748889440303/ TELEGRAM  https://t.me/percorsiformativi06 NEWSLETTER https://percorsiformativi06.it/iscrizione-alla-newsletter/ RIEPILOGO DEI NOSTRI CONTENUTI https://linktr.ee/pf06

send us a text via Fan Mail!Such a pleasure to welcome Dr. Gordon Neufeld, author of the book Hold On to Your Kids of which I have discussed frequently on this podcast and creator of the Neufeld Institute. We discuss the heart of attachment parenting, common misconceptions, and in depth on our need for connection and relationship.  00:40 - Welcome and introduction4:02 - Attachment misconceptions5:45 - Your child's best bet 8:11 - Continuity of connection  10:12 - Grace applied to parenting 12:21 - Facing togetherness not separation  17:43 - Growing pains and healing19:32 - Peer orientation 26:43 - Becoming the answer to your children 28:15 - Our need for togetherness 32:50 - Social media, technology and screens 36:02 - Knowing our children  38:57 - Messiness is okay 40:27 - Upset is normal and natural46:50 - How we build resilience50:34 - Concise understanding of attachmentAs an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Hold On to Your Kids by Dr. Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Mate Neufeld Institute | Gordon Neufeld PhDNeufeld Institute Free Resources Support the showContact On Instagram at @make.joy.normal By email at makejoynormal@gmail.com Search podcast episodes by topic Thanks for listening to Make Joy Normal Podcast!

To keep listening to the rest of this episode, jump into Reconnected Social and start your free trial today! In so many ways, "Hold On to Your Kids" by Gabor Maté and Gordon Neufeld was such an influential read for our own parenting journeys and in creating The Reconnected! In this podcast, we unpack how kids can end up more attached to their friends than their parents and what that means for their development. We got real about our struggles with our own children and reflected on our teenage years, too, seeing how our society basically pushes kids toward peer connections while weakening the parent-child bond. And this may come as no surprise, but our breathwork practice has been a game-changer for reclaiming our connection with our kids when things get tough. Listen to the full episode on Reconnected Social. Join today for free. Cancel anytime. Join Reconnected Social: https://thereconnected.com/reconnected-social/ With love, Eleanor and Emma Website: http://www.thereconnected.com Facebook: http://www.fb.com/thereconnected Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/the_reconnected YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@the_reconnected/ TikTok: http://www.tiktok.com/@the_reconnected Pinterest: www.pinterest.com.au/the_reconnected/

Motherkind Moment is your place for calm and connection and a shift in perspective before the week ahead.  Today we're joined by world-leading child psychologist Dr. Gordon Neufeld who discusses the essence of parenting. He explains why confidence is key in our relationships with our partners and our children. For more powerful insights from Dr Gordon Neufeld listen to the full episode here: How to raise emotionally healthy children Click Here to order your copy of 'Motherkind: A New way to thrive in a world of endless expectations' Motherkind is sponsored by Wild Nutrition, the brand raising the bar for women's supplements. Want to feel the Food-Grown difference yourself? Get 50% off for three months at wildnutrition.com/motherkind. Ts and Cs apply. For a £100 sponsored job credit visit Indeed.com/ Motherkind This show is sponsored by Usborne books. If you want to add a little extra joy to storytime, 'Don't Tickle' touchy-feely sound books are available now from all good booksellers. This show is sponsored by Yeo Valley. Find Your Daily Groove: visit the Yeo Valley website to find out more. Yeo Got This! This show is sponsored by FreePrints. Download the Free Prints app for iPhone and Android from the App store or Google Play or visit freeprints.co.uk. Continue the Conversation: Join our community over on Instagram for inspiration, tips, and sometimes a bit of humour to get us through our day - @zoeblaskey Join our mailing list to receive news, updates and new episode releases Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jess and Scott dive deep into what it means to be the leader your child truly needs—especially when faced with the challenge of raising kids who are often labelled as angry, defiant, or difficult. Whether you're struggling with setting boundaries or simply seeking to understand your child's emotional world, Jess and Scott provide a roadmap to help you lead with empathy, consistency, and a lot of heart. If you want to hear more about being the leader your child needs, check out our interviews with Dr. MacNamara and Dr. Neufeld: Beyond Food: A New Way To Look At Picky Eating And Mealtimes with Dr. Deborah MacNamaraThe Current Children's Mental Health Crisis with Dr. Gordon Neufeld. Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.We'd love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. Credits:Editing by The Pod Cabin Artwork by Wallflower Studio Production by Nurtured First  Learn more about the Solving Bedtime Battles course here.

In this powerful episode, Jess sits down with renowned developmental psychologist Dr. Gordon Neufeld to unpack the growing mental health crisis among children today. Dr. Neufeld shares how children are losing their ability to feel deeply, struggling to engage in true play, and searching for belonging in all the wrong places. He challenges our desire to raise independent kids, calling it “one of the most ridiculous things,” and instead emphasizes the critical role of connection and attachment. You'll walk away with a deeper understanding of why you are the answer to your child's struggles—and how to step fully into your role as a confident, compassionate leader in your home. This is a conversation that could truly change the way you parent. Don't miss it.Hear more from Dr. Gordon Neufeld in his book Hold On to Your Kids. Check out Dr. Neufeld's online courses for parents, educators, and professionals at the Neufeld Institute. Get 10% OFF parenting courses and kids' printable activities at Nurtured First using the code ROBOTUNICORN.We'd love to hear from you! Have questions you want us to answer on Robot Unicorn? Send us an email: podcast@robotunicorn.net. Credits:Editing by The Pod Cabin Artwork by Wallflower Studio Production by Nurtured First  Learn more about the Solving Bedtime Battles course here.

Dans cet épisode, Élisabeth analyse la mini-série britannique Adolescence de Philip Barantini à travers le prisme de la théorie de l'orientation par les pairs du Dr Gordon Neufeld.*GEEK ALERT!* *SPOILER ALERT!*______Préparez les générations futures à une vie épanouissante, libérées de la nécessité perpétuelle de guérir leur enfance.Rejoignez Élisabeth Dufresne (Éducation Autrement), éducatrice à l'enfance, dans son nouveau podcast qui explore sans détour les fondamentaux de l'éducation des enfants : la théorie de l'attachement et le jeu libre.Depuis sa chambre nichée dans les Cantons-de-l'Est, Élisabeth vous libère du nouveau passage obligé des nombreux livres sur la parentalité bienveillante et vous accompagne à devenir des guides assumés, lucides et instinctifs. _Suivez Élisabeth Dufresne surInstagram : ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/elisabeth.dufresne/⁠⁠⁠Facebook : ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/educationautrementbalado⁠⁠⁠Youtube : ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxpVH1Wg3BIEdcRnYM_3k7g⁠⁠⁠Réalisation : Élisabeth DufresneThème musical : Les Émergents par ⁠⁠⁠Étienne Dufresne⁠⁠⁠Illustration: ⁠⁠⁠Florence Rivest⁠⁠⁠_RéférencesBarantini, Philip (2025). Adolescence [Mini-série]. Netflix.Neufeld, Gordon, & Maté, Gabor. (2013). Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers. New York, NY: Ballantine Books._Pour commanditer un épisode, contactez-nous!info@elisabethdufresne.com

We want to build a family that feels close and connected, but how do we know when the boundaries in our relationships are too porous? Here's what family enmeshment means, what it looks like, and how to look for signs of enmeshment in our relationships with our kids. Amy and Margaret discuss: The family systems theory and how it relates to enmeshment How clear boundaries create safety in relationships How enmeshment in family dynamics affects stress tolerability Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode: Melissa Porrey for VeryWell: What Is Enmeshment, and How Do You Set Boundaries? Sharon Martin, for Psych Central: The Enmeshed Family System: What It Is and How to Break Free Jesse L. Coe et. al for Journal of Family Psychology: Family Cohesion and Enmeshment Moderate Associations between Maternal Relationship Instability and Children's Externalizing Problems Our Fresh Take with Gabor Maté and Gordon Neufeld, authors of Hold On to Your Kids: WHY PARENTS NEED TO MATTER MORE THAN PEERS We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://www.whatfreshhellpodcast.com/p/promo-codes/ What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Margaret Ables and Amy Wilson. mom friends, funny moms, parenting advice, parenting experts, parenting tips, mothers, families, parenting skills, parenting strategies, parenting styles, busy moms, self-help for moms, manage kid's behavior, teenager, tween, child development, family activities, family fun, parent child relationship, decluttering, kid-friendly, invisible workload, default parent, cognitive labor, emotional labor, mental load, second shift, family meeting, partners, marriage, spouse, relationships, couples, enmeshment, family enmeshment

Dans cet épisode, je reçois Elisabeth Dufresne, "permacultrice de l'enfance" et spécialiste de la parentalité instinctive, basée sur les neurosciences. Elisabeth Dufresne est l'animatrice de l'excellent balado “Les Émergents”.Ensemble, on rit (un peu), on pleure (presque), et surtout, on remet en question nos croyances sur ce qu'est une enfance épanouie, en décortiquant les trois piliers fondamentaux de l'enfance: l'attachement, le jeu libre et l'expression des émotions. Ce que vous allez découvrir :Pourquoi l'attachement parent-enfant est fondamental jusqu'à la pleine maturité (25 ans!) et comment l'orientation par les pairs" fragilise ce lien essentielComment créer des rituels d'attachement concrets pour renforcer votre lien avec votre enfantPourquoi le jeu libre (pas structuré!) est vital pour le développement émotionnel et cognitifComment accueillir les émotions de vos enfants sans les isoler ou tenter de les "gérer"En quoi notre système scolaire actuel répond davantage aux besoins économiques qu'aux besoins réels des enfantsQue vous soyez parent ou non, cet épisode vous permettra de comprendre ce qui a pu vous manquer dans votre propre enfance, même si elle était considérée comme "normale".Partagez cet épisode avec d'autres parents, parce que pour changer les choses, on a besoin de se soutenir mutuellement!Ressources mentionnées:“Retrouver son rôle de parent” (Hold on to your kids) par Dr. Gordon Neufeld et Gabor MatéConnecter avec Élisabeth Dufresne:https://www.elisabethdufresne.com/https://www.instagram.com/elisabeth.dufresne/Suivre Vanessa et l'école de la vie sur Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/vanpailong/https://www.instagram.com/_ecoledelavie/S'abonner à l'infolettre:https://vanpilon.myflodesk.comContribuer à l'École de la vie via BuyMeACoffee (MERCI EN MAJUSCULES!)buymeacoffee.com/ecoledelavieMerci au KOOL Club pour l'enregistrement!https://www.koolclub.ca/Captation: Laurent Émond

Dr. Gordon Neufeld, founder of The Neufeld Institute and Best-Selling Author of Hold on to Your Kids – Why Parents Must Matter More than Peers (co-authored with Dr. Gabor Mate) returns to the podcast.   Despite being written more than 20 years ago, Hold on to Your Kids proves to be more relevant than ever. The book was re-released once again in 2024 with an additional chapter on the roots of the current crisis of mental health in our children.   In this conversation we talk about making sense of adolescence and The Neufeld Institute's upcoming 10 week course – Seven Rites of Passage.   The course starts 30th January and you can sign up here:  https://neufeldinstitute.org/event/making-sense-of-adolescence-part-i-seven-rites-of-passage/   In this episode you will hear:   00:00:00 Intro 00:03:47 Why peer orientation robs our children of feeling satiated 00:06:00 To feel full we need to be able to feel empty 00:10:20 Cascading care must always matter more 00:15:55 Why attachment trumps authenticity 00:17:20 The signs your child is peer oriented 00:24:41 Time to allow our tears to catch up with us 00:27:30 Samurai initiation for males 00:33:54 What is disciplining a child about? 00:37:00 Grandparents are primary caregivers in indigenous cultures 00:41:01 Making sense of adolescence – Seven Rites of Passage 00:53:21 Does a child need a male around? 00:57:35 The impact identity politics is having on child development 01:01:46 How we win back the lost child     Those with ears, let them hear.   Always love Ryan     Connect with The Neufeld Institute Website: https://neufeldinstitute.org/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/neufeldinstitute LinkedIn: https://www.facebook.com/NeufeldInstitute   Connect with Always Better than Yesterday Website: https://abty.co.uk/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alwaysbetterthanyesterdayuk/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/abty/ Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/weareabty   Join our mail list here for exclusive content here: https://abty.co.uk/contact     Sign up for our coaching here: https://abty.co.uk/coaching Thank you to our supporters Exhale Healthy Coffee.   Exhale is the first coffee to be sourced, roasted and lab tested specifically to maximise its antioxidant and anti-inflammatory potency.   An independent lab test showed one cup of Exhale coffee has the same antioxidant power as 1.8kg of blueberries or 55 oranges!   Get £10 off your first bag when you visit https://exhalecoffee.com/abty   Please email your questions and comments to podcast@abty.co.uk #DrGordonNeufeld #Holdontoyourkids #RitesofPassage  

I Am Known (Identity Series)Psalm 139:1-4 "O Lord, you have searched me and known me. You know when I sit down and when I rise up; you discern my thoughts from far away. You search out my path and my lying down, and are acquainted with all my ways. Even before a word is on my tongue, O Lord, you know it completely.”I read a post on Facebook yesterday that pointed me to Psalm 139.  It was about different verse in the psalm, but when I read the whole thing I realized it was a really good one.  They all probably are great.  I have heard if you are going to start reading the Bible for the first time you should start with the Gospels, or with the Psalms.  That must mean they are pretty good.  These verses stood out to me in particular because they talk about how well God knows us.  Being Known is one of the six stages of Attachment developed by psychologist Gordon Neufeld.  His model presents six stages of attachment that create the foundations for virtually every relationship your children will ever have.  Since we are God's children, This is important to us as well.  I will list the six stages and then will focus on Being Known.  The stages are Proximity, Sameness, Belonging or Loyalty, Significance, Love & Being Known.Reading through those I think this verse may touch on more than one of them.  However, let's begin with Being Known and go from there.  Every single one of us longs to be known.  This is why we get upset when our loved ones get us a gift we don't like.  It is not necessarily the gift that upsets us, it is the fact that they didn't know us well enough to know we wouldn't like it.  God isn't like that.  God is omniscient, which means he has infinite awareness, understanding, and insight.  Another definition is that He possesses universal or complete knowledge.  God knows everything about you.  He can read your thoughts, he knows your actions and He also knows your heart behind your actions.  God knows why you did all the things you did.  This can be scary for some people because they feel they don't want God to know everything about them.  They feel they are not worthy of being known.  Some people might worry that God knows all they have done because they have done some things they are not proud of.  This is all of us actually.  I am sure there is not a single person who has gone through their whole life without doing some things they are not proud of.  We all say the wrong thing sometimes.  We all do the wrong thing sometimes.  We all hurt people intentionally or unintentionally.  The thing to remember is that God is not surprised by our behavior.  He has searched us and He knows us.  This means He knows all of us.  He doesn't just look at the things we did that we wish we hadn't done.  He looks at everything we have done.  He knows our motives behind all we have done.  He looks straight into our heart.  This is a good thing because He sees what we can't see.  He knows that when we acted out and yelled that we hated our parents, we didn't really hate them.  He knows that when we yelled at our spouse or our friend it was really because we were hurting inside, or because we had an awful day at work and needed a safe space to let off steam.  He knows that when we yelled at our children when we caught them doing drugs or something else dangerous it was because we were really scared.  He knows that when we were unkind to the person in line it was because of all the stress and pressure at work.  God Knows Everything!  He gets it.  He understands that our actions aren't who we are.  
He knows that, but do we know that?  Do we give ourselves the grace of examining our behavior after the fact?  Do we allow ourselves forgiveness when we factor in our motives?  I am not saying the things I listed above are good reasons to do those things.  I don't think we should take our frustrations out on our spouse, friends, or kids.  I am not excusing the behaviors, I am explaining them though.  If your friend was super stressed at work and then you called and asked a question and they yelled at you, would you be angry with them?  Would you want to stop being friends with that person?  Would you realize that was out of character and try to find out what was wrong with your friend?  We tend to have so much grace for other people and yet not very much for ourselves.  I would love it if we could change that.  I would love it if we could all start to see ourselves a little more through the Lord's eyes.  The next line says, “You search out my path and my lying down, and are acquainted with all my ways. Even before a word is on my tongue, O Lord, you know it completely.”  God knows all your ways.  He knows that you are grumpy before coffee in the morning.  He knows you don't like change.  He knows you don't like to stay up late.  He knows you are irritable if you get hungry.  He also knows you are a great mom, dad, friend.  He knows you are a great employee,  He knows you are a great spouse or partner.  He knows the good, the bad and the ugly and you know what, He still loves you.  He loves you not despite all of it, but because of all of it.  The verse says He knows our words even before we say them. I wish sometimes He would guard my mouth and prevent me from saying some of them.  How about you?  Have you ever wished you hadn't say something?  Have you ever just blurted something out that felt right in the moment and yet you instantly regretted it?  I know I have.  God knows our thoughts and He knows our words.  Again, he knows the thoughts and feelings behind our words.  He knows the feelings that we might not even know.  Sometimes we may feel angry and yet we are just worried or anxious.  God knows this.  God knows our heart, even when we don't.  We are known and loved by God.  We are accepted and loved by God.  God knows us better than anyone we have ever known and He loves us.  I need everyone single one of you to hear that on an individual level today.  You are known by God.  God knows your inner most thoughts and desires.  God knows the why behind your actions.  God sees through all the BS that we put up to protect ourselves and He sees you, the real you.  God loves you!  He loves you right this very second, right as you are.  He isn't waiting for you to become something else, He isn't waiting until to you do this or that, He isn't waiting for you to be perfect.  He knows you and loves you just as you are.  He loves all you imperfections, He loves all the ways you spread His love and His light.  Yes you do, you spread His love and His light just by being you!  God loves you, all of you!!Dear Heavenly Father, I ask you to bless all those listening to this episode today!  Lord, I ask you to open everyone's hearts and minds so they can really hear this message today.  Help each and every listener hear how much you know them and how much you love them.  Help them to feel it down to their core Lord.  We ask you to guard our thoughts and our words.  We pray that our thoughts conform to your thoughts.  Lord you are so amazing.  You know everything about us and you still love us.  Help us to do the same. Help us to know ourselves and still love ourselves.  Soften our hearts o Lord!  We love you and we ask all of this in accordance with you will and in Jesus' holy name, Amen!Thank you so much for joining me on this journey to walk boldly with Jesus! Remember tomorrow is week #3 of the Identity Series in Mentoring. I hope you join me on zoom. It's not too late, Just head over to my website, walkboldlywithjesus.com or click on the link below. I look forward to seeing some of you tomorrow night on zoom and the rest of you you I look forward to meeting you here again again tomorrow.  Remember Jesus loves you and so do I.  Have a blessed day!Today's Word from the Lord was received in July 2024 by a member of my Catholic Charismatic Prayer Group. If you have any questions about the prayer group, these words, or how to join us for a meeting, please email CatholicCharismaticPrayerGroup@gmail.com. Today's Word from the Lord is, “You must trust me, and allow me to do my work in you and through you. My love is for everyone. You will be sanctified as you obey me.”   www.findingtruenorthcoaching.comCLICK HERE TO DONATECLICK HERE to sign up for Mentoring CLICK HERE to sign up for Daily "Word from the Lord" emailsCLICK HERE to sign up for my newsletter & receive a free audio training about inviting Jesus into your daily lifeCLICK HERE to buy my book Total Trust in God's Safe Embrace

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Obilje informacij, digitalnost in spletnost, hitrejše, celo hektično življenje, neizprosne zahteve po vse večji produktivnosti, spremenjen sistem vrednot, vse to je današnja družba, sistem, kjer je čas, da pojave, ki so nam bili nekdaj samoumevni, na novo pogledamo, poimenujemo in razumemo v luči novih kontekstov. Še posebej te pregovorne modrosti, ki so postale votla, zlizana puhlica »na mladih svet stoji« in otroci so naš največji zaklad«. A so res? Kje je to vidno? Kje to vzgajamo, kje negujemo? Danes se bomo v Intelekti spraševali - Ali smo spregledali vrednost mladih? Mladi so vse bolj tesnobni, depresivni, naraščajo samopoškodovalna vedenja. V tako zelo slavljeni družbi znanja, jih usmerjamo v tekmovalnost, pomembnost rezultatov in ocen. Kdaj je mlad človek najbolj vreden? Ko spozna sebe, svoje potenciale ali ko služi družbi, sistemu? Svet bržkone bolj kot kdajkoli potrebuje zavedanje kaj je bistveno. In kot morda malce utopično, glede na kontekst trenutnega sistema in vrednot pravi eden vodilnih svetovnih strokovnjakov za razvoj otrok dr. Gordon Neufeld »vsak je lahko starš, ki ga potrebuje njegov otrok", oziroma, če parafraziramo »vsakdo je lahko odrasel, ki ga mladi potrebujejo.« Pogovorimo se. Zato je avtorica in voditeljica oddaje Liana Buršič v goste povabila Ivano Gradišnik, ustanoviteljico in vodjo slovenskega Familylaba in dr. Klemna Laha (Filozofska fakulteta v Ljubljani, Center za slovenščino kot drugi in tuji jezik, član strokovnega sveta RS za splošno izobraževanje, tudi avtor učbenikov, beril in drugih strokovnih gradiv, beril za gimnazijo in srednjo šolo).

Ref.: Maria Elisabeth Schmidt, Gründerin von herzensgipfel.de und Autorin Das digitale Zeitalter hat die Kindheit von Grund auf verändert. Viele Eltern betrachten mit Sorge den ungehemmten Vormarsch von Social Media, Streamingdiensten und Computerspielen in die Kinderzimmer. Wie können bei dieser übermächtig scheinenden Konkurrenz noch gesunde Familienbande gepflegt und gute Werte vermittelt werden? Genau an dieser Stelle setzen die Seminare und Vorträge von Maria Elisabeth Schmidt an: Auf Grundlage der Forschung des kanadischen Entwicklungspsychologen Prof. Gordon Neufeld plädiert sie dafür, vor allem in die Herzensbindung zu den Kindern zu investieren - denn nur in sicheren Beziehungen können Kinder sich zu reifen Menschen entwickeln. Was Eltern tun können, um ihre Kinder nicht an eine sie aggressiv umwerbende mediale Kultur zu verlieren, darum geht es in der Lebenshilfe.

Parenting is one of life's greatest challenges, and navigating it while alcohol-reliant adds an even greater burden. That's why I'm thrilled to welcome Michele Maurer to the 1000 Days Sober Podcast.   Michele is a seasoned counsellor and relationship expert with over 30 years of experience helping individuals, couples, and families. Based in Langley, British Columbia, she combines deep insights from Dr Gordon Neufeld's groundbreaking work on attachment and human development with her compassionate, client-centred approach. As a Parent Consultant and Faculty member of the renowned Neufeld Institute, Michele has made it her mission to transform relationships and foster meaningful connections.   In this episode, Michele shares her wisdom on: •Attachment theory and personal vs. depersonalized attachment •The cultural obsession with ‘independence' •Navigating differing parental styles with compassion •How both parents (or just one) can build attachment with their child •Processing regret, shame, and mistakes as a parent •The difference between feelings and emotions—and why it matters •The Window of Tolerance and emotional regulation •Why grief, sadness, and crying are vital for emotional health •What to do if you weren't raised with a healthy attachment •How to hold your child through emotional swings •The importance of play and why men need to cry, too   Michele's practical advice and profound insights make this episode a must-listen for parents, partners, and anyone looking to build deeper, more fulfilling relationships.   Want to learn more? •Work with Michele at ResilienceCFT.com. •Check out her free webinar, The Wisdom of Dependence, at neufeldinstitute.org.   #1000DaysSoberPodcast, #AttachmentTheory, #ParentingSupport, #EmotionalHealth, #RelationshipsMatter, #CompassionateParenting, #MentalHealth, #ParentingChallenges, #LeeDavyCoaching, #NeufeldInstitute, #STRIVEMethod   Much Love & STRIVE On! Lee

If you've ever wondered why your teen seems on edge or overwhelmed, you're not alone. Anxiety in teens can feel daunting to understand and even harder to navigate. In this episode, I break down the basics of anxiety, what might be going on with your teen, and how you can truly support them. Whether it's about recognising the signs, fostering empathy, or knowing when to seek help, this episode is packed with practical advice you can put into action today.Key Takeaways:Understanding the difference between stress and anxiety: Stress is often tied to specific events and can dissipate once the issue resolves. Anxiety, however, can linger and feel harder to manage.Why teens are more prone to anxiety: During adolescence, critical brain development and life pressures make teens more vulnerable to intense emotions.Common triggers for anxiety in teens: These can include schoolwork, social pressures, family dynamics, and even global issues like climate change.The importance of empathy: Listening without dismissing your teen's feelings is key. Simple phrases like, "That sounds really hard," can go a long way in showing support.Helping teens build resilience: Letting them face challenges and problem-solve on their own, while ensuring their safety, can foster confidence.Recognising when professional help is needed: If anxiety disrupts daily life, it might be time to seek support from a mental health professional.Normalising therapy and self-care: Sharing your own experiences with therapy or coping strategies can help teens feel comfortable seeking help.Resources:Connected Teens Course: Learn how to strengthen your connection with your teen while respecting their individuality. Book Recommendation: Hold On to Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Maté – A helpful guide on supporting your teen's emotional development.Related Episode: Why Does My Teen Feel Overwhelmed and What Can I Do to Support Them– Discover how to identify and address overwhelm in teens.Connected Teens https://marievakakis.com.au/connected-teens/Connect with Marie https://thetherapyhub.com.au/ https://marievakakis.com.au/ https://www.instagram.com/marievakakis/Submit a question to the Podcasthttps://forms.gle/nvNQyw9gJXMNnveY6

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and today I got to hang out with Dr. Deborah MacNamara. She is a dynamic speaker and best -selling author sought after for her expertise on human development, speaking at the United Nations and Dalai Lama Center for Peace and Education. She's the author of Rest, Play, Grow: Making Sense of Preschoolers and Nourished: Connection, Food, and Caring for Our Kids. Deborah is on the faculty at the Neufeld Institute and works alongside Gordon Neufeld to make sense of kids to the adults responsible for them. You might remember when we had Gordon on before and got to hang out and chat with him about connection and relationship and attachment. Dr. Deborah MacNamara's passion is to translate development through science and story, making it transferable to the home, classroom, and everyday experiences. She and I got to chat about why relationship is so key for picky eaters and how food is so much more than nutrients. Honestly, I left this conversation feeling restored and seen and like I was doing enough. You know, those conversations are so life -giving. Remember to stay tuned for the breakdown at the end with Rach where she and I dive into what this looks like in our real lives, taking the science and nerdiness and looking at practical application with a couple of parents in everyday life. Alright folks, let's dive in.  Connect with Dr. Deborah MacNamara: Instagram: @drdeborahmacnamara Website: https://macnamara.ca/ Order the book: Nourished: Connection, Food, and Caring for Our Kids (And Everyone Else We Love) Connect with us: Instagram: @seed.and.sew  Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz Order Tiny Humans, Big Emotions now!  Website: seedandsew.org Music by: Ruby Adams and Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week's guest is the accredited psychologist Dr. Alison McClymont who bridges the gap between complex psychology and straight forward advice. Dr. Alison shares her signature 'Extract-Express-Reflect' method, which helps you process and come to terms with challenging experiences. If you enjoyed this episode, please check out Zoe's conversation with Dr. Gordon Neufeld, which gives even more advice on how to support ourselves and our children when things get tough. Click Here to order your copy of 'Motherkind: A New way to thrive in a world of endless expectations' and gain access to a free 60 minute masterclass with Zoe - teaching the core principles of the book. This show is proudly sponsored by Stokke Get 40% off a Calm premium subscription at calm.com/motherkind Get 15% off OneSkin with the code MOTHERKIND at https://www.oneskin.co/ #oneskinpod Continue the Conversation: Join our community over on Instagram for inspiration, tips, and sometimes a bit of humour to get us through our day - @zoeblaskey Join our mailing list to receive news, updates and new episode releases Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Catch Part 1 of this 2-part series here.  Raising kids the embodied way is an experiment I'm in the midst of.  I have a 5 year and 8 month old who are both stubborn, intelligent, creative, brilliant kids.  I'm constantly exploring how I can employ emotionally intelligent values in the way I parent.  To be clear, this isn't my speciality, or body of work. I'm a somatic educator & coach, but parenting isn't my zone of mastery. Today's podcast came about from a listener's request and it's something I'm so happy to shed some light on.  Today I'm sharing 10 strategies I use with my kids.  Specific little techniques, tricks, approaches or resources I do.  This is moreso with my 5 year old, but the principles and some of the practices still apply for my baby. If you have old kids, most of these will still be relevant.    Resources from today's podcast  Podcast Part 1  In My Heart: A Book of Feelings by Jo Witek and Christine Roussey Book of Invisible Things  Dr. Becky Kennedy  Hold On To Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld.  Primal Feminine Flow - at home embodiment practice  Feminine Embodiment Coaching Certification   

How can we support our kids to be the most embodied, emotionally intelligent generation ever? I recently received a request from a podcast listener to speak about embodied mothering.  I'm not an expert in this area, but as a Feminine Embodiment Coach & international founder of a somatic school of training AND parent to two little humans… I do have lots of thoughts on the topic that I'm so happy to share.  Parenting isn't my body of work. It's not the space of genius I'm here to contribute to the world. So I haven't analyzed my parenting in depth to give it language, structures or frameworks (unlike somatic coaching, which I do love to dissect in fine detail!).  Also, I'm a parent to a 8 month old and 5 year old, so there's a certain level of emotional and physical maturity that my kids have, which might be different if your kids are older, or hold different genders or identities.  Personally I want to be the one to teach my children their values & an embodied culture in how they relate to themselves, others and the world.  In Part 1 (this episode) we're diving into embodiment for yourself as a mother or parent.  In Part 2 (coming soon) I'm sharing 10 approaches I use to parent my kids.  We're doing it in this order because you can't foster deeper embodiment with your kids if you're not practicing it yourself.  The person you are BEING is the clearest teacher for your child.  I'm not an expert in this area, but as a Feminine Embodiment Coach AND parent to two little humans… I do have lots of thoughts on the topic that I'm so happy to share.    Resources from today's podcast:  Hold On To Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld.  Primal Feminine Flow - at home embodiment practice  Feminine Embodiment Coaching Certification 

Episode Overview: In this episode, I explore the importance of building strong connections with children and being a dependable figure in their lives, especially in early childhood education settings. I reflect on key insights from the book Hold On to Your Kids by Dr. Gordon Neufeld and Dr. Gabor Maté, particularly on the dangers of peer orientation and how it impacts children's behaviour. I also share practical tips for creating a stable, connected environment for the children in your care. Key Points: Peer Orientation vs. Adult Connection: When children don't have strong connections with adults, they often turn to their peers for guidance, which can lead to behavioural and emotional challenges. As educators, we play a vital role in helping children form secure attachments by being the steady, reliable adults they can trust. Supporting Behaviour Through Connection: Children need us to be consistent and dependable. When we create a stable, predictable environment, we help them feel safe, which is key to managing behaviour and fostering emotional security. It's not about being perfect; it's about showing up in a grounded and confident way so children know they can rely on us. Dependability in Practice: Being dependable means setting clear boundaries and routines. Children feel more secure when they know what to expect each day. Simple choices, like offering a child the option of wearing a red jumper or a yellow one, give them a sense of control without overwhelming them. The Power of Routine: I talk about the importance of keeping the environment familiar and not changing things too often. When we provide consistency, it helps children feel settled and connected. Think about how disorienting it is when a supermarket changes its layout—it's the same for children when their environment is constantly being altered. Stability is key. Practical Tips for Educators: I share some personal strategies for staying calm and centred as an educator, like taking a few minutes to reset your energy when you're feeling overwhelmed. Engaging children in everyday tasks, like folding washing, can create moments of connection, especially when a child is struggling. Upcoming Events: I'm so excited to announce the Big Hearted Education Conference, happening in June! This will be an amazing opportunity for family daycare providers to connect, learn, and grow. Also, doors for the Essential Elements program open on October 14th. This is a great chance for educators to deepen their practice and build stronger relationships with the children in their care. You can jump on the waitlist here www.bigheartededucation.com/waitlist Further Reading: I highly recommend Hold On to Your Kids by Dr. Gordon Neufeld and Dr. Gabor Maté. It's packed with insights into why adult connections are so important for children's development. Get in Touch: I'd love to hear your thoughts on today's episode! Feel free to leave a review or share your experiences with me. You can also join the waitlist for Essential Elements on the Big Hearted Education website. Connect with Me: Website: www.bigheartededucation.com Podcast Reviews: Available on all major platforms

Let's talk technology and kids! Join me as I welcome back, Tamara Strijack, Author, Clinical Counselor, Academic Dean of the Neufeld Institute, and daughter of world renowned attachment psychologist, Dr. Gordon Neufeld (author of Hold Onto Your Kids). In this, Tamara discusses technology and kids...what do we do??!!   Hold Onto Your Kids on Audible Hold Onto Your Kids Paperback Reclaiming Our Students by Tamara Strijack Learn More about the Work of Tamara Strijack Learn More about The Neufeld Institute Resources for Parents from The Neufeld Institute: Home Education Resources  The Neufeld Institute Events Information The Neufeld Institute Newsletter **Tamara Strijack is a Registered Clinical Counselor. Tamara has worked with children and adolescents in various roles over the last twenty-five years. She is currently the Academic Dean of the Neufeld Institute, where she develops and delivers courses on child development for parents, teachers and helping professionals. She is a keynote speaker, workshop facilitator, and educator of counselors and educators in training. Tamara works primarily as a parent, and educational consultant, helping put adults back in the driver's seat in a way that facilitates growth and learning for the child. Connection, relationship and play continue to be central themes in all her roles, both personally and professionally. Tamara has two daughters and lives on the West Coast of Canada. *Please note that some of the links included in this article are Amazon affiliate links. CONNECT with US Join the Private Facebook Group  Connect and follow along with Janae's Journey on Instagram @janae.daniels:  Learn more about School to Homeschool

Episode 45: Bridging Separation at Bedtime with Dr. Gordon Neufeld @neufeldinstitue This week Rachael has a very special guest, Dr. Gordon Neufeld, to discuss the importance of attachment and the challenges parents face when it comes to bedtime and sleep. Dr. Neufeld is a renowned authority on child development and you will learn so much in this powerful episode! Here's what they discuss inside this important episode: How attachment is a fundamental aspect of child development Learn all about Dr. Neufeld's Model of the Six Stages of Attachment The crucial role parents play in providing the necessary conditions for children to grow up and develop their capacity to hold on when apart Why is society so focused on independence?! How quick-fix strategies often overlook the importance of preserving the connection between parents and children Bedtime challenges and separation struggles How parents can support their children by bridging the separation at bedtime And so much more!  Dr. Neufeld has accumulated more than 40 years of experience as a clinical psychologist with children and youth and those responsible for them. A foremost authority on child development, Dr. Neufeld continues to be an international speaker, a best-selling author and a leading interpreter of the developmental paradigm. Dr. Neufeld has a widespread reputation for making sense of complex problems and for opening doors for change. While formerly involved in university teaching and private practice, he has devoted the best part of the last two decades to creating courses for parents, teachers and helping professionals. These courses are offered primarily through the Neufeld Institute – an online educational institute and world-wide charitable organization devoted to applying developmental science to the task of raising children. Dr. Neufeld's life's work has been to help adults provide the conditions for children to flourish. He is a father of five and a grandfather to seven. Mentioned in this episode: Free resources from Dr. Gordon Neufeld: https://neufeldinstitute.org/resources/free/ Online conference with Dr. Neufeld: The Current Crisis of Well-Being: What's Happening to Our Kids? https://neufeldinstitute.org/conference-2024/ See presentations and talks from Gordon Neufeld:  https://www.youtube.com/@neufeldmedia Follow Dr. Gordon Neufeld's work on: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/NeufeldInstitute Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/neufeldinstitute/ Dr. Neufeld's Book: Hold Onto Your Kids https://neufeldinstitute.org/resources/hold-on-to-your-kids-book/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Deborah MacNamara, author of "Nourished: Connection, Food, and Caring for Our Kids (And Everyone Else We Love)," emphasizes the importance of emotional and physical nourishment in child development. As a clinical counselor and educator, she is known for her work on emotional health and her previous book, "Rest, Play, Grow," which explores attachment-based developmental approaches influenced by Dr. Gordon Neufeld. Deborah is also on the faculty of the Neufeld Institute, helping families navigate parenting and child development.Food is more than fuel—it's the foundation of family bonds and cultural heritage. In our conversation with Deborah, we explore how mealtime fosters meaningful relationships. Drawing from her expertise at the Neufeld Institute, she shares insights on transforming family meals into rituals of togetherness and love.We discuss how shared meals nurture community, cooperation, and restfulness and the challenges families face in maintaining these traditions. We provide practical steps for integrating shared meals into busy schedules, emphasizing the importance of slowing down and making intentional family connections.Listen as we delve into the cultural and relational significance of food. Deborah highlights food as a symbol of care and connection, examining how intentional food preparation and sharing reinforce family bonds and cultural traditions, making mealtime a cherished experience for all.

Send us a Text Message.91: Hermes was a Greek god able to move quickly and freely between the worlds of the mortal and the divine, helped by his winged sandals. We mere mortals, on the other hand, are stuck here on Earth, and more likely to associate the word, Hermes with expensive handbags. When a listener wrote a beautiful email talking about her struggles with a young daughter who has been begging for one of these extremely expensive Hermes bags for her birthday I thought it would be a great topic for discussion. The problems our listener faces trouble so many of usthe various issues in the hope of supporting the listener and helping others along the way; after all, we're a community here to help each other.  TOPICS COVERED:Parenting stylesDesire for posessions as a way to feel includedThe  importance of valuesCelebrating our own cultureThe impact of society on our desires and choicesBOOK SUGGESTION:Hold on to Your Kids, by Gordon Neufeld and Gabor MateSupport the Show.Thanks for listening. Neither of us has medical training so please seek the advice of a specialist if you're not coping. Please hit the follow button if you like our podcast, and share it with anyone who might benefit. You can review us on Apple podcasts by going to the show page, scrolling down to the bottom where you can click on a star then you can leave your message.Rachel's email is teenagersuntangled@gmail.com The website has a blog, searchable episodes, and ways to contact us:www.teenagersuntangled.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/teenagersuntangled/Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/teenagersuntangled/Susie is available for a free 15 minute consultation, and has a great blog:www.amindful-life.co.uk

There's no more important factor in parenting than attachment. Learn all about attachment and the six stages of attachment that our children go through, as well as the problem of “peer orientation.” Hunter talks to a foremost authority on child development, Dr. Gordon Neufeld about why we need to hold on to our kids. ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is the host Mindful Parenting Podcast (Top 0.5% podcast ), global speaker, number 1 bestselling author of “Raising Good Humans” and “Raising Good Humans Every Day,” Mindfulness Meditation teacher and creator of the Mindful Parenting Course and Teacher Training. Find more podcasts, Hunter's books, blog posts, free resources, and more at MindfulMamaMentor.com. Discover your Unique-To-You Podcast Playlist at mindfulmamamentor.com/quiz/ We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: /mindfulmamamentor.com/mindful-mama-podcast-sponsors/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this enlightening solo podcast episode, Stephanie Dove Blake addresses the evolving challenges of raising teenagers in today's society in her insightful podcast episode. Highlighting key principles from Gordon Neufeld's "Hold On To Your Kids," she explores the detrimental effects of societal changes on family dynamics and the critical need for strengthening parent-child relationships to counteract peer influences.Stephanie emphasizes the importance of proactive engagement in the lives of tweens and teens, advocating for deepening bonds beyond routine interactions. This approach aims to prevent adolescents from relying exclusively on their peers for emotional support and guidance, fostering stronger family ties instead.Additionally, Stephanie introduces the "Mom Journey Retreat," designed to empower mothers with effective strategies for reconnecting with their children before the school year begins. Her message encourages parents to actively participate in their children's development, building resilient bonds that can navigate the complexities of modern family life.This podcast is a must-listen for parents seeking practical advice to maintain strong relationships with their children during the critical stages of adolescence, ensuring they have the support and guidance needed amidst ongoing societal shifts.

Jeannie talks with Jennifer Pepito about her new book Habits for a Sacred Home, sharing Biblical truths, homeschool wisdom, and insights for Kingdom Living. About Jennifer Jennifer Pepito has seven children and has been homeschooling for twenty-five years. She has graduated five children from her program, with two students earning honors degrees from their preferred university and one pursuing a Juris Doctorate. When she discovered that her second daughter had learning disabilities, Jennifer became an avid student of child development, learning from innovators and researchers such as Carol Stock Kranowitz, Gordon Neufeld, John Taylor Gatto, Jane Healy, Maria Montessori, Kim John Payne, and Charlotte Mason. The Peaceful Press resources were born out of these years of research.  Jennifer has a passion for equipping families to homeschool in a way that is developmentally appropriate, spiritually nourishing, and based on proven methods of education. She doesn't want you just to homeschool. She wants to help you enjoy the homeschooling journey and learn with your children in ways that build connected families. Her book, Mothering by the Book can help you overcome the fears that steal that joy so you can savor motherhood.  Jennifer is a Simplicity Parenting Coach and a Certified Life Coach. She continually researches education and child development to ensure that Peaceful Press families are getting the best resources based on current research about learning while continuing to integrate the time-honored educational philosophy put forward by Charlotte Mason and Maria Montessori.  She's regularly contributed to the Wild and Free homeschool community and has been published in several online journals and print articles. About Jeannie Jeannie Fulbright, a 24-year veteran homeschooler, is the author of the #1 best-selling, multi award-winning Apologia Young Explorer science series: Exploring Creation with Astronomy, Chemistry and Physics, Botany, Zoology, and Anatomy & Physiology. She is also the author of the action-packed historical time travel book series Rumble Tumbles Through Time, as well as preschool science books and activity kits, the Charlotte Mason Heirloom Planner, and many high-quality Charlotte Mason based products. Jeannie and her husband Jeff became empty nesters in 2019. All four of their children all went to the University of Georgia on scholarship (homeschooling works!). For more than 20 years Jeannie has traveled around the country speaking to homeschoolers at conventions, covering a plethora of topics from Charlotte Mason to marriage and prayer.  Resources Pre-order Habits for a Sacred Home Connect Jeannie Fulbright | Instagram | Facebook | Facebook Group | TikTok | Pinterest | Website Jennifer Pepito | Instagram | Website Homeschooling.mom | Instagram | Website Subscribe to our YouTube channel | YouTube Thank you to our sponsors! Medi-Share: an affordable Christian alternative to traditional health insurance Tuttle Twins: children's books to help you teach your kids how the world really works Have you joined us at one of the Great Homeschool Conventions?  We hope to see you there! For more encouragement on your homeschooling journey, visit the Homeschooling.mom site, and tune in to our sister podcast The Homeschool Solutions Show. View full show notes on the blog.

Author Andee Martineu joins us to discuss one of her favorite books, Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers by Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Maté. Guest Bio Andee Martineau is a parenting coach and mom of six who specializes in helping parents all over the world raise their kids without yelling, ultimatums or bribes. Using her Connect Method Parenting techniques, she has taught thousands of moms to feel more in control of family life, stress less, get their kids to listen, and more. Andee is a former registered nurse who brings to her clients years of hands-on experience raising her own children (ages 13-22) and coursework in developmental psychology as well as certifications in life coaching and integrative health coaching. Andee is the author of ‘Connect Method Parenting: how to get your kids to WANT to listen to you without the yelling, ultimatums, and bribes'. When she's not spreading her message that parenting is about connecting and not correcting, you can find her relaxing at the creek next to her home. She lives in a cabin in the woods of Utah with her husband, children and their Sheepadoodle, Leia.   For episode homepage, resources and links, visit: https://kristenmanieri.com/episode297/    Learn more about coaching: Kristen@kristenmanieri.com    Mentioned in this Episode   Guest's website: http://connectmethodparenting.com     Book: Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers by Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Maté https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Your-Kids-Parents-Matter/dp/0375760288  Host Bio Kristen Manieri is a coach who works with teams to increase both productivity and wellbeing. She also helps individuals navigate transition with clarity and confidence. Her areas of focus are: stress reduction, energy management, mindset, resilience, habit formation, rest rituals, and self-care. As the host of the weekly 60 Mindful Minutes podcast, an Apple top 100 social science podcast, Kristen has interviewed over 200 authors about what it means to live a more conscious, connected, intentional and joyful life. Learn more at kristenmanieri.com/work-with-me.    Learn more about coaching: Kristen@kristenmanieri.com  Connect with the 60 Mindful Minutes podcast   Web: https://kristenmanieri.com  Email: Kristen@kristenmanieri.com    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/60MindfulMinutes Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristenmanieri_/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/kristenmanieri/

We celebrate the 20th anniversary of Dr. Gordon Neufeld's seminal book, "Hold On To Your Kids: Why Parents Matter More Than Peers," which he co-wrote with Dr. Gabor Maté. Gordon's work has transformed our understanding of child development through the lens of parental attachment.  In this episode, Gordon shares the critical importance of maintaining strong, nurturing connections between parents and children. His insights delve into the complex dynamics of family and educational systems, advocating for a balance between togetherness and individuality and challenging prevailing attitudes toward parenting and education.Throughout our discussion, Dr. Neufeld emphasizes the intrinsic power of parental intuition and the need for parents to trust in their inherent capabilities to guide and support their children through life's challenges. We explore the concept of cascading care, highlighting the necessity of a supportive community in fostering resilient and emotionally healthy children. The episode addresses pressing issues such as the impact of societal pressures on adolescents, the debate over homeschooling versus traditional schooling, and the role of government in family life.Dr. Neufeld's passion for enhancing the parent-child relationship shines as he speaks about the transformative courses and initiatives undertaken by the Neufeld Institute to empower parents and professionals worldwide. This conversation reflects Dr. Neufeld's groundbreaking work and a forward-looking dialogue on cultivating deeper connections and a more supportive societal framework for the benefit of children and families everywhere. Whether you're a parent, educator, or someone interested in the profound impact of love and attachment, this episode offers invaluable perspectives and a hopeful vision for the future of parenting.

How can we maintain a strong attachment to our kids as they begin to look to their peers for approval instead of their parents? Dr. Gabor Maté and Dr. Gordon Neufeld explain the crucial importance of remaining attached to our children as they grow in their new and revised edition of their book HOLD ONTO YOUR KIDS. Dr. Gordon Neufeld is an internationally renowned psychologist and foremost authority on child development, and founder of the Neufeld Institute. Dr. Gabor Maté is a renowned speaker and bestselling author, highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, stress and childhood development. Amy, Dr. Maté, and Dr. Neufeld discuss: Why "peer orientation" doesn't actually have to be the way things go How cultural shifts in society have accelerated the rise of peer orientation How we can reattach to our children and remain their most important role model Here's where else you can find Dr. Maté and Dr. Neufeld: gabormatemd (IG); @DrGaborMate (X); Gabor Maté (FB) @NeufeldInst (X); Neufeld Institute (FB) Buy HOLD ONTO YOUR KIDS: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9780375760280 We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://www.whatfreshhellpodcast.com/p/promo-codes/ mom friends, funny moms, parenting advice, parenting experts, parenting tips, mothers, families, parenting skills, parenting strategies, parenting styles, busy moms, self-help for moms, manage kid's behavior, teenager, tween, child development, family activities, family fun, parent child relationship, decluttering, kid-friendly, invisible workload, default parent, Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, Brett is joined by leading international expert, Dr. Deborah MacNamara. She's a counselor, with over 25 years of experience in mental health in educational studies. She's a lecturer, having recently spoken at the Vatican and previously to the United Nations. She's a mentor who provides support to parents, professionals, and educators. Dr. MacNamara specializes in relational development approach, which is based on the work of Dr. Gordon Neufeld and is about empowering parents to be experts of their children with every day questions and practical strategies. As a mother herself, she shares a lot of practical wisdom for parents who are trying to intentionally raise their children. In this episode, Brett & Deborah also discuss the basics of Neufeld's attachment theory, how this became a passion for Dr. MacNamara, & the importance of the attachment understanding of parenting in today's culture Dr. Deborah MacNamara's books can be found here: https://macnamara.ca/books/  Subscribe/Rate Never miss out on an episode by subscribing to the podcast on whatever platform you are listening on. Help other people find the show by sharing this episode on your social media. Thanks!   Connect with Brett: Website: https://brettpowell.org Twitter/X: @BrettPowellorg https://twitter.com/BrettPowellorg   Music "Southern Gothic" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/   Editing by ForteCatholic (https://www.fortecatholic.com)

IG: @drdeborahmacnamaraWebsite: https://macnamara.ca/Linktree: https://linktr.ee/drdeborahmacnamaraNew Book: Nourished - Connection, Food, and Caring for Our Kids (and everyone else we love) Get it here--> https://macnamara.ca/nourished/Today's guest helps grown-ups understand kids through relational and developmental science. Dr. Deborah MacNamara is a Developmental and Clinical Counselor. She's also a teacher, guide and mother. As a trusted and experienced clinical counsellor for over 25 years in mental health and educational settings as well as private practice, Deborah serves as a leading international expert who provides counselling and educational services to support parents, professionals, and educators. Deborah specializes in the relational-developmental approach based on the work of Dr. Gordon Neufeld, empowering parents to become the expert on their children with everyday questions and practical strategies. 4 things that she said children need are attachment, to feel vulnerable feelings, to play, and emotional and psychological rest. She's also the Author of her new book Nourished: Connection, Food, and Caring for our kids(and everyone else we love).

Deborah MacNamara, a highly experienced developmentalist, brings a wealth of knowledge and expertise to the field of parenting and child development. With a PhD and years of working alongside renowned author Gordon Neufeld, she has dedicated her career to understanding how children grow and thrive. Deborah's extensive background in academia, counseling, and teaching has allowed her to deeply immerse herself in the study of human development for nearly two decades. As a faculty member at the esteemed Neufeld Institute, she continues to contribute to the field through her research, writing, and online presence. Drawing from her personal experiences with highly sensitive children, Deborah's work resonates with families of complex kids, providing them with valuable insights and guidance. Listen to this Parenting With Impact episode with Deborah MacNamara about adapting as a parent. Top 12 Tips To Help Your Complex Kids Got complex kids? Yeah, so do we. Parenting a complex kid can be frustrating, overwhelming, and isolating. It can also be incredibly rewarding -- with the right help and guidance! This FREE insider's guide  from the experts at ImpactParents includes our top 12 tips to help you create a calm, peaceful home and guide your kids to become more independent every day. Here is what to expect on this week's show: The developmentalist approach, explained by Deborah McNamara, focuses on understanding human development and its connection to parenting. This approach emphasizes helping children grow and thrive, and understanding what parents need to do to support their child's development. Parenting complex kids can be a challenging and rewarding journey. These complex kids require parents to adapt and be flexible to understand their unique needs. Parenting, in general, is an adaptive endeavor, but it becomes even more apparent when raising children with complex needs. The key to adaptation lies in keeping our hearts warm and maintaining a sense of care and patience, even in the face of frustration and stress. Neurodivergent development explores the challenges faced by parents of neurodivergent children. Deborah emphasizes the importance of creating supportive environments and providing structure, routine, and boundaries to help these children develop their identity and navigate the world. Trial and error is crucial for neurodivergent individuals to navigate their lives and find their passions. By giving them opportunities to be the answer to something, such as through volunteer work or involvement in a community, they can develop a sense of identity and learn appropriate behavior. The topic of holding on to kids while allowing them to let go explores the long-term relationship between parents and their children. Deborah emphasizes the importance of this throughout their development, from infancy to adulthood. She finds inspiration in Gordon and Gabbar's book, "Hold on to Your Kids." Holding on to our children means providing support and guidance, even when we are not physically present. It involves instilling our values and fostering a healthy and independent relationship. Links Mentioned: Recognizing and Managing Stress Triggers as Parents   If They would Just... Guiding Kids to Take Ownership of Their Own Agenda What Support do ADHD'ers Need? Book Smart or Street Smart? What's So Wrong with Immaturity? Neufeld Institute Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools https://impactparents.com/gift Connect with Impact Parents: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/impactparents/ @impactparents Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ImpactParent @impactparent LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/impactparents/ @impactparents X (fkaTwitter): https://twitter.com/ImpactParents @impactparents Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you lost your child's heart, but you desparately want it back?! Join me as I interview Tamara Strijack, Author, Clinical Counselor, Academic Dean of the Neufeld Institute, and daughter of world renowned attachment psychologist, Dr. Gordon Neufeld (author of Hold Onto Your Kids). In this, Tamara discusses attachement and shares personal experience as a mother coupled with decades of experience as a therapist to help parents get the hearts of their children back! Buy Hold Onto Your Kids on Audible Buy Hold Onto Your Kids Paperback Car Radio/MTV Unplugged Live Version by 21 Pilots Buy Reclaiming Our Students by Tamara Strijack Learn More about the Work of Tamara Strijack https://www.tamarastrijack.ca/ Buy Nourished by Deborah McNamara Learn More about The Neufeld Institute Resources for Parents from The Neufeld Institute: Home Education Resources  The Neufeld Institute Conference Information The Neufeld Institute Newsletter **Tamara Strijack is a Registered Clinical Counselor. Tamara has worked with children and adolescents in various roles over the last twenty-five years. She is currently the Academic Dean of the Neufeld Institute, where she develops and delivers courses on child development for parents, teachers and helping professionals. She is a keynote speaker, workshop facilitator, and educator of counsellors and educators in training. Tamara works primarily as a parent and educational consultant, helping put adults back in the drivers seat in a way that facilitates growth and learning for the child. Connection, relationship and play continue to be central themes in all her roles, both personally and professionally. Tamara has two daughters and lives on the West Coast of Canada. *Please note that some of the links included in this article are Amazon affiliate links. CONNECT with US Join the Private Facebook Group  Connect and follow along with Janae's Journey on Instagram @janae.daniels Learn more about School to Homeschool

SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODETeach Your Kids: LinkedIn | Website | X | Instagram | Substack | Facebook | TikTokManisha:  LinkedIn | X | Instagram | FacebookLeo Babauta: Website | Instagram | FacebookJoin our premium community with expert support and adviceLeo Babauta's Podcast: Zen HabitsTeach Your Kids Podcasts Dr. Gordon Neufeld on Redefining Parental Power & ConnectionRelated ResourcesFearless Mastery small group coaching programLeo Babauta Books:The Fearless Purpose Training PackageThe Habit Guide Ebook: Zen Habits' Most Effective Habit Methods & SolutionsEssential Zen Habits: The Art of Mastering Change, BrieflyThe Zen Habits Beginner's Guide to MindfulnessUltralight: The Zen Habits Guide to Traveling Light & Living LightZen To DoneScratch | ScratchJrKhan Academy  Time Codes00:00:00 — Introduction of Leo Babauta and his background in unschooling.00:08:20 — Discussion on how to strike a balance between structure and control versus freedom and autonomy in unschooling.00:11:20 — Leo discusses Zen's choice-based forms, paralleling unschooling and its flexible structure.00:15:15 — Manish and Leo discuss balancing child safety with a gradual transfer of responsibilities.00:18:45 — Leo details diverse unschooling experiences, leveraging family, community, and online resources.00:22:45 — Discussion on community reactions to Leo's unschooling blog and addressing parental fears and societal pressures in education choices. 00:29:30 — Exploring the influence of Zen Buddhism on Leo's approach to parenting and education.00:32:20 — Balancing the quest for optimization with the value of spontaneous discovery in education.00:37:10 — Leo and Manisha explore the value of stepping into the unknown, highlighting its role in learning and growth.00:43:50 — The evolution of Leo's parenting style and its impact on building strong emotional connections with children.00:48:00 — Leo attributes his growth in handling emotions to meditation, Zen, and the challenges of unschooling.00:51:00 — Discussion on the balance of freedom and responsibility in parenting, with an emphasis on internal freedom and choice. This podcast was recorded on Riverside and is made possible through a generous grant from the Vela Education FundVELA Education Fund is catalyzing a vibrant alternative education ecosystem. VELA provides trust-based funding to entrepreneurs, fosters community-building and knowledge-sharing, and increases visibility through storytelling that promotes cultural awareness and acceptance of the out-of-system space. Today, VELA serves the largest community of out-of-system education entrepreneurs in the country, with over 2,000 community members. About half of VELA's community members operate small learning environments, and the other half are ecosystem and community builders offering direct services and support across the out-of-system space. Learn more at velaedfund.org.This site contains product affiliate links. We may receive a commission if you make a purchase after clicking on one of these links.

Did anyone teach you that understanding your grief is the key to being (or becoming) a healthy human being? Probably not.  In this expansive episode, Megan speaks with world-renowned author and physician Gabor Maté about the role of trauma and grief in our personal lives and in society at large. Dr. Gabor Maté on grief, this week on It's OK that You're Not OK.   In this episode we cover:    What is “personal agency” and why does losing personal agency create disease?  Why calling grief a disorder has social, relational and political ramifications How do elephants grieve? Is it really so different from humans?  Women as the emotional shock absorbers for the rest of the world Dr. Gabor Maté's conversation with Prince Harry (!)    We're re-releasing some of our favorite episodes from the first 3 seasons. This episode was originally recorded in 2023.   Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here.   Follow our show on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok @refugeingrief and @itsokpod on TikTok. Visit refugeingrief.com for resources & courses   About our guest:  Dr. Gabor Maté is a renowned speaker and author, with expertise in trauma, stress, addiction, and child development. He's the NYT best-selling author of The Myth of Normal, Scattered Minds, the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, and many other books.    Find him at drgabormate.com   About Megan:  Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today's leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don't call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It's Ok that You're Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief   Additional resources: Watch the documentary The Wisdom of Trauma  exploring Gabor Maté's work to understand the connection between illness, addiction, trauma, and society.     Read Hold on to Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld & Gabor Maté Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here.  Check out Megan's best-selling books - It's OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed Books and resources may contain affiliate links.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

"Feeling one's emotions are the thing that allows us to recover from trauma, to recover from anything that has not gone well, from adversity, and so on. And so that parent plays a huge part in being able to create that safety." - Dr. Gordon Neufeld   What is the best protection we can give our children as we raise them in a traumatizing world?   In this episode, we will be talking about parenting and the crisis of confidence so many parents face when it comes to knowing what our children need. As parents who do not want to pass along their own traumas to their children, we want to set them up to be happy and know inside themselves that the opinions and powers of others aren't what dictates their worth. Dr. Gordon Neufeld is a developmental psychologist known for his work in with attachment and is joining us today. We will discuss the roots of attachment, several elements of parenting that are key to know, and how to raise those children in a traumatizing world.    For more information and links for this episode, please visit our website: https://biologyoftrauma.com/biology-of-trauma-podcast/

Jen Wilkin, JT English, and Kyle Worley answer questions submitted by their patron supporters!Questions Covered in This Episode:If God didn't reveal his name as Yahweh until he told Moses, why do we see Moses using that name throughout the book of Genesis in quotations by Adam (Gen 4:1), Lamech (Gen 5:29), Noah (9:26)?I think when most people think of God in Exodus and the Old Testament in general they think of the Father. Could you all discuss the work of the economic Trinity throughout Exodus?What your thoughts on life after death? I've always been taught to be absent from the body is to be present from the Lord, but I listened to a Bible Project podcast that taught that we'll be in a deep sleep until the second coming of Christ when the dead in Christ will rise.Tell us about someone that you've discipled that has really grown and flourished, who might be really kicking it for the Kingdom now. How did the relationship begin? What contributed to their growth?What's your opinion on sushi?Where do you see single gender spaces being valuable vs. mixed gender spaces? For example, do you see men and women learning inductive Bible study methods together? Spiritual disciplines/formation? How would men and women share in teaching in those spaces?How do each of your spouses support you in ministry/your ministry? How has being in ministry affected your marriages?Reading across translations, Genesis 3:15 often doesn't sound like a promise of victory or defeat since it's directed at the serpent. Would the first hearers have understood it as a promise, or is it something we project on this statement in hindsight?If the three persons of the trinity have only one will, why would Christ need to intercede for us to the Father?Where does children's ministry help and where does children's ministry hurt (in the context of the Sunday gathering)? What are potential pitfalls to be avoided when leading children's ministry and what parts shouldn't be overlooked?Would like to hear perspective on the Enneagram.What are your thoughts on how to deeply disciple in a space where the few seasoned believers are already at capacity?If the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, how should we think about what the fear of the Lord is?What are your thoughts on how/when to apply a “plain reading of scripture” versus diving deep into the original language, culture, and context to inform our understanding and application of God's Word?Resources Mentioned in this Episode:Genesis 4:1, 5:29, 9:26, 3:15, The Bible ProjectKnowing Faith Episode 197“Hold On to Your Kids” by Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Maté MD “The Coddling of the American Mind” by Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan HaidtSponsors:Interested in free theological training? Midwestern Seminary recently released three new classes through their For the Church Institute. Study for free and at your own pace through FTCI today! Learn more and sign up at ftcinstitute.comTo learn more about our sponsors please visit our website. Follow Us:Twitter | Instagram | Facebook | WebsiteOur Sister Podcasts:The Family Discipleship Podcast | Confronting Christianity | Starting Place | Tiny TheologiansSupport Training the Church and Become a Patron:patreon.com/trainingthechurch

Connection may just be the cure all to childhood misbehavior and troubles but it is harder to foster than any of us would want! In this episode we dive into one of our favorite books "Hold Onto Your Kids" by ⁠Gordon Neufeld⁠ and ⁠Gabor Maté MD⁠ and pull our favorite tips for maintaining a strong relationship with our children as well as signs and symptoms that may point to a connection issue! We also discuss how and why kids become "peer oriented" and why it is happening more and more. We hope this episode leaves you empowered to create strong family bonds and connections that will heal past hurts and forge new relationship paths for future success!  Authoritative Parenting / Arguably the MOST Effective Parenting Style 230 // Pt. 1 What Ancient Cultures Can Teach us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff Discovering YOUR Life Essentials Solitude Through Digital Minimalism Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND Related Episodes Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes:⁠⁠⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  ⁠⁠⁠Scroll to the bottom of the page --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Chapter 1 Reveal the true moral of the Hold On to Your Kids bookHold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers is a book written by Dr. Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Maté. In this book, Neufeld and Maté explore the challenges parents face in modern society, where the influence of peers can sometimes outweigh the influence of parents. They delve into the importance of attachment between parents and children, and how to strengthen that bond to ensure children can navigate the world confidently and securely. The authors provide insight and guidance on various topics, including discipline, education, and technology, with the aim of helping parents reclaim their role as the primary influence in their children's lives.Chapter 2 Shall we Read the Hold On to Your Kids book ？Opinions on the book "Hold On to Your Kids" by Gordon Neufeld may differ among readers. However, it generally receives positive reviews and is considered a valuable resource for parents. The book argues that in the modern world, children are increasingly influenced by peer culture rather than their parents, leading to various problems such as early sexualization, bullying, and detachment from family. Neufeld offers practical advice to help parents regain their authority, strengthen their connection with their children, and promote healthy development. It is recommended for parents looking to deepen their understanding of parent-child relationships and find effective strategies for raising secure and resilient children.Chapter 3 Key Points of the Hold On to Your Kids book"Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers" is a book written by Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Maté. It explores the importance of strong parental attachments and the impact of peer orientation on children.The book argues that traditional parenting is being undermined by societal and cultural shifts that prioritize peer relationships over parental connection. Neufeld suggests that peer orientation, defined as children looking to their peers for direction and validation instead of their parents, leads to various negative consequences, including adolescents engaging in risky behaviors and struggling with emotional and mental health issues.Neufeld proposes that in order to counter the influence of peers, parents need to establish and maintain a secure attachment with their children. He emphasizes the importance of a parent's role as a guide, mentor, and provider of emotional security. The book provides practical strategies and advice for parents to strengthen their connection with their children and nurture their attachment.Neufeld also explores the impact of technology, media, and the educational system on children's attachment to their parents. He discusses the role of parents in buffering the negative effects of these external influences and encourages them to provide a healthy and balanced environment for their children.Overall, "Hold On to Your Kids" presents a compelling argument for the crucial role parents play in their children's lives. It addresses the challenges and pressures faced by parents in the modern world and offers practical guidance on how to establish and maintain a strong parent-child relationship.Chapter 4 the Hold On to Your Kids book Author Bio The book "Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers" is authored by Dr. Gordon Neufeld, a developmental psychologist, and Gabor Maté, a physician. The book was first published in 2004.Apart from "Hold On to Your Kids," Dr. Gordon Neufeld has written several other books,...

Jefferson Bethke is a best-selling author, poet, speaker, and content creator best known for his viral video, ‘Why I Hate Religion, But Love Jesus', which has amassed tens of millions of views.Jefferson also operates Primal Path, a discipleship program for fathers and sons; and Family Teams, an online platform that "equips families to live as a multigenerational team on a mission."He and his wife Alyssa are raising their two daughters and son on Maui.In this episode, Jefferson traces his journey from rebellious teen arrested for theft; to viral content creator, business owner, and family man – and shares his thoughts on self-development, faith, marriage, and parenthood.Jefferson also speaks about:-His experience growing up in poverty, relying on food stamps and Section 8 housing-How his life took a positive turn when he encountered the power of Jesus' resurrection-The viral video he made about Jesus being greater than religion-How he turned his newfound fame into a successful career running various projects and businesses-How buying an existing business and partnering with someone who has complementary skills can lead to explosive growth-The importance of ritual in our lives and the concept of Sabbath as a day of rest and enjoyment-How the Western view of time as a straight line towards the future produces anxiety and pressure-The lost art of coming-of-age initiation ceremonies in Western culture-Creating a mission statement for your family and assigning a special role to each family member-How the stories we believe and tell ourselves shape our reality-The importance of creating intentional and memorable moments as the leader of your family-How men are silently suffering in society and what he's doing to lift them up-The importance of reintroducing "play" into your everyday lifeJefferson's charitable cause:Forming Men: “A place for men. To heal. To be refreshed. To be encouraged. And to learn ways to exist in this world that are healthy and holy." The organization offers conferences, retreats, and a 6 month discipleship.Books mentioned in this episode:The Culture Code: The Secrets of Highly Successful Groups by Dan CoyleHold On To Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers by Gordon Neufeld and Gabor MatéHow God Became King: The Forgotten Story of the Gospels by N.T. WrightConnect with Jefferson on socials:Instagramwww.familyteams.comwww.primalpath.cowww.jeffandalyssa.com