Podcast appearances and mentions of Gordon Neufeld

Miesha Tate spent her whole life chasing a UFC world title, and when she won it, it broke her. Miesha is a former UFC Women's Bantamweight Champion, one of the fighters who cracked women's MMA open at the highest level, and someone who has now spent almost as much time deconstructing what that pursuit cost her as she did chasing it. We sat down in Malibu and got into the parts of the story you don't usually hear. The moment she realised the gold belt didn't solve a single one of her problems. The years of eating disorders, distilled water weight cuts, and amenorrhea she was privately navigating while headlining pay-per-views. The pregnancy loss earlier this year that forced her to look at what her fighting career had done to her hormones. And the coach whose death became the reason she started her podcast. Miesha is direct about what she got wrong: the war she waged with her own body, the intuition she overrode because she'd signed on the dotted line, and the mental health cost of being the "strong woman" everyone pointed to. She's also honest about what actually helped her rebuild, from cognitive behavioural therapy to prayer to learning, for the first time in her life, how to be present. If you've ever confused discipline with self-punishment, this one will resonate. You'll learn: [0:00] Introduction [9:53] 99% of a cage fight happens inside your own head before the walk out [15:20] How winning the belt became the biggest breaking point of Miesha's life [24:15] The eating disorder, the weight cuts, and drinking distilled water for 72 hours [40:09] Women need 100 to 300 more calories in the luteal phase, and no diet accounts for it [52:36] The pregnancy loss she believes was tied to years of under-fueling her body [1:04:19] How prayer, reconnection, and a cognitive behavioral therapist pulled her out of the darkness [1:14:40] The balloon exercise that taught her presence for the first time in her life [1:25:57] Why Miesha believes public school was designed to divide the nuclear family Resources Mentioned: ROAR (Women Are Not Small Men) by Stacy T. Sims, PhD | Book The Period Brain by Sarah E. Hill, PhD | Book Hold On To Your Kids by Gabor Maté, MD and Gordon Neufeld, PhD | Book When The Body Says No by Gabor Maté, MD | Book Dr. Kayla Osterhoff | Website Find more from Miesha: Miesha Tate | Instagram | X | Website Built for Growth | Podcast Apogee Boise (Micro School) | Website Find more from Ste: Ste Lane | Instagram Radical Health Radio | Instagram | YouTube Heart and Soil Supplements | Website | Instagram | X | YouTube

This is Week 1 of 6 in the Back to School Foundations replay series. While I'm in Portland helping my daughter move into her first house, I'm revisiting six episodes I think will help most as you head back to school. New season starts Tuesday, September 29th, with five weeks on AAC for AAC Awareness Month. So much of what goes wrong in September is really about something that was never put in place in August. Three things. That's it. Here's what they are. I'm starting this series at the very beginning, with the framework I built to answer the question I get more than any other: where do I even start? The answer is not with the IEP goals. It's with regulate, connect, and routines. Those are the three things that have to be in place before teaching begins, and teach is the fourth pillar that everything else holds up. We all want to jump straight to teach. Sit at the table, trace the name, sort the colors. But a child who isn't regulated can't take in what you're offering, and a child who doesn't trust you yet has no reason to try. The framework is fluid. You'll move back and forth between all four pillars every day, student by student. A child can be doing beautifully in a teaching activity and be dysregulated two minutes later, and at that point we set our agenda aside and go back to what we know helps that child. That's not a detour from the work. That is the work. We'll talk about: Why regulation has to come before expectation, and what interoception has to do with it How to build connection with children you don't know yet, without going into teacher mode How predictable routines lower anxiety and grow independence The four pillars of the Autism Little Learners Framework: Regulate, Connect, Routines, Teach In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why a dysregulated child is not in a position to take in new learning Why true self-regulation doesn't develop until well past early childhood, and what to do instead What "teacher mode" sounds like, and why the questions get in the way How to join a child's play without taking it over or directing it Why speaking is not the only way to communicate, and what multimodal communication looks like Key Takeaways: Regulation before expectation. If a child isn't regulated, the lesson isn't landing. Co-regulation is the starting point at the early childhood level, not self-regulation. You have to reach the child before you can teach the child. No significant learning takes place without a significant relationship. Speaking is not the only way to communicate. Every child is already communicating. Predictable routines reduce anxiety and build independence. The framework is fluid. You'll move back and forth between all four pillars every single day. Try This: Send the Child Interest Survey home this week and use what comes back Join one child in their favorite activity without asking a single question Watch and copy what a child is doing instead of directing the play Ask your OT for one sensory idea for one specific child Teach a calming sequence with a visual cue before you need it Look at one child's visual schedule and check the length and the symbol type against what that child actually understands Pick one daily routine and make a visual sequence for it Related Resources & Links: ❤️ Child Interest Survey (free) ❤️ Free Visual Support Starter Set ❤️ Autism Little Learners Membership "Children learn best when they like their teacher and when they think their teacher likes them." Gordon Neufeld  

You can't force a child to make you their mentor. They choose. And most of us are quietly spending that choice on being right. That's the argument in Hold On to Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Mate, and it's the book two dads in this community keep coming back to. In this Bookshelf, they take it from both ends. John Berardi makes the case that a child is always looking for someone to guide them through life, and that they get to pick who. You can make a kid put on clothes. You can take things away. But you cannot make them choose you as the one they learn from, which is why the attachment has to come before the discipline. And if they don't pick you, they'll pick their peers, sometimes as early as nine. His warning about the book is worth hearing too: it's long, and the practical payoff is in the last few chapters. Hal Elrod brings the one line he pulled straight out of the book and taped to his fridge, where it's stayed for two years: prioritize the relationship with your child above correcting their behavior. Most of us correct constantly, and we do it at the expense of the bond. Yelling doesn't build influence, it spends it. So he bites his tongue and asks what matters more right now: the relationship or catching them doing something wrong. Nine times out of ten, it's the relationship. He also names the trap on the other side: you threaten, they comply, you feel like you won, and that short-term victory quietly costs you the long game.   IN THIS EPISODE: Why a child chooses who leads them, and why you can't force it Attachment before discipline: the book's core argument What happens if they don't pick you (peers, sometimes by nine years old) Leadership by example instead of authority, and why "good kids who follow every rule" isn't the goal The paragraph on Hal's fridge: relationship above correction Why yelling diminishes your influence instead of building it The short-term compliance trap, and what it costs you later Berardi's honest warning about reading the book  

Mi invitada de hoy es Marcela Escalera @marcelaescaleraoficial y hoy vamos a hablar del reto más difícil que he enfrentado en mi vida. No es levantar capital ni construir empresas: es criar a mis hijos.Es el único juego donde sobran teorías, el resultado lo conoces veinte años después y siempre, siempre sientes que lo estás haciendo mal.Marcela pasó 30 años evaluando a niños "con problemas", hasta que un día giró la mirada y se hizo una pregunta incómoda: ¿y si el que tiene que cambiar no es el niño, sino el adulto?Es experta en el modelo de desarrollo de Gordon Neufeld y fundadora del Diplomado Crianza con Vínculo. Hoy me va a explicar por qué poner límites no alcanza con un adolescente, qué significa que un hijo le entregue el corazón a sus amigos en lugar de a sus papás, y por dónde empieza un papá que siente que ya perdió esa conexión.Por favor ayúdame y sigue Cracks Podcast en YouTube aquí."No se trata de hacer hijos felices. Nuestros hijos necesitan llorar, necesitan frustrarse, necesitan perder, necesitan saber que hay límites en la vida."-  Marcela EscaleraComparte esta frase en TwitterEste episodio es presentado por  Mail Boxes Etc. la solución a todos tus problemas de envíos y por Agentforce, la solución que integra IA a tu empresa para hacerla más escalable.Qué puedes aprender hoyCómo recuperar el corazón de un hijo adolescente Cómo poner límites firmes sin castigos, amenazas ni luchas de poderCómo detectar las primeras señales de que tu hijo ya entró en la preadolescencia (y qué hacer distinto)Cómo manejar celulares y pantallas sin destruir la relaciónCómo convertirte en la base segura a la que tus hijos regresan cuando la vida los lastima*Este episodio es presentado por Mail Boxes Etc.Un negocio que quiere crecer no debería estar resolviendo mensajería, envíos nacionales e internacionales, almacenamiento o fulfillment por separado.Debería tener todo eso funcionando en un solo lugar.Mail Boxes Etc. te ayuda a centralizar tu operación logística: desde envíos y mensajería hasta almacenamiento y gestión operativa, todo diseñado a la medida de tu empresa.Analizan tu operación y construyen una solución para que tú te enfoques en estrategia, ventas y crecimiento, no en perseguir paquetes.Si quieres operar como empresa grande, aunque hoy seas mediana, este es un paso clave. Conoce más en cracks.la/mbe*Este episodio es presentado por Agentforce  Las Empresas Agénticas representan el futuro. Son aquellas donde humanos y agentes de IA impulsan juntos el éxito del cliente. Donde los agentes ya no solo asisten: planifican, razonan y actúan dentro de ventas, servicio, marketing y operación. Se encargan del trabajo rutinario para que los humanos puedan enfocarse en lo que realmente importa: creatividad, relaciones e impacto.Eso es lo que hace posible Agentforce. Más eficiencia. Mejores decisiones. Mayor lealtad del cliente. Equipos verdaderamente potenciados.Si eres líder y sabes que el futuro no se espera, se construye, conoce cómo dar el siguiente paso con Agentforce en cracks.la/agentforce.Dime qué piensas del episodio. Ve el episodio en Youtube

This episode is all about nonviolent homeschool communication — specifically, the patterns that make it harder than it needs to be. Nonviolent homeschool communication starts here — with understanding these old patterns. And there is one book that has shaped how I think about this more than any other. I’ve read a lot of books on relationships, parenting, connection, and attachment over the years — more than I can count. But Marshall Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication is the one I keep coming back to. For me, it is the bible of relationships and communication. And it has changed how I show up in my homeschool in ways I didn’t expect. Here’s what it taught me. https://youtu.be/J7kN_HHX52c?si=jZyaiXFDGyilrnsw But first, how does Marshall Rosenberg define nonviolent communication? NVC (aka Nonviolent Communication) is a language of life that helps us transform old patterns of defensiveness and aggressiveness into compassion and empathy and to improve the quality of all of our relationships. (Definition provided by the Center for Non-Violent Communication). We all have old patterns that need to be transformed. And we definitely notice we have reactive, defensive, and aggressive patterns when we attempt to create relationships. Certainly, we notice this when we saturate ourselves in the homeschool parenting role. The 4 NVC Components That Transform Nonviolent Homeschool Communication Observation: Observation without evaluation consists of noticing concrete things and actions around us. We learn to distinguish between judgment and what we sense in the present moment and to simply observe what is there. Feeling: When we notice things around us, we inevitably experience varying emotions and physical sensations in each particular moment. Here, distinguishing feelings from thoughts is an essential step in the NVC process. Needs: All individuals have needs and values that sustain and enrich their lives. When those needs are met, we experience comfortable feelings, like happiness or peacefulness, and when they are not, we experience uncomfortable feelings, like frustration. Understanding that we, as well as those around us, have these needs is perhaps the most important step in learning to practice NVC and live empathically. Request: To make clear and present requests is crucial to NVC's transformative mission. When we learn to request concrete actions that can be carried out in the present moment, we begin to find ways to cooperatively and creatively ensure that everyone's needs are met. (Definitions provided by the Center for Non-Violent Communication). Here’s how each component transforms homeschool communication in real life. Lesson One — The Homeschool Communication Shift That Changes Everything “What I want in my life is compassion, a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart.” ― Marshall B. Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life This is what we all want: we want a flow within ourselves and between us. But we’re not all trained to enable that flow. We have walls built up to defend ourselves; sometimes we even have spikes and landmines built up to defend ourselves. Either way, those defenses don’t build relationships. Vulnerability and authenticity allow relationships to expand and grow. Nonviolent homeschool communication requires this foundation first — self-compassion. And that is an easy thing to say and a less easy thing to do. Big Emotions Journal for the Homeschool Mom Are you a homeschool mom navigating the ups and downs of daily life with your kids? Introducing the Homeschool Mama's Toolbox—a powerful resource to help you manage big emotions like anger, guilt, or overwhelm with clarity and intention. $9.99 Original price was: $9.99.$6.99Current price is: $6.99. Shop now Lesson Two — Homeschool Communication and Grace “All violence is the result of people tricking themselves into believing that their pain derives from other people and that consequently, those people deserve to be punished.” ― Marshall B. Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life We do what we do because that is what we know to do in the scenario at the time. And in the words of Maya Angelou, “Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.“ If we have a growth mindset about life and relationships, how we show up will shift over time. Growth changes everything. Over time, we show up differently in the same scenarios — five, ten, or twenty years later — if we choose that path. Looking back in regret and shame is one option. Forgiving ourselves and growing is another. And when we grow humble and self-aware enough, we realize that others aren’t trying to intentionally cause us pain or friction either. Punishment didn’t teach us when we simply didn’t know better. It won’t serve the people engaging us wrongly now either. So we choose grace — the same grace we’d want extended to our own growing selves. This shift in perspective is at the heart of nonviolent homeschool communication. Lesson Three — What Anger Is Really Telling You “At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled.” ― Marshall B. Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life Anger is that mighty sharp tip of an iceberg that protects our fragile hearts. It’s a useful tool to self-protect. But it also protects or keeps us from connecting with others if we self-protect too hard. Under the mighty iceberg of anger’s sharp tip is a whole lotta other big emotions. You name the emotion, it’s there. And those emotions are always fueled by our unmet needs. Nonviolent homeschool communication asks us to address those needs directly rather than react to the emotion on the surface. So we need to address our own needs and respectfully request that others meet our needs, so that we don’t spend our lives reactively, angrily demanding others meet our needs, and/or never connecting with ourselves or others. Lesson Four — The Danger of Not Knowing Yourself “We are dangerous when we are not conscious of our responsibility for how we behave, think, and feel.” ― Marshall B. Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life You know when you’re not a parent and you have heaped judgments on your own parents parenting approaches BUT THEN you have kids??? And all you can think to yourself is DANG, this parenting thing is only easy when I’m not doing it. (& also, I can see now that my parents were doing the best they could do with what they knew to do in their parenting years, no matter how unhealthy things were). Because parenting is SO CHALLENGING at times. Every parenting book I’ve read had something to say. And I’ve appreciated most of them for something. But this core point, that we need to grow in self-awareness and self-compassion has had the most impact on my parenting approach. I’ve made the gamut of parenting mistakes. I really have. Which means I have regret. (& lest you try to console me for my perfectly imperfect parenting, I will go to my grave regretting them, but I also don’t fuel them with self-contempt). Self-shaming won’t change how I engage my kids now. Mistakes were made — I’m human. Healthy examples weren’t always available to me, and no matter how many parenting books or hours in a therapist’s office, I was bound to struggle with this one relationship: the relationship with myself. My defenses and my reactiveness towards things that hurt me or offended me or confused me were my instinctive armour and battle gear that I brought into my family life, as a wife, and as a mother. I wish this weren’t true. But it is. I had (& still have) armour and battle gear. Do I like that? Hell no. Will it serve me to pretend that these patterns weren’t mine at the beginning of my family journey? Again, hell no. I’ve learned that including practices in self-awareness has helped me see me a little more clearly (a little more, because there will always be room for more self-awareness, I’ll never see myself clearly). Or in the words of Carl Rogers, “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” Self-awareness is the foundation of nonviolent homeschool communication — and this is where it starts. Lesson Five — You Are Not Vanilla “My theory is that we get depressed because we're not getting what we want, and we're not getting what we want because we have never been taught to get what we want. Instead, we've been taught to be good little boys and girls and good mothers and fathers. If we're going to be one of those good things, better get used to being depressed. Depression is the reward we get for being “good.” But, if you want to feel better, I'd like you to clarify what you would like people to do to make life more wonderful for you.” ― Marshall B. Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life If we don’t acknowledge who we are, that we are separate people, and that we have separate needs, we force ourselves to go underground. Our identity becomes like vanilla ice cream. Vanilla is a flavour of ice cream, sure (aka it’s a personality of ice cream types, though it is a basic personality). But it doesn’t have a specific personality, a particular flavour, or a particular texture. It has an entry-level nothingness. (Clearly vanilla is not my favourite. Bring on the peppermint chocolate chip). But we each aren’t vanilla personalities: we have our own flair, our own flavour, and our own textures. We are unique and are meant to be here for a special purpose. When we put our efforts toward being good or right, enabling ourselves to go undercover, we aren’t really us. And so does our nonviolent homeschool communication. And when we put our efforts toward fully accepting all of our parts, and each of our needs, and acknowledging our real selves, we flourish. The Homeschool Communication Tool I Use Every Day The very most important thing I gain from Marshall Rosenberg’s book, Nonviolent Communication, is this fill-in-the-blank statement. It is a useful tool: a fill-in-the-blank conversation “instruction manual” to address my needs and request someone to engage my needs (which, not coincidentally when you practice doing this for you, makes it awfully easy to engage for others too). When I see that______________ I feel ______________ because my need for ________________ is/is not met. Would you be willing to __________________? This single sentence changed my nonviolent homeschool communication more than any other tool I’ve found. So my goal in my relationships with my kids and my relationship with my partner is to make observations, clarify and express my feelings, declare my underlying needs, and ask for my needs to be met. That simple. And not easy at all. If you want to go deeper in nonviolent homeschool communication Here are three ways I can support you: Reading That Restores You — Book Club Newsletter Every Wednesday morning, a warm, thoughtful reflection lands in your inbox drawn from the books we’re exploring together — including Nonviolent Communication. Journaling prompts. Practical takeaways for your homeschool communication and your life. You don’t have to read the book. You just have to show up for yourself on a Wednesday morning. Sign up free here. Get My Weekly Book Reflection The Confident Homeschool Mom Collective If you want to work through homeschool communication challenges live — with a community of women who genuinely get this life — come join us in the Collective. This month, we’re exploring Nonviolent Communication together. Roundtable conversations, book club discussion, writer’s room, and actionable strategy sessions. Every Friday. Your first Friday is completely free. Join the Collective here. Book a Free Aligned Homeschool Reset Session If homeschool communication with a specific child or your partner feels particularly stuck right now — I’d love to think through it with you. Book a free no-obligation Aligned Homeschool Reset Session and let’s look at what’s really happening and what might need to shift. Book your free session here. Book your free Aligned Homeschool Reset Session Keep Reading How to Use Non-Violent Communication in our Homeschools The Homeschool Communication Mistake Parents Make & How to Change It Counseling 101: a Homeschool Parent's Most Important Skill Conflict Resolution Toolbox How Listening to our Trauma Stories can Enable our Homeschool Families Homeschool Kids are the Audience to the Homeschool Marriage How to Address Your Big Emotions with Christine Dixon A Homeschool Mom Podcast to Transform Your Life Perspective-Shifting Homeschool Coaching Discussions Foster Strong Relationships in Your Homeschool Family Hold Onto Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld in Homeschool Mama Book Club How Marie Forleo Informs my Homeschool How Brene Brown's Inspiring Thoughts have Informed my Homeschool 8 Ways to Build Healthy Relationships in Your Homeschool Family The Ultimate Guide to Building Boundaries and Healthy Relationships for Homeschool Moms 13 Things Mentally Strong Don't Do: Amy Morin influences my homeschool Enneagram: A Self-Awareness Tool That Makes You a Better Educator, Mom & Partner 5 Reasons Your Homeschool Child Won't Do Work & How to Motivate Your Child How Brene Brown's Atlas of the Heart Influences our Homeschools Latest episodes 13 Things Mentally Strong Homeschool Moms Don’t Do August 11, 2026 7 Questions Homeschool Moms Are Afraid to Ask Out Loud August 4, 2026 How to Improve Homeschool Communication with the Best NVC August 4, 2026 How to Stop Taking Your Child’s Behaviour Personally July 21, 2026 You’re Invited to the Homeschool Mom Book Club 2026 July 14, 2026 Post-Partum Overwhelm in Your Homeschool: 12 Ways to Cope July 12, 2026 A 2023 High School Graduate’s Thoughts on her Homeschool Life July 11, 2026 What It’s Like? 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Your Answer Changes Your Homeschool June 8, 2026 5 Reasons Your Homeschool Child Won’t Do Work & How to Motivate Your Child June 2, 2026 Crush 1st-Year Homeschool Frustrations and Plan a Smooth Year 2 May 30, 2026 Encouragement for Homeschool Moms in the 1st Year May 30, 2026 Transitioning into Homeschool High School: What We're Really Talking About May 26, 2026 Registered Homeschooling vs Online Learning BC: What Really Matters May 19, 2026 Homeschool Year End Review: Celebrating your Success & Growth May 12, 2026 When You Buy New Homeschool Curriculum: 5 Clever Suggestions May 6, 2026 The Truth About Homeschooling the “Right Way” — But What Works May 5, 2026 9 Steps to Thrive: Confident Homeschool Mom in Year 1 April 28, 2026 What If Your Unrealistic Expectations Are Actually Your Greatest Asset? April 21, 2026 Overcome Imposter Syndrome: How to Build Confidence as a Homeschool Mom April 14, 2026 How to Get Started Homeschooling in 2026 April 11, 2026 9 Mistakes That Make Your 1st Homeschool Year Stressful (& How to Avoid Them) April 9, 2026 How to Make Confident Homeschool Decisions (Without Seeking Permission) April 7, 2026 How to Homeschool When Everyone Has ADHD (And You’re Exhausted) March 31, 2026 Exhausted Homeschool Mom? 8 Things That Will Give You Hope March 24, 2026 Stop Second-Guessing as a Homeschool Mom (& Use Your Magic) March 17, 2026 “You’re Not Falling Apart. You’re in the Winter Homeschool Slump.” March 10, 2026 The Lies Homeschool Moms Believe That Makes Everything Harder March 2, 2026 You’re Not Failing. You’re Caught In An Inner Critic Loop. Here’s How to Get Out February 24, 2026 How to Stop People-Pleasing as a Homeschool Mom (One Mom’s Story) February 17, 2026 How to Stop the Inner Critic as a Homeschool Mom: The Charmed Life I Was Chasing (& the Pattern I Didn’t Know I Was Living) February 10, 2026 The Most Important Way to Take Care of Yourself as an Overwhelmed Homeschool Mom February 2, 2026 How to Do Kindergarten in Your Homeschool: A Fun & Effective Guide January 29, 2026 The Real Reason You’re Overwhelmed (It’s Not the Curriculum) January 26, 2026 Unexpected Feelings When Your Homeschooler Gets Accepted to University January 22, 2026 How to Stop Being a Hostage to Homeschool Pressure (& What to Do Instead) January 19, 2026 The Truth About Finding Your Homeschool Rhythm January 13, 2026 The Confident Homeschool Mom Podcast: Introducing the 1% Pivot January 6, 2026 Purpose-Driven Homeschool Planning for 2026: How to Recalibrate the Year with Clarity December 23, 2025 1% Shift to a Calm Homeschool Life December 23, 2025 12 Things I've Learned About Homeschool Moms: Self-Care Tips for Overwhelmed Homeschool Moms December 10, 2025 12-Day Homeschool Mom Self-Care Challenge to Come Back to Yourself December 2, 2025 What is the Reimagine Your Homeschool Group Coaching? 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 Does your teen seem more attached to their friends and their phone than to you? That's not just a feeling, and it's not a phase you have to wait out. Dr. Lisa Damour and Reena Ninan revisit their conversation with two of the world's leading experts on child development, globally renowned physician and author Dr. Gabor Maté, and developmental psychologist and author Dr. Gordon Neufeld, to address how parents can stay connected to their teens, even as they spread their wings. This is one of our most-watched episodes ever on YouTube, and we think you'll understand why.

 Does your teen seem more attached to their friends and their phone than to you? That's not just a feeling, and it's not a phase you have to wait out. Dr. Lisa Damour and Reena Ninan revisit their conversation with two of the world's leading experts on child development, globally renowned physician and author Dr. Gabor Maté, and developmental psychologist and author Dr. Gordon Neufeld, to address how parents can stay connected to their teens, even as they spread their wings. This is one of our most-watched episodes ever on YouTube, and we think you'll understand why.

Parenting doesn't need to swing between being overly strict and overly permissive. When you understand what's driving your child's behaviour, everything becomes clearer, calmer, and more manageable. I am talking to psychotherapist and parenting coach Todd Sarner about transformative parenting and how to raise resilient, emotionally secure children. We cover attachment, boundaries, emotional regulation, and how small shifts in your approach can reduce daily struggles and create more connection at home. Todd and I talk about: • Why behaviour is often a symptom of unmet emotional needs, not defiance• How to move away from reactive parenting and become more proactive• What “attachment-first parenting” actually looks like in everyday life• How to set firm, calm boundaries without yelling or being harsh• What to do when your child is pushing limits, melting down, or acting out• Why emotional outbursts are a sign your child needs support, not control• How to support your child through big emotions without escalating the situation• Practical strategies to help your child build resilience and emotional regulation• Simple self-care tools to help you stay calm and respond instead of react Todd Sarner is a licensed psychotherapist, a parenting coach and the director of Transformative Parenting. Mentored by Dr. Gordon Neufeld and trained by leading relationship experts Dr. Sue Johnson and Dr. Stan Tatkin, Todd helps parents strengthen connection, improve emotional regulation, and address behaviour challenges using practical, attachment-based strategies. His signature Transformative Parenting Process Intensive (TPPI) has become a lifeline for thoughtful parents who've “tried everything” but still find themselves stuck in daily battles. Todd is the author of The Calm & Connected Parent: An Attachment-First Guide to Raising Resilient Kids in the Age of Screens and AI. Episode Links Follow Todd on Instagram Learn more about Todd's work and book at Transformative Parenting Come say hi to me on Instagram Books to Thrive in Motherhood: Dive into The Motherhood Reset, Nourished Mama, and Mama Let It Go to overcome burnout and become a healthy, energized mom. Picky Eating Guide: Learn about common but lesser-known reasons kids are picky eaters and practical strategies to help children enjoy healthy foods. Resources I Am Loving The Brain Health Movement – Whole Child Healing Roadmap is a science-backed courses that decode the root causes of your child's struggles. Get £200 off with code WILDANDWELL MamaZen App – Become a happier and calmer mom through cognitive hypnotherapy, CBT, and mindfulness. Use code 9c Fertility & Beyond – Natural solutions for your fertility struggles I would never recommend anything I don't regularly use myself or trust completely. Some of the links are affiliate links, and others are special discount codes. Either way, all of these are products and resources I genuinely love and recommend. Wild and Well with Dr Hilary Claire is a podcast dedicated to holistic health for moms, postpartum recovery, and children's wellness. We explore everything from functional health for women and gut health to pregnancy and postpartum wellness to nervous system regulation and motherhood burnout. Each episode offers practical tips for self-care for new moms, guidance on picky eating and parenting, and strategies to support your family's natural kids' health, so you can feel healthy, strong, and vital in motherhood.

What happens in the deepest moments of Stage 2 EFT work? In this special roundtable episode of The Leading Edge in Emotionally Focused Therapy, hosts Dr. James Hawkins and Dr. Ryan Rana sit down with three pioneers in EFT process research and training: Dr. Jim Furrow, Dr. Kathryn Rheem, and Dr. Marlene Best. Together, they unpack the heart of Stage 2 change events in EFT: withdrawer re-engagement, pursuer softening, therapeutic presence, fear, longing, attachment risk, and the healing power of vulnerable reach-and-response moments. This conversation is more than theory. It is a masterclass in how therapists help clients move from talking about emotion to speaking from emotion. The group explores how fear and longing work together, why vulnerability requires both courage and safety, and how the therapist's emotional presence becomes the bridge that helps clients risk connection. You'll hear powerful reflections on: Why fear must become experiential in Stage 2 The difference between Stage 1 and Stage 2 emotional work How longing creates movement through fear Why enactments are essential for deep limbic revision The therapist's role in co-regulating attachment risk How healing becomes more powerful than hurt in secure connection This episode is rich with clinical wisdom, emotional depth, and heartfelt reflections from some of the leading voices who helped shape modern EFT. If you're an EFT therapist wanting to deepen your Stage 2 work—or simply someone passionate about emotional connection and healing relationships—this is an episode you will want to revisit again and again. In This Episode The Origins of Stage 2 EFT Research The guests reflect on the early development of EFT process research and how their studies on pursuer softening and withdrawer re-engagement helped therapists better understand the moment-to-moment dynamics of attachment transformation. Fear vs. Speaking From Fear The conversation explores the difference between naming fear cognitively versus helping clients experientially contact fear in the present moment. Longing and Fear Work Together Dr. Marlene Best shares her now-famous insight that longing must move through fear for attachment change to occur. The group discusses how longing creates movement and momentum toward vulnerable reach. Therapeutic Presence as Co-Regulation Dr. Jim Furrow highlights that clients cannot stay emotionally present to fear unless therapists bring their own grounded emotional presence into the room. Stage 1 vs. Stage 2 Emotional Work The panel clarifies the crucial difference between: accessing primary emotion in Stage 1 restructuring attachment through view of self/view of other in Stage 2. Healing Is More Powerful Than Hurt Dr. Kathryn Rheem closes with a moving reflection on how humans are wired both to hurt and to heal—and how vulnerable connection transforms emotional suffering into secure attachment. Key Clinical Takeaways Fear is not the enemy in Stage 2—it is the doorway. Longing creates movement through attachment fear. Therapists must bring their presence before asking clients to bring theirs. Enactments help clients move from insight into embodied relational experience. Stage 2 is about restructuring view of self and view of other. Healing occurs when fear is shared relationally. Withdrawers often access sadness and loss before fear. Pursuer softening requires risk, surrender, and emotional reach. Emotional safety grows through repeated vulnerable experiences. Deep limbic revision requires deep experiential contact. Best Quotes from the Episode “We don't just talk about fear in Stage 2—we speak from fear.” “If you want someone to be present to their fear, you need to bring your presence.” “Longing has to move through the fear.” “The therapist's regulation becomes the emotional scaffolding for the couple.” “Stage 2 is not just emotional access—it's restructuring attachment.” “Fear reshapes our priorities and tells us not to reach when we most need connection.” “The healing becomes more powerful than the hurt.” “The goal isn't to eliminate fear. The goal is to reach while fear is still present.” “Therapists often drive past view of self and view of other instead of slowing down and exploring them.” “We heal when vulnerable experience becomes relationally shared.” “The deeper the longing, the deeper the fear.” “People pull away from love when they're terrified of losing it.” “Healing happens when someone risks reaching and another person responds.” “Fear says ‘don't reach.' Love says ‘try anyway.'” “We all want someone who can help us carry what feels too heavy alone.” “The strongest relationships aren't fear-free—they're responsive in the presence of fear.” “Behind anger and distance is often grief, fear, and longing.” “Secure connection grows when people can finally share what they were afraid to reveal.” “You don't heal by never hurting again. You heal by no longer hurting alone.” “The courage to be emotionally honest changes relationships.” EFT World Summit 2027 We wanted to let you know that the EFT World Summit 2027 is coming to Vancouver — May 9 to 11, 2027 — and we would love to see you there. The Summit is the flagship gathering of the global EFT community — the moment when practitioners from over 40 countries come together in one place. You'll be in the room with the researchers and clinicians that have shaped your practice, and you'll participate in conversations that are writing the next chapter of this work. The line up of plenary speakers includes Gail Palmer, Leanne Campbell, Jim Coan, Mark Solms, and Gordon Neufeld — alongside your 4 choices of 12 hands-on workshops across all three modalities, hosted by leaders in the EFT community. All sessions are eligible for CE credits, so you can fulfill your continuing education requirements while connecting with practitioners who speak your clinical language. Click the text below to link to the registration website.  Come join us in Vancouver! Visit eftsummit2027.com to register today, and take your place in the gathering this community has been waiting for.

Cum ne afectează smartphone-urile și social media starea de bine, sănătatea mintală și relațiile? Începem astăzi seria Digital Wellbeing, 6 episoade dedicate acestei teme, susținută de Vodafone.În acest episod introductiv al seriei, Paul Olteanu și Luciana Baicea urmăresc viteza extraordinară de adoptare a smartphone-urilor și rețelelor sociale din 2007 încoace, ne arată ce spun datele globale și europene despre sănătatea mintală a tinerilor după 2010 și explică de ce sistemul nostru nervos nu e proiectat pentru felul în care folosim azi tehnologia.Discuția se sprijină pe cercetarea psihologului Jonathan Haidt (New York University), autorul cărții The Anxious Generation (O generație în pericol), pe studiul ISBRD 2026 realizat de Fundația Vodafone împreună cu Save the Children și Ipsos, plus date de la Eurostat, UNICEF și Organizația Mondială a Sănătății.În acest episod discutăm despre:Adopția smartphone-ului și a social media și de ce perioada 2010–2012 e un punct de cotiturăDatele despre anxietate, depresie, somn și singurătate la adolescențiDe ce designul rețelelor sociale activează aceleași circuite ca jocurile de norocCele patru riscuri fundamentale: atenție fragmentată, dependență, izolare și afectarea somnuluiResurse menționate în conversație:Cartea O generație în pericol (The Anxious Generation) de Jonathan HaidtCartea Dopamine Nation de Anna LembkeStudiul ISBRD 2026 — Fundația Vodafone, Save the Children, Ipsos - ⁠Copilărie Conectată: starea de bine și reziliența digitală a copiilor și tinerilor din Europa⁠Acest episod face parte din seria Digital Wellbeing, susținută de Vodafone și de Fundația Vodafone."(00:00) Intro""(02:30) Structura seriei și conținutul din cele 6 episoade ale ei""(06:46) Geneza: lansarea iPhone în 2007 și adopție globală smartphone""(10:07) De la 5% pe rețele la 85%: adopția social media""(13:04) De la camera frontală la TikTok: nașterea culturii performative""(16:45) Erving Goffman: 'instagramabil' și viața ca performanță socială""(20:50) Date Jonathan Haidt: anxietate +139% și depresie +145% după 2010""(25:41) Argumentul substituirii: restrângerea timpului petrecut cu prietenii""(29:47) Somn sub 7 ore la adolescenți: ce arată cercetarea""(30:54) 'Viața mea se simte fără sens' — colapsul speranței la tineri""(34:01) Studiul ISBRD 2026: bunăstarea digitală a tinerilor europeni""(37:12) 97% folosesc internetul zilnic — dar pentru ce anume?""(40:49) Pentru ce a evoluat sistemul nervos vs. lumea de astăzi""(44:30) Coldplay și ecranul ca fereastră: a trăi vs. a filma momentul""(47:38) Ritmurile biologice și joaca liberă (Gordon Neufeld)""(49:40) Recompensa variabilă și cele 31 de studii interne Meta""(53:07) De ce 'busy' a devenit medalie de onoare și filme pentru double screen""(57:04) Conexiune, autonomie și sens: iluzia competenței prin metrici""(01:02:30) Identitate, ierarhii și comparație: oglinda lui Dunbar vs. milioane de străini""(01:06:34) Întrupare și sincronicitate: ce se pierde în texte și emoji""(01:09:50) Dimensiunea audienței și stabilitatea comunității după Haidt""(01:14:05) Dauna 1 — Fragmentarea atenției: impactul notificării necitite""(01:20:53) Dauna 2 — Dependența și recompensa variabilă""(01:23:40) Anna Lembke și cele patru simptome ale sevrajului""(01:25:39) Dauna 3 — Izolarea socială și conflictul prin mesaje""(01:29:19) Dauna 4 — Lumina albastră, conținutul emoțional și 'revenge scrolling'""(01:31:36) Ce urmează în episoadele 2–6 ale seriei"

In this episode, psychologist and Neufeld Institute senior faculty member Eva de Gosztonyi shares reflections from over 50 years working in schools across Canada and explains how Gordon Neufeld's attachment-based developmental paradigm transformed her understanding of children, behaviour, emotional regulation, and learning. Eva discusses how traditional behavioral approaches often failed the children who struggled most and describes her efforts to implement relationship-based, developmental practices within Quebec's English-speaking school systems. Link to the show notes with links to key discussion points and other ways to view or hear the episode here: ⁠https://affectautism.com/2026/05/15/holding-space/Consider joining our DIR® Parent Network or becoming an Affect Autism member for bonus content and support from a like-minded community of Floortimers here: ⁠⁠https://affectautism.com/support/* Thank you to Mauritian American recording artists ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Hallows and Artoffact Records for the background promo music: ⁠⁠https://hallows.bandcamp.com/track/catalyst-2

In this Mind Architect × ParentED Fest conversation, Dr. Gordon Neufeld explains why peer orientation — not independence — is the real risk facing today's teenagers, and what parents can do about it.Dr. Gordon Neufeld is one of the world's leading developmental psychologists, with over 50 years of experience working with adolescents, families, and youth in the juvenile justice system. He is the founder of the Neufeld Institute and the author of the bestselling book Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers (co-authored with Dr. Gabor Maté).The host of the conversation is Diana Bălan — Neufeld Institute representative, founder of Urban Mowgli, and co-founder of ParentED Fest — joining us to explore:Myths about older children's needs and relationship responsibility in parentingHow to reconnect when you feel you've lost your teenager's heartWhy emotional maturity has nothing to do with age, education or IQAddiction as a "flight from vulnerability" and what true prevention looks likeThe connection between critical thinking and emotional developmentHow screens, social media, and AI quietly displace the relationships our children needSexuality, peer pressure, and the disappearance of critical thinking in adolescenceWhy conflicting feelings are actually a sign of emotional maturityResources mentioned: Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers — by Gordon Neufeld & Gabor MatéNeufeld Institute - Dr. Neufeld's educational platform offering courses on attachment-based development for parents and educatorsSigmund Freud on the relationship between Attachment and SexualityAbraham Maslow about "on the other hand" thinking as a marker of cognitive maturityCarl Rogers' unconditional positive regard as an analogy for AI's behaviorAristotle on humans as esentially relational creaturesWilliam Golding's Lord of the Flies as an analogy for today's hyper-polarized world, as influenced by screens and social media Acest episod este produs și distribuit cu susținerea LIDL România și face parte din colaborarea cu ParentEd Fest, cel mai mare festival dedicat parentingului de la noi din țară."(00:00) Intro""(02:04) Welcome and guest introduction""(05:31) Myth-busting: older children do NOT stop needing their parents""(09:10) Who is primarily responsible for the parent-child relationship""(11:45) Peer orientation: what happens when we lose our kids""(17:30) Why emotional maturity has nothing to do with age""(19:30) Where to start rebuilding the relationship with a teenager""(21:57) Why parenting is not primarily a role or a set of responsibilities""(23:44) Addiction as a 'flight from vulnerability'""(26:20) How to prevent teenagers falling into addiction traps""(29:49) How do we recognize a relational problem with our teen""(31:23) The lost skill of grieving: feeling the hole""(37:19) School, ADHD suspicions and the disappearance of curiosity""(39:45) Critical thinking: why it can't be taught and its basis in emotion""(46:02) How screens hijack our need for togetherness""(49:41) AI, the rise of 'artificial intimacy' and becoming emotionally insulated""(52:08) Healthy sexuality as a glove on attachment, not the opposite""(55:35) Tolerating differences and conflicting feelings as a sign of maturity""(57:08) Gordon Neufeld's message to parents: YOU are the answer"

⁠AUTISTIC Viewpoints⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ is a podcast hosted by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Turrell Burgess⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Daria Brown⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. On Episode 11, returning guest Khylil Robinson joins us!Learn more at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://affectautism.com/autistic-viewpoints/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Timestamps:00:13 Introductions01:27 Khylil's recent award01:46 Khylil's sentiments about being a repeat guest02:29 Setting up this episode's topics03:29 Turrell's review of their recent conference presentation04:43 Daria's comments about their presentation as an presentation attendee05:39 Khylil's reflections on their conference presentation08:34 Call out for hiring Khylil or Turrell to present online or in person, especially considering the unique experiences of young, black Autistic men09:33 How this presentation differed from past presentations11:35 Khylil's upcoming work events 15:47 Daria's reaction to Khylil's work events including incarceration16:48 Turrell's upcoming work events18:33 Daria's reaction to Turrell's work events and how we can advocate for all Autistics even if we can't speak to the experience of all Autistics19:42 Khylil's work with police officers21:23 Khylil's experience with law enforcement and his mental break about it25:08 Daria highlighting the gravity of this experience for anyone, let alone Autistic, let alone with the intersectional of being Black and all of the prejudice that accompanies that, then the masking that happens and the toll that takes on one's mental health and emotional well-being26:55 The work of KultureCity 27:22 Turrell's reflections on being Black and Autistic30:07 Daria's comments on Autism awareness all year round and not just in April30:40 Khylil talking about Mental Health Awareness month in May and specifically Men's Mental Health Awareness in June and managing his responsibilities, including his experience of his tire blowing on the highway and the aftermath34:00 Daria's comments on Autistic rumination and the toll on mental health and the accumulation of traumatic experiences35:43 Turrell's reactions about these experiences37:02 Daria bringing up the last episode with KW that if someone describes their experience, believe them37:31 Khylil talks about Autistics sharing their stories and lived experiences39:04 Lightening up the topic to upcoming spring events and Autistic joy that can help to attempt to pull us out of our ruminations or suffering mental health experiences and her specific Autistic joy on display this episode41:31 Khylil's humorous description of his latest fun events 45:20 International travels46:15 Turrell's upcoming plans for the upcoming months47:48 Khylil's interest in the Michael Jackson biopic is strictly related to Sonic the Hedgehog and Daria has no idea what he means51:07 Turrell gives a teaser about the next episode51:52 Wrap-UpResources:KultureCity: Sensory Accessibility and Inclusion podcast episode ⁠https://affectautism.com/2021/10/16/kulturecity/⁠Dr. Gordon Neufeld podcast episode on emotional well-being ⁠https://affectautism.com/2023/03/04/well-being/⁠ Khylil's stellar artist referenceSexy Nerds Events ⁠https://sexynerds.net/⁠* Thank you to Hungarian recording artist ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Post Analog Disorder⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the intro/outro music permission: ⁠⁠https://postanalogdisorder.bandcamp.com/album/still-i-rise

Parenting feels so much harder than it should and this conversation explains why. In this powerful and unforgettable episode of The 1000 Hours Outside Podcast, Ginny Yurich sits down with Gordon Neufeld to talk about a critical shift that has changed childhood over the past many decades: kids turning to peers instead of parents for guidance, identity, and belonging. Drawing from his book Hold On to Your Kids, Dr. Neufeld shows why no parenting strategy can replace relationship, why independence has been misunderstood, and why the real work is getting your child's heart back. This one will change how you see behavior, discipline, screens, and even the pressure to “socialize” kids and it will leave you with a deep sense that it's not too late to rebuild what matters most. Get your copy of Hold On to Your Kids here Learn more about Dr. Neufeld and all he has to offer: https://neufeldinstitute.org Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A Better Alternative to High School. “Is there a better way?” Is high school truly preparing our kids for the real world—or quietly holding them back? In this episode, I share real conversations with teens, historical insights, and a bold alternative to the modern high school model. From rising illiteracy to peer-driven identity and wasted years, we unpack what's broken—and what parents can do instead. If you've ever wondered, “Is there a better way?” AI-generated video summary-  This discussion examines the history and impact of the modern high school system on adolescent development and academic preparation. Alternative pathways, such as apprenticeships and real-world skill building, are explored as methods to foster independence and maturity in teenagers.   Watch this video at- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z4OBAKZ8c5o School to Homeschool 34.2K subscribers 24,197 views Apr 14, 2026 School to Homeschool Podcast Referenced in the Episode: Attachment Episode: Lost your child's heart? Let's get them back—(Ep 109)     • Lost your child's heart? Let's get them ba...   ~Hold on to Your Kids by Drs. Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Mate: https://amzn.to/4tabke9 ~The Preparation by Doug Casey, Matt & Maxim Smith: https://amzn.to/3Q5UQW0 ~Episode on Attachment: Reclaiming the Hearts of Your Kids:     • Lost your child's heart? Let's get them ba...   SCHOOL TO HOMESCHOOL RESOURCES: ~New to Homeschooling? Start HERE:     • HOMESCHOOLING 101: Part 1: STATE LAWS--5 P...   ~Check Out My Links: https://linktr.ee/janaedaniels ~Sign Up for the School to Homeschool Newsletter: https://schooltohomeschool.com/signup... ~Instagram:    / schooltohomeschoolpodcast   ~Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?... ~Website: https://schooltohomeschool.com/ ~Contact Janae: janae@schooltohomeschool.com

Is high school truly preparing our kids for the real world—or quietly holding them back? In this episode, I share real conversations with teens, historical insights, and a bold alternative to the modern high school model. From rising illiteracy to peer-driven identity and wasted years, we unpack what's broken—and what parents can do instead. If you've ever wondered, "Is there a better way?"—this episode is for you! Hold on to Your Kids by Drs. Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Mate The Preparation by Doug Casey, Matt & Maxim Smith Episode on Attachment: Reclaiming the Hearts of Your Kids SCHOOL TO HOMESCHOOL RESOURCES:  Janae's Links for Vintage Books Sign Up for the School to Homeschool Newsletter School to Homeschool YouTube Channel CONNECT WITH US! Instagram Facebook janae@schooltohomeschool.com

Çocuklarınıza Tutunun 3 00:00 Çocukların Yörüngesi: Ebeveyn Mi Arkadaşlar Mı? 01:52 Samimiyetin Altı Seviyesi 05:01 Boşanmanın Çocuk Üzerindeki Etkisi 11:24 Kreş Ve Okul Sisteminin Etkisi 16:37 Azalan Aile Zamanı 19:35 Tüketim Kültürü Ve Alışveriş Merkezleri 22:43 Ebeveyn Çatışmalarının Çocuğa Etkisi 26:38 Provence Örneği: Bağ Kurma Kültürü 32:34 Bağların Doğası Ve Rekabet 34:25 Beş Aşamalı Meditasyon Bu bölümde Zeynep Aksoy, Gabor Maté ve Gordon Neufeld'in Hold On to Your Kids kitabını yorumlamaya devam ederek çocukların ebeveyn yörüngesinden arkadaş yörüngesine kaymasının nedenlerini ele alıyor. Kreş ve okul sisteminin yapısı, ebeveynlerin artan çalışma saatleri, boşanma, tüketim kültürü ve teknoloji gibi modern yaşam koşullarının çocukların bağ kurma biçimlerini nasıl etkilediğini inceliyor. Ayrıca Fransa'nın Provence bölgesinden verilen örnekle, kültürün ve topluluk yaşamının çocukların yetişkinlerle bağ kurmasını nasıl destekleyebileceğini anlatıyor. Bölümün sonunda ise ebeveynin önce kendiyle bağ kurmasının önemine değinerek dinleyicileri nefes temelli bir mindfulness meditasyonuna davet ediyor. Zeynep Aksoy, saygın bir yoga eğitmeni ve Reset platformunun kurucusudur. Web sitesi üzerinden canlı ve kayıttan izlenebilen dersler, üyelik programları ve profesyonel eğitimler sunmaktadır. Online Stüdyo üyeliği ile günlük çevrim içi derslere, geniş bir arşive ve topluluk desteğine erişim imkânı sağlar. Ayrıca Zeynep, katılımcıların hareket, anatomi ve farkındalık konularında bilgilerini derinleştirmelerine yardımcı olmak için yenilikçi Fasyal Yoga Uzmanlık Programı'nı yürütmektedir. Daha fazla bilgi almak ve sertifikalı eğitimlere katılmak için: www.zeynepaksoyreset.com

Çocuklarınıza Tutunun 2 00:08 Hold On To Your Kids Ve Bağ Kurmanın Önemi 01:15 Ebeveyn Yörüngesi Ve Arkadaş Yörüngesi 02:26 Ergenlikte Bağların Rekabeti 05:01 Davranış Problemi Mi Bağ Problemi Mi? 11:28 Benzeme Ve Kimlik Oluşumu 16:14 Modern Toplum Ve Bağ Kopuşu 25:50 “Köy” Kavramı Ve Yetişkin Ağı 27:19 Aile Yemekleri Ve Psikolojik Beslenme 31:22 Nesiller Arası Bağ Ve Kültür 33:55 Beş Aşamalı Meditasyon Bu bölümde Zeynep Aksoy, Gabor Maté ve Gordon Neufeld'in Hold On To Your Kids kitabından yola çıkarak çocukların gelişiminde bağ kurmanın önemini ele alıyor. Özellikle ergenlik döneminde çocukların ebeveynlerinden uzaklaşıp arkadaşlarına yönelmesinin nedenlerini açıklarken bunun çoğu zaman bir davranış problemi değil, rekabet eden bağların sonucu olduğunu anlatıyor. Modern toplumun yapısı, kreş sistemi, yoğun okul ortamı ve topluluk bağlarının zayıflaması gibi faktörlerin çocukların yörüngesini arkadaşlarına çevirmesine nasıl zemin hazırladığını inceliyor. Bölümün sonunda ise ebeveynin önce kendi iç dünyasıyla bağ kurmasının önemini vurgulayarak dinleyicileri beş aşamalı bir nefes meditasyonuna davet ediyor. Zeynep Aksoy, saygın bir yoga eğitmeni ve Reset platformunun kurucusudur. Web sitesi üzerinden canlı ve kayıttan izlenebilen dersler, üyelik programları ve profesyonel eğitimler sunmaktadır. Online Stüdyo üyeliği ile günlük çevrim içi derslere, geniş bir arşive ve topluluk desteğine erişim imkânı sağlar. Ayrıca Zeynep, katılımcıların hareket, anatomi ve farkındalık konularında bilgilerini derinleştirmelerine yardımcı olmak için yenilikçi Fasyal Yoga Uzmanlık Programı'nı yürütmektedir. Daha fazla bilgi almak ve sertifikalı eğitimlere katılmak için: www.zeynepaksoyreset.com

Çocuklarınıza Tutunun 1 00:08 Hold On To Your Kids Ve Kitabın Ana Fikri 02:20 Zeynep'in Kendi Çocukluk Ve Arkadaşlık Deneyimi 09:04 Arkadaş Odaklı Çocuklar Ve Ebeveynle Bağ 11:54 Davranış Problemi Değil, İlişki Problemi 21:25 Altı Bağlanma Yolu 41:00 Sağlıklı Ve Sağlıksız Bağlanma 44:02 Beş Aşamalı Meditasyon Bu bölümde Zeynep Aksoy, Gabor Maté ve Gordon Neufeld'in Hold On To Your Kids kitabından yola çıkarak çocukların neden öncelikle ebeveynlerine yönelmesinin daha sağlıklı olduğunu anlatıyor. Kendi çocukluk ve arkadaşlık deneyimlerinden örnek vererek, arkadaş ilişkilerinin aile bağlarının yerini almaya başladığında bunun çocuklar için nasıl kırılgan bir zemin oluşturabileceğini ele alıyor. Bölüm boyunca çocukların yaşadığı birçok zorluğun aslında bir davranış problemi değil, bir ilişki ve bağlanma problemi olduğunu vurgularken, bağ kurmanın altı temel yolunu açıklıyor. Son bölümde ise sağlıklı ve sağlıksız bağlanma farklarını özetleyip dinleyicileri beş aşamalı bir meditasyon pratiğine davet ediyor. Zeynep Aksoy, saygın bir yoga eğitmeni ve Reset platformunun kurucusudur. Web sitesi üzerinden canlı ve kayıttan izlenebilen dersler, üyelik programları ve profesyonel eğitimler sunmaktadır. Online Stüdyo üyeliği ile günlük çevrim içi derslere, geniş bir arşive ve topluluk desteğine erişim imkânı sağlar. Ayrıca Zeynep, katılımcıların hareket, anatomi ve farkındalık konularında bilgilerini derinleştirmelerine yardımcı olmak için yenilikçi Fasyal Yoga Uzmanlık Programı'nı yürütmektedir. Daha fazla bilgi almak ve sertifikalı eğitimlere katılmak için: www.zeynepaksoyreset.com

send us a text via Fan Mail!Our final segment in this mini-series, Dr. Deborah and I discuss what discipline is, understanding the developmental milestones of the child and viewing discipline in the context of connection, dignity and growth in maturity.00:53 - Giving a definition to discipline 4:05 - How do we learn our lessons?5:04 - Different perspectives and the root issue 6:15 - Does pain teach you?8:27 - Trust or fear based discipline 10:37 - Take the long view 12:23 - Vulnerability and dignity in relationship  16:42 - Emotional regulation programs, do they work?   22:31 - Big discipline issues and reclaiming the relationship 25:05 - When our caring is gone // taking care of ourselves  Dr. Deborah MacNamara (Website)As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers by Dr. Gordon Neufeld, Dr. Gabor MateRest, Play, Grow: Making Sense of Preschoolers (Or Anyone Who Acts Like One) by Dr. Deborah MacNamaraNourished: Connection, Food and Caring for Our Kids (And Everyone Else We Love) by Dr. Deborah MacNamaraTry these titles on audiobook with Audible free trial here. if not carrot and stick, then WHAT (blog post)growing things (blog post) Contact On Instagram at @make.joy.normal By email at makejoynormal@gmail.com Search podcast episodes by topic www.bonnielandry.ca Shop my recommended resources Thanks for listening to Make Joy Normal Podcast!

send us a text via Fan Mail!How do we make dealing with our kids behaviour easier? Dr. Deborah and I discuss key principles for strengthening connection and compliance in our children.  1:21 - Resilience is the fruit of good development 4:32 - Tears, sadness and facing futility7:15 - Make it safe to feel 11:46 - How our brain is shaped 15:22 - Show up, care and decide 20:06 - It's a relational problem 24:43 - Avoid coercion // Come alongside the resistance 27:33 - Kids who struggle with transitions 29:54 - Who's in charge? When a child tries to take the lead40:57 - Emotions, instinct and deep capacity to care 42:25 - Working ahead of a problem Dr. Deborah MacNamara (Website)As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Nourished: Connection, Food and Caring for Our Kids (And Everyone Else We Love) by Dr. Deborah MacNamaraRest, Play, Grow: Making Sense of Preschoolers (Or Anyone Who Acts Like One) by Dr. Deborah MacNamara Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers by Dr. Gordon Neufeld, Dr. Gabor Matecarrot and stick: letting go (blog post) With Audible Standard you can now select one audiobook a month for only $8.99/month and enjoy a free 30-day trial. More on that here.Contact On Instagram at @make.joy.normal By email at makejoynormal@gmail.com Search podcast episodes by topic www.bonnielandry.ca Shop my recommended resources Thanks for listening to Make Joy Normal Podcast!

send us a text via Fan Mail!In this first episode we focus on nurturing and loving relationships with our children. With very practical wisdom, Dr. Deborah helps us to care, connect and lead our children with grace.  1:12 - Dr. Deborah's work 3:53 - I need to know what to do with this child! 5:04 - Email from a mom : concerns about 4.5 year old  12:02 - When parenting feels like a nightmare // always tip toeing 14:50 - How can parents take the lead better? 18:14 - What do I do with a temper tantrum? 19:14 - If you're stuck  26:13 - Staying in the moment with your child // caring 29:04 - Adapting our language to attachment 33:55 - Curiosity to connection and care 37:20 - Simple strategies to connect and build relationships Dr. Deborah MacNamara (Website) As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Rest, Play, Grow: Making Sense of Preschoolers (Or Anyone Who Acts Like One) by Dr. Deborah MacNamaraNourished: Connection, Food and Caring for Our Kids (And Everyone Else We Love) by Dr. Deborah MacNamaraHold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers by Dr. Gordon Neufeld, Dr. Gabor MateMore podcast episodes featuring Dr. MacNamara: Rest, Play, Grow: Interview with Dr. Deborah MacNamara Nourished: an interview with Deborah MacNamara on her new book Contact On Instagram at @make.joy.normal By email at makejoynormal@gmail.com Search podcast episodes by topic www.bonnielandry.ca Shop my recommended resources Thanks for listening to Make Joy Normal Podcast!

Welcome to the Parenting Well podcast with Parent Engagement Network!  I am Dr. Shelly Mahon, your host and today's well source is Melissa Holland. Melissa Holland is a parenting coach, founder of Inner Wisdom Parenting, and a PEN Ambassador at SHMS who is passionate about helping parents raise emotionally healthy, resilient children, starting with themselves. Melissa works with parents of young children, particularly ages 5–10, helping them better understand what's really going on beneath behavior and how to respond with clarity, confidence, and connection. Through her coaching and workshops, she supports parents in tuning into both their child's inner world and their own, so discipline becomes less about control and more about growth, trust, and relationship. Grounded, compassionate, and deeply practical, Melissa's work empowers parents to slow down, listen differently, and parent from a place of intention rather than reactivity. Her approach reminds parents that they already have much of what they need. Sometimes they just need support accessing their inner wisdom. Melissa will be speaking at PEN's Stress & Anxiety Conference on Feb 28, 2026. Register Here In this podcast, we talk about: Tapping into your inner wisdom What is taking place developmentally for 5-10 year olds Neurodevelopment for this age group Frustration as the gap between our expectations and reality Key things that cause stress and anxiety during this phase of childhood Defiance as a symptom of excessive stress without the ability to understand and voice their feelings Difference between counter-willed and strong-willed Ways to recognize your child's triggers and modify your response Developing the capacity for self-compassion Resources Website App: Insight Timer Book: Hold On to Your Kids: Why  Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers by Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Mate Book: Self-Compassion for Parents LinkedIn

Inside, they explore:→ The reframe that changes everything: defiance isn't bad, it's healthy—and spicy kids don't value approval, they value impact, autonomy, and authenticity→ Why your own unhealed childhood wounds show up in how you parent (especially when your kid reminds you of a parent you struggled with)→ The Love List: marinating in what's beautiful about your child so you can bring a softened, warm body to the hardest parenting moments→ The Meltdown Manifesto: Mary's step-by-step guide to surviving tantrums without losing your calm (it's more about who you need to BE than what you need to DO)→ Why repair is just as important as the apology—and how asking "What was that like for you?" creates healing intimacy that builds lifelong connectionThis episode is full of practical scripts, real talk, and the kind of wisdom that only comes from being brought to your knees by a spicy kid—and choosing to heal yourself instead of trying to fix them.Resources & Links:Connect with Mary Van Geffen:→ Book: Parenting a Spicy One - https://www.maryvangeffen.com/parentingaspicyonebook→ Instagram: @maryvangeffen (Albiona mentioned loving her daily posts)→ 8-Week Program: Moms of Spicy Ones - https://www.maryvangeffen.com/moso Mentioned in This Episode:→ Hold On to Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld (the concept of "dancing your child to their tears")→ Raising Lions by Joe Newman (featured in a previous episode of The Parenting Reframe)→ The concept of ACE Score (Adverse Childhood Experiences)→ PARR Framework: Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect (and Repair)→ Albiona's PARR Journal (created for parents by request)Connect with Albiona:→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.comLoved this episode?Please rate, review, and share it with a parent in the trenches with a spicy one, a mom who's been told her kid is "too much," or anyone ready to stop pathologizing their child's fire and start doing the inner work instead.Because the truth is: these kids aren't broken. They're just wired differently. And when we heal ourselves, we get to delight in them exactly as they are.Until next time,Albiona

Getting teens to talk isn't about fixing their feelings—it's about creating emotional safety. In this episode, we talk about how parents can become a safe place for teens to open up, why advice often shuts conversations down, and how simple presence builds trust over time. We explore: Why availability matters more than schedules How listening without fixing changes everything Why side-by-side conversations work better than face-to-face How personality and timing affect when kids open up What Winnie-the-Pooh and Eeyore teach us about sitting with hard feelings If you've ever wondered why your teen says "nothing" or "I'm fine," this conversation will help you understand what they may actually be asking for. Hold on To Your Kids by Dr. Gordon Neufeld 109. Reclaiming the Hearts of Your Kids SCHOOL TO HOMESCHOOL RESOURCES:  Sign Up for the School to Homeschool Newsletter School to Homeschool YouTube Channel Instagram Want to Mentor 1:1 with Janae? Private Mentoring with Janae: Schedule a Free Discovery Call Contact Janae: janae@schooltohomeschool.com

When leadership breaks down, trust often disappears first — and without trust, connection is impossible. In this episode of Reclaim Your Life, U.S. Marine Officer, author, and leadership educator Olaolu Ogunyemi shares what he's learned about rebuilding trust when people stop listening, pushing back, or shutting down altogether.This conversation is for anyone who leads — at work, at home, or in their community — and feels the tension between discipline and empathy. Drawing from Marine leadership, personal wake-up moments, and real-world experience, Olaolu explores why control creates resistance, how empathy restores connection, and what it takes to lead with strength and humanity.Together, Olaolu and Irina unpack how trust is built (and rebuilt) through understanding, daily habits, and self-leadership — not authority alone. This episode offers grounded insight, practical perspective, and reassurance that leadership doesn't have to rely on force to be effective.In this episode, you'll explore:• Why people stop listening when trust is broken• How discipline and empathy can coexist in leadership• The role of self-awareness and insecurity in how we lead• How resistance signals disconnection — not failure• Daily practices that build resilience across body, mind, and spirit• Why connection always comes before influenceIf you've been feeling disconnected, stretched thin, or unsure how to lead in a way that inspires others to follow, this conversation offers a thoughtful reset — and a reminder that real leadership starts within.━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━

This week, we're revisiting our interview with Dr. Gabor Maté and Dr. Gordon Neufeld. In the revised edition of their book ⁠HOLD ONTO YOUR KIDS⁠, Dr. Maté and Dr. Neufeld explain the crucial importance of remaining attached to our children as they grow. Dr. Gordon Neufeld is an internationally renowned psychologist and foremost authority on child development, and founder of the Neufeld Institute. Dr. Gabor Maté is a renowned speaker and bestselling author, highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, stress and childhood development. Amy, Dr. Maté, and Dr. Neufeld discuss: Why "peer orientation" doesn't actually have to be the way things go How cultural shifts in society have accelerated the rise of peer orientation How we can reattach to our children and remain their most important role model Here's where else you can find Dr. Maté and Dr. Neufeld: gabormatemd (IG); @DrGaborMate (X); Gabor Maté (FB) @NeufeldInst (X); Neufeld Institute (FB) Buy HOLD ONTO YOUR KIDS:  https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9780375760280 Free resources from Dr. Gordon Neufeld: ⁠https://neufeldinstitute.org/resources/free/⁠  See presentations and talks from Gordon Neufeld: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@neufeldmedia⁠ Follow Dr. Gordon Neufeld's work on: Facebook:⁠ https://www.facebook.com/NeufeldInstitute⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/neufeldinstitute/ We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://www.whatfreshhellpodcast.com/p/promo-codes/ Get 50% Off Monarch Money, the all-in-one financial tool at ⁠www.monarchmoney.com/FRESH Ready to raise money-smart kids? Start now with your first month FREE at acornsearly.com/FRESH! Head to GigSalad.com and book some awesome talent for your next party, and let them know that What Fresh Hell sent you. Hold On to Your Kids, Gabor Maté parenting, Gordon Neufeld attachment theory, parent–child connection, child development, peer orientation, parenting teens, attachment parenting, emotional connection with kids, maintaining attachment with children, adolescent psychology, parenting challenges, family relationships, emotional intelligence in children, connection over correction, raising resilient kids, attachment and independence, conscious parenting, Neufeld Institute, parenting podcast, mom friends, funny moms, parenting advice, parenting experts, parenting tips, mothers, families, parenting skills, parenting strategies, parenting styles, busy moms, self-help for moms, manage kid's behavior, teenager, tween, child development, family activities, family fun, parent child relationship, decluttering, kid-friendly, invisible workload, default parent Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Gordon Neufeld is a developmental psychologist with over 50 years of clinical experience and a graduate degree from the University of British Columbia, where he taught psychology for 20 years. He is the author of the international bestseller "Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers", co-authored with Dr. Gabor Maté.His groundbreaking contributions to developmental psychology include the six stages of attachment development, the construct of counterwill, and his revolutionary understanding of how tears and futility drive human adaptation and transformation.In this profound conversation, Dr. Neufeld explains his attachment framework and why feeling futility is essential for both childhood development and adult healing.

Dr. Gordon Neufeld—developmental psychologist and author of Hold On to Your Kids—joins Jess to explain why our children's greatest need is not techniques, but relationship. Discover the true cost of peer orientation, the five relational needs that never expire, and the power of boredom, nature, and play to refuel connection. Neufeld shares how he won back his own daughters by removing competing attachments and rebuilding time, trust, and warmth. This is a field guide for modern parents who want practical language and steps to re-anchor family life—simple, profound, and deeply humane. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we are talking about one of my favorite topics ever, the roots of attachment.Nature's answer to separation is not independence. It is connection. Deep, steady, invisible roots that help our kids and us hold on even when we are apart.In this episode, I talk about the six layers of attachment that Dr. Gordon Neufeld describes, from the first root of the senses all the way down to being fully known and loved for who we are.We talk about:How attachment deepens each year of a child's lifeWhy separation feels so hard and what to do about itHow to strengthen connection when your child pulls awayWhat it means to experience separateness without losing togethernessThink of this one like a gardening episode for the heart. We are learning how to care for the roots that keep us connected no matter the distance.Grab your tea, take a breath, and let's dig in. Learn more here --> https://connectmethodparenting.comNext Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista

Kate McAllister describes how nervous system regulation shifts behavior from reaction to response. The conversation maps how stress patterns shape daily life, from parenting and school to refugee camps and co-regulation through rhythm and presence. Breath, movement, and sensory grounding become practical tools for returning the thinking brain online when fight, flight, or freeze take over.

ABOUT THE EPISODE:When a young person you love is struggling with substances or challenging behaviors, the instinct to fix everything can feel overwhelming. In this illuminating conversation, marriage and family therapist Todd Sarner brings decades of attachment science into sharp focus, and offers a roadmap for parents navigating the turbulent waters of adolescence. Drawing from his training with Dr. Gordon Neufeld and other attachment pioneers, Todd reveals why our kids' most hurtful behaviors often mask their deepest needs for connection. We explore the delicate dance between holding firm boundaries and maintaining compassion – what Todd beautifully describes as being both the "agent of futility" (clear limits) and the "angel of comfort" (empathy). We unpack why teenagers simultaneously push us away while desperately needing our presence, and how parents can invest in their own nervous systems to weather these storms.Perhaps most powerfully, Todd reminds us that attachment isn't about perfection – research shows secure relationships miss connection bids 50-60% of the time. It's about showing up consistently, even imperfectly, with the understanding that our love remains the most powerful intervention we have.You'll learn:Why sensitive kids often present as tough and disconnected – and how "defensive detachment" protects them from the pain of unmet connection needsThe critical difference between punishment and boundaries, and how to communicate limits while preserving relationshipHow to navigate the teenage paradox: their biological drive for independence colliding with their continued need for guidance and safetyPractical nervous system regulation techniques (including 4-7-8 breathing) that help parents stay grounded during explosive momentsWhy investing in your own self-care isn't selfish – it's essential preparation for holding space during your child's strugglesThe power of "bridging" – maintaining connection even through conflict, letting your child know that nothing can change your love for themEPISODE RESOURCES:Transformative Parenting websiteTodd's InstagramThis podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream CommunityLearn about The Stream, our private online community for momsFind us on Instagram hereFind us on YouTube hereDownload a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and AlcoholHopestream Community is a registered 501(c)3 nonprofit organization and an Amazon Associate. We may make a small commission if you purchase from our links.

This is one of my favorite topics to teach: the powerful emotional journey from mad to sad. In this episode, I talk about what Dr. Gordon Neufeld calls the path of adaptation, the incredible shift from frustration and resistance to sadness and surrender.I'll walk you through the “traffic circle” of big emotions, how our brains look for exits when things don't go our way, and why the second exit, the one where we change ourselves instead of the situation, is where emotional growth actually happens.We'll also talk about how to create the conditions for this kind of growth in our homes. What helps our kids and us feel safe enough to move through futility and into maturity? And why crying, real sad tears, is one of the most healing things we can do.If you've ever wondered how to help your child handle disappointment, rejection, or just plain “no,” this episode will help you see those moments as doorways to growth, not breakdowns to fix.Ready to go deeper with Connect Method Parenting? Join us for the October Pivot—an 8-week guided experience that transforms your parenting from correction to connection. Reserve your spot here → https://cmp.works/pivotNext Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista

I've shared these ideas across 100+ episodes, but I wanted them all in one place. These are the concepts that make Connect Method Parenting different, the foundation of everything we do inside League and what I teach on this podcast.I'm going through them fairly quickly in this episode, so if you want to go deeper on any of these, search the podcast or come ask me inside League during office hours.In this episode:Connection is your most powerful tool (and your child's most essential need)Why life is designed to be 50% amazing and 50% terrible, and why accepting this changes everythingIt only takes one person to improve a relationship, and that person is youYour brain will ruin your life if you don't supervise it (primitive brain vs. higher brain)Emotional maturity is spontaneous but not inevitable, here's how to create the conditions for itWhat you want matters more than other people's expectations of youHow you think about yourself literally creates the quality of your lifeEveryone is doing the best they can in the moment (yes, even when they ate the brownies)Nature knows what it's doing, trust the timingYour emotions come from your thoughts (not from your kids' behavior)A few things I mention:The baby powder blizzard of 2007 (my origin story)Hiking Machu Picchu with my daughter having a meltdownDr. Gordon Neufeld's work on attachment and emotional maturationThe Daily Peace process we do inside LeagueThe "More emotion, less feeling" conceptWant to go deeper?These ideas are just the beginning. Inside League (my coaching program), we take these concepts and actually apply them to your real life, your kids, your triggers, your specific situations. Learn more at https://cmp.works/pivotIf you've been enjoying the podcast, I'd love it if you'd leave a review. It helps get Connect Method Parenting out to more parents who need it.Talk soon! Go connect with your kids.Join me for the No Yell Workshop, a 2-hour live class where you'll learn the real reason parents yell and walk away with a customized plan to stop. Happening Sept 25th at noon ET (with replay included)

What does it mean to be a compassionate alpha as a parent? It's not about being harsh or domineering, and it's not about being passive or permissive either. It's about finding that steady, sturdy ground between strength and warmth.In this episode, I unpack the term Compassionate Alpha (learned from Dr. Gordon Neufeld) and share why kids need a parent who can lead with both firmness and kindness. You'll hear why being “too soft” spikes a child's anxiety, why being “too hard” erodes trust, and how calm, confident leadership creates the safety kids need in order to just be kids.We'll explore:What a compassionate alpha parent really looks like in actionWhy connection must come before correctionHow sturdy leadership calms a child's nervous systemThe dangers of swinging to either extreme — passive or authoritarianPractical ways to embody calm, kind authority (even when you mess up)When you step into this role, your child can rest. They don't have to take charge. They don't have to fight for your attention or protection. They know you've got them. And that's the soil where trust, maturity, and deep connection grow.Tune in to learn how to lead with confidence and compassion — sturdy and kind, the way your kids need you most.Ready to go deeper with Connect Method Parenting? Join us for the October Pivot—an 8-week guided experience that transforms your parenting from correction to connection. Reserve your spot here → https://cmp.works/pivotNext Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast My Book: https://cmp.works/1xs My IG: https://cmp.works/ista

Physician and bestselling author Gabor Maté and psychologist Gordon Neufeld talk about their latest book.

Bridging Separation at Bedtime with Dr. Gordon Neufeld ⁠@neufeldinstitute⁠ This week Rachael has a very special guest, Dr. Gordon Neufeld, to discuss the importance of attachment and the challenges parents face when it comes to bedtime and sleep. Dr. Neufeld is a renowned authority on child development and you will learn so much in this powerful episode! Here's what they discuss inside this important episode: How attachment is a fundamental aspect of child development Learn all about Dr. Neufeld's Model of the Six Stages of Attachment The crucial role parents play in providing the necessary conditions for children to grow up and develop their capacity to hold on when apart Why is society so focused on independence?! How quick-fix strategies often overlook the importance of preserving the connection between parents and children Bedtime challenges and separation struggles How parents can support their children by bridging the separation at bedtime And so much more!  Dr. Neufeld has accumulated more than 40 years of experience as a clinical psychologist with children and youth and those responsible for them. A foremost authority on child development, Dr. Neufeld continues to be an international speaker, a best-selling author and a leading interpreter of the developmental paradigm. Dr. Neufeld has a widespread reputation for making sense of complex problems and for opening doors for change. While formerly involved in university teaching and private practice, he has devoted the best part of the last two decades to creating courses for parents, teachers and helping professionals. These courses are offered primarily through the Neufeld Institute – an online educational institute and world-wide charitable organization devoted to applying developmental science to the task of raising children. Dr. Neufeld's life's work has been to help adults provide the conditions for children to flourish. He is a father of five and a grandfather to seven. Mentioned in this episode: Free resources from Dr. Gordon Neufeld: ⁠https://neufeldinstitute.org/resources/free/⁠ Online conference with Dr. Neufeld: The Current Crisis of Well-Being: What's Happening to Our Kids? ⁠https://neufeldinstitute.org/conference-2024/⁠ See presentations and talks from Gordon Neufeld:  ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@neufeldmedia⁠ Follow Dr. Gordon Neufeld's work on: Facebook:⁠ https://www.facebook.com/NeufeldInstitute⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/neufeldinstitute/⁠ Dr. Neufeld's Book: Hold Onto Your Kids ⁠https://neufeldinstitute.org/resources/hold-on-to-your-kids-book/⁠  If you enjoyed this episode, please rate 5⭐️ and write us a review! ⬇️ ✨For sleep support and resources, visit⁠ heysleepybaby.com⁠ and follow⁠ @heysleepybaby⁠ on Instagram!

Primul episod din seria ParentED te introduce în lumea parentingului conștient, bazat pe cercetările lui Gordon Neufeld, Daniel Siegel și Gabor Maté. Diana și Bogdan Bălan, fondatorii ParentED Fest, dezvăluie cum teoria atașamentului poate transforma relația părinte-copil.DESPRE CE VEI ÎNVĂȚA:Cele 6 etape de atașament ale lui Gordon NeufeldDe ce cortexul prefrontal se maturizează abia la 25 de aniDiferența între a fi răspunsul copilului vs. a avea răspunsuriCum să pui limite sănătoase fără să rupi conexiuneaPrincipiul futilității: de la furie la tristețeSecretul "iubirii extravagante" fără răsfățINVITAȚI:- Diana Bălan, Master în Psihologie și Neuroștiința Sănătății Mintale (Kings College), Sleep Specialist.- Bogdan Bălan, Avocat devenit părinte conștient, co-fondator ParentED FestRESURSE MENȚIONATE:Gordon Neufeld, "Hold On to Your Kids"Daniel Siegel, Neuropsihiatru, cercetător în dezvoltarea cerebralăGabor Maté, Specialist în trauma și atașamentDr. Shefali, "Familia Fericită"PARENTED FEST 2025:4-5 Octombrie | parentedfest.roWorkshop cu Gordon Neufeld | Daniel Siegel în RomâniaCITATE CHEIE:"Parentingul nu e despre copil, e despre părinte""Nu poți să iubești prea mult un copil""Copilul trebuie să rămână vulnerabil pentru a păstra relația"Acest episod este creat în colaborare cu ParentED Fest și produs și distribuit cu susținerea LIDL.

Can you apply the Dahl technique to localised POSTERIOR wear? Spoiler alert: hell yeah! How can the Dahl Technique help when there is posterior wear and NO space to restore? How predictable is building up posterior teeth (rather than the usual worn anteriors)? In this episode, Jaz dives into the ‘Reverse Dahl Technique', a twist on the classic method typically used for localized anterior wear. Dr. Hans Kristian Ognedal from Norway shares his insights, explaining how building up posterior teeth with composite can lead to occlusion magic!  If you're curious about this technique and want to see a real-life case study, this episode breaks it all down, with a special visual breakdown for those watching on YouTube or Protrusive Guidance. https://youtu.be/V8MTFfXmdlw Watch PDP235 on Youtube Protrusive Dental Pearl: Jaz shares insights from Hold On to Your Kids by Dr. Gordon Neufeld & Dr. Gabor Maté, emphasizing how modern children lose parental attachment too soon, turning to peers for guidance. This shift can lead to anxiety and emotional disconnection.  Takeaway: Kids thrive when their primary attachment remains with parents, not peers. Strengthening this bond is crucial for healthy development.  Key Takeaways The traditional Dahl principle focuses on creating occlusal space for anterior crowns. The reverse Dahl technique is a direct method for treating worn POSTERIOR teeth. Diet plays a significant role in tooth wear and dental health. Taking photographs of patients' teeth can help track wear over time. Understanding the etiology of tooth wear is crucial for effective treatment. Building up dental anatomy is essential for successful restorations. Occlusion should be viewed as a dynamic system rather than a static one.  Patients can adapt well to this treatment modality “Patients that wear their teeth, they don't usually have TMJ problems.” Highlights of this episode: 02:22  Protrusive Dental Pearl 04:50 Guest Introduction: Dr. Hans Kristian Ognedal 07:06 Understanding the Original Dahl Concept 09:31 Exploring Reverse Dahl Technique 13:30 Etiology and Patterns of Tooth Wear 23:46 Facial Patterns and Occlusal Traits Linked to Wear 24:44 Clinical Approach to Posterior Wear 30:26 Patient Comfort and Staging Treatments 32:11 Cuspal Planes and Guidance 34:21 Review Schedule and Observations 38:44 Longevity of Treatments 44:04 Contraindications and Patient Selection  45:24 Case Studies and Practical Tips 49:30 Night Guard Use 53:06 Final Thoughts and Education Opportunities If you want to learn more about Dahl Technique, be sure to listen/watch: Why do some Dentists find Dahl Distasteful? – PDP016 Dahl Part 2 (The Spicy Bit) – PDP017 Dahl Technique and ‘Maryland Bridges' – GF001 This episode is eligible for 1 CE credit via the quiz on Protrusive Guidance. This episode meets GDC Outcomes B and C. AGD Subject Code: 180 OCCLUSION (Occlusal functional concepts) Aim: To explore and understand the Reverse Dahl Technique, focusing on its application for patients with localized posterior tooth wear. This technique provides a solution when posterior teeth are worn, and there is insufficient space for proper restoration. Dentists will be able to - 1. Understand the principles behind the Reverse Dahl Technique and how it differs from the traditional Dahl Technique. 2. Identify the clinical scenarios where the Reverse Dahl Technique can be applied. 3. Comprehend the role of composite build-up in restoring posterior wear and its impact on occlusal reestablishment.

Can you apply the Dahl technique to localised POSTERIOR wear? Spoiler alert: hell yeah! How can the Dahl Technique help when there is posterior wear and NO space to restore? How predictable is building up posterior teeth (rather than the usual worn anteriors)? In this episode, Jaz dives into the ‘Reverse Dahl Technique', a twist on the classic method typically used for localized anterior wear. Dr. Hans Kristian Ognedal from Norway shares his insights, explaining how building up posterior teeth with composite can lead to occlusion magic!  If you're curious about this technique and want to see a real-life case study, this episode breaks it all down, with a special visual breakdown for those watching on YouTube or Protrusive Guidance. https://youtu.be/V8MTFfXmdlw Watch PDP235 on Youtube Protrusive Dental Pearl: Jaz shares insights from Hold On to Your Kids by Dr. Gordon Neufeld & Dr. Gabor Maté, emphasizing how modern children lose parental attachment too soon, turning to peers for guidance. This shift can lead to anxiety and emotional disconnection.  Takeaway: Kids thrive when their primary attachment remains with parents, not peers. Strengthening this bond is crucial for healthy development.  Need to Read it? Check out the Full Episode Transcript below! Key Takeaways The traditional Dahl principle focuses on creating occlusal space for anterior crowns. The reverse Dahl technique is a direct method for treating worn POSTERIOR teeth. Diet plays a significant role in tooth wear and dental health. Taking photographs of patients' teeth can help track wear over time. Understanding the etiology of tooth wear is crucial for effective treatment. Building up dental anatomy is essential for successful restorations. Occlusion should be viewed as a dynamic system rather than a static one.  Patients can adapt well to this treatment modality “Patients that wear their teeth, they don't usually have TMJ problems.” Highlights of this episode: 02:22  Protrusive Dental Pearl 04:50 Guest Introduction: Dr. Hans Kristian Ognedal 07:06 Understanding the Original Dahl Concept 09:31 Exploring Reverse Dahl Technique 13:30 Etiology and Patterns of Tooth Wear 23:46 Facial Patterns and Occlusal Traits Linked to Wear 24:44 Clinical Approach to Posterior Wear 30:26 Patient Comfort and Staging Treatments 32:11 Cuspal Planes and Guidance 34:21 Review Schedule and Observations 38:44 Longevity of Treatments 44:04 Contraindications and Patient Selection  45:24 Case Studies and Practical Tips 49:30 Night Guard Use 53:06 Final Thoughts and Education Opportunities If you want to learn more about Dahl Technique, be sure to listen/watch: Why do some Dentists find Dahl Distasteful? – PDP016 Dahl Part 2 (The Spicy Bit) – PDP017 Dahl Technique and ‘Maryland Bridges' – GF001 This episode is eligible for 1 CE credit via the quiz on Protrusive Guidance. This episode meets GDC Outcomes B and C. AGD Subject Code: 180 OCCLUSION (Occlusal functional concepts) Aim: To explore and understand the Reverse Dahl Technique, focusing on its application for patients with localized posterior tooth wear. This technique provides a solution when posterior teeth are worn, and there is insufficient space for proper restoration. Dentists will be able to – 1. Understand the principles behind the Reverse Dahl Technique and how it differs from the traditional Dahl Technique. 2. Identify the clinical scenarios where the Reverse Dahl Technique can be applied. 3. Comprehend the role of composite build-up in restoring posterior wear and its impact on occlusal reestablishment.

Are your kids drifting more toward their peers than toward you? In this episode, we dive into how to build lasting emotional connection with your children by prioritizing parental attachment over peer orientation—a concept championed by experts like Dr. Gordon Neufeld and Dr. Gabor Maté. We share real-life stories from our homeschool journey, raising stepchildren, and overcoming attachment challenges that so many modern families face. Learn how peer pressure quietly steals influence from parents—and what you can do to reclaim your role as the secure base your child needs.

AMDG. In a continuation of last week's episode, Lisa Popcak shares her advice for new homeschooling families, including what aspects of education matter most and what worked in her own family. “I had promised her… you will be 100% fine,” Lisa recalled. “And sure enough, she got recruited by her college… and got almost a full ride to be a pre-med student.”     Lisa reflects on her children leaving the home for college, navigating hard seasons in the home, liturgical living, and so much more.     Kolbecast episodes mentioned & relevant:  261 Flow & Connection through Learning, the first part of our conversation with Lisa Popcak  255 Family Life as Liturgy with Dr. Greg Popcak  131 It's All about Relationship with Danielle Bean  62 Due Diligence with Darren Jones of the Homeschool Legal Defense Association (HSLDA)  105 Not Just for Special Occasions  Related links:   CatholicHOM (Households on Mission)  CatholicCounselors.com  More2Life Radio & podcasts  Books by Dr. Greg & Lisa Popcak  Momfidence podcast  BeDADitudes podcast  Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More than Peers by Gordon Neufeld & Gabor Maté  Books by the Popcaks mentioned in this conversation:  Discovering God Together: The Catholic Guide to Raising Faithful Kids  Parenting Kids with Grace (birth to age 10)  Parenting Your Teens and Tweens with Grace  Once upon a Lifetime Podcast  Have questions or suggestions for future episodes or a story of your own experience that you'd like to share? We'd love to hear from you! Send your thoughts to podcast@kolbe.org and be a part of the Kolbecast odyssey.   We'd be grateful for your feedback! Please share your thoughts with us via this Kolbecast survey!  The Kolbecast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and most podcast apps. By leaving a rating and review in your podcast app of choice, you can help the Kolbecast reach more listeners. The Kolbecast is also on Kolbe's YouTube channel (audio only with subtitles).  Using the filters on our website, you can sort through the episodes to find just what you're looking for. However you listen, spread the word about the Kolbecast! 

AMDG. Catholic podcaster and co-founder/vice-president of  CatholicCounselors.comLisa Popcak shares her wisdom on homeschooling and raising children in the faith. Lisa advocates for “flow” rather than structure in the homeschool day and paints a picture of what a rich— but achievable— prayer life looks like in a busy home. “We have to get away from the idea that our prayer life has to be rigorous,” Lisa says. “If our children are called to a rigorous monastic life, God will give them the grace for that. We have many saints who were… and many saints who went a different way.”     Kolbecast episodes mentioned & relevant:  255 Family Life as Liturgy with Dr. Greg Popcak  131 It's All about Relationship with Danielle Bean  Related links:   CatholicHOM (Households on Mission)  CatholicCounselors.com  More2Life Radio & podcasts  Books by Dr. Greg & Lisa Popcak  Momfidence podcast  BeDADitudes podcast  Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More than Peers by Gordon Neufeld & Gabor Maté  Have questions or suggestions for future episodes or a story of your own experience that you'd like to share? We'd love to hear from you! Send your thoughts to podcast@kolbe.org and be a part of the Kolbecast odyssey.   We'd be grateful for your feedback! Please share your thoughts with us via this Kolbecast survey!  The Kolbecast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and most podcast apps. By leaving a rating and review in your podcast app of choice, you can help the Kolbecast reach more listeners. The Kolbecast is also on Kolbe's YouTube channel (audio only with subtitles).  Using the filters on our website, you can sort through the episodes to find just what you're looking for. However you listen, spread the word about the Kolbecast! 

Are you struggling to connect with your teenager in the digital age? Dr. Gabor Maté and Dr. Gordon Neufeld join Reena & Dr. Lisa to reveal groundbreaking insights into parent-child relationships, tech addiction, and the secret to maintaining a strong bond during the challenging teen years. Discover the neuroscience of attachment, the dangers of digital devices, and how to create a warm, supportive environment that helps teens thrive. This episode is a must-listen for any parent feeling lost or frustrated in the parenting journey. We want to hear from you! What's your biggest challenge in connecting with your teenager? Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers: https://neufeldinstitute.org/resources/hold-on-to-your-kids-book/ Learn more about Children & Screens. ________________ “Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Parenting” is the essential podcast for parents seeking expert guidance, tested strategies, and psychological insights on raising kids, especially tweens and teens. Join renowned clinical psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and former journalist and mom of two Reena Ninan as they explore real-life parenting challenges.  Looking to learn more about how to boost kids' resilience, build their confidence, or support their emotional well-being? Dr. Lisa and Reena have got you covered! Together they address listener questions about stress, anxiety, social media concerns, school pressures, and challenges in peer relationships. Each episode provides practical advice and science-backed solutions to help parents raise resilient, confident, and emotionally healthy kids. Tune in every week for the latest topics in parenting, child psychology, and family wellness. Get answers to your most pressing parenting questions. New episodes drop every Tuesday.  Check out our Ask Lisa Podcast Playlists. Binge specific topics like Raising Sons, Staying Connected to Your Teen: https://www.youtube.com/@asklisapodcast/playlists ________________ Episode Keywords: attachment, digital addiction, neuroscience, family relationships, communication, social media, parenting tips, dr gordon neufeld, dr gabor maté, hold on to your kids Show Keywords: ask lisa podcast, dr lisa damour, reena ninan, psychology, parenting, podcast, teens, tweens, parenting teens, parenting tweens, teen parenting, tween parenting, parenting tips, parenting advice, positive parenting, parenting podcast, teen behavior, tween challenges, raising tweens, raising teens, parenting hacks, parenting help, family dynamics, kids podcast, mental health, teen mental health, attachment styles, emotional intelligence

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send us a text via Fan Mail!Such a pleasure to welcome Dr. Gordon Neufeld, author of the book Hold On to Your Kids of which I have discussed frequently on this podcast and creator of the Neufeld Institute. We discuss the heart of attachment parenting, common misconceptions, and in depth on our need for connection and relationship.  00:40 - Welcome and introduction4:02 - Attachment misconceptions5:45 - Your child's best bet 8:11 - Continuity of connection  10:12 - Grace applied to parenting 12:21 - Facing togetherness not separation  17:43 - Growing pains and healing19:32 - Peer orientation 26:43 - Becoming the answer to your children 28:15 - Our need for togetherness 32:50 - Social media, technology and screens 36:02 - Knowing our children  38:57 - Messiness is okay 40:27 - Upset is normal and natural46:50 - How we build resilience50:34 - Concise understanding of attachmentAs an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Hold On to Your Kids by Dr. Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Mate Neufeld Institute | Gordon Neufeld PhDNeufeld Institute Free Resources Support the showContact On Instagram at @make.joy.normal By email at makejoynormal@gmail.com Search podcast episodes by topic Thanks for listening to Make Joy Normal Podcast!

Motherkind Moment is your place for calm and connection and a shift in perspective before the week ahead.  Today we're joined by world-leading child psychologist Dr. Gordon Neufeld who discusses the essence of parenting. He explains why confidence is key in our relationships with our partners and our children. For more powerful insights from Dr Gordon Neufeld listen to the full episode here: How to raise emotionally healthy children Click Here to order your copy of 'Motherkind: A New way to thrive in a world of endless expectations' Motherkind is sponsored by Wild Nutrition, the brand raising the bar for women's supplements. Want to feel the Food-Grown difference yourself? Get 50% off for three months at wildnutrition.com/motherkind. Ts and Cs apply. For a £100 sponsored job credit visit Indeed.com/ Motherkind This show is sponsored by Usborne books. If you want to add a little extra joy to storytime, 'Don't Tickle' touchy-feely sound books are available now from all good booksellers. This show is sponsored by Yeo Valley. Find Your Daily Groove: visit the Yeo Valley website to find out more. Yeo Got This! This show is sponsored by FreePrints. Download the Free Prints app for iPhone and Android from the App store or Google Play or visit freeprints.co.uk. Continue the Conversation: Join our community over on Instagram for inspiration, tips, and sometimes a bit of humour to get us through our day - @zoeblaskey Join our mailing list to receive news, updates and new episode releases Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We want to build a family that feels close and connected, but how do we know when the boundaries in our relationships are too porous? Here's what family enmeshment means, what it looks like, and how to look for signs of enmeshment in our relationships with our kids. Amy and Margaret discuss: The family systems theory and how it relates to enmeshment How clear boundaries create safety in relationships How enmeshment in family dynamics affects stress tolerability Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode: Melissa Porrey for VeryWell: What Is Enmeshment, and How Do You Set Boundaries? Sharon Martin, for Psych Central: The Enmeshed Family System: What It Is and How to Break Free Jesse L. Coe et. al for Journal of Family Psychology: Family Cohesion and Enmeshment Moderate Associations between Maternal Relationship Instability and Children's Externalizing Problems Our Fresh Take with Gabor Maté and Gordon Neufeld, authors of Hold On to Your Kids: WHY PARENTS NEED TO MATTER MORE THAN PEERS We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://www.whatfreshhellpodcast.com/p/promo-codes/ What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Margaret Ables and Amy Wilson. mom friends, funny moms, parenting advice, parenting experts, parenting tips, mothers, families, parenting skills, parenting strategies, parenting styles, busy moms, self-help for moms, manage kid's behavior, teenager, tween, child development, family activities, family fun, parent child relationship, decluttering, kid-friendly, invisible workload, default parent, cognitive labor, emotional labor, mental load, second shift, family meeting, partners, marriage, spouse, relationships, couples, enmeshment, family enmeshment