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Send us a textShould you leave early Relationship and heal or stay single until you find someone who is securely attached? Is it that simple? Better yet, would it be best to heal your attachment style while still in a relationship or while waiting for someone who is securely attached, I believe that might be a better bet and in this podcast, I share how to attachment styles or formulated so that you have a better understanding of the work that you're gonna wanna do in order to heal that attachment style and find yourself that securely attached partner.Support the show

Send us a textOne of the most taught after answers in our time now is how to manage a relationship with an Avoidant Attached person and, what is really going on in their minds. This episode helps and Avoidant Attached person understand themselves better as well as starter healing journey. It also helps those who are interested in understanding and appreciating their Avoidant Attached friends and Partner Better.Dropping the comment section how this particular episode changed your perspective.Support the show

Send us a textThis is a recording of the regular Wednesday live Instagram. On today's episode we answered these questions

Send us a textI forgive you' doesn't mean ‘I trust you yet.' Why true forgiveness demands time, boundaries, and self-grace. A raw look at healing after betrayal.Forgiveness isn't about speed-it's about strength. Why granting a second chance requires giving yourself grace first. Explore the art of forgiving on your terms, setting boundaries, and reclaiming power after betrayal. Because true healing can't be rushed. Support the show

Send us a textIt's easy for someone to look at your relationship and think that it should not be lasting as long as it does. You may even know that the relationship your end should end and you don't know why you haven't left us yet. Or perhaps you did find a courage and strength to walk away from it but you still wonder if they'll come back and if things could work out differently or as you hope. Why does this happen?In this episode, we are looking at why we logically know the relationship should end but why our emotions keep us stuck. And at the end of this episode, you are going to have tips that you could use to move forward.Feel free to leave a comment in the review section and let me know what your thoughts are on this episode. And don't forget to share with a friend.Support the show

Send us a textEvery Wednesday, I have a Live on Instagram where I answer questions sent in by followers on that platform. Here is a recorded copy of it. The questions answered are below. You can also catch the recording on my YouTube channel. How to bring back an ex in the relationship when she is not ready to come in the relationship with me. It's confusing of what to do when someone comes back after 1-2 weeks. How do I respond?He says he doesn't know if he can live without me but says he is unable to connect. What should I do? My fiancé dumped me 8 weeks before marriage. He says we are not compatible. What should I do? How can you tell why an avoidant reached out after months of no contact? Why does avoidant discard in friendships hurt as much as romantic relationships?How to get true reciprocation from my avoidant attached partner instead of breadcrumbs?Support the show

Send us a textHere's a story you've lived before, even if you don't realize it yet.You meet someone. The connection is immediate, intoxicating—like a chemical reaction you can't control. The texts flow effortlessly. The future feels possible. Then, without warning, the shift: one of you pulls back. The other panics. And just like that, you're locked in the oldest romantic pattern in human psychology—the anxious-avoidant dance.This isn't just about bad timing or mismatched feelings. This is about how our earliest experiences wire us to love in ways that hurt.And if you don't understand the mechanism, you'll keep stepping on the same landmine, wondering why it keeps exploding.Support the show

Send us a textAbout 10 questions were answered on my usual Wednesday morning Instagram live, which has been uploaded here for your benefit. Some of the questions answered are

Send us a texttoday we switched it up a little and decided to share my Instagram Wednesday live answers with you here on this podcast.Feel free to send me your questions which will be answered on that live and you could also catch the answers here or leave me a comment and let me know your take on this podcastSupport the show

Send us a textIs My Ex Posting More on Social Media to Get My Attention?It's hard to ignore when your ex suddenly becomes extra active online—posting more selfies, sharing moody quotes, or even liking old photos. You start wondering: Is this for me? Are they trying to send a message? Maybe they're seeking validation, or perhaps they're subtly trying to grab your attention because they feel neglected. Social media can become a silent battleground for unspoken needs, and their increased activity might be a sign they want you to notice something.But before jumping to conclusions, consider the bigger picture. Are they generally more active online, or does it seem targeted (like posting when you're distant or after an argument)? Some people use social media as an outlet when they're feeling insecure or disconnected. Instead of reading too much into their posts, the best move might be to focus on what you want right now.At the end of the day, social media is just a highlight reel, not the full story. If you're sensing a shift in their behavior, trust your gut—but don't let assumptions drive your fear to jump in and connect, Espacilly if you want them to show up differently (make a bolder effort to communicate) . (Thoughts? How does this vibe with your situation?)Support the show

Send us a textYou value your independence, need plenty of space, and rarely rely on others—it's just how you're wired. But what if your ‘normal' way of handling relationships is actually pushing love away and leaving you feeling lonelier than ever? Avoidant attachment might be protecting you in the short term, but it could be sabotaging your deepest connections—and even hurting you in ways you don't realize. In this episode, we'll break down the subtle ways avoidant behaviors damage relationships, why self-reliance can backfire, and most importantly—how to start showing up differently without losing yourself.Support the show

Send us a textIf you're worried that you'll never have a secure attachment to be in a relationship, you're not alone. However, it's a lie as it's possible to become securely attached enough to have a healthy and fulfilling relationship. This episode gives your tops as I share some how I use these tools in my very own relationships. Support the show

Send us a textDo you find that it's confusing to know exactly what your partner wants? If your answer is yes, then this is the episode for you. Welcome to Decoding Attachment Style, the podcast where we dive deep into the art of building healthier, more fulfilling connections - with others and with yourself. Hosted by Annalisa Bahadur, a relationship coach and attachment style expert, this show is your guide to understanding the patterns that shape your relationships and transforming them into sources of joy and growth.In this episode, I am sharing some of my greatest life lessons that has helped me to build better relationships. Grab a pen and notebook and your favorite drink. Support the show

Send us a textWhy and Avoidant Attached pulls away when you ask for validation and what you can do. This Podcast addresses that.Grab your pen and paper because this is going to be a podcast that helps you to give yourself the validation and build a happy and healthy relationship with your Avoidant Attached partner.Support the show

Send us a textIn this episode, we dive into the complexities of navigating boundaries and expectations after a breakup between an anxious and avoidant attachment style. Join me as we explore the challenges of reaching out, the importance of self-awareness, and how to set healthy boundaries while honoring your emotional needs. Whether you're reflecting on past relationships or seeking clarity in the present, this episode offers insights into healing and growth after attachment-driven dynamics.Support the show

Send us a textYou've probably been trying to set boundaries with your Avoidant Attached partner for a while now, but feel like you're not getting anywhere. Or perhaps you make a little bit of progress when you're upset and you see a little bit of change but then things go right back to way they were.I get it. It's frustrating. You've probably even thought that you can't do this anymore and you're probably emotionally exhausted with it all.This episode talks about why boundary setting isn't working and how you can actually get it to work.Support the show

Send us a textLearning about the avoidance attachment,  to be one of the hottest topics. This episode helps us to uncover everything we need to know about our Avoidant Attached partners.Feel free to share and comment.Support the show

Send us a textMany times we think that we have to set our boundaries by speaking up. What I find is that by showing our boundaries we get more results. In this  ISupport the show

Send us a textIt can be heartbreaking when we are rejected when making an attempt to be physically close to a partner. In this episode, I answer one of your questions on if sexual desires differ as per attachment style, and what to do when a partner rejects your initiations for physical intimacy. Don't forget to follow me across social media for more on attachment styles. Support the show

Send us a textIt is frustrating when our partner knows what we need, and they are still unable, sometimes unwilling, to provide that for us. Are they responsible for how we feel and how can we go about our lives in the relationship when they are still unable to step up? This Podcast answers that question.Another question answered here is, how much does being a premature baby add to our anxious attachment or our avoid attachment.Feel free to reach out with any question/s you may have. Support the show

Send us a textWe may be adding pressure to the relationship without even realizing it. Sometimes it's difficult for us to balance our work and our relationship, as relationships by itself is a difficult to navigate and manage. This episode helps us to understand what can go on the mind of an Avoidant Attached person when they're feeling too overwhelmed, and what may be the reason they may choose to end a relationship. Help us to navigate to our own emotions.Feel free to follow me across social media for more on attachment and send me your questions that I may answer them.Support the show

Send us a textHealing, our insecurities, can go a very far away and helping our relationships to flourish. Insecurities can add a burden on the relationship and can lead to an inevitable end.This podcast covers how we could heal our insecurities which are linked to our attachment styles. This podcast will give you tips and exercises to do as well as explain why these work. Feel free to follow me across social media for everything related to being more aware of our attachment styles and healing them.Support the show

Send us a textIt can be confusing when you're with someone who's got to avoid attachment style and they're acting like what we believe a narcissist would act like. This episode clears that up for us and helps us to embrace the person with an avoidant attachment style with compassion, and run as far away as we can from someone who's got a narcissistic personality disorder.Support the show

Send us a textThis is a common phenomenon that most people with an anxious attachment style will experience if they dated someone with an avoidant attachment style. That is of the Avoidant Attached person suddenly running away after a conflict or breaking up. It can be really confusing for their partner and this episode helps us to appreciate why they do it and what we can do. Support the show

Send us a textThis episode helps you to appreciate why and Avoidant Attached person may feel overwhelmed with text messaging and what it means when they don't respond right away. This episode also helps you to make some decisions through awareness and how to approach texting with an Avoidant Attached partner.Support the show

It's tricky to know when to reach out to an avoidant attached partner. This  episode.  helps you to make that decision, but also talks about whites. Important to stay away and what happens in the minds of an avoidant attached partner as they're taking space. It also helps you to appreciate what you can do in this time. Feel free to follow me across social media for more attachment styles or you can visit my website for articles. Feel free to send me your questions and share this episode if you found helpful. Support the show

Avoidance styles play significant role in shaping our behaviors and interactions in relationships. Individuals with an avoidant attachment style, may struggle with intimacy, emotional closeness, leading to challenges and maintaining healthy connections with their partners. One common issue that may arise as infidelity or cheating with Relationship.Understanding why someone with an avoidant attachment style may cheat requires a closer look at their underlying motivations and behaviors.This podcast aims to address that  question. Support the Show.

You're probably trying to understand why it is your partner does not engage in conflict or worse, they walk away when a conflict begins. What can even be a little more confusing as when they return without discussing the problem at all; pretending like it never happened in the first place.This episode tries to bring about some awareness to what happens in the mind of those with an avoidant attachment style during times of conflict.  It's also aims to share some reasons for their actions.Support the Show.

We're all very interested in what happens in the mind of a person who's got an avoidant attachment style. This podcast may be for you if you're also one of the many, who is interested in knowing what is going on behind the walls.Support the Show.

The goal is not to mimic the energy of a golden retriever or a black cat, but embrace our authentic self and build secure attachments that allow us to be vulnerable, connected, and truly seen in our relationships. If you'd like to know more about this, this is the podcast for you.Support the Show.

The question is does the attraction return after an avoidant ex partner leaves the relationship. And how long does it take for that attraction to return if it does.Remember, it's also important to take into consideration of what the relationship was like and why it ended.Support the Show.

Consistency is incredibly important when we're trying to build a healthy foundation for a healthy relationship. However, the way we react and responded. The very beginning of dating will set the tone for what to expect in a relationship. If you are on the dating scene or you're about to get on it this is the Podcast for you. You can also follow me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn. Support the Show.

You might be confused as to why your avoidant attached partner needs as much space or perhaps why they detach and disappear for days. This episode may shed some light and help you assist them.  If you have an avoidant attachment style and it's kept you from forming meaningful lasting relationship, perhaps this episode will help you manage the fears of opening up to a partner. Love Annalisa  Support the Show.

Ghosting is a phenomenon where one person abruptly cuts off all communication with another without any explanation or warning. This can leave the person being ghosted feeling confused, hurt, and rejected. The sudden disappearance of someone they thought they had a connection with can lead to feelings of abandonment and low self-worth. The lack of closure can also leave the person haunted by unanswered questions and doubts about themselves.Psychologically, ghosting can have a significant impact on a person's mental health. It can trigger feelings of anxiety, depression, and self-doubt, as they struggle to make sense of the sudden rejection. The lack of communication can lead to rumination and overthinking, as the person tries to understand what they did wrong or why they were not worthy of a simple explanation. This can erode their self-esteem and trust in others, making it difficult for them to form new relationships in the future.The emotional fallout from being ghosted can also manifest in physical symptoms such as insomnia, loss of appetite, and increased stress levels. The sense of betrayal and abandonment can linger long after the ghosting incident, affecting the person's ability to trust and open up to others. It can take time and effort to heal from the psychological damage caused by ghosting, as the person works through their feelings of rejection and learns to rebuild their self-esteem and sense of worth.Support the Show.

Relationships can be complex, especially when individuals with different attachment styles come together. The dynamic between someone with a secure attachment style and someone with an anxious attachment style can be both challenging and rewarding. Understanding and navigating this relationship dynamic is crucial for fostering a healthy and fulfilling partnership. In this episode, let's explore the unique dynamics, potential challenges, and strategies for building a strong and supportive relationship between individuals with secure and anxious attachment styles.Individuals with a secure attachment style typically have a positive view of themselves and their relationships. They are comfortable with intimacy, express their emotions openly, and trust their partners. They provide a sense of stability and security in relationships.Support the Show.

Individuals with an avoidant attachment style often struggle with forming and maintaining close connections. If left unhealed, this attachment style can pose challenges when it comes to making future plans and can have a profound impact on the potential for a healthy relationship. In this episode, we will explore why those with avoidant attachment may find it difficult to make plans for the future, how it can affect relationships, and offer potential solutions.Avoidant attachment style is characterized by a fear of intimacy and a desire for independence. Individuals with this attachment style may have experienced emotional distance or neglect in their early relationships, leading them to develop self-reliance as a coping mechanism. As a result, they may struggle with the idea of making plans for the future that involve emotional investment and vulnerability.Support the Show.

Have you ever wondered why you seem to attract the same kind of partner repeatedly? It's a common phenomenon many individuals experience and often leaves us questioning our choices and the patterns we find ourselves in. This short podcast helps us to make some changes to these patterns. Support the Show.

In the realm of relationships, understanding attachment styles can shed light on the complexities of human behavior. One such attachment style is avoidant attachment, where individuals hide their true selves during the initial stages of a relationship. This podcast explores why people with avoidant attachment styles exhibit this behavior and the timeline for them to reveal their authentic selves and emotions.Follow me on Instagram, Tiktok, LinkedIn, and Youtube for more on Understanding and Healing Attachment Style. Check out my Healing Attachment Styles Podcast - Healing Attachment Styles.Support the Show.

This is a small insight on the power of truly loving ourselves.Subscribe to receive updates on everything on attachment, styles and healing, yours, as well as daily insights like these short messages.Support the Show.

Quick insight into why someone with an avoidant attachment style may feel like a relationship is an obligation.Subscribe for more insight into attachment stylesSupport the Show.

This episode focuses on navigating the push and pull between anxious and avoidant attachment styles. Join me as we unravel the complexities of these relationships, examining the underlying causes that fuel these contrasting emotional patterns. We will uncover the hidden truths, shed light on the struggles, and ultimately discover the keys to finding harmony amidst the tension. Support the Show.

While it can be a challenge to date someone with an avoidant attachment style, understanding why they want to be with you, but are often afraid, can help us relax and not take responsibility for their actions.   Support the Show.

Welcome to "Inside Anxious Minds," where we delve into the intricate labyrinth of thoughts within the mind of an anxiously attached individual. In this podcast, we explore the profound emotions and captivating experiences that define the anxious attachments formed in relationships.Join us as we learn in the simpliest way ho tot pacify their fears and insecutities.  Join us on this engaging and captivating journey, as we shine a light on what happens in the mind of an anxious attached person, offering solace, relatability, and a path towards embracing vulnerability and creating healthier connections.Support the Show.

Understanding someone with a different attachment style is similar to learning a new language because it requires us to learn new ways of expressing and interpreting emotions, needs, and desires. Just as different languages have their own unique vocabulary and grammar, different attachment styles have their own set of behaviors and patterns. By learning this "attachment language," we can communicate more effectively with people who have different attachment styles than our own. This understanding allows us to navigate their emotional landscapes, empathize with their experiences, and build stronger and more fulfilling relationships. It is important to know this language because it helps us develop deeper connections and avoid misunderstandings. It allows us to foster empathy, respect, and compassion for others, fostering personal growth and contributing to the overall well-being of both individuals and communities.Support the Show.

In this episode, we dive into the fascinating topic of attachment styles and distinguish between being anxiety-prone due to an anxious attachment style vs. having clinical anxiety. Tune in to gain insights and practical tips for better understanding your own attachment style and managing anxiety in a healthy way.Disclaimer: any health-related decision you make should be made with a healthcare provider and not based on the thoughts and opinions of this podcast.Support the Show.

In this episode, we will be discussing 5 important steps to begin your healing journey.✅ Step 1: Recognize Your Attachment Style - The first step to healing is recognizing your attachment style. ✅ Step 2: Communicate Effectively - Communication is one of the pillars of a healthy relationship, especially when healing from attachment styles. ✅ Step 3: Challenge Your Thoughts - Challenging negative thought patterns is essential to healing attachment styles. ✅ Step 4: Practice Self-Care - Practicing self-care should be a priority in your healing journey. ✅ Step 5: Seek Professional Help - If you find it challenging to heal your attachment style- do this.Support the Show.

Welcome to this episode on Healing Attachment Style While in a Relationship! This podcast focuses on how to heal your attachment style and build a more secure relationship with your partner. We'll explore the different attachment styles, common challenges that arise in relationships, and ways to overcome them. So whether you're struggling with intimacy, trust issues, or communication barriers, this episode is for you. Listen for some practical tips and insights on improving your relationship and your personal growth journey!Support the Show.

It is difficult to manage attachment styles because they tend to be deeply ingrained in our personalities and are often formed during our early childhood years, making it hard to unlearn deep-rooted behaviors.Attachment styles can affect relationships in a variety of ways, including the levels of trust, communication, and emotional connection one tends to form, thereby impacting the fulfillment and satisfaction of each relationship dynamic.In this episode, we will explore some tips and strategies to manage our attachment stylesSupport the Show.

Setting boundaries is different for every attachment style because each attachment style has different needs, fears, and beliefs around relationships. For example, people with an anxious attachment tend to struggle with setting boundaries because they fear abandonment and rely on others for their sense of self-worth. People with avoidant attachments tend to set rigid boundaries and push others away because they fear intimacy and vulnerability.It is important to set boundaries because it allows us to protect our physical, emotional, and mental health, as well as maintain healthy relationships with others. Without boundaries, we may become overwhelmed, resentful, and taken advantage of, which can lead to feelings of frustration, anger, and disappointment. By setting boundaries, we communicate our needs and expectations to others, build mutual respect, and foster trust in our relationships.Support the Show.

Having a strong, healthy relationship with a partner who has an avoidant attachment style can be a challenging task. However, building strong bonds with your partner, despite their attachment style, is important for several reasons:✅ Promotes trust: When you understand your partner's attachment style, you can better understand their behaviors and emotions. This knowledge can promote trust between you and your partner, which is crucial for building a strong bond.✅ Increases emotional intimacy: Building emotional intimacy with your partner can help them feel more secure and less avoidant. It can also make them feel more comfortable with sharing their thoughts and feelings with you.✅ Positive influence on the relationship: When you work hard to build strong bonds with your partner, it can have a positive impact on the relationship as a whole. Your positive efforts can help combat negative behavior patterns and strengthen the relationship.✅ Shows commitment: By taking the time to understand and build a bond with your avoidant partner, you are showing your commitment to the relationship. This dedication is essential in creating a long-lasting, fulfilling relationship.Overall, building strong bonds with your avoidant partner is crucial to promoting emotional intimacy, trust, and a lasting, healthy relationship. With patience, understanding, and hard work, it is possible to build a strong bond with any partner, regardless of their attachment style.You can leave a comment in the review section if you'd like to help me a little. This helps me to reach a wider audience.

Having a happy and healthy relationship with someone who has an anxious attachment style can take some work, but it is definitely possible! Here are a few tips covered in this podcast:1. Be patient and understanding: People with anxious attachment styles may need more reassurance and validation than others. It's important to be patient and understanding of their needs and avoid taking their need for reassurance personally.2. Communicate openly and honestly: Communication is key in any relationship, but it's especially important when one partner has an anxious attachment style. Make sure to communicate your feelings openly and honestly, while also being receptive to your partner's needs and concerns.3. Build trust: People with anxious attachment styles often struggle with trust issues. Building trust in the relationship can involve being consistently reliable and following through on promises.4. Create a secure attachment: Developing a secure attachment can help ease the anxiety of an anxious partner. This can involve regularly expressing love and affection, listening actively to their concerns, and creating a safe and nurturing environment.Remember that every relationship is unique, and what works for one couple may not work for another. It's important to be patient, understanding, and open to growth and development in order to have a happy and healthy relationship with someone with an anxious attachment style.