Thriving In Motherhood Podcast

Summer's coming, which means it's time to start asking some questions. Not the “what camps should we sign up for?” kind, but the deeper ones that help you create a summer rhythm that actually serves your family (and doesn't leave you burned out by mid-June.) In this week's episode, I'm sharing eight questions I'm working through right now as we prepare for summer in our home - questions that help me make intentional choices before things get busy. In this episode I share: How I start thinking about summer (before the calendar fills up) The question that helps me avoid comparison traps How collaborating with your kids helps create a summer that works for everyone And how to work with your current circumstances instead of fighting them Whether you've got big changes coming, are craving more simplicity, or just want a rhythm that feels good to everyone, this episode is here to help you start making intentional decisions for the months ahead. And if you want even more support for feeling confident and grounded in your everyday life, head to survivingtothrivingtoolkit.com to get on the waitlist.  

On this week's episode, I'm talking with anger coach Elizabeth Androeski, an anger coach for Christian moms. She opens up about her journey from being an angry, reactive parent to finding peace in everyday motherhood. Elizabeth shares the practical steps that helped her cope with parenting challenges without responding in anger - changes that completely transformed her family life. In this conversation, we discuss: How Elizabeth transformed from feeling constantly on edge and frustrated with her toddler to becoming a calm, patient mom who can be light-hearted and playful. The two-part approach that made real change possible Her game-changing morning routine that took her stress levels form 8/10 to 1/10 A simple perspective shift that completely changes how you view challenging behavior One of my favorite insights from our talk is that “anger and curiosity cannot coexist.” When we're curious about what's happening with our kids instead of trying to control them, we create space for understanding rather than conflict. Elizabeth's story reminds us that transformation is possible, even when parenting feels overwhelming. If you're in that overwhelmed space right now, I've created something that can help. The Surviving to Thriving Toolkit offers practical, bite-sized strategies that fit within your circle of influence - small changes that can turn a hard day around and help you move from merely surviving to truly thriving in motherhood. Join the waitlist HERE. Resources Mentioned: Elizabeth's Website:emotionallyhealthylegacy.com Free resource: 5-step training to break free from the shame cycle - available at endmomshame.com Elizabeth's podcast: Emotionally Healthy Legacy

We just back from a six-day road trip with our family of six, and I'm excited to share my latest tips for making travel work with a bunch of kids (especially while 25 weeks pregnant). After years of taking these trips - including our annual month-long summer adventure - we keep finding ways to make things 1% better each time.  In this episode I share: How we solved our food challenges by bringing an Instantpot and griddle to cook simple hotel room meals Why eating at restaurants for lunch instead of dinner completely transformed our evenings The pre-packed toiletry and activity bag system that saved me from hunting down everyone's toothbrushes How we handled long car rides with zero screens and kept everyone happy Finding the right mix of free museum visits, hotel swimming, and paid activities I'll also share our biggest challenge – dealing with overtired kids in tight hotel quarters where everyone can hear everything! And the important parenting lesson we learned about solving problems rather than trying to control behavior. If you're interested in seeing exactly how our travel systems work, I'll be sharing all of that in the Family Systems Playbook to the Surviving To Thriving Toolkit. You can join the waitlist HERE to be the first to know when the doors open again! Resources Cooking Set: https://amzn.to/3E0uwae (affiliate link) Toiletry Bags: https://amzn.to/4jkGryp (affiliate link) Activity Bags:https://amzn.to/4jghZ1a (affiliate link) Brother Label Maker: https://amzn.to/4i13Jbz (affiliate link) Sterilite Drawers: https://amzn.to/420Rw1V (affiliate link) Instant Pot: https://amzn.to/43IDJhO (affiliate link) Griddle: https://amzn.to/42py9OZ (afiliate link) Previous Travel Episodes 20 Secrets For a Fun Road Trips With Kids: https://thrivinginmotherhoodpodcast.com/20-secrets-for-a-fun-road-trip-with-kids-episode-172/ Successful Family Road Trip Systems: https://thrivinginmotherhoodpodcast.com/successful-family-road-trip-systems-episode-224/ Easy Car Organization on A Budget: https://thrivinginmotherhoodpodcast.com/easy-car-organization-on-a-budget-episode-265/ Reflection and Travel Tips From A Family Road Trip + 5 Day Hotel Stay: https://thrivinginmotherhoodpodcast.com/reflection-and-travel-tips-from-a-family-road-trip-5-day-hotel-stay-episode-309/ The Ultimate Guide to Family Road Trips: https://thrivinginmotherhoodpodcast.com/the-ultimate-guide-to-family-road-trips-episode-273/

I've been working with moms for years, helping them plan weeks they can win. One of the biggest challenges I see is what happens when you get to the end of the week with loads of unchecked tasks still on your list. In this episode, I'm sharing a brand new process (complete with a downloadable flowchart!) that I've been using for years but finally put down on paper.  This simple framework will help you: Process every unfinished task effectively at the end of the week Stop carrying over the same items week after week Know exactly where each task belongs in your planning system Set yourself up for a clean slate and a winning week ahead Whether you're using the Thriving In Motherhood Planner or your own systems, these principals will work for you! I walk through what to do with tasks that need to happen daily, weekly, or monthly, plus how to handle ideas that don't have deadlines but you don't want to forget. The goal isn't to do everything – it's to make intentional choices about what matters most and create momentum in your life by having weeks where you actually finish what you plan. Download the free flowchart HERE and start processing your own unfinished tasks today!  

Problem solving is one of those skills I'm truly passionate about - for us moms and for our kids. When our children know how to solve problems, they can face whatever challenges come their way with confidence. In today's episode, I talk with Linsey Jensen about three simple principles that help our kids become better problem solvers. Whether you're dealing with homework struggles, teaching science concepts, or just trying to get your kids to clean their rooms, these ideas will change how you approach teaching this important skill. Linsey shares: Why making our kids the heroes of their own experiences builds confidence.   How discovery creates deeper learning than following directions   A simple framework for breaking big tasks into manageable steps As a bonus, Linsey shares some of the amazing tools she's created. If you enjoyed this conversation, I'd love for you to join the Surviving to Thriving Toolkit waitlist! I've created this program to help you move through the five steps from surviving to thriving in motherhood. It's all about identifying what problems to solve in your life at the right time and in the right way, so you can stop feeling stuck on the endless treadmill of demands and start thriving instead. Join the waitlist HERE. Resources from this episode: Lindsay's Etsy Shop for Escape Rooms, Logic Puzzles, and Science Kits Episode 20 with Lindsay Circuit Wiz Kits Lindsay's Website Covalent Moments

Today I'm sharing a delightful conversation that I had with Erin Loechner author of, “The Opt Out Family.” Erin and I dive into what it really means to create a low-tech family life and explore practical ways to reduce technology's grip on your home while cultivating richer, more meaningful alternatives that both parents and children genuinely enjoy. This is longer than my usual episodes, but the conversation was just too good to cut anything out!  In this conversation, Erin shares: Her journey from social media influencer to intentionally stepping away from screens Simple ways to bring her family motto to life in your home Practical ideas for discovering what truly delights your children How to earn your children's trust and respect in a digital world What it looks like to opt INTO wonder, creativity, and human connection I hope this episode gives you plenty to think about as you consider technology's role in your family life. If reducing technology use in your life is something you're considering, I have a free gift for you! My Technology Fast Workbook guides you through a 30-day break from technology. You'll create your own personal rules, set up your environment for success, and learn how to reflect on the experience to make lasting changes. This isn't just a temporary challenge - it's a way to become truly intentional about technology's place in your family and discover what matters more! Get it HERE.  

The transition from quarter 1 to quarter 2 here from March to April is one of my absolute favorites because we're not coming off major holidays, our routines are set for the next little while, school schedules are still flowing, and the weather's warming up! It's such a perfect time to reset in a couple of different ways. In this episode I'll walk you through: A complete RESET framework for reviewing your vision for the year How I'm decluttering  my digital life – including my email inbox, phone apps, and Google Drive folders My approach to physical spaces now that I realize my home should work, even when I'm not my best I'm sharing all my real-time discoveries about what's actually working in my life right now – practical tips you can implement even during busy seasons. You'll hear exactly how I'm setting up systems that don't require me to be at full capacity to maintain a peaceful home. This isn't perfection – it's about taking these little windows of opportunity to make tiny changes that create big results over time. Ready to make progress on your own reset? Click HERE to grab a checklist of everything we're covering so you can start making progress right away!  Resources Thriving in Motherhood Planner: https://pages.thrivinginmotherhoodpodcast.com/wyw-page-5620 Technology Fast Workbook: https://pages.thrivinginmotherhoodpodcast.com/technology-fast Create Your Vision Workbook and Mini-Course: https://thrivinginmotherhoodpodcast.com/vision/ Episode 218: How to Start a Prayer Journal https://thrivinginmotherhoodpodcast.com/starting-a-prayer-journal-episode-218/ Tiago Forte Email System: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uXdEVeoGRRc&t=287s&ab_channel=TiagoForte

Are you feeling overwhelmed by complicated clearing systems and endless to-do lists? In this episode, I'm sharing our family's journey from complete survival mode (where we abandoned all cleaning systems) to creating simple, sustainable routines that keep our home relatively clean without exhausting my limited pregnancy energy.  I'll walk you through: How to identify YOUR daily cleaning priorities based on your family's actual pain points Our “confiscate and clean” strategy that's transforming our tidying habits Why we're tackling deep cleaning with music and turning it into a family activity How just 20-30 minutes of focused cleaning each morning is creating dramatic results This isn't about perfect Pinterest-worthy spaces or following someone else's complicated checklist. It's about figuring out what matters most to YOU, making it easy to maintain, and celebrating the progress that comes from consistent simple actions. Whether you're pregnant like me, in a busy season with young children, or just tired of the clean-then-crash cycle, this episode offers practical inspiration for creating cleaning systems that actually work for your real life. Ready to move from surviving to thriving? Grab my FREE 5-Step Path from Surviving to Thriving checklist HERE to help your figure out where you're at and where to focus your time and energy.  

Do you ever find yourself responding to your children in ways that don't align with the parent you want to be? As I navigate through pregnancy with our fifth child while homeschooling through Georgia's cold winter days, I've found myself struggling with patience and tone - especially when cabin fever sets in. In this weeks episode, I open up about: One parenting skill I'm trying to master right now.   How a moment of frustration with one of my kids led to an unexpected heart-to-heart.   The simple, yet profound principles of maintaining respect even when kids make bad choices.   Why this approach encapsulates so much of what I've learned from countless parenting books. I'm not sharing this as someone who's mastered respectful parenting - far from it! This is my real-time journey of growth alongside my children, inspired by divine guidance when I needed it most. For those feeling stuck in reactive patterns or discouraged by family tensions, this episode offers a gentle reminder that parenting provides endless opportunities to grow beyond our automatic responses.

Do you ever feel like your best isn't cutting it? Like no matter how hard you try, you can't keep up with what it takes to run your household? I hit this wall recently in my fifth pregnancy. Despite giving it my all, I couldn't maintain the peace and systems I was used to. But through this struggle, I discovered something important about the standards we set for our homes. In this episode, I'm sharing: Why linking household management to family peace is a flawed mindset How to shift from feeling stuck to finding solutions The reality check about “normal' capacity versus survival mode Why this challenging season has become an unexpected gift A new way to think about our household standards Whether you're in a survival season or just feeling overwhelmed by your current systems, this conversation might help you move from despair to hope. If you're struggling to figure out how to do the things you need and want to do, I have a free training for you. Head to thrivinginmotherhood.com for the Plan a Week You Can Win workshop.

I wanted to give a personal update today - I haven't shared much about what's been happening behind the scenes with the podcast and my own life, and there's a lot to tell. Our fifth baby is on the way (I'm about 17 weeks), and while this pregnancy has brought some unexpected challenges, we're so excited. I've been mostly horizontal these past months, but that hasn't stopped our family from dreaming and doing. The kids have been incredible - helping with everything from digging out tree stumps to managing our new two-tier garden. In this episode, I'm sharing: The projects we tackled this past year (including a rock climbing wall and that garden story!) Our vision for transforming our yard into an edible landscape How homeschooling has clicked in a whole new way What's really happening with the podcast while I'm learning to work from bed Why I'm finding more joy in home life than ever before For those who've been around a while and feel like we're friends (some of us are!), this one's for you. P.S. The beta group for the Surviving to Thriving Toolkit opens next week to just 10 people. Join the waitlist at thrivinginmotherhoodpodcast.com/toolkit.

In this week's episode let's discuss problem solving and how it applies to motherhood.  We'll get super practical with my new S.O.L.V.E. framework to help you get practical and apply this powerful principle today.  Be part of our  beta group of the surviving to thriving toolkit. Join at: thrivinginmotherhoodpodcast.com/toolkit We are only taking 10 members for this first group.  This beta launch includes exclusive coaching access so don't wait to sign up! 

When I started Alveary this year, I was drawn to their modern take on Charlotte Mason education. Now after completing our first term, I've discovered both unexpected joys and real challenges that surprised me. In this episode, I'm sharing the complete picture - from the resource that's brought more joy to our family than I expected, to the hidden costs I wish I'd known about, to what's actually involved in implementing this curriculum. Whether you're considering Alveary or just curious about Charlotte Mason education, this honest review will help you understand what this curriculum looks like in a real home. You can learn more about the Alveary here: https://lddy.no/1jdpq Use the code JJACKSON to get $25 off your membership! And a quick update: The first run of the Surviving to Thriving Toolkit opens next week! We're only accepting 10 people into the beta group.  If you want to hear about it, make sure you've signed up on the waitlist so you will get the emails! https://thrivinginmotherhoodpodcast.com/toolkit/

During our January technology fast, I've been diving into some books that are shifting how I think about life beyond screens. Today, I want to share four powerful reads that are helping me envision what I want my days to look like instead of defaulting to technology. Here are the books that are transforming my perspective: The Opt-Out Family by Aon Lochner - Through a series of essays, she shows how one family helped their children observe and understand technology's impact Dopamine Nation by Anna Lembke - Understanding the science of pleasure and pain in our high-dopamine world For the Family's Sake by Susan Schaeffer Macaulay - A beautiful perspective on creating home and family culture (written before smartphones took over) Habits of a Sacred Home by Jennifer Pitts - Using historical examples to help us think about living out our values Whether you're in the middle of your own tech fast, thinking about starting one, or just wanting to be more intentional with your technology use, these books offer both inspiration and practical steps for creating the family culture you want. Remember, a 30-day technology fast isn't just about taking a break - it's about resetting habits and creating new desires. Sometimes things just naturally fall away after that break. Other times, we develop new pleasures, like enjoying bedtime without our phones. Either way, the results are remarkable! Want help starting your own tech fast? You can find the workbook at thrivinginmotherhoodpodcast.com/techfast. Need help creating a vision for your life in 2025? Check out the Create Your Vision Mini Course HERE.

I've done technology fasts in previous years when my life was more stable - when I was in the thriving stage or at least normalized. This year is different. I'm in full-blown survival mode, and it's making me see this practice in a whole new way. In this week's episode, I'm walking through a tech fast looks different depending on where you are on the five-step path: Survival Mode: When willpower isn't enough, your environment matters more than ever. I share what I'm learning during this season of being mostly in bed - from catching up on my kids' book recommendations to what happens when we move key tools closer to where we actually are. Re-entry: This step on the path pairs beautifully with a tech fast. Without digital distractions splitting your attention, that frantic re-entry energy calms down. You can focus on the next right thing with more peace and momentum. Normalizing: This is the perfect time to dig into your Thriving in Motherhood planner and set up your systems. With added mental bandwidth, you can actually execute your quarterly, monthly, and weekly goals. Exploring: This is the most fun phase during a technology fast. The world becomes your oyster - from playing an instrument to painting, to volunteering, to trying new things. After you spend time in exploration, you'll have rich data about what you love, and what you'll never do again. Thriving: This is where the real work begins. You've laid a foundation up to this point, and now you can get clear about your vision for your life. It's where you build unique systems that aren't just about home management but are tailored to the life you want to live - one that's truly fulfilling, rich, and beautiful. Imagine what you could do with those hours you reclaim from your technology. Whether you're in survival mode or any other stage, a tech fast can meet you exactly where you are. Want help getting started? You can find my Technology Fast Workbook HERE. And, if you're looking to create a life you love during 2025 check out the Create Your Vision Mini Course HERE. I'm looking forward to hearing what phase resonates most with you!

What would it take to feel truly satisfied? Thomas Aquinas suggests we'd need to experience everything - every restaurant, every country, every possibility. But since that's impossible, what do we do with our constant desire for more? In this episode, I'm exploring this tension between desires and contentment, especially as it relates to motherhood and creating our vision for the year.  I share: Why understanding our infinite capacity for wanting more can actually be liberating The balance between setting big goals and finding peace where we are How the “loaves and fishes” principle changed my approach during a recent survival season Why turning off outside influences (through a technology fast) can help us hear what we truly need Whether you're in a season of big dreams or just trying to make it through each day, this conversation about wants, contentment, and vision-creating might shift how you think about your own desires. If you want to join me on my 30-day technology fast you can get the workbook I created with step-by-step guidance HERE. If you want help creating your vision for 2025, grab the Create Your Vision Mini Course HERE.

As we wrap up another year, I've noticed my technology use creeping up. Maybe you're feeling it too - more scrolling, more shows, more social media. It's easy to fall into, especially during the holidays. That is why in January, I like to combine two practices that set up my entire year for success: a technology reset and creating my vision for the new year. Here's why this matters: When we're constantly connected, our brains don't have the space to think deeply or receive new ideas. Whether you're in survival mode, overwhelmed by your house, or trying to figure out how to make time for the things you want to do - reducing technology use can make a significant difference. I've been amazed how after just one week, my mind feels sharper and more focused - it's like rediscovering how your brain is meant to work. What does a technology reset look like? It's different for everyone, but here are some key steps: Start with your “why” - Get clear about your reasons for doing this Write your yes and no list - What are your personal rules? Set clear dates - I recommend a full 30 days Create an environment that supports your goals This isn't about perfection or permanently giving up technology. It's about creating the space to think clearly, connect meaningfully, and set intentions for your year ahead. If you'd like to join me in January, I'll be sharing weekly encouragement and practical tips throughout the podcast. Whether you decide to go all in or create modified rules that work for your life, the key is to make them clear and doable for you. Want to pair this with creating your vision for 2025? You can find the Create Your Vision Mini Course at thrivinginmotherhood.com/vision. I hope this will help you start 2025 with clarity and intention.

If you want a better present, you need a bigger future. This principle from Victor Frankl's “Man's Search For Meaning” has been proven in positive psychology - to truly thrive in your present, you need something you're working toward. I came across this years ago when I had two little kids at home and felt aimless, with days dragging on. That's when I started developing my yearly vision practice, and it's become the single most transformative tool in my journey from surviving to thriving. In this week's episode, I'm walking you through the five steps of creating your vision for 2025 using the CREATE framework: Capture what happened (by reviewing the previous year) Rewrite your story (shifting from default negative stories to empowering ones) Envision the year (exploring possibilities in all areas of life) Assess your roles and foundation (who do you want to be in each role?) Think long-term and evaluate priorities (where are you heading?) Whether you're deep in survival mode and can barely think beyond today, or you're ready to dream big for your family's future, this framework will meet you exactly where you are. Your vision might be crystal clear or totally fuzzy right now - but either one is a perfect starting point. If you'd like to work through this with me, you can find the Create Your Vision Mini Course and workbook at thrivinginmotherhood.com/vision. These principles are also built into the 2025 Thriving in Motherhood Planner, but they work in any planning system you already love. I truly believe this practice can help you move from just surviving your days to finding more joy and purpose in motherhood. It has for me. We'll also be working through this together in the Thriving in Motherhood Collective if you'd like some community support along the way! You can join that HERE.

When I was pregnant with my fourth baby, I learned something fascinating about labor – in between contractions, our bodies release oxytocin, flooding us with feel-good hormones. This completely changed my birth experience because I started focusing on these moments of relief instead of just anticipating the next contraction. This principle, when we choose to magnify applies to every season of motherhood. Whether you're navigating toddler tantrums, teenage conversations, pregnancy challenges, or relationship struggles, we can choose what we focus on. In this episode, I dive into: Why our brains naturally focus on the negative How magnifying the hard moments can seep into our relationships The difference between acknowledging difficult seasons and letting them consume us Practical ways to start noticing and appreciating the good moments How to train your brain to look for what's going well Whether you're in the trenches of morning sickness, managing strong-willed toddlers, or navigating big kid challenges, the conversation will help you find more joy in your days without denying the hard parts. And, don't forget to grab the free five-step path from surviving to thriving checklist to help you identify where you are on the path and what you can do 

I read close to 100 books in 2024, and I'm excited to share my favorite book recommendations across different genres! From classic books to literary fiction, I've curated selections that align with my reading goals and support a positive motherhood mindset. Join me for this comprehensive book review that will inspire your next great read! Children's Literature The Penderwicks: https://amzn.to/49joJrb National Parks Mystery Series: https://amzn.to/49hS9WQ Ruby Holler: https://amzn.to/3ZgakYv Classic Literature Adam Bede: https://amzn.to/3B8YWW7 Middlemarch: https://amzn.to/4gbVqt5 Biography/Memoir Romney A Reckoning: https://amzn.to/49jvHfO Farewell To Manzanar: https://amzn.to/49fRRjk Self Help I Will Teach You To Be Rich: https://amzn.to/3ZxVnSY Find Your People: https://amzn.to/3ZyrUbx The Miracle Morning: https://amzn.to/3VikZkc 10x is Easier Than 2x: https://amzn.to/41eZTXv Choose Your Story, Change Your Life: https://amzn.to/3Oxta8v Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: https://amzn.to/49eUTUM Let it Go: https://amzn.to/3BheOG3 The Body Keeps Score: https://amzn.to/4ijcrU7

As a mom, I know exactly who I want to become. I also know there's a gap between that vision and my current reality - in my character, my behavior, and my actions.   To help close this gap, I've created something that's become one of my favorite tools this year: a personal life philosophy. But don't let the fancy name fool you - it's simply a collection of your best ideas, thoughts, and inspiration that help you specifically in your journey of becoming who you want to be. In this week's episode, we're diving into what a personal life philosophy is and why each of us needs one. I'll share how it helps me in my quest to become who I want to be, plus practical tips for actually using it (because we all know how easy it is to create something and never look at it again). I'm excited to walk you through: A simple but effective way to organize your most important guiding principles How to create a spot for weekly (or even daily) reminders of how you want to navigate life Practical examples of how this tool has transformed my own motherhood journey Different ways to implement this system, whether you prefer paper planning or digital tools This year, I've included a special personal life philosophy section in the Thriving in Motherhood Planner. But if you prefer digital, I'll show you how to use this system in Notion (with a free template and tutorial!) Sometimes in motherhood, especially during busy seasons like the holidays, it feels like there is no space for personal growth. But this is something you can do in just 20 minutes, right within the walls of your own home. It's a simple way to reclaim a bit of yourself and make progress on something that really matters. Ready to start closing the gap between who you are and who you want to become? Tune in to this week's episode, and let's create your personal life philosophy together!

Ever been part of a book club that fizzled out after a few months? Or maybe you've wanted to start one but weren't sure how to make it stick? This week's episode is for you! I'm talking about what makes a book club truly work with Madeline Casey, who, along with Phoebe Cook, started the book club I've been part of for four years (and still love!). In this episode, we'll talk about: Choosing books that people want to read Creating a format that keeps the discussion flowing Handling different beliefs and perspectives with grace Building an environment where everyone feels comfortable sharing Managing the practical stuff (hosting, leading discussions, etc.) Plus, we're sharing our favorite books over the last four years!  Looking to start a book club that becomes the highlight of your month? This episode walks you through exactly how to make that happen.  

This fall has been a very busy season for our family where we are stuck tackling things that are urgent. While it has been exhausting and at times felt like survival mode (some days have been 100% survival mode), I have learned some powerful lessons that are changing how I approach my days that I discuss in this week's episode. I've found myself living on razor-thin margins lately - where there's just enough capacity for the scheduled things, but anything else feels impossible. Throughout this season, I've been learning some important lessons about how to make things work better, even when we're at capacity: How a simple whiteboard is changing our family communication and getting everyone moving in the same direction What happened when I started letting my family help instead of running faster and faster by myself Why acknowledging our limitations (and communicating them to our kids) actually makes everything easier The mindset shift that's helping me recognize I'm more capable than I think How simplifying and creating systems is slowly giving us more breathing room All these lessons from our busy season are becoming part of something bigger - The Surviving to Thriving Toolkit. After years of hearing, “I found your podcast - where do I start?”, I realize that all roads point to this toolkit. It will walk you through each stage of the journey from surviving to thriving, with real, practical help for wherever you are right now. I'm also including a Family Systems Playbook with video walkthroughs of how we actually make things work in our home. Not because it's the only way or even the best way, but because having a starting point can make such a difference when you're trying to figure things out for your own family. Right now I'm working on Win Your Week Academy (the Thriving phase) and in January I'll start building out the other modules. I'm hoping to release the full toolkit in early 2025. If you want to be the first to know when it's ready, you can join the waitlist at: thrivinginmotherhoodpodcast.com/toolkit. I hope this episode helps you pause and think about where you are in your own life. Whether it's hard, fast-paced, slow, or busy, there's always something we can learn to move us forward. 

I've been getting questions after the focus on how to merge effective mom planning with planning with your spouse. Andrew and I sat down after we tucked the kids into bed this week and talked about what planning looks like for us in our marriage which I hope will inspire you. But first, let's get some misconceptions out of the way: Misconception #1: We Plan the Same Way Nope! Andrew has his own style of planning that works for his work schedule and keeping his priorities in check. Misconception #2: We are good at weekly, monthly, quarterly, and annual planning together. Also, no. We are pretty great at weekly planning (we rarely skip). We are good at doing annual reviews together. Anything beyond that is superb, but we really haven't been consistent over the last 13 years of marriage. I hope that encourages you. You only need to be pretty good at one thing to have a huge impact in your marriage and family life. Misconception #3: We follow a clear checklist and it's the same every time. Negative. We have fine-tuned what we cover and we adjust it based on how much time and energy we have and how unusual the week is. In this week's podcast episode, we're pulling back the curtain on our real-life planning process.  You'll discover:  The story of how our weekly planning tradition began What actually makes it into our shared planning agenda Our individual prep work (and how much we actually share) A peek into our typical planning session Why these weekly check-ins matter (and what happens when we skip them) Whether you're just starting out or looking to refresh your approach to planning with your spouse, I think you'll find something helpful in this episode.

Have you ever felt the need to speed up your child's life? Like it's some kind of race to cram in everything they need before they turn 18? Today's conversation with Leslie Martino challenged my thinking about this in the best possible way. Leslie has four kids (14, 12, and 10-year-old twins), and she shared something that hit home: older kids deserve a slow childhood too. We often talk about peaceful, slow living for little ones, but somewhere along the way, we forget that older kids are still kids. In this week's episode, we talked about some practical aspects of slow living with older kids like: How to say no to the right things  Finding a community with like-minded families Managing the balance between activities and home life Creating intentional check-in times with each child If you've ever felt overwhelmed by the pace of life with older kids, or if you're approaching the teenage years and wondering how to maintain close connections, this episode is for you. Leslie shares so much wisdom about creating a life that reflects your values, even (and especially) as your kids grow older. Tune in to hear our full conversation, including Leslie's insights from her new book, The Joy of Slow: Restoring Balance and Wonder to Homeschool Learning. Whether you homeschool or not, her perspective on slowing down and staying connected with older kids is something every parent needs to hear.  

When Sierra first discovered the Thriving in Motherhood planner in 2021, she was deep in survival mode. With a three-year-old and an 18-month-old, she had been battling postpartum depression for over a year. “I need something,” she recalled thinking. “I can't just be surviving anymore.” Like many mothers, Sierra initially hesitated about investing in a planner. But after discussing it with her husband, she took a leap - a decision that would transform not just her approach to motherhood, but her entire outlook on life. One of Sierra's most profound realizations through using the planner was that “goals can be accomplished in small pieces.” This simple, but powerful insight helped her break free from overwhelm. Using the Thriving in Motherhood Planner's structured approach, she began setting and achieving goals across different areas of her life, from reading classics with her children to pursuing her passion for drawing. What started as Sierra's personal planning journey soon created beautiful ripple effects throughout her family life. As she invested time in her own growth and interests through the planner's guidance, she noticed her children becoming curious and inspired by her examples. Through the planner's guidance, Sierra found that taking time for personal growth doesn't detract from motherhood - it enhances it. Sierra offers this wisdom for mothers feeling overwhelmed about starting their journey with the Thriving in Motherhood Planner: “Take it a little bit at a time.” She recommends: Don't try to fill everything out at once Give yourself time to review your year and set intentions Focus on one domain at a time Remember it's okay to put it aside during challenging seasons The journey from just surviving to really thriving doesn't happen overnight. But Sierra's story shows us something beautiful - when you have the right tool and give yourself grace to use it in your own way, you can build a life you're excited about.  It really can happen, one small step at a time. As Sierra discovered, you don't have to do everything at once. Start somewhere, focus on what matters most to you right now, and know it's perfectly okay to set it aside when life gets crazy. The planner will be there when you're ready to pick it back up again. If you're ready to get started on your own journey, order your 2025 Thriving in Motherhood Planner HERE.

Today I'm going to walk you through the the Win Your Week planning system that's built into the 2025 Thriving in Motherhood Planner. This system is designed to help you navigate the ups and downs of motherhood while still achieving your goals and creating a life you love. Why Focus on Winning Your Week? Let's face it: as moms, our days can be unpredictable. Some days are fantastic, others are challenging, and many are a mix of both. That's why I've found that focusing on "winning the week" is the sweet spot. It gives us enough time to balance productivity, self-care, and family time, even when individual days don't go as planned. So let's break down how this whole system fits together so you can have a winning week: Vision for the Year: This is where we start. It doesn't matter how fuzzy it is to begin - you just need to put some ideas on paper. I promise it will become more clear over time. Sandbox/Someday Maybe Section: This is a great spot for ideas you're not ready to commit to. It's a way to preserve those ideas without cluttering up your calendar or to-do list. Quarterly Vision: Your yearly vision breaks down into concrete projects, goals, and habits for each quarter. Monthly Planning: Here you have a spot to write down the goals, projects, and habits you want to work on for the next 30 days, based on your quarterly plan. Weekly Plan: This is where we're really focusing. You'll have a big three for the week, trying to take that vision and bring it into your week. You'll also include next actions from your projects, tasks that just come up in life, appointments, and scheduled events. Recurring Tasks and Routines: These feed into your weekly plan too. They're the things that keep your household running smoothly. Special Features to Note Think and Process Pages: These weekly blank pages are your catch-all for notes, ideas, and brainstorming sessions. They're perfect for corralling all the information that comes at us from different directions. Recurring Tasks and Routines: We've included dedicated spaces for weekly and monthly routines to help you manage household tasks more efficiently. Habit Tracking: There's space to track four weekly habits – enough to make progress without feeling overwhelmed. Looking Ahead Section: A place to jot down future plans and ideas, so you're always prepared for what's coming. Index: Like a bullet journal, this feature helps you quickly find important information you've written down throughout the year. Pre-Order Your 2025 Planner Mark your calendars! The 2025 Thriving in Motherhood Planner will be available for pre-order from October 21st to 26th. When you order during that time, it allows me to do one big bulk order, take it to a local printer, add coils, and then my kids package and ship it to you.  I hope this overview gives you a visual of how the Win Your Week planning system works. It's designed to take you from where you are now, and help you close the gap to where you want to be with baby steps that filter powerfully through into something amazing!

I'm thrilled to share with you the 12 major updates we've made to the 2025 Thriving in Motherhood Planner. These changes are based on the latest productivity research, time management strategies, and systems design. I've been diving deep into these topics to bring you a planner that truly supports your journey in motherhood. Let's explore what's new! Getting Started Checklist Ever felt lost staring at a brand new planner? Not anymore. I've created a step-by-step guide that's like having a friendly expert by your side. Whether you're a planning pro or a first-timer, you'll be up and running in no time. Enhanced Planning Sessions Checklist The planning sessions guide includes detailed checklists for quarterly, monthly, weekly, and daily planning. Each session has it's own acronym to help you remember it's purpose. Separated Vision Workbook and 2025 Vision Page I've split these sections to give you more flexibility in your planning process. Why? Because sometimes you need to get messy with your dreams and sometimes you need a clean snapshot. The workbook is for brainstorming, while the vision page is for your refined goals. Leverage Task List This new two-page spread allows you to note repetitive tasks or pain points that you can improve or automate. It's like a “to-improve list” that will help you free up mental and physical energy over time.  Energy Map A way to plan your tasks with your natural energy levels throughout the day, week, and month, maximizing your productivity and reducing frustration. No more beating yourself up for not being a morning person (or a night owl)! Personal Life Philosophy Page A dedicated space for you to collect inspiring quotes, scriptures, or ideas that resonate with who you want to be and how you want to live. This page is your personal collection of guiding lights, helping you stay true to your values and aspirations. Quarterly Vision Pages I've repositioned these pages to appear before each quarter, making it easier to plan and review your progress throughout the year. No more flipping back and forth! Updated Project, Goal, and Habit Planning Pages These pages now offer more white space for brainstorming and customization, allowing you to plan in a way that suits your style. Scribble, doodle, mind-map to your heart's content. Monthly Routine Page Say goodbye to forgotten monthly tasks. This new page is designed to capture all those important monthly to-dos that often slip through the cracks.  Improved Monthly Planning Pages I've supercharged these monthly planning pages with new sections for habits and weekly routines. Now you can see your big-picture goals, daily habits, and weekly commitments all in one place. It's like having a birds-eye view of your month. Weekly Reflection Questions Two thoughtful questions at the bottom of each weekly page to celebrate wins and tweak what's not working. Because you're awesome and you deserve to know it! Annual Calendars for 2025 and 2026 By popular request, I've included annual calendars for both the current and upcoming year, perfect for long-term planning Mark your calendars for October 21st (my birthday - what better way to celebrate?) through October 26th. That's when you can get your very own planner coil-bound by me and my family. After that planners will be perfect bound (which works great as well!). Remember, this planner is designed to grow with you as you manage your home, pursue your dreams, and thrive in motherhood. Here's to creating a life we're excited to wake up to each day!  

We have had a wonderful summer and a lot going on as we get back into life at home, gardening, homeschooling, and friendships. There has also been a lot going on behind the scenes with the podcast, which is what I want to share with you in this week's Thriving Thursday email so you can know what to expect. Usually by now I've gotten the next year's planner edited, ordered, shipped to my home, and I've taken photos and gotten ready to share it with all of you. This year I have the draft of the 2025 planner written, but it still needs to be created. What I've been focusing on the last few months is reading the productivity books that have come out in the last few years, taking a few productivity courses, and translating the principles that apply to us as moms into the planner and courses that go along with the planner. I am excited to share these little but effective tweaks with you soon! I also sent an email out earlier this year to everyone who has purchased the Made to Soar: Next 90 Days program looking for feedback about what was working and what wasn't working. Two really important points emerged from that feedback. First, 90 days is a really long time to focus on something and it led to feelings of discouragement when interruptions happened or it took longer to get through the course material. At the same time I've seen so much progress in the lives of the moms I've been working with for nearly 4 years in Soaring Mothers Society (which is the group coaching program that goes along with the Made to Soar DIY course). And the reality is that the baby steps add up to incredible change.  So the first big change I'm announcing in this email is that the Made to Soar: Next 90 Days program name is changing to Win Your Week Academy. With this focus on creating a winning week you will also experience winning months, quarters, and years. Everyone who has already purchased the Next 90 Days program will get access to this update. Second, many moms struggled with working on the program because they were in survival mode, re-entry, or buried in the work of normalizing. Which is absolutely right because that content is really focused on the later stages of normalizing, exploring, and thriving. And this is where I realized that I had a major gap I needed to fill and where the idea of the Surviving to Thriving Toolkit came about. This is something I've been making baby steps of progress on for months and I'm looking forward to announcing the beta launch of this program soon. The women in Mom Matters Too have also been so patient this year as we started that new program and moved around to 3 different tech platforms until we found our home. This was a huge undertaking but I am really thrilled with the results. So much so that I am going to be switching all of the products and courses over to this platform so everything will be in one place. This is a huge project but will smooth things out for everyone moving forward. With all of these large projects on the horizon, I have made the decision to take my first break ever since starting the podcast nearly seven years ago. This way my team and I can divert all of our energy and attention to getting the 2025 planner ready to go, creating the new Win Your Week Academy program, creating the Soaring Mothers Toolkit, and switching all other digital products to the new platform. I already have many more episode ideas and raw footage recorded for the podcast, so there is part of me that thinks I can just keep going with both. But honestly, it is a relief to decide to go all in on one thing and create a really strong foundation with things that will truly serve you and help you in ways that I can't do through the podcast. And once we have solid footing, it will be wonderful to put energy and attention back towards bringing you great conversations and insights on the Thriving in Motherhood Podcast again. During the break you can listen to any of the 330 previous episodes here: https://thrivinginmotherhoodpodcast.com/podcast/ I will continue sending emails on Thursday to give you behind the scenes progress updates and let you know when episodes will be released again as the time gets closer. I look forward to working with some of you in the Surviving to Thriving Toolkit beta program! You can get on the waitlist here to be the first to know when the doors are opening. 

I went out to harvest cucumbers and green beans with my kids early one morning. The plants looked amazing, with vines reaching everywhere. At first glance, it looked like we would come out with nothing to show for our months of effort water, picking off bugs, and weeding. But after we slowed down and searched for a while, we began to see lots of vegetables (we found 17 cucumbers and an entire colander of green beans!). Just like the vegetables hidden in the garden, sometimes we get so caught up in the daily grind that we miss all the amazing things we're accomplishing as moms. That's why a monthly review is SO important! It is when we slow down and look for all of the fruit that we get to celebrate and enjoy our daily efforts. You can do a monthly review on a piece of paper or journal, or use the Thriving in Motherhood Planner. There's a page each month for doing this monthly review so you never have to remember that it's time to sit down and reflect again. If you want a little more accountability and motherhood camaraderie we'd love to have you join us in our monthly Soaring Mothers Society Calls. These monthly calls are a fantastic way to connect with other moms, share your review progress, and get inspired. And here's my favorite part of the whole process (and a way to battle the mom guilt that so easily creeps in): After your monthly review, share it with your kids and husband at the dinner table! Share the things you are learning and discovering. Share your accomplishments. Reflect and remember the things you've done as a family and the places you've gone. Share what you've been reading. And then ask them about their progress too! Your kids want to celebrate with you, be proud of you, and enjoy seeing your success and growth as much as you enjoy seeing theirs. This is a powerful way to create a strong family culture of motivated, growing individuals who cheer each other on. Grab a piece of paper, join our Soaring Mother Society Calls, or use your planner – whatever works for you. Just take that time to reflect, celebrate, and share your joy with your family. I can't wait to hear about all the amazing things YOU'RE accomplishing! I'm cheering you on! Jessica

As mothers, we often find ourselves navigating the challenging journey from merely surviving our days to truly thriving. Over the years, I've had the privilege of working with many amazing moms, and I've noticed some common pitfalls that can make this journey feel even more daunting.  Today, I'd like to share some insights to help smooth your path. In our latest podcast episode, we dive into the five biggest mistakes moms make as they transition from survival mode to thriving.  Here are the five key mistakes to consider: Focusing on Circle of Concern vs. Circle of Influence: It's crucial to distinguish between what you can control and what you can't. By redirecting your focus to your circle of influence, you empower yourself to make meaningful changes. When I was pregnant with my third baby, I found myself overwhelmed by everything outside my control. A wise friend encouraged me to focus on my circle of influence rather than my circle of concern. It was a life-changing moment that taught me to concentrate on what I could truly impact. This shift in perspective enabled me to put my energy into actions that mattered, rather than getting bogged down by things I couldn't change. Phone Scrolling: While it's a common escape, it can hinder your ability to think clearly, connect meaningfully with your family, and solve your problems with God. Reducing phone time can significantly improve your ability to cope and connect. Getting Stuck in Phases: Whether it's survival mode, normalizing routines, or exploring new interests, it's important to recognize when it's time to move on and adapt to new phases in your motherhood journey. I go into great detail about what it looks like to get stuck in each phase. Focusing on Suffering: It's easy to dwell on the hardships of motherhood, but shifting your mindset to focus on what you're learning and how you're growing can make a significant difference. Seeing challenges as opportunities for growth fosters resilience. This can't be rushed - it takes time to grieve or work through the emotions and realities of things being hard or different than you anticipated. But I have also learned that it is a skill set and a habit of thinking that can grow stronger with practice. Limiting Strategies to Simplify Life: I spent years thinking there are only a couple of ways to make life easier, like sending kids to Grandma's or eating out. However, there are countless strategies to improve your day-to-day, even without these conveniences. This is why I'm creating a brand new program, The Surviving to Thriving Toolkit! If you want to be the first to know any details and get on the waitlist, you can head over to https://thrivinginmotherhoodpodcast.com/toolkit. Additionally, if you're seeking more support and community, consider joining Mom Matters Too {https://thrivinginmotherhoodpodcast.com/mom-matters-too} where we work on micro habits together. These calls are a fantastic opportunity to connect with other moms, share your progress, and gain inspiration. The price is going up at the end of July so now is the perfect time to join! Remember, every step forward, no matter how small, is a victory. Let's celebrate these wins together. I can't wait to hear about all the amazing things you are accomplishing!

Currently, we are in a season in our lives that could be temporary - or we could be here to stay for a long, long time. I'm very good at temporary. Moving has been my lot in life, growing up with my parents (I went to 10 schools by the time I graduated high school) and since getting married (we've lived in 6 homes). But living somewhere where staying is a possibility? Now that has been a hard thing for my mind to grasp.  In this week's episode, I'm sharing a thriving thought that has come out of this struggle for me and also how it applies to motherhood. We love where we live. We love the smaller home that is easy to clean, the updates and DIY projects we've done to customize the space, the huge garden we've put in the backyard, the rock climbing wall we just built, and the space our kids have to roam and play outside. But as we've made each of these changes and have more ideas for the future (front yard orchard and herb garden), I've often wondered if it is even a good idea to put our time, energy, and finances into something if we aren't staying here.  After much prayer and discussion with God for years I got the new understanding that I was seeking: Yes, embrace the current resources you have now to the fullest while you have them. Enjoy the spaces, the yard, the garden, the place to develop skills and do projects. Embrace the hours the children get to roam and create and build and picnic and imagine. Embrace all of it while you have it. And when things change, you don't need to replicate what you had here. You can embrace the new circumstances to the fullest and enjoy the differences. Then I realized that we weren't just talking about houses. We were also talking about my children and the seasons of motherhood. It is going so fast. My oldest is turning 11 and what felt like forever in those early years with 3 kids four and under is now moving at lightning speed. But I don't need to focus on the inevitable changes coming. Instead, embrace the season we are in now. Invest in it fully with my time, focus, and energy. And when this season changes with the children continuing to get older, embrace that one too. And this isn't meant to get us caught up in mom guilt and focus on the limitations we have or the things we can't do that would count as "embracing things to the fullest". If you are in a hard season right now, it can look like just being present and sitting down and watching the same movie with your kids instead of scrolling or consuming your own content. Just BEING together counts. In fact, each step along the five-step path from surviving to thriving will look different. This is why I'm creating the Surviving to Thriving Toolkit - to empower you to embrace where you are to the fullest with all the realities of motherhood and life coming at you. You can learn more at thrivinginmotherhoodpodcast.com/toolkit

It can be so hard to feel like we are just surviving our days and see a huge list of all that needs to happen, but in reality all we need to do is focus on managing today and making tomorrow a little bit better too. Each of the five phases along the path have a specific focus, systems, and skills so that you can dramatically shorten your to-do list and put your energy towards the specific problems you are facing right now.  In this weeks episode I'm sharing the big problems with you along each phase so you can more clearly identify where you are at along the path and what you can let go of in the season you are in. We work on solving each of these problems in the Surviving to Thriving Toolkit. You can learn more and join the waitlist to be the first to know about it here: https://thrivinginmotherhoodpodcast.com/toolkit

We have been working on a huge project to weed all of the garden pathways and lay down weed cloth to hopefully prevent future out of control weeks from taking over. One morning I got out there super early and saw all of the beautiful plants strong, but by 10am they were withering away in the hot sun.  I realized that we've had many hot, dry days and I hadn't done much watering. It was a crazy ten minutes as I had kids melting down and a garden that was on it's way to dead that we had to take care of right then. And it was this moment that I learned a powerful lesson that I'm sharing in this weeks episode. It hit me: just like those thirsty plants, we moms can feel drained if we don't take care of ourselves regularly. But here's the good news! Imagine if you had a drip irrigation system for your garden. No more daily watering, just consistent nourishment that lets your plants flourish. That's the power of micro-habits and systems for moms! Think of these habits as your drip line. Maybe it's a morning routine that sets your day up for success, or a dedicated time for quiet reflection. These small but consistent actions "water" your well-being, freeing up energy for the things you truly enjoy. Just like with that drip irrigation, once you have those systems in place, you can spend more time savoring the fruits of your labor! Imagine ENJOYING your harvest, planting a metaphorical fruit orchard of new goals, or spending more quality time with your family. Ready to ditch the inconsistency and effort of using a watering can and create sustaining micro habits?  Join me in the Mom Matters Too program this July! We'll dive deep into creating those powerful micro-habits and systems that will allow you to have the energy, clarity, and focus to work on the things that truly matter to you. (Plus, the price goes up in August, so don't miss out!) Head over to Mom Matters Too and get started on your journey to a more joyful, fulfilling motherhood!

If you are looking for a fun and new activity to do with your kids I recommend making a jar of sauerkraut this summer! It took me 2 years and five failed batches before I finally figured out all of the nuances of this process, but it was well worth the wait.  Today I'm sharing 6 mistakes to avoid and what to do instead so that your first batch can be successful and a fun check on your summer bucket list. 6 Mistakes to Avoid When Making Sauerkraut Not shredding finely enough: Use a cheese grater or food processor with grating attachment Using not enough or too much salt: Add 2T for every 3 cabbages (2/3 T for one cabbage) Filling the jars too much: Leave 2-3 inches at the top so there is room for the weight and brine Not using the outside cabbage leaf to contain everything: Use the outside 2 cabbage leaves to cover the shredded cabbage and make sure all of the pieces are submerged over the brine Not having adequate weight/pressure to hold things down: Rocks work but the whole process was cleaner, didn't smell or attract fruit flies when I got this weight and self burping lids/ Not waiting long enough: It takes a full two weeks even here in the south where it is hot for the sauerkraut to finish. It will switch from a light green to a light yellow/brown color throughout the entire jar. Tips for Making Sauerkraut with Kids Decide whether this is a good time to work with just one child or do everyone together. Let everyone know what the whole process is ahead of time. Prep everyone to take turns and let them know what their turn is going to be. Know it doesn't have to be perfect and it can be messy. Do it at a time when you aren't stressed or starving because it's not fun to cook with other people then. Turn it into a science experiment and have them track the color until it is done and see how long it takes.

If you've ever thought about gardening with kids my conversation with Tiana Woodbury is for you! She has gardened with her three young children for many years in many different types of gardens (container, community, and her own backyard) and is full of real, practical tips.  One of Tiana's superpowers is making the ordinary magical and she brings that to her gardening endeavors as well, but in very simple and doable ways. I certainly had lots of take-aways and things that I want to do a little differently and I'm sure you will too.

Earlier this year I shared what I did to make my smartphone less “smart” (Digital Minimalism in 2024). Since then, our family has faced some unexpected challenges that pushed us into survival mode, and naturally, our screen time increased, including mine.  This experience made me realize the unique challenges we face at different stages of our journey from merely surviving to truly thriving, especially regarding phone usage. In this week's episode, I delve into these challenges and how becoming aware can lead to positive changes. Challenges with Phone Usage on the 5-Step Path from Surviving to Thriving Survival Mode: Increased screen time, watching more movies with the kids, zoning out with shows or scrolling. Re-entry: This is when we feel the most overwhelmed and tired, so we use phones as an easy escape. But this only prolongs the process of re-entry. Normalizing: Rewarding ourselves with screen time after a good day, leading to late nights and inconsistent routines. Exploring: Spending excessive time on phones researching or learning, starting with good intentions, but often getting trapped in endless scrolling. Each stage presents its own set of challenges, slowing down our progress. Changes I've Made To My (Android) Phone: Niagara Launcher (free version) No Chrome/Internet Essential apps only: phone, texting, calendar, Google Maps, Notion (for work), church directory, scriptures, LibriVox, Libby, Marco Polo, Kajabi (for courses I've bought) Put my phone away instead of carrying it with me Impact: Increased productivity (even with insomnia) Solving problems caused by a lack of connection by being present with my kids Tackling household issues together with my kids because my phone is put away

We woke up on Saturday morning and my son was staring out the back window when he realized he couldn't see the zipper on the trampoline across the yard. Upon closer inspection, he realized that one of the huge limbs on our peach tree had broken and had fallen on top of the olive tree next to it and on the ground.  We didn't have any big storms or high winds and the kids were asking if I knew what happened. Looking at the branches with peaches full of fruit it didn't take too long to realize that the weight of the peaches - still not ripe - was too much and broke the thick limb. This image immediately brought to my mind all of the projects, habits, and goals that I am working on right now in our home, family, garden, yard, homeschool, and business. After months of just being in survival mode, it feels so good to be making progress and gaining momentum in many areas of our lives. It is exciting to be crossing things off the list, solving some big pain points, and investing in relationships and projects that will last. But as we are charging ahead at top speed, this peach tree gave me pause about all of the "fruit" I'm trying to grow right now in my life. There was a crucial step that we missed in caring for this peach tree - pruning. If we had pruned some of the fruit off of the tree, the weight wouldn't have been too much and the tree would be fine. Instead of choosing to remove some of the fruit, we lost all of it (this would have been really sad, except this peach tree actually has a fungal infection so the peaches rot before they ripen and we were planning on taking it down this year anyway). It was a great reminder that If I don't do some pruning in my own life, it can be a fast track to burnout. Then all progress comes to a halt and we lose all of the fruit instead of just choosing a few things to let go of or simplify. What does this look like practically? How do we do some pruning in our own lives - especially when there are plenty of things we don't want to walk away from? The secret is a quarterly review. I first learned about this concept years ago from Greg McKeown's book, Essentialism, where he recommends a quarterly offsite review. This means you leave and go somewhere away from your home and work to think about your life. As a mom with a baby and toddler, this sounded like a fairyland ideal. However, that didn't stop me from doing an onsite review right in the walls of my own home. This entire process is in the Thriving in Motherhood Planner every quarter so you don't even have to remember how many months have gone by - when you see it, it's time to sit down and go through the process. You can do this in one sitting or over a week or two as you evaluate your life and figure out what matters most going forward. I walk through the entire process step by step in episode 102. You can also learn about quarterly reviews fit in with the entire planning system process with the Plan a Week You Can Win training  If we don't life can start to be like a snowball that you keep rolling around and acquiring more snow - getting bigger and bigger until you can't move it at all. Or like the peach tree whose limb snaps.

What do you do with all the stuff your kids create? This is something I have struggled with for years with my four very creative children. In this week's episode, I'm sharing what has been working for us, our current problems and what we are doing about it, and a brand new framework my children and I came up with that is changing how we think about the things they (and I) make. Here are some of the things that have been working for us for a while: Paper management: Each child has a small drawer where we can dump anything they made that is flat. Once the bin is full we go through it and take pictures of things they don't want to forget and put things they really care about into their paper box (file folder with files from 0-18 years). Everything else gets thrown away. 3-Dimensional projects: Each child has a Maker Box where they can put the things they've made that they don't want to get rid of because they still want to play with it or it's particularly cool. They are keeping the majority of the projects in their bedrooms while I focus on decluttering the rest of the house and creating spaces that are super easy to reset and modeling getting rid of things. The kids desire to have their rooms match the rest of the house. While these things have been working there are still some problems. The Maker Boxes do not contain the amount of stuff that they create and a one-in, one-out rule is pretty painful when they are things they love to play with.  It's also painful to have messy bedrooms that are hard to navigate and find things in. While discussing these problems over breakfast, the kids and I created The Creation Cycle: You have an idea. You gather supplies. You make it. You take a picture of it (optional but sometimes they like to do this with their important creations) You put the supplies away. You enjoy it – either playing with it or displaying it. You find a home for it and put it away or throw it away. As we discussed what this looks like in our home, the kids identified that we have two main points where we are having problems with the cycle. There is nearly zero friction between having an idea and getting supplies to start making something. While in some ways this is fantastic, it also means there are usually LOTS of things in the first few steps of the creating cycle and rarely are those things making it all around the loop. Our biggest drop-off spot is after step 3, which is why bedroom surfaces have piles and piles of things on them. Right now, having a language to identify where the problems are happening and where every item in the room is in the Creation Cycle has been life-changing!  It changes the questions we are asking and empowers the kids to make decisions about what we do with things next. And we're getting very close to having even the bedroom easy to reset (one down, one to go). As you think about creativity in your home, I'd love to know if this cycle fits into what is happening with your family as well. What's working well? Where are the breakdowns happening?

We have four very creative kids who spend HOURS each day creating things (the most recent was an elaborate tin can phone system complete with bells and wall mounts for the cans to go between the top and bottom bunk).  In this week's episode, I'm sharing the things we've done that have made the biggest impact on raising creative children.   8 Tips For Raising Creative Kids Encourage their interests.  For example, from the time our son was 18 months old, he used our couches to build vehicles. To support this, we built wooden boxes he could combine with stools, chairs, and a nugget couch. This has sparked endless imaginative constructions.  Expose your kids to new experiences Anytime our kids get in a funk and don't know what to do, we try to take them somewhere and let them experience something new. These experiences provide fresh inspiration to fuel their creative ideas. Have supplies on hand We like to have scissors, glue, cardboard, and paint on hand at our house. Think about the things your kids like to create and make those supplies accessible, easy to use, and easy to put away. Teach kids basic skills We've taught our kids how to knit, crochet, carve, use the sewing machine, hand sew, and weave. Giving them these basic skills has allowed them to create even more things. While we don't force these skills on them, we support their interests by teaching them what they need to bring their ideas to life. Get books from the library on a variety of topics Borrow books from the library on various subjects. Exposing your kids to a wide range of topics is crucial for sparking their creativity and broadening their horizons. Help your kids create the things they want If our kids say they want something we help them make it. We've made shoe and coat racks, bows and arrows, chisels, hammers, swords, and shields. When they were little we were much more involved. As they've gotten older and more experienced, we've allowed them more independence as they create and build. Allow them to listen to audiobooks while they create Audiobooks are a fantastic way to keep kids engaged while they create We've found a good audiobook can extend their creative projects. Model creativity Creativity starts with us as parents. By modeling creativity, involving our kids in our projects, and providing inspiration, we set the stage for them to be more creative. We actively support their ideas and encourage them to explore and experiment. One of the most impactful things you can do as a parent is to develop a high tolerance for stepping back and letting your kids create. This might mean occasional disruptions, like missing kitchen chairs or dealing with creative messes. We're currently teaching our kids to clean up after their projects, balancing creativity with responsibility. The more we embrace their creativity, the more it flourishes. Every mess, project, and mistake all add up to a fulfilling and creative life.

Whether you are exhausted, depressed, sick, burned out, or just want a break, in today's episode I'll be sharing my #1 tip that I've used for the last 10.5 years of motherhood to get me through the day when I need some space we still have the day to spend together. The solution has two parts: Go outside and do something creative. When my kids were little and we lived in an apartment, this looked like bringing things I could do with my hands to the playground: whittle spoons or animals out of sticks or scrap wood, crochet blankets, make shoes out of leather, or peel apples to make applesauce.  As my kids got older and we now live in a home, this often looks like doing house projects. Recently we've done major updates in our garden, built a retaining wall, made a bed frame, cut out wood animals for the kids to carve with friends, and we are currently building a rock climbing wall in the garage.  Always I've played instruments, often outside, for a low-energy creative option. A ukulele, guitar, or fiddle is a convenient option to grab and go to the great outdoors.  No matter what season of motherhood I'm in, the result has been the same.  Everyone was happier once we stepped outside. Fighting decreases. The kids get engaged in good play. I get some space and a break from having people touch me. And creativity brings some joy and satisfaction into my day, no matter how tired or crummy I feel. The thing I wasn't expecting was just how creative my kids would become from watching me over the years. There is never a dull moment at our house. Someone is always making something, or playing an instrument, and they are usually outside.  

It is so easy to fall into the "all I do is.." trap.  You fill in the blank - change diapers, drive kids to school and activities, feed people, nurse the baby, chase after the toddler. No matter the season of motherhood you are in, there are things that we do over and over again. And when we start to think that it is all we do, we can start to feel miserable and resentful of the people we love the most.  The antidote is simple but incredibly powerful: do a monthly review.  Even after 7 years of this 10-minute exercise, I am still surprised at how it changes my perspective and how I feel about my life.  In this week's episode, I'm sharing my findings from my most recent review in April and show you how you can do it yourself too. 5 Questions To Ask In a Monthly Review: What have I discovered or learned this month? What have I accomplished? Where have we gone? What significant things happened in our family? What books have I read or listened to (or podcasts or shows if that is the season you are in)? When you ask these questions you can see how rich your life actually is. And you can begin to build momentum and keep the progress going.  When you see you read a book - you are a reader! What else can you read? When you see you've made progress on projects or goals you can feel motivated to take the next baby steps. When you discover or learn something you realize just how interesting this life is and wonder what else there is to learn. When you see all the places you've gone it is easier to get out of the house again. And when you record the significant things in your family you realize why your house is in the state it's in...or maybe more accurately, how great you are really doing as you invest in these people and relationships. And if you discover that you don't have much to write about, you will have a clearer picture of WHY which brings much more compassion, grace, and understanding as well as gives you clues on how to move forward. You can do this in the Thriving in Motherhood Planner on the monthly review page so you don't even have to remember that a month has gone by - you just do it when the page shows up - or in a notebook or journal you already use.  If you want to do it with someone to celebrate your progress and plan what you are going to focus on for the next 30 days with some accountability, come join us in Soaring Mother's Society where we share our monthly reviews in small groups.

With summer quickly approaching, I needed to refocus on what we are going to make our learning priorities for the next few months. We go year-round in our homeschooling so that we can have the ultimate flexibility to take breaks or just enjoy the nice days outside. And, hot weather here in the South has us indoors more than in the winter months. In this week's episode, I'm sharing the question I asked to give me the clarity I needed to decide what we are going to focus on in our schooling and home so that we can have confidence in how we are using our time and energy. The question I asked myself is: “What do each of my kids need to be prepared for next fall?” With this question, I was able to narrow down the few things that matter a lot and let go of the rest. For us, we are making a family project of working through Story of the World 4 this summer so we can enjoy modern history when we start Alveary in the fall. We are also focusing on some specific skills tailored to what each child needs, instead of keeping up with all of the subjects and curriculum. Everyone is continuing with math and a few of my kids are starting All About Spelling. We started a writing club by buying our own notebooks and writing on our own time, sharing what we write when we are ready. We are also working on organizing bedrooms and our school space in May to have our environments set up to make it easy to do what we want to do. I'm prepping the Alveary curriculum in June while getting ready for our annual cross-country road trip.  Resources We Are Using This Summer: Story of the World 4 Alveary (use code JJACKSON for a $25 discount) All About Spelling

For the last 30 days, I've been using the Thriving in Motherhood Journal. Before this personal challenge, I would use it about once a week when things were hard and noticed a nice lift to my week. But as this year has continued to surprise us I started to flounder and wanted to see what impact the journal would have in my life.  In this week's episode, I'll share some of the logistics and tips for using the journal, the impact it had on my life, and my invitation for you to give it a try for yourself.  You may be wondering what it actually took for me to stick to my 30-day challenge. Here are some things that I found helpful: Have a pen ready Have multiple windows of when you will use the journal and put it in the next likely spot (next to your bed, office, kitchen, etc.) Be flexible with morning or night (or both). Pick it back up when you miss a day. Don't pressure yourself to answer every question. Pick the relevant ones for that day and leave the rest. Don't worry about keeping the daily and weekly pages perfectly ordered. When I started this challenge, I was floundering. We've had a hard year on lots of levels - health, jobs, lots of things going on, kids struggling with different things (including surgery), and the unexpected keeps popping up. I have felt exhausted. Here are some of the positive impacts I noticed during my 30-day challenge: Using the journal has empowered me through this season. I've been surprised at how much joy I have felt in the last 30 days. I've been able to parent better, more consistently, and more confidently instead of pulling into myself and surviving through the hard days.  I've processed some hard emotions/situations so I could truly find peace and let go. I did a lot more service outside of my home in 30 days than I did all year. Small ways, like helping return a grocery cart and carry food out to the car, and bigger things too.  I captured many magic moments during the last 30 days and now my days are full of them. My health wasn't great during this window but when I did my monthly review I discovered a miraculous amount of things got accomplished. I attribute this to the power of having the vision in my Thriving in Motherhood Planner and asking the daily questions in the journal about the next three steps for my priorities that week. I got rid of mom guilt which normally rears its ugly head during hard survival times with the question, “What would help me feel successful today?” This question allowed me to pivot to what mattered most each day. I have struggled with anxiety about facing the next day in the past and fret at night about what is to come, especially when I'm sleep-deprived. But this journaling process helped me live more in the moment each day and ending the day with magic moments, gratitude, big wins, and God's involvement in my life made a big difference. This process led me to naturally have a better routine before bed and get rid of tech when I was journaling. I'd like to extend an invitation to you to pull out your Thriving in Motherhood Journal (or get yours today) and commit to 30 days of journaling. Watch and see the difference it makes in your life. If you've already been using the journal, I would really appreciate it if you left a review on Amazon to help other moms find it and see if it would be a good fit for them. And as a special bonus, if you leave a review on Amazon, you'll be entered to win a 2024 coil-bound Thriving in Motherhood Planner!  There are some amazing bonuses you can claim when you purchase the journal to help you get the most out of it so don't wait to get yours!

I got a fantastic question from a mother who is using the 2024 Thriving in Motherhood Planner this year: "I get confused sometimes about the distinction between things like goals  (quarterly vs. yearly) vs. projects vs. habits vs. Big 3 vs. focus vs. tracking.  Should these things all be related or not necessarily?  For example, on page 31, I'm not sure what goals vs projects are.  Do I choose a big goal and then break that down into projects, or are goals and projects different? Should my daily, weekly, and quarterly goals all go back to my 10-12 goals for the year?  I guess I'm just not clear on how these things are different or if they should all be connected!"  In this week's episode are going to do a deep dive on the difference between Projects, Goals, and Habits and how you can practically organize your ideas to make things happen with the Thriving in Motherhood Planner. First, use this how it works best for you!  There are no grades or right or wrong answers. But, if you're curious, here's how I use my Thriving in Motherhood Planner in these different areas. Projects: Projects are things with multiple steps that need or want to happen. For example, on my list are creating a family meal binder, updating our family yearbooks, planting raspberries, planting a medicinal and culinary herb garden, and cleaning out garden pathways.   Goals: Goals are a little more personal and stretching—definitely outside of my comfort zone. This year, I put three goals down: write a book, do community service as a family, and do a cooking camp with the kids. These are also multistep goals, but they are also about shaping who we are as people and doing things that are intentionally hard.  Habits: Habits are also about becoming—but on a daily level. For me, I wrote about prepping for the next day and knowing what's going to happen so we get a head start, tracking finances, daily exercise, and reading with a commonplace notebook. Could some of these be mixed in different places - absolutely.   Another way to think about it is that Goals are things I want to HAVE, projects are things I want to DO, and Habits are things I want to BECOME. Also, I don't fill out page 33 (Goals, Habits, Projects page) for the whole year all at once.  I do it quarter by quarter. Sometimes, it is in planning, and sometimes it is in review to just see an overview of what happened. Will goals or habits have projects involved? Very possibly! Do I use the goal planning pages for a project? Sometimes! Do I not use a goal planning page for a goal? Yes! I like to have my daily, weekly, and quarterly goals funnel down from my vision. Some years, my vision is clearly defined on page 33, and sometimes, it is NOT. But I am picking what I focus on each quarter based on my vision and my month based on the quarter. My big three for the week have at least one thing from my vision on it most weeks (and sometimes it's taken up with homeschooling, celebrating a birthday, or getting the car fixed). Focus is usually more about who I want to be, a scripture that I want to remember, a thriving thought that is helping me navigate day-to-day life or something that is challenging me and I want to navigate it better. It is nice to have it as a reminder on my weekly page spread. Tracking is for the daily habits I want to keep a record of accomplishing. In some seasons, it is really motivating to check them off, and other times, I think just doing the things is enough and could care less if there is a check in the checkbox. If you have any more questions about how I use the Thriving in Motherhood Planner or whether it's right for you, email me at jessica@thrivinginmotherhoodpodcast.com, and I'll get back to you!

Cleaning my home with my children has always been my number one priority. When they were babies this looked like using cleaning supplies that would be safe while they were in a baby carrier on me. As they were toddlers, it meant they could clean with me, and I wasn't worried about what they were touching. As they get older it means having materials I'm confident they can use safely by themselves.  But knowing that this is what I wanted and executing it were two different things. In this week's episode, I'm sharing all the things I've tried and what worked, what didn't work, and what we are doing now that has been the right fit for us. I tried many things over the years. The first was to walk through the cleaning aisle at the store to find the products we needed. But due to overwhelm (the number of options, not knowing which products were actually safe, and calculating the expense of it all), I always walked out of there with nothing. This also meant that for years, the actual cleaning in our home was minimal because I was so worried about picking the wrong thing. My friend Hannah (we were neighbors in grad student housing - true friendship is formed in not ideal living conditions) created a course called Simple Green Cleaning (not available right now) that taught me how to clean the majority of my house with a few basic ingredients like baking soda, vinegar, and dish soap. I thoroughly enjoyed feeling confident cleaning my house and mixing up what I needed when I needed it. But when I started teaching my kids how to do it, they were so inspired by the process that they created their own cleaning supplies by mixing soaps, shampoo, conditioner, and lotions, and it made a pretty big mess. This didn't quite work with my purpose of cleaning with my kids. A few years ago, we decided to try Force of Nature, which is completely safe for skin, disinfects, and can be used on all surfaces. It has been a game-changer. We have ONE cleaning product we use on EVERYTHING. It makes it simple to teach our children how to use it (plus they LOVE the process of making it and never complain when I ask them to clean) and I never have to worry about what they are breathing in or is touching their skin.  While I haven't done a petri dish test to confirm how well it disinfects surfaces, but it cleans well enough to remove all smells and clean surfaces, so that is good for me! When it comes to my main priority of cleaning with my kids, this one checks all of the boxes. If you want to try Force of Nature yourself, you can get a discount with this link: Force of Nature Get 40% off bundles in April with code: PLANET40 Get 60% off Cleaning and Laundry Duo Bundles with PLANET60

When I had three kids, four and under, I learned about Charlotte Mason and her principle of spreading a wide feast of ideas. Practically, this looks like 20 different subjects in a Charlotte Mason classroom that get covered during the week.  Before we were in the formal school years, I got into the habit of discovering where all the different sections of books were at the library so I could just walk the shelves and grab some that covered a wide range of ideas without any preplanning. For years, we have had this system in place that has provided an educational cushion through all the ups and downs in our lives and given our kids a lot of learning in a very natural way. For years, we have had this system in place that has provided an educational cushion through all the ups and downs in our lives and given our kids a lot of learning in a very natural way. I also supplement by putting books on hold at the library that deep-dive into what my kids want to learn more about so that I'm not hunting for specific books once we get there. In this week's episode, I'm sharing practical tips for not losing the library books and keeping free books free, bringing some great books into your home, and some of our recent favorites. How we avoid fines and the library to keep our books free: We moved all our personal books upstairs to a home library and have a separate bookshelf downstairs for the library books to create separation. We have ONE library card, so we don't lose track of the books we have checked out, what's on hold, and what we have to return. We try to get to the library on the same day every week so that we don't have many different due dates to keep track of. I try and go to our library account after we get home from the library to renew any books that we might have missed returning. We have a library book bag that holds between 20-30 books, which creates some margin. Recent Library Book Favorites That Were So Good We Would By Them Professor Wooford McPaw's History of Astronomy Papa is A Poet A Story about Robert Frost The Planet Hunter: The Story Behind What Happened to Pluto Nothing Stopped Sophie: The Story of Unshakable Mathematician Sophie Germain Hawk Rising Send a Girl!: The True Story of How Women Joined the FDNY Find Me! Adventures in the Forest The Apartment: A Century of Russian History Under Your Feet... Soil, Sand and Everything Underground Charles Dickens (Little People, Big Dreams) A Walk in London Cooking Class Global Feast!: 44 Recipes That Celebrate the World's Cultures  

Synthia Simenson is a mother of five (almost six) children ages 10 and under. She went through the struggles that I think we can all relate to when we first become moms—overwhelm, unsure of where to focus her time and energy, and not even sure what she wanted life to look like. I hope you are as inspired by her journey as I am, from those survival years to making intentional changes that created space for her to dream.  Things like minimum baselines for taking care of herself and her home, weekly out-of-the-house dates with her husband (a minimum of 3 hours!), and creating a schedule so she wasn't reinventing the wheel every single day (notice the 3 pillars of thriving there?!).  She also began asking this life-changing question: "What is something you want more of?" As she and her husband discussed this on their weekly dates, their answer was travel. They both love being in new places, connecting with people, and spending time together as a family while having new experiences and discovering things. Leaning into that dream has turned into years of trips all around the world. Synthia's Hacks For Traveling Internationally With Kids Plan trips that you are excited about because it is overwhelming and stressful, and you need something to really motivate you to do it because there are so many benefits Each kid has a day bag and night bag (toothbrush, pajamas, night diaper, etc.) Pack a swim bag with everything needed for swimming or a beach day Church bag with everything for church - bows, snacks, activities, etc. Make a customized packing list on the computer, print it out, and modify it according to the trip. Then, hand the list to the older children and have them pack by a deadline. This keeps you organized and lets the kids step up. Bring everything into a dining room or guest bedroom so it is consolidated into one space If going on a two-week international trip, start packing two weeks before because there are going to be that many details and things that go into it. Have a babysitter come over to help with packing Everyone gets their own snack bag that lasts for the entire trip. They get to pack 10 healthy snacks and some candies. She never regrets packing lots of food options to help with hungry moments. Have a restaurant bag with diapers, wipes, and black t-shirts for  little kids instead of bibs to cover their clothes, and use it all week to keep them clean Listen to podcasts or YouTube videos about the place you are going to (start 6 months before) to get lots of ideas about what you can do without sitting in front of the computer all the time (though there is plenty of that, too). When I plan trips with kids, I skip over any blog that talks about travel without kids. I only read from sources that include "...with kids." Have a toiletries bag that is 90% ready to go for travel with duplicates of everything Have bags with long handles that go over the headrest in the car to help keep the kids' things organized so things are up off of the ground Always have 10 empty grocery sacks with you - there is always a kid who throws up, or has an accident, or there is garbage - and it helps you feel really prepared Traveling with your family might not be your dream, but I hope that this week's episode inspires you to ask the question, "What is something I want more of?" and see where it leads. 

Have you done those exercises where you write out your priorities or values? It is easy for me to put on paper what I care about, but where are my time and energy really going?  In this season of survival mode for our family, we have really stripped away a lot of what we usually do, and it is easy for me to say that we aren't very consistent in things that I wish we were better at. But as I sat pondering this one morning during my scripture study, I realized that I actually AM consistent at some things, even in survival mode, and those things are my true priorities. I wrote three different lists to help me get a more realistic picture of what I care about with not just my words but my actions, and then I evaluated and made changes from there.  In this week's episode, I walk you through the entire process, using my answers as an example to get you started. Once again, I just used a Think and Process page in my Thriving in Motherhood Planner for this exercise. 3 Questions to Determine Your True Priorities: What am I consistent at? What am I almost consistent at but drop the ball quickly when things are hard? What is done occasionally that you wish was more consistent? Once you've written your lists, ask these follow-up questions to help you evaluate and make changes: Is there anything obvious you would like to change? Is there an easy swap from something that is more consistent that doesn't matter as much to something that is less consistent and matters more? What needs more accountability? What could you create a system around so that it doesn't require as much from you? I realized that a lot of the things that I drop in a hard season, I am pretty good at picking up again once I have available energy. But there are some things that are done more occasionally that I realized I need to create systems around to give my kids more responsibility to be consistent in certain areas. After going through this process, it clarified to me where I need to devote more time, energy, and resources to make the biggest impact on consistently living out our priorities.

When you've lost momentum in every area of your life, and it feels overwhelming because there is so much to do, what do you do? Often, the answer is to do a brain dump—write everything you can possibly think of on a piece of paper to clear your head.  The problem is, what do you do after that? How do you actually gain the clarity you need to move forward?  This last week, I sat down and prayerfully asked that question, and a new process unfolded that made it very clear where to put my time and energy to start making progress on the things that really mattered most to me, even though we were still sliding between survival mode and re-entry. I thought about making it fancy, but in the end, I just used a Think and Process page in the Thriving in Motherhood planner to complete this entire process. Steps For Clarity When There is Too Much to Do: Brain Dump Cross anything off the list that isn't actually really important right now What on your list has a next action step that is 5 minutes or less? What on your list is urgent? What progress have you made on each item (one box for started, two boxes for progress has been made, and three boxes for nearly done)? Transfer the 5-minute or less next action steps, urgent items, and nearly done items from your list onto your weekly plan.  For me, there were two next action steps, two urgent items, and two things I was nearly done with. This allowed me to get some quick wins and start to build momentum and bring excitement and joy back into everyday life.  Watch this week's episode of the podcast for an in-depth walkthrough of this process and what made my list. 

Last week, we spent a week in Memphis, Tennessee, as a family while Andrew attended a conference. It was a great trip with lots of amazing moments and some really hard ones, too. In this week's episode, I'm sharing the reflection process that I did after this trip so that we can take in all the data, evaluate the wins, what we loved, and what we would do to make things a little bit better next time.   Some of the specific tips might be applicable to your family and travel situation, and some of them won't, but either way, I hope that you will use this process after you have an adventure—big or small—with your family.   It takes a lot of effort to pull off family adventures, and reflection is the essential step that allows us to do it again as we figure out what worked and what didn't.   Here are some things we reflected on that went well, didn't go well, and what we would do differently next time:   Mindset: This is a grand experiment, and I'm just here to collect data about what is going well and what's not going well so we can make changes. If I go in with expectations other than these, my hopes will usually be dashed. Food: We stuck to our usual road trip staples on the way out (bagel sandwiches, fruits, veggies, something special - goldfish and veggie straws - and stopped for dinner at Chipotle). The rest of the trip was a little bit rocky. Hotel breakfast takes an hour, which means it is both an activity and a lot to manage, but that is just the new expectation. We packed lunches (sandwiches, fruits, and veggies) and grabbed dinner at a restaurant, but we were all just a little bit hungry. Next time we are going to be in a hotel for a long period of time, we think we'll bring an Instapot so we can have more food that we are used to that is more filling. Quiet Time: I got some activities at the dollar store (coloring book, sticker book, playdough, standup) as an experiment to see if having a little novelty could get me a short nap in the middle of the day. It worked about 50% of the time, but the activities were a big hit and did get me about 20 minutes of rest. It also gave the kids something to do while we were waiting around in the morning for everyone to get ready with one bathroom. This was something that went well, and I would add more intentional effort into it next time because it was a budding success. Activities: I started by looking at the weather to get a general idea of what we were facing and saw some rainy days and clear days with generally cooler weather. My conclusion was we needed a mix of indoor and outdoor activities, leaning heavily on indoor options. We went to a few paid museums (National Civil Rights Museum, Cotton Museum, Flight Museum, and Children's Museum), and a few of those had groupons with huge discounts. We took advantage of local parks and found some awesome gems, and it also gave us outside time in spaces where the kids could just run and play and not be corrected by us. We also found things we would do things in our town anyway, like going to the public library. Took me off guard: I had zero moments without the kids. In the past, when the kids were little I would be awake an hour or two before them and work in the bathroom in the morning, but this trip, we went to bed together, woke up together, and spent every waking moment together (except for my 20 minutes of quiet time when they were one bed away). On the last night, Andrew took the kids after he finished working so I could go on a walk by myself (and then I found something fun and invited them to join me because it was too good not to share), but even that 15 minutes really rejuvenated me and is something we will be more strategic about next time we join Andrew on a work trip. Public Transportation was a huge hit: It saved a lot of hassle with parking. It was a fun activity that the kids enjoyed, and it helped them build some confidence in navigating a new place. We got a day pass for a few dollars each, so it was very economical. Include your kids in the entire process. Instead of adventures being all on mom's shoulders, use trips to build family unity and help the kids learn from and own the effort and the joy of adventures. My oldest created the packing list a few days before the trip. Everyone helped clean out the car, gather activities, shop and prepare food, and pack clothes. We might have gone a little slower, but it kept everyone doing the same thing, and there were fewer messes in other spaces around the house. When I started to get a little frazzled at the end of the trip packing things up to go home and everyone running around, I remembered I could ask the kids for help, and they did - with joy. Involving the children in the process of family adventures is something I want to get better at with future trips. Keep Similar Rhythms to What We Do At Home: Friday night was still pizza and movie night (with Papa Johns Pizza). At night, we had the same bedtime routine and morning routine. Every day, we came back to the hotel in the middle of the day for quiet time. We kept the basic anchors in our day and week so everyone knew what to expect and didn't start from scratch. We could have brought in a few more daily habits