Transforming Monday

We all have rough patches from time to time.  Nobody is happy all the time.  If we were, we wouldn’t be people, we’d be game show hosts! It’s been a rough week here at the Transform Radio ranch, and when I found jalapenos in the olives I was using to make enchiladas, I realized that sometimes life is like that.   ——————————— Subscribe to the Transform Radio podcast on iTunes…. and g’head and give us a 5-star review so more folks can transform their lives! Connect with us on Twitter, Facebook, and Pinterest!  I love hearing from all of ya…the good, the bad, and the ugly.

When you take their opinion personally, especially if it’s negative, by your offense you’re agreeing with what they have to say about you. The second agreement is all about being secure in who you are, knowing yourself, and accepting who you are. You know your path. You know your journey. You know how far you’ve come and how far you’ve yet to go. People who fling insults at you don’t. Taking them personally is agreeing with them and giving them power to control your life. You control your life…not them.

Now, if you’re like me, the initial impression of this first agreement is that it simply means “do as you say, say as you do” and “tell the truth…always.”. Well, that’s only a minor part of it. Almost every major religion/philosophy has a teaching about the power of words. In Christianity it’s “the tongue has the power of life and death”. In Buddhism it’s “Words have the power to both destroy and heal. When words are both true and kind they can change our world.”

In the introduction to The Four Agreements, Ruiz talks about how we, as people, are domesticated like our pets by our parents, our teachers, our family, our friends, and we learn, through a series of rewards an punishments, what and who everyone else thinks we should be in order to gain acceptance. Changing from this norm creates fear, and that fear keeps most of us trapped in dull, drab, unhappy, unfulfilled lives. We create this idealized version of who we're supposed to be...someone, by the way, we can never live up to be, and we use this idealized version to judge ourselves and declare ourselves guilty.

One of our family routines is we watch a show called "The Middle". Tonight, the Hecks won a trip to New York City, yet were besieged by challenges in getting there to the point that their flight was rerouted to the nearest non-snowed in city, which happened to be Pittsburgh. As they landed in Pittsburgh, everyone but Sue Heck, the middle daughter, wanted to quit and go home. She stood firm, determined to celebrate the biggest thing that ever happened to her and not let her dream die in Pittsburgh. In the closing voice over, the Mom said these fateful words.... "Luck will get you to Pittsburgh...perseverance will get you to New York City" How many times in your life has "luck" gotten you to your own personal Pittsburgh and left you a 9 hour bus ride from your dream destination, your New York City? The difference between your dream dying in Pittsburgh and living your dream in New York City is simply perseverance, discipline, and hard work.

There's a television show called "What would you do?" that presents morally and ethically challenging situations and the films the general public, unaware, and what their reactions are. Character is often said to be composed of what you do when nobody is looking. I think the amendment to that is character is what you do when everyone is looking and it's damn uncomfortable. A discussion at the dinner table tonight about Star Wars, Doctor Who, and the ethics of sacrificing who you are for the greater good set this thought train in motion. Come along for the ride and think to yourself... "What would I do?"

There's no disagreement that there are some truly offensive things in life...war, death, famine, poverty, racism, injustice, etc.  There's also not much disagreement that there are things that are offensive to some of us but not others. This isn't what we're talking about. We're talking about choosing to be offended at everything! You know, those folks who take EVERYTHING personally, view EVERYTHING as an attack on them... the Debbie Downers and Paulie PartyPoopers. Chronic "offendedness" like that is often a sign of deep seeded insecurity in the chronically offended. Choose to live joyfully. Choose to express gratitude. Choose to let things go. Choosing to be offended is a guaranteed way to drive away those close to you. ----------------------------------------- Connect with Transform Radio - On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ christian@transformingmonday.com Thanks for visiting and have a fantastic day, rockstar.  Remember… it is what it is and the next stop is anywhere you decide it to be.

In a recent post on TransformingMonday.com, I asked "Are you the black sheep of the family?" Based on some of the responses I got, some are, some aren't, and man, are there a bunch of misconceptions about who black sheep are and what they believe. Listen in as we: dissect the myth that black sheep are simply rebellious, unmotivated, directionless slackers who hate their families decipher that "family curses" are simply familial beliefs passed down, often unintentionally, through generations learn that black sheep, more often than not, come from relatively normal, uneventful childhoods build a bridge of understanding between the black sheep and the rest of the flock. Black sheep are people too... ----------------------------------------- Connect with Transform Radio - On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ christian@transformingmonday.com Thanks for visiting and have a fantastic day, rockstar.  Remember… it is what it is and the next stop is anywhere you decide it to be.

We all have those inner voices that constantly tell us we're no good, we're not smart enough, we're not pretty enough... these are the voices of our limiting beliefs. How awesome would it be to be able to change those voices, even silence them, any time you wanted?  It doesn't matter how long you believed it, or who told you the horrible ugliness, you can change that voice in mere minutes. Listen in for the first powerful lesson in NLP and silence those negative voices forever. ----------------------------------------- Connect with Transform Radio - On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ christian@transformingmonday.com Thanks for visiting and have a fantastic day, rockstar.  Remember… it is what it is and the next stop is anywhere you decide it to be.

Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) is the science behind how we communicate, how our concious and subconcious thoughts affect our physiology, and how we can change our neural patterns in order to create the life we truly desire. In order to move from where you are to where you want to be, you have to be able to eliminate all of the horrible ugliness that holds you back so that the awesome goodliness can flow through you. Tonight, as we begin a new series on how you can shift your beliefs in the blink of an eye or the snap of your fingers, we set the foundation of creating your own mental television control room where you are the director. This episode is VITAL to understanding and utilizing the practices I'll be teaching in this series. ----------------------------------------- Connect with Transform Radio - On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ christian@transformingmonday.com Thanks for visiting and have a fantastic day, rockstar.  Remember… it is what it is and the next stop is anywhere you decide it to be.

In a book I'm currently reading, a lesson is given that the best spiritual practice is just showing up. In life, our best practice, period, is to show up and show up consistently.  Whether it's in relationships, in business, in your own growth... showing up consistently will get you better results than showing up occasionally. What does it mean to 'show up'? Listen in and find out! ----------------------------------------- Connect with Transform Radio - On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ christian@transformingmonday.com Thanks for visiting and have a fantastic day, rockstar.  Remember… it is what it is and the next stop is anywhere you decide it to be.  

“The victim mindset dilutes the human potential. By not accepting personal responsibility for our circumstances, we greatly reduce our power to change them.” - Steve Maraboli Too many people refuse to take responsibility for their lives.  They live as victims of circumstance, letting life happen to them instead of making their lives happen. Taking control of your life begins with owning your #@#$^%!  Taking responsibility for your words, your actions, and your choices will move you from victim to victor. ----------------------------------------- Connect with Transform Radio - On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ christian@transformingmonday.com Thanks for visiting and have a fantastic day, rockstar.  Remember… it is what it is and the next stop is anywhere you decide it to be.

Office politics are an ugly game.  It's a game of power, of status, of unearned privilege.  Superiors who demand the game be played define themselves by the fealty they receive.  Subordinates who play the game are looking to get ahead not on talent, but by schmoozing the right person. It's a recipe for frustration and bitterness. Don't play the political game.  Keep it professional, keep it honest, keep your integrity beyond question and you won't have to sacrifice your self-esteem to climb that next rung on the ladder. ----------------------------------------- Connect with Transform Radio - On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ christian@transformingmonday.com Thanks for visiting and have a fantastic day, rockstar.  Remember… it is what it is and the next stop is anywhere you decide it to be.

Every once in a while in our house both kids will find other places to be on a weekend night.  This last Friday was one such occasion. While sitting at the bar at Bahama Breeze waiting for our table, we struck up a conversation with the couple next to us.  Turns out the husband was Shawn Seipler, CEO of CleanTheWorld.org. It's pretty impressive what his organization does.  What's more impressive is his story of success to failure to success, a story Shawn will be sharing on a future episode. Had we decided to go to a table when our buzzer buzzed, we never would have met them and heard their amazing story. Don't be afraid to sit at the bar once in a while... you never know who you'll meet. ----------------------------------------- Connect with Transform Radio - On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ christian@transformingmonday.com Thanks for visiting and have a fantastic day, rockstar.  Remember… it is what it is and the next stop is anywhere you decide it to be.  

You cannot have the life you want if you're not willing to work for it.  Too many people make excuses and accept that things will never change or they sink into believing the life they have is all they'll ever have. You cannot achieve your million dollar dreams with a minimum wage work ethic.

Being able to establish rapport with other people is important in all facets of life.  Most of us have no idea how to do it, and some are really bad at it. Being able to establish rapport relaxes the other person's objection reflex, makes them more open to what you have to say, and establishes a subconscious connection between the two (or more) of you. Imagine how much your business life, your career, your dating life, your relationships with others could improve simply by being able to establish rapport with the person you're talking to. Well, listen in and I'll show you how easy it is. ------------------------------------------ Connect with Transform Radio -  On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ christian@transformingmonday.com Thanks for visiting and have a fantastic day, rockstar.  Remember… it is what it is and the next stop is anywhere you decide it to be.  

We've all said it. We've all used a single phrase as a way to justify not doing either what we're supposed to or what we truly want to do. Yabbit. Listen in and kick the yabbit habit! Connect with Transform Radio -  On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ christian@transformingmonday.com Thanks for visiting and have a fantastic day, rockstar.  Remember… it is what it is and the next stop is anywhere you decide it to be.

Over 20 years ago, the movie Groundhog Day premiered.  It's a story of a man who gets trapped in a single day in time until he learns what his true passion is. When you rolled into the office today...is it the same as it ever was?  Do your days just blur together? Well, perhaps it's time to discover what your passion, your calling is so you can stop living your own Groundhog Day. Connect with Transform Radio -  On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ christian@transformingmonday.com Thanks for visiting and have a fantastic day, rockstar.  Remember… it is what it is and the next stop is anywhere you decide it to be.

Most people believe that it takes a significant amount of time leading up to the moment your life changes. It doesn't. All it takes is 20 seconds of insane courage and the world opens up before your eyes. Connect with Transform Radio -  On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ christian@transformingmonday.com Thanks for visiting and have a fantastic day, rockstar.  Remember… it is what it is and the next stop is anywhere you decide it to be.  

Shame is probably the most prevalent emotion around today.  It's sold to us through the media.  It's used as a tool for control.  Social media amplifies shaming with its global reach. It's everywhere. And it's garbage. Shame comes from defining ourselves by the events that occur in our life.  The things that happen are simply things that happen.  It is what it is and no more. The first step to escaping the shame spiral is forgiveness.  Forgiving others for the things they did to you but more importantly forgiving yourself. Connect with Transform Radio -  On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ christian@transformingmonday.com Thanks for visiting and have a fantastic day, rockstar.  Remember… it is what it is and the next stop is anywhere you decide it to be.

Did you know you could change your emotional and physical state in an instant?  Imagine how awesome it would feel if you could shift your state from nervous to confident or from sad to happy or from anxious to calm... all in the blink of an eye? Listen in and learn how you can use this simple yet powerful tool to shift your emotional state, control your world, and boost your self confidence. Connect with Transform Radio -  On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ christian@transformingmonday.com Thanks for visiting and have a fantastic day, rockstar.  Remember… it is what it is and the next stop is anywhere you decide it to be.

As someone who has struggled with depression most of my life, figuring out how to recognize when my mood starts shifting and being able to manage my emotional and mental state was huge.   So, let's talk depression. I'll share my story, my ups, my downs, my own personal experience and how I manage my emotional and mental state.   I'll also share what to do and, more importantly, what not to do or say if you know someone who struggles with depression.

There's a very specific reason for the outro music on the show.  It's titled "Next Stop Everywhere" and symbolizes the infiinite possibilities in life that all start with making a decision.  So, jump in your TARDIS and make the decision to go where you truly want be.

Mistakes.  Most people are afraid to make them, so they live boring little mistake free lives that are full of doubts and regrets.  Making mistakes is a part of growing, it shows you're willing to step outside your comfort zone and take chances.  If you go through life avoiding making mistakes, it'll be the biggest mistake you've ever made.

Tonight Charlotte takes over the lab and delivers a female perspective on dating, relationships, and what a "good woman" really is. It isn't the Susie Homemaker vision of the 1950's nor is it faking it, wearing an uncomfortable media creation of what a "good woman" is. Listen in as Charlotte delivers a powerful episode on empowerment, confidence, and how compromising yourself for the sake of a relationship is the worst thing you can do to yourself. Check out Charlotte at MomsWithAPassion.com and be sure to look out for her podcast launching in the near future. Connect with Transform Radio -  On Facebook  On Google+ On Twitter On Pinterest On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ christian@transformingmonday.com Thanks for visiting and have a fantastic day, rockstar.  Remember… it is what it is and the next stop is anywhere you decide it to be.

If you don't reward yourself and are just waiting for someone else to reward you, you could be waiting a long, long time and end up discouraged that nobody is noticing how awesome you're doing. It doesn't have to be anything fancy or expensive, but take the time to reward yourself for the awesome progress you're making.  It builds your confidence, your self-esteem, and it gets you hooked. Once you're hooked, you're gonna want more.... and how do you get more?   More progress. See where this is going?  Connect with me: On Facebook  On Google+ On Twitter On Pinterest On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ christian@transformingmonday.com Thanks for visiting and have a fantastic day, rockstar.  Remember… it is what it is and the next stop is anywhere you decide it to be.

The life of inner peace, being harmonious and without stress, is the easiest type of existence. - Norman Vincent Peale Stress and worry never changes anything.  It only causes tension, health problems, and damages relationships. Focus on what's truly important...the immeasurable, the priceless, and don't sweat the small stuff, because in the end...it's all small stuff. Connect with me: On Facebook  On Google+ On Twitter On Pinterest On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ christian@transformingmonday.com Thanks for visiting and have a fantastic day, rockstar.  Remember… it is what it is and the next stop is anywhere you decide it to be.

An article from Slate crossed my Facebook feed today that really gets it wrong.  The article claims that the mantra "Do what you love.  Love what you do." somehow devalues work and is the reason for all of the evil in the world today. Doing what you love is the key to success.  It's the key to fulfillment.  It's what drives you to get out of bed in the morning, work harder and longer than anyone else, and creates those people who change the world. If you do what you love and love what you do, then tweet the link to this podcast to @Slate with the hashtag #DWYL and let them know that doing what you love makes you come alive and that your life is defined by more than the amount of your paycheck. Connect with me: On Facebook  On Google+ On Twitter On Pinterest On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ christian@transformingmonday.com Thanks for listening and have a fantastic day, rockstar.  Remember… it is what it is and the next stop is anywhere you decide it to be.

A discussion with my daughter got me to thinking about the whole "everyone gets a ribbon" philosophy.  At the end of your life, do you want a bunch of participation ribbons or do you want a bunch of cool photos, memories, scars, and a couple of well earned trophies to tell the story of your life? Connect with me: On Facebook  On Google+ On Twitter On Pinterest On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ christian@transformingmonday.com

Most people take the shotgun approach to taking action.  They lack the focus on their goals needed in order to make their actions meaningful.  When people take meaningless actions, it can lead to meaningless lives.  Lives full of frustration, disappointment, resentment, and resignation.   The key to meaningful action is to both be clear about what you want and also be sure that your values and beliefs are in line with each other and congruent with who you are.   On Facebook  On Google+ On Twitter On Pinterest On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ christian@transformingmonday.com Thanks for visiting and have a fantastic day, rockstar.  Remember… it is what it is and the next stop is anywhere you decide it to be.  

The riddle of Cottleston Pie from Winnie The Pooh, is a meditation on accepting our strengths, our weaknesses, and understanding what our own inner nature is. A fly can't bird but a bird can fly... understand who you are and what you were made for. A fish can't whistle and neither can I... understand your limitations, and learn to accept and, if desired, change them. Why does a chicken? ... Why do you do what you do? Why do you make the same choices over and over?  Why do you repeat the same patterns in your life? Understanding yourself is the key to learning how to get where and what you want out of life. Connect with us on: Facebook.com/TransformingMonday Twitter.com/XformMonday iTunes/TransformingMonday

Rabbit from Winnie the Pooh is always busy.  He runs around from task to task, never really taking time to appreciate where he is or who he is with.  In Tao of Pooh, Rabbit is the "Bisy Backson".You've heard it said that life is all about the journey, not the destination.  Well, if you're like Rabbit, you'll miss the most important things in life that are often right in front of your face.    Connect with us on: Facebook.com/TransformingMonday Twitter.com/XformMonday iTunes/TransformingMonday  

Looking for that 'special someone'? Tired of the seemingly endless string of failed relationships? Trust me.... it's not them, it's you. Take a page from "The Married Guy's Guide To Dating" and find the happiness you deserve. Connect with us on: Facebook.com/TransformingMonday Twitter.com/XformMonday iTunes/TransformingMonday

We took a trip to Kennedy space Center today, and one thing stood out. The space program was a triumph of those who dreamed big, who dared to dream impossible dreams. In today's pessimistic world, we need more dreamers, more crazy ones, more people who believe nothing is impossible. Connect with us on: Facebook.com/TransformingMonday Twitter.com/XformMonday TransformingMonday.com

Don't Be Piglet “The play-it-safe pessimists of the world never accomplish much of anything, because they don't look clearly and objectively at situations, they don't recognize or believe in their own abilities to overcome even the smallest amount of risk.” They say that leaders are readers.  One book that impacted my life, and I know will impact yours, is the Tao of Pooh. In today's episode, we discuss not being Piglet when it comes to facing the fear that comes with trying new things.  Piglet, as the photo above says, hesitates.  He's worried about what could happen. When we try new things, fear and worry naturally come into play.  We worry about what could happen, we worry about what others might say, we worry about what people could think of us if we're not successful. All of these things, these presuppositions, stop us from living the lives we truly desire. Don't be Piglet. Don't worry about what others could think or say because, honestly, they'll be sniping at you no matter if your successful or not simply because they lack the courage to go after their dreams. Connect with us on: Facebook.com/TransformingMonday Twitter.com/XformMonday TransformingMonday.com  

So, it's the second day of the New Year.... are you already overwhelmed?  Are you looking at your list of goals/outcomes for the year and wondering how you're ever going to get them accomplished? We all do.   What can make you different than 70% of the rest of the world is not quitting by Feburary 1st. Yep, that's true.  70% of the people who make New Year's Resolutions have quit by February 1st.  Some of the reasons are: They're overwhelmed They have no plan They have no discipline They see one failure as the end of everything Their resolutions are incongruent with who they are. Don't be that person. Don't be the person that stumbles once and quits. I promise you, if you grind it out during the tough times, you'll be rewarded beyond your expectations. Remember - Your growth is more about who you want to be and not just about what you want to do. Join me on the journey and I promise, 6 months from now, you won't recognize who you used to be. Connect with us on: Facebook.com/TransformingMonday Twitter.com/XformMonday TransformingMonday.com

  So your life isn't where you thought it would be 12 months ago.  You're still struggling with the same challenges, stuck in the same job, living in the same place, etc., and it seems like for all you've 'done' this year... ...not one thing has changed. It's time.  Time to have that difficult conversation with yourself.  Time to be brutally honest with yourself and own up to the reality that it is your choices, your decisions, that are responsible for you being where you are. I know nobody really wants to hear that.  They'd rather blame other people and things outside of themselves for everything that's gone wrong in their lives. Fact is, you're the only person present at every disaster in your life. You're responsible for you.   Nobody else. If you're not where you want to be, then it's time to have that difficult conversation.   Check us out at: TransformingMonday.com Facebook.com/TransformingMonday

It's not what you say...it's how you say it We've all heard that saying before, and you know what?  It's 100% true. As a communicator, you are responsible not only for what you say, but for how your message is received. Over the last 36 hours, the kerfuffle over Duck Dynasty has given us a real life example of how not to express your opinions, especially when it comes across in a destructive, not constructive way. Now, just like Phil Robertson, each of us absolutely has not only the right to our own opinions, but to express them.  We do not, however, have the right to be free of the consequences of what we say. So, the next time you're in a delicate position and have to deliver a delicate message, be delicate with your words so your message isn't lost in translation.

70% Of New Year's Resolutions Fail True.   Seven out of ten of you who make resolutions will be back to your old you by February 1st, if not sooner. Why? Simple...they're too vague, they're too big, and you don't have a plan.  And a goal without a plan is just a wish... ....and you know what wishing will get you. This year, do it differently.  Take a little time to give yourself an honest self-evaluation.  Honestly reflect and think about what you want 2014 to bring...then.. make a plan on how you're going to get there. Make them flexible, be ready to edit them as time passes...don't get stuck on a single path as running into roadblocks can lead you to giving up on what you really want. Between now and New Year's Eve, I'm offering a free 30 minute coaching call to assist you in doing just that.  Consider it my holiday gift to you.  Just send me and email at christian@transformingmonday.com, visit us at Facebook.com/TransformingMonday, or tweet me at twitter.com/xformmonday, and I'll make sure you hit the ground running in 2014.   Tonight's sponsor: Qivana.  Lose the weight you want and keep it off.  Check out their products and, if getting healthy is your goal, let me know how I can assist you.

So, you want to be an entrepreneur...be your own boss.   Congrats on making the first decision to set yourself free. Now... that being said, there are some things you'll need to know, be aware of, as you journey into freedom-land.  Successful entrepreneurs all have certain traits such as: consistency, dedication, fearless, trainable, ambitious... things not normally part of the human psyche. Join Charlotte and I as we talk about these traits, why they're important, and the importance of finding the right opportunity for you. Being an entrepreneur is sweet, sweet freedom. It's also a lifestyle, a mindset, and the scariest, most exhilirating thing anyone can do with their life. Remember...it is what it is....and the next stop is truly anywhere you decide it to be.   Show Sponsored by A Transformed You - Looking to lose weight or fight the effects of aging, check out ATransformedYou.com to see how YOU can start your path to better health today. Check out Charlotte's blog at MomsWithAPassion.com Connect with us at: TransformingMonday.com Facebook.com/TransformingMonday Twitter.com/xformmonday

In this world of information overload, where everything is at our fingertips, our desire for instant gratification often impedes our path to personal growth. Personal growth is a life-long journey that takes patience, discipline, awareness, and constant focus.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny. - Lao Tzu” The language we use creates our reality. There are 5 words in particular that create a dull, drab reality that is guaranteed to lead to a life of regret. Listen to this episode to learn what those 5 words are and what two phrases you can immediately replace them with to start creating massive change and the life you always "wanted".

Nobody likes to be criticized. Nobody. However, if you have relationships with people who hold you accountable, then criticism is an inevitable part of that relationship's dialogue. Tonight we focus not on how to deliver criticism (that'll be in a future episode), but on how to receive and accept criticism without nuking the relationship. There are 3 simple things you can do to be better at accepting criticism AND ensure the integrity of the relationship stays strong. Listen in to find out what they are.

Yes, that time of year is once again upon us...the beginning of the holiday season. It's that time of year where we are easily overwhelmed with all we have to do, and easily stressed because of...oh, so many reasons. Tonight we talk about the two types of people: Kairos (event/moment/relationship) oriented people Chronos (linear time/Type A) oriented people. Being a chronos oriented person, it's easy to get overwhelmed when the schedule gets full and when schedules aren't kept. Kairos people can let time get away because they're more 'in the moment' and end up stressed because they're confused as to where the time went. Listen to how Charlotte (kairos) and I (chronos) work on balancing the two when things get crazy. Find out how we set schedules, say no, don't commit to things we can't do, and how we keep our schedules open to allow for spontaneity in a season where free time can be a luxury.

We've often talked about how relationships can be strained, particularly when you're on a journey of personal growth. Others don't understand you, they're confused as to why you're not the same person they've always known, and perhaps they're taken aback by your new-found confidence.... ...and this can strain, and even break, long-standing relationships. Particularly with those closest to you. What do you do when you want to see about healing those relationships? You can't go back to the way things were...yet you're unsure about how to proceed. Honesty....and honest communication without judgement...are the keys to taking those first steps. Listen to this episode to find out how relationships can be healed, whether you're the one hurt or the one who did the hurting.

Rumors and the Damage Done Hey Rockstars! In our lives, we've all either been subject of or have even spread rumors.  They've either hurt us or given us a sense of power and belonging by "knowing" some juicy bit of information about someone else. Problem is, rumors are often false information.  They're based on one person's observation without fact-checking that observation with the subject of the rumor. Listen to tonight's episode to find out: the major reasons rumors get spread how to combat rumors how to quench rumors with one simple question   Tonight's Sponsor: ATransformedYou.Com - Join my team and transform your life, your health, and your financial situation all for about $3 a day. Remember... It is what it is....and the next stop is truly anywhere you decide it to be.

Quitters Never Win Nobody ever reached their own personal finish line by quitting half way through the race.   No seed ever sprouted without being watered and cared for. Your dreams are the same way. In order to make your life "all killer, no filler", you must be willing to do the impossible.  You've got to face failure and not let it beat you.  You've got to be so determined to get what you want out of life, that it's as necessary as breathing. You must also have patience.  Success doesn't happen overnight.  It's the culmination of the blood, sweat, and tears you put into making things happen. On this episode, we discuss facing failure, why visualization without action is a waste of time, and the importance of never...NEVER giving up. Tonight's sponsor: ATransformedYou.com - Want to explode all areas of your life for less than the cost of a Starbucks Pumpkin Spice Latte a day?  Visit A Transformed You to find out how.

Everyone Has A Story From the beginning of time, stories have been at the center of the human experience.  Even before man could talk we've shared stories.  Cave paintings, fables, parables, art, song...all of these and so many more allow us to express our unique stories in unique ways. Your story is just as unique as you are yet parts of your story are the stories of thousands of other people.  Your challenges, your successes, your failures...they make you uniquely you yet allow you to connect with others. What's your story?  For every person that shares their story, there are hundreds more who wish they had half the courage as the one sharing their story. You owe it to the world to share your story. Today's sponsor: The MMB60 Total Transformation Program.  Give us 60 days and we'll totally transform your health, your life, and your financial situation.  Click this link for more information, connect with me, and join my team. As always, connect with us on Twitter or Facebook and be sure to visit Transforming Monday for the latest.

In a recent post on the Transforming Monday Blog, I talked about "honesty without compassion".  This is when we communicate bluntly using phrases like: I’m just being honest. I just say it like it is. You know me… I’m blunt. ...or the #1 answer... "I was just trying to help!" The problem when we communicate these statements without compassion is that we often end up offending and insulting the person we're communicating with.  We invalidate what they are feeling because these phrases are interpreted as "I'm right, you're wrong". If we're going to communicate effectively, especially in difficult circumstances, then rapport building is a skill that needs to be learned. Building rapport allows us to connect with the other person, getting past the outer defenses we all have, and allows us to communicate more effectively. On this episode, Charlotte from Moms With A Passion, again joins me as we discuss the importance of building rapport so that we can gain permission to communicate and, at the same time, understand the boundaries we and others have. We discuss simple ways to build rapport, such as: Communicating in the other person's language (Visual, Auditory, Kinesthetic) How agreeing with them lowers their defenses How physical movement can build and/or break rapport and change the pace of the conversation. These simple techniques are easily put into practice in your daily life and you will astonish people with your awesome communication skills. We'd love to hear from you about tonight's show.  Connect with us: On Facebook at TransformingMonday On Twitter at XformMonday Via email at christian@transformingmonday.com Tonight's show was sponsored by ATransformedYou.com.  If you're looking to totally upgrade your life, physically, financially, or emotionally, visit A Transformed You and see how you can do it in just 60 days. 

Finding that reason, that "Why", that drives you to change some facets of your life is what every motivational and inspirational speaker, book, seminar, etc., tells you is absolutely vital to changing your life. It's true. Most people find a "why" that only interests them in making changes. They'll read a book, watch a movie, attend a seminar, and then inevitably fade back into their boring, ho-hum, average life. Why? Their life doesn't suck enough to force them to dig deep and find that "why" that pushes them to from interested to committed. Finding the right "why" is the difference between "I'd like to" and "I have to". The right why develops a sense of urgency, of desperation, that that thing in your life has to change. Reflecting on the last 12 months, in which I made some Earth shaking life changes, I realized for years my 'why' was a wimpy why and that's why my life was miserable. It wasn't until things got more painful than the pain of changing my life did I become committed to making changes. Listen as I share my story of how I went from interested to committed and how that "why" is again burning deep within my gut. Transformation Radio is sponsored by http://atransformedyou.com

You work hard, taking on new challenges to prove yourself, demonstrating your skill, your talent, your ability to perform at a higher level than anyone else around you and then one day it happens... ...you look around and realize your life is completely out of balance and you're nowhere near your ultimate outcome and you couldn't find the path with a flashlight and a 6 man searching party. You've become a prisoner of your own success. Trapped at a stop along the way because of how awesome you are. Listen to this episode and hear how a 30 minute meeting with John Terhune made me realize how I've become a prisoner of my own success and what I, and you, can do to break free from those chains. John Terhune's Attitude Pump: http://www.attitudepump.com/page/page/8819016.htm Transformation Radio is sponsored by http://atransformedyou.com