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Angilyn and Nate Bagley interview amazing LDS couples and marriage experts regarding how to create a passionate, connected, Celestial Marriage. If your're Mormon and your marriage is important to you, this podcast should be in your feed.

Angilyn and Nate Bagley


    • Mar 10, 2022 LATEST EPISODE
    • every other week NEW EPISODES
    • 52m AVG DURATION
    • 64 EPISODES

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    The Four Horsemen Of The Apoclaypse

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 10, 2022 50:14


    Dr. John Gottman has spent the last 4 decades studying what makes marriages succeed or fail. Through his research, he discovered 4 specific behaviors that, if left unchecked, will result in the destruction of any marriage.These 4 behaviors are known as The Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse.Today, we're going to share with you what the Four Horsemen are, how to recognize them, and what to do about them if they're present in your relationship.If you want to learn more about Dr. Gottman's work, we recommend his book, The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work. It's fantastic!

    An Introduction To Boundaries

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 17, 2022 61:32


    The concept of Boundaries is not something we talk about in Sunday School. It's not a merit badge, or a young women's value. But without boundaries, our marriages will not flourish and thrive like we want them to. So, today we're going to give you an introduction into the concept of boundaries. What are they? How do they work? Why are they important? How do we set them? And how do we enforce them?

    The Two Types of Marital Conflict

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 10, 2022 58:53


    Did you know there are actually two types of conflict in marriage? Some conflict, like what to eat for dinner tonight, is resolvable conflict. The rest of our conflicts - 69% to be exact - are unresolvable conflicts, like what to do if you're an early riser, and I'm a night owl. Or if you're fastidious and I'm cluttery. If you try to solve an unsolvable problem, you're just going to get more upset and frustrated. (Each type of problem requires its own skillset.) So, today we're going to talk about those two types of conflict, and how to handle them differently.

    How To Create A Marriage That Can Withstand Any Trial

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 3, 2022 53:07


    How do you create a marriage that can withstand any trial? And let's be honest, we want to do more than merely survive... we want to THRIVE, even amidst the struggles of life. God didn't give us marriage to endure. It's to enjoy. And that's what we'll show you how to do today.

    The Purpose Of Your Marriage

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 27, 2022 60:32


    This episode is a recording of a live marriage preparation class Angilyn and I taught as part of our calling with the YSA Ward. This week's lesson was on the purpose of your marriage... ie: why we get married. The answer might not be what you think...

    Busting Common Cultural Marriage Myths

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 20, 2022 53:01


    There are tons of really stupid, damaging marriage myths that we get told growing up. If we try to act out on those marriage myths as if they are true, they do SO much harm. Today we're going to talk about some of the more common marriage myths, and how to avoid falling into their trap.

    Want An Epic Marriage? There's An App For That!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 13, 2022 46:18


    Check out Dan's Intimately Us app at IntimatelyUs.com

    Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist #32

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 24, 2021 47:01


    Join us for another awesome conversation with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife! In this episode we delve into questions about exploring what arouses you, dealing with conflicting desires, and frustrations around female orgasm. We hope you enjoy the conversation!

    E50 - Power of a Shared Dream with Kory & Heather

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 5, 2020 60:22


    Kory Fluckiger and Heather McKinnon are work from home, school from home, and birth from home kind of people. Kory is an artist. Heather is an artist, social worker, and stay at home mom. They both volunteer for the American Red Cross High School Leadership Camp and would love to tell you about it!

    E49 - Continuing the Porn Conversation with Dr. Cam Staley

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 15, 2020 50:49


    We need to have more compassion and understanding in our marriages - for ourselves and for our partner. There are a lot of things that enter our relationships from our pasts. We need to realize that it is going to take some time to perfect this dance. Sometimes they’re going to step on your toes, and sometimes you will step on theirs. When we do that, let’s try to give each other some feedback and support. It can quickly turn to blame and anger - ‘you stepped on me and that really hurt!’ Most often there is not malicious intent, yet people still get injured. We get hurt and our expectations get betrayed. There is a lot of emotion and discomfort and fear. It’s here that we need to start from a place of, ‘my partner is probably doing their best even though they aren’t a great dance partner yet. Maybe I’m not a great dance partner yet either! I thought I had all the moves and I don’t. How can we learn how to dance together?’ — Dr. Cameron Staley

    Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist #31

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 21, 2020 63:22


    QUESTION #1My wife and I have been married for several years.  Arousal used to come easily, but in the past two years, severe depression has taken its toll on my libido.   When it's not depression, it's chronic fatigue.  Arousal now takes far more effort than it used to.  I've found that things like roleplay and reading erotica have helped to overcome these hurdles.  These are things we've done and enjoyed in the past, but have become more prevalent during the times of depression, as they seem to provide a shortcut to arousal.  This is helpful because, as a normally high drive person, I want to want it, even if the body doesn't react as freely.  I don't require them for arousal, but arousal doesn't happen on its own as much anymore.The problem is that my wife has put on weight in recent years, and she is often convinced that my lower libido is due to this.  She often feels like the roleplay is my way of pretending she was in better shape, or a different person.How can I help her to know that it's a depression issue, and that my roleplays & erotica are being used to "jump start" my libido, and are not meant to replace her?  How can I help her to not feel threatened by them?QUESTION #2Thank you for all that you do! My husband and I are huge fans of Jennifer Finlayson-Fife! We have taken her courses and they have changed our lives for the better! We have been married 11 years and have 2 small children.I am currently pregnant with our third child. While my husband and I have made great strides in our sexual relationship and I have taken monumental steps to claim my sexuality, I feel that my pregnancy has made me regress. I am so thankful to be able to carry children, but I do not feel sexually aroused while pregnant. My husband is so kind and tells me I’m beautiful, so the problem is not how he sees me. The problem is how I see myself. I tend to gain a lot of weight during pregnancy, which then takes me about a year to lose. With the weight gain, the fluctuating emotions, and how tired I become, sex is just not something I am interested in. Body image is a huge factor in this.I would like to be more intimate with my husband, without feeling anxiety about my changing body. How can I feel sexual while pregnant? I’m sure I’m not the only woman who feels this way!QUESTION #3I only learned about Joseph Smith’s polygamy, the doctrine of polygamy as explained in the scriptures and it’s extent in our temple dealings about 15 years ago. It has had a profound effect on how I view myself, my marriage and God. I am fearful of dying and resent this view of women.When I ask family or friends how they cope with this they say they just don’t think about it or say they know in the next life we’ll be perfect. I find myself trying to be perfect so I don’t get replaced. Can you help me move past this fear so I can more fully enjoy my marriage?

    E48 - Off Balance On Purpose | Learning to juggle all of life's roles with Rachel Nielson from the 3 in 30 Podcast

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 23, 2020 52:34


    In this episode of the podcast, Rachel Nielson from the "3 in 30 takeaways for moms" podcast joins us to talk about life's crazy balancing act!From wife, mother, ward calling holder, podcast host and business owner (just to name a few), Rachel has a lot of hats to wear! She knows firsthand the chaos that can come from attempting to juggle all of life's roles and responsibilities. The conversation we have is real and raw and beautiful. You don't want to miss it! Check out the 3 in 30 podcast to hear more incredible insights from Rachel and her guests!

    E47 - "Our Way" Marriage Plan with Jonathan Sherman, LMFT | The vital importance of premarital and early marital counseling

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 8, 2020 58:23


    When we asked Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Jonathan Sherman what he would want if he could be granted one professional wish, his answer surprised us at first."I would want everyone to participate in premarital or early marital counseling."As the conversation went on, it became obvious why!In this episode of the podcast, Jonathan paints a picture of just how big of an impact this would have on not only our relationships, but on our society for generations to come. He shows us how having a simple "Our Way" marriage plan can set a couple up for not just a "good" marriage that doesn't end in divorce, but an amazing and enviable marriage you never thought possible.Regardless of what stage your relationship is in, get ready for some serious "Ah Ha" moments!

    E46 - An Antidote to the "Almost Life" | Tapping into your Super Human Nature with Seth Ellsworth

    Play Episode Listen Later May 20, 2020 64:21


    "Buried in your humanity is a jewel - a gift from God. It is the strongest force in your life. There is no stronger force that you could use for good in your life then this: Your human nature has one single motive - to fight for what it deems as normal. It will fight to a degree that you cannot win. So, what do you do? Simple. Redefine what’s normal. All of a sudden, your human nature will work FOR you, instead of against you. This idea of controlling and creating what is normal is everything." -Seth Ellsworth

    E45 - Balancing Sacrifice and Self Care with Dr. Julie de Azevedo Hanks

    Play Episode Listen Later May 12, 2020 52:45


    Dr. Julie de Azevedo Hanks is a licensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, and coach with over 28 years experience specializing in women’s emotional health and relationships. She is the founder and director of Wasatch Family Therapy, an outpatient therapy clinic in Cottonwood Heights and Bountiful, UT, and serves as an assistant professor of social work at Utah Valley University.In addition to authoring two books, The Burnout Cure and The Assertiveness Guide for Women, Dr. Hanks is a blogger on Latter-day Saint Cultural issues, a speaker, a local and national media contributor, an online influencer, a private practice consultant, and an award-winning performing songwriter.A native Californian, Hanks currently lives with her family in Sandy, UT. For additional resources visit DrJulieHanks.com or connect with @drjuliehanks on social media.

    E44 - Surviving Quarantine with Dr. Dave Schramm

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 20, 2020 39:37


    Known as “Dr. Dave” on campus and across the country, Dave Schramm is an associate professor and family life extension specialist at Utah State University in the department of Human Development and Family Studies. After graduating with his Ph.D. from Auburn University, he worked as a professor at the University of Missouri for nine years. Since arriving at USU in 2016, he has been appointed by Governor Herbert to serve on Utah’s Commission on Marriage, he appears on television monthly on Fox 13’s “The Place” and he shares tips and videos on social media to help individuals, parents, and couples thrive in their life journeys.From British Columbia to Beijing, China, and from St. Louis to San Diego, Dr. Dave has given over 500 presentations, classes, and workshops to a variety of audiences, including the United Nations and a TEDx talk in Florida.He married his high school sweetheart Jamie, they have four children, he loves peanut M&Ms J, and the Schramm fam lives in North Logan, Utah.

    E43 - Baby Bagley's First Trimester

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 3, 2020 37:51


    In this episode of the podcast, Nate and Ang give an update on all things baby!They talk about the ups and the downs of first trimester, what they've learned individually and as a couple, and what they wish they would have known beforehand.Enjoy!

    E42 - Marriage on a Tightrope with Kattie & Allan Mount

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 27, 2020 54:42


    Kattie & Allan Mount are the co‑hosts of Marriage on a Tightrope, a podcast dedicated to navigating a mixed‑faith marriage. Kattie and Allan met in the MTC and both served missions in Barcelona Spain. They were married shortly after Allan returned. In 2017, Kattie and Allan suddenly found themselves dealing with Allan’s decision to distance himself from the church. Frustrated with the lack of support, Kattie suggested they go public about their situation by starting a podcast. Kattie loves all things Disney, and is PTA president of the local elementary school. Allan is a sales director for a South Jordan technology company, is an avid Dodgers fan, and performs improvisational comedy at Comedy Sportz in Provo. The couple has four children, ages 5 through 13.

    Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist #30

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 7, 2020 51:06


    Question #1My wife had a baby 6 months ago, and is afraid to have sex with me again. I've tried to get her to open up to me about what is going on, and why she is so anxious. I've let her dictate the pace of things so far, but if it were up to her, I'm not sure we'd ever have sex again.Before the baby, sex was a struggle for her. She was unsure of what she liked and what felt good. If I accidentally stumbled on something that felt good, and she had an orgasm, I would try to repeat whatever I was doing during the next session, but that was rarely successful. I'm beside myself trying to figure out what can be done to help her learn to enjoy being intimate with me. What can I do? Or, what can I encourage her to do? Help!Question #2I think I had an emotional affair. I’ve been married to my wife for almost a decade, and she’s the absolute best. She truly is my best friend and a wonderful mother to our three kids. After almost 10 years of marriage things have gotten pretty routine, but not necessarily complacent. We still laugh and talk and enjoy each other, but sometimes the routine gets a little stale.A couple of years ago, I texted a female friend. We were friends in high school but hadn’t kept in touch until I reached out about a business proposition. It was pretty innocent, but over time became pretty flirty until she eventually proposed the idea of an affair. I immediately severed ties with her and told my wife what she had said. This happened more 7 months ago. We haven’t spoken since, but I honestly miss her. I think about her all the time, almost daily. I miss how we would make each other laugh and our deep conversations through texts. I miss being desired by someone new... or at all. It has gotten easier over time, but I could use some direction.Was this an emotional affair? Should I tell my wife about it? How can I phrase it sensitively, if so? And how can I deal with this feeling of wanting to reach out to my former friend all the time? How do I replace the feelings of excitement that I was getting from her? Or do I have to learn deal without that excitement all together? I know... I’ve got issues.Question #3My question is about sexuality and chronic illness. How do you navigate sexuality and desire when one partner has a normal high sex drive and the other is sick and has barely any energy for anything. Even washing my hair is difficult most days.Before we were married I had a great drive, but very soon after I became very very sick. I try to be sexual as much as possible, but I feel guilty about not being able to meet his needs. Most of the time I would rather die than put the necessary energy into sex. Do you have any ideas for strategies to employ when his desire is high but my energy is low?

    E41 - Changing the Narrative Around Pornography with Dr. Cameron Staley

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 28, 2020 59:22


    In this episode of the podcast, we are joined by Dr. Cameron Staley - a Clinical Psychologist from Idaho State University - to tackle the topic of pornography.Talking about pornography in the church can be a polarizing issue. We support the stance of the church and agree that it is not something we personally want as a part of our marriage.What we don't agree with is the shame-filled and fear-based narrative that is so common in our culture. This narrative only exacerbates the struggles we are trying to eradicate. Is there a better way?Absolutely!!Thanks to the research and work of Dr. Staley, along with many other incredible people over the years, there is a better, more research based approach to navigating struggles of pornography with kindness, compassion, forgiveness and a whole lot of mindfulness.You don't want to miss this episode!

    E40 - In Sickness and in Health with RyLee and Ruben Matangi

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 14, 2020 62:03


    Ruben and RyLee have been married for 7 years and have 3 beautiful girls ages 5 and under. Through navigating career choices, becoming new parents, four moves, and a baby being life flighted, RyLee has also dealt with chronic eczema from head to toe. This past year it has gotten out of control to the point of leaving her in bed for weeks and even months on end. With three tiny girls that depend on her during the day, life seemed suddenly unmanageable. Spending money on doctors appointments, treatments and answers to no avail, their marriage has been stretched and challenged. Ultimately, even though they are still in the depths of searching for answers regarding RyLee’s health, this trial has brought them closer as they continue to navigate this journey together.

    E39 - The Divorced Mormon with Jenny Rollins Nelson

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 7, 2020 47:16


    As members of the church, one of our ultimate goals is getting married in the temple one day and promising to our future spouse for time and all eternity.So, what happens when eternity doesn't last as long as you thought it would?No one gets married with the anticipation that they will get divorced later. Unfortunately, it happens!Divorce can be a taboo topic in the church. It's not a topic frequently discussed in Sunday School (other than how to avoid it). With so much emphasis on family and temple marriage, it can leave a divorced member feeling lost in limbo, unsure what their place is in the grand scheme of things. There aren't very many resources readily available to help navigate such a troubling time.Thankfully, people like Jenny Rollins Nelson are seeking to change that!Join us for this week's episode as we dive head first into Jenny's personal experience with divorce, re-entering the dating field, relying on the Savior, and learning to love herself again.In her own words, "Yes, there is life after divorce!"

    BONUS | The Parable of the Growth Ecosystem with Nate & Ang

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 24, 2019 51:48


    In 2011, Nate quit his job and set out to find the answers to what makes a marriage truly extraordinary.After years of research, seminars, books and trainings, and from talking with top notch couples, therapists, and experts, he has finally been able to sum it up into one simple principle.A good seed, when placed in the right ecosystem - with adequate light, fertile soil, and an abundance of water - has no choice but to grow!Your marriage is no different.Check out this bonus episode to figure out why!

    E38 - Divorce Ideation with Dr. Alan Hawkins

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 12, 2019 44:10


    Have you ever found yourself thinking about divorce? Have you had thoughts like, "did I marry the wrong person?" or "Is my marriage going to fail?"According to Dr. Alan Hawkins' research on divorce ideation, you wouldn't be alone. His studies have shown that around 25% of married individuals have thought about divorce in the last 6 months alone.Does that mean your marriage is doomed? Absolutely not! In this episode of the podcast, we chat with Dr. Alan Hawkins about exactly what divorce ideation is and why you may have it. We talk about how you can use those thoughts as a catalyst to help your marriage be better than it ever has been. We also discuss those instances when divorce really is best for everyone involved. For a topic that is often taboo in church culture, Dr. Alan Hawkins provides comforting and reassuring research to help you navigate having thoughts of divorce. Enjoy!

    E37 - The Lotus Letter | Advocating for Mental Health with Genny & J.J. Hyde

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 3, 2019 59:37


    J.J. and Genny have been married for almost six years, and have two little boys ages 2 and 3 1/2. Throughout their marriage, they have had to navigate around a mental illness; Genny has Bipolar type II disorder.Through personal experiences, therapy, faith, and a lot of love and forgiveness, they have both become advocates for mental health. The gospel gives both of them an eternal perspective and they know that this trial is temporal.JJ is currently working on creating a guidebook that will teach loved ones of those struggling with depression, how to help. Their marriage is very strong despite her disorder. They have learned to lean on one another in hard times and cling to the joyous times.Their marriage is stronger because of Genny’s illness, as they have had to grow spiritually and emotionally while working together to have an unbreakable and eternal bond.

    E36 - Grief and Disappointment with Nate & Ang

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 18, 2019 26:25


    In the last few weeks, Nate and Angilyn have experienced a rollercoaster of emotions.They felt the excitement and joy of learning that they were expecting for the first time, only to feel the heartache and grief of a miscarriage shortly afterwards.Everyone deals with grief and loss in different ways. In this episode of the podcast, Nate and Ang share how having a support system of close friends and family has helped to ease their pain. In Nate's words, "It was so fun having people be ecstatic with us, and it was so powerful to have people cry with us when it didn’t work out. To me, there’s nothing more beautiful in life than having friendships like that."

    E35 - Betrayal Trauma Part 2 with Kristin B. Hodson

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 11, 2019 63:16


    Latter-day Saints have been talking about what an ideal marriage would look like ever since they were a young child in primary."I love to see the temple," they sing, "I'll go inside someday."No one goes into a marriage thinking they are going to experience a betrayal.So, what happens when that story of the ideal marriage gets ripped out of your hands? When betrayal happens, what do you do next? How to you navigate all the emotions that come along with it without dooming the relationship to failure?In this week's episode of the podcast, we continue our conversation with Kristin Hodson, AASECT certified Sex Therapist and LCSW, about how to navigate an intimate betrayal in your relationship.

    E34 - A Call to Ghana with Tom & Becky Rogers

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 4, 2019 52:25


    Tom & Becky Rogers are the proud parents of 10 children and the founders of FamiliesMentoringFamilies.org, an international organization that strengthens families through service, collaboration, and education to develop leadership and self-reliance. In 2017, they moved to Ghana, Africa with their youngest 5 children to pursue their personal mission. The first 18 months were an intense preparation as they gained a lot of experience VERY quickly, including within their own family dynamic.As the Rogers interacted with people and developed relationships in Africa, they were drawn to the multi-generational impact that educating a family, beginning with the mother, has in addressing the "front line" of poverty. Today, FMF is building family literacy centers across Africa and is beginning a new initiative to reunite "orphans" with their parents through the Family Restoration Center.With the help of American volunteers, cooperating with local leadership, team expeditions are gaining cultural experience and making a real difference in the lives of families, one at a time."If we moved to Africa, we’d have to learn to live so radically different that we’d actually have time to be a family." -Tom

    Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist #29 LIVE RECORDING Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 11, 2019 40:15


    In part 2 of our LIVE recording, we tackle two more questions from the guys! Question #1“My wife and I are trying to conceive. This is one of the most stressful times of my life, and stress is a major anti-aphrodisiac for me. How do I confront the pressure to perform?Question #2"My wife has a “fun” sexual past with her high school boyfriends. Before we dated she had shared too many of those experiences with me. I was fine with it, until I woke up to her crying on our wedding night. It triggered a jealousy and resentment where I feel she gave “them” her fun self. I got the Mormon prude and they got the fun girl. I love her, but I feel like she has never chosen me. I get that I’m at fault with the unforgiving heart and mad with jealousy that has built emotional walls. I feel like all our sex has been mercy sex. I don’t even want to have sex with her because that’s what it is. When we become intimate all I can see is her doing “this” with “them.” It makes me regret and feel bitterness that I strived to stay a virgin and be as "clean" as I could. I feel like I have lived life wrong. Since she is a terrific good person and she has the “dirty” past, she is the better more healthy person while I am the bitter/resentful seminary graduate boy. It makes me hate myself that I can’t get over that. I’m over 15 years into this and the cloud just gets darker and bigger. How can I start becoming more intimate with my wife while suffering with this intense jealousy? I just finished your course enhancing sexual intimacy and I am grateful for you and what you are doing. So, thank you and I would love to here your answer knowing it will be painful.”

    E33 - The Art of Love with Howard & Shari Lyon

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 8, 2019 61:49


    "Art is therapy for me. I love it so much. There is nothing, outside of God and family, that is more rewarding than making something. We were created to be creators. It is our destiny. What a wonderful thing that is! It’s the only thing I can imagine doing forever. Everything else would get boring. Creating things has the potential to fulfill you through eternity." - Howard Lyon In this episode of the podcast, Howard and Shari Lyon share with us their incredible love story. 25 years of marriage and three kids later, their life is far from conventional. Both incredible artists, they share with us how creating through art has influenced their love of life and love for each other. We hope you enjoy it!

    Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist #28 LIVE RECORDING Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 4, 2019 53:36


    In part 1 of our LIVE recording, we hear what inspired Jennifer to put her life’s work into helping LDS women and couples develop healthy sexuality in their lives and marriages. We also delve into questions asked by two of our lady listeners! #1: I live in Utah and I feel like there is a lot of pressure from my ward and surroundings suppressing my sexuality. When I'm on vacation or trips alone with my husband I feel so able to claim my sexuality but when I come back from trips or vacations, I feel like it gets stripped away with motherhood, the sense of what it is to be a female and then I feel like an object to be managed sexually. I recognize a perfect mormon women is a made up cultural myth. But I feel that owning my sexuality is possible. I also find that I resent my husband's sexuality and I'm judgemental of it and I need help. How do I become a whole women and stay solid in my sexuality. The shame force is strong in Utah! Can you paint me a picture of what a whole sexual LDS women looks like? Honestly when I try to paint or describe a whole women it ends up looking like a hot mess woman with holes to be used and objectified not the whole women I find on vacation. #2: I have been married for fifteen years and have never had an orgasm. We have tried and tried, but I just can’t do it. How do you do it? My husband and I fit the Mormon mold when it comes to the fact that we were never talked to about sex in any way other than it was bad. What would be your suggestion for me to do?

    E32 - Always Go To The Funeral Q&A with Nate & Angilyn

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 30, 2019 44:29


    If you want one of your own questions answered on the podcast, send it to us here.

    E31 - You Are Not A Burden with Dani Bates

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 30, 2019 57:03


    Dani was widowed by suicide in March of 2019. Soon after, she began writing about her late husband, Denny, and about her experiences in real time as she and her two daughters go through life after a traumatic loss.She has become an advocate for mental wellness and stopping the stigma against suicide. You can read more on her blog at danibates.com or listen to her podcast “Make It Awkward” on any major listening app. Follow her on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter for the latest. 

    E30 - Choosing Joy with Brittany and Trevor Frank

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 30, 2019 51:58


    In March of 2012, Brittany Fisher Frank was involved in a rappelling accident in which she fell 80-100 feet. The injuries she sustained from the fall left her paralyzed from the waist down.After her accident, she had many concerns including the worry of what dating what be like. But, when she met Trevor, he jumped right in - loading her wheelchair into his car on their first date!Though living with a disability comes with many challenges and difficulties, Trevor & Brittany share with us how they move forward in their marriage and in their lives with optimism, faith, and joy.Trevor and Brittany have been married for 3 years, and are the parents of an adorable little boy and the cutest dog.

    Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist #27

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 30, 2019 40:45


    Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a LDS relationship and sexuality coach as well as a  Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in the state of Illinois.  She has a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. In addition to her dissertation research on LDS women's sexuality and relationship to desire, she has taught college level human sexuality courses. Her teaching and coaching focuses on helping LDS individuals and couples achieve greater satisfaction and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships.In addition to consultation with couples and individuals (in person and online), she offers online relationship and sexuality courses as well as live workshops and retreats for LDS couples and individuals.  Jennifer is a frequent guest on LDS-themed podcasts and write articles for LDS-themed blogs and magazines, on the subjects of sexuality, relationships, mental health and faith.

    E29 - Enjoying the Journey with Brooke and Mike Romney

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2019 57:28


    In this episode of the podcast, we are joined by Brooke and Mike Romney.Brooke is a blogger, speaker and freelance writer, and Mike is in Business Development at a Healthcare Company. They reside just outside of Salt Lake City.They are raising 4 active boys who consistently remind us that they are not nearly as cool as they thought we would be.Brooke loves to write about anything and everything, but especially about things that matter. She is committed to sharing real life with a hopeful twist. Her fresh perspective and relatable style has engaged millions of readers in the Deseret News, Washington Post, Studio 5, and on her own blog and Instagram @brookeromneywrites. She loves writing, speaking and sharing truth any chance she gets.Brooke and Mike will be celebrating 20 years of marriage this December.

    E28 - Love Maps Q&A with Nate and Angilyn

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2019 36:52


    If you want one of your own questions answered on the podcast, send it to us here.

    E27 - Beyond Betrayal Trauma with Kristin Hodson, LCSW

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2019 48:44


    Kristin Hodson is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist.  She is Founder and Executive Director of The Healing Group mental health clinic in Salt Lake City and Co-Author of the book Real Intimacy: A Couples Guide for Genuine, Healthy Sexuality (Cedar Fort 2011). Additionally she works as an adjunct professor teaching human sexuality to master level students working to become Social Workers and founded the Rocky Mountain Sex Summit in an effort to increase sexual health competency in mental health professionals. She has a unique ability to break down the topics of sexuality into easily digestible pieces empowering people to further develop their sexual identity, hone their sexual values, improve their communication around sexuality all with the intention to improve people’s relationships with themselves and others.Kristin is approachable, relatable and has a light sense of humor around something that often feels intimidating or heavy. She has been a guest presenter for nationally renowned sex therapist Dr. Gina Ogden and Dr. Tammy Nelson and has contributed to national media outlets including Huffington Post Live, NPR, Women’s Day Magazine and MTV and local outlets including RadioWest, Studio5,The Deseret News, RadioWest, The Salt Lake Tribune, Salt Lake City magazine, various podcasts and local news outlets.  Kristin is a Mom of 3 wild things and a partner to her husband Jake living in Salt Lake City, Ut and Playa Grande, Costa Rica.

    E26 - Creating a Shared Dream with Mark and Georgia Anderson

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2019 51:48


    Mark and Georgia Anderson are a “2nd chance“ couple who have been married for 15 years. Between them, they have seven married children and going on 13 grandkids. They love to ski, serve, and adventure together, and are creating a second bucket list (since they have lived so long—everything got checked off).Mark is a PT (he will check your knees at parties), and Georgia is a relationship coach at knowhowmom.com.

    E25 - We Call It A Journey with Danelle and Tyler Beckstrand

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2019 71:53


    Tyler and Danelle Beckstrand met in a college math class at Utah State University (go Aggies!) They got married in 2011 and graduated together a few years later. The plan was to have babies right away but they found themselves dealing with unexplained infertility. After six years of trying to build their family, they decided adoption was their next step. In May 2019 they experienced their first failed adoption but came back more determined than ever!Although there are many unknowns in this journey, they are anxious, and ready, to give all their love to the lives that enter into theirs. They look forward to starting new family traditions and excitedly await all the giggles and smiles to come.

    E24 - Unhooked with Jason Coombs

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2019 64:15


    Jason Coombs is a person in long-term recovery and the Founder and CEO of nationally accredited Brick House Recovery. He earned a Master of Professional Communication Degree (MPC) and has a deep passion for recovery. In fact, he is the author of the newly released book Unhooked: How to Help an Addicted Loved One Recover. He is a professional TEDx Speaker, consultant, and leadership expert.Jason serves in the Meridian Anti-Drug Coalition, Drug Free Idaho, and works closely with the Institute for Addiction Study. Currently, Jason serves on the Idaho Conference on Alcohol and Drug Dependence Board.Jason loves the outdoors and is an ironman 70.3 finisher with his two brothers. Jason and his wife enjoy living in a small town outside of Boise, Idaho with their twin toddlers. You can find him in the Recovery Movement group on Facebook.You can contact Jason directly at info@brickhouserecovery.com.

    E23 - Boundaries vs. Ultimatums Q&A with Nate & Angilyn

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2019 42:05


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    E22 - How To Get Your Spouse On Board With Improving Your Marriage Q&A with Nate and Angilyn

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2019 42:51


    We hear this type of question all the time.You’ve heard it said, “It takes two to tango.”You’ve got all these awesome ideas on how to better your relationship, but no matter how many times you ask your spouse to get on board, you aren’t getting any ounce of participation from them.You want your life to change, but you feel stuck.“I want to be healthier, but my wife hates exercising.”“I want our family to be more spiritual, but I can’t get my husband to initiate scripture reading and family home evening.”“I wish that we weren’t on our phones as much, but everytime I ask my spouse to put their phone away we end up arguing.”“I need more help around the house but I have to constantly nag, yell and scream before anyone lifts a finger.”Do any of these situations sound familiar to you?If so, you’re not alone.So, how do you get your spouse to embrace all of these things and put them into practice?Spoiler Alert…YOU can’t.You can’t make your spouse to do anything, regardless of how hard you try.But why not?!?!If you haven’t learned already, you have zero control over your spouse and their choices.Zero. Zilch. None whatsoever.In fact, there are very few things in life that you actually have control over: Just you… Your thoughts, your actions, your choices.We talk about this all the time on the blog and in the podcast.Just like it would do you absolutely no good to stand outside in the rain and beg the sky to stop, it does you no good to hound your spouse and constantly nag them in hopes that they will see things your way and change.This is type of behavior is more harmful than helpful…So, what can you do?

    E21 - Information Before Revelation with Llyly and Manuel Valdes

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2019 65:20


    Manuel & Llyly Valdes have a Celestial Marriage of 25 years. They met as Manuel was finishing his mission in the Dominican Republic. The beginning of their relationship was orchestrated by a mutual friend who saw them as eternal. She convinced them to write to each other after Manuel returned home from his mission to Australia. Initially through letters, their friendship soon progressed to what is now, a continuous romantic courtship.Manuel is a senior consultant with an IT solution company based in Melbourne, Australia. Llyly has been a health professional for a number of years and is currently building her own business as a wellness educator. They are the parents of 3 young single adults.Both have served in various church leadership capacities. Manuel has been a branch president, bishop, and member of several stake presidencies (including a stake president in two stakes). While supporting her husband with his demanding responsibilities, Llyly has also served in stake and ward Relief Society Presidencies, and stake and ward young women presidencies. Recently, they both Served together as Multi-stake YSA advisors for the Melbourne and Tasmania States of Australia. They loved this calling because amongst other things, they got to show off their dancing moves in the various YSA dances.We met Manuel and Llyly as they had returned to the USA to celebrate their 25th year wedding anniversary by revisiting the San Diego temple where they were sealed in 1993.

    E20 - What an LDS Sex Therapist Wishes You Knew Before Your Honeymoon with Alisha Worthington

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2019 50:55


    Alisha Worthington has an MSW from USC and a BSW from BYU, and is Co-Author of Real Intimacy, a Couples’ Guide to Real, Genuine Intimacy. Alisha has also sought extensive education regarding sexual health and is a certified 4-D Practitioner and Gottman Trained Educator.Alisha has been featured on podcasts, blogs, news outlets, and radio and her articles have been read over 1,000,000 times. Alisha has led workshops and presentations on topics such as, Reclaiming Desire, Mother-Daughter Maturation and Sexual Health, Talking to Your Kids About Sex, and The Godly Design of Intimacy.Alisha has been married 22 years to her husband Bret and describes him as what Thor would be like if he took on the great challenge of having children and raising them. Alisha and Bret are the parents of seven fantastic kids ranging from in age from 7 to 20. As a result, Alisha’s favorite quote is, “Be still, and know that I am God.”

    E19 - Reconnecting Head and Heart with Thom Harrison

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2019 53:22


    Thomas Harrison has been trained in cognitive therapy, psychodynamic therapy, reality-oriented therapy, and relationship therapy. He has been practicing in Utah with a clinical license since 1977. He has taught at the University of Utah Medical School, Graduate School of Social Work and in conflict resolution and divorce mediation at the BYU Law School.Harrison has postgraduate training in depression, anxiety, sexual, emotional, and physical abuse, sexual addiction, and posttraumatic stress disorders. He has counseled over 4000 survivors of sexual abuse. He treats dissociative disorders and has served on the neuro-trauma team at three hospitals.He has 40 years of experience and assists in the resolution of problems quickly and in the long run for less cost to the client. He is knowledgeable in traditional psychotropic medication and nontraditional approaches to wellness. He is a skilled therapist. He is the author of three published books.

    E18 - Choosing Adventure with The Jurgy's

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2019 36:26


    Adventure Traveling Family of Three. Ourselves in 5 words:NELLIE - Outdoors, Yoga, Climbing, Painting, RunningBRYCE - Entrepreneurial, Film, Basketball, Guitar, TravelAVALYN - Milkies, Giggles, Dirt, Sunlight, TreesIn 2015, Nells had a health scare that pushed us to finally pursue our dreams and adventure the world. We started our Youtube channel in hopes to inspire others to adventure more & also to have memories for us. We began hiding treasure bottles everywhere we adventured. Whoever found them received outdoor gear, a vacation, or even money. Go find one!! We hope that by sharing our adventures with you, it inspires you to do the same. Do something memorable this week!

    E17 - God Is In The Details with Kim and Treagan White

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2019 61:43


    Treagan and Kim White have been married for 10 years. They have one very strong-willed six year old girl who keeps them going. They enjoy outdoor adventures and discovering new places to explore. Their world was rocked when Kim was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer (adrenocortical carcinoma) in 2014. They lost their second child at 18 weeks of pregnancy, during Kim’s initial treatment. She was told she only had a few months to live, but those who know Kim know she’s not the type to accept someone telling her what she can and can’t do. So, fighting cancer is this couple’s new norm. They have learned so much about what really matters in this life. They’ve been knocked down so many times that getting back up is just a habit. Together, they have come to know about change, starting over, forgiveness, unconditional love, and daily progress. Cancer has not only blessed their life but it saved their marriage.

    E16 - The Divinity of Desire with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife Anniversary Re-Launch

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2019 50:57


    Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a licensed psychotherapist with a Ph.D in Counseling Psychology from Boston College. She wrote her dissertation on LDS women and sexuality, has taught college-level courses on human sexuality, and currently teaches online and community-based relationship and sexuality courses to LDS couples. She is a frequent contributor on the subjects of sexuality, mental health, and spirituality to LDS-themed blogs, magazines, and podcasts. She maintains a private practice in Chicago where she lives with her husband and three children. She is an active member of the LDS church.2:35 Jennifer’s workshop “Art of Desire”4:15 The meaning frames that humans create to justify or explain their circumstances6:45 It is necessary to integrate your god-given sexuality8:00 “False tradition” says that sexuality is a necessary evil8:35 Mormon theology for sexuality9:10 Ways to be evil10:15 Sexuality and goodness11:15 Adjusting to marriage14:00 Steps to cultivating god-given desire14:30 we run our own sexuality, it doesn’t run us16:45 What happens when you’re afraid of your sexuality (repression or indulgence)18:15 Sexual contract - marriage is a chosen relationship; to know and be known20:45 Marriage pushes your development21:30 What can my marriage teach me?22:15 “Ticks and moles”23:10 You live in the environment that you create23:45 We self deceive and collude in not dealing with troubles (polite marriage vs intimate marriage)24:15 Measuring quality of marriage25:30 Can there be room for the best of both partners? We often want our own limitations to prevail while expecting our spouses’ limitations to disappear26:00 Victim mentality (guilt your spouse into submission) It may look like there’s peace, but there will be underlying anger and resentment.27:00 Unrealistic fantasy of “oneness”28:00 Using the validation of others to sustain your own sense of self28:50 “In the name of Love, we can sometimes suck the lives out of our spouses” (validate me, reinforce me)29:45 Choose to love someone, limitations and all30:00 Breaking the bond of using someone else for your own validation31:40 Even if your partner says all the right words, it won’t land anywhere if you don’t feel it in your heart32:30 Taking accountability for your own life33:15 “False tradition” if women want to develop vs nurture, then they are selfish (we’ve come to earth to develop and create)34:30 Create a sense of self34:50 Self deception is Satan’s path35:20 Taking responsibility for your own emotions37:25 Don’t try to manage your partner in order to manage yourself. Trying to control things we have no control over, like our spouses, distracts us from focusing on what we CAN control, like ourselves38:45 What are my blind spots that I have yet to confront?39:00 One of the kindest things you can do for your partner is to manage yourself (anxiety is infectious). This allows them to in turn manage THEMSELVES40:20 Ask yourself “what am I pretending not to know about my role in these circumstances”41:00 Confronting yourself is a scary thing, especially in a sexual relationship42:00 Own your own desire and ask for what you want vs covert contracts42:45 Owning your desire exposes you to the possibility of rejection. This is true intimacy and true vulnerability43:20 “you’re not allowed to complain about not getting something you’ve never asked for”44:05 it’s easier to sit in an entitled resentment thinking “you owe me” instead of asking for what you want and risking not getting it.44:45 When we don’t take responsibility of our desires, we stunt the development of our marriages and of ourselves44:55 if you’re not getting what you want in your marriage - #1 have you asked for it? #2 are you doing your part to create the possibility of getting it?46:40 We’re good at thinking about all of the things we think we are owed, but not so good at confronting our part in he negative reality we are living in47:10 Make it easy for your partner to give you what you want48:25 The theology of Mormonism contains the architecture for creating amazing marriages49:15 you come to know God through behavior, not ideas. It’s the way you act in our marriage that is a reflection of how much you understand God.

    E15 - What To Do When You're Frustrated With Your Partner Q&A with Nate & Angilyn

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2019 44:50


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    E14 - The Hero's Journey with Jake and Kristin Hodson

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2019 62:59


    IN THIS WEEK’S EPISODE OF THE PODCAST WE TALK WITH JAKE AND KRISTIN HODSON ABOUT THEIR OWN KIND OF HERO’S JOURNEY.At the end of 2017, Jake and Kristin realized that they were living their lives in fast forward. With two successful careers, soccer practice, gymnastics, doctor’s appointments, church callings, family and friend duties, and more they felt like they were barely keeping their heads above water rather than being in control of their own lives.Jake mentioned the Three Deadly C’s that had a hold on their family:Consumption, Convenience, and Comfort.Jake and Kris have been married for 12 years and are parents to three wild things ages 10, 7, 4.  They've worked hard throughout the course of their marriage to become partners in parenting, professional pursuits, and personal passions which include travel adventures, surfing, yoga, snowboarding, and anything water related. Jake is a Certified Yoga Instructor and works full-time in the professional world of commercial real estate. Kris is a Certified Sex Therapist,  founder of The Healing Group, a mental health clinic in Salt Lake City, author Real Intimacy: A Couple's Guide to Genuine, Healthy Sexuality, and a regular speaker on sexual health. You can find more about them at TheTaoOfHodson.com

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