The Coaching Your Family Relationships Podcast

Send us a textWhat Your Young Adult Child Wants You to KnowIf you've ever wondered what your young adult child is really thinking—but they're not telling you—this episode is for you. Tina Gosney sits down with two self-aware and deeply insightful young adults, Clarice Paulsen and Caleb Price, to give parents a rare look inside the young adult experience.You'll hear honest and vulnerable stories about how parents unintentionally make life harder for their young adult children—and what they actually need instead. Tina also shares reflections and guidance to help you respond with less fear, more compassion, and a stronger emotional foundation.If you want to foster a deeper relationship with your young adult and learn how to be a soft place for them to land, this conversation is a must-listen.Links to access the resources in this episode:(Free Class) How to Heal the Relationship with Your Adult Child without Guilt, Anxiety, or Walking on Eggshells CLICK HERE If you're tired of walking on eggshells or feeling heartbroken over the distance between you and your adult child or anyone else in your family, Bridge to Connection will show you a better way. In just eight short lessons, you'll learn powerful tools to stay grounded, respond with confidence, and create safety in your relationship—without needing your child to change first. You'll walk away feeling empowered, hopeful, and deeply connected to the person you want to be, no matter what's happening around you. CLICK HERE TO FIND OUT MOREGuest Name: Clarice Paulsen & Caleb Price Bio:Clarice is a coach with Balanced Recovery Coaching, helping people reconnect with their purpose and healing.Caleb is a college coach and podcast host, guiding young adults to manage their minds and create confidence in college and beyond.Links:Clarice: balancedrecovery.coachCaleb: calebpricecoaching.com

Send us a textBreak Free from Perfectionism: Overcome Shame, Embrace Imperfection & Boost Self-EsteemShow Notes:In this eye-opening episode, we dive deep into how perfectionism isn't a virtue—it's a crutch that keeps us hiding our true selves and trapped in shame. Discover why striving for perfection in your body, home, career, relationships, and more can lead to an unrelenting inner critic and prevent you from experiencing authentic connection.What You'll Learn:The Hidden Shame of Perfectionism:Explore the #1 shame triggers for women and men—from not being “perfect” in every aspect to being perceived as incapable or weak. Understand how these societal pressures foster deep-rooted shame and isolation.The Mask We Wear:Learn why perfectionism creates a false public self that distances us from our true identity, and how this disconnect affects our self-esteem and relationships.Inspiration from “The Greatest Showman”:Relive the emotional journey of Keala Settle in “This is Me” and see how embracing your scars and vulnerabilities can set you free. Her powerful performance reminds us that authenticity is the key to self-acceptance. The Greatest Showman Clip Breaking the Cycle:Understand why perfectionism is not about striving for excellence, but about avoiding criticism. Find out how shifting your mindset can lead to healthier personal growth, improved mental health, and deeper relationships.Key Takeaways:Perfectionism is a societal trap that limits growth and authentic connection.Embracing imperfection is the first step toward reclaiming your self-worth.You have the power to challenge your inner critic and say, “I am enough, and I matter, despite…”Real change begins when you start valuing your internal worth over external approval.____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________Learn more about my Signature Coaching Program for Parents who want to strengthen their family relationships: Courageous Connections - CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE  Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. Developing healthy family relationships can change lives. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

Send us a textEpisode 176-   The Truth About Mom Guilt: Why You Feel It and How to Let It Go Do you feel like you've failed as a mom? Is your relationship with your adult child strained, distant, or full of tension? You're not alone. Many mothers struggle with mom guilt, shame, and emotional disconnection from their adult children. But healing is possible—starting with self-compassion and emotional resilience. In this episode of Coaching Your Family Relationships, I share a personal story about a time I felt completely disconnected from my child and overwhelmed with guilt. I'll walk you through how self-judgment keeps us stuck, how shame isolates us, and why emotional resilience is the key to repairing your relationship with your adult child. What you'll learn in this episode: How to stop judging yourself and start practicing self-compassionWhy mom guilt and shame keep you from healingWhat emotional resilience is and how it helps you stay steady in family conflictA simple phrase to say when you feel overwhelmed: "I'm doing the best I can, and that's enough."If you're feeling lost, stuck, or weighed down by guilt, this episode will help you take the first step toward healing your relationship with yourself—and with your child. Listen Now and Take the Next Step If you're ready to heal the relationship with your adult child, I invite you to download my free online class. Heal the Relationship with Your Adult Child In this class, you'll learn: Why your relationship with your child feels distant—and what you can do about itHow to let go of guilt and shame so you stop blaming yourselfThe best way to communicate so you strengthen your connection instead of pushing them awayClick here to watch the class Healing is possible, and it starts with you.If this episode helped you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another mom who needs to hear this today.   Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. Developing healthy family relationships can change lives. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

Send us a textEpisode 175 - Communicate While Minimizing Conflict - 7 Keys to Staying GroundedIf conversations with your adult child feel tense, emotionally draining, or full of misunderstandings, you're not alone. In this episode of Your Family Relationships, I'll walk you through seven key principles of grounded communication that will help you navigate difficult conversations without losing yourself in anxiety, guilt, or defensiveness.You'll hear real-life examples of how these principles show up in parent-adult child relationships, and I'll hint at the solutions that can help you transform your interactions. These strategies will empower you to communicate with clarity, emotional balance, and integrity—no matter how your adult child responds.Want to go deeper? Download my free class: Healing Your Relationship with Your Adult Child. It's packed with practical tools to help you shift from conflict to connection.Click here to access the free class!Real-Life Examples Shared in This Episode:

Send us a textEpisode 174: How to Stop Walking on Eggshells and Create a Healthier Relationship If you have ever felt like you are walking on eggshells around your adult child—constantly giving but not receiving respect in return—you are not alone. Setting boundaries is one of the most common struggles parents face, but many misunderstand what boundaries actually are. Boundaries are not about controlling your child or shutting them out; they are about creating a healthier, more balanced relationship based on mutual respect. In this episode, we explore: What boundaries really are and what they are notHow to communicate your boundaries with clarity and kindnessWhy setting boundaries may feel uncomfortable at first, but is essential for a stronger relationshipReal-life examples of how to set and maintain boundaries in everyday situationsThe difference between boundaries, rules, and enmeshment, and why understanding these distinctions changes the way you relate to your childBy the end of this episode, you will have a clearer understanding of how to set effective, loving boundaries without guilt, anxiety, or fear of disconnection. If you are ready to take this work deeper, join my free class, Heal Your Relationship with Your Adult Child Without Guilt, Anxiety, or Walking on Eggshells.Join the Free Class: Heal Your Relationship with Your Adult Child In this class, we will take a deeper look at the patterns that are keeping you stuck and how to start making real, lasting changes. Registration is open now. Click here to sign up. Host and Show Information: Host: Tina Gosney, The Family Conflict Coach About: Helping mothers navigate difficult relationships with their adult children Website: tinagosney.com If you found this episode helpful, share it with a friend who could benefit from it. Thanks for listening, and see you next time.  Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. Developing healthy family relationships can change lives. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

Send us a textEpisode 173 - How to Rebuild a Relationship with Your Adult Child – 5 Essential StepsAre you struggling to reconnect with your adult child? Do you feel like no matter what you do, there's a growing emotional distance? In this episode of The Coaching Your Family Relationships Podcast, we're exploring five essential steps that will help you mend your relationship and create a foundation for meaningful, lasting connection.What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why reflecting on your relationship's journey is the first step toward healing How recognizing emotional triggers can help break unhealthy patterns The importance of shifting from fixing to supporting your adult child How communication style impacts your connection—and what to do differently Why setting clear, loving boundaries fosters a stronger relationshipWhy This MattersFeeling disconnected from your child—no matter their age—can be heartbreaking. But relationships are not static; they evolve. And while disconnection may have happened over time, rebuilding your bond is absolutely possible when you take intentional steps forward.Want the Full Step-by-Step Guide?I've created a free training, Healing Your Heart: 5 Steps to Reconnect with Your Adult Child, that walks you through each of these steps in detail, with practical exercises you can start using today. Download it now - click hereJoin My Class: Healing Your Relationship with Your Adult ChildIf you're ready to take this work even further, I invite you to my upcoming class where we dive deeper into these steps and give you the tools to repair and strengthen your relationship. Sign up today - click here Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. Developing healthy family relationships can change lives. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

Send us a text#172 The Power of Courage: Transforming Your Relationship with Your Family RelationshipsAre you struggling with a difficult relationship with your adult child? Do you feel stuck in frustration, sadness, and confusion, unsure of how to reconnect? In this episode of The Coaching Your Family Relationships Podcast, host Tina Gosney explains why courage is the essential emotion needed to break free from painful relationship patterns and rebuild a meaningful connection.What You'll Learn in This Episode:How emotions like grief, anger, and frustration keep you stuck in disconnection Why courage is the turning point between feeling powerless and stepping into personal agency The role of David Hawkins' Map of Consciousness in transforming your relationships How to move forward even when fear and doubt try to hold you back Practical strategies to break unhealthy family cycles and create lasting changeWhy This Matters:If you continue operating from fear, blame, or resentment, your relationship with your adult child won't improve. But when you embrace courage—even when it feels scary—you shift your energy and change the way you show up. This shift can open the door to healing and reconnection.Join My Upcoming Class: "Heal Your Relationship with Your Adult Child"Ready to take the first step? In my upcoming class, we'll dive deeper into these concepts and explore actionable tools to help you communicate with confidence, manage your emotions, and build a stronger bond with your child.Sign up now - Click HereYou don't have to stay stuck. Courage is the key, and I'll show you how to use it.Subscribe & Review: If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe and leave a review! Your feedback helps more parents like you find support and guidance. Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It takes one person to begin changing unhealthy patterns. You can be the one. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a text Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It takes one person to begin changing unhealthy patterns. You can be the one. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a textIn this powerful episode of Coaching Your Family Relationships, I sit down with Jodi Larae Cunningham, author of Estrangement Healing for Mothers and Daughters. Jodi shares her personal journey of mother-daughter estrangement and the deep generational patterns that influenced it. Through personal growth, responsibility, and emotional healing, she found a path to reconnection. We explore how family conflict often stems from unexamined patterns, the importance of differentiation, and the courage it takes to break free from unhealthy cycles.Key Takeaways:How generational patterns contribute to family estrangementThe role of differentiation in healing family relationshipsWhy personal growth and taking responsibility are essential steps toward reconciliationHow to navigate the pain of estrangement and find peace, even when relationships remain distantPractical tools for fostering safe, open communication between mothers and daughtersResources & Links: If you have a relationship with an adult child that is suffering, download this free guide:5 Steps to Reconnect with Your Adult ChildYou'll begin healing the hurt you're carrying, and your heart will feel lighter and more hopeful. You'll begin taking a different road to building that precious relationship instead of walking on eggshells and riding the roller coaster of disconnection and frustration. Click Here to Download the GuideJodi's Website: Jodilaraecunningham.comLink to Jodi's Book: Estrangement: Healing for Mothers and Daughters Rate & Review: If you found this episode helpful, please take a moment to rate and review the podcast! Your feedback helps others find the show and heal their family relationships. Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It takes one person to begin changing unhealthy patterns. You can be the one. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a textEpisode 169: Navigating Estrangement: How to Reconnect with Your Adult ChildIn this Ask Me Anything episode, Tina Gosney, The Family Conflict Coach, answers two heartfelt questions from parents struggling with estrangement from their adult children. These relationships are complex, emotional, and often deeply rooted in family patterns that span generations. Tina shares insights from Bowen Family Systems Theory and differentiation of self to help parents navigate these challenging dynamics.If you're dealing with a strained relationship with your adult child, feeling confused, hurt, or even resentful, this episode is for you. Learn practical strategies for managing your emotions, breaking old family patterns, and fostering connection without pressure or urgency.In This Episode, You'll Learn:Why adult children distance themselves from parents and how unresolved emotional tension plays a role.The impact of generational family patterns on relationships.How to stay emotionally grounded and avoid reactive patterns.The difference between enmeshment, emotional cutoff, and healthy differentiation.Why healing happens on your child's timeline, not yours.Practical steps to rebuild trust and create a safe space for reconnection.Timestamps:00:05 - Welcome to Coaching Your Family Relationships podcast00:17 - Why estrangement between parents and adult children is becoming more common02:34 - Free guide: 5 Steps to Reconnect with Your Adult Child (Get it in the show notes!)03:53 - Question #1: Our daughter has set strong boundaries—how do we reconnect?06:55 - Understanding emotional cutoff and generational family patterns07:22 - Key questions to ask yourself before reaching out10:46 - Question #2: My son's girlfriend “stole” him from our family—how do I handle this?12:15 - The role of differentiation in family relationships15:33 - The power of small, pressure-free interactions in rebuilding trust17:23 - Shifting your mindset: Why healing starts with YOUResources & Free Guide:

Send us a textEpisode 168: Why Family Drama Keeps Repeating – and How to Break the CycleAre you stuck in the same frustrating arguments with your adult child or other family members? In this episode, we uncover how automatic family patterns keep you trapped in unhealthy dynamics and show you how to break free. Learn how subconscious programming influences your reactions, why awareness is the first step toward change, and four powerful strategies to transform your relationships.You'll discover:Why family conflict patterns repeat across generations.How to wake up to automatic reactions and choose healthier responses.The key to managing emotions and staying grounded during difficult moments.Why developing your sense of self improves relationships with your adult child.Ready to stop reacting out of fear and start responding with intention? Tune in to learn how small shifts can create lasting change.If you have a relationship with an adult child that is suffering, download this free guide:5 Steps to Reconnect with Your Adult ChildYou'll begin healing the hurt you're carrying, and your heart will feel lighter and more hopeful. You'll begin taking a different road to building that precious relationship instead of walking on eggshells and riding the roller coaster of disconnection and frustration. Click Here to Download the Guide  Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It takes one person to begin changing unhealthy patterns. You can be the one. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a textEpisode 167 – The Most Common Ways Families Handle StressFamilies are not a group of individuals living side by side – they are connected through the intricate web of relationships. When one person becomes stressed or anxious, it sends ripples through the entire family system. When this happens, we have typical patterns of managing that stress, and these patterns don't solve the anxiety, it just passes from one family member to another. This episode shows you the typical family patterns of managing stress, and how to begin breaking those patterns. If you have a relationship with an adult child that is suffering, download this free guide:5 Steps to Reconnect with Your Adult ChildYou'll begin healing the hurt you're carrying, and your heart will feel lighter and more hopeful. You'll begin taking a different road to building that precious relationship instead of walking on eggshells and riding the roller coaster of disconnection and frustration. Click Here to Download the Guide  Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It takes one person to begin changing unhealthy patterns. You can be the one. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a textBonus Episode: Get to Know Your Host – Tina Gosney, Family Conflict CoachMeet the host of the podcast, Tina Gosney, Family Conflict Coach. In this episode, you'll hear a glimpse into my story and about why I decided to become a coach that focuses on family relationships. At minute 14 you'll hear about The Mother Tree – the oldest trees in the forest who help to stabilize and nourish younger trees when they are in stress. For you to become your own version of The Mother Tree, You first have to build up your ability to be resilient, mentally healthy, know how to manage your own emotions, and know your own identity before you can support your children in doing these same things. This is what I help my clients with – to become a Mother Tree that can build her own storage of wisdom and health so that she is ready to support her family in the healthiest way possible.  I have a few open spots for new clients. If this is the right time for you to explore coaching, let's talk.  CLICK HERE TO SET UP YOUR FREE CALL Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It takes one person to begin changing unhealthy patterns. You can be the one. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a textEpisode 166 – Moving Through Family Conflict – Most Popular Episode of 2024Conflict is inevitable if you belong to a family. It's the price you pay for being close to other people – and we all have a need to be close to other people. What you do with that conflict will either divide you further and weaken the family, or help you to know each other better and strengthen the family. The most popular episodes of 2024 were – Moving Through Family Conflict, part 1 and part 2. Even though these episodes were just released a few weeks ago, I've combined them here in one episode to help you with the conflict that might be going on in your family. Use these episodes to help you move through the conflict instead of getting stuck in it. Trust in the process and be patient while you wait for your family dynamics to begin shifting. This is not something that will change overnight, but with your consistent effort and determination to create something different, change will begin to happen. -----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------If you have a relationship with an adult child that is suffering, download this free guide:5 Steps to Reconnect with Your Adult ChildYou'll begin healing the hurt you're carrying, and your heart will feel lighter and more hopeful. You'll begin taking a different road to building that precious relationship instead of walking on eggshells and riding the roller coaster of disconnection and frustration. Click Here to Download the Guide Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It takes one person to begin changing unhealthy patterns. You can be the one. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a textEpisode 165 – What's in Your Control and What Isn't– Most Popular Episodes of 2024Our family members are not people to be controlled, they are relationships to nurture.You're probably trying to control things that are not in your control. If you're frustrated in your relationships, you are trying to control things that are not in your control. You don't get to control what someone else thinks, feels, or does, even when you think you should be able to. What is in your control? What you think, what you do with your feelings, and what actions you take. When you're able to let go of trying to control things that aren't in your control, you'll save yourself a lot of suffering.  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------If you have a relationship with an adult child that is suffering, download this free guide:5 Steps to Reconnect with Your Adult ChildYou'll begin healing the hurt you're carrying, and your heart will feel lighter and more hopeful. You'll begin taking a different road to building that precious relationship instead of walking on eggshells and riding the roller coaster of disconnection and frustration. Click Here to Download the Guide Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It takes one person to begin changing unhealthy patterns. You can be the one. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a text#164 – Being Defensive is a Losing Strategy – Most Popular Episodes of 2024It's easy to see when someone else is getting defensive, but when we get defensive, it feels justified. Being defensive, no matter where it is coming from, will often begin a trajectory of downward spiral in a relationship. The way your brain is interpreting what the other person is saying or doing will create a reaction in your body, especially when it is perceived that they are trying to hurt you. When you are aware of your own reactions, and you choose to respond with intention, you begin to have more freedom and less suffering in your life. And your relationships will be much less likely to spiral downward.  If you have difficult family members, or a difficult situation going on in your family right now, it's easy to be anxious about what might happen when you all get together. That anxiety overtakes you and your peace during the holidays. I've used this guide, and the process I walk you through and it has really helped me to feel more in charge of myself and my emotions. I feel more confident in myself and more forgiving of others and myself when I use it. This guide will be your holiday lifesaver.  The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama CLICK HERE TO DOWNLOAD  Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It takes one person to begin changing unhealthy patterns. You can be the one. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a text#163 The Unseen Mental Load of the HolidaysThe unseen mental load = all the behind-the-scenes thinking, planning, and worrying that goes into running a household—especially during the holidays.Most of this unseen mental load falls on the shoulders of women, and this can lead to stress, overwhelm, burn-out, and resentment. It is easy to feel isolated and unappreciated when you are the one taking on the unseen mental load. It doesn't have to be this way. There is a different way to handle the holidays, and this episode will give you 4 things you can focus on instead.  If you have difficult family members, or a difficult situation going on in your family right now, it's easy to be anxious about what might happen when you all get together. That anxiety overtake you and your peace during the holidays. I've used this guide, and the process I walk you through and it has really helped me to feel more in charge of myself and my emotions. I feel more confident in myself and more forgiving of others and myself when I use it. This guide will be your holiday lifesaver.  The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama CLICK HERE TO DOWNLOAD  Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It takes one person to begin changing unhealthy patterns. You can be the one. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a text#162 – Moving Through Family Conflict, part 2When you're in conflict with another person, that's normal and should be expected. The way you handle that conflict is important and can either damage the relationship or strengthen it. This episode goes into the tools of Differentiation and how we can use these tools to navigate conflict while strengthening ourselves and the relationship.    If you dream of a PEACEFUL holiday season with your family, but someone or something always throws you out of peace and into web of stress, this guide is for you.  Wouldn't it be nice if everyone would behave just the way you want them to? It's time to stop wishing for a miracle, and deal with the reality of your family dynamics.  This guide will be your holiday lifesaver.  The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama CLICK HERE TO DOWNLOAD  Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It takes one person to begin changing unhealthy patterns. You can be the one. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a text161- Family ConflictConflict doesn't have to be a dirty word and signify something is wrong with your family. It can be an opportunity to get to know each other better and create stronger bonds in your family. But, for that to happen, you need to know where to begin and what tools to use. This episode will help you to know where to begin.  Do your holiday family get-togethers get a little (or a lot) dramatic and difficult? If they do, you're not alone. I've created a free pdf guide called: The 3-Step Process to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday DramaCLICK HERE TO DOWNLOAD THE GUIDEYou can't change your family members, but you can manage yourself around whatever happens. This guide will help you to feel more in control of your thoughts and emotions no matter what happens.  Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It takes one person to begin changing unhealthy patterns. You can be the one. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a text#160 – Break Free from NegativityOur brain is biased towards focusing on negative things. This is hardwired into each of us. If we leave our brain to go on default, we will be on a downward spiral, and that affects everything in our life. Be intentional about seeing beyond the negative. The positive things are there, but you have to intentionally direct your brain towards those things. Listen to this episode for 3 small things you can do each day that will help you to begin breaking free from the negativity bias of your brain.   Do your holiday family get-togethers get a little (or a lot) dramatic and difficult? If they do, you're not alone. I've created a free pdf guide called: The 3-Step Process to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday DramaCLICK HERE TO DOWNLOAD THE GUIDEYou can't change your family members, but you can manage yourself around whatever happens. This guide will help you to feel more in control of your thoughts and emotions no matter what happens.   Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It takes one person to begin changing unhealthy patterns. You can be the one. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a textEpisode 159 - How to Ride the Waves of Life Without Drowning We all get caught up in trying to arrange the people and situations in our lives just the way we want them to be so that we can be happy. We will find ourselves trying to hold onto things that want and need to change and pushing away difficult situations we don't want to have. The true cycle of life is of expansion and contraction. Things we love come and go. Things we don't love come and go. If we can learn to not get caught up requiring the circumstances of our life to be a certain way so that we can find happiness, we will have a much more peaceful life.To help you begin to learn how to get out of the push/pull cycle, I've included a meditation in this podcast. Meditation: minutes 16:17 – 25:40Did you enjoy this meditation and want more of these? Email me at info@tinagosney.com and give me your feedback.  Do your holiday family get-togethers get a little (or a lot) dramatic and difficult? If they do, you're not alone. I've created a free pdf guide called: The 3-Step Process to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday DramaCLICK HERE TO DOWNLOAD THE GUIDEYou can't change your family members, but you can manage yourself around whatever happens. This guide will help you to feel more in control of your thoughts and emotions no matter what happens.   Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It all begins with you and that's the best news ever, because that's the only person you have control over. You can be the person who directs your family to a new way of relating. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a textEpisode 158 What is in your control. What is not in your control. It's very common for us to think that if we do certain things, we can control the way someone else thinks about us. And we think that if we do certain things, we can control their reaction to us. Both of these things are not true. We don't control anyone else's thoughts, and regardless of what we do, we don't control how anyone else treats us. This episode will outline what is not in your control, what is in your control, and what is in your influence. Listen until the end for a journaling question that will help give you insight into what you are thinking is in your control that actually isn't. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Do you want small, bite-sized relationship help in your inbox each week? Then sign up for my weekly email, Healing Connections. Sign up for Healing Connections Here Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It all begins with you and that's the best news ever, because that's the only person you have control over. You can be the person who directs your family to a new way of relating. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a textEpisode 157 - Giving Your Full Focus and Attention to Create ConnectionMost people do not know how to give someone their full focus and attention. But, as David Augsburger says, “Being listened to is so close to being loved that most people cannot tell the difference."Our fast-paced, instant gratification culture is shortening our attention spans and making it very difficult for us to know how to truly pay attention to someone or something long enough to create connections that are meaningful. If you're wanting to start giving your family more of your focus and attention, listen to this podcast for where to begin.  If you need help working on your focus and attention, or any other skill you're learning about in this podcast, let's connect. I'll be releasing a new program to help parents heal the connections in their families later this year and those on my email list will be the first ones to know all the details. I send out emails each week that will help you get a new perspective on old problems. Sign up for my email here Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It all begins with you and that's the best news ever, because that's the only person you have control over. You can be the person who directs your family to a new way of relating. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a textEpisode 156 – How to Take a Time Out That Really WorksWhen you get emotionally flooded, that is a signal you need a time out!This week's episode outlines Terry Real's 10 New Rules of Time Out1.       The time out is a circuit breaker2.       Take your time out from the “I” position.3.       Take distance responsibly.4.       Use the phrase “time out” or gesture the T signal with your hands. 5.       Don't let yourself get stopped.6.       Use check-ins at prescribed intervals.7.       Remember the goal. 8.       Return in good faith. 9.       Have a 24-hour moratorium on the original topic.10.   Know when, where, and how to get help. Get some help from TinaIf you are feeling stuck, not sure how what you're hearing on this podcast can work in your life and aren't quite sure how to create that future vision for yourself, let's talk. I offer a handful of free calls each month and they are snatched up quickly. Set up your free call today so you can feel better about what the future holds for you. CLICK HERE TO SET UP YOUR FREE CALL Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It all begins with you and that's the best news ever, because that's the only person you have control over. You can be the person who directs your family to a new way of relating. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a textEpisode 155 - Respond to Your Family Members Intentionally, Don't React from Automatic ProgrammingEveryone is capable of learning to control their reactions to other people and situations. No one needs to take on the identity of a person who can't control themselves. Learning to manage your own responses to the world is a skill you can learn just like any other skill. It takes consistent effort over time. Learning to manage your own responses to others is your responsibility, not anyone else's.  Get Bite-sized help in your inbox each week:Click here to subscribe to Healing Connections - weekly emails from family relationship coach, Tina Gosney Get some help from TinaIf you are feeling stuck, not sure how what you're hearing on this podcast can work in your life and aren't quite sure how to create that future vision for yourself, let's talk. I offer a handful of free calls each month and they are snatched up quickly. Set up your free call today so you can feel better about what the future holds for you. CLICK HERE TO SET UP YOUR FREE CALL Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It all begins with you and that's the best news ever, because that's the only person you have control over. You can be the person who directs your family to a new way of relating. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a textEpisode 154 – The One Decision That Will Change Everything Big issues and problems can feel overwhelming and cause us to act with a lot of fear. Making decisions and acting from a feeling of overwhelm rarely leads to anything productive. So do something else instead. When you slow down and act intentionally, you might just see that there is one action, one decision that will affect everything else in the way you're hoping it will go. What is that one decision for you? What is that one action that will affect everything else? Listen to this episode for a process to begin figuring that out.  Get some help from TinaIf you are feeling stuck, not sure how what you're hearing on this podcast can work in your life and aren't quite sure how to create that future vision for yourself, let's talk. I offer a handful of free calls each month and they are snatched up quickly. Set up your free call today so you can feel better about what the future holds for you. CLICK HERE TO SET UP YOUR FREE CALL Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It all begins with you and that's the best news ever, because that's the only person you have control over. You can be the person who directs your family to a new way of relating. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a textEpisode 153 - The Benefits of Going Beyond a Surface Level RelationshipClose relationships are what make us happy – now and in the future. But they require effort and intention over time – sometimes over a long period of time. Listen to this episode to find out why you want to put in that time and effort, and a few things to focus on to get started. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________If you are feeling stuck, not sure how what you're hearing on this podcast can work in your life and aren't quite sure how to create that future vision for yourself, let's talk. I offer a handful of free calls each month and they are snatched up quickly. Set up your free call today so you can feel better about what the future holds for you. CLICK HERE TO SET UP YOUR FREE CALL Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It all begins with you and that's the best news ever, because that's the only person you have control over. You can be the person who directs your family to a new way of relating. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a Text Message.Episode 152 – Be an Agent in Your Family Family relationships run on systems, and each family has its own system. One system many families use is to blame each other for how we act and react, and not take ownership of our own choices. My husband and I were stuck in this blame/blame system for years. And then we decided we wanted something more and we wanted to clean up our relationship so that we could move forward into a new type of system.  When one person changes their input into the system, the entire system is forced into change. When you take responsibility for yourself, you find more freedom. Being an agent in your own life is a simple concept, but not an easy one. Listen to this episode to see how you can begin to take responsibility for yourself and become an agent in your family. ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________Get some help from TinaIf you are feeling stuck, not sure how what you're hearing on this podcast can work in your life and aren't quite sure how to create that future vision for yourself, let's talk. I offer a handful of free calls each month and they are snatched up quickly. Set up your free call today so you can feel better about what the future holds for you. CLICK HERE TO SET UP YOUR FREE CALL  Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It all begins with you and that's the best news ever, because that's the only person you have control over. You can be the person who directs your family to a new way of relating. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a Text Message.Episode 151 - Your Relationships are Your Response-abilityIf you're like most people, when you're struggling in a relationship, you fall into either blaming another person for how they are making you feel, or you're trying to get them to be different so you can feel better. Maybe you're doing both!What if you didn't have to do either, and instead of focusing on the other person, you're focusing on yourself and your own responsibility for the thoughts you're having and the emotions you're experiencing. This is a radical idea! But this is also where you get your freedom. You are here to be an agent in your own life, not a victim of your circumstances. You have the ability to choose to be reactive by default, or to respond intentionally. Once you take radical responsibility for yourself, you'll see your relationships begin to change without doing anything else.  Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It all begins with you and that's the best news ever, because that's the only person you have control over. You can be the person who directs your family to a new way of relating. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a Text Message.Episode 150 Questions from Listeners about Establishing Healthy BoundariesThe questions asked in this episode were some of the questions asked in the Boundary Boot Camp held July 2024. Questions asked in this episode:1.      I say YES to things I don't want to do, and I don't really have time for. I feel so guilty saying NO, that I usually just say YES. Is this a boundary issue? What's going on here?2.      I'm really nervous about boundaries. I'm having such a hard time feeling really connected in my family right now. Will these boundaries make me even more disconnected? Isn't that the opposite of what I want?3.      My daughter is 24 and lives on her own, but she can't keep a job longer than a few months. She either gets fired or she quits, and then she doesn't have money to pay for rent, her car, or even food. So, she asks my husband and me for money. I'm tired of this pattern. It seems like we are supporting her for being immature. This pattern has gone on for a couple of years now, and I don't see it changing unless we do something. Do we not give her money? I don't want her to starve or be homeless, but we can't keep this going long-term.  4.      This isn't technically a “family problem” but maybe you can help me. There's a woman I go to church with who hates me. I have hardly ever even had a conversation with her, but right from the very beginning of us going to the same church, it was like she just decided to hate me. She tells other people how terrible I am. (I know because I've heard some of the things she's said). I don't know how to get her to stop hating me because I don't even know what I did to make her hate me in the first place. I'm lost here. Do you have any advice how to handle this situation? It's not too late to get access to Boundary Boot Camp! Catch the replay and work through this class on your own time. Learn how to establish a Protective Boundary and a Containing Boundary so that you can begin repairing your family relationships. CLICK HERE FOR MORE INFORMATION ABOUT BOUNDARY BOOT CAMP Do you have a question you want me to answer on the podcast? Get your question answered on the next Ask Me Anything episode coming soon!CLICK HERE TO ASK A QUESTION  Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It all begins with you and that's the best news ever, because that's the only person you have control over. You can be the person who directs your family to a new way of relating. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a Text Message.Episode 149 – The One Virtue You Can Cultivate That Will Change the Foundation of Your RelationshipsWhen you interact with your family or in your marriage, do you operate under the assumption that the other person is doing the best they know how to do? The assumption that they love you and don't mean you harm? What if you did? What would be different?This re-release addresses the virtue of Generosity of Spirit – assuming the best in yourself and others. Working on cultivating the virtue of Generosity has made a huge difference in how I think about myself and others, and everything is created first in thought before it is created in the world.  Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It all begins with you and that's the best news ever, because that's the only person you have control over. You can be the person who directs your family to a new way of relating. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a Text Message.Episode 148 - Perfectionism Damages Our Self-esteem and Cripples Our GrowthWe live in a society that tells us it is not OK to make mistakes or show weakness. Perfectionism is our society's favorite flaw and is celebrated, but it is really damaging our self-esteem because we will always make mistakes - we're human! No wonder we have a common mindset of “not being good enough.” Perfectionism will have us hiding ourselves, not really letting people know the true versions of ourselves, leaving us unsupported and lonely. Let's begin challenging that unhealthy mindset and start looking at our weaknesses and mistakes as stepping stones instead of millstones. The Greatest Showman Clip --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Self-esteem Boot CampYour self-image affects the way you see the ENTIRE WORLD! Come to this boot camp and let's take a look at how you're creating some painful ways of seeing your own value. We're also going to talk about that mean inner critic who wants to tell you all the ways you aren't measuring up. Learn how to talk to that critic more than you listen to it. You'll leave this boot camp with some simple tools you can use every single day. You are invaluable and your value never changes with your outside circumstances. You can start internalizing that infinite value. August 6, 7, 8, @ 10:30 am MDTSign up for the Self-Esteem Boot Camp---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- If you are feeling stuck, not sure how what you're hearing on this podcast can work in your life and aren't quite sure how to create that future vision for yourself, let's talk. I offer a handful of free calls each month and they are snatched up quickly. Set up your free call today so you can feel better about what the future holds for you. CLICK HERE TO SET UP YOUR FREE CALL Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It all begins with you and that's the best news ever, because that's the only person you have control over. You can be the person who directs your family to a new way of relating. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a Text Message.Episode 147 – Why Your Self-esteem Has Such a Big Impact on Your RelationshipsThe way YOU feel about YOU affects the way you treat other people and the way you show up in your relationships. Your worth is not something you create, it's something you discover. But, unless you know some tools to manage your brain, you will keep judging yourself and others, and your worth will be a moving target. When your worth is a moving target, your relationships are too.  ___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________Join the Self-esteem Boot Camp!We'll start talking back to that Inner Critic that is telling you you're not good enough. You'll come out of this boot camp with some REAL tools that make a REAL difference in how you feel about yourself. For more information: CLICK HERE____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________Want more help?If you are feeling stuck, not sure how what you're hearing on this podcast can work in your life and aren't quite sure how to create that future vision for yourself, let's talk. I offer a handful of free calls each month and they are snatched up quickly. Set up your free call today so you can feel better about what the future holds for you. CLICK HERE TO SET UP YOUR FREE CALL Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It all begins with you and that's the best news ever, because that's the only person you have control over. You can be the person who directs your family to a new way of relating. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a Text Message.Episode 146 -  How to Connect in a Healthier Way with Your Family Through Proper Boundaries This episode is not about keeping people out of your life, it's about how to keep them in your life in a healthier way. Our culture today is more divisive than ever, and that is showing up in our homes. More adult children and teenagers are cutting their parents out of their life than ever before. Even if you think this would never happen to you, think again. Cancel culture is real. One of the ways to combat this is to learn better relationship skills, and that can begin with you. Your family relationships are systems. Your contribution is one input into the system. Change your input, and you can put pressure on the whole system to change.  __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________Come work with me on your protecting and connecting boundaries at the Boundary Boot Camp!You'll be learning some new relationship tools, but more than that, we'll start putting them into practice. Learning tools is one skill, knowing how to use that tool is an entirely different skill. And that's what we'll be doing at this boot camp. Come and work with like-minded people who are all trying to have a positive influence on their families. LEARN MORE ABOUT THE BOUNDARY BOOT CAMP HERE ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________If you are feeling stuck, not sure how what you're hearing on this podcast can work in your life and aren't quite sure how to create that future vision for yourself, let's talk. I offer a handful of free calls each month and they are snatched up quickly. Set up your free call today so you can feel better about what the future holds for you. CLICK HERE TO SET UP YOUR FREE CALL Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It all begins with you and that's the best news ever, because that's the only person you have control over. You can be the person who directs your family to a new way of relating. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a Text Message.Episode #145 Moving Out of Co-dependency and Into a More Mature Relationship Co-dependency and enmeshment are common ways of relating to each other in our families. Most families value same-ness. We want to be the same as the other people in our families in order to feel like we belong and are accepted. Until something in our life pressures a change and we're not the same anymore. It's easy to feel like you don't fit in or belong. But, this is actually good news. You now have an opportunity to leave co-dependence and move into a more mature relationship. This episode outlines some of the foundational skills required to develop Differentiation – the ability to mature in our relationships. ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________Boundary Boot CampHow do you react when someone says something hurtful to you? How much self-control do you have when you are feeling angry and want to let loose on someone else? In the Boundary Boot Camp, we're going to take a deep dive into how to allow other people into our lives in a healthier way. And we're going to dive into how to manage ourselves and our own internal boundaries about what we let out into the world. This boot camp isn't about shutting people out of your life. It's about learning how to let others in, while staying protected within yourself. July 16, 17, 18 @ 10:30-11:30 am MDTSign up for the Boundary Boot Camp Self-esteem Boot CampYour self-image affects the way you see the ENTIRE WORLD! Come to this boot camp and let's take a look at how you're creating some painful ways of seeing your own value. We're also going to talk about that mean inner critic who wants to tell you all the ways you aren't measuring up. Learn how to talk to that critic more than you listen to it. You'll leave this boot camp with some simple tools you can use every single day. You are invaluable and your value never changes with your outside circumstances. You can start internalizing that infinite value. August 6, 7, 8, @ 10:30 am MDTSign up for the Self-Esteem Boot Camp  __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________Are you interested in private coaching? Let's talk. Set up a free call with me and together we can see if we're a good fit to work together. CLICK HERE to set up your free call  Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It all begins with you and that's the best news ever, because that's the only person you have control over. You can be the person who directs your family to a new way of relating. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Send us a Text Message.Episode 144 - Conflict in Marriage - Listeners' Questions AnsweredQuestions sent in by listeners. There were some really great questions asked in this episode. Interestingly, each question had to do with an unresponsive spouse.  We will often get stuck in a situation and not know how to do something different. The answers to these questions are a starting point for you to begin thinking differently about your circumstances. Each answer in this episode applies the principles of Differentiation – the ability to be mature in your relationships by being strong inside yourself and connected with another person at the same time. Questions asked in this episode:1.      My adult children have cut off communication with me because of things my husband has done. How do I convince them to view me as a separate parent so they will communicate with me?2.      I've been trying to do all the things I've learned in the podcast, but it's not working. My spouse isn't willing to connect with me. What now? 3.      My husband calls me names when we don't agree. How can I keep the peace?If you would like to submit a question to be answered on the podcast, CLICK HERE----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------If you are tired of feeling hurt and used by others, and living with resentment because of it, sign up for the Boundary Boot Camp. You'll learn how to grow a Protecting Boundary and a Connecting Boundary to strengthen your relationships. CLICK HERE for more information.The thoughts and feelings you have about yourself play directly into how you show up in your relationships with others. Learn how to find your worth, challenge the harsh inner critic, and stand on your own two feet in the Self-esteem Boot Camp. CLICK HERE for more information. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It all begins with you and that's the best news ever, because that's the only person you have control over. You can be the person who directs your family to a new way of relating. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Episode 143 - Dealing with Uncertainty and the Anxiety it CreatesWhen you have a situation in your life and family and you don't know how it's going to turn out and if everything will go the way you want it to, that is uncertainty and will surely cause you some anxiety, maybe even some fear. The reactions we usually go to when we feel this way are not usually helpful and can even be harmful to ourselves or others. When we can begin to change our relationship with uncertainty and anxiety, we become a stronger, more capable and confident version of ourselves. And then our ability to handle more and more difficult problems increases. Ask Me AnythingIf you would like to submit a question to be answered on the podcast, CLICK HERE The Difficult Conversation GuideIn this guide, I'll help you know what to do before, during, and after the conversation. You'll also learn some amazing, and easy to learn emotional management skills that you can use long after this conversation is over. Click here to download:Have a difficult conversation with your husbandHave a difficult conversation with your adult child Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It all begins with you and that's the best news ever, because that's the only person you have control over. You can be the person who directs your family to a new way of relating. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Episode 142 – How to Stop Polluting the Ecosystem of Your RelationshipWhat we dump into our relationships will affect the health of that relationship. We will breathe in what we put in. If we are putting in resentment, anger, passive-aggressiveness, we will breathe in the effects of that. This episode addresses how to stop the dysfunctional patterns we find ourselves in and how to clean up the air in the relationship so it is healthier for everyone.  If you are feeling stuck, not sure how what you're hearing on this podcast can work in your life and aren't quite sure how to create that future vision for yourself, let's talk. I offer a handful of free calls each month and they are snatched up quickly. Set up your free call today so you can feel better about what the future holds for you. CLICK HERE TO SET UP YOUR FREE CALL Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It all begins with you and that's the best news ever, because that's the only person you have control over. You can be the person who directs your family to a new way of relating. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Episode 141 – The Best Way to Share Your Self-Development with OthersIf you are excited about your self-development journey, and you find yourself sharing (uninvited) with others, wanting the people you love and care about to have these tools and feel better, just like you've learned, that is normal. But, when we share uninvited, and we are actually inviting push-back and frustration on both sides. In this episode, I outline the three main reasons we share with others and why we do that. I also share what we can do instead that can be a more effective way to help others.  Ask Me AnythingIf you would like to submit a question to be answered on the podcast, CLICK HERE The Difficult Conversation GuideIn this guide, I'll help you know what to do before, during, and after the conversation. You'll also learn some amazing, and easy to learn emotional management skills that you can use long after this conversation is over. Click here to download:Have a difficult conversation with your husbandHave a difficult conversation with your adult child  Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It all begins with you and that's the best news ever, because that's the only person you have control over. You can be the person who directs your family to a new way of relating. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Episode 140 - Ask Me Anything - Listeners Questions AnsweredQuestions sent in by listeners. There were some really great questions asked in this episode – ones that most people can relate to. The answers to these questions are a starting point. We will often get stuck in a situation and not know how to do something different. The answers to these questions are a starting point for you to begin thinking differently about your circumstances. Questions asked in this episode:1.      My adult children are exhausting and I don't know if I want to choose to be around them.2.      I don't keep my word to myself. 3.      My sister-in-law is mean to me and I don't know how to let go of what she says and not let it bother me. If you would like to submit a question to be answered on the podcast, CLICK HERE The Difficult Conversation GuideIn this guide, I'll help you know what to do before, during, and after the conversation. You'll also learn some amazing, and easy to learn emotional management skills that you can use long after this conversation is over. Click here to download:Have a difficult conversation with your husband Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It all begins with you and that's the best news ever, because that's the only person you have control over. You can be the person who directs your family to a new way of relating. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Episode 139 - 7 Common Emotional MistakesIn this episode, I'm highlighting the most common emotional mistakes I've seen my clients make. We experience our lives through our emotions, and these mistakes keep us from fully experiencing our lives. 1.       Thinking our emotions are a problem we need to solve.2.       Thinking we are our emotions.3.       Trying to change our emotions by thinking our way out of them. 4.       Thinking you can avoid your emotions by numbing out. 5.       Pretending you aren't having an emotion. 6.       Not being aware that “good” emotions can be just as difficult to feel as “difficult” emotions. 7.       Indulging in non-productive emotions.  If you want some help working on the emotional mistakes outlined in this episode, set up a free 30-minute consultation. We will focus on helping you overcome the emotional mistakes you are needing help with. CLICK HERE TO SET UP YOUR FREE APPOINTMENT The Difficult Conversation GuideIn this guide, I'll help you know what to do before, during, and after the conversation. You'll also learn some amazing, and easy to learn emotional management skills that you can use long after this conversation is over. Click here to download:Have a difficult conversation with your husbandHave a difficult conversation with your adult child  Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It all begins with you and that's the best news ever, because that's the only person you have control over. You can be the person who directs your family to a new way of relating. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Episode 138 – What's the Difference between Coaching and Therapy?If you have been wondering what coaching is and how it differs from therapy, I dive into that topic in this episode. Therapy has been around for a long time, and many people are familiar with what therapy will help with. Coaching has been around for decades, but only in the last few years has become more common and mainstream. If you're wanting help in your life, but aren't sure whether to look into therapy or coaching, this episode is here to help you know more about each model and what direction you might want to go. Set up a free 30-minute consultation with me to see if coaching is right for you and if we are a good fit to work together. CLICK HERE TO SET UP YOUR FREE APPOINTMENT The Difficult Conversation GuideIn this guide, I'll help you know what to do before, during, and after the conversation. You'll also learn some amazing, and easy to learn emotional management skills that you can use long after this conversation is over. Click here to download:Have a difficult conversation with your husbandHave a difficult conversation with your adult child Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It all begins with you and that's the best news ever, because that's the only person you have control over. You can be the person who directs your family to a new way of relating. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Episode 137 – Have a Difficult Conversation without Your Emotions Taking OverIf you've been putting off having a conversation because you get emotional and forget what you want to say, or you break down, or anger takes over, this episode is for you.It's most likely no one ever taught you how to talk about difficult topics. It's also probably likely that no one taught you healthy emotional management skills. If those two things are true for you, stop shaming yourself for not being able to express yourself in the way you want to, and listen to this episode to get some help. ________________________________________________________________________________________If you're wanting to have a difficult conversation with another person, but your emotions take over and you can't say what you want to say without getting angry or breaking down crying, download:The Difficult Conversation GuideIn this guide, I'll help you know what to do before, during, and after the conversation. You'll also learn some amazing, and easy to learn emotional management skills that you can use long after this conversation is over. Click here to download:Have a difficult conversation with your husbandHave a difficult conversation with your adult child___________________________________________________________________________________________ Links mentioned in this episode:Episode 137 – Is it Conflict or Contention?Episode 127 -Losing Strategy #3 - Unbridled Self-expressionYouTube video with metronomes demonstrating Sympathetic Resonance Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It all begins with you and that's the best news ever, because that's the only person you have control over. You can be the person who directs your family to a new way of relating. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Episode 136 - A Different View of ForgivenessAre you someone who gets stuck in thoughts about how you've been hurt and have trouble letting go of that hurt? If that's you, this is your episode. In this episode, I'll give you a different view of why you might be stuck and how to begin moving forward.Want help processing your difficult emotions so you can get unstuck and finally let that hurt go and move on? Let's work on this together. Set up a 90-minute coaching call with me and let's work on it together. You'll feel so much better after this call.CLICK HERE to set up your call _______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________Are you putting off having a difficult conversation because you get emotional every time you try to express yourself? Maybe you cry, or get angry, or say things you regret later, so you avoid having difficult conversations.If this is you, download The Difficult Conversation Guide!In this guide, I'll walk you through how to prepare yourself for the conversation, what to do during and after the conversation. And you'll also learn some pretty useful emotional management skills that will help you long after the conversation is over. CLICK HERE to download The Difficult Conversation Guide – how to have a conversation with your adult child.CLICK HERE to download The Difficult Conversation Guide – how to have a conversation with your husband. Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients move past contention in their homes and move into connection. It all begins with you and that's the best news ever, because that's the only person you have control over. You can be the person who directs your family to a new way of relating. Tina is a positivity practitioner and a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Episode 135 - Developing Differentiation with Gina - Client SpotlightDifferentiation is the ability to hold onto who we are in an authentic way when we are staying in connection with other people and doing that in an emotionally and mentally mature way. My client, Gina, has been working on developing the skill of Differentiation, and has made so much progress, I want to highlight her and let her share her experience and some of her journey.Gina shares why she decided she wanted to work on this particular skill, some of the difficulties she went through, and what was especially helpful to her. I hope this episode is helpful to you as you go on your own journey in your family relationships.  Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients strengthen themselves so they can survive and thrive in their family relationships, no matter what is happening. Strengthen yourself and you'll strengthen everyone around you. She is a positivity practitioner and is a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Episode 134 - How to Not Take Your Hard Week Out on Your FamilyHave you had a hard week? Do you feel depleted and have nothing left to give? Has your brain and/or body shut down because you just can't do any more than you're already doing?If this is you, listen to this episode for five things you can do right now to begin taking care of yourself. You don't need to take an expensive vacation, go shopping, or get a massage (unless you really want to!). What you really need when it's been a hard week, is to do a different type of self-care. This is the kind you can do to take care of yourself every day. And these five things will help you increase your capacity to handle the stress of life. Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients strengthen themselves so they can survive and thrive in their family relationships, no matter what is happening. Strengthen yourself and you'll strengthen everyone around you. She is a positivity practitioner and is a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Episode 133 – Is it Conflict or Contention?Conflict is inevitable in relationships, but contention is not. What do you do when you find yourself in conflict with a member of your family? The way you view them and you will determine if you're escalating into contention. In this episode, I review the Gottman Institute's Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. Each of these horseman are red flags that you're relationship is heading (or already is) in a contentious state  Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients strengthen themselves so they can survive and thrive in their family relationships, no matter what is happening. Strengthen yourself and you'll strengthen everyone around you. She is a positivity practitioner and is a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Episode 132 – DefensivenessThe seventh Losing Strategy is being defensive. When we get defensive, we are going to war with the other person. We put on our armor and we gather our weapons. Defensiveness comes from our inability or our refusal to take a look at ourselves and self-confront. It is also one of the 4 horsemen the Gottman's have identified as red flags in a relationship. If you want to begin learning some winning relationship strategies, register for my upcoming class:Healthy Relationships from the Inside OutMarch 21, 11:00am MDTCLICK HERE TO REGISTER If you don't want to wait for the class, schedule a Strategy Call with me. This is a one-time introductory coaching call, not a sales call. We'll spend about an hour discussing your issue and you'll leave with at least one, probably two or three strategies to begin using in your relationshipCLICK HERE to set up your call Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients strengthen themselves so they can survive and thrive in their family relationships, no matter what is happening. Strengthen yourself and you'll strengthen everyone around you. She is a positivity practitioner and is a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Episode 131 – Resentful or Costly AccommodationThe sixth Losing Strategy is Resentful or Costly Accommodation. This happens when we collapse who we are into what we think other people want us to be. We deny our own needs and desires, and we give up or refuse to look at what is important to us. Resentment can easily set in when we give us so much of ourselves and deny our own needs.  If you want to begin learning some winning relationship strategies, register for my upcoming class:Healthy Relationships from the Inside OutMarch 21, 11:00am MDTCLICK HERE TO REGISTER If you don't want to wait for the class, schedule a Strategy Call with me. This is a one-time introductory coaching call, not a sales call. We'll spend about an hour discussing your issue and you'll leave with at least one, probably two or three strategies to begin using in your relationshipCLICK HERE to set up your call  Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients strengthen themselves so they can survive and thrive in their family relationships, no matter what is happening. Strengthen yourself and you'll strengthen everyone around you. She is a positivity practitioner and is a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Episode 130 - Withdrawing from a RelationshipThe fifth Losing Relationship Strategy in this series is – Withdrawal.When we withdraw from a relationship, we are disinvesting in it. When we are criticizing and fighting, we are still invested in the relationship. Withdrawal is a sign that we've given up and are no longer giving our energy to the relationship. Here's a question you can ask yourself: Have I ever withdrawn from a relationship? How did I get to the point of withdrawing? If you want to begin learning some winning relationship strategies, register for my upcoming class:Healthy Relationships from the Inside OutMarch 21, 11:00am MDTCLICK HERE TO REGISTER If you don't want to wait for the class, schedule a Strategy Call with me. This is a one-time introductory coaching call, not a sales call. We'll spend about an hour discussing your issue and you'll leave with at least one, probably two or three strategies to begin using in your relationshipCLICK HERE to set up your call Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients strengthen themselves so they can survive and thrive in their family relationships, no matter what is happening. Strengthen yourself and you'll strengthen everyone around you. She is a positivity practitioner and is a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information

Episode 129 - Punishment and Retaliation – Losing Strategy #4The fourth losing relationship strategy is Punishment and retaliation. This can show up in covert and overt ways, but at its core, we turn ourselves into a victim of the other person and we are then feeling justified in withholding approval and affection, or even punishing in a physically harmful way. We are designed for human connection, and we are designed to want our independence and agency. The problem is we don't know how to get both of those things at the same time. We either give up our independence or we cut ourselves off from others. To begin working on correcting this losing strategy, ask yourself the following questions:1.       When was the last time I withheld affection or approval from someone I love? 2.       How did I feel after I did that? 3.       What was I trying to get? 4.       Did I get what I wanted? If you want to begin learning some winning relationship strategies, register for my upcoming class:Healthy Relationships from the Inside OutMarch 21, 11:00am MDTCLICK HERE TO REGISTER If you don't want to wait for the class, schedule a Strategy Call with me. This is a one-time introductory coaching call, not a sales call. We'll spend about an hour discussing your issue and you'll leave with at least one, probably two or three strategies to begin using in your relationshipCLICK HERE to set up your call  Tina Gosney is a certified life and relationship coach. She helps her clients strengthen themselves so they can survive and thrive in their family relationships, no matter what is happening. Strengthen yourself and you'll strengthen everyone around you. She is a positivity practitioner and is a trauma informed coach. Visit tinagosney.com for more information