Podcasts about about progress

Do you struggle with creating habits that stick, thanks to the overwhelm, low energy, and little time you have every day? You're going to be so inspired by this conversation with Monica Packer. Monica is an expert in teaching habits differently, especially for busy women who think they are bad and making and keeping them. Tune in to hear why consistently doing a little is better than sporadically doing a lot, why trying on other peoples' habits doesn't work, and how to  create new habits… and a new life.  

SHINING WITH ADHD #199: Self-Care is Not Selfish! Small Shifts That Make a Big Difference The Childhood Collective5/28/2025SUMMARYIf you've ever rolled your eyes at the phrase “don't forget to take care of yourself,” this episode is for you. We're joined by Monica Packer from the About Progress podcast to talk about what self-care *really* looks like when you're raising neurodivergent kids. Monica helps us move beyond bubble baths and into daily practices that actually help us feel more grounded, connected, and calm. Whether you're deep in survival mode or just craving a little more peace, this conversation is full of empathy and doable steps to help you make progress toward your goals. MEET MONICA PACKERMonica Packer is a recovering perfectionist who uncovered the truest model to lasting growth: it's progress made practical. As a podcaster and coach, she guides women to find sustainable growth by adopting progress over perfection. Monica's popular podcast, About Progress is a top-rated show with millions of downloads. She has served thousands of women online as a certified habits and identity coach. Monica is a mom of 5, former middle school teacher, sourdough obsessor, and beginning gardener. You can find more about Monica at aboutprogress.com.LINKS + RESOURCESEpisode #199 TranscriptAbout Progress WebsiteSticky Habit Rainstorm About Progress Instagram The Childhood Collective InstagramHave a question or want to share some thoughts? Shoot us an email at hello@thechildhoodcollective.comMentioned in this episode:Shining at SchoolShining at School is a video-based course that will teach you how to help your child with ADHD go from surviving to thriving at school for elementary and middle schoolers. On your own time. At your own pace. Use the code PODCAST for 10% off!Shining at School CourseHungryrootHungryroot offers “good-for-you groceries and simple recipes.” We have loved having one less thing to worry about when it comes to raising kids. For 40% off your first box, click the link below and use CHILDHOOD40 in all caps to get the discount.HungryrootBoard Games for Kids with ADHDBoard games are a natural way to help kids build their executive functioning and cooperation skills. When we polled the community about your favorite board games for kids with ADHD, you gave us hundreds of ideas! We narrowed them down to the games that got the most votes, and sorted them by age. Check out our top recommendations for board games for kids with ADHD, and let us know how it goes. Board Games for Kids with ADHD

In this episode, I sit down with the incredible MonicaPacker, host of the About Progress podcast, for a conversation that will shake up everything you thought you knew about perfectionism, productivity, and what it really means to move forward in life.Monica shares her powerful perspective on why perfectionism isn't about high standards—it's about fear. Together, we debunk the toxic myth that if something isn't perfect, it's not worth doing (or worse, that you're just being lazy). Spoiler alert: not doing something perfectly is NOT the same as failing.We dive into:

Monica Packer and Lauren Pace ✨ Why having the courage to try (and even fail) is the key to rediscovering yourself. ✨ How small, practical steps can help you break free from the all-or-nothing mindset. ✨ The one question you NEED to ask yourself: What do I really want? You can find more about Monica at aboutprogress.com and by listening to her podcast, About Progress. DO SOMETHING LIST: https://www.aboutprogress.com/dsl

So often when life gets complicated our healthy habits are the first thing to go out the window. So how do you stay consistent in the face of life's ups and downs? Listener Jessica was having this exact problem: “I've missed so much of my workout plan recently due to travel, having a new puppy, unexpected doctors appointments, the list goes on. I really do want to make this a priority and want to try again, maybe start over. Even though I know the program is less than 15 minutes a day, what mindset change do you think I need to make to be more consistent this time?” Let's give this one to the expert! Monica Packer is the host of the podcast “About Progress” and a coach to countless women that need help getting practical and realistic about their habits. In this quick episode, Monica will give you quick tips on how to maintain consistency even when life is anything but consistent! More Resources & Links Learn more from Monica Packer at www.aboutprogress.com Listen to Monica's extremely popular podcast About Progress Need help getting started! Get Megan's FREE 5-Day Jumpstart Tips guide! The Jumpstart 30 Program for Beginners Follow Megan on YouTube Follow Megan on Instagram Ask Megan your burning question here

We are in the season of New Year's Resolutions. People everywhere are feeling motivated, setting goals and ready to make some real changes! But what happens in about a month when motivation is low and all those shiny, new resolutions start to feel impossible? Listener Becky has been there: “I always seem to hit a wall around the 4-week mark with my habits. Usually right around then, if I'm not seeing the results that I really wanted to see, discouragement kind of sets in and I lose my motivation. I can feel myself dwindling, using excuses and then finally not doing it anymore. How can I get past this discouragement and get myself to keep sticking with it?” Hmmm, sound familiar? This week I've asked Monica Packer, host of the podcast “About Progress”, to help us tackle the inevitable lack of motivation and moments of discouragement that can set in as we are working to establish new habits. If you've found yourself losing steam with your healthy habits, then this is the episode for you!

How many times have you decided to implement a new habit, only for a week later to have already “failed”? Well, let me let you in on a little secret…you're probably thinking about your habits all wrong. And I bet that when you feel like you've failed at your habits, you're thinking about that wrong, too. Meet Monica Packer, host of the podcast “About Progress”, and a coach to countless women that need help getting practical and realistic about their habits. Monica and I discuss the unique challenges women face in habit formation - it's not just you! - as well as the impact of invisible labor and the need for supportive habits. We'll dive into the importance of flexibility, the necessity of embracing failure, and the shift in mindset you need to foster personal growth and self-care. If you want to know why you struggle so much with consistency and sticking with your routines, and you find yourself constantly discouraged by how your habits look, this episode is for you! More Resources & Links Learn more from Monica Packer at www.aboutprogress.com Listen to Monica's extremely popular podcast About Progress Need help getting started! Get Megan's FREE 5-Day Jumpstart Tips guide! The Jumpstart 30 Program for Beginners Follow Megan on YouTube Follow Megan on Instagram

We just crossed our eight-year anniversary and it's time to do a 'State of the Podcast Address' where I'm opening up about why I keep pushing through the messy middle of my podcasting journey. You'll also hear a nostalgic snippet from my very first episode and the valuable lessons I've learned since then, such as the importance of doing things messy, doing them anyway, and doing them scared. I also discuss the challenges the podcasting industry is currently facing, how the supporters club is making a significant difference, and what the future holds for About Progress. Lastly, my husband Brad joins me to help answer some pressing questions about the podcast's journey and where we go from here. Thank you for being with us on this incredible journey. Sign up as a Supporter to get access to our private, premium, ad-free podcast, More Personal. Episodes air each Friday! Referenced episodes: https://aboutprogress.com/most-likely-to-be-a-talk-show-host/, https://aboutprogress.com/introducing-more-personal/ Access exclusive supporter benefits Full Show Notes This episode is sponsored by LMNT, get your free LMNT Sample Pack with any purchase at DrinkLMNT.com/Progress; and by AirDoctor, use code MONICA for up to $300 off air purifiers; Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the second episode of Healthy Living, Happy Life, host Denise Stegall dives into the principles outlined in her book, Healthy Living, Happy Life. The book serves as the foundation of her coaching and is built on three essential pillars: nutrition, decision-making, and accountability. Denise explains how these pillars create a balanced, sustainable approach to health and wellness, especially during midlife. Throughout the episode, she emphasizes the importance of eating real food, making small, positive choices, and staying accountable for long-term success. With relatable stories, like that of her client Stacy, Denise shows how real, nourishing food can transform both body and spirit. She also touches on the importance of joyful movement, sleep, and balance in all areas of life, encouraging listeners to prioritize their health and happiness every day. Three Key Take-Home Points: The Power of Eating Real Food:One of the simplest yet most effective changes you can make is to prioritize whole, unprocessed foods. These nutrient-dense options fuel your body, improve your mood, and support lasting health.It's About Progress, Not Perfection:Let go of the need for perfection and focus on making small, steady improvements. Whether it's with food, movement, or decision-making, each step toward better choices creates a foundation for long-term well-being.Accountability Is Key to Lasting Change:To truly succeed, you must hold yourself accountable. Whether it's setting healthy boundaries, staying connected with a support system, or regularly reflecting on your progress, accountability keeps you on track toward a healthier, happier life.  

In the second episode of Healthy Living, Happy Life, host Denise Stegall dives into the principles outlined in her book, Healthy Living, Happy Life. The book serves as the foundation of her coaching and is built on three essential pillars: nutrition, decision-making, and accountability. Denise explains how these pillars create a balanced, sustainable approach to health and wellness, especially during midlife. Throughout the episode, she emphasizes the importance of eating real food, making small, positive choices, and staying accountable for long-term success. With relatable stories, like that of her client Stacy, Denise shows how real, nourishing food can transform both body and spirit. She also touches on the importance of joyful movement, sleep, and balance in all areas of life, encouraging listeners to prioritize their health and happiness every day. Three Key Take-Home Points: The Power of Eating Real Food: One of the simplest yet most effective changes you can make is to prioritize whole, unprocessed foods. These nutrient-dense options fuel your body, improve your mood, and support lasting health. It's About Progress, Not Perfection: Let go of the need for perfection and focus on making small, steady improvements. Whether it's with food, movement, or decision-making, each step toward better choices creates a foundation for long-term well-being. Accountability Is Key to Lasting Change: To truly succeed, you must hold yourself accountable. Whether it's setting healthy boundaries, staying connected with a support system, or regularly reflecting on your progress, accountability keeps you on track toward a healthier, happier life.

Hey Winner, We often blame ourselves when we fall off track, thinking we just don't have the discipline or willpower to stick to a routine. But my guest today, Monica Packer, believes the problem isn't us—it's the methods we're using to build habits in the first place. Monica is a recovering perfectionist, mom of five, and the creator of About Progress, where she guides women to find sustainable growth by embracing progress over perfection. As a coach and podcast host, Monica helps women shift their mindset from rigid, all-or-nothing thinking to a more practical and compassionate approach to personal growth. She's here to share why traditional habit strategies don't work for most women—and what we can do instead to build habits that support us, not break us. I'm so excited for this conversation today, so let's get into it and discover how we can stop blaming ourselves and start making real, sustainable progress. Rooting for you ~ Gabe   LISTEN TO HEAR: Why failing at your habits isn't your fault How to shift from perfectionism to progress The power of flexibility in habit-building LINKS MENTIONED IN EPISODE: Monica's website: https://www.aboutprogress.com Connect with Monica on Instagram: https://instagram.com/aboutprogress CONNECT WITH ME: ➡️ Website: https://redhotmindset.com ➡️ Join the Red Hot Accountability Club: https://redhotmindset.com/rha/ ➡️ Free mini course: Craft Your Marketing Strategy Without Social Media: https://redhotmindset.com/marketing ➡️ Free workshop: 3 pillars to setting and crushing goals in a stress-less, no hustle way https://redhotmindset.com/goals/

We've all been there—caught in a cycle of self-doubt and fear of failure, wondering if we'll ever get to even start. But it doesn't have to be that way! When it comes to perfectionism, many of us picture the typical overachiever striving for unrealistic standards. But what if we told you there's a different side to this story? In this episode, Jen and Jill are joined by Monica Parker of About Progress to give us excellent and relatable insights about perfectionism.

I'm so excited to welcome Monica Packer back to the podcast! Monica is the amazing CEO and Founder of About Progress, a fantastic community dedicated to self-development and self-acceptance. She's also a habits expert! In this episode, you'll get practical tips that you can start using today to make sure your habits are truly supporting you and helping you create the life you want. Whether you're looking to break some bad habits or build some new, positive ones, this episode is just for you. Let's dive in!Find show notes at bicepsafterbabies.com/330Follow me on Instagram and Tiktok!Links:Monica's Instagram and WebsiteMonica's podcast, About Progress!bicepsafterbabies.com/insider

Our guest Monica Packer is a normal mom and recovering perfectionist who uncovered the truest model to lasting growth: it's progress made practical. As a podcaster on the show About Progress and coach, she guides women to find sustainable growth by adopting progress over perfection.Today we discuss… Where women go wrong when it comes to habitsThe difference between what you can do on a great day vs. a hard dayBuilding in flexibility when it comes to habitsHow to set a habit baseline and why this is so importantRedefining your definition of consistencyHacking your brain to make “blah” habits funThe ideal versus a small and simple version of your habitAllowing perfectionism to get in your way when it comes to habitsChanging they way you see yourself as you build you personal habitsFor the show notes and all the links mentioned in today's episode, head to secretsofsupermom.com/193.Stay connected!www.secretsofsupermom.comSecrets of Supermom on FacebookSecrets of Supermom on Instagram

This week I Pass the Mic to Monica Packer, host of About Progress podcast and creator of the Sticky Habits Intensive for women. Listen in as Monica shares why habits must be built differently if you're a woman, and some tips for getting started. Episode Sponsor: Green Chef!! Try GreenChef for 50% off plus 20% off your next month with code PRACTICALLY50 Find full show notes at livefreecreative.co/podcast Follow Miranda on Instagram @livefreemiranda and the show at @practically.happy.podcast Get one-on-one coaching with Miranda RIGHT HERE Pick up a copy of MY BOOK Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined today by Monica Parker, host of the About Progress podcast, as we talk about habits. Specifically, our discussion focuses on why the habit-forming advice out there written by men does not work for women. Join us!   Show Highlights:  ●      Monica's background as a blogger and podcaster who had to “learn how to fail” ●      Understanding that perfectionism is a spectrum that affects our ability to form “good habits” ●      Monica's lightbulb moment: “Maybe our methods are broken.” ●      The biggest difference between men's and women's habits: invisible labor ●      How invisible labor is defined–and what the statistics show ●      Examples of the mental load that women carry ●      Popular culture advice (about forming habits) that DOES NOT work ●      Monica's tips for forming habits: redefine consistency, shift your view of habits, and start with the smallest and simplest form of the ideal ●      Bedtime Revenge Procrastination is real for many women! ●      The goal of habits is to support you—so do it YOUR way! ●      Understanding trade-offs and how they work for most women Resources and Links: Connect with Monica Packer: Website, About Progress Podcast, Instagram, and The Sticky Habit Intensive Course Books mentioned by Monica: Fair Play by Eve Rodsky and Invisible Women by Caroline Criado Perez  Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook Get KC's book, How to Keep House While Drowning We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: www.strugglecare.com/promo-codes.

In today's episode, our guest Monica Packer, a leading expert in personal development, introduces her unique "progress model." Get ready for an eye-opening discussion on sustainable growth, breaking free from the "all or nothing lie," and leveraging your intuition to navigate your path to progress.

Monica Packer is a recovering perfectionist and is sharing what she has discovered along her journey. Her big question is What if you're stuck but not lazy, what if you're actually a perfectionist? In this episode Monica and Sara will talk about perfectionism, and not just the stereotypical overachiever, but rather the spectrum, one that can be all-controlling and make you feel like you aren't making progress, then blame yourself, and so the cycle begins.   How many of us feel lost? Paralyzed by fear? Burdened by the obsession to be perfect but never seeming to measure up? Caught up in bad cycles that enable you to stay stagnate? Unsure of your own gifts? Many women feel lost in the cycles of perfectionism and procrastination. Sara is the biggest champion of getting women to overcome fear and grab life by the horns. And her guest today has the same desire to propel women into feeling good about what they do and how they live. Monica created her About Progress community and podcast that guides women to grow into living with purpose and connecting to their greater potential.  So, choose Progress over Perfection and Remember: Small wins build over time. And don't be too hard on yourself. Website: www.saraschultingkranz.com Social Media: IG: https://www.instagram.com/saraschultingkranz/             YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@saraschultingkranz./about Sponsor: Go to www.saraschultingkranz.com and use the code Live Boldly at checkout to get the special price of $39 for programs offered. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are thrilled to have Monica Packer with us in this episode as we chat all the things we THOUGHT we knew before we had kids. It was only a matter of time though before it became apparent just how little we knew. And boy, did our kids make that apparent. It's because of us that we have as much humility as we have ;)We're thrilled to have a special guest with us today, Monica from About Progress. She's not just a fellow parent but also a passionate advocate for progress, especially in the messy journey of parenting. Monica is known for her expertise in supporting women, helping them live with purpose, and connecting with their greater potential.If you haven't already, make sure to check out Monica's podcast, About Progress, and follow her on Instagram @aboutprogress. Trust us; she's a wealth of knowledge that you don't want to miss.Getting to Know Monica:We're diving right in! Monica, tell our listeners more about yourself and your mission. We know we can't do it justice, so we'd love to hear from you directly.Parenting Realities:Now, onto the real talk about parenting. A For Effort podcast aims to prevent unintentional birth control, but if you're on the fence about having kids, stick around—listen with open hearts and eyes. These real and raw insights from parents might just teach you something valuable.Listener Submissions:We asked our listeners to share what they thought they knew going into parenting but soon realized they knew nothing. Let's dive into some of these eye-opening submissions:Magical Recoveries: Kids complaining about stomach pain is a daily occurrence, but the magical recovery when they cuddle up with a parent is a true miracle.Fashion Expectations: Expectations of cute Janie and Jack outfits turned into the reality of the trendy, effortlessly disheveled looks.Dirty Dishes Dilemma: The struggle with dirty dishes multiplying faster than rabbits, and the challenge of stacking them like a game of Jenga.Co-Sleeping Confessions: From being against co-sleeping to just wanting to sleep – a candid revelation.Patience Tested: Parenthood as a crash course in patience, with a reminder to be gentle on oneself.Unexpected Affection for Kids: A surprising turn from not liking kids to realizing they're actually great, the essence of the A For Effort podcast.Parenting Multiple Personalities: Parenting multiple kids compared to solving a Rubik's Cube – an ever-evolving challenge.Freedom and the Little Sidekick: A reflection on the total lack of freedom with a little one always by your side.Breastfeeding Expectations: The assumption that breastfeeding would be natural versus the reality.Yelling and Parenthood: The unexpected realization of yelling despite hating it when parents yelled.Adult Growth: The revelation that adults do the most growing in the parenting journey.Sleep Struggles: The challenge of getting kids to sleep and the underestimation of its difficulty.Eating as a Living Thing: The misconception that kids instinctively eat to survive.Textbook vs. Parenting: The vast difference between textbook child development and the unpredictable reality of parenting.Poop-Centric Conversations: How much of the day and conversations revolve around another person's poop.Influence Over Behavior: The realization that having influence over children's behavior is more challenging than expected.Parenting Feast: The humorous realization that parenting is simply the practice of eating your words.Closing:And there you have it, folks! We hope you enjoyed these honest and relatable insights into the world of parenting. Before we wrap up, take a minute to rate, review, comment, and share your thoughts. We appreciate each one of you and look forward to connecting with you in the next episode. Be a friend to everyone! Bye!

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Ever felt stuck in the 'perfection trap'? If so, you're not alone, friend! In fact, the Harvard Business Review shares that their rates of perfectionism have increased by statistically significant amounts from 1989 to 2016. Which is why I'm thrilled to have Monica Packer, the woman behind About Progress, joining us today. She's not your average mom of 5—Monica's a pro at kicking perfection to the curb and embracing growth instead!In our chat, we're spilling the tea on perfectionism and that the sneaky fear of failing that keeps us from even starting. Monica's journey—from perfection paralysis to a making progress—is truly inspiring and will encourage you into action too!And my personal favorite thing we chatted about is Monica's 'do something list.' It's like your daily adventure guide, minus the pressure of hardcore goals. Plus, we'll talk about savoring the little things while chasing the big dreams—trust me, it's all about finding joy in the journey.Stick around for tips, laughs, and a sprinkle of inspiration from Monica . Let's dive in and break free from perfection together!Connect with Monica: @aboutprogress | About Progress Podcast | Do Something List FREE Training---✍ Take the Complimentary Self Care Auditwww.mskatehouse.com/audit

This is a preview of our new private, premium, ad-free podcast, More Personal. In the future episodes like these will only be available for the two highest levels of supporters of About Progress. Sign up HERE. Each month on More Personal I'll share an unfiltered book review, including information on the author, what I loved and didn't love, some of my favorite quotes, and questions I'd love to ask the author. Plus, you'll receive a guide you can use in your own book club! NY Times book review, NY Times about the author, Oprah's 6-part series, shorter version of Oprah's series, NY Times best selling list Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Request A Customized Workshop For Your Company: https://www.americannegotiationinstitute.com/services/workshops/ In this episode, Monica Packer, a self-recovering Perfectionist, talks about the benefits of not being one. You'll learn: The Perfection model relies on an all or nothing model. The Progression model relies on you doing something. How you'll feel liberated once you let go of perfectionism. We discuss: Your identity is not based upon your outcome./ How to overcome identity crisis. Benefits of non-perfectionism. Let go of control to gain more. Follow Kwame Christian on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kwamechristian/ About Progress Podcast: https://aboutprogress.com/podcast-archives/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/aboutprogress/ About Progress website:https://aboutprogress.com/  Free class for women on habit formation: https://workinprogressacademy.mykajabi.com/women-habits-class The Ultimate Negotiation Guide: https://www.americannegotiationinstitute.com/guides/ultimate-negotiation-guide/ Click here to buy your copy of How To Have Difficult Conversations About Race!: https://www.amazon.com/Have-Difficult-Conversations-About-Race/dp/1637741308/ref=pd_%5B%E2%80%A6%5Df0bc9774-7975-448b-bde1-094cab455adb&pd_rd_i=1637741308&psc=1 Click here to buy your copy of Finding Confidence in Conflict: How to Negotiate Anything and Live Your Best Life!: https://www.amazon.com/Finding-Confidence-Conflict-Negotiate-Anything/dp/0578413736/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2PSW69L6ABTK&keywords=finding+confidence+in+conflict&qid=1667317257&qu=eyJxc2MiOiIwLjQyIiwicXNhIjoiMC4xNCIsInFzcCI6IjAuMjMifQ%3D%3D&sprefix=finding+confidence+in+conflic%2Caps%2C69&sr=8-1

Request A Customized Workshop For Your Company: https://www.americannegotiationinstitute.com/services/workshops/ In this episode, Monica Packer, a self-recovering Perfectionist, talks about the benefits of not being one. You'll learn: The Perfection model relies on an all or nothing model. The Progression model relies on you doing something. How you'll feel liberated once you let go of perfectionism. We discuss: Your identity is not based upon your outcome./ How to overcome identity crisis. Benefits of non-perfectionism. Let go of control to gain more. Follow Kwame Christian on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kwamechristian/ About Progress Podcast: https://aboutprogress.com/podcast-archives/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/aboutprogress/ About Progress website:https://aboutprogress.com/  Free class for women on habit formation: https://workinprogressacademy.mykajabi.com/women-habits-class The Ultimate Negotiation Guide: https://www.americannegotiationinstitute.com/guides/ultimate-negotiation-guide/ Click here to buy your copy of How To Have Difficult Conversations About Race!: https://www.amazon.com/Have-Difficult-Conversations-About-Race/dp/1637741308/ref=pd_%5B%E2%80%A6%5Df0bc9774-7975-448b-bde1-094cab455adb&pd_rd_i=1637741308&psc=1 Click here to buy your copy of Finding Confidence in Conflict: How to Negotiate Anything and Live Your Best Life!: https://www.amazon.com/Finding-Confidence-Conflict-Negotiate-Anything/dp/0578413736/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2PSW69L6ABTK&keywords=finding+confidence+in+conflict&qid=1667317257&qu=eyJxc2MiOiIwLjQyIiwicXNhIjoiMC4xNCIsInFzcCI6IjAuMjMifQ%3D%3D&sprefix=finding+confidence+in+conflic%2Caps%2C69&sr=8-1

In a society that places a premium on perfection, reshaping our personal and parenting goals to prioritize growth over perfectionism becomes a formidable task.   Here to help empower you to navigate the messy middle ground of parenthood, embrace the long game, and find beauty in the small wins is the founder of About Progress, Monica Packer. Monica is a mom of 5, podcaster, coach, and "recovering perfectionist" herself.   Monica's wisdom challenges the conventional all-or-nothing mindset, providing a breath of fresh air with her perspective on the beauty of imperfection and the cultivation of authentic connections. This enlightening and empowering conversation will help all parents seeking to break free from the shackles of perfectionism and usher in a new era of personal and parenting growth.     I want to hear from you! Send me a topic you want me to cover or a question you want answered on the show! ✨ DM me on Instagram at @securelyattachedpodcast or @drsarahbren ✨ Send an email to sarah@drsarahbren.com ✨ And check out drsarahbren.com for more parenting resources 

It's time for a podcast swap! Monica Packer of About Progress joins Stacy to talk all about overcoming overwhelm. Monica tackles some practical tips and helps us figure out what really matters, what we can simplify, and what we can just let go. Hear the rest of the conversation over on Monica's podcast where Stacy helps us mentally cope with burnout and overwhelm. Find Monica: AboutProgress.com Instagram.com/aboutprogress Don't forget to subscribe to this channel and visit realeverything.com! If you haven't yet unlocked ad-free content, checkout patreon.com/thewholeview. Your subscription goes to support this show and gets you direct access to submit your questions! We also want to give a big thank you to this week's sponsors! Puori.com/WHOLEVIEW | Use code WHOLEVIEW to get 20% off sitewide Indeed.com/WHOLEVIEW | Get a $75 sponsored job credit Nesa's Hemp | Get 25% off your first order Beautycounter.com/StacyToth | Special holiday deals going on now through 12/10! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Andrew and Mike discuss the common pitfalls and mistakes that aspiring entrepreneurs often face when starting a business. They emphasize the importance of getting started now, rather than striving for perfection, and share strategies for breaking even and generating revenue. Furthermore, they highlight the significance of automating processes and structuring a business for scalability. Listeners will learn valuable insights on managing time efficiently, outsourcing tasks, and adopting corporate principles for business growth. Topics Covered: 00:00:00 Kickstarting Your Business: How to Break Even and Accelerate Growth 00:01:19 Overcoming the Trap of Perfect Websites: It's About Progress, Not Perfection 00:06:33 Dive In: Typical Blunders New Entrepreneurs Should Avoid 00:09:32 Mastering Time: Efficient Organizing & Prioritizing for Business Growth Connect with The Better Than Rich: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BTR Mini-Course⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/betterthanrichshow/message

Many of us are perfectionists either over-functioning perfectionists or under-functioning perfectionists. Don't worry if you didn't know there were different types of perfectionists. I didn't know either until I started listening to this week's podcast. It's called About Progress and it helps all of us perfectionists or recovering perfectionists remember that life isn't about perfection, it's about progress and moving past perfectionism. This episode will leave your feeling encouraged to be kinder to yourself. Links from this Episode: Podcast Consultation Form View the rest of the show notes on the Friendly Podcast Guide Website  

All the information you have learned about habits in the past is only making you feel like a failure. Want to know why? Today's guest, Monica Packer, is here to tell you all about it. Monica Packer is passionate about teaching practical-but-deep transformation. As a top-rated podcaster and coach, she guides women to find sustainable growth by adopting progress over perfection in their identity, habits, and fulfillment. Monica is a former middle school teacher, a forever Oprah fangirl, a perpetual cookie dough maker, and a hiker. She and her husband are parents to 5 children, who are learning to like hiking, too. You can find more about Monica at aboutprogress.com and by listening to her podcast, About Progress. Transform your habits with Monica by clicking here!  https://www.workinprogressacademy.co/a/2147524280/dMzgcGFS  Use code JESS for 20% for the month of July 2023Follow Monica on Instagram instagram.com/aboutprogress aboutprogress.comListen to the About Progress Podcast. -------Be sure to follow us on Instagram and Facebook!--You can find the podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Stitcher, or wherever you listen to podcasts

When I shared about my 500th podcast episode I received a simple comment, "What are you doing to celebrate yourself?!" And that prompted me to do some thinking, and celebrating. It can be easier for us to barely acknowledge our growth or accomplishments, usually by making up excuses that they're not that important. One of the major tenets of About Progress is identity, and I realized that celebrating yourself is important for continued growth. Plus, it just feels good. Find something to celebrate today, even if it's the smallest of things. Finding Me Academy My FREE DSL Training My FREE habits class Full Show Notes Sticky Habit Method Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This podcast is one of the things I have been the most consistent with throughout my life, and over seven years that has led me to this 500th episode. I sat down to answer your questions about the history of the podcast, the specifics of my favorite guests and episodes, what the future holds, and what I've learned from all of this along the way. I think you'll find these answers to be unexpected, enlightening, and with a few surprises about what's to come! Most importantly, thank you for being a listener and valuable member of the About Progress community, I wouldn't be here without you. Finding Me Academy My FREE DSL Training My FREE habits class Full Show Notes Sticky Habit Method Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this month's guest episode, Sarah chats with Monica Packer about habit formation, perfectionism, self-compassion, and more. Monica is the host of the About Progress podcast as well as a coach and mother of 5, from ages 3 months to 11! You can find Monica's work here: https://aboutprogress.com Thanks to Jenny Eversole from Style Space (https://stylespace.com) for connecting Monica + me! Episode Sponsors: Earth Breeze: Liquidless earth-friendly detergent sheets! Right now, listeners can subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to earthbreeze.com/plans to get started Green Chef: The #1 Meal Kit for eating well. Go to GreenChef.com/plans60 and use code plans60 to get 60% off plus free shipping King Jim Tepra Lite Label Maker: So easy, streamlined + fast. This will change how you feel about label makers! Check it out: https://kingjim.us/tepra-lite, or visit the King Jim shop on Amazon. Get In Touch: Email: sarah.hart.unger@gmail.com Voice questions: https://www.speakpipe.com/bestlaidplans Send me a text or voice memo - (305) 697-7189 Do something IRL and learn about Best Laid Plans LIVE in South Florida: https://theshubox.com/blpa Sign up for my newsletter: https://theshubox.com/newsletter Leave me a review if you can (Apple Podcasts Link: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-laid-plans/id1525311647) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Monica Packer is a recovering perfectionist, podcaster and progress coach. She is also the founder and facilitator of a community called About Progress. About Progress is a community made up of people who want to work on their self-development AND self acceptance. Through her community, Monica guides women to grow into living with purpose and connecting to their greater potential.On this episode of Be The Good Podcast Monica shares with us her own personal journey away from perfectionism and into the practice of embracing the "mess of progress".Be sure to follow @aboutprogress on Instagram and visit https://aboutprogress.com to learn more!

I once had a workshop attendee ask me about self-love, and I answered honestly. I don't always love every part of myself, but I do respect myself. This is a different attitude than what was initially more popular when About Progress first started, and many voices were echoing that to "just love yourself" would fix everything. In this short episode I want to ask you, what would change for you if you moved the goal post from love to respect? I also share some wise marriage advice that applies here, and some questions you can ask yourself to shift your mindset. My FREE DSL Training My FREE habits class Full Show Notes Sticky Habit Method Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Request A Customized Workshop For Your Company: https://www.americannegotiationinstitute.com/services/workshops/ In this episode, Monica Packer, a self-recovering Perfectionist, talks about the benefits of not being one. You'll learn: The Perfection model relies on an all or nothing model. The Progression model relies on you doing something. How you'll feel liberated once you let go of perfectionism. We discuss: Your identity is not based upon your outcome./ How to overcome identity crisis. Benefits of non-perfectionism. Let go of control to gain more. Follow Kwame Christian on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kwamechristian/ About Progress Podcast: https://aboutprogress.com/podcast-archives/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/aboutprogress/ About Progress website:https://aboutprogress.com/  Free class for women on habit formation: https://workinprogressacademy.mykajabi.com/women-habits-class The Ultimate Negotiation Guide: https://www.americannegotiationinstitute.com/guides/ultimate-negotiation-guide/ Click here to buy your copy of How To Have Difficult Conversations About Race!: https://www.amazon.com/Have-Difficult-Conversations-About-Race/dp/1637741308/ref=pd_%5B%E2%80%A6%5Df0bc9774-7975-448b-bde1-094cab455adb&pd_rd_i=1637741308&psc=1 Click here to buy your copy of Finding Confidence in Conflict: How to Negotiate Anything and Live Your Best Life!: https://www.amazon.com/Finding-Confidence-Conflict-Negotiate-Anything/dp/0578413736/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2PSW69L6ABTK&keywords=finding+confidence+in+conflict&qid=1667317257&qu=eyJxc2MiOiIwLjQyIiwicXNhIjoiMC4xNCIsInFzcCI6IjAuMjMifQ%3D%3D&sprefix=finding+confidence+in+conflic%2Caps%2C69&sr=8-1

Have you ever felt like your habits are more like a ball and chain? Do they restrict you, keep you confined, or keep you from growing in the ways you really need to? If so, it's time to recognize that you may need a different approach. Here to discuss flexible goal setting is host of the About Progress podcast, Monica Packer. On this episode, you'll hear how Monica overcame a perfectionist mindset through flexibility and consistency - realizing that the two don't compete with one another, rather they make each other possible. Monica's approach to successful habit formation has allowed her to continually pursue goals while adapting to the various seasons of life: habits can be successful by doing your best, most of the time, over time. -------------------------------Links Discussed in This EpisodeBonus Episodes Available on Patreon (Starting 1/13/23) Order a Copy of Minimalist Moms: Living and Parenting with SimplicityShow Notes for EP255: Enjoy this Podcast?Post a review and share it! If you enjoyed tuning into this podcast, then do not hesitate to write a review. You can also share this with your fellow mothers so that they can be inspired to think more and do with less. Order (or review) my recent book, Minimalist Moms: Living & Parenting With SimplicityQuestions? You can contact me through my website, find me on Instagram, or like The Minimalist Moms Page on Facebook.Thanks for listening! For more updates and episodes, visit the website. You may also tune in on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or Stitcher.Checkout the Minimalist Moms Podcast storefront for recommendations from Diane.If you enjoyed today's episode of the Minimalist Moms Podcast, then hit subscribe and share it with your friends!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/minimalist-moms-podcast2093/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

How many times have you determined you want to create a new habit, only to have your plans, dreams, and goals crash and burn within the first week? If this is you, please hit play on this episode! Meg is starting off the new year with a FANTASTIC conversation with Monica Packer of the super popular podcast About Progress. Monica is here to assure us that there is nothing wrong with you, we just need to have a new understanding around how we can create lasting changes in our lives in some very awesome ways. You do NOT want to miss this one! Join our Patreon community! When you become a supporter of Sorta Awesome on Patreon, you get access to fun things like the romance reading challenge and our monthly book club! We would love to have you!!! Go to patreon.com/sortaawesome to become a Super Star Awesome! There's still time to join for our next book club discussion on January 14th! We'll be discussing Bonnie Garmus's novel Lessons in Chemistry. We would love to have you! THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS: *Grove: Go to grove.com/AWESOME and get a free starter set worth up to fifty dollars with your first order *Babbel: Get 55% off your subscription when you go to BABBEL.com/awesome SHOW NOTES: Shark Steam and Scrub mop SAIE Beauty lip blur Sign up for Monica's (FREE!) habit class About Progress website MORE EPISODES FROM SORTA AWESOME: Ep. 422: All the Awesome of 2022 (a group show!) Ep. 369: Compassionate advice for the new year with Rev. Mary Lee Downey Ep. 273: A MUST-LISTEN to heal from 2020 for an awesome 2021 Ep. 162: Self-care, self-comfort, what's healthy, what's not You can find Meg on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram! Find Monica at the About Progress website and on Instagram! Visit sortaawesomeshow.com for show notes on this and every episode. And don't forget to find us in the Sorta Awesome Hangout on Facebook or @sortaawesomeshow on Instagram, and @sortaawesomepod on Twitter! This post may contain affiliate links, which means we receive a tiny commission from the seller at no additional cost to you, if you purchase from them. We only share products and services we have used, tested, and love ourselves! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How are your New Year's resolutions going?  If you've ever struggled to make and KEEP your goals, this episode is for you! We're chatting with Monica Packer of About Progress to figure out the step-by-step way you can rock your goals in 2023.  To connect with Monica you can find her at the following links:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aboutprogress/ Free Habit Class: https://bit.ly/3Vu2h6l   Get our 365-day New Testament daily devotional book: https://amzn.to/3BTEQfA (affiliate link) Get your free copy of the simplified New Testament outline here: https://kristenwalkersmith.com/new-testament-simplified/  And grab Cali's scripture study guide here: https://comefollowmestudy.com/shop/ Discount code: OMSS Or for a physical copy:  https://amzn.to/3YGCFWJ (affiliate link)   Music courtesy of bensound.com

Welcome back, everybody. I am thrilled, thrilled, thrilled to have you here again, finishing out the year so strong. In this episode, we planned perfectly for this week because my guess is that you're starting to make New Year's resolutions or make New Year's goals, and we wanted to talk, myself and the amazing guests that we have this week, about how you can change your habits in the most compassionate and effective way..  We have back this week with us Monica Packer. She's been on the show before. To be honest, she's like a warm hug to me. I just feel like it's just sitting down and having a chat with a dear long friend, like an old friend. I love speaking with Monica. She's just got such deep wisdom to her. And so, today, we got together and talked about how to change your habits compassionately and effectively. Because when people set resolutions or New Year's goals, they're just talking about creating new habits, like how can I create new habits in my life? How can I make a change in my life? And sometimes, we tend to do that in a very aggressive, critical way. And so, we wanted to sit down and talk about how we can do that in a compassionate, effective way. Kimberley: Okay. Welcome, Monica. I'm so happy to have you here.  Monica: Oh, it really is a joy. I just love everything you do and who you are, more importantly. So, I'm excited to be here again. HOW TO CHANGE YOUR HABITS  Kimberley: Thank you. Thank you. Okay, so you and I were chatting, and I love this idea of preparing for the hard day, but particularly emphasizing how to change your habits that prepare you for your dark day or your hard day. Tell me a little about why that is so important to you or even how you've implemented this in your life. Monica: When I think back on my history with habit formation, it was clouded for a long time with these all-or-nothing models that taught me to have good habits, they needed to look this way, and it needed to be formed in this way. It needed to be consistent in this way. And a big part of that was not only were we supposed to have an ideal, we were supposed to start with the ideal. You just decide what the habit is and then you do it for 28 days, or whatever number we all have in our heads. You get to that magical number and it's a habit. And that never worked for me. And so, for a really long time-- well, it worked for me when I was the type A, very overachieving perfectionist. But that came at a big cost in my life. And we talked about that I think in our past interview we did together. And that cost was not one I was willing to make for a long time. I wasn't willing to sacrifice my mental and physical and spiritual health and my relationships anymore to be so performing.  And so, because of that, I thought that was the only way to, one, progress in your life and have goals, but also trickle down to habits. I just thought I can do the habits that are required of me for my work and for my family, home management kind of things. But for myself, that was a different story because I thought, no, these are the habits I want, and they're so beautiful and amazing and would be so helpful in my life. But in order to get there, I can't do what that requires. I can't, so I just didn't.  But then when I got back into habit formation a few years ago, which was not a plan of mine, but it just happened naturally as I was really working on identity and fulfillment in my life, I realized those two areas had to be supported with habits to just even give me the time and the energy to carve out what I needed to for those two areas of my life. And as part of that, I had to figure out habits in a new way.  I know this is a really long answer to your question, but the nutshell version of this is that a lot of us, if not all of us, are set up to fail with habit formation in the way that we've been taught since we were little kids. I mean, even that number thing I said alone, like how many days does it take to form a habit – we all have a number because we've been taught a number. But that number is not realistic for most people, especially if you're in a caretaking role or in any kind of position or season of life where you have to be more reactive in nature to your responsibilities. Every day is different. Every season is different too. There's that kind of flexibility that makes it so you have to do habits differently.  And so, what I've learned over the past few years is that, instead of starting with an ideal version of a habit, and that being “This is my habit,” those are only ideal. Those are only possible for those best of days kind of days. When you get really good sleep, your routine is really set. It's more predictable. And that didn't work for me, didn't work for most of the women I work with. I work with primarily women. So, instead, what we want to do is both start with what I call a baseline habit and always have that be the foundational habit we come back to on our worst of days.  The baseline habit to me is, the ideal is the highline. We definitely want to have the ideal in mind, like this is what I want ultimately. But the baseline is your foundational way to get there. It's the form of the habit that you can do on your worst of day, when you're really tired, when you're going through a depressive episode, when a kid feels really sick during the night, whatever it is. And having that baseline version isn't you lazying or-- what's the word? It's not you being lazy, it's not yourself saying, “Oh, I'm just going to get my permission to not do the habit.” It's no. This is my best-of-day version today on this worst-of-day. This is the best I can do on this day. And because I have this version of it, not only am I able to create a habit faster, like I don't have to wait for a perfect 28 days, I also have something to always fall back onto on those days where I'm not having an ideal day. And that gives me the consistency I need to not only have that habit and what it's going to provide for me, but also have the foundation to build on, so it gets higher and higher. And boy, I don't even know how long I just talked HOW SOCIETY IMPACT OUR HABIT FORMATION  Kimberley: No, no, no, no. I have lots of questions. So, what does this look like? I love this idea – the baseline habit first. Let's go way back. So, I think you're referring to-- and let's talk about what society tells us habits should look like. Now, I don't actually have this correct, I think, but I think there's a really famous book about habits that's like one of the top Amazon selling that says, is it 60 days? What is the book actually saying? Monica: Well, I've read every book and habit formation, so I'm trying to think of which one it is. They probably say 21, 28, or 100 days. Sometimes they say more than that. But yes. Kimberley: Okay. So, listeners have probably read one or more of those as well, which is cool. So, let's just acknowledge that that's being said as the standard, but would you agree that that's the standard for maybe people who don't have a mental illness or people who have a kid who's suffering? Would we agree that that's for those incredibly lucky people or privileged people, or what would we say? Monica: That was exactly the word I was going to use. It is a great standard and it's a privileged standard. And it doesn't even have to be about demographics. We can look at privileges that way in terms of gender, socioeconomic and race, and all of that. Those are all factors of course. But I would just even think about, if you've read those books and you learned so much like I did years ago, and then you tried to implement them and then you failed, whether it's sooner or later, then you qualify. You qualify as, that doesn't work for me Now, consistency does still matter and we can talk about that, but it's also not in the way we've been taught. So, there are seeds of truth that can apply to everyone in these methods that we've learned from and that have been so popular the past few years, but not so broadly prescribed to the general population. It's not fair. It's just, that's the biggest place I actually start when I talk about habit formation, is helping people understand you're not bad at habit formation, you're not broken, these methods are broken for you. Kimberley: Okay. So, that's really helpful. And I'll tell a story about that. I actually want to hear examples for you. I like this. I'm a pretty highly functioning person personally, but I think what's-- but I also have a chronic illness. And by default, I think I'm actually doing what you're talking about, but you can actually correct me maybe. I'm actually here to learn here. I'm definitely loving it. So, I have the things I want to get done on the days I don't feel well and that looks a whole lot different to the things that I expect myself to get done on the days where I do feel well. The base, you called it a baseline habit. It's more about expectations, I think maybe. My expectations on when the days I don't feel well are like the basics. Is that what you talk about? Is that what you're meaning when you say baseline? HABITS SHOULD BE SUPPORTIVE  Monica: So, let's break this down just a little bit. One, starting with the idea that habits should be supportive. That's their purpose. They're not balls and chains to our lives. They shouldn't be about the prescriptions. Kimberley: It's not a checklist. Monica: The checklist, no. That's the shift I can see you've already made, is these habits are there to support me. They're to support me on my best of days and my worst of days. So, with that first breakdown, then baselines come in to any to-me supportive habit, personally supportive habit, whether that's exercise, meditation, journaling, even getting up early, deep breathing, stretching, whatever those are to you. These grounding stabilizing habits, having those baseline versions is what helps you have the consistency you need to show up on those days where your expectations need to match your reality better. Kimberley: Right. Well, that's the point, isn't it? Okay, so let's talk about they have to be attached to the reality. So, what does that look like? Okay. We'll call them-- well, how will we say it? “Hard days” and “easy days” or how will we-- Monica: I always say “best of days” and “worst of days,” but that's really extreme language and I always preach against extremes, so maybe I shouldn't be using that. But whatever you're comfortable with. Kimberley: Hard days and not hard days. Let's do that.  Monica: That sounds great. Because it doesn't have to be like, you can only do the baseline if it's the worst day ever. It's just less-than-ideal day.  Kimberley: Okay. So, what does that look like?  Monica: Okay. So, let me give you a real-life example of a seasonal shift where my reality shifted, had to shift my expectations and the way I was showing up to the supportive habits. And this is more of a personal example. This summer, I was really sick with morning sickness, like really, really, really sick. And it went on for four months straight. And I'm still sick, but I'm better, way better. But during that time, I was still able to keep up my supportive habits, my most important ones, of exercise, of meditation, of journaling for my children, and of reading. But those supportive habits looked way different than my spring version of them before I got pregnant and my fall version now where I'm feeling better. I'll take one of those examples.  My exercise was I used to go for an hour-long walk and then do a strength training exercise video or something like that. It just turned into-- my baseline version of that was 20 minutes of slowly walking around my block. I didn't even go far in case I needed to go home sooner. But that still was supportive enough for me to have the time alone that I needed to be able to show up to other things.  Another example of this is, journaling for me typically looks like I have this journal for my kids that takes just a few minutes, and then I have a journal for myself that also just usually takes about five minutes. I decided journaling for myself could wait. So, I only had the two-minute version of journaling. And that still meant I would journal throughout all that time. And now what's great about having those baselines is once the fall came around and I began to feel better, I was able to pick up my habits more in ways that match my reality.  So, baselines, like I said, they are our less of ideal, less than ideal versions of the habits that can-- they give you the flexibility you need day to day, but season to season. So, as part of that, an important thing for women and men who are listening to know-- sorry, I'm used to talking to women, so I apologize for that. But an important thing to know is that your baselines can grow.  Now my baselines even are different than the summer. They're just a little bit more time intense or energy intensive than they were. Your highs get higher and your lows get higher too. Your baselines even grow. So, the less-than-ideal versions can grow too, and they have. Kimberley: That's awesome. And it's funny as you're talking about that I'm thinking of my patients. If we can keep the black-and-white view of it, like you either do it perfectly or you don't do it, there's often this shift. It's like, “Oh no, Kimberley, I did really great. I did all my exposures this week,” or “I didn't do any of my exposures this week. It's been a ‘hard week.'” But then there can be a shift to, “Oh, I had such a hard day, so instead of doing all my exposures, I just did six minutes.” And I think that's what you're saying in terms of it being a baseline habit of like, they gave themselves permission for it to not be perfect so that even on their “worst day,” they were still able to get in that treatment that they know is going to help them for that supportive work. Is that what you would think of it as? Monica: Mm-hmm. And I have a daughter who has generalized anxiety disorder. She's on the spectrum as well. So, we have a lot of different things we need to keep up on in order for her to feel supported in her life. And even for her, we have baseline versions of these things. So, that way, in a day where she's really struggling, we still have a way for her to feel supported without that all-or-nothing model, just taking off the table altogether. Kimberley: Right. So, what kind of shifts would one have to make to create a baseline habit plan? Would we call it a “baseline habit plan”?  Monica: Oh, yes. Kimberley: Is this an intentional plan? Tell me. SMALL, INTENTIONAL HABIT CHANGES Monica: So, first, you need to start with some small, internal habit changes, and that's something we alluded to. Just pay attention to what your own habit story is. How did you grow up thinking habits should be formed? How do you currently think they should be formed? How do you view your capacity to form habits? And how are all of those things actually connected to you being taught habits in ways that actually are not right for you and that's okay? Having that internal shift to one own, “Oh, I've been following the wrong model. So, I'm not broken and I'm capable of forming habits.” And also, the second shift there is just the supportive one. That's the shift. It's not about the shoulds and prescriptions.  Now the external shifts is, I mean, that's where we could break down. I could talk to you for an hour and a half about that, but you mentioned a plan, and that is what I help people do, is you do need a plan. And what that looks like is actually way simpler than maybe Pinterest would show you about a habit plan. You start with casting a vision of an ideal habit that matches a need you have. So, you can think more generally first like, what's the supportive habit I need? I need to wind down at night, so what does that look like for me? And you cast a vision of what could that entail. And then what you do is you take that version and you make sure, one, it's supportive. So, it's not about a should. You make sure it's really small. So, it needs to be-- well, we talked about the baseline version of that, but small is like broken down. So, not a full routine yet. We're just starting with the first step. Simple is your baseline version. That's like, what is the simplest version of even the small habit that I can start with?  MEDITATION HABITS  For an example, meditation habits, maybe you have a whole nighttime routine ideally that you would like and you know what that looks like. But you're going to start small with just the habit of meditation at night. And then from there, you're going to start by making it simple, and that means what's the baseline version of that? The easiest version of this habit is one deep breath. That's my baseline for meditation. And that actually was one of my habits during the summer. I still meditated all summer, but it was usually just a deep breath or 10 at night as I was falling asleep and just trying to clear my mind.  So, we have supportive, small, simple. And the last thing here is specific, and specific means you don't just say, “I'm going to have this new habit and I'm starting it tomorrow.” That's not specific. You need to have it tied to an already existing habit and form what I call a when-then pairing. So, get clear about, okay, what already happens at nighttime that I can attach this new habit to? And they might be things-- actually, not even might. Most of the time, the existing habits are things you don't know are habits because they are habits. Kimberley: Like brushing your teeth.  Monica: Yes. Dress in the bathroom, brushing your teeth, getting ready for bed. Or mine at night, honestly, a lot is just starting the dishwasher. Who knew? Oh, that's a habit. I do that every night. So, it's something like identifying what's an existing habit around that time and attaching that supportive, small, simple habit to. That's your habit plan. Kimberley: Interesting. So, for those who-- let's say, I'm going to offer the listeners. Let's say, most of the people who listen, their goal is to face a fear. That's my crowd. That's my people. We face our fears.  Monica: Love it.  Kimberley: So, let's say we're trying to increase our ability to face a fear every day. So, what you're saying is, find a habit you already do and attach it to the time in which you do that. So, let's say if your goal is to do an exposure – that's often the biggest form of facing fear – in order to get it to be a daily thing that you're consistent with, you would find a time of the day that you would be already doing something. Often I'll say, as you drive to work, you could do it while you're driving to work. Is that what you're saying? Monica: Yeah. You're nailing this. Exactly. Kimberley: Okay. What if you don't want to do the habit, but you know you should because it's supportive? Monica: So, this is going to-- you just did the biggest disclaimer there. If you truly love the result and the result is what you need in your life, shoulds can still be chosen. We don't have to totally take shoulds off the table. And there's a lot of that kind of talk, I think, out in the personal development world like, “No shoulds.” But honestly, I don't feel like doing a lot of the things I need to do most days responsibility-wise. They are shoulds. But they are chosen because of the results or because of the benefit or what I know my responsibilities need me to do.  Shoulds can be chosen. So, if you've deeply truly chosen the should, which is the first step, then you have to get clear about your baseline. And ask yourself, is this actually a baseline? Because it needs to be so small and simple that you can do it even when you don't want to. That's how small and simple it needs to be. And once you do that, you get the momentum, which is a whole other topic. And you might organically be like, “Oh, I can do another deep breath, or I can spend another minute on this exposure,” and ride that wave if you feel like it. Kimberley: Right. And so, what I would offer to people if I'm going off of your example is, on your baseline day, on your hottest day, you could purposely have a thought you don't want to have, and that's it. That could be your baseline. Or another would be, let's say there's something you avoid. You could just do it for one minute, be around that thing you avoid for one minute. Is that what we're looking for? Like one minute?  Monica: Exactly.  Kimberley: Good. Baby steps. Monica: Yes. And don't underestimate the power of these baselines. One of the biggest powers is momentum that I mentioned, but the other biggest one that honestly to me might even be more weighty than the momentum is the confidence. It's the identity shift and how you view your capacity to form habits, and your capacity to follow through with the things you say you're going to do for yourself. Kimberley: Right. Isn't that such a big piece of it? Like how many times have I-- let's say a client has panic disorder and getting on the elevator is so painful because they're so afraid of having a panic attack on an elevator, for example. And they're standing at the doors and they're saying, “I can't. I just can't do it.” That's that confidence piece, right? Because we know we can. We could actually argue like, “No, you just take one foot and you put your foot on the elevator and then you put the other foot on the elevator and you're in the elevator.” I think that that's an interesting piece. And I talk a lot about motivation, but what you are bringing to the table, and correct me if I'm wrong, is there are many ways in which we could get motivation and momentum and confidence, but habits is another way. Monica: Yes. And for me, these baseline versions are, go to a bigger picture concept that I teach in my community of creating momentum instead of waiting for motivation. And it's just physics. It really is just using physics here. But like you said, it's the confidence piece. It's the identity piece of being someone who can face fears, of someone who can show up for themselves, even on the hard days, on all these levels that we've talked about. It really helps. The identity piece too is really important. CHANGING HABITS WITH CHRONIC ILLNESS  Kimberley: Right. Okay. So, you're having a hard day. You originally, when we were chatting, were talking about the dark days. We call them a dark day, a hard day, the worst day and all the things. On the days where that's the hardest of days, the darkest of days, we usually have a lot of thoughts about our capacity to do hard things on the dark day. I know we touched on this, but what is the mindset shift to allowing yourself to be in a baseline day? I'll give you a personal example. When I have POTS, when I've massively relapsed, the day before I could walk three miles, no problem. And on my relapse days, I am lucky if I can get around the block. Lucky. That is lucky. And so, what needs to happen there to give ourselves permission to-- because I've actually been the person who goes, “Nope, I refuse this to be a bad day. I am going for that damn three-mile walk,” and then all hell gets broken. It's horrible. There's consequences to be paid for pushing myself. So, is there a piece here about the permission? That's the main last piece I want to ask. Monica: Oh yes. This alone takes a tremendous amount of courage. People, they think, “Oh, what? Habit probation takes courage?” Yeah, it does, especially if you're doing it differently than the way that you've been taught. And this is where I would go back to something about proving yourself wrong. Doing something in a different way as a way to bolster your confidence and also your know-how, but to say like, “Maybe I can just try to see, I can just prove my old self wrong here. Does this still help? Is it still a way to show myself I care about myself?” on your really bad days where you're recovering. Is this stretch still giving to your body? Is it still saying “I see you” and “I love you and I'm trying to help you and I know you're trying to help me”? Maybe you can't even do that block, but you can do a sense salutation or sorry, that's the movement I keep doing over here, like what is she doing? That's the movement I keep doing.  What I would help people do who are stuck in that all-or-nothing mindset, it's so hard to let go of. Believe me, I know. Adopt the mindset of curiosity of what would it look like to try this out? Can I prove myself wrong? And I would also get a little logical and look back on your past and say, “Overall, how has this all-or-nothing model served me? Has it helped me more or hurt me?” For the high majority of people, high majority, it hurts more than helps.  Pay attention to the price you have paid in the past for the all and just acknowledge it takes real strength to do this. That's one thing-- I had a client say this years ago. She said it takes the greatest of courage to do the smallest of things. And that's where I would end. Just dare to have that courage to try the smallest of things and to try them again and again and again and see over time. You've got to give yourself that time to see how it can prove yourself wrong overall. And that these small ways we invest in ourselves, not only add up, but they count in the moment too. CREATING A HABIT PLAN  Kimberley: Right. So beautiful. I have one more tactical question before I let you go. So, would you have people have a breakdown of all the steps to create a habit plan? Meaning, let's say the goal is to get-- a lot of people here are working at developing a good exposure plan. Let's say we're goaling towards 30 minutes a day. Would you say, “Okay, on the dark hard days, we do two minutes. So, that's reserved for the dark hard days. And then from there, we're going to work at two minutes, three minutes, four minutes, five minutes, six minutes. And then by the end of the month, we want to be at nine minutes.”? Would you break it down like that or is that actually the opposite of the plan here that you're trying to go for in terms of a supportive plan? Monica: So, the bigger question I believe you're asking is, how do we build, do it strategically or what does that look like? I would say that depends on what the habit is and the purpose of the habit. So, if this is more of like a therapy-based habit that you've been working on with clients, I would say it might be helpful to have that game plan. Perhaps not based on a certain time, but more about how consistently they're able to perform the baseline version, and from there have the foundation they need to build.  In general, though, for most habits, it goes two ways. You can either maximize or add. You can do longer amounts of the habit or more intensity, that's maximizing, or you can add. That means you add another step to the bigger routine you want. And I find that can go two directions. One, strategically, you can think like, okay, this is my game plan. Maybe I don't have an exact deadline, like in two weeks. It's more organic feeling. It's more intuitive. I feel strong enough. I feel like I'm in momentum. I feel like I have the structure I need to add or to maximize. But yeah, it still can be done strategically. But most of the time, it just happens organically. You just are able to-- that baseline rises, like we talked about. And as a baseline rises, that means you tend to have more like normal days in between days where you can do a step or two above naturally and organically.  So, that depends. But ultimately, I think, have trust in yourself to know what you need for a specific habit. Do I need this to be strategic or am I okay to do this more intuitively and organically? But no matter what, starting with the ideal in mind is what gives you the target that you are headed towards. Kimberley: Right. And that you can, any day, even if you're on your way up to the strategic plan, you can rely on your base plan if needed. That's your backup. Monica: Always, always. And even over time, as your baselines rise, you still have that under baseline you can always fall back to. If seasons change, your life change, circumstances change, your health changes, those are always there for you. Kimberley: Right. Love it. All right. Tell us where we can hear more about you. Monica: Well, I am a podcaster on About Progress. We're a personal development show. We don't just talk about habits there. We talk about a lot of things. And I'd love for them to come and listen. And I do have a course on habit formation and it's for women. I know there are men listening here, but it's primarily for those who identify as women because of the bigger thing I have to teach about why habits spell in particular for women. So, it's called the Sticky Habit Method, and they can go check that out at aboutprogress.com/stickyhabitmethod. And it says sticky habit because you form habits that stick. Kimberley: Nice. I love it. Oh my gosh, it's so wonderful to have you. Like I said, your episode about perfectionism that we've done is a really high-rated episode. If you want to go back and listen to that, that would be cool too. Yeah, absolutely.  Monica: That's really the heart of all my work, including habit formation. Who knew I would even get into habits, but we're here. Kimberley: I love it. I love it. Thank you so much for coming on. I've loved listening. I've been the student today as well, so that was awesome.  Monica: I love that. Thank you. Kimberley: My pleasure. Thank you so much. LINKS:  PODCAST http://aboutprogress.com/podcast STICKY HABIT METHOD https://www.workinprogressacademy.co/sticky-habit-method FREE HABIT CLASS FOR WOMEN https://workinprogressacademy.mykajabi.com/women-habits-class

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Have you ever wondered how you can feel more connected to yourself in the midst of an everyday busy life? In this episode, Camille welcomes Monica Packer, the podcast host of About Progress and a coach for women looking to achieve their goals and overcome things that hold them back. Monica shares how she was able to find new ways to grow outside of perfectionism and how she helps women find ways for self-development. She shares her tips and advice in how people can make progress through embracing their identity, achieving fulfillment, and creating habit formation with flexibility to adapt to the different seasons of life. If you're a busy mom or business owner looking for ways to connect more with yourself, tune into this episode to hear Monica's advice on how you can shift your mindset and explore your interests without affecting your current roles and responsibilities. Resources: Interested in becoming a virtual assistant? Join the 60 Days to VA Course:www.camillewalker.co/VAAccess the 5-day email sequence to help you discover your purpose:www.callmeceopodcast.comVisit her website: www.aboutprogress.comConnect with Monica:Follow her on Instagram: www.instagram.com/aboutprogressFollow her on Facebook: www.facebook.com/aboutprogressConnect with Camille Walker:Follow Camille on Instagram: www.instagram.com/CamilleWalker.coFollow Call Me CEO on Instagram: www.instagram.com/callmeceopodcast

First of all, thank you for being here with me to celebrate SIX YEARS of the About Progress podcast! This is a fun episode because we get to hear from you, the listeners, as well as me and my husband, Brad. I'm answering questions about general faves, favorite guests and interviews, and my biggest successes. Plus, I'm sharing some non-favorites and tough stuff that has gone on behind-the-scenes. Thank you to everyone who submitted a voice note, they are all a great example of the special community we have here at About Progress. I am looking forward to the years to come and hope you'll continue to grow with me! P.S. Remember the ongoing giveaway right now where you can be entered to win some of my favorite things when you leave or update a review on Apple podcasts. My FREE habits class is now available!! Full Show Notes Sticky Habit Method This episode is brought to you by ZocDoc. Download the free app at zocdoc.com/progress and start your search for a top-rated doctor today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Monica Packer is passionate about teaching practical-but-deep transformation. As a podcaster and coach, she guides women to find sustainable growth by adopting progress over perfection. Monica is a former middle school teacher, a forever Oprah fangirl, a perpetual cookie dough maker, and an ambitious walker (last one is a joke . . . sort of). You can find more about Monica at aboutprogress.com and by listening to her podcast, About Progress.What we talk about today:What perfectionism is and how it shows up in our lifePerfectionism keeping us stuck from aligning our life to who we really areHow habits have been taught traditionally and why that might not be the best way for us (especially as females/moms)Changing our ideas of habits around consistency and opening up our minds to a new way of habit-forming---Coaching has changed my own life, and the lives of my clients. More connection, more healing, more harmony and peace in our most important relationships. It increases confidence in any parenting challenges and helps you be the guide to teach your children the family values that are important to you- in clear ways. If you feel called to integrate this work in a deeper way and become a parenting expert, that's what I'm here for.My coaching program: click hereFind me on the ‘gram: @the.parenting.coachWork with me 1:1: click hereWebsite: click here

In this month's edition of "Dear Progressor," you'll hear from members of this community who called in and answered my prompt to share small tips that make a big difference. This episode is based on the idea that small wins build over time, in all aspects of our lives. We get to hear from a school teacher staying organized, about the benefits of meal planning and calendar syncing, a laundry hack, how to meditate in a busy day, how to shift your habits and a genius way to store your garbage bags and wash your pillowcases. About Progress is a COMMUNITY, not a fan club! We want to feature YOUR voice on the show. Find out how here! Get notified of when my habits class is available Full Show Notes Sticky Habit Method Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You have this new habit: you want to work out, you want to drink more water, you want to eat healthier. So why is it not sticking? Why can't you actually make it happen? I'm bringing on Monica Packer from About Progress and today we are diving into the real reason why your habits aren't sticking And guess what? It's not actually your fault. It's because all habits are not geared towards you. So in this episode, Monica is going to walk through her 4-step process to creating a habit that actually sticks. Quotes from this episode: "If you want time, a large part of that is having some supportive routines in your life that make that time possible for you to do the work you know you can do." "I was on the sidelines of my personal goals. I didn't have to wait on the sidelines till my life changed. I had to figure out how to change." Monica's free class The Number One Reason Why Women Must Do Habits Differently will go live on September 14th. You can sign up for the class here: https://workinprogressacademy.mykajabi.com/women-habits-class Monica's podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/about-progress/id1173416233 Monica's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aboutprogress/ Get the full podcast show notes and transcript here: https://iammichellegifford.com/4-brilliant-ways-to-make-a-habit-actually-stick

In this episode I have such a great chat with Monica Pack of the About Progress podcast about how to create flexible self supporting habits for overwhelmed moms. Monica shares the 4 types of "habiteers" which are: 1.  The martyr: they believe habits are balls and chains, they are ruled by "shoulds" and believe habits are all or nothing. 2.  The Dropper: believes habits are full routines and they drop the full routine because they can't accomplish it 3. The Overacheiver:  They shoot for the stars and try to create enormous habits they can't achieve so they believe they aren't capable of keeping habits. 4.  The Dangler:  Somehow they believe habits will just get inserted into their life if they just want them bad enough.  So they are left dangling without having habits that stick. Monica shares that she has read hundreds of books about habits and self improvement and the majority are written by men.  She said women need more flexible, self supporting habits and need to remove the shame and find self compassion. Monica's sticky habit method is to build supportive habits on a daily basis to take care of our needs and desires so we are better equipped women and mothers.  She shares that flexible consistency is key.  For example, if one of the habits you want to nurture is working out, an all or nothing approach is that you have to do it the same time every single day for an hour.  A more consistently flexible approach would be to prioritize it, but maybe it's split up.  You walk the kids to school for 15 minutes and then come home and do yoga later for 20 minutes.   The workout still happened but it wasn't so rigid there wasn't wiggle room for being a mom, being interuppted, being up all night with a baby etc.   We are much more likely to create a habit that sticks when we are compassionate and flexible with ourselves. Monica is teaching a FREE master class about Sticky habits and you can register here! https://workinprogressacademy.mykajabi.com/women-habits-class Monica's podcast Monica's Instagram  

This is part to of the interview Monica Packer of About Progress conducted with Carolyn Bever & Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife to discuss parenting perfectionistic children. Listen to learn more about... - How to define your role as a parent - Shifting the value from external sources to one's internal courage - More tips on parenting your perfectionistic child - And more...

Monica Packer of About Progress talked with Carolyn Bever & Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife to discuss parenting perfectionistic children. Listen to learn more about... - How to identify if you have a perfectionistic child - Why perfectionistic children can be over or underperforming - Separating your own sense of worth from your child's achievements - How to illustrate the importance of failure in the process