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Belonging is a deep instinctual need we have as a societal based species, so it shouldn't come as a surprise that many of us as children (and adults) choose approval of other humans over authenticity and self trust inside of ourselves. Once we are aware of this instinct, analysis of our behavior choices become incredible interesting. We have now brought subconscious motives to the surface and can make decisions from a place of intention and consciousness, and this can prove to create beautiful moments of unconditional love and empowerment. Related Episodes: Authoritative Parenting / Arguably the MOST Effective Parenting Style Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes:⁠⁠⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  ⁠⁠⁠Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Have you ever had the experience of when your toddler begins to say “no” to your request? It can be a puzzling experience, if not downright annoying. In this episode we share tips and tools for how to handle these situations in an unruffled way.  Related Episodes EP 45 WHEN KIDS ARE SICK AND TODDLERS FEEL UNBEARABLE EP 53 TOP 10 PARENTING TIPS OF THE YEAR --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

This episode Felica unpacks the tale of the too sweet mother and how we can learn to avoid extremes in our parenting from apathy to over parenting. We hope you enjoy! Remember to sign up ⁠here⁠ for our weekly newsletter where we send our favorite books, resources & parenting tips each week!  To leave a review ⁠⁠⁠⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Self-care seems to be a buzzword that gets swept up in consumerism and consequently the real meaning and purpose of self-care gets blurry. In today's episode, we talk about what self-care really is and how intentionality, mindfulness, and boundaries can help us connect better to ourselves and others. Related episodes 257 // How to Handle Parent Guilt, Reinventing Ourselves, and Bossy Kids ⁠⁠How to: Create Pockets of Peace⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Running a Household Without Resentment⁠⁠ Sponsor: Freddie's Laundry Sheets Taralyn, Felica, and I all are very big on using products that contain ingredients that are not only good for your body and the environment, but also do the job well. I've been on the hunt for a good laundry detergent to meet the criteria and Freddie's Laundry Sheets check all of the boxes! They are are non-toxic, eco-friendly, plastic free, mess-free, and actually clean your clothes! I love them so much that I want to share them with you! You can save an additional 5% when you use discount code findthemagic at check out. Let me know how you like them! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

We all have times in our lives when we are apprehensive for what will come or even what's happening here and now, maybe we even dread it. In this episode, Katelin talks about the lessons she learned from a meaningful experience she had that can help us all as we encounter welcome and not-so-welcome events in our lives.  Related episodes  223 // The Power of Being Present NOW  Staying Open to The Present Remember to sign up ⁠here⁠ for our weekly newsletter where we send our favorite books, resources & parenting tips each week!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

It seems there is an epidemic of disrespect, whining, tantrums, talking back and in general, less respect than we saw in previous generations of kids. We are burned out as parents and we don't see a way out. This ends in being ultra strict or ultra passive because we just feel burnt out. In this episode Felica talks with Joe Newman about mutual recognition. This is the practice of back and forth respect that we should see to establish in our homes for a peaceful environment. Oftentimes the balance is shifted in favor of respecting our children but is not returned. There is a place in the middle where we can create a mutually respectful relationship with our kids. Related Episodes When Other People Disagree With Your Parenting The Martyr Effect. HOW TO Stop Offering Ourselves at the Altar of Parenting  Raising Lions: The Art of Compassionate Discipline with Joe Newman Remember to sign up here for our weekly newsletter where we send our favorite books, resources & parenting tips each week!  ⁠⁠⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  ⁠⁠⁠ Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

273 // When Things Don't Go as Planned We all like to plan for life and set expectations for how things should go, but what happens when life doesn't go as planned? Or people or circumstances don't meet expectations? We try to have a baby and are unable, we lose jobs, marriages end, we lose faith. In this episode we talk about the disappointment, regrets, discouragement, and frustration associated with these situations and tools we can use to view and navigate them with greater understanding and peace. Main Ideas The language we use to define our emotions matters! Disappointment vs. Regret - we feel disappointment when things don't go how we wanted them to, and we feel the outcome is out of our control. We feel regret when things don't go how we wanted, and we feel the outcome was caused by our own decisions, actions, or failure to act.  Regret can be one of our greatest (and most uncomfortable) teachers Tools we talk about - Involving God, “TFT”s from Brené Brown, Fear Setting from Tim Ferris Related Episodes 263 // HOW TO Move Through the Stress Cycle and Stay Out of Overwhelm 216 // What Resentment Reveals & Understanding Envy 214 // Compassion: Where Love Meets Suffering and Remains Love Subscribe to our email for all the links, goodies, books and resources we share in each episode! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

272 // Magic Moment: When Life's Waves Tumble you Does it ever feel like you are just being thrashed by the waves of life? Most of us have felt that way. In this episode, Taralyn describes some things she learned about facing waves in the ocean in Costa Rica. Sometimes it is helpful to face them with peaceful warrior strength; sometimes, its easier to duck under and let the wave roll over us, and sometimes we can surrender to it and allow ourselves to rest as we roll through them. Also, let's not forget the joy of riding the waves! Sometimes life is a joyful ride, and thats important to enjoy also. Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes:⁠⁠⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  ⁠⁠⁠Scroll to the bottom of the page --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

One of our most frequently asked questions we receive from listeners is "How can I implement quiet time with my kid?" Transitioning from nap time to quiet time can seem like a daunting change in your daily rhythm as a caregiver. We all need a little recharging time to refill our own cup and that can be difficult without any breaks. In this episode, Katelin shares tips for how you can implement quiet time successfully and how you and your kid(s) can make the most out of it. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

We all agree that we want to keep our kids safe from sexual abuse but we oftentimes don't know where to start and how to go about doing this. In this episode Katelin interviews Feather Berkower, Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Educator & Author, to understand what we can do to protect our kids and therefore create safer communities for all children. You can learn more from Feather Berkower below: www.ParentingSafeChildren.com Off Limits: A Parent's Guide to Keeping Kids Safe from Sexual Abuse (Must-Read Parenting Book!) feather@parentingsafechildren.com www.Facebook.com/ParentingSafeChildren www.instagram.com/parentingsafechildren/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/feather-berkower-8985a319/ http://blog.parentingsafechildren.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

All of us experience metaphorical winters throughout our lives—times of emotional upheaval, physical taxation, or perhaps just times when we need more rest. Many of us also live in places where the outward cycles of our environment shift from warm and sunny to cold and darker. In this episode, Taralyn explores the concept of wintering as a philosophy, where we actually give ourselves permission to rest, to lean into the darkness as we incubate and grow our deep internal strength we feel ourselves swing back into the light.  Books and links she mentioned: Wintering // Katherine May No blue light reading lights  How Light Affects Our Sleep, Fertility, Our Child's Behavior, and More With Andy Mant Craving a Slow Down? Start With Your Mind Going With the Flow: Allowing Ourselves to Rest, Work, and Play With Meridith Bienvenue Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND Related EpisodesThank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes:⁠⁠⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  ⁠⁠⁠Scroll to the bottom of the page --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

It is a New Year! How can we renew our habits with a recommitment to ourselves? We talk through a listener question about just this! Let's find motivation together. Related Episodes Discovering YOUR Life Essentials EP 111 POWER TO MOTIVATE YOURSELF USING GRETCHIN RUBIN'S FOUR TENDENCIES Habits Deep Dive / Why Simple Changes Compound into Big Results (Atomic Habits by James Clear) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Before we can add in NEW yummy desires and goals for 2024 we have to clear out the old. Our psyche can be full of unwanted triggers and patterns and this can be the very thing blocking us from becoming who we would like to be. Feel bogged down? Tune in for a quick retune before you embark on your 2024 goal setting. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Connection may just be the cure all to childhood misbehavior and troubles but it is harder to foster than any of us would want! In this episode we dive into one of our favorite books "Hold Onto Your Kids" by ⁠Gordon Neufeld⁠ and ⁠Gabor Maté MD⁠ and pull our favorite tips for maintaining a strong relationship with our children as well as signs and symptoms that may point to a connection issue! We also discuss how and why kids become "peer oriented" and why it is happening more and more. We hope this episode leaves you empowered to create strong family bonds and connections that will heal past hurts and forge new relationship paths for future success!  Authoritative Parenting / Arguably the MOST Effective Parenting Style 230 // Pt. 1 What Ancient Cultures Can Teach us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff Discovering YOUR Life Essentials Solitude Through Digital Minimalism Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND Related Episodes Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes:⁠⁠⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  ⁠⁠⁠Scroll to the bottom of the page --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Reiki is known as the divine movement of life force energy and is used as a healing technique to guide stuck energy from our chakras into alignment with our true purpose and intention. This week Felica interview Reiki Master Kristen Morris of MotherTree Reiki about her journey guiding people to know themselves better and she shares her experience having a healing session with Kristen! They talk about how our energy can prevent us from knowing ourselves fully and how reiki can move us into alignment. You can learn more about Kristen at @mothertreereiki Related Episodes How to Enhance Your Ability to Be Present 227 // Magic Moment: Recommitting to Your Phone Detox 204 // Daily Life As a Spiritual PracticeSolitude Through Digital Minimalism Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes:⁠⁠⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  ⁠⁠⁠Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

In this episode we answer a question about how to respond when other adults in our lives want to parent our kids in a way that differs from our desires. Listen in for ideas on how to navigate these situations in a way that honors ourselves, our kids, and the other loving (and often well-meaning) adults in our lives. Related Episodes When We Find Our Kids Sneaking Screens and Food, Agreeing to Disagree On Others' Parenting Decisions, and Talking to Our Kids About Santa Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes:⁠⁠⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  ⁠⁠⁠Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Stress is a fact of life, getting stuck in it isn't! When we are stuck in chronic stress or our stressors push us past our ability to cope we find ourselves in overwhelm. This episode we unpack Atlas of The Heart, the work of Brene Brown, as a guide to moving through stress and out of overwhelm. We touch on ways that we can identify the feeling in our body before it becomes overwhelmed and our favorite tips and tools for increasing our ability to cope with these often uncomfortable feelings. 9:00- Definition of Stress vs. Overwhelm 15:26 - Where do we feel stress/overwhelm in our bodies? 18:30 - Your body keeps the score 22:52 - Move through the tunnel 23:50 - Completion of the stress cycle 25:50 - Fight, flight, or freeze 28:30 - Using RAIN from Tara Brach as a tool 31:45 - Grounding 36:11 - Having a positive social interaction 40:06 - Creative expression --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

It sometimes feels like we are being pulled in many directions, and it is hard to feel settled and aligned when that is happening. In this episode, Taralyn describes a few things she has learned lately in her wrestle for alignment.  The steps she has used to help her are: 1-Identify what parts of you are misaligned and intentionally give them all a seat in your council. 2-Set aside time daily to imagine what it would feel like to have that settled feeling of being aligned in your heart, mind, body, and spirit. Use that powerful brain of yours to try on the feeling of having all of the parts be in harmony. Tapping into this vibration helps you pull it towards you. Grounding is also a really helpful tool during this step. The shower is a great place to try this habit because its daily and the water is so conductive. 4-Think bigger. Zoom out your perspective and observe that YOU are not your body, your emotions, or your mind. Once you FEEL that, aligning all of them becomes easier--like a magnet rearranging metal shavings. If you try this, Taralyn would LOVE to know how it goes for you. Just DM her on instagram @taralyngriffin Our Daily Meditation: this is the meditation that Taralyn does every morning. You simply push play and she walks you through it. It's an easy way to get yourself into the habit. Breathwork Exercises for Daily Habit Building with Taralyn  203 // Meditation: Letting Fear Go Finding Motivation to Claim Your Personal Power Hour Make Your Morning Routine Happen! Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND Related EpisodesThank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes:⁠⁠⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  ⁠⁠⁠Scroll to the bottom of the page --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

"No one listens to me!" "I feel like the train engine running our whole home." "I am exhausted, will it always be this hard?" Finding the right parenting style for your family is hard. Information flies at us from all direction challenging us to "listen more", "be more strict." etc ... ultimately what we want is a dynamic, respectful and loving relationship with our children. In this episode Felica interviews Joe Newman, author of Raising Lions, about his work for his new book. They discuss how respectful parenting can be taken too far when we are respecting our children but they are showing no respect back and why this happens. Related Episodes ⁠⁠How to: Create Pockets of Peace⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Running a Household Without Resentment⁠⁠ Books and Links We Mentioned ⁠⁠Fairplay⁠⁠ // Eve Rodsky ⁠⁠Raising Lions⁠⁠ // Joe Newman ⁠⁠No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame⁠⁠  // Janet Lansbury Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: ⁠⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  ⁠⁠ Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Do you ever feel parent guilt? We get so many questions from listeners about the torn feeling that comes while trying to balance being a whole person ourselves while still serving our families with love. In this episode, we answer this question as we discuss how we can set boundaries for ourselves, protect our own personal time (shower time, bathroom, etc.) and learn to coexist with more ease without young children. We also address questions about reinventing ourselves as our children grow, how to handle kids being sneaky and hiding things, and how to deal with our children being bossy and having public meltdowns. Related Episodes ⁠How to: Create Pockets of Peace⁠ ⁠Running a Household Without Resentment⁠ Books and Links We Mentioned ⁠Fairplay⁠ // Eve Rodsky ⁠Raising Lions⁠ // Joe Newman ⁠No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame⁠  // Janet Lansbury Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: ⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  ⁠ Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

​​This episode is a balm to stress and overwhelm. If you are feeling trapped in the storm of life this episode is for you. Felica shares her favorite quick tips for regulating her nervous system when things are just too much! If you liked this episode don't forget to share it and leave a review! We appreciate you so much. Review of the week *nicole0304h*, 10/03/2023 Can I be friends with them?I LOVE this podcast. As a mom, and a former therapist—they speak to my heart from such a real, empowering and practical perspective. I glean so many tips and tidbits from what they share and appreciate their honesty and ability to respect different points of views on topics. They truly do their research and have conversations that make me think, laugh and secretly want to be friends with them! Related Episodes  Tips for Overcoming Distraction --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Our favorite sex therapist is back and this time we are challenging the assumption that sexual desire dies with long term relationships. Felica interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife and they dive into the challenges we face to "keep the fire alive".Esther Perel said " Eroticism is the antithesis to everything a healthy family life needs, ritual, routine and knowing. Safety and security. Eroticism is adventure" , in this episode we tease out the nuance in this and discover what eroticism TRULY means. Hint ** it isn't all about sex/ desire.We also touch on the fact that families are more child centered than ever with higher expectations for couples. All responsibility often falls on parents, not community, institutions or society. We set up play dates and take pictures of and talk about and invest in our kids yet our personal and couple relationships are left to shrivel up. How can we do better?We tackle all this and more! Don't miss this chance to bring more erotic energy into your life.  Links We Mentioned  https://www.goodinside.com/podcast/4759/sex-after-kids-tell-me-more-esther-perel/ Related Episodes How to Own Your Own Desires with Dr.Finlayson Fife  Discovering Self within Our Sexuality & Overcoming Betrayal  Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much! Each week we choose a winner to receive a FREE JOURNAL for leaving a review! Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

In this mini episode Felica helps us think about how we take on our role as mother. It is a blessing for all the women we have been and a challenge to shed our over identification with our labels. ENJOY! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

So often in parenting, we find ourselves...losing our cool, to put it nicely. We respond with anger; we use bribing or coercion to make our kids behave, and we hurt our relationship with our kids and ourselves in the process. In this episode, we take a deep dive into individual steps we can take anytime we find ourselves triggered by our kids' behavior. We start with ourselves, pause, attune to our child, and then respond, not react, by setting limits and allowing logical consequences by looking at the need being expressed by our child's behavior. This conversation will help you reframe difficult parenting situations and allow you to focus on the priority of your relationship. Take a pause to connect to your intuition when making decisions. Pay attention to what you fear and ask yourself why? Parenting helps us see ourselves more clearly. Don't parent from a place of lack. The Pause - Give your self time and space with your children Use breath to bring yourself into the present moment and pause Sometimes bad behavior is a cry for connection. Time Stamps 8:00- How do we live from a place of authenticity when parenting 12:31 - Take a pause to connect to your intuition when making decisions 18:15 - Parenting from a place of lack vs. wholeness 21:00 - Meditation practice to give your child self love and acceptance 24:33 - Journal out your fears with your kids to process them 29:00 - The Pause - Give your self time and space with your children 37:30 - Zone of zero reactivity 46:50 - Come to each situation with a response vs. a reaction 52:31 - Natural consequences vs. Cultivating consequences You can listen to this episode on most other platforms here :) Are you feeling lost, unanchored or listless in your days? We use our daily planner and journal to align our core values with the tasks we do each day! You can learn more about it HERE Related Episodes Authoritative Parenting / Arguably the most EFFECTIVE Parenting Style  Holding Boundaries / Discipline Pt. 1 Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections Parenting with Unconditional Love  How to Embrace Childhood  Books and links we mentioned; The Awakened Family // Shefali Tsabary The Conscious Parent // Shefali Tsabary --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Original Post date 10/25/22 Fear is a powerful emotion. All of us face it at some point of another, and often, it really puts a damper on the way we live our lives. It can interfere with us loving wholeheartedly and doing things that inspire (and scare) us. In this episode, Taralyn dives deep into the concept of facing and processing our fears so they don't hold us back in life. She addresses 3 different kinds of fear, and walks you through steps to free yourself from the fears that don't serve you. Books Taralyn Mentioned: Gift of Fear // Gavin De Becker Fear: Essential Wisdom for Getting Through the Storm // Thich Nhat Hanh Related Episodes: Escaping the Trance of Unworthiness and Finding Self Acceptance Within Staying Open to the Present  Tapping Into the Abundance Inside Us --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

The holiday season can feel overwhelming because we feel the need to do everything to make them exciting and special. However, the beauty of having our own families is that we can intentionally choose the holiday activities that serve us and let go of the ones that don't. The magic of family traditions is that they help our children feel a sense of belonging and gives them roots, which helps them identify with the connection of the family instead of peer groups and can help with their behavior. In this episode, we share the traditions that serve us with simplicity and joy and give you many options to try with your own family. We talk about how sometimes all it takes is to recognize the traditions we already have and capitalize on naming them and making them reoccurring and special.  From Halloween fun, ways to be grateful in November and loads of Christmas and winter traditions we hope that this episode inspires you to create new memories with your family and recognize your current traditions to turn them into magical ones that repeat every year!  You can listen to this episode on iTunes here and many other platforms here. Books we mentioned: Hold on to Your Kids // Gabor Mate The Entitlement Trap // Linda and Richard Eyre Food Nanny Rescues Dinner //  Liz Edmunds   Related Episodes: Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

There is nothing quite like parenting--it's something we want to desperately do well at, and it is simultaneously one of the most difficult things that many of us will ever do. We face fears, failure, triggers of our own emotions, often while experiencing physical and emotional fatigue. However, because of this, children have the capacity to be our greatest teachers. They allow us the opportunity to truly look inside of ourselves when we are triggered, and wake up to our own nature.  In this episode, Felica had the incredible opportunity of discussing this topic with parenting expert and author, Susan Stiffelman, MFT. She explains how we can use the practice of being present to truly use this journey we have as parents to truly evolve ourselves as we face the daunting task of raising humans to do the same. Her books and her words are unbelievably inspiring and will help you as you navigate your own parenting experience.  You can learn more about Susan Stiffelman and her work and sign up for her newsletter on her website:  https://susanstiffelman.com. She is offering a webinar you can join her in about coparenting with a narcissist here. You can listen to this episode on iTunes here or on many other platforms here. Books we mentioned: Parenting with Presence // Susan Stiffelman   Parenting without Power Struggles // Susan Stiffelman  Loving What Is // Byron Katie  Playful Parenting // Lawrence Cohen  Related Episodes: Finding Joy and Enthusiasm in Every Day The Martyr Effect. HOW TO Stop Offering Ourselves at the Altar of Parenting Staying Open to the Present  Tapping Into the Abundance Inside Us Janet Lansbury's episode: The Best Way to Deal With Intense Tantrums  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

It can appear like people who are successful at achieving their goals simply possess an incredible amount of self control. That kind of belief lets us off the hook from creating the life we really want--we simply lack the self discipline, right? Well, it turns out that as we create habits that add value to our lives, we actually require LESS self control, not more. As we change our environment and our cues and rewards, we have the power to eliminate negative habits and build positive ones that can transform our life. Habits are the key to making our goals a reality. We discuss the science behind habits and explore the work of experts on the subject. We break down the steps for creating a good habit (or ridding yourself of a bad one), and give you applicable tips that you can use right away in your life. We share what has really worked in our own lives as we have experimented with habits and unlocked the magic of things like habit stacking. Books that inspired us: Atomic Habits // James Clear Deep Work // Cal Newport Essentialism // Greg McKeown Getting Things Done // David Allen The Power of Habit // Charles Duhigg Our Related Episodes: Habits for High Performance Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connection Make Your Morning Routine Happen! We would love for you to share our episode with your friends and family. Also, thank you so much for your kind reviews! We are so honored to have such wonderful listeners. How to leave a review on iTunes: * Open podcast app * Search for Find the Magic * Click on episodes * Scroll to the bottom of the page * Click on write a review * Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) * Hit SEND Thank you! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

We often receive the message that we can have it all; we can do it all. Social media messages, societal expectations, and our own self talk often feeds the lie that we can do EVERYTHING. When we don't live up to the unrealistic expectation that we can do everything and succeed at everything, there is a cost to our mental health.  In this episode, we discuss this topic with New York Times best selling author, Greg McKeown. He helps identify the lie that we can do everything, and instead offers a path of wisdom, balance, and priorities instead of the wild racing that we often indulge in when we are trying to say yes to everything. He gives us very applicable steps on how to make doing what truly matters to us easy.   BOOKS AND LINKS: Greg's Website: https://gregmckeown.com Effortless: Make It Easier to Do What Matters Most // Greg McKeown  Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less // Greg McKeown RELATED EPISODES  Essentialism / How to Do Less But Better Discovering YOUR Life Essentials --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Research indicates that preschoolers, on average, make three demands/requests per minute! Wow. It's no wonder we feel overwhelmed. “Watch me!” “Get that!” “Where's my dinosaur?!”  In this episode we talk about practical ideas and tools that have helped us navigate the barrage of daily requests, questions, and demands in a way that allows you to maintain calm and respect for your kids and yourself.  Books & Links we mention Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: The Heart of Parenting // John Gottman with Joan DeClaire Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff  Mom Watch Compilation by Johnson Files Related Episodes 230 // Pt 1: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections (Entitlement Trap by Linda Eyre and Richard Eyre) How To: Create Pockets of Peace Time Stamps 10:00 How many requests our kids make per minute 13:15 Why we future focus and how inputs from our kids overwhelm us  14:15 Are our kids self centered? 23:18 Using body language and social cues 25:55 Mom watch this watch this!! 29:00 Do you have a hard time tuning out noise/ kids? 32:18 Good parenting does not mean responding to everything request  40:01 Ask, is my child seeking connection? Sponsor: GABB WIRELESS We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device! Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Having a secure relationship with our partner is the foundation for a long, happy life. Building on this relationship we create meaningful and lasting lives that support our psychological development as well as provide a strong foundation for our children, careers and physical health. We loved reading Relationship RX by Stan Tatkin and we had to distill this one for you! In this episode we discuss how knowing your attachment style can guide you to a self awareness that enhances your ability to connect, repair and forgive. We also share our favorite tactics from the book for putting your relationship first, healing past wounds and supporting each other in parenting.  Related Episodes  Putting Connection With Our Spouse First How to own your desires with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife Time Stamps 12:00 - Attachment styles 14:05 - Anchors 16:30 - Waves 20:01 - Islands 32:33 - The relationship as an entity should be the highest priority 35:35 - Conflicts within a relationship 44:30 - Am I putting my role as a parent, or my hobby over my primary attachment? 46:17 - Supporting your spouse in parenting 51:40 - Secret password for stressful parenting moments 57:50 - Bring issues up preventatively Sponsor: GABB WIRELESS We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device! Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

There are lots of decisions that we make as parents that are made out of guilt or a sense of obligation. In this episode we talk about how to navigate parenting questions from a place of wholeness in order to figure out what will be best for parent AND child. We talk about whether or not to do preschool and *spoiler alert* there is no one perfect decision. :) Related Episodes 228 // Making Friendships, Creating Community, and How to Know When You're Done Having Kids Patience with Aggressive Behavior, Friendships in Motherhood and Making Peace with Your Inner Landscape Guidance for the Changing seasons of Motherhood Time Stamps 1:44 - To preschool or not to preschool? 3:00 - Taralyn's experience with kids going or not going to preschool 10:30 - Felica's experience 14:15 - the questioning of our choices because it's the worth the wrestle 16:09 - What will be the best for you and your child? 18:55 - Eliminating the guilt Sponsor: GABB WIRELESS We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device! Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Review of the week from mamaErinE So much wisdom and humility You women are amazing, thank you --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Healing your body and spirit postpartum is a topic that is both under talked about and misunderstood. In this episode Katelin interviews Arielle Martone, doctor of physical therapy, yoga teacher and postnatal coach turned postpartum wellness coach after having 2 kids and overcoming postpartum depression and pelvic pain herself. She has 12+ years of experience and utilizes her knowledge and background to help new moms reconnect to mind/body and actually heal postpartum so they can feel strong and confident not only in their bodies but who they are becoming. You can learn from Arielle at the following links: www.findyourwaymama.com www.instagram.com/ariellemartone Free Resources Pelvic Floor Recovery Guide    Exhausted to Energized without Sleep Training  Related Episodes HOW TO Prepare Children for a New Sibling: a Conversation with UpbringingPrepping Kids for New Babies, Earning vs. Rewarding, Quiet Time Tips, & Our Favorite Life Hacks Time Stamps 1:42 - Intro to Arielle and the importance of postpartum care 11:40 - The signs to be aware of with Postpartum mood disorders 13:50 - Normalize seeking help vs. normalizing the struggle 16:30 - Feeling like something is “off” is a signal 20:20 - Trust yourself 26:50 - Tips to recover if you feel like you have no time 31:27 - Pay attention to when you're saying “should” 39:50 - Prioritize your sleep and give yourself grace 41:25 - How “bounce back culture” can be a detriment to our overall health 47:09 - Don't rush back into physical exercise 51:05 - Trust your body 57:15 - Pelvic Floor Therapy exercises 1:03:00 - Exhausted to energized 1:05:16 - How to get back to our true selves after having kids --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

The beginning of the school year is filled with many conflicting emotions for both our kids and us as parents. In this episode we share favorite tips, ideas and traditions that will help you start the year off right and from a place of wholeness.  Related Episodes 207 // We Are All Good Inside: Parenting Without Using Shame and Repairing When We Do, with Dr. Becky Kennedy Part 1  210 // Navigating Tricky Transitions With Kids Ahead of Time and What to Do When Whining Feels Unbearable: Good Inside by Dr. Becky Kennedy Part 2  108 // Using Play to Diffuse Power Struggles and Connect With Your Child (based on Playful Parenting by Larence J. Cohen) 118 // Become a Child Whisperer / Parenting Your Kids True to Their Nature (based on the work of Carol Tuttle) Links Mentioned Weekly Clothes Organizer  Fave Books back to school Kissing hand by Audrey Pen I Love You All Day Long  by Francesca Rusackas Super Manny Stands up by Kelly DiPucchio  Oh the Places You'll Go by Dr. Seuss Time Stamps 12:25 - How to navigate the logistics of going back to school with systems 15:35 - Weekly Clothes Organizer 20:17 - Special back to school dinner with notes of encouragement from family 22:21 - Helping your kids emotionally return to school by addressing your own anxieties 25:21 - Emotional vaccination with your kids 27:24 - Visualizing mediation the night before 27:55 - Review the child whisperer to help your kids deal with the upcoming 31:42 - Reading a back to school book 34:19 - Making love bracelets 35:00 - First day special events --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Fall is the perfect time to reset our rituals, intentions and systems. In this magic moment Felica shares 2 rituals that are resetting her emotional wellness. The first centers on grieving our losses; the small day to day things we try to push past. The second is a ritual for visualizing our intentions and future goals around parenting and reframing our day to day tasks. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Centering our minds and finding a place of peace in our days is crucial in modern parenting. Our phones are filled with demands that pull us away from ourselves, our desires and our families. On top of that the demands of our lives from appointments to chores call us away from creating connection and relationships.  In this episode we refresh our determination to keep saying yes to connection and no to superficial distraction. We share why and our favorite tips and tricks for cultivating a present life.  Related Episodes How to Enhance Your Ability to Be Present 227 // Magic Moment: Recommitting to Your Phone Detox ⁠204 // Daily Life As a Spiritual Practice⁠⁠Solitude Through Digital Minimalism Time Stamps 11:04 - How can we curb distraction? 12:15 - Delete your apps 15:00 - Set aside time for phone time 16:30 - Turn off notifications 17:33 - A box for your phone 19:23 - A key to having self control - change your environment 22:46 - How to be present when our minds are preoccupied 24:41 - Maybe lower your standards for what needs to be done 27:20 - Magical mind will serve a magical body 29:00 - Practice being still Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Kimberly Br0ssi I've enjoyed this podcast since 2019 and it helped me get through several hard moments. The mini magics are always awesome. All 3 hosts are so great and share how we can care of ourselves so we can better take care of others. Each are at different points in life and motherhood so there's something for everyone. There are so many episodes that I re-listen to when I need the reminders! Great for any woman, young or old, new mom or veteran. Thank you!real and refreshing --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Have you ever tried to teach your kid a value? Or help them stop taking toys? Or handle a conflict within a friendship or with a sibling? As parents we have a (sometimes) underutilized tool that can help us in these situations: play. In this episode Katelin walks through how to use role playing specifically to help work through these situations with our children of all ages.  Related Episodes Using Play to Diffuse Power Struggles and Connect With Your Child (based on Playful Parenting by Lawrence J. Cohen) Books & Articles Mentioned 6 Steps To Do A Role Play Playful Parenting // Lawrence Cohen Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) This podcast is my happy place I am SO grateful for the time and effort that goes into this podcast. Every episode is packed with gold. There is so much education and real conversations about life and motherhood. It helps to calm my soul, reassure me, motivate me and so much more. THANK YOU! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Summer is half over and with all the fun comes exhaustion and overwhelm. In this episode, we address the concept of summer burnout, which can be applied to really any season of life. This episode was inspired by a voice message we received from one of our fabulous listeners. If you'd like to send us a question in the form of a voice message, just click ⁠here⁠.Related Episodes  Authoritative Parenting / Arguably the MOST Effective Parenting Style 230 // Pt. 1 What Ancient Cultures Can Teach us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff Discovering YOUR Life Essentials Solitude Through Digital Minimalism Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) REVIEW OF THE WEEK: -Mandy Schuh I have listened to this podcast for years, it is hands down my favorite podcast! It is insightful, fun and full of great ideas. I feel like I have made a friend in Felica. I appreciate the realness from these ladies and within Find The Magic. Thank you for being a breath of fresh air! Still My Favorite! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Stuck in a rut? Are you feeling tired or disenchanted with your life or easily frustrated with your kids? Our days are made up of small moments, small seemingly insignificant moments that add up to our lives. Are we racing through or are we practicing presence and engaging with our day day? Inspired by Ross Gay on We can do hard things; this episode we share how finding small delights each day has inspired us to be more present for ourselves, our loved ones and especially in parenting.  Related Episodes  229 // Applying Our Four Pillars: Connection, Being Present, Unconditional Love, & Healthy Boundaries Four Pillars of Wholehearted Parenting We Apply to Any Problem Links We Mentioned Start a Daily Delight Practice With Abby, Glennon, and Amanda!  The Artist's Way // Julia Cameron We can do hard things Start a Daily Delight Practice with Abby, Glennon & Amanda! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

We all have negative experiences that impact our mental state day to day as we parent. It can be exhausting and disheartening to attempt to parent in this state of distress. Today we tackle a listener question on parenting while healing past trauma and parenting. We also hear from a listener seeking advice about her children's name calling, spitting and general boundary pushing. Book Mentioned: How to do the Work // Nicole LePera Related Episodes Hone Your Morning Routine Morning Routines for a 30 day transformation How To: Create Pockets of Peace Time Stamps 14:00 - How to deal with trauma and parent 15:58 - Big T vs little t trauma 16:30 - Repressed trauma 17:40 - Adult trauma 19:07 - Therapy is a major tool 22:00 - Give yourself extra grace and self care 24:01 - Name your trauma 31:00 - 90 second rule with stress/anxiety 34:57 - How to handle kids being unkind 38:30 - This too shall pass 42:00 - Name calling is a hard no 46:40 - A family is a good testing ground for kids to figure out social interactions 49:39 - Foster positive interactions to start a positive momentum 53:35 - Honey vs. Vinegar analogy 54:52 - Give yourself self-care so you can be your best 1:01:00 - Laughter is a pressure relief valve Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Local1st 02/10/2023 Most helpful podcast I listen to a lot of parenting podcasts, this one is my favorite! So many topics covered and ideas discussed. I always seem to get so much out of listening. Thank you! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Who doesn't want peace and homeostasis in the family environment? So often we can get to a place of chaos; where our homes and families feel out of sorts. In this episode Felica shares her experience of stripping away outside influence with their cross country move and how it affected her family environment. She shares tips on applying her learning to your home. She also explains how she felt the anxious buzzing energy in her home, recognized it, and found some settling. Hint hint, it always starts with us!  Related Episodes Patience with Aggressive Behavior, Friendships in Motherhood and Making Peace with Your Inner Landscape Guidance for the Changing seasons of Motherhood Time Stamps 1:52 - Recognizing something is out of whack 4:00 - Our inner landscapes reflect onto our outer landscape --Focus on yourself 6:45 - Find support from others Sponsor: GABB WIRELESS We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device! Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) MaryHag 11/08/2022 The highlight of my week

The Enneagram is a system of personality typing that describes patterns in how people interpret the world and manage their emotions. It unpacks the intention by with we interact with others and make the choices we make. In this episode we unpack our Enneagram types and discuss how they helped us unearth shadow sides of our egos that were limiting us or helped us see ourselves and our relationships in a new light. The Enneagram is a multi-faceted tool that can make us aware of who we are and how to work with our strengths and also help us determine weaknesses we may seek to change. In this episode, we use it to help us explore our own personalities and share how knowing ourselves has helped us capitalize on our strengths and understand and work with our weaknesses.  Books and Links We Mentioned: Road Back to You // Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stable Enneagram Test Enneagram Type Descriptions Famous People's Types Dr. Nicole LePera // the.holistic.psychologist Time Stamps Related Episodes ⁠Building Bridges Back Home to Ourselves ⁠ ⁠Becoming Embodied ⁠ Become a Child Whisperer / Parenting Your Kids True to Their Nature (based on the work of Carol Tuttle) Sponsor: GABB WIRELESS We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device! Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Review of the week: Unicorns are Real I have loved and listened to "Find the Magic" for years of motherhood. So many of those years I would listen to Taralyn or Felicia talk about reframing and even enjoying the mundane tasks (like changing diapers) and to dos that normally are mindless. They talked about enjoying these things, creating connection in them. Every week I tuned in but honestly, I didn't believe it. I said things like, "I can't be that mom, that isn't working for MY children, these women are just UNICORNS. And every episode I would still plug in my headphones and listen along and wish I could get there, be that mom. Then something switched, last year I went on (my first ever) solo retreat to South America. It was a women's empowerment, yoga, surf trip but a switch flipped and I started doing the work on myself. I continued taking steps like FINALLY starting a miracle morning routine (for me!) and guess what? Things started clicking with my kids, and at home. So if you are able, start with yourself. I was convinced that to be a good mom I had to read all the parenting books, listen to all the podcasts, plan all the activities but that is so far from reality. Start with your Self! So grateful to Find The Magic, To Taralyn, Felicia and Katelin... Thank you! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

In our lives there are things that we control, things we influence, and things we have no control over. In today's episode, Katelin explores one thing that is entirely within our control: our thoughts. Our thoughts have power over the way we see and subsequently engage with our world. She discusses tips and tools, including the work by Byron Katie, for how to change our thoughts, which will ultimately change our reality.  Related Episodes Staying Open to The Present The Power of being present NOW Books & Links Mentioned How Your Thinking Creates Your Reality // Jennice Vilhauer Ph.D.  Can You Affect Another Person's Behavior With Your Thoughts? The Power of Now // Eckhart Tolle  Loving What Is // Byron Katie Time Stamps 1:14 - Three buckets in life 2:32 - Our thoughts are within our control 4:30 - How thoughts become belief and how that primes our brains 7:45 - Beware of labeling our children – “terrible twos” “threenager” 10:25 - Experiment on labeling “smart” and “dumb” rats 13:51 - Step 1 is becoming aware of your thoughts are your thoughts 15:12 - Step 2 create what you want to see 16:50 - Step 3 - visualize every step and the end 17:25 - step 4 - invite God into this process 18:30 - Using the work by Byron Katie as a tool to unstick thoughts 21:15 - Example of navigating sharing holiday time with families 28:40 - Turning around your belief statement Sponsor: GABB WIRELESS We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device! Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) MaryHag 11/08/2022 The highlight of my week

Have you ever driven in a city that isn't well planned? The roads are often too narrow for the amount of traffic, and the flow of streets seem to have no discernible pattern. Navigating in such a place can be tricky and chaotic. In contrast, a city that has planned  ahead of time what they want long term often has wide, orderly streets, and the initial time and thought investment pays back tenfold as their city runs much smoother as it grows. In this episode, we talk about using this theory of infrastructure in our own families. It takes some time upfront, but in the long run, it makes our family run sooo much more smoothly and makes parenting easier, while intentionally aligning it with our values. We discuss the systems that we have tried out in our own homes over the years that have proven themselves to be priceless. Books we mentioned: The Entitlement Trap Secrets of a Happy Family Hold on to Your Kids Miracle Morning Links We Promised Serendipity Parenting Episode from Linda an Richard Eyre Related Episodes Discovering Your Life Essentials How To: Create Pockets of Peace Sponsor: GABB WIRELESS We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device! Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) MaryHag 11/08/2022 The highlight of my week

In a few weeks our kids will be home for the summer, and our daily schedules will change drastically. A lot of jokes, angst and dread can surround this time of year. Let's start as we mean to go on! In this episode, we are sharing some of our favorite tips for designing our summer. We touch on creating and setting boundaries from the start, letting our kids be and resisting screen entertaining. If we have learned anything this year, it is that being fluid and available for change can help us live in the present and create a calm atmosphere in our homes. As we let them be free to work through the B word (boredom!) we will come out the other side with having enjoyed our summer together! Related Episodes How to: Create Pockets of Peace HOW TO Parent Less and Love it More The Martyr Effect. HOW TO Stop Offering Ourselves at the Altar of Parenting Interview with Dr. Mary Wilde: How to Joyfully Ride the Waves of Parenthood Without Drowning in Them Encouraging Independent Play and Letting Go of Guilt Time Stamps 10:00 - Summer bucket list 11:56 - Beware of over scheduling 17:00 - It's not our job as a parent to entertain our kids 20:45 - Importance of completing your essentials during the summer 22:27 - Consider eliminating screens 23:41 - Embrace boredom 27:23 - Give them a chore if they are bored 29:11 - The moment of "reaching" when we slow down 34:20 - Remind them to clean up 35:15 - Take the time to teach them more household skills during the summer 36:00 - Open the buffet 39:00 - Set the expectation & infrastructure at the beginning 45:34 - Verbally state your expectations 46:01 - Let go of control 47:31 - Children can contribute to the family Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

We LOVE books. One of the casualties of our current age and our screen adapted/crippled attention spans is that we don't read as much anymore. In this magic moment, Taralyn gives her best persuasion for reading and gives lots of easy tips to keep or acquire the habit of reading in your life. People ask us all the time how we read so many books, and she tells the secret to our habits:) Books and Links We Mentioned: Women Who Run With Wolves // Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Ph.D The Gift // Hafiz You Can Heal Your Life // Louise Hay Related Episodes The Power Of Beautiful Words Book Club Recommendations for 2020 Finding Motivation to Claim Your Personal Power Hour Make Your Morning Routine Happen! Morning Routines for a 30 Day Transformation with Taralyn Hone Your Morning Routine with Felica Sponsor: GABB WIRELESS We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device! Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Review of the week: I have loved and listened to "Find the Magic" for years of motherhood. So many of those years I would listen to Taralyn or Felicia talk about reframing and even enjoying the mundane tasks (like changing diapers) and to dos that normally are mindless. They talked about enjoying these things, creating connection in them. Every week I tuned in but honestly, I didn't believe it. I said things like, "I can't be that mom, that isn't working for MY children, these women are just UNICORNS. And every episode I would still plug in my headphones and listen along and wish I could get there, be that mom. Then something switched, last year I went on (my first ever) solo retreat to South America. It was a women's empowerment, yoga, surf trip but a switch flipped and I started doing the work on myself. I continued taking steps like FINALLY starting a miracle morning routine (for me!) and guess what? Things started clicking with my kids, and at home. So if you are able, start with yourself. I was convinced that to be a good mom I had to read all the parenting books, listen to all the podcasts, plan all the activities but that is so far from reality. Start with your Self! So grateful to Find The Magic, To Taralyn, Felicia and Katelin... Thank you! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

We have all been here; there are times in life of discontent, resentment, perhaps even depression and often these coincide with a forgetting of ourselves. In this episode Felica interviews Tessa Brown, an artist and writer who focuses her work on womanhood and feminine energy and happens to be Felica's dear friend. They dive into reclaiming our younger selves and the decisions we made, wrestling with motherhood and its expectations as well as considering how we can build bridges to parts of our lives that we want to include and ask the right questions to determine what things we should leave behind.  Time Stamps 3:30 - What do we say yes to? 6:45 - How did past selves make decisions for our future? 14:35 - What is the right question to ask 18:00 - The power of manifestation 22:30 - Not merge with collective 24:05 - I get to decide who comes onto the island 25:25 - Do I want this life? Related Episodes Living Life Untamed and Releasing Others to do the Same (Untamed by Glennon Doyle) EP 99 HOW TO OWN YOUR OWN DESIRES AND THE ART OF INTIMACY WITH DR. JENNIFER FINLAYSON-FIFE Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Review of the week: she.will.be.katie 11/07/2022 Absolute favorite This is the only podcast that I cannot wait for the new release each week. There's so much to contemplate in each episode. Yet at the same time its easy enough to digest that, even when my mom brain is at an all time high, I finish each episode inspired. Thank you

In today's episode we talk about how to deal with your children squabbling repeatedly and what to do when you feel like you just can't get it together.  Time Stamps 13:42 - How to help our kids have a positive sibling relationship 19:17 - Sibling situation is working out a social dynamic for the real world 21:50 - We learn in families how to read people 21:21 - Emotional Preparing 25:00 - Code words 27:30 - Beware of comparison 31:48 - I feel like I'm drowning 37:43 - Life is a balancing act 40:40 - Be kind to yourself and others Books & Related Episodes How to do the work // Nicole Le Pera HOW TO Prepare Children for a New Sibling: a Conversation with Upbringing  Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections (Entitlement Trap by Linda Eyre and Richard Eyre) Understanding Praise and How We Can Use It to Give Our Kids Confidence Instead of Insecurity Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Review of the week: Good for dads too! As a father of two grown children and now taking care of my 16 year old nephew along with my wife, I still find lots of great tips and inspiration from these three amazing humans. I love the “high 5” and “facepalm” stories and the podcast is a soothing way to start a day or listen to in the drive home after a busy day at work. I wish I had something like this when my kids were younger as I think back to some situations I could have handled better. Thank you Find the Magic for all the times you made me smile, laugh, think and grow as a parent. Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Some parenting wisdom feels true to our core; that is how we felt when we read much of the wisdom from Hunter Gather Parent by Michaleen Doucleff. Today we are sharing our favorite nuggets from the book pertaining to disciplining our kids. The advice is less prescriptive and more in line with what we know to be true as parents and humans. Our children are learning. Our role is to see them with love and respect and teach them the ways of their family tribe. We tackle how to direct our kids with less force, create cooperation, and reduce the amount of anger in our homes.  Find part one of our conversation here -  230 // Pt 1: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff Books, Quotes, & Links Mentioned Understanding Praise and How We Can Use It to Give Our Kids Confidence Instead of Insecurity Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff  “When little people are overwhelmed by big emotions, it's our job to share our calm, not join their chaos.”― L.R. Knost Time Stamps 7:15 - Premise of Hunter, Gather, Parent 9:50 - 100 commands vs. 3 commands per hour 12:00 - A request is giving our kids the chance to obey or rebel 14:30 - Master the facial expressions and gestures 15:11 - Ask 3 times calmly 18:59 - Parent is the pole analogy 22:11 - Don't talk for your kids 25:17 - At intersecting points, redirect your kids to the family 27:58 - Misbehavior is a call for responsibility & freedom 29:00 - Our work is their play 32:15 - We can infuse connection into our daily chores 35:35 - Never in anger 39:19 - Take a breath & say nothing when feeling angry 41:10 - Yelling trains our kids not to listen 43:15 - When we respond with kindness & quiet, we teach them to do the same 48:13 - How we see our kids is changes how we act towards them Sponsor: GABB WIRELESS We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device! Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Review of the week: Cherise L&D nurse, 03/15/2023 I just want to take the time to thank you for being such a positive change in my life. I started listening to you guys while I was in nursing school back in 2020. Your very first podcast on morning routines changed my life forever. I then purchased “Miracle Morning” and have lived by this since then. I wake up every morning, oil pull, set my diffusers, do yoga, sip on tea, and if I have time run with my dog (I even make sure to do this on my work days). Being a busy mom of 2 kids ages 7 and 4 that I partially homeschool (they're also in a homeschool co op), wife, and a nurse, I can't thank you ladies enough. Your podcasts help center myself as a parent. It's so easy to get caught up in the day to day busy lifestyle, and when I do find that happening, I pop my ear buds in and go on a run and listen to you ladies. I tell every single mom about your podcast. You have made such a positive change for my family. I truly can't even begin to tell you how much gratitude I have for your show. Thank you, Cherise --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

"My kids never help", "It's like pulling teeth", "Our family life feels disconnected", "They don't care about me or what I do for them"; frustration over the lack of help in our homes from our children can send us into a spiral of hard days. The sentiment that "kids will be kids" and we need to cater to their whims can topple the structure of our families. In this episode, with the help of Hunter, Gather, Parent by Michaleen Doucleff, we are going to challenge the Western assumptions we all hold about parenting to bring a breath of fresh air and an ease to our parenting that just may revolutionize the way you think about your home environment!  Time Stamps 8:00 - Intro to Hunter, Gather, Parent 10:13 - The silo parenting present in western culture (WEIRD) 15:51 - The drive to help and belong is naturally present in our kids from the beginning 20:30 - In the long run, forcing your kids is detrimental 21:30 - Example of five year old girl from the Nani Gandi Tribe 23:00 - Never force a kid to stay and work 25:00 - Less praise, more acknowledgement 26:38 - Independence vs. Autonomy 30:01 - “We clean it up” vs. “You clean it up” 34:15 - Example of autonomy the Hadzabe community 41:05 - Chore charts and how they work against intrinsic motivation Related Episodes Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections (Entitlement Trap by Linda Eyre and Richard Eyre) How To: Create Pockets of Peace Books Mentioned: How to Raise Kind Kids // Thomas Lickona Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff Sponsor: GABB WIRELESS We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device! Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Review of the week: AngelinaEM 04/12/2023 My new best friends. I am a busy mom of 4 (7 yo and under) and Find the Magic is something that I do for myself. I connect with these women SO well and they make me feel like I'm doing the best job, even when I feel like I'm not. Thank you ladies for being here for us mothers. ♥️ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

229 // Applying Our Four Pillars: Connection, Being Present, Unconditional Love, & Healthy Boundaries When we first started Find the Magic, we realized through research and experience that many of the strategies and ideas we found in books boiled down to four pillars: Connection, Being Present, Unconditional Love, & Healthy Boundaries. We labeled these pillars because they figuratively hold up the loving, kind, respectful homes we are striving to cultivate. We have found that if you are seeing behavioral issues with children or a lack of peace within yourself, these pillars can serve to help you recalibrate. In this episode we discuss how to ACTUALLY apply and do these four pillars.  Time Stamps 10:00 - What are the Four Pillars? 11:09 - When our kids openly disobey 13:32 - The stories we tell ourselves are important and shape our responses 16:08 - Wholehearted parenting leads to kids who honor their own and others emotions 20:07 - How do you “make” a child do something? 21:51 - Pillar #1: The importance of connection  24:10 - Connect in the moment by acknowledging emotion and truly seeing them 25:58 - Physical touch is a meaningful way to connect in the moment 28:50 - Child Whisperer – type 3 energy 32:10 - Preventative connection - acknowledging when kids are behaving well, holding hands, etc. 33:22 - Caregiving tasks ARE connection times 35:23 - Pillar # 2: Being present 37:00 - Wholehearted attention some of the time is WAY better than half-hearted attention always 38:20 - See the present moment as the main event rather than the precursor 41:26 - In yoga the transition to the posture is the posture 43:05 - Mantra for being present is “Here I am.” 45:00 - A human need is to be witnessed 47:27 - Pillar #3: Unconditional Love 50:00 - What does love look like when I misbehave? 54:07 - Pillar #4: Healthy Boundaries 55:05 - Hold boundaries early 1:00:00 - Maintain boundaries for yourself - take time to refuel Related episodes Four Pillars of Wholehearted Parenting We Apply to Any Problem 223 // The Power of Being Present NOW HOW TO Reconnect with Life, Your Marriage and Your Kids / Deep Dive into Connection Let Your Phone Be a Tool Not Your Master: Screen Detox Tips and Boundaries for Real Life 183 // Putting Our Attention on the Beautiful Call of Our Lives with Johann Hari's Stolen Focus Curbing Your Screen Attachment How to WAKE UP to Your Life Links & Books Mentioned Blue spaces: why time spent near water is the secret of happiness Good Inside // Dr. Becky Kennedy Sponsor: GABB WIRELESS We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device! Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Review of the week: I am a busy mom of 4 (7 yo and under) and Find the Magic is something that I do for myself. I connect with these women SO well and they make me feel like I'm doing the best job, even when I feel like I'm not. Thank you ladies for being here for us mothers. ♥️ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support