Love Your Life Show

Does anyone else sometimes feel like the only way they feel calm is if they know everything and have a say in all the things? Or that if you don't stay on top of things, those things will fall apart! And if you don't remind, manage, anticipate, and fix… things won't get done? Great news warrior - you are not alone! Even better news? You don't have to feel this way. In this episode, I'm talking about what it really means to be "the one who holds it all together" and why so many of us feel stuck in that role. If you're tired, resentful, feel like no one understands you, and are wondering why no one else seems to step up, this conversation is for you. I'll walk you through why controlling and overfunctioning might feel helpful in the moment but actually creates more stress, disconnection, and anxiety over time. We'll look at how this pattern impacts your relationships with your partner, your kids, and even your aging parents, and why it can quietly chip away at your own mental and physical well-being. Most importantly, I'll show you a different way!! One that works! I took off my "superwoman/I can do it all" cape, and my kids and I not only lived - we're doing waaaay better than we were when I was managing everything. Listen in so I can help you start letting go of control without feeling like everything is going to fall apart and how to shift out of overfunctioning so the people around you can step up in their own lives. This is the work of feeling calmer, lighter, and more connected. Not just for you, but for the people you love. If you're ready to stop carrying it all and start living a life that actually feels good, press play. (and stay to the end because I highlight a listener's question on this very topic! If you want to get your question answered on the Love Your Life Show, become a patreon here: https://patreon.com/susiepettit )  

Do you ever find yourself replaying conversations, second-guessing your decisions, or lying awake worrying about your teen's future? That mental loop has a name. It's called rumination. And it's quietly draining your energy, increasing anxiety, and affecting how you show up in your life and your relationships. If you catch yourself overanalyzing everything you said, everything they said, and what it all means… this episode will feel like a deep exhale. Inside this episode, you'll learn: Why rumination feels productive but actually keeps you stuck The difference between helpful reflection and harmful mental loops How your thoughts create your feelings and your parenting experience A simple 3 step process to interrupt rumination in real time Practical ways to stop overthinking your teen's behavior and your own responses How to shift into calmer, more intentional parenting without changing your teen or spouse. You don't have to keep living in your head. There is another way to relate to your thoughts that brings more peace, more connection, and more confidence into your daily life. Press play and let's start loosening the grip of rumination together.

Do you ever find yourself replaying conversations, second-guessing your decisions, or lying awake worrying about your teen's future? That mental loop has a name. It's called rumination. And it's quietly draining your energy, increasing anxiety, and affecting how you show up in your life and your relationships. If you catch yourself overanalyzing everything you said, everything they said, and what it all means… this episode will feel like a deep exhale. Inside this episode, you'll learn: Why rumination feels productive but actually keeps you stuck The difference between helpful reflection and harmful mental loops How your thoughts create your feelings and your parenting experience A simple 3 step process to interrupt rumination in real time Practical ways to stop overthinking your teen's behavior and your own responses How to shift into calmer, more intentional parenting without changing your teen or spouse. You don't have to keep living in your head. There is another way to relate to your thoughts that brings more peace, more connection, and more confidence into your daily life. Press play and let's start loosening the grip of rumination together.  

What if this summer didn't leave you exhausted… but actually felt good? So many midlife moms head into summer hoping it will be fun, relaxing, and connecting… and then find themselves overwhelmed, reactive, and running on empty by September. In this episode, I'm showing you how to do it differently. Not with a rigid plan. Not with more pressure. But with simple, intentional shifts that change how your days feel and in a way that helps the teens or young adults in your house. We're talking about the mindset and structure that allow you to enjoy the “flow” of summer without feeling like you're being pulled under by it. Inside this episode, I'll walk you through: Why intentional living actually gives you more freedom (not less) The “canoe vs. current” shift that instantly changes your experience How to use my 5 wellness pillars (sleep, eating, exercise, relationships, and self-care) to guide your summer The power of 1% changes and how small tweaks create big emotional relief; Simple ways to reduce stress, feel more in control, and stay connected to yourself and your family This is about creating a summer where you feel calm, energized, and present… not depleted and needing a reset. A summer you don't need to recover from? Yes. It's possible. And it starts here.

What if this summer didn't leave you exhausted… but actually felt good?   So many midlife moms head into summer hoping it will be fun, relaxing, and connecting… and then find themselves overwhelmed, reactive, and running on empty by September.   In this episode, I'm showing you how to do it differently.   Not with a rigid plan. Not with more pressure. But with simple, intentional shifts that change how your days feel and in a way that helps the teens or young adults in your house.   We're talking about the mindset and structure that allow you to enjoy the "flow" of summer without feeling like you're being pulled under by it.   Inside this episode, I'll walk you through: Why intentional living actually gives you more freedom (not less) The "canoe vs. current" shift that instantly changes your experience How to use my 5 wellness pillars (sleep, eating, exercise, relationships, and self-care) to guide your summer The power of 1% changes and how small tweaks create big emotional relief; Simple ways to reduce stress, feel more in control, and stay connected to yourself and your family   This is about creating a summer where you feel calm, energized, and present… not depleted and needing a reset.   A summer you don't need to recover from?   Yes. It's possible. And it starts here.  

Do you feel like your mind automatically goes to worst-case scenarios, overthinking, or worrying about what might go wrong? You're not broken. Your brain is just doing what it was designed to do. But here's the problem… When your brain fixates on the negative, it can leave you feeling anxious, overwhelmed, and stuck in patterns of stress, self-doubt, and overthinking. In this episode of The Love Your Life Show, I'm teaching you: Why your brain has a natural negativity bias (and why you feel more anxious) How overthinking and worry become habits you didn't choose The surprising way you've been reinforcing stress without realizing it A simple 1 minute daily practice to retrain your brain (without forcing positivity) This isn't about ignoring problems or pretending everything is fine. It's about learning how to work with your brain instead of against it so you can feel calmer, more grounded, and more in control of your emotions. If you're tired of: Constant worry about your kids, relationships, or future Replaying past mistakes or conversations Feeling stuck in anxiety or mental overwhelm This episode will give you a powerful starting point. Because the truth is… You don't need more time, more effort, or more willpower. You just need a new way to use your brain. Press play and learn the 1 minute practice that can start changing how you feel today.

Do you feel like your mind automatically goes to worst-case scenarios, overthinking, or worrying about what might go wrong? You're not broken. Your brain is just doing what it was designed to do. But here's the problem… When your brain fixates on the negative, it can leave you feeling anxious, overwhelmed, and stuck in patterns of stress, self-doubt, and overthinking. In this episode of The Love Your Life Show, I'm teaching you: Why your brain has a natural negativity bias (and why you feel more anxious) How overthinking and worry become habits you didn't choose The surprising way you've been reinforcing stress without realizing it A simple 1 minute daily practice to retrain your brain (without forcing positivity) This isn't about ignoring problems or pretending everything is fine. It's about learning how to work with your brain instead of against it so you can feel calmer, more grounded, and more in control of your emotions. If you're tired of: Constant worry about your kids, relationships, or future Replaying past mistakes or conversations Feeling stuck in anxiety or mental overwhelm This episode will give you a powerful starting point. Because the truth is… You don't need more time, more effort, or more willpower. You just need a new way to use your brain. Press play and learn the 1 minute practice that can start changing how you feel today.  

Do you ever feel responsible for solving everyone else's problems? Whether it's your teen, your adult child, your partner, or even your friends, it's easy to slip into fixing mode. But what if constantly helping is actually weakening the relationship and leaving you feeling resentful? In this episode of The Love Your Life Show, I'm teaching a skill that will help you support the people you love without over-functioning, people-pleasing, or taking on emotional labor that isn't yours. You'll learn a simple framework that helps others feel understood, strengthens their confidence, and creates healthier relationships without you carrying the weight of everyone's struggles. If you're a mom navigating parenting teens or adult children, or you want to stop feeling responsible for everyone's emotions, this episode will give you practical tools you can start using immediately. In this episode you'll learn: • Why fixing other people's problems often backfires • The three inner voices that shape how we handle challenges • How to respond when your teen, adult child, or spouse is struggling • A simple way to support loved ones without reinforcing self-criticism or avoidance • How to strengthen relationships without becoming the family problem solver This is a powerful skill that builds emotional resilience, deeper connection, and more peaceful relationships. Press play and learn how to stop fixing and start supporting.

Do you ever feel responsible for solving everyone else's problems? Whether it's your teen, your adult child, your partner, or even your friends, it's easy to slip into fixing mode.   But what if constantly helping is actually weakening the relationship and leaving you feeling resentful?   In this episode of The Love Your Life Show, I'm teaching a skill that will help you support the people you love without over-functioning, people-pleasing, or taking on emotional labor that isn't yours.   You'll learn a simple framework that helps others feel understood, strengthens their confidence, and creates healthier relationships without you carrying the weight of everyone's struggles.   If you're a mom navigating parenting teens or adult children, or you want to stop feeling responsible for everyone's emotions, this episode will give you practical tools you can start using immediately.   In this episode you'll learn: • Why fixing other people's problems often backfires • The three inner voices that shape how we handle challenges • How to respond when your teen, adult child, or spouse is struggling • A simple way to support loved ones without reinforcing self-criticism or avoidance • How to strengthen relationships without becoming the family problem solver   This is a powerful skill that builds emotional resilience, deeper connection, and more peaceful relationships.   Press play and learn how to stop fixing and start supporting.  

Your college kid is coming home… and you want it to go well. You're excited to see them. You've missed them. You can't wait to hug them, cook for them, and have them back in your house again. But here's the thing most parents don't realize. The child who left for college is not exactly the same kid coming home. And your home is not the same place they left either. This is a brand new stage of parenting. In this episode, I'm sharing two simple but powerful things every parent should think about before their college student comes home for break. When you understand these dynamics, you can avoid unnecessary conflict, reduce stress in the house, and actually create a stronger connection with your young adult. This quick listen will help you navigate college kids coming home for summer, holidays, or school breaks in a way that feels calm, respectful, and connected for everyone. Take a few minutes to listen before they arrive. It might completely change how this visit feels. Next steps: *First - sign up for the FREE PARENTING WORKSHOP! It's happening live and will set you and your family up for health and happiness: https://smbwell.com/event **Second, if you don't want to wait for that workshop, take my parenting class “How to Raise Good Humans” here https://smbwell.com/parenting. Plus - it's your lucky day - use coupon PODCAST for your special discount

Your college kid is coming home… and you want it to go well. You're excited to see them. You've missed them. You can't wait to hug them, cook for them, and have them back in your house again. But here's the thing most parents don't realize. The child who left for college is not exactly the same kid coming home. And your home is not the same place they left either. This is a brand new stage of parenting. In this episode, I'm sharing two simple but powerful things every parent should think about before their college student comes home for break. When you understand these dynamics, you can avoid unnecessary conflict, reduce stress in the house, and actually create a stronger connection with your young adult. This quick listen will help you navigate college kids coming home for summer, holidays, or school breaks in a way that feels calm, respectful, and connected for everyone. Take a few minutes to listen before they arrive. It might completely change how this visit feels. Next steps: *First - sign up for the FREE PARENTING WORKSHOP! It's happening live and will set you and your family up for health and happiness: https://smbwell.com/event **Second, if you don't want to wait for that workshop, take my parenting class "How to Raise Good Humans" here https://smbwell.com/parenting. Plus - it's your lucky day - use coupon PODCAST for your special discount

What if the reason you feel exhausted, inflamed, anxious, or just not like yourself in midlife isn't a lack of willpower… but a handful of small habits quietly working against you? In this episode, I'm sharing the 5 things I started and the 5 things I stopped in perimenopause that completely changed my energy, sleep, mood, and overall health. If you are navigating perimenopause symptoms, struggling with midlife weight gain and inflammation, or wondering how to feel better in midlife without overhauling your entire life, this episode is for you. These are not extreme protocols. They are simple, doable shifts that support hormone health in your 40s and beyond. Inside this episode, we talk about: The daily 2 minute habit that supports brain health and longevity Why traditional cardio may be backfiring in midlife The surprising connection between alcohol and perimenopause symptoms How to improve sleep in perimenopause with one simple boundary Gentle movement strategies that reduce inflammation and boost mood Identity based habits that actually stick If you have been searching for healthy habits for women over 40 that feel realistic and empowering, I want you to know this: You are not behind. You are not broken. And it is not too late to feel strong and clear in your body again. Small changes add up. And six months from now, you could be amazed at how different you feel. If this episode resonates, come join us inside the Love Your Life School, where we are turning these habits into a fun May Health Game and supporting each other in real time. Your future self will thank you.

What if the reason you feel exhausted, inflamed, anxious, or just not like yourself in midlife isn't a lack of willpower… but a handful of small habits quietly working against you? In this episode, I'm sharing the 5 things I started and the 5 things I stopped in perimenopause that completely changed my energy, sleep, mood, and overall health. If you are navigating perimenopause symptoms, struggling with midlife weight gain and inflammation, or wondering how to feel better in midlife without overhauling your entire life, this episode is for you. These are not extreme protocols. They are simple, doable shifts that support hormone health in your 40s and beyond. Inside this episode, we talk about: The daily 2 minute habit that supports brain health and longevity Why traditional cardio may be backfiring in midlife The surprising connection between alcohol and perimenopause symptoms How to improve sleep in perimenopause with one simple boundary Gentle movement strategies that reduce inflammation and boost mood Identity based habits that actually stick If you have been searching for healthy habits for women over 40 that feel realistic and empowering, I want you to know this: You are not behind. You are not broken. And it is not too late to feel strong and clear in your body again. Small changes add up. And six months from now, you could be amazed at how different you feel. If this episode resonates, come join us inside the Love Your Life School, where we are turning these habits into a fun May Health Game and supporting each other in real time. Your future self will thank you.  

If you've ever noticed yourself feeling more stiff, less coordinated, or just not as strong and capable in your body as you used to, this episode is for you. I'm joined by Megan Dahlman, a strength and mobility coach who specializes in helping women move better, feel stronger, and protect their bodies as they age. Megan has such a calming, empowering way of cutting through the noise and confusion and helping you understand what your body actually needs in midlife. In this conversation, we talk about what's really happening in our muscles, joints, and bones as we age and what you can do now to support your mobility, coordination, bone health, and overall strength. We talk about weight gain, body composition, how our minds get in the way of us getting to the gym and much more!  If you want to live a long life feeling strong, capable, and independent in your body, this episode will give you clarity, hope, and practical insight you can start using right away. This is one I will personally be coming back to again and again, and I'm so excited to share it with you. If you liked this show, you'll like this one: How to Eliminate Hip and Back Pain with Megan Dahlman on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/300-how-to-eliminate-hip-and-back-pain-with-fitness/id1434429161?i=1000654128076&l=zh-Hans-CN How to Eliminate Hip and Back Pain with Megan Dahlman on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/0ZcC6vTYxXC9Jnl0boKZ5j?si=Iv82_fU_RUWNggvumEqNcQ Get all the links we mentioned and connect with Megan go here

If you've ever noticed yourself feeling more stiff, less coordinated, or just not as strong and capable in your body as you used to, this episode is for you. I'm joined by Megan Dahlman, a strength and mobility coach who specializes in helping women move better, feel stronger, and protect their bodies as they age. Megan has such a calming, empowering way of cutting through the noise and confusion and helping you understand what your body actually needs in midlife. In this conversation, we talk about what's really happening in our muscles, joints, and bones as we age and what you can do now to support your mobility, coordination, bone health, and overall strength. We talk about weight gain, body composition, how our minds get in the way of us getting to the gym and much more!  If you want to live a long life feeling strong, capable, and independent in your body, this episode will give you clarity, hope, and practical insight you can start using right away. This is one I will personally be coming back to again and again, and I'm so excited to share it with you. If you liked this show, you'll like this one: How to Eliminate Hip and Back Pain with Megan Dahlman on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/300-how-to-eliminate-hip-and-back-pain-with-fitness/id1434429161?i=1000654128076&l=zh-Hans-CN How to Eliminate Hip and Back Pain with Megan Dahlman on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/0ZcC6vTYxXC9Jnl0boKZ5j?si=Iv82_fU_RUWNggvumEqNcQ Get all the links we mentioned and connect with Megan go here

What if the problem was never you? For so many years, I believed that if I could just fix myself enough, improve enough, and be better enough, I would finally feel calm, confident, and at peace. Yet, no matter how much I worked on myself, there was always something else to fix. In this deeply personal episode, I share one of the most life changing truths I've learned in over 20 years of coaching and doing my own emotional healing work.

What if the problem was never you? For so many years, I believed that if I could just fix myself enough, improve enough, and be better enough, I would finally feel calm, confident, and at peace. Yet, no matter how much I worked on myself, there was always something else to fix. In this deeply personal episode, I share one of the most life changing truths I've learned in over 20 years of coaching and doing my own emotional healing work.

Last week, I shared a more personal reflection on why this podcast exists. Today, I want to bring it back to coaching and answer a powerful question: after 400 episodes, what actually helps the most? In this episode, I teach the first of two foundational skills that reduce emotional suffering, reactivity, and relationship drama. This simple but profound shift will help you feel more calm, more empowered, and less at the mercy of other people's behavior. If you've ever felt hijacked by your emotions or stuck in patterns you don't like, this is where the change begins. Next week, I'll share the second skill that completes the picture. Thanks for being the type of person who listens to shows like the Love Your Life Show. xx

Last week, I shared a more personal reflection on why this podcast exists. Today, I want to bring it back to coaching and answer a powerful question: after 400 episodes, what actually helps the most? In this episode, I teach the first of two foundational skills that reduce emotional suffering, reactivity, and relationship drama. This simple but profound shift will help you feel more calm, more empowered, and less at the mercy of other people's behavior. If you've ever felt hijacked by your emotions or stuck in patterns you don't like, this is where the change begins. Next week, I'll share the second skill that completes the picture. Thanks for being the type of person who listens to shows like the Love Your Life Show. xx  

My eldest son just got married, and for the first time in over a decade, I was in the same room as my estranged sister, my father, my ex-husband, and his entire family. In this personal life update, I'm sharing exactly how it went, including what my own tools looked like in the hardest moments and what surprised me most. I talk about clean pain versus dirty pain, what it feels like when the nervous system finally starts to trust, and why I believe change is one hundred percent possible. If you have been following my journey, this one is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode What it actually looked like to walk into a high-stakes family event after years of estrangement How clean pain versus dirty pain showed up in real time at the wedding The turning point my ex-husband and I reached that I am so grateful for What it felt like to face my father without fear or the need to people-please The moment that brought me to tears (the good kind) when I saw my three sons together Why I believe one hundred percent that change is possible, no matter where you are right now If you liked this show, you'll like this one: My Most Vulnerable Episode Yet on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/230-my-most-vulnerable-episode-yet/id1434429161?i=1000589799587   My Most Vulnerable Episode Yet on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/2kU0nc1wDkFMS0zo2ZmdY0?si=dBdypzPeTBOpUi9Vfc5fHg   Get all the links we mentioned go here

My eldest son just got married, and for the first time in over a decade, I was in the same room as my estranged sister, my father, my ex-husband, and his entire family. In this personal life update, I'm sharing exactly how it went, including what my own tools looked like in the hardest moments and what surprised me most. I talk about clean pain versus dirty pain, what it feels like when the nervous system finally starts to trust, and why I believe change is one hundred percent possible. If you have been following my journey, this one is for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode What it actually looked like to walk into a high-stakes family event after years of estrangement How clean pain versus dirty pain showed up in real time at the wedding The turning point my ex-husband and I reached that I am so grateful for What it felt like to face my father without fear or the need to people-please The moment that brought me to tears (the good kind) when I saw my three sons together Why I believe one hundred percent that change is possible, no matter where you are right now If you liked this show, you'll like this one: My Most Vulnerable Episode Yet on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/230-my-most-vulnerable-episode-yet/id1434429161?i=1000589799587   My Most Vulnerable Episode Yet on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/2kU0nc1wDkFMS0zo2ZmdY0?si=dBdypzPeTBOpUi9Vfc5fHg   Get all the links we mentioned go here

This episode is different, and I wanted to speak to you more personally than usual. I'm sharing the real reasons this podcast was born, the moments that almost broke me, and what has kept me showing up here for 400 episodes. This isn't a how-to or a lecture, it's a heart-to-heart conversation about being human, especially when life feels heavy. If this podcast has ever kept you company during a hard season, this episode is for you. I wanted you to know how much you matter to me and to this community. If you get even one thing from any of these 400 episodes that helps you feel more seen, more connected, more loved, more human, my heart is full. I know others make a lot of money through advertising, and are better marketers to get more clients. I've been told I give too much information away for free. But in my 54 years, I've learned this. If something feels good, do more of it. And this is really what feels good. Links Mentioned on this Episode:

This episode is different, and I wanted to speak to you more personally than usual. I'm sharing the real reasons this podcast was born, the moments that almost broke me, and what has kept me showing up here for 400 episodes. This isn't a how-to or a lecture, it's a heart-to-heart conversation about being human, especially when life feels heavy. If this podcast has ever kept you company during a hard season, this episode is for you. I wanted you to know how much you matter to me and to this community. If you get even one thing from any of these 400 episodes that helps you feel more seen, more connected, more loved, more human, my heart is full. I know others make a lot of money through advertising, and are better marketers to get more clients. I've been told I give too much information away for free. But in my 54 years, I've learned this. If something feels good, do more of it. And this is really what feels good. Links Mentioned on this Episode:  

I am sitting down with my new friend, Dr. Danielle Dowling, for a conversation I believe every mom needs to hear. In this episode, we talk about why motherhood can feel so overwhelming even when you are doing everything “right.” We explore how invisible labor keeps women exhausted, how the 'good girl conditioning' gets activated in motherhood, and why so many moms blame themselves instead of questioning the system they are in. We had a wonderful conversation about all the things that can affect and drain you. We delved into her wonderful book, Good Girl, Bad Mom. Her book reads like a love letter to every woman who's ever felt imperfect, overwhelmed, and like she's supposed to smile through the struggle. It's for women who love their kids fiercely but miss themselves. It's for new or future Moms who want an honest, supportive roadmap before they feel blindsided. Her book (and our conversation

I am sitting down with my new friend, Dr. Danielle Dowling, for a conversation I believe every mom needs to hear.  In this episode, we talk about why motherhood can feel so overwhelming even when you are doing everything "right." We explore how invisible labor keeps women exhausted, how the 'good girl conditioning' gets activated in motherhood, and why so many moms blame themselves instead of questioning the system they are in. We had a wonderful conversation about all the things that can affect and drain you. We delved into her wonderful book, Good Girl, Bad Mom.  Her book reads like a love letter to every woman who's ever felt imperfect, overwhelmed, and like she's supposed to smile through the struggle. It's for women who love their kids fiercely but miss themselves. It's for new or future Moms who want an honest, supportive roadmap before they feel blindsided.  Her book (and our conversation

Feeling stuck in midlife? You're not broken. And you're not behind. In this episode, I'm offering a gentle pause. A loving interruption. A moment to step out of autopilot and actually look at the life you're living. If January started with hope, energy, or a word of the year… and now you feel tired, discouraged, or disconnected from that version of yourself, this conversation is for you. I walk you through how to reflect on the last three months without judgment, why most change efforts fail even when we care deeply, and what actually helps us feel calmer, more grounded, and more hopeful in midlife. This episode is not about doing more. It's about doing what you're doing differently in two ways. Inside, we talk about: • Why feeling stuck in midlife is more common than we admit • How self compassion creates change faster than criticism • The power of tiny daily actions and the 1 percent better approach • Why starting small is not weakness, it's wisdom • How to choose one doable shift that future you will thank you for If you've been taking care of everyone else and quietly wondering when it's your turn… this is it. You don't need a total life overhaul. You need a pause. A breath. And one small step forward. Click play. I'm so glad you found this episode. Let's go. ENJOY THE SHOW? If you liked this episode, you'll like this one: Tame your Inner Critic on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/253-tame-your-inner-critic/id1434429161?i=1000616931135 Tame your Inner Critic on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/5QFpXdcWBmCon14djNnQnq?si=Q0SYYjPHQBug_FBmF_7Yhw Don't miss out: Get weekly wellness tips straight to your inbox: https://SMBwell.com/newsletter ⭐️Get on Coach Susie's one-on-one schedule here: https://smbwell.com/work-with-me/

Feeling stuck in midlife? You're not broken. And you're not behind. In this episode, I'm offering a gentle pause. A loving interruption. A moment to step out of autopilot and actually look at the life you're living. If January started with hope, energy, or a word of the year… and now you feel tired, discouraged, or disconnected from that version of yourself, this conversation is for you. I walk you through how to reflect on the last three months without judgment, why most change efforts fail even when we care deeply, and what actually helps us feel calmer, more grounded, and more hopeful in midlife. This episode is not about doing more. It's about doing what you're doing differently in two ways. Inside, we talk about: • Why feeling stuck in midlife is more common than we admit • How self compassion creates change faster than criticism • The power of tiny daily actions and the 1 percent better approach • Why starting small is not weakness, it's wisdom • How to choose one doable shift that future you will thank you for If you've been taking care of everyone else and quietly wondering when it's your turn… this is it. You don't need a total life overhaul. You need a pause. A breath. And one small step forward. Click play. I'm so glad you found this episode. Let's go. ENJOY THE SHOW? If you liked this episode, you'll like this one: Tame your Inner Critic on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/253-tame-your-inner-critic/id1434429161?i=1000616931135 Tame your Inner Critic on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/5QFpXdcWBmCon14djNnQnq?si=Q0SYYjPHQBug_FBmF_7Yhw Don't miss out: Get weekly wellness tips straight to your inbox: https://SMBwell.com/newsletter ⭐️Get on Coach Susie's one-on-one schedule here: https://smbwell.com/work-with-me/

What if feeling calmer, healthier, and more energized at midlife wasn't about doing more but about stopping a few things that quietly drain you? In this episode, I share five things I stopped doing at age 50 that made an immediate difference in my mental health, energy, and overall well-being. These aren't trendy hacks or extreme rules. They are small but powerful shifts that helped me feel lighter in my body, clearer in my mind, and more present in my life. If you started the year with good intentions but feel like life pulled you right back into old patterns, this episode is your permission slip to begin again. Inside this episode, I talk about: ⭐️One habit I stopped that dramatically improved my sleep and long-term health ⭐️Why being “normal” often works against mental wellness ⭐️The surprising mindset shift that helped me feel more confident in my body ⭐️A decision I made for my mental health that most women are never encouraged to question ⭐️How compassion, not self-criticism, creates real change This conversation is especially for women who spend more time managing everyone else's lives than paying attention to their own. You do not need more discipline. You do not need to be perfect. You need awareness, self-trust, and a willingness to start small.

What if feeling calmer, healthier, and more energized at midlife wasn't about doing more but about stopping a few things that quietly drain you? In this episode, I share five things I stopped doing at age 50 that made an immediate difference in my mental health, energy, and overall well-being.  These aren't trendy hacks or extreme rules. They are small but powerful shifts that helped me feel lighter in my body, clearer in my mind, and more present in my life. If you started the year with good intentions but feel like life pulled you right back into old patterns, this episode is your permission slip to begin again. Inside this episode, I talk about: ⭐️One habit I stopped that dramatically improved my sleep and long-term health ⭐️Why being "normal" often works against mental wellness ⭐️The surprising mindset shift that helped me feel more confident in my body ⭐️A decision I made for my mental health that most women are never encouraged to question ⭐️How compassion, not self-criticism, creates real change This conversation is especially for women who spend more time managing everyone else's lives than paying attention to their own. You do not need more discipline. You do not need to be perfect. You need awareness, self-trust, and a willingness to start small.

Have you ever felt like the unofficial caretaker of your family or the one who must hold everything together? In this conversation with Adaku Mbagwu, founder of Healed Hero, we talk about what it really feels like to be the one everyone turns to. Whether you are an eldest daughter or simply someone who learned early to carry more than your share, this episode will help you see your patterns with more clarity and compassion. Adaku and I explore how birth order shapes our identity, the quiet pressure high performers internalize, and why so many of us grow up believing our value comes from holding everything together. The insights she brings are powerful, relatable, and deeply grounding for anyone who has ever felt tired from being the dependable one. And don't worry - since this is the Love Your Life Show, we dig into the healing side too. Adaku walks us through the early steps of reclaiming your energy and agency so you can feel lighter in your relationships and steadier in your daily life. Her framework of strategic vulnerability is a game changer, especially for women who have armored up for decades. Much of what she shares echoes what we know about healing attachment wounds and chronic over responsibility, yet she presents it in a way that feels accessible and hopeful. If you are ready to shift out of perfectionism, people pleasing, and overfunctioning, this conversation will feel like a warm invitation to finally choose yourself. If you liked this show, you'll like this one: How to Communicate with Narcissists and Emotionally Immature People on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-communicate-with-narcissists-and/id1434429161?i=1000711108596 How to Communicate with Narcissists and Emotionally Immature People on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/0FTaNbB8tCwPfI0sLyix92?si=f4e7f0afc68d4bd5 Get all the links we mentioned and connect with Adaku Mbagwu go here

Have you ever felt like the unofficial caretaker of your family or the one who must hold everything together?  In this conversation with Adaku Mbagwu, founder of Healed Hero, we talk about what it really feels like to be the one everyone turns to. Whether you are an eldest daughter or simply someone who learned early to carry more than your share, this episode will help you see your patterns with more clarity and compassion.  Adaku and I explore how birth order shapes our identity, the quiet pressure high performers internalize, and why so many of us grow up believing our value comes from holding everything together. The insights she brings are powerful, relatable, and deeply grounding for anyone who has ever felt tired from being the dependable one. And don't worry - since this is the Love Your Life Show, we dig into the healing side too. Adaku walks us through the early steps of reclaiming your energy and agency so you can feel lighter in your relationships and steadier in your daily life. Her framework of strategic vulnerability is a game changer, especially for women who have armored up for decades.  Much of what she shares echoes what we know about healing attachment wounds and chronic over responsibility, yet she presents it in a way that feels accessible and hopeful. If you are ready to shift out of perfectionism, people pleasing, and overfunctioning, this conversation will feel like a warm invitation to finally choose yourself. If you liked this show, you'll like this one: How to Communicate with Narcissists and Emotionally Immature People on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-communicate-with-narcissists-and/id1434429161?i=1000711108596 How to Communicate with Narcissists and Emotionally Immature People on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/0FTaNbB8tCwPfI0sLyix92?si=f4e7f0afc68d4bd5   Get all the links we mentioned and connect with Adaku Mbagwu go here

In this episode of the Love Your Life Show, I teach one of the most important relationship skills we were never taught: emotional validation. If you often feel the urge to fix, explain, or make things better when someone you love is struggling, this episode is for you. I have found that in learning the skills of emotional validation and emotional intelligence, the people I love (my kids, my husband, my friends, etc) feel so much more love from me. Versus, when I didn't know these skills, our conversations and my efforts to support were wonky and they were left feeling disconnected, or worse, incompetent or shamed. Learning how to validate is how we support others without taking on their emotions or trying to change their experience, and it will change your parenting, marriage, and every close relationship you have. This episode builds directly on last week's conversation about emotional regulation. When you can stay calm inside yourself while someone else is having big feelings, validation becomes possible. I explain what emotional validation actually is, what it is not, and why validation does not mean agreement, approval, or fixing the problem. We talk about why emotions need soothing, not solving, how to stop minimizing or invalidating feelings without realizing it, and what to say when you want someone to feel seen, heard, and supported. I share practical phrases you can use with your kids, your partner, and the people you care about most, along with guidance on how to stay present without overfunctioning or taking responsibility for someone else's emotions. If you are a parent, partner, helper, or chronic fixer, this episode will help you build healthier emotional boundaries, deeper connection, and more emotionally safe relationships. Spoiler Alert: When they feel better in relationship with you, YOU feel better too!

In this episode of the Love Your Life Show, I teach one of the most important relationship skills we were never taught: emotional validation. If you often feel the urge to fix, explain, or make things better when someone you love is struggling, this episode is for you. I have found that in learning the skills of emotional validation and emotional intelligence, the people I love (my kids, my husband, my friends, etc) feel so much more love from me. Versus, when I didn't know these skills, our conversations and my efforts to support were wonky and they were left feeling disconnected, or worse, incompetent or shamed. Learning how to validate is how we support others without taking on their emotions or trying to change their experience, and it will change your parenting, marriage, and every close relationship you have. This episode builds directly on last week's conversation about emotional regulation. When you can stay calm inside yourself while someone else is having big feelings, validation becomes possible. I explain what emotional validation actually is, what it is not, and why validation does not mean agreement, approval, or fixing the problem. We talk about why emotions need soothing, not solving, how to stop minimizing or invalidating feelings without realizing it, and what to say when you want someone to feel seen, heard, and supported. I share practical phrases you can use with your kids, your partner, and the people you care about most, along with guidance on how to stay present without overfunctioning or taking responsibility for someone else's emotions. If you are a parent, partner, helper, or chronic fixer, this episode will help you build healthier emotional boundaries, deeper connection, and more emotionally safe relationships. Spoiler Alert: When they feel better in relationship with you, YOU feel better too!

Emotional regulation is one of the most important relationship skills we were never taught. In this episode of the Love Your Life Show, Susie Pettit explains why emotional regulation is the skill that makes parenting and marriage easier and why learning to stay calm when the people you love are not can change every relationship in your life. If you tend to take responsibility for other people's emotions, rush to fix feelings, or feel unsettled when your kids, partner, or loved ones are upset, this episode is for you. Susie shares how emotional regulation builds emotional safety, why fixing feelings often backfires, and how developing emotional resiliency helps you show up as a calmer parent, partner, and human. You'll learn: ⭐️ What emotional regulation actually is and why it matters in parenting, marriage, and relationships with our empty nest young adults ⭐️ How to stop outsourcing your calm to the people around you ⭐️ Why feelings need support, not solutions ⭐️ A simple framework to respond to big emotions without fixing or shutting them down ⭐️ How emotional regulation supports emotional intelligence in kids, teens, and even our underfunctioning partners or young adults Whether you're parenting young children, teenagers, adult kids, or navigating a long-term relationship, this episode will help you understand why your internal calm is the foundation for healthier, more connected relationships. If you want parenting and marriage to feel less heavy and more grounded, emotional regulation is where it starts. Thanks for listening! If you liked this show, you'll like this one: Loving Detachment on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/286-loving-detachment/id1434429161?i=1000642743348 Loving Detachment on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/6bL2I9rFFHSf18buCOEZMi?si=iyNfeWilT3eAkVYHgcwZkQ Want even more? Get the most popular parenting episodes here: https://SMBwell.com/mom Get the weekly wellness newsletter for warriors here:

Emotional regulation is one of the most important relationship skills we were never taught.   In this episode of the Love Your Life Show, Susie Pettit explains why emotional regulation is the skill that makes parenting and marriage easier and why learning to stay calm when the people you love are not can change every relationship in your life. If you tend to take responsibility for other people's emotions, rush to fix feelings, or feel unsettled when your kids, partner, or loved ones are upset, this episode is for you.   Susie shares how emotional regulation builds emotional safety, why fixing feelings often backfires, and how developing emotional resiliency helps you show up as a calmer parent, partner, and human.   You'll learn: ⭐️ What emotional regulation actually is and why it matters in parenting, marriage, and relationships with our empty nest young adults ⭐️ How to stop outsourcing your calm to the people around you ⭐️ Why feelings need support, not solutions ⭐️ A simple framework to respond to big emotions without fixing or shutting them down ⭐️ How emotional regulation supports emotional intelligence in kids, teens, and even our underfunctioning partners or young adults   Whether you're parenting young children, teenagers, adult kids, or navigating a long-term relationship, this episode will help you understand why your internal calm is the foundation for healthier, more connected relationships. If you want parenting and marriage to feel less heavy and more grounded, emotional regulation is where it starts. Thanks for listening!   If you liked this show, you'll like this one: Loving Detachment on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/286-loving-detachment/id1434429161?i=1000642743348 Loving Detachment on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/6bL2I9rFFHSf18buCOEZMi?si=iyNfeWilT3eAkVYHgcwZkQ Want even more? Get the most popular parenting episodes here: https://SMBwell.com/mom Get the weekly wellness newsletter for warriors here:

In this episode of the Love Your Life Show, I sit down with Dr. Maria Sophocles to talk about midlife sexuality and why so many women experience changes in desire as they move through perimenopause and menopause. We explore the bedroom gap, sexual burnout in women, and the many reasons women find themselves wondering why they no longer want sex in midlife. From body image and sexual desire to the role hormones and stress play, this conversation sheds light on what is actually happening and why you are not broken. We also talk about topics women are rarely given clear guidance on, including menopause and sex, medications that affect libido, and why it can feel so uncomfortable to talk to doctors and partners about sexual health. Dr. Maria shares practical, doable steps women can take today to feel more connected to their bodies and better informed about women's sexual health after 40. In this episode, we cover: Why libido changes after menopause and during perimenopause What sexual burnout looks like and why it is so common How body image impacts sexual desire in midlife The bedroom gap and mismatched expectations between partners Prescription medications that may be affecting libido How to talk to your doctor about sex and get real support If you have ever felt confused, frustrated, or alone when it comes to sex in midlife, this episode on the bedroom gap with Dr. Maria Sophocles and Susie Pettit will help you understand what is going on and what you can do next. If you liked this show, you'll like the past conversation I had with Dr. Maria!  Rethinking Menopause & HRT on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/rethinking-menopause-hrt-your-best-self-starts-now/id1434429161?i=1000713365898 Rethinking Menopause & HRT on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/5TwRaLgGLrmxBzLlT7vpBu?si=Hl3CyADmTCKrAIkgD2QxPg   If you already listened to that and want more about “duty sex” and midlife sexuality, don't miss this conversation with Dr Sonia Wright: Let's Talk about Sex with Dr. Sonia Wright on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/130-lets-talk-about-sex-with-dr-sonia-wright/id1434429161?i=1000507532904 Let's Talk about Sex with Dr. Sonia Wright on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/3kPZokWJmNAFnKunNP0SnK?si=bgimi9afQhGSIkxshn2ikQ   Get all the links we mentioned and connect with Dr Maria Sophocles go here

In this episode of the Love Your Life Show, I sit down with Dr. Maria Sophocles to talk about midlife sexuality and why so many women experience changes in desire as they move through perimenopause and menopause. We explore the bedroom gap, sexual burnout in women, and the many reasons women find themselves wondering why they no longer want sex in midlife. From body image and sexual desire to the role hormones and stress play, this conversation sheds light on what is actually happening and why you are not broken. We also talk about topics women are rarely given clear guidance on, including menopause and sex, medications that affect libido, and why it can feel so uncomfortable to talk to doctors and partners about sexual health. Dr. Maria shares practical, doable steps women can take today to feel more connected to their bodies and better informed about women's sexual health after 40. In this episode, we cover: Why libido changes after menopause and during perimenopause What sexual burnout looks like and why it is so common How body image impacts sexual desire in midlife The bedroom gap and mismatched expectations between partners Prescription medications that may be affecting libido How to talk to your doctor about sex and get real support If you have ever felt confused, frustrated, or alone when it comes to sex in midlife, this episode on the bedroom gap with Dr. Maria Sophocles and Susie Pettit will help you understand what is going on and what you can do next.   If you liked this show, you'll like the past conversation I had with Dr. Maria!  Rethinking Menopause & HRT on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/rethinking-menopause-hrt-your-best-self-starts-now/id1434429161?i=1000713365898 Rethinking Menopause & HRT on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/5TwRaLgGLrmxBzLlT7vpBu?si=Hl3CyADmTCKrAIkgD2QxPg   If you already listened to that and want more about "duty sex" and midlife sexuality, don't miss this conversation with Dr Sonia Wright: Let's Talk about Sex with Dr. Sonia Wright on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/130-lets-talk-about-sex-with-dr-sonia-wright/id1434429161?i=1000507532904 Let's Talk about Sex with Dr. Sonia Wright on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/3kPZokWJmNAFnKunNP0SnK?si=bgimi9afQhGSIkxshn2ikQ   Get all the links we mentioned and connect with Dr Maria Sophocles go here

Have you ever wondered if you are being compassionate or if you are actually taking on responsibility that was never yours to carry? In this episode, I am talking directly to the women who are capable, thoughtful, and deeply caring, and who often feel exhausted because they are holding everything together for everyone else. This conversation was inspired by real emails from listeners who asked a powerful question. How can I tell if I am being compassionate or codependent? Together, we explore how many of us were raised to overfunction, why this pattern makes so much sense, and how it shows up in our adult relationships. I share why this is not your fault, how being a “good girl” shaped so many of our habits, and why trying to fix other people's feelings can quietly steal your peace. Most importantly, I walk you through simple, practical ways to pause, regulate yourself, and respond differently so you can stay caring without abandoning yourself. I also share real life examples from my own day to show how this work looks in the moment, not in theory. If you are ready to stop feeling so responsible for everyone else and start creating healthier, more connected relationships, this episode is for you. If you liked this show, you'll like these: Top episodes for moms: https://SMBwell.com/mom Top episodes related to narcissism + relationships: https://SMBwell.com/narc The Podcast Roadmap (foundational episodes on emotional intelligence and emotional maturity): https://smbwell.com/roadmap FREE QUIZ: How Codependent Am I? https://SMBwell.com/coda Get the full show notes here

Have you ever wondered if you are being compassionate or if you are actually taking on responsibility that was never yours to carry? In this episode, I am talking directly to the women who are capable, thoughtful, and deeply caring, and who often feel exhausted because they are holding everything together for everyone else. This conversation was inspired by real emails from listeners who asked a powerful question. How can I tell if I am being compassionate or codependent? Together, we explore how many of us were raised to overfunction, why this pattern makes so much sense, and how it shows up in our adult relationships. I share why this is not your fault, how being a "good girl" shaped so many of our habits, and why trying to fix other people's feelings can quietly steal your peace. Most importantly, I walk you through simple, practical ways to pause, regulate yourself, and respond differently so you can stay caring without abandoning yourself. I also share real life examples from my own day to show how this work looks in the moment, not in theory. If you are ready to stop feeling so responsible for everyone else and start creating healthier, more connected relationships, this episode is for you.   If you liked this show, you'll like these: Top episodes for moms: https://SMBwell.com/mom Top episodes related to narcissism + relationships: https://SMBwell.com/narc The Podcast Roadmap (foundational episodes on emotional intelligence and emotional maturity): https://smbwell.com/roadmap FREE QUIZ: How Codependent Am I? https://SMBwell.com/coda Get the full show notes here

Do you consider yourself GenX? Do you know someone who was born between 1965-1980? Don't miss this episode inspired by a TikTok on “The Top GenX Blindspots”. Whoa! For me, and many midlife women, these are things we learned to do to survive in a system where our emotional and mental needs weren't met. We were pretty ingenious actually, one might even say, warrior like! Yet, as adults, these adaptive, protective strategies become maladaptive and hurt us and our relationships. Join me as I explain how the way we were raised might be quietly sabotaging our emotional wellbeing and the health of our relationships. If you have ever wondered why you say you are fine when you are not, why you push your own needs aside, or why you feel responsible for everyone around you, this episode will help so much. And I don't leave you hanging - after listening, you'll have some simple strategies to help you care for yourself, connect more deeply, and begin shifting patterns that have been in place for decades. This episode is the perfect starting point as we begin a new year and move toward February's relationship healing work in the Love Your Life School. Join me, fellow GenX woman, as I look at three hidden patterns that are probably playing out in your relationships and affecting your mental health. If you liked this show, you'll love these two: Learned helplessness on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/274-overfunctioning-and-learned-helplessness/id1434429161?i=1000634097009 Learned helplessness on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/4MF4IJSaVSMpfNhRAb7wyN?si=JuwR8qQnRiydi4fKDz1UDw Enmeshment interview with Dr. Kate Balestrieri on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/enmeshment-codependency-with-dr-kate-balestrieri/id1434429161?i=1000733979384 Enmeshment interview with Dr. Kate Balestrieri on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/6WMOkGaEpLNHcmvF0W5JTa?si=kMALGFXuTQWzb-oFH5qDGQ Get the full show notes here

Do you consider yourself GenX?  Do you know someone who was born between 1965-1980?  Don't miss this episode inspired by a TikTok on "The Top GenX Blindspots". Whoa! For me, and many midlife women, these are things we learned to do to survive in a system where our emotional and mental needs weren't met. We were pretty ingenious actually, one might even say, warrior like! Yet, as adults, these adaptive, protective strategies become maladaptive and hurt us and our relationships. Join me as I explain how the way we were raised might be quietly sabotaging our emotional wellbeing and the health of our relationships.  If you have ever wondered why you say you are fine when you are not, why you push your own needs aside, or why you feel responsible for everyone around you, this episode will help so much. And I don't leave you hanging - after listening, you'll have some simple strategies to help you care for yourself, connect more deeply, and begin shifting patterns that have been in place for decades.  This episode is the perfect starting point as we begin a new year and move toward February's relationship healing work in the Love Your Life School. Join me, fellow GenX woman, as I look at three hidden patterns that are probably playing out in your relationships and affecting your mental health.    If you liked this show, you'll love these two:   Learned helplessness on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/274-overfunctioning-and-learned-helplessness/id1434429161?i=1000634097009   Learned helplessness on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/4MF4IJSaVSMpfNhRAb7wyN?si=JuwR8qQnRiydi4fKDz1UDw   Enmeshment interview with Dr. Kate Balestrieri on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/enmeshment-codependency-with-dr-kate-balestrieri/id1434429161?i=1000733979384   Enmeshment interview with Dr. Kate Balestrieri on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/6WMOkGaEpLNHcmvF0W5JTa?si=kMALGFXuTQWzb-oFH5qDGQ   Get the full show notes here

Anyone else out there tired? Emotionally exhausted? Ready to try something new for 2026? This is the episode for you.

Anyone else out there tired? Emotionally exhausted? Ready to try something new for 2026? This is the episode for you.

This is the episode you've been asking for! When you next feel overwhelmed, anxious, emotionally exhausted, or over. it. all….Before booking a one-way ticket to anywhere but here, press play and tap along with me. In this episode of the Love Your Life Show, I walk you through a full guided EFT tapping session. This is the exact practice I use when my emotions feel too big, when my anxiety hits a ten out of ten, or when life feels heavier than I want it to. EFT tapping blends Chinese acupressure with modern psychology and is known for helping with anxiety, stress, fear, sleep struggles, and emotional overload. You simply tap on 9 points of the body while repeating a setup statement.  This is a quick episode where I guide you through the exact practice. Not one more thing to do or research. I've done that for you. Literally, sit back, push play, and feel relief.  I'm serious when I say, this works.  Inside this episode you will learn: - How EFT tapping works and why it helps so quickly - The 9 tapping points and how to use them - A simple phrase to repeat for emotional relief - When to use tapping for stress, overwhelm, anxiety, and spiraling thoughts - Why this tool is in my personal emotional wellness toolbox This is a short, calming, supportive session designed for real life moments. You can tap along anywhere and any time you need grounding. If you have been feeling stretched thin or stuck in your head, this episode will help you reconnect with your body and breathe again. Give yourself the next few minutes. You deserve it. Press play and let's tap together.

This is the episode you've been asking for! When you next feel overwhelmed, anxious, emotionally exhausted, or over. it. all….Before booking a one-way ticket to anywhere but here, press play and tap along with me. In this episode of the Love Your Life Show, I walk you through a full guided EFT tapping session. This is the exact practice I use when my emotions feel too big, when my anxiety hits a ten out of ten, or when life feels heavier than I want it to. EFT tapping blends Chinese acupressure with modern psychology and is known for helping with anxiety, stress, fear, sleep struggles, and emotional overload. You simply tap on 9 points of the body while repeating a setup statement.  This is a quick episode where I guide you through the exact practice. Not one more thing to do or research. I've done that for you. Literally, sit back, push play, and feel relief.  I'm serious when I say, this works.  Inside this episode you will learn: - How EFT tapping works and why it helps so quickly - The 9 tapping points and how to use them - A simple phrase to repeat for emotional relief - When to use tapping for stress, overwhelm, anxiety, and spiraling thoughts - Why this tool is in my personal emotional wellness toolbox This is a short, calming, supportive session designed for real life moments. You can tap along anywhere and any time you need grounding. If you have been feeling stretched thin or stuck in your head, this episode will help you reconnect with your body and breathe again. Give yourself the next few minutes. You deserve it. Press play and let's tap together.  

If you've ever found yourself feeling resentful, irritated, or annoyed as a mom, wife, or friend, you don't want to miss this episode. Learning from Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife has helped me so much as a mom, through my divorce and into my now healthy, more mature marriage, my friendships, and my relationship with myself. I can not recommend her work highly enough. Please gift yourself a listen to today's episode. Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and I talk about why resentment shows up in marriage and motherhood and how to use it as a path toward self-understanding and deeper connection. We explore how relationships are powerful containers for personal growth, what it really means to self-confront and take responsibility for your part, and how to move away from compliance and people-pleasing into honesty and emotional maturity. Dr. Finlayson-Fife shares her perspective on self-authoring, costly accommodation, and the difference between love and victim entitlement. Together we talk about how to feel more connected in your marriage, less resentful in your motherhood, and more grounded in who you truly are. If you've been longing for more peace and authenticity in your relationships, this conversation will help you take the first step. If you liked this show, you'll like these two: Resentment and Shame on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/233-resentment-feel-it-heres-the-greatest-tip/id1434429161?i=1000596420128 Resentment and Shame on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/0kybmmxPsITmZxOflDBKBv?si=gQh8VJswShuK4N9V3AsxUA Resentment in Marriage and Motherhood on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/234-resentment-in-marriage/id1434429161?i=1000597499677 Resentment in Marriage and Motherhood on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/6yuhlXIrz0fsPN4OQsha16?si=vSURTNyKSiWWKKxo6O40uw Get the full show notes here

If you've ever found yourself feeling resentful, irritated, or annoyed as a mom, wife, or friend, you don't want to miss this episode.   Learning from Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife has helped me so much as a mom, through my divorce and into my now healthy, more mature marriage, my friendships, and my relationship with myself. I can not recommend her work highly enough.   Please gift yourself a listen to today's episode. Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and I talk about why resentment shows up in marriage and motherhood and how to use it as a path toward self-understanding and deeper connection.   We explore how relationships are powerful containers for personal growth, what it really means to self-confront and take responsibility for your part, and how to move away from compliance and people-pleasing into honesty and emotional maturity.   Dr. Finlayson-Fife shares her perspective on self-authoring, costly accommodation, and the difference between love and victim entitlement. Together we talk about how to feel more connected in your marriage, less resentful in your motherhood, and more grounded in who you truly are.   If you've been longing for more peace and authenticity in your relationships, this conversation will help you take the first step.   If you liked this show, you'll like these two: Resentment and Shame on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/233-resentment-feel-it-heres-the-greatest-tip/id1434429161?i=1000596420128 Resentment and Shame on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/0kybmmxPsITmZxOflDBKBv?si=gQh8VJswShuK4N9V3AsxUA Resentment in Marriage and Motherhood on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/234-resentment-in-marriage/id1434429161?i=1000597499677 Resentment in Marriage and Motherhood on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/6yuhlXIrz0fsPN4OQsha16?si=vSURTNyKSiWWKKxo6O40uw Get the full show notes here

The Year You Let It Be Easy What if your best year yet didn't require more effort but less struggle? In this episode, I invite you to imagine a year that feels light, free, and full of possibility. Together we'll look at how to stop overworking, overthinking, and over-caring so you can start creating a life that actually feels like yours. ✨ In this episode, you'll learn: - how to think intentionally about your future without pressure or hustle - why your thoughts, not your to-do list, shape your next year - a simple three-step process to create momentum and ease - how to reconnect with what you want, not what everyone else expects This is your reminder that it's safe to slow down. You can dream, choose, and believe your way into a gentler, more joyful year. Press play and let's make this the year you let it be easy. If you liked this show, you'll like this one: The Case for Boredom on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/155-the-case-for-boredom/id1434429161?i=1000530241019 The Case for Boredom on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/4yxhcocfY1yrkNSvCTnLJs?si=r3np0HpMQjOv4LqddUwf7w If you've never chosen a word of the year before, you'll want to 1️⃣ Listen to this episode here Word of the Year or Resolutions? on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/176-word-of-the-year-or-resolutions/id1434429161?i=1000545737438 Word of the Year 2022 on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/3PRwxKZZWD5hhciK3qx1BF?si=ymdBB4VfSC6I_YeCRxSioA 2️⃣ Get your WORD OF THE YEAR WORKSHEET here  Get the full show notes here

The Year You Let It Be Easy What if your best year yet didn't require more effort but less struggle? In this episode, I invite you to imagine a year that feels light, free, and full of possibility. Together we'll look at how to stop overworking, overthinking, and over-caring so you can start creating a life that actually feels like yours. ✨ In this episode, you'll learn: - how to think intentionally about your future without pressure or hustle - why your thoughts, not your to-do list, shape your next year - a simple three-step process to create momentum and ease - how to reconnect with what you want, not what everyone else expects This is your reminder that it's safe to slow down. You can dream, choose, and believe your way into a gentler, more joyful year. Press play and let's make this the year you let it be easy. If you liked this show, you'll like this one: The Case for Boredom on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/155-the-case-for-boredom/id1434429161?i=1000530241019 The Case for Boredom on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/4yxhcocfY1yrkNSvCTnLJs?si=r3np0HpMQjOv4LqddUwf7w   If you've never chosen a word of the year before, you'll want to 1️⃣ Listen to this episode here Word of the Year or Resolutions? on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/176-word-of-the-year-or-resolutions/id1434429161?i=1000545737438 Word of the Year 2022 on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/3PRwxKZZWD5hhciK3qx1BF?si=ymdBB4VfSC6I_YeCRxSioA 2️⃣ Get your WORD OF THE YEAR WORKSHEET here  https://smbwell.com/word Get the full show notes here

Whoa warriors, this episode wasn't planned. It started on a walk. One small moment after another, until something landed so clearly that I stopped short, pulled out my phone, and hit record. In this short bonus episode, I share a more personal side of my own life and what that walk stirred up for me in real time. It's reflective, honest, and a little different than my usual episodes. Then, I bring you the heart of a listener-favorite teaching and walk you through how to choose your word of the year in a way that actually feels supportive instead of stressful. Not a word you should pick. A word that meets you where you are and gently guides you toward how you want to feel and live. If you've been craving clarity, a reset, or a softer way to step into the year ahead, this episode is for you. Let it be a pause, a breath, and an invitation to choose on purpose. If you liked this show, you'll like this one: 230: My Most Vulnerable Episode Yet on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/230-my-most-vulnerable-episode-yet/id1434429161?i=1000589799587 230: My Most Vulnerable Episode Yet on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/2kU0nc1wDkFMS0zo2ZmdY0?si=YBmV7dfFTkaUcRGt4_962g GET YOUR WORD OF THE YEAR WORKSHEET HERE: https://SMBwell.com/word Get the full show notes here

Whoa warriors, this episode wasn't planned.   It started on a walk. One small moment after another, until something landed so clearly that I stopped short, pulled out my phone, and hit record.   In this short bonus episode, I share a more personal side of my own life and what that walk stirred up for me in real time. It's reflective, honest, and a little different than my usual episodes.   Then, I bring you the heart of a listener-favorite teaching and walk you through how to choose your word of the year in a way that actually feels supportive instead of stressful. Not a word you should pick. A word that meets you where you are and gently guides you toward how you want to feel and live.   If you've been craving clarity, a reset, or a softer way to step into the year ahead, this episode is for you. Let it be a pause, a breath, and an invitation to choose on purpose.   If you liked this show, you'll like this one:  230: My Most Vulnerable Episode Yet on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/230-my-most-vulnerable-episode-yet/id1434429161?i=1000589799587   230: My Most Vulnerable Episode Yet on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/2kU0nc1wDkFMS0zo2ZmdY0?si=YBmV7dfFTkaUcRGt4_962g   GET YOUR WORD OF THE YEAR WORKSHEET HERE: https://SMBwell.com/word   Get the full show notes here