Podcast appearances and mentions of Oliver Burkeman

What if the key to a meaningful life isn't doing more—but doing less, with intention? In this powerful conversation, Michael and Megan talk with Oliver Burkeman, author of Four Thousand Weeks and Meditations for Mortals, about the myths of productivity, the illusion of control, and why accepting our finite nature might be the best thing we can do for our peace, purpose, and productivity.Memorable Quotes“It's the relaxation of now I can just do the things that matter the most… I can just sort of dive in because I'm no longer trying to make all my actions feel like they are part of some process of eventually getting to total domination of my time and perfect optimization.”“You are being confronted again with this ridiculous thing that it is to be a human—which is to be capable of imagining basically an infinite amount of possibilities and eventualities, but ultimately being a sort of finite material animal and having to choose only some of them.”“Almost everybody who is trying to sort of optimize themselves into absolute control, you know, they're not succeeding. Life is miserable and they're letting people down all over the place.”“There isn't any system or philosophy or approach or sports nutrition drink that is going to enable you to sort of win the battle with human limitation… Now, we figure out how to flourish in absolutely fantastic and wonderfully meaningful and interesting and lucrative ways within those limitations rather than running away from them.”“There's a way of going with the flow that is actually more constructive and productive as well as more peaceful and meaningful.”“I really found that just sort of expecting discomfort from things that matter to me—whether that is a piece of work or an aspect of relationships or parenting—just knowing that it's going to feel uncomfortable sometimes because it's bringing me to my edge and my limitations makes a huge, huge difference.”“A lot of our productivity is the result of anxiety. And I would like to live a productive life for other reasons.”Key TakeawaysRadical Acceptance is Key. Once you stop trying to win the battle with your human limitations, everything changes.Distraction is Avoidance in Disguise. Most often, we're dodging discomfort—and the way out lies in tolerating discomfort.Optimization is Not Salvation. We think we can problem-solve our lives, but tools and systems will always fall short. They're meant to augment, not make us infinite.Meaning is Here, Now. The moments that build a life don't happen  when everything is done—but in the doing itself.Resources4,000 Weeks: Time Management for Mortals by Oliver BurkemanMeditations for Mortals by Oliver BurkemanThe Imperfectionist (Newsletter)Watch on YouTube at:  https://youtu.be/571YmI5h_CsThis episode was produced by Sarah Vorhees Wendel of VW Sound

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If your days feel like swimming against a current you didn't choose, you're not imagining it. Researcher and communication coach Dr. Craig Mattson joins us to map the hidden “rip tides” of digital life—why tools that promised efficiency now burn our attention, how inboxes became group chats in disguise, and what it actually takes to protect focus without disconnecting from your team or your values.We trace Craig's path from small-town roots and radio work into scholarship on modern work culture, then dig into practical fixes that are humane and realistic. We look at email through Cal Newport's “hyperactive hive mind,” share ritual-level tactics to reduce chaos, and talk about Oliver Burkeman's reminder that constraints aren't flaws—they're the shape of a life. Craig brings a surprising companion to the conversation: the wisdom books of Job and Ecclesiastes. Awe, finitude, and the acceptance that most work won't be immortalized can lighten the pressure to make every task meaningful—and still point us toward daily joy, craft, and integrity.We also explore two slippery topics many teams miss: using AI as scaffolding (not a substitute for voice and judgment) and the power of indirect communication—those signals around the words that matter most for people with less organizational sway. If you've wondered whether to quit a job that feels hollow, we offer a grounded way to test redesign vs. exit, name harm clearly, and move with patience instead of panic. By the end, you'll have a clearer map for navigating overwhelm: fewer threads, cleaner decisions, kinder culture, and a practice of waiting that makes room for better choices. If this resonates, follow the show, share it with a friend, and leave a quick review—what's one change you'll try this week?Let me know what you think of this episode? Support the showSupport the Podcast. https://buymeacoffee.com/dorseyrossSocial Media Links, Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dorsey.ross/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/DROCKROSS/ My Book Amazon Book Overcomer https://bit.ly/4h7NGIP

Oliver Burkeman is a British writer and former Guardian columnist best known for Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals, exploring how accepting life's limits beats chasing productivity hacks.We recorded this right before Oliver's show, crammed into his dressing room at the Assembly Rooms. It's intimate, honest, and very Origin Story: where did these ideas come from, and how do they shape a life you're proud of? Oliver (author of 4,000 Weeks) takes us past productivity hacks to acceptance, attention, and the power of choosing enough.In this episodeThe efficiency trap: why getting faster just attracts more work“Life task”: finding your next right thing with the resources you actually havePlanning that breathes (navigation, not micromanagement)Daily-ish over streaks—the kinder path to consistencyHobbies done for their own sake (the case for atelic joy)Attention over productivity: designing a week that actually feels goodAI, inboxes, and why “caught up” is a myth--Tell me in the comments: what would you cut this week if you truly accepted you'll never be on top of everything?Support the showEarly access & bonus episodes: https://www.patreon.com/c/davidmcintoshjrFollow Me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidmcintoshjr

What if the pursuit of happiness is NOT the path to greater life satisfaction? What if being more productive and getting more done isn't actually the way to get ahead?In this episode, I'm revisiting my conversation with author Oliver Burkeman about some of the ways in which we might want to re-examine our relationship to goals, happiness, and the things that are most important to us.This is sometimes a bit painful. because so much of it has to do with confronting some of the hard limits that we like to pretend don't exist. But, as you'll hear, there is ultimately a profound relief and freedom to be found in facing finitude. Key TakeawaysTry to find satisfaction in the journey toward your goals, rather than postponing fulfillment until they are achieved​​.Cultivating your ability to be present to everyday, even mundane, moments can lead to a deeper appreciation of life as it unfolds.Understand that every choice has its consequences, and it's impossible to avoid negative outcomes entirely.Some of the most meaningful experiences in life are not the result of meticulous planning or pursuit but unexpected and unplanned.Being present is a skill that can be practiced in everyday situations like waiting in line or working in the office​​–and not just on the meditation cushion or yoga mat.Mentioned in this EpisodeUpcoming Live Events for Meditations for MortalsThe Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can't Stand Positive Thinking4,000 Weeks: Time Management for Mortals50K Mile Tune-up Listening Guide and Workbook Interested in having Monica present at your next live or virtual event?  Learn more. ★ Support this podcast ★

In this episode of The Puck, Jim Baer sits down with acclaimed author and journalist Oliver Burkeman, whose books Four Thousand Weeks and The Antidote have reshaped how we think about time, productivity, and perfectionism. Oliver introduces ideas from his forthcoming book Meditations for Mortals, exploring how embracing our human limitations—rather than denying them—opens the path to deeper meaning and accomplishment. From the illusion of “getting on top of everything,” to the paradox of slowing down in a productivity-obsessed culture, Oliver offers insights drawn from philosophy, spirituality, and his own journey. Together, Jim and Oliver reflect on mortality, imperfectionism, and how practices like patience, Sabbath rest, and journaling can help us live saner, more fulfilling lives.

Oliver Burkeman is a journalist, author and former “productivity geek.” His bestselling book Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals outlines a saner approach to managing your time in a world of never-ending demands and distractions.  On this week's episode of Everyday Better, Oliver explains why all of the tools and techniques meant to save us time and maximize our productivity ultimately make us feel more stressed and short on time. Oliver argues that the only time management technique that works involves recognizing that you'll never feel on top of things. But once you accept that, you can actually start crossing things off of your to-do list—and he has strategies for how to do that as well. If you liked this episode, check out Leah's exercise for taking control of your calendar through “time crafting.”Follow Leah Smart and Oliver Burkeman on LinkedIn.

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Learn to braid personal narrative with research, family history, and big ideas—plus structures, privacy choices, and momentum tools. Includes a short meditation + oracle card pull. Save your seat → valerieihsan.com/hybrid   ***   Segment 1 (Announcements/Author Updates): (Valerie): prepping for yard sale; planning my free masterclass on hybrid memoir writing for October 8th. (Erick): Southwest Writers Conference speaking gig last weekend, working on new conference pitches; (What can I create new for them?); new Google ads running right now for ghostwriting and editing (Henrika): Santa Barbara writing community; Chicago Lit Festival (met with other She Writes Press writers)  What are you reading? Valerie:  Unstuck (Rachael Herron) (need recommendations for audio books) Just finished:    Creative Act (Rick Rubin)  (Not ready to give up on them, but struggling to finish them:) Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals by Oliver Burkeman;  Erick: Voice of the Fire (Alan Moore) Lost in the Dark (Brad Weismann) Gettysburg: The Last Invasion (Hendrika): Swimming Pretty (history of aquatic swimming by Vicki Valosik); Why We Swim (Bonnie Tsui) (how we lose our differences); Black Cake (Charmaine Wilkerson)(protagonist is a swimmer) Segment 2 (Resources/Tips/Tidbits): Tidbit #1:  Tidbit #2:    Segment 3 (Main Topic):   Notes:   Hendrika is a retired family therapist, a teacher, and a writer, chronicling her life experiences with oppression and resistance in Nazi-occupied Amsterdam, migration, competitive swimming, and misogyny in 1950s Australia. A fierce feminist and activist, de Vries infuses her writing with historical depth and personal perspective on challenges facing women and anyone deemed other. She is the author of When a Toy Dog Became a Wolf and the Moon Broke Curfew, award-winning memoir of her WWII childhood. Her writing has also appeared in The New York Times and the LA Times. She lives in Santa Barbara, CA. Find out more about her at www.agirlfromamsterdam.com. 2019 Mary Sarton Women's Book Award winner 2019 Nautilus Award for Memoir and Personal Journey winner Non-fiction Author Association Gold 2020 Eric Hoffer First Horizon and Culture award winner 2020 Next Generation Indie Book Awards Finalist - Memoirs  2021 NYC Big Book Awards winner - Memoir and Young Adult Non-fiction    Intentionality in Writing: Hendrika de Vries on Resistance, Feminism, and Telling the Truth   Valerie's notes: They aren't just our stories. How have other people done this? How our story relates to the human story. Allowed the little girl to have a voice. How to structure to allow the reader relate to inner experience. intuitive writer, start with notes, jot down memories, voice arrives (I was walking; I was unhappy, how does this relate); authentic voice is how it starts, gradually themes show up. Layers.  Differences between essay and memoir (angry vs what is the story here) learn life-saving: look at the risks, sometimes when you try to save someone, they'll try to drown you. face life as an athlete, commitment and dedication, couldn't translate to writing process (haha), grab time, 11-2 magic time to write, set aside time a few times a week to write (let the story come); think about it while swimming and walking;  risk life to follow values but measuring the risk;  "truth-telling is activist resistance" (Bruce Lipton); The Year of Living Kindly (Donna Cameron) my childhood experiences were psychological examples of resistance: how do we move through difficult times; is memoir self-indulgent? 2017 saw Neo-nazis walking in Virginia then knew others needed to hear about my story because I didn't think this could ever happen again; themes/resistance/loss/what sustains us? How do we create these turning points? How do these define us? Focus on the human resistance (victimhood wasn't allowed); find the good moments; pacing in the story (and our lives) mixing the trauma with tenderness and humor. Find the light in the moments. Don't do it alone. Writers conferences and being with other writers. Share stories and being in community, stimulates our writing, not being afraid to share. Find your community.  Robert Jay Lifton:  "Surviving Our Catastrophes"    Henrik's first memoir: When a Toy Dog Became a Wolf and the Moon Broke Curfew (also available in audio now) “Open Turns: From Dutch Girl to New Australian” Hendrika de Vries | September 2, 2025 | She Writes Press | Memoir  Paperback | 978-1647429508 | $17.99  Ebook | 978-1647429515 | $12.99      And don't forget: Free masterclass: The Alchemy of Memory — Writing the Hybrid Memoir (Wed, Oct 8, 2025). Learn to braid personal narrative with research, family history, and big ideas—plus structures, privacy choices, and momentum tools. 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The British author and journalist Oliver Burkeman has spent decades pondering what it means to live a meaningful life, both in his former Guardian column “This Column WIll Change Your Life” and across several books—most recently, Meditations for Mortals, out in paperback this October. That's why he brings a healthy dose of skepticism to so-called “time management” systems and productivity hacks as a means toward true fulfillment. Burkeman's compelled by the notion that, rather than being separate from time, human beings are time. If people faced the reality of their limited time on the planet head on, he believes there's a real chance to experience greater, more engaged feelings of aliveness.On the episode—our Season 12 kick-off—Burkeman discusses why he's eschewing  perfectionism and finding unexpected liberation in the premise that, to some extent, the worst has already happened, and the best may still be ahead.Special thanks to our Season 11 presenting sponsor, Van Cleef & Arpels.Show notes:Oliver Burkeman[4:26] “Meditations for Mortals” (2024)[6:48] Donald Winnicott[7:46] Martin Heidegger[7:46] "Technics and Civilization" (2010)[7:46] “Being and Time” (1927)[7:46] “Time Warrior” (2011)[7:46] “Time Surfing” (2017)[7:46] “Anti-Time Management” (2022)[10:14] Medieval peasants[10:14] “The 4-Hour Workweek”[13:18] Alicja Kwade[19:23] “Ichi-go, ichi-e” (“one time, one meeting”)[22:00] Eckhart Tolle[22:36] Agnes Martin[23:28] “The Road Not Taken”[40:03] “This Column Will Change Your Life”[51:00] Nicholas Carr[51:00] Clay Shirky[53:40] Jennifer Roberts[59:04] Pomodoro Technique [59:13] Kanban[1:01:33] James Hollis[1:02:40] Alfred Adler[1:02:40] “The Courage to Be Disliked” (2024)[1:06:24] Stoicism

Many of us feel under constant pressure to optimise every moment, to become more efficient, more productive and somehow more worthy. But what if embracing our limits could be the key to living a calmer, more meaningful life? This week's returning guest on my Feel Better, Live More podcast, Oliver Burkeman, believes that accepting that we can't do everything might just set us free. Oliver is the author of the Sunday Times bestselling ‘Four Thousand Weeks' and ‘The Antidote', and for many years wrote a popular weekly column on psychology for the Guardian. His work has also appeared in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Psychologies and New Philosopher. His latest book, ‘Meditations for Mortals: A Four Week Guide to Doing What Counts', takes us on a liberating journey towards a more meaningful life – one that begins not with fantasies of the ideal existence, but with the reality in which we actually find ourselves. Designed as a four-week ‘retreat of the mind', it offers daily wisdom, solace and inspiration to aid a saner, freer and more enchantment-filled way of living. In our brilliant conversation, we discuss: Why the belief that life will finally feel easier once we clear our to-do list is such a persistent illusion How shifting our focus from endless achievement to small, present moments can transform the way we experience each day Why the fantasy of perfect decisions keeps us stuck in indecision, and how accepting the downsides of any choice can set us free How our fear of wasting time is often rooted in perfectionism, and why many of us feel we have to earn our worth through effort The liberating idea of daily-ish habits – a flexible, compassionate way to keep showing up without turning routines into self-criticism Why we don't need to wait for life to feel calm or under control before we start living with more intention How embracing our limits and accepting that time is finite can help us feel more fully alive and connected I was delighted to have the opportunity to speak to Oliver again as he brings such clarity and compassion to questions so many of us grapple with. Instead of offering yet another system for getting more done, this conversation is about stepping back, loosening our grip and recognising that a good life isn't measured by productivity but by presence, meaning and connection. I hope you enjoy listening. Support the podcast and enjoy Ad-Free episodes. Try FREE for 7 days on Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/feelbetterlivemore. For other podcast platforms go to https://fblm.supercast.com.   Thanks to our sponsors: https://join.whoop.com/livemore https://thriva.co/ https://vivobarefoot.com/livemore https://betterhelp.com/livemore   Show notes https://drchatterjee.com/580   DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or qualified healthcare provider. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

What if you didn't have to finish everything to finally rest? In this Meditations for Mortals sleep hypnosis, inspired by Oliver Burkeman's Four Thousand Weeks, you'll be guided to set aside the endless to-do list and surrender into peace.This session is an invitation to let go of striving, to accept that tonight you are already enough, and to drift into effortless sleep. Safe, seen, and free — this is where rest begins.

Can you truly change your personality in ways that make your life feel fuller and more in line with who you want to be? In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Jill sits down with Olga Khazan, author of Me But Better, to explore that question in a way that feels relatable and inspiring. Olga shares her journey of becoming more outgoing and less anxious, mixing scientific insights with honest reflections on the challenges she faced, showing that real change is possible and something you can actively pursue.They also explore the Big Five personality traits and how intentional shifts in your personality can boost your happiness and overall well-being. Olga offers practical strategies you can start using right away and reminds you that the goal is not to impress anyone else but to create a version of yourself that feels healthier, more authentic, and more satisfying to live with every day.Listen and Learn: How personality, once thought to be fixed, can actually change over time How personality is shaped by both genetics and environmentThe Big Five personality model—what each trait means, how factors like conscientiousness overlap with neurodivergence such as ADHD, cultural caveats to the model, and how personality can shift over time through intentional habits and mindsetHow practicing new behaviors, like being more extroverted, can expand your authentic self rather than diminish itWhy stepping outside of your comfort zone, even if it feels “inauthentic” at first, is actually part of growth, showing how personality is fluidHow mindfulness, meditation, and acceptance practices can reduce anxiety and neuroticismThe Personality Assessor Test and why results can sometimes surprise us, and how to embrace both strengths and limitations while exploring change or acceptance through openness, flexibility, and valuesResources:Olga's Book, Me, But Better: The Science and Promise of Personality Change: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781668012543 Olga's Website: Olgakhazan.com; https://olgakhazan.com/Connect with Olga on Social Media: Instagram: @olganator, https://www.instagram.com/olganator/X: https://x.com/olgakhazanOlga's Substack: https://olgakhazan.substack.com/Find More of Olga's Writing at https://www.theatlantic.com/ Free Personality Test: https://www.personalityassessor.com/ About Olga KhazanOlga Khazan is a staff writer for The Atlantic and the author of Weird: The Power of Being an Outsider in an Insider World and ME, BUT BETTER: The Science and Promise of Personality Change. She has also written for The New York Times, the Los Angeles Times, The Washington Post, Vox, and other publications. She is a two-time recipient of the International Reporting Project's Journalism Fellowship and winner of the 2017 National Headliner Award for Magazine Online Writing. She lives with her husband and son in Northern Virginia.Related Episodes:77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Jill Stoddard102. A Liberated Mind with Steven Hayes112. Nature vs. Nurture: Why Temperament Matters with Debbie and Yael343. Heartbreak with Florence Williams347. Job Changes & Career Pivots with Paula Brand363. Worrying Is Optional with Ben Eckstein385. Oliver Burkeman on Embracing Your LimitationsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Have you ever stopped to think about the five core qualities that truly define you? In this episode, I'm taking you on a fun, reflective journey to discover the traits that make you, well… YOU! I'll walk you through an activity that changed the way I see myself and my goals. I'll share my own process and the results that surprised even me! We'll chat about the thought leaders who inspire me and how their unique qualities helped me shape my own “Defining Five.” Grab your favorite notebook and let's get introspective together. By the end of this episode, you'll have a fresh perspective on what makes you shine and a toolkit to help you live with more clarity, integrity, and joy. Book mentioned in this episode:  I Thought It Was Just Me by Brene Brown: https://amzn.to/3JPOA1A Give and Take by Adam Grant: https://amzn.to/4m8ya1q Grit by Angela Duckworth: https://amzn.to/3VbsjO8 The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday: https://amzn.to/4mgcKQj Moral Ambition by Rutger Bregman: https://amzn.to/4goQIcU Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman: https://amzn.to/47EQkog Slow Productivity by Cal Newport https://amzn.to/41OzCiq Links & resources: Plan Goal Plan Planners! Join Here Website: PlanGoalPlan.com LinkedIn: (I post most here!) www.linkedin.com/in/danielle-mcgeough-phd-

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In this video demonstration, I share key journaling tools - simple tracking tools and intentions for success - to start my month. The ultimate goal is improving outcomes for teachers and students. That includes a sense of well-being, not just achievement. When others feel supported and successful, so do I as a coach and a leader. A written explanation is also available below if you prefer to read vs. watch.Page 1: Monthly TimelineThis idea comes from The Bullet Journal Method by Ryder Carroll. It is a calendar for the month in a list format. On the first page of the month in a dot journal, I document one thing I did each day that stood out to me. For example, yesterday (Monday, September 1st, or “1M”), I took a tour of a stone cottage with my family with a realtor.It's not a calendar; I don't typically add planned events ahead of time unless they are important. That's what my digital calendar is for. The function of the timeline comes after you add your activities. It's a tool for reflection. During weekly and monthly reviews (which I will share more about next month), I examine how I am spending my time and make changes if I am not happy with my actions. One way to facilitate this reflection is to separate the monthly timeline into two columns: personal and professional. This helps me quickly assess where I am giving more of my attention and time: to work or to personal commitments. If you are limited on space in your journal, you can use a highlighting system to differentiate between the two, such as green for personal.Finally, I like to track my key habits on the side of the timeline. For me right now, that is writing (W), exercise (E), and budget ($). I put a dot under each column. Again, a simple and visual way to track the positive habits I am trying to build.Page 2: Monthly IntentionsI use the word “intention” purposefully. In the past, I have titled this page “goals”. The problem with this language, at least for me, is that my goals aren't always in my zone of control. For example, I would like to hit a certain weight. While that is a great goal, a lot of factors and influences go into making that happen: watching my diet, exercising, and eating healthy foods. So, intentions are not the same as goals, and they are more than just projects. They cannot be accomplished with one or a couple of steps. They exist somewhere above both goals and projects. More importantly, they are an aspiration for what I want to accomplish this month. It's easy to fall into the “goal/project” list. For instance, in my current set of intentions (also divided by personal and professional), I initially listed “clean out attic” and “set up yearlong P.D. schedule”. These are projects. I revised them with clearer intentions: “Create the start of a studio space for art, storage, etc.” and “Provide high-quality learning experiences for colleagues”. They are more motivating and open. Projects and goals can exist within them.Note: I don't have more than a handful of intentions listed at any one time. I have dozens of projects saved in a task management app (Todoist). What I want to accomplish this month, I migrate over to my intentions page for the month. I aim to have no more than ten (10) intentions, an idea that comes from Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman. It's a good constraint: just the right amount of options to choose from in the moment. We experience decision fatigue and procrastinate when we have too many options, for example, 20 different kinds of ketchup at the grocery store. From there, my daily log should at least partially reflect these intentions. In the example below, from yesterday, I documented a tour my wife and I took of a stone cottage in our small city. We are exploring the idea of downsizing. This wasn't part of our plan when I created my intentions list. Seeing that it is important to us, I will add it. Not as something to accomplish to prioritize. That means it will get more of my attention than other, lesser requests for my attention.Likewise, today (9.2.T), I noted that I wanted to capture insights from my interactions with coaches and leaders during school visits. So I created a custom collection on the next page as a simple tool for this purpose. This became another intention on my monthly list. When this coaching log is complete, I can review all the insights and determine what the common needs are with clients. I may use A.I. to help me with this analysis (I masked the names). While technology is helpful in this way, I find paper and pen to be most beneficial for seeing everything all at once. Digital tools have a way of hiding my commitments - out of sight, out of mind. Next month (October), I will share more about daily logs, as well as how to start a brand new notebook! 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Today, Eric shares five standout books he read this summer. As a passionate reader of 25–30 books a year, he found these books particularly impactful for both business and life. The Last Lecture — Randy Pausch & Jeffrey Zaslow This moving and timeless book was written by computer science professor Randy Pausch, as his final lecture after getting a terminal diagnosis. It blends philosophy, practical wisdom, and personal stories, offering lessons on living with purpose, nurturing relationships, and leaving a legacy. It is a book to hold onto for life, and to pass on to the next generation. Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals — Oliver Burkeman Burkeman reframes time management by reminding us we only have about 4,000 weeks on earth. Instead of chasing endless productivity, he shows how to prioritize what truly matters. The book combines humor, philosophy, and practical tools for blocking, organizing, and auditing time. It is valuable for both business and personal life. Living with a SEAL: 31 Days Training with the Toughest Man on the Planet — Jesse Itzler In this book, entrepreneur Jesse Itzler recounts a month of intense training with a Navy SEAL. His experience is raw, funny, and motivating, pushing readers to go beyond excuses and embrace discipline, resilience, and grit. It is a high-energy reminder that we are capable of far more than we think. Make Your Own Luck: Success Tactics You Won't Learn in Business School — Peter Kash Written by entrepreneur and venture capitalist Peter Kash, this book explores how to create luck by preparing, persevering, and being open to opportunity. Through vivid personal stories, he shows how readiness and mindset can transform challenges into breakthroughs. It is a guide to moving forward, even in uncertain times. Fool Me Once: Scams, Stories, and Secrets from the Trillion-Dollar Fraud Industry — Kelly Richmond Pope In this book, forensic accounting professor Kelly Richmond Pope reveals the hidden world of fraud, from small-town scandals to billion-dollar schemes. Drawing on her TED Talk and Netflix documentary All the Queen's Horses, she highlights the risks of misplaced trust and the importance of vigilance in business. It is an eye-opening and essential read for entrepreneurs. Connect with Eric Rozenberg On LinkedIn Facebook Instagram Website Listen to The Business of Meetings podcast Subscribe to The Business of Meetings newsletter Book links: The Last Lecture Four Thousand Weeks Living with a SEAL Make Your Own Luck Fool Me Once  

In this episode I look at this big question which I often hear in the consulting room, the reasons that lie behind it and what the point to life might be.Your opinion matters. SURVEY here - thank you!: http://bit.ly/savinglivesinslowmotion-surveyNihilism in philosophy: https://www.learnreligions.com/what-is-nihilism-history-250581Cosmic Insignificance: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4340547/Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs: https://www.bitesizelearning.co.uk/resources/maslows-hierarchy-of-needs-theoryAcceptance and Commitment Therapy: https://therisingsuncounseling.com/acceptance-and-commitment-therapy-a-framework-for-a-meaningful-life-copy/Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman: https://www.oliverburkeman.com/fourthousandweeksThe science behind gratitude: https://positivepsychology.com/neuroscience-of-gratitude/The benefits of volunteering: https://www.royalvoluntaryservice.org.uk/volunteering/why-volunteer/benefits-of-volunteering/Ways to ask for help if you struggle to: https://www.wondermind.com/article/asking-for-help/Save your life in slow motion and those of others by subscribing now and sharing. Thank you for listening and for your support. It means a lot to me. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of the Mindful Mama Podcast, Hunter Clarke-Fields sits down with bestselling author Oliver Burkeman to explore the surprising link between self-worth and productivity. Together, they unpack: How our culture conditions us to equate value with busyness The dangers of the "efficiency trap" — and why it leaves us feeling like we're never enough The liberating power of embracing limitations How accepting our finite time can create deeper meaning in daily life This is a gentle but radical invitation to step off the hamster wheel of hustle culture — and redefine success, peace, and purpose on your own terms. ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is the host Mindful Parenting Podcast (Top 0.5% podcast ), global speaker, number 1 bestselling author of “Raising Good Humans” and “Raising Good Humans Every Day,” Mindfulness Meditation teacher and creator of the Mindful Parenting Course and Teacher Training. Find more podcasts, Hunter's books, blog posts, free resources, and more at ⁠⁠⁠⁠MindfulMamaMentor.com⁠⁠⁠⁠. Discover your Unique-To-You Podcast Playlist at ⁠⁠⁠⁠mindfulmamamentor.com/quiz/⁠⁠⁠⁠ We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠/mindfulmamamentor.com/mindful-mama-podcast-sponsors/⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a textSeason 4, Episode 10 - Living Your 4000 WeeksHow many weeks do you have left? Today's episode takes a deep dive into Oliver Burkeman's Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals and what it means for clergy, caregivers, and anyone who feels life slipping by while waiting for “someday.”We'll explore:The math of mortality—4,000 weeks and why it matters.The trap of waiting and how postponed living robs us of joy.Embracing our limits as a spiritual discipline, not a weakness.Practical shifts for living with more depth, presence, and meaning.If you've ever felt stuck on autopilot, this conversation is your invitation to stop waiting and start living now.

Main Topic:  How to Write a Book That Grows Your Business and Honors Your Spirit (Help soul-led entrepreneurs see how writing a book can amplify their work without losing authenticity or feeling salesy.) PATREON: Thank you to our existing patrons for believing in our work offline and here in the podcast.  Become a patron of the arts at Patreon.com/valerieihsan for books, writing instruction, coaching, and planning. Also, the Planner Plays and Monthly Reflections are always free for all members on my Patreon page. But I don't list them as Public", so click correct tier for updated links, dates, and cancellations.  Go to Patreon.com/strangeairstories for short stories in the paranormal mystery genre.   Magic Mind Mental Performance Shot and Sleep Shot. Up to 48% off your first subscription or 20% off one time purchases with code VALERIE20 at checkout You can claim it at: https://magicmind.com/VALERIE20   Segment 1 (Announcements/Author Updates): (Valerie): I've been getting a lot of hits from the universe in the form of repeated messaging that I need to triple down on the the learning in public. I just can't wait until my life and mission statement is perfect before I show up online with a lesson neatly tied with a bow. First, that just prevents me from posting anything. Second, I'm hearing a lot lately that people aren't looking for gurus anymore. They don't want perfection. They can't relate to that. They want to watch the messy middle, and when I heard that (again), the realization hit. I write memoirs about how I got through something and what I learned along the way. I read memoirs so that I can see how they got through something. I want to be inspired by watching (reading) them pull themselves out of the mire and accomplish something difficult, because I want to do that too. "We just want to see real women figuring it out." (Tatyana Gosh) So, I'm going to start really showing up online with the messiness of humanity, and without the lessons already learned. My goal is everyday on IG. A reel, post, or story. Preferably multiples. • I met with colleague yesterday, another coach, and she said something that I immediately wrote down: If I show up imperfect, that doesn't mean bad. I've been so focused on trying to rewrite my limiting belief around perfection = professional, that I didn't take it a step further. Why do I think that if I'm imperfect, I'm bad? Side note: "Who doesn't like a badass woman?" (Tatyana Gosh) (Erick):  What are you reading? Valerie: Just finished:   The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About (Mel Robbins) Creative Act (Rick Rubin) and Anne Abel's new book High Hopes (out in September .. She'll be on the podcast again in October). (Not ready to give up on them, but struggling to finish them:) Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals by Oliver Burkeman; The Year of the Puppy (Alexandra Horowitz) ;  The Teller of Small Fortunes Julie Leong  Erick:  Devil in a Blue Dress (Walter Mosely); Hap and Leonard (stories) (Joe Lansdale)   Segment 2 (Resources/Tips/Tidbits): Tidbit #1:  Tidbit #2:    Segment 3 (Main Topic):   Notes: The problem with traditional “business book” advice Focused on funnels, not fulfillment Often strips the soul from the message Too rigid for creative, intuitive entrepreneurs “If the book reads like a sales page, it's probably not honoring the deeper mission.” What it really means to write a soul-aligned book that supports your business The book becomes a bridge between your inner truth and outer impact Writing from your why positions you as an authority with depth—not just expertise “People buy from those they connect with. Your book is a bridge, not a billboard.” Ways your book can grow your business authentically Builds credibility + trust with aligned clients Deepens your brand story and your core message Expands your reach without burnout (your book travels when you can't) “You're not marketing. You're storytelling. And that's magnetic.”   Let your business offer inform your book—not dictate it Use client patterns and questions to uncover themes Let your unique framework or transformation process shape the content (not just regurgitate) Bonus: You may create your next offer through writing the book Writing How-To Books (Three Story Method series) Avoiding the trap of performance Write with your audience in mind, not for their approval Let go of “shoulds” and write from soul-led service • Examples of what alignment looks like in practice Including rituals, reflections, or creative practices in your book Speaking directly to your dream client as if you're in sacred conversation Closing encouragement: You don't have to choose between success and soul. Your book can hold both. The more you write from your essence, the more magnetic your business becomes “When you write to be liked, you dilute your magic.” Project Runway fails are usually because they didn't stay "true to themselves as a designer" and it show.  

Time is limited. And life is short. So why, asks the writer Oliver Burkeman, do we waste so much of it trying to get on top of things before we can focus on the really meaningful parts of life?

Join us (Dr. Henry Emmons and Dr. Aimee Prasek) as we dig into the concept of GOMO, the Guarantee of Missing Out, as a more empowering alternative to FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) and FOBO (Fear of Being Over). We'll talk about how making choices inherently involves letting go of other possibilities, which, though initially daunting, can lead to a sense of freedom and relief. We'll lean on insights from Oliver Burkeman's 'Four Thousand Weeks' and Barry Schwartz's 'Paradox of Choice,' as we explore some practical strategies to navigate the overwhelming array of choices in modern life and the art of letting go to make space for what you're most connected to.    If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review us wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts!   Sources and Notes: Joy Lab Program: Take the next leap in your wellbeing journey with step-by-step practices to help you build and maintain the elements of joy in your life. Joy Lab Episode about FOBO. Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman Series on authenticity from our Joy Lab podcast: Unmasking Your True Self: Exploring Authenticity and Awe [ep. 216] Embrace Your True Self: Accepted, Connected, & In The Game [ep. 217] The Road Most Travelled: Awakening Through Suffering [ep. 218]  Follow Your Bliss: Awakening to Joy [ep. 219] The Still Small Voice: Awakening with soulfulness [ep. 220] Farivar, S., Wang, F., & Turel, O. (2022). Followers' problematic engagement with influencers on social media: An attachment theory perspective. Computers in Human Behavior, 133. Access here.  Ruth King's website.   Full transcript here.   Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program. Please see our terms for more information. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. – 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at helpline@nami.org. Visit NAMI for more. You can also call or text SAMHSA at 988 or chat 988lifeline.org.

Today Chris raises the question expressed in the title of this episode. Enthusiasts for Artificial Intelligence promise that chatbots will make everyone more efficient and productive--even novelists and scholars. But is that really possible considering what history's most famous creatives tell us about how they went about their work? People who've looked into their daily routines such as Oliver Burkeman (author of, Four Thousand Weeks, Time Management for Mortals) and Mason Currey (author of, Daily Rituals) inform us that people like Charles Darwin and Flannery O'Connor only worked 3 to 4 hours a day on the things we remember them for. The rest of the time they did other things--mostly unrelated. So, would they have gotten more done with the help of artificial intelligence? The Pugs have their doubts. Tune in and find out why. Support the Theology Pugcast on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thetheologypugcast?fbclid=IwAR17UHhfzjphO52C_kkZfursA_C784t0ldFix0wyB4fd-YOJpmOQ3dyqGf8 Connect with Glenn and Every Square Inch Ministries at https://www.esquareinch.com/ Learn more about WPC Battle Ground: https://www.solochristo.org/ Connect with WileyCraft Productions: https://wileycraftproductions.com/

Today Chris raises the question expressed in the title of this episode. Enthusiasts for Artificial Intelligence promise that chatbots will make everyone more efficient and productive--even novelists and scholars. But is that really possible considering what history's most famous creatives tell us about how they went about their work? People who've looked into their daily routines such as Oliver Burkeman (author of, Four Thousand Weeks, Time Management for Mortals) and Mason Currey (author of, Daily Rituals) inform us that people like Charles Darwin and Flannery O'Connor only worked 3 to 4 hours a day on the things we remember them for. The rest of the time they did other things--mostly unrelated. So, would they have gotten more done with the help of artificial intelligence? The Pugs have their doubts. Tune in and find out why.Support the Theology Pugcast on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thetheologypugcast?fbclid=IwAR17UHhfzjphO52C_kkZfursA_C784t0ldFix0wyB4fd-YOJpmOQ3dyqGf8Connect with Glenn and Every Square Inch Ministries at https://www.esquareinch.com/Learn more about WPC Battle Ground: https://www.solochristo.org/Connect with WileyCraft Productions: https://wileycraftproductions.com/

Today Chris raises the question expressed in the title of this episode. Enthusiasts for Artificial Intelligence promise that chatbots will make everyone more efficient and productive--even novelists and scholars. But is that really possible considering what history's most famous creatives tell us about how they went about their work? People who've looked into their daily routines such as Oliver Burkeman (author of, Four Thousand Weeks, Time Management for Mortals) and Mason Currey (author of, Daily Rituals) inform us that people like Charles Darwin and Flannery O'Connor only worked 3 to 4 hours a day on the things we remember them for. The rest of the time they did other things--mostly unrelated. So, would they have gotten more done with the help of artificial intelligence? The Pugs have their doubts. Tune in and find out why. Support the Theology Pugcast on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thetheologypugcast?fbclid=IwAR17UHhfzjphO52C_kkZfursA_C784t0ldFix0wyB4fd-YOJpmOQ3dyqGf8 Connect with Glenn and Every Square Inch Ministries at https://www.esquareinch.com/ Learn more about WPC Battle Ground: https://www.solochristo.org/ Connect with WileyCraft Productions: https://wileycraftproductions.com/

Today Chris raises the question expressed in the title of this episode. Enthusiasts for Artificial Intelligence promise that chatbots will make everyone more efficient and productive--even novelists and scholars. But is that really possible considering what history's most famous creatives tell us about how they went about their work? People who've looked into their daily routines such as Oliver Burkeman (author of, Four Thousand Weeks, Time Management for Mortals) and Mason Currey (author of, Daily Rituals) inform us that people like Charles Darwin and Flannery O'Connor only worked 3 to 4 hours a day on the things we remember them for. The rest of the time they did other things--mostly unrelated. So, would they have gotten more done with the help of artificial intelligence? The Pugs have their doubts. Tune in and find out why. Support the Theology Pugcast on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thetheologypugcast?fbclid=IwAR17UHhfzjphO52C_kkZfursA_C784t0ldFix0wyB4fd-YOJpmOQ3dyqGf8 Connect with Glenn and Every Square Inch Ministries at https://www.esquareinch.com/ Learn more about WPC Battle Ground: https://www.solochristo.org/ Connect with WileyCraft Productions: https://wileycraftproductions.com/

Main Topic:  From Reserved to Ravishing: Writing Spicy Scenes That Still Feel True to You (with guest HR Cole) PATREON: Thank you to our existing patrons for believing in our work offline and here in the podcast.  Become a patron of the arts at Patreon.com/valerieihsan for books, writing instruction, coaching, and planning. Also, the Planner Plays and Monthly Reflections are always free for all members on my Patreon page. But I don't list them as Public", so click correct tier for updated links, dates, and cancellations.  Go to Patreon.com/strangeairstories for short stories in the paranormal mystery genre.   Magic Mind Mental Performance Shot and Sleep Shot. Up to 48% off your first subscription or 20% off one time purchases with code VALERIE20 at checkout You can claim it at: https://magicmind.com/VALERIE20   Segment 1 (Announcements/Author Updates): (Valerie): no go on a workshop I pitched; working to get quotes for shipping companies (it's not as straight forward as I thought); thinking about content and documenting our trip and the prep of it (memoir) (Erick):  What are you reading? Valerie: Just finished:  Creative Act (Rick Rubin) and Anne Abel's new book High Hopes (out in September .. She'll be on the podcast again in October).  The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About (Mel Robbins) (Not ready to give up on them, but struggling to finish them:) Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals by Oliver Burkeman; The Year of the Puppy (Alexandra Horowitz) ;  The Teller of Small Fortunes Julie Leong  Erick:  Devil in a Blue Dress (Walter Mosely); Hap and Leonard (stories) (Joe Lansdale) Hope (H.R. Cole):  Into Thin Air (John Krakauer) Segment 2 (Resources/Tips/Tidbits): Tidbit #1:  Tidbit #2:    Segment 3 (Main Topic):   Notes: H.R. Cole is a Pennsylvania native who completed her first (handwritten) fantasy novel at the age of twelve. She's remained an avid writer and has one published middle grade novel and a successful health journalism career. Cole lives with her husband, dogs, and cats in mountainous Upstate New York.   www.hrcole.com   http://www.instagram.com/hidden.gems.books    Plot where it goes, and the choreography of the scene, what are my non-negotiables? Use it showcase character traits that show up in intimate times. What do I want to portray in this scene?   1. Goal (character development) (ex: kindness? Make a list of how to showcase kindness.)  2. True to self 3. True to character (make a list of words that are appropriate)(Are they seasoned lovers or innocent?)   Fight scenes and sex scenes have some similarities. Common mistakes: Boring, gloss over, not relevant   What makes a good sex scene? Humanize the character Describe details without words that shock you or take you out of the story. Natural. Aligned with personal experience.   Don't feel the speed bump going into the scene.   Follow the Golden Rules of writing just as you would in any other scene. Use the same language in the spicy scenes as the rest of the book.   Shorter sentences in action scenes. Sure. But use the same type of language.   Go through the process of char dev for a reason. Know your character. It pays off when you get to the more complicated scenes (fight, action, sex). Inherent traits. Did I stay true to this character? Did I learn something about a character? Nice place to set up the psychology of a character. Vulnerable scenes are where we learn about the character. Character insight no where else.   What about flashbacks in the scene? (Sentence of thought, convey emotions/doubt)   Getting feedback on spicy scenes: assess the comfort levels of critique partners, warn ahead of time, what's the best way to send this to you. Make it part of your group culture.    Romantasy (fantasy with a strong romantic plot); The Chalice and the Blade series (romantic fantasy)(instead of fantastical romance); tough marketing term because romantasy doesn't necessarily have an HEA.   Spice levels up front in marketing copy. Keywords: romantic fantasy    Be proud of your sex scenes. It's okay to explore it.   And don't forget: Go to valerieihsan.com to schedule a free consultation to see if Aligned Author is right for you.   Get 48% off the Magic Mind : https://magicmind.com/VALERIE20 and use Valerie20 at checkout. #magicmind #mentalwealth #mentalperformance   Find Us:   Valerie's Linktree: https://linktr.ee/valerieihsan (Find Passion Planner discount codes here.) Erick's Linktree link: https://linktr.ee/erickmertzauthor

I'm starting a project exploring the history of self-help; where the ideas came from, how they've changed over time, and what they mean for us today. This episode of The Gentle Rebel Podcast is my chance to set some intentions, explain why I feel drawn to do this, and share how you can get involved if you want to join me for the ride. I'm not starting this project with the end in mind. Sorry, Stephen Covey, but I'm rebelling against the second habit of highly effective people. I honestly don't know how this will look or where it will take me. I'm just intrigued to dig into the backstory of personal development and positive thinking, and explore how it became an industry worth an estimated around $40 billion in 2024, projected to more than double by 2033. Self-help shapes how millions of us think about ourselves, our relationships, our struggles, and our potential. I want to look at where it came from, how it works, and what it's doing to us now. https://youtu.be/GMowyoc4TeA This isn't about belittling self-help I want to approach this with a curious and critical open mind, not a cynical one. I've personally gained insight, tools, and practices from authors in the personal development space. So, I have experienced the value of resources and authors under the broad self-help umbrella. But I do have some questions. One in particular that has long been on my mind...with the ideas in self-help are as widely adopted as they are, why haven't they “worked” in the big-picture sense? Why now feels like a good moment to examine the rise of self-help We're living in a strange mix of economic precarity, post-pandemic disorientation, the maturing of influencer culture, and now AI churning out self-help style advice at industrial speed. If self-help reflects and responds to the anxieties of its time, then this moment feels like a perfect point to ask whether it might be contributing to those same anxieties it claims to ease. The quote that caught my attention About 12 years ago, I read The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can't Stand Positive Thinking by Oliver Burkeman. One idea in it has stuck with me ever since: “Perhaps you don't need telling that self-help books… rarely much help. This is why some self-help publishers refer to the ‘eighteen-month rule', which states that the person most likely to purchase any given self-help book is someone who, within the previous eighteen months, purchased a self-help book—one that evidently didn't solve all their problems.” I was a big reader of personal development books at the time, especially those that spoke to building online businesses around creativity. They gave me a sense of forward momentum and excitement about future possibilities, but I could also feel myself on a treadmill. Old dissatisfaction was replaced with new. That quote made me wonder if the self-help industry insists on not solving our problems. Which makes sense when you think about it...why would a market secure its own demise? It needs to keep inventing new problems to solve. Otherwise it collapses. The 18-month rule and endless repackaging Some people enjoy the sense of growth that comes from reading a new book, and there's nothing wrong with that. But from my experience, a lot of them say the same thing in different clothing. Different anecdotes. Different metaphors. Same structure. So why do we keep reading? And why does the market keep producing more? The Mel Robbins example Earlier this year, I looked into whether Mel Robbins had plagiarised a poem by Cassie Phillips and made up the story that inspired her book The Let Them Theory. I bought and read the book as part of my research. It's not my usual reading choice, and I hadn't read a new personal development book in years. Two things struck me: The writing felt more like marketing copy than the work of a writer. The ideas weren't new; just repackaged versions of stoicism,

  Segment 1 (Announcements/Author Updates): (Valerie): hard stuff at home (sharing that with my patrons, and a little on social media)  (Erick):  What are you reading? Valerie: Just finished: Austin Kleon's Keep Going: 10 Ways to Stay Creative in Good Times and Bad Creative Act (Rick Rubin) and Anne Abel's new book High Hopes (out in September .. She'll be on the podcast again in October). (Not ready to give up on them, but struggling to finish them:) Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals by Oliver Burkeman; The Year of the Puppy (Alexandra Horowitz) ;  The Teller of Small Fortunes Julie Leong  Erick:   Segment 2 (Resources/Tips/Tidbits): Tidbit #1: • Tidbit #2:    Segment 3 (Main Topic):   Notes: Today's episode is about legacy. Not the legacy of awards or bestseller lists. But the kind of legacy that changes hearts. That shifts the field. That ripples out long after you're gone. When you write your book — the real one — you're not just capturing information. You're encoding energy. You're creating a guide. A lighthouse. An invitation. Your book becomes a place someone can go to feel less alone. It becomes a spell, a balm, a declaration. It says, "I've been there too. And here's what I learned." You're not just writing a book. You're writing your book. And that distinction changes everything. Sometimes people come to me and say, “I just want to get it out of my head.” “I want to use it as a business card.” “I want to boost my visibility.” And all of those reasons are valid. In fact, your book can help grow your reach. It can become a doorway to speaking, teaching, building a body of work. But here's the thing: When you write from alignment… from soul… from truth… You don't just get visibility. You get peace. You get clarity. You get momentum, energy, fulfillment. You become more you. Because you're not performing. You're not proving. You're remembering. And that's when your book becomes a legacy. Not because of how many copies it sells — But because of how many lives it touches. Aligned Author isn't a writing bootcamp. It's a sacred, strategic container for birthing the book you were born to write. This is where structure meets intuition. Where craft meets soul. Where resistance meets ritual. Inside Aligned Author, you receive: A sacred 60–90 minute strategy session to clarify your soul's vision A custom action plan that honors your unique creative rhythm Weekly 1:1 coaching sessions (recorded for your reflection) Story structure guidance + intuitive insight + business strategy Meditations, writing exercises, and oracle-based support Ongoing mentorship and accountability — weekly, monthly, and via direct messaging Access to group calls for reflection and celebration And most importantly… You'll walk away with a book that feels like truth. Not just something you wrote… but something you became. So if you're ready — If you're done circling the dream… If you're ready to stop doubting and start devoting... I'd be honored to walk beside you. You can book your Soul Strategy Session today at valerieihsan.com, or DM me @valerieihsan on Instagram. Your story is sacred. Your voice is needed. And your book is waiting to be written — not someday, but now. Thank you for joining me on this journey. Whether you choose to write with me, or on your own, I hope you remember this: You are not here to write like everyone else. You are here to write like you. Because the book you were born to write… Was born for someone who's waiting to read it. Until we meet again — Be brave. Be true. Be writing.   Next Episode: From Reserved to Ravishing: Writing Spicy Scenes That Still Feel True to You (with guest HR Cole)     And don't forget: Go to valerieihsan.com to schedule a free consultation to see if Aligned Author is right for you.   Get 48% off the Magic Mind : https://magicmind.com/VALERIE20 and use Valerie20 at checkout. #magicmind #mentalwealth #mentalperformance   Find Us:   Valerie's Linktree: https://linktr.ee/valerieihsan (Find Passion Planner discount codes here.) Erick's Linktree link: https://linktr.ee/erickmertzauthor

Main Topic:  Today's episode is all about Ego Meeting Soul (the inner vs outer world of writing) In our last episode of the mini podcast series The Book You Were Born to Write, we listened for the first whispers of the book inside you. We honored that quiet knowing — the call to finally write the book that's been circling your spirit. And today… we're stepping into the next phase. The moment when the whisper gets louder… And fear shows up, too. Because the truth is: Wanting to be seen… and fearing that visibility… Often live side by side in the writer's heart.   PATREON: Thank you to our existing patrons for believing in our work offline and here in the podcast.  Become a patron of the arts at Patreon.com/valerieihsan for books, writing instruction, coaching, and planning. Also, the Planner Plays and Monthly Reflections are always free for all members on my Patreon page. But I don't list them as Public", so click correct tier for updated links, dates, and cancellations.  Go to Patreon.com/strangeairstories for short stories in the paranormal mystery genre.   Magic Mind Mental Performance Shot and Sleep Shot. Up to 48% off your first subscription or 20% off one time purchases with code VALERIE20 at checkout You can claim it at: https://magicmind.com/VALERIE20   Segment 1 (Announcements/Author Updates): (Valerie): hard stuff at home (sharing that with my patrons, and a little on social media)  (Erick):  What are you reading? Valerie: Just finished: Austin Kleon's Keep Going: 10 Ways to Stay Creative in Good Times and Bad Creative Act (Rick Rubin) and Anne Abel's new book High Hopes (out in September .. She'll be on the podcast again in October). (Not ready to give up on them, but struggling to finish them:) Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals by Oliver Burkeman; The Year of the Puppy (Alexandra Horowitz) ;  The Teller of Small Fortunes Julie Leong  Erick:   Segment 2 (Resources/Tips/Tidbits): Tidbit #1: • Tidbit #2:    Segment 3 (Main Topic):   Notes: Let's talk about what really stops us from writing. It's not usually time. It's not lack of talent. It's not even discipline. It's the shadow voices that rise up when we start getting close to something real. Things like: “What if people think I'm full of myself?” “Who am I to write this?” “What if I pour my soul onto the page and nobody cares?” That's not laziness. That's vulnerability. That's ego doing its job — trying to protect you from pain, rejection, exposure. And I want to say this with all the tenderness I can: Your ego is not the enemy.   Your ego is trying to keep you safe. It's the part of you that learned to please, to perform, to protect. And when you start writing something true — something sacred — That part gets nervous. Because soul-led writing isn't just about ideas. It's about embodiment. And embodiment means being seen. But here's the secret: You don't need to kill the ego. You just need to give it a new job. Let it become the steward of structure. Let it help you organize your message. Let it take care of the outline, the deadlines, the goals. Let your soul guide the content. Let your ego support the container. This is what I call writing from alignment. Structure + spirit. Mastery + mystery. Ego + soul.   Let me tell you a quick story. Earlier this year, I was working on creating content for my audience. I felt alive while think about it — raw, truthful, exposed. But every time I sat down to finish it or thought about posting it, I froze. I wasn't stuck because of the craft. I was stuck because I was afraid. Afraid of what people would think. Afraid it would change how I was seen. Afraid it would change who I was allowed to be. So I did what I now teach my clients to do: I paused. I lit a candle. I asked: “Who is this content for?” “What do they need to hear?” “What am I protecting by staying silent?” And my soul said: “This story is medicine. But only if you let it be seen.” So I finished it. I sent the email; I've been posting the content. And the response? Emails. Messages. Tears. Connection. Not because it was perfect. But because it was true. That is the power of writing from soul. It's not about proving. It's about revealing. And when ego and soul are in right relationship, your book becomes unstoppable. So I've created a little tool to help you check in with where you are in that dance. It's a simple quiz — part journal worksheet, part self-discovery ritual — called: “Where Is Your Ego Helping… and Where Is It Hijacking?” It'll help you recognize: When you're over-editing out of fear When your visibility blocks are in charge When your ego is actually your greatest asset You can download it for free at valerieihsan.com/soulwhisperpages   And if you're feeling ready to move deeper into this work — If you know the book inside you is real, but the fear feels louder than the fire right now — I'd love to offer you a Soul Strategy Session. It's a 60–90 minute sacred space, just you and me. We'll talk about what's calling to be written. What's standing in your way. And what aligned next step will open the gates. You'll leave with clarity, a custom plan, and a little magic. You can book that now at valerieihsan.com/scheduler  or send me a DM @valerieihsan.   You're not behind. You're unfolding. Your story is sacred. Your fear is human. And your book is waiting — not for your perfection, but for your yes. Next episode, we're talking about legacy. The kind that lives in hearts, in hands, in pages passed down like medicine. Until then… Be gentle. Be honest. Be listening. Next episode: is about legacy. Not the legacy of awards or bestseller lists. But the kind of legacy that changes hearts. That shifts the field. That ripples out long after you're gone.

Today's conversation is with someone whose work has truly shaped the way I think about time, productivity, and what it means to live a meaningful life. I'm joined by Oliver Burkeman — author of the best-selling Four Thousand Weeks and Meditations for Mortals. In this episode, we dive deep into the psychology behind our need for control — how it shows up in our perfectionism, our people-pleasing, and our constant striving to stay ahead of life. We talk about why so many of us feel the pressure to optimize every moment, and how that pressure can leave us more disconnected from ourselves than ever.This is a rich and honest conversation about learning to live with our limitations — and even finding freedom in them. Oliver shares his own struggles with deficit thinking, the myth of the “perfect day,” and what it really means to rest without guilt. If you've ever found yourself stuck in that mindset of “just get through this and then I'll live,” this episode is an invitation to slow down, breathe, and let go — even just a little. I really loved this one, and I think you will too.Try Bettervits for yourself, head on over to bettervits.co.uk and get 15% off your 1st order with my code PANDORA15. Find Oliver:Website: https://www.oliverburkeman.com/ Books:https://www.oliverburkeman.com/meditationsformortals https://www.oliverburkeman.com/fourthousandweeksStay Connected with Hurt to Healing:Instagram: instagram.com/hurttohealingpodTikTok: tiktok.com/@hurttohealingpodLinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/hurt-to-healingSubstack: substack.com/@hurttohealingWebsite: hurttohealing.co.uk Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Life as an entrepreneur can often feel lonely. Being a solopreneur or small business owner in the meetings and events industry is a wonderful experience. However, with all the stress and challenges entrepreneurs face, they often find themselves alone, with no one to share their wins, doubts, and fears with.  In this episode, Eric reads an excerpt from the book he is currently reading and shares some valuable tips to help entrepreneurs avoid loneliness. Digital Nomads Unlike traditional nomads who rely on each other, digital nomads often go it alone. In his book 4000 Weeks, Oliver Burkeman explains that digital nomads, despite the appealing lifestyle, can feel lonely. They travel the world but miss the shared routines that create strong relationships.  Remote Work Without casual, in-person conversations, those who work remotely miss out on spontaneous connections. So entrepreneurs need to be intentional about meeting others and making space for interaction. Build a Circle of Advisors or Join a Community One solution is to create a board of advisors for your business. They should be people you trust and respect, and those you can share authentically with about the highs and lows of your business. You can also join a community of other entrepreneurs. The key is to make it a regular habit because if it is not on your calendar, it is unlikely to happen. Reconnect With What Matters Take time to pause and reflect on what truly matters to you. Ensure your daily actions are moving your business in the right direction, and keep your long-term vision in focus to remain grounded. Stay Flexible and Open Growth requires curiosity and adaptability. As a business owner, you must be willing to try new tools, adopt new services, and explore different ways of working.  Keep Your Vision in Focus  Regularly check in with your long-term goals. Stay open to learning and be willing to embrace new tools, services, and ways of working that support that vision. Connect with Eric Rozenberg On LinkedIn Facebook Instagram Website Listen to The Business of Meetings podcast Subscribe to The Business of Meetings newsletter Book Mentioned: Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals by Oliver Burkeman

Vandaag bespreken we het boek De 4 weken reset van Oliver Burkeman. De originele Engelse titel: Meditations for mortals. Four weeks to embrace your limitations and finally make time for what counts) De Nederlandse ondertitel is, In (ongeveer) 28 dagen meer innerlijke rust. Dank je wel Maven Publishing voor het sturen. We bespraken in afl 51 het boek 4000 weken van Burkeman. Het 4000 weken boek van Burkeman vond ik zeer goed. Het gaf me focus op de eindigheid van mijn leven, dat er naar verwachting maar 4000 weken in mijn leven zitten (80 jaar) waarvan al bijna 3000 geleefd zijn. Of volgens Marcus Arelius ben ik al bijna 3000 weken overleden. Het geeft ook wat onrust, wat kan ik nog doen in de rest van mijn leven? Wat kan ik nog doen dat effect heeft? Wat zin heeft? Dit boek is meer een reflectie en zorgt voor meer rust voor mij. Ik heb zijn advies gevolgd en de afgelopen 4 weken iedere dag een hoofdstuk gelezen. Dat geeft meer rust en ook ruimte om een onderwerp te laten bezinken. Voor mij gaf dit boek wat meer rust, door de eindigheid en de kleine kans op impact onder ogen te zien. Het betekent ook dat ik wat meer kan loslaten en gaan doen, beginnen zonder lang te analyseren voor ik een besluit neem. Toch heb ik de afgelopen weken ook gemerkt dat het me kan aangrijpen of wat we doen effect wel heeft. Oorlogen, klimaat, verlies van democratie, toename ongelijkheid, wat is het nut dan om bezig te zijn met de IDGs? Tegelijkertijd heeft dit boek veel relatie met de IDGs. Hij schrijft lekker leesbaar, en daar iedere dag een hoofdstukken te lezen blijft het behapbaar, terwijl er ook plek is voor verdieping. (zie hoofdstuk Verder lezen) Het boek is opgedeeld in 4 weken - onderwerpen: De eindigheid Kom in actie Loslaten Er zijn Voor dit boek heeft Burkeman grotendeels geput uit zijn nieuwsbrief The Imperfectionist. Hartmut Rosa in de inleiding - proberen greep te krijgen op de werkelijkheid  Week 1 - De eindigheid Het is erger dan je denkt - over de bevreiding van de nederlaag Kajaks en superjachten - Over echt iets aanpakken Je hoeft alleen maar de gevolgen onder ogen te zien - over het betalen van de prijs Leven is meer dan hard werken - over de kracht van een done-lijst Te veel informatie - Over de kunst van het lezen en niet lezen Je kunt je niet om alles bekommeren - Over opgeruimd blijven in een wereld vol rotzooi De toekomst komt later wel - over het nemen van hobbels als het zover is Week 2- Kom in actie Op zoek naar beslissingen - Over het kiezen van een pad tussen de bomen door Dingen afmaken - Over de magie van het voltooien Je taak in het leven - Over wat de realiteit van je vraagt Ga gewoon naar de schuur - Over vriendschap sluiten met je angst Regels voor het leven - Over het ongeveer elke dag dingen doen Drie uur - Over het krijgen van focus in de chaos Krijg zin in problemen - Over het nooit bereiken van de moeiteloze fase Week 3 - Loslaten Als dit nu eens makkelijk zou zijn? Over de valse verlokking van je best doen De omgekeerde gouden regel - Over niet je ergste vijand zijn Sta edelmoedigheid niet in de weg - Over de zinloosheid van ‘een beter mens willen worden' Gun anderen mensen hun problemen - Over het bemoeien met je eigen zaken Een mooie tijd of een mooi verhaal - Over de voordelen van onvoorspelbaarheid Stel je een kwantitatief doel - Over het ontslaan van je innerlijke kwaliteitscontroleur Hoezo gestoord worden? Over het belang van je laten afleiden Week 4 - Er zijn Stop met aardig zijn voor je Toekomstige Ik - Over het in het hier en nu staan Een zinvol bestaan als uitgangspunt - Over eerst jezelf uitbetalen Slordige gastvrijheid - Over het verband zien tussen de foutjes Klamp je niet aan het leven vast - Over de dingen voorbij laten gaan Onvoorstelbaar - Over twijfel als bron van troost Cést fait par du monde - Over het gewoon proberen

BEST OF In an effort to make time for ourselves, many of us fall back on using To Do lists and time blocking. But often these strategies can end up with the same result: getting lost in chasing productivity. So how do we make time for the things that truly count? Oliver Burkeman is a New York Times bestselling author of books such as ‘Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals’ and ‘Meditations for Mortals: Four Weeks to Embrace Your Limitations and Make Time for What Counts’. Oliver is also a regular columnist for The Guardian. If there is anyone who truly understands the philosophy and psychology of time management and happiness, it’s Oliver. Oliver shares: The mindset you should be using when you first approach a task if you want it to be achieved easily How you can free up time by minimising time spent on worrying The strategy you should be utilising instead of a to-do list to actually create a sense of achievement Why being open to distractions can actually be beneficial Key Quotes:“Don’t start from the position that unexpected things happening must be bad.” “There is this tendency to set things up in your mind so that you can never feel like you’ve done something well enough.” Connect with Oliver via his website, or get his latest book, Meditations for Mortals, here My latest book The Health Habit is out now. You can order a copy here: https://www.amantha.com/the-health-habit/ Connect with me on the socials: Linkedin (https://www.linkedin.com/in/amanthaimber) Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/amanthai) If you are looking for more tips to improve the way you work and live, I write a weekly newsletter where I share practical and simple to apply tips to improve your life. You can sign up for that at https://amantha-imber.ck.page/subscribe Visit https://www.amantha.com/podcast for full show notes from all episodes. Get in touch at amantha@inventium.com.au Credits: Host: Amantha Imber Sound Engineer: Martin Imber See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kate is juggling a lot: work, kids, caregiving for an elder, a dance troupe, the PTA, community organizing. Oh, and she runs a ‘90s-themed DJ night, too. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Oliver Burkeman, author of Four Thousand Weeks and Meditations for Mortals, to talk with Kate about how to stop doing everything all the time. If you liked this episode check out: How To Manage Your Precious Time Do you have a problem that needs solving? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer. Get more of How To! with Slate Plus! Join for exclusive bonus episodes of How To! and ad-free listening on all your favorite Slate podcasts. Subscribe from the How To! show page on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Or, visit slate.com/howtoplus for access wherever you listen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kate is juggling a lot: work, kids, caregiving for an elder, a dance troupe, the PTA, community organizing. Oh, and she runs a ‘90s-themed DJ night, too. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Oliver Burkeman, author of Four Thousand Weeks and Meditations for Mortals, to talk with Kate about how to stop doing everything all the time. If you liked this episode check out: How To Manage Your Precious Time Do you have a problem that needs solving? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer. Get more of How To! with Slate Plus! Join for exclusive bonus episodes of How To! and ad-free listening on all your favorite Slate podcasts. Subscribe from the How To! show page on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Or, visit slate.com/howtoplus for access wherever you listen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kate is juggling a lot: work, kids, caregiving for an elder, a dance troupe, the PTA, community organizing. Oh, and she runs a ‘90s-themed DJ night, too. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Oliver Burkeman, author of Four Thousand Weeks and Meditations for Mortals, to talk with Kate about how to stop doing everything all the time. If you liked this episode check out: How To Manage Your Precious Time Do you have a problem that needs solving? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer. Get more of How To! with Slate Plus! Join for exclusive bonus episodes of How To! and ad-free listening on all your favorite Slate podcasts. Subscribe from the How To! show page on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Or, visit slate.com/howtoplus for access wherever you listen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kate is juggling a lot: work, kids, caregiving for an elder, a dance troupe, the PTA, community organizing. Oh, and she runs a ‘90s-themed DJ night, too. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Oliver Burkeman, author of Four Thousand Weeks and Meditations for Mortals, to talk with Kate about how to stop doing everything all the time. If you liked this episode check out: How To Manage Your Precious Time Do you have a problem that needs solving? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis. Our technical director is Merritt Jacob and our supervising producer is Joel Meyer. Get more of How To! with Slate Plus! Join for exclusive bonus episodes of How To! and ad-free listening on all your favorite Slate podcasts. Subscribe from the How To! show page on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Or, visit slate.com/howtoplus for access wherever you listen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's dive into some unconscious ways us women tend to sabotage our self-love—especially in times of collective stress, societal pressure, and emotional overwhelm. In a world that constantly demands more from women—more productivity, more perfection, more performance—it's no wonder we struggle to stay connected to our own self-worth.If you've ever felt reactive, rushed, or stuck in regret, this conversation will give you the mindset shifts and grounding reminders you need to return to yourself.You will learn how to...Stay rooted in self-worth when the world feels like it's on fireRecognize the difference between reacting and respondingFree yourself from the cycles of rushing and regrettingThis self-love podcast episode is meant to help you reflect rather than react, slow down instead of rushing, and trust yourself instead of spiraling in regret.We often think of self-love as something fluffy or indulgent, but the truth is: it's crucial. It's the foundation for how we show up in the world, how we treat others, and how we protect our peace. As you'll hear in this episode, the more you cultivate self-love, the less reactive you become. The more grounded you are, the less likely you are to betray yourself in moments of stress or uncertainty.Remember: self-love isn't a luxury—it's the foundation of personal and collective healing.If you enjoyed this self-love podcast, share it with your friends to spread the gift of self-love!Deepen your self-love journey with Mary's books:*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcastMentioned In This Episode…Joy Sullivan's newsletter “Women at the Protest”Meditations for Mortals by Oliver BurkemanEp. 250 on Mary's Cup of Tea: Productivity Advice Meets Self-Compassion with Oliver Burkeman

In Episode 306, The Link Between the 'Insecure Overachiever' and ADHD, You Will Discover: What the "insecure overachiever" is and why ADHD brains can fall into this pattern. The core causes driving this exhausting cycle Practical strategies to stop tying your worth to achievement—preventing burnout while staying true to what matters most. Links From The Podcast Learn more about private coaching here Learn more about We're Busy Being Awesome here Get the top 10 tips to work with your ADHD brain (free ebook!) Discover my favorite ADHD resources Get the I'm Busy Being Awesome Planning System Get the I'm Busy Being Awesome Podcast Roadmap Take my free course, ADHD Routine Revamp Read the Oliver Burkeman piece here Subscribe to his newsletter here Check out the episode on Front End Perfectionism here Listen the episode on Imposter Syndrome here This post contains affiliate links, meaning I may earn a small commission if you make a purchase through my links, at no extra cost to you. Disclosure info here. Leave IBBA A Rating & Review! If you enjoy the podcast, would you be a rockstar and leave a review? Doing so helps others find the show and spreads these tools to even more people. Go to Apple Podcasts Click on the I'm Busy Being Awesome podcast Scroll down to the bottom of the page, where you see the reviews. Simply tap five stars; that's it! Bonus points if you're willing to leave a few sentences sharing what you enjoy about the podcast or a key takeaway from the episode you just heard. Thanks, friend! Chapter Outline 00:00 Introduction: The Pressure to Do More 01:34 Exploring the Insecure Overachiever 04:19 ADHD and the Insecure Overachiever 07:46 Layers of Overachievement 14:29 Recognizing the Patterns 18:58 5 Steps to Overcome Insecure Overachievement

If you've been a PWF listener for a while, you know that we love self-agreements. Creating self-agreements based on your goals may sound like a simple process, but we find that some big questions often come up along the way.To answer this week's listener question, we're diving deep into value and accountability systems, and we're giving you practical exercises you can use to uncover your desires and create agreements that actually work for you instead of against you.In this episode, we talk about:— Why all agreements ultimately start as agreements with yourself— The importance of getting explicit about what you actually want versus what you think you "should" want— How to use desire excavation to uncover your true motivations— The power of using verbs in your agreements to make them actionable— Understanding and implementing both natural and manufactured consequences of not following through— Building in rewards and reinforcement for meeting your agreements— Creating support scaffolding through accountability partners, apps, and community— Why perfectionism sabotages agreements and how "daily-ish" can be more effective than rigid expectations— Identifying and removing friction points that get in the way of keeping agreements— Using creative problem-solving to make agreements easier to keep— How keeping agreements with yourself builds self-esteem, integrity, and resilience— The importance of aligning your agreements with your core valuesResources mentioned in this episode:— Oliver Burkeman's book Four Thousand WeeksJOIN The Year Of Opening® community for a full year of learning & support. Registration is open now at ⁠⁠www.TheYearOfOpening.com⁠⁠Learn the 5 secrets to open your relationship the smart wayAre you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.comGet the answers you want to create the open relationship of your dreams! Sign up for an Ask Me Anything hereMusic: Dance of Felt by ⁠Blue Dot Sessions

Tune in to hear:What can Queen Elizabeth I, of England, teach us about the power of saying “no?”Why is saying “no” just as important, if not more important, than saying “yes” in our journey towards a purposeful life?What can be our guidepost when deciding when to say “yes” and when to say “no?”How does living a purposeful life improve decision-making behavior going forward?What 3-step process does Oliver Burkeman lay out for saying “yes” to our highest purpose and saying “no” to things that do not serve it?LinksThe Soul of WealthOrion's Market Volatility PortalConnect with UsMeet Dr. Daniel CrosbyCheck Out All of Orion's PodcastsPower Your Growth with OrionCompliance Code: 1563-U-25155

"You Actually Miss Your Life While You're Trying to Protect It". That's the provocative idea at the heart of this episode with bestselling author Oliver Burkeman (Four Thousand Weeks). Oliver reflects on how class, money, and time shape our identity and our illusions of control. From childhood popsicle enterprises to awkward dinner bills and the haunting anxiety of spending money in the present, the discussion digs deep into the emotional undercurrents of financial life. No tidy answers, just honest questions. —----------------------------- Read Oliver's Writing: oliverburkeman.carrd.co   —----------------------------- Follow 50 Fires on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/50firespod/ Please direct business inquires to: blindnilaudio@magnolia.com Cover Art: Josh Passler - TheFinArtist.com Music Credits:  Alexandra Woodward / Rabbit Reggae / courtesy of www.epidemicsound.com Cody Francis / Wherever You're Going / courtesy of www.epidemicsound.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I have the secret to get more of the RIGHT stuff done, without feeling burnt out. This is the productivity method that changed everything for me. Are you constantly busy but still feel like you're not moving the needle in your life or business? In this video, I walk you through the exact system I use to plan my day, increase productivity, and avoid burnout. Learn how to prioritize what matters, structure your calendar, and build a lifestyle that supports your goals — not drains you. Whether you're an entrepreneur, student, or simply someone craving more structure, you'll leave this video with a full productivity reset. What you'll learn: * My exact time-blocking method using Google Calendar * How to define your #1 priority and non-negotiables * The difference between being busy vs. productive * How to design a schedule that gives you more energy * My favorite books & tools for productivity Links: Free daily productivity newsletter: https://xotori.beehiiv.com/subscribe    Books mentioned: The ONE Thing by Gary Keller: https://bit.ly/4k9FzgW   4,000 Weeks by Oliver Burkeman: https://bit.ly/3Zzjpwk   Follow Tori on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toristerling_/?hl=en Follow Tori on Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@toridesimone_?lang=en   This video is about: * Teaching you how to plan your day around your priorities instead of your tasks * Helping you build a schedule that energizes you, not drains you * Walking through step-by-step time-blocking in Google Calendar * Gives a system to manage to-dos without overwhelm * Leaves you feeling focused, in control, and excited about your day Timestamps: 00:00 – Why you're always burnt out 00:46 – How I scaled without burnout 01:20 – The power of one priority 02:50 – Examples of shifting priorities 03:30 – What are your non-negotiables? 05:10 – Scheduling your dream lifestyle 06:40 – My Google Calendar method 07:30 – Show up to your own life 08:00 – Master to-do list strategy 09:00 – Weekly & daily task breakdown 10:00 – Planning deep work first 11:00 – Time-block your entire day 12:00 – Why time-blocking works 13:00 – How to prep each week 14:00 – Transform your productivity 14:50 – Productivity books + newsletter Watch this on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Tnf0U3s2Fs4  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Are you constantly battling the feeling of not having enough time? Join Patrick McGinnis as he explores the enlightening world of Oliver Burkeman, the acclaimed author of 4,000 Weeks and his latest release, Meditations for Mortals. Oliver shares his surprising realization that doing everything is impossible and how embracing our limitations can lead to greater productivity and peace of mind. Together, they unpack the modern phenomenon of FOMO, its roots in our digital age, and the universal challenge of choosing one path over another. Oliver also introduces the core concepts from his new book, offering practical, bite-sized meditations to help you shift your perspective on time, embrace imperfection, and prioritize what truly matters—all without getting bogged down by complicated systems. Get ready to rethink your relationship with time and discover a more intentional, serene way of living. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the key to a remarkable life isn't doing more—but doing less, better? In this episode, Peter McGraw welcomes author Oliver Burkeman to explore themes from his latest book Meditations for Mortals. They dive into the beauty of limits, the folly of perfectionism, and why embracing imperfection might be the most productive thing you can do. Tune in for kayak metaphors, scruffy hospitality, and practical wisdom for the Solo life.Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! https://www.petermcgraw.org/solo

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by your to‑do list? This episode is truly the best productivity advice you'll ever receive because it's built on a foundation of self-compassion. It's  Oliver Burkeman exposes why mainstream time management hacks fail and how accepting your human finitude liberates you to be meaningfully productive.You will learn how to...redefine productivity beyond endless to‑do listsditch hustle culture, but still do what matters mostapproach time management with self-acceptance and self-compassionunlock mental shifts that free you from perfectionism, anxiety, and overwhelmcare about the world's problems without succumbing to paralyzing despairRemember: One day, you will die with an unfinished to-do list. No amount of productivity hacks will avoid that. Let this truth liberate you to focus on what truly matters and approach your workload with self-acceptance, self-compassion, and self-love.OLIVER BURKEMAN is the acclaimed author of Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals and Meditations for Mortals: Four Weeks to Embrace Your Limitations and Make Time for What Counts. His earlier works include The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can't Stand Positive Thinking and HELP! How to Become Slightly Happier and Get a Bit More Done. For years, he penned the Guardian column “This Column Will Change Your Life,” and his writing has been featured in the Observer, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Psychologies magazine, and New Philosopher. A former Brooklyn resident, Oliver now lives with his wife and son in England's North York Moors.Sign up for Oliver's newsletter, The Imperfectionist Please get yourself copies of Four Thousand Weeks and Meditations for Mortals!!And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcastMentioned In This Episode...Productivity for Self-Lovers, Ep. 125 on Mary's Cup of Tea PodcastElizabeth Gilbert's book Eat, Pray, LoveElizabeth Gilbert's book, CommittedResonance: A Sociology of Our Relationship to the World by Hartmut RosaNew York Times article on NoveltySlow Productivity by Cal NewportAre We Still Empathic if We Don't Take Action?

In this episode of The Art of Charm, we sit down with bestselling author and productivity renegade Oliver Burkeman to unpack his refreshingly honest approach to time, ambition, and self-worth. Drawing from his latest book Meditations for Mortals, Oliver introduces a new philosophy he calls Imperfectionism — a radical shift from hustle culture and perfection paralysis. We discuss the psychology of high achievers who constantly feel behind, the traps of productivity debt, and how letting go of perfection can paradoxically lead to real momentum, deeper relationships, and a more meaningful life. If you're constantly stuck between ambition and exhaustion, trying to “optimize” your way into fulfillment, this conversation might just be the permission slip you didn't know you needed. What to Listen For [00:00] Why all decisions come with a downside — and why that's freeing [00:03:55] What is “Imperfectionism,” and how can it help you escape productivity traps? [00:08:05] How comparison and perfectionism stop you from building meaningful connections [00:13:52] Why authenticity beats polish — in branding, leadership, and life [00:22:46] “Productivity debt” — and how it silently undermines your confidence [00:29:18] What is decision hunting, and how does it unlock real momentum? [00:33:55] Why one small outreach can reconnect you to a lost part of yourself [00:40:25] The surprising key to building lasting habits (hint: it's not willpower) [00:44:00] The “Reverse Golden Rule” that every people-pleaser needs to hear [00:53:36] Oliver's favorite meditation for starting from sanity Episode Takeaways: You're not lazy — you're stuck in the illusion of finding a perfect decision. Accepting your finitude might be your greatest advantage. Momentum doesn't come from thinking your way into action. Start small. Make a decision. Any decision. The most powerful personal brand you can build is the one where you drop the mask. If your perfectionism is driving your productivity, it's probably also driving your burnout. You can't outsource meaning — you have to make the hard trade-offs and choose your consequences intentionally. Start embodying who you want to be now, not later. Even 10 minutes a day can shift your identity. A Word From Our Sponsors Tired of awkward handshakes and collecting business cards without building real connections? Dive into our Free Social Capital Networking Masterclass. Learn practical strategies to make your interactions meaningful and boost your confidence in any social situation. Sign up for free at theartofcharm.com/sc and elevate your networking from awkward to awesome. Don't miss out on a network of opportunities! Unleash the power of covert networking to infiltrate high-value circles and build a 7-figure network in just 90 days. Ready to start? Check out our CIA-proven guide to networking like a spy! Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince—where high-end essentials meet unbeatable prices. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Shopify makes it easy to start, scale, and succeed—whether you're launching a side hustle or building the next big brand. Sign up for your $1/month trial at shopify.com/charm. Need to hire top talent—fast? Skip the waiting game and get more qualified applicants with Indeed. Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at Indeed.com/charm. Curious about your influence level?  Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence. Resources from this Episode Meditations for Mortals: Four Weeks to Embrace Your Limitations and Make Time for What Counts Oliver Burkeman's website Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on LinkedIn Johnny on LinkedIn AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The liberation that comes from realizing that you're never going to get everything done.   Oliver Burkeman is the author of the Sunday Times bestselling Four Thousand Weeks, The Antidote, and most recently, Meditations for Mortals. His work has also appeared in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Psychologies and New Philosopher. He has a devoted following for his writing on productivity, mortality, the power of limits, and building a meaningful life in an age of bewilderment.    Oliver is one of many great teachers featured on Waking Up, a top-notch meditation app with amazing teachers and a ton of courses for all levels. If you subscribe via this link: wakingup.com/tenpercent, you'll get a 30-day free trial—and you'll be supporting the 10% Happier team, too. Full and partial scholarships are available.   In this episode we talk about: What the term “imperfectionism” means The illusion of reaching a point where "everything's done" Why there's liberation in seeing how finite we are  Why small, imperfect actions are more valuable than perfect plans Why overplanning is a kind of avoidance How to make decisions  The importance of finishing things Who you should develop a taste for problems Why effort doesn't always equal value Why we need to stop protecting other people's feelings And the paradox of mattering immensely and not at all   Related Episodes: The Power of Negative Thinking  Time Management for Mortals   Join Dan's online community here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel