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#162 - How to Have Hard Conversations with Your Coparent

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 2, 2025 19:15 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!Watch this episode on YouTube.Having tough conversations with your coparent can feel overwhelming, especially when emotions run high or past conflict clouds your judgment. In this video a family law attorney and a therapist talk about practical, compassionate strategies to help coparents with difficult discussions.Whether you're deciding on daycare, addressing new romantic partners, or managing your child's education, this video will help you:- Recognize your own mixed emotions- Prepare for conflict without defensiveness- Break conversations into manageable steps- Stay grounded when the other parent is dismissive- Seek understanding instead of just solutionsThis isn't about “winning” the argument—it's about improving communication, even in high-conflict situations.

#161 - Can A 12 Year Decide Which Parent to Live With?

Play Episode Listen Later May 26, 2025 13:16 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!Watch this episode on YouTube:  https://youtu.be/JZg4RHaNxd4There's a widely misunderstood belief that children can choose which coparent to live with once they turn 12. But the reality is far more complex—and emotionally loaded—for both kids and parents.In this video we unpack the legal truth, emotional toll, and long-term consequences of involving children in custody decisions. You'll hear why children often say what they think adults want to hear, how parents sometimes weaponize a child's "preference," and how fragile adult self-esteem can result in heartbreaking consequences for the whole family.

#160 - Why Coparents Should Care About Mindfulness

Play Episode Listen Later May 19, 2025 36:05 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!Watch this episode on YouTube:  Mindfulness is a powerful tool for navigating high-conflict coparenting dynamics. In this episode, we talk with Karen Kranbuehl — a licensed clinical social worker and attorney — about how mindfulness can help coparents move from automatic, stress-driven reactions to more intentional and productive communication.Learn how slowing down, being curious, and embracing non-judgmental awareness can unlock better outcomes for both you and your children.Topics covered include:What mindfulness really meansThe science behind automatic stress responsesReal-life examples of mindful coparentingWhy noticing is the first step toward changeHow small self-care actions build trust in yourselfThis episode is especially helpful for coparents dealing with emotionally charged situations, conflict resolution, or court-ordered communication platforms like parenting apps.The list of values Karen referenced can be found here:  https://www.actmindfully.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/Values_Checklist_-_Russ_Harris.pdf Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at ron@coparentacademy.comTo see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

#159 - 8 Discipline Mistakes That Can Land You in Court

Play Episode Listen Later May 12, 2025 16:39 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/-miVOo1A5NwDiscipline done wrong can destroy your relationship with your child—and even land you in court. In this episode, we break down 8 common discipline mistakes that cost parents not only thousands in legal fees but also the trust of their children and coparents.Whether you're going through a custody battle, coparenting after separation, or just trying to raise emotionally healthy kids, this video gives you actionable insights to parent wisely—without risking your legal standing or your child's emotional wellbeing.Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at ron@coparentacademy.com.  To learn more about becoming the best coparent you can be, visit coparentacademy.com.

#158 - Do You Know Why You're Mad at Your Coparent?

Play Episode Listen Later May 5, 2025 11:38 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!Watch this episode on YoutubeStruggling with a high-conflict coparent?You're not alone. But while conflict in coparenting might be unavoidable it doesn't have to be destructive — to you or your kids.In this episode, we'll break down a powerful mindset shift to help you stay grounded during frustrating moments. Using the common (and infuriating) example of your coparent being late to a custody exchange, we'll explore:Why your anger might not be about just being 10 minutes lateHow to use journaling to uncover and process emotional triggersA simple question to reframe the situation and regain controlHow your emotional response impacts your child — and your custody caseWhen and how to communicate your boundaries without looking reactiveYou'll walk away with practical tools to protect your peace, show up better for your kids, and stop giving your coparent power over your mood.

#157 - 8 Reasons Not to Mindread Your Coparent

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 28, 2025 11:59 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!Watch this episode on YouTube:  https://youtu.be/wtOVdWh5RLQAre you tired of unnecessary conflicts and misunderstandings with your coparent? Mindreading can be a major relationship killer, including your coparenting relationship. In this episode, we talk about 8 key reasons why you should never try to mindread your coparent. From avoiding miscommunication to promoting a healthier coparenting dynamic, we discuss the benefits of not assuming what's on your coparent's mind. Watch until the end to learn how to improve your coparenting relationship and create a more positive environment for your child.For more resources and in-depth courses visit www.coparentacademy.com.Have questions or comments? We'd love to hear from you! Send them to ron@coparentacademy.com.

#156 - Is the Right of First Refusal Hurting Your Child?

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 21, 2025 15:57 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!Watch this episode on YouTube:  https://youtu.be/u2y48WhgMdIIs the Right of First Refusal good for your parenting plan—or a source of unnecessary conflict?In this episode, we break down the controversial clause known as the Right of First Refusal in custody agreements.You'll learn:What the Right of First Refusal actually isWhen it works—and when it causes more harm than goodThe impact on children, parental conflict, and coparenting dynamicsWhy we usually recommend against including itWhat to consider if you do want to include it in your plan

#155 - Are You Overcommunicating with Your Coparent?

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 14, 2025 18:17 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!Watch this episode on YouTube:  https://youtu.be/lqVKHHxQQaYUnnecessary communication is one of the worst unforced errors in coparenting. Learn what necessary coparenting communication actually looks like, how to avoid emotional traps, and how to stay focused on your child's best interests.You'll learn: ✅ The difference between helpful and necessary communication✅ How to respond to emotional or petty messages✅ What to say when your coparent keeps over-sharing✅ A journalistic method to keep messages clear and focused✅ Why strict boundaries lead to healthier coparenting

#154 - Outside My Window of Tolerance

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 7, 2025 18:42 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!Watch this episode on YouTube  This week a tornado hit our home. And I got COVID. I was reminded how fragile our window of tolerance can be when life throws everything at us all at once.This week I found myself way outside of my own window of tolerance. In this episode I talk about what that looked like and how I found my way back.In this episode, I talk about:The emotional and physical toll of back-to-back crisesHow trauma affects our ability to self-regulateThe importance of relationships in helping us return to balanceHow these lessons connect with coparentingWhether you're navigating your own personal storm or working to stay centered in a challenging coparenting situation, I hope this episode helps you feel seen—and maybe even a bit more prepared.

#153 - How to Calm Your Upset Child

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 31, 2025 9:55 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!Watch this episode on Youtube:  https://youtu.be/qRtXCKc3qOIAre you struggling to connect with your child during emotional meltdowns?Feel like nothing you say helps them calm down or understand what went wrong?In this video, we break down the powerful 4 Rs method — Regulate, Relate, Reason, Restore — based on the work of Dr. Bruce Perry (3 Rs) and trauma-informed parenting techniques. This simple, science-backed approach helps you de-escalate emotional outbursts and guide your child with empathy, connection, and calm.✨ What You'll Learn:How to stay calm when your child is dysregulatedWhy connection must come before correctionHow to build trust even after conflictThe exact steps to create a safe, emotionally supportive environment for your child.Chapters: 00:00 Introduction00:42 Regulate03:23 Relate05:55 Reason07:31 Restore

#152 - How to Understand Your Child's Window of Tolerance

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 24, 2025 11:58 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!Watch this episode on YouTube:  https://youtu.be/XYotWpy3HW4Why do kids suddenly explode with emotion—or completely shut down? In this episode, we look at how Dr. Dan Siegel's Window of Tolerance model helps us understand emotional regulation in children.Learn:- What causes kids to "flip their lid"- How to spot hyper- and hypo-arousal- Practical tools to bring your child back into their window of tolerance- How to expand your child's window of tolerancePerfect for coparents, guardians, educators, and anyone working with children.For more resources and in-depth courses visit www.coparentacademy.comHave questions or comments? We'd love to hear from you! Send them to ron@coparentacademy.com

#151 - How to Reconnect with your Child

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 17, 2025 19:28 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!Are you struggling to connect with your child after a divorce or separation? Do you feel like parenting issues may lead to problems in your coparenting relationship? In this episode, we discuss a powerful, trauma-informed approach to connection called PACE (Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity, and Empathy).Originally developed by Dr. Dan Hughes for children in the foster system, PACE can help strengthen your bond, rebuild trust, and support your child through emotional challenges—even in high-conflict situations.What You'll Learn in This Episode:How to create a safe emotional space for your child The 4 key elements of the PACE approach How to use playfulness to repair disconnection The difference between accepting feelings vs. behaviors How curiosity and empathy can help your child feel heardParenting through separation or divorce is tough, but with the right tools, you can build a stronger, healthier relationship with your child.

#150 - Hierarchy of Needs for Kids in Two Homes

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 10, 2025 11:53 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!Coparenting is challenging, but what truly matters for your child's well-being? In this video, we break down Dr. Emery's adaptation of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs for children in two homes. We'll discuss what matters more than simply having two parents and how you can create the best possible environment for your child—even after separation or divorce.

#149 - What is Your Internal Working Model?

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 3, 2025 15:39 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!Have you ever reacted to your child in a way that surprised you? Do you sometimes feel frustrated with how you parent? The answer might lie in something deeply ingrained—your internal working model.In this video, we explore:

#148 - Unclassifiable - The Kids Who Changed Attachment Theory

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 24, 2025 15:04 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!Have you ever wondered about kids whose behaviors don't neatly fit into traditional attachment theory categories? Those are the "unclassifiable" children first observed by Mary Ainsworth during her "Strange Situation" tests. This video looks at how these unclassifiable reactions led researcher Mary Main to identify a new attachment style known as "disorganized attachment."For more resources and in-depth courses visit www.coparentacademy.com.Have questions or comments? We'd love to hear from you! Send them to ron@coparentacademy.com.

#147 - How Your Child Sees You: The Hidden Blueprint for Their Future

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 17, 2025 15:04 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!Have you ever wondered how your child truly sees you—not just on the surface, but deep down? The way you interact with them forms their inner working model—a blueprint that shapes their future relationships, self-worth, and emotional well-being.In this video, we break down:✅ How early experiences shape attachment and trust✅ The impact of secure vs. insecure attachment styles✅ Parenting habits that foster emotional security✅ Practical strategies to help your child build confidence and resilienceYour parenting choices today shape how your child sees the world tomorrow. Join us as we explore the power of connection and how small changes can make a big difference.For more resources and in-depth courses visit www.coparentacademy.com.Have questions or comments? We'd love to hear from you! Send them to ron@coparentacademy.com.

#146 - How to Tell If You Have a Secure Relationship With Your Child

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 10, 2025 16:49 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!Watch this episode on YouTube:  https://youtu.be/YwBdKE9cSOUDo you ever worry about whether your child feels secure with you—or with your coparent? You're not alone. While there isn't a simple questionnaire to measure a child's sense of security, attachment theory provides valuable insights into how children form relationships with their caregivers.In this episode, we discuss the Strange Situation—a groundbreaking assessment developed by Mary Ainsworth to evaluate a child's attachment style. We break down what different attachment styles reveal about the parent-child relationship and their long-term effects on emotional well-being.Key Takeaways:

#145 - How Responsive Parenting Shapes a Child's Attachment

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 4, 2025 16:11 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!Attachment isn't just about emotions—it's a survival strategy wired into our DNA. From the moment we're born, we rely on our caregivers to shape how we connect with the world. But how does this work? And what happens when those connections break down?* Watch this episode on YouTube (https://youtu.be/7ecu1EYplTU?si=Qvaw4zrCHd4xYpri) In this episode, we discuss: Why attachment is a survival mechanism, not just a bond.How parents shape their child's emotional security.The Still Face Experiment—a powerful study on caregiver responsiveness.Understanding attachment helps us build stronger, healthier relationships—from childhood to adulthood. It's the science of connection.For more resources and in-depth courses visit www.coparentacademy.com.Have questions or comments? We'd love to hear from you! Send them to ron@coparentacademy.com.

#144 - How Do Genetics and Stress Shape Your Baby's Brain?

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 27, 2025 13:48 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!Your baby's brain develops at an astonishing rate during the first two years of life, and two powerful forces are at play: genetics and experiences. We discuss how these factors work together to shape your baby's brain architecture and how toxic stress can disrupt this delicate process.Learn the science behind brain development and find out why to protect your baby from the harmful effects of stress.Topics Covered:- The role of genetics and experiences in brain development- How toxic stress affects brain growthFor more resources and in-depth courses visit www.coparentacademy.com.Have questions or comments? We'd love to hear from you! Send them to ron@coparentacademy.com.

#143 - How Stress Affects Children During Pregnancy

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 20, 2025 37:27 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!This is Episode 2 in our Raising Emotionally Resilient Children series. In this episode we dig into the epigenetic effects of stressors on children during pregnancy. We discuss: The Diathesis-Stress ModelEpigeneticsPrenatal Brain DevelopmentPrenatal Programming (aka DOHad or the Barker Hypothesis)Examples including the epigenetic effects of the:Descendants of Holocaust survivors; and Children born to mothers who were pregnant with them during the Quebec Ice Storm of 1998 Check out the Youtube version of this episode for some additional visual content and links to research articles reviewed and/or relied upon for the content in this episode. Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.com.  To learn more about becoming the best coparent you can be, visit coparentacademy.com.

#142 - Development of a Child's Emotional Brain

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 13, 2025 19:20 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!This is Episode 1 of our Raising Emotionally Resilient Children series. In this episode we give an overview of how the emotional brain develops, based on the work of Dr. Allan Schore. Next week, we'll get into the details of how the brain develops and what brain scans of mothers and their infants interacting can teach us about attachment. This week we introduce our new series, Raising Emotionally Resilient Kids. This series is designed to help you better understand your child's emotional development so you can support them in becoming resilient, emotionally intelligent, and secure.Dr. Allan Schore (Dr. Allan N. Schore)  Known as a pioneer in affective neuroscience and attachment theory, Dr. Schore's research on how early interactions shape the developing brain is foundational to this series. His book The Development of the Unconscious Mind is a major resource.Watch Dr. Allan Schore's podcast with Andrew Huberman Watch Dr. Schore give an academic lecture on this topic 

#141 - Raising Emotionally Resilient Kids - Series Preview

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 6, 2025 12:49 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!This week we introduce our new series, Raising Emotionally Resilient Kids. This series is designed to help you better understand your child's emotional development so you can support them in becoming resilient, emotionally intelligent, and secure.The series focuses on two key themes:The Science of Emotional Development – We'll explore how a child's brain develops, from before birth through early childhood and beyond. You'll learn how the emotional brain works and how your actions as a parent or co-parent shape their future.Practical Parenting and Coparenting Strategies – We'll discuss how to apply this knowledge in real-life parenting situations, with a special emphasis on coparenting dynamics.The materials in this series will be drawn from the following experts, among others:  Dr. Allan Schore (Dr. Allan N. Schore)Known as a pioneer in affective neuroscience and attachment theory, Dr. Schore's research on how early interactions shape the developing brain is foundational to this series. His book The Development of the Unconscious Mind is a major resource.Dr. John Gottman (John & Julie Gottman - About | The Gottman Institute)The renowned psychologist and author of Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child brings us practical tools for teaching kids emotional intelligence and managing conflict as coparents.Dr. Robert E. Emery (Robert Emery | Department of Psychology)As the author of Two Homes, One Childhood, Dr. Emery offers invaluable insights into managing separation and creating stability for children in shared parenting situations.Dr. Tina Payne Bryson (https://www.tinabryson.com/)Co-author of No-Drama Discipline, Dr. Bryson provides guidance on how to discipline in ways that nurture emotional development instead of harming it.Dr. Richard C. Schwartz (Richard C. Schwartz, Ph.D. - The Founder of Internal Family Systems | IFS Institute)The creator of Internal Family Systems (IFS), Schwartz helps us understand how our own emotional wounds and inner dynamics influence parenting and coparenting.I look forward to bringing you information gathered from these experts and others to help you understand how your child's emotional brain develops and how you can help them to grow into emotionally regulated, secure adults capable of loving and lasting relationships. Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.com.  To learn more about becoming the best coparent you can be, visit coparentacademy.com.

#140 - Final Replay - College Financial Planning for Parents - Part 2

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 30, 2024 45:12 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!This week is the last in our holiday replay series.  Next week, I'll introduce our new series on the development of children's emotional brain, attachment, and what that all means for coparents.  The replay this week is part 2 of our conversation with Brad Baldridge.Brad Baldridge, CFP®, is a College Funding Consultant specializing in late-stage college funding planning and the chief podcaster of Taming The High Cost Of College.  He provides customized planning using the latest financial aid, tax, cash flow and academic strategies.In this conversation, we dig into the details of what coparents should be considering in funding their child's college education, whether college is years away or started last year. Linda and I were blown away by all we didn't know about college financial planning, and this was an extremely informative conversation.Learn more about Brad and his services at his website, tamingthehighcostofcollege.com. Be sure to check out the several college financial planning calculators and tools on the Resources page of his site.Also, please check out Brad's podcast:  https://tamingthehighcostofcollege.com/category/podcast/At the end of this episode, you will hear important disclosures Brad asked us to make available in the recording.Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.com.  To learn more about becoming the best coparent you can be, visit coparentacademy.com.

#139 - Replay - College Financial Planning for Coparents - Part 1

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 23, 2024 36:43 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!This week we begin a replay of our two-episode conversation with Brad Baldridge.Brad Baldridge, CFP®, is a College Funding Consultant specializing in late-stage college funding planning and the chief podcaster of Taming The High Cost Of College.  He provides customized planning using the latest financial aid, tax, cash flow and academic strategies. In this conversation, we discuss the difficult situation of college funding during and after a divorce, starting with the foundational information any parent needs to know when planning for the financial realities of their child's college education. Learn more about Brad and his services at his website, tamingthehighcostofcollege.com. Be sure to check out the several college financial planning calculators and tools on the Resources page of his site. Also, please check out Brad's podcast:  https://tamingthehighcostofcollege.com/category/podcast/At the end of this episode, you will hear important disclosures Brad asked us to make available in the recording.Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.com.  To learn more about becoming the best coparent you can be, visit coparentacademy.com.

#138 - Replay - Extended Forensic Evaluations Interview with Jaime Vogt - Part 2

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 16, 2024 22:33 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!This week we conclude the replay of our conversation with Licensed Professional Counselor Jaime Vogt about Extended Forensic Evaluations (EFE). In this episode, Jaime discusses in detail the process she uses to conduct an EFE.Jaime is a licensed professional counselor in the state of Oklahoma. She has conducted over 3,000 forensic interviews of children for frontline investigations. Prior to starting her private practice she began her work with children as a therapist with Family and Children's Services in the Family Sexual Abuse Treatment Program .  She later became the Children's Services Director and Forensic Interviewer for the Child Abuse Network at the Children's Justice Center.Jaime appears regularly as an Expert Witness in Criminal, Juvenile and Civil proceedings regarding Forensic Interviewing and Child Abuse Issues. She has testified for both prosecutors & defense attorneys in criminal proceedings in both district and federal courts . She trains mental health professionals and attorneys in child interviewing and related topics.Ms. Vogt has served on the board for the Oklahoma Association for Collaborative Professionals and is currently a member of the Quality Assurance Panel for the Tulsa County Courts.Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.com.

#137 - Replay - Extended Forensic Evaluations Interview with Jaime Vogt - Part 1

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 9, 2024 33:57 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!This week we continue our end of year replay of some of the interview episodes that aired over the past two years. This episode is Part 1 of a two-part conversation about extended forensic evaluations with Jaime Vogt. Jaime is a licensed professional counselor in the state of Oklahoma. She has conducted over 3,000 forensic interviews of children for frontline investigations. Prior to starting her private practice she began her work with children as a therapist with Family and Children's Services in the Family Sexual Abuse Treatment Program .  She later became the Children's Services Director and Forensic Interviewer for the Child Abuse Network at the Children's Justice Center.Jaime appears regularly as an Expert Witness in Criminal, Juvenile and Civil proceedings regarding Forensic Interviewing and Child Abuse Issues. She has testified for both prosecutors & defense attorneys in criminal proceedings in both district and federal courts . She trains mental health professionals and attorneys in child interviewing and related topics.Ms. Vogt has served on the board for the Oklahoma Association for Collaborative Professionals and is currently a member of the Quality Assurance Panel for the Tulsa County Courts.Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.com.

#136 - Replay - Interview with Justin and Alexis Black: Redefining Normal

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 2, 2024 63:53 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!This episode is a replay of our first ever shared podcast.  Linda and I sit down with an amazing couple, Justin and Alexis Black.  Listen to Justin's podcast, ROSE from Concrete:  ROSE From Concrete (buzzsprout.com)Justin and Alexis are the authors of Redefining Normal: How Two Foster Kids Beat The Odds and Discovering Healing, Happiness, and Love.Their book is a powerful memoir that takes the reader through their harrowing childhood experiences, which included abuse, neglect, and years in the foster system.  More importantly, however, their book details their commitment to overcoming the odds stacked them and ending the generational cycles of abuse and addiction they were born into.Justin and Alexis take you into the rooms where things happened, and their searing accounts will stay with you.  Be warned, their story contains factual depictions of domestic violence, trauma, sexual assault, and other difficult issues faced on the road to healing.Linda and Ron were profoundly affected by the time they were privileged to spend with Alexis and Justin. Everyone can benefit from listening and reading their compelling and inspirational stories.Learn more about Justin and Alexis and buy their powerful memoir at:  Buy Now | Redefining Normal (re-definingnormal.com).Listen to Justin's podcast, ROSE from Concrete:  ROSE From Concrete (buzzsprout.com)Follow Justin and Alexis on social media at: Instagram: Redefining Normal (@re.definingnormal)TikTok: Redefining Normal (@re.definingnormal)Facebook: Redefining Normal | FacebookEmail Justin and Alexis at info@re-definingnormal.com 

#135 - Replay - Interview with Author Teresa Harlow

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 25, 2024 41:56 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!This week we start our slide into the New Year with a replay of an episode from 2022 in week we interviewed author Teresa Harlow. For each of the next several weeks as we close out the year, we'll be replaying some of the episodes in which we interviewed guests, including authors, an attorney, and a therapist.  We spoke with Teresa about her techniques for transforming combative relationships into collaborative partnerships.Check out her most recent book, Combative to Collaborative: The Co-Parenting Code at https://promethean-publishing.square.site/To learn more about Teresa, visit her at:https://teresaharlow.com/https://www.facebook.com/teresaharlow123https://twitter.com/teresaharlow123https://www.instagram.com/teresaharlow123/https://www.linkedin.com/in/teresaharlow/

#134 - Holidays

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 18, 2024 24:33 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!In this episode, we talk about how to focus on your child's needs during the holidays to avoid conflict and help your child have a wonderful holiday season. Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.comTo see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

#133 - What is a Parenting Coordinator?

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 11, 2024 21:58 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!In this episode, we talk about what a parenting coordinator is and how one can help coparents improve communication and reduce conflict. Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.comTo see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

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#132 - Separation Anxiety for Children in Separated Families

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 4, 2024 27:09 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!In this episode, we talk about separation anxiety for children in separated families, focusing on anxiety related to visitation transfers. Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.comTo see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

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#131 - Series Break - High Conflict Communication Replay

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 28, 2024 19:18 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!In this one-episode break from our current series on Separation Anxiety in children, we replay one of our most popular episodes from 2023. Linda and I discuss a Redit post in which a mother asks for advice about how to communicate with her high conflict coparent. Next week we'll return to our series with an episode defining and describing separation anxiety, particularly in children living in two homes.Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.comTo see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

#130 - Anxiety in Children

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 21, 2024 20:09 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!In this episode, we talk about anxiety in children, from an infant's fear of strange faces to a teenager's fear about fitting in. We distinguish everyday worries from maladaptive anxiety reactions that may require professional intervention. Next week we specifically on defining and describing separation anxiety, particularly in children living in two homes.Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.comTo see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

#129 - Separation Anxiety - Series Intro

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 14, 2024 13:13 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!This week starts our new series on separation anxiety. This is a phrase family law professionals often hear as both a sword and a shield in coparenting conflict. In this series, we'll address what separation anxiety actually is, how to recognize it, and how best to deal with it as coparents. This week's episode is an overview of the topic, which we'll break down in greater detail in future episodes. Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.comTo see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

#128 - Preventing Custody Issues Caused by Improper Discipline

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 7, 2024 17:27 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!In this episode of our effective discipline series, we discuss how improper discipline can lead to litigation over custody and visitation. We touch on the difference between discipline and abuse, including the damaging effects of corporal punishment, fear, and emotional manipulation, even when they seem legal or commonplace. Learn how consistency in discipline practices can make all the difference in your children perceiving the discipline they receive to be fair, and why it's important to avoid punishing your child as a way to get back at your coparent. Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.comTo see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

#127 - Interview with Sol Kennedy, Founder of the Best Interest Parenting App

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 30, 2024 38:06 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!In this episode, we talk with Sol Kennedy, the creator of the Best Interest coparent communication application. We discuss the coparenting challenges Sol faced and how these experiences led to the creation of an AI-powered solution designed to help people stuck in toxic coparenting relationships filter out unhelpful communication and keep their coparent communication child focused.Please forgive the poor quality of my audio from this Zoom conversation, although Sol's audio sounds great - which is way more important! Check out the Best Interest app at:  BestInterest - Coparenting made peaceful.Note: we have not received any compensation related to this app. Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.comTo see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

#126 - Should You Spank Your Child?

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 23, 2024 23:02 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!Is spanking an effective discipline tool or an outdated practice that does more harm than good? This week we discuss research from academic journals and refer back to "No Drama Discipline" and "Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child" to get our answer. Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.comTo see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

#125 - Building Consistency Between Both Homes

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 16, 2024 40:41 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!In this episode, we discuss why and how to build consistency between both coparents' homes. Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.comTo see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

#124 - Effective Discipline Immediately After Separation

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 9, 2024 20:07 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!In this episode, we discuss how to have more effective discipline immediately after separation. Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.comTo see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

#123 - Why Parenting Suffers After Separation

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 2, 2024 16:26 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!In this episode, we discuss why parenting suffers in the first year after separation and any other time similar stress and upheaval occur. Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.comTo see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

#122 - No Drama Discipline

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 26, 2024 21:41 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!In this episode we discuss parenting strategies from "No-Drama Discipline" by Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson. We learn about the difference between the "upstairs brain" and "downstairs brain," and how to shift from punitive measures to teaching moments, fostering self-discipline, emotional regulation, and problem-solving skills in children by responding with empathy and being mindful of our own emotional triggers. Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.comTo see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

#121 - Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 19, 2024 32:10 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!In this episode, we discuss "Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child" by Dr. John Gottman.You'll learn some practical insights into helping your kids recognize, understand, manage, and express their emotions effectively, Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.com To see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

#120 - How to Talk So Kids Will Listen

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 12, 2024 32:01 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!In this episode, we discuss Joanna Thaber and Julie King's "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen, and How to Listen So Kids Will Talk," which teaches how acknowledging and validating your child's emotions can lead to greater cooperation and understanding using strategies like naming emotions, reflective listening, and empathetic responses. "Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child" by Dr. John Gottman.Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.com.  To see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

#119 - Parenting with Love and Logic

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 5, 2024 13:13 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!In this episode, we discuss the parenting techniques presented in the book Parenting with Love and Logic and learn how to offer choices, set firm boundaries, and encourage your kids to experience the natural consequences of their decisions. Next week we'll discuss the book How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and How to Listen so Kids Will Talk.Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.com.  To see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

#118 - A Brief Look at Children's Developmental Stages

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 29, 2024 5:28 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!In this episode, we give a brief overview of children's developmental stages and needs at each stage. Next week, we'll dive into the book Parenting with Love and Logic. Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.com.  To see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

#117 - 5 Parenting Types

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 22, 2024 11:36 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!Do you ever wonder how your parenting style might be shaping your child's future? In this episode, we discuss the impacts of various parenting styles on children's development. We work through the spectrum of parenting styles from helicopter parents to uninvolved parents, analyzing the challenges these extremes present. Learn how authoritarian, or drill sergeant parenting, with its rigid rules and demand for obedience, can affect a child's self-esteem. For a look at helpful parenting,  we highlight the authoritative or consultant parenting style. This balanced approach emphasizes setting reasonable boundaries while letting children face the logical consequences of their actions with empathy and love. Find out how this method promotes self-esteem and independence by allowing kids to make small decisions and learn from the outcomes. Not sure if your parenting style aligns with this approach? Don't worry—we offer valuable information and resources to enhance your parenting skills and support your child's growth. Stay tuned for our next chapter, where we'll look into the specific needs of children at various developmental stages.Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.com.  To see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

#116 - Preview of Discipline Series and replay of Transitions are Hard episode

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 15, 2024 14:57 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!In this episode we give you a preview of the upcoming discipline series and replay one of our more popular episodes, about why transitions are so hard for kids. Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.com.  To see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

#115 - Stress Indicators in Children

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 8, 2024 12:32 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!This episode discusses stress indicators in children related to the separation process. Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.com.  To see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

#114 - Coparenting Through Illness or Injury

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 1, 2024 16:03 Transcription Available


Let us hear from you!This episode provides some tips for coparenting when your child is sick or injured. Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.com.  To see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

#113 - Creating an Effective Parenting Plan

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 24, 2024 28:43 Transcription Available


In this episode, we discuss how to create a parenting plan that is child focused and flexible. Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.com.  To see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

#112 - Father's Day

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 16, 2024 8:12 Transcription Available


Happy Father's Day! Some thoughts for fathers who can't see their children this year, fathers who can, and mothers too. Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.com.  To see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

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