Podcasts about emotionally intelligent child

When your Year 12 child can't do maths or your teen rings crying from camp after being bullied, your instinct is to fix everything. But research shows that simply being heard is often more powerful than any solution. This episode reveals how validation, not problem-solving, helps children develop resilience in challenging situations. Learn the simple two-minute technique that transformed a tearful camp crisis and discover why becoming a "people builder" creates confidence in our children that lasts far beyond any temporary fix. Quote of the Episode: "You don't have to solve; you just have to support. And when the kids can feel it and then you give them an opportunity to find a way forward, they will find it. The answers are deep inside themselves." Key Points: Children need validation and understanding before they can move forward from emotional distress Being a "people builder" creates confidence and resilience in children Emotion coaching involves recognizing feelings, naming them, and allowing them to be expressed Support without immediately trying to solve problems helps children develop self-regulation Hearing supportive voices can be enough to help children find their own solutions With consistent emotional coaching, children develop faster regulation responses Finding the right supportive environments (like tutoring) can transform a child's confidence Children often have the answers within themselves when given space to find them Overcoming challenges builds resilience and confidence Small interactions with supportive people can have profound effects on children's wellbeing Resources Mentioned: Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman [affiliate link] Edgar Guest's poem "A Builder or a Wrecker" Emotion coaching methodology Action Steps for Parents: Practice emotion coaching by naming your child's feelings when they're upset Allow emotions to "breathe" before trying to find solutions Ask open questions like "What do you think would be best?" after validating feelings Look for "people builders" in your child's life (teachers, tutors, friends) Consciously choose to be a "builder" rather than a "wrecker" in your interactions When your child calls in distress, focus first on connection before correction Give children space to find their own solutions after feeling supported Recognise that overcoming challenges builds resilience, even when painful at the time See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We know firsthand that parenting in a blended family isn't the same as parenting in a first family. A biological parent's role is crucial in helping kids adjust to change, supporting step-relationships, and keeping things running smoothly.But here's the challenge—many bio parents either hold too tightly to their old parenting patterns or step back too quickly and expect their spouse to fill in. Both can create major tension.In this episode, we're breaking down the four key facets of parenting and defining the roles and responsibilities of the bio-parent: Meeting practical needs while avoiding unnecessary frictionProviding support while managing shifting priorities Teaching important life lessons  - and overcoming parental blind spotsDelivering discipline in a way that strengthens relationships rather than tearing them apartIf you've ever felt stuck between your kids and your spouse—or if you've struggled with guilt, fear, or parental paralysis—this episode is for you. You'll Discover:The most common 'easy wrong turns' that bio parents make when trying to “blend” the familyHow to avoid creating unnecessary frustration, and resentment in your homeWhy bio parents need to lead in discipline—and how to set step relationships up for successHow to provide boundaries and emotional support for your kids without letting guilt or fear take overStrategies for building an effective parenting partnership — even when you see things differentlyResources from this Episode:Episode 204. 4 Facets of Parenting:  Clarifying the Roles and Responsibilities (Part 1) Episode 163. How Intentionality Helped One Couple to Accomplish a Successful Blend [with Sean & Staci] Episode 81. How a Missing Bio-Parent Impacts Kids in the Delicate Blending Process (Part 1 of 2)Episode 132. How do loss and grief impact blended family integration?Episode 108. 3 Unity Breakers that are Detrimental to Your Connection and How You Can Avoid ThemEpisode 139. The Most Common, Challenging Pain Point Every Blended Couple Experiences (Trapped Teammate / Stranded Stranger Dynamic)Episode 168. Actionable Steps For Helping Kids Navigate Through Difficult Emotions and Problem SolveEpisode 49. Should your highest priority be your marriage - or your kids?Episode 25. How to Survive Time Alone with Your Step-Kids (Transfer of Power Strategy) Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John GottmanReady for some extra support? We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession

From classic works to cutting-edge neuroscience, discover the books that have shaped modern parenting wisdom. Join Dr Justin Coulson as he shares his carefully curated list of game-changing parenting books, including why each one matters and how they can transform your family life. Plus, hear Kylie's surprising take on which books might matter most of all. Quote of the Episode: "When I think about the kind of parent that I aspire to be, those two books have had more influence in my life than all the other books combined." Key Insights: Great parenting often comes from continuous learning Different books serve different parenting stages and challenges Some classics remain relevant despite their age Picture books can be as influential as academic texts Cultural perspectives offer valuable parenting insights Understanding child development enhances parenting approach Expert knowledge needs to be balanced with practical application Scientific understanding of child development continues to evolve Resources Mentioned: (NB. These are affiliate links) Between Parent and Child by Haim Ginott Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman The Emotional Lives of Teenagers by Lisa Damour Act Natural by Jennifer Traig Hunt, Gather, Parent by Michaeleen Doucleff The Myth of the Spoiled Child by Alfie Kohn Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn The Secrets of Happy Families by Bruce Feiler The Teenage Brain by Frances Jensen I'll Do Better Tomorrow, I Promise by Maureen Adamek Guess How Much I Love You by Sam McBratney Action Steps for Parents: Start with one book that addresses your current parenting challenge Balance academic texts with accessible, practical guides Consider including children's books in your parenting resource library Make regular time for parenting education through reading See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Let us hear from you!This week we introduce our new series, Raising Emotionally Resilient Kids. This series is designed to help you better understand your child's emotional development so you can support them in becoming resilient, emotionally intelligent, and secure.The series focuses on two key themes:The Science of Emotional Development – We'll explore how a child's brain develops, from before birth through early childhood and beyond. You'll learn how the emotional brain works and how your actions as a parent or co-parent shape their future.Practical Parenting and Coparenting Strategies – We'll discuss how to apply this knowledge in real-life parenting situations, with a special emphasis on coparenting dynamics.The materials in this series will be drawn from the following experts, among others:  Dr. Allan Schore (Dr. Allan N. Schore)Known as a pioneer in affective neuroscience and attachment theory, Dr. Schore's research on how early interactions shape the developing brain is foundational to this series. His book The Development of the Unconscious Mind is a major resource.Dr. John Gottman (John & Julie Gottman - About | The Gottman Institute)The renowned psychologist and author of Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child brings us practical tools for teaching kids emotional intelligence and managing conflict as coparents.Dr. Robert E. Emery (Robert Emery | Department of Psychology)As the author of Two Homes, One Childhood, Dr. Emery offers invaluable insights into managing separation and creating stability for children in shared parenting situations.Dr. Tina Payne Bryson (https://www.tinabryson.com/)Co-author of No-Drama Discipline, Dr. Bryson provides guidance on how to discipline in ways that nurture emotional development instead of harming it.Dr. Richard C. Schwartz (Richard C. Schwartz, Ph.D. - The Founder of Internal Family Systems | IFS Institute)The creator of Internal Family Systems (IFS), Schwartz helps us understand how our own emotional wounds and inner dynamics influence parenting and coparenting.I look forward to bringing you information gathered from these experts and others to help you understand how your child's emotional brain develops and how you can help them to grow into emotionally regulated, secure adults capable of loving and lasting relationships. Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.com.  To learn more about becoming the best coparent you can be, visit coparentacademy.com.

Let us hear from you!Is spanking an effective discipline tool or an outdated practice that does more harm than good? This week we discuss research from academic journals and refer back to "No Drama Discipline" and "Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child" to get our answer. Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.comTo see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

Let us hear from you!In this episode, we discuss "Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child" by Dr. John Gottman.You'll learn some practical insights into helping your kids recognize, understand, manage, and express their emotions effectively, Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.com To see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

Let us hear from you!In this episode, we discuss Joanna Thaber and Julie King's "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen, and How to Listen So Kids Will Talk," which teaches how acknowledging and validating your child's emotions can lead to greater cooperation and understanding using strategies like naming emotions, reflective listening, and empathetic responses. "Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child" by Dr. John Gottman.Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.com.  To see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3185: Dr. John Gottman reveals how emotional intelligence can reshape parenting for the better. His insights delve into why understanding and navigating emotions are crucial for both parents and children, offering a transformative approach to fostering more loving, supportive relationships. Through practical advice and powerful anecdotes, Dr. Gottman illustrates the profound effects of emotional coaching on a child's development and future success. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/emotional-intelligence-creates-loving-supportive-parenting/ Quotes to ponder: "Emotional intelligence seems to determine success in life more than IQ." "Emotions are our internal ‘GPS' through life." "One of the most powerful gifts you can give your child is an admission that you made a mistake, and apologizing and asking for forgiveness confers respect to the child." Episode references: Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Emotionally-Intelligent-Child-Parenting/dp/0684838656 Daniel Goleman's Work on Emotional Intelligence: https://www.danielgoleman.info/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3185: Dr. John Gottman reveals how emotional intelligence can reshape parenting for the better. His insights delve into why understanding and navigating emotions are crucial for both parents and children, offering a transformative approach to fostering more loving, supportive relationships. Through practical advice and powerful anecdotes, Dr. Gottman illustrates the profound effects of emotional coaching on a child's development and future success. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/emotional-intelligence-creates-loving-supportive-parenting/ Quotes to ponder: "Emotional intelligence seems to determine success in life more than IQ." "Emotions are our internal ‘GPS' through life." "One of the most powerful gifts you can give your child is an admission that you made a mistake, and apologizing and asking for forgiveness confers respect to the child." Episode references: Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Emotionally-Intelligent-Child-Parenting/dp/0684838656 Daniel Goleman's Work on Emotional Intelligence: https://www.danielgoleman.info/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3185: Dr. John Gottman reveals how emotional intelligence can reshape parenting for the better. His insights delve into why understanding and navigating emotions are crucial for both parents and children, offering a transformative approach to fostering more loving, supportive relationships. Through practical advice and powerful anecdotes, Dr. Gottman illustrates the profound effects of emotional coaching on a child's development and future success. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/emotional-intelligence-creates-loving-supportive-parenting/ Quotes to ponder: "Emotional intelligence seems to determine success in life more than IQ." "Emotions are our internal ‘GPS' through life." "One of the most powerful gifts you can give your child is an admission that you made a mistake, and apologizing and asking for forgiveness confers respect to the child." Episode references: Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Emotionally-Intelligent-Child-Parenting/dp/0684838656 Daniel Goleman's Work on Emotional Intelligence: https://www.danielgoleman.info/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My experience being a dad. Book discussions are Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by Gottman and Good Inside by Becky Kennedy.

#161 Today's guest is Ann Coleman— a mom, attorney, educator, podcaster, and an advocate for parenting teens. After her son struggled with ADHD and multiple mental health disorders and behavior issues during his teen years, Ann quit practicing law to study adolescence and help other parents learn what she hadn't known. We discuss her experiences parenting a son struggling with his mental health and how her emotions affected her parenting, advice to parents who want to understand their role in their teen's mental health and improve their relationship with their child, what parents can do if their teen asks for help with their mental health, insights for parents who are out of ideas on how to help their teen get better, tips on how parents can maintain their mental health while their teen struggles, daily ways parents can support their teen's mental health and prevent them from struggling in the future, and research and resources on raising teens that all parents should know about. Ann's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/neurogility/ MENTIONED+ Ann's Website+ Ann's Podcast+ Speaking of Teens Facebook Group+ Free Parenting Guides+ Emotional Agility by Susan David+ Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman+ No Drama Discipline by Daniel J. Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson + Untangled by Lisa Damour+ Positive Discipline for Teenagers by Jane Nelsen & Lynn LottSHOP GUEST RECOMMENDATIONS: https://amzn.to/3A69GOCEPISODE SPONSOR

In this episode I talk to Rachael Katz, author of the book “The Emotionally Intelligent Child”. We discuss the importance of understanding the developmental continuum our children are on as they learn social and emotional intelligence, as well as activities to help them develop in these areas. Rachael introduces her MIND framework, which stands for Mindfulness, Inquiry, Non-Judgmental, Decide as tools and skills to develop as we tackle the bigger skill of parenting. Buy Rachael's book here: https://www.amazon.com/Emotionally-Intelligent-Child-Cooperative-Well-Balanced/dp/1684038154More details on the book from the publisher New Harbinger Press: https://www.newharbinger.com/9781684038152/the-emotionally-intelligent-child/?gclid=Cj0KCQiAw8OeBhCeARIsAGxWtUyu6qhtnC2ModrhlWY8b3Bo3eYJEnlmDu0_scv-fZNeFLfWdk1A1pEaAr5vEALw_wcBSend any questions or comments to Rachael on LinkedIn at: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachael-katz/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So many first-time managers I work with are used to being the star player, not the coach. But that habit can prove challenging when navigating the transition from individual contributor to first-time manager. Tune in for today's boss tip episode to learn how emerging leaders can - and truly must - embrace coaching to be more effective.Related links: Today's corresponding blog postBossed Up's Level Up Leadership AcceleratorHarvard Business Review: the Leader as CoachLearn more about the GROW Model by Sir John WhitmoreRaising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John GottmanLifebound Inclusive Coaching programHow to Think Like a Leader Rather Than a Manager3 Underrated Skills First-Time Managers Need

On this episode of the Psychedelic Therapy Frontiers podcast, Dr. Steve Thayer and Dr. Reid Robison discuss parenting.  They talk about how difficult parenting is, how parenting styles affect childhood and later adult attachment styles, being an emotion coach as a parent, how to raise resilient kids, genetics, and much more.(1:33) Parenting is hard(6:20) Spanking (7:00) Good Inside, by Dr. Becky Kennedy and being "home base" for your child(10:03) The value of consistency(11:55) Generational differences and improving on the parenting you received (14:02) Repairs and apologies (16:13) The Whole-Brain Child, by Dr. Dan Sielgel (16:52) How to help your kids feel seen(17:15) Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child, by Dr. John Gottman(19:45) How to help your kids with their feelings(22:30) How to manage behavior and set boundaries (26:45) Helicopter parenting(27:15) Duct Tape Parenting, by Vicki Hoefle(33:50) Genetic: parents matter, but they don't make a difference (40:30) Unconditional positive regard (43:32) Re-parenting your inner child(49:03) Divorce, separation, and co-parenting Learn more about our podcast at https://numinus.com/podcast/Learn more about psychedelic therapy training opportunities at https://numinus.com/training/Learn more about Numinus at https://numinus.com/Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drstevethayer/https://www.instagram.com/innerspacedoctor/https://www.instagram.com/joeflanders/https://www.instagram.com/numinushealth/

Dr. Helen Hadani and Rachael Katz are authors of the book The Emotionally Intelligent Child, and they join us to talk about strategies for raising self-aware, cooperative and well-balanced kids. We discuss how to build emotional intelligence in ourselves as parents and how to model and teach it to our kids by first better understanding their developmental stages and capabilities. Plus, we gain strategies to help our kids build traits like impulse control and approaching challenges with curiosity and confidence.

Today's parents are breaking generational trauma and paving the way for a whole generation of children who will grow up with emotional intelligence that we have yet to see in any other generation. But what is emotional intelligence? Emotional intelligence is defined as a person's ability to express and manage feelings appropriately while respecting the feelings of others, and it's a skillset that can be taught to children. It helps children learn to regulate their emotions and be aware of the feelings they experience in relation to the people around them. Today's guests, are Helen Shwe Hadani, PhD, and Rachael Katz, MS Ed, authors of the book "The Emotionally Intelligent Child: Effective Strategies for Parenting Self-Aware, Cooperative, & Well-Balanced Kids", who are here to share their knowledge and help parents understand the fundamentals of raising an emotionally intelligent child.In this episode, we'll talk about:-Serve and return concept-Pro-social behavior, impulse control, and perspective-taking-How to help your child develop impulse control-Strategies that will help your child handle and cope with their emotions-Executive function skills-MIND FrameworkResources:Ready to be empowered & Prepared for Birth, Take a Birth Class NOW!Grab a Free Pregnancy/Postpartum Checklist Bundle Connect w/ Trish: Come hang with Trish on InstagramFor more pregnancy & birth education, subscribe to The Birth Experience on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to podcasts.Privacy Policy!Find Helen here:LinkedInBrookings InstitutionFind Rachel here:LinkedIn Get their book on Amazon: The Emotionally Intelligent Child: Effective Strategies for Parenting Self-Aware, Cooperative, & Well-Balanced Kids

Calling all parents! Listen in as we talk with Jennifer Sheridan, owner and lead therapist at Restoration House Counseling in Hattiesburg, MS, about effective and ineffective styles of parenting and what it looks like to keep the love of Christ at the center of our parent/child relationships.Parenting styles discussed in the episode (taken from John Gottman's Book Raising  an Emotionally Intelligent Child):1. Dismissing Parent2. Disapproving Parent3. Laissez-faire Parent4. Emotion-Coaching ParentAbout Jennifer:Jennifer Sheridan, owner and lead therapist of Restoration House Counseling, is a Licensed Clinical Social Work and Registered Play Therapist practicing in Hattiesburg, Mississippi. Jennifer specializes in working with families and children struggling with attachment and behavioral challenges in the home and at school. She has experience working with families grown through adoption and helping parents make sense of the emotional needs of children from hard places. Jennifer is a TBRI practitioner and TraumaPlay Certified Therapist. She has also completed Level I and II Theraplay Training and utilizes this model of attachment-based therapy with families in the playroom. As a former junior high math teacher and school psychometrist, Jennifer understands the many challenges faced by teachers and school administrators addressing problematic behaviors in the classroom. Jennifer believes children communicate through play and supports families and caregivers in learning how to interpret the behaviors of the children in their care. Find out more about Restoration House counseling by visiting their website at restorationhousecounseling.com. You can also follow them on Instagram @restorationhousecounseling. Thanks for listening to the Embodied Holiness Podcast. We invite you to join the community on Facebook and Instagram @embodiedholiness. You can find all our episodes and more at www.embodiedholiness.com. Embodied Holiness is a ministry of Parkway Heights United Methodist Church in Hattiesburg, MS. If you're in the Hattiesburg area and are looking for a church home, we'd love to meet you and welcome you to the family. You can find out more about Parkway Heights at our website.

Developing a complete intelligence requires more than just learning facts and figures. Teaching emotional intelligence in children is equally important. On this episode, Rachel Katz discussed, The Emotionally Intelligent Child.

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!NEW  --  Schema Circle MembershipReady to go to the next level in your self-development using the clarity, wisdom and insights from Schema Therapy?  We would love to help you in our brand new membership - The Schema Circle.Go straight to THE RED FLAG PROJECT course for womenSchema Chemistry Recorded WebinarInstagram https://www.instagram.com/theredflagproject._/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/The-Red-Flag-Project-103442091937249Ask us a question or suggest a topic by emailing: justineandgemma@goodmood.com.auRegister your interest for our new Know Your Schemas courseBook mentioned:- Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman. In this episode we discuss the role that schemas play when try to Emotion Coach our kids.  We believe that the parenting style of Emotion Coaching (J Gottman), is the gold standard when it comes to emotional attunement and meeting children's emotional needs.  BUT, we all have our own schemas as parents, so how can we be our best when we get triggered? 

This week Dr. Burton and I break down how to best interact with people who have disabilities. We also tie it in to interacting with people who look, talk or act differently than you do. References: The Heart of Parenting: Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman  Music by AudioLounge  - Facebook: www.facebook.com/audioloungemusic - Soundcloud: @audiolounge1 - Youtube: www.youtube.com/user/AudioInstrumentals - Twitter: @audio_lounge - Google+ goo.gl/toKclZ  Our email: mentalhleathpod21@gmail.com

The Emotionally Intelligent Child: Effective Strategies for Parenting Self-Aware, Cooperative, and Well-Balanced Kids Show Guests: Helen Hadani and Rachael Katz As the day-to-day effects of the pandemic ease, our children have been left with having to play catch up, learning the social tools and skills that parents of young children took for granted just 3 short years ago. To help them, parents need a new toolbox to foster their child's emotional intelligence—an essential character trait for children to succeed in our fast-paced, social society. Parenting takes serious patience and calm that can be hard to find today. A growing number of personal, health and economic worries have caused a significant rise in anxiety levels. Where can parents find tools to meet today's challenges? Child development experts, Rachael Katz and Helen Hadani, set out to address this in their new book, The Emotionally Intelligent Child. heir innovative approach breaks the mold on parenting. Katz and Hadani share relevant research on social and emotional awareness to help parents understand how their child's mind is developing. They also provide powerful tips on how to help children build emotional intelligence to navigate the conditions of our times. Parents will learn to shift their thinking from the adult viewpoint to a child's so they can discover how to scaffold and support their child's social and emotional learning and ensure that their child learns prosocial behavior, impulse control, and perspective taking. This shift in viewpoint is a total game-changer and will help parents to gain more patience, respond less reactively, and cultivate joy together as a family.

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!NEW  --  Schema Circle MembershipReady to go to the next level in your self-development using the clarity, wisdom and insights from Schema Therapy?  We would love to help you in our brand new membership - The Schema Circle.Go straight to THE RED FLAG PROJECT course for womenSchema Chemistry Recorded WebinarInstagram https://www.instagram.com/theredflagproject._/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/The-Red-Flag-Project-103442091937249Ask us a question or suggest a topic by emailing: justineandgemma@goodmood.com.auRegister your interest for our new Know Your Schemas courseBook mentioned:- Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman. In this episode we discuss the parenting style of Emotion Coaching (J Gottman).  We cover the 5 steps of emotion coaching and discuss how emotion coaching is akin to emotional attunement and helps us to actively meet our children's emotional needs.

DR. MEG MEEKER with guests ALYSSA BLASK CAMPBELL“Emotional Intelligence” has become somewhat of a buzzword in today's culture. In this episode, Alyssa breaks things down to describe how emotional intelligence is based on five components: self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy and social skills. “In terms of raising emotionally intelligent humans: We're not talking about changing who kids are, but shifting how adults experience kids' emotions.” Topics discussed in this episode include: ·   Finding a pause between reaction and response·   Learning to regulate and choose words and actions wisely·   Intrinsic vs. extrinsic motivation: What is driving us?·   Why are the birth-to-age 5 years so important?·   Why our nervous system is like a battery; it drains throughout the day & needs to be recharged·   And more! FROM THE PRODUCERThanks for listening to Episode #178, How to Raise an Emotionally Intelligent Child, and for helping Dr. Meg's parenting revolution reach more than SEVEN MILLION downloads! Please subscribe, rate and leave a review for us on iTunes!Get Social with Dr. Meg on Facebook & Instagram @MegMeekerMDCheck out Dr. Meg's parenting resources and tools! www.meekerparenting.com  

No matter how you look at it, society treats boys and girls differently. The expectations, roles, stereotypes and responsibilities for males and females differ. Raising boys in 2022 takes so much work. We want to raise capable young men who are compassionate, in tune with their feelings and emotions, who treat others with kindness. We certainly don't want boys to grow up thinking they are privileged or cannot cry or are expected to be aggressive and domineering. Jenny has a son and a daughter, so she readily sees the differences between her children. Ashley has the only sons in her entire family, while her ex-husband is the only boy in his family with five sisters. Both of your favorite co-hosts are navigating what it means to raise sons, so let's dig into their experiences. Some books that may be helpful when raising boys: Raising and Emotionally Intelligent Child by Dr. John Gottman The Whole-Brain Child by Drs. Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson Calmer, Easier, Happier Boys by Noel Janis- Norton What Makes a Boy Strong? What Makes a Girl Pretty? by Mary E. Hendrix Be sure to check out the Sharon Says So Podcast, especially the episode with Dr. Jillian Peterson, where the two discuss mass shootings and the trend of male shooters that all #boymoms should be interested in. “Cream & Sugar” Recommendations: Ashley took Jenny's advice to visit Armadillo Escape Room. She checked out the Spring location, and her family truly had the best time! The Houston Moms crew had a fun get-together at Daily Gather in CityCentre for lunch! Insanely delicious food and a beautiful environment! Houston Moms “House Blend” Posts: The Strengths of a Strong-Willed Child, by our contributor, Elyssa, who is a psychotherapist for children, gives great tips and insights about raising children whose intense behaviors can be challenging for any mom. Tiffany wrote, In Defense of my Amazon Addiction, in case you need a little reassurance that an attachment to Amazon isn't necessarily a bad thing!

On this episode, Jamie and Guy discuss the decline of Emotional Intelligence (EI) and how to get it back.  Emotional Intelligence is the ability to manage both your own emotions and understand the emotions of people around you.  Jamie references an article in Psychology Today about this topic and they discuss how the last couple of years has impacted themselves individually as well as their clients.  To learn more about this topic, here is a link to the article as well as books on Emotional Intelligence:Why Emotional Intelligence is on the Decline by Madeleine A. Fugère Ph.D.https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dating-and-mating/202111/why-emotional-intelligence-is-in-declineEmotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ by Daniel Golemanhttps://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Intelligence-10th-Anniversary-Matter/dp/055380491X/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1660625658&sr=8-5Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman, PhDhttps://www.amazon.com/Raising-Emotionally-Intelligent-Child-Parenting/dp/B07HP8NTPK/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1HO57WCXOLXMU&keywords=raising+an+emotionally+intelligent+child&qid=1660630558&s=audible&sprefix=raising+an+emotionally+intelligent+child%2Caudible%2C127&sr=1-1We hope you enjoyed this episode - if you do, please take a minute to subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts:) Thanks so much!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/thedavenport)Join us on  Facebook :https://www.facebook.com/thedavenportpodcast/ Follow  us on Instagram:@thedavenportpodcast About  Jamie and Guy:Jamie Pyatt LCSW  is a mom, avid beach lover, exercise enthusiast, and a licensed clinical therapist with over 20 yrs of experience. She has worked in hospice care, child abuse intervention, and was an adoption facilitator for 13 years. Jamie loves working with individuals, couples, and teens as they embrace their personal stories and surf the daily waves of life. She makes friends wherever she goes and has a laugh that brightens any room. She believes each one of us deserves love, happiness, and connection ❤️Get to know Jamie better @therealjamiepyatt Guy  Balogh is a father of three, car enthusiast, an entrepreneur and small business owner (shout out to @holsterbrands), and a professional business and life coach. Guy loves working with individuals to think bigger, take risks, and maximize opportunities. His quick wit and talent for storytelling pair well with his desire to find the positive in any situation. Get to know Guy better   @therealcoachguySupport the show

We talk to Rachael Katz, MS, Ed, and Helen Shwe Hadani, PhD, about their book The Emotionally Intelligent Child: Effective Strategies for Parenting Self-Aware, Cooperative, and Well-Balanced Kids. You can find their book here: https://www.amazon.com/Emotionally-Intelligent-Child-Cooperative-Well-Balanced/dp/1684038154 Thanks for listening! Support us by becoming a subscriber to The Science of Psychotherapy Academy! Or you can simply buy us a cup of coffee! Please leave a review! (Reviews are fabulously important to us! On your podcast player you should find an option to review at the bottom of the main page for the podcast - after the list of available episodes) - Here's a link for iTunes. And please subscribe to our show!  You can also find our podcast at: The Science of Psychotherapy Podcast Homepage If you want more great science of Psychotherapy please visit our website thescienceofpsychotherapy.com Grab a copy of our latest book! The Practitioner's Guide to the Science of Psychotherapy

Kathryn interviews Helen Hadani PhD. As the day-to-day effects of the pandemic ease, our children have been left with having to play catch up, learning the social tools and skills that parents of young children took for granted just 3 short years ago. To help them, parents need a new toolbox to foster their child's emotional intelligence—an essential character trait for children to succeed in our fast-paced, social society. Rachael Katz and Dr. Helen Hadani offer an innovative approach that breaks the mold on parenting. They share relevant research on social and emotional awareness to help parents understand how their child's mind is developing as well as providing powerful tips on how to help children build emotional intelligence to navigate the conditions of our times. Dr. Hadani is currently a fellow at the Brookings Institution where she conducts policy-focused research on the benefits of playful learning in both formal and informal contexts.Kathryn also interviews Author Maureen Healy. Summer is a fun time for most children, but these past few years have been tough! Helping your children bounce back from the pandemic and point towards happier experiences this summer may sound like a big job. The good news is you're not alone, and learning how to help them become stronger, more resilient, and ultimately, happier is important- for you and them. Maureen Healy brings us a great resource with ideas for experiences that bring us closer together and provide happy memories while learning, exploring and having new adventures. She is an award-winning author, educator, sought-after speaker, and leader in the field of children's emotional health, especially resilience education. She has reached millions worldwide through her popular blog on Psychology Today and is a favored expert source for media channels such as the NY Times, Forbes, Scholastic Magazine, ABC, NBC, PBS's This Emotional Life series, and Disney's The Fatherhood Project, with Hank Azaria.

Kathryn interviews Helen Hadani PhD. As the day-to-day effects of the pandemic ease, our children have been left with having to play catch up, learning the social tools and skills that parents of young children took for granted just 3 short years ago. To help them, parents need a new toolbox to foster their child's emotional intelligence—an essential character trait for children to succeed in our fast-paced, social society. Rachael Katz and Dr. Helen Hadani offer an innovative approach that breaks the mold on parenting. They share relevant research on social and emotional awareness to help parents understand how their child's mind is developing as well as providing powerful tips on how to help children build emotional intelligence to navigate the conditions of our times. Dr. Hadani is currently a fellow at the Brookings Institution where she conducts policy-focused research on the benefits of playful learning in both formal and informal contexts.Kathryn also interviews Author Maureen Healy. Summer is a fun time for most children, but these past few years have been tough! Helping your children bounce back from the pandemic and point towards happier experiences this summer may sound like a big job. The good news is you're not alone, and learning how to help them become stronger, more resilient, and ultimately, happier is important- for you and them. Maureen Healy brings us a great resource with ideas for experiences that bring us closer together and provide happy memories while learning, exploring and having new adventures. She is an award-winning author, educator, sought-after speaker, and leader in the field of children's emotional health, especially resilience education. She has reached millions worldwide through her popular blog on Psychology Today and is a favored expert source for media channels such as the NY Times, Forbes, Scholastic Magazine, ABC, NBC, PBS's This Emotional Life series, and Disney's The Fatherhood Project, with Hank Azaria.

Kathryn interviews Helen Hadani PhD. As the day-to-day effects of the pandemic ease, our children have been left with having to play catch up, learning the social tools and skills that parents of young children took for granted just 3 short years ago. To help them, parents need a new toolbox to foster their child's emotional intelligence—an essential character trait for children to succeed in our fast-paced, social society. Rachael Katz and Dr. Helen Hadani offer an innovative approach that breaks the mold on parenting. They share relevant research on social and emotional awareness to help parents understand how their child's mind is developing as well as providing powerful tips on how to help children build emotional intelligence to navigate the conditions of our times. Dr. Hadani is currently a fellow at the Brookings Institution where she conducts policy-focused research on the benefits of playful learning in both formal and informal contexts.Kathryn also interviews Author Maureen Healy. Summer is a fun time for most children, but these past few years have been tough! Helping your children bounce back from the pandemic and point towards happier experiences this summer may sound like a big job. The good news is you're not alone, and learning how to help them become stronger, more resilient, and ultimately, happier is important- for you and them. Maureen Healy brings us a great resource with ideas for experiences that bring us closer together and provide happy memories while learning, exploring and having new adventures. She is an award-winning author, educator, sought-after speaker, and leader in the field of children's emotional health, especially resilience education. She has reached millions worldwide through her popular blog on Psychology Today and is a favored expert source for media channels such as the NY Times, Forbes, Scholastic Magazine, ABC, NBC, PBS's This Emotional Life series, and Disney's The Fatherhood Project, with Hank Azaria.

Kathryn interviews Helen Hadani PhD. As the day-to-day effects of the pandemic ease, our children have been left with having to play catch up, learning the social tools and skills that parents of young children took for granted just 3 short years ago. To help them, parents need a new toolbox to foster their child's emotional intelligence—an essential character trait for children to succeed in our fast-paced, social society. Rachael Katz and Dr. Helen Hadani offer an innovative approach that breaks the mold on parenting. They share relevant research on social and emotional awareness to help parents understand how their child's mind is developing as well as providing powerful tips on how to help children build emotional intelligence to navigate the conditions of our times. Dr. Hadani is currently a fellow at the Brookings Institution where she conducts policy-focused research on the benefits of playful learning in both formal and informal contexts.Kathryn also interviews Author Maureen Healy. Summer is a fun time for most children, but these past few years have been tough! Helping your children bounce back from the pandemic and point towards happier experiences this summer may sound like a big job. The good news is you're not alone, and learning how to help them become stronger, more resilient, and ultimately, happier is important- for you and them. Maureen Healy brings us a great resource with ideas for experiences that bring us closer together and provide happy memories while learning, exploring and having new adventures. She is an award-winning author, educator, sought-after speaker, and leader in the field of children's emotional health, especially resilience education. She has reached millions worldwide through her popular blog on Psychology Today and is a favored expert source for media channels such as the NY Times, Forbes, Scholastic Magazine, ABC, NBC, PBS's This Emotional Life series, and Disney's The Fatherhood Project, with Hank Azaria.

How do we teach our kids contentment? I want to unpack this question from all angles. From why it is hard for us as parents, how we teach them reactively vs on purpose, where the emotion of contentment comes from, the purpose of discontentment and growing our tolerance of discontentment.      Products recommended here may include referral links to Amazon. If you click through and buy something I may earn a commission, at no cost to you.  Topics covered in this episode: The difference between being happy vs being content Happiness as a parenting goal can be very defeating and maybe even counterproductive Should happy kids be our parenting goal Recognizing that we live in a culture that is obsessed with happiness The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris  66. Are you stuck in the hustle for happiness? Finding contentment in momlife Teaching our kids contentment, how we do it reactively and without intention Pretending you're happy Parenting Book: Review for Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child 120. Teaching our kids emotional intelligence Guilt and deprivation The ‘not-enough' mindset (how to spot a scarcity mindset and shift it to an abundance mindset) Consider how we learn contentment in our own lives  How to really start showing up for your life How To Find Your Enneagram Type (and how it has changed my life) Hard and awesome (from Think The Best of Me) 140. Give your discomfort a purpose #uncomfortableonpurpose 115. A Controlling mom, or a capable mom? Finding Joy In Your Every Day (#theperfectmomentsproject) How to get that feeling (why values matter + free LIVE YOUR VALUES worksheet) How Simplifying Your Home Can Teach You Who You Are Comparing where your kids are to where other kids are. The pitfalls of using what you see, socially, to determine where you and your kids *should be* Understanding your own motivation on why you want your kids to be content How we measure success as parents The Baby That Always Cried (Our Story With Esophagitis) God's Grace Through Difficult Parenting 166. How to find confidence in being the mom you are, intentional motherhood What is hard about seeing your kids feel discontent 119. Tolerating tough emotions in our kids (and ourselves) The CBT framework: our emotions come from our thinking  76. Why it matters what you think (limiting mindsets in motherhood) What We Say About Ourselves (and why it matters) I Think, I Am! By Louise Hay Big Life Podcast (growth mindset for kids) Making Change: Do you have a growth mindset or a fixed mindset? (growth mindset for adults) Our natural discontentment Enjoying the simple pleasures (why it is hard and how to do it) The purpose of the emotion 156. 3 things to know about feeling negative emotions 123. Myths about emotion coaching our kids [LIVE]  Seeing the good, intentionally Contentment and knowing our values Happiness that is marketed to us, versus what we crave for contentment Addressing how our kids use comparison and how we can teach them about comparison in the context of contentment   Teaching our kids to look internally rather than externally Showing, rather than telling, our kids about the different life experiences in the world The role we have as parents to model contentment and honour the times our kids feel discontent  Room to make mistakes while we learn    Stop by the Facebook group to share your thoughts and ideas or tag or message me on Instagram   FULL TRANSCRIPT (unedited) 0:00 Hey friends, it's Shawna, your nerdy girlfriend from simpler purpose.ca. Welcome to Simple on Purpose podcast. So today I am doing one of the last posts until I wrap up the podcast for the summer. I'm going to spend my summer just balancing the two jobs that I have on the go. Finishing up school,

Are you tired and burnt out? Well maybe its time to check in with your nervous system and in this episode Rachel Fearnley shares just how to support your nervous system. Rachel is a nrevous system coach and runs a teacher training porgram that focuses on meditation, yin and breathwork, she is also a wonderful and radiating human. We talk about things that interefere with our nervous system and different ways to recognize how to approach different stressors. We also touch on raising and emotionally intelligent child and the importance of healthy communication. Thank you for tuning in x Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review and rate this podcast. I appreciate YOU so much! Follow me on: @chaosintheattic For health coaching: @iam.ennkay www.ro-hik.com ------------ @rachel_fearnley Tiktok: @rachel_fearnley1 https://www.rachelfearnley.com https://www.thewholehealthproject.co/about-us Book Reccomendation: The Wakeful Body: Somatic Mindfulness as a Path to Freedom - Willa Miller

In this weeks episode of The Playful Psychologist, I explore 'emotion coaching.' It sounds tricky, but once you understand the five steps underlying emotion coaching, it all starts to make sense. This episode aims to break down those five steps into 'easy to understand' language.After listening, if you would like to learn more, check out The Gottman Institute's online course: https://www.gottman.com/product/emotion-coaching-the-heart-of-parenting-online/You can also check out the book Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by Gottman. I've read it 5 times and each time I do, I feel like I learn something new!

In this episode of the Psychedelic Therapy Frontiers podcast, Dr. Steve Thayer and Dr. Reid Robison explore the the many facets of anger. They discuss the following topics:(1:44) Steve's story of coping with anger(7:47) What is the function of anger?(9:00) When the Body Says No, by Gabor Mate (10:13) The problem with being too "nice"(11:24) Emotions have a bodily felt sense(12:23) Bodily maps of emotions(13:13) Emotions are connected to an underlying need(14:39) Conditioning affects how we process emotions like anger(17:01) Primary, secondary, and instrumental emotions(26:55) Self-compassion in the face of the challenges of dealing with anger(27:53) Riding the waves of emotion(30:00) The two types of anger(32:05) Anger management(33:55) The ART of emotion processing(35:08) The corrective emotional experience afforded by MDMA-assisted psychotherapy (38:00) Healing trauma by addressing the entire nervous system(40:38) The 3 "As" of emotion processing(42:15) Validating emotions(45:05) Kristen Neff on self-compassion(47:40) Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child, by John Gottman(50:33) Process of emotional self-exploration (53:33) Fundamental human needs and self-actualization/enlightenment (57:40) Ram Dass(59:45) Dealing with anger in others(1:00:02) Talking to Crazy, by Mark Goulston (1:00:25) Defense mechanisms against angerEmail us questions and feedback at psychfrontiers@novamind.ca Learn more about our podcast at https://www.psychedelictherapyfrontiers.com/Learn more about Novamind at https://www.novamind.ca/Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drstevethayer/https://www.instagram.com/innerspacedoctor/https://www.instagram.com/novamind_inc/Disclaimer: The content of this podcast does not constitute medical advice or mental health treatment. Consult with a medical/mental health professional if you believe you are in need of mental health treatment.

We all want to love our kids well.  We want to be a safe place for them to process.  We want them to be open and authentic with us.The problem is, their losses and emotions can be hard for us to understand.  Sometimes we do our best to help them move through those old hurts and hang-ups without realizing our efforts are keeping them stuck.That was something I (Mike) experienced growing up.  My dad and step-mom simply wanted to move forward, but some of their choices kept us kids stuck.  I'm sharing more about that in this episode.I grew up in challenging blended family dynamics — and I'm hoping my story will give you valuable insight into some practical ways you can love your kids well, even when it feels painful or awkward.Resources from this Episode:Episode 108 :  3 Unity Breakers that are Detrimental to Your Connections and How You Can Avoid ThemEpisode 72:  The Best Way to Create Healthy, Bonded RelationshipsWe mentioned the skill of Emotion Coaching.  To learn more check out the Book:  Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by Dr. John GottmanEpisode 71:  How to Help Kids Cope with Painful DisappointmentWe mentioned The Smart Family Resources by Ron DealSubscribe & Review in Apple PodcastsAre you subscribed to our podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to subscribe today so you don't miss an episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsNow if you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is. Thank you!Want to Support the Show?You can join our mission of safe-guarding marriages and supporting step-couples by connecting with our Patreon community.  By everyone doing just a little, we can create big opportunities.Consider joining our community for as little as $4 per month and as a "thank you" — you'll have even more access directly to us!  Click here to join our community today

Parents everywhere will be familiar with the challenges of young children and emotional regulation. As they are still developing the skills of self-regulation, it's typical for our children to experience bouts of frustration, anger, overwhelm, meltdown and to have the odd day when things are just a little fragile! Add in a global pandemic, some chronic uncertainty and changes in daily lifestyle and you've got yourself a perfect storm. It can be difficult to know how best to support our children through their struggles with emotion regulation. Is what you're saying helpful? Why do things seem to click some days, but not others? Are there things you can be doing to better support them (& minimise those big outburts!?). We are thrilled to welcome Clinical Psychologist Emily Hanlon, a.k.a The Playful Psychologist, to chat about supporting our children with healthy emotion regulation. Emily shares some brilliant insights and fun tips for things you can be doing at home with your child that don't require expensive resources or a training manual. This is valuable information for all parents, but especially those who's little ones might be having a tricky time during the current climate. Resources Emily mentions: BOOKS Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman The Whole Brain Child Child by Daniel J. Siegel The Yes Brain by Daniel J. Siegel Freeing Your Child from Negative Thinking by Tamar Chansky My Big Moments personalised children's book - www.mybigmoments.com COURSES The Gottman Institute - www.gottman.com The Playful Psychologist - www.theplayfulpsychologist.com CONNECT WITH EMILY Instagram: @theplayfulpsychologist Website: www.theplayfulpsychologist.comFollow Kylie Camps on Instagram @kyliecamps Follow Jacquie Ward on Instagram @the_brave_space_ Follow The Kind Parenting Company on Instagram @thekindparentingcompany Sign up to The Kind Parenting Company newsletter For 20% off The Kind Parenting Company Sleep & Behaviour Programs use the code KPCPODCAST20 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

My guest tonight is Mariam Arafat, Relationship Coach (certified in life caching and Emotional Intelligence) A homeschooling mom. This episode is dedicated to Emotional intelligence. Mariam explains the importance of understanding and managing our emotions. She also emphasizes how parents can teach their children to recognize and express their feelings in a healthy manner.

There is no perfect way to help children build resilient, empathetic, and emotionally secure foundations that support them through adulthood. There is no instruction manual and there is no definitive right way. One approach parents can take is to be mindful and compassionate, with themselves first and then with their children. To find out more about how parents can raise optimistic and self-assured kids, Positive Psychology Podcast Host Lisa Cypers Kamen speaks with two psychotherapists about parenting strategies that help create stability in a child's life. Dr. Tina Payne Bryson describes enlightening approaches from her book, The Yes Brain: How to Cultivate Courage, Curiosity, and Resilience in Your Child. And Dr. Shauna Shapiro discusses the five essential elements of mindful discipline from her book, Mindful Discipline: A Loving Approach to Setting Limits and Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child.

This is a Q+A episode featuring questions from the Simple Squad (the Simple on Purpose Facebook Community). We are talking about feelings, marriage, seasons of life, parenting and family chores. These answers are coming at you from my life coaching point of view. I am a mom of three kids, trained Life Coach, practical minimalist, and I help moms with intentional living.   Questions covered in this episode: 1. Can you talk about the seasons of life and how we can't do certain things at certain seasons? Related posts with more information on this topic Simplify your life series All posts about Mom Life Expectation overwhelm   2. How do I change my parenting style when my husband is not on board or how can I get him on board...? Related posts with more information on this topic: When your spouse doesn't want to declutter Teaching our kids emotional intelligence Emotional Intelligence 101 (and by Enneagram Type) Book review: Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child   3. Meeting adult friends when you have little kids Related posts with more information on this topic: Being a good mom friend Why you should date your friends   4. How to choose your feelings (eg. when you are annoyed at your husband but want to feel kind)? Related posts with more information on this topic: Being mindful in marriage Working through a bad mood with one question My husband put the groceries away wrong, he doesn't care about me Myths about emotion coaching Tolerating tough emotions in ourselves and our kids   5. What is a good system for taking turns with family chores and duties? Related posts with more information on this topic: Saturday morning chores Doing chores you don't want to do  A Year of Family meetings    6. How to handle bullying in school?    FULL TRANSCRIPT For those of you who are new here I am Shawna, I am a mom of three kids, they are 10, nine and going to be seven soon. I am a practical minimalist. So we have stuff in our house, but it's the stuff we like the best. I talk about intentional living, which means turning off that autopilot, and planning and doing things on purpose, to build the life you want on purpose. I also talk about simple living, which means managing our resources or time or space, or energy or money working on that one in ways that are in line with our values instead of trying to do all of the things do the important things, and you get to decide what's important. Today, I'm going to be answering some questions. So I often make myself a calendar of all the episodes I want to record over the next few months and share. And sometimes I look at a topic and I'm like I don't really feel like talking about. So this is one of those weeks, and I asked with a Facebook group, the simple on purpose community there. I call them the simple squad. I asked them for some topics that they would like to hear about, and they just had some really great topics that I thought I'm going to try and just answer them all in one episode. So I'm going to give my best nerdy girlfriend and life coach answer to these questions. And if at the end, you feel like you have more questions or thoughts or want more clarity, bring it over to the Facebook group. The first topic is to reflect on the seasons of life, and how sometimes you're not able to do certain things in certain times, I really like to consider my life as being a series of seasons, because that helps ease up the pressure of feeling like it's gonna be like this forever. I remember when I had my first baby, and I'm like, in my house code on the couch, and I thought, I'm just gonna live on my couch forever, I'm going to become my coach, the coach is going to swallow me, I'll be like another coach. This is my life now. So I really like to step back from all of that mental drama, and remind myself like, it's not gonna be like this forever. I think of some of the seasons I had have had in...

You want to experience fun summer activities and events as a family, but you may need to readjust your visitation schedule so that you can include everyone……and that means negotiating changes with your Ex — which might trigger disagreement, conflict or disappointment.If you're dreading that conversation because things haven't gone well in the past or there's been tension between homes, you're not alone!  We've been there more times that we can count.In this episode, we'll share 5 practical tips that'll prepare you to approach negotiating with an Ex from a healthy perspective — and help you work through your frustrations and disappointments.You'll also discover some ways to help your kids process their disappointment if you just can't work that negotiation out and they end up missing something fun.You'll Discover:5 practical tips around negotiating schedule changes with an ExHow to stay focused on what's most important — the kidsStrategies to build your co-parenting relationship and avoid conflictHow to handle disappointment when things don't go your way (or the kid's way)Resources from this Episode:Episode 94:  70 Summer Activities to Create Family Time and Encourage BondingEpisode 67:  The Best Co-Parenting Strategy That  You Already Know Episode 71:  How to Help Kids Cope with Painful DisappointmentBook Recommendation:  Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John GottmanSubscribe & Review in Apple PodcastsAre you subscribed to our podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to subscribe today so you don't miss an episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsNow if you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is. Thank you!Want to Support the Show?You can join our mission of safe-guarding marriages and supporting step-couples by connecting with our Patreon community.  By everyone doing just a little, we can create big opportunities.Consider joining our community for as little as $4 per month and as a "thank you" — you'll have even more access directly to us!  Click here to join our community today

You might have imagined that "blending" would be relatively smooth and easy.But reality hit when your child refused to engage - no matter what you say or do they resist moving forward, and even  reject that new person in your life.The tension and conflict leaves you bewildered and it robs you of the happiness you want to experience. One of our listeners understands this all too well — her family is struggling and she asked us to help.  Her teenage daughters have refused to accept her decision to remarry and will not "get on board" with blending. There are no easy fixes when kids choose to dig in their heels and defiantly object to your relationship.  They may be struggling with fear, loss, insecurity or troubling emotions that keep them stuck in resistance.But don't lose hope, because there are practical steps you can take to help the kids process and gradually let go of their negative beliefs around blending.In this episode, we'll share some insights and effective strategies to ease the tension and help your family move forward. You'll Discover:Powerful messages your kids and step-kids need to receive from you — especially when they're refusing to blendEffective ways to help kids move through their difficult emotionsEncouragement and hope for your family's journeyResources from this Episode:Book Recommendation:  Building Love Together In Blended Families by Ron Deal & Gary ChapmanEpisode:  85 - How to Uniquely Build More Love and Connection in Your Blended Family with special guest Ron DealBook Recommendation:  Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John GottmanEpisode 71:  How to Help Kids Cope with Painful DisappointmentEpisode 40:  Uncover the Unspoken Feelings of Kids in Blended FamiliesEpisode 9:  A Surprisingly Simple Strategy for Bonding with Step-KidsEpisode 37:  Why do Kids Struggle to Accept the Stepparent? Subscribe & Review in Apple PodcastsWe want to encourage you to subscribe today so you don't miss an episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsWe would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast.  Just click here to Review,  Thank you!Want to Support the Show?You can join our Patreon community.  Consider joining for as little as $4 per month and as a "thank you" — you'll have even more access directly to us!  Click here to join our community today.

This is the second half of our conversation from last week where we discussed the sensitive topic of kid's grieving when one of their parents is absent in their life. If you missed the last episode, you may want to go back and listen to Episode 81 first — then come back here to catch the second half of the conversation where we'll also explore how this dynamic might impact the blending process. It can sometimes create unique barriers in a child's ability to accept a step-parent.If you or someone you know is facing this reality in their blended family, please don't miss this episode.You'll Discover:How kids experience different kinds of griefWhy they can idealize their missing parent and how that impacts youWhy it's important to create a 'safe space' for kids when they're strugglingHow to keep connecting to grieving kids and create security for all the relationships in the homeHow to navigate the fine line of speaking truth without dashing the kid's hopes and dreams of reconnecting with their disengaged parent Resources from this Episode:Episode 8: Toxic Exes and Hurting Kids - A Simple Strategy Against Lies and Slander Book Recommendation: Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by Dr. John GottmanRon Deal's Podcast Episode: When a Parent Goes M.I.A. with Andy and Heather HetchlerArticle: Where's Mom? The Disengaged Biological Parent by Ron DealSubscribe & Review in Apple PodcastsAre you subscribed to our podcast yet? If not, we want to encourage you to subscribe today so you don't miss an episode. Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsNow if you’re feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they’re fun for us read too! :-) Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is. Thank you!Want to Support the Show?You can join our mission of safe-guarding marriages and supporting step-couples by connecting with our Patreon community. By everyone doing just a little, we can create big opportunities.Consider joining our community for as little as $4 per month and as a "thank you" — you'll have even more access directly to us! Click here to join our community today

The best scenario for kids is when they can have a healthy relationship with both of the parents they love. Sadly, many kids in blended families have a gaping hole in their life because one of their parents is absent. Whether a parent's absence is due to abandonment, inconsistency, or death — the impact can be heartbreaking.Missing a parent who is absent can be one of the hardest realities for kids to work through. And it might be one of the most challenging struggles for that remaining parent to face. Watching your kids grieve over that missing relationship they long for can leave you feeling helpless.But if you're feeling like there's nothing you can do, we want to bring you some encouragement in this episode.We're discussing this sensitive topic to understand how kid's grieve the loss of a parent — and how you can best respond when you're left to pick up the pieces.We'll also explore how this dynamic might impact the blending process. It can create sometimes create unique barriers in a child's ability to accept a step-parent.If you or someone you know is facing this reality in their blended family, please don't miss this episode.You'll Discover:How kids experience different kinds of griefWhy they can idealize their missing parent and how that impacts youWhy it's important to create a 'safe space' for kids when they're strugglingHow to keep connecting to grieving kids and create security for all the relationships in the homeHow to navigate the fine line of speaking truth without dashing the kid's hopes and dreams of reconnecting with their disengaged parent Resources from this Episode:Episode 8: Toxic Exes and Hurting Kids - A Simple Strategy Against Lies and Slander Book Recommendation: Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by Dr. John GottmanRon Deal's Podcast Episode: When a Parent Goes M.I.A. with Andy and Heather HetchlerArticle: Where's Mom? The Disengaged Biological Parent by Ron Deal Subscribe & Review in Apple PodcastsWe want to encourage you to subscribe today so you don't miss an episode. Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsWe would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast. Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is. Thank you!Want to Support the Show?You can join our mission of safe-guarding marriages and supporting step-couples by connecting with our Patreon community. Consider joining our community for as little as $4 per month and as a "thank you" — you'll have even more access directly to us! Click here to join our community today

Thank you so much for listening! We'd love it if you took a moment to rate and review the podcast in whichever app you choose to listen. And, as always if you have a friend who may be encouraged by this conversation, don't hesitate to share the podcast with them.Also, you can follow us on:Instagram: growingupwithkidspodcastFacebook: @growingupwithkidspodcastTwitter: @DavidGrowUp and @RachaelGrowUpThis Week's Episode:We lose it a few times over a bucket of chicken and the few French words we know.Also, we dive into how we are wrestling with the guilt of virtual school, working, keeping homes afloat, all the while living through a pandemic. It can be hard, so don't go it alone out there.Do not be discouraged. You are up for the challenge. You do not need to feel guilty. You and your partner can walk through this together. And, we are glad to offer a little encouragement, wisdom, and humor for the walk.The Stat of the Week is about differences in empathy between men and women. Check out the original source material: Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child.

Dr. Paola lake talks with Dr. Arthur Burrows, registered clinical psychologist and practice owner of Becker, Burrows and Associates, who specializes in childhood anxiety. He shares his insights in how to help children deal with anxiety through mindful practices, how parents can improve their child's sense of peace by creating anchors throughout the day, as well as other valuable insights on alleviating anxiety in children. Resources: Website: www.anxietycanada.com Book: Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child" by John M. Gottman --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/drlake/message

Host Mark Vander Ley Ph.D., LCPC discusses the four styles of parenting identified by Dr. John Gottman's research. The four styles of parenting described in "Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child" are The dismissing parent, the disapproving parent, the Laissez-Faire parent and the emotion coach parent.  This episode of The Connected Family Podcast focuses on describing the four types of parenting style and then summarizes the five steps of emotion coaching.   Join The Facebook Group The Website

I have been coaching women who shy away from empathy in their motherhood and relationships.  Sometimes this is because they can't see it as a part of a solution, maybe it doesn't come naturally to them. Most often we don't bring empathy into parenting because we don't want to enable our kids or express any permissiveness of their poor behaviour.  I want to unpack what empathy is, the two types of it, and how to bring it into your parenting without using it as a way to enable poor behaviour. Empathy can increase our connection and relationship - which helps us work on conflict resolution together.  Find the full transcript at the end of this post (Books or products recommended here may include referral links to Amazon. If you click through and take action I will be compensated at no additional cost to you.)   This is part one. In this episode we cover: The two types of empathy How empathy helps make our lives better The phenomenon of having empathy for 'the bad guy'  Empathy is not enabling Empathy is not the silver bullet solution to conflict with our kids How empathy teaches our kids emotional intelligence  How expressing empathy to our children helps them offer it to others Empathy helps us both deal with the discomfort of their negative emotions The book I mention in this episode is Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman I have a thorough book summary on that book right here I also mentioned SISU, which is a Finnish concept of grit and resilience. It is from a great book I read a couple of years ago called The Finnish Way.    Sign up for information about one-on-one life coaching with Shawna Scafe - Certified Coach Practitioner & Certified in Transformational Life Coaching.  FULL EPISODE TRANSCRIPT If you're new here a little bit about me, I am a mom of three kids in small-town, Canada. I am a life coach, a minimalist mom. And I started out my career as a health inspector, very underwhelming job. And I gave that up once my second child was born, to stay at home with them, which evolved into me being here, somehow just taking step after step, idea after idea down the road, to where now I am life coaching women and helping them show up for their lives. That's my whole goal for you, is to give you some freedom and power to show up for your life to enjoy your life. No matter where you are, even if you're knee-deep with toddlers, or you're balancing work life and mom life. I want to help you show up well for your life. As I mentioned, I am in small town Canada and our province is going into another wave of COVID restrictions, we're entering into another time of somewhat isolation, but not as extreme as last March. So we're really relying again on what we can do outside even though it's cold, and there's snow around. Getting outside for walks is a huge thing. Last week, I took my daughter for a walk and we walked an hour right across town, the sun was shining, it was beautiful. And I don't know about you, but I feel like with my kids, if I pour into them one on one, just being with them just I had to just walk with her and listen to her, it was easy, that she is so much more receptive to me so much more warm with me that it just, it makes us such a stronger connection. And I think that's so important when your kid is maybe pulling away like she'll sometimes do that pulling them a bit closer, is going to keep them closer, and I'm going to talk about something today that's really going to help with this. I'm going to talk about empathy. And it's something that I've been coaching on and I'm hearing more and more moms and women are shying away from using empathy in their relationships. And maybe because it doesn't seem like a possible step towards a solution. Maybe it feels like empathy would make things permissible, and it's almost accepting of people's poor behaviour. Maybe empathy doesn't come natural,

In this weeks episode of The Playful Psychologist, I discuss emotional intelligence and why I believe it is SO important to focus more on emotional intelligence over IQ. Emotional Intelligence is the ability to understand, use, and manage your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges and defuse conflict. Having emotional intelligence helps you build stronger relationships and achieve your school/career goals, as well as your personal goals. It can also help you to connect with your feelings, turn intention into action, and make informed decisions in situations. While the world has been focused on academic achievement in childhood, emotional self-regulation has been largely ignored. This is concerning, as current research suggests that emotional intelligence is TWICE as strong as a predictor as IQ for success in later life!  What this means is, it's not always the smartest person who is the most successful! Your IQ isn't enough on its own to be successful later in life. Yes, your IQ can help you get into a university course, but it's your emotional intelligence that will help you manage the stress and emotions when facing challenges in your degree. IQ and EQ exist together and are most effective when they build off one another.In this episode, I discuss why emotional intelligence is so important and how it differs from IQ. I also discuss the components that make up emotional intelligence (according to psychologist David Goleman). These include self-management, self-awareness, social awareness, and relationship management.  Lastly, this episode will discuss ways you can help your child develop their emotional intelligence based on the book ‘Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child' by Dr John Gottman.

Three years ago I had the greatest pleasure of interviewing parenting expert and registered psychologist with 15+ years of experience, best selling author, and overall incredible mum and human being, Dr Vanessa Lapointe. She has changed thousands of parent-child relationships across the globe and it is with great excitement that I welcome her back for our first ever return guest to the show for Episode 100 of Unstoppable! So if you want to understand your relationships, emotions, and overall self better, you need to start here with reparenting yourself first to pass wisdom, not wounds, down to future generations. Buckle up for another massive episode. Timestamps: 04:30 - The impact of COVID-19 on parenting 06:45 - The role and goal of a parent 08:48 - The problem of co-dependent children 13:27 - Parental emotions effect on children 23:25 - How to discipline your kids 31:40 - How your childhood disciplining could affect your relationships as an adult 41:27 - How to build the foundations of trust in your kids 47:56 - Teaching honesty to your children 56:21 - How to teach gratitude to our kids 58:03 - Family integrations

The goal of this episode is to encourage parents to show their kids appropriate ways to respond to difficult situations/seasons. Parents often think that they need to be perfect or maintain a strong front in front of their kids during hard times. However, its not only ok to let your guard down and have an authentic response...your kids need to see this! I was thrilled to interview my cousin-in-law, Marie Gorman! Marie is a wife and mother to two precious little girls! She is also a licensed psychotherapist, clinical social worker and a trauma-informed yoga instructor. She has combined all of these skills and has started her own private practice in northwest suburbs of Chicago where she helps others through both counseling and yoga classes that are designed to ease the intensity of mental health symptoms. In this episode we talk about: Trauma Informed yogaDemonstrating dealing with big feelings/negative feelings in a healthy and safe way for our childrenBe aware of your child’s emotions Recognize your child’s expression of that emotion as an opportunity to teach them somethingListen with empathy and validate their feelings Give their emotions a nameEscalation and de-escalationHow to stop the cycle Notice triggers in yourselfFigure out what coping skills work for you Mothering and Mental Health Being in the midst of a pandemic mental health issues can become heightenedDon't be alarmed if you are experiencing this...if there is something going on in your head, it is probably related to the pandemic/quarantineTelehealth options are availableMost insurance companies have expanded their plans to include Telehealth counseling if they didn't cover it beforeThere are free or low cost/sliding scale therapy options availableWhere to find a therapist: Psychology Today Open Path Psychotherapy CollectiveBook recommendations Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John GottmanThe Body the Keeps the Score - Bessel VanderkolkThe Whole Brain Child - SiegleBest way to get in touch with Marie: Marie’s Private Practice: Embody Mental Health Website: embodymentalhealth.comInstagram: @embodymentalhealth Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/findingyourvillagepod?fan_landing=true)

Have you ever felt rejected by your stepchild?I know I have — and it hurts. Especially when you're trying so hard to show them how much you love them. Most stepparents I've met really want to have a connected relationship with their stepchild. But somewhere along the way, they feel like giving up. It's not that they don't still want to build a relationship…it's just that rejection is painful.I've also discovered that the "rejection" is most often not really about me. It's common for that to be the reaction of a stepchild when they're caught in a Loyalty Bind…and that's a typical place for kids to get stuck in blended families.As I started to see that Annika (my step-daughter) was stuck in this bind it changed my view of what was really happening. I got more focused on helping her loosen the "binds" instead of simply protecting myself.If you've ever felt rejected by your step-child — this is the episode for you.You'll Discover:What a Loyalty Bind is and how kids get stuck in themHow to support kids emotionally when they're stuck in a Loyalty BindWays to help step-parents cope when they're feeling hurt from the result of a step-child's Loyalty BindHow bio-parents can avoid inadvertently feeding into a child's Loyalty BindResources from this Episode:Episode 7 — Toxic Ex's & Hurting Kids — 5 Steps That HelpEpisode 25 — How to Survive Time Alone with Your Step-Kids — Your Guide to Spring BreakEpisode 26 — Are You Stuck in a "Competition" with Your Step-Kids?Episode 27 — How to Set Clear Boundaries and Safeguard RelationshipsRaising an Emotionally Intelligent Child book by Dr. John GottmanArticle by Ron Deal on FamilyLife Blended: How to Cook a StepfamilySubscribe & Review in Apple PodcastsAre you subscribed to our podcast yet? If not, we want to encourage you to subscribe today so you don't miss an episode. Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsNow if you’re feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they’re fun for us read too! :-) Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is. Thank you!Want to Support the Show?You can join our mission of safeguarding marriages and supporting step-couples by connecting with our Patreon community. By everyone doing just a little, we can create big opportunities.Consider joining our community for as little as $4 per month and as a "thank you" — you'll have even more access directly to us!

Relationships have been at the center of humanities surviving and thriving throughout the ages and it's no different today… relationships are critical to our personal and professional success. Caralee Frederic, owner and founder of the of the Principle Skills Relationship Center in Denver, CO speaks with us about her own difficult childhood and how it led to a life of helping people build and repair their own relationships. Join us and learn more about how to make the most of your personal and professional relationships, how to protect your relationship when you are off, and how to rebuild rapidly when we fall short. Show References: Grit, The Anatomy of Peace, The Outward Mindset, Crucial Conversations, Leadership and Self Deception, Apple watch, Garmin watch, Fitbit watch, Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child, The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work Click here to join our mailing list Click here to provide show recommendations and input Music: Funkorama Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/

Today we're chatting with Quinn Kelly and how to stay connected with your spouse after having kids. Quinn is a licensed marriage and family therapist, wife of 14 years and a mother of four wild but adorable boys so I knew she would be the perfect person to chat with about this topic. She has a blog called Sanctification and Spitup centered on faith and parenting, a podcast of her own called the Renew You Podcast, a faith Conference series for women called Renew (with an upcoming conference this March in Houston, TX that you are invited too!), and she is one of our Baby Chick writers! This topic about staying connected with your spouse after having children is super important to us. We know that a lot of things change after you have a baby and our relationships can be one them. Sometimes its for the better and sometimes for the worse. :( We want to know what we can do to strengthen our relationship with our spouse so we had to talk to Quinn to share her amazing knowledge with us. During the episode, Quinn mentioned her top 5 books that she recommends: The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by Dr. John Gottman The Road Back to You by Cron and Stabile Parenting With Love and Logic by Cline and Fay Daring Greatly by Brené Brown And if you want to know more about Quinn and follow her, here are her details: Blog: www.sanctificationandspitup.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sanctificationandspitup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SanctificationAndSpitup/ Podcast: https://renewfaithconference.com/podcast Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/renewyoupodcast/ Faith Conference Series: www.renewfaithconference.com

Today, Jamilah (Slate's Mom and Dad Are Fighting) explains how her 6 year old has taught her patience she never thought was possible. She also reflects on the importance of being vulnerable and open with our children, and owning up to our mistakes, in order to help them cultivate those qualities within themselves. “It’s not enough to simply say my child is well-fed or well dressed or goes to a good school. We have to think about nurturing their spirits." Follow Jamilah on Instagram & Twitter https://slate.com/author/jamilah-lemieux Mom and Dad Are Fighting TED Interview Mercari Everlane Billie Policygenius To keep the conversation going about this episode, find us on Flick. Transcriptions available shortly after air date at https://www.lemonadamedia.com/show/good-kids/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, Jamilah (Slate's Mom and Dad Are Fighting) explains how her 6 year old has taught her patience she never thought was possible. She also reflects on the importance of being vulnerable and open with our children, and owning up to our mistakes, in order to help them cultivate those qualities within themselves. “It’s not enough to simply say my child is well-fed or well dressed or goes to a good school. We have to think about nurturing their spirits." Follow Jamilah on Instagram & Twitter https://slate.com/author/jamilah-lemieux Mom and Dad Are Fighting TED Interview Mercari Everlane Billie Policygenius To keep the conversation going about this episode, find us on Flick. Transcriptions available shortly after air date at https://www.lemonadamedia.com/show/good-kids/ See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.

We’ve already covered emotion regulation a few times on the show: there were these older short episodes on the more recent one (https://yourparentingmojo.com/selfreg/) on Dr. Stuart Shanker’s book Self-Reg. But I realized I’d never done the episode that should underlie all of these, which discusses what actually is emotion regulation and when (for crying out loud!) our children will be able to do it. So we cover that in this episode, as well as some resources to help you support your child in developing this capability, the most important of which is Dr. John Gottman’s book Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child (https://amzn.to/2S5mrqR) [affiliate link].   Download your free workbook! If you’re in the thick of struggles with emotion regulation right now and you find yourself punishing or thinking about punishing your child for behavior that’s driving you crazy, you should definitely download the How to Stop Punishing Your Child (And What to Do Instead) workbook that gives you strategies to help both of you cope better with stressful situations. Just enter your name and email address below! Read Full Transcript (#) Hello and welcome to the Your Parenting Mojo podcast. Today we’re going to talk about a topic that’s relevant to all of us at some point, and that’s emotion regulation. We’ve already covered this from a few angles; you might recall episodes on how children learn about emotion regulation through direct teaching and through modeling, as well as the more recent episode on Dr. Stuart Shanker’s book Self-Reg, which discusses the potential impact of environmental stressors on self-regulation. But I realized we’ve never done a background episode on what exactly is emotion regulation, when we can expect to see more of it, and what are some resources we can use to support our child in developing this capability, so we’re going to do that today. Surprisingly, there is no single definition of what is an emotion. Most emotion theorists describe emotional behavior in terms of a chain of events, e.g.: Stimulus in context > cognitive process > experienced feeling > behavior Different theorists give different weight to physiological and cognitive processes, and the exact order in which the steps appear (e.g. whether the emotion includes the cognitive appraisal or follows it). Despite the fact that their brains aren’t as well-developed as ours, children still feel emotions in the same way that we do. Dr. John Gottman, who has studied and written about children’s emotion regulation, says that “we have inherited a tradition of discounting children’s feelings simply because children are smaller, less rational, less experienced, and less powerful than the adults around them.” When adults disregard children’s feelings – for example, when we do things like saying “there’s nothing to be afraid of” when they wake up with a nightmare or don’t want to go into a big loud party, the child begins to believe the adult’s judgement and stops trusting their own judgements about their own feelings. They begin to think “well I feel scared, but my trusted caregiver is telling me there’s nothing to be scared of so I must have mis-judged the situation,” when in fact, even adults can wake up scared from nightmares and can feel some trepidation when walking into a loud, crowded party. And it also turns out that understanding your own emotions and the emotions of those around you is critical to regulating those emotions – which is something we all want for our children! What is emotion regulation? Perhaps not surprisingly, there is no single definition of Emotion Regulation (ER) either. Some definitions include: - Reflecting modulating and changing emotional states, managing emotion, responding and modulating behavioral expression of emotions, particularly the expression of emotions in socially acceptable ways; - Monitoring, evaluating, and modifying emotional reactions,...

Dr. Reedy discusses the work of John Gottman, Ph.d. and his concept of emotional coaching (in contrast to dismissive, dissaproving, or laissez-faire parenting). Gottman explains how learning to hear and validate children leads to resiliency and the reduction of mental health issues. Parents who focus on behaviors rather than emotions, tend to overvalue cooperation. Parents who see a child's "negative" emotions as an opportunity for intimacy are better suited to provide healthy guidance. He explains how this is all built upon the foundation of a parent's self-awareness.

How to raise an emotionally intelligent child.  What it means to be emotionally literate, why we need to focus on this and how parents can nurture emotional intelligence in their children To join our free Facebook group on Positive Parenting please visit  https://www.facebook.com/groups/PositiveParentingCommunity/?ref=bookmarks And to sign up for DailyWisdom emails please visit  https://www.familyconnectionsacademy.com/p/dailywisdoms

Strong-willed kids have a lot of frustrating behaviors.  For me though, meltdowns are one of the most challenging behaviors.  I want to cry in a corner because my child's totally out of control with emotions.  I am usually left with a lot of questions; “What do I need to do to help my child manage their emotions better?”, “What can I do to weather the storm of their emotions in a healthier way?”, and “What's even going on? Why are they doing this?” So we're here with marriage and family therapist, Jeff Tesch to talk about all things meltdown. LISTEN ABOVE OR READ THE SUMMARY BELOW Jeff Tesch, LMFT What causes a meltdown?  What's going on in the child's brain during meltdown? Meltdowns are really a flood of emotions.  So many emotions that your brain starts to be overstimulated and stops thinking rationally.  But where do all those emotions come from? All emotions are driven by thoughts.  Emotions are really a response to what you’re thinking. For example: when you are afraid of something, you don’t feel fear first.  Rather, you think a fearful thought THEN you feel fear. What happens next? After you have a thought, followed by an emotion, the emotion builds unless you change your thinking.  As the emotions build, some unfortunate things happen in your brain: Your brain shifts into the fight or flight response/a panic response. Your ability to think clearly and rationally diminishes. You start to believe things that aren't accurate You become difficult to reason with You have to calm down before you can think rationally again So when our child is in the middle of a meltdown, you can assume that their emotions have flooded the brain.  Their brain isn't able to rationalize or reason or do any problem solving.  They truly are just in the fight or flight part of their brain that doesn't do any of that higher functioning. That is a significant thing to remember. In the middle of a meltdown is NOT the time to talk, explain, or to act different.  In fact, engaging with a child who is melting down usually leads to further escalation. What can you do to help prevent a meltdown? Think about the Hulk.  As you might know, he has some warning signs that he’s going to turn into the Big Green Guy.  He goes through a process where he's fighting against his emotions. If he’s not successful he turns into the green guy and he's gone. Here’s some tips for preventing a meltdown: Be aware of what triggers a meltdown in your child.  What signs do they give you that they are headed into a meltdown?  The earlier you can intervene, the better. Distract their thinking.  Since emotions are a result of thoughts, try changing what they’re thinking about.  If you see a meltdown coming on you could start asking them questions about something completely unrelated, start playing a game, etc. Use “Emotional Coaching” A lot of times, meltdowns occur when a child isn't feeling understood, heard, or like their feelings are valid. Using emotional coaching can help your child feel like somebody understands them.Researches conducted a study where they wired kids up and monitored them throughout their day. The researchers wanted to learn about physiological response to everyday struggles.  The researchers taught parents to simply notice their child’s feelings and to label their child’s feelings out loud.  Example: “You look upset” or “You are frustrated”.   The research showed that if parents made that kind of a statement, their kids were much less likely to begin to escalate emotionally. Most humans begin to feel calmer when they feel validated and understood.So what is emotional coaching?Emotional coaching was developed by researcher John Gottman.  You can read about it more in his book Raising and Emotionally Intelligent Child. Here are the basic principles taught in the book. Emotions are part of being human.  There is nothing wrong with them.

Today I am joined by Shauna Shapiro. Shauna is a professor, author, and internationally recognized expert in mindfulness. She has over 20 years of studying meditation in Thailand, Nepal, and the West. She has also published 150 Journal articles and chapters and co-authored the critically acclaimed texts, "The Art and Science of Mindfulness," as well as "Mindful Discipline: A Loving Approach to Setting Limits and Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child." Today she and I talk about how mindfulness applies to personal development, to education, to the corporate world, and to parenting.

Summary:In Episode 008, Joseph discusses 5 comprehensible steps to becoming a great parent. Challenges and struggles are normal when it comes to parenting and oftentimes we are left to our own devices to figure out what works best for our child. Joseph provides parents with 5 clear steps that can help us become great parents according to the fundamental needs of our children. He also refers listeners to three key books that can assist us in this parenting journey that is a continual, learning process for us all.Time Stamped Show Notes:00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast00:28 – Today’s topic: 5 Steps to Becoming a Great Parent00:42 – Parenting challenges are always there01:08 – 1 in 7 children in the US are struggling with one type of diagnosable mental, behavioral, or developmental issue01:29 – ADHD is a growing problem for many kids01:36 – Anxiety and depression are also becoming more present in children of younger ages01:57 – “A baby is born with a need to be loved – and never outgrows it.”–Frank A. Clark02:10 – Joseph believes in the attachment theory – from cradle to death, we need to be loved and appreciated -John Bowlby02:28 – “People’s greatest inspirations have been their parents”02:48 – #1 Start now and start earlyo02:52 – Many excellent books on parenting come from Dr. Haim Ginotto03:19 –How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Mazlish and Fabero03:40 –Between Parent and Childby Dr. Haim Ginotto04:33 – Many of us think passion and love for parenting already make us a good parent05:27 – #2 Validationo05:35 – Focus on your child’s needs more than your own embarrassment and meet them where they are at06:12 – #3 Be an exampleo06:31 – You can’t tell a child not to copy youo06:41 – Show by example and let your children be involvedo06:49 – “Tell me and I forget. Teach me and I may remember. Involve me and I learn.” – Benjamin Franklino07:22 – Don’t blame yourself07:32 – #4 Provide safety & securityo09:04 – Our children look towards uso09:16 – Parents need to provide their children a safe and secure environment09:55 – #5 Keep learningo10:08 – Always be open to change10:16 – 3 parenting books Joseph recommends:Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child,Between Parent and Child, andHow to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk10:54 – Lindsay says, “My teenagers fight all day. Brad who is 14 is the worst – he’s always complaining that his brothers and sister get more treats, attention and rewards than he does. He picks fights with them and ruins the atmosphere. What should I do?”– Focus on Brad’s needs. There are 3 Fs in parenting – be firm, be fair, and be friendly12:58 – End of this week’s podcast!3 Key Points:Always place your child’s needs before your own embarrassment—especially when it comes to reproaching them in public.Engage with your children as they learn best through being included and getting involved.Be firm, fair, and friendly to your children as you address their concerns, needs, and frustrations.Resources Mentioned:Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Childby Dr. GottmanHow to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Mazlish and FaberBetween Parent and Childby Dr. Haim Ginott

Did you know? The default communication strategies parents use with their children are far from optimal. Better communication strategies lead to happier children. "Children need to master their emotions. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child is a guide to teaching children to understand and regulate their emotional world. And as acclaimed psychologist and researcher John Gottman shows, once they master this important life skill, emotionally intelligent children will enjoy increased self-confidence, greater physical health, better performance in school, and healthier social relationships. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child will equip parents with a five-step “emotion coaching” process." If your children are good at dealing with their emotions, they will have more satisfying relationships, and a happier life. Welcome to the world-class parenting podcast, where we decode world-class parents and parenting techniques. Today we are discussing and sharing the key takeaways from "Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child". We're big fans of the Tim Ferriss Show, and we are creating the parenting podcast we wish existed, aimed at people who love the Tim Ferriss Show. This book explains how to teach your child to deal with emotions, allowing them to experience more satisfaction and have better relationships with you, and others!

Shauna Shapiro, Ph.D. is an internationally recognized expert on mindfulness. She is also a licensed clinical psychologist, an Associate Professor of Psychology at Santa Clara University, and the co-author of the books "The Art and Science of Mindfulness" and "Mindful Discipline: A Loving Approach to Setting Limits and Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child." Shauna and I discussed a way into meditation and mindfulness that is, somewhat surprisingly, not predicated around spirituality - rather, one that is focused on science and research. We spent some time speaking about some of the studies and clinical research she's done, including work with women with breast cancer, as well as increased empathy with physicians. Definitely check this one out, Shauna is super interesting and is doing great work in the world. Today's track is by Cory Gray - it's called "Tell the Future" and is licensed under a Attribution-NonCommercial 3.0 International License.

IN THIS EPISODE: This episode is the first of a series of foundational pieces we will provide on relational science and building secure relationships. Thank you for checking out the show!! It has a longer than usual monologue at the beginning but then rolls into the normal 3-way conversation. Hey we are just figuring this stuff out.