Evolving Love Podcast

Today we sit down with photographer and academic Dr. Emma Phillips to explore the cultural, feminist, and personal dimensions of an activity that we hold close to our heart - the sexy selfie.Emma is a photographer and researcher/lecturer in Visual Communication at the University of Canberra.With twelve years of professional photography experience in Australian media, design, and advertising, and eight years teaching photography and visual communications across Melbourne, Sydney, and Canberra, Emma brings a wealth of expertise to her work.In 2022 she completed her PhD at the University of Technology Sydney on the intersection of sexy-selfies with class, and has been a finalist in the prestigious Australian National Photographic Portrait Prize.In today's discussion we talk about the cultural hierarchy between selfies and self-portraits, why we are motivated to take sexy selfies, the role of the male-gaze, the role of validation, aesthetic bias and class judgements, sexy selfies as erotic communication, photographer/model power-dynamics, masculinity and the male-selfie, creating environments for artistic exploration, how selfies can help foster community and so much more.Guest LinksEmma's PHDEmma's WebsiteEvolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack | Retreat This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

In today's episode we dive deep into the art of communication in long-term, non-monogamous relationships. We explore the nuances of radical honesty—when it's helpful, when it's too much, and how to balance truth with tact. From navigating attraction to others, to the infamous “chewer vs. spewer” dynamic, we unpack how our differing communication styles have evolved over the years. We share examples like late-night pillow talks, wardrobe critiques, and the vasectomy sample drop-off, all while highlighting the importance of timing, tone and intention.Women's RetreatBookings for my Women's Retreat in Yass, NSW, Australia from 17th-19th October 2025 are now open! (Currently running an Early Bird special!)Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack | Retreat This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

Mistress Fleur Driver is a professional Dominatrix and BDSM practitioner with over thirteen years of experience in the sex work industry. Originally trained in the courtesan tradition by European Madams, her practice is grounded in immersive, intentional experiences that welcomes people from all walks of life. From her private dungeon in Sydney to international settings, Fleur guides her clients through carefully crafted journeys of surrender, ritual, and self-discovery.In this conversation we discuss healing through BDSM, sacred spanking, clients exploring sissification, high protocol scenes, how to use cling wrap in BDSM, masculinity and BDSM, Financial domination, being married and also being a sex worker, the visual aesthetics of BDSM, aftercare and mental health for Dominatrix's, the state of sex work in Australia, the difference between decriminalisation and legalisation of sex work and so much more.Mistress Fleur Driver Links:Website | InstagramEvolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack | Retreat This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

In today's episode we discuss our appearance on the ABC's Compass program “Beyond Monogamy” which was released on Sunday 27th April 2025. We dissect the process of filming, the feedback we have been receiving, counter-opinions presented in the show and how we are feeling after our highest profile media appearance yet…Watch The DocoEvolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack | Retreat This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

Evan's story is unlike anything you've heard. Imagine spending your most formative years within the confines of a religious fundamentalist cult. How would this shape your approach to sex, love and relationships?In addition to his vulnerability, honesty and ability to self-reflect, Evan is also a talented songwriter and frontman of his Canberra-based band, The Burley Griffin.In this episode, prepare to be moved as we delve into Evan's inspiring journey: from rebuilding his understanding of love and intimacy after purity culture, to his personal explorations in non-monogamy, his path to self-love, grappling with external and intrinsic validation, how the Queer community became a vital force in his deconstruction of social and relationship norms and so much more….Evan Buckley Links:SpotifyBandcampEvolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack-Podcast Cover Photo: Josh de Hoog This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

We take the opportunity to celebrate our 10th Wedding Anniversary by reliving the night of the proposal!Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

In todays episode we discuss Liam being shamed, how we police language, a recent Chris Williamson Instagram caption, an incredible new TV show “Adolescence”, and so much more!Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

We have a difficult discussion in today's podcast that relates to child safety and Abbey's recent Substack article “We Must Be Critical of Non-Monogamy”. We unpack the reception and criticisms around the article, the importance of nuanced conversations around this topic, why no community is immune from having these discussions and so much more.Important Resources:If you feel affected by this episode and the themes discussed, please reach out to these great resources:United States:Childhelp USAThe National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN)Australia:Kids HelplineBraveheartsEngland:NSPCC (National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children)Childline-Study referenced in episode: UNSW Study Link This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

Tim is a philosopher, award-winning writer and teacher. He has a doctorate in philosophy from the University of New South Wales on the evolution of morality and specialises in ethics, critical thinking, the philosophy of science and the philosophy of education.Currently, Tim is the Senior Philosopher at The Ethics Centre (who run the brilliant “Festival of Dangerous Ideas” in Sydney), and is an Honorary Associate in the philosophy department at the University of Sydney.In 2021 he released the critically acclaimed book entitled “How We Became Human: And Why We Need to Change” and we reference this frequently in our chat today.In this conversation we discuss the moral panic of non-monogamy, where do our beliefs come from, whether monogamy is a moral good in the world, how do we calibrate our ethical compass, how do you balance the intellectual and the embodied, parenting and the window of plasticity, where do monogamous ethical frameworks come from, serial monogamy and so much more.Guest LinksDr. Tim Dean WebsiteEthics Centre WebsiteEvolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

In today's episode we unpack Liam's recent vasectomy procedure. We discuss the procedure, the lead up and the aftermath, delve into the ethics of contraception, the importance of peas and double briefs, semen, myths around vasectomies, manhood and so much more…Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

Georgia Grace is a certified sex and relationship practitioner and somatic therapist who is particularly known for her work in somatic sexology, embodied counselling and trauma-informed practices.Her approach to working with sex and relationships is inclusive, sex-positive and shame-free, and supports individuals, couples and groups to overcome common sexual concerns.She is also a co-founder of NORMAL, a sexual wellness company, where she works with Lucy Wark and a team of experts to create educational courses and design modern sex toys.Georgia hosts the podcast “Glad You Came”, and in October 2024 released her critically acclaimed book “The Modern Guide to Sex”.This conversation was our first time meeting Georgia, and we were immediately captivated by her intellect, wit, compassion and articulate way of explaining concepts. Based in Australia, we are thankful that one of the leading voices on sexuality is someone who embraces a forward-thinking, inclusive and sex-positive approach.In this wide roaming chat we discuss; faking orgasm, masturbation scripts, the concept of “The Learning Edge”, embodiment and sexuality, top down and bottom up therapeutic approaches, the role of porn, the window of tolerance, “up-regulating and down-regulating”, practice vs play sessions, maintaining erotic desire, listening to your bodies' cues and so much more.Guest Links:WebsiteInstagramNormal ToysEvolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

In today's episode we trial a new format for the show as we play with hypothetical scenarios!Abbey's lover Caspian leaves his socks everywhere! When is enough enough? How will Abbey confront him?Brenda, Kai, Abbey and Liam embark on a polycule camping trip…. come along for the ride!!Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

In today's conversation we discuss whether men deserve a voice, sensitive men, rolemodels, social media and the influence of the manosphere, how to bring men into the conversation, how men can advocate for men's issues and hold feminist ideals in tandem, the importance of men expressing affection, the role of a competitive nature in masculinity, why every man must own a lamp, how Liam's masculinity impacts on his metamour relationships, and Liam and I have a bust-up that is mediated by James over how Liam makes my tea…Guest Links:James' SubstackUnpublished PodcastJames' InstagramEvolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

In today's episode we discuss one of our favourite New York experiences… a photoshoot that was impossible to forget… on the Brooklyn Bridge with Kenn Lichtenwalter. Kenn Lichtenwalter Links:InstagramBSkyDive Deeper This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

Today we're diving headfirst into the taboo world of cuckolding with Shy.We'll be exploring the psychological and emotional complexities of this relationship dynamic through an intimate interview with Shy - a ‘cuckoldress” who is in a 24-7 cuckolding dynamic.Get ready for an honest and insightful conversation that may challenge your understanding of love, sexuality, and the boundaries of relationships.Shy is also a passionate relationship and intimacy coach specialising in open relating and kink.In this episode we cover what cuckolding actually is, common misconceptions, the ideal cuck, chastity cages, female led relationships, communication and kink, common mistakes in cuckolding, how to share deep fantasies and kinks with your partner, the distinctions between hotwifing and cuckolding, and so much more…Guest Links:WebsiteInstagramEvolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

In today's episode we share about what has been happening for us recently. It is a different kind of episode, with a tone that is different to our usual discussions. This conversation covers how we approach conflict, the importance of space, external stresses on the relationship, communication styles and so much more*.*We also manage to pivot the conversation at the end away from the heaviness and turn our attention to our obsession with F1 & Drive to Survive.Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

Today we are joined by Kate Gordon. Kate competed at the Cross Fit Games in 2015 and 2019 and has since become a certified Cross fit trainer and certified nutrition coach. In 2021 she started CFK nutrition and also hosts two podcasts - Gone Rogue which explores her journey in non-monogamy, and the CFK nutrition podcast.In this discussion we discuss the impact of Kate's Crossfit journey on body image, shifting perspectives on fitness and aesthetics, influences of external relationships on body perception, finding lifestyle compatibilities with future partners, body acceptance at sex parties, social media, self-acceptance and so much more.Kates' Links:WebsiteAthlete InstagramNutrition InstagramEvolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

We handpicked some of our 2024 guest highlights to round out a big year for 2024 and Evolving Love.This episode features Andrew Gurza, Chris Ryan , Alex Alberto , Molly Roden Winter , Lina Dune , Multiamory, Dr. Constantine R. Campbell, Casey Calvert, Kyron Kruger & Normalizing Non-Monogamy.Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | SubstackGuest Links:Andrew GurzaChris RyanAlex AlbertoMolly Roden WinterLina DuneMultiamoryDr. Constantine R CampbellCasey CalvertKyron KrugerNormalizing Non-Monogamy This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

In today's episode we discuss why we are not interested in becoming coach, the importance of good therapists and coaches, and we test Gemini AI to see if it could replace the role of a traditional coach.During the episode we refer to three wonderful coaches and therapists:Kathy LabriolaDr Joli HamiltonDr. Marie ThouinLina Dune a.k.a AskASubEvolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

Abbey and Liam discuss a podcast listener (Margaret), who has been leaving comments throughout the year on Spotify. We discuss the comments, her critiques, hypothesise a “theory of mind” and so much more.Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

In today's episode we discuss our recent getaway to Sydney for the Australian Podcast awards, metamour gifts, chance encounters and so much more.Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

In todays episode we respond to a listener question asking us:“Have you ever broken each others trust? How did you navigate it?”Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

Laura Boyle is an educator, podcast host of “Ready for Polyamory” and author of the book “Monogamy in this Economy?” You may have seen this book recently featured in the New York Times Article titled “6 Books About Non-Monogamy, Recommended By Therapists”.In today's conversation we discuss common polyamorous living arrangements, Conflict resolution tools, blended families, the rental market for polyamorous people, parent teacher interviews when polyamorous, de-escalating relationships and so much more.Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | SubstackGuest Links:Website | Instagram | TikTok This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

Abbey and Liam discuss red flags in non-monogamy, before the episode takes an unexpected turn...Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

Together for fifteen years and parents to three children, Andrew and Christina's relationship is a wonderful example of consciously choosing monogamy.In this conversation we cover the role of independence in romantic relationships, exploring compersion in a monogamous context, maintaining the erotic connection over time, what constitutes an infidelity in their relationship, flirting, honesty and trust, what monogamous couples and non-monogamous couples can teach each other and so much more.Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

In today's episode we discuss our first play party experience in New York, eating sushi off naked bodies, human candelabras, play party nerves, etiquette of group play environments and so much more…Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

In today's episode we discuss things we wish we knew before opening up our relationships. We cover managing the misconceptions of others, savoring the first experiences, triggers in solo dating, planning and preparation before opening up, the non-monogamy escalator and so much more.Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

In today's episode we chat with Emma and Fin from the “Normalising Non-Monogamy” podcast. We discuss the common denominators in successful non-monogamous relationships, building community and support networks, their opening up journey, exploring the importance of self and the individual, the role of kindness in non-monogamy, mistakes and growth, their OCD and ADHD diagnoses, the importance of living an examined life, opening your relationship together or separately and so much more.Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | SubstackGuest Links:WebsitePodcastCommunity This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

In today's episode we wade into pop culture to discuss Dave Grohl and his recent public statement….Website | Instagram | SubstackWomen's Retreat - 25th-27th October 2024 This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

In today's episode we discuss our non-monogamy before and after parenthood, feeling protective during pregnancy, maintaining our erotic connection through the early stages of parenthood, the freedom of exploring before parenthood and so much more.Website This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.comIn today's Premium episode we discuss “negging” as a form of relating, privacy and dating, the responsibility of vouching for lovers, safety for unicorns, ethics of unicorn hunting, “Dragons”, “Bulls” and so much more!To listen to the full episode and watch the video become a Paid subscriber to access my complete writing archive, full podcasts and bonus content.

Kathy Labriola is an author, nurse, counsellor, and hypnotherapist. Kathy is author of four books on consensual nonmonogamy: The Jealousy Workbook, Love in Abundance: A Counselor's Advice on Open Relationships, The Polyamory Break-up Book, and Polyamorous Elders: Aging in Open Relationships. She has also provided affordable mental health services to alternative communities for the past 30 years. Kathy has been polyamorous for over 50 years and lives with her two husbands in Berkeley, California.In today's episode we discuss the importance of intergenerational conversation, whether she still struggles with particular emotions after 5 decades of polyamory, stigma against polyamorous grandparents, sex as an aging person, developing your own code of ethics, non-monogamy as an orientation, class and non-monogamy, advice for younger non-monogamous people, polyamorous elders and so much more.Guest Links:kathylabriola.com Evolving Love Links:WebsiteSubstack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.comIn today's Premium episode, we discuss our recent creative adventures, erotic texting, an evening of life modelling and much more!To listen to the full episode and watch the video become a Paid subscriber to access my complete writing archive, full podcasts and bonus content.

Today's episode features Jase, Emily and Dedeker from the renowned Multiamory podcast. With hundreds of episodes, millions of downloads around the world, and a thriving community Multiamory has been featured in numerous publications, including NPR, Vice, Huffington Post, Cosmopolitan, and Elle.In today's episode we discuss Emily's recent transition back to non-monogamy from a long term monogamous relationship, the history of Dedeker, Jase and Emily's own romantic relationship, connections between creativity and non-monogamy, links between communication styles and music, how the success of Multiamory has impacted their own personal dating lives, Jase and Dedeker finding non-monogamous community in Japan, and so much more. Guest Links:Multiamory WebsiteMultiamory BookDedeker's CoachingEvolving Love Links:WebsiteSubstack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.comIn today's episode we share our debut live show on the 26th July 2024 at the National Film and Sound Archives of Australia. We field questions from the audience and guests Molly Roden Winter, Marie Thouin, Lawrence (Our Secret Spot) & Fernanda (Polycurious Podcast)It was an evening full of vulnerability, laughter & raucous conversations.To unlock the Full Show with Video and Audio, consider supporting Evolving Love and becoming a Premium Subscriber.Guest Links:Molly Roden WinterMarie ThouinFernanda (Polycurious)Lawrence (Our Secret Spot)

Dr. Marie Thouin is a leading expert and scholar on compersion in consensual non-monogamy. She has authored two pioneering research studies, the first-ever encyclopedia entry on compersion, and has recently authored the first-ever scholarly book on compersion “What is Compersion?Wether you are new to the concept of compersion or well versed, this conversation has something for everyone and raises some interesting questions and food for thought along the way. In this episode we discuss “What is Compersion?”, perceived and real fears, do we really need compersion?, is compersion selfish, reciprocal altruism and kin altruism, can you learn compersion, Liam proposes a new scientific study that involves refractory periods and compersive behaviours, Liam and I unpack our own experiences and so much more…Guest Links:"What is Compersion?" BookWebsiteInstagram This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.comOn this weeks Premium Episode, Abbey reflects on her recent Salsa dancing night, drawing parallels between the world of dance and non-monogamy. Dancer Daddies, power dynamics, vulnerability, a dance with a lover and so much more…Evolving Love Podcast Live Tickets

Alex Alberto is a queer and polyamorous storyteller and educator. They grew up in Montreal and currently live in upstate New York. Alex is the author of the genre-blending memoir, Entwined: Essays on Polyamory and Creating Home. They co-founded Quilted Press, a collective of independent authors who reshape traditional narratives of love, family, and identity. You can connect with Alex on Instagram and TikTok (@thatalexalberto), and learn more about their work at alexalberto.com In today's discussion with Alex we talk intimately about Alex's journey with identity, their upstate NY polycule, weaponizing metamour relationships, their journey into parenthood Alex's unique and special bond with their partner Don, the concept of feeling “de-countried”, growing up French speaking and how it impacted their gender identity and the powerful Thanksgiving story of coming out as polyamorous to Don's parents.Guest Links:InstagramWebsiteTik TokEvolving Love Links:26th July 2024: Evolving Love Live at National Film & Sound Archives of AustraliaWebsite This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.comIn todays episode we answer your “Would You Rather” questions that were submitted on Instagram.* “Be monogamous for the rest of your life or have to eat a bowl of worms every morning?”* “You never date someone again…. or Liam never date someone again?”* “Date someone with a hot body or a great personality?”Evolving Love Podcast Live Tickets

Casey Calvert is an award-winning Adult director, writer, performer, and content creator.  An eleven-year veteran of the industry, she won Director of the Year and Best Screenplay at the 2023 XBiz Awards - the "Golden Globes" of porn.In today's wide ranging conversation we discuss Casey's own journey in non-monogamy and polyamory, porn stars' approaches to monogamy, parasocial relationships, dating as a famous adult actress, the recent shifts in her marriage and the process of disentanglement, directing realistic porn, controversy with the title “Primary”, expressing eroticism in her personal life and so much more.Guest Links:Casey's InstagramCasey's TwitterWatch “Primary” on LustCinemaCasey's WebsiteGuest Links:Evolving Love Project Links:Live Podcasthttps://www.evolvingloveproject.com/https://evolvingloveproject.substack.com/ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.comIn todays Premium “Ask Us Anything” episode we answer your questions and discuss Hillsong, “The Idea of You” and so much more.Questions include:* “Does it ever get tiring making the ENM thing your whole world?”* “Do you actively look for people to connect with, or does it happen organically?”* “How do you communicate you want more than friends with benefits?”* “How do you and Liam get back into dating other people, after you have had a break from it?Evolving Love Project Website

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.comIn todays episode we take the Love Languages Test LIVE on the podcast and discuss the questions and our answers in real time…To Unlock the Full Video episode, become a Premium subscriber!Show Links:Take The Love Languages Test!Evolving Love Podcast Live Tickets

To celebrate the re-release of her cult classic Queer novel, “WOMEN”, we are overjoyed to be joined by writer Chloe Caldwell.Named one of Cosmopolitan UK's Best Erotic Novels of All Time, WOMEN intimately explores one young writer's whirlwind and whiplash affair as she falls deeply in love with a woman for the first time.In WOMEN, Caldwell lays bare the fierce obsession of addictive love, and asks the question: what, if anything, can who we love teach us about who we are?Chloe's essays have appeared in the New York Times, Vice, New York Magazine's “The Cut”, Nylon and more.Originally published by Short Flight/Long Drive books in 2015 on a limited print run, WOMEN quickly found a wide and dedicated audience. Emily Ratajkowski and Lena Dunham have cited it as one of their favorite books of all time, and Cheryl Strayed has called the book “magic.”In this discussion we discuss Chloes own experiences with non-monogamy, Chloe navigating her Queer identity, pre menstrual dysphoric disorder, power play and dynamics and so much more…Guest Links:Website:https://www.chloesimonne.com/Buy WOMEN-Evolving Love Project Links:Website:https://www.evolvingloveproject.com/Podcast & Writing:https://evolvingloveproject.substack.com/Extra Resources:Menstruality Podcast ft. Chloe Caldwellhttps://www.redschool.net/podcast/32Couplets: A Love Storyhttps://www.maggiemillner.com/ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

Dr. Eli Sheff is one of a handful of global academic experts on polyamory, and the foremost academic expert on children in polyamorous families. Specializing in diversity and underserved populations, Sheff is an expert witness, relationship consultant, public speaker, and author.Her first book,  The Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multiple-Partner Relationships and Families was released in 2014 and details Sheff's findings from the first 15 years of the Polyamorous Families Study. Stories from the Polycule: Real Life in Polyamorous Families (2015), Sheff's second book, is an edited collection of stories from people in polyamorous families. Sheff's third book, When Someone you Love is Polyamorous: Understanding Poly People and Relationships, is a brief introduction to polyamory using empirical evidence to start a conversation.Dr. Sheff has given scores of radio, podcast, print, and television interviews with sources from The New York Times,  ABC News and CNN to The Atlantic, New York and Shape magazines.You can find Dr. Sheff's work here:Guest Links:Website:https://elisabethsheff.com/-Evolving Love Project Links:Website:https://www.evolvingloveproject.com/Podcast & Writing:https://evolvingloveproject.substack.com/ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.comOn today's Premium Video episode, Abbey and Liam reflect on Ashley Madison, the ethics of cheating, what constitutes infidelity in a non-monogamous relationship & more.Premium Episodes are now Video Episodes!!!To Unlock the Full Video episode, become a Premium subscriber!

To celebrate the Australian release of her New York Time's Best Selling Memoir “More”, we are joined once again by Molly Roden Winter. With her today, we also have the fortune of being able to speak with her husband Stewart!Since Molly joined us on Episode 23 of the Evolving Love podcast, she has quickly become a leading voice in non-monogamous discourse. “More” and Molly have appeared everywhere from the New York Times, Time Magazine, Savage Lovecast, The Washington Post, Wall St Journal and The Guardian.As you will hear from this candid and at times raucous interview, Molly and Stewart have a remarkable connection and ability to deeply interrogate the way they move through the world.We discuss parenting, the mixed receptions to the book, privilege, humour & sex, and Stewart and Liam's upcoming polyamorous music soundtrack collab.Guest Links:https://www.mollyrodenwinter.com/Buy “More” in Australia here:Buy “More” Worldwide here:-Evolving Love Project Links:Website:https://www.evolvingloveproject.com/Podcast & Writing:https://evolvingloveproject.substack.com/-Episode Cover Photo by Caroll Taveras for Telegraph Magazinehttps://www.carolltaveras.com/ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.comOn today's Premium Video episode Abbey and Liam reflect on New Relationship Energy, Erotica, relationship gratitude and so much more.To Unlock the Full Video episode, become a Premium subscriber!

Lina Dune is a 24/7 collared submissive, kink writer, podcast host and a fairy sub-mother to all who seek her advice.She is the voice, writer, and Meme-Queen behind the wildly popular “Ask A Sub” - an online platform and community that explores mindful and consensual kink.In this conversation we talk about her journey into Kink, Subspace, fake doms, red flags, unicorn hunting, couples privilege, the balance of feminist principles and submission, heteronormative scripts, the shame voice and so much more.-Guest Links:Website:https://www.askasub.com/Podcast:Ask A SubInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/askasub2.0Twitter:https://twitter.com/AskASubPatreon:https://www.patreon.com/askasub-Evolving Love Project Links:Website:https://www.evolvingloveproject.com/Podcast & Writing:https://evolvingloveproject.substack.com/ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.comOn today's Premium episode Abbey and Liam asked for anonymous questions to be submitted on Instagram.Question topics include non-monogamy and parenting, partners and vetoes, balancing different desires within the relationship, advice for broaching non-monogamy with a partner, therapy and more.www.evolvingloveproject.comInstagram

Andrew Gurza is an award winning Disability Awareness Consultant whose written work has been featured on BBC, CBC, Daily Xtra, Gay Times UK & Huffington PostAs a host, Andrew presents the award winning “Disability After Dark” which shines a light on Disability stories and sexuality. He was nominated for a Canadian Podcast Award, a Queerty Award and was chosen as an honouree at the 2020 Webby Awards.Andrew has appeared on Dan Savage's Savage Love and Cameron Esposito's Queery. He has spoken all over the world on sex, disability and what it means to be Queer and Disabled.-Guest Links:Website:https://www.andrewgurza.com/Podcast:Disability After DarkInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/andrewgurza6Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewgurza6Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/disabilityafterdark-Evolving Love Project Links:Website:https://www.evolvingloveproject.com/Podcast & Writing:https://evolvingloveproject.substack.com/ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.comOn today's Premium episode Abbey and Liam reflect on their nine year wedding anniversary, the emergence of “podcast bros”, the concept of “body counts” and more!www.evolvingloveproject.comInstagram