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Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Lady Petra and Saffermaster discuss the conclusion of Sex At Dawn, Chapter 22 “Confronting the Sky Together” over a Negroni. The Kinky cocktail Hour is brought to you by Motorbunny, the best saddle style vibrator on the market today. Save $40 on your Motorbunny purchase with the code LADYPETRAPLAYGROUND at Motorbunny.com You can order the TechRing, "Where health meets pleasure" at http://myfirmtech.com using the code "KINKY" to save 15%. Put a ring on it!Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-MarriedVisit Hardmarried.netListen on Podurama  https://podurama.com

SYNOPSIS:This episode explores the idea that creativity is fundamentally embodied rather than purely mental. Gary describes the body as an “interface” or instrument through which creative energy flows, emphasizing that without the body, expression itself wouldn't be possible. Creativity is framed as a collaborative process – between body, mind, and a larger “divine” or universal intelligence – rather than something generated solely by individual effort. Gary and host, Ali Mezey, challenge the common mind-body split and reframe the body as an active participant in creative expression, not just a vessel.A central theme is the role of somatic practices (movement, breathwork, dance) in unlocking creativity. Gary shares his personal journey from disconnection and shame around the body to rediscovering it as a source of intelligence and creative flow. Through somatic work, he was able to release stored tension, trauma, and self-judgment, which had previously blocked his creative expression. The conversation highlights how presence in the body – rather than over-identification with thoughts or past experiences – can open access to what is often described as “the zone” or a flow state.The discussion also touches on identity, trauma, and how experiences are “held” in the body. While both Ali and Gary acknowledge that emotions and trauma can manifest physically, they question simplistic or overly rigid interpretations of this idea. They emphasize the importance of approaching the body with curiosity and presence rather than trying to “fix” it. The body is seen as intelligent and self-organizing, capable of healing when given the right conditions, though not everything can or needs to be resolved.Finally, the conversation addresses the practical side of creativity – discipline, skill, and sharing work with others. While creativity may flow naturally, bringing it into the world often requires structure, support, and persistence. Gary reframes discipline as something that can be supported through somatic awareness and addressing internal resistance (like the inner critic). Ultimately, creativity is portrayed as both a deeply personal and relational process – one that involves not only expression but also connection, refinement, and, for many, the courage to be seen. MORE ALI MEZEY:Website:  www.alimezey.comBody Mapping Video LibraryPersonal Geometry® and the Magic of Mat Work Course information:www.alimezey.com/personal-geometry-foundationsTransgenerational Healing Films: www.constellationarts.comConstellation Work is a highly effective method to delve into healing transgenerational trauma, unburdening consequent generations from the influences of traumas which can be transmitted epigenetically.MORE GARY GOTTSELIG:GARY BIO: Gary Gottselig is a Creative Ignition Coach, author of #1 Amazon Best-selling poetry book, A Legacy of Rainbows and creator of Unleashed Somatic Dance.He works with writers, poets, and creatives who know they have a book inside them but keep getting stuck. Through somatic practices, breathwork, and movement, he helps them burn through self-judgment so they can finally write the book that's been waiting to come through them.He is deeply passionate about embodied liberation and how it unlocks deeper creativity and authentic self-expression.GARY LINKS:STARTS TOMORROW (April 28th) SO JOIN NOW!Blaze Across the Page: 7 Day Challenge to Burn through Self-Judgment So You Can Start Writing(Launches Tuesday, April 28th. Doors close Friday, May 1st at midnight)Book a Creative Breakthrough Call with GaryFor writers who've been putting their book off and are ready to startInstagram: @garyunleashedGet a Copy of His Poetry BookIf you would like to receive a link to watch/listen to Gary's guided somatic process to unleash more of your creativity, please write: connect@thebrilliantbodypodcast.com and we'll send it! Due to copyright issues, we couldn't do it otherwise.More show notes on the way!

Send us Fan MailIn  this episode, Lady Petra and Saffermaster discuss the last section of Chapter 21 of Sex At Dawn, “The Perils of Monotony (Monogamy plus Monotony” is very a Vesper. The Kinky cocktail Hour is brought to you by Motorbunny, the best saddle style vibrator on the market today. Save $40 on your Motorbunny purchase with the code LADYPETRAPLAYGROUND at Motorbunny.com You can order the TechRing, "Where health meets pleasure" at http://myfirmtech.com using the code "KINKY" to save 15%. Put a ring on it!Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-MarriedVisit Hardmarried.netListen on Podurama  https://podurama.com

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Lady Petra and Saffermaster discuss the second part of Ch 21 of Sex At Dawn, ‘The Perverts Lament' over a Planters Punch.  Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-MarriedVisit Hardmarried.netListen on Podurama  https://podurama.com

Mai Hua, réalisatrice et autrice est une amie et elle est venue plein de fois sur Vlan! Elle a signé Les rivières et Make Me a Man, et sort aujourd'hui Mayday, un documentaire qui filme l'intérieur d'une retraite thérapeutique de 14 jours, sans électricité, sans réseaux sociaux, avec 12 personnes qui ne se connaissent pas et n'ont rien en commun.Mai Hua est donc une amie proche. On se connaît depuis longtemps et j'attendais cet épisode avec impatience, parce que ce qu'elle explore touche exactement ce que j'essaie de mettre en mots depuis des années : comment retrouver de l'élan dans un monde qui semble faire tout pour nous l'enlever.Dans cet épisode, nous parlons de la différence fondamentale entre développement personnel et soin collectif, de ce que ça fait de vivre sans téléphone pendant deux semaines, du rôle de la colère comme émotion mal comprise et puissante, et de pourquoi la joie est un acte politique, pas un sentiment léger.J'ai questionné Mai Hua sur ce que le cinéma peut soigner que la thérapie ne peut pas, sur la manière dont les réseaux sociaux organisent notre séparation, et sur ce que les peuples racines ont compris que nous avons oublié. C'est une conversation sur le courage, au sens littéral : courage vient du mot cœur. Et c'est exactement ce dont il est question ici.Citations marquantes"Est-ce que tu veux être une bonne personne ou une personne entière ?" — Carl Jung, cité par Mai Hua en ouverture du film Mayday."The circle is a shaman. D'être ensemble, ça nous fait accéder à une super intelligence, une super âme. Ce n'est pas juste un plus un font deux.""Si tu perds la joie, tu perds deux fois." — Nicolas Gau, cité par Mai Hua."Quand ton corps vit dans des éléments, il n'y a plus de douche, il fait froid, il y a une rivière pour se laver, le toi que tu vas créer est totalement différent de celui que tu peux créer devant ton ordinateur.""La raison d'être de la tribu, c'est la guérison des individus. C'est ça qu'on doit faire. Trouver la super soul qui va amener de la guérison aux individus pour nous mettre en mouvement."Idées dont nous parlons1. Le collectif comme antidote, pas comme supplément Timestamp approximatif : 0:05:30 à 0:07:11 La retraite filmée dans Mayday n'est pas du développement personnel. C'est une proposition culturelle : changer les règles du vivre-ensemble pour voir ce que les individus deviennent quand la tribu a pour cœur de les guérir, et non de les rendre productifs. Le capitalisme a inversé ce paradigme. Filmer ça, c'est montrer qu'une autre logique existe, et qu'elle fonctionne.2. La colère comme condition de l'intégrité Timestamp approximatif : 0:20:52 à 0:24:07 Réprimer la colère, c'est se couper d'une partie de soi. Dans une société de performance qui demande de gérer ses émotions, on devient "bonne personne" au sens social du terme mais on cesse d'être entier. La scène de la batte de baseball dans Mayday illustre ce que ça coûte de mettre cette émotion sous cloche, et ce que ça libère de la traverser.3. La joie est révolutionnaire Timestamp approximatif : 0:33:54 à 0:34:42 La joie n'est pas un sentiment léger ni un luxe. C'est le carburant de la résistance. Elle est inconditionnelle, intérieure, accessible, mais son accès est obstrué. Ce que la retraite, le film et la conversation visent tous les trois : désinterdire l'accès à la joie dans un monde qui tire systématiquement vers les passions tristes.4. L'écoute soigne plus que la parole Timestamp approximatif : 0:40:22 à 0:42:29 Le cercle s'appelle "cercle de paroles" mais c'est en réalité un cercle d'écoute. On parle une fois, on écoute vingt fois. Et c'est dans cet espace que quelque chose se libère : la parole de l'autre, quand elle circonscrît une vérité qu'on n'arrivait pas à formuler soi-même, agit comme de la magie. Delphine de Vigan l'a formulé ainsi : c'est un film qui parle du pouvoir des mots.5. On devient ce qu'on cultive Timestamp approximatif : 0:51:05 à 0:53:13 Les humains sont hyper adaptables. La violence comme l'entraide sont des potentiels. Ce qui décide, c'est la culture dans laquelle on s'inscrit, ce qu'on choisit d'entretenir. La discipline de la joie, de la résistance, de la convivialité n'est pas naturelle dans ce monde, mais elle est possible et nécessaire.Questions structurantes de l'interviewPourquoi filmer une retraite, et quel est pour toi le rôle des retraites dans un contexte où beaucoup de choses s'effondrent ?En quoi une retraite thérapeutique collective est-elle différente du développement personnel individuel ?Quel est le rôle du care et du soin dans le fait de redonner envie du futur ?En quoi être connecté à son corps, pas seulement à sa tête, change quelque chose dans cette démarche ?La colère est un sentiment mal jugé. En quoi est-ce un sentiment positif, et pourquoi l'exprimer est une condition d'intégrité ?Comment un documentaire peut-il produire chez le spectateur quelque chose de proche de l'expérience vécue par les participants ?Quel est pour toi le rôle du divertissement dans une société où l'attention est capturée en permanence ?Toi, qu'est-ce qui te donne de l'élan aujourd'hui, dans ce monde où tout semble s'effondrer ?Quel est le rôle des artistes dans cette période très particulière pour redonner de l'élan aux gens ?Est-ce qu'on ne ferait pas l'erreur de vouloir agir au niveau national ou global plutôt que local ?Références citées dans l'épisodePersonnes et penseursCarl Jung : citation en ouverture du film Mayday : "Est-ce que tu veux être une bonne personne ou une personne entière ?" — 0:22:35Joan Tronto : éthique du care, citée par Mai Hua comme fondement de sa démarche — 0:07:37Scott Peck (thérapeute) : définition de l'amour comme "the will to develop spiritually and to support the spiritual development of others" — 0:07:37Gilles Deleuze : "Le pouvoir a besoin de tristesse" — cité par Greg — 0:16:25Nicolas Gau : auteur d'un livre sur la joie comme acte de résistance. Citation : "Si vous perdez la joie, vous perdez deux fois." — 0:33:54Viktor Frankl : référence à la résistance qui génère de la joie, dans le contexte de la Seconde Guerre mondiale — 0:34:42Hayao Miyazaki : cité par Mai Hua sur le divertissement comme moyen de changer une trajectoire — 0:31:01Delphine de Vigan (romancière) : a participé au crowdfunding de Mayday et commenté le film autour du pouvoir des mots — 0:40:58Pablo Servigne : cité par Greg à propos de l'entraide et des sociétés violentes condamnées à mourir, dans le prolongement d'une interview précédente — 0:57:34Thomas Hobbes : "l'homme est un loup pour l'homme", "ma mère a accouché de deux jumeaux, moi et la peur" — cité par Mai Hua — 0:58:53Spinoza et Rousseau : cités comme alternatives à Hobbes sur l'entraide comme régulateur fondamental des sociétés — 0:58:53Mark Twain : "Il y a toujours un peu de lumière, il y a toujours un peu de violence" — cité par Mai Hua — 0:52:01Lumière Laprais : militante politique citée comme exemple de quelqu'un qui articule pouvoir local et discours global — 0:53:37FilmsPremier contact de Denis Villeneuve : scène de la linguiste qui traverse sa peur pour aller vers l'inconnu, citée comme métaphore de l'engagement malgré la peur — 0:11:18Les rivières : premier film de Mai Hua sur sa lignée familiale féminine — 0:26:00Make Me a Man : deuxième film de Mai Hua, aborde les "Pulse Battalions" britanniques de la Première Guerre mondiale — 1:02:25Mayday : documentaire en cours de sortie filmant une retraite thérapeutique de 14 jours — fil conducteur de l'épisodeLivres / conceptsFutur Ancestral : livre cité par Mai Hua sur les savoirs ancestraux inscrits dans nos gènes — 0:42:47Sex at Dawn : livre d'un couple de chercheurs critiqué sur certains chapitres, qui déconstruit le mythe de la violence naturelle de l'homme — 0:58:53Bullshit Jobs : concept évoqué implicitement (David Graeber), 70% des gens feraient un travail dont ils sentent l'inutilité — 0:38:14Peuples racines : livre d'une journaliste belge (nom oublié) ayant fait un tour du monde pour identifier les raisons d'être communes des peuples anciens — 0:56:06Timestamps clés 00:00 — Introduction : et si le soin était le chemin vers l'avenir ? Greg ouvre l'épisode sur la tension entre individualisme et solitude, et présente Mai Hua, réalisatrice de Mayday.01:52 — Pourquoi filmer une retraite Mai Hua explique sa motivation : redonner de l'espoir en montrant au public ce qu'elle a elle-même vécu comme participante et facilitatrice.04:44 — Développement personnel vs soin collectif Échange central sur la différence entre le self-care individualisé et la logique de la retraite collective. Le capitalisme a fait de la guérison une commodité.07:11 — L'éthique du care et la définition de l'amour Références à Joan Tronto et Scott Peck. L'amour comme volonté de se développer et d'aider l'autre à se développer.08:40 — Le rôle du care pour redonner envie du futur Relâchement, écoute, porosité avec la nature : un autre régime d'existence que l'efficacité et la performance.11:18 — L'engagement malgré la peur Scène de Premier contact de Villeneuve. La peur n'est pas quelque chose à vaincre, c'est quelque chose qu'on traverse.13:02 — La retraite comme microcosme de l'humanité 12 personnes très différentes sous le même toit. La confrontation des systèmes de croyance comme moteur de transformation.16:25 — Les réseaux sociaux organisent notre séparation Deleuze, les passions tristes, le café du commerce. Ce que la retraite fait à l'opposé de ce que les plateformes fabriquent.18:00 — Le téléphone, vrai trigger de la déconnexion Ce n'est pas la nourriture ni l'électricité qui paniquent les gens. C'est l'annonce qu'il n'y aura pas de téléphone.20:45 — Pourquoi le corps compte autant que la tête L'atelier de la colère, la batte de baseball, la somatisation. Le corps garde des émotions très anciennes.22:14 — La colère comme condition d'intégrité Référence à Carl Jung. "Est-ce que tu veux être une bonne personne ou une personne entière ?" Le coût de mettre sa colère sous cloche.25:54 — La puissance du collectif dans un monde individualiste "The circle is a shaman." Ce que le collectif permet que l'individu seul ne peut pas atteindre.27:07 — Comment un film peut soigner comme une expérience Le cinéma réhumanise nos expériences. Les gens rentrent en résistance, puis en empathie, exactement comme dans le cercle.29:47 — Divertissement et nihilisme passif Miyazaki, le doomscrolling, Netflix. La différence entre le divertissement qui endort et celui qui change une trajectoire.33:54 — La joie est un acte révolutionnaire Nicolas Gau : "Si tu perds la joie, tu perds deux fois." La joie est inconditionnelle, intérieure, et l'accès peut être désinterdits.42:29 — Le pouvoir des mots et la magie du cercle Delphine de Vigan sur Mayday. Quand un mot circonscrît une vérité que tu n'arrivais pas à formuler, c'est de la libération.53:05 — Comment cultiver l'élan au quotidien On devient ce qu'on cultive. La discipline de la joie, de la convivialité, du soin.57:34 — L'entraide comme loi naturelle Référence à Pablo Servigne. La loi de la jungle est un mythe. Les sociétés violentes meurent. L'entraide régit le vivant.1:00:03 — Collectif vs Trump : deux formes d'élan L'élan de prédation vs l'élan du collectif. Individuellement on est faibles, collectivement on est incroyablement puissants.1:03:24 — Imaginer un avenir positif Ce que Mai Hua aimerait pour ses enfants, pour les rivières, pour les oiseaux.1:04:09 — La clôture : ouvrir la porte du cœur Le mot "courage" vient du mot "cœur". C'est l'invitation finale de Mai Hua. Suggestion d'autres épisodes à écouter : Vlan #92 (VF

Monogamy isn't natural, it's an invention. This book summary reveals the surprising origins of human sexuality.

In this deeply intimate and thought-provoking episode, Ali sits down with somatic sex educator and healer Ariel Szabo to explore the intersection of sexuality, power, trauma, and transformation.The conversation opens with a bold question: Why has human society been shaped by domination – and what does that have to do with our relationship to sexuality? From there, Ariel and Ali unpack how systems of control – historically rooted in conquest and oppression – extend into our bodies, our relationships, and especially our sexual lives.Ariel shares her personal journey through early sexual trauma, sex work, and being trafficked, revealing how shame and vulnerability can be weaponized to maintain control. Yet, rather than remaining trapped in that paradigm, she describes a path of reclamation – one grounded in embodiment, agency, and the rediscovery of sexual energy as life force.Together, they explore how shame functions both as a necessary human signal and a powerful tool of suppression, particularly around sexuality. They discuss how many people dissociate into “performative” sexuality – shaped by media and conditioning – leaving them disconnected, unsatisfied, and emotionally unfulfilled.A central theme emerges: pleasure as a gateway to connection. When experienced consciously and embodied, pleasure becomes a pathway to self-awareness, intimacy, and even spiritual awakening. When disconnected, it becomes escapism – mirroring addictive patterns rather than nourishing the soul.Ariel also introduces practical insights into working with sexual energy, including how to build capacity for sensation, move energy through the body, and shift from fear or overwhelm into grounded presence.The episode culminates in a powerful reflection on healing and purpose. Ariel recounts her transition out of exploitation, a life-altering health crisis that catalyzed her spiritual awakening, and her eventual integration of sexuality, psychedelics, and embodiment into her current work.Ultimately, this conversation is both a personal testimony and a cultural critique – arguing that sexual healing is not just individual, but collective. A more embodied, liberated relationship to sexuality, they suggest, could fundamentally reshape how we relate to power, connection, and each other.To be an angel to the podcast, click hereTo read more about the podcast, click hereMORE ALI MEZEY:Website:  www.alimezey.comBody Mapping Video LibraryPersonal Geometry® and the Magic of Mat Work Course information:www.alimezey.com/personal-geometry-foundationsTransgenerational Healing Films: www.constellationarts.comConstellation Work is a highly effective method to delve into healing transgenerational trauma, unburdening consequent generations from the influences of traumas which can be transmitted epigenetically.MORE ARIEL SZABO:Website: SacredMoonflowerAuthor, Substack: TheEroticFrontierWomen's Retreat in Peru - April, 2026Ariel's beautiful article on Sex MagicARIEL'S BIO:Ariel Szabo is a writer, somatic sex educator, sexological bodyworker, and psychedelic medicine practitioner based in Los Angeles. Her work weaves sacred sexuality, nervous system repair, relational healing, and plant medicine traditions shaped by years of study with Indigenous wisdom keepers in Peru.She works with individuals, couples, groups, and practitioners in deeply embodied spaces of transformation. Ariel writes on sexuality, power, and liberation through her body of work, The Erotic Frontier, devoted to shifting how society relates to sex, power, and healing, and positioning erotic awakening as a force for personal and collective transformation.ALI NOTE: To clarify, sexual violence is not always sexual, and perhaps is infrequently about sex; however, it is always about power. I did not mean to imply otherwise.RESOURCES, LINKS AND INSPIRATION:Chimps and Bonobos - videoMantak ChiaPhilip and Allyson ShepherdCervical awakening: https://arielszabo.substack.com/p/my-cervix-taught-me-im-safer-seenAriels' partner, Rahi ChunDEFINITIONS:Dharma - The definition of Dharma is cosmic order or law. Dharma can best be explained as conduct that upholds universal natural laws, and when humankind follows these laws, it allows them to be happy and prevent suffering. It's a combination of morality and spiritual discipline that guides one in living one's life.Heteronormative paradigm - refers to the Western social norm, or assumption, that the overwhelming majority of sexual relationships in society are heterosexual.Vagus nerve -  is the longest in the body, containing both motor and sensory functions in afferent and efferent regards. The nerve travels widely throughout the body, affecting several organ systems and regions of the body, such as the tongue, pharynx, heart, and gastrointestinal system. Our first brilliant guest on the podcast, brilliant Integral Anatomist, Gil Hedley explains HEREHedonism - the pursuit of pleasure; sensual self-indulgence.Objectification - being treating or being viewed by someone in a way that disregards their individuality or humanity, especially by being considered by them only in terms of their sexual

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Lady Petra and Saffermaster discuss the first part of Chapter 21 of Sex at Dawn, “The Perverts Lament” over a Vesper Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-MarriedVisit Hardmarried.netListen on Podurama  https://podurama.com

SYNOPSIS:In this guided body scan, listeners are invited to shift their awareness from the busy cognitive mind into the full, three-dimensional experience of the body-mind. Beginning in the head and slowly moving downward, the meditation uses the imagery of a glowing sphere of consciousness traveling through the throat, heart, solar plexus, belly, and pelvic floor. As attention illuminates each area, participants are encouraged to notice sensations, emotions, breath, and subtle impulses without judgment, allowing awareness itself to soften tension and deepen embodiment. The practice concludes by resting awareness at the base of the body and reflecting on how the experience has shifted one's sense of awareness, presence, connection, inner calm - and love.MORE ALI MEZEY:Website:  https://www.alimezey.comInstagram:  ali_body_brilliancePersonal Geometry® and the Magic of Mat Work Course information:https://www.alimezey.com/personal-geometry-foundationsTransgenerational Healing Films: https://constellationarts.com/If you have any questions, email Ali at: ali@alimezey.com

Send a textIn this episode, Lady Petra discuss “On Mona Lisa's Mind,” chapter 20 of Sex At Dawn over a Vesper Plus.The Kinky cocktail Hour is brought to you by Motorbunny, the best saddle style vibrator on the market today. Save $40 on your Motorbunny purchase with the code LADYPETRAPLAYGROUND at Motorbunny.com You can order the TechRing, "Where health meets pleasure" at http://myfirmtech.com using the code "KINKY" to save 15%. Put a ring on it!Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married Visit Hardmarried.net Listen on Podurama https://podurama.com

Send a textIn this episode, Lady Petra and Saffermaster discuss “When Giros Go Wild,” chapter 19 of Sex At Dawn, over an 1800 Negroni. Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married Visit Hardmarried.net Listen on Podurama https://podurama.com

Send a textIn this episode, Lady Petra and Saffermaster discuss “The Prehistory of O”, chapter 18 of Sex At Dawn, over an Armadillo Repisado.The Kinky cocktail Hour is brought to you by Motorbunny, the best saddle style vibrator on the market today. Save $40 on your Motorbunny purchase with the code LADYPETRAPLAYGROUND at Motorbunny.com You can order the TechRing, "Where health meets pleasure" at http://myfirmtech.com using the code "KINKY" to save 15%. Put a ring on it!Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married Visit Hardmarried.net Listen on Podurama https://podurama.com

Send a textIn this episode, Lady Petra and Saffermaster discuss Chapter 17 of Sex At Dawn, “Sometimes a Penis is Only a Penis” over a Gin Martini.Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married Visit Hardmarried.net Listen on Podurama https://podurama.com

Send us a textIn this episode, Lady Petra and Saffermaster discuss Chapter 16 of “Sex At Dawn”, “The Truest Measure of a Man”,  overs Negrioni. Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married Visit Hardmarried.net Listen on Podurama https://podurama.com

Send us a textIn this episode, Lady Petra and Saffermaster discus “Bodies in Motion”, chapter 15 of Sex at Dawn over a mini Martini.Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married Visit Hardmarried.net Listen on Podurama https://podurama.com

Send us a textIn this episode, Lady Petra and Saffermaster discuss “The Longevity Lie (Short?)” Chapter 14 of “Sex At Dawn”, over a Bloody Mary. Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married Visit Hardmarried.net Listen on Podurama https://podurama.com

SYNOPSIS:In this live Q&A episode of The Brilliant Body Podcast, host Ali Mezey is joined by fan-favorite guest and Longevity Zoologist, Dr. Zoolittle (“Penny”) for a wide-ranging, eye-opening conversation on how we can radically improve the health, happiness, and lifespan of our animal companions.Together, Ali and Penny explore what it truly means to be intelligent caretakers of animals – moving beyond conventional pet care toward a rewilded, biologically informed approach rooted in functional and regenerative medicine. Penny explains why pets used to live much longer, how modern lifestyles disrupt animal biology, and what we can learn from wild animals about instinct, self-medication, nutrition, movement, and rest.The discussion dives into practical and often surprising topics, including animal instinct versus learned behavior, why dogs don't naturally overeat, how feeding patterns affect hormones and longevity, the profound impact of spaying and neutering on animal health, and the importance of species-appropriate diets. Penny also answers audience questions on indoor cats, fasting, raw versus cooked food, enrichment, and how to bring nature back into our pets' lives – even within modern homes.This episode challenges deeply ingrained assumptions about pet care and offers compassionate, science-based insights that empower animal guardians to support their companions in thriving – not just surviving – well into old age. A must-listen for anyone who loves animals and wants to honor the intelligence of their bodies as much as our own.FOR MORE ALI MEZEY:ALI - WebsiteALI - LinkTreeALI BIO: Ali Mezey is a Body Therapist, Family Constellation Work Facilitator, Sexologist and Media Maker with over 40 years of experience. Ali has worked in renowned rehab centers in Los Angeles for sex, drug, and alcohol addiction. She developed her groundbreaking body-based method Personal Geometry® to address the challenges of working with sexual trauma, compulsivity, dysfunctions and discontents. She works internationally with individuals, couples, and groups. Ali is also a public speaker on the intelligence of the body, a teacher of Personal Geometry® and the creator and host of The Brilliant Body Podcast.FOR MORE DR ZOOLITTLE:For ANIMAL ANTI-AGING CoursePENNY - WebsitePENNY - LinkTreePENNY - LinkedInPENNY - InstagramPENNY BIO:Penny, a world-class Longevity Zoologist, is a zoo consultant, animal welfare lecturer, mammal trainer and Pet Health Concierge. Affectionately known as Dr Zoolittle, she works with Functional and Regenerative Medicine for animal anti-aging and preventative health care.Penny is also an Applied Cognitive Ethologist specializing in animal mental health and the human-animal bond. Captivity can often mean compromise, with animals trading freedom for relationships and resources, so her co-operative care model helps them enjoy the best of both worlds by increasing their choices, sense of control and cognitive engagement.These unique perspectives create a 360 signature approach for Zoos and Pet Parents that ‘rewilds' animal health and welfare by weaving together the robust strategies of wild animals with cutting-edge longevity biology to give animals freedom from diseases, mental decline and premature aging.As well as consulting through her Pet Health Concierge Service, she offers insightful Puppy & Kitten programs that equip young animals with impeccable manners, sparkling confidence and lasting health. For adult pets, she teaches Four Paws Finishing School, a coaching program that gives pets a Longevity Lifestyle so they can live into their 20s, full of joy and vitality.ANIMAL ANTI-AGING COURSE Logistics:Please note: This class starts on Wednesday, January 14th. As all classes are recorded and available in perpetuity, you can register at any time. Of course, it's best to JOIN NOW so you can be with Penny and ask your questions live!Also, this class pertains across species (including yourself;-). When there are differences, Penny will point them out to you – so you'll have the species specifics where it's relevant and important to understand, but the foundation pieces apply to everyone.Class runs for eight weeks. We meet once a week on Wednesdays, 7:30pm UK time; 2:30pm Eastern; 11:30am PacificAn hour of class time together, and then half an hour of discussion Q and AThere's a big fat workbook that accompanies the course so you don't have to sit there taking loads of notesIf you miss a class, don't worry. Everything is recorded and you have the workbookYou also have the course for life (it may or may not be improved and updated over time - and usually it does as science always changes). You also have access to all those updates and improvements. So it's a buy once, keep it forever –  it'll grow with you and it'll still serve every animal down the line.Recommendations a'plenty for what you can do, what you could buy, best brands (Penny's done the research!) Tuition is $399Other bonuses TBA; other perks on registration pageThere's two other options there. If you want to do installments, you can do that. If you want to invite any other people in your life who love their pets to come and study alongside you that will reduce your tuition as well: for every two friends you get 50% off tuition; for three friends your tuition is free. P.S. If you do register, please let them know that you heard about it through The Brilliant Body Podcast! MORE EPISODE LINKS AND REFERENCES COMING SOON!

Send us a textIn this episode, Lady Petra and Saffermaster discuss “The Never-ending Battle Over Prehistoric War,” chapter 13 of Sex At Dawn over an Island Mist The Kinky cocktail Hour is brought to you by Motorbunny, the best saddle style vibrator on the market today. Save $40 on your Motorbunny purchase with the code LADYPETRAPLAYGROUND at Motorbunny.com You can order the TechRing, "Where health meets pleasure" at http://myfirmtech.com using the code "KINKY" to save 15%. Put a ring on it!Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married Visit Hardmarried.net Listen on Podurama https://podurama.com

Send us a textI'm n this episode Lady Petra and Saffermaster discuss “The Selfish Meme (Nasty?)” Chapter 12 of Sex At Dawn, over a Vesper. The Kinky cocktail Hour is brought to you by Motorbunny, the best saddle style vibrator on the market today. Save $40 on your Motorbunny purchase with the code LADYPETRAPLAYGROUND at Motorbunny.com You can order the TechRing, "Where health meets pleasure" at http://myfirmtech.com using the code "KINKY" to save 15%. Put a ring on it!Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married Visit Hardmarried.net Listen on Podurama https://podurama.com

In this rich and wide-ranging conversation, Ali sits down with yoga teacher, author, and anatomy educator Rachel Scott to explore what it truly means to live as a body – not just to have one.Beginning with a candid inquiry into modern yoga culture, Rachel gently peels back the layers of Western commodification to reveal yoga's deeper purpose: presence, self-regulation, and intimacy with the living intelligence beneath our habits and conditioning. From there, the dialogue opens into a profound exploration of embodiment as a spiritual practice – one that includes sensation, relationship, desire, stillness, and paradox.Drawing on decades of practice, Rachel shares how yoga, anatomy study, and contemplative stillness have shaped her understanding of consciousness, love, and human connection. Together, Ali and Rachel reflect on mindfulness versus “body-fulness,” nervous-system awareness in dating and relationships, and the wisdom of listening to the body's cues around safety, timing, and consent.The conversation also moves tenderly into themes rarely spoken aloud: fertility, choice, grief, freedom, and the many ways maternal love can be expressed beyond childbirth. Rachel speaks openly about her journey through wanting children, confronting ambivalence, and ultimately trusting the larger intelligence of life – an experience that reshaped her relationships, her work, and her sense of self.Weaving together yoga philosophy, Tantra, anatomy lab awe, and everyday relational practice, this episode is an invitation to slow down, feel more, and honor the mystery of being embodied. A heartfelt exploration of love, presence, and the courage it takes to listen deeply to the body's quiet truths.FOR MORE ALI MEZEY:ALI - WebsiteALI - LinkTreeALI BIO: Ali Mezey is a Body Therapist, Family Constellation Work Facilitator, Sexologist and Media Maker with over 40 years of experience. Ali has worked in renowned rehab centers in Los Angeles for sex, drug, and alcohol addiction. She developed her groundbreaking body-based method Personal Geometry® to address the challenges of working with sexual trauma, compulsivity, dysfunctions and discontents. She works internationally with individuals, couples, and groups. Ali is also a public speaker on the intelligence of the body, a teacher of Personal Geometry® and the creator and host of The Brilliant Body Podcast.FOR MORE RACHEL SCOTT:rachelyoga.comIG/Youtube: rachelscottyogaHead Over Heels: A Yogi's Guide to Dating by Rachel ScottAll books by RachelRACHEL BIO:Rachel combines thousands of hours of teacher training experience with her academic expertise (MSc Online Education) to help yoga teachers and studios create transformational educational experiences. She supports students, teachers, and trainers to share their passion, find their voice, and inspire others.  In addition to authoring five books, she has written for Yoga International, YogaUOnline, and the Huffington Post, and exuberantly shares her knowledge through her coaching, YouTube channel, online courses, and free online classes. Find her at rachelyoga.com or on social media at rachelscottyoga.RESOURCES, DEFINITIONS, INSPIRATIONS:Integral Anatomist (and Rachel's partner), Gil Hedley and The Nerve Tour (link is to an interview of Gil speaking about it)Do yourself a favor and get yourself an Explorer Membership - a mere pittance for the wealth you'll receiveGil's Youtube Channel of amazing videosMy fantastic conversation with Gil (my very first TBBP episode!): The Body is a Gift with Gil Hedley: A Reverential Journey into the Human BodyChristopher Hareesh WallceCarlos PomedaProfessor Alexis Sanderson/Oxford (go full yoga-nerd with this guy - wow)Cheryl Strayed: Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear SugarDualism: It basically says that there are two things, or substances, and they are completely separate. For example, substance dualists believe that the mind is part of the soul and the soul resides completely outside of the body.Non-dualism: Non-dualism refers to the idea that all things are interconnected and not separate. Distinctions like self and other, or good and bad, are illusions created by the mind. Essentially, it's about recognizing the unity and interdependence of all phenomena.Proprioception: also referred to as kinesthesia, is the sense of body position, movement, and force. It is the unconscious awareness without visual input and is sometimes referred to as the sixth sense.There are three primary types of proprioceptors: muscle spindles, Golgi tendon organs (GTOs), and joint receptors. Each distinct type provides different information that together shape the sensory profile of the body's positioning and motion.Interoception: Interoception is awareness of your body's internal senses or signals. It identifies how you feel. You can consciously or unconsciously respond to these signals. For example, if your stomach rumbles, you know you're hungry.YOGA DEFINITIONS:Shiva: He is the Supreme Being in Shaivism, one of the major traditions within Hinduism. Shiva. God of Destruction. God of Time, Yoga, Meditation and Arts. Lord of Yogis and Physicians.

Send us a textIn this episode, Lady Petra and Saffermaster discuss Sex At Dawn, Part 3: The Way We Weren't, Chapter 11: The Wealth of Nature (Poor) over a Pear Brandy Manhattan. Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married Visit Hardmarried.net Listen on Podurama https://podurama.com

Send us a textIn this episode, Lady Petra and Saffermaster discuss Chapter 10 of Sex At Dawn, “Jealousy: A Beginners Guide to Coveting Thy Neighbor' Spouse,” over a Vodka Martini. The Kinky cocktail Hour is brought to you by Motorbunny, the best saddle style vibrator on the market today. Save $40 on your Motorbunny purchase with the code LADYPETRAPLAYGROUND at Motorbunny.com You can order the TechRing, "Where health meets pleasure" at http://myfirmtech.com using the code "KINKY" to save 15%. Put a ring on it!Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married Visit Hardmarried.net Listen on Podurama https://podurama.com

Evolving Lovers!! 100 episodes of the Evolving Love Podcast!!! To celebrate, we invited back one of our all-time favourite guests: Dr. Chris Ryan, author of Sex at Dawn, Civilized to Death, and host of Tangentially Speaking.In this milestone episode, we dive deep into what it means to love, to be seen, and to navigate desire in a rapidly changing world. Chris discusses why humans are fundamentally non-monogamous, why monogamy can still be a meaningful choice, and how shame, safety, novelty, and honesty shape our erotic lives. We also explore how AI will transform intimacy and whether social conditioning distorts our instincts.For us, it is the perfect way to mark 100 episodes of the Evolving Love podcast.Thank you for being here with us. ❤️Chris Ryan Links:WebsiteSubstack / PodcastInstagram This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

Send us a textIn this episode, Lady Petra and Saffermaster discuss “On the Inevitability of the Patriarchy” and “The March of the Monogamous”, the second part of Chapter 9 of Sex At Dawn over a Hendrix Gin and Tonic. Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married Visit Hardmarried.net Listen on Podurama https://podurama.com

MORE ALI MEZEY:Website:  https://www.alimezey.comInstagram:  ali_body_brilliancePersonal Geometry® and the Magic of Mat Work Course information:https://www.alimezey.com/personal-geometry-foundationsTransgenerational Healing Films: https://constellationarts.com/If you have any questions, email Ali at: ali@alimezey.com

Send us a textIn this episode, Lady Petra and Saffermaster discuss “Paternity Certainty: The Crumbling Cornerstone of the Standard Narrative,” part one of Chapter 9 of Sex At Dawn over an Armadillo Negroni. The Kinky cocktail Hour is brought to you by Motorbunny, the best saddle style vibrator on the market today. Save $40 on your Motorbunny purchase with the code LADYPETRAPLAYGROUND at Motorbunny.com You can order the TechRing, "Where health meets pleasure" at http://myfirmtech.com using the code "KINKY" to save 15%. Put a ring on it!Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married Visit Hardmarried.net Listen on Podurama https://podurama.com

Send us a textIn this episode, Lady Petra and Saffermaster discuss “On Matrimonial Whoredom,” the 2nd part of Chapter 8pm Sex at Dawn over. G-Net. Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married Visit Hardmarried.net Listen on Podurama https://podurama.com

Send us a textIn this episode, Lady Petra and Saffermaster discuss the first part of Ch 8 “Making a Mess of Marriage, Mating and Monogamy”, where verbs Poets Dream.Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married Visit Hardmarried.net Listen on Podurama https://podurama.com

Send us a textIn this episode, Lady Petra and Saffermaster discuss “Mommies Dearest,”Chapter 7 of “Sex at Dawn” over a Negroni. Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married Visit Hardmarried.net Listen on Podurama https://podurama.com

Send us a textIn the episode, Lady Petra and Saffermaster discuss the second part of Chapter 6 of Sex at Dawn, including the sections. “The Person is of Promiscuity” and, “Bonobo Beginnings” over a Railroad.Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married Visit Hardmarried.net Listen on Podurama https://podurama.com

Send us a textIn this episode Lady Petra and Saffermaster discuss “Whose Your Daddies?” Chapter 6 f “Sex at Dawn” over a Tequila Negroni Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married Visit Hardmarried.net Listen on Podurama https://podurama.com

Send us a textIn this episode, Lady Petra and Saffermaster discuss Chapter 5 of “Sex at Dawn”, Lust in Paradise (solitary) over a Perfect Martini. Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married Visit Hardmarried.net Listen on Podurama https://podurama.com

Send us a textIn this episode, Lady Petra and Saffermaster discuss “The Ape in the Mirror, Chapter 4 of “Sex at Dawn” over a Cherry Vesper. The Kinky cocktail Hour is brought to you by Motorbunny, the best saddle style vibrator on the market today. Save $40 on your Motorbunny purchase with the code LADYPETRAPLAYGROUND at Motorbunny.com You can order the TechRing, "Where health meets pleasure" at http://myfirmtech.com using the code "KINKY" to save 15%. Put a ring on it!Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married Visit Hardmarried.net Listen on Podurama https://podurama.com

Send us a textIn this episode, Lady Petraxand Saffermaster discuss Chapter 3 of Sex at Dawn, A Closer Look at the Stabdard Narrative of Human Sexual Evolurion over a Negroni. Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married Visit Hardmarried.net Listen on Podurama https://podurama.com

Send us a textI'm n this episode, Lady Petra and Saffermaster discuss Ch1. Part 2 of Sex at Dawn, What Darwin Didn't Know about Sex, and The Flintonization of Prehistory over a Vodka Martini.Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married Visit Hardmarried.net Listen on Podurama https://podurama.com

Send us a textIn this episode, lady Petra and Saffermaster discuss part one of Sex at Dawn, Remember the Yukatan over a Boulevardier. The Kinky cocktail Hour is brought to you by Motorbunny, the best saddle style vibrator on the market today. Save $40 on your Motorbunny purchase with the code LADYPETRAPLAYGROUND at Motorbunny.com You can order the TechRing, "Where health meets pleasure" at http://myfirmtech.com using the code "KINKY" to save 15%. Put a ring on it!Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married Visit Hardmarried.net Listen on Podurama https://podurama.com

Send us a textIn this episode, Lady Petra and Saffermaster discuss the introduction to the book over a Boulevardier.  The Kinky cocktail Hour is brought to you by Motorbunny, the best saddle style vibrator on the market today. Save $40 on your Motorbunny purchase with the code LADYPETRAPLAYGROUND at Motorbunny.com You can order the TechRing, "Where health meets pleasure" at http://myfirmtech.com using the code "KINKY" to save 15%. Put a ring on it!Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married Visit Hrdmarried.net Listen on Podurama https://podurama.com

Send us a textIn this episode, Lady Petra and Saffermaster discuss the preface of Sex at Dawn over a Vesper. Support the showHard Married: A Guide to Building Lasting Love by Unlocking the Secrets of Deep Intimacy. Get your copy of this new book by Saffer here: https://tinyurl.com/Hard-Married Visit Hrdmarried.net Listen on Podurama https://podurama.com

SYNOPSIS:This is a recording of one of our free, live Eventbrite sessions, where Ali Mezey was joined by Jane Peterson, PhD - and you, our audience - for a live, honest, body-centered conversation about the real work of being in relationship.(Yes, this episode includes live audience questions!)Together, we explore how our bodies carry old relational patterns - what Jane calls the "social soma" - and how these hidden imprints can shape the way we love, fight, and stay (or don't stay) connected.We talk about why love alone isn't always enough to align two people's lives, and why asking deeper, more honest questions early on matters so much.Jane shares practical ways to stay close even when life pulls you in different directions: evolving agreements, repairing after hurt, setting shared goals, and building intimacy that grows with you.We touch on marriage, infidelity, and non-traditional relationships with honesty and warmth, offering grounded advice for navigating real-world love.Whether you're partnered, single, or somewhere in between, this conversation will leave you with new ways to understand yourself, your relationships, and the deep intelligence of your body in all of it.To be an angel to the podcast, click hereTo read more about the podcast, click hereMORE ALI MEZEY:Website:  www.alimezey.comPersonal Geometry® and the Magic of Mat Work Course information:www.alimezey.com/personal-geometry-foundationsTransgenerational Healing Films: www.constellationarts.comMORE JANE PETERSON:Website: www.human-systems-institute.comContact: humansystemsinstitute@gmail.comBIO:Jane Peterson, PhD, is the co-founder and executive director of the Human Systems Institute, Inc. She is the originator of Somatic Imaging and the somatic-resonance approach to constellation work. Her work is internationally respected for being tailored to meet the high learning demands of adult professionals. She was a faculty member at the International Intensive Workshop on Systemic Resolutions in Bernreid, Germany for 9 years. Jane is an INFOSYON certified Master Trainer and has served as an advisor and author for the Knowing Field journal. She has taught systemic constellation work in Asia, South America, South Africa, Mexico, Canada, Europe, and the U.S.In 2005, she organized the first U.S. Conference in constellation work. Her Institute offers trainings in Somatic Imaging and systemic constellation work, including training in organizational constellations. The institute is currently offering it's seventeenth year of training programs.Jane started her professional career as an engineer and manager in a high tech firm (the first woman engineer hired into her department) and knows first-hand the demands placed on leaders in the corporate environment. In the course of becoming a constellation facilitator, she has also been a professional ceramic sculptor and ran her own fine arts studio, Laughing Bones, Inc.Jane is a master practitioner of Neuro-linguistic Programming, a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist, a Certified Professional Behavioral Coach and a member of the American Counseling Association, VOIS, OHA, and ODN. She has studied Process Oriented Psychology with Arny Mindell and Max Schupbach, Group Dynamics with Michael Grinder, Peruvian energy healing with Don Amèrico Yàbar, Attachment and Trauma work with Dan Siegel and Diane Poole Heller, a Psycho-biological Approach to Couples Therapy with Stan Tatkin (Level 2), Coordinated Management of Meaning with Barnett Pearce, and continues to learn with other research-driven leaders in the fields of personal and social evolution. She holds a doctorate in Human and Organizational Systems from Fielding Graduate University, and has been a post-doctoral fellow of the Institute for Social Innovation.OTHER RESOURCES, LINKS AND INSPIRATIONS:Essential Skills for CouplesAdapting Systemic Constellations to OrganizationsHuman-Systems-InstituteBurt Hellinger: “caring for desire”Elaine Debutant: compatibility is actually an achievement of love, not a precondition.”SOCIAL SOMA - our body is shaped by our social relationshipsLALAGE SNOW:  We Are the Not Dead - photographerStan Tatkin - safety in relationship = taking care of each other. The Social BiomeTerry Real - The Social EcosystemEsther Perel: Mating in CaptivityArny Mindell, Sitting in the Fire: Large Group Transformation Using Conflict  and DiversityScience of TouchingEllyn Bader, the Initiator/Inquirer processStan Tatkin, In Each Other's Care: A Guide to the Most Common Relationship Conflicts and How to Work Through ThemTerry Real,

Happy Sunday, my lovely congregation, and welcome back to Pussy Church! This week, we're diving into polyamory, open relationships, and whether being "open" is really the enlightened choice—or just another relationship trend.I break down: my almost-open relationship, the history & science of monogamy and the rise of non-monogamy. Plus, how growing up in a Buddhist commune shaped my views on love and loyalty.If you've ever wondered, non-monogamy is the future—or just a phase?—this one's for you.Amen.

In this minisode, Ali guides you on a mini mapping experience to explore your heart/sexuality split - or un-split!Using her method, Personal Geometry® (explored in Episode 31 with Lauren Gleason) in mere minutes you will gain insights into what your present stance is in relation to your romantic heart and your sexuality - in relation to anyone or anything that is currently an issue for you.Find out what your body knows about it!In minutes, you'll see-feel what could help you understand, and live, a more harmonious relationship between these essential aspects of being - whether in relationship to someone else and/or yourself.MORE ALI MEZEY:Website:  https://www.alimezey.comPersonal Geometry® and the Magic of Mat Work Course information:https://www.alimezey.com/personal-geometry-foundationsTo book a session, email Ali at ali@alimezey.com

NEXT COHORT STARTS TOMORROW February 8th - Jump In!Personal Geometry® is a somatic and spatial practice that taps into the body's innate, felt-sense understanding of spatial relationships. This work can do so much so quickly. It's an amazing way to get you, your clients, your partner, other participants, to see and feel the body-truth of things in minutes. We are excited to share Personal Geometry Foundations with you as a practitioner discover how you can best tailor it to the disciplines you are already, or will be, practicing. This non-verbal, embodied approach provides a clear and immediate visual and visceral representation of a person's inner world, making it an invaluable tool for therapists, facilitators, and anyone seeking profound transformation.  A seven-week online class - perfect for therapists, sexologists, coaches, and healing practitioners. Foundations is the prerequisite for advanced classes on Sexuality and Addiction, and individuals seeking personal healing are welcome too!  PERSONAL GEOMETRY TRAININGSJoin the Next Personal Geometry® Foundations Class  (online over Zoom)Now enrolling - click here for more details. Next cohort starts February 8th, 2025.Our audience gets $250 off - just mention the show when contacting Ali. MORE ALI MEZEY:Website:  https://www.alimezey.comPersonal Geometry® and the Magic of Mat Work Course information:https://www.alimezey.com/personal-geometry-foundationsTransgenerational Healing Films: https://constellationarts.com/If you have any questions, email Ali at: ali@alimezey.com

"How we mate, why we stray, and what it means for modern relationships"

Send us a textWhat's good all you culinary capybaras & sparkle-necked starlings!  Crouched in the home studio saddle delivering some thoughts. topics include Saturday being named after a maniacal offspring-munching Roman deity, cultivating one's mental health, waging cage fights with depression, coping strategies for 2024, how wretched and self-defeating misogyny is, institutional religions being infested with demonic impulses, and more! Support links below, appreciate all the Day Ones & welcome all the new listeners!un amor,lr kerkawwwTRACKLIST FOR THIS EPISPODE Afro Lofi - GROWN FOLKS - soul lofi music to chill toExcerpt from Sex At Dawn by Cacilda Jetha & Chris Ryan(Chapter: In Search of Primate Continuity)Paul Robeson - Ol Man River (1938) From the film Showboat (FAIR USE SLOWED N VERBED)Paul Robeson was a Genuine American Hero. This cruel empire not only failed to appreciate his spectacular & multifoliate talents: singer, orator, civil rights activist, debater, stud in American football, and lawyer- but also the Agent Smiths of the empire relentlessly hounded the man his whole life. All he did was be a boss and take names and speak truth. Lord forbid!! Agent Smith hounded and hounded Robeson, eventually cornering him in a spiritually wretched London hospital and administering him unfair doses of the MKULTRA brainwashing drug BZ. According to Robeson's son Paul Jr., this horrific act of nonconsensual behavior modification "broke" Robeson, who shied away from public spaces until the end of his days. Goddess & God Bless you Paul Robeson. You continue to be an inspiration and source of strength and light to this day, in this wretched year of Another Dude who was hounded to death by imperial storm troopers for the simple act of speaking some sense, 2024. EMPIRES ARE THE PRIMARY PROBLEM. we're at the crossroads friends: liberate ourselves from the clutches of demonic imperial filth, or mad max it after a fiery poop storm. * ...tick tick tick... * we ain't gonna vote ourselves out of this horrid ditch we've built up. gonna take good honest community building and hard work.Support the showSupport My Sponsor:Magic Mind Adaptogenic & Nootropic Elixir 20% off at Checkout! Support Link here | Use Code: BARBARIANNOETICS20Tip me in Solana (crypto):Address: 9XPHpqH7GawTGtPgZAzfXFU6oPWTpSua1QXwRYAWVh9y If you dig the pod, check out the adjacent video & livestream show Barbarian Yak Fest on Rokfin: https://rokfin.com/BarbarianYakFestFind me on IG: barbarian_noetics Become a Patron: patreon.com/noetics (unlock bonus content plus win a Dream Interpretation)Direct Donate on PayPal @barbarian.noetics@proton.me Cash App@ $BarbarianRavenbuymeacoffee.com/noetics.Spread the word and tell a friend. Remember to set the BNP on Auto Download after you subscribe. I appreciate you all. Section 107 of the Copyright Act of 1976 allows for “fair use” for purposes such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, education and rese...

Christoper Ryan is a psychologist, author and podcaster.  His work has appeared everywhere from Netflix & HBO to CNN & Fox News.  He has been a featured speaker at TED and SXSW, as well as a frequent guest on the Joe Rogan Experience.  In this episode we discuss his books "Sex At Dawn" & "Civilized to Death" as well as happiness, the illusion of luxury, psychedelics, his interview with comedian Neal Brennan and much more! 0:00:00 - Intro0:00:13 - Comparing American and Spanish Healthcare Systems0:02:17 - Christopher Ryan Discusses His Relationship with Joe Rogan0:09:27 - Human Nature Through the Lens of Bonobos and Chimps0:14:31 - The Evolutionary Roots and Modern Implications of Sociopathy0:17:50 - The Paradox of Fame and Leadership in Modern Society0:26:22 - The Illusion of Luxury and True Value0:30:26 - The Difference Between Private Jets and Commercial Flights0:33:16 - The True Cost of Never Having Enough0:33:26 - Balancing Drive and Enjoyment in Personal and Professional Life0:41:05 - Monogamy Vs. Swingers 0:45:00 - Hysteria of Women & Orgasms 0:47:50 - Female Teachers Having Sex with Students 0:51:15 - Controversy of "Sex at Dawn" 0:54:45 - Asexual People Vs. Toxic Masculinity 1:00:57 - Comedian Neal Brennan 1:05:40 - Helping Each Other Out & Doing Podcasts 1:08:40 - Misinterpretations and Backlash Against 'Sex at Dawn'1:12:20 - Navigating Non-Monogamy and Parenting in Modern Society1:16:20 - A Return to Basics: Whole Foods, Self-Sufficiency, and Community1:18:10 - The Transformative Potential and Risks of Psychedelics1:28:35 - Healing Concussions and Exploring Ultimate Reality with Psychedelics1:31:20 - Outro Christopher Ryan website:https://chrisryanphd.com/Chuck Shute Linkree:https://linktr.ee/chuck_shuteSupport the Show.Thanks for Listening & Shute for the Moon!

Dr. Chris Ryan is the author of The New York Times best-seller, Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What it Means for Modern Relationships

The Tip of the Iceberg is a 30-foot tall clitoris of stone, steel and cement, fabricated to be monumental like Stonehenge, thus the nickname Clit-Henge. It aroused a lot of conversation at Black Rock City 2023. It's the phallic symbol's sister. It's highly sensitive, and highly talked about, and according to the artist, the more we discover what it does for any of us and all of us, and the more we can celebrate the birthright of pleasure.Melissa Barron a.k.a. Syn has traveled to many places around the world that informed her lens of creativity, sustainability, gender equality. With her family and friends, she co-creates art, from the 2013 Temple of Whollyness to her decade-long regeneration project Art for Trees, to this new intimate inquiry, the Tip of the Iceberg. And what about the aerialist performance involving the Burning Man and wombs and birth, sanctioned by none other than Burning Man founder Larry Harvey?Journey with Syn, Andie Grace and Stuart Mangrum through the Clit Renaissance, the re-thinking of pleasure inequities, the teachings of cancer, the wisdom of aging, and the intuition of radical reciprocity. They explore these complexities, and they keep it light and bright.Tip of the Iceberg (Burning Man 2023 Art Installations)Tip of the Iceberg (Burning Man Gallery)The Temple of Whollyness (Burning Man Journal)Art for Trees (Burning Man Journal)Syn on Social Media (Crone of Arc)  LIVE.BURNINGMAN.ORG

Moments after the door to my condo closed behind us, the stranger I'd cruised on the subway locked his mouth on mine. I eagerly accepted. The tension of 30+ minutes of eyeing each other in the train car, up the escalators, down Sunset Blvd., to this moment, piqued our primal need to engage. He pulled at the bottom of his shirt.  I leaned away from kissing his scruffy face and said, “Hold on, can I get that for you?” and I slowly pulled his shirt up, revealing his bare skin, happy trail, belly button, chest, nipples, and finally, his masculine shoulders. The inside-out collar of thin cotton material moved up his throat while the bulk of the shirt acted as a temporary blindfold. As the shirt released from his head, I looked into his eager eyes – the t-shirt hanging relaxed in my hand. “Your turn,” I said. “Take your time.” Rather than ignoring all this erotic energy and racing towards orgasm with the intensity of an Olympic sprinter, I've learned to lean into erotic tension and savor its rare pleasures. This is a departure from the avid Sport Fucker practice I once thought was the height of sexual pleasure and liberation. Sport Fucking is about having sex for its own sake. Keeping a score sheet (even if it's just in one's head) of the numbers, variety, and status of sex partners is what it's all about. Commitment and emotional depth are not part of the practice. An ass up, no talking, jackhammer fuck n' go is its hallmark protocol. It allows us to protest against the heteronormative standard narrative: All sex outside of a monogamous relationship is bad. It also satisfies our need to seed, and be seeded by, as many individuals as possible. Sperm competition, as outlined in the book Sex At Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá, provides evidence that our genes are programmed to both give and receive as much sperm as possible. The one who gives or receives the most wins the genetic prize. Sport Fucking is still in my sexual repertoire, but it is only one musical genre with which to play the music. Sometimes, I want a nasty two-minute country tune by Dixon Dallas: “No strings attached, I'll arch my back and let you do what you want.” At other times, I want an hour-long Deep House Anjunadeep Edition 434 with Marsh DJ session: “Reach inside me. Gonna take my love in,” that transports us on a multilayered sensory/emotional/spiritual journey. Each encounter is usually a variation that mixes a bit from each style, depending on my partner's proclivities and how our energies mix.If I'd taken this guy to a stairwell to seal the deal, a long, drawn-out connection wouldn't have been practical. But we were in my place, and I had more than two minutes. Until the moment his shirt came off, and I felt the heat radiating from his torso, my attraction to this guy was almost entirely visual. It was tied to what he was wearing, especially his grey sweatpants and the shape of the underwear seams framing his butt cheeks as he shifted his weight, side to side, only one escalator step ahead of me on the long ride up and out of the deep Sunset-Vermont subway station, my heart pounding all the way. I was returning home from my workout, where I'd seen lots of Hollywood hotties dressed in their best gym gear hugging all the right places oh so coyly, never to be touched. (Well, not never, but that's another post.) This was an opportunity to actually touch, smell, and taste the tantalizing essence that is usually off-limits. Why throw all that on the floor? Both shirtless, we moved to the playroom.It had become clear to me during our makeout session, while my hands massaged the raised underwear seams through his sweats, that he preferred to let me take charge. I didn't let that stop me from dropping to my knees to explore the cause of a raging boner still inside my jeans. As an aside, for a long time, I lived with a made-up rule that tops don't kneel for their partners – that maintaining dominance requires insertive, taking energy only. I was wrong about that, especially the kneeling part. Down on my knees, there is a lot of pleasure to give by actively taking what he generously allowed. Undressing a man slowly, like the beautifully wrapped gift that he is, moves that spark of erotic energy up and into every power zone of your body. Without an immediate release (a quick orgasm), the energy expands its way from that space between your balls and your butthole, through your gut, your heart, your throat, your mind, and out into the Universe. The vibrational energies of your whole self, the energies that the Great Yoga Sages called the seven chakras, become available mojo for your eventual climax. Dipping my fingers between the cotton waistband of his sweatpants and the formfitting elastic of his briefs, nuzzling the swollen mound straining the fabric beneath his sweatpants, looking up to see how this is being received via his eyes, expressing gratitude in mine, inching the sweats down to reveal his previously hidden tight undies, feeling the heat of his contained junk that had been walking down the street with me, now pressing on my nose and cheeks, smelling the epicenter of his pheromone production, allowing the sweatpants to gather at his feet, fanning anticipation by leaving his underwear on, overtly looking him up and down, from his bright brown eyes to his pants that are now a heap around his ankles. Pro Tip: To remove his pants with just two sweeping motions, I find the leg opening behind one heel, allow him to shift his weight to the other foot, and pull on the seam of the leg opening. Most pants will easily slide off one leg at a time. This avoids the struggle of pulling the pants at the waist and having them turn inside out, causing awkward logistics that break the sultry trance. “Your turn,” I said.  Whatever we do next will be charged with intimacy and understanding, which clears a path to mind-bending release.While undressing each other, we transmit and receive information about what turns the other guy on, what doesn't, and what's meh. We just need to look, listen, and feel for it. It also builds erotic tension. Cum denial, as it's called in parts of the fetish community, or semen retention, as it's called in various eastern spiritual communities, leads to an altered state of consciousness. Senses are heightened, and the mind focuses. Done in a community of men, it fosters heart-centered connections and a willingness to be vulnerable. I first experienced this state with Tantra 4 Gay Men during a weeklong retreat near Joshua Tree, California, where I went nearly two weeks without ejaculation. The point is that building erotic heat without release creates a heightened mental state. Invest in that state, and you'll have an insanely intense orgasm—a frighteningly powerful full-body release. It's a rollercoaster ride that's worth the wait in line. The undressing ritual gives you a tiny glimpse into that euphoria, that connection to Everything, to the Divine. You just need to be emotionally brave enough to speak your truth. Communicate what you want. Probably non-verbally. Say and accept “no” as helpful information so that everyone can lean into their erotic and emotional desires and needs, sometimes called fantasies. The jackhammering may still happen, but if it does, it becomes a well-timed crescendo rather than the entire piece of music. It's a dynamic highpoint, igniting the root charka, blasting energy up through the now energized spiritual centers, including the crown chakra where it's possible to touch Divine wisdom, imbuing your cum shot with a melding of primal and sacred certainty. We know joy. We know peace. Strangers we meet on the train leave happy.  Get full access to The Sensitive Slut at mikegerle.substack.com/subscribe

Chris Ryan's work has been translated into over twenty languages, and appeared just about everywhere, including Netflix, HBO, MSNBC, Fox News, CNN, NPR, The New York Times, The Times of London, Playboy, The Washington Post, National Geographic, and More… Chris has been a featured speaker at TED, SXSW, The Festival of Dangerous Ideas at the Sydney Opera House and is a frequent guest on The Joe Rogan Experience, the Duncan Trussell Family Hour, and many other podcasts. Even before co-authoring the New York Times best-seller, Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What it Means for Modern Relationships with Cacilda Jethá, MD in 2010, Chris was on a wild ride. After receiving a BA in English and American literature in 1984 he spent the next two decades traveling around the world, pausing in unexpected places to work at very odd jobs. In his mid-30s, Chris decided to get a little serious and pursue doctoral studies in Psychology at Saybrook Graduate School, in San Francisco, CA, using his dissertation to examine Darwin's rather naive understanding of human sexual evolution — providing the core arguments later advanced in Sex at Dawn. Chris's latest book, Civilized to Death: The Price of Progress asks whether civilization has been a net benefit to our species. He hosts a weekly podcast, Tangentially Speaking, often recorded from the road while traveling in his van. The podcast features conversations with comics, bank robbers, drug smugglers, porn stars, authors, and an occasional rattlesnake expert. #ChrisRyan #BestsellerAuthor #SexAtDawn #CivilizedToDeath #GlobalExplorer #ThoughtLeader #Psychoanalysis #DiverseConversations #CulturalObserver | CHRIS RYAN | SUBSTACK - https://substack.com/@dudeinhammock WEBSITE - https://chrisryanphd.com/ IG - https://www.instagram.com/thatchrisryan X - https://twitter.com/ThatChrisRyan FACEBOOK - https://www.facebook.com/chrisryanphd/ BOOKS - https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships/dp/0061707813/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr= & https://www.amazon.com/Civilized-Death-What-Lost-Modernity/dp/1451659105/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1702656704&sr=8-1 Join Host

My guest today is Christopher Ryan, an acclaimed author and speaker who has led a diverse and unconventional life, from working odd jobs around the world to earning a Ph.D. in Psychology and being a self-proclaimed “vanthropologist.”He is the host of the podcast Tangentially Speaking, as well as the author of “Civilized to Death” and the co-author of “Sex At Dawn”, which columnist Dan Savage has called “The single most important book on human sexuality since Alfred Kinsey's Sexual Behavior in the Human Male.”When I read “Sex At Dawn” over a decade ago, it had a significant influence on my life path and approach to relationships, as you'll hear in this episode. As well, we cover Chris' own journey that inspired him to reach into the pre-history of humanity and find fresh insights into modern relationships, sexuality, and how remarkably similar we are to bonobos. We discuss the complex challenges for men & masculinity today, we touch on his observations about the radical peace project of Tamera, and finally, he shares his best (and only) advice on how to live into the future of relationships.LINKS* Christopher Ryan - Official Website* Christopher Ryan on InstagramSHOW NOTES* Crestone is a unique spiritual community at 8,000 feet with open-air cremations, Tibetan stupas, and diverse spiritual centers.* Historical Origins: Crestone's history involves visionary landowners and prophecies of harmonious coexistence among different religious traditions, leading to the creation of spiritual centers.* Chris's Journey: Chris's exploration of cultures and alternative lifestyles began in his youth and eventually led him to Crestone.* Understanding the Human Condition: Chris's career focuses on understanding human behavior and challenging cultural norms.* "Sex at Dawn": The book challenges traditional monogamy notions, examining evolutionary psychology, anthropology, and bonobo behavior.* Controversy and Conversation: "Sex at Dawn" sparked debates and opposition by questioning conventional beliefs about monogamy.* Career Evolution: Chris shifted from literature to psychology and faced backlash from the academic community.* Cultural Biases in Science: The discussion highlights how cultural biases influence scientific disciplines like anthropology.* Exploring Masculinity: Masculinity encompasses risk-taking, humor, and courageous conversations, not limited to stereotypical traits.* Challenges in Modern Masculinity: Contemporary culture presents complexities, with concerns about toxic masculinity and limited career opportunities for young men.* Impact of Toxic Messages: Toxic ideologies exploit the challenges faced by young men and promote disrespect toward women.* Rediscovering Cooperation: The future presents a choice between eroding traditional gender roles and rediscovering human cooperation, which may necessitate shared resources and mutual support.FROM THE ARCHIVEYou may also enjoy these episodes: Get full access to The Mythic Masculine at themythicmasculine.substack.com/subscribe