IMPACT: Parenting with Perspective

"Send Ben a text"Do you ever say things like, “I don't have time,” or “I'm too tired”? These sound like good reasons… but they might just be excuses.In this episode, I talk about how we lie to ourselves with “good reasons” and how that keeps us stuck. I share a real story about a teen who came home early from a mission and felt like he had to explain why. You'll learn how to stop making excuses, take control, and show your teen how to do the same.We'll also talk about how to:Spot your own “good reasons”Take full ownership of your choicesHelp your teen do the sameNo more blaming. No more hiding. Just real, honest change.Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It's simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it's completely FREE! Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief Download the debrief Start with your own internal debrief.

"Send Ben a text"Do you ever feel stuck, like life is just happening to you? In this episode, we talk about the victim mindset—what it is, how to spot it, and how to break free from it.You'll learn simple ways to take control of your thoughts, shift your mindset, and be the kind of parent your teen needs. We share real stories, helpful tips, and easy tools you can start using today.If you're tired of blaming, complaining, or feeling stuck, this episode will help you feel more powerful and more in control.Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It's simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it's completely FREE! Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief Download the debrief Start with your own internal debrief.

"Send Ben a text"Do you feel like your teen is out of control? Are they angry, acting out, or even kicked out of school?In this episode, I answer a message from a listener named Jodi. She's a therapist who is worried about her niece's 13-year-old son. He has ADHD and ODD and was just expelled from school. Now the family is thinking about sending him to a troubled youth camp.I've been there. I got suspended from school as a teen — and it didn't ruin my life. I share my story and give you tools to help your teen without shame, blame, or fear.

"Send Ben a text"This special Mother's Day episode is all about giving yourself a gift that matters: self-love. Many moms feel guilty and think they're not doing enough. But what if the best gift this year is kindness to yourself?Ben talks about how to stop the negative self-talk, how to feel better about being a mom, and how to show yourself the unconditional love you deserve. You'll also hear a fun, simple idea for a Mother's Day gift that means more than flowers.If you're a mom who wants to feel more peace, love, and confidence, this episode is for you.Click here for the full episode show notes: benpughcoaching.com/257Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It's simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it's completely FREE! Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief Download the debrief Start with your own internal debrief.

"Send Ben a text"Why are we so addicted to being anxious? In this episode, Ben and Cortni dive deep into how anxiety has become a crutch for so many of us. They talk about why we let worry take over our lives and how to stop it from controlling us.You'll learn about secondary gain—the hidden way anxiety gives us a "benefit"—and why it keeps us stuck. Ben shares personal stories about tough love, coaching, and how embracing discomfort can help us grow stronger. Cortni gives tips on parenting and teaching kids to face their fears without letting anxiety define them.This episode will help you:Understand why we "worship" anxiety.Learn how to let go of worry.Teach your kids to handle fear and discomfort.Build resilience in yourself and your family.If you feel like anxiety is holding you back, this episode will give you the tools to start taking control.

"Send Ben a text"Does it feel like your teen wants nothing to do with you? The truth is, they don't hate you—they actually want to connect with you, even if they don't show it! In this episode, we dive into why teens act distant, how parents can misread their behavior, and the simple changes you can make to build a stronger bond.We'll talk about how your beliefs about your teen might be affecting your relationship and why connecting through shared values is so important. You'll also hear real-life examples, practical tips, and advice for making invitations to spend time together—even when your teen acts like they're not interested.If you've ever felt frustrated or stuck when trying to understand your teen, this episode will give you the tools and mindset to reconnect and strengthen your relationship. Don't wait for your teen to come to you—it's time to take the first step!Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It's simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it's completely FREE! Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief Download the debrief Start with your own internal debrief.

"Send Ben a text"Do you have a teen who wants to do things their own way? You're not alone! In this episode, Ben and Cortni talk about what to do when your teen becomes more independent and starts making choices you don't always agree with.You'll learn:How to set healthy rules and boundariesWhy it's okay for your teen to have different values than youWays to stay calm and loving, even during tough timesHow to connect with your teen, even if they push backBen shares real stories, fun moments, and simple tips to help you build a strong relationship with your teen—even when they want to do things their own way.Listen now and discover the secrets to thriving with your independent teen!Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It's simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it's completely FREE! Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief Download the debrief Start with your own internal debrief.

"Send Ben a text"Help! My teen made a big mistake! What now?In this episode, I'm answering a heartfelt question from a parent who feels stuck after their teen made a big mess of things. If you've ever worried that your family is falling apart, this one's for you.We'll talk about how to handle tough teen choices, what to do when parenting feels hopeless, and how YOU can lead your family toward growth and healing. Mistakes don't have to be the end of the story—they can be the start of something better.You've got this, and I'm here to help!Connect with me:

"Send Ben a text"In this episode, we talk about 5 common challenges teens face and how to help them overcome these struggles. From trying to fit in to dealing with distractions, we share simple tips and solutions that can make a big difference.You'll learn how to:Help teens focus on what matters most.Build discipline instead of chasing motivation.Overcome excuses and take action.Parents, this episode will help you connect with your teen and support them in becoming their best selves. Teens, if you're listening, these tips can help you stand out and achieve your goals.Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It's simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it's completely FREE! Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief Download the debrief Start with your own internal debrief.

"Send Ben a text"Is your teen struggling to stay motivated? You're not alone! In this episode, we explore how to unlock your teen's hidden motivation.

"Send Ben a text"Helping your teen feel more confident can be tough, but it's not impossible! In this episode, we talk about simple ways to boost teen confidence.We'll share three common mistakes parents make that can hurt their teen's confidence—like fixing their problems, comparing them to others, or trying to control their decisions. Then, we'll give you tips on how to empower your teen, believe in them, and help them build confidence on their own.Whether your teen struggles with school, friendships, or just believing in themselves, this episode is filled with practical advice to help you connect with your teen and support them where they are.If you enjoy the episode, please share it with other parents who might need it. Let's help our teens grow into the confident people they're meant to be!Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It's simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it's completely FREE! Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief Download the debrief Start with your own internal debrief.

"Send Ben a text"How do you know if your teen needs coaching? What if it's actually YOU that could benefit the most? In this episode, Ben and Cortni dive into how to tell who in your family might need extra support and why starting with yourself can make the biggest difference.We'll talk about:Signs your teen might need coaching.Why coaching only works when it's wanted.How your own growth can inspire your family.Parenting on the same team vs. the same page.Ben also shares tips on setting boundaries that work and explains why trying to control your teen often backfires. This episode is full of real-life stories, helpful tools, and even a little humor!Got a question or need advice? Send Ben a text directly from the podcast page!Start listening today to build stronger relationships.Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It's simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it's completely FREE! Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief Download the debrief Start with your own internal debrief.

"Send Ben a text"Does it feel like your teen doesn't want you around? In this episode, Ben Pugh reveals a surprising truth: your teen actually wants more connection with you! Even when they push you away or say hurtful things, they're secretly craving your love and attention.Ben explains why teens act this way, how it's tied to their development, and what you can do to build a stronger relationship. Say goodbye to the myth that teens hate their parents and learn simple ways to reconnect today.In this episode, you'll discover:How to understand what your teen really wants.The hidden signs that your teen needs connection.Easy tips to rebuild your parent-teen relationship.Got parenting questions? Ben shares how you can text him and even have your question featured in a future episode! Don't miss this eye-opening conversation that could transform your relationship with your teen.Subscribe for more tips and insights every week!Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It's simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it's completely FREE! Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief Download the debrief Start with your own internal debrief.

"Send Ben a text"In this episode, I'm sharing three decisions that completely changed the way I parent. These simple choices helped me build a stronger relationship with my teen, let go of stress, and become the parent I've always wanted to be.You'll hear about:The #1 book that changed my perspective on parenting.Why letting go of control can actually help your teen.How creating a parenting identity makes parenting easier.Parenting doesn't have to feel overwhelming. Tune in to learn how these three decisions can make parenting simpler, more fun, and more effective.Don't forget to leave a review and share this episode with other parents of teens!Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It's simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it's completely FREE! Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief Download the debrief Start with your own internal debrief.

"Send Ben a text"Are you trying to empower your teen but feel like you're losing control as a parent? In this episode, Ben Pugh and co-host Cortni talk about how to empower your teen effectively while keeping your own power.We'll share simple tips and real-life examples to help you:Ask the right questions without overthinking.Handle “I don't know” and “I don't care” responses.Let your teen make decisions and learn from their mistakes.Stay confident as a parent and model the behavior you want to see.Parenting teens doesn't have to feel overwhelming! Learn how to build a stronger relationship with your teen and guide them toward independence while staying true to yourself.Listen now for practical advice and encouragement!Have a question? Send us a message, and we might answer it in a future episode!Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It's simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it's completely FREE! Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief Download the debrief Start with your own internal debrief.

"Send Ben a text"In this episode, we'll teach you how to create a 10-word vision statement to guide your parenting! A vision statement helps you stay focused on being the parent you want to be, even during tough times.Join Ben and his co-host, Cortni, as they break down the simple steps to create your vision statement. You'll learn how to reflect on your values, question your parenting identity, and build stronger connections with your teen.Ben and Cortni also share real-life stories, tips, and tools, including how quiet time (and even ChatGPT) can help you brainstorm ideas. This episode is packed with helpful advice to make parenting easier, more fun, and more intentional.Tune in and start creating your 10-word vision statement today!In this episode, you'll learn:Why a vision statement is so important for parents.How to brainstorm words that describe the parent you want to be.Ways to use your vision statement every day.Let us know your 10-word vision statement—we'd love to hear it! Just click "SEND BEN A TEXT"Ready to parent with love, confidence, and curiosity? Hit play now!Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It's simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it's completely FREE! Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief Download the debrief Start with your own internal debrief.

"Send Ben a text"Are you the parent you've always wanted to be? In this episode, Cortni and I talk about how to create a clear vision for better parenting. We share personal stories, lessons from our own childhoods, and tips to help you reconnect with your parenting goals.Learn about the power of a 10-word vision statement—a simple tool that can guide your parenting, help you avoid common struggles, and strengthen your connection with your kids. Whether you want more structure, better communication, or just a fresh start, this episode will give you ideas to grow as a parent.Tune in and take the first step toward becoming the parent you've always dreamed of being!Next Episode Teaser: We'll walk you step-by-step through creating your own 10-word vision statement. Don't miss it!Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It's simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it's completely FREE! Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief Download the debrief Start with your own internal debrief.

"Send Ben a text"Do you sometimes feel stressed about things you can't change as a parent? In this episode, Ben Pugh and Cortni talk about how to feel better by focusing on the things you can actually do something about. They share simple tips and real stories from other parents who learned to worry less.You'll hear about parents just like you who found ways to have better relationships with their teens. Ben and Cortni explain how letting go of things you can't control can make parenting feel much easier.In this episode, you'll learn: • How to know what things you can and can't control • Ways to feel less worried about stuff you can't change • How to get along better with your teens • Simple steps to make things better at homeThis episode will help you feel more relaxed as a parent and show you how to make positive changes in your family.Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It's simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it's completely FREE! Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief Download the debrief Start with your own internal debrief.

"Send Ben a text"In this episode, we explore how shifting your perspective can transform your parenting experience. Using a real-life example from a high school basketball game, I dive into the difference between perception and perspective—and how both affect the way we see and interpret our teen's behavior.Learn how emotional attachments, biases, and desired outcomes shape what we see and how we respond. I'll share simple strategies to question your perception, model empathy, and strengthen your connection with your teen.Discover how seeing the world through a clearer lens can help you build rock-solid relationships and have a lasting impact on your teen's life.Resources Mentioned:Schedule a FREE coaching call: benpughcoaching.com/miniJoin me as we turn parenting struggles into strengths!Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It's simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it's completely FREE! Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief Download the debrief Start with your own internal debrief.

"Send Ben a text"In this episode, Ben discusses the critical role parents play in teaching responsibility to their teenagers through personal example. He explores the contrast between victim and hero mindsets, explains why many parents struggle with expecting more responsibility from their teens than they demonstrate themselves, and provides practical strategies for creating a culture of accountability at home. Learn how to break free from the blame game and empower your teens by modeling the responsible behavior you want to see in them. Ben shares personal experiences, recommended books, and actionable steps to help parents become better examples of responsibility for their teenagers.00:00 Introduction to Impact Parenting00:49 The Power of Responsibility03:00 Blame Game vs. Responsibility04:10 Hero Mindset in Action06:11 Modeling Responsibility for Teens09:11 Practical Tips for Parents14:26 Recommended Reads and ConclusionWant a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It's simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it's completely FREE! Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief Download the debrief Start with your own internal debrief.

"Send Ben a text"In this episode, Ben talks with Marci Owen about how our minds get programmed and how we can change that programming. Here are the key points they discuss:Main Topics:How past experiences shape how we think about ourselvesWhy it's important to notice patterns in how we act and thinkWays to change unhelpful beliefs about ourselvesThe power of being kind to ourselves when we make mistakesKey Stories and Examples:Marci shares her story about struggling with math and how it affected her confidenceBen talks about learning to solve a Rubik's Cube after believing he couldn't do itThey discuss how parents can help their kids by working on themselves firstImportant Tips:Take time to notice your thoughts and behaviorsRemember that you can change old patterns of thinkingBe patient with yourself as you make changesPractice new ways of thinking when things are going wellResources Mentioned:Free Questions GuideMarci's Self Love Lab Marci's podcast: The Courageous and Confident Christian MomConnect with Marci:Instagram: @marci.owencoachingWebsite: httsp://marciowen.comWant a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It's simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it's completely FREE! Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief Download the debrief Start with your own internal debrief.

"Send Ben a text"Join me for an insightful conversation with Marci, an advanced certified trauma-informed life coach who specializes in helping Christian moms cultivate self-love and confidence. In this powerful episode, we explore how early life experiences shape our behaviors and discuss practical strategies for personal growth.We'll dive into: • Why self-love isn't selfish - it's essential for effective parenting • How subconscious patterns affect our daily lives and relationships • The impact of early life experiences on our nervous system • Ways to recognize and change limiting coping mechanisms • The importance of self-awareness in personal growthWhether you're a mom struggling with putting yourself last, someone caught in negative behavior patterns, or just interested in personal development, this episode offers valuable insights into understanding and improving yourself.Learn how to break free from limiting patterns and embrace a more empowered way of living. Discover why taking responsibility for your own growth can transform not just your life, but your family's too.Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It's simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it's completely FREE! Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief Download the debrief Start with your own internal debrief.

"Send Ben a text"As we get close to the end of 2024, it's time to think about our lives and ask ourselves: are we stopping ourselves from being the best we can be? In this episode, we talk about how our goals and dreams are all connected, and how the choices we make in one part of life can change other parts too.We'll talk about: • Seeing the places in your life where you might be holding yourself back • How goals and dreams that seem different are actually connected • The power of being the person you want to be • Why blaming others, making excuses, and acting like a victim is bad • Easy ways to take responsibility and control your life • How being the change you want to see can make your relationships and life betterWhether you want to be healthier, make your business better, or have a better relationship with your teen, this episode will help you break free from the things that are holding you back and start living as the best version of yourself.As we go into the New Year, let this be your chance to stop holding yourself back and start being the change you wish to see in your world. Listen now and find out how powerful it is to be your best self!Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It's simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it's completely FREE! Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief Download the debrief Start with your own internal debrief.

"Send Ben a text"Are you tired of complicated parenting advice that leaves you feeling overwhelmed? In this eye-opening episode, we explore how to simplify your approach to parenting teens by focusing on two essential elements: connection and empowerment.Despite being more "connected" through social media than ever before, many teens feel deeply lonely and disconnected from their parents. Learn why trying to control everything in your teen's life might be pushing them away, and discover simple strategies to build authentic connections with your teen.You'll learn: • Why complicated parenting strategies often fail • How to connect with your teen through their unique interests and values • The importance of accepting your teen as they are • Ways to empower your teen through meaningful conversations • Why letting your teen face consequences can be the best gift you give themWhether you're struggling with a disconnected teen or just want to simplify your parenting approach, this episode offers practical insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teenager.Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It's simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it's completely FREE! Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief Download the debrief Start with your own internal debrief.

"Send Ben a text"In this episode, we dive into the four key principles of effective parenting that can help you navigate the challenges of communicating with your teen.We explore detaching from your teen's outcomes, opening communication, being willing to roll with the punches, and letting your teen be responsible for their own consequences.Learn how to create a safe space for your teen to discuss their actions, set clear boundaries, and empower them to make better choices.Tune in for practical strategies to implement these principles and foster a stronger connection with your teen.Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It's simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it's completely FREE! Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief Download the debrief Start with your own internal debrief.

In this episode, we talk about a tough problem many parents face: when a teen refuses to go to school. We look at a question from a mom in a parenting Facebook group. She shares her struggle with her 15-year-old son, who won't go to school and gets angry when she takes away his phone.As parents, it's easy to feel like we can't do anything in these situations. But the key is to focus on what we can control, not on trying to change our teens. We talk about using a "T-Chart of Control" to figure out what we can and can't control as parents.We also talk about why grounding teens can sometimes make things worse. Instead, we suggest having honest talks with your teen to build better rules together.If you're having a hard time with a teen who won't listen, this episode will give you some helpful tools and a new way to think about these challenges. Remember, you're not the only one going through this, and there is hope for a better relationship with your teen.Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It's simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it's completely FREE! Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief Download the debrief Start with your own internal debrief.

In this special Thanksgiving episode, we're joined by Ben Stefan, a former teen client who shares his powerful journey with life coaching. Over the past five years, Ben has experienced significant improvements in his emotional well-being, relationships with family, academics, and sports. He discusses specific tools and mindset shifts that have been game-changers, such as focusing on what's within his control and avoiding the victim mentality. Tune in to hear how life coaching has made a lasting impact on Ben's life and gain insights on fostering positive relationships with your teen.00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview00:41 Special Thanksgiving Episode with Guest Ben Stefan01:44 Ben Stefan's Journey and Coaching Experience04:10 The Impact of Coaching on Ben's Life06:39 Coaching Techniques and Their Benefits10:48 Values-Based Relationships and Sales16:06 Ben's Relationship with His Family29:44 Final Thoughts and Thanksgiving WishesWant a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It's simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it's completely FREE! Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief Download the debrief Start with your own internal debrief.

Do you want to know the biggest mistake parents of teens make? It might surprise you! Many parents think it's things like yelling at their teen, trying to control them, or being too friendly. But the biggest mistake is actually trying to change their teen instead of focusing on being the kind of parent they want to be.In this podcast, we talk about how to be the parent of your dreams. First, you need to know what kind of parent you want to be. Then, you should do a daily check-in to see how you're doing. You can also practice being the parent you want to be using something called the "Wheel of Life." And remember, focus on what you can control, which is yourself, not your teen.If you're tired of always yelling at your teen, figure out what kind of parent you want to be instead. Then start working on being that kind of parent. It won't be easy and it won't happen overnight, but with practice and awareness, you can be the parent of your dreams!See the full show notes at: https://benpughcoaching.com/233Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It's simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it's completely FREE! Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief Download the debrief Start with your own internal debrief.

Life with teens is like a constantly turning wheel - sometimes you're on top, sometimes you're underneath. In this powerful episode, learn how to use these natural ups and downs to become a better parent.You'll discover: • Why some moments with your teen feel easy while others feel impossible • How to use the good moments to prepare for the challenging ones • A simple way to practice being your best parenting self • How to stay calm when parenting gets tough • Why your teen's behavior isn't always about youPlus, learn how this tool works perfectly with last week's Parenting Debrief technique to transform your relationship with your teen!Perfect for parents who want to stop riding the emotional rollercoaster with their teens and start parenting with confidence - no matter where the wheel takes you.Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It's simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it's completely FREE! Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief Download the debrief Start with your own internal debrief.

Want to become a better parent? Just like athletes watch game tapes to improve, parents can look back at their parenting moments to get better too! In this eye-opening episode, we'll introduce you to a powerful tool called the 'parent debrief.'We'll explore: • What a parent debrief is and why every parent needs one • Two different ways to do a debrief (by yourself or with your teen) • How to turn tough parenting moments into opportunities for growth • Ways to strengthen your relationship with your teen • Common mistakes to avoid • How to use this tool to become a more aware and intentional parentPlus, get our free PDF guide with the exact steps and questions for doing your own parent debriefs!Perfect for parents who want to learn from both their good and not-so-good parenting moments. Discover how this simple practice can transform your parenting and help you become the parent you want to be!Take the free Parent Trap quiz If you have a teen you should take this Parent Trap Quiz .It will help you uncover specific parenting patterns that might be hindering your relationship with your teen.By identifying your Parent Trap, you gain the tools to have better communication, resolve conflicts, and build greater confidence in your parenting decisions.This self-awareness ultimately strengthens your relationship with your teen, which leads to a more open and harmonious connection.This quiz is your gateway to becoming the parent of your dreams and paving the way for a happier and healthier family life.TAKE THE QUIZAlready taken the quiz?Check out my ABSOLUTELY FREE Audio Course: Parenting from the Inside Out!

Think of your parenting style like a thermostat - it's set to run at a certain temperature no matter what. In this eye-opening episode, we explore how these 'parenting presets' work and, more importantly, how to change them.We'll cover: • What parenting presets are (using a simple thermostat example) • How to spot your own parenting patterns • Four simple steps to change your parenting auto-pilot:Becoming aware of your current settingsUnderstanding where they came fromSeparating yourself from old habitsCreating new parenting patternsPerfect for parents who find themselves stuck in reactions they don't want, like yelling or being too controlling. Learn how to reset your parenting thermostat to the temperature you actually want!Take the free Parent Trap quiz If you have a teen you should take this Parent Trap Quiz .It will help you uncover specific parenting patterns that might be hindering your relationship with your teen.By identifying your Parent Trap, you gain the tools to have better communication, resolve conflicts, and build greater confidence in your parenting decisions.This self-awareness ultimately strengthens your relationship with your teen, which leads to a more open and harmonious connection.This quiz is your gateway to becoming the parent of your dreams and paving the way for a happier and healthier family life.TAKE THE QUIZAlready taken the quiz?Check out my ABSOLUTELY FREE Audio Course: Parenting from the Inside Out!

Ever told someone 'I know, I know' when they try to help you? We all do it - but this simple phrase might be stopping us from becoming better parents.In this eye-opening episode, we talk about: • What happens when we think we already know everything • How to spot when we're stuck in the 'I know' trap • Why being curious is better than being sure • Simple ways to try new parenting ideas • The big difference between knowing something and actually doing itUsing real stories and simple examples, we'll show you how dropping the 'I know everything' attitude can help you become a better parent. Learn how being open to new ideas can make a huge difference in your relationship with your teen.This episode is perfect for any parent who wants to learn new ways to connect with their teenager. Come join us and discover how being curious (instead of knowing it all) can change everything!"Ever told someone 'I know, I know' when they try to help you? We all do it - but this simple phrase might be stopping us from becoming better parents.In this eye-opening episode, we talk about: • What happens when we think we already know everything • How to spot when we're stuck in the 'I know' trap • Why being curious is better than being sure • Simple ways to try new parenting ideas • The big difference between knowing something and actually doing itUsing real stories and simple examples, we'll show you how dropping the 'I know everything' attitude can help you become a better parent. Learn how being open to new ideas can make a huge difference in your relationship with your teen.This episode is perfect for any parent who wants to learn new ways to connect with their teenager. Come join us and discover how being curious (instead of knowing it all) can change everything!"Find the full show notes at https://benpughcoaching.com/229Take the free Parent Trap quiz If you have a teen you should take this Parent Trap Quiz .It will help you uncover specific parenting patterns that might be hindering your relationship with your teen.By identifying your Parent Trap, you gain the tools to have better communication, resolve conflicts, and build greater confidence in your parenting decisions.This self-awareness ultimately strengthens your relationship with your teen, which leads to a more open and harmonious connection.This quiz is your gateway to becoming the parent of your dreams and paving the way for a happier and healthier family life.TAKE THE QUIZAlready taken the quiz?Check out my ABSOLUTELY FREE Audio Course: Parenting from the Inside Out!

In this eye-opening episode, we dive deep into the pervasive blame culture and its detrimental effects on personal growth and relationships. Through two compelling football stories, we explore how blame, complaining, and making excuses can lead to a disempowering victim mentality.Key points covered:The impact of blame culture on team dynamics and personal performanceIdentifying signs of the victim mentalityThe importance of taking responsibility for one's actions and outcomesHow to empower others by focusing on what's within their controlPractical strategies for coaching teens to be responsible and proactiveThe power of leading by example in fostering a culture of responsibilityJoin us as we discuss how to stand out against the prevalent blame culture and provide your teens with the tools they need to take responsibility for their lives. Learn how to transform challenging situations into opportunities for growth and empowerment. This episode is a must-listen for parents, coaches, and anyone looking to cultivate a more responsible and proactive mindset in themselves and others.Full show notes at https://benpughcoaching.com/228Take the free Parent Trap quiz If you have a teen you should take this Parent Trap Quiz .It will help you uncover specific parenting patterns that might be hindering your relationship with your teen.By identifying your Parent Trap, you gain the tools to have better communication, resolve conflicts, and build greater confidence in your parenting decisions.This self-awareness ultimately strengthens your relationship with your teen, which leads to a more open and harmonious connection.This quiz is your gateway to becoming the parent of your dreams and paving the way for a happier and healthier family life.TAKE THE QUIZAlready taken the quiz?Check out my ABSOLUTELY FREE Audio Course: Parenting from the Inside Out!

In this eye-opening episode, Ben introduces the game-changing book "Leadership and Self-Deception" and explains why it's his top recommendation for parents struggling with their teens.Discover:Why this book is a must-read for anyone seeking to improve family relationshipsThe concept of "being in the box" and how it affects your interactions with your teenHow self-deception can sabotage your parenting efforts without you realizing itReal-life examples of how this book has transformed relationships, including Ben's personal experienceAn alternative book recommendation, "The Anatomy of Peace," for those who prefer a different approachThe limiting belief that often traps parents and how to break free from itAn empowering alternative mindset that puts you in control of positive changeBen shares insights on how shifting your perspective from blaming your teen to focusing on your own growth can lead to dramatic improvements in your relationship. He challenges listeners to embrace the idea that they are the solution to every problem they face with their teen.If you're ready to break free from unproductive patterns and create a more harmonious relationship with your teenager, this episode is a must-listen. Tune in to learn how escaping self-deception can unlock your potential as a parent and transform your family dynamic.Don't forget to take the Parent Trap Quiz at benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz to identify your parenting obstacles and find quick solutions.Full show notes at benpughcoaching.com/227Take the free Parent Trap quiz If you have a teen you should take this Parent Trap Quiz .It will help you uncover specific parenting patterns that might be hindering your relationship with your teen.By identifying your Parent Trap, you gain the tools to have better communication, resolve conflicts, and build greater confidence in your parenting decisions.This self-awareness ultimately strengthens your relationship with your teen, which leads to a more open and harmonious connection.This quiz is your gateway to becoming the parent of your dreams and paving the way for a happier and healthier family life.TAKE THE QUIZAlready taken the quiz?Check out my ABSOLUTELY FREE Audio Course: Parenting from the Inside Out!

In this empowering episode, Ben challenges the widespread belief that there's a magical, external solution to parenting struggles. Discover why you already possess the wisdom and strength to be the parent your teen needs.Learn about:The societal conditioning that leads parents to seek external solutionsWhy relying on "experts" can sometimes undermine your parental instinctsThe power of recognizing yourself as the hero in your parenting journeyReal-life examples of parents tapping into their inner wisdomStrategies for trusting your parenting instincts and decision-makingHow to access and utilize your unique "parenting superpowers"Ben shares a touching anecdote about a mom who thought she was hearing his advice, when in reality, she was accessing her own inner wisdom. He offers insights on how to recognize and trust your innate parenting abilities.If you're tired of feeling dependent on external advice and ready to embrace your role as the true expert in your teen's life, this episode is a must-listen. Tune in to learn how to become the hero of your own parenting story and tap into the superpowers you've had all along.Full show notes at benpughcoaching.com/226Take the free Parent Trap quiz If you have a teen you should take this Parent Trap Quiz .It will help you uncover specific parenting patterns that might be hindering your relationship with your teen.By identifying your Parent Trap, you gain the tools to have better communication, resolve conflicts, and build greater confidence in your parenting decisions.This self-awareness ultimately strengthens your relationship with your teen, which leads to a more open and harmonious connection.This quiz is your gateway to becoming the parent of your dreams and paving the way for a happier and healthier family life.TAKE THE QUIZAlready taken the quiz?Check out my ABSOLUTELY FREE Audio Course: Parenting from the Inside Out!

In this eye-opening episode, Ben, an experienced parenting coach, challenges the common parental instinct to shield teens from failure. Discover why allowing your teen to experience setbacks is crucial for their personal growth and future success.Learn about:The societal pressures driving parents to protect teens from failureWhy failure is a vital component in developing resilience and life skillsThe unintended consequences of constantly "fixing" things for your teenReal-life examples of how overprotection can backfire, including a local sexting scandalStrategies for empowering your teen to face and learn from their mistakesThe concept of an "un-ruinable life" and how it can transform your teen's perspectiveBen shares insights on how to shift from being a "fixer" to becoming a supportive guide for your teen. He offers practical advice on how to respond to your teen's failures in ways that build confidence and resilience.If you're tired of constantly intervening in your teen's challenges and ready to help them develop true independence and resilience, this episode is a must-listen. Tune in to learn how embracing failure can be the key to your teen's long-term success and emotional well-being.Take the free Parent Trap quiz If you have a teen you should take this Parent Trap Quiz .It will help you uncover specific parenting patterns that might be hindering your relationship with your teen.By identifying your Parent Trap, you gain the tools to have better communication, resolve conflicts, and build greater confidence in your parenting decisions.This self-awareness ultimately strengthens your relationship with your teen, which leads to a more open and harmonious connection.This quiz is your gateway to becoming the parent of your dreams and paving the way for a happier and healthier family life.TAKE THE QUIZAlready taken the quiz?Check out my ABSOLUTELY FREE Audio Course: Parenting from the Inside Out!

Are you struggling to connect with your teenager? In this insightful episode, Ben, an experienced parenting coach, tackles the widespread issue of parent-teen disconnection and offers a transformative approach to rebuilding your relationship.Discover why the disconnect between parents and teens is so common and learn about:The societal and cultural factors contributing to parent-teen disconnectionWhy focusing on conflicting values widens the gap between you and your teenThe power of identifying shared values to strengthen your relationshipA step-by-step process for building Values-Based RelationshipsReal-life examples of how this approach has transformed parent-teen dynamicsBen shares a touching personal anecdote about his toddler son connecting over football, illustrating how children naturally seek connection through shared interests. He then explains how to apply this principle to your relationship with your teen.If you're tired of feeling like you and your teen are speaking different languages and you're ready to foster a deep, loving connection, this episode is a must-listen. Tune in to learn how to bridge the gap and create a relationship where both you and your teen feel understood and valued.Full show notes at https://benpughcoaching.com/224Take the free Parent Trap quiz If you have a teen you should take this Parent Trap Quiz .It will help you uncover specific parenting patterns that might be hindering your relationship with your teen.By identifying your Parent Trap, you gain the tools to have better communication, resolve conflicts, and build greater confidence in your parenting decisions.This self-awareness ultimately strengthens your relationship with your teen, which leads to a more open and harmonious connection.This quiz is your gateway to becoming the parent of your dreams and paving the way for a happier and healthier family life.TAKE THE QUIZAlready taken the quiz?Check out my ABSOLUTELY FREE Audio Course: Parenting from the Inside Out!

Are you caught in the trap of blaming your teen for your parenting struggles? In this eye-opening episode, Ben, an experienced parenting coach, challenges the common myth that your teen's behavior is responsible for how you parent.Discover why this belief is not only disempowering but also prevents you from becoming the parent you aspire to be. In this episode, you'll learn:Why blaming your teen for your parenting issues is a dead-end strategyHow to shift from reactive parenting to intentional parentingThe power of taking responsibility for your own actions and emotionsPractical strategies to maintain composure during challenging situations with your teenHow to improve your relationship with your teen by focusing on what you can controlBen shares relatable examples, including a recent incident from a parenting group that highlights this common misconception. He offers insights on how to break free from the cycle of blame and guilt, and instead embrace a more empowering approach to parenting.If you're tired of feeling like a victim in your parenting journey and ready to take control of your relationship with your teen, this episode is a must-listen. Tune in to learn how to become the parent of your dreams, regardless of your teen's choices. It's time to stop blaming and start BEing the parent you want to be!Join Us for a FREE Parenting Class! Thank you for tuning in to this episode! If you're a parent of a teen navigating the complexities of raising adolescents, we invite you to take the next step in your journey. Join our free Parenting Class: "Create Your Parenting Identity," happening on September 13 at 10 AM MT. In this workshop, you'll gain valuable insights to help you move from confusion to clarity in your parenting. Together, we'll explore who you are, who you want to be, and how to align your actions with your parenting identity. Don't miss this opportunity to connect with other parents and cultivate a supportive community. Sign up today and empower yourself to be the parent you aspire to be!

Are you frustrated by parenting advice that promises to make your teen obey or trust you? In this eye-opening episode, Ben, a former foster parent and experienced coach, challenges the myth of teen control and offers a transformative perspective on parenting.Discover why trying to control your teen is counterproductive and learn about:The T-Chart of Control: A simple tool to identify what's within your influenceThe Consequence Quadrant: A powerful framework for discussing outcomes with your teenReal-life examples of parents shifting from control to empowermentPractical strategies to let go of control without losing your parental roleBen shares candid stories from his experience, including a memorable conversation with an anesthesiologist dad about the absurdity of total teen control. He offers insights on how small mindset shifts can dramatically improve your relationship with your teen.If you're tired of power struggles and ready for a more harmonious approach to parenting, this episode is a must-listen. Tune in to learn how to empower both yourself and your teen, becoming the supportive parent you aspire to be.Take the free Parent Trap quiz If you have a teen you should take this Parent Trap Quiz .It will help you uncover specific parenting patterns that might be hindering your relationship with your teen. By identifying your Parent Trap, you gain the tools to have better communication, resolve conflicts, and build greater confidence in your parenting decisions. This self-awareness ultimately strengthens your relationship with your teen, which leads to a more open and harmonious connection. This quiz is your gateway to becoming the parent of your dreams and paving the way for a happier and healthier family life.TAKE THE QUIZAlready taken the quiz? Check out my New ABSOLUTELY FREE Audio Course: Parenting from the Inside Out!

Are you a parent struggling to set effective boundaries with your teenager? In this eye-opening podcast, Ben, a former high school principal and experienced parent coach, reveals how you can transform your approach to boundaries and consequences, leading to a more harmonious relationship with your teen.Ben introduces a powerful tool called The Consequence Quadrant, which challenges the common misconception that consequences are all about punishment. He explains how parents often fall into the trap of relying too heavily on negative, enforced consequences, and shares a more balanced and empowering approach.In this podcast, you'll discover:The four types of consequences and how they impact your teen's behaviorWhy focusing solely on negative, enforced consequences can be counterproductiveHow to shift your focus to positive and natural consequences for better resultsPractical strategies for implementing The Consequence Quadrant in your parentingWays to empower your teen to make better choices independentlyBen emphasizes that while you can't control your teen's actions, you can create an environment that encourages responsible decision-making. He shares relatable examples from his own experiences as a parent and from working with numerous families, offering insights into how small shifts in your approach can lead to significant improvements in your relationship with your teen.Throughout the episodes, Ben provides actionable advice on how to have productive conversations about boundaries and consequences with your teenager. He encourages parents to involve their teens in the process, fostering mutual understanding and respect.If you're a parent who feels overwhelmed by constant arguments, disrespect, or confusion about enforcing rules, this podcast will provide you with a fresh perspective and practical tools to improve your family dynamics. Tune in now and learn how to build better boundaries with better consequences, becoming the confident and effective parent you aspire to be.Take the free Parent Trap quiz If you have a teen you should take this Parent Trap Quiz .It will help you uncover specific parenting patterns that might be hindering your relationship with your teen. By identifying your Parent Trap, you gain the tools to have better communication, resolve conflicts, and build greater confidence in your parenting decisions. This self-awareness ultimately strengthens your relationship with your teen, which leads to a more open and harmonious connection. This quiz is your gateway to becoming the parent of your dreams and paving the way for a happier and healthier family life.TAKE THE QUIZAlready taken the quiz? Check out my New ABSOLUTELY FREE Audio Course: Parenting from the Inside Out!

Are you feeling like you're on the "struggle bus" with your teenager? You're not alone. In this eye-opening episode, we dive deep into the single most significant factor causing friction between parents and teens worldwide.Drawing from my experience coaching parents across five continents, I reveal why traditional parenting advice often misses the mark. You'll discover:Why focusing on changing your teen's behavior rarely worksThe surprising truth about screen time and video gamesHow to shift your perspective from controlling your teen to empowering yourselfThe power of defining your parenting identity (and why it's not as simple as you might think)We'll explore real-life examples, including a personal anecdote about milk cows and teenage responsibility. Plus, I'll introduce you to a game-changing concept that can transform your relationship with your teen almost overnight.Whether you're a seasoned parent or new to the teenage years, this episode offers fresh insights and practical strategies. You'll walk away with a clear understanding of how to stop struggling and start connecting with your teen.Don't miss the exciting announcement about our upcoming free parenting class! Tune in to learn how you can choose your own parenting adventure and take the first step towards becoming the parent of your dreams.Remember, it's never too late to improve your relationship with your teen. Let's start this journey together!Take the free Parent Trap quiz If you have a teen you should take this Parent Trap Quiz .It will help you uncover specific parenting patterns that might be hindering your relationship with your teen. By identifying your Parent Trap, you gain the tools to have better communication, resolve conflicts, and build greater confidence in your parenting decisions. This self-awareness ultimately strengthens your relationship with your teen, which leads to a more open and harmonious connection. This quiz is your gateway to becoming the parent of your dreams and paving the way for a happier and healthier family life.TAKE THE QUIZAlready taken the quiz? Check out my New ABSOLUTELY FREE Audio Course: Parenting from the Inside Out!

As the school year kicks off, are you and your teen feeling overwhelmed? In this episode, we're uncovering 7 little-known secrets that can transform your back-to-school experience. Drawing from years of experience as a parent, foster parent, and former high school principal, I'm sharing insights that have helped countless teens and families navigate the challenges of academic life.We'll explore why school failure doesn't equal life failure, how to prioritize your relationship with your teen, and why it's crucial to be aware of pro-school bias. You'll learn about the irreplaceable role of parents in education, how to inject fun into learning, and the ethical use of AI in schoolwork. Plus, we'll discuss the importance of seeking help early and consistently.As a bonus, we'll reveal the ultimate secret to having great friends at school - it might surprise you!Whether you're a parent looking to support your teen or a student aiming for a successful year, this episode is packed with practical advice and fresh perspectives. Tune in to discover how these secrets can help you and your teen not just survive, but thrive this school year.Remember, you don't have to implement every secret - even one can make a significant difference. Let's make this the best school year yet!Full show notes at https://benpughcoaching.com/219Take the free Parent Trap quiz If you have a teen you should take this Parent Trap Quiz .It will help you uncover specific parenting patterns that might be hindering your relationship with your teen. By identifying your Parent Trap, you gain the tools to have better communication, resolve conflicts, and build greater confidence in your parenting decisions. This self-awareness ultimately strengthens your relationship with your teen, which leads to a more open and harmonious connection. This quiz is your gateway to becoming the parent of your dreams and paving the way for a happier and healthier family life.TAKE THE QUIZAlready taken the quiz? Check out my New ABSOLUTELY FREE Audio Course: Parenting from the Inside Out!

In this powerful episode rewind, we dive into ten game-changing daily habits that can revolutionize your parenting approach and strengthen your bond with your teenager. These practical, actionable strategies will help you navigate the challenges of raising teens with confidence and purpose.We'll explore:Setting daily intentions to guide your parentingCommitting to genuine connection with your teenEmbracing present-moment awareness in your interactionsManaging your mindset for better parenting outcomesCultivating trust in yourself, your teen, and the parenting processLetting go of what you can't control to focus on what you canThe importance of consistent practice in personal growthEmbracing mistakes as learning opportunitiesBeing the change you want to see in your teenLeveraging your unique strengths as a parentWhether you're struggling with communication, seeking to build a stronger relationship, or simply want to enhance your parenting skills, this episode offers practical wisdom and actionable advice. Learn how to set powerful intentions, stay present, manage your mind, and model the behavior you want to see in your teen.Join us to discover how these ten daily habits can transform your parenting journey and create a more harmonious, connected relationship with your teenager."In this powerful episode, we dive into ten game-changing daily habits that can revolutionize your parenting approach and strengthen your bond with your teenager. These practical, actionable strategies will help you navigate the challenges of raising teens with confidence and purpose.Take the free Parent Trap quiz If you have a teen you should take this Parent Trap Quiz .It will help you uncover specific parenting patterns that might be hindering your relationship with your teen. By identifying your Parent Trap, you gain the tools to have better communication, resolve conflicts, and build greater confidence in your parenting decisions. This self-awareness ultimately strengthens your relationship with your teen, which leads to a more open and harmonious connection. This quiz is your gateway to becoming the parent of your dreams and paving the way for a happier and healthier family life.TAKE THE QUIZAlready taken the quiz? Check out my New ABSOLUTELY FREE Audio Course: Parenting from the Inside Out!

In this eye-opening episode, we challenge the common parenting instinct to fix, change, or control our teens. Instead, we explore a transformative approach that puts the power of change right where it belongs - with you.We'll dive into:• Why trying to fix others, especially your teen, backfires• The cultural trap of attempting to control others• How shifting your attention to self-improvement can transform your family dynamics• The profound impact of 'being the change you want to see'• Real-life examples of how personal growth catalyzes change in othersLearn why parenting from the 'inside-out' is more effective than traditional 'outside-in' approaches. Discover how letting go of control paradoxically gives you more influence and improves your relationship with your teen.Whether you're struggling with a rebellious teenager or simply want to enhance your parenting skills, this episode offers practical, powerful strategies for personal growth that ripple out to positively impact your entire family.Join us to unlock the secret of truly effective parenting - it starts with you!Take the free Parent Trap quiz If you have a teen you should take this Parent Trap Quiz .It will help you uncover specific parenting patterns that might be hindering your relationship with your teen. By identifying your Parent Trap, you gain the tools to have better communication, resolve conflicts, and build greater confidence in your parenting decisions. This self-awareness ultimately strengthens your relationship with your teen, which leads to a more open and harmonious connection. This quiz is your gateway to becoming the parent of your dreams and paving the way for a happier and healthier family life.TAKE THE QUIZAlready taken the quiz? Check out my New ABSOLUTELY FREE Audio Course: Parenting from the Inside Out!

In this thought-provoking episode, we challenge common misconceptions about trauma and empower you to take control of your healing journey. Discover why there's no need for 'trauma police' and how understanding trauma as programming can be a game-changer.We'll explore:• The personal nature of trauma and why comparisons are futile• Two crucial aspects of trauma that are often overlooked• How generational trauma manifests in everyday life• The empowering perspective of viewing trauma as programming• Why YOU are the key to healing your own traumaLearn why shifting blame doesn't lead to healing and how taking responsibility for your trauma recovery can transform your life and future generations. We'll discuss real-life examples of generational trauma and provide insights on breaking these cycles.Whether you're dealing with personal trauma or supporting a loved one, this episode offers a fresh, empowering perspective on trauma healing. Join us to unlock your potential for growth and discover how you can be the change that breaks the chain of generational trauma."Take the free Parent Trap quiz If you have a teen you should take this Parent Trap Quiz .It will help you uncover specific parenting patterns that might be hindering your relationship with your teen. By identifying your Parent Trap, you gain the tools to have better communication, resolve conflicts, and build greater confidence in your parenting decisions. This self-awareness ultimately strengthens your relationship with your teen, which leads to a more open and harmonious connection. This quiz is your gateway to becoming the parent of your dreams and paving the way for a happier and healthier family life.TAKE THE QUIZAlready taken the quiz? Check out my New ABSOLUTELY FREE Audio Course: Parenting from the Inside Out!

This week, we're turning back the clock to bring you one of our most beloved episodes. Get ready to revisit a fan favorite that had everyone talking!Take the free Parent Trap quiz If you have a teen you should take this Parent Trap Quiz .It will help you uncover specific parenting patterns that might be hindering your relationship with your teen. By identifying your Parent Trap, you gain the tools to have better communication, resolve conflicts, and build greater confidence in your parenting decisions. This self-awareness ultimately strengthens your relationship with your teen, which leads to a more open and harmonious connection. This quiz is your gateway to becoming the parent of your dreams and paving the way for a happier and healthier family life.TAKE THE QUIZAlready taken the quiz? Check out my New ABSOLUTELY FREE Audio Course: Parenting from the Inside Out!

Join us as we dive deep into the often misunderstood world of attachment disorders. In this eye-opening episode, we'll separate fact from fiction and explore the real impact of attachment issues on both teens and parents.Discover why healing your own wounds is crucial before attempting to address your teen's challenges. Learn practical strategies to navigate the complex emotions that come with parenting a child with attachment difficulties, including:Giving your teen the benefit of the doubtFinding self-love and appreciationReprocessing past hurtsLetting go of expectationsWhether you're dealing with attachment disorder or simply want to strengthen your bond with your teen, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable advice. Tune in to gain a fresh perspective on creating healthier, more connected relationships with your teenagers.Take the free Parent Trap quiz If you have a teen you should take this Parent Trap Quiz .It will help you uncover specific parenting patterns that might be hindering your relationship with your teen. By identifying your Parent Trap, you gain the tools to have better communication, resolve conflicts, and build greater confidence in your parenting decisions. This self-awareness ultimately strengthens your relationship with your teen, which leads to a more open and harmonious connection. This quiz is your gateway to becoming the parent of your dreams and paving the way for a happier and healthier family life.TAKE THE QUIZAlready taken the quiz? Check out my New ABSOLUTELY FREE Audio Course: Parenting from the Inside Out!

Are you a parent who feels like you're constantly overcomplicating things when it comes to raising your teenager? In this insightful podcast episode, Ben, a parenting expert and coach, shares his perspective on how to simplify your approach by focusing on three key areas: mindset, skillset, and habits.Ben explains that parents often fall into the trap of creating elaborate rewards and punishments to control their teen's behavior, much like how workplaces implement unnecessary rules. However, he suggests that there's a better way to support your teen's growth and development.In this episode, you'll discover:The three simple problems that parents and teens face: mindset, skillset, and habitsHow mindset problems can be tied to your thoughts and how to reprogram your mindsetThe importance of balancing mindset with skillset and habitsHow to identify and address skillset problems in both parents and teensThe role of habits in shaping behavior and how to build new, positive habitsBen emphasizes that while you can't change your teen, you can lead by example and model the habits and behaviors you want to see. He also stresses the importance of gaining awareness of the problems you and your teen are facing and identifying whether they're related to mindset, skillset, or habits.Throughout the episode, Ben shares relatable examples and practical advice to help you simplify your parenting approach. He encourages parents to let go of the need for control and instead focus on supporting their teen's growth and development.If you're a parent who feels overwhelmed by the complexities of raising a teenager, this podcast episode will provide you with a fresh perspective and actionable strategies to simplify your parenting journey. Tune in now and discover how addressing mindset, skillset, and habits can help you become the parent of your dreams.Take the free Parent Trap quiz If you have a teen you should take this Parent Trap Quiz .It will help you uncover specific parenting patterns that might be hindering your relationship with your teen. By identifying your Parent Trap, you gain the tools to have better communication, resolve conflicts, and build greater confidence in your parenting decisions. This self-awareness ultimately strengthens your relationship with your teen, which leads to a more open and harmonious connection. This quiz is your gateway to becoming the parent of your dreams and paving the way for a happier and healthier family life.TAKE THE QUIZAlready taken the quiz? Check out my New ABSOLUTELY FREE Audio Course: Parenting from the Inside Out!

Are you finding yourself at your wit's end with your teenage child? Do their actions and behaviors push you to the brink of frustration and disappointment? If you've ever thought, "I can't stand my teen," then this podcast episode is for you.In this raw and honest conversation, Ben, a parent and expert in emotional intelligence, shares his personal experiences and insights on navigating the challenging emotions that come with parenting a teenager. He offers a fresh perspective on taking responsibility for your own feelings and provides practical steps to develop emotional intelligence in the face of frustration.In this episode, you'll learn:Why frustration is a natural part of parenting and how to embrace it as an opportunity for personal growthThe importance of taking responsibility for your own emotions and not blaming your teen for how you feelHow to identify and understand your feelings using emotional intelligence techniquesThe dangers of being emotionally attached to specific outcomes and how it hinders your ability to be the parent you want to beStrategies for setting better boundaries with your teen and fostering a stronger connectionBen delivers a powerful message with love and care, reminding parents that they have the tools to handle their frustrations and become the best version of themselves. If you're struggling to maintain patience and understanding with your teen, this episode will provide you with the insight and motivation to approach your relationship with a new mindset.Don't miss this opportunity to gain a fresh perspective on parenting your teenager and learn valuable techniques to improve your emotional well-being. Tune in now and discover how to transform your frustration into an opportunity for growth and connection.Take the free Parent Trap quiz If you have a teen you should take this Parent Trap Quiz .It will help you uncover specific parenting patterns that might be hindering your relationship with your teen. By identifying your Parent Trap, you gain the tools to have better communication, resolve conflicts, and build greater confidence in your parenting decisions. This self-awareness ultimately strengthens your relationship with your teen, which leads to a more open and harmonious connection. This quiz is your gateway to becoming the parent of your dreams and paving the way for a happier and healthier family life.TAKE THE QUIZAlready taken the quiz? Check out my New ABSOLUTELY FREE Audio Course: Parenting from the Inside Out!

Are you ready to make this summer the most unforgettable one yet for you and your teen? In this exciting episode, join Ben as he shares his top tips and strategies for creating a summer filled with laughter, adventure, and bonding experiences that will leave a lasting impact on your teen's life.Discover the power of a fun summer and how it can help your teen build confidence, define their identity, and forge meaningful relationships. From empowering your teen to take charge of their own adventures to stepping out of your comfort zone together, this episode is packed with practical advice and inspiring ideas to make this summer one for the books.In this episode, you'll learn:Why a fun summer is more than just a good time – it's an opportunity for growth and developmentHow to empower your teen to plan their own adventures and take responsibility for their funThe importance of getting out of your comfort zone and exploring new experiences togetherHow to make "Mandatory Family Fun" a regular part of your summer routine (and why it's worth it!)Creative ideas for activities and adventures that will bring your family closer togetherWhether you're a fun-loving parent looking for new ways to connect with your teen or someone who wants to break out of a rut and make this summer unforgettable, this episode has something for you. So grab your sunscreen, pack your sense of adventure and to make this summer the best one yet!Take the free Parent Trap quiz If you have a teen you should take this Parent Trap Quiz .It will help you uncover specific parenting patterns that might be hindering your relationship with your teen. By identifying your Parent Trap, you gain the tools to have better communication, resolve conflicts, and build greater confidence in your parenting decisions. This self-awareness ultimately strengthens your relationship with your teen, which leads to a more open and harmonious connection. This quiz is your gateway to becoming the parent of your dreams and paving the way for a happier and healthier family life.TAKE THE QUIZAlready taken the quiz? Check out my New ABSOLUTELY FREE Audio Course: Parenting from the Inside Out!

Are you unintentionally modeling behaviors that may be holding your teen back? In this eye-opening episode of the podcast, Ben Pugh reveals the secret most parents miss when it comes to influencing their teenagers: your teen may not be listening to you, but they are watching you!Discover the five crucial areas where your actions speak louder than words, and learn how to become a positive role model for your teen. From handling stress and managing emotions to treating yourself and others with respect, your behavior sets the standard for your teen to follow.In this episode, you'll learn:Why lecturing, yelling, and pleading with your teen may be less effective than you thinkHow your own stress management skills impact your teen's ability to cope with pressureThe importance of demonstrating emotional intelligence and self-esteemHow your values manifest in your results and influence your teen's prioritiesThe power of adopting a hero mindset and seeing opportunities in obstaclesBy the end of this episode, you'll have a newfound awareness of the behaviors you're modeling for your teen and the tools to make positive changes. Tune in now and discover how to BE the change you want to see in your teen!Take the free Parent Trap quiz If you have a teen you should take this Parent Trap Quiz .It will help you uncover specific parenting patterns that might be hindering your relationship with your teen. By identifying your Parent Trap, you gain the tools to have better communication, resolve conflicts, and build greater confidence in your parenting decisions. This self-awareness ultimately strengthens your relationship with your teen, which leads to a more open and harmonious connection. This quiz is your gateway to becoming the parent of your dreams and paving the way for a happier and healthier family life.TAKE THE QUIZAlready taken the quiz? Check out my New ABSOLUTELY FREE Audio Course: Parenting from the Inside Out!