This podcast is about living life well and is delivered by two long-time friends, who both happen to be counselors, having conversations. Each episode we talk about topics that impact well-being. Some discussions are deep, and some are purely for fun. We
Episode 129: Unmasking the Truth: Why We Avoid Therapy and How It's Holding Us BackIn this episode, Joseph and Paula examine the psychological mechanisms that lead individuals to avoid therapy, such as the brain's desire to maintain safety and avoid discomfort. Joseph and Paula offer strategies to overcome these barriers and embrace personal growth. Join us for this comprehensive discussion on the various factors that deter people from seeking therapy. This episode provides diverse insights into the common barriers to seeking therapy, including cultural, societal, and personal factors. Listening can offer an immeasurable understanding of the challenges individuals face and the importance of making mental health support more accessible and stigma-free.Do you have any questions? If you have a question for Joseph and Paula to answer during a future episode of Questions for Counselors, reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.Resources used to develop this episode:10 Reasons Why People Refuse to Talk to Therapists | Psychology TodayWhy Do People Avoid Mental Health Treatment?Why Do People Avoid Mental Health Treatment? (Second Article)Why Do People Avoid Therapy: Top 20 Reasons - ClinicTracker
Join Joseph and Paula for another episode of a listener favorite - Questions for Counselors. In this episode they take on a variety of questions that range from personal to professional. Do you have any questions? If you have a question for Joseph and Paula to answer during a future episode of Questions for Counselors, reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.Resources mentioned on the episode:You can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233 (SAFE) or text “Start” to 88788 for help.Teen Line is available as a safe and secure place for teenagers to ask questions and share their experiences.
For decades, desperate parents have turned to wilderness camps, therapeutic boarding schools, and residential treatment centers to help their struggling teens. But behind the marketing promises and glossy brochures lies a hidden world of abuse, neglect, and psychological trauma. In this episode, we pull back the curtain on the troubled teen industry—a loosely regulated system where vulnerable youth are often subjected to isolation, forced labor, and emotional manipulation in the name of treatment.Through survivor testimonies, expert insights, and investigative reporting, we trace how this billion-dollar industry has flourished in the shadows, often with little oversight. Why is it still happening? Who's benefiting? And what can be done to protect the next generation of teens? Tune in for a sobering look at an industry that's long overdue for a reckoning.At the center of this growing movement for reform is pop culture icon Paris Hilton, who has used her platform to shine a light on the abuse she endured at Provo Canyon School in Utah. We explore the origins and evolution of the troubled teen industry, the systemic issues that allow it to continue unchecked, and how survivors like Paris are driving legislative change. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website atwww.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly atInfo@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.Sources used in the development of this episode include:12 Ways Teen Treatment Changed Since Paris Hilton Went to CEDU | All Kinds of Therapy | All Kinds of TherapyOFFICIAL - BREAKING CODE SILENCEFive Facts About the Troubled Teen IndustryParis Hilton discusses 'painful and traumatic' time at youth treatment center - ABC NewsParis Hilton Is Fighting The Troubled Teen Industry With A Growing TeamNeed Resources? https://www.breakingcodesilence.org/https://www.unsilenced.org/
Breaking Free from Overcommitment: How to Reclaim Your Time and EnergyAre you part of the 60% of people who take on more than they can accomplish? Do you find yourself saying "yes" to everything, only to feel exhausted, overwhelmed, and stretched too thin? In this episode, Joseph and Paula are tackling the habit of overcommitment—why we do it, how it affects our well-being, and, most importantly, how to stop.Join us as we explore: The hidden reasons behind overcommitting The impact of overcommitment Practical strategies for setting priorities and saying “no” without guilt The power of rest and learning to embrace downtimeIf you're ready to take back control of your time and energy, this episode is for you.
The Power of Boundaries: Protecting Your Peace and EnergyIn this episode, Joseph and Paula are discussing the importance of setting and maintaining boundaries in all areas of life—relationships, work, family, and even with ourselves. Boundaries are not about building walls; they're about creating a space where we can thrive, feel respected, and maintain our well-being. Join us as we discuss: Why boundaries are essential for mental and emotional healthHow to recognize when your boundaries are being crossedPractical tips for setting clear and firm boundaries Red flags for boundaries being violatedWhether you struggle with saying "no," feel drained by toxic dynamics, or just want to create a healthier balance in your life, this episode is for you. Tune in and learn how to set boundaries that empower you, not limit you!
Joseph and Paula bring you Part 1 of one of their most listened to episodes. They will continue to bring you these Encore episodes in between their new ones, as requested by many listeners. We continue to be grateful for the engagement. This multi-episode topic is a tough one. Joseph and Paula are talking about abuse. This is not a pleasant topic, but definitely a necessary one. According to the National Statistics on Domestic Violence, nearly 20 people each minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States. For one year, this equates to more than 10 million women and men. Those figures only take into account domestic violence. We are covering 8 different types of abuse. We are examining the different types of abuse, their symptoms, and how to seek support if you find yourself experiencing any of them and how to support a person who has. Part 1 addresses Physical, Emotional, and Verbal Abuse. Due to the nature of the content, we hope you will take care while listening. Resources: You can visit the website we acquired our sourced material at HealthyPlace.com. Should you need support for any of the topics we discuss, please use any of these hotlines: Child Abuse Hotline – 1-800-4-A-CHILD (800 422 4453) National Domestic Violence Hotline – 1-800-799-7233 Missing & Exploited Children Hotline - 1-800-843-5678 Suicide Hotline: Dial 988 4UTrevor for gay and questioning youth - 1-866-488-7386 Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
You deserve relationships that uplift and inspire you. By recognizing toxic behaviors, setting boundaries, and focusing on personal well-being, you can protect your energy and create space for healthier connections. Joseph and Paula are back with another episode! During this episode they are discussing Toxic People! They will share the characteristics of toxic relationships and toxic people, some tools for dealing with them, and how to stay away from them altogether. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Sources used in the development of this episode include: 10 Reasons Why Accepting Responsibility in Life is Important 11 Distinct Characteristics That Define a Toxic Person 18 Red Flags You're Letting Toxic People Sap Your Energy and What You Can Do About It People who are deeply selfish often display these 12 involuntary behaviors The Toxic Person Test Toxic People: How to Recognize and Avoid Them | Psychology Today Toxic People Will Often Display These 9 Habits Want to Stop Attracting Toxic People? Then You Need to Accept These 15 Harsh Truths Why Toxic People Are So Harmful | Psychology Today
In 2025 Joseph and Paula will be opening the vault to share some of their most popular episodes. They are beginning with this one - the number one most listened to episode! Enjoy venturing back in time with them to one of their first-year episodes ~ Communication Styles. Enjoy! If someone asks you to go to dinner, what is your response? Sure. I will go if I can pick the restaurant. Sure. I will go and I will go to the restaurant you pick. Sure. I have no opinion on where we go. But I will complain if it isn't what I secretly wanted. Sure. We can go to the restaurant you pick this time and my choice next time. Each of these responses represent a Communication Style. Do you know your Communication Style? Listen as Joseph and Paula address the 4 Styles to determine which you most frequently use. Resourced information: 4 Types of Communication Styles | Alvernia University Burr, W. R. (1990). Beyond I-Statements in family communication. Family Relations, 39(3), 266. https://doi.org/10.2307/584870 Understanding Your Communication Style | Princeton University If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Happy New Year! The research tells us that resolutions don't work. Of the people who set them: 23% quit in the first week 43% give up in the first month 91% quit before the end of the year In this episode, Joseph and Paula discuss setting goals rather than resolutions. They will share the research, the resolutions Americans made for 2025, tips to get to your goals, and some apps and other resources that help you reach goals. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resources used to create this episode: 10 Great Ways How To Achieve New Year's Resolutions 77 New Year's Resolution Ideas and How to Keep Them | Quicken A Radical Alternative to New Year's Goal-Setting | Psychology Today How can I follow through with my New Year's resolutions? – Deseret News How to Make Goals You'll Actually Stick to This Year, According to a Psychologist These are America's most popular New Year's resolutions for 2025 - The Columbian
Paula shares the 9 Tips to Decrease Holiday Stress that are recommended by the Mayo Clinic. Joseph and Paula, both wish you the happiest of holidays and look forward to being with you again in 2025. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resources used to create this episode: Tips to fend off holiday stress - Mayo Clinic Health System --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
In this episode, Joseph and Paula are bringing you a listener's favorite! Questions for Counselors. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.Resources used to create this episode: What is Mental Health? Life Lived Better Podcast Episode 117: Staying Mentally Healthy Life Lived Better Podcast Episode 114: After the Relationship EndsLife Lived Better Podcast Episode 107: Healthy Coping Strategies Life Lived Better Podcast Episode 67: Love Addiction Life Lived Better Podcast Episodes 48 - 51 - our series on abuse --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
Joseph and Paula are so grateful for you. We are grateful you listen and interact with us on our social media platforms. Our website is www.lifelivedbetter.net You can find us on Facebook Twitter Instagram TikTok --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
In this episode, Joseph and Paula are bringing you a listener's favorite! Questions for Counselors. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resources used to create this episode: What is Mental Health? Life Lived Better Podcast Episode 117: Staying Mentally Healthy Life Lived Better Podcast Episode 114: After the Relationship Ends Life Lived Better Podcast Episode 107: Healthy Coping Strategies Life Lived Better Podcast Episode 67: Love Addiction Life Lived Better Podcast Episodes 48 - 51 - our series on abuse --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
In this episode, Joseph and Paula define depression and delve into the realities of living with depression and how it can impact every aspect of life. The co-hosts explore a range of practical coping strategies to help manage the challenges that come with it, from small everyday habits to more structured therapeutic approaches. They also discuss the importance of seeking professional help, breaking the stigma around mental health, and fostering supportive environments for those struggling with depression. Tune in to learn valuable tips that can help you or someone you care about find a path to healing. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resources used to create this episode: 31 Coping Skills for Depression (serenitymentalhealthcenters.com) Depression (major depressive disorder) - Symptoms and causes - Mayo Clinic Mental Health America's Free Depression Screen: Depression Test – Free mental health tests from Mental Health America (mhanational.org) Understanding Depression: Symptoms, Causes and Treatments (youtube.com) If you are considering hurting yourself or taking your own life, In the U.S., call or text 988 to reach the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, available 24 hours a day, seven days a week. You can use the Lifeline Chat. Services are free and confidential. The Lifeline Chat is 988LifeLine.org U.S. veterans or service members who are in crisis can call 988 and then press “1” for the Veterans Crisis Line. Or text 838255. The Suicide & Crisis Lifeline in the U.S. has a Spanish language phone line at 1-888-628-9454 (toll-free). --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
In this episode, Joseph and Paula discuss the habits that may be hindering your mental well-being. While many of us focus on building positive routines, it's easy to overlook the small, everyday actions that might be working against us. The co-hosts explore behaviors that contribute to anxiety, low self-esteem, and negative thought patterns, and discuss why they're so difficult to change. More importantly, they'll provide actionable strategies to break these detrimental cycles and replace them with healthier, more supportive habits. Tune in to identify what might be holding you back and how to set yourself on the path to better mental health and overall wellness.Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.Resources Referred to in this Episode: 20 Habits Holding You Back from Mental Wellness (msn.com)Links we promised: Joseph's Office: http://www.josephmassey.comSleep Hygiene Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1HkWIQaYRWlJwKcorpJfvz?si=rNTzXyw5TJ2eQiNtZgvA4Q --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
In this episode, Joseph and Paula plunge into the essential topic of mental health and well-being. Join them as they explore practical strategies to maintain mental wellness in this fast-paced world. They are discussing the importance of self-care routines, the impact of failing to take care of yourself, and how to get or stay mentally well. This episode is chock full of resources and recommendations, many of which are also linked here. Whether you're seeking to boost your own mental health or support a loved one, this episode is packed with insights, tips, and encouragement to help you thrive. Tune in and take the necessary steps toward a healthier, happier mind! Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Work Used in the Research of this Episode: 7 Tips for Better Mental and Emotional Health | Psychology Today 12 Toxic Habits That Are Slowly Destroying Your Mental Health (msn.com) About Adverse Childhood Experiences | Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) | CDC About Emotional Well-Being | Well-Being | CDC About Mental Health (cdc.gov) Links we promised during the episode: Printable Feelings Charts Episode 99: Sleep Hygiene Episode 98: Burnout - Insights and Strategies for Well-being Episode 81: Emotional Regulation and Mindfulness Episode 79: Emotions --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
This episode is co-sponsored by the Recovery to Practice Initiative at The University of North Texas. Joseph and Paula are taking on one of our most popular topics - Questions for Counselors! Questions are coming in about anxiety, procrastination, burnout, and more. Send us your question today. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Follow us on social media. Visit our website at www.lifelivedbetter.net Subscribe, share, and empower yourself! Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resources referenced during this episode: Information about Recovery to Practice can be found on the website: hps.unt.edu/rhs/rtp The Virtual Community of Practice can be accessed through Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/groups/RecoverytoPractice 11 Ways to Overcome Procrastination Psychology Today18 Time Management Tips to Boost Productivity [2024] • Asana --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
Support You can seek support through any of the following: National Domestic Violence Hotline: Call or text the hotline for help, as well as information and advice on different forms of abuse. Child Welfare Information Gateway: This group provides a resource list of organizations that can give support to those experiencing family violence and abuse. Family Crisis Centers: This offers resources, support, and a 24-hour hotline for families in crisis.Domestic Violence Resource Network: This provides a list of resources and organizations to support family violence and abuse. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
In this insightful episode of Life Lived Better, your hosts Joseph and Paula dive into the challenging but essential topic of navigating life after a relationship ends. Whether you're freshly single or still processing the breakup, this episode offers practical advice and emotional support to help you move forward with confidence and clarity. We explore Processing Your Emotions, Rediscovering Yourself, Building a Support System, Setting New Goals, Navigating Social Media, and Self-Care Essentials. Join us as we share personal stories, expert insights, and actionable steps to help you turn this difficult chapter into an opportunity for growth and renewal. Whether you're seeking closure, self-improvement, or just some reassuring advice, this episode is here to guide you through the next steps. Tune in and take your first step towards a brighter future! Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Work Used in the Research of this Episode: 7 Ways to Cope After the End of a Relationship | Psychology Today Is Social Media Helpful or Hurtful After a Breakup? | Psychology Today Grieving After a Break-Up? 6 Strategies to Help You Heal (clevelandclinic.org) Navigating Social Media After A Breakup: Modern Therapy --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
In today's episode, we're diving into the challenging topic of failing relationships. If you find yourself wondering whether your relationship is beyond repair, we'll explore the signs. Therapists say that constant criticism, stonewalling, putting forth little effort, and emotional detachment are a few of the signs that your relationship might be over. We all know relationships can be tough, and sometimes, despite our best efforts, they don't work out. If you've truly given it a chance and it's time to let go, be honest with yourself and your partner. Reflect on what you've learned, consider personal growth, and avoid rushing into a new relationship. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Work Used in the Research of this Episode: 3 signs your relationship is failing, according to a therapist (msn.com) 7 Early Warning Signs of A Dying Relationship | Power of Positivity: Positive Thinking & Attitude 20 Signs That a Relationship Is Over | Psychology Today Psychologist shares five signs your relationship is over | Metro News --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
Joseph and Paula collectively have over 50 years of experience working in the field of counseling. Their answers to the Questions for Counselors episodes are drawn from their life and work experiences. When information is given that is taken from other resources, they will be highlighted in the show notes. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resources Referred to in this Episode: The blog Paula mentioned in this episode is www.paulahellergarland.blogspot.com You can find information about the Counseling Space and other topics that may be of interest. You can find the book mentioned in this episode on Amazon or at any book seller. The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel A. Van der Kolk, M.D. The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma: van der Kolk M.D., Bessel: 9780143127741: Amazon.com: Books --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
Episode 111 - Many Pathways to Recovery Part 2 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
There are many things a person can be in recovery from and there are many pathways to get into and stay in recovery. In this episode, Joseph and Paula explore those pathways and discuss multiple resources available to address addiction and those that support recovery. If you are a person who struggles with addiction, a person in recovery, or someone who knows a person with addiction or in recovery, you will not want to miss this episode. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at mailto:Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: about:blank. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Work Used in the Research of this Episode: Pathways to Healing and Recovery: Perspectives from Individuals with Histories of Alcohol and Other Drug Problems Garland, P. (2024). Many Pathways to Recovery [Class handout]. University of North Texas, ADDS 4675. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
Unmasking Emotional Manipulation: Identifying and Overcoming Toxic Tactics Joseph and Paula explore the unhealthy art of emotional manipulation. From subtle gaslighting to overt guilt-tripping, they uncover tactics manipulators use to control and exploit their victims. Join us as we define Emotional Manipulation, discuss how to recognize the signs, gain some insights from research on the impact it has on mental health, and talk about practical tips and strategies to protect yourself from manipulators and rebuild your emotional resilience. Whether you've experienced emotional manipulation firsthand, suspect someone in your life might be manipulating you, or simply want to be more aware, this episode provides invaluable knowledge and tools to empower yourself and take control of your emotional well-being. Tune in and join the conversation as we unmask the manipulators and reclaim our emotional freedom. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resources used to develop this episode: 3 Common Tactics of Manipulative Parents | Psychology Today United Kingdom 8 Genius Comebacks for Dealing With a Manipulator, According to Psychologists (msn.com) 15+ Signs of Emotion Manipulation (healthline.com) Beasts, victims or competent agents: The positioning of children in research literature on manipulation - Hanne Warming, Lotte Rannveig Galløe, Anna Rosa Haumark Carlsen, Sara Romme Rasmussen, 2019 (sagepub.com) Learning to let go: Parental over-engagement predicts poorer self-regulation in kindergartners. (apa.org) What Is Emotional Manipulation? I Psych Central --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
Joseph and Paula continue their discussion about Adaptive Coping Skills by finishing up the list of tips you can use to reduce anxiety and stress. Stress and anxiety are part of life. But the good news is that we have the ability to take ownership of our responses and make healthy changes that will benefit us long-term. The important thing is to keep trying healthy coping until you find those strategies that work best for you. We want to hear from you! Interact with the Life Lived Better podcast through their website, social media, and follow and review their podcast on most podcast platforms. You can find the Life Lived Better Podcast on Facebook, Tik Tok, Twitter/X, and Instagram. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resources used to develop this episode: 71 Coping Skills: A List for Adults to Deal with Anxiety & Stress - Happier Human Coping Skills for Stress and Uncomfortable Emotions (verywellmind.com) Defense Mechanisms: Definition, Types, Examples, Solutions (verywellmind.com) Healthy Coping: 24 Mechanisms & Skills For Positive Coping (positivepsychology.com) Foundation 45 Non-Profit organization with free resources for adults in Texas Foundation 45 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
Since today is the fourth of July, Joseph and Paula are sharing one of their most listened to episodes from their library - From Episode 60: Communication Styles. If someone asks you to go to dinner, what is your response? Sure. I will go if I can pick the restaurant. Sure. I will go and I will go to the restaurant you pick. Sure. I have no opinion on where we go. But I will complain if it isn't what I secretly wanted. Sure. We can go to the restaurant you pick this time and my choice next time. Each of these responses represent a Communication Style. Do you know your Communication Style? Listen as Joseph and Paula address the 4 Styles to determine which you most frequently use. We want to hear from you! Interact with the Life Lived Better podcast through their website, social media, and follow and review their podcast on most podcast platforms. You can find the Life Lived Better Podcast on Facebook, Tik Tok, Twitter/X, and Instagram. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resourced information: 4 Types of Communication Styles | Alvernia University Burr, W. R. (1990). Beyond I-Statements in family communication. Family Relations, 39(3), 266. https://doi.org/10.2307/584870 Understanding Your Communication Style | Princeton University If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
Episode 107 - Healthy Coping Strategies - Part 1 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
Have you ever wondered why you react a certain way in stressful situations? Or why sometimes you seem to push uncomfortable thoughts out of your mind? These responses are often the result of defense mechanisms. Defense mechanisms are subconscious strategies that our mind uses to protect us from anxiety, uncomfortable thoughts, or feelings. They shape the way we interact with the world and can significantly influence our behavior and relationships. In this episode, we'll talk through some of the most common defense mechanisms, such as denial, repression, projection, and rationalization. We'll explore how these mechanisms manifest in our daily lives, their origins, and the role they play in our psychological well-being. Whether you're a psychology enthusiast, a student, or someone seeking to understand themselves better, this episode will provide valuable insights into the complex machinery of the human psyche. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resources used to develop this episode: CBT Techniques: 25 Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Worksheets (positivepsychology.com) Defense Mechanisms in Psychology Explained (+ Examples) (positivepsychology.com) Defense Mechanisms: Definition, Types, Examples, Solutions (verywellmind.com) What Is... Adaptive vs. Maladaptive Coping - Mental Health @ Home (mentalhealthathome.org) --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
Show Notes for Episode: How do you compartmentalize? How can I support a person who is grieving? How has technology changed in relation to the counseling profession? These are just a few of the questions asked in this episode of Life Lived Better Questions for Counselors! Joseph and Paula collectively have over 50 years of experience working in the field of counseling. Their answers to the Questions for Counselors episodes are drawn from their life and work experiences. When information is given that is taken from other resources, they will be highlighted in the show notes. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
Show Notes for Episode: Despite all of my accomplishments, I feel like I am not doing enough. How can I deal with that? How do I learn to compartmentalize my work from my home life? How do you build trust with a new client? These are just a few of the questions asked in this episode of Life Lived Better Questions for Counselors! Joseph and Paula collectively have over 50 years of experience working in the field of counseling. Their answers to the Questions for Counselors episodes are drawn from their life and work experiences. When information is given that is taken from other resources, they will be highlighted in the show notes. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
Episode 103 - Breaking Up Is Hard To Do Parting ways can be one of life's most challenging experiences. Join us as we explore the spectrum of emotions that accompany breaking up, from heartache and grief to relief and liberation. We'll share anecdotes, insights, and practical tips for navigating the complexities of breaking up with grace and dignity. From effective communication strategies to self-care, we'll arm you with the tools you need to navigate the end of a chapter with compassion and resilience. Whether you're contemplating a breakup, in the midst of one, or still healing from the aftermath, this episode offers a roadmap for moving forward with courage and clarity. Tune in as we untangle the knots of separation and embrace the transformative power of letting go. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resources used to develop this episode: Depression and Breakups: Symptoms, Treatments, and Support (healthline.com) How to Cope with a Breakup: A Step-by-Step Guide (healthline.com) How to Survive and Thrive After a Breakup | Psychology Today --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
In this episode, we look into the concept of authenticity and its profound impact on our lives. Join us as we explore the challenges and rewards of staying true to ourselves in a world that often pressures us to conform. Tune in for a thought-provoking conversation that will inspire you to live authentically and empower others to do the same. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resources used to develop this episode: Develop Authenticity: 20 Ways to Be a More Authentic Person | Psychology Today What It Means to Be Truly Authentic | Psychology Today --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
Embark on a transformative journey as we explore the essence of happiness through a groundbreaking lens. In this captivating episode, we unravel the enigmatic layers of happiness, dissecting its essence into three distinct dimensions. From the ebbs and flows of emotional well-being to the profound impact of meaningful connections, and the pursuit of personal growth and purpose, we delve deep into the intricacies of what it means to live a truly fulfilling life. Join us as we navigate through the complexities of human experience, offering invaluable insights and practical strategies to unlock happiness across all dimensions of our lives. Whether you're seeking clarity, inspiration, or simply a deeper understanding of your own happiness, this episode promises to enlighten and empower you on your quest for lasting fulfillment. Tune in and embark on the path to a brighter, more joyful tomorrow. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resources used to develop this episode: Three Pillars of Permanent Happiness | Psychology Today www.authentichappiness.org --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
This is our 100th episode! Thank you for embarking on this journey of discovery with us. We have grown an amazing community and forged connections along the way, thanks to you, our amazingly dedicated listeners. You have been the heart and soul of what has fueled our passion and inspired us to keep going since our first episode in January 2022. So today, as we celebrate our 100th episode, we want to express our deepest gratitude to each and every one of you. Whether you have been with us from the very beginning or just joined recently, your presence means the world to us. Here's to the next 100. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
How much sleep do you need? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
In this episode, Joseph and Paula delve into the complex and often overlooked topic of burnout. Drawing from their own experiences and expertise, they provide invaluable insights, practical tips, and strategies for combating burnout and fostering well-being. Join us on this journey through the various dimensions of burnout, exploring its causes, symptoms, and consequences. Through candid discussion Joseph and Paula shed light on the importance of recognizing burnout, destigmatizing discussions around mental health, and seeking support when needed. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resources used to create this episode include: Burnout: 5 Signs and What to Do About It (clevelandclinic.org) Even Under the Best Circumstances, Burnout Is Widespread | Psychology Today Online Burnout Test - Mind Help (Self-Assessment) --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
In this episode of Life Lived Better, Joseph and Paula delve into the intricacies of etiquette and its relevance in today's fast-paced world. The pair explore the art of congenial living by uncovering the timeless principles of etiquette that can enrich our interactions and relationships. From the rules of being a gracious houseguest to the practice of navigating social norms in the digital age, they discuss the power of thoughtful gestures and the impact of etiquette on our daily lives. Practicing etiquette can elevate your social presence and enhance your connections with others. Tune in to discover how cultivating grace and civility can lead to a more fulfilling and harmonious life. Resources used to write this episode include: The 11 Rudest Things You Can Do In Someone Else's House, According To Etiquette Experts (msn.com) The Ultimate Netiquette Guide: 11 Rules for Online Behavior | Trusted Since 1922 (rd.com) What Is Netiquette? (With 10 Basic Rules To Follow) | Indeed.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
In this thought-provoking episode, Joseph and Paula delve into the intricate world of internal dialogue, the silent conversations that shape our thoughts, emotions, and actions. Join us as we embark on a journey to unravel the complexities of our inner voices and their profound impact on our lives. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resources used for this episode: --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
While Joseph and Paula are traveling, they did not want you to miss valuable information. This episode is an encore of a popular discussion about dependent personalities, which followed the episode about Love Addiction. Enjoy! In the last episode Joseph and Paula talked about Love and Love Addiction. In this episode, they address sex addiction, erotomania, and dependent personality disorder. They explore the signs, symptoms, and treatment of each. If you or someone you know struggles with sex addiction, consider reaching out to SAA, Sex Addicts Anonymous. SAA states that their primary purpose to help people recover from sexual addiction. SAA is a 12-step program. It is not therapy. It is free and offered in person and online. To learn more about SAA, you can find them online at saa-recovery.org. You can call them at 713.869.4902 or email them at info@saa-recovery.org If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resourced Information Dependent Personality Disorder | Psychology Today Erotomania, What Is It? Causes, Symptoms, Diagnosis, Treatment (webmd.com) Sex Addiction: 8 Signs to Look For (webmd.com) --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
Joseph and Paula are currently traveling. They cannot wait to be back with you soon. In the meantime, we are sharing one of the more popular discussions about Love and Love Addiction. We hope you enjoy. Is it love or addiction? Joseph and Paula address the benefits of love and also look at love addiction. What are the signs, symptoms, and treatment? Listen to find out. If you or someone you know struggles with sex addiction, consider reaching out to SAA, Sex Addicts Anonymous. SAA states that their primary purpose to help people recover from sexual addiction. SAA is a 12-step program. It is not therapy. It is free and offered in person and online. To learn more about SAA, you can find them online at saa-recovery.org. You can call them at 713.869.4902 or email them at info@saa-recovery.org Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resourced Information 7 benefits of being in love | Life (news24.com) Love Addiction: Definition, Symptoms, Causes, Treatment (verywellmind.com) What Is Love Addiction? - Addiction Treatment (apn.com) --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
Got clutter? Joseph and Paula discuss how clutter and disorganization negatively impacts mental and physical health. They share the benefits of being organized and provide tips on how to get and stay organized. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resources used for this episode: Anxiety and Depression Association of America. Physical activity reduces stress. How to Declutter Your Home: 6 Best Room-by-Room Methods (thespruce.com) Indiana University. Tidier homes, fitter bodies. Lang M, Krátký J, Shaver JH, Jerotijević D, Xygalatas D. Effects of anxiety on spontaneous ritualized behavior. Curr Biol. 2015 Jul 20;25(14):1892-7. doi:10.1016/j.cub.2015.05.049. PMID: 26096971. McMains S, Kastner S. Interactions of top-down and bottom-up mechanisms in human visual cortex. J Neurosci. 2011 Jan 12;31(2):587-97. doi:10.1523/JNEUROSCI.3766-10.2011. PMID: 21228167. Saxbe DE, Repetti R. No place like home: home tours correlate with daily patterns of mood and cortisol. Pers Soc Psychol Bull. 2010 Jan;36(1):71-81. doi:10.1177/0146167209352864. PMID: 19934011. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
This episode is a listener and co-host favorite - Questions for Counselors! Some of the questions Joseph and Paula address include: What is the difference between being selfish and selfless? How can I stay healthy when I have no time for myself? I think I have too much empathy. How can I be a helping professional? And several more! Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
In Episode 93 Joseph and Paula shared some basic communication skills. They follow up in this episode by discussing barriers. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resources used in the development of this episode include: 4 Types of Communication and How To Improve Them From Indeed.com Effective Communication From HelpGuide.org Microcounseling Skills by Paula Heller Garland (Kendallhunt.com) --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
A topic that runs through all of our episodes is communication. There is no doubt that if we were healthier and more effective with our communication, we would have healthier and more content relationships. In this episode, we provide a broad overview of effective communication skills - verbal and non-verbal. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resources used in the development of this episode include: 4 Types of Communication and How To Improve Them From Indeed.com Effective Communication From HelpGuide.org Microcounseling Skills by Paula Heller Garland (Kendallhunt.com) --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
Joseph and Paula are talking about abandonment and the impact abandonment can have. Being abandoned, emotionally or physically, can cause long-lasting pain and affect every part of our lives. But when we understand it, we can begin to recover. Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resources used in the development of this episode include: Abandonment: Definition, Issues, Symptoms, & Triggers - The Berkeley Well-Being Institute (berkeleywellbeing.com) Abandonment Issues: Types, Signs, Causes, Treatment & More (therapymantra.co) Abandonment Issues: Signs, Causes, and How to Cope (psychcentral.com) Adolescent maladaptive schemas and childhood abuse and neglect: A systematic review and meta‐analysis - PMC (nih.gov) Understanding the Pain of Abandonment | Psychology Today --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
Questions for Counselors returns, and this week Joseph and Paula answer some tough questions! No kidding. How do you cope with individuals who use abusive language toward me? Does one have to believe in counseling for it to be beneficial? What can someone do to stay safe if staying in an emotionally unsafe environment? And there are even more! Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
In this episode Joseph and Paula discuss 4 different parenting styles. 1 is the most effective. Do you know which you use or were raised with? If you have any topic suggestions or questions, let us know! Info@lifelivedbetter.net --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
In this two-part series we discuss how to know if you grew up in a toxic family, how it impacts life today, what a healthy family looks like, and how to make necessary changes today. We look forward to a wonderful year learning and growing with all of you. Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - Anything shared during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice - it is solely our opinion. Information shared does not represent our employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
In this two-part series we discuss how to know if you grew up in a toxic family, how it impacts life today, what a healthy family looks like, and how to make necessary changes today. This is our first recording of 2024. We took a little time off due to the holidays, traveling, and even recovering from illness. We are so excited to be back with you and look forward to a wonderful year learning and growing with all of you. Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - Anything shared during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice - it is solely our opinion. Information shared does not represent our employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
Happy New Year! We have missed you. We all have problems, and we all attempt to solve them. Joseph and Paula walk you through a step-by-step process on healthy problem-solving techniques. We recorded this episode prior to the holidays, though it is a first-time release. We hope you benefit from an overview of Problem Solving. Resources used for this episode Canva M. (2011). Steve Jobs: His 10 best quotes about art and creativity. https://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/comic-riffs/post/steve-jobs-his-10-best-quotes-about-art-and-creativity/2011/10/06/gIQAc0ZARL_blog.html Steel P, et al. (2018). Examining procrastination across multiple goal stages: A longitudinal study of temporal motivation theory.https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2018.00327/full Wang Y-P. (2021). Effects of online problem-solving instruction and identification attitude toward instructional strategies on students' creativity. https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2021.771128/full --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
Do you ever feel like something's off, but you can't quite put your finger on it? Join Joseph and Paula as they dive deep into the world of gaslighting, a subtle yet devastating form of emotional manipulation that can leave you questioning your own reality. In this episode they unravel the origins of the term “gaslighting” and explore its insidious presence in relationships from families to the workplace. Your co-hosts will talk through the signs, phrases, and harms of gaslighting and discuss strategies to make changes if you are being gaslit. Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - Anything shared during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice - it is solely our opinion. Information shared does not represent our employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. Follow us on social media. Visit our website at www.lifelivedbetter.net Subscribe, share, and empower yourself! Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. References researched to create this episode: Gaslighting | Psychology Today Klein, W., Li, S., & Wood, S. (2023). A qualitative analysis of gaslighting in romantic relationships. Personal Relationships, 1– 25. https://doi.org/10.1111/pere.12510 What is gaslighting? Examples and how to respond (medicalnewstoday.com) Stephanie A. Sarkis Ph.D. Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People — and Break Free --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lifelivedbetterpodcast/support
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